No the idea behind it is that sings skinny is healthy but skinny is not healthy because you can be fat on the inside but be skinny on the outside people that are outwardly fat look unhealthy but people that are inwardly fat are just as unhealthy
@@HeatherPendergast the emphasis around "women's" health could be because we produce babies and our bodies go through many more intense physical changes than men (generally) . You obviously have never had children 😂😂😂
She literally just described all the physical and mental struggles she's been going through but ended with saying how it is all worth it for her baby. Mothers are such amazing human beings. So much Love for Moms everywhere
Time stamps 0:00 intro 1:54 about the birth itself 4:48 stomach area 7:29 body image and losing weight 13:07 chest area 14:35 sweating 15:24 mental health 15:31 depression 16:38 OCD 18:41 anxiety 19:30 outro
i am currently crying watching this. i have never seen another woman on youtube who has documented their pregnancy be so open and honest while being so so positive. thank you so much this means the most to me .
I absolutely love how open and honest Colleen is about these things that some people consider gross or weird. These things are normal and beautiful and she’s a freaking boss for giving birth to a human!
Zora Z I thought she was going to say that her mom had adopted which makes a woman just as much of a boss mom as a mom who gives birth to a biological child.
And while on the topic, the comment "she’s a freaking boss for giving birth to a human!" is still problematic. That’s the kind of implicit statement which makes women who can’t give birth or choose not to, and moms who use a gestational carrier or adopt feel less-than. We need to be inclusive of *all* women when speaking about women and not swing the pendulum to the other side.
RUclips needs to stop having issues with people talking about gynaecology. Talking about it normalises it. I am a science teacher and getting students to open up and ask questions is really difficult because they never hear people talking about it.
The whole “SnapBack” culture does my head in. I was one of the ones that did “snapback” I walked out of the hospital at my old weight because I didn’t gain that much during pregnancy. However, after 7 months of breastfeeding, I gained about 36lb and you get that label of having “let yourself go”.... when behind closed doors I’m a single parent that had to eat to stay awake with clusterfeed etc. It pathetic that our society puts so much pressure on those that are literally producing our future
Breastfeeding actually slows down our metabolism because the hormones dont produce due to other hormones. Also the same reason cycles can stop while breastfeeding. But nobody tells us about it and just assume as you said, that we let ourselves go
I had a daughter when I was 19 a little over five years ago, and struggled SO MUCH because I was not expecting the changes that occur. I know these videos probably have helped a lot of mommies feel more comfortable in their skin.
I still have “baby weight” after 2 years and I was really feeling insecure about it today, but watching this video made me feel heaps better about myself. Thank you, Colleen, for talking about this 💜
You are gorgeous girl. You created a human. That is an unfathomable thing to do. I'm proud of you and you should be too. Have a wonderful and confident life!
THANK YOU FOR BRINGING AWARENESS TO THE REALITY OF CHILDBIRTH!!! It will alwayysss confuse me why tf people think its ok to make fun of/criticize the way women look when if it WERENT FOR THE WOMEN WHO CHOOSE TO GET PREGNANT, NO ONE WOULD BE HERE. LIKE LITERALLY. Women, especially MEN, have no place to speak on that for real. To get specific men have no place to talk about women’s bodies in general
"WERENT FOR THE WOMEN WHO CHOOSE TO GET PREGNANT, NO ONE WOULD BE HERE. LIKE LITERALLY." as a woman, I h8 what people say that because I get what tryinging to say, but this isn't really 100% true. both women AND MEN need each other to be here. without men, us women wouldn't be able to have the chance to give birth, BUT if it isn't for women, none would be born, so overall humanity wouldn't exist without BOTH GENDERS❤ thx 4 coming to my Ted talk 😂💖
Thank you for brining up the fact that everyone comments on “snapping back” after birth. I’ve worked out extremely hard postpartum and lost my pregnancy weight, but everyone has had the need to comment on “how good my stomach looks for just having a baby.” I really get the compliment, but don’t appreciate it. I am working out harder than ever because I almost died from eclampsia and HELLP syndrome, and want to feel healthy after that... not because I want to look “cute.”
Medicine and Mascara yes girl! The last time I lost a significant amount of weight was because I was dealing with depression and literally felt too overwhelmed to figure out what to eat. The amount of people that told me how great I looked made me feel so horrible. I was scream crying in the deepest parts of my soul and all people could see was that I was thin, which to them meant I was doing great. I’m now exercising to keep my mental health in order and have started getting some similar comments of how great I’m looking. It completely misses the point. The reasons to exercise are varied and numerous. Thanks for sharing, I relate 💜
@@ironchic5055 You know this woman has done nothing wrong in this video. She is always careful with what she says because she doesn't want to offend anyone because she is just considerate and a very nice person. You are not the half the woman she is coming on here and having the nerve to say that.
I'm almost 1 year post partum and this made me tear up. You actually made me realize I was probably depressed during pregnancy.. it was the hardest time of my life and the minute my daughter was born I felt like myself again. Thank you for being so open about the journey xx
I love hearing women’s pregnancy and postpartum stories because all of them are unique and I always learn something new! Thank you for continuing to share your story with us ❤️
my mom still struggles with her stretch marks and insecurities surrounding her body 15 years after child birth. women who went through pregnancy and birth are incredible.
And this is why I’m never having kids. Has anyone ever sat down and gone through the pros and cons of having a child? I love my body and no kid is gonna ruin that for me😂🤙🏻
I'm only 15 but I love that fact that you make content for all ages. I'm young but your the few people that are preparing the young for the future. I love and admire you, and every time I go to your channel I have something I can see that will make my day. Love you Colleen ❤️❤️❤️.
IKR she's so sweet and kind and that's so cool of her to speak abt this and not feel shameful for being a women and doing one of the things her body was built to do
I feel like everyone had an expectation with this video... but she talked about it even better than expected. I feel like they were expecting her to talk about her weight loss but she just talked about plain FACTS. She told us what was really Important and that’s all that matters. GO U COLLEEN! ❤️❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕💕💜💜💜. OH MY GOSH THANKS FOR THE LIKES!
I really needed this today. I’m 33 weeks and I can’t tell you how much negative comments I get about my size weather it be too big, to small, how much weight have I gained? And all of these comment came from woman. Most of those woman who have had children. We need more woman that think like this. Pregnancy is hard enough on your body. Woman don’t need to be stressed about how it looks like.
Take Flight Congratulations!!! I wish you the best of luck, and support from those around 😊 And obviously a very healthy baby, no matter which gender it is ❤️
about “snapping back”... one scientific fact is that human females typically require a 125 calorie surplus while pregnant (2125 or around there), but DOUBLE the amount when lactating/breastfeeding. legitimately 4000 calories. the extra weight is there for a reason!
alot of pregnant women eat double but gotta remember, one of the people is the size of a baby lol. Eating for 2 adults is just an easy way to gain a lot of unnecessary weight
Exactly, so many of my friends would complain to me they weren't making enough milk and yet they'd be on these insane diets with restricted calories. I ate as I pleased and exclusively breastfed my girl until she was 19 months, and boy could she eat! :D
As the nurse and nutritionist I can assure you that it is unnecessary to eat 4000 calories a day while breastfeeding unless you would like to gain a lot of weight. A woman should eat between 1800 and 2200 calories per day while breastfeeding.
@@personincognito3989 That's not enough, as a normal person should be eating around 2000 on a daily. It is true that it shouldn't be 4000 but it shouldn't be 2200 either
Me too... I ended up having hernia surgery when my youngest child was 14 yrs. old. I had what my OB told me was a pregnancy hernia. When I had to have a hysterectomy my GYN informed me that I had a hernia in my stomach. It didnt bother me til 4 years later. My general surgeon told me I had at least 1 hernia and a possible 2nd one, but he wouldn't know until he did the surgery. On surgery day he actually found 3 hernias. Not sure if that's because I had 3 children or not. I warn any woman who has a hernia during pregnancy to keep an eye on it.
Having an emergency c-section was so traumatizing for me, and the first couple weeks after having my baby girl were the hardest for me. I wasn't able to hold her so I couldn't breast feed properly, then on top of that she was underweight so I was told that I have to give her formula, AND because she took a bottle the first couple of days, she wouldn't latch onto my nipple. So now I am not able to breast feed, I occasionally pump. so grateful for my baby, but I think people fail to realize how intense it is to grow a baby, then give birth or have surgery, then recover, deal with depression or anxiety, no sleep ... and on top of all of that, also taking care of a small person. Thank you for this video, I needed this Baby girl is now almost 2 months
You are STRONG! Never forget that, becoming a mother is intense and they don't teach you how to do anything...but it gets easier. I had almost the same experience as you, the anxiety also made bonding pretty difficult which was hard. We are now 1 year 10 months in and it is much much easier. Trust yourself - is the only advice i can give...the babycentre app is also a nice place to go to. 😁
If I may I'd like to share my breastfeeding story with you. I was a young mom and I didn't want to BF my first daughter, but i REALLY wanted to with my second. With having a toddler and a newborn and being so young I just really wanted those special quiet moments that only her and I could share, but I knew almost from day 1 that something was wrong. She never ever seemed satisfied if she even latched at all and nurses were dismissive and said to give it time. We went home and I tried for a full month but she was crying ALL the time, she wasn't sleeping at ALL and she was ALWAYS giving hunger cues. One day for the first time since becoming a mom the first time I had to put her in the crib and walk away for a few moments and I decided that day to give her a bottle of formula and to my amazement she sucked that thing down so fast and she slept for THREE HOURS. I felt so guilty and ashamed that I wasn't able to share that experience with her for a while but I realized eventually that she was happier and I was happier and our bottle feeding time was more special than any moment we shared breastfeeding. It turned out that she had a mild case of a condition that made it hard for her to breathe while using the amount of "sucking force" (i'm sorry i dont know how else to explain that) needed to BF as opposed to sucking from a bottle, which we didn't learn until months later. In the end we were both SO much happier and healthier bottle feeding and that was the most important thing. That little baby girl is an amazing 11 year old now and she is absolute joy and our bond absolutely did not suffer because we didn't share a beautiful experience with breastfeeding. What I'm trying to say is that no matter what you and your babies health and happiness is the most important thing and in the end you're going to get exactly where you need to be as a mother daughter power duo no matter what that journey looks like. Stay strong and enjoy every single moment because when they say that time flies it's a massive understatement. You're rocking it mama!
