PeechieMeechie11 hun, a child isn’t born disrespecting women. In order for this to happen, they had to have experienced something (verbal or physical trauma), and/or never taught how to deal with their emotions so they project it out on women in violent ways, and/or simply weren’t taught or modeled respect and boundaries in general. Adults that do these things are just broken and wounded children. They are a result of their childhood experiences. All of us are. The way our brains process those experiences is different for everyone so that’s why people act out in different ways. For example, some sexually abused people may get depressed, some may abuse drugs or alcohol, some project it out on men/women through physical violence. The way our brain defends itself is out of our control and until we become aware of it, we can’t truly heal and change. Don’t blame the boy, he’s unknowingly a product of his childhood experiences, negative and positive just like you an me.
SugarPlum FairyDied I apologize for not giving a trigger warning. People need to open their eyes and start looking up the answers to human behavior. All seeds are planted in childhood. Our childhoods are the reason we are the way we are.
ilove2929 thank you so much, also with this crazy coronavirus going on, its scary. But i pray that all the pregnant women reading this have a safe delivery.
@@sabrinasoistmanofficial not just parents, most adults do too. I remember that the past school years, my teachers have just expected us to be perfect adults...we weren't even adults, not even mature enough.
Noone mentioned the post partam bleeding. It's like having your period for a month straight. 💯 And you can feel your organs slowly shifting to the right places again...
Laura Lee because around 4 weeks i was only spotting and not bleeding as much for another 2 weeks. Then i got my period it was heavy and lasted a week thats how i knew. Also i never got cramps after giving birth at all but did with my period
Same!!! I feel like becoming a mother made me agoraphobic! Like this woman, I worry if something happens to me my kids will not have their mother. Postpartum anxiety is real. Postpartum depression is real. I believe my mental processes changed the most as well
ladyrose1993 My daughter is 17 months and it’s still bad for me. I also have a three year old and had post perfume anxiety after him. There are medications out there that can help.
@@Tara-id3rk Exact same for me. I used tI love going out! I can barely make it to a doctors appointment without hella anxiety now. The thought that no one would love him the same if I was gone breaks my heart. 😭
mk thank you.. i get thats it’s nature but not every women on planet earth has to reproduce thats how this world doesn’t get over populated (even though it already is) but get I get funny looks when I say I don’t want any kids (25 years young)
Part of you will get used to it/ not care because you'll be sooooo busy taking care of a baby. And usually your body does (mostly) bounce back in about a year with exercise and diet. Also breastfeeding helps.
this is why it's important for the men in new mom's lives to make them feel loved and appreciated and never point out all their new bodily imperfections, and even with this support if a woman still wants to reshape her body then no one should judge imo
What they were talking about is commom but it doesn't happen to everyone. Postpartum hair loss is temporary and genetic, many women don't lose their hair. Hemorroids are made when you push too long or when it's unessecary because that pressure cause the veins to swell and pop out. Prevention there is to only push when you get the urge, otherwise you will do more harm than good. And the blatter being weak, belly being loose is nornal because your muscles got loose even the one controlling your bladder. What you can do is exercise before and after pregnancy like mild gymnastics it's actually recommended. So yeah, no woman have the same experience and what you go trough can be either prevented or helped
They need more videos like this as a young single mom without a lot of help, it’s cool to hear other people stories so I know that I’m not the only one and feel more connected to society.
I was a young single mom, too. Still am, in a way! (Maybe not so much "young" anymore... haha...) And it was overwhelming and felt lonely. I didn't have any friends in the same boat so I didn't get a lot of true understanding. You're not alone! And I'm sure you're doing a better job than you know.
I feel you so much I'm a young mom to and have delt with alot of these issues I struggle with accepting my body now but wouldnt change it for the world because my baby is worth all the insecurities
Due May 17 with my 3rd child first BOY. hair is super dry and brittle pink oil was a LIFESAVER. No varicose veins but you can start to see the veins in your boobs. Palmer's lotion is a MUST skin starts to stretch and itches like crazy! weird dreams lol.. nipples never turn back to the same size/color 🤣 I also didn't swell as much and feet stayed same size (but shoes got very annoying after awhile) nails grew and I STAY HOT ALL THE TIME! a weird dark like start to appear from the bust line to the panty line be mindful of new body hair ( sideburns, middle of the back) gets finer ugh I'm glad I'm almost done!
Duda Mendes Mili Do you go thrifting for your dinnerware, clothes, utensils, food? I hope so. Otherwise how disgusting of you to go buy new dishes, clothes, and food that are polluting our earth and filling our landfills. Your argument of why go get new when wcan use existing ones can be applied to everything. And why am I disgusting for wanting to have someone else have my children that I am clearly planning and desiring? Go call out the parents letting their kids down by giving them to the system or the family of the parents that don’t take them. Or the pharma companies that have ruined many a person into incapable parents!
Claire from experience the woman* not girls, that do surrogacy do iit because they have children of their own and understand the toll and are able tp put a price tag on it. Paying a surrogate isn’t cheap! And they get paid whether pr not a birth is successful. Do NOT make it seem like there’s a rich class paying 20 year old to pop out kids. There’s a requirement for these women go be previous mothers and to understand the situation and risk. They don’t do it out of need or greed! They do it to help another couple have a child regardless of there being infertility issues or just issues of employment and lifestyle not allowing for a biological pregnancy! You’re so uneducated.
@@lifehack182 Sometimes I don't get it. Like you have a child just to abuse it, if you really didn't want to have them then why didn't they just get an abortion (if they wanted to) or put them up for adoption or just accept the fact they have a child and actually take care of them I don't know how all of this works but I'm pretty sure there's many ways
That's fair 😂 my son is about to turn one and my hair is still falling out like crazy and I think I have more skin covered in stretch marks than not. One day we will all be old and wrinkly anyway, at least now I have someone who can come around and open my jars. 😂
namjune everyone is different because what they explained never happened to me, none of it except the after belly of course but mine stayed tiny, you might not get some of that either every one is different 😀
Unpopular opinion: I'm still excited to have a baby even after watching this - I feel like I'd be a really great mom and I'm excited to be proud of my body for its accomplishment
I just had my first a month ago and it's really not so bad! I even had some small complications and a premature delivery and I'd 100% do it all again. You really do forget the pain almost immediately 🙂
Not sure how far along you are but MOST of these "post partum" changes happen BEFORE you give birth not after. I'm 33 weeks in and have only gained 16 pounds, have none of the common issues females have in pregnancy.
Better to know now than be surprised:) Also you can have different things happen in different pregnancies. I'm 20 weeks with baby #4 and every pregnancy has been different:)
This video is the best contraception. I’m 37 and never wanted them. Recently I had a couple of “hmm maybe...” thoughts but this just cemented it. I like my body as it is. Fair play to all the mums out there though - you’re all heroes and you have my utmost respect!
Louise Lowe at 37? Dude I’m 35. Are you also like ridiculously-good-looking? Cause I have two. Keep hmmm maybeing cause it was worth it for me and im vain
To had to your reasons not to have children : du to all the changes the body goes through during pregnancy, I heard the more you have children the less life expectancy you have 🤷🏽♀️ don’t know if it’s true tho.
