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As a divorced woman who has gotten back together with my first serious boyfriend after decades apart, I can say what you are both saying is totally correct. My first marriage became a war of both of us competing to be the more masculine, largely because I felt unappreciated and traumatised. This time around I am more confident in myself and more comfortable in my feminine side so I don’t need to compete with him. I treat him like a king and he treats me like his queen. Perfect.
If he's not meeting your needs from the start then he's not worth it. I think the issue is women just think "oh he will learn to love me, things will get better and he will listen eventually" no! If he isn't doing it from the start then he never will!
It's more meaningful to me as a wife what my husband does for me then what he says, if he has a good attitude and serves and blesses then his words are meaningful. And when a woman talks and shares her emotions, she doesn't want to be fixed. So a man can be a hero, just simply by listening to her with interest.
@@Beela2020you are probably right. If a man sees a woman expressing her needs as “nagging” and doesn’t hear her or do anything to change, then she probably needs to leave. She needs to realize he is not going to give her what she needs. Ever! And he needs to understand she is not going to simply stop asking for what she needs
TRUTH: Likely it's him who needs to leave because: SHE DOES NOT LIKE HIM. Nobody biches all the time at someone they care about. HE IS HER MEAL TICKET, CONNECTION TO "COUPLES" LIFESTYLE/ OTHER. He could be using her too, and has to just take it or get out.
When I was vulernable, I was tanken advantage of & just used in what ever way he wanted until he found someone else, then he just kicked me to the curb. I'm not sure if I can ever trust again !!!
I would also put forth the idea that women put up these protective, drawing inward mechanisms, to fit in with other women, peer groups, family. It’s not always about men and I’d venture to say that most of the time it has nothing to do with men. It was never my father that put me and my two sisters against each other in the looks competition . It was my mother. It was never my male friends that insulted my looks as a teenager to make themselves feel better because all they had were giant breasts and I had the model figure, it was my female friends. It was always the females guests that would give me nasty looks as they caught their husbands looking at me, they weren’t getting on to their husbands. This is my experience, however, I doubt I’m the only one. Females do this to other females from their place of insecurity.
The issue discussed around 30 minutes in…I got drunk in front of him. I drank something I never had before, didn’t know the proof on the cooler, and acted a fool. He pulled away. Contrary to that day, I’m not a drinker. I’ll have half a glass of wine, if that, about 2-3 times a year. I just don’t like alcohol and feel great without it. Anyway, that day he really questioned who I was. It was a horrible feeling and I apologized so much about it. I allow him to be in his masculine and I thrive in my feminine. We’re about to move in together after a year of being together. We don’t fight, there’s so much care and respect both ways. We’re both rebuilding our lives and families together after each of our ex’s took everything from us. We’re both healthy and happy and fulfill the others life. I’m very grateful for this man. The point is, we ladies just don’t like to take responsibility when we mess up. However, that’s the key to a healthy relationship. On both sides ❤
I am so sorry for your loss Kevin. I know that it must be hard redefining your life without your best friend and lover. I wish u the very best. On another note u have the most beautiful, expressive, caring, and bright eyes I've ever seen. I also like your mannerisms and calm mild attitude. Keep it up.
Most women care deeply about how their man is and that he gets what he wants/needs and is fullfilled, BUT many men do not reciprocate. I always feel like its 1 sided, but Im the bad guy if Im not happy and peaceful because I am frustrated my needs arent met and if I express that, Im complaining? GEEZ.
Be careful. I had a girlfriend who I went above and beyond for and she still accused me of not doing anything for her. I found out she was an ingrate who just ignored the efforts I was making. My advice, look very hard and long in the mirror. If you are in fact being wronged as you say, then tell him how you feel. If you find areas where he’s done things for you which you never took the time to express appreciation for, let him know you appreciate those things when he does them. Then tell him, “I would really appreciate it if you did … for me too” Often times men are happy to provide whatever you need. We just don’t read minds.
I was always that fun, positive, next door, yet strong & independent and very creative. I modeled, sing, play instruments, perform, work hard and didn't mind doing house work and cooking & doing cozy things...I do try my best to take care of myself without overdoing it..but still can't find someone who matches my energy.. I truly don't know what's wrong...
15 years together with 3 wonderful boys, my husband works so hard to give us a comfortable life where I can be a SAHM in this 15 beautiful years together.. I guess I figured it quite right.
My love language that I need is words of affirmation. Acts of service was lower on my list. His also was affirmations, which I provided constantly. But…I will heed your advice and look out for a man’s actions more readily. In the last relationship, I complained that he never gave me words of affirmation….I had to pry even after telling him how important it was to me. And he complained that simply providing me with some everyday resources and fixing things was enough (acts of service). I did appreciate the fixing and resources and expressed that. Needless to say, though, we felt like roommates without any passion and it did not work out. It wore on me that he never met in the middle and it ended up feeling like work.