The dark line is called “Linea nigra” and it has nothing to do with the separation of the abdominal muscles which is “Diastasis recti”. Everyone has a line that goes down the middle of their stomachs but it is usually invisible. The line appears often on pregnant women because the hormonal shift can cause hyperpigmentation which causes that existing line to darken as well as other areas of the body, like the nipples.
Emma :P Everyone has the line. It is invisible for most people. Some people with darker tones or hyperpigmentation of the skin have visible lines. It’s not a medical condition.
R Strickland not a medical condition if it’s been there your whole life? If you say it’s caused by a hormone shift in pregnant women could it be caused by a hormone imbalance in women who are not pregnant too?
Emma :P The shift in hormones is what causes it for pregnant women. For other people it could just be how their skin pigmentation is. But normal hormonal changes, like puberty, can cause it to darken I’m not only females, but males too. I wouldn’t be concerned by only the appearance on linea nigra. There would be other signs if it were caused by a problematic hormonal imbalance.
It is so gross how society focuses on women’s bodies and achieving perfection in that sense. Men can say that their bodies are looked at too, and sure they are, but it will never ever be on the level that women are forced to deal with. Girls are raised around “the ideal female figure” and it’s so sad. I’ve never met another woman who was completely confident in her body and never experienced body image issues. And then you think of pregnancy and women dealing with all that comes with that along with body image issues? Ugh it just makes me so sad. All women are beautiful, all people are beautiful.
It also helps that men can wear clothes that hide their bodys, but women need to wear skintight, short, low cut, clothes to be hot, which enhances every little fat roll.. 😭 Doesn't help
It’s truly so sad. We’re supposed to “look like Barbie”. I make it a point to not mention weight in front of my daughters. Unless it’s in a positive light. Such as eating healthy or exercise. We never say the words fat or too anything.
To all future mother's, young and old mother's, I'm a man and I'll never get to know how all of this feels, which emotions are coming up and how the body changes. But I have to tell you, that every single one of you should be so proud of yourself. All of you deserve so much respect for everything, you're going and went through while you're pregnant and afterwards. I want you to know, that no one of you should be ashamed of how your body is changing and that your body is not "perfect" after you've created and gave birth to a little human being. You're beautiful. You're perfect. I really don't want women to feel all this pressure from society. I want women to be proud of themselves, no matter how they're looking after giving birth. Sometimes, our society really sucks.
I remember getting so mad a this guy because he was taking to his friends about his wife THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN saying, “I was going for it and then i look at her ... and that sh*t was deformed” sorry if i made anyone uncomfortable but i just felt the need to just say that you should never have to judge a mother about their bodies because you don’t know how much they have been though for their child and you shouldn’t even judge anyone else for who they are
He should never have said that out loud but I do have sympathy for both men and women dealing with postpartum bodies for the first time. My own husband loves me to death but he has a tough time feeling physically attracted to me when I'm pregnant. He is incredibly supportive, but he can't help feeling that way. Mom's AND dad's need to have so much patience and grace for each other. Being a team is the best thing for both the parents and the children. ♥️
Copied.. ok y'all stop getting so defensive. the original comment has about 60 likes. this one has 1.2k. that's what im annoyed about. the message is good, but it's not original. so you can stfu 👀👌😂👊
The part where Colleen talks about being grateful for one thing and still expressing dificulties about said thing made me realize how people are very quick to judge if you 'complain' or 'express dificulties' with certain things, they stamp you as ungrateful and/or ignorant, not just having a baby, if you complain about the dificulties you face in school, a lot of people will be like 'you should be grateful you're in school' or 'many others wants to be in your spot you know' and they don't actually listen to why you're facing dificulties in the first place, which is really sad
im so proud of you for posting this video, society has constructed a perfect image of what a woman/girl should look like after pregnancy and just in general. its great to get more and more videos in the world of women standing up for themselves and for other women.
I’m only five months postpartum but I’ve been struggling a great deal , especially because I am exclusively breastfeeding and can’t limit my intake as I already struggle to get enough in and can’t go out to exercise and feel like I’m stuck right now . Thank you for being so open and honest , it’s much appreciated . Thank you for all of this 💕
“Why don’t you just stop doing that?” Is absolutely THE WORST thing you can say to someone with OCD. I’ve had OCD literally since birth and let me tell you, EVERY SINGLE PERSON with OCD wishes they could stop doing their compulsions, but the whole reason it’s an anxiety disorder is because you can’t stop doing it because when you don’t do it you get anxious!!! Please do your research before you say stigmatized things to people with anxiety and OCD!!
JoanaRose im not diagnosed with ocd, but i think i might have it. one time, i kept fixing something that was bothering me (i know thats not necessarily ocd dong attack me) and this group of people kept removing whatever i would do. it was literally just to annoy me, and they would get mad at me whenever i would try snd fix it. one girl told me, “just stop, it shouldnt be that big of a deal to you.”
As a student midwife, I love seeing these videos. Women should share more pregnancy/postpartum stories. There's literally nothing gross about it, in my opinion, and society should not ignore/devaluate this stuff.
Hi, I’m actually planning on becoming a Midwife, can you tell me about the process you’ve had to go through, your experiences and other overall things i should know before becoming a midwife? I’d really appreciate it a lot
As you study I hope you take into consideration that women are not the only people receiving reproductive care and that birth & pregnancy are not equal to womanhood, but just a natural experience some bodies are capable of regardless of gender. Just like Planned Parenthood is doing, I am hoping our education programs are reevaluating the language used! Good luck!
Lore Menten ohh okay, thank you so much. I go to a highschool in America and its a technical school (you essentially learn a trade and you can use it later on in life) i’m in a course right now where i’m learning the basics like feeding, hand washing and taking vital signs and once I graduate, i’ll have a certification on nurse assisting. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to talk to me, I appreciate it a lot
Margarita Tamayo I’m in the same boat, and if anything that’s why I love watching these videos! As a women who grew up as an only child to a single mother, I’m incredibly curious about the motherhood experience but also don’t have any want for it for myself. Listening to Colleen helps me understand what it’s like without having to actually be a mother myself!
I’m 25 weeks pregnant and I always hear “you’re pregnant? You don’t even look like it” and it makes me so sad. I had a miscarriage before this pregnancy and I’m so so so happy I’m pregnant again but it feels like no one else sees it as a blessing like i do. Like it makes me sad that no one sees my pregnant body as “pregnant” because my bump is small. Society sucks big time.
I know how you feel. I'm 32 weeks, and when I tell people, I just get told I'm so tiny and barely look pregnant. Up until about 28 weeks, I was told I didn't look pregnant at all. It hurts, especially after a miscarriage. And people don't think their comments are harmful, but they really make you feel like you're doing something wrong, or your body isn't doing the whole 'pregnancy thing' correctly. It's horrible and alienating and I wish people would just stop commenting on women's bodies...whether it's their pregnant body or post-partum body. Everyone is different, and every body will present things differently. Hopefully one day society won't be so insensitive. :(
There is a girl on Instagram she is one of the owners of sabo skirt and she has a small bump she opens up about it a bit. She’s pregnant with the second baby now her Instagram handle is @yiota if you want to see someone similar
@@davidm7515 shes talking about a scar from colleens pregnancy. It is very immature to think it is gross because its isnt, also it is a horrible thing for someone to point it out.
@@davidm7515 The act of voicing it makes it insensitive, it is an insensitive comment. Think it, you don't have voice it. Saying it's gross here to her is insensitive thing to do. It makes the person you're speaking to feel as if you see them as "gross." It's negative. Stick to voicing positive comments and not the negative ones. Hopefully that helps clarify what the other gal was trying to explain to you.
It is so important for us to talk about these things, women are so flipping amazing and strong. And we shouldn’t stigmatize any of the not so pretty parts of being a woman. It’s always refreshing to hear the reality of being a woman instead of the hyper sexualization that the media is a way bigger fan of showing.
I’m almost 5 mos PP and it’s so hard mentally and physically to feel like yourself again. I had really bad baby blues and put a ton of pressure on myself about breastfeeding, and deal with a lot of mom guilt. It’s harder than actually giving birth and pregnancy and no one prepared you for it. Everyone always asked what I needed in regards to diapers, clothes, etc. but noone asks how your head space is and they talk to the partners about PPD more than the mom. I’m getting a lot better and I’m so glad you are too. Thank you for talking openly! And congratulations!! Addition: I also deal with body dysmorphia and was preparing for a fitness competition when I found out I was pregnant. However I’ve always gained weight quickly and have to work extremely hard to work it off. It’s so hard because I have t lost weight, and I feel a lot of eyes on me because of my previous progress and it’s something I struggle with daily. All you can do is try to involve baby in walks and remember to give yourself time. EXTRA ADDITION! I also deal with OCD! I have had OCD since I was little with counting this and now it formed into keeping things clean around the baby and making sure cleaning chemicals don’t get in her body and stuff. I worry a lot about where my baby is, I work from home and am with her all day every day. So anytime dad takes her with him to the store or to grandparents house to let me have some time alone, sometimes I have to call or text him to reassure me that she’s with him. This is why I don’t go to my gym anymore, I’ve taken her to the daycare and been prettified that someone can just take her, especially when they’re super busy. It takes all my focus off of my training so now I just go on walks with her. I try my hardest to fight these things and it can definitely make your brain hurt, lol. But there is absolutely a way to handle it, whether it’s therapy or friends to help take your mind off of if. The best support is talking about it all and yes, we are all very grateful and blessed, but we can be dealing with our human emotions and issues At the same time. Ok, longest comment I’ve ever left! Thank you Colleen! ❤️ ✌🏻
You sound like such a strong person and you’ll be a great mom! I really hope you can push through the difficulties wether it be mental, physical, or emotional. Stay strong and know that no matter how people look at you or think of you, you did something truly amazing with your body and your body is beautiful. I personally can not relate cause I’ve never had a child and honestly don’t plan on it, but I hope I can give you a little encouragement at least :) God bless you 💖💕💞
fannypack thank you dear!! I always remember I am blessed. My child is happy, beautiful, healthy, everything I’ve always wanted. And even though I’m dealing with these things, I can’t help but be happy and even look forward to having more. It’s amazing, and I realize why moms are so strong. I’m thankful I have women around me who are very supportive and strong as well. Thank you so much for the well wishes ❤️❤️
alyssa C I’m proud of you! My sister just had a baby actually 5 months ago too and I watch my niece on Monday’s while she’s at work. She trusts me 100% but can’t help but check in multiple times when I have her to make sure she’s okay. I always try to clean the kitchen or do their laundry to try to take that off her hands. Having a baby is definitely new and can be hard but it sounds like you’re doing your best and that’s all you can do for your little one! Keep killing it 💕
anarox2 bc stretch marks are mostly genetics. I have a friend who is built like her and never got any and she was pregnant with twins! I tell her all the time how jealous I am. I knew I was going to get them bc every woman in my family has them and I ended up getting them around 6 months.