I have so much respect for these women for talking about this on such a public platform. But I’m also keeping/replacing my IUD for the rest of my childbearing years
@@dinkyboss well im pretty sure she wasnt expecting the after party lmao💀 and what if she was just getting it on amd found out she was pregnant but she didnt get an abortion cus she dont belive in it or just didn't wan to kill her baby
They also don’t tell you that when you breast feed it’s also painful in your uterus because it’s contracting. And then it feels like labor again but not quite as bad. Eventually it goes away but still hurts a lot.
This didn’t happen to me with my first. Holy cow did it get me the second time around. Next baby will be taking a hot water bottle to the hospital for after.
Not everyone has this but it can be a shock to have "pains" during feeding. Knowing this prevents bleeding too much and helps shrink your uterus back to normal size is worth focusing on till it subsides.
I had a good pregnancy thank God. Easy natural labor....I did have 3 doses of epidural though. Morning sickness was 24/7 for 3 months straight. I was glowing. My skin and hair. I didn't get any stretch Mark's. It's genetic on my mom's side of the family. Never had postpartum depression. My baby was born in the summer. I was out with her all the time. Didnt have to be locked inside the home in the cold. She was a pretty easy baby. At 4 months old she started sleeping the whole night. She is now 11 years old 🧡
Natural isn't with epidural though..? That just a vaginal birth which is still AMAZING and honestly giving birth (I've had an epidural and a natural) was the best thing I've ever done and my biggest accomplishment lol
Holly Long a natural birth is a birth that doesn’t need medical intervention, such as c section. Different people have different mentalities on what’s natural or not.
When you give birth, you'll realize just how strong you are, you're stronger than you will EVER realize. Be patient, educate yourself, and don't trust doctors with everything
I actually don’t feel bad about not wanting kids ever, I didn’t grow up in an affectionate home and I’m not an affectionate person, I don’t feel comfortable saying”I love you” to anyone, I would feel bad knowing that I wouldn’t be able to show affection and have patience to raise a child, and to be honest a lot of women don’t have children, I just don’t see myself ever see myself as a mother, I see myself as like a cool aunt in the future
Nothing wrong with not wanting kids.. But thats how i felt when i was younger.. Now im 38 and 34 weeks along and already telling baby i love her whenever shes kicking. Funny how time works
EricA Amato I know I’m still a minor ... but I feel really happy for loving mothers, and I have nothing against baby’s, but that just doesn’t seem like the life for me , maybe I’ll change my mind in the future but idk, also congratulations!
Imo I think what would've been a good addition to this vid is having a doctor or someone explaining why some of the things are happening or how to help these situations.
Rhi3698 honestly she was being hysterical. She pumped so hard she did it to herself. I looked it up too- you can’t lactate blood she was just being dramatic
caitosanna JUST HOW DARE YOU say that to a young mom who tried to feed her baby with her boobs and failed. If you don’t know just don’t say anything but that’s so rude of you to say that she’s too dramatic. That’s her experience, she’s kind enough to tell us so expecting mothers can know what could happen but you and your stupid face decide to make a stupid comment that you should have kept to yourself.
Watching this while 17 weeks pregnant and am so thankful these conversations are being normalized. I appreciate all of these amazing moms for being so candid and for educating me on what can happen and what to possibly expect. Cheers to all moms and moms to be! 🤰🏻
Absolutely, after my first child I had to get my gallbladder removed and my second child I had a milk abscess develop in my breast the size of a golf ball that had to be surgically removed. I love my babies but never again.
Pregnancy too, cause the baby basically feeds off of you & then birth, and postpartum tries to regulate everything but in some cases the damage is done
My brother grew up too fast.. poor guy lmao Father at 15, single father at 16 (gf’s suicide) But he’s mature now. He was never able to hang out with his friends, go to parties, get drunk and high. He wanted to be there for his twin girls. He did online school, graduated and is becoming a cop. He’s 21 now, still there for his girls.
I am an Indian mother and it's a pity that after childbirth we stop taking care of ourselves and dedicate life entirely for the newborn.. I think it's time to take care of oneself..
@@mogs2523 Exactly, and your self respect is mirrored by your baby. They learn everything from you. How much you care for your own self is how much they in turn will care for themselves.
I know I’m meant to be a mom when I still want to have kids after this video♥️♥️♥️ it brings so much joy to me just hearing moms talk about bad things but how powerful to good takes over. I’m not pregnant and won’t be for a while lol I’m not even married yet. But ya love these videos ♥️
I just had my son one month ago, I'm 17. During my experience so far, the birthing process was exactly how it was described to me. Period cramps to the extreme...plus I lost a lot of weight throughout, and after my pregnancy. But my son is healthy and that's all I want.
I just turned 18 and just got pregnant. I wanted it, and so does he. We love our little bean, but so far, pregnancy has not been easy, and even watching this video wouldn’t have been enough to stop him. It’s been really rough tho and I’m only on 8.5 weeks 🥲
My feet never grew. I didn’t gain weight anywhere besides thighs and booty, both went away right after birth. My skin didn’t get more sensitive. I didn’t get weird veins. My breasts and nipples didn’t change. I didn’t get hemorrhoids. These are all very relative to each mother. I’m thankful to have had none of these issues.
Same here! I never even bought maternity clothes, I just had to unzip my jeans. Literally left the hospital wearing a pair of jeans that fit even before I got pregnant lol. I personally think a LOT of these things are related to the lifestyle of the mother.
Kaitlyn 990 It’s not really lifestyle, it’s mainly genes. Just like how your period can be similar to your biological mothers because of genes, your pregnancy is the same. (Obviously not for everyone but definitely for most)
NOT every pregnancy has all these things happen for myself: My feet never grew, I never got new stretch marks (have old ones), didn’t gain weight during pregnancy but did afterwards, milk never came in (no one tells you that part), skin no change, daughter kicked one of my ribs into another so now that spot feels weird, varicose veins nope, hair loss BIG time thankfully naturally way to thick so no big deal for me oh it went back to more curls and some of the other stuff nope. Food cravings that have not left
Exactly I had so much milk, no weight gain or varicose vein and my hair actually grew or morning sickness and my stomach deflated within hours. But i did get weird dark patches on my skin, my breasts are not perky. Every pregnancy is so different. They should remind people only a few things will probably happen per person.
honestly in the end the only thing that really makes me mad right now is that I can't sneeze without peeing myself. I'm very sorry to hear about your milk not coming in, a lot of women blame themselves make sure you don't it just happens sometimes it's not because of anything you've done. all feeding is beautiful, because all feeding is bonding 💕
@@AirQuotes i went through the majority of this stuff and they didn't even get into prolapse, that itchy skin thing, high blood pressure, preeclampsia, etc. This was pretty mild and mainly cosmetic. The thing to know is you're not alone no matter what you're going through, even if it's deciding not to have any at all.
