One thing I want to point out that I absolutely ADORE, is the fact that Matthew doesn't make Paul feel guilty for wanting to be by himself/independent. I've had partners that would say "Why dont you want me around?" When I occasionally want to go out and do things by myself. Having a partner that understands when you need to have some space or do things on your own is such an important thing.
same my father is this way getting real old sick and going blind. he knows he needs help and accepts but most of the time when something comes up we try our best to let him do it himself, still feel like you have freedom etc but have hel if you really need it
I wholly agree. And equally as important is the partner who understands when you need that security too. A loving relationship doesn’t have resentment. I love how you can feel how open they are with each other… honestly, teaching a whole lotta people who to be better at being in a relationship. I’m sure things aren’t perfect… no relationship is.. but the love and support is palpable.
yes I had partners like that all the time.. meanwhile I always respected their personal space hoping they would do the same for me! sadly they were all cheaters. . .
Thought the exact same thing. “Hey, I would never leave your side, Daddy!!❤❤❤” ❤ I love this so much how Mr. Maple is so sensitive and lightens his mood right away.
Yeah I definitely would like to know too, a time when he felt free, he didn’t get to finish because his bf made a joke a didn’t let him finish his sentence
As someone who is not blind, but otherwise disabled, I am feeling this so much right now. Thank you for showing both highs and lows of life with such honesty.
Never underestimate the power of agreeing with someone going through a rough time that their situation really does suck and you understand the reasons why they’re in pain. Sometimes that’s what we need. To be heard and understood without being comforted when there is no comfort that can make it feel better.
My partner would always feel so useless hearing my pain and only being able to say that they're sorry. My therapist told me to say "I dont need you to fix it, I just need you to listen"
It's so true. Community doesn't heal pain but it allows you to share the load. It's so helpful to have someone say that they see you and are ready to get through the sucky times along with you.
Totally agree with you. They are a proof of that true love can overarch everything. Fortunately, he's not alone and this family of three looks strong enough to overcome all.
Matthew, you do such a wonderful job holding space and listening to Paul. While also making him smile when things are hard. It is a blessing in life to have a partner that can allow feelings to be recognized and be heard❤
@@LordRavensong allowing someone to share their feelings without putting your own thoughts or experience on. Allowing their feelings to be witnessed and experienced fully in a loving space.
Matthew, you do such a wonderful job of validating Paul, letting him be heard without having to "fix" him. You two have such a truly beautiful relationship.
I think truly this is the experience of having a physical disability. I'm 26 and cant walk without a cane or walker, and I'm always the slowest person in a group of friends when we're trying to just simply walk even 15 feet because of it. I frequently catch myself resenting my mobility devices and hiding my wheelchair in a closet because the feeling of being *tethered* (great expression Paul) is so bad. I hate not being able to do things I see everyone else do easily, I hate only being able to do things halfway and while dragging a whole extra Thing along every time I go anywhere. I hate taking twice as long. People also dont talk enough about how Frustrating it is to always have at least one hand occupied by a mobility device. So many things in this world even in accessible places are built for you to use two hands to do them, so it's giving up my mobility or giving in and walling half the world off from myself. Sorry to coopt your expression, this is just a really hard thing that no one really understands until their physically disabled and most of my close circle isnt.
I know what you mean. As my osteoarthritis gets more and more established, I'm finding there are now so many places I can't go now. If I can't drive or be driven somewhere and then use my mobility scooter, I'm prevented from getting there. I can't visit certain parks anymore, and I used to love exploring old homes and stuff. I can't even go down stairs if there's no handrail for me to hold onto - even with my walking stick. The only plus about this is that I can do a shopping centre or theme park (hello Disney) and be the only one in my party who doesn't have aching feet by the end (scooters rock!) But I took early retirement about 18 months ago, with all the financial cuts that go with that, because the daily commute of car, train, second train, walk and then in reverse at the end of the day was literally using up all my physical strength before I did anything else.
I became physically disabled at 21 after a lifetime of decline due to a genetic illness and co-occurring conditions. I felt every word of this, I use a forearm crutch and get pushed in a hospital wc right now. I’m working on getting a wheelchair I can use independently and I’ll be so excited when I can afford it but it’s also so painful to know I experience life in a way most of my peers will never understand. Even my best friend who has the same illness sometimes will be like “let’s go do this thing” and I have to remind her that I can’t and it hurts. Some days I feel like hell yeah let the world see me as I am, a disabled young woman and I embrace my limitations. And some days I just want to hide knowing the public doesn’t just perceive me, they see my disability first and foremost.
