Managed to keep mine so far, with frequent complains. I live on the boat 4mths a year, in Greece, wife joins 2x 1 mth. Got to compromise, but not an easy game 😢
Going 15 knots into the wind is so exciting and love it but 80% of the time. Love sailing downwind with My huge parachute out doing 4 knots so relaxing 😎 What size boat would work as a two couple diving sailboat? Been a DiveMaster for 45 years! And would love to take my four sons out diving?
I am sorry, but I was laughing really hard with the questions. Especially the tipping and are we going to die. What turned me on to sailing (6 yrs old) was the 1st time hard core tipping in a race (Morgan 24). The water racing on the deck, the railing in the water, and the water hitting the port holes. How exciting and exhilarating! I knew right then I had the sailing bug. Now I am 64 and still love love it! Happy Sailing ⛵
Private aircraft have what is called the $100 hamburger. They will fly in their aircraft to another airport, arrange ground transport, and go eat a hamburger, then fly home. At least with a sailboat, when the sail is raised the fuel is free and quiet. Sailing makes much more sense than hitting a golf ball around a course, but some find peace in that. A friend of mine is an amateur radio operator and his wife likes to collect depression era glass, both may seem silly to the outsider but it brings them joy. Others spend much more money on hunting and fishing than what they could easily buy in a market, but the outdoors gives them peace or joy.
Richard Bach wrote (who has been a full-on pilot all his life): aircraft is freedom is space. You get airborn and whichever way you look, you can be beyond the horizon in a few hours. But it is not free in time: after 4-5 hours wherever you went you will be on the ground. A sailboat, on the other hand, is freedom in time. Yes it will float along at sometimes a jogger's or a cyclist's speed. But if you stock up enough food and water you can be on your way for months on end and never see land. As far as sailing goes, food is the only limit.
@@koborkutya7338 Flying is possibly the furthest from freedom you will ever experience. The number of rules is endless, especially the rules of physics that will kill you really quickly of you disobey them. Most pilots that would argue with that usually drift around in the equivalent of a Ford Cortina - and use pretty much the same number of spatial dimensions.
Tim, I just started watching your you tube channel and it has now become a mainstay in my viewing diet. You have a lot of knowledge, and a lot of heart! Someone special will see that in you.
I live in Cleveland OH and have been sailing most of my life on Lake Erie. I like sailing to nowhere at night looking at the starts. It was something my boys and I did when they where young. Today I sail solo most of the time because my wife does not like boats in general. Not a big issue she doesn't get mad when I go sailing.
My late wife described my relationship to sailing as a Prometheus complex, which while she had the actual definition incorrect. made sense the way she described it. As in an obsession with taking the forces of "the gods" and using them for human purposes, like Prometheus with fire, although I guess the actual definition could be applied, with the whole constant incessant quest for knowledge...
When you said that sailing gets you someplace for free, I laughed. Everyone knows that the definition of a sailboat is the most expensive way to get somewhere for free!
Excellent video and some excellent advice. A bit of a counterpoint. My wife has no interest in sailing and though she did it as a child, that was a long time ago and she has no interest now. A friend's wife grew up as an avid boater (power) but now has zero interest in being on the water. So several years ago, this friend and I bought a sailboat together. It works well - costs are 50% and each of us usually has someone to go sailing with. Since both of us have been with our wives for decades, having this separate hobby isn't a big deal, as long as we both remember that sailing can't be everything (and that's not always easy). My wife will come out occasionally, but only in light air or only under motor, but that still whets her appetite for a whole season. The counterpoint is that under the right circumstances, it's okay if your spouse/partner has no interest in sailing.
As a man that's been dating since I was forty (I'm currently 47)... Within the first few dates, I set the stage and ask them how they feel about spending a considerable amount of time on a sailboat. I tell them that I don't need a "yes" answer, but I do need to know if it's a hell no. No need to waste anyone's time. My plan is to get my cruising boat this fall!!! Fingers crossed!
There are lots of clubs, find a local one and catch a ride with someone. They should match you up with a skipper that will take into account your skill and comfort level and you should be in good hands.
As I have said before I can teach you how to sail in a day and you can spend the rest of your life trying to perfect it. Nothing in my life has kept me more entertained for so long the learning is endless which is part of the attraction As far as the wife sailing 😢she gets sick on a cruise ships. So I go solo . It's one of those things you have to love to understand
Always love watching your videos. You nailed it with "finding the magic in sailing' for me. Its like finding magic and freedom, much like getting you first car or motorbike. Once you can sail you can go anywhere. Shouldn't have a problem with my lovely wife once we get a boat, we've done loads of adventures together, skydiving, hiking volcanoes, loads of jetskiing etc. Keep the videos coming, they're great 👍
That's awesome! Though we haven't been out on jetskis yet. I am awaiting the day we can just liquidate everything and go. She says she'll do it, and I really hope she wants to. Good luck in your adventures!
I think you actually answered the question”where are we going” question quite well. Sailing can be a destination activity, but truly it’s an experiential activity. It’s about enjoying the thrill of the journey not the anticipation of where you are going. I think I would actually discredit the parallel to camping though. Sailing is more akin to travel trailer camping than say car camping or backpacking. Loved the water melon seed analogy and now I need to do the butter experiment since I haven’t tried that before.
This is totally me and my wife. My wife feels confined on a boat... that and she gets seasick out on the open ocean. I love her but I don't think I'll ever make a sailor out of her.