Also lathering the bump in anti-scar serums several times a day throughout the 2nd and 3rd trimester (bio-oil for example) can completely prevent stretch marks
@@candle1207 It was more of an observation than a compliment; the lack of marks for her small stature is simply unusual. We're not commending her for it
I’ve never been pregnant and I have very deep and pronounced stretch marks :( 22 years old.. started coming out during university.. had gained a bunch of weight, lost it, then gained even more back and it totally destroyed my skin
I NEED EVERY GUY TO WATCH THIS Because most of the guys around me don’t really understand what women go through and how society is pressuring girls to look a certain way and that’s just too much Women are amazing ❤️
pretending that everything is magical and beautiful is not going to help anyone either though. That just enforces the problem and spreading misinformation, because then you have a bunch of girls growing up thinking that childbirth is just this magical beautiful process glossing over all the real parts and they come out of it like "Why did no one tell me this would hurt like hell and that it would be so messy?!". I believe the idea that Colleen in trying to get across is that we need to NORMALIZE this information, birth is a natural process, periods are natural, breastfeeding is natural....but you are allowed to feel like any/all those things are a bit "gross" or weird too. Like I don't find my period beautiful, I think it can be gross, and that's OK. The idea is that we should make talking about these things normal and not like it is something shameful we should shy away from and never talk about. Birth is amazing and beautiful....its also a bit "gross" (you are not exactly shooting out confetti down there), and that's OK, and you are allowed to feel that way, and we should EMBRACE all the beauty and grossness of life and make it more ok and normal to talk about.
Bubby707 your comment was a natural reaction, not negative. I didn't read this comment as negative at all. It's like if someone told you about an injury they got and you winced in pain as a reaction to them describing it. Not everyone is trying to be negative right lol ....looks most understood you tho lol
Society just makes bigger women feel like crap. Everyone is taught that being skinny and looks are more important than being kind and having values/morals . Every woman is beautiful❤️❤️❤️ Edit: Thank you sooooo much for the likes, I didn’t think this would get that big. I only wanted to say my opinion and it turns out a lot of people felt the same way!
Honestly right, why do people want to be skinny. Not being funny but it’s jsur on the other side of the spectrum. It’s like calling someone fat, calling someone skinny is just as bad. Aim to be healthy like whattt? Agree with what u said completely
Hearing you talk about your OCD that comes in the form of skin picking blew my mind. I've been doing the exact same thing to my fingers for the past year or so and, although I knew it was an issue, never realised it was something that had a name or was a type of OCD. Going to go to my doctors next week about it I think.
The line that appears during pregnancy is called Linea Nigra. The specific cause of the linea nigra is unknown, but it is believed to be related to the changing hormones or the imbalance of hormones as a result of your developing baby. One theory is that the melanocyte-stimulating hormone created by the placenta is the main contributing factor. This hormone is also believed to cause the darkening around the nipples. With the splitting of your abdomen muscles is called diastasis recti (or abdominal separation). A bulge may be visible down your midline.
@@Mary-uu4qs it doesn't just occur in pregnant women, it's just more likely because they a) gain weight in a short amount of time and b) have a lot of hormonal changes. you've probably just got a minor hormone imbalance, but you can check in with a doctor to confirm the cause!! :)
I find it very inspiring that you talk about skin picking. I have severe skin picking and I pick skin all over my body which leaves a lot of scars and I find very embarrassing. I never really hear anyone ever talking about and hearing you makes me feel much better about it
thank you for speaking out about “snapping back” because i’ve always had the exact same opinion on this but haven’t heard many people talking about it in the way that you are, this is going to be so encouraging for so many people colleen:)
When you were talking about your OCD & you mentioned how people would say " Why dont you just stop doing that" & you said it just doesn't work like that. That reminds me so much of addiction. People want to stop, but they just can't without help. Great video, Colleen!
i’m 15 so i’ve never been through this and i can’t relate, but you are so incredible and strong and such an amazing role model and i will continue to follow you and your family through your life xx
I’m 8 months post partum and I get comments all the time about my body. It’s so sad that people think I have to have my pre body back as soon as I pop her out.
Why? I just can't wrap my mind around this. I am sorry Ladies! I just get so engry reading this. The fu.. I think responding like, well yeah , mentally I am fine thank you for bodyshaming me. But yeah.... Well it probably wouldn't heol and I would probably cry a lot. I am sorry you have to handle this.. Hugs of love. You're great Mommas
I can’t have children unless I have IVF, I would love the “beauty marks” you have don’t listen to anyone wear them with pride as you should that baby boy is amazing and maybe one day once a lot of saving is done I hope to have a baby as cool as him! 💜💜💜💜
@@teresamonica8387 I agree. Sorry for this person and if I offended anyone, going through a really shitty Day, even if it don't excuse my comment. And yeah it's really expensive in the us like other methods for children, mine was free just a lot of paperwork
I also have dermatillomania and it’s so nice to finally have someone I look up to that also deals with it. It’s so easy to feel alone with non-mainstream disorders
I developed it while I was pregnant 6 years ago and I still struggle until this day. Thankfully I have slowed down and I catch myself when I begin to go into a trance pretty quickly. Recovery is possible 🙏
When my friend lost a bunch of weight after having her baby I got concerned that she wasnt eating. So I took it upon myself to make her easy meals. Didnt comment on her wait just made sure she was eating
Regarding the weight thing. Intention is everything. I lost 50lbs on my own (no gym and no dietitian) last year and it was HARD! It was probably the hardest thing I had ever had to do thus far. I want praise/validation for that not because I "look good" but because I put A TON of work in to it. So I say, COMPLIMENT ppl on their weight loss, but make sure you're doing it to congratulate their hard work and dedication, not just how they look.
Hannah Rose Reviews I feel the same! I worked hard to lose 50lbs after my second (and last) baby and I appreciated the compliments. I was not comfortable being that heavy and was not able to run after my kids without being out of breath. Losing the weight gave me energy and confidence and that really helped my mental health:)
This was so important 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 Funny thing is : I was pregnant with you and when I saw you were in labor I was so excited that my water broke too hahaha I had baby on Dec 11 also 36+4 weeks. Thank you for being so real ❤️❤️❤️
I am so proud of you for being so open and honest. I think a lot of women needed to needed to hear that so that they don't feel so different and alone when they go through all these changes and things may or may not go back to how they were prior to pregnancy💕
You’re one of my favorites. Being a woman who’s newly pregnant, this is something I worry and struggle with and I wish more people were open to this in society and not put such pressure on us.
Annalise Ell right?! I’m just about out of my 1st trimester and with my body changing so much it’s so nice to know that other people are there to support us. And get what we’re going through.
My bestfriend had twins almost 2 years ago! She was so big! & shes so embarrassed of her stomach it breaks my heart😪 she looks gorgeous always I wish she seen that😔🤧
She had 3 humans in one body and was afraid of what other people thought :( people need to be kind to each other and women need to give themselves credit
I’m going to be honest when I lost weight just normally I hated when people commented on it. I think weight is talked about to much in society. I know some people want to hear they look great for losing weight but that’s not me and I would rather give a generalized comment on someone looking good then one about their weight specifically
I feel that, when i was in high school, i was super depressed and by the end of senior year i had lost a lot of weight from it and people kept telling me I looked great, but i lost weight from not taking care of myself. It didn’t make me feel good when people “complimented” it
Daria yes exactly, I’m not saying don’t let people be happy I’m just saying let them take the lead on that conversation since it is such a touchy topic
Thank you for this 🙌🏻 I just had my daughter almost 2 months ago and I lost the “baby weight” almost right away. I’ve had people tell me that I look better now than I did before I was pregnant...what?!? People are so insensitive..thank you for being so real and honest!!
I’m so happy you made a video on this topic about body positivity! I’m very self-conscious about my stomach, I am thin but my stomach goes out. I would not eat, but it didn’t help. I now realize that this is my body, and I should take care of it instead of hating it.
I am skinny and my belly sticks out too. if you are a girl/woman it is most likely because it is your uterus and not having extra weight makes it show more. It is an organ and we should not feel bad for it! 💕 I am still learning and dealing with that ideology
This video is really inspiring. I know Colleen has always advocated for body positivity, and her accepting her own body is the first step to that. Knowing that through all of this terrible stuff, she is still so positive and healthy.
I have dermatillomania as well. I’ve dealt with it for years and I know how frustrating it can be to explain to people that you can’t just simply stop picking/ripping at your skin. While it has improved drastically, it’s still something I struggle with, and that’s fine. Thank you for talking about it and doing what you can to normalize and destroy the stigma surrounding it. It’s nice to hear people talk about it in a way that doesn’t make it seem like just a “bad habit”, but as a serious issue that many people struggle with ❤️
Same! I have derm, along with trichotillomania (hair pulling), and my scalp is a battlefield of scabs and thin spots XD Kudos to Colleen for shedding some light on the topic, it definitely makes me feel less alone in the struggle
I had a miscarriage and a lot of this carries over to that too, I was focused on getting better mentally but I kept getting comments on how I was losing so much weight (because I was depressed).. I never even showed with that pregnancy so it was like tripple insulting.. video on it on my channel!
Gianna Marie the last time I lost a significant amount of weight was because I was dealing with depression as well. I was at my lowest point, and even still was being told how great I looked constantly. So many didn’t bother to ask how I was doing (to which I would have responded, “I’m feeling the worst I’ve ever felt in my life and struggling to figure out how to get through this.”) but instead assumed I was great because I was thin. Something is so wrong with society when thin means physically and mentally well. Thanks for sharing your story.
