What you tolerate, you fertilize.....If you do not establish a floor, you will end up in the abyss....when a person dishonors you, the next move is to honor yourself by moving away from that person.....you are clingy when you are trying to hold onto that person. Clinging to a hope that is not shared by both......make room for the right person by letting go of the wrong person
I got married on may 29th. He decided he didnt want the relationship on august 4th. He left. I was so broken. I lost 20 pounds in 3 weeks. I allowed him to come back a week ago only to have him turn around and use me days later to say he didnt want me. He left again and this time I let him leave. I told him have a blessed life and I needed him to move out of the way for the blessing that was coming. He was a narcissistic manipulator and several red flags were there I just chose to ignore them. I have been watching these videos and they are a relief. Thank you..
It hurts to let go. But it hurts more to hold onto something that's poisoning your soul! Never tolerate disrespect, or disregard. Respect & honor yourself. Yes!!!
I used to be so broken and codependent but God took me through a major healing journey. I am thankful. Today i can let people go no problem. Today I would never beg someone to communicate with me, respect me, love me etc. If they don't then I delete them from my life end of story. Now I am learning how to let the good ones in. God has brought me some amazing people. And He teaches me how to trust and WHO to trust. Something my parents never taught me cuz they were too broken themselves. Anyhow, God Bless everyone on this channel :)
You just don't know how on time this is. Was crying all day in sheer heart ache over so many years and memories lost. Pain making a fool of me trying to get the attention of some one I don't even respect! Thank you so much for this timely word. God is just so merciful even when we are just so dumb.
This happened to me before. We were dating for almost a year. Everything was good then one day, I asked my pastor, how do I pray and ask God if this man is for me. She told me & so I prayed. Two days later, he was telling me how he didn't want to hurt me & I was too good for him. I literally had a break down. I went through 6 months of anxiety, bitterness, angry, shame & hurt. My body was going thru so much & I lost weight. I absolutely thought he was for me. But I got over it. God helped me!! I had to pray, pray & pray. I cried all the time until one day, it was gone. Later on, I actually thanked him for doing that. I had made that man my idol & God knew he wasn't for me so he broke it up. He tried to come back to me several times, but I said noooo! I'm so much stronger & I have no problem letting people go,
Your testimony is golden girl ! I am walking through my journey towards healing after a 8 year marriage, I was with him for 13 ! I prayed and asked God to restore our marriage, before divorce I was praying so many prayers nightly for marriage restoration and with women who wanted their marriage restored too!!! It was amazing how praying the Ezekiel 36:26 prayer softened my ex husband’s heart! He provided for me (the stuff I asked for in the divorce) and had the saddest eyes, but his deeply rooted pride, hurt, and shame never allowed him to utter the words “ I’m sorry.” My ex and I were good together to me, but truly looking at what we had what are we restoring? A marriage that didn’t honor God, we didn’t know our identity in Jesus Christ !! Everyone says keep God first but no one says how to defeat the evil one via prayer and covering with the hedges of protection with thorns , and pleading and cancelling the wicked schemes of the evil one !!!! In Jesus Name! Pre-martial counseling didn’t even mention this ! How to really fight the real enemy it wasn’t my spouse !!! He hates divorce but in our free will, we naively divorce each other and have it as option when it should never be brought up and thoughts of it taken captive as the Bible says!!! I experienced so much warfare today!!! It’s ridiculous! Satan hates that I’m praying my ex and others will turn to God , like I have and escape the trap of the devil who has taken them captive to do his will!! ( 2Tim2:22) #stayingstrong #notsureeverymarriageshouldberestored
Girl me to was with my ex for 2 years he dumped me after I helped him supported money a place to stay etc .... But god knew it was time for me to go I was hurt for months cried depressed etc now a year later so much strong I didn't need him
stayundergodlsm m Glad to hear it !!! Glad you shared your story! God is close to the broken hearted. He never leaves us , and it hurts but he understands that too ! Keep praying 🙏🏾 I am praying for you !
This was what I needed. I thank God for on time words or encouragement. My ex-husband walked out on me and our 5 children. At the time I was devastated, hurt, depressed, angry (even at God). But the Lord knew what he was preparing me for. Almost 3 years later I am stronger than I ever been. He knew he wasn't destined for the destiny he has for me. He has me positioned to receive the King he has just for me. It hurt more than I can express, but now that I'm healed I'm ready for the one who deserves me. 💞
Im going thru the same thing with my husband but i got 6 kids he left me and n now we r separated n now i dont know fully should i walk away so it good to hear someone made it thru with god help
Jessica Ellis I was exactly where you are at now. I know it hurts and the children are hurting as well. One thing I did differently was I didn't tell anyone close to me that my husband left. The only people that knew were my pastor and a counselor I was seeing at the time, and of course my children. My mom or dad didn't know, I just kept living but kept everyone out of my business. I used that time to build a relationship with God and made sure I was hearing him correctly. My advice would be to seek God like never before, pour it all out. He will guide you on which direction to go. It took me a year to really know that I was hearing from God, I was hearing from him before but I was consumed in trying to keep my marriage and do what ever I could to get my husband back. Which didn't work. Lean not on your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path. God Bless you and your children!
Tinikia Johnson thats what im doing now considering how everything played out everyone knows including his fam too 2nd I'm just financially trying to get back on track it just soooo much happening right i feel i gonna lose my mind. Its just scary n hard to start over know that my marriage might b fix or not but thank for your response I will keep leaning n depending on god thanks so much for encouraging words
Been there done that about 13 years with my now ex husband...it was extremely painful 😖 when he told me that he wanted out but I thank God for setting me free from that toxic person...
I'm healing from childhood abandonment issues, which is the primary reason why I couldn't let go. I never developed the life skill of letting people go out of fear. I knew deep down he didn't love me, but I was deceiving myself. Life has a funny way of forcing your hand. Great message.
With the guidance of your videos, I finally got the strength to let go of a toxic relationship. It has been very painful, but I know it's God's will. I must break this ungodly soultie in Jesus name!!!
