You Are Always Self-Referential! - 2nd Lesson, 1st Fetter - The Awakening Curriculum
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- Опубликовано: 8 фев 2025
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I love that you smile so much during your presentations. It makes me smile too and I realize how ridiculously funny I am when I’m selfing. Because it is ridiculous (and sometimes sad) when I’m in the middle of it. On the other hand, my selfing has caused so much suffering throughout my life.
My husband and I were out to dinner. The woman who waited on us was beautiful. Of course I started thinking “oh, she’s probably a snob”. I put it to the test and complimented her on her necklace. She smiled and said thank you. Then I said it makes you look royal. Then she really broke out into a smile and said that was her intention. Her smile was so warm and genuine. Then I realized how my assumption was terribly wrong. I do engage in conversations with strangers a lot(which mortified my kids). I’m always trying to test my assumptions and 90% of the time completely wrong. The other 10%, shrug, who cares. But still, the responses always surprise me.
I love your comments to much Maryann, thank you
Rewatching for the umpteenth time. I was struck how Byron Katie's, The Work fits in so well with this fetter.
In my second year of TAC and it's fascinating how there are days of contentment and seeming peace and then POW, right back into selfing. An email that has thrown me into so many assumptions. This desire to fire back, set boundaries, tell them to stop assuming things...lol. That hand pointing a finger while 3 point back at me.
Last year there would have been hiurs of ruminating, definitely would have sent the email and wiuld be self righteous.
Now sitting in the discomfort of selfing. Allowing the discomfort of not defending myself or seeking safety. Being with whatever arises. All gufts of being in this incredible community of TAC. So much gratitude to you Pernilla. 😘🤗
Love that so much, Raven! You are so fortunate you have you.
@@TheAwakeningCurriculumthank you for seeing through my typos...a new sensitive tablet.
I just love the way you break things down into small bite-size bits and the great examples and guidance in it all that you give. The repetition is so valued - loving your approach to fetter work. Thank you so much!
That is so nice to hear, Ve. I am really happy you find it usable
Just starting out with these, you point so directly. Thank you so much for doing this
31:02 Me: I’m doing an experiment where I agree with other people instead of arguing when they get really annoyed at me.
Other person: That’s a terrible idea. You could be encouraging beliefs that increase suffering. Plus, lying violates the Buddhist precept of right speech.
Me: You know what? You’re completely right.
This is by far the best comment I have had in a long time! Hahahaha amazing!! thank you!
Love this!❤
I believe my self is located in my body and it’s processes. Without my brain, heart and all those systems I have no self, and I will not be here.
Hello my friend.
May I ask you to look deeper into that one?
Where is that self?
How is that experienced?
Are you pointing to your face or torso when you point out where the self is?
Can you really feel into what it actually feels like to have a self?
Is it anything other than a physical contraction and a thought about that physical contraction?
If you pull the thought and the physical contraction apart what is there?
I would love to do this live with you in either the Tuesday or Friday group.
Much love
"Im not saying go into an argument...But if you would go out and have a fight with somebody,that would be great 😂. Just to observe you"....Oh i allready see,im gonna watch all of your videos. *You adress so many beliefs,concerns we have and just immediately take the "big deal" factor out of them. Keep doing the videos please, i cant wait to hear what you will say about Resistance work...Thank you🙏
Hahahaha, oh goodness! Thank you! I am happy you get my humour. Thank you so much for your comment! Made my day!
Thanks for guiding us. 🎯♥😶🙏☮
Watching this for the 2nd time. Feels like the first 😂 brilliant video!
Love it! Thank you!
Very easy to listen to and relevant
Wow! I would probably die before I exhaust the list of my opinions! However, most seem to appear either in order to fuel, solidify aversion or instead as a consequence of 2 other "higher" fetters! Phew! Thank you for your offerings...Find your relentless clarity and your sense of humor very appealing!
