My hair isn’t damaged this is just how my hair looks lol
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My hair has been like this since the day I got hair. It isn’t damaged its just frizzy, its unstyled, I don’t care to waste my time on earth making my hair “presentable” to match the Eurocentric beauty standards that are based in white supremacy. My time, effort and money are far more valuable than conforming to society!
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Your hair doesn't even look "damaged", it just has a lot of baby hairs and new hair that might look crazy because of your porosity type, but that's it. My hair is the same. I'm tired of curly hair influencers pretending our hair can look like we just came out of a Pantene commercial every single day, that's totally unrealistic.
YES YOU GET IT!! The short new growth + high porosity hair is so demonized! Like my hair has always and will forever look like this! I hated it as a kid but now I love my frizz and good thing cause it ain’t going anywhere haha 😅
@@rachaelmeridamy hair is like this too. It's shorter but still the same way. The baby hair tends to look frizzy and fluffy. I usually cut it when it gets to waist or lower back lenght because it gets stuck between things.
As a type 4 girlie, I had no idea girls with looser textures also struggled with this. Just goes to show texturism exists for ALL curly haired girls no matter the type. Because here in the black community, we get a lot of hate from our own if our type 4 hair looks "frizzy" and isn't gelled down. Like the disrespect to Simone Biles! It's crazy how the same ones who shout about natural hair lose their minds when they see hair in its actual natural state!
It's ironic that I got a Pantene ad on the video I clicked on before this one 💀
@@marajones1828 Simone gets so much shit for her hair! Thanks for sharing your experience ❤️ Texturism sucks and is DEFINITELY rooted in racism & antiblackness, I just get a little sprinkle of it compared to what y’all experience
Some people swear that if a person’s hair isn’t soft, silky, and smooth, it has to be damaged. It’s like it doesn’t occur that hair is as diverse as people are.
Mmhhmm exactly!
Let's not beat around the bush. What it is, is people shoving the typical western/northern European hair texture as the pinnacle of beauty and all other hair types are "uglier". I get so exhausted that everything beauty wise always boils down to racism of some kind.
@@RedNymph234This is exactly what it is. When I was younger I would get told to brush my hair all of the time, told it would look so beautiful straight and people would constantly touch it. It wasn’t until a lot of the poc movements on social media became popular that it stopped so there has to be a correlation there.
@@RedNymph234racism and colorism
It’s really stupid how some people think that if someone doesn’t have that shiny, straight , silky looking hair type that it’s damaged. Some people have got to realise there’s loads of different hair types. And if someone’s hair was damaged it’s not there’s to worry and fuss about.
Exactly! Different hair types exist and people are allowed to have damaged hair anyway! Like some hair is so bleached its crispy but no one says much about that! (And they shouldn’t either) people are allowed to exist however they want their hair 🙌🏼
Different texture, thickness, length... so many differences
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So true. My hair looks "damaged" because of the frizz too. But it's just new growth. People act like I don't take care of my hair.
People’s ignorance is so frustrating!
Just that frizz and "new hair is more often than not, breakage, stretch and snap due to not so gentle handling of perhaps bit fragile hair
@@Mariamarie999 sure some frizz is definitely from that but we do literally lose so many hairs a day and they grow back creating frizz too🤷🏻♀️
Just use a hair spray or a hair wax
@@hudajamal4791 Why? Frizz is fine, it doesn’t have to be smoothed down for hair to look pretty
Lol. This always cracks me up. If natural hair always looked great, we wouldn't have entire industries for styling hair. Idk where the idea that all natural hair looks perfect comes from, but its definitely not from people with natural hair.
Mine changes in a matter of moments as well. And people will tell me "wow I like your hair today. Way better than yesterday!" And I'll be like "thanks! I did nothing!"
I think that industry exists TO tell us our hair is “wrong, bad, ugly” etc! Similar to how women didn’t shave until Gillette started marketing insecurities to women to get more customers!
@@rachaelmerida also, I think there's potentially some racism involved, as well! The hegemonic northern European look is thick and wavy. Even tho curly, frizzy hair can be Caucasian... It's not the "right" kind of Caucasian lol.
That beauty standard sure has been a pestilence throughout the years lmao
Pestilence INDEED haha
who decides what hair looks "good" anyway?? 200 years ago it was fashionable to powder your hair gray and make it frizzy. now people are obsessed with dying their hair dark and getting rid of the frizz! leave your hair alone and let it be natural.
This is such a good point!