Pastor .. thank you for those words .. I let go and it was painful as soon as I noticed a shift .. no words were exchanged .. I went no contact .. and did not look back .. one sided relationship are not relationships they are a transaction where one person gives and another takes .. It was a blessing that GOD removed this man from my life .. the lies , manipulation , jealousy , abuse , I overlooked everything and one day it clicked I saw him not in the image I built in my head .. I saw the demon in him .. when I realized he was not a man of character it made things simple .. in reality there was nothing .. accepting that was a huge part .. so glad now I discern and know my value ..
I needed this word today. GOD is always on time. I was struggling with letting go. I thought everything was over and it is, but somewhere deep inside of me still have a lot of pain. I cried after hearing this message. I haven’t cried in a long time. Wow! Thank you for your pray at the end and your word is true and good for my soul.
It's been 13 years that were together and 3 kids it's finally getting ready to be over cuz I can't fight for it anymore he chose weed and his friends and I can't even cry if I forced it anymore guess I been over it I don't know 🤷🏽♀️
Pastor Blakes this message helped my spirit I was chasing a man who didn't deserve or want me anymore I woke up and your message was confirmation to let go!! Thank you
When my husband marches through the house telling me how he can’t wait until the kids and I and the kids are gone, I put in my AirPods and listen to you. Each time...I get a little bit stronger. By the time the video has ended I feel valuable and justified. I Realize that I am not the one with the problem.
Definitely hard to experience...but oh, so good to do! After the tears, anger, pain & thoughts of revenge come inner peace, strength, & calm faith & trust in God. I've become better & greater just by doing the hard stuff, letting go & leaning on God Almighty. Great video, Bishop!
@@tanyacollins3198 I know this is a older comment. God has you. Turn to Him. He loves you and cares for you. Always put God FIRST and He will open doors for you that no man can shut. 🌸🌺🌷🌼
Wow, it is coming to my realisation that my break up was because of God. After i caught him cheating (i was preg, planned pregnancy). I stayed because i thought i needed him to help me with the baby. It was so hard to forgive i eventually miscarried. I kept asking him to leave my house and he refused. I asked his parents to intervene, he would not barge. I started praying about it and when he moved, it was such a whirlwind. Now i realise it was God answering my prayers because i hesitated all this time. It has been painful and stressful but i know it was God. We even have protection orders against each other.
Thank you Pastor Blakes..This is deep for me but i know it's confirmations....I truly felt like God remove him out of mylife for better and he was protecting me from what could have been worst..🙏🙏🙏
I went through it painful humiliated prideful looking back months later l am very content with my life single but happy learnt my God walk me through its going to be OK just trust him
I am a young lady who has been hurt so many times,frustrated,abused and broken.I hated men,at some point i never believed in love and i decided i will never get into marriage but build myself and fight for women empowerment.I became a christian and started to build on my spirituality.One day,while watching Monroe's videos,i watched one of your videos and since then, i have watched almost all of your videos. I believe God brought me here and you have changed my life and i want to do the same to 10 more girls.God bless you.
5 months out of the abyss and still feeling like I am rebuilding from an earthquake/hurricane/wildfire...I had no floor. I thought I was being Christian by sticking around hoping that he would want to become a good man and I could be there to help him in the path.
Miss Empath this so sounds like my situation, I've been staying and fighting for my marriage for years trying to be the godly woman and do the "Christian" thing but sometimes we must move out of the way so God can deal with that person directly and that's where my mindset is now, I'm praying if I leave he will repent and go to God since he wouldn't do it while I was there. #stillpraying # stillhoping #stillbelievingGod
This video really touched my heart and my spirit I agree with everything in this video I have been suffering from a broken heart for quite some time and I tolerated my ex girlfriend constantly coming and going out of my life and I didn't understand why I would allow her to play with my heart maybe it was the length of time that I've known her and maybe I really did want it to work cuz I felt so invested in this woman that I didn't want to just let go she broke my heart over and over again and I would welcome her back whenever she wanted to come back but at the end of the day my journey is different than her journey I do want a Commitment I do want marriage and unfortunately my ex girlfriend doesn't share that vision so after hearing this video over and over again I'm convinced that I have to let her go because you are right sir once a heart turns away from you you can't do anything else but put it in God's hands and that's exactly what I did I put her in his hands but I cannot do this anymore I deserve better even though it hurts tremendously to let this woman go I have to do what is best for me thank you sir from the bottom of my heart you have helped me out tremendously
I know this comment is going to be after you posted yours 2 years ago but Always put God first ..Seek Him first as Matt 6:33 says and He will guide you and order your steps. Love yourself and respect yourself . 😊
An individual who is emotionally unavailable to you, one needs to let go. It hurts deeply but it's the only way to fully heal. Thank you Pastor Blake. Your videos and words are full of wisdom.
Blessings to you for the teachings. I promise it's greatly appreciated. Especially for those that didn't have men in our life to guide and protect us. Thank you Mr. Blakes.
Love is a fairy tale. As long as you believe that your heart won’t be broken. Ive learned that it’s never wise to open your heart and energy to anyone. I’m guarding my heart with an armor made of steel!
This is me currently. It hurts so badly... all the disrespect I’ve tolerated over the years..the constant cheating, lies and excuses.. sigh.. i watched my entire 30’s go by with nothing to show for it. No marriage, no babies.. just a house that I’m not even happy in. I’ve slipped into a depression and totally lost myself. I’m such a shell of who I used to be. But I’m working on gaining myself back. He wants to try again smh..but I’m sure it’s only because I’m a stabilizing unit for him.. I’m quite sure it isn’t love. I need to stay strong and watching this video has helped me greatly. Please pray that God heals my heart and guides me in the right direction. Thank u sir
I’ve been married 10 years to a narcissist and I’m an empath he told me 3 weeks ago he’s leaving me. I’m holding on for dear life. I thought it was ok to hang in there in order to save my marriage. I’ve watched numerous of your video’s but this one has truly helped me see where I’v been going wrong.
Going through such heartbreak myself. I am a mama of 2 small children. My husband decided he wants his freedom and now I am mourning yet trying to find acceptance to move forward. It is so incredibly hard. May God continue to brighten my eyes to see his glory revealed through what feels like such tragedy to me.