And this my friends, is why i want to adopt kids. You still get the joy of having kids WITHOUT making your body suffer AND then you can give kids without a family a loving new home. Win win all around
All the pain, blood, gore, etc is soooo worth it. My body will never be the same but the love I have for the little alien inside of me was something I never thought i knew. I used to cuddle my bump to sleep and now I can cuddle my baby ❤️❤️❤️
I'm going to be 38 in two days, and people need to talk more about postpartum. I prefer to be prepared for what is to come, so I don't freak out when something happens. I needed to watch this so I have an idea what to expect. Thank you so much ladies, for opening up about what your body might go through after giving birth.
Abigail Hannah baby blues are real, hair loss hits around 3 months of age, your body/uterus takes about 6 weeks to shrink back but don’t expect to bounce back that fast (the 3 months postpartum has been referred to as the ‘fourth’ trimester because all the body changes), breast feeding is HARD if you choose this route be extra sure you’re educated on what to do when and ask tons of questions.... this is just stuff you may not have heard.
After the birth of my son I never was told about the postpartum hair lost, I was scared something was wrong with me when I took a shower and I literal chunks of hair was coming out of my head. Thank God Google exist and articles about hair loss after having a baby.
@@HollehhMarie Oh yea..totally! Typically it lasts for one hair growth cycle. For me it started about 3 months PP and lasted for another 3 or 4 months. But everyone is different.
An FYI doctors say that most women do and do not experience certain things afterbirth. Every woman experiences different things throughout their pregnancy and not everyone is the same. Don’t be scared lol!
Pregnant women get so many resources for childbirth and nursing and almost all of them go over these things, these women just didnt do their research like they're supposed to
"your skin gets more sensitive" me: *4 skin conditions, allergies to foundation and certain makeups, and bath and body works, and any soap that isnt specifically sensitive skin, and permanent rashes no matter what i do* o h.
omg girl me too! my face has recently decided it doesn’t like ANY of my pillow covers 🙃 even products made for sensitive skin make my face basically melt off...
I have skin sensitivity myself. Pregnancies didn't alter anything about that, except at some points when I got drier skin and hair or when they became more oily (I have normal skin). I'm back to normal though.
If i get a Boy. Im going to learn him how to take responsibility, respect every women. Respect every man. Learning him that you shouldnt judge People by sexuality Learn him that his feelings Are okay. Teaching him not to call Girls swear words or sexuallising words. Not to harras Anybody, Treat People nicely like you want to be treated yourself. And that they need to work like clean, cooking, Laundry, And Teaching Them house chores Arent a "womens work. If i get a girl. Teaching her that women and men Are equal. That they can do what They set their heads to. That they can wear whatever They want. That they Are buatifull without makeup. That you shouldnt treat someone for a Thing somebody Else did. Not All men Are bad. But alot is. And alot is going to use Them. That they have to work twice as Hard as men. But overall. I Would teach Them how to be themselves. And teach Them that not All opinions matter.
I have nothing to comment but much much love for these wonderful human beings. As a 30 year old woman who has never been in a serious relationship let alone being a mother I admire you all to go through all of this and most importantly to share them with us so openly.
At first, hearing all these things really really made me not want to have kids. I've heard how childbirth is, scissors are involved... and now there are after effects? They dont all seem so bad, but it was really disheartening once it hit the possiblity of health issues. But then, the last mom's comment really encouraged me. "Whatever marks they left on my body, is worth it because I have them." A mother's love truly is the closest thing to unconditional love. I cannot wait now to experience it myself. 😊😊
Sara Samaletdin Did you miss me clearly saying I had a huge pile of other reasons why I don’t want kids? I’d say the already overburdened and overpopulated planet, the physical pain and horrors of pregnancy, my own mental health, time, freedom, career, creativity, travel, and alone time rank above the vanity. I didn’t mention anything about the way I look. And what on earth does getting old have to do with it? Yes, we’re all going to get old and wrinkly one day (if we’re lucky!). That’s a fact of life and happens kids or no kids. What matters to me is what I do and how I live on the way to that point.
Sara Samaletdin there is no “poor” reason to not want kids... that’s like saying theres a poor reason for not liking or wanting chocolate ice cream, or the flu shot. Any reason is a good and valid reason. Not everyone wants certain things and that’s fine and no one should have to have an explanation to justify their life choices
I’m planning on getting pregnant this year and I’ve watched so much on the positives that now it’s an eye opener to see what happens after birth. Thank you so much for this video!
katrienvdk not everyone has the same experience my first time I didn’t have any of these issues. I even was within the same weight range pretty quickly, if you exercise and take care of yourself they say it can help with some of these issues.
This is wholeheartedly the best video I’ve ever watched. The sheer honesty and how this had a comical touch is what we all needed to break the barrier to the scary side of pregnancy. Thank you ladies for your stories 😂💕
Just had my second baby 3 weeks ago and I can say yes to every single thing these women experienced are true. I got all of them. Nobody tells you these things happen and how much your body changes but women are built differently. Our bodies are like magic!
6 weeks after having my son and I’m still sore. I feel like I’ll never been the same again. People tell you what to expect after having the baby baby-wise, but don’t tell you what to expect with your own body. You are so unbelievably sore and emotional and tired but still have to look after this little bundle of joy. It’s crazy.
6 months after having my son and I still feel drained and not pleased with myself , after birth could be temporary or permanent . And they never tell you what your going to expect after birth.
buzzfeed genuinely puts out the best forms of contraceptives.
Loool girl ... Listen !!!
@Juan Cortez Muro nobody cares
This comment made me laugh so hard. Thank you.
Honestly tho
Omg I laughed to hard 😂😂😂😂
This really solidified that i don’t want to be pregnant ever
Same
Same
This video actually gave me a few pros on my pregnancy list 😂
Me too
I’ve got 2 girls. Hated pregnancy and postpartum both times but I love my girls to pieces! Couldn’t imagine life without them. 😊
Imagine going through all this after giving birth to a baby boy just for him to grow up and disrespect women.
PeechieMeechie11 hun, a child isn’t born disrespecting women. In order for this to happen, they had to have experienced something (verbal or physical trauma), and/or never taught how to deal with their emotions so they project it out on women in violent ways, and/or simply weren’t taught or modeled respect and boundaries in general.
Adults that do these things are just broken and wounded children. They are a result of their childhood experiences. All of us are. The way our brains process those experiences is different for everyone so that’s why people act out in different ways. For example, some sexually abused people may get depressed, some may abuse drugs or alcohol, some project it out on men/women through physical violence.
The way our brain defends itself is out of our control and until we become aware of it, we can’t truly heal and change. Don’t blame the boy, he’s unknowingly a product of his childhood experiences, negative and positive just like you an me.
Vale ooooooorrr could be bad associations
@@Vale-dh1tn you might trigger someone with these sensitive topics your talking about
That depends how you raise him what you're basically saying is that all men disrespect women
SugarPlum FairyDied I apologize for not giving a trigger warning.
People need to open their eyes and start looking up the answers to human behavior. All seeds are planted in childhood. Our childhoods are the reason we are the way we are.