Sarah Almeida yes! Something IS seriously wrong that we always equate weight loss to being good.. and honestly just the fact that a comment on someone’s weight it is so widely thought of as a compliment..
So sorry to hear about your miscarriage...but thank you for sharing your perspective & experience with the whole internet...I think it's really important that people realize that some women are experiencing all these super hard changes as well, however they don't get to experience the magical part of actually raising a baby & experiencing the journey of motherhood just yet...if ever. 🙁💔
Notice how she never said “like & subscribe” and I did it anyways. This is just pure awesomeness. Her choice of words mmm exceptional. Atta girl, Colleen! 💕
My mom still has the line on her stomach from when she had my sister 32 years ago!! And my sister had a really dark line for her first kid and it went away almost immediately but for her 2nd it was really faint and took months to go away. Also it’s really annoying how Society views bigger people, me and my mom went to the pool last week and this lady comes up to my mom and asked her if she ever thought of doing something to fix the scars from her c-sections( she has 5) and the lady had the nerve to look annoyed and get an attitude that my mom said no and didn’t think it was a problem.
I'm curious as to what this woman thought she could do about it? ....and would she have been willing to pay for such a procedure. Honestly some people just need to keep their mouths shut 😐
hey girl! i’ve been such a fan for so long and i just wanted to say that you DO NOT need to start a video that you made by saying “if you don’t wanna watch click off”. post, share, and make the videos you wanna make. if ppl don’t wanna watch it, let them go. be confident in your content. we all love u so dearly sweetheart 💖 so proud of how far you’ve come
I had my son 9 months ago and I didn’t ‘bounce back’ I’m a lot heavier than I was before I got pregnant and it’s ruined my mental health being so upset over this new body that didn’t even feel like mine at first! But learning to love myself while I’m learning all about my gorgeous son! I love the way you talk about subjects like this as I can relate so much! ❤️
Omg I'm over here crying because I wish video was out 8 years ago.... my life after giving birth was rough because of these societal pressures, causing extreme post partum depression that I didn't get treated for a long time. Thank you for this video ❤
Colleen, the B.O thing might be because you’re still breastfeeding. I was like this as well after both my babies. I also sweat so much more while breastfeeding. My youngest is now 22 months and has been weaned completely for 4 months and I don’t stink anymore!!! Might be the case for you as well.
Also. I had and still struggle with anxiety but When I stopped breastfeeding I had a really really hard time mentally. I felt an extreme sadness for a couple months. Hormones post partum are crazy.
Makes sense because also your body is working a lot more to PRODUCE something, so even though you may not exactly be moving and exerting any extra in a way you notice, your body is still working and doing a lot more than it would if you were not breastfeeding. Also I imagine that just having a young child in general, you are picking up this like 20 lb (how heavy are babies,? i dont know) human, constantly, they are constantly clinging to you, so you have this relatively heavy, heat producing human on you, its naturally going to make you sweat a bit extra. So you are just constantly exerting more energy even if you really are not thinking about it, its not running a marathon, but its a lot more than just walking around the house just you.
Bubby707 haha yup! Although I would wake up covered in sweat and stinky. Lol. Your hormones postpartum are insane. I was also told by my midwife that sweating after birth is your body’s way of getting rid of the extra fluid you’ve accumulated while pregnant. Our bodies are incredible 💛
I remember overt dirty looks I got from other WOMEN when I walked my little brother around a store because they obviously thought he was my son. Then later because I looked young when I had my first child. I was 20 years old but looked 16. I had a woman look me up and down when I was buying diapers and she looked at my wedding ring and said, “Oh...” I was like “thank goodness for your approval, your majesty!”
Society has such a negative stigma surrounding women’s health and it’s dangerous! Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s so important
It’s like you’re supposed to be skinny but not too skinny or people will shame you, like wut?
No the idea behind it is that sings skinny is healthy but skinny is not healthy because you can be fat on the inside but be skinny on the outside people that are outwardly fat look unhealthy but people that are inwardly fat are just as unhealthy
around health in general...
@@HeatherPendergast the emphasis around "women's" health could be because we produce babies and our bodies go through many more intense physical changes than men (generally) . You obviously have never had children 😂😂😂
It's really nice that she's enlightening ppl, and not shoving her opinions down people's throats
She literally just described all the physical and mental struggles she's been going through but ended with saying how it is all worth it for her baby. Mothers are such amazing human beings. So much Love for Moms everywhere
1.2k likes but no comments!?!? until now...
Aye it’s Mother’s Day too.. but I’m late. lol.
Imogen Hill so true that is such an amazing comment! Good for her😜
Time stamps
0:00 intro
1:54 about the birth itself
4:48 stomach area
7:29 body image and losing weight
13:07 chest area
14:35 sweating
15:24 mental health
15:31 depression
16:38 OCD
18:41 anxiety
19:30 outro
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I watch the whole video but thank you for the thought
I needed that
i am currently crying watching this. i have never seen another woman on youtube who has documented their pregnancy be so open and honest while being so so positive. thank you so much this means the most to me .
yeahh me toooooo
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U should watch nazani kavari (idk if I spelled her name my b😬) she was rlly young n documented her experience pretty frequently
it’s annoying how people think this stuff is inappropriate and disgusting because i actually learnt a lot from this video. thankyou❤️
Same with me
same!
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Flowergirljulie what do you mean no?
Flowergirljulie you knew what the video was about so why did you watch it
I absolutely love how open and honest Colleen is about these things that some people consider gross or weird. These things are normal and beautiful and she’s a freaking boss for giving birth to a human!
my mom's a boss too... it's just that she didn't give birth to a human
Right
@Zora Z me
Zora Z I thought she was going to say that her mom had adopted which makes a woman just as much of a boss mom as a mom who gives birth to a biological child.
And while on the topic, the comment "she’s a freaking boss for giving birth to a human!" is still problematic. That’s the kind of implicit statement which makes women who can’t give birth or choose not to, and moms who use a gestational carrier or adopt feel less-than. We need to be inclusive of *all* women when speaking about women and not swing the pendulum to the other side.
RUclips needs to stop having issues with people talking about gynaecology. Talking about it normalises it. I am a science teacher and getting students to open up and ask questions is really difficult because they never hear people talking about it.
oh my gosh, colleens eyes are literally so pretty
Yes
her teeth are literally so perfect too
marooned. Ikr they’re so white
I know
Yes agree ☝🏻☝🏻!!!
The whole “SnapBack” culture does my head in. I was one of the ones that did “snapback” I walked out of the hospital at my old weight because I didn’t gain that much during pregnancy. However, after 7 months of breastfeeding, I gained about 36lb and you get that label of having “let yourself go”.... when behind closed doors I’m a single parent that had to eat to stay awake with clusterfeed etc.
It pathetic that our society puts so much pressure on those that are literally producing our future
Breastfeeding actually slows down our metabolism because the hormones dont produce due to other hormones. Also the same reason cycles can stop while breastfeeding. But nobody tells us about it and just assume as you said, that we let ourselves go
You're such an amazing mother and you're so beautiful
Thank you for saying this. Society is always pinning woman down.
You go Queen you are doing amazing
Eating was the ONLY way I could stay awake for late night feedings!
I had a daughter when I was 19 a little over five years ago, and struggled SO MUCH because I was not expecting the changes that occur. I know these videos probably have helped a lot of mommies feel more comfortable in their skin.
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Alex Thomas OoOoOo teen mom
SilverStar's World Ummmmm what is that supposed to mean, you never know the circumstances of somebody else’s life
Smile Smile it’s not really judging, they’re just saying teen mom?
oh my sister had a baby almost two years ago. it was so magical going through that w her especially as i was 7/8 at the time
I still have “baby weight” after 2 years and I was really feeling insecure about it today, but watching this video made me feel heaps better about myself. Thank you, Colleen, for talking about this 💜
You are gorgeous girl. You created a human. That is an unfathomable thing to do. I'm proud of you and you should be too. Have a wonderful and confident life!
Gracie Noonkester you are so right and your such a kind person I hope you have a wonderful life to💞
same! thanks Colleen!
i wish u and ur baby the best, this is so precious. have a wonderful life. 💕💕
I still have baby weight after 13 years, and I’m not that worried about it.
I just enjoy eating.
I honestly don't remember what Colleen posted before becoming pregnant.
Me neither tbh
colleens corner? or was that before😂
You could go look in her videos.
colleens corner, food challenges and honestly idk what else
I don’t know anyone that can
THANK YOU FOR BRINGING AWARENESS TO THE REALITY OF CHILDBIRTH!!! It will alwayysss confuse me why tf people think its ok to make fun of/criticize the way women look when if it WERENT FOR THE WOMEN WHO CHOOSE TO GET PREGNANT, NO ONE WOULD BE HERE. LIKE LITERALLY. Women, especially MEN, have no place to speak on that for real. To get specific men have no place to talk about women’s bodies in general
Yes this is so true!
Love this
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Not all women choose to get pregnant
"WERENT FOR THE WOMEN WHO CHOOSE TO GET PREGNANT, NO ONE WOULD BE HERE. LIKE LITERALLY." as a woman, I h8 what people say that because I get what tryinging to say, but this isn't really 100% true. both women AND MEN need each other to be here. without men, us women wouldn't be able to have the chance to give birth, BUT if it isn't for women, none would be born, so overall humanity wouldn't exist without BOTH GENDERS❤
thx 4 coming to my Ted talk 😂💖
Thank you for brining up the fact that everyone comments on “snapping back” after birth. I’ve worked out extremely hard postpartum and lost my pregnancy weight, but everyone has had the need to comment on “how good my stomach looks for just having a baby.” I really get the compliment, but don’t appreciate it. I am working out harder than ever because I almost died from eclampsia and HELLP syndrome, and want to feel healthy after that... not because I want to look “cute.”
Wow, I hope you're doing better physically and mentally
Medicine and Mascara yes girl! The last time I lost a significant amount of weight was because I was dealing with depression and literally felt too overwhelmed to figure out what to eat. The amount of people that told me how great I looked made me feel so horrible. I was scream crying in the deepest parts of my soul and all people could see was that I was thin, which to them meant I was doing great. I’m now exercising to keep my mental health in order and have started getting some similar comments of how great I’m looking. It completely misses the point. The reasons to exercise are varied and numerous. Thanks for sharing, I relate 💜
Medicine and Mascara honestly women are incredible. hope you and your baby are safe!