AMEN... lord keep us broken woman in ur arms breath on ur ur will and ur ways father God .. touch our mind our ears and our heats.. let ur will be done in our like satan ur time is up u can no longer hold space lies still our joy our peace destroy our self worth with the destruction of ur poison ...lord we cant make it out u father god we need u everyday in ever way send ur peace send ur help father God heal us make us pleasing unto u lord God ...send us a good godly mate that will love us like u love the church whats to be more like u a man that is lead by u father god in THESE troublesome days will ask u cover us with the blood of all mighty Jesus ..let us lean not to our our understanding that we simply say i surrender all ..i surrender all ...cant nobody do me like Jesus...speak lord in our lives only u know our truth lord only u can heal us father God...touch Lord
I let go pastor. My heart is broken and I am dealing with the withdrawals and grieving rt now. Having said this, I am proud of standing up for myself and setting boundaries. Thank you for this talk. It touched my soul. Amen
Pastor it looks like you are talking directly about me. But I'm healing by the grace of God and listening to ur teachings, preaching and advice. Thank u.
I let go because I was being taken for granted. Men of low self-esteem will control you to destruction. I need my mind as long as I have my mind and Jesus, I got all I need.
I've let go of so many people who did me wrong, some wanted to come back but i wont let them hurt me anymore. Your right it does hurt but you grow stronger every day and make space for decent people to come into your life. Many thanks for this video.
So many beautiful, good women that were broken hearted here. Thankully they came out stronger. I'm recently broken hearted and in a pain. Cant wait for the morning I wake up without it.
I’m a non-believer but you have reminded me to not forget about my own spirituality. Your words are wisdom. Everyone has their own perception of god. I recently let go of someone and your words couldn’t have come at a better time. God bless you.
Listening to this brought so many tears, I know leaving him behind was the best thing I did. I loved him so very deeply when I close my eyes I see him, when I lie down I can feel him, his essence is everywhere. Each day gets easier yet I still catch myself crying the tears will just flow, he was my best friend, I just didn’t see what was coming and when I did I was strong enough to move away broke my own heart so he could be happy. Part of me yearns for him but i whisper to myself leave him be leave him alone. He was my Soul.
I'm going through the most difficult moment of my life. Your video has spoken to me and described my relationship so well... I find so much encouragement in your words in a moment when almost nothing helps. Thank you. God bless you and your work.
I let go in January and it has been the most painful experience of my life. Im still healing. This message is right on time and deals with issues that are still current within me. I know I have to work on being whole so that I can reason sensibly and have the strength and courage to walk away immediately, rather than after I've been dragged through the mud for a few years. Thank you for this and all your messages. More importantly, thank you for being the father I never had. I thank God that he allowed me to come across your channel 7 weeks ago. You helped to save my life, literally. I almost didnt make it through. THANK YOU🤗🤗
Thank you for taking so much time to convey these much-needed teachings. Thanks also for writing your books. Pastor, please never stop spreading your messages. I am truly blessed to recently have come into the knowledge of your teachings. I also have begun to speak to family about your messages. Life changing words that I will NEVER forget!
I can't thank you ENOUGH!! I have been so BROKEN AND LOST...coming out of a 15 yr relationship. I have listened to other videos even some of yours..but this video HIT ME OVER THE HEAD AND KNOCKED ME DOWN. I standing now more firm and with a FLOOR...no more sinking in the ABYSS!!! Much Love I am a faithful subscriber!! Please continue this FINE, AWESOME AND HEALING WORK!!!💙💙💙
Pastor, this is hitting home so personally. My husband was the one who told me our marriage was over and it is so hard to release him because we have children together and I just wanted to make this work so badly. But I am trusting God and leaning into teachings like this to get me through this painful season. I trust that there will be exponential growth through and on the other side of this. And that God can help me change the love I have for him to be specifically as love for the father of my children.
Thank you Pastor. I went through this. It truly is hard to let go of someone with whom you hoped it would work. It seems that love and hope have such imagination of what we can do together for God.....when that imagination is not reality and the hope is continuously met with disappointment. Truly, "hope deferred makes the heart sick." There is so much learning through the pain though. I praise Him for that! ❤
I want to thank you for this message. this message was not for me but for a man that stalks me. I'm praying that your message resonates through my home and out the door of my home to make this man leave me alone. he stalks my house, he leaves me voicemails, he leaves me text messages and I just want him to understand that he has to just let go. so thank you for your prayers and your wisdom.
The road to healing was a journey but through that brokenness i'm Stronger and have claimed my crown and walking in the authority as the Queen my Heavenly Father predestinated me in before the foundation of this earth. Blessings upon you and your family.
I know this video is old but it’s right on time for what I’m going through now. You’re dropping so many gems 💎 that I’m over here taking legit notes like I’m in class.
Thank you Pastor Blakes! Although I had let go a while now, this powerful message has strengthened my journey to move forward even further. It added more understanding. Blessings!
Thank you pastor RC Blake And when you said sometime The heart has to break for the soul to heal this will stay with me throughout my journey to heal my husband cheated on me and slept with a member of my church while I was fighting for my life I was battling cancer and this woman looked me in my face every Sunday knowing that she was sleeping with my husband
aquariusbeauty210 I claim for victory for you. I am dealing with the same. Check one or more of these books out: Codependent No More- Melanie Beattie The Emotionally Abused Woman (Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself) - Beverly Engel The Human Magnet Syndrome ( The CoDependent/Narcissist Trap)- Ross Rosenberg The Betrayal Bond- PhD Patrick Carnes
This was heartbreaking to hear😢 However, I'm sure I will be back to this message after I heal and be in a better space, and be thankful that I let go❤ Better days are coming!
I am spiritual but not religious and I really appreciated your comment about Atheists watching your channel and getting comfort. I follow a different path to my spirituality and you do give me a lot of comfort and so do the scriptures. Thank you. 😌x
This is such a wonderful word, so very true. My youngest daughter and I have been ostracized by my four older children because they do not like our life style. We do not take drugs and misuse alcohol and they find us boring. I am getting over it by the grace of God and with your help. She too is getting better, but the cruel words they have said to her still play back in her mind. I pray fervently for her and I ask you to please pray for her and others who are in the same situation. God bless you Pastor Blake!