That is so on point! This video should go viral on curly hair community everywhere
Thank yoou❤️
Hell but you genuinely have some of the most beautiful hair I have ever seen, I am just in awe. Not only does it actually look very healthy but the length and texture of it is so gorgeous to me I find it STUNNING.
Thank you so much!! ❤️
What hair type (so in this system of 1a,b,c, 2, 3, 4 and so on) would you consider yourself in? Just curious i dont know haha. Cause id love to know how close i am to your hair type haha. I always think its so interesting to see when people have this hair type where their baby hairs are so "fluffy" and kinda curly. I envyed that when i was younger. Its so effortlessly cute
@@pia5543hey there sorry I didn’t see this til now I don’t always get every comment notification! My best guess is I have 3a ish hair! I don’t think the curl chart totally includes everyone but if I had to choose a closest probably 3a. Mine are pretty loose and prone to gravity/get weighed down super easily! But the curl like, circle size I guess? lol isn’t a very big diameter its more ringlet sized like say a nickel-quarter sized diameter, whereas other 3a curls can tend to be a bigger diameter!
Man we’ve gone too deep if hair can’t look like regular hair anymore and it’s only acceptable if it looks like it just got done 5 minutes ago at the salon. Plus, with really long hair, products are going to just add to the weight problem so its actually healthier that you’re not slapping product on there just to make it *look* smooth. But, i guess people will just be ignorant sometimes what can you do 💀
Right? I love being outside, I love driving with the windows down, I live in a humid area, my hair is not going to look perfect nearly EVER. And I like it that way ❤️
@@rachaelmerida literally YOLO
My motto haha
for me everyone just constantly says that I should be doing a "wavy/curly hair routine" but they dont get the amount of time/products it takes to get the perfect curls people imagine high porosity/curly hair people should always have xD keep doing you girl, your hair looks gorgeous
Thank you!! Thats precisely why I don’t do it! I don’t have the energy/time/money for all that just for my hair to look “good” or “perfect” for maybe a day since high porosity hair changes so easily! I also don’t think it looks bad now so theres no need to “fix” it! Thank you ❤️❤️
So refreshing to see hair that’s literally just like mine, length and all. The frizz never goes away, and I’ve also not used heat on my hair in years. It’s really nice seeing the other comments who can relate as well.
I’m so glad ☺️❤️ that is my intention so I’m glad you and others feel seen
Genuinely, the curly hair community drives me crazy, it's just so full of the attitude that you "owe" perfectly aesthetic Instagram curls to your viewers. Even if your hair were hypothetically damaged, SO WHAT???? Someone doesn't spend 1+ hours a day and $300/month on product for their curls, CALL THE COPS!!!!!!!!!
Yup! People are allowed to exist with hair so bleached its crispy!! It literally doesn’t matter, hair is literally composed of dead cells anyway lol
Girl had to make an entire video to explain the critics on why her hair is not actually damaged 😭 I feel you😂
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Omg your hair is so pretty. It doesn’t even look damaged. I have curly hair too and whenever it tends to get longer, it tends to get really frizzy. And that’s normal. I wish people would just leave other people alone and let them have their hair type.
Thank yoou!! Yes I agree just let people LIVE 🙌🏼
@@rachaelmerida 💖💖💖
That's what I was thinking!
I wish I could send this to my younger self. I have curly hair, and spent all my childhood, and most of my adult light feeling like (and being told that) I was sloppy/messy/untidy. When I just had very curly hair. That's what normal curly hair looks like. Now I have products that "tame" it - and make "neat and tidy" to match other people's expectations. But you're so right - why should we have to spend time and money to make our hair look the way someone else says it should?!! Oooooh, I hadn't realised how strongly I feel about this! 😅💪
Same here! Hated my hair growing up and wish I saw others embracing their own hair! So thats what I’m here doing now ☺️ I’m so goad you feel seen 🫶🏼
i have curly/coily hair that is super healthy. but the coily part doesnt define easily so some people assume my hair is damaged when i just have many different hair types
People assumptions are so wrong its so frustrating!