Me and your baby have the same birthday that’s so crazy I love you and I’ve been watching you for 5 years
Hope you feel better and you're beautiful no matter what size you are
Who the hell said your baby line was gross? I’ll got set them straight.
probably no one. She just wants validation.
@@ironchic5055 what...?
@@ironchic5055 probably someone did
@@ironchic5055 You know this woman has done nothing wrong in this video. She is always careful with what she says because she doesn't want to offend anyone because she is just considerate and a very nice person. You are not the half the woman she is coming on here and having the nerve to say that.
I support this comment.
I'm almost 1 year post partum and this made me tear up. You actually made me realize I was probably depressed during pregnancy.. it was the hardest time of my life and the minute my daughter was born I felt like myself again. Thank you for being so open about the journey xx
I love hearing women’s pregnancy and postpartum stories because all of them are unique and I always learn something new! Thank you for continuing to share your story with us ❤️
Mandy Fields in that case you should check out the birth hour podcast. It’s super good and along those lines
You're welcome, I made the likes 660
Exactly!!!!
my mom still struggles with her stretch marks and insecurities surrounding her body 15 years after child birth. women who went through pregnancy and birth are incredible.
such a x capricorn same with my mom. After almost 21 years and two children, she’s the same way
My mum's the same. Nearly 18 years after childbirth and my mum still struggles with her stretch marks and weight
Avalonnie same and it’s been 16yrs since my youngest daughter, but slowly accepting my body and blessed to have my 2 children 😁
And this is why I’m never having kids.
Has anyone ever sat down and gone through the pros and cons of having a child? I love my body and no kid is gonna ruin that for me😂🤙🏻
same with my mom, she gave birth 3 times and still has lots of stretch marks too.
Honestly what a strong woman
So true
Sounds like Colleen
I'm only 15 but I love that fact that you make content for all ages. I'm young but your the few people that are preparing the young for the future. I love and admire you, and every time I go to your channel I have something I can see that will make my day. Love you Colleen ❤️❤️❤️.
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I’m young and too I’m only nine
I love how supportive she is of people having babies.
Are you a twin ?
You are amazing
IKR she's so sweet and kind and that's so cool of her to speak abt this and not feel shameful for being a women and doing one of the things her body was built to do
Yes. Loving every second.♥
Exactly
I feel like everyone had an expectation with this video... but she talked about it even better than expected. I feel like they were expecting her to talk about her weight loss but she just talked about plain FACTS. She told us what was really Important and that’s all that matters. GO U COLLEEN! ❤️❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕💕💜💜💜. OH MY GOSH THANKS FOR THE LIKES!
I really needed this today. I’m 33 weeks and I can’t tell you how much negative comments I get about my size weather it be too big, to small, how much weight have I gained? And all of these comment came from woman. Most of those woman who have had children. We need more woman that think like this. Pregnancy is hard enough on your body. Woman don’t need to be stressed about how it looks like.
Are you having a girl or boy?
Take Flight Congratulations!!! I wish you the best of luck, and support from those around 😊 And obviously a very healthy baby, no matter which gender it is ❤️
You are a beautiful person! And also I have names for you.
If it's a boy: Xavier,Matthew,Conner,A.J
If it's a girl:Hazel,Lily,Mabel,Lola
This is so true. And no matter what dont give up! I hope everything goes well and awesome. And just think in 7 weeks you will have a baby! Good Luck!
Awww i wish you a very happy path into mother hood
about “snapping back”... one scientific fact is that human females typically require a 125 calorie surplus while pregnant (2125 or around there), but DOUBLE the amount when lactating/breastfeeding. legitimately 4000 calories. the extra weight is there for a reason!
alot of pregnant women eat double but gotta remember, one of the people is the size of a baby lol. Eating for 2 adults is just an easy way to gain a lot of unnecessary weight
Exactly, so many of my friends would complain to me they weren't making enough milk and yet they'd be on these insane diets with restricted calories. I ate as I pleased and exclusively breastfed my girl until she was 19 months, and boy could she eat! :D
As the nurse and nutritionist I can assure you that it is unnecessary to eat 4000 calories a day while breastfeeding unless you would like to gain a lot of weight. A woman should eat between 1800 and 2200 calories per day while breastfeeding.
Uuuh No, 500 kcals is all you need to increase when pregnant and breastfeeding! I studied nutrition.
@@personincognito3989 That's not enough, as a normal person should be eating around 2000 on a daily. It is true that it shouldn't be 4000 but it shouldn't be 2200 either
My “outie” after pregnancy was because I had an umbilical hernia. Worth asking your doctor about, if you haven’t already. ❤️
Me too... I ended up having hernia surgery when my youngest child was 14 yrs. old. I had what my OB told me was a pregnancy hernia. When I had to have a hysterectomy my GYN informed me that I had a hernia in my stomach. It didnt bother me til 4 years later. My general surgeon told me I had at least 1 hernia and a possible 2nd one, but he wouldn't know until he did the surgery. On surgery day he actually found 3 hernias. Not sure if that's because I had 3 children or not. I warn any woman who has a hernia during pregnancy to keep an eye on it.
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I was just thinking about this!! Most likely a hernia!!!
“My area down below”,
Ohhh! Your comments section.
Chelsea Stephens omg 😂😂😂
Chelsea Stephens hahahahah thank u I love this
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10:45 "I think that women should be celebrated after whatever their bodies look like after they had a baby." 😭😭😭 Thank you Colleen. It's a struggle.
Having an emergency c-section was so traumatizing for me, and the first couple weeks after having my baby girl were the hardest for me. I wasn't able to hold her so I couldn't breast feed properly, then on top of that she was underweight so I was told that I have to give her formula, AND because she took a bottle the first couple of days, she wouldn't latch onto my nipple. So now I am not able to breast feed, I occasionally pump. so grateful for my baby, but I think people fail to realize how intense it is to grow a baby, then give birth or have surgery, then recover, deal with depression or anxiety, no sleep ... and on top of all of that, also taking care of a small person.
Thank you for this video, I needed this
Baby girl is now almost 2 months
You are STRONG! Never forget that, becoming a mother is intense and they don't teach you how to do anything...but it gets easier. I had almost the same experience as you, the anxiety also made bonding pretty difficult which was hard. We are now 1 year 10 months in and it is much much easier. Trust yourself - is the only advice i can give...the babycentre app is also a nice place to go to. 😁
If I may I'd like to share my breastfeeding story with you. I was a young mom and I didn't want to BF my first daughter, but i REALLY wanted to with my second. With having a toddler and a newborn and being so young I just really wanted those special quiet moments that only her and I could share, but I knew almost from day 1 that something was wrong. She never ever seemed satisfied if she even latched at all and nurses were dismissive and said to give it time. We went home and I tried for a full month but she was crying ALL the time, she wasn't sleeping at ALL and she was ALWAYS giving hunger cues. One day for the first time since becoming a mom the first time I had to put her in the crib and walk away for a few moments and I decided that day to give her a bottle of formula and to my amazement she sucked that thing down so fast and she slept for THREE HOURS. I felt so guilty and ashamed that I wasn't able to share that experience with her for a while but I realized eventually that she was happier and I was happier and our bottle feeding time was more special than any moment we shared breastfeeding. It turned out that she had a mild case of a condition that made it hard for her to breathe while using the amount of "sucking force" (i'm sorry i dont know how else to explain that) needed to BF as opposed to sucking from a bottle, which we didn't learn until months later.
In the end we were both SO much happier and healthier bottle feeding and that was the most important thing. That little baby girl is an amazing 11 year old now and she is absolute joy and our bond absolutely did not suffer because we didn't share a beautiful experience with breastfeeding.
What I'm trying to say is that no matter what you and your babies health and happiness is the most important thing and in the end you're going to get exactly where you need to be as a mother daughter power duo no matter what that journey looks like. Stay strong and enjoy every single moment because when they say that time flies it's a massive understatement. You're rocking it mama!
Formula is just find. Dont let the crazy breast feeding people make you feel bad
My mom had an emergency c-section with me (her first) and after she had me she couldnt breastfeed me and she aleays felt bad about it
you are so strong going like that with your baby girl. i wish you the best and so that your child would be healthy. :)
The dark line is called “Linea nigra” and it has nothing to do with the separation of the abdominal muscles which is “Diastasis recti”. Everyone has a line that goes down the middle of their stomachs but it is usually invisible. The line appears often on pregnant women because the hormonal shift can cause hyperpigmentation which causes that existing line to darken as well as other areas of the body, like the nipples.
R Strickland i have a line and I’m not pregnant? Maybe not as prominent but it’s there lol
Allanis Lindsay Might wanna take a pregnancy test...
Or get that checked out by a dr. I’m sure only pregnant women can get that line???
Emma :P Everyone has the line. It is invisible for most people. Some people with darker tones or hyperpigmentation of the skin have visible lines. It’s not a medical condition.
R Strickland not a medical condition if it’s been there your whole life?
If you say it’s caused by a hormone shift in pregnant women could it be caused by a hormone imbalance in women who are not pregnant too?
Emma :P The shift in hormones is what causes it for pregnant women. For other people it could just be how their skin pigmentation is. But normal hormonal changes, like puberty, can cause it to darken I’m not only females, but males too. I wouldn’t be concerned by only the appearance on linea nigra. There would be other signs if it were caused by a problematic hormonal imbalance.
It is so gross how society focuses on women’s bodies and achieving perfection in that sense. Men can say that their bodies are looked at too, and sure they are, but it will never ever be on the level that women are forced to deal with. Girls are raised around “the ideal female figure” and it’s so sad. I’ve never met another woman who was completely confident in her body and never experienced body image issues. And then you think of pregnancy and women dealing with all that comes with that along with body image issues? Ugh it just makes me so sad. All women are beautiful, all people are beautiful.
It also helps that men can wear clothes that hide their bodys, but women need to wear skintight, short, low cut, clothes to be hot, which enhances every little fat roll.. 😭 Doesn't help
Thank u for this comment 💕
Coco McNally i mean not really “need” but ik what you’re saying
How am I being raised around the ideal female figure
It’s truly so sad. We’re supposed to “look like Barbie”. I make it a point to not mention weight in front of my daughters. Unless it’s in a positive light. Such as eating healthy or exercise. We never say the words fat or too anything.