I feel the same. I lost a leg and ended up in a wheelchair. I want to run out the door and do what I used to do, but I'm dependent on people and devices to help me adapt to a world that used to work for me. I hope the rest of your week is less of a downer. Hang in there! 💙
I love that Mathew is compassionate to your feelings but is able to make you laugh. Paul your amazing and so inspiring. You both r so fun to watch and bring the world smiles and educate them as well ❤
What a beautiful moment. Matthew’s attention to detail with the cream, Band-aide pressure, whisking the hair back, listening and questioning, comedic one liners…..all while holding space for Paul with love, acknowledgment, and sincerity. This is seriously beautiful and much love to Maple. Lol. 💖🙏🧚🏻
I’ll tell you that as much as I love Paul sense of humor and his positive outlook on life and his upbeat, personality and his upbeat, positive attitude… It makes me stop and appreciate the fact that I can see
This, right here, is their whole relationship. Matthew listening while caring for Paul, and understanding his heart and frustration... this is who they are. The pranks are an extension of this moment but the love and thoughtfulness are akways evident.
It's natural to feel frustrated or sad sometimes. One of the conversations Paul had with Molly last week seemed to cover this really well. When Molly mentioned knowing that you're likely to outlive your parents. As she said, you can prepare, but are never really prepared, and every so often a bubble of sadness will grow. Don't feel bad or guilty when that happens. Let it. Take some time to be sad, or angry, or frustrated. Just don't let it consume everything. Matthew, the way you listen, acknowledge, and offer a release of joy is great. And the way that you both are courageous enough to allow this vulnerable side to be seen is one of the best demonstrations of strength I've seen from you both. Sending love, thanks, and a treadmill/static exercise bike with giant wind machine your way. ❤✊❤️
I’m sorry Paul- it is a challenge to realize limitations like that. Your spirit and heart is so much bigger and more infinite than those limitations, but I know sometimes the day to day realities weigh on you. I am not blind but I have some physical and intellectual limitations of my own and I take care of my mother, who is wheelchair bound with progressive MS. I just want you to know that your soul fairly shines from you- that the physical doesn’t take away from or even contain you. You are a whole person and you are glorious
As someone who has used a wheelchair full time for over a decade, I understand. I'm so sorry for everyone living in this world that wasn't made for us. *hugs*
matthew is such a great listener. no interrupting, responding in a way that's non-judgmental but not overly sympathetic, and knows exactly when to make you laugh 😂🥹 you two are relationship #Goals #gayrights #lovewon
I love how mathew listens to him and can cheer him up with a joke without dismissing his feelings, it shows they truly know eachother and their boundaries. you two are so heartwarming to watch, and the fact you show your vulnerable moments and teach people two. you two are amazing, best wishes for what the future will bring you ❤
It's really tough to live like that. But that means Paul is brave enough to handle this. And that is important. I love you guys so much. Hope Paul will have only easy and good days. I'm just so happy that he has Maple and Mattew❤ I'm really proud of Paul
I said this before, I think, but thank you for sharing the difficult things. Its so personal its not easy to share. It gives us a more full picture of what your life is like. The are good and great days, and there are sad and frustrating days.
If you only showed the good /fun times you would make anyone with a disability feel like a wuss on those bad/very painful days. Instead you show not only does it get to you sometimes, but that Matthew is there to support and validate those feelings as well. Here's wishing that everyone has a Matthew in their lives, be they family, friend or SO.
Seen this video make me think about how much we are grateful for our lives, for not having any disabilities or chronic diseases. Sometimes we have all and still being so ungrateful
I can't get over how wholesome these two are. Between their jokes and more serious moments. Just the way Matthew listens as he gently takes care of him just melts my heart. Their love is so strong I think it could make ableist and homophobes question their whole lives.
Gosh I like the level of understanding here. I know it's hard to get someone listening to your feelings forget about understanding and adding humour to make things better
❤ Paul, you are heard, understood and loved. It is frustrating to have a disease that progressively alters your life. Sometimes its hard and sometimes it strait up sucks. But you're surrounded by so much empathy and understanding. You've got this.