I’m with you 100%. My wife gets seasick brewing a cup of coffee, so sailing will never be in the cards. But she’s the best thing that ever happened to me and I can accept that trade-off.
Will we die? I remember this one from your earlier Lady K Sailing while you and your significant other were bailing like mad somewhere way off shore when a speed or depth sensor popped out. She went below for something and came out screaming with water almost knee deep in the salon. Later in the series you were sailing solo.
was about to mention that one too... "Never let her sink" coz often the significat other is not up to "frontline adventures" let alone possible "missadventure" 😄
Great job Tim!. And after about 100 episodes I finally learned your first name! How about signing of with your name every episode? Get back to this video I think you missed a few concerns my wife of 46 years has about sailing. A few years ago I took her out on a Hobie cat in one those all inclusive resorts in the Bahamas and she loved it (30 minutes in the bay). Her concerns seem to as follows: I won’t be able to sleep on a rocking boat. What about sea sickness? Pirates will surely be a problem. Help me Tim! Thanks, Dave
Fun piece. My wife told me “Jesus Christ could tell me it won’t tip over and I wouldn’t believe him.” But she loved me enough to sail anyway. After five monohulls we bought a Catamaran and it was finally bliss for her.
Hey Tim. Married 50 years, sailing for 40 years, my wife has never been a comfortable sailor. But she loves the social aspect of the sailing community and will tolerate the "inconvenience" of having those "white things" up. I go hard when the guys are aboard, throttle back when she's aboard. Even the spinnaker goes into the back of the van just to reduce the temptation! A "comfortable, heavy" botat is not the solution, a prudent skipper is......
Once again amazing video... I had to laugh though after years of watching RUclips videos and shopping for the perfect boat, I purchased a Catalina 42 and named her SEA-RENITY.... I have to say you made me laugh with this one! Keep up the great videos.
This is the best I watched this year. I agree on everything. Only wish my wife would see it this way, even when I have a 10 ton steel 36ft 100% Orcas and lightening safe sailboat built for the north west passage and which can ran aground in 8 knots with zero damage. She's not fast but safe.
Hi! Love your videos. In regard to things that keep people from trying sailing, could you address all aspects related to seasickness? Do people overcome it with time and experience? This issue is do important that it could deserve a whole episode.
As the years have passed I've learned enough about reefing and boat management to make the trips less unpredictable. And she has gained a slightly more stoic view of heeling. Slightly. There will never be equal enthusiasm - I'm the sailor, she's just doing this to make me happy. My wife frequently suggests selling our sailboat and buying something " with a real engine that can go somewhere". But we both know thats not going to happen. 🙂
Tim suggestion for a show you maybe have done already. Buying a boat, thing is where to dock it and costs. Not all of us are sailing down south . We are stuck in bays ( Quinte ) or Lake Ontario. So a 35 to 40 foot dream is out of the question since not all clubs can fit a 40 footer. With a winter haul out cradle on top of it crane and space. The biggest boat we have is about 35 feet . Club has said that is the biggest they allow. We all dream of sailing south but few end up there.
Four bedrooms, four baths, dining room, hot water, dish washer laundromat, microwave, refrigerator, freezer, air conditioning. What's not to like? Never have to leave the slip. Some even have a dance floor and cocktail lounge.
3:25 those old square riggers were actually somewhat doable upwind, they were definitely not great but you could still make 60-70* off the wind. Later square riggers from the clipper days could point a little higher (like 55*), albiet inefficiently compared to fore-aft rigs (which back in the day could do 45*), but of course modern sailboats are much more capable (being able to make 30-40* in a lot of cases). So while those old square sails upwind performance was pretty poor compared to what we're used to it wasn't impossible, though captains would rather avoid tacking since tacking square riggers easily wore out the crew and the rigging. There's a good video on RUclips demonstrating how a square rig tack is done (on the tall ship Star of India).
12:40 my wife is being forced to like sailing gradually and going easy with her. If the boat heels too much when I’m close hauled I just let the boom out. Thanks for this video Tim was perfectly timed as I just messaged you on FB about the same thing 😂
I like your videos, with almost 300 of them it is hard to find information on specific topics. Do you, or a viewer, know if there is a video discussing how to maintain or build skills after your ASA classes until you buy your first boat?
Is it like camping? Maybe. It doesn't have to be. I try to make it more like a luxury camper. Our mattresses are off the chart good, our galley is top notch and our boat is in good repair and clean. The wood is beautiful and it's someplace she can invite friends and relatives. Once she knows that she is safe and comfortable the world is truly your oyster. We have been sailing for about 25 yrs and are aboard our IP 40 about 6 months out of the year. Life is good. It's work, but it's worth it.
I'm currently taking the worn out teak decks off my Tashiba 40 to do Kiwigrip because my fiancé wants to get married on the bow. I still don't believe she's real sometimes 😂
It's as if you were sitting in our living room last night. Hummm. She's not into it (she doesn't like camping either). Granted, she's been out twice. Once on a larger sunset charter (Not really sailing) and once out with friends on a 25 Capri. She hauled a sheet and took the tiller and seemed to like it. But the hook didn't sink in. She seemed to like it but had no desire to go again. You hit the nail on the head when you said, "What's the Point." She just isn't into the magic of making the boat move under sail. Maybe if I push ahead and climb the ASA ladder and charter a boat, she'll come around. I know she'll love a 45-foot Lagoon in the BVIs. A hotel on the water. That's the ticket.
