Desexualizing Your Brain & My Father’s Suicide - Raw Car Chat #1
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A raw unfiltered night drive conversation. The importance of de-sexualizing your brain as a man and gaining control of your animalistic nature.
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The Algorithim decided i need to hear this,Thank you Sir
Hey, there
New to channel. What camera are using? Also how do you achieve the cinematic effect on the video and the perfect voice?
“Most men are wounded little kids on the inside looking for validation and healing” hit me like a ton of bricks… Danm well said brother🙏🏾💯
I've been there brother... hits me too. we are the same.
most men? Most people man. Everyones got some shit, we all need healing.
yeah it really hit home not gonna lie
@@johnfisher8401 Emphasis on men because it's very different for us. Unlike us, women have the luxury to comfortably express their true emotions without being criticised or made a mockery out of by society - a fate which one too many men face. Additionally, throughout their lives majority of them receive constant help, protection and reassurance by others along with
However, Ever since young it's been hammered into us to suppress emotions and face tough situations independently of others which simply leads to a lot of men bottling up their true feelings, hiding themselves behind a mask to seem as if all is well and fine. After all there is a reason as to why male suicide rates are so much higher than female suicide rates.
Of course there is no doubt that we all need some form of healing, but life doesn't treat men and women the same unfortunately and a lot of men don't have the privilege to express their situations and receive the same love, kindness and support that women receive.
@@dressrosa1791then support other man. Many man are the ones putting other men down. It's everyone.
Somebody has to mention how beautiful this shot is! How stable it is, the angle, the warm light inside the car and of course the quality of the audio! Nice one! Great job!
Man, I really appreciate you mentioning that… it def took a lot of experimenting to pull all of that together.
@@TheConsciousMan143how did you pull this together ?
@@Inseptembertowershe put is camera on his hood?
@@haam7831 guess I should have asked google first rather than dip into the comment section As to how he rigged his camera on his hood for a steady shot, I’ve got my answer. 👍 🙂🎥
@@Inseptembertowers it is a beautiful shot indeed
"Getting in touch with your feelings is a little feminine, but once you do that work, when you get on the other side of it the divine masculine that emerges from that, has so much more depth and so much more substance then the masculinity you were trying to force before that "
Well said brother, i wish more men understood this.
Getting in touch with your feelings isn’t feminine at all in reality, but for some reason it is widely believed to be. I don’t understand it
@@tiinan375 fucking thank you! that frame of thinking boggles my mind
Getting in touch with your feelings, whatever that means, I assume just being aware of yourself and what's underlying your behavior, doesn't make sense to be defined as anything masculien OR feminine at all. It's a state of consciousness and soul searching Imo - Good for anyone, and a tool to be better than who you already are, at least if you manage to address your shortcomings by making impactful change.
Regardless of your beliefs, I think that everyone, once they look past their learned biases on the perceived feminine or masculine nature of emotion must admit that 'feelings' exist for a reason. Whether you believe in evolution, or if you're a creationist, we have emotions for a reason, and it is stupid to ignore them. Doesn't mean they should control you, but understanding your feelings cannot possibly be truly either masculine or feminine, because emotion exists in everyone regardless of sex or gender.@@AccountHolder007
Getting in touch with your emotions shouldn't be known as a feminine thing (but it is these days nonetheless). Because why else would emotions exist in men? It's a human thing, not a gender thing, we all have to accept
THIS is what RUclips and social media was made for. What an incredibly brave, helpful thing to release into the world.
No , RUclips and social media is designed to keep you on the app as long as you can be everyday so they continue to make money from your attention you become a slave to your phone and waste your own asset which is time but of course it can be put to good use as well
I think the sacrifice your father made was not in vain. He made you realize those things and become a good man today. Your father didn't run from the consequences of his actions, he just paid the ultimate price, worse than any jail he could be thrown into. He was a good man and may he rest in peace and never be forgotten.
this made me tear up brother. thank you so much for saying that
@@TheConsciousMan143 I stumbled across your channel and really enjoyed watching your video. Thank you for sharing your story brother. Namaste.
God uses the fall for rise.
May he rest in peace ❤
@@justfabian222 Through death?
Sex is most mens biggest downfall and can absolutely destroy your life if you do not become conscious with it. Society has normalised porn etc when is literally is destroying and stopping men having a good healthy life. Completely agree. Did a video on my experience just the other day.. good to know more and more men are getting this
Sex is MOST men’s biggest DOWNFALL.. . REALLY? Like you’re being serious, or it is another bs joke? 💀
I have never heard a female say SUCH bullshit YO 😭🤣
So true
For example, Men creating this extreme fetish & fixation around certain organ (ie women's chest, which is just an organ like our limbs & head) to get more pleasure is wrong idea
Everything is okay unless it's controlled, their should be a balance, but extreme fetish towards an imaginary idea isn't right for one own self
Moreover, they have that power to see things the way it is. To see a women normally, but they give it all up because of a mere pleasure. The world is huge, but this what they chose to get their daily dose of 5 seconds of pleasure from
The fruit of knowledge of good and evil
Beautifully shot and presented ❤
Ted Bundy blamed porn for the evil murders he committed… It’s not the porn, it’s both the genetic nature/predisposition of the man and their environment through childhood. Porn in varying forms has been around since the beginning of time. It’s up to men to recognize their own responsibility for their actions and their own inability to control themselves despite the existence of porn. With the amount of people who watch porn… it’s clear the majority have perfectly normal lives, but a certain percentage can’t handle it… happens with alcohol, caffeine, food… etc.
As a woman I want to thank you for being the safe space for men, immensely. You are a highly respectable individual, I hope you make it far in life. To me, you define what a true man is.
