I'm a 30 yo autistic male and I still stim, even in public cuz I honestly cannot care less of public opinion. If it makes me chill ain't nobody can tell me that I shud not do it. Do not let your children mask in an attempt to please others, it is not worth in the long run, let em be themselves always. (Off course if in the process one hurt itself or others then I agree it shud be corrected.)
I’m so sorry your parents made you feel that way. The biggest issue with autistics that are now about 25+ is that parents, families, and even doctors, didn’t have anywhere near as much understanding as they do now. I have a brother who is 38 now, and wasn’t even diagnosed til his late 20’s. Luckily unlike a lot of parents at the time, our family just treated him with love, and just knew he was wired differently. I’m pretty sure my fiancé is autistic, but his parents just basically swept it under the rug. It seems like they just don’t want to openly acknowledge that he’s different. But I have a 2 year old with him and he has been diagnosed as having mild to moderate autism, and you bet your butt that I make sure he is treated accordingly. I don’t ignore him when he has meltdowns, because 9 out of 10 of them are because he has trouble communicating, and he feels he’s not being understood. I refuse to let him lay on the floor and scream, cry, and feel abandoned when that is the ONLY way he can express himself. I use redirection. I let him know if I DO understand him, but we just can’t do it right now, or we need to eat something else because he’s already had 2 mini bags of Cheetos lol. I give him other food or activity choices. There are a lot of parents or family members that treated their autistic children the same as their neurotypical ones, because they probably thought you were just being difficult or lazy (which obviously isn’t the case). As a mom/sister/fiance of autism, I don’t have one care in the world about how others see my parenting, or if they find my child to be wierd or just bad. These people simply don’t have the education they need on the subject. I’m always willing to answer questions or advocate for them if I need to. I live by the saying “I wouldn’t change you for the world, but I would change the world for you”.
As an autistic person, I'm glad to hear you're so open to stimming. It really is important. Also, for me at least, aside from self-soothing or expressing positive feelings, stimming also helps alleviate boredom. I was diagnosed as an adult, so my stimming was always a little less obvious, but I did line things up and make things roll like your kid does. My most common stim though, throughout life, was and is singing. I got really frustrated during school because I was always being told to stop, or getting in trouble for singing after I was told to stop when I wasn't doing it consciously. Though I also got compliments on it when I would sing to cope with being in the grocery store, so there's that. When my sisters got older, we would do harmony together, which was really fun :).
With my brother, my father would have 1 foot square boards with geometric designs on them, he started w of course coins, took my dad figs used them on hoards, my mother cut straws so he could use for these patterns. Then my dad brought in tinker toys, he helped my brother make the same design on each geometric board from 2d to 3d. And that started my brother w fascination all tinker toys, he made windmills, large buildings. My dad always made the pictures on the walls with lines or circles, boats, whatever, my brother appreciated them so much more then silly colors or printed pictures. As he got older we changed that to Legos, easy kits, my dad would take the lego design and make it bigger, cause they were small, and took off the word parts. My brother started small and got more precise, anytime he would get frustrated my dad was there, which brings me the the colored Rubicon cube that was a winner too, took practice but he was a champ when he was 12 years old. The good days.
My son is 3.5years old and does everything you have just described. We just learnt last week about it. For a long time I thought it was him just being a toddler
My 8 year old does all of these you mentioned. I'm glad you mentioned the stims that are dangerous because I'm currently battling with those. I don't want my little guy to get hurt. Thanks for the video God bless your family.
My grandson's developmental pediatrician just suggested autism to us. We had been expecting a CP diagnosis at his 2 yr appointment. I'm so glad to have found your blog. A lot of Jacob's stims are very similar and I too am surprised that I missed it. I had been trying to make sense of these things connected to cerebral palsy though. Thank you for the great information!
This is the best the clearest and straight to the point video I’ve seen . Your honesty is awesome . Your an amazing mum and your little boy is gorgeous .
I was watching your other video on signs of autism in a 0 to 12mo baby. I was smiling most of the way through the bit about sleeping. Out of four children (all adults now), our child diagnosed with autism is the only one who had a set routine since birth. He is the only one who slept through the night from around 4mo old. Autism certainly presents itself very differently in different personalities.
My son Bennett does some similar ones as Jacob does. He also does finger drawing in the air. He will draw shapes, numbers and letters with his fingers over and over. Sometimes he bangs his head only if he's upset. He does some finger flapping when he's happy or excited. He walks on his tip toes and he runs into walls and furniture.
First of all your family and son are precious and your videos are so helpful to many families. I am an OT and here are some of my thoughts. I believe that stimming has an important function and helps meet a child's sensory and emotional needs, but as a child develops, stimming can interfere with development. Because so much of a child's cognitive, language, motor and social development is dependent on play during the toddler years, when they are not able to stop stimming long enough to participate in different types of play, they loose so many opportunities for development. For example, if a child can only play with coins by lining them up and struggles to play with them by putting them in a piggy bank, or stacking them or pouring them from one cup to another, or sorting them by size or color, all of those important opportunities for learning are missed. If a child spends the majority of their time seeking movement moving from play item to play item or running in circles on the playground, they miss important opportunities or learning. Learning to stop stimming to participate in non-preferred activities is not something that happens automatically, the child needs help to acquire this ability. Introducing some structured "non-stim" time is important as a child begins to approach pre-school age.
While this is true in the extreme, there IS a middle ground. If a stim does not interfere with daily life, or isn’t harmful to themselves or others, there is no need to get rid of it completely. There is a way to teach children that they can still stim, but show them that sometimes we need to complete a certain task first, then they can stim. Look up Fathering Autism, I have watched all their videos at least within the past 2 years. Their daughter is 15, and she has more severe autism, also has developmental delays, and uses an iPad to communicate. A good example is her yelling stim (she likes to yell into the back of her hand). If she’s home, and wants to do it, she’s learned to go up to her room. Her parents taught her that it’s ok to do it, but sometimes it can interfere with others in conversation or trying to watch tv.
My kids do not have a classical presentation of autism but there are several helpful things that would have helped us if we had seen this when they were little. 💕 I appreciate this video very much. My daughter always loved staring at lights, from newborn to I want to say age 3. We used to call the lights her “friends” because she preferred to look at them than interact with us when she was very little. The looking to the side and all around thing my son did all the time. And several other things.
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I like your parenting style. Let him be a kid as long as possible. I stim by shaking my leg or by repeatedly singing commercial jingles over and over again when I am nervous. I also believe that I might be slightly autistic. I’m trying to find someone who will test adults. Everyone wants to only test kids.
This was really helpful. My daughter is almost 2 and has been in Early Intervention for about 5 months now. Her stims include the hand flapping and screaming, but she also has many of the dangerous ones like poking/picking at her eyes and kids very hard, pulling her hair, banging her head, slapping herself, and eating non-edible items. She also twirls herself and stomps around all day long. No jumping or hopping though. It helps her regulate a lot to sit in a high chair or car seat. Any type of chair that includes a harness helps give the deep sensory pressure she is looking for. Thanks again for your insight.
I would find a allergy doctor that could rule out food allergies, vitamin deficiency and stop doing vaccines. Vaccines contain aluminum, mercury and antibiotics which are neurological toxins and damaging to the gut bacteria which is essentially our immune system and second brain. Find a high quality fish oil, vitamins and do a whole food diet. Kids with autism sometimes have leaky gut leading to inflammation and thats why they scream. Anti inflammatory diet, remove diary and gluten and avoid chemicals.
@@azizafifi6663 I'm banned from Facebook for getting into a vaccine group making fun of anti vaxxers and sending science about autism and aluminum. I can't stand people who don't understand the history of pharmaceutical companies and their greed. The fact that millions aren't even being tested for anything before sending them to behavior therapy for life and its acceptable.
It’s really reassuring to hear someone else’s child have the same stims as my son has. We’re very early in our journey but my son does a lot of the things you mentioned especially with the flashing lights and staring at fans. Your video was super helpful too actually identifying some of those behaviors AS stims because I never considered that before.
My three year old son does many of the same stims, jumping, lining up toys, hand flapping while bouncing when happy/excited and all of those stims I’m happy for him to do because they make him happy (especially his hand flapping while bouncing because I know he is very happy or excited when he does this and his smile is everything) but I have been trying to distract him when he starts doing his most recent stim, which is him making a continuous loud humming sound. I distract him by starting the alphabet, which he loves, and he stops humming and does the alphabet with me. The reason I do this is because he starts kinder next year and I feel that using a loud noise when stimming is going to be disruptive in class, and also I feel like out of all his stims the noise is the one that is the least socially acceptable. I desperately hope that he makes even just one friend, and while I know preventing one loud stim won’t magically make that happen I’m hoping that socially it helps a little.
It would be great to know how you are doing now. I have a 3 y.o. son and the same thoughts. I myself was never diagnosed but now thanks to my son I found out that I have stims myself, but I learned to control it with my mind due to the fact that it was socially unacceptable and no one was aware of this term when I was young.
My youngest kiddo is on the spectrum. When he started stimming, it shocked me a little bit because it was a finger stim that I did all the time when I was a kid. As time went on, he did more and more stims that were the same or similar to my own. Now I’m pretty sure that my childhood ADHD diagnosis was incorrect.
My 8 month old stiffens up when excited or frustrated and screams with a high pitch. While stiffing, he rotates his wrists. He goes through episodes of jumping and does a high pitch scream.. watching your video relaxes me as I am a first time mom and I would always question his repetitive movements. He literally screams like your son. God bless your happy family!!
Autistic here, you cannot really detect this at such a young age. Please have an open mind, but something that can be asked in the future if there are symptoms.
So happy to have found u I'm nanny to my gorgeous almost 6 year old grandson he also does the hand things u mentioned I've never heard of stimming I've got a feeling I'm gonna b binge watching your videos your awesome mumma xx
10:32 His scrunching up or tensing up his face? He is laughing because he is making himself (face and body) vibrate, which is an amusing sensation, to say the least.
What do you make of adults that have no clinically significant history deciding they are autistic then saying they need to "unmask" by "relearning" stims (they never did)?
Wow, my list of stims is increadably long. I will share a few as im wondering if any are more neurotypical than others. I am on the spectrum. If I'm really stressed or upset, I flap my hands to the side like I'm shaking off water, I tap my chest, pinch my lips, and drum my fingers against my thumds over and over. I take those rubber noodles and flap them against my wrists. I also run warm water over my hands for ages. Some of these things just happen on their own, but they do help me feel better. My beauty/positive stims are holding colored flawed glass up to light close to my eyes and slowly turning it so I feel immersed in that little world; I do this with shiny things of all sorts and coloerd glass cups. I play with things that have mechanical moving parts, and smooth cool things I can press and hold with my fingers. I hold leaves and blossoms up to light this way too. I tend to make "air biscuts" with my toes like a cat, and I make popping sounds with my mouth. I also love combing grass with my fingers, and doing the same with my hair.