Matthew deserves an award made of platinum for being a very very good listener . I'm amazed by his calmness and yes paul and matthew and maple deserve eachother ❤
I have just recently been diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos and will have to use a wheelchair soon. Seeing videos like this helps me stay positive. And Mathew, I just want to say the way you speak to Paul while he expressed his frustration is amazing. Thank you both for your story.
You are such a great ambassador and educator. You really have helped so many people understand what life is like for those of us who are losing our vision.
Matthew’s responses here are so beautiful. It’s hard to feel so many things and find someone who accepts them, without trying to make it okay or make it better or brush it off. To see the listening and validating with compassion is beautiful. Thank you for sharing these moments with the world, you both are amazing.
Ride a horse at full speed! It feels a lot like freedom. You and the horse are one traveling together towards freedom. At least keep telling yourself that! Lol i ❤ you two!!! ❤❤❤❤
I can relate so much Paul. I’ve been an intermittent wheelchair user due to my progressive muscle disease, but lately, it’s been difficult to stand up and I even fell recently and broke my toe. The fact that I’m not gonna be walking anymore soon just scares the absolute shit out of me. It’s tough constantly mourning the loss of an ability you once had.
Paul, thank you for sharing that you don't always feel delighted with life and Matthew, thank you for showing how to listen and affirm-not convince Paul to look on the bright side
This is an example of the perfect partner. Doing something helpful, listening to their thoughts, empathizing with them, saying something stupid to get them to laugh, then (assuming) continuing the conversation still being empathetic.
These little tid bits we take for granted.... Paul I am sorry you are having a bad week love but thank you for giving me new perspective into life and teaching me appreciate little things ❤ Lots of love you three ❤
The yearning to have that independence back. I cant imagine 😞 chin up doll I know it must be hard but your people love you and will always be there to get you through this
For what it's worth, as someone with chronic health problems that makes it impossible for me to be independent, I feel this sentiment deeply and I empathize with my whole soul.
What an amazing gift Paul gives to Matthew every day. Complete and utter trust and love is not something most of us will ever receive in our lifetime.❤
Thank you for sharing real feelings that sometimes come up and are a million percent valid. I'm sure it helps when open-hearted Matthew and Maple listen.
I'm at 5 years as a wheelchair user and I feel this on 100 levels. I'm also blind in my left and have severe chronic pain. Constant and never ending. I miss independence and play and spontaneity and...
I have medical issues so I felt this in my soul! That mourning of the person you thought you would be or could be it's a hard thing. I just love how well he articulated the struggle and also how resilient he is despite the struggle. ❤
What about sky diving or hang gliding. Would that be something you would consider doing? Cane and Maple not allowed. 🤔🥰 Matthew optional....lol. I would love a video of you doing something like that. Soo free
It’s so important to have that special someone in your life that can always make you laugh, even when your heart is heavy and your emotions are bound. It just releases all your pent up feelings and makes you feel LOVED.
Take a beach vacation. Go running and dancing in the sand. Nothing to run into but the water. If you fall the sand and water doesn't hurt! Love you two! ❤
Omg I love watching this and thinking about how hard I cried watching you run on the surprise vacation.. 😂❤ your love, commitment, humor, humility, acceptance and LOVE is infectious.. thank you🙏🏻
Im a single mom to my 20yr old. He is blind, hearing impaired and non-verbal. I never thought of his side of our relationship. We are rarely apart and I love all of our time together. His laughter and kisses tell me he feels the same. We all thrive when there is someone to care for us. ❤I look forward to reading your book to him!
I’m losing sight in my right eye because of a firecracker spark landed in my eye. I can’t even imagine what it’s like losing sight in both eyes much less the emotional roller coaster! Thank you for sharing your story and your books. Your husband and pup are such sweet angels. ❤
You are truly an inspiration. What an important message, you are the sweetest souls, and to have found each other is beautiful. Love and acceptance could change the world.
I honestly can't imagine being tethered to something all the time but I can see how it might be extremely frustrating it can be when your day isn't going well. So feel the feels when it happens and have Matthew take you out for ice cream cuz we all know that a giant hot fudge sundae with mint chocolate chip ice cream and gobs of whipped fixes just about any tough week EVA!!!
Through your videos, I have learned so much: how to address challenges in a positive way, how ableist our world actually is, how wonderfully supporting people can be through humor and joy, how to maturely discuss hard truths… You guys are a gem ❤ I’m sorry you’re having a difficult week, Paul! Wishing you to continue shining bright through it all and having Matthew fuel your spirits and just to enjoy each other! ❤
The ability to hang onto your thankfulness even though the inevitable is constantly there. But these two have such a wonderful relationship in the ability to laugh and love and find those little things to nake them happy and cheer themselves up. I REALLY hope that their future holds something really big and miraculous and special. I really do.
