I'm £25,000 In Debt | FULL EPISODE | Spendaholics
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- Опубликовано: 19 окт 2024
- Shopping and champagne are this spendaholics biggest weaknesses. Can Jay Hunt and Benjamin Fry cure this shopaholic?
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This 35 year old big spender has a declining bank balance thanks to nights out in private members clubs and an unhealthy obsession with buying bags. Jay Hunt and Benjamin Fry use shock tactics to confront Rudo with her overspending, but can she commit to going cold turkey for 7 days?
Spendaholics is a British TV series where the Spendaholics team tame out-of-control spenders!
This lady's personality is absolutely adorable.
ASMR touch she’s totally adorable lol
Maggie E I found her on insta! Rudo Shinowa
yes!! her mannerisms are so cute as well!! AND WHAT A VOICE!!! i hope she can (or has!) gone on to do great things!!! there are very few people whose voices i can call "beautiful," and she is definitely one of those very few!
I think she also dresses better than other guests on the show we've seen 🤔
And she's hot!
Friends laughing when you say you must eat cereals after the spendings of the previous night? ...and encouraging you to go out and spend again...
Choose your friends well!
There's a huge difference between real friends and drinking buddies. I hope she finds pals who appreciate her, because she seems like such a lovely person.
It is true that when you give up an addiction, running partners fade away, but true friends remain
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She seems like the LOVELIEST person and her friends andddd her sister seemed like they wanted her to fail and just didn’t care
She should ditch all the negative ppl. Her sister is so negative, just reinforcing their mother's behaviour. Rudo, you such a lovely and strong person God bless you.
I can imagine that her sister has probably done the tea and sympathy several times, only for Rudo to fall back into old habits!!
Her doubt is probably learnt from past experiences
It was hard watching her open her heart to her sister and not get any praise or encouragement. She made genuine progress emotionally and practically. All she asked for was for her sister to believe in her.
This! I sat here, waiting for her sister to actually praise her, but nope nothing came. Her lack of believe in Rudo really pissed me off.
I think the sister takes after the mother
It can take a bit of time for us to believe an addict has really turned their life around, a few weeks doing the right thing is just the start.
Same 😢
This is the FIRST episode where anyone addresses the fact that very smart merchandising & advertising people are paid huge amounts of money to make you WANT to buy things.
Tina yes but in my childhood and the rest of my life theres was a simple solution - NO we cant afford it. Believe me it was very effective and still works
Getting the voice of a negative and narcissistic parent out of your head as an adult is very hard, but it can be done. I'm in my sixties and I cracked it - and and banished the toxic effects it brings to your daily life. It's like flexing a muscle, you wouldn't allow anyone to speak to you like that as an adult, so why let those thoughts reverberate around your head? Bless this lady, she's gorgeous inside and out.
This is so heartening ❤
I know how she feels being picked on from a parent it affects you in ways you would never understand.
And one of the worst side effects is being a people pleaser, I used to do that to the nth degree, it took learning to flip the scenario to figure that one out. Would I treat someone that way? Never...so why allow others to do it to me. I'm still working on that one:)
How do I get rid of that voice? No matter what I do in my live, that voice in my head (my mother) always comments on it, how lazy I am, how there is nothing to be proud of my achievements, even stupid little things like when I don't do my dishes right after cooking and would rather sit down with a cuppa for a few minutes gets me a snarky remark.
Thank you for that, so true... especially being an adult carer to that toxic parent...it's tough.
We need to normalize being able to go out and NOT expecting everyone to drink alcohol.
Damn. Not one friend said let's stay in and watch a movie, buy our own drinks and food? Could do that WAY cheap.
I know, that’s very sad. Where are the offers for potluck dinners, or doing facepacks and movie nights. Every Sat night pretty much, three or four of my friends gather at someone’s place, bring food and drink eachand have a great night chatting, music etc. I’m sad for her that her friends were so unsupportive of her
@@1588chrissy Girls night in is much more fun, sometimes, you laugh, talk about anything and everything, you're inside all cozy and warm, good food , what's not to like? I feel her friends are fake as hell and use her to carry their sorry asses...
@@1588chrissyparty people gonna always have party as priority number one.
Rudo's personality is just lovely and I hope she keeps her true friends that love her for what she is and not for what she was buying them. Like Proverbs 19:6 says: "Everyone is a friend to the man who gives gifts." She deserves loving, supportive friends to help her continue on a road to happiness. Too bad her parents didn't appreciate this beautiful woman.
I feel like she'd be such a good friend. I hope she found people who truly appreciate her.