My 5 yr old granddaughter does this thing( I'll try to describe) where she's sitting and leans off to one side and goes into a trance and tightens her muscles while rocking. This lasts for several minutes. When she's done she's literally sweating. I haven't seen anyone else explain having seen this. I think it's some kind of stimming? She also does the hand flapping and rocks side to side when excited.
Stims I do: pacing, grinding my teeth, blinking my eyes, scripting movies, hand flapping, rocking my body, singing songs, lining up things, covering and uncovering my ears
There’s even more stims that I do spinning objects, playing with my hair, palilalia (repeating what you say), immediate and delayed echolalia you may think I’m severely autistic cuz I have 12-13 stereotypic behaviors but I’m just moderately autistic
My favorite stim is flapping objects usually a pencil in front of my eyes. Also skipping in circles and rocking. When I was younger I used to jump with my hands flexed by my sides and put everything in my mouth. I have countless others but those are my most common ones.
These videos help me with my great grandson. I want so much to be able to understand Autism more and more. He is so adorable. He also loves trains and toys that push.
My 6yo son is autistic and the one stim that has stuck with him the longest is he usually has his right hand in his shirt twiddling his left nipple. He's done this since he was about 2 years old. It's not harmful exactly but he does it enough I begin to worry he will rub a sore there... but it is not entirely "appropriate" in public and I don't want him getting in trouble at school for it.
I began to realize I stimm too. I twirl my hair when I am anxious and I play with by hair a lot. Sometimes because it eases how I feel or makes me just feel good for some reason.
My daughter started wiggling her eyes all around when she was about 5. I finally asked her, out of curiously, what she was thinking when she did that. She was quite confused. She said, "I'm drawing!" She had thought everyone could see what she would draw in her mind. After awhile, I would ask her what she was drawing when she would move her eyes around. She would giggle and tell me. These days, she still does the stem, but has also begun asking me to physically draw with her instead of drawing with her eyes as much. I do ask that she tries not to "draw" when a teacher is talking to her. This is a very difficult task for her because she often "draws" with her eyes when overwhelmed socially. But im so excited to be able to join in on the stemming and im super stoked that she was able to communicate that!
Hello. My 3.5 year old grandson is autistic. He does a lot of the same stims as your son. One that he also does is put his hands in his mouth a lot. He is still on a bottle not just because he refuses to let it go but because he has severe food allergies and it’s hard to find him food he’s willing to eat from a spoon but we are going to keep working with him so he can go to school soon.
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Autism means you are unique and special ! Everyone is different and so we all must accept people as they are and not try to point out anything ! We are not perfect !! No one is perfect ! So just relax
My son is 10. He has been stimming ever since he was a baby. He rocks back and forth He twist his fingers... and it looks like he’s squeezing the tips. He use to line up toys and shoes when he was younger. He is very good at mathematics and reading ever since he was two. He jumps around ...and runs around for short times He pats his stomach while running with his head down He repeat words He ask questions that he already knows the answers to He’s a cutie pie
We have just booked in to get our almost 3yr old assessed for autism. We believe he may have it as he has what we think are stims, he will randomly stop what he is doing and makes a weird humming vocal noise and will run around in circles maybe 3-7 times a day or has moments of the humming vocals and moves his head side to side looking around the room but is unresponsive to his name or even clapping in his face. Those are the 2 big ones & that started in April this year but have gotten worse, he use to do them once a day but now he does them multiple times. we also noticed he does this thing if he hits you or hurts you in any way and you tell him off he will do the same thing to himself & actually hurt himself & cry. Unfortunately we aren’t able to be seen until next year but i’m hoping they can get us in right away just for some clarity & answers
I'm new here. My sweet boy is 19 months old and I'm noticing some things that led me here... He squeals, when he's excited LOUD. He rocks back and forth while flapping his hands/arms bent at the elbow. He does have sensory issues with food or anything on his legs and feet. He doesn't point, he does pay mind to his name BUT NOT ALWAYS. He can play alone for HOURS and much more but his Drs don't think anything is wrong 😢 idk what to do or where to go bc I want some help for my baby but no one listens ANY ADVICE IS WELCOME
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Don't listen to the herbs guy. I would definitely seek another opinion or go to a place for people with autism to get him tested. You have to be patient because there are long wait times, but once you get the diagnosis you open yourself up to a ton more resources!!❤
It's his way to communicate since he has struggles talking it's his way of saying how much fun he's having. He's jumping in the morning he is saying I slept well and feeling good. He's happy. I stim flapping the water when I am in the ocean. I love the water. The way I calm myself is putting a finger in my mouth. Means I am anxious or too much is happening. Self injury stims mean something is bothering him or he's anxious. He can't talk but he is trying to through stimming. I bite my finger. Most of my life wouldn't feel it because I would bite that much. I am having a meltdown frustrated because I lack motor skills to complete simple tasks and break things constantly. I am independent and working full time with a college degree. This stuff has nothing to do with his intelligence.
My baby does every single one of the Stims you mentioned. He does not flap alot though but my 15 year old did when he was a toddler and all the way up to teen. But now instead of flapping he swings his arms and flaps his hand hitting his fingers together.
What's interesting is that this challenges what I classify as a storm. My boy flaps, screeches, jumps, squeezes, etc etc and also has had the obsessive lining up thing before but I never considered that a storm. Food for thought for me. So glad you mention not suppressing stimming. In my blog I mentioned the same, why would you suppress an expression of excitement? I love my son's stims for the most part!
I have a lot of stimming with my legs and feet, and some finger things and face rubbing and sort of wedging my hands and feet into tight positions. (like wedging my hand under my chin, or the crook of my leg, or wedging my feet into the couch) Thank you for saying we shouldn't stop people stimming. It is really an intrusive request. It's like if someone said you weren't allowed to stretch anymore. You'd get so tight and stiff, you know? Stimming is part of how we function and remain comfortable in our bodies. But that doesn't mean you can't replace some stims with something similar but less disruptive, at least in public. PS I don't really understand how lining toys up is stimming, it just seems like a type of play to me.
I used to stim as a child but nobody knew what it was back then and my mom would always explain to me that I’m being very strange and that it’s not healthy. So I stopped. I admit I’m grateful tho because I don’t know what obstacles I might’ve bumped into as far as employment goes and so on. But I admit most of my jobs I still struggle with. However I am now a new mom and I think it’s one of the reasons I’m being kept at work
Thanks for the video. I was researching STIMing behaviours recently as my friend has a child who has just been diagnosed with Tourettes. Really interesting observing it and then being able to relate it to behavioral theories. Keep up the great work mum and dad.
I raised 3 kids with a bunch of special needs. There's a stew of features of Tourette, Autism and/or Aspergers, and other. At first my son seemed to have Autism He could do puzzles in wierd advanced way, noticed stuff at age 4, like mistake in movie Wizard of Oz. In diapers sitting in the grocery cart, he recited my "customer card number" for the grocery cashier when she asked for it. She was stunned. But he FREAKED out at LOTS of stuff: loud noises, a man on a ladder in preschool working in a drop ceiling. We're talking TRAUMATIZED! He used to put his hands around his little sister's neck in a disturbing way that my father even commented on. He was about 3 or 4 and she was around 15 months in her playpen. He'd have horrible "storms". He lined up toys, wanted me to replay certain parts of videos OVER and OVER. He was let go ftom his preschool at age 3. Then he started BLINKING. Then shoulder shrugging. The behaviors got worse. When he was 5 he was diagnosed with Tourette. And other "comorbid" features. It got SEVERE. My youngest began headbumping as soon as she was physically able. This continued through elementary school. In her high chair she head bumped so hard it moved the chair across the kitchen floor. In preschool she rocked from side to side instead of participating. Of course, for the parent presentation, she stood up there as I filmed, and while the others did their song and cute hand dancing, my sweet girl held her hand out in front with her middle finger up. Like was mentioned in this youtube...but judt with "the finger". She was always a wanderer/ disappearer. I couldnt sit down at a picnic. At the zoo nothing I said could keep her from chasing off after something. (She ended up through a fence on top of a giraffe shed roof via a bridge. At my grandmother's funeral, she was 5 and she took off from the seated graveside to go off to look in another grave opening. ( My 12 year old son created a chase scene through the sprawling funeral home the night of the viewing. He'd found a room off somewhere with a live microphone and started crooning which was broadcast over the intercom.) There was a lot more and some pretty terrible stuff. My middle child is LD and had health issues early on. It took 5 years to get her help in school. My youngest NEVER got the IEP the doctor said she needed. The witch bus driver told the other kids "hit her in the head" when she leaned into the aisle to avoid the flashing light. She also referred to her as the dumb one. She is about to graduate with a 4 yr degree in biology, which she has worked to pay for. No student loans.(And she did it despite her father deserting and heightening his abuse and making life more Hellish.) My son with Tourette also got a 4 yr degree, is married, and flew to Australia all by himself a couple years ago for his job. I still perceive them as high risk...but the accomplishments of their own hard work seem to have given them at least a little self esteem to counter their difficulties. I cant really say where one "label" starts and another one ends. It seems a hodgepodge of issues. There was no "happiness" from tics that I could see...or stimming. Self comforting, yes. Blocking out what overwhelms.... Or bores to tears. Yes.
@@onion6footI thought your comment was lovely. Thank you for sharing your stories! You are so eloquent with your words, it was very interesting to read!
I am pretty sure my sisters child is autistic. There are so many signs pointing towards it. The only problem is I dont think she sees it. Have you ever yourself witnessed parents try to ignore or maybe be in denial about their child having autism? If so, why do you think they may do it? I just don't understand why she wouldn't want to see it so she can start doing research and things like that to help her child.