I did all this and still ended up single! 😢 mostly because when I fell short and was no longer ‘perfect’ I didn’t feel deserving of him anymore. So be careful of your self image because that can completely colour your relationship even the strongest ones
I have been listening to your videos for the last while. Im not 30, Im 60. And its been interesting,`I'm the generation that didnt believe marriage back then and had beautiful children and don't regret, I made that choice in my life at the time. Every decade your life changes, your perspective changes, nothing is set in stone. So I see you you are life and love coaches, but its not as simple as you perceive. I wish you well
I'm an artist. My hair is blue (fun color, maybe a bit crazy for some, but i like it!). I work at a restaurant in my neighborood. I am glad to have this job, that's not what i had imagined for me, but it still provides security and it fulfills my needs for connexions and community. I love my passions (art , astrology, the pyramids, esoteric subjects...) and yet it feels very solitary. We need balance in our lives... Waiting for a partner to fulfill my need for community never worked for me... I don't see myself staying at home all the time, i need recognition from the others, outside my bubble... i see myself as a balanced person. I have both masculine and feminine energies, and i need them both to feel good within myself. I have met a lot of people in my life, and what strikes me the most is how people are polarized toward one type of energy only, leaving the rest in the dark... a lot of people find it difficult to live a balanced life, i think.
I have a great relationship with my man. I am 72. It is the best relationship I have ever had. He has bought me s house,, neither one of us want any kids. But he is a great man,
This has been so helpful love your laughs as I continued to listen bam! You you explained exactly why he was ignoring me physically for a while! It made sense acting jealous trying to get him to like me and self worth looking weak. I worked on myself and took a step back went to work working out not working on watching him! Thanks we are back
I'm in a 6 months situationship w my ex boyfriend from 20 years ago. We've both admitted this last week STILL loving the other person and don't see that changing. I'm letting him know he IS my hero. He wants to be the one I can turn to for whatever human interactions I need... He's avoidant attachment and actually SAYING this stuff now, after I went "vulnerable" and was brutally honest about my anxious issues from my own anxious attachment. 😅 It's working, and taking time and space has helped. Eventually I hope he gets that he always has been able to be everything I wanted and needed from a man - now to scare our 18 year old daughter that we actually like one another 😅 We both ended up in bad relationships in the past 20 years, wishing we were with the other but giving up and taking whatever we found instead. Now? We shall see what happens long term.
Hi. Not sure this will help, but there's someone named Adam Lane Smith who specializes in male Avoidants. He has a lot of videos posted on his RUclips channel.
Situationships are never a good thing to be in. As you said he's avoidant or he might have never wanted you for real that's why the only thing he wanted with you is a situationship because he is not willing to open his heart to you and invest for real. Relationships end for a reason and if you are letting him have the benefits of a relationship without him even committing to you, then you don't respect yourself and you seem desperate to be with him. And he also doesn't respect you if he can tell you he loves you but still doesn't want to be in a fully committed relationship with you
@ClaudiaM-om4em In some ways, but the BIG issue is we've barely communicated in a deep level for most of the last 20 years. I was married for 13 of them, and we legit only reconnected and started talking at ALL in the last 6. It's a process, and a slow learning to trust again. That's what it boils down to - we are both working through past hurts, seeing each other only every 2 weeks due to life and distance. We'll get there. But he's avoidant, aka has a DIFFICULT time opening up. :) Good luck on your end!
Emotional immaturity on both sides. If the man and woman are Emotionally settled, things will run smooth. If either is out of balance, resentment will build.
God you guys hit it right of the head... I always wondered why men would never approach me but people would tell me I'm so pretty.... I was not projecting my true comfortable self before my trauma in my past...I work as a server now and has taught me to explore my true self and remind self. I am radiant now that's what people tell...
Thanks guys! Great information. I've enjoyed so many of your videos and really appreciate the messages. As a newly divorced woman, I feel that the need to identify my responsibility in the breakup will be helpful to me. At the same time I want to be able to identify any 'red flags' in a potential partner, so that I do not make the same mistakes. If this were easy, we would not need relationship experts like y'all! I'm just going to keep moving forward and try to be the best person I can be. Hopefully one day I'll find "the one".