@@rachaelmeridaAnd not their business anyway 🤷♀️
The amount of times I've had to explain to people that people with curly hair have curly flyaways/baby hairs which means that it looks frizzy Damaged curly hair is, in fact, LESS CURLY because the damage affects the curl pattern. Curly/wavy hair will always look a bit frizzy at its healthiest. (You have beautiful hair btw)
Yes thank you! 🙌🏼 like I have curly hair, my baby hair and regrowth is going to also be curly lol
Thank you so much ☺️❤️
Thank you for posting this, I have a very similar hair texture to yours and and I've never heard an explanation for why my hair is frizzy that makes so much sense 🥹 I used to spend so much time and money on deep conditioners and anti-frizz serums trying to "fix" it cos I thought my hair was dry and damaged but it was actually already very healthy without all that expensive crap. I'm glad I've long given up on trying to make my hair do something it never will, life's too short for that bullshit ❤
Love that ❤️
And people say that doing the 6-10 step curly girl method routine is self care and absolutely necessary for beautiful hair when it’s not affordable or sustainable. And you don’t have to have perfect hair. Are you clean? Do you think you look good? Good! I’ll stick to my Nexus shampoo and Garnier conditioner, and hair stuck in a braid 60% time thank you.
Yes shampoo and conditioner are the only necessities! Everything else is over and above and not necessary! We love accessibility I’m glad you found products that work for you ❤️
I do braids too! My hair just got to butt length and if I don’t braid it at night, I wake up with a massive knot at the base of my neck.
Im literally so happy and relieved to see this video because my hair is literally just like yours and ive been seeing these influencers with beautiful glossy curls. This video feels like a breath of fresh air just after rain❤️
I am so glad ❤️ I love this comment and this makes me so happy because I didn’t see this hair growing up either and always hated my hair, now I get to represent it a little bit ☺️
Same, thank you ❤
people are so used to social media perfect hair, yours actually looks soft and healthy. and it looks great, don’t even listen to those commenters
Thank you!!
Frizzy is often caused by damage, when hair is too dry. But it's also a hair type. Your hair doesn't look damaged. Otherwise it would already break and didn't grow that long. I also have this type of hair and I heat straighten it since 13 years old. Cuz I can't stand it. No matte how much I hydrate it, which kind of hair mask or conditioner I use. Even when I'm lucky and get nice waves after washing, the air humidity always ruins it. And I end up straightening it anyways.
Exactly! I live in a humid place too so I totally understand! ❤️
I genuinely think anyone saying something bad about your hair is simply jealous. Your hair is a 10/10
Thank you!!
THANK YOU!!! I had kinky, coiled, frizzy hair when o was younger, and I had one girl in particular who annoyed the heck out of me over my “damaged” hair. She kept recommending products and tools to me, and I kept telling her I was fine with my natural hair. Thank you for speaking out!
The unsolicited advice is awful! Leave people alone, I’m sorry you went through that ❤️
@@rachaelmerida 💖
we have very similar hair 🩵 i’ve been self conscious of the frizz bc absolutely no one on social media embraces it so it’s nice to see you talk about it! my hair is long too and the curl pattern is different throughout bc of the weight, I don’t feel so alone now 🥺 your hair is gorgeous!!
Thank you!! I’m so glad this is encouraging thats my goal ☺️
Thank you so much for explaining the hair type that I've had for my entire life, in like the span of two minutes! I'm from south India and my hair is OUTRAGEOUSLY poofy and frizzy, it gets tangles quickly and I try to make a joke out of it but it really does make me feel awful about myself, I don't want frizzy hair, and I've tried all sorts of treatments, I oil my hair, go to the salon regularly but it just doesn't stick. I hate it when people try comfort me saying "you just don't know how to take care of your hair" or simply offer me their honesty by saying it takes up half the room. I got these gorgeous layered haircut a few days ago, and right after I washed it, it was back to normal ! I want to straighten and curl it again, but I'm not sure if it's the right way, if anyone else has my frizzy Indian hair, or just has my experiences, please give me any advice ❤
You are so welcome ❤️ I’m glad you found this video ☺️ mine is always frizzy too and I understand the constantly tangled, I can brush my hair and then if I move it or try to style it, in 2 seconds I’ll need to brush it again!
I’m obviously not Indian so my hairs probably a bit different than yours but since no one in your life tells you I’m going to tell you, you’re hair is gorgeous, there is nothing wrong with it, and there is nothing inherently wrong about frizz ❤️ you are allowed to exist exactly how your hair grows from your head babes 🫶🏼 I know thats really hard especially when people are telling you otherwise, sending hugs 🫶🏼
Hey Sahana, you can try a curly hair routine. It does reduce frizz at least for 2-3 days after washing hair. But yeah, it is slightly high maintenance for sure.
And yeah, I agree with what Rachael says too!