I'm not sure if this is the best way to explain why.. But both my children have Autism and they both act differently, I.E. my son never toe-walked/ hopped and always made sure his toys were in order, the cars had to face forward, the clothes had to match, the bed needed to be made especially before he went to bed, he would even stock the shelves if something was misplaced at the store or had been left on the floor. Where as my daughter does the opposite and is non-verbal, temperamental and is toe walking so badly regardless what I try. She flaps her hands but doesn't cover her ears like my son had. You can't take her to an arcade and change from one game to another, you will go deaf with her screams. she is obsessed with water where my son acts as if he's allergic to it and will ask if your hands are dry if you've washed them before he lets you touch him. Anyways, I as a MOM didn't want to accept my kids were "gifted" or how others see it as disabled. It's not what you want to hear, it's not something others understand and now a days everyone wants to judge without realizing they have issues too regardless what they may be. I mean as a mother you just want your kid to be like everyone else. You want them to not be looked as "less than" or "special". Also for some moms it's easier to treat your kid as a "regular" child if you don't let yourself think they aren't, if you don't accept it... Love is blind, right...? I always say it's not how fast my kids get there (educationally, emotionally, physically) it's the fact that they DO and that they have gotten there.. P.S. I know this question was a year ago but I hope it helps nevertheless.. ❤️
All the signs are pointing towards my daughter being autistic, and it was very upsetting and overwhelming when one of my family members approached my Mum saying how they were worried about my daughter being different, not in a hurtful way, but in a genuine caring way because he loves my daughter like his own. It’s not what you want for your child, but after the initial shock of someone else noticing her uniqueness (In my heart I knew, I just wasn’t ready to admit it) It’s just a matter of processing all of the overwhelming emotions that hit you like a bus. You ask why my child? Will she lead a normal and fulfilling life? Was it something I did? But I am realising that regardless, she is exactly how she is meant to be. As a Mum, you always want the very best for your child. Like the other comment said, This was a year ago but still wanted to shes some light :)
I have a similar situation where my brother in law who's also my godson has a 9 year old with clear autism symptoms but highly functional and no matter what people tell them, practitioners, family members saying, "hey, we think there might be some light form of autism here", well, he and her wife would always dismiss it by saying the child's mother was the same way when she was a kid (which makes sense because she also has symptoms). They also dismiss it by saying he had a developmental delay because of hearing loss so eventually people around them gave up on suggesting it because they would get defensive. Hopefully, it will all work out somehow to best interests of the child.
@@lmviruet that is also my hope, that my sister will eventually do whats in the best interest of my nephew and stop looking at it like it's a negative thing. Someone else in the family had brought it to her attention recently on their own, thankfully, because she would just get mad if I said something. I just want to see him get the proper help he needs. I wish everyone in my family could stop looking at it like there's something wrong with him by using the word autistic, and realize he's just going to have a different way of learning if he is on the spectrum. My sister says he just has adhd, but never brings him to the Dr so I guess she wont get a diagnosis either way. I just hope in time everything will work out.
Thank you for this video! I found you through research for my daughter. She’s almost 3 and she does every single one of these. We have an intake appointment in a month for ASD testing for her and myself as well. The only criteria I couldn’t quite understand was stimming, as in what is stimming and what isn’t... through this I’ve learned I actually stim all the time and didn’t realize it! I’m a new subscriber. Thanks so much!
Yes, i think we can all stim at some point!! Thank you for subscribing and joining our community :) Goodluck with your journey through the assessment with your daughter!
I used to make those screams as a way to stim but no one knew what that was. So the screaming part like I just started like tensing up and screaming or growling lollll but now I do it at a high pitch so i don’t make any noise or as a very low tone quietly. I do it when I get too excited to calm myself down. And yes I used to smell my hands as a stim and my moms boyfriend would get so mad about that he would film me and take pictures of me and say I ruined the photo whatever , paparazzi . And another was flapping my hands my moms boyfriend used to get so mad about that one for sure and I eventually stopped because of him. A lot of my stims became internal because he made fun of me,until I started to learn how to paint and also drugs for a while but yea painting helps a lot. Nice video, let’s your kids stim don’t make fun of them, it’s not that weird I mean they came out of you so… don’t blame them lol.
Thank you. Just wish the screaming part would've been covered up only because my ear is unnecessarily hurting... I have some relatives who have kids with sensory processing situations... but the caretaker is a Narcissist with rigid rules and sudden changes depending on their mood... I want to find resources to help the parent know why - rigid rules and changes to routine - don't work and whyyy those things lead to anger
My daughter started doing that eye thing at the age of 8-9 years old. It was actually the start of a tic disorder. Some of this stimming also look like tics
Thank you soooo much for these videos. You’re video of Early signs made me really start digging into getting my 3 year old tested. He does almost every single one yours does except lines things up. We also just had a baby recently and he doesn’t want anything to do with her either. Also this video has definitely taught me that it will always change because it does week to week with our little guy stimming and of course does these exact ones especially with the eyes & hands( this new this week), jumping consistently, the “talking” , excitement, pasting etc. So thank you again for these. This is just the beginning for us so we will have a while before someone calls us back with an appointment here in Texas. 😭
Hi! Fellow Texan here....unfortunately we're in the same boat. We've been waiting 6 months now for a call just TO SCHEDULE an appointment. Fingers crossed we both get a call soon!!
Im not diagnosed with autism but I have a lot of signs. So here are my stims 1 hand flapping 2 walking on tip toes while spinning 3 certain song like the forest song in the legend of zelda ocarina of time 4 tapping my fingers together when im trying to remember or thinking. I have many more but I have tried for years to get a diagnosis but no one believes me.
This is so awesome, but would love to see this all the same but just taking out your gorgeous boy. He can't consent to being on a huge platform and some of it may be personal or embaresing to him.in the future! Internet is unfortunately forever! He might not want this out there :) just a thought, love the commentary and hearing about all your struggles!! You are amazing! But Jacob just needs all your attention, not all of ours!! 🥰
My daughter flaps her hands and love lining things up, she’s almost 3, she likes to put her toys in categories too I am thinking of having her evaluated
Sounds like a good idea. All you have to do is voice your concerns to your pediatrician, and if they understand what you’re seeing, they can recommend a specialist to evaluate her. I have a 2 year old who is autistic, and a brother who is also, but wasn’t diagnosed until his late 20’s.
Can you pleaee make a video elaborating more on stims that come from frustration, overwhelming emotions, and how you deal and cope ? Our son used to bang his head but he still hits his head, not as frequently but still. Also, he flings his hand at others when he gets anxious or stressed out or needs space or makes a mistake like falls off bike or something. He also hits or pushes out of frustration, and rarely but bites. Thanks.
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My daughter opens her mouth really wide and tenses up for a few seconds. She seems to do it when she’s excited. I do worry about her doing it as she gets older and people being mean to her. She’s 4 now.
My son is almost 2 and is starting to show some early signs, he also flaps his hands when hes happy and excited. I also noticed my son grinds his teeth? This video is very Informing 🙂 thank you.
@@DreadWolf3000 my son sleep and eat well,he understands comands,answer his name and say some words and know to name some objects but he stim often time if he is boring or sleepy,very confused evry one said to wait ,but I love when he call me mommyyyy ,he is my everything
OMG watching the video of your son remined me of my son Billy now in his 20s he wants to be called Bill still flaps his hands and jumps around but can hide it when he is in public or in collage. We didn't get a diagnosis to much latter but I have to tell you it all can work out my son is very smart and loving get your son all the help he needs and love him and tell him the truth about his Autism. I know sometimes it can be hard so hang in there. Thanks for your video.
My 3 year old is on the wait list (to see the specialist and get diagnosed)which is upto 18 months. He is nonverbal. I would say his stims are lining things up and humming. Your child is such a cutie ❤
My daughter is 17 months old and we think she is autistic. What made me think she was autistic at first is because when she was 9 months olds she started saying mama, baba, nana and then just randomly stopped and didn't start saying mama again until 14 months old. Her vocabulary is very slim. Maybe 5 words. We do know she has a huge texture problem, especially in food. She cannot stand shoes or socks. She has banged her head since she was able to sit up. It has started to slow down, but she will still randomly do it. She has an odd fixation with wipes and buttons. She doesn't really play like any other one year old will. She mostly likes to watch her youtube shows. There are times that she will respond to her, but most of thine she doesn't. I never really noticed that she didn't offer toys to us. I thought you know every baby and child is different. She has younger twin sisters who are 7 months old and they're two months premature. I've noticed so many different things that the twins do but Ally never did or did super late. Ally cooed maybe a handfull of times. She started screeching at about 6 months. Ally would not participate in tummy time. She didn't learn how to push up on her arm until she was 7 months old. She learned how to sit up before she was 6 months so I didn't see a need to worry. She didn't learn how to roll over until she was 10 months though. She learned how to crawl at 9 months and how to walk right before she turned 13 months. Ally was a happy baby and is a happy toddler as well. She her moments where she gets upset randomly. Oh! The sounds. She cannot stand a sound if it is louder than a normal talking tone. She will cover her ears and get upset. We know she has sensory problems and texture problems, but her doctor doesn't think she needs to be tested. Ally sees a speech therapist and occupational therapist via teletherapy. How do I get her doctor on board? Because we live in the states and you have to be referred to be able to receive help
These are all things my youngest who just turned 3 did. All my kids were different with different milestones but he was off on certain things more and has a def speech delay , literally everything you said was him. He stopped saying mama for months. Would say a word we had no idea he could and not say it again for weeks if not months. He’s in speech therapy now and although his pediatrician said he has a few things that would point to autism those same things could be just natural toddler /kid stuff. And that we could start speech therapy and maybe see a behavioral therapist specialist if he wasn’t reaching other milestones or progressing. I knew from one of my other 3 sometimes speech literally developed over night or so it seems and he has made so much progress on his own the last few months without therapy. During his evaluation they said maybe an OT needs to evaluate if the other things persist and possibly it is sensory processing disorder which def makes sense to me for him but also it could all be “normal” his speech therapist who works with autistic children every week said she saw absolutely no indication he was autistic. One thing I will say is trust your gut. You can have her seen by a behavioral therapist in most cases anyway call and make the appointment and then don’t ask tell her dr to send a referral if you need one. She could make great progress with speech therapy and maybe that’s all it is. I can tell you that most of my worries my son “grew” out of. From the way clothes fit and felt to the sounds repetitive actions spinning things all that. It’s like it was a phase but one I hadn’t really experienced. I will agree with what some ppl say sometimes people in general are looking for a problem that isn’t there. I tho k it’s bc as mother’s or parents we think our kids are perfect and there’s too much comparison like my kid isn’t doing a whole list of things these other kids are and they’re older so there’s obviously a “reason” why and sometimes that’s just not the case. In 2 years you make look back and think what in the world was I worried about?? I’ve been there before trust me. But the other side of that is you also know your child best and don’t let ANYONE talk you out of doing what you know is right or needed. She’s still young enough to get plenty help in all areas esp speech . I mean my 3 year old will still grunt and point when he can obviously say what he wants that’s just bc he’s stubborn and spoiled lol. But that’s one reason kids under 2 or even 3 are so hard to diagnose with autism bc so many of the things could be normal or not. Mine did the head banging and everything and now and then when he gets real mad still does. I do know here to get into a good behavioral therapist/specialist it takes a while so maybe find one and get the process started?? And I also know worrying about it constantly is even more stressful so is the feeling of not being able to help your child or even interact with them, more than once I’ve cried bc my son couldn’t speak to me like he should be able to or I knew he was frustrated bc he couldn’t express his wants or feelings, I get it but stressing won’t change the outcome...hugs ❤️
Hello I have just found your channel and have enjoyed listening to your experiences with Jacob and learning from you and him. My 2 year old Violet is in the process of getting diagnosed, right now she has a Early Intervention team and one of the ladies comes out to the house every other week. She is non verbal and her most noticeable stem is to tense up all her muscles while doing this yoga type planking posture on the floor or sometimes she will lay flat and stick out her legs straight and arms out stretched while every muscle is hard as a rock. I was so worried at first because it looked like seizures however after several neurological visits that was ruled out thankfully. The Dr.s and therapist and I have decided it's her stem at this time. She has also been to the Audiologist to assess her hearing and all the physical aspects are good however she does have selective hearing with certain tones. She does the jumping, spinning, and walking on tip toes. She looks at her fingers and will pick at little pieces of her nail if it chips. She loves picking up little things off the ground, it's like she can spot the tiny things and go for them and 9 times out of 10 she puts it straight into her mouth so we have to constantly watch her. She loves water sensory play. Just a bit of water in a play tub and she slaps the water with her hands. I could go on for days but I won't lol I see a lot of Jacob's behaviors in my Violet so it's nice to find a Chanel that has a couple years advance and learn something from y'all! Thank you for your hard work and time and from a old momma (I have 5 children total ages 21, 18, 14, 12, & 2) I can tell you that you are do a Amazing job little momma! We are our children's best advocate and must fight for them always!