From now on i will wish pregnant moms: a healthy pregnancy, safe delivery, and smooth post delivery recovery. Amen
ilove2929 thank you so much, also with this crazy coronavirus going on, its scary. But i pray that all the pregnant women reading this have a safe delivery.
Amen and also thank you
@@Jesusistheonlyway2heaven thank you so much
This video is free birth control
Fr, i used to be open to the idea of having kids... not anymore 😂
@@alaijahdeleon3207 same haha
haley harmicar 😂😂
Same😂😂😭😭
I mean it's not really free... you have to get a phone and pay for internet soo...
***baby fever has left the chat***
HeyitsJamila💜 😂😂😂😂
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Yep long gone
Oh my god, same. I am no longer super excited to have children when I grow up.
I have so much respect for mothers (The ones who have respect for their kids tho)
Parents expect kids to act like adults. Thats the biggest problem nowadays.
@Juan Cortez Muro you realize that nobody cares right
Juan Cortez Muro why did you- you know what nvm
@@sabrinasoistmanofficial not just parents, most adults do too. I remember that the past school years, my teachers have just expected us to be perfect adults...we weren't even adults, not even mature enough.
Audra Asbury it’s a spam bot replying makes no difference
“Whatever marks they left on my body, they were all worth it “
Made me think of my mom and how she really did give everything for me
Noone mentioned the post partam bleeding. It's like having your period for a month straight. 💯 And you can feel your organs slowly shifting to the right places again...
SCARY!
Exactly i bled for 6 weeks than got my period right after so another week
janine Bean can I ask how you knew the difference between the PP bleeding and knowing it was a actual cycle?
Laura Lee because around 4 weeks i was only spotting and not bleeding as much for another 2 weeks. Then i got my period it was heavy and lasted a week thats how i knew. Also i never got cramps after giving birth at all but did with my period
I bled heavily for the first week after birth, and experienced light spotting the next week, and that was all. It's different for everyone!
I felt when she said her mentality changed. That was my biggest change too.
THIS!! I don't think enough moms talk about it... I am 14 months postpartum and I'm still having bad anxiety.
Same!!! I feel like becoming a mother made me agoraphobic! Like this woman, I worry if something happens to me my kids will not have their mother. Postpartum anxiety is real. Postpartum depression is real. I believe my mental processes changed the most as well
ladyrose1993 My daughter is 17 months and it’s still bad for me. I also have a three year old and had post perfume anxiety after him. There are medications out there that can help.
Yes! I have anxiety and after I had my 2nd child, that anxiety went sky high! Even after she was older! It’s crazy!
@@Tara-id3rk
Exact same for me. I used tI love going out! I can barely make it to a doctors appointment without hella anxiety now. The thought that no one would love him the same if I was gone breaks my heart. 😭
I want a baby but this pregnancy thing doesn’t sound like a motive
Everyone is different not every woman has horrible pregnancy’s
Wasabi00009 Adoption sounds like your go to
Get a sergeant
Wasabi00009 adoption/fostering is an amazing thing!
Adoption is also an option, there are so many kids without loving parents. Lets care about them first before over populate the earth even more
The lady that had twins looks so good! If I was pregnant with twins I’d look like a potato
I already look like a potato
@@ndpd7695 same lol
She said her belly looked like crape paper.
same sis Q_Q
if someone doesn’t want children respect that decision and don’t force it on them
mk thank you.. i get thats it’s nature but not every women on planet earth has to reproduce thats how this world doesn’t get over populated (even though it already is) but get I get funny looks when I say I don’t want any kids (25 years young)
Facts
Freak. She can say whatever she wants. LMAO stop being delusional.
Yup, very true. Respect others decision
Yes
People don’t talk about this because then no one would want to have kids... this video solidifies that
Than do the watch the video, it's your and their caught for clicking on the video not the channel's problem it's yours :)
Nah, I still want kids.
whenever i have baby fever i'm gonna come back and watch this again
Lol
Same here
Gurl me too 😂
I see why so many mothers get plastic surgery after pregnancy. That will definitely be me if I’m not happy with my body after
My post-baby vanity surgery list is so ready 😨😧
SAME. Saving up money now.
U shouldn’t be insecure I mean u will FUKING GROW A BABY AND POP IT OUT OF UR 😺 so just be happy about bc I’m for sure going to adopt 😌
Part of you will get used to it/ not care because you'll be sooooo busy taking care of a baby. And usually your body does (mostly) bounce back in about a year with exercise and diet. Also breastfeeding helps.
this is why it's important for the men in new mom's lives to make them feel loved and appreciated and never point out all their new bodily imperfections, and even with this support if a woman still wants to reshape her body then no one should judge imo
Me currently pregnant: oh no excuse me what..
nehe ne good luck hon
@@aminag4836, pray for me
What they were talking about is commom but it doesn't happen to everyone. Postpartum hair loss is temporary and genetic, many women don't lose their hair. Hemorroids are made when you push too long or when it's unessecary because that pressure cause the veins to swell and pop out. Prevention there is to only push when you get the urge, otherwise you will do more harm than good. And the blatter being weak, belly being loose is nornal because your muscles got loose even the one controlling your bladder. What you can do is exercise before and after pregnancy like mild gymnastics it's actually recommended. So yeah, no woman have the same experience and what you go trough can be either prevented or helped
😂😂😂
nehe ne Omg same here, currently 8 weeks in and I’m now terrified 😂😭
They need more videos like this as a young single mom without a lot of help, it’s cool to hear other people stories so I know that I’m not the only one and feel more connected to society.
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😭 I feel you on the not a lot of help part. Lots of love and hugs for you and your family
I was a young single mom, too. Still am, in a way! (Maybe not so much "young" anymore... haha...) And it was overwhelming and felt lonely. I didn't have any friends in the same boat so I didn't get a lot of true understanding. You're not alone! And I'm sure you're doing a better job than you know.
Thank you alll!!! I ow your kindness is insane
I feel you so much I'm a young mom to and have delt with alot of these issues I struggle with accepting my body now but wouldnt change it for the world because my baby is worth all the insecurities
she really said,”a double chinned beach whale” I-
sis we twinningg
@@promise4453 *confusion*
Lovely_ xo they have the same profile picture
ari elise 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
Would have loved to hear a black woman’s experience, especially when it comes to the veins and hair thinning.
Sarah Steele that’s what I thought
No veins, but my hair has thinned out. Pregnancy is awful.
Yes! That was my hope as well.
Due May 17 with my 3rd child first BOY. hair is super dry and brittle pink oil was a LIFESAVER. No varicose veins but you can start to see the veins in your boobs. Palmer's lotion is a MUST skin starts to stretch and itches like crazy! weird dreams lol.. nipples never turn back to the same size/color 🤣 I also didn't swell as much and feet stayed same size (but shoes got very annoying after awhile) nails grew and I STAY HOT ALL THE TIME! a weird dark like start to appear from the bust line to the panty line be mindful of new body hair ( sideburns, middle of the back) gets finer ugh I'm glad I'm almost done!
My hair isn't thinning, but I guess that's after delivery.
This made me realize that I need to start saving money for our surrogate.