Thank you so much Rachel !! I'm in my early teens and so I can only do so much for my hair, although I have started a curly hair routine, taking advice from RUclipsrs such as yourself you, all with really nice hair and I've started something of a routine. I hope I can achieve your thick and long hair someday and look confident and beautiful in it ❤️❤️
@@ThePickledStories yeah I've been trying to find a decent routine for myself! I don't want anything too expensive and complex so Im planning on trying some tips from my Indian ancestors, called Ayurveda. If it's not too much to ask, do you have any tips to ease frizz? Thank u ☺️
My hair is pretty long like yours and it is curly at the ends,kinda similar to yours
Whenever I looked at influencers with silky hair it made me feel insecure about my hair so thank you sm for this
I’m so glad you saw this ❤️🫶🏼
Thank you so much for this! I have high porosity hair, and I’m the only girl in my family with this hair type. Still kinda confused on how to actually care for it, but I’m glad to see someone else with natural frizz
I’m also the only one in my family with this hair type, and my honest advice would be to research the necessities for it. Definitely avoid all the unnecessary products that are just to target insecurities, but maybe look into a hairstylist that specializes in your hair type and certain things that’ll actually help. Good luck, and hopefully this is something actually helpful haha
You are so welcome ❤️
OMG! Thank you so much for this! I have wavy/curly hair naturally & it gets frizzy so fast no matter what i do.
Then on the days i blow dry or straighten my hair my boss tells me how nice my hair looks 😅 and thanks but i prefer my natural texture.
Same! I live in a humid area and the humidity is always changing too, I like driving with the windows down and just being outside, like frizz is unavoidable for me I just want to live my life! I hate the whole “you look better with straight hair” vibes! Natural texture >>
Your hair reminds me of Victorian & Edwardian era photography of ladies with extremely long hair. They had this texture too a lot of times.
Aaah thank you so much!!
I’ve had people tell me that my hair was damaged. It was virgin hair that I had recently grown out and I didn’t use heat on it ever, the entire time I was growing it out, and I didn’t use brushes or styling products and I used expensive shampoo and conditioner. People still called it damaged. There was no damage. I went to cosmetology school, I know what actual damage is.
People assume that if hair isn’t stick straight it’s damaged. That’s not how it works.
Exactly! Different hair types exist!!
I always LOOOOVED the small curls some of my classmates had going on in the front when wearing a ponytail, I even tried curling my baby hairs to get the look. It's not damaged, it's adorable.
Thank you so much! I love the little curlies now too ☺️
You have beautiful hair!! Ignore the mean comments 😊
Thank you!! ☺️❤️
I actually think hair that’s like this is really beautiful. As someone with curly hair, my hair frizzes a lot but not naturally. You’re very pretty random lady on the internet!
Haha thank you so much!!
i think your hair actually looks really pretty
Thank you!!
The fact that media has taught people that you have to look like these fake models is ridiculous. They don't even actually look like that. You and your hair are perfect however they are.
Yes 🙌🏼 so much lighting, photoshop, personal trainers, money, influence etc. Thank you ❤️
My hair is pretty much identical to yours! Humidity makes SUCH an impact, and my hair is always frizzy due to the stretched curl pattern and new growth. Thank you for making this video!
I’m so glad you stumbled across it!
I used to be the curly girl who did all the hair routines with multiple products. But then I realized that I was spending too much money, putting in too much time, and sometimes adjusted my schedule bc it was my wash day, or it was humid outside. Finally, I had enough. I shampoo my hair when it feels dirty, I condition it when I shower, and use no styling products. I’ve embraced my frizz and don’t care about what my hair “should” look like. It’s very liberating to not be hyper focused on one aspect of me. I have plenty of other things that I’d rather spend my energy on.
I love this ❤️ cool to hear from the perspective of someone who HAS done it and can confirm it’s a lot.
Thats exactly my thinking, I just don’t want one aspect of me to consume my life or change what I do on certain days, I don’t want my hair to control me!
Hair lessons 101. If anyone is to educate others on hair, it would the person with 4 ft of hair. You have incredibly beautiful hair. Cheers, Ada.
Thank you ❤️
I love your hair! It's beautiful!!!❤
Thank you so much!! ☺️❤️
I'm bald and I would give anything to have hair again especially hair like yours!! Your hair is awesome!!
Thank you!! ☺️❤️
My hair has been damaged not by heat or bleach, but by pulling out my hair for several years in the past. The areas that I pulled from the most have a frizzier texture that the parts that got less action. Pulling obviously added to the volume of hairs that were growing to meet the full length of my hair, so my hair has always been crazy frizzy.