Hi my grandson stims are walking on tip toes a lot , running back and forth constantly, he did spin round in a circle but has stopped doing that now , rubbing his face and head along the floor or soft rug or along the TV, he dosnt jump but he runs on the spot , like a jog fast and flap his hands because he is excited, bites things and his family, sometimes head bangs or head buts you and smacks you when frustrated and overwhelmed, humming sound over and over , whimpering noise or squeals , he stopped saying words after his 12 month assessment with health visitor, when he was in his baby walker he kept spinning in a circle in his walker and turning toys upside down and spinning them , but we didn't know why he did this , my grandson is now 2 years 2 months old and isn't saying much , odd time he tries to say cup or juice but then he stops , we talk to him all the time still and he babbles and we cant understand what he is saying , he dosnt like cuddles or kisses and he lines everything up that he can line up , he smells things and feels things , avoids eye contact, has meltdowns if something changes in his routine or sometimes we dont know why , he has been referred to speech and Language therapy , he struggled with learning, like reading books, flash cards showing him things in the house or outside, he isnt learning anything, thank you for your videos very helpful
My little brother is 5 and has autism and when he's mad, he will jump in the air and land straight on his knees on hard floor and it doesn't hurt him. It really looks like it hurts though. But when he's excited, he will flap his hands. Like when he watches a show he really likes and run back and forth with excitement lol
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This doc helped my son improve and get over autism with his herbs His name is Dr Oyalo on channel My sons speech and behavior/social skill has improved perfectly using his herbs
Oh well, I'm in the US. My son gets super excited, smiles the biggest and holds up his middle figures. This is not a joke. Right now we are on quarantine so he is doing school over video. He is heading towards 10yrs, and hopefully we are heading back to school soon. I've tried things like, "give that figure a buddy." Sometimes he'll put up another figure. It's a hard one, he isn't hurting anyone's feelings right now, but when he gets back to school it might be more of an issue. Thank you.
I’ve only just been diagnosed with ASD but turns out I showed a lot of signs as a kid but biting the nails seems to be the my brains favourite but in public my most used one seems to be rocking or fidgeting like the tapping
@@aussieautismfamily well I’m 16 so wasn’t late late but still late considering of how many signs I showed but my parents didn’t really know much about autism and they thought that it was for the more severe
Yeah my twin girls will flap their hands or spin in a circle or hit their head when they having a melt down due to struggling with communicating what is bothering or back track over and over again what they want to say.
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My nephew his 3 yrs old now and he really walk tiptoe up to this days and he does alot of stimming like flapping his arms and alot of jumping. Sometimes biting his nail, and If he found a paper he really like to tore it into pieces and. Like to screams also. He sleep very late thatse wonder that his a special.
My son does several the same as your son but he also loves to spin himself around, twirl his arms around really fast, or walk/run circles around the room. He also taps or knocks on things, usually 3 fast taps. I also have several stims. My main two are nail biting and tensing up my feet while spreading my toes out. I do this so many times a day, almost non stop sometimes, that I often pull a tendon or make my feet hurt to walk on. I cannot make it stop though, especially when my anxiety is high.
Thank you all for sharing! This was such a great video! My 2 yr old son got diagnosed with autism 2 days ago. I've been crying myself to sleep at night. He does and has been doing everything you mentioned in the video. Does anyone know what happens when a child with autism becomes an adult? Do they act normal? Do these behaviors go away? This is new to us. No previous history of autism in our family. No one that we know is dealing with this. Thanks in advance!
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How do you know when stims are just typical development and when it's autism or a sensory processing disorder? My 5 year old has ALWAYS kicked/flapped arms/jumped when excited. He also won't keep his feet off stuff and in the last year or two he has taken to biting on clothes and toys but takes ages to eat a meal. He is very verbal and always has been. He also sorts and lines up his hotwheels cars. My almost 2 year old investigates his own hands and mine sometimes. He does the eye thing too. Looking at things from different angles and then closing his eyes, shaking his head and stuff. He likes to spin too. He used to bang his head when upset but I think he's moving past that. He is pretty verbal too but it doesn't seem to come as naturally to him. He will repeat commonly used words and phrases and will try to say new words when prompted by his brother... sometimes for me, but mostly his brother. He has signed 'milk' and 'please' for many months but I finally taught him how to ask out loud by asking my older son to demonstrate and then having my younger son copy him.
My son flaps a hand with or without a sock in it in front of his mouth and he makes a lot of different sounds. My son is 14 and has a dual diagnosis of Down syndrome and autism.
My sun is Stimming alot, he spins around in circles standing, he runs from my front door to the back door for a hour at a time. I have to distracted him to stop.
I am always rubbing my arm on my face and have done for as long as I can remember, I am always doing throughout the day and find I can't go a day without doing it, I have no idea if I'm autistic or not but do have suspicions that I am.
My toddler has just recently started biting her nails. I never thought of it being a stim😬 she has been biting them down. She has sensory processing disorder but no diagnosis of autism as of yet.
My little 3 year old Aspie does also and most recently bites his feet. I try to put his feet and hands down and try to get him interested in something else.
Were new here australia but while we are in australia when we bring my son check up the doctor told us that she thinks my sons is autism and i read and watch few videos and my son have same symptoms .we are still waiting for his citizenship here australia ..
Your son reminds me soooo much of mine! Even kind of looks like him lol but seriously, everything you said, describes my son to a T as well!! He is soooo cute 😊
Bless your heart 💓 your child is beautiful but I'm so grateful that I can't have children because I don't know if I could handle it I have friends with Autistic kids and, my Goodness I can't even imagine the frustration it looks so overwhelming but keep on the good work 💪🙏♥️
You probably should not make comments. Although you were probably well intentioned, what you said was extremely rude. I thank God you did not have children.
My son will hand flap or flap at his hair, jump around, run laps around our house, headbutts people and does really tight cuddles where he tenses up his whole body, he loves it when you tense up your body and give him a tight hug back so I will do that when he’s feeling overwhelmed. He also loves to talk about his favourite interests (currently slime rancher) and loves to be tickled. He used to line things up all the time too but not so much anymore
Thanks for sharing, can I ask where the line is between being a child without autism just experimenting with movement and patterns and testing certain behaviours and then being a child with autism doing these actions. My 10 month old does lots of these sort of actions but it's all new things he is trialling. Sorry if this sounds like an insensitive question ... I'm just curious how you knew there was a difference.
My son have been using this herbal product for 1month now so far it has cured his ADHD and eliminate his lack of social skill as well , now he is verbal , I got this herbs from Dr imenherbal on his channel and it work perfectly . Now my son is completely free
My son currently jumps around or stamps over and over looks out the corner of his eyes and runs around in circles as well as head butting the floors and walls, now he’s started biting his knees and fingers/hands, some of them we didn’t realise he was stimming until we where told by our Pediatrician xx
You are so balanced, informed, gentle. Good job mama.
You light up so much when talking about Jacob... such a great mom 💙
I'm a 30 yo autistic male and I still stim, even in public cuz I honestly cannot care less of public opinion. If it makes me chill ain't nobody can tell me that I shud not do it. Do not let your children mask in an attempt to please others, it is not worth in the long run, let em be themselves always. (Off course if in the process one hurt itself or others then I agree it shud be corrected.)
I definitely agree and am so happy to hear you do it freely! That’s awesome to be yourself
I’m so sorry your parents made you feel that way. The biggest issue with autistics that are now about 25+ is that parents, families, and even doctors, didn’t have anywhere near as much understanding as they do now. I have a brother who is 38 now, and wasn’t even diagnosed til his late 20’s. Luckily unlike a lot of parents at the time, our family just treated him with love, and just knew he was wired differently. I’m pretty sure my fiancé is autistic, but his parents just basically swept it under the rug. It seems like they just don’t want to openly acknowledge that he’s different. But I have a 2 year old with him and he has been diagnosed as having mild to moderate autism, and you bet your butt that I make sure he is treated accordingly. I don’t ignore him when he has meltdowns, because 9 out of 10 of them are because he has trouble communicating, and he feels he’s not being understood. I refuse to let him lay on the floor and scream, cry, and feel abandoned when that is the ONLY way he can express himself. I use redirection. I let him know if I DO understand him, but we just can’t do it right now, or we need to eat something else because he’s already had 2 mini bags of Cheetos lol. I give him other food or activity choices. There are a lot of parents or family members that treated their autistic children the same as their neurotypical ones, because they probably thought you were just being difficult or lazy (which obviously isn’t the case). As a mom/sister/fiance of autism, I don’t have one care in the world about how others see my parenting, or if they find my child to be wierd or just bad. These people simply don’t have the education they need on the subject. I’m always willing to answer questions or advocate for them if I need to. I live by the saying “I wouldn’t change you for the world, but I would change the world for you”.
As an autistic person, I'm glad to hear you're so open to stimming. It really is important. Also, for me at least, aside from self-soothing or expressing positive feelings, stimming also helps alleviate boredom. I was diagnosed as an adult, so my stimming was always a little less obvious, but I did line things up and make things roll like your kid does. My most common stim though, throughout life, was and is singing. I got really frustrated during school because I was always being told to stop, or getting in trouble for singing after I was told to stop when I wasn't doing it consciously. Though I also got compliments on it when I would sing to cope with being in the grocery store, so there's that. When my sisters got older, we would do harmony together, which was really fun :).
I really really love this!
What a delightful mom you are! Every member of your family.❤❤❤❤❤❤
With my brother, my father would have 1 foot square boards with geometric designs on them, he started w of course coins, took my dad figs used them on hoards, my mother cut straws so he could use for these patterns.
