To add to the long drive. Also, remember that men are sensitive and not always verbal. So consider maybe he wants to take the longer way to spend more quality time with you. Put your phone down hold his hand and show him that you are engaged. Open up the space for him to feel safe to be vulnerable.
4 Keys to Be the Queen that Inspires a King: 1) Know your value and embody it in your life 2) Practice sound judgement regularly 3) Stand unconditionally and lovingly for men you are in relationship with 4) Joyfully "hold court" with friends and family outside of the relationship Mat, thanks for making these videos and asking people to be their best self.🏆
Mat...I absolutely love your videos!!! Through you I have not only learned to appreciate what God has given me as a gift, but to also realize not to settle. Thank you for your Gift...and you now have a new fan! Many Blessings 😘
We girls are extrodinarily special,but as a Queen we have many duties to our King. He needs to know your strength and his capabilities within the relationship. We must never undermine his efforts but must encourage his willingness to "grant us wishes". Treating him as the "monarch" of your relationship could be the ultimate pinnacle of success. Wow,supreme roll play my lord.
So right! 😊 Been dating unavailable or toxic man. Improved myself, love myself, I feel a queen... Now men I am dating are nice and sweet... not my type at all but so woossies 🥴 They do not stepup or really pursue 🙄 Telling me how they like me how beautiful I am, bla bla bla... But they do not move as if they are so intimidated, though I am showing up as bright, light, happy soft... But nada 🤷🏼♀️ I want a strong man 😄 Getting there I guess... going from one side of the spectrum tobthe other. Now need to find the middle ☺️
Thank you so much for the deep thoughts because you made this Queen realize how I responded to triggers that made him afraid of talking to me. Love your video😊
Mat great video again. It was brought to my attention that I don't know when I am getting hit on. I just figured out who I am and what I out of life. I learned to love myself. How do I know if the person that is hitting on me is toxic or a good person? I'm use to attracting toxic people.
do lots of inner work and build up your "discernment muscle" - often we attract toxic people when we have unresolved trauma that's showing up in our relationships :)
@@Mat_Shaffer thank you. That makes sense. When I find my mind traveling back into my past mindset, I find myself attracting negative people. I bring myself back, more positive people.
Matt...obviously I'm older than you (45) but dang...where were you 10 15 years ago when I so needed all this great info then. O had such players in my life..ugh. I'm still learning through you which is wonderful. You nailed it in this video for sure!! Great info!
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Excellent advice Matt…. I have a man who’s torn between losing and winning and it’s a challenge to this here Queen to make him SEE himself the way I see him!! It’s hard when he thinks he needs 2 wives not one!!
What an EXCELLENT. Video!! I really appreciate all the work you spent crafting this information laden and insightful presentation.I actually had to get out my journal to take notes.😆 You are helping so many people through this channel, including myself, and I thank you so much for it. I hope youre having a great Holidays!👏🏽🙋🏽♀️
ok choose to be responsive instead of being reactive 👍Some women are reactor 😊. But some men are avoidant🤗. Which ruin the relationship. - Good communication is very important. Me if I am silent , thats dangerous bec I learn to tolerate and when I tolerate care is decreasing.
Coach Mat Amazing Extradionary Videos Advices You Provide And Give us Ladies is so Tremendously Learning Applying in our Lives For Our Relashionship...! Love it Coachy Mat way To Go You Rock...!!!
My current person communicates what they want/need. But actions say otherwise. My person suffers from anxiety disorder. He never sets dates in advance and can’t keep promises to meet up. How can I communicate that broken promises and not setting dates in advance isn’t going to work for me?
A real queen is a woman who is feeling so good and secure in her skinn, really that don't need to hurt, competts with others or compromise or be mean. A kind of wonder woman rather. Proverbs 31 chapter from Bible woman
Does the longest drive include booking flights over there he wants me to meet you because he has noticed a difference in me when i listen to your videos. He knows my weaknesses to alot of things
Find a quiet and comfortable time to have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Let him know that you want to talk about his fears and insecurities in a supportive and understanding manner. Thanks for sharing!
So True!! Matt, Why so easy for me to be that queen and evoke that message early on in a relationship, but as I begin to like the man more, I tend to give up that strength, almost as if I fear losing him, even tho he has not "asked" me to, when in fact, I Know, it's better to continue to hold my own my court?