Practical advice from a Practical Sailor- it's Practice, Practice, Practice learning how to Sail better. Just drop the centreboard, hoist the sail and grab the tiller- Your Sailing now stay out and dream.
Can I, enjoy sailing if I see it as acheap way to see the world. I read round the world in 80 days and I have always wanted to do that. Not in 80 days however
--About that tippy flippy heely thing: --At the first available wind opportunity, I put the cockpit rail as close as I can to the water and tell my terrified students "Watch this!". I let fly the main sheet. Everything goes flat. Their fears evaporate. Each then takes a turn steering and learns to resist one's natural temptation to fight the gusts. --Eventually, I hand over the sheet, and magic happens. They understand that they, not the weather, are in charge. --The contribution to sea sickness created by fear is also greatly reduced.
My wife would have never taken any adventure even of the slightest risk. Our first date was a 5 day backing trip. Test 1, Seconds was scuba lessons finally diving to 110 ' in the gulf of Mexico test 2, White Water canoeing test 3 and 11 day canoe camping river trip test test 4. When comes to selling she is not as willing. It was Way too much coaching and convincing to get her through the other adventures. Not going to miss her
--Thank you for the clarification. I found a book, "How to outwit the wind" concerning upwind racing tactics, well beyond the scope of this video. It is a guide to outsmarting opponents. In racing, you only need to arrive ahead of the competition. --Racing with a "significant other" is a bad idea. Please don't ask how I know. --On rare occasion, while racing, I pretend to alter course after a favorable wind shift. In addition to gaining ground, the competition's bewilderment works to my advantage. --Delos, between Trinidad and Grenada, seeing the wind shifting right, chose to go left to stay in the lee of the island. That decision prolonged their agony.
My wife is the reason I can only dream about sailing most of year. I am allowed to sail my little boat on a river for a few months in summer, maybe a couple hours a week, but that's as far as I will ever get. I paid for her training and she lived on a beautiful 44 ft. sailboat for 6 days in summer getting ASA trained 101-104 and passed all the test but she just complains about the money I wasted on it and has no interest in it so I just watch videos on youtube.
that's too bad. I turned down a free 23' sv WITH trailer. I knew how to sail a boat that size. Boat had a nice below-deck space and they were even cleaning it up for me. Why did I turn it down? My wife at the time thought it would be a money pit. She was probably right but dayam! Now I'm 70 yrs old watching sv videos on you tube....
Well done in allaying some of the fears a significant other may have on sailing/sail boats. The sailor, with boat, could take the other for a day sail, Destination some nice lunch/dinner spot, anchoring or ashore. Or without boat rent one for the day. Do not throw a lot of technical stuff at the novice. Maybe have them tail a winch or take the wheel/tiller when maneuvering will not be required. That usually does the trick of infecting them with the 'bug.' Next time they have blood work the techie will be wondering about all the little sailboats in the sample. Personal advice: do not get married. There's little benefit for the man and if relations are good why complicate the good by bringing big daddy govt to oversee your relationship. Marriage /divorce and how the courts divide up property had been the undoing of many a man. If it's good why mess with a good thing. Dating gotta be a lot of fun these days I bet.....
*"Buy a boat and learn to sail, any idiot can do it".* This idiot went and bought a Moth to learn to sail on, who knew that with only 85 square feet of sail you would spend so much time swimming and getting clobbered by a fast moving low boom, that's how I learnt what a gybe was. That was nearly 50 years ago and here we are still sailing and enjoying it.
--Every time you went swimming, you learned something. If you needed more than 3 times, you are a slow learner. --Same thing, if the boom hit you more than once.
There are no wives or girlfriends who won't go sailing, only ex wives and girlfriends. To avoid disappointment, make it clear in any new relationship: I'm a sailor, and sailing comes first, and you'll lose everytime if you try to change that.
With any man and its hobby, its mostly the woman who thinks she owns her mans recourses, time and attention. Most guys here know you can never do it right any way and no matter wat you do, relationshits won't last longer that 5yrs maximum. She's never yours, its just your turn. So have fun and buy that sailboat.
Maybe that is the issue. You sound like the wife should be like the boat, when the wife is really the ocean. She was and will never be yours to own or control, and why would you want to. Rather revel in her freedom and glory and if she stays, then it is because she wants to.
My wife was afraid of the ocean and had no interest in boats. Then we did a cabin charter in the Bahamas. Then another in the Grenadines. Now she wants to retire on a boat. We are taking ASA 101 and 103 this summer 🤞
That is the way to start. ASA classes lead to chartering with a captain that leads to bareboat chartering that leads to ownership. Together take it a step at a time. Build a solid foundation of sailboat knowledge and enjoy the ride.
I will add the Comfort Crisis. New challenges, adventures and a bit of discomfort are needed to keep people mentally healthy. It’s a quirk of human nature. Sailing can provide the right mix as you have mentioned. You can be a fair weather lake sailing type and that is enough discomfort. Or go to the extreme and cross an ocean.
I keep it really simple... For me, it's like "Speed Date"... "If we go to Fiji, Fly or Sail?" If she says "Fly", I say, "Next"... To me, compatibility means we Mesh... Similar Interests, Hobbies, Lifestyle, etc. It's not simply Butterflies in the stomach... A relationship has to be practical too. If I say, "Let's go for a Sail". I expect her to ask how much provisions we'll need and where are we going... We're not just a team in the bedroom, we breath the same air... Great video 🙂
That’s if you come to sailing first. My husband and I came to it as a team with two and a half kids. He’s a speed demon and I get technicolor seasick. But I love camping, so I just stomp my imaginary brake pedal and put up with him. He sighs and takes a reef.