Then my dad brought in tinker toys, he helped my brother make the same design on each geometric board from 2d to 3d. And that started my brother w fascination all tinker toys, he made windmills, large buildings. My dad always made the pictures on the walls with lines or circles, boats, whatever, my brother appreciated them so much more then silly colors or printed pictures. As he got older we changed that to Legos, easy kits, my dad would take the lego design and make it bigger, cause they were small, and took off the word parts. My brother started small and got more precise, anytime he would get frustrated my dad was there, which brings me the the colored Rubicon cube that was a winner too, took practice but he was a champ when he was 12 years old. The good days.
My son is 3.5years old and does everything you have just described. We just learnt last week about it. For a long time I thought it was him just being a toddler
My 8 year old does all of these you mentioned. I'm glad you mentioned the stims that are dangerous because I'm currently battling with those. I don't want my little guy to get hurt. Thanks for the video God bless your family.
I love how you light up when you talk about his stimming making him happy. :) My son does many of these things as well.
The best!
My grandson's developmental pediatrician just suggested autism to us. We had been expecting a CP diagnosis at his 2 yr appointment. I'm so glad to have found your blog. A lot of Jacob's stims are very similar and I too am surprised that I missed it. I had been trying to make sense of these things connected to cerebral palsy though. Thank you for the great information!
This is the best the clearest and straight to the point video I’ve seen . Your honesty is awesome . Your an amazing mum and your little boy is gorgeous .
Aw Julz you are too sweet, thank you so much! Just hope my videos can help other parents feel supported!
I was watching your other video on signs of autism in a 0 to 12mo baby. I was smiling most of the way through the bit about sleeping. Out of four children (all adults now), our child diagnosed with autism is the only one who had a set routine since birth. He is the only one who slept through the night from around 4mo old. Autism certainly presents itself very differently in different personalities.
You are incredible! So loving and caring for your gifted child.
Your son is absolutely gorgeous..... Your an awesome mom , thanks for sharing your journey...
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My son Bennett does some similar ones as Jacob does. He also does finger drawing in the air. He will draw shapes, numbers and letters with his fingers over and over. Sometimes he bangs his head only if he's upset. He does some finger flapping when he's happy or excited. He walks on his tip toes and he runs into walls and furniture.
First of all your family and son are precious and your videos are so helpful to many families. I am an OT and here are some of my thoughts. I believe that stimming has an important function and helps meet a child's sensory and emotional needs, but as a child develops, stimming can interfere with development. Because so much of a child's cognitive, language, motor and social development is dependent on play during the toddler years, when they are not able to stop stimming long enough to participate in different types of play, they loose so many opportunities for development. For example, if a child can only play with coins by lining them up and struggles to play with them by putting them in a piggy bank, or stacking them or pouring them from one cup to another, or sorting them by size or color, all of those important opportunities for learning are missed. If a child spends the majority of their time seeking movement moving from play item to play item or running in circles on the playground, they miss important opportunities or learning. Learning to stop stimming to participate in non-preferred activities is not something that happens automatically, the child needs help to acquire this ability. Introducing some structured "non-stim" time is important as a child begins to approach pre-school age.
While this is true in the extreme, there IS a middle ground. If a stim does not interfere with daily life, or isn’t harmful to themselves or others, there is no need to get rid of it completely. There is a way to teach children that they can still stim, but show them that sometimes we need to complete a certain task first, then they can stim. Look up Fathering Autism, I have watched all their videos at least within the past 2 years. Their daughter is 15, and she has more severe autism, also has developmental delays, and uses an iPad to communicate. A good example is her yelling stim (she likes to yell into the back of her hand). If she’s home, and wants to do it, she’s learned to go up to her room. Her parents taught her that it’s ok to do it, but sometimes it can interfere with others in conversation or trying to watch tv.
My kids do not have a classical presentation of autism but there are several helpful things that would have helped us if we had seen this when they were little. 💕 I appreciate this video very much.
My daughter always loved staring at lights, from newborn to I want to say age 3. We used to call the lights her “friends” because she preferred to look at them than interact with us when she was very little. The looking to the side and all around thing my son did all the time. And several other things.
My son have been using this herbal product for 1month now so far it has cured his ADHD and eliminate his lack of social skill as well , now he is verbal , I got this herbs from Dr imenherbal on his channel and it work perfectly . Now my son is completely free
I like your parenting style. Let him be a kid as long as possible. I stim by shaking my leg or by repeatedly singing commercial jingles over and over again when I am nervous. I also believe that I might be slightly autistic. I’m trying to find someone who will test adults. Everyone wants to only test kids.
He visual stimming as well. God chose well when He made you Jacob’s parent. Stimming helps him shut out other uncomfortable input from his environment
This was really helpful. My daughter is almost 2 and has been in Early Intervention for about 5 months now. Her stims include the hand flapping and screaming, but she also has many of the dangerous ones like poking/picking at her eyes and kids very hard, pulling her hair, banging her head, slapping herself, and eating non-edible items. She also twirls herself and stomps around all day long. No jumping or hopping though. It helps her regulate a lot to sit in a high chair or car seat. Any type of chair that includes a harness helps give the deep sensory pressure she is looking for. Thanks again for your insight.
I would find a allergy doctor that could rule out food allergies, vitamin deficiency and stop doing vaccines. Vaccines contain aluminum, mercury and antibiotics which are neurological toxins and damaging to the gut bacteria which is essentially our immune system and second brain. Find a high quality fish oil, vitamins and do a whole food diet. Kids with autism sometimes have leaky gut leading to inflammation and thats why they scream. Anti inflammatory diet, remove diary and gluten and avoid chemicals.
@@kristiallman5676 absolutely that's what i was going to write .... heal the gut and detox the heavy metals is the key
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@@azizafifi6663 I'm banned from Facebook for getting into a vaccine group making fun of anti vaxxers and sending science about autism and aluminum. I can't stand people who don't understand the history of pharmaceutical companies and their greed. The fact that millions aren't even being tested for anything before sending them to behavior therapy for life and its acceptable.
It’s really reassuring to hear someone else’s child have the same stims as my son has. We’re very early in our journey but my son does a lot of the things you mentioned especially with the flashing lights and staring at fans. Your video was super helpful too actually identifying some of those behaviors AS stims because I never considered that before.
My 27months boy did all of these. And I still find him cute and won't stop a single stim he's making.
yay!! This is so good to hear!
My three year old son does many of the same stims, jumping, lining up toys, hand flapping while bouncing when happy/excited and all of those stims I’m happy for him to do because they make him happy (especially his hand flapping while bouncing because I know he is very happy or excited when he does this and his smile is everything) but I have been trying to distract him when he starts doing his most recent stim, which is him making a continuous loud humming sound. I distract him by starting the alphabet, which he loves, and he stops humming and does the alphabet with me. The reason I do this is because he starts kinder next year and I feel that using a loud noise when stimming is going to be disruptive in class, and also I feel like out of all his stims the noise is the one that is the least socially acceptable. I desperately hope that he makes even just one friend, and while I know preventing one loud stim won’t magically make that happen I’m hoping that socially it helps a little.
It would be great to know how you are doing now. I have a 3 y.o. son and the same thoughts. I myself was never diagnosed but now thanks to my son I found out that I have stims myself, but I learned to control it with my mind due to the fact that it was socially unacceptable and no one was aware of this term when I was young.
My youngest kiddo is on the spectrum. When he started stimming, it shocked me a little bit because it was a finger stim that I did all the time when I was a kid. As time went on, he did more and more stims that were the same or similar to my own. Now I’m pretty sure that my childhood ADHD diagnosis was incorrect.
It was probably correct but incomplete. You could very well have ADHD and autism as well
Thank you for letting him stim you’re a good mum I flap and make noises when I stim and I walk on my toes and stuff
My son is 22 months and does the "happy flaps." He loves wheels and fans as well.
My 8 month old stiffens up when excited or frustrated and screams with a high pitch. While stiffing, he rotates his wrists. He goes through episodes of jumping and does a high pitch scream.. watching your video relaxes me as I am a first time mom and I would always question his repetitive movements. He literally screams like your son. God bless your happy family!!
Autistic here, you cannot really detect this at such a young age. Please have an open mind, but something that can be asked in the future if there are symptoms.
So happy to have found u I'm nanny to my gorgeous almost 6 year old grandson he also does the hand things u mentioned I've never heard of stimming I've got a feeling I'm gonna b binge watching your videos your awesome mumma xx
My son had flaps not autistic but has a speech delay ...I rock a lot because of anxiety
10:32 His scrunching up or tensing up his face? He is laughing because he is making himself (face and body) vibrate, which is an amusing sensation, to say the least.
What do you make of adults that have no clinically significant history deciding they are autistic then saying they need to "unmask" by "relearning" stims (they never did)?
Wow, my list of stims is increadably long. I will share a few as im wondering if any are more neurotypical than others. I am on the spectrum.
If I'm really stressed or upset, I flap my hands to the side like I'm shaking off water, I tap my chest, pinch my lips, and drum my fingers against my thumds over and over. I take those rubber noodles and flap them against my wrists. I also run warm water over my hands for ages. Some of these things just happen on their own, but they do help me feel better.
My beauty/positive stims are holding colored flawed glass up to light close to my eyes and slowly turning it so I feel immersed in that little world; I do this with shiny things of all sorts and coloerd glass cups. I play with things that have mechanical moving parts, and smooth cool things I can press and hold with my fingers. I hold leaves and blossoms up to light this way too. I tend to make "air biscuts" with my toes like a cat, and I make popping sounds with my mouth. I also love combing grass with my fingers, and doing the same with my hair.
My 5 yr old granddaughter does this thing( I'll try to describe) where she's sitting and leans off to one side and goes into a trance and tightens her muscles while rocking. This lasts for several minutes. When she's done she's literally sweating. I haven't seen anyone else explain having seen this. I think it's some kind of stimming? She also does the hand flapping and rocks side to side when excited.
Stims I do: pacing, grinding my teeth, blinking my eyes, scripting movies, hand flapping, rocking my body, singing songs, lining up things, covering and uncovering my ears
There’s even more stims that I do spinning objects, playing with my hair, palilalia (repeating what you say), immediate and delayed echolalia you may think I’m severely autistic cuz I have 12-13 stereotypic behaviors but I’m just moderately autistic
My favorite stim is flapping objects usually a pencil in front of my eyes. Also skipping in circles and rocking. When I was younger I used to jump with my hands flexed by my sides and put everything in my mouth. I have countless others but those are my most common ones.
These videos help me with my great grandson. I want so much to be able to understand Autism more and more. He is so adorable. He also loves trains and toys that push.