You're so sweet for saying that, you got nice heart.
well said. he's so rizzy 🙏🙏🙏
Being a woman round these parts is like brining a mobile bar and parking it in front of an AA meeting 🫤
@@HeartlessWon506 You think? Personally, from what I've seen from this guy's content he doesn't seem to be cultivating a community of incels. More so a place for men to share their thoughts as well as get advice or reassurance. I'm a woman too. It's good to hear perspectives you're not privy too.
Even cuttin up corn women jave sexualized tjemselves where the problem still persists cause its your problem. Men just being men is not the problen. So dishinewt to be thanking this man as if u like the mental healtg support for men when thr message is convinient to women @@cosmo588
23, feeling really lost in life. Depressed, too. Having someone to listen to about these stuffs makes me feel better. To better days ahead.
I fell you bro. I have 25 (26 in march) and I feel lost.
@@EpiqeJoin the National Guard. Im thinking between NG or CG, but its a great way to get a foot hold and a new purpose.
Join the Military come with me. I graduate in 2025 lets be all we can be.
youre not alone brother, just turned 22 in december and im pretty empty im im going to be consciously honest.
Go outside and talk to WOMEN.. . Ya’ll males need-a make FRIENDS OR something it ain’t that deep.
Thank you for sharing this experience with us. Stay strong brother. Love!
not expecting u here
@@Zyl0n_yt Fr
Thank you brother. Much love
Everyone's looking for clarity
Men we look out for eachother and look to eachother for guidance when we need help. Thats why men who are okay being vulnerable on camera are so amazing because they help everyone.
@@Zyl0n_yt
I’m 19 and this video hit me right when I needed it. I’ve been trying to desexualize my brain, and improve my relationships to no avail. I had an unhealthy addiction to pornography for a year but, for the past month I’ve been free of it.
That's amazing brother... you're doing great. Quit while your ahead... it gets way harder to quit if you've been addicted for over a decade like many men are
I'm 19, been addicted since I was 11.
Probably started earlier than that actually
I’m 23, been addicted since I was 12. Just recently starting to realize what it’s done to me and the benefit of quitting.
Keep going, even if you never tell anyone out loud, triumph always feels so satisfying. I am 75 days sober from alcohol, longest I have ever gone in the 15 years of my adult life without drinking and it feels so good to walk passed a beer cooler and not have a voice that says “just 1 drink, no one will know”. I get to be prouder and prouder of myself everyday that goes by since my last drink. I don’t even have to tell anyone to feel good about it and it helps fuel each following day the longer I go. I don’t think I’m ever gonna drink again. I literally have no desire to even have a sip, and boy let me tell you, I used to be one of those drinkers who’d drink everyone under the table and stay up till the sun came up and do it again. Hell I have “I ❤️ BEER” tattood on my leg. I don’t know what I’m gonna cover it up with yet but I deff don’t love it anymore, I don’t like it at all. I know it’s not the same but I feel these could be a decent comparison. Stay strong, at 19 you have many battles to win in your life, this one you will be so glad you beat (no pun intended), the sooner the better. Save that stuff for the ladies ;) you won’t regret it. Godspeed.
I’m 16 years old and I have had an addiction that I have promised to stop over and over and over. I am finally taking genuine action and I will use your life as an example of why I can do better, thanks for sharing your personal experiences and shining a light on those in the dark.
All the best to you bro
@@inderjeethkangaloo9112 hope you succeed brother, i am about 20 days clean from P, so I haven't watched it at all this year. It took me 5 years, I started when I was like 13., but I am finally trying to fight my urges. never get discouraged, no matter how many times you relapse. I hope we all achieve our goals. I'm 18 btw
wish you succeed brother and i shall join you
FInd a purpose in life. Make that purpose and addiction. Yes you heard it right. You can only leave an addiction by doing another. You have to replace it. You can't resist and stop it. Best of luck
@nathanaeldavid6238 I have been trying to get closer to Jesus, I am religious and I love church, now I just have to better myself and my relationship with Jesus
Being vulnerable and in touch with your feelings isnt feminine and especially not in the bad way, its just human. You have to understand your feelings in order to be able to control them and not let them control you. As they say understanding your enemy is the best way to defeat them although your emotions arent your enemies they are just a part of you.
I guess what he was trying to say was the norm aspect of the 'feelings' situation. Like how the society views it in the current generation, and obviously it should be changed yea.
@@HiImAk Yes indeed. Alot of people now view feelings as a feminine trait and a feminine trait as something bad, its not bad having feminine traits. Its all because of those stupid red pilled people who think the only way to be a good man is to be dead inside and view women only as child bearers.
As a 37 year old man who has been grappling with the idea of suicide for years. I needed to hear this. I have 2 sons and 3 daughters and a wife and sometimes I forget how much I mean to the people around me. I’ve made so many mistakes in my life and I am ashamed of having children out of wedlock with 3 different women and not always being able afford things of pay for things. But I know that none of my kids had their mothers around and I am all they have so I have to keep going. Thanks for this
Yo bro keep strong and keep your family in your head everytime those demons creep up. You mean more to your family then they even know. Sometimes as men we are supposed to be unhappy and suffer sometimes so those around us can live fruitful lives and appreciate us. Love you brother❤
Suicide will only make certain the pain gets passed to your children.
I would severely focus on overcoming the idea of suicide more than anything if I was in your shoes. The way I see it is if I would’ve committed suicide it would’ve happened already. So suicide isn’t an option for me.
YOU are the world to your children don’t end it, don’t give them that trauma.