My wife is out to prove she is tougher than me sailing. It makes a great team even when the swells get big. So far I have yet to see her seasick, and I will NEVER admit when I am so thats that. As always, look forward to the next video!
if you get seasick its important to notify your fellow sailers so they know you are out of order. Otherwise they might take dangerous decisions. Of course, if your really seasick there is no way of hiding it anyways.
@@schuttrostig5729 agreed. So far just feel a little naucious when I spend too much time below working on the systems. Stops as soon as I go topside. But yeah if it gets bad there would be no hiding it.
My experience in foreign countries was that many women went sailing with their husbands because they loved them, they really didn't like sailing. Many husbands would not sail as agressively because his wife was too uncomfortable. Lots of them found "there wasn't enough wind" so put the sails down and motored. And when i went to talk to them on their boat the discussion often turned to sailing but the women would just find something to do while we talked.
My wife doesn’t share my obsession with sailing. It’s very frustrating. But she never stops me from going so I guess it could be worse. But man, I dream of sailing to far off shores … but I know it will never happen. 😢
Met my wife through sailing. She started as a Sea Scout. We've been been together 34 years. We've done 20 some Chicago Macs together and both have over 30 macs. Her best friends were also Sea Scouts and are avid sailors. It would be hard for to even imagine not sailing with my significant other. Reading comments i realize how lucky I am.
How about a video for women whose husbands refuse to sail?? It's not always reluctant women. I finally talked my husband into a boat, but he refuses to leave the dock more than a few times each year 😂 I just LOVE to be on the water.
Yes, I am in the process of acceptance. I did not want to leave my comfortable home in the temperate PNW two years ago. But my boyfriend had other ideas! Now we live on a Tayana Vancouver 42 in Florida. Heading to the Caribbean, soon. Turns out it's interesting and good for me -- and us -- all around.
As you say, boats fall over not because of wind, nor soley due to waves, but due to the combination of high winds AND high waves. Despite the rarity for most recreational sailors, it happens quite a lot for ocean-going racers and adventurous idiots. Lol.
Tim, I am at a similar stage in life, seeking a significant other. A lot of women like beaches and I describe sailing as campung on thw water and visiting as many beaches as they want, often empty beaches which cant be rea hed by land. I normally take someone on a boat after about the third date, making sure the weather is fair F3 or maybe F4 and let them steer the boat to gain an insight into the magic we enjoy. Almost everyone has said they sleep more comfortably on a gently rocking boat than at home in bed! Great episode and good luck in your new position at Practical Sailor. Is there any chance of getting it released on READILY or failing that offering a discount to your loyal European subscribers? 😊
I finally retired and wanted to go full time sailing. But she said if I bought a sailboat she was going to leave. I shur miss her.
Well written.
She can hang out with mine 😂😂😂
Managed to keep mine so far, with frequent complains. I live on the boat 4mths a year, in Greece, wife joins 2x 1 mth. Got to compromise, but not an easy game 😢
Going 15 knots into the wind is so exciting and love it but 80% of the time. Love sailing downwind with My huge parachute out doing 4 knots so relaxing 😎 What size boat would work as a two couple diving sailboat? Been a DiveMaster for 45 years! And would love to take my four sons out diving?
Good thing she didn't take the dog. You'd REALLY miss him.
I am sorry, but I was laughing really hard with the questions. Especially the tipping and are we going to die. What turned me on to sailing (6 yrs old) was the 1st time hard core tipping in a race (Morgan 24). The water racing on the deck, the railing in the water, and the water hitting the port holes. How exciting and exhilarating! I knew right then I had the sailing bug. Now I am 64 and still love love it! Happy Sailing ⛵
Private aircraft have what is called the $100 hamburger. They will fly in their aircraft to another airport, arrange ground transport, and go eat a hamburger, then fly home. At least with a sailboat, when the sail is raised the fuel is free and quiet. Sailing makes much more sense than hitting a golf ball around a course, but some find peace in that. A friend of mine is an amateur radio operator and his wife likes to collect depression era glass, both may seem silly to the outsider but it brings them joy. Others spend much more money on hunting and fishing than what they could easily buy in a market, but the outdoors gives them peace or joy.
Finding your own food feels great
Fuel is free? Who do you know that gives you your sails for no payment?
Interesting how small aircraft pilots have been immune from inflation for over 40 years,
Richard Bach wrote (who has been a full-on pilot all his life): aircraft is freedom is space. You get airborn and whichever way you look, you can be beyond the horizon in a few hours. But it is not free in time: after 4-5 hours wherever you went you will be on the ground.
A sailboat, on the other hand, is freedom in time. Yes it will float along at sometimes a jogger's or a cyclist's speed. But if you stock up enough food and water you can be on your way for months on end and never see land. As far as sailing goes, food is the only limit.
@@koborkutya7338 Flying is possibly the furthest from freedom you will ever experience. The number of rules is endless, especially the rules of physics that will kill you really quickly of you disobey them.
Most pilots that would argue with that usually drift around in the equivalent of a Ford Cortina - and use pretty much the same number of spatial dimensions.
Tim, I just started watching your you tube channel and it has now become a mainstay in my viewing diet. You have a lot of knowledge, and a lot of heart! Someone special will see that in you.