Rudo is such a lovely spirit. So sad that her sister is cold and unsupportive. I can see how she has turned to shopping for comfort.
Maybe sister had her share of grief but she got to the point where she couldn't care for a younger sister who behaved just like their mother spending all the time?
@@KPlyf Hurt on both sides, clearly.
Yeah she does seem cold and not particularly encouraging, like she expects Rudo to fail her budget but there's obviously some hurt on her side there as well. Supportive people will encourage your goals and belief is a huge component of success.
She has a beautiful voice, a lovely face, and a n incredible spirit! Her longtime friend from Zimbabwe is her True Friend!
She was absolutely lovely- you can tell the presenters loved her too ☺️☺️☺️
This is, hands down, the most emotionally satisfying episode of Spendaholics. Wish her all the best.
Oh bless her heart, I really felt that she needed a huge hug .....
I pray she heals from the trauma caused by her mother. All the best, Rudo!
This show is helping me. I do not spend as much as these people but I spend way more than I can afford, constantly at 0 by the end of the month.
There's nothing worse than debt induced insomnia. If that isn't a motivator I don't know what is. I was the same for years though. Never saved a penny. Now I have a buffer of several hundred at anyone time. Just sits there, but its great to just have it there.
Just have to be aware of what u already got, so not buy what u not really need. limit urself so much a week and put rest away to save any. i have even kinda hid money not sure i had till i checkd envelopes and find money i left in it to save and spend for any i really want or wait for a period of time and then u have a less desire or want for the item u thought u had to have at time.
Never impulse buy.... wait until the next day and you will find you dont desire that item that you craved for the previous day..
I can relate.
I used to be like that watch japanese youtubers like Nami simple and calm life minimalistic ❤️
Rudo is such a gem! This has to be one of my favourite episodes. You can tell she puts in the effort and wants to heal.
Absolutely love her. I’m really disappointed that her sister is SO negative when she is literally begging for love. This really made me hurt for her. 💗 bless her going forward in life, she has a beautiful heart and so much talent and determination x
Lovely lady. She needs new friends IMO. They seem sad that she's no longer splashing the cash (that she didn't have), which they benifite from if you ask me. She's only 35 so she should think about moving on, it is an age where you learn who's real or not. Good luck to her
It is as though she is buying their company, which would make sense as the spending racked up at the end of a relationship.
I think her friends probably are in denial about needing to scale back in their own lives
Sexy Homeowner I think a lot of people do this. You could have all the money in the world but if you don’t have anyone around you to share with, it can feel lonely.
I realized what type of people I wanna keep and leave when I hit 29, I got very lonely after so maybe that scares her. But the mental benefits after she leaves toxic friendships worth it.
That could be th case but upon a second viewing i think that it might also be that she is not an actual close friend of them. We feel bad for her because we see things from her point of view but do we know if these are people she is actually close with? Not everyone who goes out for drinks are people who are close and would feel comfortable having a serious discussion about finances and as an American who is amazed at how much money people make from teaching others basic financial literacy, i would not be surprised if they didn't feel it was their place to stop her spending or cared that she would spend that way.
He's right! It feels weird leaving stores without buying anything...almost mildly embarrassing. Once you're over that feeling, especially on your own, it's empowering to say to yourself "no, I don't need it today."
I have never felt that way. If the store doesn't have what I wanted, I leave. I dont owe my patronage to any store, nor do you. ;)
I find myself popping into stores and feeling let down if I do not find something...but since trying to cut down I just go ' wow go you, look at what you turned down and how much money you did not spend ' .
@@Mimi-cq4bg That's a great way of looking at it!
@@ultraboombean Yes! I also find myself more likely to pop into more stores and potentially buy more stuff when that happens...well, I used to. I've been shopping conscientiously these days.
KA Suv I will go into a store and look at the price of something I like , and go whoa way to much money and put it back!
Never seen an episode of this that everyone watching actually likes the shopaholic
People who empathize with shopaholics are judging their failings by feeling less pathetic about themselves compared to her....sad
@@halimak625 This woman actually deserves empathy. She has been dealt a bad hand and has decided that she MUST do what she need to repair her situation.
@@halimak625 I don't think you know what "empathy" means.
@@WillowJordan1979 sod off... empathy for self influcted chaos... nope !!!! Empathy is not warranted
@@halimak625perhaps empathy for the way her mother treated her, the fact that the love of her life left her, for the fact she recognised her problem and fully took on board all the advice and is trying everything to get out of debt?