To all future mother's, young and old mother's,
I'm a man and I'll never get to know how all of this feels, which emotions are coming up and how the body changes. But I have to tell you, that every single one of you should be so proud of yourself. All of you deserve so much respect for everything, you're going and went through while you're pregnant and afterwards. I want you to know, that no one of you should be ashamed of how your body is changing and that your body is not "perfect" after you've created and gave birth to a little human being. You're beautiful. You're perfect. I really don't want women to feel all this pressure from society. I want women to be proud of themselves, no matter how they're looking after giving birth. Sometimes, our society really sucks.
Dominique H 👏👏👏👏
THANK YOU !!!
That's really nice of you and cool that you and lots of other people care about this. I 100% agree with you. Thanks♥️
Dominique H thank you for being a empathetic human being, there is not enough of human beings in the world like you.
Dominique H Are you trying to make us pregnant women cry? Because it’s working! Thank you 😅🥺
I remember getting so mad a this guy because he was taking to his friends about his wife THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN saying, “I was going for it and then i look at her ... and that sh*t was deformed” sorry if i made anyone uncomfortable but i just felt the need to just say that you should never have to judge a mother about their bodies because you don’t know how much they have been though for their child and you shouldn’t even judge anyone else for who they are
that is so rude,
like so rude
Very well said!
He should never have said that out loud but I do have sympathy for both men and women dealing with postpartum bodies for the first time. My own husband loves me to death but he has a tough time feeling physically attracted to me when I'm pregnant. He is incredibly supportive, but he can't help feeling that way. Mom's AND dad's need to have so much patience and grace for each other. Being a team is the best thing for both the parents and the children. ♥️
That guy is gross 🤮
Her body before pregnancy: beautiful💓
Her body during pregnancy: beautiful💓
Her body after pregnancy: beautiful💓
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ok y'all stop getting so defensive. the original comment has about 60 likes. this one has 1.2k. that's what im annoyed about. the message is good, but it's not original. so you can stfu 👀👌😂👊
Ann Dove
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so true
Paul Moss still a kind comment so why does it matter
She is so amazing 😍 I love her so much
The line on your belly goes from your heart, to where your love arrived...its your love line.
This is a beautiful way to look at it!
Awww I love that🥺
The part where Colleen talks about being grateful for one thing and still expressing dificulties about said thing made me realize how people are very quick to judge if you 'complain' or 'express dificulties' with certain things, they stamp you as ungrateful and/or ignorant, not just having a baby, if you complain about the dificulties you face in school, a lot of people will be like 'you should be grateful you're in school' or 'many others wants to be in your spot you know' and they don't actually listen to why you're facing dificulties in the first place, which is really sad
so much truth here!
Thank you for this comment ❤️
Colleen laughing and says “it doesn’t look great” down there, I died
im so proud of you for posting this video, society has constructed a perfect image of what a woman/girl should look like after pregnancy and just in general. its great to get more and more videos in the world of women standing up for themselves and for other women.
I’ve never thought about how wrong it is to tell women that after they went through childbirth. People should be more educated about women’s pregnancy
Red Panda not just women! Pregnancy is not just a woman thing, men can have pregnancies too and do. Gender is not based on body types!
Ashton Haines-Levi could you elaborate on the men having pregnancies part? do you mean cis-men or?
@@AL-cg4vb excuse me what
They mean transgender(not limited to), and Men that were born with female parts.
Ashton Haines-Levi guys can’t give birth silly
The title should be “Colleen Ballinger speaking facts for 22 minutes and 40 seconds”
Some truthful speaking right there
NO 22 minutes and 39 seconds
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@@kaylajohnson7387 no... 22 minutes and 40 seconds 😂
@Kayla Lee for me it says 22:40
No it’s 22 minutes and 39 seconds
I’m only five months postpartum but I’ve been struggling a great deal , especially because I am exclusively breastfeeding and can’t limit my intake as I already struggle to get enough in and can’t go out to exercise and feel like I’m stuck right now . Thank you for being so open and honest , it’s much appreciated .
Thank you for all of this 💕
“Why don’t you just stop doing that?” Is absolutely THE WORST thing you can say to someone with OCD. I’ve had OCD literally since birth and let me tell you, EVERY SINGLE PERSON with OCD wishes they could stop doing their compulsions, but the whole reason it’s an anxiety disorder is because you can’t stop doing it because when you don’t do it you get anxious!!! Please do your research before you say stigmatized things to people with anxiety and OCD!!
Time stamp?
grackle 0_0 19:09
Do research before saying stigmatized things? I don't think I am picking up what you're putting down my friend..
Why
What if she does not want to do that..... you don’t know how hard it is to edit videos and do research plus a screaming baby 🍼 so you try
JoanaRose im not diagnosed with ocd, but i think i might have it. one time, i kept fixing something that was bothering me (i know thats not necessarily ocd dong attack me) and this group of people kept removing whatever i would do. it was literally just to annoy me, and they would get mad at me whenever i would try snd fix it. one girl told me, “just stop, it shouldnt be that big of a deal to you.”
As a student midwife, I love seeing these videos. Women should share more pregnancy/postpartum stories. There's literally nothing gross about it, in my opinion, and society should not ignore/devaluate this stuff.
Hi, I’m actually planning on becoming a Midwife, can you tell me about the process you’ve had to go through, your experiences and other overall things i should know before becoming a midwife? I’d really appreciate it a lot
As you study I hope you take into consideration that women are not the only people receiving reproductive care and that birth & pregnancy are not equal to womanhood, but just a natural experience some bodies are capable of regardless of gender. Just like Planned Parenthood is doing, I am hoping our education programs are reevaluating the language used! Good luck!
@@AL-cg4vb Thanks for pointing this out! It is indeed important that we give care to anyone who needs it.
Lore Menten ohh okay, thank you so much. I go to a highschool in America and its a technical school (you essentially learn a trade and you can use it later on in life) i’m in a course right now where i’m learning the basics like feeding, hand washing and taking vital signs and once I graduate, i’ll have a certification on nurse assisting. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to talk to me, I appreciate it a lot
Me: Not anywhere near having children Also me: clicks on this video
Margarita Tamayo I’m in the same boat, and if anything that’s why I love watching these videos!
As a women who grew up as an only child to a single mother, I’m incredibly curious about the motherhood experience but also don’t have any want for it for myself.
Listening to Colleen helps me understand what it’s like without having to actually be a mother myself!
I'm a kid 😂
Same
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Margarita Tamayo me tho
“A lot of people thought I was having twins-“
Twins in 2021: “Just you wait, mom. Just you wait...”
I’m 25 weeks pregnant and I always hear “you’re pregnant? You don’t even look like it” and it makes me so sad. I had a miscarriage before this pregnancy and I’m so so so happy I’m pregnant again but it feels like no one else sees it as a blessing like i do. Like it makes me sad that no one sees my pregnant body as “pregnant” because my bump is small. Society sucks big time.
aarockw123 congratulations!!! I hope you have a heathy happy child 😊
I know how you feel. I'm 32 weeks, and when I tell people, I just get told I'm so tiny and barely look pregnant. Up until about 28 weeks, I was told I didn't look pregnant at all. It hurts, especially after a miscarriage. And people don't think their comments are harmful, but they really make you feel like you're doing something wrong, or your body isn't doing the whole 'pregnancy thing' correctly. It's horrible and alienating and I wish people would just stop commenting on women's bodies...whether it's their pregnant body or post-partum body. Everyone is different, and every body will present things differently. Hopefully one day society won't be so insensitive. :(
There is a girl on Instagram she is one of the owners of sabo skirt and she has a small bump she opens up about it a bit. She’s pregnant with the second baby now her Instagram handle is @yiota if you want to see someone similar
Jessi Baker All the best for you and your child/children 💕
I would’ve been 25 weeks but I lost the baby In January.. god bless you an I hope for you to have a healthy baby
was late to every class this morning but somehow managed to be early to this
Brooklyn Edmisten lol same here
You have school today?
Audreytrix
People who aren’t in America do.
ꨄ ThatsALittleBassist UK doesn't
You know what’s important 👍
Also don’t comment on a woman’s body while pregnant, 5 months pregnant now and I can’t believe all of the rude comments I’ve received about my body.
Don't worry about the rude comments Momma! They shouldn't matter. You're still beautiful and amazing!
Congradulations :DD & Try to ignore those people, youre awesome and beautiful always!
This was so educational.. like imagine having a health teacher in high school like Colleen, she’s so easy to listen to, just so genuine 🥺🥰
Her body before: gorgeous
Her body now: still gorgeous 💜
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I never really lost the weight after the pregnancy. This is because I was never pregnant, but I look like it so...
THAT'S A MOOD, I eat anything I look six months gone
Lucy Roberts 😂😂😂
Lmao 😂 😂
Same
Kara Johansen i look at a cup of water and BOOM!! 8 months pregnant
The people who said ur pregnancy line is gross, they must be very immature xoxo I love your videos and my name is Colleen too xoxoxo
and somethings wrong with that? thinking that something is gross? so because i think periods are gross those that make me gross?
@@davidm7515 shes talking about a scar from colleens pregnancy. It is very immature to think it is gross because its isnt, also it is a horrible thing for someone to point it out.
StarlightDavid99 it doesn’t make you gross if you think periods are gross but it does make you insensitive.
@@bethanamy how does that make me insensitive? i understand what its like but even some girls at my school think its gross!
@@davidm7515 The act of voicing it makes it insensitive, it is an insensitive comment. Think it, you don't have voice it. Saying it's gross here to her is insensitive thing to do. It makes the person you're speaking to feel as if you see them as "gross." It's negative. Stick to voicing positive comments and not the negative ones. Hopefully that helps clarify what the other gal was trying to explain to you.
It is so important for us to talk about these things, women are so flipping amazing and strong. And we shouldn’t stigmatize any of the not so pretty parts of being a woman. It’s always refreshing to hear the reality of being a woman instead of the hyper sexualization that the media is a way bigger fan of showing.
You're the most beautiful person. inside and out.