I want more than anything for Paul to have his sight…but it makes me sad if he did I probably would never have met him here. You two brighten my day! ❤
You're both in my prayers because I feel the same way whenever I'm dealing with my mobility issues, my hands, and my seizures. I always have to have my wheeling walker, forearm crutches, my cane, my phone (to call someone for help if I'm "by myself") and my parents nearby. I'm only 27 and I've been dealing with, and struggling with, needing a walker for the past decade come December.
We never think of the simple things in life do we Thanks I needed the pep talk I was having a pity party for myself and now it’s not worth it you’re truly a beautiful person!!!
It's easy to forget that Paul is actually burdened pretty badly. He always seems so positive and happy❤ Fotunately, he has one hell of a backup with Matthew and Maple❤❤❤
It's hard to be grateful and resentful of the same thing at the same time. It tears you down a bit. Luckily you don't always feel like this. 💜
This segment made me tear up.
That is well put.
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I'm so glad that you do have Matthew and Maple and maybe just maybe, Mathew can help with you take that jog or try something!!?? 😉 😊❤🙏
Yeah it is hard sometimes luckily I have a very supportive family but I've had hard days too like getting lost and falling down stairs
Matthew, I know its not the time, but a bicycle built for two sounds like a great gift ❤ for him.
Ooh! That's a nice idea ❤
a tandem bike? also that reminded me of the song that goes daisy daisy give me your answer do
I was thinking the same 💖 it would be wonderful! ☺️
OMG YES!!!!❤
Fantastic idea
One thing I want to point out that I absolutely ADORE, is the fact that Matthew doesn't make Paul feel guilty for wanting to be by himself/independent. I've had partners that would say "Why dont you want me around?" When I occasionally want to go out and do things by myself. Having a partner that understands when you need to have some space or do things on your own is such an important thing.
same my father is this way getting real old sick and going blind. he knows he needs help and accepts but most of the time when something comes up we try our best to let him do it himself, still feel like you have freedom etc but have hel if you really need it
I don’t get people that don’t understand their partners wanting alone time. Everyone needs time to themselves once in a while.
I wholly agree. And equally as important is the partner who understands when you need that security too. A loving relationship doesn’t have resentment. I love how you can feel how open they are with each other… honestly, teaching a whole lotta people who to be better at being in a relationship. I’m sure things aren’t perfect… no relationship is.. but the love and support is palpable.
yes I had partners like that all the time.. meanwhile I always respected their personal space hoping they would do the same for me!
sadly they were all cheaters. . .
다정한 대답을 거들어주며 폴의 말을 다 들어주고서, 기분을 풀어줄 수 있는 메이플을 소환한 매튜... 그 와중에 상처난 곳까지 꼼꼼히 케어해줬어... 정말 정말 아름다운 부부
Maple had to set the Maple slander straight 😅❤
When daddy talks smack about you...
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Maple: I would NEVER-
Mr Maple "Good sirs, I would NEVER"
Maple: I no run away I'm right here 🥺
Maple comes in with a “I’d never run away!” What a sweetie.
Gotta set the record straight!
Thought the exact same thing. “Hey, I would never leave your side, Daddy!!❤❤❤”
❤ I love this so much how Mr. Maple is so sensitive and lightens his mood right away.
My heart goes out to you, Paul. You seem like a lovely couple.
I’d love to hear what that “one time” was!
Yeah I definitely would like to know too, a time when he felt free, he didn’t get to finish because his bf made a joke a didn’t let him finish his sentence
As someone who is not blind, but otherwise disabled, I am feeling this so much right now. Thank you for showing both highs and lows of life with such honesty.
Never underestimate the power of agreeing with someone going through a rough time that their situation really does suck and you understand the reasons why they’re in pain. Sometimes that’s what we need. To be heard and understood without being comforted when there is no comfort that can make it feel better.
My partner would always feel so useless hearing my pain and only being able to say that they're sorry. My therapist told me to say "I dont need you to fix it, I just need you to listen"
It's so true. Community doesn't heal pain but it allows you to share the load. It's so helpful to have someone say that they see you and are ready to get through the sucky times along with you.