Thank you Pastor. You are a voice of reason. Usually I talk to my sons and brothers but, this time they weren't a part of my decision. I didn't listen completely and some were not available! But, nevertheless you have confirmed within me what I already felt necessary. Let go of the manipulator, liar, infidel, and Narcissistic person, even though I married him. That was his hope that when he began disappearing, leaving & returning etc. that because of the commitment on paper I may tolerate foolishness! I thank my parents I was brought up with better expectations, morals and Christ! Your positive reinforcement helped me to do what I must based on everything I've had to experience in such a short window of time! Thank you Jesus!!! He does answer prayers 😇. But, we must listen for the response! You were the first person I began listening to as I became aware of this demonic personality that it raging in this time!! Lord have mercy.
Very true. Thanks for making these videos to help people. Never tolerate evilness which may act loving at start but destroy us in end. Watch out. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
So many jewels of wisdom! Thank you for sharing. I struggled on this year's ago but by the Grace of God He pulled me through and I'm thankful to have went through it because it only made me stronger and helped me find my true identity! Hallelujah
Amen! God sent my daughter n niece, to snatch me out of my emotionally; brutal marriage of 40 years because I had grow. Weak n not able to do it for myself! A true Blessing🙏🏻 Now, u r helping me regroup with your important encouragement n that of God. Thank u for being there for me through God.
I let go and i let God handle them in his ways and time. I am free. Im not settling for less because i deserve so much better. Thank you God and thank you Pastor great true message im listening. You are so wise and you keep it so real always i needed to hear this again and again. God bless all. 🙏👏☺
This happened to me when my ex pulled away I found it so hard to let go I was constantly calling him while he was ignoring me it drained me spiritually not worth it at all just cut ties and move on
Mine ghosted me 10 days ago. I'm broken but not chasing him. Not sure if he's going to come back, if he does I might just ignore him. It really hurts!!
The very best advice that a woman or man can receive in this viedo. After a very short fast the Holy Spirit revealed to me through my journal writing concerning a gentleman that I had become very close to who had misrepresented a woman that was in his life. This is just a small portion of what the Holy Spirit revealed to me quote "unbelief will place you in a situation (relationship) you think you have settled for until what you really want comes along and you're not prepared to receive your blessing, because you got a mess going on in your life saith the spirit of the Lord." You see Dr. Blake's # 6 reason ( starting at 23:02) directly corresponds with what the Holy Spirit gave me and holy spirit continues to have me reread it. There are nuggets I gather from each reading. Thank you Pastor Blakes.
What you tolerate, you fertilize.....If you do not establish a floor, you will end up in the abyss....when a person dishonors you, the next move is to honor yourself by moving away from that person.....you are clingy when you are trying to hold onto that person. Clinging to a hope that is not shared by both......make room for the right person by letting go of the wrong person
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Wheeewwww weee, I almost yelled out. Well said👏🏽👌🏽
Amen and Amen 🙏🙏🙏
Amen Sista Amen 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Good one. Should complete this one though; Clinging to a hope not shared by both poisens your own life and your invirnoment
"It's better to suffer the pain of letting go, than to experience the trauma and devestation of holding on." ABSOLUTELY POWERFUL
ButterCookie absolutely!
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
"The heart has to break for the soul to heal." ❤❤❤
Ameeeeeeeeeeen you said it
As long as you're in pursuit of the wrong person, you won't be (emotionally) available for the right person.
Wow this is good!!
When you are disrespected
it’s your responsibility to
move away from them
to honour yourself ✊❤️
I got married on may 29th. He decided he didnt want the relationship on august 4th. He left. I was so broken. I lost 20 pounds in 3 weeks. I allowed him to come back a week ago only to have him turn around and use me days later to say he didnt want me. He left again and this time I let him leave. I told him have a blessed life and I needed him to move out of the way for the blessing that was coming. He was a narcissistic manipulator and several red flags were there I just chose to ignore them. I have been watching these videos and they are a relief. Thank you..
@@tff8514 Absolutely so true.
Currently going through this
Hello Queen! When the hurting is gone it will make you stronger! Keep your head up Queen and don't look back.
I'm so sorry.
It hurts to let go. But it hurts more to hold onto something that's poisoning your soul! Never tolerate disrespect, or disregard. Respect & honor yourself. Yes!!!
👏👏👏TRUE💯!!!!!LISTEN UP ALL YOU LADIES..WHAT YOU PUT UP WITH ONLY GETS WORSE...LET THEM GO!!!💯
And men... Listen if applicable and also reflect in self....
Amen 🙌🏼
Yes it will
I used to be so broken and codependent but God took me through a major healing journey. I am thankful. Today i can let people go no problem. Today I would never beg someone to communicate with me, respect me, love me etc. If they don't then I delete them from my life end of story. Now I am learning how to let the good ones in. God has brought me some amazing people. And He teaches me how to trust and WHO to trust. Something my parents never taught me cuz they were too broken themselves. Anyhow, God Bless everyone on this channel :)
Amen! I really liked your post. It spoke to me 🌺🌸🌷🌼
I wish I could get to your level of healing because I do beg him to stay.
May God bless you also
So glad you are on the right track. I'm learning as well.
You just don't know how on time this is. Was crying all day in sheer heart ache over so many years and memories lost. Pain making a fool of me trying to get the attention of some one I don't even respect! Thank you so much for this timely word. God is just so merciful even when we are just so dumb.
Ashiah Indigo wow you hit me when you said,” pain making a fool of me” GIRL IF THAT ISN’T MY STORY
Thanks so much
Me too right now
U r not dumb
Experience is a great teacher
U own that sense
U paid so dearly for it
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This happened to me before. We were dating for almost a year. Everything was good then one day, I asked my pastor, how do I pray and ask God if this man is for me. She told me & so I prayed. Two days later, he was telling me how he didn't want to hurt me & I was too good for him.
I literally had a break down. I went through 6 months of anxiety, bitterness, angry, shame & hurt. My body was going thru so much & I lost weight. I absolutely thought he was for me. But I got over it. God helped me!! I had to pray, pray & pray. I cried all the time until one day, it was gone.
