The AuDHD systems

[@neonblood1019]

The biggest thing in AuDHD is the "out of sight out of mind" the amount of things ive bought and "put away" only to forget i even bought the thing is ridiculous. Its like giving gifts to future me unless they expire then its the opposite, more hassle 😅🤣 but task grouping makes life so much easier. Some days i dint even allow myself to go upstairs because thats the Chill Zone and aint any chorse getting done in the Chill Zone😂

[@nellieshoals]

What is task grouping? 🤔🤔

[@aliyah4937]

Is AuDHD austism and ADHD?

[@queentel983]

❤ that's so accurate and relatable😊

[@jordynschweikert2546]

This is so painfully accurate.

[@cloverheart]

​@@aliyah4937 yes 👍

[@cloverheart]

YES TO THAT LAST ONE!!!! my dad is always getting on my case for not having a "clear countertop" when i have a perfectly good cabinet. if things go in the cabinet, they are gone from my memory.

[@eliskaneugebauer5338]

Exactly my mother... She gets upset as fuck because of it... But that's 100% because she has her own system and has to have EVERYTHING SUPER clean or she's unable to think (that's how she says it at least). Clashing neurodivergent needs are a bloody nightmare...

[@judymiller5154]

if I try to make "notes" on my phone, they disappear from my mind. if I try to keep home chores and projects in a notebook...and close the cover, they disappear. when getting ready for a trip, I have to remind my husband NOT to be helpful and take my things by the door out to the truck, because each item contains a signal of something else to do or get. ADHD is fun 😅

[@emilystivers2984]

Honestly though.. I'm tempted to take cabinets off in my bathroom lol

[@tiawolf3610]

The cabinet ate it - It no longer exists

[@pookaprincess4411]

I wasn't diagnosed with ADD/AUT until my 20's. Growing up, I would have literal meltdown crying panic attacks when my lovely mom would try to "help" and clean my room. Then she would feel bad and the crushing guilt would trigger "panic stims" for the next few hours. Bless her heart, she finally learned how to help me the "right" way.

[@wouldulikesumtea]

i dont mean to be 'invading' but what does 'aut' mean?

[@pookaprincess4411]

@@wouldulikesumtea autistic 😊

[@cheesycheese8451]

​@@wouldulikesumteaautistic

[@DeRien8]

One time my aunt "cleaned" my entire room for me while I was away from the house doing something for the day. She did it out of both trying to "fix a problem" and "doing a kindness", but I broke that day. I knew where nothing was that I couldn't immediately see, she had thrown away things I deemed important or had attached sentimental value to. Same thing with the internal tug of war between guilt over "ruining" a gift of service, and feeling violated. She still seems to be trying to make it up to me somehow, and I have no way of really dealing with that, since I don't think she's a bad person for it, nor do I hold any ill will toward her because of it, but there's no way I'll be able to forget it or erase that trauma from some corner of my psyche.
When I came home from my freshman year of college, my mom's boyfriend at the time did something similar, except he convinced my mom to move the rest of my belongings, that hadn't already been packed away, outside under a tarp so they could retrofit my old room for her to swap into. The plan had been to move my stuff into her old room later, but things were left outside too long and eventually the tarp collapsed under pooled water. It felt like the old trauma but worse. There were some heirlooms and keepsakes from my dad with that stuff. Things that had been damaged by the water and exposure. Things had disappeared. But almost everything that was still there was ruined. Staring back at me with no way for me to deal with it, but not thrown out or anything. I had to face all that destruction in person.
The beginning of losing the connection I had to that place. Like my sense of home was dying.
Sorry for the rant, but y'know, emotional scars. If anyone wants to help me clean or organize, I have to be present and consulted so I know where everything is and I can help engineer the organizing system

[@pookaprincess4411]

@@DeRien8 I'm so sorry honey. My heart is hurting just reading this. Our struggles and coping methods can be so hard for others to understand and they may try to "help" and it's just hurting. It took me years to get my mom to understand that I would love help, BUT we have to do it my way while I'm present. I totally get it. And it can get exhausting explaining this to people. I feel your struggle. Chin up love ❤️😍

[@Erlrantandrage]

The bathroom one is so true. I haven't flossed because the floss fell behind something. Pro tip make it look organized with trays or openwork baskets. It's still out, you can still see it but it's contained and looks nicer.