My minds tendency to go dark is why I chose to never have kids . Im not taking the chance of giving them
This
Dude that is alot of responsibility, takes alot of strength to do what you are doing, props to you. I had ideation before as well but nowhere near as much responsibility as you, I realized I deserved to be " happy" and it's been a long journey, not seeking happiness anymore just finding joy in friends and those little moments. Working out helped a lot. I tip my hat to you sir.. being poor is not morally.wrong, luck plays a great deal in life's direction.
This is the kind of content we need on youtube. No flashy transitions, no perfected cuts, just raw thoughts. I one day wish to start a channel like this.
You can start that channel today my man
“Flashy transitions” A Male Who Clearly Keeps Liking Such Shit. 💩🤳🏻💀
THE DAY YOU START YOUR OWN CHANNEL, COME AND TELL ME HERE. I'll be waiting to subscribe to your channel.
Start brother. You can reach eyerthing you want 😉😌
Don’t start “one day”, start today. Mindsets like that aren’t going to help you. Get up and get it done.
Driving in a car is like looking at the stars or at a campfire, your best thoughts come out while gazing at something continuously, dynamically changing shape. I haven’t seen someone put their camera on their car like this before, it really makes it feel like I’m there with you. I’m sorry to hear about your dad’s passing, and your storytelling brought tears to my eyes. I hope you and your family are doing well.
Brother, you have no idea how much I needed to hear this. God bless you. I’ve wrestled with this for over half my life now, and I’m only 28. And everyday for years now I have felt this demon clinging to me, too afraid to look it in the eyes. I’m so grateful that I’m not alone as a man seeing what this has done to us, taking ownership of our choices and moving forward is our primal superpower and one that should be encouraged in all men, growing from adversity. Please continue to spread your message, as will I. Bless you X
“Your worst sin is that you have destroyed and betrayed yourself for nothing.” (Crime & Punishment)
Keep going🤝
It’s funny u mention that quote; I was actually considering reading the book.
May God bless and strengthen us all, brother. Just know you’re not walking this path alone!❤️👊
You're not alone
@@willius_caesargod bless you my brother. Yes I highly recommend the book. United we stand 💪🏻
@johnnylongshlong3677thank you dearly my brother
You are going to help so many young men of my generation with this kind of honest and vulnerable conversation. Needed this
Much love man. Thank you
Indeed.
I wanted to share this to hopefully help others as well, porn and masturbation destroyed my mental health, it made me no longer enjoy the small things and just regular hobbies, I was so addicted to that high level of dopamine that I couldn’t enjoy the simple things and regular activities. If your reading this push thru it and I promise you will see change in your life.
Really appreciate you sharing
Don't worry brother we will bounce back again with lots of energy and mental stability ✨
Trust the process stop watching porn and stop masturbation nothing is too hard beleive in yourself beleive in God💖
Make more friends Good friends 😊
Yes we should work upon ourselves rather than investing time in porn stuff which is only addiction to dopamine and this dopamine will certainly engage you in these activities continuously to get that hit and then you looses touch with the reality and what's happening in your life you can't able to ccontrol
it's an escape......
I'm writing this strongly I don't know why but I'm sure i will work on it to loose my addiction forever.
I struggle everyday
I abruptly stopped porn and masterbation four months ago. No temptations. I did it easily by praying the Rosary. It works!
From a Christian outlook on pornography… the devil wants you to keep everything in the dark and not be vulnerable and talk abt it, but Jesus wants us to shine it in the light and ask others for help. Jesus loves you all and just know if you are fighting the grips of lust and pornography you are not alone. Vulnerability will not make you weak, but instead it will make you become more confident in yourself and strong in your identity!!! ❤
Not religious but this is a beautiful take. Well said brother. ❤
This video was part of your journey. Now, it is part of our journey. Stay strong brother, we'll both hang in there.
My ex husband took his life leaving my 2 kids behind. Son is 16. Daughter is 13. I appreciate you being vulnerable.
Sending you love ❤
Ex? Why did yall divorce
I wonder wtf you did to make him take his life. No man just ups and offs himself with kids
@@Boomy2nicce thats a fucked up comment and thats bs, dont listen to him
@@Boomy2nicceCongrats !!
You are lower than low.
For your father to open up his addiction to YOU, the son shows the strength and how he most likely admired you
I appreciate it brother... yeah he could definitely sense my unconditional love during the darkest time of his life. I'm grateful for that
I would disown my father if he ever told me his addicted to watching men fucking women 😭 BRO
DF ima do with a dad like that YO
I’m a woman and it popped out in my recommended I don’t know why, BUT I wanna say that this video has provided so much relief and comfort to me as a woman, because now I know that men with a healthy way of thinking and self-awareness exist in the Internet space. It’s such an important message! As a woman, I constantly feel like men stopped seeing us for what we are - humans with personalities, they are more interested in getting into your panties than your thoughts. I used to work in an all-male team and it was a torture to listen them talking about women exclusively in a sexual way. It’s very sad because I genuinely like men but something very wrong is going on with them as a societal group due to obvious reasons of the endless stream of free porn and datings apps and hookup culture, it’s easy to get distracted and lost and stop seeing what’s important.
Lets just generalize all men under a video about mens mental health. Great comment.
@@OfficialPepe you’re sensationalizing her comment.
Sounds like you have a problem with millions of years of evolution.
I love when women hear locker room talk and genuinely think men act on what they say.. Like c'mon.
@@IkeSpeaksUp where do you think "locker room talk" stems from?