I’m almost 5 mos PP and it’s so hard mentally and physically to feel like yourself again. I had really bad baby blues and put a ton of pressure on myself about breastfeeding, and deal with a lot of mom guilt. It’s harder than actually giving birth and pregnancy and no one prepared you for it. Everyone always asked what I needed in regards to diapers, clothes, etc. but noone asks how your head space is and they talk to the partners about PPD more than the mom. I’m getting a lot better and I’m so glad you are too. Thank you for talking openly! And congratulations!!
Addition: I also deal with body dysmorphia and was preparing for a fitness competition when I found out I was pregnant. However I’ve always gained weight quickly and have to work extremely hard to work it off. It’s so hard because I have t lost weight, and I feel a lot of eyes on me because of my previous progress and it’s something I struggle with daily. All you can do is try to involve baby in walks and remember to give yourself time.
EXTRA ADDITION! I also deal with OCD! I have had OCD since I was little with counting this and now it formed into keeping things clean around the baby and making sure cleaning chemicals don’t get in her body and stuff. I worry a lot about where my baby is, I work from home and am with her all day every day. So anytime dad takes her with him to the store or to grandparents house to let me have some time alone, sometimes I have to call or text him to reassure me that she’s with him. This is why I don’t go to my gym anymore, I’ve taken her to the daycare and been prettified that someone can just take her, especially when they’re super busy. It takes all my focus off of my training so now I just go on walks with her.
I try my hardest to fight these things and it can definitely make your brain hurt, lol. But there is absolutely a way to handle it, whether it’s therapy or friends to help take your mind off of if. The best support is talking about it all and yes, we are all very grateful and blessed, but we can be dealing with our human emotions and issues At the same time.
Ok, longest comment I’ve ever left! Thank you Colleen! ❤️ ✌🏻
Wow
You sound like such a strong person and you’ll be a great mom! I really hope you can push through the difficulties wether it be mental, physical, or emotional. Stay strong and know that no matter how people look at you or think of you, you did something truly amazing with your body and your body is beautiful. I personally can not relate cause I’ve never had a child and honestly don’t plan on it, but I hope I can give you a little encouragement at least :)
God bless you 💖💕💞
fannypack thank you dear!! I always remember I am blessed. My child is happy, beautiful, healthy, everything I’ve always wanted. And even though I’m dealing with these things, I can’t help but be happy and even look forward to having more. It’s amazing, and I realize why moms are so strong. I’m thankful I have women around me who are very supportive and strong as well. Thank you so much for the well wishes ❤️❤️
Megan McGuire lol I know, it’s a lot!
alyssa C I’m proud of you! My sister just had a baby actually 5 months ago too and I watch my niece on Monday’s while she’s at work. She trusts me 100% but can’t help but check in multiple times when I have her to make sure she’s okay. I always try to clean the kitchen or do their laundry to try to take that off her hands. Having a baby is definitely new and can be hard but it sounds like you’re doing your best and that’s all you can do for your little one! Keep killing it 💕
The fact that you really don’t have any stretch marks on your belly knowing you were really small before your pregnancy amazes me.
anarox2 bc stretch marks are mostly genetics. I have a friend who is built like her and never got any and she was pregnant with twins! I tell her all the time how jealous I am. I knew I was going to get them bc every woman in my family has them and I ended up getting them around 6 months.
Also lathering the bump in anti-scar serums several times a day throughout the 2nd and 3rd trimester (bio-oil for example) can completely prevent stretch marks
Is this not the exact kind of thing she was talking about being meant as a compliment but is actually not?
@@candle1207 It was more of an observation than a compliment; the lack of marks for her small stature is simply unusual. We're not commending her for it
I’ve never been pregnant and I have very deep and pronounced stretch marks :( 22 years old.. started coming out during university.. had gained a bunch of weight, lost it, then gained even more back and it totally destroyed my skin
Wow. Colleen never disappoints on how inspiring and accepting to all people she is 💙
I NEED EVERY GUY TO WATCH THIS
Because most of the guys around me don’t really understand what women go through and how society is pressuring girls to look a certain way and that’s just too much
Women are amazing ❤️
No one wants a 🐖
@@edgein1830 what? Are you saying women are pigs?
ed gein Go away. There’s no troll food here for you.
@@ethelthompson7284 yes
@@edgein1830 what makes them pigs?
Colleen: "Its very...TATTERED...."
Me crossing my legs :o AHHHHH.
This is the exact energy Colleen is trying to combat with this video lmao
@@rachellarson2740 no i did that too i think its just imagining that pain as if its happening to you, ya know?
Rachel Larson she’s trying to combat how people think it’s gross there’s a difference
pretending that everything is magical and beautiful is not going to help anyone either though. That just enforces the problem and spreading misinformation, because then you have a bunch of girls growing up thinking that childbirth is just this magical beautiful process glossing over all the real parts and they come out of it like "Why did no one tell me this would hurt like hell and that it would be so messy?!". I believe the idea that Colleen in trying to get across is that we need to NORMALIZE this information, birth is a natural process, periods are natural, breastfeeding is natural....but you are allowed to feel like any/all those things are a bit "gross" or weird too. Like I don't find my period beautiful, I think it can be gross, and that's OK. The idea is that we should make talking about these things normal and not like it is something shameful we should shy away from and never talk about. Birth is amazing and beautiful....its also a bit "gross" (you are not exactly shooting out confetti down there), and that's OK, and you are allowed to feel that way, and we should EMBRACE all the beauty and grossness of life and make it more ok and normal to talk about.
Bubby707 your comment was a natural reaction, not negative. I didn't read this comment as negative at all. It's like if someone told you about an injury they got and you winced in pain as a reaction to them describing it. Not everyone is trying to be negative right lol ....looks most understood you tho lol
Society just makes bigger women feel like crap. Everyone is taught that being skinny and looks are more important than being kind and having values/morals . Every woman is beautiful❤️❤️❤️
Edit: Thank you sooooo much for the likes, I didn’t think this would get that big. I only wanted to say my opinion and it turns out a lot of people felt the same way!
SNICKERZ!!! And men
Chloe E. Yes, men too!
Honestly right, why do people want to be skinny. Not being funny but it’s jsur on the other side of the spectrum. It’s like calling someone fat, calling someone skinny is just as bad. Aim to be healthy like whattt? Agree with what u said completely
omgbeckylookatherbutt yes, finding the middle seems impossible in this day and age
Jack thanks, I also agree with your comment
Hearing you talk about your OCD that comes in the form of skin picking blew my mind. I've been doing the exact same thing to my fingers for the past year or so and, although I knew it was an issue, never realised it was something that had a name or was a type of OCD. Going to go to my doctors next week about it I think.
The line that appears during pregnancy is called Linea Nigra. The specific cause of the linea nigra is unknown, but it is believed to be related to the changing hormones or the imbalance of hormones as a result of your developing baby. One theory is that the melanocyte-stimulating hormone created by the placenta is the main contributing factor. This hormone is also believed to cause the darkening around the nipples.
With the splitting of your abdomen muscles is called diastasis recti (or abdominal separation). A bulge may be visible down your midline.
All what you say is complete right! Regards
I've never been pregnant but I have a dark line running from my belly button down
@@Mary-uu4qs it doesn't just occur in pregnant women, it's just more likely because they a) gain weight in a short amount of time and b) have a lot of hormonal changes. you've probably just got a minor hormone imbalance, but you can check in with a doctor to confirm the cause!! :)
lol I was thinking that too!
Rachel Smith omg I have one too I always thought I gained it from wearing jeans all the time 😂
Me: doesn't want to get pregnant or have kids
Also me: clicks on this video telling me about pregnancy
The accuracy of this comment
Same, and it just makes me even happier about my decision
Same
lmao same plus i love colleen
Never hurts to be educated on any topic!
Who else loves Colleen
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Miranda Sings me duh 😂
Me I'm I loooove Colleen ❤️
COLLEN IS THE BEST MIRANDA
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Miranda Sings she is and amazing person and she is a good mom to
I find it very inspiring that you talk about skin picking. I have severe skin picking and I pick skin all over my body which leaves a lot of scars and I find very embarrassing. I never really hear anyone ever talking about and hearing you makes me feel much better about it
I thought when she was going to start at the bottom I thought she was going to start with her feet for some reason 😂
Elizabeth Bostick me too 🤦🏽♀️🤣
A lot of people’s feet get swollen from pregnancy, right? I thought she might talk about that
Me too!
omg SAME!!!!!!
My feet grew half a size after I had my kids!! Lol
Honestly I needed to hear this I’m still in high school but I feel like everyone is beautiful but me. So hearing what you think makes me feel better
You are beautiful!
@soap duckling you're beautiful no matter what people say
thank you for always being so transparent during this experience- this is such a needed conversation and it's so impactful
thank you for speaking out about “snapping back” because i’ve always had the exact same opinion on this but haven’t heard many people talking about it in the way that you are, this is going to be so encouraging for so many people colleen:)
I love Colleen. She talks about these things so openly and it's very inspiring.
When you were talking about your OCD & you mentioned how people would say " Why dont you just stop doing that" & you said it just doesn't work like that. That reminds me so much of addiction. People want to stop, but they just can't without help. Great video, Colleen!
i’m 15 so i’ve never been through this and i can’t relate, but you are so incredible and strong and such an amazing role model and i will continue to follow you and your family through your life xx
I remember her saying when she was pregnant that prior to getting pregnant she was underweight
I’m 8 months post partum and I get comments all the time about my body. It’s so sad that people think I have to have my pre body back as soon as I pop her out.
It's so ignorant... they should keep their opinions about someone's body by themselves (in any cases let alone about women with little kids)
Everyone is beautiful in God's eyes. Wht the world needs is love and not discrimination
I'm 9 months pp and I get the same comments 😭
Why? I just can't wrap my mind around this. I am sorry Ladies! I just get so engry reading this. The fu.. I think responding like, well yeah , mentally I am fine thank you for bodyshaming me. But yeah.... Well it probably wouldn't heol and I would probably cry a lot. I am sorry you have to handle this.. Hugs of love. You're great Mommas
I can’t have children unless I have IVF, I would love the “beauty marks” you have don’t listen to anyone wear them with pride as you should that baby boy is amazing and maybe one day once a lot of saving is done I hope to have a baby as cool as him! 💜💜💜💜
Miss Snotface miracles happen!!!
You also can have children with adoption not just, IVF
@@Nightshay I think this person knows that... your comment wasn't necessary. Adoption is very expensive as well.