[@spilledoatmilk]

Baskets and trays are such a life saver for me omg. I use them in my room too bc I need to keep “out” so many things but then my room becomes a complete nightmare. But some cute baskets or trays really helps

[@mayanightstar]

I am in the process of putting more things in my apartment into basket and trays right now and it's so fantastic actually

[@BookishDark]

Oh I’ve tried the baskets…I just get angry because I can’t find the stupid thing while digging in the basket and then things fall and I can’t find them after I leave the bathroom initially bc I forget they fell and then I find them forever later when I’m doing a crazed hyper focused deep clean of the bathroom one Saturday when I’m super fueled with Red Bull 😂

[@alirak9261]

Systemic chaos is absolutely a thing. Piles! Bags! Very specifically out in the most conspicuous place stuff!
For "if I put it in the drawer I'll forget", taking the shutters off cupboards helps immensely if it's doable in your living situation.

[@SuperOrthak]

Taking the doors off the kitchen cupboards that contain food has saved me so much money. Every time I go in the kitchen, I see all of my food laid out in front of me. I'm much more likely to cook my own food now instead of deciding there is nothing to eat and going to get fast food.

[@alirak9261]

@@SuperOrthak I wish there was a fridge with a transparent door for that same reason. Can't count the amount of stuff I put in and completely forgot to eat bc it wasn't in a visible range 😭

[@crazytooley]

I keep my food on a set of garage shelves (I live in a basement), it physically reminds me I have food and have to eat.
I also don't drink out of anything else than my water bottle. I drag that thing EVERYWHERE. I also put all of my scrunchies on it as well.
Btw if you struggle with random dishes in your room, use a dish bin like restaurant bussing, I use an old hospital bin as one. I put all my dishes in it and then I can just take the bin in total to the sink.

[@maryguokas8018]

open weave baskets. pretty and functional.

[@lb6253]

Out of sight, out of mind!

[@random_programmer]

Every word spoken makes absolute sense. When she got the the whole "hey, let me clean for you," the way I shouted "NO!"

[@kjokjojessica]

The system to stop 'out of sight, out of mind' really got to me.

[@ashleywilson6628]

I felt that to my core! Explained so well too!

[@aquademoney]

@@ashleywilson6628ikr maybe me and my mom wouldve had WAYYY less arguments if i explained it like that lmao

[@letsdomath1750]

Yes, the chaos of having EVERYTHING within my line of sight, yet I remember where each item is perfectly. It drives people conditioned to "cleanliness" and organization insane, but it uses up so little of my brain's energy to keep it all laid out in the open.

[@aariesmooon]

when i was younger my dad had a friend clean my room as a “surprise”. i was mortified and devastated. half the things that were valuable to me were thrown in the trash, everything was rearranged. it took my months to find half of my stuff and get it back to how it used to be

[@manamana7873]

My dad gets so mad at me for standing up while I'm eating, and I never understand why it's such a big problem 😭

[@Lenin22147]

My mom is always like "where are you going?!"
And I never get why she's mad at me

[@bleh854]

You should not eat while standing up. It puts pressure on intestine

[@nanuqo2006]

NTs love getting angry over pointless shit

[@crih]

my mom always ask me why do i eat standing up if i can sit to eat, and she just doesn't belive when i say "i don't care, i don't see the difference"

[@AngelaCopas]

My parents are like that too. They prefer I sit, I prefer to stand. I think it makes some people anxious, that why they Wan t you to sit down.

[@motivationalspeaker7145]

I’m getting tested for ASD this month and I do these things… I call it being efficient 😂
Thank you for shedding a light on these systems ❤

[@Yarnofthewild]

It's pretty resourceful the way you've set up systems to help yourself get things done that you want to get done, but have a difficult time with 💜

[@Annacat24]

I make piles all the time too! 😂 Nice to see that others do it too!

[@joel.ha.]

I don't, but a family member does...😂 this girls videos are so good at helping to understand not just your own quirks, but those of people around you

[@AllOverThePlace1994]

I know no other option day to day

[@Undel_]

I have piles of things on my desk

[@cakes4056]

The piles r life! Lol my piles have moved into the extra room now, lets be real its a freaking mountain range 😂😂

[@gzoechi]

I make piles but then I get them mixed up and it doesn't work anymore

[@freshoutofcrabs]

The hardest part is when two people's needs are in direct opposition to each other. Like, I don't know if your water bottle by the sink needs to be that close to the edge of the counter, but that would be a recipe for disaster around me. I have a hard time with proprioception and would be constantly knocking it over by accident, leading to potentially breaking it or injuring myself. My system of keeping things away from the edge could make it harder for you to notice your water bottle.