OMG for me its hard to find a king i just broke up because of maybe we are Ldr and he had another Relationship hehe How i wish i can find a truly honest and he make me a queen and i feel he is my truly king.thank you sir mat what a nice topic again😊❤👍
I have an idea 💡 how about you make a video for guys "How to be a King for your Queen" many guys need to hear on how to treat your lady right ✅ 😉 enough with wearing Peter Pan pants 👖 😊
So if I heard you correctly earlier in the video, if you turn into a queen for your husband he will turn into a king for you? I’m asking because my husband and I since December have been Planning our divorce for the last month or two and then we finally went to counseling together and decided to take steps to save our marriage.
We've been in a relationship with 3 months but when I once lightly said that I him forever he said we'll make good memories lots of them and we can be together as much as we can.. He loves me and misses me even so do I. I don't know how to make him commit fully
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To add to the long drive. Also, remember that men are sensitive and not always verbal. So consider maybe he wants to take the longer way to spend more quality time with you. Put your phone down hold his hand and show him that you are engaged. Open up the space for him to feel safe to be vulnerable.
YES so so so important! men tend to be much more experiential and nonverbal when it comes to intimacy :)
HI , IM IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP💜 & IVE BEEN PRACTICING THIS 👍👍,& MEN ARE SO COMPLICATED @ TIMES😧
Mat Shaffer please elaborate on experimental
4 Keys to Be the Queen that Inspires a King:
1) Know your value and embody it in your life
2) Practice sound judgement regularly
3) Stand unconditionally and lovingly for men you are in relationship with
4) Joyfully "hold court" with friends and family outside of the relationship
Mat, thanks for making these videos and asking people to be their best self.🏆
amazing thank you for this summary!! so appreciate it
Most definitely, Mr. Mat!!! I encourage us all to do the necessary work on ourselves to attract our kings.
Absolutely! ❤️❤️❤️
Beautiful video! Just got my new
Man to commit after 90 days of
Dating. Your views are so on
Point ❤️
CONGRATS thats amazing!! so glad you enjoyed the vid :)
Love this so much! I’m working really hard to be that Queen to attract my King! Thank you!
You got this!
I feel i am a Queen in my little way.....a simple queen whose King is drawn by God's working. Ty.😊
🤗
I’ve always been a man builder. Not only does it build their confidence but it takes them to their full potential.
Thank you!
Mat...I absolutely love your videos!!! Through you I have not only learned to appreciate what God has given me as a gift, but to also realize not to settle. Thank you for your Gift...and you now have a new fan! Many Blessings 😘
fantastic that makes me so happy!
We girls are extrodinarily special,but as a Queen we have many duties to our King. He needs to know your strength and his capabilities within the relationship. We must never undermine his efforts but must encourage his willingness to "grant us wishes". Treating him as the "monarch" of your relationship could be the ultimate pinnacle of success. Wow,supreme roll play my lord.
Aww love it my dear! So glad my content supports you :)
The actions I saw in you is making me feel like a Queen.....my King. Ty..😊
🤗
I absolutely love your videos! Great topics, simply explained and right to the point👍🤗👏Thank You Mat
BOOM so so appreciate this feedback!
I 2ND THAT , IM LIVING & LEARNING WITH MAT💜, IM IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP💘/ 5 MONTHS NOW
Yes Indeed I back that..
Amazing.
So right! 😊
Been dating unavailable or toxic man.
Improved myself, love myself, I feel a queen...
Now men I am dating are nice and sweet... not my type at all but so woossies 🥴
They do not stepup or really pursue 🙄
Telling me how they like me how beautiful I am, bla bla bla...
But they do not move as if they are so intimidated, though I am showing up as bright, light, happy soft...
But nada 🤷🏼♀️
I want a strong man 😄
Getting there I guess... going from one side of the spectrum tobthe other. Now need to find the middle ☺️
mmhm the middle is where its at!
I really appreciate this message. I have been coming to realize I need to build my self worth.
huge realization!!!
I absolutely love your facial hair style...looks great!
Thank you so much
This video is exactly what i needed to bring clarity to what is going on in my life. Thank you so much! You're so amazing
Glad it was helpful!
Amazing video!! Lots of good information 😊 thank you 🙏🏾
yess so glad you enjoyed it! :)
Matt thank you so much🙏!! Iam so happy with this video!! I’ll surely have my King !!
Awww wonderful so happy to hear that! :)
There is pain. Because the feeling is true....ty.😊
😁
Thank you so much for the deep thoughts because you made this Queen realize how I responded to triggers that made him afraid of talking to me. Love your video😊
You are so welcome!
The great man that I am with is surely a King and see me as his Queen 👑
I’m so happy for you my dear!
This is the best video ever. I plan to listen to it often. Thank you 😊 so much.
You are so welcome!😊
I felt that in our last meeting on your bday. I was flattered Ty...gmorning. 😘
Good morning!