I love you guys that the truth I am 74yrs old and single and boy do I attract younger men they are crazy about me I am single and enjoy it boy do they make feel great and I am very polite to their airation thank you
Hey I was raised by a man my mom died when I was six and that's how he raised us that we weren't allowed to cry we had a toughen up. There were six of us, he didn't just say that to his two sons he taught his four daughters the same thing. I still struggle to find my feminine which I've found when I'm doing the most feminine things that I love like gardening sewing and cooking and tending to children
My husband explodes if I bring things up so I stuff them down until I feel absolutely done and I leave and then he completely alters his attitude and begs/convinces me to come back and he’s very sweet loving and says we will work things out. Yet you can imagine how the pattern continues. The promises go unfulfilled until I leave again… it’s a horrible cycle.
What you just said right now made me feel so much better about my man sharing or rather oversharing some of his insecurities with me. As his wife, I know it's important to stand strong with him beside him when he's going through difficult times. However, there was a time when he shared something with me and my first thought reaction was oh my gosh man up and I felt guilty for feeling that way but yet he has never shown me in a vulnerable way how much he loves me and appreciates me and values me. So now I don't feel guilty anymore for t feeling that way that way.
This has been such a great and informative video, thank you!! I believe everything you’ve said 100%. Happiness is a choice even in hard times, and a gratefulness mindset changes everything ❤ I’m married but I love listening to these kind of videos because I want to be a great wife. Thanks 🙏🏻
Thank you very much Wow. I was told I am bossy and controlling. Which I didn’t get it on how and what makes him said that. I am 70 years old and financially secure but very soft at heart and showed my feminine energy.
Should a woman ask her husband what’s wrong, or what he’s feeling, when he withdraws and doesn’t talk to her? My husband regularly did that, and I never knew what i had done wrong. When I asked him about it, he got more angry. Years later, I saw that he was imagining I was doing or saying the negative self talk in his head…stuff I had no connection with. He couldn’t separate his perception of me from his negative self talk. Should a wife ask him about it, and try to create a reconnection …or wait for him to open up on his own?
Thank you for this insight. I can’t help it sometimes, being in my more masculine energy. Kevin said it spot on about Gen Xers, as I had totally fend for myself. But I’m working on better living feminine communication and pray that my king shows up sooner than later. Thought the man I recently met had the potential for this, as it felt like dreams were happening, but I felt the energy shift last week and cannot help but feel the confusion and sadness now. He’s never honored my request for a phone call, even though I politely asked and he said he would, and I believe he is not emotionally available. Not sure what to do, so focusing on the good stuff. Thank you Brody and Kevin, always, for your guidance. And Kevin, I am very sorry for your loss 💚🙏🏽💚
I remember the DINKS...lol😅 Boomer here and enjoying your observations. Superman does exist. It's really being with someone who's a kind and loving best friend, passionately.
You’ll are on point I have never heard of so much sensitivity in Men! Omgness ! My husband was nothing like the men today. Wow!!! I just said that last week.❤️🥰
I think it's very good that men learnt to share their emotions on many different levels . For me it's a fuller and richer relationships . You are talking about very stereotypical rules of men and women .
I just found your channel and I do appreciate your message to women. With that said, some of us are not married or living with the men in our lives. Its not even a goal for some, including me. It might be nice if you didn't come from the point that we live with our lovers.
Iam 74 and boy am I having a great time I am enjoying the attention from all the younger men nothing has happened yet and I am single very coservative and full off spatkle
Can you do a video about narcissism and their addictions that come along with the narcissism? My man is a narcissist/alcoholic that has so many other addictions.
Why not share all thoughts & emotions with each other aren't you both suppose to be working with each other ? Helping each other to figure it out together ? I don't understand why either one has to bring someone else into it, when the situation belongs to the couple it should be the couple working it out !!! Now if one if them refuses to listen or cooperate together with the other one, then it's time to talk to a friend or councilor !!!
How do you get the man to step up when it’s vital because the woman can’t? I feel my man overthinks everything vs taking action as quickly as I believe he should. I tend to want to act quickly. How do you balance that without making him feel inadequate?
I wonder what these two are really thinking when saying all this, because for men all we are is "emotional drama". I actually applaud you two for brainstorming women's perspectives and how we need different things.
what a wonderful insightful lesson. you guys are great and so blessed and I just pray that God keeps blessing you and that purpose is helping so many people in the world. love the raise a family off the Grid love that. Family is indeed our most sacred mission for life. Amen thank you 🙏
Just be your authentic self all the time ❤is hard I’ve had many relationships over the years and I can tell you the ones you go into where someone sees the real you from the beginning no bs no drama no other women single coming together after knowing each other build a slow connection seriously marriage is lonnnngfgg there is no rush make sure
Any examples of movie characters of a radiant flowing woman, emotional mature and receptive to masculine devotion. I would love to see a show where you two discuss various woman movie characters from this perspective.