[@dosbabymama]

I probably wouldn't knock it down, but if it's next to the sink, that means it needs to be washed. So even if it just came out of the cabinet, I HAVE to wash it before I can fill it, because it was in the 'to be washed' section. Then I have to make sure I rinse enough (a LOT) to not taste soap.

[@resourceress7]

Yeah we call this "competing access needs." Especially when two disabled people know and can articulate their needs. But that also means that sometimes they can also problem solve with each other and not take it personally. ♥️ It's always good when someone understands it's not about power or ego or shame or anything. Just accessibility and respect.

[@noonghazi]

Your videos are my language for speaking my symptoms ❤
😭
I went to my psychiatrist today to get my diagnosis and it was kinda hellish/all over the place and I was almost dismissed as just “AnXiOuS”. I had to beg him to not rush it and dig deeper. Please pray for me ❤

[@kristae.7686]

You can change psychiatrists for really any reason, but if you have to beg a medical professional to be thorough, you should definitely consider getting another one.

[@daniellaalouf]

This is one of the most insightful channels. A serious thank you for all the information you out there so people can understand and sympathize better.

[@littlecamo8]

For the last one, dry erase markers work on mirrors! Perfect for a to do/ Morning/ Night routine list without clutter! (At least for me, everyone is different). Same with windows/ sliding glass doors. People who come over think it’s weird, but for me it works

[@IW3527]

Yeah I have 3 different white boards in my 400sqft studio and write on my mirror with dry erase markers lol it's better than nothing but it's gotten to the point that my brain barely registers their existence guess it's time to change the color of my marker again 😅

[@liz5841]

This reminded me that i wanted to hang up that whiteboard by my bedroom door-

[@IW3527]

@@liz5841 it helps if you put it somewhere you can see as soon as you wake up or have to be directly in front of before leaving your bedroom. Also the velcro style command strips are a great way to hang them and allows you to move it around ifntou become blind to it or take with you while working on tasks so you can refer back to it and move onto the next thing without going back to it's usual place and risk getting distracted.

[@clara_echoflower]

Thank you for this, it's actually a pretty good tip!

[@crisspyg.9742]

lol I told someone I was artistic today, and they say, you mean autistic, and I said well yea that too 😂

[@AngelaCopas]

Sorry honey😢😢😢

[@heathermilner2446]

That’s actually kind of hilarious 😂

[@Snaggle-ToothedDog]

@@AngelaCopas? Why

[@AngelaCopas]

Because it sounds incredibly difficult to live with that type of condition.​@Snaggle-ToothedDog

[@crisspyg.9742]

@@AngelaCopas In the way that I can’t make friends, people miss understand a lot of what I try to communicate, and they think I’m an idiot, I can see how that might drag someone down. But I use it as a strength, I get more alone time, I don’t HAVE to go to every social function, my time, is mine. And that’s peace. 😇 plus, I am stronger and more intelligent than most assume, which makes life even more entertaining.

[@justanotherjessica]

A tip for those who need to SEE things in order to remember them: try over the door shoe holders with clear pockets! They're about $10 each and they have worked so well for me. If you have doors that are too high to fit the little metal brackets on top, try using 2 shoe holders, one on each side of the door and tie them together with ribbon. The ribbon is thin enough to fit on any door plus zero damage for those who are renting. :)

[@fairygodmotherflowerEternal221]

❤❤❤❤your the best. I just don’t want anyone to ever touch my stuff lol. Most of the time there’s a system behind it your right. Sometimes I’m just passively territorial. ❤Noelle

[@GekkeHenkie1313]

I have this with cooking.
I wash the dishes during cooking.
If i dont it could take days before i do it 😂
This content really helps me to understand myself better 🙏

[@AngelaCopas]

Me t oo

[@OCEAN_OF_FOXES]

This is what my mother taught me. There's plenty of time between doing stuff, even when you're stirring, you don't have to do it all the time. Cleaning up small things is unnoticeable. And when you serve the meal, the kitchen is practically clean. It's just common sense and not wasting time. I can't understand why someone would want to deal with a pile of dirty dishes after they had a pleasant meal. Very uncool.