I been battling with suicidal thoughts for 28yrs.. im 33 today. Just had another episode yesterday. Whenever i feel like im alone. I look back when i really was alone in a dark room inside my head. And i heard his voice. I felt his love. Being delivered from prison/intuitions/death i know today the devil hates me so much he attacks me and if not me my family. Being God's annoited is not easy even though ppl think its a cop out. I been so alone my whole life, im just now seeimg im not alone. As i came across another sign qt this moment. Just coming across these comments. We are loved.
Stay strong buddy
You have been baftling suicide thoughts since 5 yrs old?
cinematography is on point 👌 and relating to sexuality is so true, man needs to have a grip on the urges. Meditation, cold showers, gym really helps! Every man struggles with this but only few speak about it. True Self is what we do when we are alone.
I agree man... those private victories are everything
Why aren’t more RUclipsrs putting their expensive cameras outside of their car, facing the windshield, and driving out at night like you did?! I was hooked!
I know, it's so weird, but in a good way because you'd expect it to be loud but the audio is from the inside, it's so trippy but really relaxing at the same time
Brother, I lost my father to suicide. Thank you for making this. I hope it helped you too. I’m with you. Take care.
This man comes from a place of honesty and genuineness which is rare. You gained a subscriber.
Good video 👌
I’ve stopped watching porn for around 5 years now. I’m 49. I’ve taught myself to stop looking at young women in admiration, for their beauty, and to act my fkn age. I’ll be dead in my grave when I no longer have the capacity to gain pleasure from the sheer gorgeousness of beautiful women, but it doesn’t mean I have to gawk like a teenager at them now.
I think a lot of young men could do well to listen to what you have to say. Porn is bs.
It’s actually quite liberating to no longer lust after females like that. Whether that’s on the screen or in the street.
All the best.
Man… I couldn’t have said this any better. Thank you for sharing
Glad you aren’t sexualizing poor innocent women & children Brodie!
Hope it stays like that, before you do something stupid and end up ofc in jail like the REST.
Sexual deviancy has led to me loosing everything in the past. Now, eleven years later, with more to lose, I'm dabbling again. I'm self-aware now, but it's harder than ever to stop. A man can rationalize anything. Thank you for the video.
Thanks for sharing brother, the fact that you're self-aware enough to notice the dabbling starting to creep in speaks volumes... Don't keep it hidden, if you have have any solid guy friends or family to talk with and keep you accountable... do it. Much love
Burn that energy off man. Go workout for 2 hours. Go do anything but that stuff. That will destroy your life been there done that. Burn the energy or it will burn you
Stay strong. Give all you got to fight this battle. Victory over this will make you who you are meant to be.
Define "deviancy". Every king and ruler of the past and present was some sort of "deviant". Even the female ones.
@@redrustyhill2who cares? “Oh well the king engages in all kinds of degenerate things so I guess that makes it okay for me to do it as well” are you a child or something?
Thanks man, I teared up a little when you said at the end "You are Loved, You Matter". Thanks a lot for sharing this experience
Thank you so much for your vulnerability. I listened to this on the way to work this morning and it set my day in the right direction. Grateful for anyone who shares their story like this.
I can tell that this man has a beautiful soul, I'm wishing him the absolute best and can't wait to see everything he accomplishes with this amazing channel
And he appreciates it...
I've learned that to overcome vices it all starts with being Honest with yourself. Acknowledging and accepting there's something wrong with you.
The worst action a man can take is lying and decieving himself.
Those unacknowledged hidden vices can devastate you in the long run. Thanks for sharing
@TheConsciousMan143 no problem, I've been there many times over to the extent suicide was a constant thought, running from my problems, mistakes and past, and surely fuck ups but I had to be honest with myself, and from there life slowly improving, its a struggle but can't give up on hope
Sharing our stories strengthens one another. Much love man
I really appreciate this way of opening up. Nothing flashy, just raw reflection over some important stuff. Thank you!
01:02 🧠 Understanding the potential link between pornography and mental health issues, such as suicide, is essential.
03:07 🚹 Gaining control over one's primal instincts is crucial for men, especially in how they perceive and interact with women.
04:15 📺 The negative impacts of excessive pornography consumption on men's mental health and sexual experiences are highlighted, advocating for breaking free from such practices.
06:24 💔 The speaker's father's suicide led to a deep personal commitment to raise awareness, share experiences, and assist others in their self-improvement journeys.
09:17 🤔 Owning up to mistakes, taking responsibility, and seeking redemption are emphasized as crucial steps in personal growth and self-acceptance.
You have my deepest empathy and condolences for the loss of your father. You have my deepest respect and admiration for the courage to make this video.
This means more than you know
It takes a great amount of courage to talk about what you went through. I admire your strength for undertaking this mission. Goodness in the world is currently losing the battle and could use ton more men like you. May God give you all the strength you need to keep doing this work for humanity.
Thank you so much brother - That same strength within me, is in you too. That's why you're drawn to this kind of content in the first place. Much love
This video just appeared on my feed (which btw, is such a beautiful video, and set up). My father committed suicide when I was young, and it was a very similar situation as yours. He saw that was losing control, so he planned it, got everything covered by the life insurance, and one day he just did it... And he gave us very clear signs, but i was too young to connect the dots, or even have a deep talk to him about his feelings.. now after more than 10 years, I catch myself thinking how he had that wounded child inside, who was struggling everyday, trying to control himself, and trying to be loved.. and if i could now, I would go back and give him the biggest hug and be there for him.
I just want to thank you for bringing this awareness to people, because not a lot of people talk about.. and it can save lifes and families. Thank you you for opening up about this, and I trully wish you all the success moving forward.
With all my heart, thank you for this. This app needs more people like you. I love you, and I’m sorry for what you’ve been through. Have peace in knowing you have helped me, if not thousands of others.
"Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing"
-August Wilson
I couldn't agree more with what was said in this video. Thank you! I look forward to seeing more of your content!
“Demons” YOU MEAN resisting P*rn.
💀💀💀💀💀
Thank you for doing this. I lost my dad at 16 to a heart attack, stressed out of his mind and not taking care of himself. The split conscience rings so true to me.
I'm so sorry you went through that bro... the grief of losing a parent is profound. Sending love
This video was much needed for me I turn 24 and this addiction is stick to myself and my past since I was 15 . Till the age of 20 I was not much concerned about the side effects although I was trying to get out of this loop from so long . This habit ruined my relationship, self confidence and break me to the point where I felt useless and got no self control and self worth. I am really close to control it now nothing new is happening in my emotions I just control the urge to do it. Skipping day over and over makes me a bit proud of myself. I respect your courage and I love the work that you put in your channel. Keep shining brother.❤️
Keep going bro
you got this man
Thank you so much for starting this conversation! If we talk about this more regularly, we can create a better world for every gender. Mens mental health is often pushed under the rug, and working on it will greatly improve society.
It's almost 7 am on a Saturday. Im finishing up my coffee and I stumbled upon this video and for some reason, I watched and listened to your story. Thank you for the motivation to get up and be a better version of myself.
So grateful you found your way to the channel man. We're both becoming better
Last weeks have been exhausting for me. Things as loniless and so on have been very present in my life. I just came across your channel after watching this video and I appreciate that you have shun a light on something for a lot of men has been perceived as tabboo. I truly felt like you have touched my soul with this speech. Keep doing what you do.
Wow thank you for your vulnerability! I've lost my dad due sickness when i was 15, about your age back then. Now, 5 years later, i've thought intensively about life (and still do) and learned a lot from the struggles and obstacles life throws at you. And yet, i'm always discovering new and different perspectives that now, after watching this video, seem so obvious to me. Your ability to make a really difficult and complex problem understandable in such a way that the message you're trying to deliver, opens a lot of different views that i've never thought about before, is absolutely mindblowing. You definitely derserve more followers!
you came by at the perfect time brother, I'm working on myself everyday. I'm glad I stumbled on this video, keep fighting, you're not alone
Lost my father to suicide when I was 13. Now I’m 26 and this was healing to hear for me. We are not alone. Thanks for sharing
Im amazed how many people argue against me when i talk about how much this sort of thing affects the human mind. Meanwhile just about almost everything is trying to normalize sexualizing everything. So tired of it, happy i am ahead of everyone. I try to hold on to hope that not only I but other men can make a difference
I hear you brother. I think the issue is that a lot of men don’t realize that there’s a lot more to themselves than their primal animalistic nature so they feel like they need to defend it as if it’s their identity … but I’ve found you don’t need to deny, shun, or even reject that side of yourself, but learn to integrate it.
To be able to have full control over it, and consciously choose to tap into it when it makes the most sense… make it your servant instead of your master, as opposed to being on autopilot and an unconscious slave to it. I’ve been there.
@TheConsciousMan143 when are some times to tap into it
It is their identity tho? They desperately act like dogs.
I wanna say thank you for my phone listening to my conversations. I needed something like this right now. I feel that I have a problem deep down inside and it is tough to push through that. This makes me feel better.
"Love the thing you most wish didn't happen" is a quote I hold dear to my heart.
Ight, SO if you aren’t actively “loving” ANYone Don’t Be Shocked As To WHY You Are Alone.
Open Yourself UP Man!
Hey Man, deeply sorry for your loss. Indeed this oversexualizing of our brain due to pornography is what is decaying our society. It takes real effort and commitment to realize and break free from it. Just keep seeking God's help, hopefully one day he's going to break us all free from this satanic addiction and we will feel attracted for our spouses ❤
Now that I'm on the other side of it all. I've realized how freeing it is to no longer be a slave to that addiction... I want the same for all men. It can be such a hinderance to potential
There aren't even trigger warnings on shows or movies, that you're about to watch a porn scene and it seems they're dropping it more and more by surprise now too, like ill be watching two people talking and one second later theyre all naked and sweaty and its actually embarrassing if the sounds turned up too high.
@@romchompa6858it's even worse when it seems unnecessary. I was watching the dune miniseries on RUclips and an orgy scene came out of the complete blue. It wasn't pornographic but if it wasn't produced for the sci-fi channel 20 years ago it sure would've been. It's even worse in European countries.
Ameen Ameen Ameen
Who is usually in charge of the p*rn agencies? MALES.. . Meaning you males ARE each other’s worst enemies.
Bless up brother, this video has open my eyes to these effects. I've have always had this voice telling me that there is nothing wrong with what I'm doing, but this is evidently wrong. I appreciate the openness as this is extremely helpful and inspiring. Stay strong, we're all gonna make it 🙏
Just started learning how to rebuild my confidence after I went off to college. The hookup culture at my university is too much for me. I suffered from a porn addiction through high school. The pandemic shutdown ruined me, shut me down, left me with no emotion towards my loved ones. I needed to watch this video. Thank you for your advice and may your father rest in eternal peace. Inshallah, all the men who’ve seen this video will, like myself, use this video to help their journey to recovery🙏
The courage that it takes to face and talk about these personal stories is huge. I am really thankful that I found your channel, it has been a great source of inspiration since the very beginning. Keep it going☀️
I appreciate it brother - I'm grateful you found the channel too. Stumbling upon men who resonate with the message is very encouraging for me
Bro what is the name of the song at the end please
@@TheConsciousMan143the name of the song please, blessings
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. Really makes me look at life in a different perspective. Finding yourself after all the trauma is a scary step but takes work to work through all of it and at the end it is all worth it ❤
Absolutely. Appreciate you
You're yummmyyyy
@@heisenberg9739did you even listen to this video 😂
@@heisenberg9739Not the place to say that
Your video touched me deeply und totally changed my perspective on (my) fatherhood. Changed my perspective on my father‘s suicide. That you acknowledge it wasn’t the best solution, totally uplifts the value of being a father, fighting for yourself and your family members.