Watching your video, it's interesting but I'm an INTJ woman, if you're unfamiliar we're highly independent and great problem solvers that love research (which is what lead me to your video) the problem with this personality type is that we don't fit gender stereotypes, and because we're strategic problem solvers we don't need a partner to be the hero... if that's what a man needs to make him feel like a real man then I guess I'll just be single forever
I hate to contradict, but this woman actually wants her man to be honest with her. Granted, not early on in the relationship when it would make him appear weak or feminine, but as things truly develop, I want to know his deepest feelings and fears sometimes. We can't claim to be best friends if we aren't there for one another in those vulnerable ways.
Yup becuease these guys coukd obs afford to give u that home to be the wife in but there not bieng real maybe about the caring part of course but we don't live in a world that men have the wrong idea about how too attract us plus giong thru date sights at 57 with men that are soo not looking to put the work in talk to u like ur a hooker within an hour or do at most no ways wrn uve got ur kids in there thirties I musta had ten trys in ten years nope no ways last one were married I like my own time they'd just get on my fucking nerves all the texting all the looking out fr signs both of u x
I’m definitely too cool for school😂 no one ever talks to me, & I never talk to anyone unless they talk to me first, that is polite. its only been a few times in my whole life that anyone has ever approached me in person. I have no friends. I have very closed off, fly on the wall energy, it’s cool because it’s like having an invisibility cloak on. It’s not really a too cool for school thing in reality, it’s just severe social ineptitude & lack of confidence. I have severe light sensitivity & have to always wear dark glasses & some people perceive me as not wanting to talk to anyone because I have to wear them.
Ok. I'm a widow. I also have this past of being a transman (I'm born female) Testosterone I took has caused damage to my body. It caused me to lose my hair. It still makes me grow out facial hair. I'm 64. I recently had a man send me videos on a date with another woman. It really hurt me.
Why at my big grown age, do I have to play games? If I like you, I’m gonna convey that to you. The waiting to reply to a call or text timeline is wild to me. Are we doing this or no??? Over it
I think you are wrong about the.exposing feelings part. I want to know if work is going wrong, I want to know his fear. My fiance started drinking to hide things not going great and when I ask I get it's fine! Ugh
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I definitely dress down n give dark energy to avoid men 😂
Im hot good looking but no guy aproachs me, it from past trauma ,
Im okay with it
As a divorced woman who has gotten back together with my first serious boyfriend after decades apart, I can say what you are both saying is totally correct. My first marriage became a war of both of us competing to be the more masculine, largely because I felt unappreciated and traumatised. This time around I am more confident in myself and more comfortable in my feminine side so I don’t need to compete with him. I treat him like a king and he treats me like his queen. Perfect.
To be calm and stable you men need to meet our needs and listen.
Yes listen and not fake listen 😢
Agree
That's a demand and will make men run for the hills (masculine)
If he's not meeting your needs from the start then he's not worth it. I think the issue is women just think "oh he will learn to love me, things will get better and he will listen eventually" no! If he isn't doing it from the start then he never will!
@@tigerpaws111 True
It's more meaningful to me as a wife what my husband does for me then what he says, if he has a good attitude and serves and blesses then his words are meaningful. And when a woman talks and shares her emotions, she doesn't want to be fixed. So a man can be a hero, just simply by listening to her with interest.
Acts of service is my love language but I’ll say when he’s angry with kids or just angry and negative it’s the biggest turn off ever
The ONLY time women “nag” or complain is when the man ignores and never hears what we say!
If she nag its Time for her to leave 😂
@@Beela2020you are probably right. If a man sees a woman expressing her needs as “nagging” and doesn’t hear her or do anything to change, then she probably needs to leave.
She needs to realize he is not going to give her what she needs. Ever!
And he needs to understand she is not going to simply stop asking for what she needs
TRUTH: Likely it's him who needs to leave because: SHE DOES NOT LIKE HIM. Nobody biches all the time at someone they care about. HE IS HER MEAL TICKET, CONNECTION TO "COUPLES" LIFESTYLE/ OTHER. He could be using her too, and has to just take it or get out.
Yep, though my past experiences taught me a lesson to be independent but in my heart, I desired a leader. My real freedom is my submission.
When I was vulernable, I was tanken advantage of & just used in what ever way he wanted until he found someone else, then he just kicked me to the curb. I'm not sure if I can ever trust again !!!
I like what you said " just don't play games. " Both men and women should listen to this video.