I am not a shopaholic or have any kind of addiction, but even I can emphasise with her. Nor am I one of those 'sad' people.
Please don't have children, you cold-hearted idiot.
I love her analogy of ‘ it’s like looking at a friends husband you know you shouldn’t but it’s looking back at you and it feels wrong but you can’t help it ‘ while talking / referencing buying a new bag lol
Haven’t seen a soul for a week, I wonder why?
Change your friends, girl! X
I thought the same thing. A real friend would've supported and encouraged her change.
Me too....she seems like such a sweet genuine soul
It's interesting how many of the people on this show buy all the drinks. It seems like many of them aren't real friends, they're just out for what they can get, then berate the person for the spending habits they're contributing to. I wonder if this adds to the insecurity many of these people feel, real friends would suggest doing it in rounds or foot the bill occasionally (at least.)
I really hope Rudo succeeds, she seems such a beautiful person - inside and out.
Her sister is not supportive. If my sister said what Rudo said I would give her as much support I could. I would tell her I stand by her and believe she can do it. I get her sister is sceptical but Rudo is trying to change. I wish she had better friends. I would love to be her friend, she seems lovely. I hope she is in a better place now. Rudo, if you're reading this we're all rooting for you! ♥️♥️ Give us an update!
You have to realize that her sister had the same horrible mother and has probably suffered as much as Rudo.
I related to so much of this. She reminds me so much of myself. I cried. I'm going to take off from the grind today and paint for the first time in my adult life. Now that I'm quarantined from overspending, I'm going to take this time to bring my talent back and hopefully turn it into the passion I was born with for additional income as well. I've watched many if these spendaholic videos... but I'm especially grateful for running into this video. ❤ Philadelphia, pa says hi!
Did you do it?
Fantastic! Best wishes to you!
That’s fantastic- that’s why these videos are so wonderful. Do it 💗
Very best wishes to you and your finances
A filtration system would be a good investment for her. Tap water in cities often does taste like chlorine.
Boiling water can remove the chlorine tho.
@@yanicromwell6241 I do this n I'm made to think I'm crackers lol
What an absolutely lovely girl and such a gorgeous singing voice. I do hope she's found some inner peace and gone on to shine.
Havent seen a soul in a week..🤣🤣 29:08.. all her friends were money suckers
There is no way of saying this without sounding like a weird, creepy stalker so I'm just gonna say it and be done: Rudo is simply gorgeous - inside and out. The more I watched, the more I wished I could be her friend. I do hope she's financially healthier and emotionally happier wherever she is today.
I felt the same way, so I too, hope it doesn't come off as a creepy stalker. These shows let us really get to know people...so it is not surprising that once in a while we really connect with them. She just seems so great! And we all need to find more people like ourselves to enjoy life with.
You don't sound like a stalker, I think it's lovely you would like to be her friend.
If my sibling poured their heart out to me like that I'd be hugging them straight away telling them how proud and privileged I am to have them as my sibling. Her sister needs to do better.
I think she will, but that it will be hard for her. I watched her face when Rudo said that she wanted them to be proud of her- you could really see it hit her sister pretty hard, like she had really been taking for granted, what a big role and opportunity she has, in choosing to support her sister more noticeably
Of all the episodes I've watched so far, I can relate to this woman the most. Our backgrounds are similar, as are some of our reasons for spending. Thanks for being so brave, Rudo! I wish you well.
i know this show is old but it motivating me to deal with my finances. i am currently £20k in debt
Good luck with it, you will do it🤗
With time and focus, zero debt is to be on your side.
Best wishes!
Pantience and hope you will get there. I had a 35000 euro dept. With focus and the right people surround me I made it.
Good luck!
The Simbabwe friend really seemed to be her only supporter, I agree with some of the others here that she should probably reconsider some of her friends as they're being so pessimistic, unsupportive and really just mean towards her. And that even though she seems like such a warmhearted, open and positive personality. I enjoyed this episode with Rudo, she's so relatable and bubbly. ❤
Rudo is just so sweet just love her. She is trying so hard that least the sister can do is to give her some support geez
That was my favourite episode of spendaholics. Such a lovely woman!
Me 2!!
Me too. I've watched many episodes but this was the first one that I actually liked the person. She was genuine.
Rudo is a lovely lady and I really hope she succeeds financial . I also hope she finds the love she deserves.
This programme use to be my weekly watch. They need to bring it back.
With updates
I’d love an update on Rudo. such a lovely friendly woman.