Mat great video again. It was brought to my attention that I don't know when I am getting hit on. I just figured out who I am and what I out of life. I learned to love myself. How do I know if the person that is hitting on me is toxic or a good person? I'm use to attracting toxic people.
do lots of inner work and build up your "discernment muscle" - often we attract toxic people when we have unresolved trauma that's showing up in our relationships :)
@@Mat_Shaffer thank you. That makes sense. When I find my mind traveling back into my past mindset, I find myself attracting negative people. I bring myself back, more positive people.
🙂🙂 your videos are really helping me a lot.. and also opening my eyes to appreciate my man .. and i realized that i have great amazing one😊😊
Thanks so much my dear!
Matt...obviously I'm older than you (45) but dang...where were you 10 15 years ago when I so needed all this great info then. O had such players in my life..ugh. I'm still learning through you which is wonderful. You nailed it in this video for sure!! Great info!
Thanks so much Karen Hernke! 🙏❤️
Powerful advice! Thank you😇
You're so welcome!
God will make me a queen ...ty.😊
You are so welcome Nimfa Bangay! 🙏
Thanks for recap at the end 👍🙂
yess so glad you enjoyed that
Mat this is my very favorite video you’ve ever made! I love it thank you SO much 😭😭😭it’s so beautiful 💘💘💘
LOVE THIS FEEDBACK thanks Raquel~!! :)
SO wonderful. Thank you, Mat!
Glad you enjoyed it!
You are the best!! I learn so much from you, so thank you for all your knowledge!
I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.
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Love your vdos Matt. Very insightful. 👍
thanks so much!
Amazing video
Thanks!! 👍🤗
Glad you liked it!
I really enjoyed this. Thank you.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Wow! Amazing trainings!!! Always in depth! Thank you!
Mat this is golden! 👌 💍
YASSS so glad you liked it!!
Nice overview, thank-you!
Thanks for watching!
Happy New Year to you, great advice.Thank you.🎆⭐️💜
You are so welcome
Mat, This is the best video you have ever done. Thank you, I will listen again, and take notes next.
WOW so so happy to hear that thank you!! truly appreciate that feedback... Im proud of this one too :)
I loooove this video so much thank you for you generosity and passion on this topic
Glad you enjoyed it!🤗
Wow! This is great thank you 😊 🌹#Queen 👑
BOOM yes you are ! :)
Excellent advice Matt…. I have a man who’s torn between losing and winning and it’s a challenge to this here Queen to make him SEE himself the way I see him!! It’s hard when he thinks he needs 2 wives not one!!
Thanks so much my dear!
EXCELLENT THANK YOU! GREETINGS FROM GREECE!
greetings!! :)
After 2 of them I fienly fawned my man n my love n life
congrats!!
Thank you so much coach for inspiring vdios love it
My pleasure!
Thanks for sharing the beautiful video
so glad you enjoyed it :) so so welcome!
Thank you, Mat...
You are 100% correct!!!
So glad you enjoyed it! :) Many more to come! :)
All is greatly appreciated!
Thank you so much, Vernita.❤️✨
I just love this video so much. I appreciate you!
Thank you so much!
What an EXCELLENT. Video!! I really appreciate all the work you spent crafting this information laden and insightful presentation.I actually had to get out my journal to take notes.😆 You are helping so many people through this channel, including myself, and I thank you so much for it. I hope youre having a great Holidays!👏🏽🙋🏽♀️
Wow, thank you!
Definitely 🙌 working on it.
You got this, Tiffany🙏🙌
Hello Mat, I love the way you talk 😍
aw thanks I appreciate that :)
You’re great! I liked this ! So true ❤️🙏🏽
So glad my content supports you :-)
Mat, how are you..hi i can see from this video that you are good as always..
You make so much sense in my ears ..
I can only say ..
Thank you.
so welcome Maggie! thank you for your kind words >)
My man has talked about a 1st date and going on a trip to see our house. What does think that means ? I do love him unconditionally.
I’m so happy for you my dear!
ok choose to be responsive instead of being reactive 👍Some women are reactor 😊.
But some men are avoidant🤗. Which ruin the relationship. - Good communication is very important.
Me if I am silent , thats dangerous bec I learn to tolerate and when I tolerate care is decreasing.
Thanks for the beautiful share Be Enthusiastic Be Inspired 🙏
Have been patient....Ty ♥️😊
Hope you like it!
This is the coolest way to get these messages across!!! X
Thank you so much! ❤❤❤
So true. Thank you for this.
You are so welcome Sophia Murugi! 🙏
Great insights
Fantastic! Thanks so much!