[@GekkeHenkie1313]

@@OCEAN_OF_FOXES i know right, how nice is it after you finish eating, you give the plate and pans a quick little wash and you can just lay down and relax.
Its my favorite feeling after a nice meal to just lay down like a lion 😂
Also i love it when i come home from work or whatever, i am not immediately coming home in what feels like more work.
Or what feels like failure to me 😅

[@resourcedragon]

@@GekkeHenkie1313: You give pans a quick little wash?
Those bastards take me for _ever._ That is one of many reasons I hate cooking.
I do agree, though, that if you can do some cleaning up as you cook it makes the after meal washing up less onerous.

[@GekkeHenkie1313]

@resourcedragon pans don't take a lot of washing.
Some hot water and a sponge!
If you do it quick nothing has dried up and or gotten sticky yet 😀

[@desertdarlene]

I can relate to the last one. If I put things in a drawer, I'll forget I have it. Then, I end up buying another one. When I moved, I literally had two or three of almost everything I've ever bought.

[@AngelaCopas]

I have to not even put things in drawers but also put things in baggies. Like clothes andceverything.

[@MaddieW1222]

Lol I'm the same because I have a bedside water bottle, a work desk water bottle, a gym water bottle, and a car water bottle. That way I know it's always there ready for me when I'm doing different tasks cause I will forget water if I don't have different assigned bottles.

[@jewelsfee23]

The amount that I do all of this is alarming.. the rage I'd feel when my mom cleaned my room without me. It was such a sweet thing for her to do with how crazy I kept it. But I would rage when I couldn't find anything... it might look like a mess but I could tell you exactly where something is in that mess.

[@jessfritzges7394]

The fact you have cabinet doors amazes me. They are additional tasks and out of sight out of mind for everything on the other side.

[@lunarennui]

Honestly for me they are the only way I can manage to have the semblance of tidiness. I clean things before they go into a cupboard and then if I remember they exist I know where to look for them but I don't have to look *at* them. ... Remembering that they exist is a different story...

[@mellohiwastaken]

The last one fr. Drawers are my worst enemy, i have ZERO drawers in my bedroom
Edit: why am I top comment for a stupid lil thing I said. Whatever I'm gonna use this for propaganda
141414 skeepy go watch skeppy or die tmrow
I'm doing God's work

[@Essential_lyNothing]

I have 4 drawers per clothing type. Everything else is in the piles or in specific places. Art stuff is all over my desk.

[@AndreaCrisp]

I am working to reduce my wardrobe so everything can be hung up and no drawers, because they are often not being used anyway. Lol

[@joel.ha.]

It's weird how different everyone can be... drawers save my life

[@Essential_lyNothing]

@@joel.ha. No one's experience is the same :D I prefer shelves and floordrobes.

[@mellohiwastaken]

@@AndreaCrisp that's exactly what I did! I also put a bookshelf in my closet for my shoes, socks, notebooks and the like. The closet doors are always open so I can see everything easily

[@Clairetheparrot]

We used to have cleaning ladies come to our house and they used to move stuff around. I never blamed them because it’s their job to like dust and clean and stuff, but it changed the way my room functioned in my brain and I always ended up crying over it. I have ADHD and sometimes it’s just better for me to do it than have somebody else mess it up the way I like it! 😂😅

[@lisa_wistfulone7957]

I’m glad you shared this! I dream about having someone come to help me clean, because I get overwhelmed (sensory, too! Ugh, vacuums, cleaning products 😳). But I also would react the exact same way to people moving things, so your comment was a good reality check for me 😊

[@Clairetheparrot]

@@lisa_wistfulone7957 Of course! Don’t ever feel like you are invalid/your feelings are invalid! You have the right to feel how you want to feel! ❤

[@AngelaCopas]

Yeah... don't touch my shit!!! People do that at work and it pisses me off.

[@SHALALAING]

saw your video about hygiene and tips on how to do it. the no drawer system helped me tremendously to do things the moment I see my skincare products or my toothbrush being neon green (my favorite color) so I brush my teeth. you're amazing, Morgan 💚

[@GalesPress]

❤ Same on not wanting to use the drawer or the closet (especially hate if stuffed in a closet), and have done the sink thing too. So great to see somebody else doing this; I am not the only one who does it.

