I don't know if that would have been me, but I do admit their dad (thank god we are divorced and he doesn't do any kind of alone visits cause he's negligent and non interested af) would have been more likely to let our boy run around and do this. I have stories for daaaaays 😂 Sometime, ask me about the time he almost got stopped by store security in a Circuit City because he wanted to be in charge of our then toddler daughter, and he knew best 🤣
Employees are not allowed to restrain guests, any more than they are allowed to physically tackle shoplifters, and this kid is disabled to boot. Blocking or catching tvs probably would not have done any good. I've bumped my smart tv with the stick vacuum. JUST BUMPED it, not banged it or knocked it over, and it stopped working completely. My kids never pulled this with me, so I'm a little stumped on this one. Though that stimming took me back a few years, I do NOT miss the days when it was that bad. My son is destructive, I have to tackle him like a football player, though I'm a shortie >.< I would have done the same thing in the store, even tho it would have taken me a minute to get up there. Aside from damage, the stress it would have put my kids under, I did my shopping while they were in school, I never took them if I could avoid it, until they matured a bit. Thank god we have grocery pick up nowadays. Given that this is a Costco or similar, the parents would not have ordered online and HAD to go in person to shop. Given inflation, it's kind of ironic that the prices of most regular grocery items are MORE there now, and for many things, Walmart is actually less expensive. I'm very curious as to who brought him there, mom or dad or both.
The Parent(s) should have known by this time what they would need to do. This young man is not 2. He is at least a teen. If he has a tendency to become over stimulated in public places, they should have not let him come, but one parent or trusted relative stay home with him. If they must take him, they should have already had a developed plan. With my son, he was not verbal and would take off running. I bought a wrist coller to keep him attached to me. Some adults gave me the stink eye and/or made negative comments. I did not care. When he got older and would pull the run and hide, I would grab him and leave the store. He would learn, if he misbehaved, we would leave. Even if I did not get what I wanted. Consistency was the key. He was told what would happen, and if he did not listen, we left. He threw fits. I did not care. Consistency. He learned and he changed his behavior.
I've been in this situation where my son didn't wana come down off a high slope... best believe i climbed up to get him, and without yelling, I was able to transition back down but had to be very quiet.. It's all about watching the triggers like you said, you must learn the child!!!
I work in retail and I wouldn't be surprised if the lack of effort for saving the TVs was due to some kind of liability/property insurance. My concern with this besides "Where were the caregivers?" was "Why were the TVs so EASY to push over?" You'd think even the display merchandise would be secured or reinforced. My autistic 5 y/o son could've definitely done this and happily continued once given all this attention. Although, my son would've been in a cart or hand-in-hand with me - I don't give him the chance to do anything like this. If my son elopes, he's more concerned with the joy of being chased and far he can go.
If a person knows their Autistic child could be at risk for hurting themselves or others and might be overstimulated? Just dont bring them to the store..There is no excuse for this crap..Destroying thousands in merchandise..Autistic or not..Those parents lost track of their kid..They need to be held accountable for all those damages..If i know my kid had outbursts like this and i knew it might be a problem? I would not bring my kid to the store if i didnt want to deal with my kid..My kid stimms to calm himself and is also overwhelmed and can get difficult..But i wont let him run off and go destroying things..
If your child is this fragile, don't take them into a large box store with lots of stimulation. People have very little regard for others in public. Neurodivergent individuals can be exposed and oriented to situations, but you better be with them.
There’s a difference between an excuse and an explanation. The point should be that when a person is incapable of making safe choices for themselves and others, another responsible person (usually a parent) must be able to quickly diffuse the situation, help cease the behaviour and remove the person
@@Sara_Rae absolutely not. My point is that a person with such obviously reduced capabilities is not demonstrating ‘bad behaviour’. You could however suggest that the carers were demonstrating ‘bad behaviour’ by not being more proactive with their interventions.
And just to add to that, I don’t know the full context. I don’t know if the carers rectified the situation. Perhaps their were profusely apologetic afterwards and paid for the damage. Perhaps they didn’t. Maybe the carers were at breaking point. Maybe they weren’t and it was typical of them to not intervene. We don’t know. What we do know is that a child with reduced cognitive, social and emotional abilities does not have ‘bad behaviour’
"There, but for the grace of God, Go I". I extend a lot of grace to the parents.