Men won’t 😅
I would also put forth the idea that women put up these protective, drawing inward mechanisms, to fit in with other women, peer groups, family. It’s not always about men and I’d venture to say that most of the time it has nothing to do with men. It was never my father that put me and my two sisters against each other in the looks competition . It was my mother. It was never my male friends that insulted my looks as a teenager to make themselves feel better because all they had were giant breasts and I had the model figure, it was my female friends. It was always the females guests that would give me nasty looks as they caught their husbands looking at me, they weren’t getting on to their husbands. This is my experience, however, I doubt I’m the only one. Females do this to other females from their place of insecurity.
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The issue discussed around 30 minutes in…I got drunk in front of him. I drank something I never had before, didn’t know the proof on the cooler, and acted a fool. He pulled away. Contrary to that day, I’m not a drinker. I’ll have half a glass of wine, if that, about 2-3 times a year. I just don’t like alcohol and feel great without it. Anyway, that day he really questioned who I was. It was a horrible feeling and I apologized so much about it. I allow him to be in his masculine and I thrive in my feminine. We’re about to move in together after a year of being together. We don’t fight, there’s so much care and respect both ways. We’re both rebuilding our lives and families together after each of our ex’s took everything from us. We’re both healthy and happy and fulfill the others life. I’m very grateful for this man.
The point is, we ladies just don’t like to take responsibility when we mess up. However, that’s the key to a healthy relationship. On both sides ❤
I am so sorry for your loss Kevin. I know that it must be hard redefining your life without your best friend and lover. I wish u the very best. On another note u have the most beautiful, expressive, caring, and bright eyes I've ever seen. I also like your mannerisms and calm mild attitude. Keep it up.
Most women care deeply about how their man is and that he gets what he wants/needs and is fullfilled, BUT many men do not reciprocate. I always feel like its 1 sided, but Im the bad guy if Im not happy and peaceful because I am frustrated my needs arent met and if I express that, Im complaining? GEEZ.
Youuuuu might want to find a different man, just saying. This guy does not sound like he's the one for you, you deserve to be happy too!! XO
Be careful. I had a girlfriend who I went above and beyond for and she still accused me of not doing anything for her. I found out she was an ingrate who just ignored the efforts I was making.
My advice, look very hard and long in the mirror. If you are in fact being wronged as you say, then tell him how you feel.
If you find areas where he’s done things for you which you never took the time to express appreciation for, let him know you appreciate those things when he does them. Then tell him, “I would really appreciate it if you did … for me too” Often times men are happy to provide whatever you need. We just don’t read minds.
You are doing too much!
Thank God! After spending the last month or so watching red pill channels, I thought there was no hope.
I'm so glad I found you. You bring back hope.
Narcissists are Selfish
Amen
Amen
True!
I was always that fun, positive, next door, yet strong & independent and very creative. I modeled, sing, play instruments,
perform, work hard and didn't mind doing house work and cooking & doing cozy things...I do try my best to take care of myself without overdoing it..but still can't find someone who matches my energy.. I truly don't know what's wrong...
15 years together with 3 wonderful boys, my husband works so hard to give us a comfortable life where I can be a SAHM in this 15 beautiful years together.. I guess I figured it quite right.
My love language that I need is words of affirmation. Acts of service was lower on my list. His also was affirmations, which I provided constantly. But…I will heed your advice and look out for a man’s actions more readily. In the last relationship, I complained that he never gave me words of affirmation….I had to pry even after telling him how important it was to me. And he complained that simply providing me with some everyday resources and fixing things was enough (acts of service). I did appreciate the fixing and resources and expressed that. Needless to say, though, we felt like roommates without any passion and it did not work out. It wore on me that he never met in the middle and it ended up feeling like work.
Love this. So much masculine toxicity talk these days. It's refreshing to hear men still like to be the hero and take action. New subscriber! 👋🏽
Glad you liked it and great to have you here! :)
I did all this and still ended up single! 😢 mostly because when I fell short and was no longer ‘perfect’ I didn’t feel deserving of him anymore. So be careful of your self image because that can completely colour your relationship even the strongest ones
I have been listening to your videos for the last while. Im not 30, Im 60. And its been interesting,`I'm the generation that didnt believe marriage back then and had beautiful children and don't regret, I made that choice in my life at the time. Every decade your life changes, your perspective changes, nothing is set in stone. So I see you you are life and love coaches, but its not as simple as you perceive. I wish you well
I agree. Something is missing.
I'm an artist. My hair is blue (fun color, maybe a bit crazy for some, but i like it!). I work at a restaurant in my neighborood. I am glad to have this job, that's not what i had imagined for me, but it still provides security and it fulfills my needs for connexions and community. I love my passions (art , astrology, the pyramids, esoteric subjects...) and yet it feels very solitary. We need balance in our lives... Waiting for a partner to fulfill my need for community never worked for me... I don't see myself staying at home all the time, i need recognition from the others, outside my bubble... i see myself as a balanced person. I have both masculine and feminine energies, and i need them both to feel good within myself. I have met a lot of people in my life, and what strikes me the most is how people are polarized toward one type of energy only, leaving the rest in the dark... a lot of people find it difficult to live a balanced life, i think.