You don‘t know, how thankful I am, that you shared your story. Thank you! :)
I have not been doing very well and after trying to still be social, only to drive home early thinking about suicide, I appreciate the words you spoke. They may not completely sink in but I will listen to this video again when I need to hear those words again. Thank you. I wish the best for you and your family.
LIFE IS WORTH LIVING.
My father took his life when I was 5 after sexually abusing my oldest sister. Mother told me it all started with pornography. That was about 19 years ago (24 now) also sometime in November. We were also raised Christiaan & your experience resonates so much with me man. Very few people in this world that I can relate too.
Wow 😢 I’m so sorry you have gone through this I hope you’re okay now
Thank you so much for sharing this.... I don't think people realize how many stories like this are out there. It's easier to just not talk about it because the shame of these situations can be so overwhelming.
Seems like human consciousness is evolving and tired of not shining a light on these kinds of situations. Human beings are very capable of both beauty and darkness.... that capacity lies within each and every one of us.. There's so much to learn.
Love is also very real.. it's what allows for these kinds of conversations to happen. Sending love your way
Omg so sorry
I'm so sorry man. That's so sad
Your father did what to your sister? 😭😭
Thank you for the amazing authenticity and vulnerability that you are sharing through RUclips with each and every one of us, Brother!
There are so many things in your story I can relate to, and I'm sure almost everyone else watching can, too.
Back when I was a teenager trying to figure myself and the world out, I remember very vividly observing my sexual thoughts, judging them and trying to get rid of them.
I ended up joining an evangelical church out of my own volition (my parents have never been particularly religious). The aspect of having a community helped me immensely with my personal growth back in the day. However, just as you said, things such as sexuality and porn were never discussed, which once again led me to a lot of internal conflict.
I ended up leaving the church after 5-6 years, and that internal conflict definitely led me to a lot of risky behaviors in my 20s.
Being in my 30s and having started my self-improvement and self-discovery journey, I'm extremely grateful for what you're sharing on here, as it helps me understand myself and others better.
Thank you again Brother!!
Absolutely brother, you are not alone - that desire to grow into your best and highest version of yourself is there for a reason. We're in this together. Thank you for sharing
Sending a blessing your way brother. May you find healing and may all men find healing and strength to be better as men
Really appreciate you making this video. I’m truly sorry for your loss and I’m glad you’re trying to make people aware of this issue.
I’m glad the algorithm brought this video to my attention. Really needed to hear this message today. Lost myself this weekend to the addiction I’ve been fighting so hard to abstain from and I felt utter shame upon myself. Thank you for making this video. 🙏🏾
So what do you guys do ? Like cry while watching it orrr ?
@@Girlyppop 😂😂😂 no tears, just appreciation of a massage for us men who have been through difficult times 😁
This is the first time I’ve seen your videos , but this something we need more of as men especially, within the men community, it’s important to open up this space for whoever it may be . Appreciate it man. Much love
Thank you for releasing this video. You are brave. This message needs to be heard.
Coming from someone who used to struggle, thinking there were no ways things could get better, but did eventually grow past it, this will help people. I resonated so much with a lot of the things you said and a while ago when I needed it, it would've helped. I'm grateful I no longer need it but I'm really glad that it seems like men are finally having some of the conversations we need to have with ourselves/each other, thank you.
This was the first video I watched of yours and I just want to say thank you so much for making this my man! Keep up the great work and I wish you all the best 💪
You're so welcome brother - Thank you for taking the time to watch and for the kind comment. More to come
My god man. Hit me deep... thank you I am also, sorry for your loss. You seem to be doing great and i hope u keep doing great!
This video and your channel came at exactly the right time for me. You're strong for sharing your personal experience and extracting the hard lessons from it, thank you.
God bless you brother. Thank you for your story, ive been suffering from this addiction since 11 and i had no one to guide me. I broke down and asked God for guidance and ive come across peoples stories and now ive heard yours and its given me the courage to stop for good. I hope God blesses you and you can find peace in him. Thank you brother, God bless🙏
You are seeking brother... it is earnest and it is genuine. God, the divine, your higher self can see your heart and your genuine desire for the good.
That means something. Keep going
great timing for this video. Just lost a friend to suicide on friday. He was only 36, he was all tatted up, tough guy on the outside, but like you said, a hurt little boy on the inside.
I'm sorry to hear that man... we need to keep shining the light of awareness on men's suicide rate.
Like most. Unfortunately
i can’t thank you enough for your vulnerability, it really hits me in a way i didn’t know could be possible, keep doing what your doing bro, i have the utmost respect for you
You've got my sub man. I respect the hell out of you for having the ability to even talk about that. Everything you said has a lot of truth behind it. I hope you find success on your journey brother. Stay strong.
Your father faced challenges that were difficult to navigate, but his journey has left us all with a powerful lesson. You're embodying that resilience and wisdom every step of the way. May you continue to shine brightly, using your experiences to guide not just yourself but others too.
More power to you, brother. Very inspiring. Well shot! I dont think I've seen anything as good as this video on RUclips in recent times. And please release the song, it's so damn good.