Sui Caedere i think this is why Kim K W resorted to it after the second time. She was like might as well quit while I’m ahead
That’s disgusting, so many foster children needing homes and you rent a woman to have a child for you
Duda Mendes Mili Do you go thrifting for your dinnerware, clothes, utensils, food? I hope so. Otherwise how disgusting of you to go buy new dishes, clothes, and food that are polluting our earth and filling our landfills.
Your argument of why go get new when wcan use existing ones can be applied to everything.
And why am I disgusting for wanting to have someone else have my children that I am clearly planning and desiring?
Go call out the parents letting their kids down by giving them to the system or the family of the parents that don’t take them. Or the pharma companies that have ruined many a person into incapable parents!
Claire from experience the woman* not girls, that do surrogacy do iit because they have children of their own and understand the toll and are able tp put a price tag on it. Paying a surrogate isn’t cheap! And they get paid whether pr not a birth is successful.
Do NOT make it seem like there’s a rich class paying 20 year old to pop out kids.
There’s a requirement for these women go be previous mothers and to understand the situation and risk.
They don’t do it out of need or greed! They do it to help another couple have a child regardless of there being infertility issues or just issues of employment and lifestyle not allowing for a biological pregnancy!
You’re so uneducated.
For all the people showing their disgust to having a suroggate dude its their FLIPPING CHOICE NO NEED TO JUDGE
*So who is addopting a child after watching the video*
Me
I was already gonna adopt before I saw the video but this confirms it a million times more
Me! 🙋♀️
Me
Meeeeeeee!
“Your feet grow permanently”
Ummm I wear an 11 already yeah no thanks
claire - its ok.... ive had three little faces and my feet were and are still a size 11
yeahh same
Dont worry at least it's not MENS size 13 nikes
Claire Lepine I've had two and am carrying my third and my feet haven't grown but I'm a size 11.5
I went from a size 11 to a size 12. All my shoe collection i had to give away.
Now i understand why its a sin to be disrespectful towards your parents
Same they go through so much
I still don’t get why all mine do is abuse me 🤷🏻♀️
@@user-hh8wf8lc2b well that is also a sin
@@lifehack182 Sometimes I don't get it. Like you have a child just to abuse it, if you really didn't want to have them then why didn't they just get an abortion (if they wanted to) or put them up for adoption or just accept the fact they have a child and actually take care of them
I don't know how all of this works but I'm pretty sure there's many ways
Men don't give birth so
So yeah I’m not getting pregnant
LMAO same! 😂😂
Same XD
Me too
That's fair 😂 my son is about to turn one and my hair is still falling out like crazy and I think I have more skin covered in stretch marks than not.
One day we will all be old and wrinkly anyway, at least now I have someone who can come around and open my jars. 😂
Coraline Cool 😂😂😂
The mother of the twins is so classy and cute
I literally just changed my mind about having kids. ✌🏻
namjune everyone is different because what they explained never happened to me, none of it except the after belly of course but mine stayed tiny, you might not get some of that either every one is different 😀
Unpopular opinion: I'm still excited to have a baby even after watching this - I feel like I'd be a really great mom and I'm excited to be proud of my body for its accomplishment
Honestly I'm pregnant now and im scared but extremely excited plus it helps.to have such a supportive man.
literally same
same
I just had my first a month ago and it's really not so bad! I even had some small complications and a premature delivery and I'd 100% do it all again. You really do forget the pain almost immediately 🙂
Same here girl. You posted this comment 9months ago, I hope you had a safe and healthy delivery ❤️
I’m pregnant, I’m not sure if I should be watching it 😳
Not sure how far along you are but MOST of these "post partum" changes happen BEFORE you give birth not after. I'm 33 weeks in and have only gained 16 pounds, have none of the common issues females have in pregnancy.
Better to know now than be surprised:) Also you can have different things happen in different pregnancies. I'm 20 weeks with baby #4 and every pregnancy has been different:)
It's good to know though! Congrats!
One of y’all’s BEST videos!!
As scary as all this is, you will forget. lol. IT IS LITERALLY THE CRAZIEST THING. I think it's how people keep having babies.
This video is the best contraception. I’m 37 and never wanted them. Recently I had a couple of “hmm maybe...” thoughts but this just cemented it. I like my body as it is. Fair play to all the mums out there though - you’re all heroes and you have my utmost respect!
Louise Lowe at 37? Dude I’m 35. Are you also like ridiculously-good-looking? Cause I have two. Keep hmmm maybeing cause it was worth it for me and im vain
To had to your reasons not to have children : du to all the changes the body goes through during pregnancy, I heard the more you have children the less life expectancy you have 🤷🏽♀️ don’t know if it’s true tho.
You do you girl ! 🤗
thechristelle4 I’ve heard quite the opposite the more children you’ve got the more will you have to live and you body produces natural antioxidants
@@thechristelle4 It could be because of the constant stress, stress has such a huge effect on your physical health
I have so much respect for these women for talking about this on such a public platform.
But I’m also keeping/replacing my IUD for the rest of my childbearing years
All the 15 year olds claiming they have baby fever need to watch this 😂
Gia Little 17 year old here and I second this! (I only like babysitting kids, don’t want my own, but these are informative.)
I feel called out.
Oh trust me I'm a 15 year old and I have never had baby fever, I've always known I don't want kids😂
@@hayleythething3071 same!! This video just reassured me of my desicion
omg thats exactly me lsdjksejkdkdd im 15 having this baby fever (didnt even know it had a name) but i still wanna have kids soooo bad
Me: Wow I’m never getting pregnant
Also me: *Has two kids already
Me too 😂😂
Right!!!
😂
This is a whole mood 😂
This so funny😂😂😂
Now I feel bad for my mom
Olga Cs why she chose to have kids 😂😂
@@dinkyboss well im pretty sure she wasnt expecting the after party lmao💀 and what if she was just getting it on amd found out she was pregnant but she didnt get an abortion cus she dont belive in it or just didn't wan to kill her baby
your momma that’s what happened to my mom 😔✊
Don't feel bad. She chose to breed. You didn't ask her to. But she did. All the problems that came with it was her choice (hopefully)
@@mya5555 oh my💀
They also don’t tell you that when you breast feed it’s also painful in your uterus because it’s contracting. And then it feels like labor again but not quite as bad. Eventually it goes away but still hurts a lot.
Wow.
This didn’t happen to me with my first. Holy cow did it get me the second time around. Next baby will be taking a hot water bottle to the hospital for after.
Omg yes, my first wasn’t too bad but it was horrible with my second. I’ve been told it gets worse with each pregnancy 😬
Not everyone has this but it can be a shock to have "pains" during feeding. Knowing this prevents bleeding too much and helps shrink your uterus back to normal size is worth focusing on till it subsides.
Other viewers: "Wow, I'm never giving birth."
Me, 4 months pregnant: "Welp...it's too late now..."
Same girl 😂
5 months pregnant... Too late 😂
Same! Currently 6 months. 😂
Big same here 🙋🏼♀️
You got this!! 💕Congratulations!!
And then they wonder why younger generations don't want any kids.
I'm 41 no kids watching this to insure I never do
Well, it's also cause we don't even get paid enough to take care of ourselves, much less another human.