My 6yo son is autistic and the one stim that has stuck with him the longest is he usually has his right hand in his shirt twiddling his left nipple. He's done this since he was about 2 years old. It's not harmful exactly but he does it enough I begin to worry he will rub a sore there... but it is not entirely "appropriate" in public and I don't want him getting in trouble at school for it.
I began to realize I stimm too. I twirl my hair when I am anxious and I play with by hair a lot. Sometimes because it eases how I feel or makes me just feel good for some reason.
My daughter started wiggling her eyes all around when she was about 5. I finally asked her, out of curiously, what she was thinking when she did that. She was quite confused. She said, "I'm drawing!" She had thought everyone could see what she would draw in her mind. After awhile, I would ask her what she was drawing when she would move her eyes around. She would giggle and tell me. These days, she still does the stem, but has also begun asking me to physically draw with her instead of drawing with her eyes as much. I do ask that she tries not to "draw" when a teacher is talking to her. This is a very difficult task for her because she often "draws" with her eyes when overwhelmed socially. But im so excited to be able to join in on the stemming and im super stoked that she was able to communicate that!
Thanks for sharing this ❤
Hello. My 3.5 year old grandson is autistic. He does a lot of the same stims as your son. One that he also does is put his hands in his mouth a lot. He is still on a bottle not just because he refuses to let it go but because he has severe food allergies and it’s hard to find him food he’s willing to eat from a spoon but we are going to keep working with him so he can go to school soon.
This doc helped my son improve and get over autism with his herbs
His name is Dr Oyalo on channel
My sons speech and behavior/social skill has improved perfectly using his herbs
Autism means you are unique and special ! Everyone is different and so we all must accept people as they are and not try to point out anything ! We are not perfect !! No one is perfect ! So just relax
Love your channel..Lots of love to Jacob..he is such a perfect baby.
Thank you so much!
My son is 10. He has been stimming ever since he was a baby.
He rocks back and forth
He twist his fingers... and it looks like he’s squeezing the tips.
He use to line up toys and shoes when he was younger.
He is very good at mathematics and reading ever since he was two.
He jumps around ...and runs around for short times
He pats his stomach while running with his head down
He repeat words
He ask questions that he already knows the answers to
He’s a cutie pie
@Azim Premji . Wow that’s wonderful
We have just booked in to get our almost 3yr old assessed for autism. We believe he may have it as he has what we think are stims, he will randomly stop what he is doing and makes a weird humming vocal noise and will run around in circles maybe 3-7 times a day or has moments of the humming vocals and moves his head side to side looking around the room but is unresponsive to his name or even clapping in his face. Those are the 2 big ones & that started in April this year but have gotten worse, he use to do them once a day but now he does them multiple times. we also noticed he does this thing if he hits you or hurts you in any way and you tell him off he will do the same thing to himself & actually hurt himself & cry. Unfortunately we aren’t able to be seen until next year but i’m hoping they can get us in right away just for some clarity & answers
I'm new here. My sweet boy is 19 months old and I'm noticing some things that led me here... He squeals, when he's excited LOUD. He rocks back and forth while flapping his hands/arms bent at the elbow. He does have sensory issues with food or anything on his legs and feet. He doesn't point, he does pay mind to his name BUT NOT ALWAYS. He can play alone for HOURS and much more but his Drs don't think anything is wrong 😢 idk what to do or where to go bc I want some help for my baby but no one listens ANY ADVICE IS WELCOME
This doc helped my son improve and get over autism with his herbs
His name is Dr Oyalo on channel
My sons speech and behavior/social skill has improved perfectly using his herbs
Don't listen to the herbs guy. I would definitely seek another opinion or go to a place for people with autism to get him tested. You have to be patient because there are long wait times, but once you get the diagnosis you open yourself up to a ton more resources!!❤
Firstly let me thank you. Your videos are going to help a lot of families where a member has autism. Its great. I appreciate.
It's his way to communicate since he has struggles talking it's his way of saying how much fun he's having. He's jumping in the morning he is saying I slept well and feeling good. He's happy. I stim flapping the water when I am in the ocean. I love the water. The way I calm myself is putting a finger in my mouth. Means I am anxious or too much is happening.
Self injury stims mean something is bothering him or he's anxious. He can't talk but he is trying to through stimming. I bite my finger. Most of my life wouldn't feel it because I would bite that much. I am having a meltdown frustrated because I lack motor skills to complete simple tasks and break things constantly.
I am independent and working full time with a college degree. This stuff has nothing to do with his intelligence.
My baby does every single one of the Stims you mentioned. He does not flap alot though but my 15 year old did when he was a toddler and all the way up to teen. But now instead of flapping he swings his arms and flaps his hand hitting his fingers together.
What's interesting is that this challenges what I classify as a storm. My boy flaps, screeches, jumps, squeezes, etc etc and also has had the obsessive lining up thing before but I never considered that a storm. Food for thought for me. So glad you mention not suppressing stimming. In my blog I mentioned the same, why would you suppress an expression of excitement? I love my son's stims for the most part!
I have a lot of stimming with my legs and feet, and some finger things and face rubbing and sort of wedging my hands and feet into tight positions. (like wedging my hand under my chin, or the crook of my leg, or wedging my feet into the couch) Thank you for saying we shouldn't stop people stimming. It is really an intrusive request. It's like if someone said you weren't allowed to stretch anymore. You'd get so tight and stiff, you know? Stimming is part of how we function and remain comfortable in our bodies. But that doesn't mean you can't replace some stims with something similar but less disruptive, at least in public. PS I don't really understand how lining toys up is stimming, it just seems like a type of play to me.
I used to stim as a child but nobody knew what it was back then and my mom would always explain to me that I’m being very strange and that it’s not healthy. So I stopped. I admit I’m grateful tho because I don’t know what obstacles I might’ve bumped into as far as employment goes and so on. But I admit most of my jobs I still struggle with. However I am now a new mom and I think it’s one of the reasons I’m being kept at work
Thanks for sharing this. My daughter is having her first official evaluation this week. Thankful for this insight.
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Thanks for the video. I was researching STIMing behaviours recently as my friend has a child who has just been diagnosed with Tourettes. Really interesting observing it and then being able to relate it to behavioral theories. Keep up the great work mum and dad.
Children with Tourettes do not stim. They have tics. Although they may look similar, stimming and tics are two very different things.
@@batefft1 yes, I understand. I was researching Stimming and Tics as well as other symptoms etc. Fascinating reading
I raised 3 kids with a bunch of special needs. There's a stew of features of Tourette, Autism and/or Aspergers, and other. At first my son seemed to have Autism He could do puzzles in wierd advanced way, noticed stuff at age 4, like mistake in movie Wizard of Oz. In diapers sitting in the grocery cart, he recited my "customer card number" for the grocery cashier when she asked for it. She was stunned. But he FREAKED out at LOTS of stuff: loud noises, a man on a ladder in preschool working in a drop ceiling. We're talking TRAUMATIZED! He used to put his hands around his little sister's neck in a disturbing way that my father even commented on. He was about 3 or 4 and she was around 15 months in her playpen. He'd have horrible "storms". He lined up toys, wanted me to replay certain parts of videos OVER and OVER. He was let go ftom his preschool at age 3. Then he started BLINKING. Then shoulder shrugging. The behaviors got worse. When he was 5 he was diagnosed with Tourette. And other "comorbid" features. It got SEVERE.
My youngest began headbumping as soon as she was physically able. This continued through elementary school. In her high chair she head bumped so hard it moved the chair across the kitchen floor. In preschool she rocked from side to side instead of participating. Of course, for the parent presentation, she stood up there as I filmed, and while the others did their song and cute hand dancing, my sweet girl held her hand out in front with her middle finger up. Like was mentioned in this youtube...but judt with "the finger". She was always a wanderer/ disappearer. I couldnt sit down at a picnic. At the zoo nothing I said could keep her from chasing off after something. (She ended up through a fence on top of a giraffe shed roof via a bridge. At my grandmother's funeral, she was 5 and she took off from the seated graveside to go off to look in another grave opening. ( My 12 year old son created a chase scene through the sprawling funeral home the night of the viewing. He'd found a room off somewhere with a live microphone and started crooning which was broadcast over the intercom.) There was a lot more and some pretty terrible stuff. My middle child is LD and had health issues early on. It took 5 years to get her help in school. My youngest NEVER got the IEP the doctor said she needed. The witch bus driver told the other kids "hit her in the head" when she leaned into the aisle to avoid the flashing light. She also referred to her as the dumb one. She is about to graduate with a 4 yr degree in biology, which she has worked to pay for. No student loans.(And she did it despite her father deserting and heightening his abuse and making life more Hellish.) My son with Tourette also got a 4 yr degree, is married, and flew to Australia all by himself a couple years ago for his job. I still perceive them as high risk...but the accomplishments of their own hard work seem to have given them at least a little self esteem to counter their difficulties.
I cant really say where one "label" starts and another one ends. It seems a hodgepodge of issues. There was no "happiness" from tics that I could see...or stimming. Self comforting, yes. Blocking out what overwhelms.... Or bores to tears. Yes.
@@onion6footI thought your comment was lovely. Thank you for sharing your stories! You are so eloquent with your words, it was very interesting to read!
@@onion6footdo you think your son was misdiagnosed with Tourettes and it should have been autism? I'm just curious
I am pretty sure my sisters child is autistic. There are so many signs pointing towards it. The only problem is I dont think she sees it. Have you ever yourself witnessed parents try to ignore or maybe be in denial about their child having autism? If so, why do you think they may do it? I just don't understand why she wouldn't want to see it so she can start doing research and things like that to help her child.
I'm not sure if this is the best way to explain why.. But both my children have Autism and they both act differently, I.E. my son never toe-walked/ hopped and always made sure his toys were in order, the cars had to face forward, the clothes had to match, the bed needed to be made especially before he went to bed, he would even stock the shelves if something was misplaced at the store or had been left on the floor. Where as my daughter does the opposite and is non-verbal, temperamental and is toe walking so badly regardless what I try. She flaps her hands but doesn't cover her ears like my son had. You can't take her to an arcade and change from one game to another, you will go deaf with her screams. she is obsessed with water where my son acts as if he's allergic to it and will ask if your hands are dry if you've washed them before he lets you touch him.
Anyways, I as a MOM didn't want to accept my kids were "gifted" or how others see it as disabled. It's not what you want to hear, it's not something others understand and now a days everyone wants to judge without realizing they have issues too regardless what they may be. I mean as a mother you just want your kid to be like everyone else. You want them to not be looked as "less than" or "special". Also for some moms it's easier to treat your kid as a "regular" child if you don't let yourself think they aren't, if you don't accept it... Love is blind, right...? I always say it's not how fast my kids get there (educationally, emotionally, physically) it's the fact that they DO and that they have gotten there..