I live in Cleveland OH and have been sailing most of my life on Lake Erie.
I like sailing to nowhere at night looking at the starts.
It was something my boys and I did when they where young.
Today I sail solo most of the time because my wife does not like boats in general.
Not a big issue she doesn't get mad when I go sailing.
Harvest from the right garden. Do not expect to get apples from a tomato plant. Find another sailing person to go sailing. Great topic. Great Video.
My late wife described my relationship to sailing as a Prometheus complex, which while she had the actual definition incorrect. made sense the way she described it. As in an obsession with taking the forces of "the gods" and using them for human purposes, like Prometheus with fire, although I guess the actual definition could be applied, with the whole constant incessant quest for knowledge...
When you said that sailing gets you someplace for free, I laughed. Everyone knows that the definition of a sailboat is the most expensive way to get somewhere for free!
True, but it's a lovely delusion.
Probably still cheaper than an equally capable powerboat
Excellent video and some excellent advice. A bit of a counterpoint. My wife has no interest in sailing and though she did it as a child, that was a long time ago and she has no interest now. A friend's wife grew up as an avid boater (power) but now has zero interest in being on the water. So several years ago, this friend and I bought a sailboat together. It works well - costs are 50% and each of us usually has someone to go sailing with. Since both of us have been with our wives for decades, having this separate hobby isn't a big deal, as long as we both remember that sailing can't be everything (and that's not always easy). My wife will come out occasionally, but only in light air or only under motor, but that still whets her appetite for a whole season. The counterpoint is that under the right circumstances, it's okay if your spouse/partner has no interest in sailing.
As a man that's been dating since I was forty (I'm currently 47)... Within the first few dates, I set the stage and ask them how they feel about spending a considerable amount of time on a sailboat. I tell them that I don't need a "yes" answer, but I do need to know if it's a hell no. No need to waste anyone's time. My plan is to get my cruising boat this fall!!! Fingers crossed!
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@@MarketingStrategies28 Yes, I try to avoid monkey-brained conspiracy theorists too.
@@Chris-zo5ze It has a 100% death rate
@@Chris-zo5ze Are you telling me you're one of the sheeples that got the vaxs.
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@@Chris-zo5ze If you got it monkey brains its over for you.
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Thank you for answering a lot of my questions. I'm not as scared anymore to start sailing.
There are lots of clubs, find a local one and catch a ride with someone. They should match you up with a skipper that will take into account your skill and comfort level and you should be in good hands.
As I have said before I can teach you how to sail in a day and you can spend the rest of your life trying to perfect it. Nothing in my life has kept me more entertained for so long the learning is endless which is part of the attraction
As far as the wife sailing 😢she gets sick on a cruise ships. So I go solo . It's one of those things you have to love to understand
great breakdown Tim really appreciate your passion for sailing
Always love watching your videos. You nailed it with "finding the magic in sailing' for me. Its like finding magic and freedom, much like getting you first car or motorbike. Once you can sail you can go anywhere. Shouldn't have a problem with my lovely wife once we get a boat, we've done loads of adventures together, skydiving, hiking volcanoes, loads of jetskiing etc. Keep the videos coming, they're great 👍
That's awesome! Though we haven't been out on jetskis yet. I am awaiting the day we can just liquidate everything and go. She says she'll do it, and I really hope she wants to. Good luck in your adventures!
good one Tim. This and the bit you did about booze are the real deal. Glad you're doing well! Grats on editor in chief!
Great video. Thanks for sharing the "serenity" connection about the magic of making the boat go wherever you want!
I think you actually answered the question”where are we going” question quite well. Sailing can be a destination activity, but truly it’s an experiential activity. It’s about enjoying the thrill of the journey not the anticipation of where you are going.
I think I would actually discredit the parallel to camping though. Sailing is more akin to travel trailer camping than say car camping or backpacking.
Loved the water melon seed analogy and now I need to do the butter experiment since I haven’t tried that before.
This is totally me and my wife. My wife feels confined on a boat... that and she gets seasick out on the open ocean. I love her but I don't think I'll ever make a sailor out of her.
I’m with you 100%. My wife gets seasick brewing a cup of coffee, so sailing will never be in the cards. But she’s the best thing that ever happened to me and I can accept that trade-off.
You will miss her.
Get a asian.
Will we die? I remember this one from your earlier Lady K Sailing while you and your significant other were bailing like mad somewhere way off shore when a speed or depth sensor popped out. She went below for something and came out screaming with water almost knee deep in the salon. Later in the series you were sailing solo.
was about to mention that one too... "Never let her sink" coz often the significat other is not up to "frontline adventures" let alone possible "missadventure" 😄
Great job Tim!. And after about 100 episodes I finally learned your first name! How about signing of with your name every episode? Get back to this video I think you missed a few concerns my wife of 46 years has about sailing. A few years ago I took her out on a Hobie cat in one those all inclusive resorts in the Bahamas and she loved it (30 minutes in the bay). Her concerns seem to as follows: I won’t be able to sleep on a rocking boat. What about sea sickness? Pirates will surely be a problem. Help me Tim! Thanks, Dave
Fun piece. My wife told me “Jesus Christ could tell me it won’t tip over and I wouldn’t believe him.” But she loved me enough to sail anyway. After five monohulls we bought a Catamaran and it was finally bliss for her.