@@teresamonica8387 I agree. Sorry for this person and if I offended anyone, going through a really shitty Day, even if it don't excuse my comment. And yeah it's really expensive in the us like other methods for children, mine was free just a lot of paperwork
I also have dermatillomania and it’s so nice to finally have someone I look up to that also deals with it. It’s so easy to feel alone with non-mainstream disorders
I developed it while I was pregnant 6 years ago and I still struggle until this day. Thankfully I have slowed down and I catch myself when I begin to go into a trance pretty quickly. Recovery is possible 🙏
Send her to the ranch! It is absolutely possible. Of course I still slip up sometimes but 90% of the time I’m good
When my friend lost a bunch of weight after having her baby I got concerned that she wasnt eating. So I took it upon myself to make her easy meals. Didnt comment on her wait just made sure she was eating
Regarding the weight thing. Intention is everything. I lost 50lbs on my own (no gym and no dietitian) last year and it was HARD! It was probably the hardest thing I had ever had to do thus far. I want praise/validation for that not because I "look good" but because I put A TON of work in to it. So I say, COMPLIMENT ppl on their weight loss, but make sure you're doing it to congratulate their hard work and dedication, not just how they look.
Nice
Hannah Rose Reviews I feel the same! I worked hard to lose 50lbs after my second (and last) baby and I appreciated the compliments. I was not comfortable being that heavy and was not able to run after my kids without being out of breath. Losing the weight gave me energy and confidence and that really helped my mental health:)
I love how confident you are about everything, you are such a big role model to alot of people
This was so important 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Funny thing is : I was pregnant with you and when I saw you were in labor I was so excited that my water broke too hahaha I had baby on Dec 11 also 36+4 weeks. Thank you for being so real ❤️❤️❤️
ranesaad your baby and I share a birthday 🥺
I was born at dec 11 too 🤗
I am so proud of you for being so open and honest. I think a lot of women needed to needed to hear that so that they don't feel so different and alone when they go through all these changes and things may or may not go back to how they were prior to pregnancy💕
You’re one of my favorites. Being a woman who’s newly pregnant, this is something I worry and struggle with and I wish more people were open to this in society and not put such pressure on us.
Emma Dean me too! I’m currently pregnant, starting my second trimester, and I am horrified This videos is very helpful though.
Annalise Ell right?! I’m just about out of my 1st trimester and with my body changing so much it’s so nice to know that other people are there to support us. And get what we’re going through.
Congratulations you guys!! Both of you!!
I hope both of your pregnancies go well, you guys are so strong!!
Emma Dean oh my gosh! Yes! I’m currently 12 almost 13 weeks in and it’s scary to see changes especially in your body.
My bestfriend had twins almost 2 years ago! She was so big! & shes so embarrassed of her stomach it breaks my heart😪 she looks gorgeous always I wish she seen that😔🤧
She had 3 humans in one body and was afraid of what other people thought :( people need to be kind to each other and women need to give themselves credit
@@Marina-xd7gp right❤ it's so sad
no way it’s been a year already
i love sloths A year goes by WAY TOO FAST!!
i love sloths ikr
i love sloths it’s actually been 14 months so more than a year now 😭
I’m going to be honest when I lost weight just normally I hated when people commented on it. I think weight is talked about to much in society. I know some people want to hear they look great for losing weight but that’s not me and I would rather give a generalized comment on someone looking good then one about their weight specifically
I feel that, when i was in high school, i was super depressed and by the end of senior year i had lost a lot of weight from it and people kept telling me I looked great, but i lost weight from not taking care of myself. It didn’t make me feel good when people “complimented” it
i feel like people should only congratulate you on losing weight when YOU tell them that you lost weight and you're proud of yourself
JayneIsVeryTired exactly you never know someone’s story so unless they tell you it I feel it shouldn’t be brought up.
Daria yes exactly, I’m not saying don’t let people be happy I’m just saying let them take the lead on that conversation since it is such a touchy topic
Raven Deam yeah i agree
Thank you for this 🙌🏻 I just had my daughter almost 2 months ago and I lost the “baby weight” almost right away. I’ve had people tell me that I look better now than I did before I was pregnant...what?!? People are so insensitive..thank you for being so real and honest!!
Love how Colleen is spreading awareness to the most clueless people saying negative things to strong powerful woman!!🦸♀️
Love how Colleen doesn't care what people think of her she's amazing and so is everyone else
My mom always taught me never comment on someone's weight unless you know for 100% sure they have been actively working on losing or gaining weight!
I’m so happy you made a video on this topic about body positivity! I’m very self-conscious about my stomach, I am thin but my stomach goes out. I would not eat, but it didn’t help. I now realize that this is my body, and I should take care of it instead of hating it.
I am skinny and my belly sticks out too. if you are a girl/woman it is most likely because it is your uterus and not having extra weight makes it show more. It is an organ and we should not feel bad for it! 💕 I am still learning and dealing with that ideology
Your sense of smell is some much keener after pregnancy and it never goes away, so maybe that’s why you are noticing the BO more.
This video is really inspiring. I know Colleen has always advocated for body positivity, and her accepting her own body is the first step to that. Knowing that through all of this terrible stuff, she is still so positive and healthy.
I have dermatillomania as well. I’ve dealt with it for years and I know how frustrating it can be to explain to people that you can’t just simply stop picking/ripping at your skin. While it has improved drastically, it’s still something I struggle with, and that’s fine. Thank you for talking about it and doing what you can to normalize and destroy the stigma surrounding it. It’s nice to hear people talk about it in a way that doesn’t make it seem like just a “bad habit”, but as a serious issue that many people struggle with ❤️
Same! I have derm, along with trichotillomania (hair pulling), and my scalp is a battlefield of scabs and thin spots XD Kudos to Colleen for shedding some light on the topic, it definitely makes me feel less alone in the struggle
I had a miscarriage and a lot of this carries over to that too, I was focused on getting better mentally but I kept getting comments on how I was losing so much weight (because I was depressed).. I never even showed with that pregnancy so it was like tripple insulting.. video on it on my channel!
Gianna Marie the last time I lost a significant amount of weight was because I was dealing with depression as well. I was at my lowest point, and even still was being told how great I looked constantly. So many didn’t bother to ask how I was doing (to which I would have responded, “I’m feeling the worst I’ve ever felt in my life and struggling to figure out how to get through this.”) but instead assumed I was great because I was thin. Something is so wrong with society when thin means physically and mentally well. Thanks for sharing your story.
Sorry for your loss!
Hannah Stone thank you♥️
Sarah Almeida yes! Something IS seriously wrong that we always equate weight loss to being good.. and honestly just the fact that a comment on someone’s weight it is so widely thought of as a compliment..
So sorry to hear about your miscarriage...but thank you for sharing your perspective & experience with the whole internet...I think it's really important that people realize that some women are experiencing all these super hard changes as well, however they don't get to experience the magical part of actually raising a baby & experiencing the journey of motherhood just yet...if ever. 🙁💔
Notice how she never said “like & subscribe” and I did it anyways. This is just pure awesomeness. Her choice of words mmm exceptional. Atta girl, Colleen! 💕
My mom still has the line on her stomach from when she had my sister 32 years ago!! And my sister had a really dark line for her first kid and it went away almost immediately but for her 2nd it was really faint and took months to go away. Also it’s really annoying how Society views bigger people, me and my mom went to the pool last week and this lady comes up to my mom and asked her if she ever thought of doing something to fix the scars from her c-sections( she has 5) and the lady had the nerve to look annoyed and get an attitude that my mom said no and didn’t think it was a problem.
I'm curious as to what this woman thought she could do about it? ....and would she have been willing to pay for such a procedure. Honestly some people just need to keep their mouths shut 😐
@@melissablais6030 exactly, ignorance at its finest smh
Wow, rude!
hey girl! i’ve been such a fan for so long and i just wanted to say that you DO NOT need to start a video that you made by saying “if you don’t wanna watch click off”. post, share, and make the videos you wanna make. if ppl don’t wanna watch it, let them go. be confident in your content. we all love u so dearly sweetheart 💖 so proud of how far you’ve come
I had my son 9 months ago and I didn’t ‘bounce back’ I’m a lot heavier than I was before I got pregnant and it’s ruined my mental health being so upset over this new body that didn’t even feel like mine at first! But learning to love myself while I’m learning all about my gorgeous son! I love the way you talk about subjects like this as I can relate so much! ❤️
Same I had my little boy 8months ago but I haven't accepted the way my body is yet,
Great job your amazing 🥰
Omg I'm over here crying because I wish video was out 8 years ago.... my life after giving birth was rough because of these societal pressures, causing extreme post partum depression that I didn't get treated for a long time. Thank you for this video ❤
Samantha hope you’re feeling better now and you have a good support network for any down days you may still have, stay strong!
U have been through such a journey great job 🤗
Colleen, the B.O thing might be because you’re still breastfeeding. I was like this as well after both my babies. I also sweat so much more while breastfeeding. My youngest is now 22 months and has been weaned completely for 4 months and I don’t stink anymore!!! Might be the case for you as well.
Also. I had and still struggle with anxiety but When I stopped breastfeeding I had a really really hard time mentally. I felt an extreme sadness for a couple months. Hormones post partum are crazy.
Makes sense because also your body is working a lot more to PRODUCE something, so even though you may not exactly be moving and exerting any extra in a way you notice, your body is still working and doing a lot more than it would if you were not breastfeeding. Also I imagine that just having a young child in general, you are picking up this like 20 lb (how heavy are babies,? i dont know) human, constantly, they are constantly clinging to you, so you have this relatively heavy, heat producing human on you, its naturally going to make you sweat a bit extra. So you are just constantly exerting more energy even if you really are not thinking about it, its not running a marathon, but its a lot more than just walking around the house just you.
Bubby707 haha yup! Although I would wake up covered in sweat and stinky. Lol. Your hormones postpartum are insane. I was also told by my midwife that sweating after birth is your body’s way of getting rid of the extra fluid you’ve accumulated while pregnant. Our bodies are incredible 💛
I remember overt dirty looks I got from other WOMEN when I walked my little brother around a store because they obviously thought he was my son. Then later because I looked young when I had my first child. I was 20 years old but looked 16. I had a woman look me up and down when I was buying diapers and she looked at my wedding ring and said, “Oh...” I was like “thank goodness for your approval, your majesty!”