@@lindiwengwevela524 Thats for sure my mom always ask me to have another baby . I'm like when I get rich sure lmao.
@@cheesetoast2659 LOL
It's too expensive even if they wanted to!
I had a good pregnancy thank God. Easy natural labor....I did have 3 doses of epidural though. Morning sickness was 24/7 for 3 months straight. I was glowing. My skin and hair. I didn't get any stretch Mark's. It's genetic on my mom's side of the family. Never had postpartum depression. My baby was born in the summer. I was out with her all the time. Didnt have to be locked inside the home in the cold. She was a pretty easy baby. At 4 months old she started sleeping the whole night. She is now 11 years old 🧡
good for you God bless
Natural isn't with epidural though..? That just a vaginal birth which is still AMAZING and honestly giving birth (I've had an epidural and a natural) was the best thing I've ever done and my biggest accomplishment lol
Holly Long a natural birth is a birth that doesn’t need medical intervention, such as c section. Different people have different mentalities on what’s natural or not.
@@nataliebatista651 actually an epidural isn't considered natural. Natural is no drugs/ interventions, as the name suggests.
aditi3333 like I said depends on the person.
I just got comfortable with my body.... and now I'm 8 months pregnant. Yay....
River Clark you can do it 👏🏻💕
Me too... Got into Keto lost weight without suffering for the first time in my life and was happy asf... then boom.... Pregnant
When you give birth, you'll realize just how strong you are, you're stronger than you will EVER realize. Be patient, educate yourself, and don't trust doctors with everything
Same. Lost 25lbs and was finally content with how I looked then got pregnant less than 6 mo the later. I just had my baby a month ago.
I actually don’t feel bad about not wanting kids ever, I didn’t grow up in an affectionate home and I’m not an affectionate person, I don’t feel comfortable saying”I love you” to anyone, I would feel bad knowing that I wouldn’t be able to show affection and have patience to raise a child, and to be honest a lot of women don’t have children, I just don’t see myself ever see myself as a mother, I see myself as like a cool aunt in the future
Nothing wrong with not wanting kids.. But thats how i felt when i was younger.. Now im 38 and 34 weeks along and already telling baby i love her whenever shes kicking. Funny how time works
EricA Amato I know I’m still a minor ... but I feel really happy for loving mothers, and I have nothing against baby’s, but that just doesn’t seem like the life for me , maybe I’ll change my mind in the future but idk, also congratulations!
yeah yeah my cousin said the same .......now she has a son and would kill for him...
@@lillianaalfaro8476 I know exactly how you feel
And that’s 1000% valid, you don’t owe anyone kids and if you know you don’t want to or if you can’t emotionally that’s 100% fine as well
Other girls: “I’m never getting pregnant”
Me: my due date is Saturday 😳
Oh my god! Hope you have a safe labour ❤
Katie Hozian have a safe delivery 🎉🎉
Aw congratulations girl !
how did it go??
Oh man shes probably so busy
They didnt even cover C-Section births. Those come with all that and a whole nother list of things that happen to your body afterwards.
This! 👆
Yesss...I had a c section a month ago and my lower abdomen is still numb
Chelsea Guinn is that normal?
According to what my doctor said Yes but it’s very weird to me lol
Chelsea Guinn i had my son 2 years ago and my lower abdomen is numb too it feels so weird at times
this has solidified the fact that i don't ever want to get pregnant
Imo I think what would've been a good addition to this vid is having a doctor or someone explaining why some of the things are happening or how to help these situations.
Yeah, for example it's most common for women's feet to grow if they gain too much weight or if they eat too much sugar, salt or not walk enough.
When she said she started pumping blood, I cringed so hard
Rhi3698 honestly she was being hysterical. She pumped so hard she did it to herself. I looked it up too- you can’t lactate blood she was just being dramatic
caitosanna She wasn’t saying she was lactating blood, just that she was pumping it which is unfortunately thing that does happen.
caitosanna she could have had a blood clot and you will pump out blood. It’s called “strawberry milk” and it is definitely a thing.
kennyfromdablock oh yes but that’s a clot 🤷♀️
I’ve had two
Ehhh it’s not a contest
lol the more you know 🌈
caitosanna JUST HOW DARE YOU say that to a young mom who tried to feed her baby with her boobs and failed. If you don’t know just don’t say anything but that’s so rude of you to say that she’s too dramatic. That’s her experience, she’s kind enough to tell us so expecting mothers can know what could happen but you and your stupid face decide to make a stupid comment that you should have kept to yourself.
comment section:
“never having kids”
**Triggered mom is typing...**
Hun, your body your choice. But a shame that you don't see the beauty of it all.
Goldy Borodkin why a shame? Tf. A shame you think people are going to see beauty in something just cus you do.
🤣 they just feel defensive cause most moms, if they could go back in time wouldn’t have kids.
No use of women who dont wanna give birth! Useless
Zayn Malik honestly you are soo ridiculous
Other people: the best contraceptive Is The pill
Me: check out this buzzfeed vid
Gema Yescas Alemán idk about the pill being the best, I got pregnant while taking it daily exactly as directed 🤷🏻♀️😂
@@micaelasilva4629 my mom did too. I'm trying to not think about it 😂 (pls spare me)
Watching this while 17 weeks pregnant and am so thankful these conversations are being normalized. I appreciate all of these amazing moms for being so candid and for educating me on what can happen and what to possibly expect. Cheers to all moms and moms to be! 🤰🏻
C: I love this comment. (8 weeks)
Shout out to my brand new IUD!
Jessica Saenz 🙌🏻
Same
Never having kids I didn’t want them anyway but this is the cherry on top
I’m pregnant and this genuinely makes me feel better and more prepared !
Stay safe💞
I'm 22 weeks pregnant and watching this has truly scared me lol. Lord be with me.
How’s that going for you? I’m in my first trimester cx
Lmao me right now 🤣😩😩 just praying for healthy baby , save delivery and recovery 🙏🏼
Congratulations on your baby. I'm 20 weeks now😊
22 weeks currently!! 🥰
So basically, having a baby sucks the life out of you😳
Kanisha Chinn actually its nutrition deficiency that causes most the problem if you are really good and took good vitamins it would get better
Absolutely, after my first child I had to get my gallbladder removed and my second child I had a milk abscess develop in my breast the size of a golf ball that had to be surgically removed. I love my babies but never again.
Pregnancy too, cause the baby basically feeds off of you & then birth, and postpartum tries to regulate everything but in some cases the damage is done
yes
It does
My brother grew up too fast.. poor guy lmao
Father at 15, single father at 16 (gf’s suicide)
But he’s mature now.
He was never able to hang out with his friends, go to parties, get drunk and high.
He wanted to be there for his twin girls. He did online school, graduated and is becoming a cop.
He’s 21 now, still there for his girls.
❤️❤️
😎
Women are simply AMAZING 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
yes, if anyone says mEn ToO shut up and let women have the spotlight for once💅🏻
I am an Indian mother and it's a pity that after childbirth we stop taking care of ourselves and dedicate life entirely for the newborn.. I think it's time to take care of oneself..