Rudo Shinowa. She has linkedin and Instagram.15 years later still kinda looks the same still wears hoops and is still in that same kind of profession
It's always bags and shoes because they can be worn at any size. And jewelry of course... it's really sad. And don't get me wrong, I totally feel them.
Very courageous , self aware, highly intelligent Lady , very open
Oh my goodness, I love Rudo!! Open, honest, sweet, smart, talented, takes 100% responsibility for her behaviour. I think she really benefitted from having some actual support for once in her life (as opposed to her friends and sister who are cold and disbelieving of her efforts).
She is very sweet and so motivated to change. She just needed a bit of 'parental ' guidance. So many younger people lack this often because their parents lacked it. It's time for everyone internationally to move from their ' teens ' into adulthood.
Watching this makes me realise how grateful I should be because I do not need luxury items and I've paid off my credit card debt before Christmas last year. I may not have much, but at least I'm not drowning in debt. This is an eye opener.
Well done. It’s a great feeling to be debt free, live within your means and save a little also..
@@tennysoneffie6943 Thank you! It does feel great! God bless you!
This must have been one of the nicest people on this show, loving, kind, genuine, talented. And I really, really hope that after this process not only she realised that she is more than good enough, but that she is already perfect and the only thing she needs to change about her self are her friends!!!! And so sorry to say that also family. What a bunch of losers, healing their own complexes on their friend. How pathetic. Actually, they might have done her the favour and drop off by themselves, once they realised she will no longer pay for their drinks, bunch of deadbeats. Please Ruda move on from them cause they're big part of the shit you're carrying. Sing, laugh, cry, live and be YOU. xxx
Your childhood can ruin your hole life. If you let it. Sounds like her mum had problems of her own. She is such a lovely lady. 💋👍
I was so glad that they encouraged Rudo to take singing class! Music can do wonders.
She’s lovely and so self-aware and honest. I wish her all the luck in the world and hope, that hole fills with love very soon.
Is it okay to say I'm now addicted to this show?
I can identify a lot with aspects of Rudo’s childhood. Where my experiences have left me needy and lacking charisma, Rudo is warm, open and charismatic. It was sad when the program ended because she has such a strong presence. Wishing you well Rudo!
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Rudo is great! What insight she showed into herself.
his qualifications are "he's been through therapy"? come on!
That would mean that most of us are "qualified" 🤦🏽♀️
He's a psychologist, they have to go through therapy as part of their training.
@@hmmcinerney but where did they say that? cause i didnt hear it
@@anangel4473 according to LinkedIn hes a psychotherapist. Doesn't come across as a great one but some of that could be the production team and editors.
YEAH, I thought So too!! Outrageous...playing with people's emotions etc....
I give Rudo a hug and wish her all the best for her future. She seems to be a wonderful person.
It's so nice to see humans use their skills and energy to work together. Everyone here is shining.
Rudo is such a lovely person! I hope she is doing well and thriving now
Yes ! Another show on budgeting. I finished binge watching all the "til debt do us part" episodes
Rudo's sister was not very supportive. Just like her Mom I guess.
I guess it was frustration on their part, I’m sure it was killing them that she was wasting her money away.
She was so excited in Aldi! 🤣 hope she's doing well now
That made me giggle because I'm the same about bargains! She's great!
She really comes across as a lovely person 😊
I was that excited when I first found Aldi as well! Lols
She is the victim of narcissistic abuse.
What a truly lovely person! I very much hope she's been able to remain financially sensible.
She is so sweet and genuine. I think her sister is just a very serious person who has seen her "say" she would change in the past but she didn't really so she's skeptical. That's what happens when you continue to make promises and don't keep them people stop believing in you. I'm sure they both love each other but have different ways of showing love as well there is learned dysfunctional love from their mother. Nonetheless, she seems to have all the skills, energy, and talent to move forward and become a happier and mentally healthier version of herself.
The last friend they showed seems like her only true friend. Also glad she chose the singing lessons as she has a really nice voice!
I wonder how she's getting on now after all these years. Looks like early 2000's. I wish they would do a follow-up. Thanks for posting.
I'd imagine many of them ended up bankrupt or even further in debt. People like this rarely change, the rot sets in from an early age. They just can't do without.
@@johnmellor932 a lot of the people that took the consultants advice seem to be doing well.
Some have even achieved financial security and success.
Lovely lady. I hope her ‘friends’ are doing the honours now and being first at the bar to buy her some champagne/drinks 🤔
i wish her the best... she is working hard to getting herself out of debt and taking back control over her money and life, something that i think everyone can relate to... kudos to her
Good voice!