People have often asked me why I let it run wild and don't style it... I don't even really find that insulting anymore I just think it's so weird to expect I would want to meet their standard for pretty hair lol. I was bald in middle school -- you can't hurt me Sarah.
“I was bald in middle school you can’t hurt me” 😭💀 Character development 😌💅🏼 no but seriously trichotillomania exists, chronic illness exists, disabilities, neurodivergence, burnout, lack of time, money, resources, like no one HAS to style their hair and some people CAN’T
This was such a refreshing video and a real call back down to earth.
I’m so glad ❤️
I have really frizzy hair, I was super mad at it today because the whole top of my head was just FRIZZ. I was thinking my hair was damaged somehow, even though I really don’t do much to it. This video made me feel a bit better about it :)
I’m so glad ☺️🫶🏼
I have hair just like yours and rn my hair barely reaches my butt because over a year ago I cut my hair, at this point I don’t even care what my hair looks like, if it isn’t tangles and it’s clean, and I can still somewhat style it, its gonna be fine.
Its gonna be fine 🙌🏼 YES people forget shampoo and detangling IS HAIR CARE! You don’t need to style it, that isn’t care its purely aesthetic!
i have similar hair. even if i blow dry it or straighten it, a little bit of humidity or sweat starts making it frizzy again. im just trying to accept the texture but i really want my waves to shine through more
I live in a humid area so I feel you! Basically perpetual state of frizz! Good luck on your frizz accepting journey ❤️
I have that same hair. It’s not damage it’s just the hair we were born with. My hair is also very long, about little over two feet…
Yes 🙌🏼 theres simply different hair types and people can’t seem to understand
I have hair like this, I could never get rid of the frizz no matter what! Lol
Same! Thats why I’m trying to normalize it! There isn’t anything wrong with frizzy hair and its nearly impossible to stop for some (not to mention how much time/money/effort/product is involved! Its just not accessible for many, myself included!)
Bruh for those who say spending on so much hair products and routines a day is self care. Not it’s not. Self care is basic hygiene and maintenance so your hair doesn’t fall off to non existence or it’s not tangled to the point it hurts. All beyond that is just spending time on making your hair looks good the way you wish it to be, unlike what you have currently.
And it’s not applicable for all people. People might not be that bothered to make their physical appearance different than what they naturally look like.
Yes yes yes 🙌🏼 shampoo conditioner and detangling IS hair care! Everything past that is styling!! And styling is NOT necessary to life. My appearance is the least important thing about me. People are allowed to exist in whatever way they want to! Not the mention the ableism that goes into all this too, expecting curlyheads to only exist with perfect curls and styling their hair all the time!
I have a similar hair type (definitely not as long though!) and I'm always insecure about the frizz, no matter what I do it never goes away so this makes me feel better 😅
I’m so glad ❤️
If you make this a short, it will probably go viral ❤
Ugh I tried to edit it down to a minute but I thought everything in there was important 😩 so I couldn’t get it short enough, maybe I can’t speed it up that would make it shorter!
The thing I have learned about hair is, you need to lean into its type, and embrace it. If you use techniques, tools, and products designed for your hair type, it will look amazing, even unstyled. Does that mean I make all my own products and am very particular about what touches my hair? Absolutely, but it looks exactly as healthy as I want it to be! If you're happy with how your hair looks, that's all that matters.
“If you’re happy with how your hair looks, that’s all that matters” yes yes yes 🙌🏼🫶🏼
Your voice is so soothing 😮
Haha thank you!
Omg your hair is so long, prettyy
Thank you!!
Girl, i feel you
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High porosity gang!! ✨ And 2a-b here, on wash day my waves are waving. and the day after, most waves go away (unless I refresh but I'm not THAT obsessed with keeping it wavy). Or some sections will be more wavy while some sections are flat, making it look unruly (but its actually fine). Also for the side I sleep on, the waves are always flatter on that side haha
Also I went thru some hair loss last year, so many hairs are different lengths rn. Still get quite a few unruly ones. I have a few white hairs popping up too, and because theyre still so short I call them my 'antennas' lol
I wish my hair was wavier like yours!! Mine is nearly mid back, idk if ill go as long as you but props to you for taking great care of your hair ✨
Edit: if anyone is really concerned with frizz, the classic satin pillowcase works wonders. And in the hot humid summer, a shampoo/conditioner with no humectants (ie glycerine, honey) helps a lot too.