Hahahaha and see where it took you!!! So happy you are here
I found this teaching. I need this way material is delivered for awakening. Feels so natural like learning at school. This material for awakening is matched to me. ❤
I am so happy to hear that, thank you
Enjoying your teaching. Thank you for your efforts and work.
Thank you so much, Trevor
Very helpful, especially making a list of fundamental beliefs and opinions…Thank you!
Hi Pernille, I have loved you from afar, just listening and sometimes tuning into the Fetters. it seemed that when I started really studying them, I got into fix myself mode and all into my head, striving, that I just backed off. But I think I am ready to be more involved. So much has fallen away just naturally in the last two years, but I can see the depth of this work is ongoing. I am interested in joining your Discord group, even not knowing what discord is, and I will become a member next... Can you guide me to the discord group if it is still going on? I see this was posted two years ago. Thanks for everything and for your generosity.
Hello my friend. I am so happy that you saw through that ego movement that made you believe that there was something to achieve and backed off until you were ready to BE again. Well done! Here is the link for Discord discord.gg/EsWjARYy it will expire so make sure you click it when you see this. When you enter you will for sure be overwhelmed by all the threads and all the back and forth going on in there. Breathe and remember that there is nothing missing in this moment, you are not failing or flawed when you get confused and overwhelmed by anything. Just breathe and get yourself familiar with Discord. The majority of people in there are lurking and observing which is such an important part of feeling safe and comfortable. So take your time and keep me posted on how you are getting on. Much love.
Thank you ❤
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Thanks you a lot! ❤
Thank you so much for doing this even though in an apparent "time off". It is still quite a time put in it, and I love your dedication 🙏❤️
Hahaha yeah, you might have a point :D To be honest I really enjoy doing this and as long as I can do it in my own time in whichever way I like then it is actually very enjoyable. But thank you so much for your kind consideration
beautiful
Thank you so much ❤️
Thank you.
You are so welcome
Beautifully presented 🙏❤️🕊
Thank you so much
So pleased to have found you! I have been diagnosed with ADD which appears to present complications re functioning in time, organising and focus. Are these just thoughts and beliefs?
Hello Beth. Thank you so much for sharing! I am going to make a specific video regarding Autistic Awakening Q&A where I will reply to you. It is much easier to do it like that instead of writing
@@TheAwakeningCurriculum Great look forward to that. Just to clarify I am talking about Attention Deficit Disorder. I’m the inattentive type. I know that this diagnosis is often co-diagnosed for those with ASD too.
@@skyofhoney7 Thank you for clarifying. Yes, I was aware of what you meant. I call it Autistic Awakening because that is my starting point but I am speaking, interviewing and answering everyone on the spectrum and there you and I are sisters
@@TheAwakeningCurriculum
Did you make that video yet?
ADHD diagnosis, severe anxiety disorder, (and it is) lol, frontal lobe brain damage, 12-15 major concussions and most likely on the soectum somewhere. Oh, 10 years sober after 35 years of chronic, early onset, late stage alcoholism, which included all the drugs too of course. 🙄
I’ve definitely got my work cut out for me. The cards either are seemingly, or really actually are, stacked against the nonexistent me I am so identified with and as.
I’d love to see the spectrum video.
Love you, your videos, your vibe and your smile.
lovely : )
Thank you
thanks a lot
You are so welcome, Yasmin
To paraphrase Donald Hoffman, enlightenment involves flattening the Bayesian priors that we apply to experience. This lets us put more weight on what is actually happening and less on what we expect to happen.
Oh you are going to love the 7th fetter when that comes out! It is all about discovering and detaching all our attachments to what we call "something out of nothing" witch is exactly the Bayesian priors. Thank you so much for your comment
@@TheAwakeningCurriculum very cool! Looking forward to it.
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Dear Pernille, you were talking in your first video of this series about a group and also guides. How can I join for that? I would be interested and couldn't find anything on the website etc. Thankful for your work and help. Btw, found you through the interview with Angelo. Wonderful interview!