Later on, I actually thanked him for doing that. I had made that man my idol & God knew he wasn't for me so he broke it up. He tried to come back to me several times, but I said noooo!
I'm so much stronger & I have no problem letting people go,
Your testimony is golden girl ! I am walking through my journey towards healing after a 8 year marriage, I was with him for 13 ! I prayed and asked God to restore our marriage, before divorce I was praying so many prayers nightly for marriage restoration and with women who wanted their marriage restored too!!!
It was amazing how praying the Ezekiel 36:26 prayer softened my ex husband’s heart! He provided for me (the stuff I asked for in the divorce) and had the saddest eyes, but his deeply rooted pride, hurt, and shame never allowed him to utter the words “ I’m sorry.”
My ex and I were good together to me, but truly looking at what we had what are we restoring? A marriage that didn’t honor God, we didn’t know our identity in Jesus Christ !! Everyone says keep God first but no one says how to defeat the evil one via prayer and covering with the hedges of protection with thorns , and pleading and cancelling the wicked schemes of the evil one !!!! In Jesus Name!
Pre-martial counseling didn’t even mention this ! How to really fight the real enemy it wasn’t my spouse !!! He hates divorce but in our free will, we naively divorce each other and have it as option when it should never be brought up and thoughts of it taken captive as the Bible says!!! I experienced so much warfare today!!! It’s ridiculous! Satan hates that I’m praying my ex and others will turn to God , like I have and escape the trap of the devil who has taken them captive to do his will!! ( 2Tim2:22)
#stayingstrong #notsureeverymarriageshouldberestored
Girl me to was with my ex for 2 years he dumped me after I helped him supported money a place to stay etc .... But god knew it was time for me to go I was hurt for months cried depressed etc now a year later so much strong I didn't need him
stayundergodlsm m Glad to hear it !!! Glad you shared your story! God is close to the broken hearted. He never leaves us , and it hurts but he understands that too ! Keep praying 🙏🏾 I am praying for you !
@@crownedmelaninqueen amen thank you
stayundergodlsm m You’re welcome !!
This was what I needed. I thank God for on time words or encouragement. My ex-husband walked out on me and our 5 children. At the time I was devastated, hurt, depressed, angry (even at God). But the Lord knew what he was preparing me for. Almost 3 years later I am stronger than I ever been. He knew he wasn't destined for the destiny he has for me. He has me positioned to receive the King he has just for me. It hurt more than I can express, but now that I'm healed I'm ready for the one who deserves me. 💞
Tinikia Johnson Go, sister! The Lord will sustain & bless you.
Im going thru the same thing with my husband but i got 6 kids he left me and n now we r separated n now i dont know fully should i walk away so it good to hear someone made it thru with god help
Jessica Ellis I was exactly where you are at now. I know it hurts and the children are hurting as well. One thing I did differently was I didn't tell anyone close to me that my husband left. The only people that knew were my pastor and a counselor I was seeing at the time, and of course my children. My mom or dad didn't know, I just kept living but kept everyone out of my business. I used that time to build a relationship with God and made sure I was hearing him correctly. My advice would be to seek God like never before, pour it all out. He will guide you on which direction to go. It took me a year to really know that I was hearing from God, I was hearing from him before but I was consumed in trying to keep my marriage and do what ever I could to get my husband back. Which didn't work. Lean not on your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path. God Bless you and your children!
L. Patrick thank you for your kind words. The Lord has truly blessed me more than I can express. I give him all the honor and praise!
Tinikia Johnson thats what im doing now considering how everything played out everyone knows including his fam too 2nd I'm just financially trying to get back on track it just soooo much happening right i feel i gonna lose my mind. Its just scary n hard to start over know that my marriage might b fix or not but thank for your response I will keep leaning n depending on god thanks so much for encouraging words
"Sometimes the heart has to break, for the soul to heal." Thank you so much for this message.
Been there done that about 13 years with my now ex husband...it was extremely painful 😖 when he told me that he wanted out but I thank God for setting me free from that toxic person...
Sis How are doing now?
@therealone8628 how are things going?
I'm healing from childhood abandonment issues, which is the primary reason why I couldn't let go. I never developed the life skill of letting people go out of fear. I knew deep down he didn't love me, but I was deceiving myself. Life has a funny way of forcing your hand. Great message.
While I decided to let go GOD lead me to this anointing channel and I thank him!
Pray for me Brother Blakes, I need encouragement! I invested all of myself, and all I got was used and abused.
Miss Empath
Miss Empath miss empath,im right there with you,but thanks be to God for bishop blakes for giving us this word!
May God Restore Everything you've lost.
Alicia Clark thank you!
Cherise Abston Amen sister! We will move forward with God’s strength!
God caused them to leave you! Glory
Yes God caused them to leave you, because we wasn't strong enough to let go, I agree
With the guidance of your videos, I finally got the strength to let go of a toxic relationship. It has been very painful, but I know it's God's will. I must break this ungodly soultie in Jesus name!!!
Diamond Watts
You Deserve The Best
Thanks! Really needed that word today. Gob bless you!
Pastor .. thank you for those words .. I let go and it was painful as soon as I noticed a shift .. no words were exchanged .. I went no contact .. and did not look back .. one sided relationship are not relationships they are a transaction where one person gives and another takes .. It was a blessing that GOD removed this man from my life .. the lies , manipulation , jealousy , abuse , I overlooked everything and one day it clicked I saw him not in the image I built in my head .. I saw the demon in him .. when I realized he was not a man of character it made things simple .. in reality there was nothing .. accepting that was a huge part .. so glad now I discern and know my value ..
I needed this word today. GOD is always on time. I was struggling with letting go. I thought everything was over and it is, but somewhere deep inside of me still have a lot of pain. I cried after hearing this message. I haven’t cried in a long time. Wow! Thank you for your pray at the end and your word is true and good for my soul.
Same here
It's been 13 years that were together and 3 kids it's finally getting ready to be over cuz I can't fight for it anymore he chose weed and his friends and I can't even cry if I forced it anymore guess I been over it I don't know 🤷🏽♀️
Pastor Blakes this message helped my spirit I was chasing a man who didn't deserve or want me anymore I woke up and your message was confirmation to let go!! Thank you
LaShonda Rochell very same situation.. God is so good. I needed this.