And I will say, my bf prefers frizzy hair. That's bc he is thinning, so it helps hide thin spots for him.
Thanks for this lovely comment! ☺️ Wavy/curly hair will never look how it does on day 1 on any other days and thats why I hate this whole “curly hair needs to be perfect and not frizzy” thing because its simply not possible, like you said unless you are refreshing constantly which is just unrealistic!
I like being outside and driving with the windows down, I’m not going to “fix” my hair 7 times a day! Also I relate to the hair being flatter on one side, I’m a side sleeper too haha😅
I also had some significant hair loss last year from health problems, the regrowth is going to be frizzy 🤷🏻♀️ I LOVE that you call your lil white hairs antennas thats so cute! 😊
I feel so seen! My hair is pretty frizzy most of the time, but I literally haven't used heat on it in at least 5 years, none at all. I never rub it with a towel. I am very careful about combing/brushing it, I always wait until it's basically fully dry to put anything through it. Never put a ponytail in if it's wet, and only loosely when it's dry. Sleep on a silky pillowcase. My hair is just frizzy 🤷♀️
YES 🙌🏼 different hair types exist and thats OKAY! Also I think frizz is a sign of life too! Like I love being outside and in the wind and driving with the windows down, like I like LIVING! My hairs gonna be frizzy 🤷🏻♀️
Louder for the people in the back! I have puffy high porosity hair, whenever I go to the salon I get tired of hearing that it’s damaged once it’s brushed out… Well duh, it doesn’t look like this when I wash it. It can’t be damaged because I used heat maybe once in the past year and wear protective hairstyles, it’s probably the healthiest hair you’ll ever see!
Yes! People just have a fundamental misunderstanding its so frustrating! My hair looks “unhealthy” or “worse” when I brush it and I also find kind of when I straighten it too, its like you can tell its straightened curly hair and not straight hair if that makes sense lol
I like the way you’re explaining
Thank you ❤️
You’re welcome❤️
People are absolutely ridiculous. I used to get called the Grudge because my hair was long, thick, and frizzy. I just got my hair to butt length again since I was a kid. Had it at a bob or shorter for so long because I internalized all of the bullying. Now I love my hair, and I’m hoping to get it to your length! I haven’t gotten a cut in years. I did learn how to clean up my ends though.
I love that you are taking that back and doing what YOU want ❤️ good luck on your growing journey ☺️
@@rachaelmerida Thank you so much! You hair is fantastic btw. The narual curls are awesome.
Thank you ☺️
As someone with the same hair length and type ,and even high prositiy hair ,i can tell this is not damaged but the split ends caused by brushing out the tangles and maybe also breakage caused by brushing such long hair , sometimes i lose patience and brutally brush them 😂btw you and your hair are so pretty ♥️
AHAHAH I couldn’t handle the brushing so I just stopped 💀 I detangle in the shower with conditioner in but thats it LOL you are so right brushing rips out SOOO MUCH
@@rachaelmerida like they say beauty comes with pain 😭♥️
Your hair is gorgeous I love it so much!!! And I love how you are saying that it’s not damaged because I have went through so much hair cuts thinking I had “damaged” hair when really it is just wavy and frizzy I don’t have curls just waves but it always has “flyaways”…which everyone always say is a sign of damage but it’s not always!!
Thank you!! 🫶🏼 yes the whole flyaways are damage is so frustrating! Flyaways were a really big *thing* for me growing up like they were so demonized in the early 2000s for some reasons (still are) but haven’t heard the term flyaways as much recently its just changed to frizz in recent years. And thats exactly why I’m here, to represent normal frizzy hair ❤️
My hair is also like yours! People always said that my hair is damaged, but even when I tried to do hair care, my hair is still same as before I do hair care
Same here! Its just my hair type 🤷🏻♀️ people can’t seem to understand different hairtypes exist!
I have similar hair, but it goes to my chest. People get surprised it is so soft because they think frizz=damage. Like, no, I take care of my hair, it just isn't straight.
“I take care of my hair it just isn’t straight” YES 🙌🏼 story of my life lol my hair is super soft too but people can’t seem to wrap their head around different hair types existing!
I've always had damaged-looking hair. I've had hair stylists literally hold up strands of my hair in disgust. I finally chopped it all off and kept it short, even though I'd love to have long hair. I never iron it or use heat, I've used satin pillow cases, and I don't use harsh chemicals in my hair. Maybe mine is just "high porosity?"