Hey Tim. Married 50 years, sailing for 40 years, my wife has never been a comfortable sailor. But she loves the social aspect of the sailing community and will tolerate the "inconvenience" of having those "white things" up. I go hard when the guys are aboard, throttle back when she's aboard. Even the spinnaker goes into the back of the van just to reduce the temptation! A "comfortable, heavy" botat is not the solution, a prudent skipper is......
Once again amazing video... I had to laugh though after years of watching RUclips videos and shopping for the perfect boat, I purchased a Catalina 42 and named her SEA-RENITY.... I have to say you made me laugh with this one! Keep up the great videos.
I love that last comment❤
This is the best I watched this year. I agree on everything.
Only wish my wife would see it this way, even when I have a 10 ton steel 36ft 100% Orcas and lightening safe sailboat built for the north west passage and which can ran aground in 8 knots with zero damage. She's not fast but safe.
Thanks for watching!
Tremendous view Tim!
And some worthwhile advice!!
Hi! Love your videos. In regard to things that keep people from trying sailing, could you address all aspects related to seasickness? Do people overcome it with time and experience? This issue is do important that it could deserve a whole episode.
How about "is that big metal thing going to hit me on the head again"?
Took my wife out on our new to usmonohull, first thing whack with the boom. She was ok, and I just said we are going to need a bigger boat. :)
Only until I learn how to sail.
As the years have passed I've learned enough about reefing and boat management to make the trips less unpredictable. And she has gained a slightly more stoic view of heeling. Slightly. There will never be equal enthusiasm - I'm the sailor, she's just doing this to make me happy. My wife frequently suggests selling our sailboat and buying something " with a real engine that can go somewhere". But we both know thats not going to happen. 🙂
Swmbo: "let's go for a walk"
Me: "where are we going?"
Swmbo: "for a walk"
Me: "yeah but, where to?"
Me: "let's go sailing"
Swmbo: "where....
Tim suggestion for a show you maybe have done already. Buying a boat, thing is where to dock it and costs. Not all of us are sailing down south . We are stuck in bays ( Quinte ) or Lake Ontario. So a 35 to 40 foot dream is out of the question since not all clubs can fit a 40 footer. With a winter haul out cradle on top of it crane and space. The biggest boat we have is about 35 feet . Club has said that is the biggest they allow. We all dream of sailing south but few end up there.
Off topic but wondering if you could do another video like in 2023 about boat prices going down after Covid. Has that stopped?
I got rid of the mono and bought a Lagoon. I think a Lagoon is as comfortable as you can get on a sailboat. The wife likes it much more.
Four bedrooms, four baths, dining room, hot water, dish washer laundromat, microwave, refrigerator, freezer, air conditioning. What's not to like? Never have to leave the slip. Some even have a dance floor and cocktail lounge.
Thanks again. you are appreciated. Cheers.
This one hits home…
3:25 those old square riggers were actually somewhat doable upwind, they were definitely not great but you could still make 60-70* off the wind. Later square riggers from the clipper days could point a little higher (like 55*), albiet inefficiently compared to fore-aft rigs (which back in the day could do 45*), but of course modern sailboats are much more capable (being able to make 30-40* in a lot of cases). So while those old square sails upwind performance was pretty poor compared to what we're used to it wasn't impossible, though captains would rather avoid tacking since tacking square riggers easily wore out the crew and the rigging. There's a good video on RUclips demonstrating how a square rig tack is done (on the tall ship Star of India).
12:40 my wife is being forced to like sailing gradually and going easy with her. If the boat heels too much when I’m close hauled I just let the boom out.
Thanks for this video Tim was perfectly timed as I just messaged you on FB about the same thing 😂
I like your videos, with almost 300 of them it is hard to find information on specific topics. Do you, or a viewer, know if there is a video discussing how to maintain or build skills after your ASA classes until you buy your first boat?
Is it like camping? Maybe. It doesn't have to be. I try to make it more like a luxury camper. Our mattresses are off the chart good, our galley is top notch and our boat is in good repair and clean. The wood is beautiful and it's someplace she can invite friends and relatives. Once she knows that she is safe and comfortable the world is truly your oyster. We have been sailing for about 25 yrs and are aboard our IP 40 about 6 months out of the year. Life is good. It's work, but it's worth it.
Good man! There's something out there for all of us! I mean some body! 😂 Never give up all jokes included ❤❤
I'm currently taking the worn out teak decks off my Tashiba 40 to do Kiwigrip because my fiancé wants to get married on the bow. I still don't believe she's real sometimes 😂
Wow, better pinch yourself, and her, and me. Heck pinch everyone. Can we clone her?
Yep, good video :)
wow I did not know you was on the market
Great episode! One of the best I think. Get a heavy mono-haul ...or get a catamaran! 😉😉
Another great vid 👏🏼
Thanks!
GREAT Video 👏🙌
It's as if you were sitting in our living room last night. Hummm. She's not into it (she doesn't like camping either). Granted, she's been out twice. Once on a larger sunset charter (Not really sailing) and once out with friends on a 25 Capri. She hauled a sheet and took the tiller and seemed to like it. But the hook didn't sink in. She seemed to like it but had no desire to go again. You hit the nail on the head when you said, "What's the Point." She just isn't into the magic of making the boat move under sail. Maybe if I push ahead and climb the ASA ladder and charter a boat, she'll come around. I know she'll love a 45-foot Lagoon in the BVIs. A hotel on the water. That's the ticket.
You are a Star, I’ll be tacking soon
Great episode. Thanks. What boat is the saloon image shown at 08:54 in the video?