I loved when she was in the supermarket, it was like she found her new happy place with all the prices haha
I hope she dropped her fake as hell "friends" and is doing well
She seems genuinely lovely and I found it really sad her apparent 'friends' said she was fab to have around because of the drinks she buys and the look on that girl on her sofas face when she brought in the drinks! I hope she is doing well and has some good friends around who appreciate her bless her xx
I didn’t hear it like that. I think they meant it like ‘she’s straight to the bar’ - as in very fun & extravagant (likes champagne anytime).
Reality tv seemed was more real back in the day! I loved these kinda shows..
One year later, I hope she is succeeding!! Her sister didn't seem very supportive, but WE BELIEVE IN YOU!!
Rudo looks very much like her late mother. I have a feeling that her mother didn't like herself/her looks and projected her negativity on the child that looked the most like her. Hope she finds peace in her life and her future.............
This brought up so many painful memories from my own childhood I balled my eyes out. She’s worked so hard to become a beautiful force in the world and to overcome this current debt challenge. Wishing her all the best for a bright, musical future with greater financial security and personal confidence.🙏🏼❤️💃
What a lovely lady and someone who genuinely wanted to listen to what was being advised to her. I really hope she’s got rid of her debt and doing well and also has the live and acceptance that she deserved. Xx
Shes so awesome- great personality ☆
This is my favorite episode in the entirety of this series! Wonderful, heartwarming and inspiring 🙂
Beautiful Lady, and being really honest with herself, there will be a lifetime change. I love the nail analogy. Whatever works to move you forward is bloody brilliant.👏👏👏👏
Her sister seemed a bit spiteful, she was desperate to have her sisters love and she couldn't give her a bit of approval. I felt sorry for her.
What a lovely voice and genuinely lovely person. Good luck Rudo😊
What a super lady and she’s so deserving of a better debt free life for herself. Her personality is fabulous xk
How refreshing to see someone who reacts and deals with things maturely, and doesn't try to deny things or hide behind flimsy justifications for her situation. Really hope she managed to keep up that great work
She's a gem! Love her.
This is one of the few people ive liked on this show. Not selfish, not narcissistic or spoilt. A normal person, who really did have a cold, unloving mother, which led to her low self-esteem. I hope she keeps on singing.
‘You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with’
I LOVE THIS SHOW, BRING IT BACK!
Beautiful lady, gorgeous voice, I hope she continued with the singing 🎤
And she’s doing well in her life 🤗
Rudo ! Your singing voice is INCREDIBLE! i hope after this experience you kept up with your lessons and started singing in public, in any capacity! Such talent and such a beautiful and intelligent, fun person.
what an amazing, beautiful, open and expressive woman. She deserves the very best friends and a loving family.
Shame they don't update how they do
I think by the end she realized how much she spent to how she finds ways to skip spending what she really not need now. they showed all the polish she had and never used realy, all bottles she had and never used any. all the bags she had but never used and just stored away lol. then show she got used to tap water, and sold bags she not want or need any. made her own drinks, and shopped for food to make her own meals.
The “birth canal” analogy was more than I bargained for.
water is not free .... its called your water bill !
tap water is shite most of times too
Very cheap generally
@@yokomodrifter It depends what city you are in.
A lovely young lady, i hope your future is bright and holds goodness. If singing is your passion continue to enjoy it. Kind wishes
shes absolutely lovely and has such an adorable and funny character. I hope she is doing well and found some true friends she can spent her time with and not her money.
Would love to see a follow up - this was filmed what, 10 or 20 years ago? I wonder how she got on. Rooting for you if you're reading this!
Rudo is lovely. I hope she's on a better path now.
I've been here where people resent you for trying to do right by yourself. As a divorced single mother when I tell friends I can't go out to dinner or clubbing and get attitude for it, it's horrible. They are welcome to come to my home, but I guess that's not as fun or convenient.
If they were real friends then going to your house would be enough.
Be strong... the worst feeling is being in debt.
@@KM-nq7ez 💕💕
Weird friends if you ask me...
I love ❤️ it when these spendaholiçs sell the expensive items they bought. This young lady sold a lot of her high-end hand bags. I give her so much credit for that.
Oh, my gosh, what an absolute delight of a young lady! Her voice is gorgeous, and her nails are beautiful without the acrylics. Her "friends" and sister seem like jerks, though. She deserves better.
The hole is caused from a lack of love. Interesting how he got her to that realization.
What a sweetheart. You are so lovely. Stay safe and stay strong too. Big hugs xx