Yes if you do all those things its just your hair type hun ❤️mine is like that too, its always looked like this, I’ve never dyed it either. Different hair types and textures exist and that is OKAY 🫶🏼🙌🏼
I’m so happy to see someone with hair so similar to mine 😭
I’m so glad you feel seen 🫶🏼☺️
@@rachaelmerida🫶
thankgod i came across this video 😭 i would really get sad because i thought hair is 'damaged' and i dont have the time or money for a whole hair care routine just for my wavy hair. thanks to u, i feel more comfortable with my hair now 💗
I’m so glad ❤️
I adore how you explained this😂 Beautiful hair, looks perfect✨✨✨
Thank you!! ❤️
My hair is a lot like this, though less curly. I don't like the frizz myself. No, its not damaged, unless you want to consider it genetically damaged, which isn't really accurate. But frizzy hair IS somewhat more fragile than a thicker smoother type if hair. Some conditioners do nothing to our type of hear, but a few do a decent job of coating the hair with a smoothing and protective outer coat, while not making everything oily or sticky. V05 Moisture Milk is the best I've personally tried, though I've never tried any haur care products in the top price tier.
Yes “genetically damaged” would be silly! You are right, its a little more prone to damage. I also find different products work (or don’t work) differently on my hair as well! Thanks for the recommendation!
Honestly your hair look very healthy and it doesn't look like you have split ends either just lot's of baby hair and 8 YEARS!!!!! proud of you 👏 🥰 💛
Thank you so much!! ☺️❤️
This video is underrated
Thank you ❤️
Hair twins! Except I’ve been straightening my hair after every wash since puberty because I can’t deal with it looking different all the time! Lol
Straightening is a valid choice ❤️
My hair is in a short bob now and very curly. When it was longer (not nearly as long as yours) it was wavy. Because I'm an older lady my friends suggested I should get a shorter style and a few people made disparaging comments. I prefer my hair short now but I feel we should wear it the way we like it ❤
Hi there Jane! I love this comment ❤️ you are so right we should wear our hair exactly how we want ☺️ I don’t like the whole “older women need short hair” pressure either, mature women with long hair are stunning to me ☺️ I am so glad you enjoy your short curls now
@rachaelmerida
Thanks Rachel. It's so nice to get a reply from you 💖
My hair is just like yours!😂
Haha twins!
THIS IS SO REAL. MY HAIR IS LIKE THIS TOO BUT I TEND TO STRAIGHTEN IT MORE NOW LOL 😭
And that is valid too ❤️ just remember theres nothing wrong with leaving it natural either 🫶🏼 frizzy hair is gorg
Speak louder for the people in the back. I am a girl and i have frizzy hair and for the longest i thought my hair is damaged despite me never styling it the twenty years of my life. I only straightened it five times 🤷🏻♀️ so yeah not everyone has silky, smooth hair 😭😭
Same here! I’ve straightened it maybe 3 times? In the last 8 YEARS! Theres different hair types, frizz is perfectly fine and its not always a sign of damage ❤️
Your hair is beautiful. It doesn’t look damaged at all
Thank you!! ❤️
Your hair is beautiful
Thank you ❤️
I actually like how frizzy hair looks on me. I spent years intentionally trying to damage my hair to get it to look messier and more voluminous but to no avail 😂
I guess it’s cuz I don‘t use heat to style my hair and it‘s relatively short. It just doesn‘t want to take damage lol.
All that to say I agree with you 100%. Let people live with damaged and / or naturally frizzy hair. People get way too involved in other people‘s hair xD
Yes! I love frizzy/messy/natural vibes! It fits with my vibe as a person too! Cackling at you TRYING to damage your hair 😭💀
I have high porosity hair too and I can never tell if it’s curly or straight or frizzy lmao
@@lillidaisyASMR its a struggle haha 😅
We went so deep into the curl revolution people aren’t even allowed to wear their hair without styling it lmao
Yuuup lol
My hair is exactly like yours and my hairdresser best friend told me to stop using scrunchies in my hair and use a claw clip instead. After one year I no longer have short frizzies. I didn’t believe her but she was right. Apparently the bands break off the hair each time they are used and I used them everyday.
I believe you, but I am terrified of driving with claw clips, now.
Heard of someone who got in an accident and the car seat embedded the claw clip into the back of her scalp.
I do use scrunchies a lot! I stopped using my clip because my hair is so heavy that there was a lot of weight on the hairs that the clip attached to so I didn’t want loss that way (and also the driving thing thats a big one for me too, its so inconvenient to take it out before driving and I don’t want to be unsafe❤️)
My hair actually is damaged, and yeah, your hair is completely different looking. It's not damaged at all.