Bernoulli's equation if you want to get really geek like.
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Practical advice from a Practical Sailor- it's Practice, Practice, Practice learning how to Sail better. Just drop the centreboard, hoist the sail and grab the tiller- Your Sailing now stay out and dream.
Thanks
Will it tip over? Yes it will. It's a Hobie 16!
I love this channel 😅❤
Just got a new boat for my wife. Best. Trade. Ever.
Can I, enjoy sailing if I see it as acheap way to see the world. I read round the world in 80 days and I have always wanted to do that. Not in 80 days however
--About that tippy flippy heely thing:
--At the first available wind opportunity, I put the cockpit rail as close as I can to the water and tell my terrified students "Watch this!". I let fly the main sheet. Everything goes flat. Their fears evaporate. Each then takes a turn steering and learns to resist one's natural temptation to fight the gusts.
--Eventually, I hand over the sheet, and magic happens. They understand that they, not the weather, are in charge.
--The contribution to sea sickness created by fear is also greatly reduced.
My wife would have never taken any adventure even of the slightest risk. Our first date was a 5 day backing trip. Test 1, Seconds was scuba lessons finally diving to 110 ' in the gulf of Mexico test 2, White Water canoeing test 3 and 11 day canoe camping river trip test test 4. When comes to selling she is not as willing. It was Way too much coaching and convincing to get her through the other adventures. Not going to miss her
Oh wow!
My boat is going up for sale this year...
When I retire perhaps I'll have enough time to myself to justify it again
Find your significant other in sailing school or charters
Many online boards for crew and captains 😂
Mine get seasick in the bathtub.
So sailing for her is out of the questions.
Love it
When you getting out sailing again miss your vids of you out there sailing do you have a trip coming up
Thank you. Always present the sailboat to the other she before get engage!!!!
If you can cheat the wind to take your boat where you want, you are clever enough to convince your gal to go there too...
NOBODY cheats the wind.
that is what sailing is, tricking the wind to take us where we want to go, even up wind. It is an old quote by David 🏴☠️ Seidman.
--Thank you for the clarification. I found a book, "How to outwit the wind" concerning upwind racing tactics, well beyond the scope of this video. It is a guide to outsmarting opponents. In racing, you only need to arrive ahead of the competition.
--Racing with a "significant other" is a bad idea. Please don't ask how I know.
--On rare occasion, while racing, I pretend to alter course after a favorable wind shift. In addition to gaining ground, the competition's bewilderment works to my advantage.
--Delos, between Trinidad and Grenada, seeing the wind shifting right, chose to go left to stay in the lee of the island. That decision prolonged their agony.
My wife is the reason I can only dream about sailing most of year. I am allowed to sail my little boat on a river for a few months in summer, maybe a couple hours a week, but that's as far as I will ever get. I paid for her training and she lived on a beautiful 44 ft. sailboat for 6 days in summer getting ASA trained 101-104 and passed all the test but she just complains about the money I wasted on it and has no interest in it so I just watch videos on youtube.
that's too bad. I turned down a free 23' sv WITH trailer. I knew how to sail a boat that size. Boat had a nice below-deck space and they were even cleaning it up for me. Why did I turn it down? My wife at the time thought it would be a money pit. She was probably right but dayam! Now I'm 70 yrs old watching sv videos on you tube....
I have been trying to reach you with fb messenger, but just keep getting computerised questions. Is there something I'm missing?
What if you hate camping?
Are you still on Lake Erie if so where?
Back home so I sail usually on Lake St Clair or Lake Erie
@3:48 What is that type of boom system called? I've seen a few boats like that, but can't find any info. What are the pros/cons of that system?
It’s either a nonsuch or a freedom
Why aren’t you mentioning capsizing?
Well done in allaying some of the fears a significant other may have on sailing/sail boats. The sailor, with boat, could take the other for a day sail, Destination some nice lunch/dinner spot, anchoring or ashore. Or without boat rent one for the day. Do not throw a lot of technical stuff at the novice. Maybe have them tail a winch or take the wheel/tiller when maneuvering will not be required. That usually does the trick of infecting them with the 'bug.' Next time they have blood work the techie will be wondering about all the little sailboats in the sample.
Personal advice: do not get married. There's little benefit for the man and if relations are good why complicate the good by bringing big daddy govt to oversee your relationship. Marriage /divorce and how the courts divide up property had been the undoing of many a man. If it's good why mess with a good thing. Dating gotta be a lot of fun these days I bet.....
*"Buy a boat and learn to sail, any idiot can do it".* This idiot went and bought a Moth to learn to sail on, who knew that with only 85 square feet of sail you would spend so much time swimming and getting clobbered by a fast moving low boom, that's how I learnt what a gybe was. That was nearly 50 years ago and here we are still sailing and enjoying it.
--Every time you went swimming, you learned something. If you needed more than 3 times, you are a slow learner.
--Same thing, if the boom hit you more than once.
Try a cat, that way you don't have to walk on the cupboard doors when going to weather.
I think you should meet your partner while doing what you love
Most sage advice!
There are no wives or girlfriends who won't go sailing, only ex wives and girlfriends.
To avoid disappointment, make it clear in any new relationship: I'm a sailor, and sailing comes first, and you'll lose everytime if you try to change that.
Where do I get a Quality version (maybe yours is?) of the classic Captain hat in white with black brim like on your desk in this RUclips?
Someone got it for me. Amazon?
Ha!
i know how a sailboat works....
Now if we could just figure out how people work ....