[@aurelia-ku5rd]

if i don’t make piles or an order, things just won’t get done! 😂

[@quorri7409]

... I feel so called out about the bathroom one, and the bedroom one! My mom and I have been having fights about that since I was a kid (I'm almost 30, we still fight about it 😅)

[@I.m-Me]

PSA: Multi-section hampers are great! I'm particularly fond of the hanging bag variety that lets you grab and dump one sorted load at a time. You can even dump the bag in with the load so it can be clean and carry them all to the putting-away zone

[@Duskinator]

My stepmother puts dirty cups away in the cupboards because she doesn't like seeing them out, and even if she told me she did this (which she doesn't), I'd still struggle to remember to deal with them because I need that visual reminder of what needs washing. Undiagnosed but...honestly your videos really make me reevaluate a lot of aspects of my life, I hope one day I can get tested so I can finally nail down what's going on in my own head

[@MusicalyMe15]

As a kid I called it an organized mess, I know where everything is it just looks messy

[@lb6253]

My desk at work is organized messy!

[@OCEAN_OF_FOXES]

It's just an unnecessary cognitive strain. There's always a way of organizing that helps you keep your space tidy but not every method is socially accepted. Look up "clutterbug". It changed my life when I understood my partner's ways and organized the house the way he feels welcomed and it's easy for him to keep it tidy for me.

[@RuailleBuaille]

How very familiar!
Cool to know other AuDHDs do this so much as well 😊

[@chaosnaiil]

Your videos help me so much. For myself, but also to understand others, their habits and all, especially when it seems unsual. Thank you so much.

[@alyssahawkins4001]

Loving the outfit it looks so cute and comfy ❤ I can see that easily becoming a favourite at least for a week or two 😂

[@Neil.exe.100]

Every time I see your videos they are more and more relatable

[@timedconway6999]

Same, if I don't have a reminder by seeing things all the time, I'll just forget they even exist.

[@gaymememachine5500]

Most accurate one I’ve ever seen!!! I say “I have a system” or “I need a system” at least once a day, so this makes me feel seen and heard. If someone else moves my stuff according to THEIR system and then they can’t find it later when I ask where it is, then it sends me into a horrible meltdown. We also forget about groceries a LOT until months after the expiration

[@user95395]

💯. Insane how this went missed for so long.

[@seajelly2421]

Very relatable!
And, whatever your hair system is, it's working really well!

[@-lostsong-]

The toiletries part is so relatable. If I dont have my deodorant and facewash out, and all of my daily makeup all put together in the same place, I will completely forget.

[@geralt_di_rivia]

most of the people ask why but didn't want an answer, they just use the question like a judgement, but you answer to a why i never asked and i love it.

[@Breezely22]

Wait that's ingenious!! Imma start eating over my sink in the morning

[@Snakeplisskin440]

I have a pile of worn clothes that aren't dirty clothes that I maybe will wear later. And I really wish I had better ways of leaving stuff out visible so I don't forget they exist. Drawers are the worse.

[@activesocialmenace]

Brother, I've said this before even turning 13 and I'll say it again, I would THRIVE living all alone or with a roommate who just does their shit and their shit alone. No energy wasted explaining myself, no losing motivation over someone noticing me existing, no questioning over my systems of behaving. That's heaven, I want to live alone.

[@Moonwolf125-]

Whenever i try to tell my parents about certain tendencies, they just say "stop trying to get more mental illnesses" and "your just faking it to be special"

[@Kamran_curlytop17]

How do they think other people with metal illnesses get diagnosed? They don’t just wake up with a label in their head, they get help from family and doctors.

[@Moonwolf125-]

@@Kamran_curlytop17 My parents are in deep denile over any kind of mental thing. Both me and my sister very clearly want and need medication for anxiety and adhd but they refuse.

[@Kamran_curlytop17]

@@Moonwolf125- damn that sucks hope you’re able to get out of this situation soon

[@ashleyfitz7761]

I just drank some water then went to the bathroom to take my vitamins because my 'routine' was goofy today I forgot to do all the things until I saw your video

[@trishawarnicke8252]

This is me. I have never been able to describe why I do things the way I do until I watched this video. I almost cried because everyone around me thinks I'm silly or lazy!! Thank u for this video...

[@Fireflyinamayonaisejar]

Explained perfectly. ❤ Thank you for being the voice for us who can't find the words.

[@anella6280]

The mess I can create in only one day is unbelievable
The only way I can have any order is to make cleaning as easy as possible

[@Personnnnnnnnn]

This is me everyday 😭

[@katillack]

You’re the best I love these videos. So relatable. Trying to learn how to live my life without judging myself for being slow.