Definitely agree with the last part especially lol. Im not cutting it off. I want to grow it out to fingertip length first, and then ill start to trim the damage off. Almost "fully" at classic (not all bulk of my length is there yet) so if all goes well, I should be at fingertip in another 3-5 years!
Thats awesome! Good luck on your growing out journey its fun!
I get this from my hairdresser all the time! My hair is naturally frizzy and I haven't dyed it, or use heat tools on it. Yet even people who really should know better think my hair is damaged and advise me to "reduce use of hot tools" 😅😅
Yes! I get some comments that are “I’m a hairdresser this is damaged” I just respond back “well if you’re a hairdresser then you should know its NOT” like different hair types exist babes 🤷🏻♀️
Thank you! My hair is frizzy quite a bit and, like you, I rarely put heat on it. It’s just my hair.
Exactly 😌 embracing my natural hair
As a fellow frizzer I appreciate this video so much
I’m so glad 🫶🏼
I damn near chopped all my hair off TWICE because it was "frizzy", and according to the girlies, frizz = damaged. You can imagine my dismay when it just KEPT growing back frizzy.
Now, i just leave it alone. Let it be frizzy, idc.
UGH sorry you went through that! Glad you know now and let her be ☺️🫶🏼
Your hair is absolutely gorgeous!
Thank you!!
I have wavy and frizzy thick hair and this makes me feel less insecure about it so thank you
Im so glad ❤️
Thank you for this video! Lets normalize hair with frizz, its totally fine.
Yeeees 🙌🏼
Exactly like mine but without the length..
I have like 3 ft of hair and it has the same thing with the frizz, baby hairs growing out, and the curl pattern stretching except it’s dark brown lol. I appreciate knowing other peoples hair looks like this too and knowing it’s healthy since I get pretty anxious about my hair
Representations matters ❤️
I have always had frizzy hair. I very rarely use a hairdryer and always use conditioner. Life's too short to use hair straighteners every morning.
Exactly ☺️❤️
THANK YOU!!!!
❤️❤️
I have similar issues around my ears, even though my hair is shorter. I can control it to a degree with product and styling, but if I go out on a high humidity day, it doesn't always hold. Agreed, seeing those little curls and frizzy bits does not equal damage.
Frizzies are cute! I live in a humid area theres no point of me trying I feel you ❤️
@@rachaelmerida Totally! It should be normalized. I've noticed girls with straighter hair types think frizz equals damage or lack of hair upkeep when it has nothing to do with it.
honestly, i wish i had your hair
I appreciate that ☺️ but I’m sure your hair is lovely too!
@@rachaelmerida thanks :3 my hair is curly and frizzy, but not as much as yours
girl ur so real for this
Thank yoou ❤️
i have the same problem. my friends are always making me fell so insecure about it.
I just want to affirm that you are allowed to exist exactly how your hair grows from your head and that frizzy hair is gorgeous ❤️ maybe look up some old julia roberts frizzy hair photos, or old renaissance photos, back when frizzy hair was the beauty standard!! Remember trends are constantly changing, your body isn’t a trend, you just aren’t matching whatever society has said todays trend is. (Also friends build each other up! Have a talk with them about how it makes you feel, and if they still criticize you, maybe consider some boundaries or pulling away from those friends)
@@rachaelmerida i really appreciate your words! i know we are constantly trying to change for society and it really does tire me out, a lot. my “friends” are nit good for me and i should consider finding some new ones or slowly pulling away. thank you so much! your hair is beautiful.
Thank you so much for your love and comments ❤️ sending love and good luck with your friendships in the future ☺️
I’ll never forget when a woman who did my hair cut off inches of my hair because it was all “split ends” 😭😭 No B***, my hair curls at the end because my hair is curly. My mom was so pissed when I came home that summer. What was worse was I told her to NOT cut my hair multiple times and that my mom said no. I’m black and it took years for me to get all that hair back. My mom still gets pissed thinking about it
Oh my goodness! Pissed rightfully so! I swear hairdressers have some sort of superiority complex. Like I told you what I want and I’m paying you to do THAT and NOTHING more. I’m so sorry you experienced that, that is NOT okay!! 😡
Its so pretty!! Ignore them!!!
Thank you!!
This is exactly how my hair is 🥲
And its gorgeous 🫶🏼