This was really great. We need more people like you out there talking. Don't quit us
This is officially my favorite channel. You have found that path man. That’s the same path I want to be on. I want to give to people what you’ve just given to me and so many others who’ve seen this video. Thank you. Truly, thank you.
This video gave me some ideas for something similar to try on my channel, mainly in getting those thoughts out of my head. I used to take long drives every so often when I was younger, but as the financial responsibilities of being an adult began to grow, I drifted away.
Having grown up in a home with a chronically depressed mother, a heroin addicted Brother, and a Alcoholic father, I remember those breaks from the chaos of the home giving me the most peace I'd ever had. I remember spending more time at my friends than my own home. The first time I moved out I was 17. Nothing stuck until I was well into my twenties though, and the worst feeling in the world was failing after a year on my own and having to go back to that place.
I've been on my own for two years now, and those problems still interfere with my daily life. And I never know when I'll get the call that my brother overdosed and died, or my father died of alcohol poisoning. Yet, I continue to chase a better version of me, because those bad examples will not be my future, they will not be my destiny. My father had maintained his sobriety for nearly a decade, when his mother died he took up the bottle again. He's 70 years old. He once told me, I could never achieve anything because I wasn't academically inclined.(But how could I be, when I was awoken to the sound of him and my brother brawling it out every night?) I'd attend school half asleep, and exhausted from the mental torture of having to hear my own family beat the hell out of each other.
It seems those demons only get louder the further away I move.
That said, I'm an Engineering student, who's also getting my NREMT certification back after several years of moving around and working blue collar jobs. My Councilor in High-school told me I could not get into any Universities or colleges. Yet, every single application I put in was accepted.
This is kind of off topic of the whole desexualization, but alas, I needed to write a portion of that story out on paper.
That's my little trauma dump.
I appreciate your message, thanks.
Thank you for sharing brother... all you have control/influence over is yourself and your own path. The person you want to become. I'm proud of you for being on that journey. Keep going. Do not stop. You are loved
This was a great video bro, I was deeply moved by it and I had a couple reflections about my own life. Thank you!
Absolutely man. Glad it resonated and helped you reflect - All of us are not so different. much love
Incredible video man. I hope you’re doing alright, everything gonna work out for you. I’m thankful for your video, not only does it help to express your emotions but you are letting struggling men know they are not alone in this life! YOU ARE LOVED ❤️
Great vid man it meant a lot to me. I seen this picture one time that said “I hope you win the battle no one knows about” This video reminds me of that. Godspeed
“You are loved, you matter, and you have barely scratched the surface of what you are capable of.” - I don’t know you from a can of paint, but thank you. I really really needed to hear that at this time with all that I have been going through this year and you might have just saved my life.
...and I needed this comment brother. Thank you.
I really believe those words... It's what I'd say to my younger self if I could. A lot of us men aren't so different from each other. We all need to hear the same truth... Those words are for you... something higher is speaking to you, to me... to all of us. It's fucking real. It's a gift.
Keep going
@@TheConsciousMan143 I just turned 25 about 3 months ago and was thinking about unplugging from life the last 2/3 weeks. Ive got too much to live for to give up that easy.
When it comes to speaking to tour younger self just know that you are doing exactly what you said your goal was in the video, reaching the men who are a few steps behind you tryna figure it out.
@@misterutensilhey buddy hope you’re doing great. My wife experienced depression during her pregnancy and the way she dealt with it was by reading the Quran a lot, thanks to god she got better and all her depression gone. We named our daughter Yusra which means every hardship there is ease behind it, it’s a verse in the Quran. Hang in there because there’s ease behind every hardship
This video was beautifully made , my condolences go out to your father 🙏( last time I saw my grandma was on thanksgiving as well last year and she passed on December 😞 🌹 and thank you for this message because I needed it and realized that corn has a big affect on peoples lives 💯
It takes a lot of courage to talk about things like this. Appreciate the message buddy
im getting these amazing self improvement videos from small and large youtubers recommended on my yt home page, and IM SO HERE FOR IT!!! thank you champ
Randomly stumbled upon this page after admitting that I need to overcome my pornography addiction.
Thank you for sharing your testimony. I'm going through a rough patch in my life currently and this video helped me heal some more. Much love, brother. And RIP to your father.
Exercise, eat healthy, and meditation. As many people in these comment say, you are not alone. Pray if you can and try centre yourself back to a normalcy. This is a designed plan for the fools that play into it. There is so much more to life then the dilution of what we grew up around. I battle with being foolish but i see more light then ever compared to the hole i dug my self in and threw away the shovel. Never stop fighting to improve.
I ve been on RUclips for more than 10 years and honestly, recording from outside of a car is a genuine idea. Apart from content, i admire the screen quality. You have a taste brother.
Noted. Thank you brother - That seems to what a lot of folks are saying... looks like i need to more car chats ASAP
subscribed. i will be waiting. @@TheConsciousMan143
@@TheConsciousMan143 We tried this also for a video, but didnt worked out good. To shaky and unfocused. Which set-up do you use? PS: Love the content :)
It felt like this video was actually made for me, my circumstances were pretty similar, trying to really discover myself. You really made a difference in my life
I think a huge problem in life is that there is a large movement towards hedonism. Things are so much more progressive now and a large focus on yourself has been a trend. It's gotten to a point where people are encouraged to indulge on food, drugs, p0rn, etc. It's gotten to the point huge droves of people arguing that being super fat is still healthy, fap is healthy and important, etc etc. A huge flaw with this new trend of indulgence is a high percentage of people who lack self discipline/self control. Something that I learned from stoicism is the importance of striving toward self control. Full self control sometimes isnt an option for people, but the pursuit of that goal creates strong mental strength and improved clarity. Unfortunately, we all do struggle with some sort of vice, bad habit, or whatever else. It's the way we decide to handle them is what the problem is.