Thank you ....PASTOR,I HAD 2 LET GO AND LET GOD!!! HAPPY...NOW...SINGLE!!!...*BETTER...THEN BEING SOMEONE'S ...FOOL!!!
Amen Sis!!!
Amen 🙌🏼
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Been holding for longer than a decade ...i'm done.. thank you so much your guidance had helped me come a long way
When my husband marches through the house telling me how he can’t wait until the kids and I and the kids are gone, I put in my AirPods and listen to you. Each time...I get a little bit stronger. By the time the video has ended I feel valuable and justified. I Realize that I am not the one with the problem.
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Currently leaving an 18 yr marriage due to public betrayal. Been separated for 2 years. My heart has been broken but God is doing a new thing.
Definitely hard to experience...but oh, so good to do! After the tears, anger, pain & thoughts of revenge come inner peace, strength, & calm faith & trust in God. I've become better & greater just by doing the hard stuff, letting go & leaning on God Almighty. Great video, Bishop!
I needed to read your comment. Thank you
@@kristinakellogg1732 You're welcome, sister!
And I really like your name 😊😘..
I was unwilling to let go God did remove him when I couldnt...
Tinisha Washington that happened to me as well.
Pray this prayer for me, thank you i believe if god did this for you I am sure God can do the same for me
@@tanyacollins3198 I know this is a older comment. God has you. Turn to Him. He loves you and cares for you. Always put God FIRST and He will open doors for you that no man can shut. 🌸🌺🌷🌼
Wow, it is coming to my realisation that my break up was because of God. After i caught him cheating (i was preg, planned pregnancy). I stayed because i thought i needed him to help me with the baby. It was so hard to forgive i eventually miscarried. I kept asking him to leave my house and he refused. I asked his parents to intervene, he would not barge. I started praying about it and when he moved, it was such a whirlwind.
Now i realise it was God answering my prayers because i hesitated all this time. It has been painful and stressful but i know it was God. We even have protection orders against each other.
Thank you Pastor Blakes..This is deep for me but i know it's confirmations....I truly felt like God remove him out of mylife for better and he was protecting me from what could have been worst..🙏🙏🙏
Guerlyne Bel Amen.
“ the heart has to break for the soul to yield “ 🎤 drop.. Deep
This whole message speaks to my soul..this really hurts but I’m gonna trust in the Lord instead of myself.
I went through it painful humiliated prideful looking back months later l am very content with my life single but happy learnt my God walk me through its going to be OK just trust him
I am a young lady who has been hurt so many times,frustrated,abused and broken.I hated men,at some point i never believed in love and i decided i will never get into marriage but build myself and fight for women empowerment.I became a christian and started to build on my spirituality.One day,while watching Monroe's videos,i watched one of your videos and since then, i have watched almost all of your videos. I believe God brought me here and you have changed my life and i want to do the same to 10 more girls.God bless you.
5 months out of the abyss and still feeling like I am rebuilding from an earthquake/hurricane/wildfire...I had no floor. I thought I was being Christian by sticking around hoping that he would want to become a good man and I could be there to help him in the path.
Miss Empath this so sounds like my situation, I've been staying and fighting for my marriage for years trying to be the godly woman and do the "Christian" thing but sometimes we must move out of the way so God can deal with that person directly and that's where my mindset is now, I'm praying if I leave he will repent and go to God since he wouldn't do it while I was there. #stillpraying # stillhoping #stillbelievingGod
Miss Empath yess
He can't be a good man. It's not in his nature but he fools so many!
Blessings to you man. Wisdom is like honey, God is love. 🍻
Omg!!!! This video showed up on my notification the same night my husband left me I cried and he left
This video really touched my heart and my spirit I agree with everything in this video I have been suffering from a broken heart for quite some time and I tolerated my ex girlfriend constantly coming and going out of my life and I didn't understand why I would allow her to play with my heart maybe it was the length of time that I've known her and maybe I really did want it to work cuz I felt so invested in this woman that I didn't want to just let go she broke my heart over and over again and I would welcome her back whenever she wanted to come back but at the end of the day my journey is different than her journey I do want a Commitment I do want marriage and unfortunately my ex girlfriend doesn't share that vision so after hearing this video over and over again I'm convinced that I have to let her go because you are right sir once a heart turns away from you you can't do anything else but put it in God's hands and that's exactly what I did I put her in his hands but I cannot do this anymore I deserve better even though it hurts tremendously to let this woman go I have to do what is best for me thank you sir from the bottom of my heart you have helped me out tremendously
I know this comment is going to be after you posted yours 2 years ago but Always put God first ..Seek Him first as Matt 6:33 says and He will guide you and order your steps. Love yourself and respect yourself . 😊
An individual who is emotionally unavailable to you, one needs to let go. It hurts deeply but it's the only way to fully heal. Thank you Pastor Blake. Your videos and words are full of wisdom.
I tolerated a little bit and finally set boundaries and now he doesn't like it and trying to make my life difficult. Trying to navigate this properly.
Blessings to you for the teachings. I promise it's greatly appreciated. Especially for those that didn't have men in our life to guide and protect us. Thank you Mr. Blakes.
Thank you for this. Going through this now...makes no sense loving a man who doesnt want to commit :(
M Mejias you are so right.
Love is a fairy tale. As long as you believe that your heart won’t be broken. Ive learned that it’s never wise to open your heart and energy to anyone. I’m guarding my heart with an armor made of steel!
I agree
This is me currently. It hurts so badly... all the disrespect I’ve tolerated over the years..the constant cheating, lies and excuses.. sigh.. i watched my entire 30’s go by with nothing to show for it. No marriage, no babies.. just a house that I’m not even happy in. I’ve slipped into a depression and totally lost myself. I’m such a shell of who I used to be. But I’m working on gaining myself back. He wants to try again smh..but I’m sure it’s only because I’m a stabilizing unit for him.. I’m quite sure it isn’t love. I need to stay strong and watching this video has helped me greatly. Please pray that God heals my heart and guides me in the right direction. Thank u sir
victory iswon i am praying for you ❤️🙏🏾
I’ve been married 10 years to a narcissist and I’m an empath he told me 3 weeks ago he’s leaving me. I’m holding on for dear life. I thought it was ok to hang in there in order to save my marriage. I’ve watched numerous of your video’s but this one has truly helped me see where I’v been going wrong.