I have a great relationship with my man. I am 72. It is the best relationship I have ever had. He has bought me s house,, neither one of us want any kids. But he is a great man,
Neither of you want kids? You're 72. Can you still have kids?
@@hereiam2942 no
This has been so helpful love your laughs as I continued to listen bam! You you explained exactly why he was ignoring me physically for a while! It made sense acting jealous trying to get him to like me and self worth looking weak. I worked on myself and took a step back went to work working out not working on watching him! Thanks we are back
Glad you enjoyed it!
Men want all that, pay the bills. That way we can be available and you feel needed/wanted, and you don't feel like you are competing. 👏Pay 👏the👏bills.
I'm in a 6 months situationship w my ex boyfriend from 20 years ago. We've both admitted this last week STILL loving the other person and don't see that changing.
I'm letting him know he IS my hero. He wants to be the one I can turn to for whatever human interactions I need...
He's avoidant attachment and actually SAYING this stuff now, after I went "vulnerable" and was brutally honest about my anxious issues from my own anxious attachment. 😅 It's working, and taking time and space has helped.
Eventually I hope he gets that he always has been able to be everything I wanted and needed from a man - now to scare our 18 year old daughter that we actually like one another 😅
We both ended up in bad relationships in the past 20 years, wishing we were with the other but giving up and taking whatever we found instead. Now? We shall see what happens long term.
Hi. Not sure this will help, but there's someone named Adam Lane Smith who specializes in male Avoidants. He has a lot of videos posted on his RUclips channel.
Situationships are never a good thing to be in. As you said he's avoidant or he might have never wanted you for real that's why the only thing he wanted with you is a situationship because he is not willing to open his heart to you and invest for real. Relationships end for a reason and if you are letting him have the benefits of a relationship without him even committing to you, then you don't respect yourself and you seem desperate to be with him. And he also doesn't respect you if he can tell you he loves you but still doesn't want to be in a fully committed relationship with you
@ClaudiaM-om4em In some ways, but the BIG issue is we've barely communicated in a deep level for most of the last 20 years. I was married for 13 of them, and we legit only reconnected and started talking at ALL in the last 6.
It's a process, and a slow learning to trust again. That's what it boils down to - we are both working through past hurts, seeing each other only every 2 weeks due to life and distance. We'll get there. But he's avoidant, aka has a DIFFICULT time opening up. :) Good luck on your end!
Agree why do men give you so many problems and then get mad if we say we are bothered by all the problems he gives us?
Now do one for the girls
Emotional immaturity on both sides. If the man and woman are Emotionally settled, things will run smooth. If either is out of balance, resentment will build.
That means you always pick the wrong guys and can't see red flags
He comes home to his wife? He has had such a busy day? So has she for heaven's sake. Wow
Exactly!!!!!!
God you guys hit it right of the head... I always wondered why men would never approach me but people would tell me I'm so pretty.... I was not projecting my true comfortable self before my trauma in my past...I work as a server now and has taught me to explore my true self and remind self. I am radiant now that's what people tell...
I am in a new relationship, and he is all this and more, I am soooo blessed.❤
What a nice, easy-to follow interaction, guys. I really enjoyed listening to you 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thanks guys! Great information. I've enjoyed so many of your videos and really appreciate the messages. As a newly divorced woman, I feel that the need to identify my responsibility in the breakup will be helpful to me. At the same time I want to be able to identify any 'red flags' in a potential partner, so that I do not make the same mistakes. If this were easy, we would not need relationship experts like y'all! I'm just going to keep moving forward and try to be the best person I can be. Hopefully one day I'll find "the one".
Wow. So goood to hear how man feels when he is with strong independent woman. Thank you.
I love you guys that the truth I am 74yrs old and single and boy do I attract younger men they are crazy about me I am single and enjoy it boy do they make feel great and I am very polite to their airation thank you
Hey I was raised by a man my mom died when I was six and that's how he raised us that we weren't allowed to cry we had a toughen up. There were six of us, he didn't just say that to his two sons he taught his four daughters the same thing. I still struggle to find my feminine which I've found when I'm doing the most feminine things that I love like gardening sewing and cooking and tending to children
I remember saying to myself: one freakin glimps of games and I am out of here. 19 years together, 15 years married. Still no games.
My husband explodes if I bring things up so I stuff them down until I feel absolutely done and I leave and then he completely alters his attitude and begs/convinces me to come back and he’s very sweet loving and says we will work things out. Yet you can imagine how the pattern continues. The promises go unfulfilled until I leave again… it’s a horrible cycle.