I don't know if that would have been me, but I do admit their dad (thank god we are divorced and he doesn't do any kind of alone visits cause he's negligent and non interested af) would have been more likely to let our boy run around and do this. I have stories for daaaaays 😂 Sometime, ask me about the time he almost got stopped by store security in a Circuit City because he wanted to be in charge of our then toddler daughter, and he knew best 🤣
Employees are not allowed to restrain guests, any more than they are allowed to physically tackle shoplifters, and this kid is disabled to boot. Blocking or catching tvs probably would not have done any good. I've bumped my smart tv with the stick vacuum. JUST BUMPED it, not banged it or knocked it over, and it stopped working completely. My kids never pulled this with me, so I'm a little stumped on this one. Though that stimming took me back a few years, I do NOT miss the days when it was that bad. My son is destructive, I have to tackle him like a football player, though I'm a shortie >.< I would have done the same thing in the store, even tho it would have taken me a minute to get up there. Aside from damage, the stress it would have put my kids under, I did my shopping while they were in school, I never took them if I could avoid it, until they matured a bit. Thank god we have grocery pick up nowadays.
Given that this is a Costco or similar, the parents would not have ordered online and HAD to go in person to shop. Given inflation, it's kind of ironic that the prices of most regular grocery items are MORE there now, and for many things, Walmart is actually less expensive. I'm very curious as to who brought him there, mom or dad or both.
Why was he there in the first place and ti he unsupervised. Parents need to be more responsible
The Parent(s) should have known by this time what they would need to do. This young man is not 2. He is at least a teen. If he has a tendency to become over stimulated in public places, they should have not let him come, but one parent or trusted relative stay home with him. If they must take him, they should have already had a developed plan. With my son, he was not verbal and would take off running. I bought a wrist coller to keep him attached to me. Some adults gave me the stink eye and/or made negative comments. I did not care. When he got older and would pull the run and hide, I would grab him and leave the store. He would learn, if he misbehaved, we would leave. Even if I did not get what I wanted. Consistency was the key. He was told what would happen, and if he did not listen, we left. He threw fits. I did not care. Consistency. He learned and he changed his behavior.
I've been in this situation where my son didn't wana come down off a high slope... best believe i climbed up to get him, and without yelling, I was able to transition back down but had to be very quiet.. It's all about watching the triggers like you said, you must learn the child!!!
I work in retail and I wouldn't be surprised if the lack of effort for saving the TVs was due to some kind of liability/property insurance. My concern with this besides "Where were the caregivers?" was "Why were the TVs so EASY to push over?" You'd think even the display merchandise would be secured or reinforced.
My autistic 5 y/o son could've definitely done this and happily continued once given all this attention. Although, my son would've been in a cart or hand-in-hand with me - I don't give him the chance to do anything like this. If my son elopes, he's more concerned with the joy of being chased and far he can go.
If a person knows their Autistic child could be at risk for hurting themselves or others and might be overstimulated? Just dont bring them to the store..There is no excuse for this crap..Destroying thousands in merchandise..Autistic or not..Those parents lost track of their kid..They need to be held accountable for all those damages..If i know my kid had outbursts like this and i knew it might be a problem? I would not bring my kid to the store if i didnt want to deal with my kid..My kid stimms to calm himself and is also overwhelmed and can get difficult..But i wont let him run off and go destroying things..
If your child is this fragile, don't take them into a large box store with lots of stimulation. People have very little regard for others in public. Neurodivergent individuals can be exposed and oriented to situations, but you better be with them.
Wow.
Fuck no.
I hate it when people use disabilities as an excuse for bad behavior.
There’s a difference between an excuse and an explanation. The point should be that when a person is incapable of making safe choices for themselves and others, another responsible person (usually a parent) must be able to quickly diffuse the situation, help cease the behaviour and remove the person
@@jessam4875 Well they didn't diffuse the situation, now did they?
@@Sara_Rae absolutely not. My point is that a person with such obviously reduced capabilities is not demonstrating ‘bad behaviour’. You could however suggest that the carers were demonstrating ‘bad behaviour’ by not being more proactive with their interventions.
And just to add to that, I don’t know the full context. I don’t know if the carers rectified the situation. Perhaps their were profusely apologetic afterwards and paid for the damage. Perhaps they didn’t. Maybe the carers were at breaking point. Maybe they weren’t and it was typical of them to not intervene. We don’t know. What we do know is that a child with reduced cognitive, social and emotional abilities does not have ‘bad behaviour’
@@jessam4875 No, that was obviously bad behavior.
The parents are responsible. The child needs to have consequences.
What would the consequences be?
This would not sit well with me