[@MegaKhelditia]

I have a system in the bathroom, of having travel-sized containers of my products in the shower, while I have their refills towards the front of the under-sink cabinet.
Also, I have an organizer (basket?) on the sink/counter, to make visible all of my regular creams and tools. And I hung up a mirror-side basket for uncommonly used goods like masks and patches, tho I hang jewely and hair-ties on its bottom hooks.
These keep things in sight, in mind. Also, when I clean, I can just pick up bits and bobs and place them back so easily!
A system that works for keeping clean can be cleansing wipes, like my mates and I have a chlorox wipe tub, on the bathroom counter. If you need to wait for water to heat or a mask to set or for a toilet to vacate, then you can wipe down a counter, a floor spot, the door handles, and/or the fixtures you can reach... then another for the toilet zone, if you're feeling zoomie!
Over-door hangers and hooks have saved me, per In Sight, In Mind.
My Grandma has had glass-doored kitchen cabinets for DECADES before learning she may uave passed down AuDHD. I still love learning her idioms, quips, and tactics from her (century of, if including her parents) multigenerationally amassed knowledge.

[@UdderlyEvelyn]

This is LUDICROUSLY relatable.

[@TellYurDogsISaysHi]

The worst 4 years of my life were living with housemates that would touch and move all my things (few as they were) and disrupt my systems even after I explained them and begged them not to do it. It unraveled most of the routines I had to maintain myself, which caused me to function worse and worse and be called childish and lazy for failing to maintain myself and my spaces despite doing well when we first moved in. I finally moved out when I realized it had truly come down to such weirdly undermining things like I am not allowed to have a clean water cup by the sink but the other two can leave dirty coffee cups everywhere; I was not allowed to keep my vegetables out of the fresh drawer where i can see them but they can keep theirs whereever; or similar. Living alone with your own system is the best option until you meet someone that is willing to look beyond themselves and are willing to make some compromises.

[@Mini_mushy]

The transition of getting up is so real and tbh all of this is so real 🤣🤣🤣

[@caram2765]

Intentionally eating next to the sink is a good idea. This video really made me more aware of my own systems.

[@felixd9349]

i moved into an attic with a staircase that is entirely mine and i have found it sooooo helpful for reminding me about tasks and organizing bc i leave things on the stairs for myself to take to work in the morning or to put upstairs instead of letting my belongings pile up in common spaces!!!

[@ariana8734]

For the last one: try a spinning organizer! It keeps your items out and in your sight, but it also keeps them a bit more contained. It's also fun because it spins. 🙂

[@VAghahe1985]

My bestie with AuDHD asked me to go and help organize their house, I was there for a few hours and couldn't do a thing!! Everything had a system that would fall apart if I organized it!! We both laugh when we remember that day 😂

[@sacrilegiousboi978]

Omg, I literally started doing this as soon as I moved out at uni and had to start making my own meals and wash up afterwards. I did it to save mental and physical energy as I wouldn’t have to worry about sitting down, getting comfortable and eating and then have to immediately get up, drag myself back over to the sink and wash the dishes and clean up.
Also, it’s easier to break the momentum of doing tasks if you sit down and get comfortable between them. So standing up and eating by the sink would mean I would lose less momentum and will be more likely to wash up afterwards. I find it hard to take breaks during the day unless all my chores are done because I’m afraid I won’t be able to start again once I’ve started to relax and lost momentum, also I struggle to properly relax knowing I’ve got more chores to do later.

[@segwrites]

Maybe this is random, but I do skincare “bins”: literally small craft bins with AM skincare (plus some makeup) and PM skincare. I’m the AuDHDer who feels frenetic when there’s stuff on counters or cluttering up, well, anything. The only things on my bathroom counters are things we use every time we use the bathroom: soap and a lotion bottle. Okay, and one fake plant cuz it’s pretty.
The bins go next to the washcloths I use to clean my face in a drawer or under the sink. Face cleansers are in the bins, not the shower (I find there’s significantly less irritation on my face from the “drag” I experienced in the shower-likely because my body can’t tolerate the heat required to properly get sunscreen off my face), so when I go to get a washcloth, everything is right there. I pull the appropriate bin out, put it on the counter, do my thing, then return the bin before leaving the bathroom. So helpful for me.

[@autumn5852]

Spot on. I love my little systems, especially when they work 🥰

[@lucythompson7357]

Hands down the best dystem I have foubd for keeping my house clean-ish with ADHD is just having containers for the different piles that I make naturally anyway.
Like, instead of having four piles of dirty laundry and a big hamper that's only 1/4 full, I just have five small hampers for each of the different piles. And I keep all my hygiene stuff out next to the sink, but on a pretty little stand so it looks neat and organised and contained, but is still just there when I need it. Same thing for makeup. There's a tray next to my bed that holds my meds, so I see them first thing when I wake up, and a smaller bowl for things like lip balm, jewellery and hair ties that always seem to end up scattered all over the place otherwise.
Water bottle just gets carried around with me and is always filled, and I have a second identical one that I immediately switch out when I wash the first one. There's a fruit bowl and a jar full of musli bars right next to the kettle, so when I inevitably go to make myself another tea or coffee it's super easy to grab a healthy snack. Convenience and visibility are key.