What you just said right now made me feel so much better about my man sharing or rather oversharing some of his insecurities with me. As his wife, I know it's important to stand strong with him beside him when he's going through difficult times. However, there was a time when he shared something with me and my first thought reaction was oh my gosh man up and I felt guilty for feeling that way but yet he has never shown me in a vulnerable way how much he loves me and appreciates me and values me. So now I don't feel guilty anymore for t feeling that way that way.
This has been such a great and informative video, thank you!! I believe everything you’ve said 100%. Happiness is a choice even in hard times, and a gratefulness mindset changes everything ❤ I’m married but I love listening to these kind of videos because I want to be a great wife. Thanks 🙏🏻
You are so welcome!
Thank you very much Wow. I was told I am bossy and controlling. Which I didn’t get it on how and what makes him said that.
I am 70 years old and financially secure but very soft at heart and showed my feminine energy.
Two wise man can have great conversation and helping many. Thank you for solving mysteries of man’s world. 😅❤
You bet, glad you liked it!
Should a woman ask her husband what’s wrong, or what he’s feeling, when he withdraws and doesn’t talk to her?
My husband regularly did that, and I never knew what i had done wrong. When I asked him about it, he got more angry. Years later, I saw that he was imagining I was doing or saying the negative self talk in his head…stuff I had no connection with. He couldn’t separate his perception of me from his negative self talk.
Should a wife ask him about it, and try to create a reconnection …or wait for him to open up on his own?
He could be a narcissist. Look up Narcissistic husband silent treatment.
Thank you for this insight. I can’t help it sometimes, being in my more masculine energy. Kevin said it spot on about Gen Xers, as I had totally fend for myself. But I’m working on better living feminine communication and pray that my king shows up sooner than later. Thought the man I recently met had the potential for this, as it felt like dreams were happening, but I felt the energy shift last week and cannot help but feel the confusion and sadness now. He’s never honored my request for a phone call, even though I politely asked and he said he would, and I believe he is not emotionally available. Not sure what to do, so focusing on the good stuff. Thank you Brody and Kevin, always, for your guidance. And Kevin, I am very sorry for your loss 💚🙏🏽💚
Great discussion…. I learned a lot about what I’m doing right and what I’m doing wrong! Thank you!
You are so welcome!
So funny how fast I
L👀KED up when he said “My Wife….” LOL😂
Very thorough and very enlightening. THANK YOU! More please : )
You're welcome and will do!
I remember the DINKS...lol😅
Boomer here and enjoying your observations. Superman does exist. It's really being with someone who's a kind and loving best friend, passionately.
You two gentlemen are totally spot on .
Nice video... please make more videos like this...More interesting to see how is two view points than listening to just one person. 😊
Good "point" and glad you liked it!
Very true,,mature fun loving feminine woman here. This is very interesting and good information for women and men! Very informative Read !
I'm a late model "Boomer"and I agree that Gen Z is probably the best. Thanks for the video guys!
Thanks Coaches👍🏽
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Welcome!
You’ll are on point I have never heard of so much sensitivity in Men! Omgness !
My husband was nothing like the men today. Wow!!!
I just said that last week.❤️🥰
I would love to have the Man actually want to take care of me in these ways.
I think it's very good that men learnt to share their emotions on many different levels . For me it's a fuller and richer relationships . You are talking about very stereotypical rules of men and women .
Thank you so much, I get guys much better now. Been sad for 2 weeks cause I "really," felt the young man and I clicked on a few levels.
This is one of the best videos on relationships.
What a great convo! Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I just found your channel and I do appreciate your message to women. With that said, some of us are not married or living with the men in our lives. Its not even a goal for some, including me. It might be nice if you didn't come from the point that we live with our lovers.
Real men can show emotions they're human
Fantastic advice guys,thank you ❤🌷💛🌻
Thank you so sweet guys share good experiences
Glad you enjoyed it!
I’m really happy I found your channel! Thank you for the thoughtful content best I’ve found!
Welcome!
I agree with teaching this in high school ❤
Love this. Some really great thoughts and revelations for us "stronger" women. Thank you gentlemen. I see where I need to make some modifications 🙂
You are so welcome!
Iam 74 and boy am I having a great time I am enjoying the attention from all the younger men nothing has happened yet and I am single very coservative and full off spatkle
I need to improve my communications skills towards men ✨
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Can you do a video about narcissism and their addictions that come along with the narcissism? My man is a narcissist/alcoholic that has so many other addictions.