I tell my parents this all the time. “I don’t need solutions, just agree with me that it sucks and I’m allowed to be angry.”
My mother needs to read this 😢
Beautifully put 😊
Paul always seems so happy and enthusiastic. It is easy to forget that he has a life that is so challenging. Matthew, I am glad that he has you!
Totally agree with you. They are a proof of that true love can overarch everything. Fortunately, he's not alone and this family of three looks strong enough to overcome all.
I love that Matthew always seems to know how to cheer Paul up. Every time. ❤
I just fell in love with you two all over again by watching him tend to you...😊
😊 thank you
Matthew, you do such a wonderful job holding space and listening to Paul. While also making him smile when things are hard. It is a blessing in life to have a partner that can allow feelings to be recognized and be heard❤
What is "holding space"?
@@LordRavensong allowing someone to share their feelings without putting your own thoughts or experience on. Allowing their feelings to be witnessed and experienced fully in a loving space.
With a section for them for Mr Maple in a trailer would be cool
Kudos to Paul too, it's hard to be vulnerable or to be upset and still laugh. They are both so open and loving. They are beautiful
@@Hime.Gusano agreed. It shows the deep love and trust they share💖
Matthew, you do such a wonderful job of validating Paul, letting him be heard without having to "fix" him. You two have such a truly beautiful relationship.
I absolutely agree
I thought the same. This is a good example of how to just listen without giving advice.
My thought reading this is what is there to fix, Paul is awesome at being himself no matter what happens and I thought that is the best version
Well, “fix” being the operative word here. He is patching something up on his forehead. 😝
God that’s such good active listening to someone
I think truly this is the experience of having a physical disability. I'm 26 and cant walk without a cane or walker, and I'm always the slowest person in a group of friends when we're trying to just simply walk even 15 feet because of it. I frequently catch myself resenting my mobility devices and hiding my wheelchair in a closet because the feeling of being *tethered* (great expression Paul) is so bad. I hate not being able to do things I see everyone else do easily, I hate only being able to do things halfway and while dragging a whole extra Thing along every time I go anywhere. I hate taking twice as long. People also dont talk enough about how Frustrating it is to always have at least one hand occupied by a mobility device. So many things in this world even in accessible places are built for you to use two hands to do them, so it's giving up my mobility or giving in and walling half the world off from myself.
Sorry to coopt your expression, this is just a really hard thing that no one really understands until their physically disabled and most of my close circle isnt.
Thank you for sharing
I understand this very well. I'm not ashamed but I am frustrated always being tethered.
I know what you mean. As my osteoarthritis gets more and more established, I'm finding there are now so many places I can't go now. If I can't drive or be driven somewhere and then use my mobility scooter, I'm prevented from getting there. I can't visit certain parks anymore, and I used to love exploring old homes and stuff. I can't even go down stairs if there's no handrail for me to hold onto - even with my walking stick. The only plus about this is that I can do a shopping centre or theme park (hello Disney) and be the only one in my party who doesn't have aching feet by the end (scooters rock!) But I took early retirement about 18 months ago, with all the financial cuts that go with that, because the daily commute of car, train, second train, walk and then in reverse at the end of the day was literally using up all my physical strength before I did anything else.
I became physically disabled at 21 after a lifetime of decline due to a genetic illness and co-occurring conditions. I felt every word of this, I use a forearm crutch and get pushed in a hospital wc right now. I’m working on getting a wheelchair I can use independently and I’ll be so excited when I can afford it but it’s also so painful to know I experience life in a way most of my peers will never understand. Even my best friend who has the same illness sometimes will be like “let’s go do this thing” and I have to remind her that I can’t and it hurts. Some days I feel like hell yeah let the world see me as I am, a disabled young woman and I embrace my limitations. And some days I just want to hide knowing the public doesn’t just perceive me, they see my disability first and foremost.
This is why i get so frustrated at areas that are hostile towards disabled people. I dont know how we lost our humanity.
It's so beautiful to see two people who love each other like you, it restores faith. Mr. Maple you should protest against Matthew's suspicions!
I feel the same. I lost a leg and ended up in a wheelchair. I want to run out the door and do what I used to do, but I'm dependent on people and devices to help me adapt to a world that used to work for me.
I hope the rest of your week is less of a downer. Hang in there! 💙
I love that Mathew is compassionate to your feelings but is able to make you laugh.
Paul your amazing and so inspiring.