P.S. I know this question was a year ago but I hope it helps nevertheless.. ❤️
All the signs are pointing towards my daughter being autistic, and it was very upsetting and overwhelming when one of my family members approached my Mum saying how they were worried about my daughter being different, not in a hurtful way, but in a genuine caring way because he loves my daughter like his own. It’s not what you want for your child, but after the initial shock of someone else noticing her uniqueness (In my heart I knew, I just wasn’t ready to admit it) It’s just a matter of processing all of the overwhelming emotions that hit you like a bus.
You ask why my child? Will she lead a normal and fulfilling life? Was it something I did? But I am realising that regardless, she is exactly how she is meant to be. As a Mum, you always want the very best for your child.
Like the other comment said, This was a year ago but still wanted to shes some light :)
Thank you guys both for your comments! It's helped me understand better.
I have a similar situation where my brother in law who's also my godson has a 9 year old with clear autism symptoms but highly functional and no matter what people tell them, practitioners, family members saying, "hey, we think there might be some light form of autism here", well, he and her wife would always dismiss it by saying the child's mother was the same way when she was a kid (which makes sense because she also has symptoms). They also dismiss it by saying he had a developmental delay because of hearing loss so eventually people around them gave up on suggesting it because they would get defensive. Hopefully, it will all work out somehow to best interests of the child.
@@lmviruet that is also my hope, that my sister will eventually do whats in the best interest of my nephew and stop looking at it like it's a negative thing. Someone else in the family had brought it to her attention recently on their own, thankfully, because she would just get mad if I said something. I just want to see him get the proper help he needs. I wish everyone in my family could stop looking at it like there's something wrong with him by using the word autistic, and realize he's just going to have a different way of learning if he is on the spectrum. My sister says he just has adhd, but never brings him to the Dr so I guess she wont get a diagnosis either way. I just hope in time everything will work out.
Thank you for this video! I found you through research for my daughter. She’s almost 3 and she does every single one of these. We have an intake appointment in a month for ASD testing for her and myself as well. The only criteria I couldn’t quite understand was stimming, as in what is stimming and what isn’t... through this I’ve learned I actually stim all the time and didn’t realize it! I’m a new subscriber. Thanks so much!
Yes, i think we can all stim at some point!! Thank you for subscribing and joining our community :) Goodluck with your journey through the assessment with your daughter!
I used to make those screams as a way to stim but no one knew what that was. So the screaming part like I just started like tensing up and screaming or growling lollll but now I do it at a high pitch so i don’t make any noise or as a very low tone quietly. I do it when I get too excited to calm myself down. And yes I used to smell my hands as a stim and my moms boyfriend would get so mad about that he would film me and take pictures of me and say I ruined the photo whatever , paparazzi . And another was flapping my hands my moms boyfriend used to get so mad about that one for sure and I eventually stopped because of him. A lot of my stims became internal because he made fun of me,until I started to learn how to paint and also drugs for a while but yea painting helps a lot. Nice video, let’s your kids stim don’t make fun of them, it’s not that weird I mean they came out of you so… don’t blame them lol.
Thank you. Just wish the screaming part would've been covered up only because my ear is unnecessarily hurting...
I have some relatives who have kids with sensory processing situations... but the caretaker is a Narcissist with rigid rules and sudden changes depending on their mood...
I want to find resources to help the parent know why - rigid rules and changes to routine - don't work and whyyy those things lead to anger
Ooh sorry! I should have warned beforehand!
Girl, you are my doppelganger. You look just like me. No joke we look like we could be identical twins.
Watching here from the Philippines. My son has autism and we also inspire other people. Hoping to see more of your journeys with Jacob 😊
Thank you for watching! Will check you guys out
My son is 7 and named Jacob. He has autism. We are surviving right now but he and I are both struggling. I feel like I'm struggling more than he is.
My daughter started doing that eye thing at the age of 8-9 years old. It was actually the start of a tic disorder. Some of this stimming also look like tics
My son did this for a year and we had to do a EEG to rule out epilepsy
Thank you soooo much for these videos. You’re video of Early signs made me really start digging into getting my 3 year old tested. He does almost every single one yours does except lines things up. We also just had a baby recently and he doesn’t want anything to do with her either. Also this video has definitely taught me that it will always change because it does week to week with our little guy stimming and of course does these exact ones especially with the eyes & hands( this new this week), jumping consistently, the “talking” , excitement, pasting etc. So thank you again for these. This is just the beginning for us so we will have a while before someone calls us back with an appointment here in Texas. 😭
Hi! Fellow Texan here....unfortunately we're in the same boat. We've been waiting 6 months now for a call just TO SCHEDULE an appointment. Fingers crossed we both get a call soon!!
Im not diagnosed with autism but I have a lot of signs. So here are my stims
1 hand flapping
2 walking on tip toes while spinning
3 certain song like the forest song in the legend of zelda ocarina of time
4 tapping my fingers together when im trying to remember or thinking.
I have many more but I have tried for years to get a diagnosis but no one believes me.
This is so awesome, but would love to see this all the same but just taking out your gorgeous boy. He can't consent to being on a huge platform and some of it may be personal or embaresing to him.in the future! Internet is unfortunately forever! He might not want this out there :) just a thought, love the commentary and hearing about all your struggles!! You are amazing! But Jacob just needs all your attention, not all of ours!! 🥰
I'm reporting all of your comments about herbs and Dr Oyalo. It's a scam and misinformation.
My daughter flaps her hands and love lining things up, she’s almost 3, she likes to put her toys in categories too I am thinking of having her evaluated
If you ever have any questions let me know :)
Sounds like a good idea. All you have to do is voice your concerns to your pediatrician, and if they understand what you’re seeing, they can recommend a specialist to evaluate her. I have a 2 year old who is autistic, and a brother who is also, but wasn’t diagnosed until his late 20’s.
I love the way you love Jacob 💗
I’ve never seen another child with very similar stims to my son. I’ve just followed.
Can you pleaee make a video elaborating more on stims that come from frustration, overwhelming emotions, and how you deal and cope ? Our son used to bang his head but he still hits his head, not as frequently but still. Also, he flings his hand at others when he gets anxious or stressed out or needs space or makes a mistake like falls off bike or something. He also hits or pushes out of frustration, and rarely but bites. Thanks.
This doc helped my son improve and get over autism with his herbs
His name is Dr Oyalo on channel
My sons speech and behavior/social skill has improved perfectly using his herbs
My daughter opens her mouth really wide and tenses up for a few seconds. She seems to do it when she’s excited. I do worry about her doing it as she gets older and people being mean to her. She’s 4 now.
Omg my daughter does the exact same thing
We are seeing this with our grandsons .... thank you so much this is so helpful 🙏🏽❤️
My son is almost 2 and is starting to show some early signs, he also flaps his hands when hes happy and excited. I also noticed my son grinds his teeth?
This video is very Informing 🙂 thank you.
My 2years old does same but health visitor told me there are phases,I am very confused
@@onlyme9820 my son shows over signs too that your child may not, wouldnt worry. My little one needs speech therapy 😂
@@DreadWolf3000 my son sleep and eat well,he understands comands,answer his name and say some words and know to name some objects but he stim often time if he is boring or sleepy,very confused evry one said to wait ,but I love when he call me mommyyyy ,he is my everything
OMG watching the video of your son remined me of my son Billy now in his 20s he wants to be called Bill still flaps his hands and jumps around but can hide it when he is in public or in collage. We didn't get a diagnosis to much latter but I have to tell you it all can work out my son is very smart and loving get your son all the help he needs and love him and tell him the truth about his Autism. I know sometimes it can be hard so hang in there. Thanks for your video.
My 3 year old is on the wait list (to see the specialist and get diagnosed)which is upto 18 months. He is nonverbal. I would say his stims are lining things up and humming. Your child is such a cutie ❤
What country has an 18 month wait?
Probably the UK
Sounds like CVI so much. You should definitely check him for that. Seems like he uses his peripheral vision very much.
My daughter is 17 months old and we think she is autistic. What made me think she was autistic at first is because when she was 9 months olds she started saying mama, baba, nana and then just randomly stopped and didn't start saying mama again until 14 months old. Her vocabulary is very slim. Maybe 5 words. We do know she has a huge texture problem, especially in food. She cannot stand shoes or socks. She has banged her head since she was able to sit up. It has started to slow down, but she will still randomly do it. She has an odd fixation with wipes and buttons. She doesn't really play like any other one year old will. She mostly likes to watch her youtube shows. There are times that she will respond to her, but most of thine she doesn't. I never really noticed that she didn't offer toys to us. I thought you know every baby and child is different. She has younger twin sisters who are 7 months old and they're two months premature. I've noticed so many different things that the twins do but Ally never did or did super late. Ally cooed maybe a handfull of times. She started screeching at about 6 months. Ally would not participate in tummy time. She didn't learn how to push up on her arm until she was 7 months old. She learned how to sit up before she was 6 months so I didn't see a need to worry. She didn't learn how to roll over until she was 10 months though. She learned how to crawl at 9 months and how to walk right before she turned 13 months. Ally was a happy baby and is a happy toddler as well. She her moments where she gets upset randomly. Oh! The sounds. She cannot stand a sound if it is louder than a normal talking tone. She will cover her ears and get upset. We know she has sensory problems and texture problems, but her doctor doesn't think she needs to be tested. Ally sees a speech therapist and occupational therapist via teletherapy. How do I get her doctor on board? Because we live in the states and you have to be referred to be able to receive help
These are all things my youngest who just turned 3 did. All my kids were different with different milestones but he was off on certain things more and has a def speech delay , literally everything you said was him. He stopped saying mama for months. Would say a word we had no idea he could and not say it again for weeks if not months. He’s in speech therapy now and although his pediatrician said he has a few things that would point to autism those same things could be just natural toddler /kid stuff. And that we could start speech therapy and maybe see a behavioral therapist specialist if he wasn’t reaching other milestones or progressing. I knew from one of my other 3 sometimes speech literally developed over night or so it seems and he has made so much progress on his own the last few months without therapy. During his evaluation they said maybe an OT needs to evaluate if the other things persist and possibly it is sensory processing disorder which def makes sense to me for him but also it could all be “normal” his speech therapist who works with autistic children every week said she saw absolutely no indication he was autistic. One thing I will say is trust your gut. You can have her seen by a behavioral therapist in most cases anyway call and make the appointment and then don’t ask tell her dr to send a referral if you need one. She could make great progress with speech therapy and maybe that’s all it is. I can tell you that most of my worries my son “grew” out of. From the way clothes fit and felt to the sounds repetitive actions spinning things all that. It’s like it was a phase but one I hadn’t really experienced. I will agree with what some ppl say sometimes people in general are looking for a problem that isn’t there. I tho k it’s bc as mother’s or parents we think our kids are perfect and there’s too much comparison like my kid isn’t doing a whole list of things these other kids are and they’re older so there’s obviously a “reason” why and sometimes that’s just not the case. In 2 years you make look back and think what in the world was I worried about?? I’ve been there before trust me. But the other side of that is you also know your child best and don’t let ANYONE talk you out of doing what you know is right or needed. She’s still young enough to get plenty help in all areas esp speech . I mean my 3 year old will still grunt and point when he can obviously say what he wants that’s just bc he’s stubborn and spoiled lol. But that’s one reason kids under 2 or even 3 are so hard to diagnose with autism bc so many of the things could be normal or not. Mine did the head banging and everything and now and then when he gets real mad still does. I do know here to get into a good behavioral therapist/specialist it takes a while so maybe find one and get the process started?? And I also know worrying about it constantly is even more stressful so is the feeling of not being able to help your child or even interact with them, more than once I’ve cried bc my son couldn’t speak to me like he should be able to or I knew he was frustrated bc he couldn’t express his wants or feelings, I get it but stressing won’t change the outcome...hugs ❤️
Hello I have just found your channel and have enjoyed listening to your experiences with Jacob and learning from you and him.