I'm sorry for the loss of Selene ❤
Great advice all round 😜
Why not share all thoughts & emotions with each other aren't you both suppose to be working with each other ? Helping each other to figure it out together ? I don't understand why either one has to bring someone else into it, when the situation belongs to the couple it should be the couple working it out !!! Now if one if them refuses to listen or cooperate together with the other one, then it's time to talk to a friend or councilor !!!
How do you get the man to step up when it’s vital because the woman can’t? I feel my man overthinks everything vs taking action as quickly as I believe he should. I tend to want to act quickly. How do you balance that without making him feel inadequate?
Gen Xer here loved it !
Love the way you guys think!! So refreshing in these times 😊
Glad you liked it!
Thank you for honest and authentic sharing!
Welcome! :)
I am a woman with a lot of life and sexual experiences. How can I carry my past best in a new relationship? Thank you!
I wonder what these two are really thinking when saying all this, because for men all we are is "emotional drama". I actually applaud you two for brainstorming women's perspectives and how we need different things.
I'm tired of being the rock in the relationships
what a wonderful insightful lesson. you guys are great and so blessed and I just pray that God keeps blessing you and that purpose is helping so many people in the world.
love the raise a family off the Grid love that. Family is indeed our most sacred mission for life. Amen thank you 🙏
Thank you so much and glad you liked it!
How do I shift from strong independent woman into my feminine energy? And when?
So how? Feels like a game. But no games should be played.
Just be your authentic self all the time ❤is hard I’ve had many relationships over the years and I can tell you the ones you go into where someone sees the real you from the beginning no bs no drama no other women single coming together after knowing each other build a slow connection seriously marriage is lonnnngfgg there is no rush make sure
You know something about avoided detachment style
I love watching giving us more tips about men having a relationship ❤❤❤❤❤
Any examples of movie characters of a radiant flowing woman, emotional mature and receptive to masculine devotion. I would love to see a show where you two discuss various woman movie characters from this perspective.
Marilyn Monroe is a pretty good example
Watching your video, it's interesting but I'm an INTJ woman, if you're unfamiliar we're highly independent and great problem solvers that love research (which is what lead me to your video) the problem with this personality type is that we don't fit gender stereotypes, and because we're strategic problem solvers we don't need a partner to be the hero... if that's what a man needs to make him feel like a real man then I guess I'll just be single forever
I hate to contradict, but this woman actually wants her man to be honest with her. Granted, not early on in the relationship when it would make him appear weak or feminine, but as things truly develop, I want to know his deepest feelings and fears sometimes. We can't claim to be best friends if we aren't there for one another in those vulnerable ways.
Some of the too "cool for school" vibes come from shy people. Often, those people don't see themselves as physically attractive.
Staying single is the best option 🎉
Yup becuease these guys coukd obs afford to give u that home to be the wife in but there not bieng real maybe about the caring part of course but we don't live in a world that men have the wrong idea about how too attract us plus giong thru date sights at 57 with men that are soo not looking to put the work in talk to u like ur a hooker within an hour or do at most no ways wrn uve got ur kids in there thirties I musta had ten trys in ten years nope no ways last one were married I like my own time they'd just get on my fucking nerves all the texting all the looking out fr signs both of u x
Thats true 😂 because men are immatures
I’m definitely too cool for school😂 no one ever talks to me, & I never talk to anyone unless they talk to me first, that is polite. its only been a few times in my whole life that anyone has ever approached me in person. I have no friends. I have very closed off, fly on the wall energy, it’s cool because it’s like having an invisibility cloak on. It’s not really a too cool for school thing in reality, it’s just severe social ineptitude & lack of confidence. I have severe light sensitivity & have to always wear dark glasses & some people perceive me as not wanting to talk to anyone because I have to wear them.
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Welcome! :)
Ok. I'm a widow. I also have this past of being a transman (I'm born female) Testosterone I took has caused damage to my body. It caused me to lose my hair. It still makes me grow out facial hair. I'm 64. I recently had a man send me videos on a date with another woman. It really hurt me.
Kevin - your shirt looks inside out 😂
LOL, yeah I've heard that before. Obviously it's not. ;-)
Why at my big grown age, do I have to play games? If I like you, I’m gonna convey that to you. The waiting to reply to a call or text timeline is wild to me. Are we doing this or no??? Over it
Kevin Anthony were or are u on radio
I think you are wrong about the.exposing feelings part. I want to know if work is going wrong, I want to know his fear. My fiance started drinking to hide things not going great and when I ask I get it's fine! Ugh
All of the information applies to men equally as it does to women. The wounded masculine displays the same behaviour /Archetypes.
3:27 so basically, men and women want the same.
Great video
Glad you enjoyed it!
Concret, respectful. Thanks
we also want peace as woman.....