You both r so fun to watch and bring the world smiles and educate them as well ❤
A partner who can help you laugh on the hard days is a beautiful gift ❤
What a beautiful moment. Matthew’s attention to detail with the cream, Band-aide pressure, whisking the hair back, listening and questioning, comedic one liners…..all while holding space for Paul with love, acknowledgment, and sincerity. This is seriously beautiful and much love to Maple. Lol. 💖🙏🧚🏻
I’ll tell you that as much as I love Paul sense of humor and his positive outlook on life and his upbeat, personality and his upbeat, positive attitude… It makes me stop and appreciate the fact that I can see
This, right here, is their whole relationship. Matthew listening while caring for Paul, and understanding his heart and frustration... this is who they are. The pranks are an extension of this moment but the love and thoughtfulness are akways evident.
It's natural to feel frustrated or sad sometimes. One of the conversations Paul had with Molly last week seemed to cover this really well. When Molly mentioned knowing that you're likely to outlive your parents.
As she said, you can prepare, but are never really prepared, and every so often a bubble of sadness will grow. Don't feel bad or guilty when that happens. Let it. Take some time to be sad, or angry, or frustrated. Just don't let it consume everything.
Matthew, the way you listen, acknowledge, and offer a release of joy is great. And the way that you both are courageous enough to allow this vulnerable side to be seen is one of the best demonstrations of strength I've seen from you both.
Sending love, thanks, and a treadmill/static exercise bike with giant wind machine your way. ❤✊❤️
Beautiful comment! ❤️
I love the giant wind machine idea! A Beyonce-style wind machine! I can see a fabulous Mr. Maple photoshoot now...
I love how Mathew is always there to comfort paul and makes him feel betters with his jokes ❤💯. Much love 💕 💕💕
Matthew is so validating! All partners should take his masterclass in being a supportive spouse!
It’s so helpful to see people with disabilities living a full life. It’s important to show both sides of the coin. ❤
I’m sorry Paul- it is a challenge to realize limitations like that. Your spirit and heart is so much bigger and more infinite than those limitations, but I know sometimes the day to day realities weigh on you. I am not blind but I have some physical and intellectual limitations of my own and I take care of my mother, who is wheelchair bound with progressive MS. I just want you to know that your soul fairly shines from you- that the physical doesn’t take away from or even contain you. You are a whole person and you are glorious
As someone who has used a wheelchair full time for over a decade, I understand. I'm so sorry for everyone living in this world that wasn't made for us. *hugs*
As a wheelchair user I related to this feeling.
I was in a wheelchair for three years. I know how cruel it can be.
matthew is such a great listener. no interrupting, responding in a way that's non-judgmental but not overly sympathetic, and knows exactly when to make you laugh 😂🥹 you two are relationship #Goals #gayrights #lovewon
The conversational reflection that Matthew is doing in this clip is awesome! Just so supportive either judging or giving advice.
I love how mathew listens to him and can cheer him up with a joke without dismissing his feelings, it shows they truly know eachother and their boundaries. you two are so heartwarming to watch, and the fact you show your vulnerable moments and teach people two. you two are amazing, best wishes for what the future will bring you ❤
It's really tough to live like that. But that means Paul is brave enough to handle this. And that is important. I love you guys so much. Hope Paul will have only easy and good days. I'm just so happy that he has Maple and Mattew❤ I'm really proud of Paul
We love Paul. You are helping many others in your relatable way.
Matthew, thank you. Paul, thank you. You are both angels on this earth. I love you guys...and Maple too!
He's so wholesome, protect him at all cost
It's so important for people to know that everything isn't perfect all the time and these are very valid feelings for someone with your condition. ❤❤❤
I said this before, I think, but thank you for sharing the difficult things. Its so personal its not easy to share. It gives us a more full picture of what your life is like. The are good and great days, and there are sad and frustrating days.
You are so welcome!
If you only showed the good /fun times you would make anyone with a disability feel like a wuss on those bad/very painful days. Instead you show not only does it get to you sometimes, but that Matthew is there to support and validate those feelings as well. Here's wishing that everyone has a Matthew in their lives, be they family, friend or SO.
Seen this video make me think about how much we are grateful for our lives, for not having any disabilities or chronic diseases. Sometimes we have all and still being so ungrateful
I love you guys! So peaceful, productive and complete. And that laugh is always warming.
It’s great seeing Matthew and Mr. Maple helping Paul feel better. Such a great family💕💖🥰
The struggle is real.