My 2 year old Violet is in the process of getting diagnosed, right now she has a Early Intervention team and one of the ladies comes out to the house every other week.
She is non verbal and her most noticeable stem is to tense up all her muscles while doing this yoga type planking posture on the floor or sometimes she will lay flat and stick out her legs straight and arms out stretched while every muscle is hard as a rock. I was so worried at first because it looked like seizures however after several neurological visits that was ruled out thankfully. The Dr.s and therapist and I have decided it's her stem at this time. She has also been to the Audiologist to assess her hearing and all the physical aspects are good however she does have selective hearing with certain tones.
She does the jumping, spinning, and walking on tip toes. She looks at her fingers and will pick at little pieces of her nail if it chips. She loves picking up little things off the ground, it's like she can spot the tiny things and go for them and 9 times out of 10 she puts it straight into her mouth so we have to constantly watch her.
She loves water sensory play. Just a bit of water in a play tub and she slaps the water with her hands.
I could go on for days but I won't lol I see a lot of Jacob's behaviors in my Violet so it's nice to find a Chanel that has a couple years advance and learn something from y'all!
Thank you for your hard work and time and from a old momma (I have 5 children total ages 21, 18, 14, 12, & 2) I can tell you that you are do a Amazing job little momma! We are our children's best advocate and must fight for them always!
How many of them are autistic?
Hi my grandson stims are walking on tip toes a lot , running back and forth constantly, he did spin round in a circle but has stopped doing that now , rubbing his face and head along the floor or soft rug or along the TV, he dosnt jump but he runs on the spot , like a jog fast and flap his hands because he is excited, bites things and his family, sometimes head bangs or head buts you and smacks you when frustrated and overwhelmed, humming sound over and over , whimpering noise or squeals , he stopped saying words after his 12 month assessment with health visitor, when he was in his baby walker he kept spinning in a circle in his walker and turning toys upside down and spinning them , but we didn't know why he did this , my grandson is now 2 years 2 months old and isn't saying much , odd time he tries to say cup or juice but then he stops , we talk to him all the time still and he babbles and we cant understand what he is saying , he dosnt like cuddles or kisses and he lines everything up that he can line up , he smells things and feels things , avoids eye contact, has meltdowns if something changes in his routine or sometimes we dont know why , he has been referred to speech and Language therapy , he struggled with learning, like reading books, flash cards showing him things in the house or outside, he isnt learning anything, thank you for your videos very helpful
My little brother is 5 and has autism and when he's mad, he will jump in the air and land straight on his knees on hard floor and it doesn't hurt him. It really looks like it hurts though. But when he's excited, he will flap his hands. Like when he watches a show he really likes and run back and forth with excitement lol
My son have been using this herbal product for 1month now so far it has cured his ADHD and eliminate his lack of social skill as well , now he is verbal , I got this herbs from Dr imenherbal on his channel and it work perfectly . Now my son is completely free
One my sons Stims is full body stiffness when he’s happy or skip from one side of a room to the other many times.. xx
Jacob has done both of those at one point!
This doc helped my son improve and get over autism with his herbs
His name is Dr Oyalo on channel
My sons speech and behavior/social skill has improved perfectly using his herbs
Oh well, I'm in the US. My son gets super excited, smiles the biggest and holds up his middle figures. This is not a joke. Right now we are on quarantine so he is doing school over video. He is heading towards 10yrs, and hopefully we are heading back to school soon. I've tried things like, "give that figure a buddy." Sometimes he'll put up another figure. It's a hard one, he isn't hurting anyone's feelings right now, but when he gets back to school it might be more of an issue. Thank you.
Finger? Or figure?
@@CrystalCat24 Hi, yes, finger. Oops. 12 now and it still happens. He's back at school, we haven't heard of any issues yet. Fingers crossed 😬
I’ve only just been diagnosed with ASD but turns out I showed a lot of signs as a kid but biting the nails seems to be the my brains favourite but in public my most used one seems to be rocking or fidgeting like the tapping
That’s interesting! How did you get a diagnosis as an adult?
@@aussieautismfamily well I’m 16 so wasn’t late late but still late considering of how many signs I showed but my parents didn’t really know much about autism and they thought that it was for the more severe
Thanks for your helpful and informative videos
Is he willing to wear the noise canceling head phones? If so, that could help him in noisy places. My autistic 2 year old loves lights too.
Yeah my twin girls will flap their hands or spin in a circle or hit their head when they having a melt down due to struggling with communicating what is bothering or back track over and over again what they want to say.
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My nephew his 3 yrs old now and he really walk tiptoe up to this days and he does alot of stimming like flapping his arms and alot of jumping. Sometimes biting his nail, and If he found a paper he really like to tore it into pieces and. Like to screams also. He sleep very late thatse wonder that his a special.
My son does several the same as your son but he also loves to spin himself around, twirl his arms around really fast, or walk/run circles around the room. He also taps or knocks on things, usually 3 fast taps.
I also have several stims. My main two are nail biting and tensing up my feet while spreading my toes out. I do this so many times a day, almost non stop sometimes, that I often pull a tendon or make my feet hurt to walk on. I cannot make it stop though, especially when my anxiety is high.
Thank you all for sharing! This was such a great video! My 2 yr old son got diagnosed with autism 2 days ago. I've been crying myself to sleep at night. He does and has been doing everything you mentioned in the video. Does anyone know what happens when a child with autism becomes an adult? Do they act normal? Do these behaviors go away? This is new to us. No previous history of autism in our family. No one that we know is dealing with this. Thanks in advance!
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I line up items in a row like Jacob I’ve been lining things up in a row since I was little
i'm glad you're taking good care of Jacob.
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How do you know when stims are just typical development and when it's autism or a sensory processing disorder? My 5 year old has ALWAYS kicked/flapped arms/jumped when excited. He also won't keep his feet off stuff and in the last year or two he has taken to biting on clothes and toys but takes ages to eat a meal. He is very verbal and always has been. He also sorts and lines up his hotwheels cars.
My almost 2 year old investigates his own hands and mine sometimes. He does the eye thing too. Looking at things from different angles and then closing his eyes, shaking his head and stuff. He likes to spin too. He used to bang his head when upset but I think he's moving past that. He is pretty verbal too but it doesn't seem to come as naturally to him. He will repeat commonly used words and phrases and will try to say new words when prompted by his brother... sometimes for me, but mostly his brother. He has signed 'milk' and 'please' for many months but I finally taught him how to ask out loud by asking my older son to demonstrate and then having my younger son copy him.
My son flaps a hand with or without a sock in it in front of his mouth and he makes a lot of different sounds. My son is 14 and has a dual diagnosis of Down syndrome and autism.
My sun is Stimming alot, he spins around in circles standing, he runs from my front door to the back door for a hour at a time. I have to distracted him to stop.
I am always rubbing my arm on my face and have done for as long as I can remember, I am always doing throughout the day and find I can't go a day without doing it, I have no idea if I'm autistic or not but do have suspicions that I am.
My toddler has just recently started biting her nails. I never thought of it being a stim😬 she has been biting them down. She has sensory processing disorder but no diagnosis of autism as of yet.
Every person stims to some degree. Also, sensory processing disorder is separate from autism. A child could have one or the other or both.
My little 3 year old Aspie does also and most recently bites his feet.
I try to put his feet and hands down and try to get him interested in something else.
Were new here australia but while we are in australia when we bring my son check up the doctor told us that she thinks my sons is autism and i read and watch few videos and my son have same symptoms .we are still waiting for his citizenship here australia ..
Your son reminds me soooo much of mine! Even kind of looks like him lol but seriously, everything you said, describes my son to a T as well!! He is soooo cute 😊
@Azim Premji free of autism??? Lol that’s not how that works…
Bless your heart 💓 your child is beautiful but I'm so grateful that I can't have children because I don't know if I could handle it I have friends with Autistic kids and, my Goodness I can't even imagine the frustration it looks so overwhelming but keep on the good work 💪🙏♥️
You probably should not make comments. Although you were probably well intentioned, what you said was extremely rude. I thank God you did not have children.
My son will hand flap or flap at his hair, jump around, run laps around our house, headbutts people and does really tight cuddles where he tenses up his whole body, he loves it when you tense up your body and give him a tight hug back so I will do that when he’s feeling overwhelmed. He also loves to talk about his favourite interests (currently slime rancher) and loves to be tickled. He used to line things up all the time too but not so much anymore
My son does laps around the house and he loves tight bear hugs too 💕
Our daughter is now 21 months old... Mostly have common sign of autism. Pls guide us how to help our daughter to improve her.
I am new to your channel you are amazing
Very informative. Thank you .
Thanks for sharing, can I ask where the line is between being a child without autism just experimenting with movement and patterns and testing certain behaviours and then being a child with autism doing these actions. My 10 month old does lots of these sort of actions but it's all new things he is trialling. Sorry if this sounds like an insensitive question ... I'm just curious how you knew there was a difference.
I wouldn’t be able to say as I’m not a professional but definitely research sensory processsing disorder! And consult your doctor 😊
My son have been using this herbal product for 1month now so far it has cured his ADHD and eliminate his lack of social skill as well , now he is verbal , I got this herbs from Dr imenherbal on his channel and it work perfectly . Now my son is completely free
Thank you for your honesty and information
Thank you for joining our community!!!
My son currently jumps around or stamps over and over looks out the corner of his eyes and runs around in circles as well as head butting the floors and walls, now he’s started biting his knees and fingers/hands, some of them we didn’t realise he was stimming until we where told by our Pediatrician xx
Oh 100% we didn't know they were stims either until jacobs therapist mentioned it!!