[@Starsdoyoulikedem_22]

I only have adhd but the HATING putting my clothes and hygiene/makeup products in drawers has confused my mother IMMENSELY. If I can’t see my favorite clothes, I’m gonna forget I have them and wear my bad clothes. I also have ance, so if I put my skincare in a drawer I’m gonna forget to use it and break out. Thankfully, my mom has been very supportive and made my closet area bigger and gotten me ways to organize my stuff like a lazy Susan without putting it away completely

[@basil8924]

This is so relatable, I had very similar "systems" back in middle school. If my room looked very organized to me, it looked incredibly messy to my parents. In the end I gave up, cleaned it the way they wanted to and resigned to never knowing where stuff is in my own room

[@Katt_itude]

Yup. I only do the dishes while I’m cooking so it’s like doing one thing instead of two. Like taking out the trash and cleaning the litter box. Also trying to save leftovers is a nightmare because I either remember them but don’t want to eat them anymore or completely forget about them because I forget what’s in my Tupperware

[@zvideosz]

This is so relatable and i dont rly think i have audhd but this level of organisation is literally me. I guess it esplains why i bring all my food in at once and my toothbrush while watching tv instead of getting up when i need something. Thank you for this video!

[@KIKI-et1ow]

It must be so hard to live like that!! I am so proud of you and I will never take this for granted anymore! 😭😭

[@fryktaf]

I've never thought I was AuDHD or anywhere on the spectrum there-- but I relate to so many of these videos that I think I may need to explore it

[@joaovictorferrari997]

OCD can actually be very similar! I eat near the sink because moving, sitting and getting up can a lot of times trigger compulsive thoughts in people with more advanced levels. It's so nice to see people who use the same little artifacts as you!!

[@kariechaos5382]

so much of this hits me right in the stomach, because I'm LIKE THIS. "No don't move things, I know where everything is, I know it looks like it's a disaster, but this section of things is for X"

[@mariashadows1328]

Lol THIS!
I sware, I'm constantly coming up with little "fixes" for my fiance and I. Like, I bought mini garbages because he always forgets to throw things out.
He said "why dont we just get up and throw it out?" And im like "because we both know thats not gonna happen, so we might as well solve the problem in a different way?"
Laundry basket by the door, special spots for dishes, etc.
Honestly, once you change how you view the "rules of life" and realize you can actually do whatever you want, its a game changer!

[@chrisalvino812]

THANK YOU!! God, all of my exes HATED that I kept everything out in the bathroom. And it's like, the only way that I can take care of my teeth and hair regularly is if I see all of those items when getting out of the shower. Literally the only way. THERE'S A SYSTEM!

[@havardhenriksen8890]

Thank you! For making me understand myself so much better!

[@rayraffiki1856]

I'm not diagnosed with anything but videos like this make me think because so many of these are things I do

[@NetaRaveh]

Painfully relatable. I always have a water bottle on the counter, all of my skincare products are displayed on a trolly, my glasses are always on the left arm rest of the couch and if someone moves them I will never find them again, so no tv. Whatever I keep in drawers look like a pile of clutter, but is actually grouped into different categories and cannot be touched. Ever.

[@Loves2laugh15]

This is my life…I never realized why others didn’t get my system until I watched this 😂 but the system works for me ❤

[@tabi_verse]

The thing for me in the bathroom was to put EVERYTHING away except the soap. So all the time I KNOW that there is more stuff and when I open the (albeit messy) cabinet everything is there and I can work through it. I don't get why people judge the way others structure their day to day so it works for them. Eating close to the sink seems like it could work for me, thanks for the tip.