We all need to come together to help one another and I respect you for doing it on such a large scale.
I couldn’t agree more with your mission. My father took his own life as well, after years of choosing alcohol over his own family. It’s absolutely vital for our youth to have good male role models, I mean just look how far this world has already fallen you know?
Wow. Thank you for sharing this. I'm 10 months sober from any substance (alcohol was my vice, and I had been drinking since I was 14 on and off due to parties. I'm 28 now. My drinking got terrible and repulsive when I turned 22.) and 7 days clean from PMO. I'm now keeping this rule of not looking at anybody, whether male or female, that comes into my peripheral. I noticed that I would turn so quickly when a woman would come into my peripherals and check her out as she walked away. I would do that while driving and while at the store. A little glance too long built this rationality of watching women, leading to *orn.
I'm still aware of my surroundings while driving and at the store, but I take half a second longer to know who's on the side of the road or next to me in the aisle. If it's a woman, I stay put, keep my head straight, and keep driving or going about my business.
I learned this from drinking. A one-drink rule or a holiday-only drinking rule led to me binge drinking and my life being a mess. I was not drinking every day, but I was still unhappy. Until I figured there was no balance with this stuff at age 27. I can't still be drinking and want a better life. It's one or the other. I was never fond of black-and-white thinking, but this…I had to pick. Black, down the rabbit hole of misery that drinking puts you in, or white, happy, sober life.
Now, I'm applying that to my PMO habit.
I'm 28 now and should've been serious with my life long ago, but we're here now.
I want to meet someone to spend the rest of my life with, and I can't do that if I'm hiding all these vices.
Here's to being my true, authentic self for the rest of my life.
Your awareness is incredible brother. And that's a great parallel between alcohol and porn... the brain works the same way regardless of the vice you might be struggling with. And 28 is still young - I have no doubt that you will master your vices - The best is yet to come. Proud of you man
غض البصر is an Arabic phrase that means "lowering the gaze." In Islam, it is considered a virtue to غض البصر
, especially when it comes to looking at members of the opposite sex who are not mahram, or close relatives.
The Quran and the Sunnah, the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad, both emphasize the importance of غض البصر. In the Quran, Allah says:
قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ذَلِكَ أَزْكَى لَهُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ
"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is fully aware of what they do." (Quran 24:30)
In the Sunnah, the Prophet Muhammad said:
"The first fire that will be kindled on the Day of Resurrection will be for the eyes that looked at what is forbidden."
غض البصر is considered a way to protect oneself from temptation and sin. It is also a way to show respect for others.
There are a number of things that Muslims can do to help them غض البصر. One is to be aware of their surroundings and to avoid situations where they may be tempted to look at someone in a way that is not appropriate. Another is to remind themselves of the importance of غض البصر and the consequences of not doing so. Finally, Muslims can pray to Allah for help in controlling their gaze.
Here are some tips for غض البصر:
Be aware of your surroundings. When you are in a public place, pay attention to where you are looking. Avoid looking at people who are not mahram.
Avoid situations where you may be tempted to look at someone in a way that is not appropriate. For example, you may want to avoid sitting next to someone who is attractive or wearing revealing clothing.
Remind yourself of the importance of غض البصر. Think about the consequences of not doing so, such as temptation, sin, and disrespect for others.
Pray to Allah for help. Allah is the One who can help us control our gaze.
Life is indeed the most complex tapestry of light and darkness. And it is only in vulnerability that we find healing , strength and redemption through the tough times. Thank you for the raw car chat. Grateful.
My father took his life a little more than a year ago and the hardest thing for me (still) is thinking about him in the act. I can fully thank Buddhism for helping me through the pain from a spiritual standpoint. It's crazy how a scenario or combination of scenarios can stack up and cause someone to do something to that extent. We as men are not encouraged to speak our minds, and with things like alimony, child support, custody battle, poor physical health, the effect of his partner's mental health issues on his peace, and lack of proper retirement funding after 35+ years of grind that I watched my father unfairly have to go through, I have seen what live can do to you as a traditional man. He wanted to give all he had to everyone and people took advantage. He was at the point where nearly a month prior to the act, he was able to hide it from the entirety of his family as he had already made up his mind. One of the biggest things is that YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT SOMEONE IS TRULY GOING THROUGH and how important it is to treat everyone like they're on your team. No matter what. I wish you the best on your long journey of spiritual recovery so you may flourish.
I’m 18. I have had a porn addiction for 8 years. I was about the relapse then I saw this video. Strong message
Divine intervention led me to this video at a difficult time. You are a true human being sir, thank you. I pray you prosper and touch an abundance of those in need of healing as you have my spirit today..
This hit me in the feels... grateful you found your way here
“Divine intervention” = your phone listening to your day to day and putting things onto your screen it knows will grab your attention
@@lanebo6329 getting here at any specific time is still like wobbling the lottery. Probably a million videos cover this subject and this is among the most hopeful, informative, and validating
Incredible message. More people need to hear it, from every perspective. Thank you for sharing this.
Absolutely beautiful video man. Thank you for taking the time to create this.
Also, you need to release this song ASAP! Love it.
My Father committed suicide shortly after I turned 17 as well. it's been 5 years and his death continues to be a looming blight on my mind I grapple with daily. Recognizing and learning from his actions in order to correct my own is the only result I can hope for... but that still doesn't make it any easier. thank you for sharing, it is incredibly brave of you.
RESPECT. I HOPE YOU FIND YOUR CALLING!
Rip! Was he addicted to p*rn ?