Gam/Gpm....as long as i/you love you/me , the court follows, I think. I dont know....but thank you.😊❤
so welcome! :)
Another great video 🎉I love this idea of King and Queen relationship 👑💖
Thanks so much my dear!
Coach Mat
Amazing Extradionary Videos Advices You Provide And Give us Ladies is so Tremendously Learning Applying in our Lives For Our Relashionship...! Love it Coachy Mat way To Go You Rock...!!!
Thanks so much Nèlida Velàzquez! 🙏❤️
I must admit that your videos are very good! Keep up the good work brother. God Bless you.
I appreciate that!
Thanks Mat , again beautiful Video ..Barbed comment , i like
that but sometimes we do it ...
True , the Queen should support
her King and I do ....
Well said!
Love it! 👍
woohooo
Ty ....God will make me a queen to my king.....😊
😃
Me getting my emotional therapy from yet another Mat Shaffer video 😊😊
awww LOVE THAT!! :)
I am learning so much from u.. Thanks!
Many thanks, Calgirl ❤️
Thank you Mat for another awesome video. I am going to implement everything you talked about in this video with my man. 😍
so welcome glad you enjoyed it! Let us know how it goes!
really hit the spot! thank you, Mat!
Thanks
so welcome!
My current person communicates what they want/need. But actions say otherwise. My person suffers from anxiety disorder. He never sets dates in advance and can’t keep promises to meet up. How can I communicate that broken promises and not setting dates in advance isn’t going to work for me?
check out my boundary videos! You want to make a positive invitation for a different pattern of behavior :)
Great video
wonderful thank you!
Ty.😊i got it. Gmorning!
Good morning!
Great topics thank you
yessss so welcome!
A real queen is a woman who is feeling so good and secure in her skinn, really that don't need to hurt, competts with
others or compromise or be mean.
A kind of wonder woman rather. Proverbs 31 chapter from Bible woman
I appreciate your opinion on this!
God will do everything for us to get closer as needed.....ty. gnite.😴
🤗
Ty, my King....😊
🤗
Loved this!
Glad you like it!
wow. incredible! thank you
You're very welcome!
Always know your value & add tax 💜
LOVE THIS COMMENT!
Mat Shaffer Thank you for your reply and for all you do to help so many 💜
Does the longest drive include booking flights over there he wants me to meet you because he has noticed a difference in me when i listen to your videos. He knows my weaknesses to alot of things
haha thats sweet!
God will make him commit. Ty.😊
🤗
He said that he is afraid that he gets something good it's going to go away how do I tell him I'm not going anywhere?
Find a quiet and comfortable time to have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Let him know that you want to talk about his fears and insecurities in a supportive and understanding manner. Thanks for sharing!
So True!! Matt, Why so easy for me to be that queen and evoke that message early on in a relationship, but as I begin to like the man more, I tend to give up that strength, almost as if I fear losing him, even tho he has not "asked" me to, when in fact, I Know, it's better to continue to hold my own my court?
Thanks for sharing!
Hola! Ty. Trusting God... 😊
Yes you are!
Thank you!❤
You're welcome 😊
OMG for me its hard to find a king i just broke up because of maybe we are Ldr and he had another Relationship hehe
How i wish i can find a truly honest and he make me a queen and i feel he is my truly king.thank you sir mat what a nice topic again😊❤👍
Best of luck!
You are a gem💎
awww thanks :)
Your videos are awesome ( I'm announcing that in a sing-song kind of voice) lol
I love it! Thank youuuuuuuuuu (also said in a sing-song kind of voice)!!
Freaking fantastic video, Mat!! Thank you SO much, again!!
YASSS you are so so welcome my dear!
I have an idea 💡 how about you make a video for guys "How to be a King for your Queen" many guys need to hear on how to treat your lady right ✅ 😉 enough with wearing Peter Pan pants 👖 😊
Thanks for sharing!
So if I heard you correctly earlier in the video, if you turn into a queen for your husband he will turn into a king for you? I’m asking because my husband and I since December have been Planning our divorce for the last month or two and then we finally went to counseling together and decided to take steps to save our marriage.
Thanks for sharing!
We've been in a relationship with 3 months but when I once lightly said that I him forever he said we'll make good memories lots of them and we can be together as much as we can.. He loves me and misses me even so do I. I don't know how to make him commit fully
he isnt willing to commit to you after saying all those sweet things?
GREAT message here! Xx
Glad you think so!
I understand him....ty.🌹
🤗
I wish men would have these training videos too! How about direct a RUclips session to Men on how to attract your queen. How to be a king!!
Thanks for sharing!
Much better eye color mat!
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
Ty. How are you today .? Gday! 😊
🤗