[@florencepierce1864]

🤯 As someone with Bipolar Type 1/OCD/PTSD & Dyslexia, I recently realised I also have ADHD & I related to Soooo Much of this - the Clothing Piles, Hygiene Product Piles ... Piles of Unused Art Supplies I can Never get rid of, Photos/Papers/Paperwork (all in various Sub-Groups/Sub-Piles only I understand) ... And Other Piles of STUFF that impact even more on my Bipolar, PTSD, OCD/Hoarding & I'm finally realising the impact/s if all of this on my Fam/Friends! 🤷🤦‍♀️😱

[@user-bj6mw2ov3n]

I love how she’s so good at explaining things and it really helpful 😁

[@InzeDev]

I have two clothes hampers: One for dirty laundry, one for clean clothes. My entire life people have been trying to get me to store my clothes in closets or dressers, but if I do that laundry literally never gets done. The two hamper system happened due to executive dysfunction but resulted in a system that works and I have never looked back.

[@kasiasustaita9032]

I didn’t think of grouping tasks together! That helps so much!

[@JasmineTea127]

“Go sit down” unsettles me, you never stop hearing it from family

[@DragonsHaveAutismToo]

The three types of cleaning! Autism, ADHD, and energy efficient. Autism likes when I do tasks in order and sort things, like cleaning up all the trash, then all the dishes, etc. work's for small tasks and is satisfying. ADHD, I'm doing all of the things at once, follows dopamine, comes back to realize I abandoned half of everything I started. Energy efficient, grab a couple things that go to similar places, do whatever task is right in front of you and then move right to the next, if I can get it done on my way to do something else, do it. Doesn't waste energy but is motivating to see progress. Works well with music.

[@bentheben1145]

I do this too! One with my coffee (I have a French press so I put everything in easy line of sight! Then immediately wash it :) ) The other with clothes - I have a dirty and a clean basket of laundry I’m very visual and it’s honestly intently easier for me to search through clothes than to remember that I have clothes in a drawer lol!

[@andreimircea2254]

The one with the bedroom is So relatable. I get so stressed whenever I need to clean my room, I had moments where my mom just wanted to help and the moment she would try I would become extremely overprotective and kind of overpossesive because the idea of changing stuff in my bedroom gives me genuine autistic meltdowns. And the one about the bathroom also hits because I have a system of how things sits and if you change it I become overwhelmed and get closer than I normally would be towards an autistic meltdown.

[@larafranke1802]

Thank you for putting out what I struggled to phrase 😭😭
When I was living alone I didn't realise how much I was doing that but since I live in a host family I started to realise how much this belongs to my daily routines

[@Lokimeows]

These videos are getting more and more relatable it's actually concerning

[@cyd12845]

I'm so happy to hear someone say that the dirty clothes can't go in the dryer.

[@thegracklepeck]

The special dirty piles of laundry really resonates with me. If I don't sort it now, I'll probably never do it and then things get ruined

[@anolds24]

Ugh I have never felt so seen. I use these little plastic baskets on top of my regular drawers for the workout clothes I need in the morning. There’s something very stressful about having to rummage through a drawer to find what I need. And the clutter is so right! I have a whole pile of things I have bought that I ended up buying more of before actually using because it was in a cupboard. Now I put it in this open uncovered caddy that I keep in my bathroom so I can see it quickly as I start to run out of the previous one.

[@Radio00001]

That just makes sense to me. You put something near something you pass by daily in a way that makes sense for your brain to remind you to do the task or to help establish a routine.

[@polari7658]

I like the imagine the first one is your nosy neurotypical neighbor micromanaging your life from outside of the window😂.

[@beckyjones6172]

I was diagnosed with autism as a kid but not AuDHD. But every last thing you just did is exactly me. Especially the piles in my bedroom and all my hygiene stuff needs to be out.
No one seems to understand why. Honestly I never understood why either but knew my 'quirks' work for me.

[@syl59281]

Lol so accurate. My partner started moving the bananas above the fridge where they're barely visible and it's making it pretty impossible to eat them in time 😅😂

[@thglerin]

First I thought, what a great idea, so seperate the cloth this way. Then I remembered its quite clever to mix it. Then I dont need to hang so much on the line, and there is not to much in the dryer, so it gets dry quicker 😊

[@agharajeh]

Youre soo mature about this... i could NEVER explain my stuff to other people 😅

[@Nun-ya]

FRRR! I have severe ADHD. And my mom, and my oldest brother has it too. But my dad and my other brother doesn’t and they both comprehend why we act like this and I’m the worse out of all of them. My siblings and me share a bathroom and none ADHD brother keeps putting our hygiene stuff away and he keeps asking why we smell some days 😭(mind you I hate smelling bad it’s like a personal phobia of mine and I feel terrible when I smell bad cuz it’s other people who have to deal with it and not necessarily ME who has to deal with it, it’s a whole thing)