Thank you so much for your comment. You find all the information here: damore.uk/firststeps
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I thought I had a really good opinion that is definitely right: Gravity exists. But I just read that some scientists believe that gravity is epiphenomenal...oh my!
Hahaha love it.. ok, if you are up for having your mind blown.. Take 15 min, sit down and do this inquiry: ruclips.net/video/EYnKMggFxfE/видео.htmlsi=iScaHZnQbb5tGPHZ and get back to me. I had SUCH an issue with math, so let me know where your obstacle is. This is fun!!!
@@TheAwakeningCurriculum It's wonderful! I can see that all facts/beliefs are just thoughts, which cannot be confirmed in my direct experience. There was no issue with any of it! The only obstacle came after the inquiry: contractions in the body came which are related to stories about recent history in the US regarding, for example, whether climate change is real, whether President Obama was actually born in the US as he claimed, and other instances where apparently established facts are challenged for political gain. Sitting with the sensations...
A dumb question maybe but how am I supposed to make decisions? The choice of direction is almost always dependent on selfing …
Is anyone else overwhelmed by the assigment of writing down all of our beliefs? Is that even possible? I believe that it is not and that is contributing to frustration. Can anyone offer some guidence or clarification? Thanks!
Hello my friend. I am sorry that you feel stressed out and overwhelmed. That is not the point of the exercise. However.. start there! When you sit now and feel into that overwhelming task then what is happening in your body? How does the contraction feel? Where does it sit? And what thoughts are connected with the bodily sensations? What happens if you detach the thought and just sit with the bodily sensation? Can you notice the difference in the type of contraction depending on what thoughts you are attaching? Is this a recognisable experience for you? To be overwhelmed by an "imposed" task? Are there any old beliefs attached with that experience? If it mainly in your mind or in your body you feel the overwhelm? There are a lot of goodies for you to look into with this.. but again.. it was meant for you to gain insights
@@TheAwakeningCurriculum Thanks for responding
You are so welcome@@menubrothers and well done for not giving in to an old pattern but truly being curious to what on earth is going on! Well done! Do you know about @unfetteredmindfulness ? it is our channel where we have lots of inquiries. The "See, hear, feel" is a great start inquiry but if you are a brave one then "The knower and the known", that one will completely undercut any sense of belief you hold so only do that one if you feel stable enough to dive in.. Let me know how you get on
@@TheAwakeningCurriculum I'm feeling brave! Thanks for the recomendation. I'm going to check out @unfetteredmindfulness and "The knower and the known". WIll report back.
No opinion is true….💫
Thank you for saying that! Normally its one of the biggies as well as realising that what other people think of you is not about you, just like what you think of others is not about them.. So happy you commented
Enter conversation unprepared?!! Scary 😅
In terms of conversation, feeling into reality and experiencing without interpretive overlay there will of course be no linguistic meaning, just sounds ;-)
Exactly! Love it! Because off falls all opinions, judgements, assumptions and stories.
You are lovely ❤ 👀
Thank you so much
Could you get to the point please? thank you
What point is that? (serious question not being cheeky)
I know I believe animals shouldn’t be killed for food. I understand that’s just a should and not reality. But how can I let go of that? And what? Just embrace the normality of animal abuse?
Surely some beliefs are important to hold. If I don’t think about morality, I can cause suffering unintentionally. I know of many realised people who unintentionally support animal abuse through buying animal products. Isn’t that because they don’t conceptually think about their actions???
It is a big topic you are asking here and both Todd and I have written long replies multiple times regarding veganism. So many in fact that Todd will reply to you in a “Letters to No-One”. But the short answer is; You can easily be awake and actively engage in the world at the same time. Notice what part of your causes and conditions are placing you in a state of doubt and judgement. And if you are up for it and want a reply quicker than the video reply then join us on Tuesday for the inquiry group at 12:00ET and we can talk about it there. Much love
@@TheAwakeningCurriculum ❤️❤️❤️thank you!