I can't get over how wholesome these two are. Between their jokes and more serious moments. Just the way Matthew listens as he gently takes care of him just melts my heart. Their love is so strong I think it could make ableist and homophobes question their whole lives.
Huuuuugs! I hear you. I’m glad you have Matthew, Maple, and your cane. Bummed that you can’t just go for a jog when you want.
This broke my heart 💓 but also uplifting hearing him sharing his gratitude. Thanks Matthew for holding space for him. 💜💜💜
I am crying MANLY TEARS! This is the most wholesome content I have seen in a while! ❤
Gosh I like the level of understanding here. I know it's hard to get someone listening to your feelings forget about understanding and adding humour to make things better
❤ Paul, you are heard, understood and loved. It is frustrating to have a disease that progressively alters your life. Sometimes its hard and sometimes it strait up sucks. But you're surrounded by so much empathy and understanding. You've got this.
Matthew deserves an award made of platinum for being a very very good listener . I'm amazed by his calmness and yes paul and matthew and maple deserve eachother ❤
I have just recently been diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos and will have to use a wheelchair soon. Seeing videos like this helps me stay positive. And Mathew, I just want to say the way you speak to Paul while he expressed his frustration is amazing. Thank you both for your story.
Same boat here ❤
You are such a great ambassador and educator. You really have helped so many people understand what life is like for those of us who are losing our vision.
Omgoodness sweetheart...you are a fucking champion!!! Be proud of your strength!❤
We love you so much, good days bad days, all of you❤
They’re the cutest little family
You are allowed to feel down from time to time. Lots of people love you!
Matthew’s responses here are so beautiful. It’s hard to feel so many things and find someone who accepts them, without trying to make it okay or make it better or brush it off. To see the listening and validating with compassion is beautiful. Thank you for sharing these moments with the world, you both are amazing.
Ride a horse at full speed! It feels a lot like freedom. You and the horse are one traveling together towards freedom. At least keep telling yourself that! Lol i ❤ you two!!! ❤❤❤❤
On a horse, being blind doesn’t change whether or not you’re relying on someone else, because _every_ rider is relying on their horse.
@@ragnkjaTrue.
But it could help a little
I can relate so much Paul. I’ve been an intermittent wheelchair user due to my progressive muscle disease, but lately, it’s been difficult to stand up and I even fell recently and broke my toe. The fact that I’m not gonna be walking anymore soon just scares the absolute shit out of me. It’s tough constantly mourning the loss of an ability you once had.
Paul, thank you for sharing that you don't always feel delighted with life and Matthew, thank you for showing how to listen and affirm-not convince Paul to look on the bright side
This is an example of the perfect partner. Doing something helpful, listening to their thoughts, empathizing with them, saying something stupid to get them to laugh, then (assuming) continuing the conversation still being empathetic.
Just a wholesome relationship ❤
These little tid bits we take for granted.... Paul I am sorry you are having a bad week love but thank you for giving me new perspective into life and teaching me appreciate little things ❤
Lots of love you three ❤
You are so welcome
The yearning to have that independence back. I cant imagine 😞 chin up doll I know it must be hard but your people love you and will always be there to get you through this
For what it's worth, as someone with chronic health problems that makes it impossible for me to be independent, I feel this sentiment deeply and I empathize with my whole soul.
What an amazing gift Paul gives to Matthew every day.
Complete and utter trust and love is not something most of us will ever receive in our lifetime.❤
Thank you for sharing real feelings that sometimes come up and are a million percent valid. I'm sure it helps when open-hearted Matthew and Maple listen.
You are so welcome!
Heart Melting, as always, You both are True definition of " Unconditional Love ".....Very inspiring as well, Love you both...
Thank you so much 😀
Paul, it's okay to be sad sometimes on what you miss, and we know you're grateful for everything, sending you a big hug!
So understandable. This has to be hard. I admire you for handling the blindness so well. ❤
I'm at 5 years as a wheelchair user and I feel this on 100 levels. I'm also blind in my left and have severe chronic pain. Constant and never ending. I miss independence and play and spontaneity and...
You guys are giving me such insight to disability. And love. Especially love.
I have medical issues so I felt this in my soul! That mourning of the person you thought you would be or could be it's a hard thing. I just love how well he articulated the struggle and also how resilient he is despite the struggle. ❤
I NOTICED THIS IN YESTERDAY'S SHORT VIDEO THAT YOU UPLOADED!!!!! 😢😢 I hope Paul is fine now...