Yea but kids are first priority 🤩
@@DonDon45-i5h They never should be. If you’re unhealthy how will you take care of a newborn?
@Eminem because unexpected complications can ALWAYS happen. Dhivya talked about not dedicating life "entirely" to the newborn and she is right.
@@DonDon45-i5h noone should be more important than yourself.
@@mogs2523 Exactly, and your self respect is mirrored by your baby. They learn everything from you. How much you care for your own self is how much they in turn will care for themselves.
Was gonna send this to my pregnant friend... only 5 minutes in and I decided not to after all..
Would be a really bad decision
lol same. i wanted to send it to my sister in law as a cute entertainment. well i don’t want to scare her lmao
Same
@@gdfbmvjsvb
Darn. You should've sent it to her. It would have been hella entertaining for to see her freak out.
Same. I don't want to freak her out.
I read this as *"surprising things your baby does after childbirth "*
SAME, I didn't even realise I read it wrong until you said so. I should've realised by the video...
Same
Live
Mymo_on same
That's a whole nother video.
I was told I couldn't have kids so when I found out I was pregnant it was a shock....I'm so thankful to be Momma to my happy, healthy 2 year old!
❤❤❤
Congratulations. I was told the same 20 weeks pregnant now wish me luck
me: ain’t no way i’m doing this
also me: *is pregnant*
You can do it.😊❤
Same
Did you summon your baby into the world yet?
@@crispynuggets1580 not yet just turned 36 weeks 😅
same 😔🤚
So you’re telling me all the money I’m putting into laser hair removal is a waste? 😭😭
I had laser prior to pregnancy and I am still good after having my baby. Just depends on each person.
@@NVME480 Thank God. Atleast there is some hope. My heart just sank after I saw that.
😝😝😝😝😝
Where I go they have a lifetime policy. So if at any time the hair comes back you can go back for free to remove it.
CJ WHERE DO YOU GO!?
I know I’m meant to be a mom when I still want to have kids after this video♥️♥️♥️ it brings so much joy to me just hearing moms talk about bad things but how powerful to good takes over. I’m not pregnant and won’t be for a while lol I’m not even married yet. But ya love these videos ♥️
This is my biggest issue regarding having my own biological children.
I just had my son one month ago, I'm 17. During my experience so far, the birthing process was exactly how it was described to me. Period cramps to the extreme...plus I lost a lot of weight throughout, and after my pregnancy. But my son is healthy and that's all I want.
Awww! Best wishes to you and Baby
I just turned 18 and just got pregnant. I wanted it, and so does he. We love our little bean, but so far, pregnancy has not been easy, and even watching this video wouldn’t have been enough to stop him. It’s been really rough tho and I’m only on 8.5 weeks 🥲
Congratulations 👏 girl I'm proud of u and idk you. I'm going to have my baby this year hoping it goes well
@@languagenerd2231 hey hun how's it going hope your doing great and definitely praying for all three of you😊☺️
@@christengardner1466 doing good, I changed my username haha. My baby is 4 months now c:
Even though it scares us young girls. When they show they are still happy and grateful it gives a good feeling as well
My feet never grew. I didn’t gain weight anywhere besides thighs and booty, both went away right after birth. My skin didn’t get more sensitive. I didn’t get weird veins. My breasts and nipples didn’t change. I didn’t get hemorrhoids.
These are all very relative to each mother. I’m thankful to have had none of these issues.
Same here! I never even bought maternity clothes, I just had to unzip my jeans. Literally left the hospital wearing a pair of jeans that fit even before I got pregnant lol. I personally think a LOT of these things are related to the lifestyle of the mother.
Kaitlyn 990 It’s not really lifestyle, it’s mainly genes. Just like how your period can be similar to your biological mothers because of genes, your pregnancy is the same. (Obviously not for everyone but definitely for most)
NOT every pregnancy has all these things happen for myself: My feet never grew, I never got new stretch marks (have old ones), didn’t gain weight during pregnancy but did afterwards, milk never came in (no one tells you that part), skin no change, daughter kicked one of my ribs into another so now that spot feels weird, varicose veins nope, hair loss BIG time thankfully naturally way to thick so no big deal for me oh it went back to more curls and some of the other stuff nope. Food cravings that have not left
Exactly I had so much milk, no weight gain or varicose vein and my hair actually grew or morning sickness and my stomach deflated within hours. But i did get weird dark patches on my skin, my breasts are not perky. Every pregnancy is so different. They should remind people only a few things will probably happen per person.
honestly in the end the only thing that really makes me mad right now is that I can't sneeze without peeing myself. I'm very sorry to hear about your milk not coming in, a lot of women blame themselves make sure you don't it just happens sometimes it's not because of anything you've done. all feeding is beautiful, because all feeding is bonding 💕
No not all of them but normally a few
@@AirQuotes i went through the majority of this stuff and they didn't even get into prolapse, that itchy skin thing, high blood pressure, preeclampsia, etc. This was pretty mild and mainly cosmetic. The thing to know is you're not alone no matter what you're going through, even if it's deciding not to have any at all.
And this my friends, is why i want to adopt kids. You still get the joy of having kids WITHOUT making your body suffer AND then you can give kids without a family a loving new home. Win win all around
All the pain, blood, gore, etc is soooo worth it. My body will never be the same but the love I have for the little alien inside of me was something I never thought i knew. I used to cuddle my bump to sleep and now I can cuddle my baby ❤️❤️❤️
I don’t like the “I don’t know if it’ll ever go away” part 😂😬
Wow... here i am feeling bad about my 37lb gain from my pregnancy... this lady gained almost 100lbs.... WILD
That’s a bit rude. I gained 80, it’s normal to happen
@@lilyjohnson3472 how is it rude? No one is judging her. It's just wrapping your mind around how much that is.
I'm going to be 38 in two days, and people need to talk more about postpartum. I prefer to be prepared for what is to come, so I don't freak out when something happens. I needed to watch this so I have an idea what to expect. Thank you so much ladies, for opening up about what your body might go through after giving birth.
Abigail Hannah baby blues are real, hair loss hits around 3 months of age, your body/uterus takes about 6 weeks to shrink back but don’t expect to bounce back that fast (the 3 months postpartum has been referred to as the ‘fourth’ trimester because all the body changes), breast feeding is HARD if you choose this route be extra sure you’re educated on what to do when and ask tons of questions.... this is just stuff you may not have heard.
I watched so many videos during my first pregnancy. I’d rather know what to expect and prepare for than to be ignorant.
2 weeks postpartum, i can relate to almost everything said here and i dont regret carrying and growing my baby for the past 9 months 💖
“Whatever marks they left on my body, they were all worth it ‘cause I have them” that’s so wholesome and sweet oh my god
After the birth of my son I never was told about the postpartum hair lost, I was scared something was wrong with me when I took a shower and I literal chunks of hair was coming out of my head.
Thank God Google exist and articles about hair loss after having a baby.
Gracy Toy Schultz The same thing happened to me and I thought that I was dying for some horrible disease.