When a person dishonor you- next move you need is to honor your self “!!!!👑👑👑👑👑👑❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Who is watching this in 2022 and feeling blessed 🎉 This is an on time word!! Hallelujah!! 🙌🏾🔥
Sometimes the heart has to break for the soul to heal (embrace it) ...that was a revelation to me...the lights turned on when he said this.
"God makes us uncomfortable to perfect us."
Going through such heartbreak myself. I am a mama of 2 small children. My husband decided he wants his freedom and now I am mourning yet trying to find acceptance to move forward. It is so incredibly hard. May God continue to brighten my eyes to see his glory revealed through what feels like such tragedy to me.
This is Conformation for me from God..Just went through this 6months ago.
THANK YOU MAN OF GOD...Word of Wisdom...👏👏👏👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙌❤❤
Denesha Chapman you are 1 month ahead of me!
AMEN... lord keep us broken woman in ur arms breath on ur ur will and ur ways father God .. touch our mind our ears and our heats.. let ur will be done in our like satan ur time is up u can no longer hold space lies still our joy our peace destroy our self worth with the destruction of ur poison ...lord we cant make it out u father god we need u everyday in ever way send ur peace send ur help father God heal us make us pleasing unto u lord God ...send us a good godly mate that will love us like u love the church whats to be more like u a man that is lead by u father god in THESE troublesome days will ask u cover us with the blood of all mighty Jesus ..let us lean not to our our understanding that we simply say i surrender all ..i surrender all ...cant nobody do me like Jesus...speak lord in our lives only u know our truth lord only u can heal us father God...touch Lord
Amen Amen,
I let go pastor. My heart is broken and I am dealing with the withdrawals and grieving rt now. Having said this, I am proud of standing up for myself and setting boundaries. Thank you for this talk. It touched my soul. Amen
Confirmation Pastor I did the right thing of letting go...the rejection was for my protection
Pastor it looks like you are talking directly about me. But I'm healing by the grace of God and listening to ur teachings, preaching and advice. Thank u.
This video brought tears to my eyes! I look forward to the word...
Thank U /It Was
Hard Letting Go
Of Some1 That I Loved.This
Person Emotionally Abused
Me.
I let go because I was being taken for granted. Men of low self-esteem will control you to destruction. I need my mind as long as I have my mind and Jesus, I got all I need.
God ..is hard to let go .. but I know he doesn’t want us. Is hard I feel so destroyed inside. Thank you for the word.
I've let go of so many people who did me wrong, some wanted to come back but i wont let them hurt me anymore. Your right it does hurt but you grow stronger every day and make space for decent people to come into your life. Many thanks for this video.
Yes Pastor! Rejection is God's protection! They aren't meant for you! Let go or be dragged!
So many beautiful, good women that were broken hearted here. Thankully they came out stronger. I'm recently broken hearted and in a pain. Cant wait for the morning I wake up without it.
This was meant for me my name is on it I thank God cause I prayed so hard last night and then this timely message thank you pray for me
So the 18 that disliked this clearly don't want to let go! 😂😂
Pastor you are talking that real talk right now! It's so timely for me THANK YOU!
I’m a non-believer but you have reminded me to not forget about my own spirituality. Your words are wisdom. Everyone has their own perception of god. I recently let go of someone and your words couldn’t have come at a better time. God bless you.
I pray for you cause we are only passing thru 💗
Don’t forget Jesus loves you and He’s constantly seeking for you
Listening to this brought so many tears, I know leaving him behind was the best thing I did. I loved him so very deeply when I close my eyes I see him, when I lie down I can feel him, his essence is everywhere.
Each day gets easier yet I still catch myself crying the tears will just flow, he was my best friend, I just didn’t see what was coming and when I did I was strong enough to move away broke my own heart so he could be happy. Part of me yearns for him but i whisper to myself leave him be leave him alone. He was my Soul.
I'm going through the most difficult moment of my life. Your video has spoken to me and described my relationship so well...
I find so much encouragement in your words in a moment when almost nothing helps. Thank you.
God bless you and your work.
I let go in January and it has been the most painful experience of my life. Im still healing. This message is right on time and deals with issues that are still current within me. I know I have to work on being whole so that I can reason sensibly and have the strength and courage to walk away immediately, rather than after I've been dragged through the mud for a few years. Thank you for this and all your messages. More importantly, thank you for being the father I never had. I thank God that he allowed me to come across your channel 7 weeks ago. You helped to save my life, literally. I almost didnt make it through. THANK YOU🤗🤗
This was amazing. God spoke to me through you and I'm so thankful.
This message is so true all that you stated is so true. Right on time. A lot of times we know we should leave but won't, and yes i is painful.
No👿
Thank you for taking so much time to convey these much-needed teachings. Thanks also for writing your books.
Pastor, please never stop spreading your messages. I am truly blessed to recently have come into the knowledge of your teachings.
I also have begun to speak to family about your messages. Life changing words that I will NEVER forget!
Amen 🌹 I really needed this.What is the chances of a stranger knowing exactly what you are going through. Instant Salvation,So Freeing. Thank you😘💖
I can't thank you ENOUGH!! I have been so BROKEN AND LOST...coming out of a 15 yr relationship. I have listened to other videos even some of yours..but this video HIT ME OVER THE HEAD AND KNOCKED ME DOWN. I standing now more firm and with a FLOOR...no more sinking in the ABYSS!!! Much Love I am a faithful subscriber!! Please continue this FINE, AWESOME AND HEALING WORK!!!💙💙💙
Thank you so much. I listened to this three times. I really feel like this message was for me and I really needed it. As well as the prayer. 🙏🏽
Pastor, this is hitting home so personally. My husband was the one who told me our marriage was over and it is so hard to release him because we have children together and I just wanted to make this work so badly. But I am trusting God and leaning into teachings like this to get me through this painful season. I trust that there will be exponential growth through and on the other side of this. And that God can help me change the love I have for him to be specifically as love for the father of my children.