What about sky diving or hang gliding. Would that be something you would consider doing? Cane and Maple not allowed. 🤔🥰 Matthew optional....lol. I would love a video of you doing something like that. Soo free
It’s so important to have that special someone in your life that can always make you laugh, even when your heart is heavy and your emotions are bound. It just releases all your pent up feelings and makes you feel LOVED.
Take a beach vacation. Go running and dancing in the sand. Nothing to run into but the water. If you fall the sand and water doesn't hurt! Love you two! ❤
I love yall❤❤❤❤
Aww, Paul. My heart. 💔 I'm so happy you have Matthew.
I'm guessing it's not always easy, but having each other, and Mr. Maple, helps make tough days a little better. You are all amazing!
Omg I love watching this and thinking about how hard I cried watching you run on the surprise vacation.. 😂❤ your love, commitment, humor, humility, acceptance and LOVE is infectious.. thank you🙏🏻
Im a single mom to my 20yr old. He is blind, hearing impaired and non-verbal. I never thought of his side of our relationship. We are rarely apart and I love all of our time together. His laughter and kisses tell me he feels the same. We all thrive when there is someone to care for us. ❤I look forward to reading your book to him!
😢 u're amazing Matthew and Paul always has a great mood ❤
The two of you have such a wonderful relationship. It's so nice to see how good you are to each other. And Maple!!!
Thank you so much!
I can't imagine the feeling of loss he feels. I know he's greatful for you guys, but just the loss of freedom. I'm sure he still mourns it at times❤
Matthew, you are the one in a zillion ❤
Just listening- not trying to solve what can't be solved. Being available and offering a laugh. You are such a healthy couple.
I’m losing sight in my right eye because of a firecracker spark landed in my eye. I can’t even imagine what it’s like losing sight in both eyes much less the emotional roller coaster! Thank you for sharing your story and your books.
Your husband and pup are such sweet angels. ❤
You are truly an inspiration. What an important message, you are the sweetest souls, and to have found each other is beautiful. Love and acceptance could change the world.
I honestly can't imagine being tethered to something all the time but I can see how it might be extremely frustrating it can be when your day isn't going well. So feel the feels when it happens and have Matthew take you out for ice cream cuz we all know that a giant hot fudge sundae with mint chocolate chip ice cream and gobs of whipped fixes just about any tough week EVA!!!
Through your videos, I have learned so much: how to address challenges in a positive way, how ableist our world actually is, how wonderfully supporting people can be through humor and joy, how to maturely discuss hard truths… You guys are a gem ❤ I’m sorry you’re having a difficult week, Paul! Wishing you to continue shining bright through it all and having Matthew fuel your spirits and just to enjoy each other! ❤
You are so welcome!
Crikey.. I hear you Paul.. and Matthew takes care of you is precious and Mr. Maple.. loves you both unconditionally.. !!!!
The ability to hang onto your thankfulness even though the inevitable is constantly there. But these two have such a wonderful relationship in the ability to laugh and love and find those little things to nake them happy and cheer themselves up. I REALLY hope that their future holds something really big and miraculous and special. I really do.
Matthew you are everything Paul needs... I hope the both of you stay together always and navigate all the challenges with love and care.
I want more than anything for Paul to have his sight…but it makes me sad if he did I probably would never have met him here. You two brighten my day! ❤
Thank you for putting in a non-prank video, allowing us to see behind the scenes a bit. I just love all three of you gents. 😊
Sorry you have had a rough week Paul. It's OK not to be positive all the time. Always remember you are loved buddy ❤❤❤❤
You're both in my prayers because I feel the same way whenever I'm dealing with my mobility issues, my hands, and my seizures. I always have to have my wheeling walker, forearm crutches, my cane, my phone (to call someone for help if I'm "by myself") and my parents nearby. I'm only 27 and I've been dealing with, and struggling with, needing a walker for the past decade come December.
We never think of the simple things in life do we Thanks I needed the pep talk I was having a pity party for myself and now it’s not worth it you’re truly a beautiful person!!!
It's easy to forget that Paul is actually burdened pretty badly. He always seems so positive and happy❤ Fotunately, he has one hell of a backup with Matthew and Maple❤❤❤
I'm grateful that you two share these moments with us. It's so important to see this. Thank you for sharing your journey with both ups and down