My son took all my edges out. Took two years from them to come back 😭
@Jenn Jenn It lasts for a cycle of hair growth which is about 3 months. It also starts about 3 months postpartum.
@@faeriesmak but also can happen longer because everyone is different! My friend is 9 months PP and is still losing hair like crazy
@@HollehhMarie Oh yea..totally! Typically it lasts for one hair growth cycle. For me it started about 3 months PP and lasted for another 3 or 4 months. But everyone is different.
An FYI doctors say that most women do and do not experience certain things afterbirth. Every woman experiences different things throughout their pregnancy and not everyone is the same. Don’t be scared lol!
Pregnant women get so many resources for childbirth and nursing and almost all of them go over these things, these women just didnt do their research like they're supposed to
Lyzzie K. True that!
I didn't experience most of these things. Some yes, all of them no.
V Camie same here and I’m currently 7 weeks postpartum.
@@jennifervaldez I'm 8 weeks post!! Congratulations! I'm so in love with my boy 😍 It's the best!!
"your skin gets more sensitive"
me: *4 skin conditions, allergies to foundation and certain makeups, and bath and body works, and any soap that isnt specifically sensitive skin, and permanent rashes no matter what i do* o h.
deadass me 😂😂😂
omg girl me too! my face has recently decided it doesn’t like ANY of my pillow covers 🙃 even products made for sensitive skin make my face basically melt off...
I have skin sensitivity myself. Pregnancies didn't alter anything about that, except at some points when I got drier skin and hair or when they became more oily (I have normal skin). I'm back to normal though.
The woman who pushed twins 😳😭😪 Shea deserves an award
Is a child worth all this?😱😱
I might as well adopt. Pregnancy and post-pregnancy sounds like a horror movie.
riyaan Totally worth it. That’s why many women have more than one baby.
@@Tara-id3rk when your body is already distroyd. A secound rund is almost for free.
I’d definitely rather adopt
@@Tara-id3rk there are many kids who need a family, adoption is just as important.
I'd rather adopt too. One, because I'm scared, and two, a genetic condition (NF) I don't want to pass on to my child.
Wow the lady with the twins looks like an amazing person. I need to have such a person in my life
If i get a Boy.
Im going to learn him how to take responsibility, respect every women.
Respect every man.
Learning him that you shouldnt judge People by sexuality
Learn him that his feelings Are okay.
Teaching him not to call Girls swear words or sexuallising words.
Not to harras Anybody,
Treat People nicely like you want to be treated yourself.
And that they need to work like clean, cooking, Laundry,
And Teaching Them house chores Arent a "womens work.
If i get a girl.
Teaching her that women and men Are equal.
That they can do what They set their heads to.
That they can wear whatever They want.
That they Are buatifull without makeup.
That you shouldnt treat someone for a Thing somebody Else did.
Not All men Are bad. But alot is.
And alot is going to use Them.
That they have to work twice as Hard as men.
But overall. I Would teach Them how to be themselves. And teach Them that not All opinions matter.
To watch this and imagine what our mothers had to go through during pregnancy and even after is amazing. I just hope I do her proud.
They should have videos like this at school.
I'm so glad they ended this on a positive note despite all the challenges they went through! Awesome job ladies!
I have nothing to comment but much much love for these wonderful human beings. As a 30 year old woman who has never been in a serious relationship let alone being a mother I admire you all to go through all of this and most importantly to share them with us so openly.
At first, hearing all these things really really made me not want to have kids. I've heard how childbirth is, scissors are involved... and now there are after effects? They dont all seem so bad, but it was really disheartening once it hit the possiblity of health issues.
But then, the last mom's comment really encouraged me. "Whatever marks they left on my body, is worth it because I have them." A mother's love truly is the closest thing to unconditional love. I cannot wait now to experience it myself. 😊😊
I've always flirted with the idea of adopting, I think I might actually ask it out now
Hey look, more reasons to never have a baby. I’ll add them to the giant Everest-sized pile of NOOOPE! *shudder*
So did you miss them all saying it was worth it? And we are all getting old anyway. So you don’t have to have kids but vanity is poor reason not to.
Sara Samaletdin Did you miss me clearly saying I had a huge pile of other reasons why I don’t want kids? I’d say the already overburdened and overpopulated planet, the physical pain and horrors of pregnancy, my own mental health, time, freedom, career, creativity, travel, and alone time rank above the vanity. I didn’t mention anything about the way I look. And what on earth does getting old have to do with it? Yes, we’re all going to get old and wrinkly one day (if we’re lucky!). That’s a fact of life and happens kids or no kids. What matters to me is what I do and how I live on the way to that point.
Amen to that. I can respect the amazing work moms do, but it is definitely not for me.
Sara Samaletdin there is no “poor” reason to not want kids... that’s like saying theres a poor reason for not liking or wanting chocolate ice cream, or the flu shot. Any reason is a good and valid reason. Not everyone wants certain things and that’s fine and no one should have to have an explanation to justify their life choices
You should watch a video on the great aspects of pregnancy l/having a child too before making a decision
I’m planning on getting pregnant this year and I’ve watched so much on the positives that now it’s an eye opener to see what happens after birth. Thank you so much for this video!
Watching this while pregnant and after every person talks about their experience I’m like “fml”
katrienvdk not everyone has the same experience my first time I didn’t have any of these issues. I even was within the same weight range pretty quickly, if you exercise and take care of yourself they say it can help with some of these issues.
Those faces they made when talking about their babies. You can tell they love them. Wait until they're teenagers.
I love this as a mom of an almost 1 year old I appreciate this honesty it makes it all feel better it’s nice to know I’m not alone 😭
Props to Buzzfeed to featuring more grown up content, shows how they’re growing with their millennial audience
This is wholeheartedly the best video I’ve ever watched. The sheer honesty and how this had a comical touch is what we all needed to break the barrier to the scary side of pregnancy. Thank you ladies for your stories 😂💕
I’m currently 37 weeks pregnant! Can’t wait 💕
Leslie H so excited for you!! Good luck on your birth😊
Congrats! I wish you a safe and happy delivery!
Me reading the title: Surprising things your *baby* does after birth. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
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Only reason I clicked on this.
I have such respect for you and a BIIIIG thank you for being so open and real! We women need to talk about this stuff!
Just had my second baby 3 weeks ago and I can say yes to every single thing these women experienced are true. I got all of them. Nobody tells you these things happen and how much your body changes but women are built differently. Our bodies are like magic!
Daaaammnnn giving birth is hard. Hope may god bless me with this joy 😄
i just came here to fix my baby fever and let’s just say it worked well :)
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6 weeks after having my son and I’m still sore. I feel like I’ll never been the same again. People tell you what to expect after having the baby baby-wise, but don’t tell you what to expect with your own body. You are so unbelievably sore and emotional and tired but still have to look after this little bundle of joy. It’s crazy.
6 months after having my son and I still feel drained and not pleased with myself , after birth could be temporary or permanent . And they never tell you what your going to expect after birth.
Dear moms, thx for sharing these 'embarrassing' details, it is soooo nice to hear them and gives us a little insight and a lot to think about🖤