Thank you Pastor. I went through this. It truly is hard to let go of someone with whom you hoped it would work.
It seems that love and hope have such imagination of what we can do together for God.....when that imagination is not reality and the hope is continuously met with disappointment. Truly, "hope deferred makes the heart sick."
There is so much learning through the pain though. I praise Him for that!
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I want to thank you for this message. this message was not for me but for a man that stalks me. I'm praying that your message resonates through my home and out the door of my home to make this man leave me alone. he stalks my house, he leaves me voicemails, he leaves me text messages and I just want him to understand that he has to just let go. so thank you for your prayers and your wisdom.
The road to healing was a journey but through that brokenness i'm Stronger and have claimed my crown and walking in the authority as the Queen my Heavenly Father predestinated me in before the foundation of this earth. Blessings upon you and your family.
I know this video is old but it’s right on time for what I’m going through now. You’re dropping so many gems 💎 that I’m over here taking legit notes like I’m in class.
Bishop if this isn't confirmation for me and right on time!!! Thank you Sir!!! I am LETTING GO!!!
STEPHANIE L Richardson an me to
Thank you Pastor Blakes! Although I had let go a while now, this powerful message has strengthened my journey to move forward even further. It added more understanding. Blessings!
Thank you pastor RC Blake And when you said sometime The heart has to break for the soul to heal this will stay with me throughout my journey to heal my husband cheated on me and slept with a member of my church while I was fighting for my life I was battling cancer and this woman looked me in my face every Sunday knowing that she was sleeping with my husband
God please help me through this Pain of letting him go. I claim victory , A healed heart and mind. In Jesus name.
Amen
I am in agreement with you. In the name of Jesus I pray Amen.
aquariusbeauty210 I claim for victory for you.
I am dealing with the same. Check one or more of these books out:
Codependent No More- Melanie Beattie
The Emotionally Abused Woman (Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself) - Beverly Engel
The Human Magnet Syndrome ( The CoDependent/Narcissist Trap)- Ross Rosenberg
The Betrayal Bond- PhD Patrick Carnes
In Jesus'name ❤
I stand in Authority and Agreement with you. God has already done it
Amen
This was heartbreaking to hear😢 However, I'm sure I will be back to this message after I heal and be in a better space, and be thankful that I let go❤ Better days are coming!
I am spiritual but not religious and I really appreciated your comment about Atheists watching your channel and getting comfort. I follow a different path to my spirituality and you do give me a lot of comfort and so do the scriptures. Thank you. 😌x
Everyone take a moment to visit the website of R.C. Blakes www.rcblakes.com.
I love listening to you RC Blake you are such a blessing and what your speaking on is 100.
Greetings from Ireland. You have no idea the Wonderful Good that you are doing. God bless you.
This is such a wonderful word, so very true. My youngest daughter and I have been ostracized by my four older children because they do not like our life style. We do not take drugs and misuse alcohol and they find us boring. I am getting over it by the grace of God and with your help. She too is getting better, but the cruel words they have said to her still play back in her mind. I pray fervently for her and I ask you to please pray for her and others who are in the same situation. God bless you Pastor Blake!
Bless You so much for helping me! I needed to hear/know this.
Pastor Blakes (God's Annointed) only if you knew the Great impact your ministry have on my life and so many others...to God be the Glory
Thank you Pastor. You are a voice of reason. Usually I talk to my sons and brothers but, this time they weren't a part of my decision. I didn't listen completely and some were not available! But, nevertheless you have confirmed within me what I already felt necessary. Let go of the manipulator, liar, infidel, and Narcissistic person, even though I married him. That was his hope that when he began disappearing, leaving & returning etc. that because of the commitment on paper I may tolerate foolishness! I thank my parents I was brought up with better expectations, morals and Christ! Your positive reinforcement helped me to do what I must based on everything I've had to experience in such a short window of time! Thank you Jesus!!! He does answer prayers 😇. But, we must listen for the response! You were the first person I began listening to as I became aware of this demonic personality that it raging in this time!! Lord have mercy.
Very true. Thanks for making these videos to help people. Never tolerate evilness which may act loving at start but destroy us in end. Watch out. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
Wow! This was my answer. Thank you Holy Spirit
So many jewels of wisdom! Thank you for sharing. I struggled on this year's ago but by the Grace of God He pulled me through and I'm thankful to have went through it because it only made me stronger and helped me find my true identity! Hallelujah
Amen! God sent my daughter n niece, to snatch me out of my emotionally; brutal marriage of 40 years because I had grow. Weak n not able to do it for myself! A true Blessing🙏🏻 Now, u r helping me regroup with your important encouragement n that of God. Thank u for being there for me through God.
I let go and i let God handle them in his ways and time. I am free. Im not settling for less because i deserve so much better. Thank you God and thank you Pastor great true message im listening. You are so wise and you keep it so real always i needed to hear this again and again. God bless all. 🙏👏☺
Thank You Again & Again Pastor Blake's For Your God Filled Messages! You Have Hit Home Spiritually on so many Levels!
This happened to me when my ex pulled away I found it so hard to let go I was constantly calling him while he was ignoring me it drained me spiritually not worth it at all just cut ties and move on
Mine ghosted me 10 days ago.
I'm broken but not chasing him. Not sure if he's going to come back, if he does I might just ignore him. It really hurts!!
The very best advice that a woman or man can receive in this viedo. After a very short fast the Holy Spirit revealed to me through my journal writing concerning a gentleman that I had become very close to who had misrepresented a woman that was in his life. This is just a small portion of what the Holy Spirit revealed to me quote "unbelief will place you in a situation (relationship) you think you have settled for until what you really want comes along and you're not prepared to receive your blessing, because you got a mess going on in your life saith the spirit of the Lord." You see Dr. Blake's # 6 reason ( starting at 23:02) directly corresponds with what the Holy Spirit gave me and holy spirit continues to have me reread it. There are nuggets I gather from each reading. Thank you Pastor Blakes.
Thank you so much for this video. Your words of wisdom luminated my heart and I feel joy because I will take the appropriate action