So do I.
I don't care, I have my dog. If the wife doesn't want to go, sucks to be her. I am going...
the wife said I could go sailing after a little time she said I need to get out of the bathtub a put my boat up sailing with the wife.
Best thing about this channel was the girlfriend.
Wanted: One woman who has a boat and motor. Please send photos of the boat and motor!
Forget the motor, I'm a sailor.
Time to get a new wife.
Get a new wife. She's not really the marriage type, at least for me
With any man and its hobby, its mostly the woman who thinks she owns her mans recourses, time and attention. Most guys here know you can never do it right any way and no matter wat you do, relationshits won't last longer that 5yrs maximum. She's never yours, its just your turn. So have fun and buy that sailboat.
Maybe that is the issue. You sound like the wife should be like the boat, when the wife is really the ocean. She was and will never be yours to own or control, and why would you want to. Rather revel in her freedom and glory and if she stays, then it is because she wants to.
My wife was afraid of the ocean and had no interest in boats. Then we did a cabin charter in the Bahamas. Then another in the Grenadines. Now she wants to retire on a boat. We are taking ASA 101 and 103 this summer 🤞
That is the way to start. ASA classes lead to chartering with a captain that leads to bareboat chartering that leads to ownership. Together take it a step at a time. Build a solid foundation of sailboat knowledge and enjoy the ride.
I will add the Comfort Crisis. New challenges, adventures and a bit of discomfort are needed to keep people mentally healthy. It’s a quirk of human nature. Sailing can provide the right mix as you have mentioned. You can be a fair weather lake sailing type and that is enough discomfort. Or go to the extreme and cross an ocean.
That’s a lot of Serenitys. I had no idea there were so many Firefly class cargo sailboats 🤔
I keep it really simple... For me, it's like "Speed Date"... "If we go to Fiji, Fly or Sail?" If she says "Fly", I say, "Next"... To me, compatibility means we Mesh... Similar Interests, Hobbies, Lifestyle, etc. It's not simply Butterflies in the stomach... A relationship has to be practical too. If I say, "Let's go for a Sail". I expect her to ask how much provisions we'll need and where are we going... We're not just a team in the bedroom, we breath the same air... Great video 🙂
Can I assume you are still single?
We wish. Every wish you ever had with a relationship is Disney Land, then reality sets in and the answer to everything is NO! especially sailing😢
That’s if you come to sailing first. My husband and I came to it as a team with two and a half kids. He’s a speed demon and I get technicolor seasick. But I love camping, so I just stomp my imaginary brake pedal and put up with him. He sighs and takes a reef.
My wife is out to prove she is tougher than me sailing. It makes a great team even when the swells get big. So far I have yet to see her seasick, and I will NEVER admit when I am so thats that. As always, look forward to the next video!
if you get seasick its important to notify your fellow sailers so they know you are out of order. Otherwise they might take dangerous decisions. Of course, if your really seasick there is no way of hiding it anyways.
@@schuttrostig5729 agreed. So far just feel a little naucious when I spend too much time below working on the systems. Stops as soon as I go topside. But yeah if it gets bad there would be no hiding it.
My wife never gets sea sick either. She won't go sailing. End of.
If you have to be tough, you're doing it wrong.
My experience in foreign countries was that many women went sailing with their husbands because they loved them, they really didn't like sailing. Many husbands would not sail as agressively because his wife was too uncomfortable. Lots of them found "there wasn't enough wind" so put the sails down and motored. And when i went to talk to them on their boat the discussion often turned to sailing but the women would just find something to do while we talked.
My wife doesn’t share my obsession with sailing. It’s very frustrating. But she never stops me from going so I guess it could be worse. But man, I dream of sailing to far off shores … but I know it will never happen. 😢
Met my wife through sailing. She started as a Sea Scout. We've been been together 34 years. We've done 20 some Chicago Macs together and both have over 30 macs. Her best friends were also Sea Scouts and are avid sailors. It would be hard for to even imagine not sailing with my significant other. Reading comments i realize how lucky I am.
I am green with envy
Sail fast and reckless!
My wife didn’t want to sail. That was 8 years ago. Well this lady just did her 4th Atlantic crossing. So much for that lol
How about a video for women whose husbands refuse to sail?? It's not always reluctant women.
I finally talked my husband into a boat, but he refuses to leave the dock more than a few times each year 😂
I just LOVE to be on the water.
Yes, I am in the process of acceptance. I did not want to leave my comfortable home in the temperate PNW two years ago. But my boyfriend had other ideas! Now we live on a Tayana Vancouver 42 in Florida. Heading to the Caribbean, soon. Turns out it's interesting and good for me -- and us -- all around.
As you say, boats fall over not because of wind, nor soley due to waves, but due to the combination of high winds AND high waves. Despite the rarity for most recreational sailors, it happens quite a lot for ocean-going racers and adventurous idiots. Lol.
Tim, I am at a similar stage in life, seeking a significant other. A lot of women like beaches and I describe sailing as campung on thw water and visiting as many beaches as they want, often empty beaches which cant be rea hed by land. I normally take someone on a boat after about the third date, making sure the weather is fair F3 or maybe F4 and let them steer the boat to gain an insight into the magic we enjoy. Almost everyone has said they sleep more comfortably on a gently rocking boat than at home in bed! Great episode and good luck in your new position at Practical Sailor. Is there any chance of getting it released on READILY or failing that offering a discount to your loyal European subscribers? 😊