The Devastating Effects Of Abuse On Your Brain And Body. 😱
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- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
- One of the worse types of psychological abuse that one person can do to another is Narcissistic abuse. Narcissistic abuse can leave wounds that do not heal over time. Childhood emotional trauma can affect a person well into adulthood and even for the rest of their life. Recent studies from neuroscientists show that narcissistic abuse can lead to physical brain damage. In this video, we look at some of the effects of emotional abuse on the body and mind.
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I am the embodiment of this. It's destroyed everything about me. Everyone in my life has avoided me. I also avoid anyone that knew me before because I can't stand them judging or looking down on me. I got the blame for being abused and manipulated. The pain of losing everything, being homeless, and not having anyone. It's beyond awful to not even have yourself to fall back on. it's indescribable the pain.
Hi. Thank you for sharing. Sorry that you experienced so much abuse and setback. I know the awful feeling of not wanting to make contact with old contacts after hitting rock bottom. I still am myself rebuilding my life and avoid people as much as I can. I take it day by day. And try to be a little bit better each day than the day before. I do love your user name. Wishing you a wonderful day.
@@NarcissisticAbuseHealing thank you for the positivity because those of us in this position don't get a lot of that and bless you for getting back to me it made my day
I am sorry other people have treated you poorly. I know the feeling, having been put into the Program. It's been in operation for decades now, responsible for the mass shooting "epidemic." It is the brainchild, apparently, of the APA and psychiatrists, who tell themselves those they either dislike, or want to change via "community" "behavior modification" deserve torture, and the stripping of their Constitutional civil and human rights. Of course they won't call it what it is. Too many potential lawsuits. is an abhorrently abused program, which does destroy lives.
This video resinates with my life my father does this often. He lies constantly, belittles, mocks, gaslights, has many double standards, he's hypocritical, malicious, loves bullying & playing mind games, making me question everything, putting me through isolation, loves breadcrumbing, making me feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells, making feel less than or not good enough, they love devaluing and dehumanizing me, he's invasive and intrusive, plus he sabotages my life, has people take credit for my work.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. It sounds incredibly challenging and painful. The behaviors you’ve described are serious and have a significant impact on well-being. It's important to recognize that what you’re experiencing is not okay and you deserve support. If you’re unable to reach out to a mental health professional right now, journaling your thoughts and feelings can be a useful way to process what you're going through and gain some clarity. Additionally, finding supportive communities online or in-person might also provide some comfort and practical advice. Take care of yourself, and remember that there are people who understand and care about what you're facing.
I once suffered impotence due to emotional narcissist abuse.
Hi. Thank you for sharing. Not being able to perform can crush a man.
Yes. Abusers destroy. Try to take away your self esteem. Sorry that happened to you same here. I became fearful of intimacy due to severe abuse.
Sorry that happened to you.i became fearful of intimacy due to severe abuse.
This has been the best post I have watched on this subject.
Everything said is spot on in all area's of my life I have left behind. After so many toxic people it does leave scars. For me personally my biggest romantic relationships ended with them trying to kill me which has a massive impact!
There is a point when you think it must be me because everybody can't be so horrible?!
I want to thank you for this post xx
I once too thought it must be me as it cannot be all the people around me. Then when i learned more about narcissism and set boundaries for what behavior i will accept and what not, i soon let the narcissists go. That made space for the good people to enter my life. I then realized there are many good people in life. But most don't want to hang out with you if you surround yourself with narcissistic people.
It hurts when people, especially family, want you dead. It is hard to understand how people can have so much hatred towards a person they should love and support. But that is one of the sad realities of life that for some people family or friend connection means nothing. And that family can treat strangers better than you ever dreamed they would treat you. At one point in my life hate consumed me for the wrongs that were done to me. But that just caused my life to go more backwards. When i let the anger go, i started to heal and my life started to move forward.
I am glad you found the video helpful. When things are hard, just take it one day at a time and remember to be kind to yourself.
All the best.
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I had the anger thing for a long time too feeling powerless and hurt is a hard lesson... Really appreciate you sharing your experience ....
Looking forward to your future posts
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You just answered a question Ive had for some time now: "Were they trying to kill me?" Yes. They were.
Father and ex husband were both highly abusive narcissists. I finally found God and finally feel some healing but now I'm a master isolater. I dont talk to anyone and I don't want to date b/c my thought process is slow now 😞 I cant think swiftly, I need to think longer before I respond, I cant articulate myself well, plauged by fatigue, people get tired of me quick and i understand 😞 but at least God has filled my heart. At least theres the option to speak in the Spirit. ❤
Dad was very bad tempered and now my mum is mentally I’ll . Then I married an abusive husband . I suffer from low self esteem, lack confidence , my nervous system is in survival mode and I have had fibromyalgia since 15 years old . With no job it is hard to leave . I must admit my husband had a mild stroke and since then he has made some improvement . He hasn’t threatened me for a very long time but he still criticises me though .
I just found this video, thank you so much for posting. I went through so many of those forms of abuse as a child, the way you explained the damage to the brain was spot on-- no memory, high alert all the time, difficulty feeling anything. And thank you for mentioning showing nudity to children as a form of abuse my narcissistic sisters who were much older did this to me, and it was very traumatizing and a lot of people overlook things like that.
Hi. I am glad you found the video helpful. Healing from emotional abuse can be a bumpy ride. Just take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself. Wishing you a great day.
Thank you
Thank you! I went through emotional abuse and trauma from my last job that it almost killed me. I left the job under duress and went straight to theapy. I am much better now however, there are certain words the abuser used that still triggers me if I hear a authority person say them.
Hi. Thank you for sharing. Sorry you experienced emotional abuse from your workplace. Glad you are getting help and are better. Abuse often creates PTSD and CPTSD. I too sometimes get triggered where my stomach turns into a knot and my throat closes off even though there is no real danger. As a child my legs where constantly in casts and I was often in a wheelchair I had severe club feat). When you cannot run away the abuse is worse. You get the same experience when you suffer abuse from a workplace as you feel as if you cannot speak up or run away as you need the money.
@@NarcissisticAbuseHealing absolutely! I am so sorry for what you went through! Thing was with me, I could run away and leave that abusive workplace and I did after having the courage to use my savings to get out of there.
I am now in such a better place and learned from this experience. I still get triggered too. But now I am not afraid to vocalize my discomfort.
I hope you are safe and well now! Thank you so much for your videos! ❤🙏
@@vikki8699 hi. Yes, doing good now thank you. Just moved a week ago to get away from toxic family and slowly I am relaxing.
Thanks for your video. Knowledge is power
Hi. Glad you found the video helpful. I believe knowledge is a needed step in healing.
I randomly found this video on my recommendations and it's really good at explaining the effects of emotional abuse and what emotional abuse is. Except for one thing, emotional abuse isn't always caused by a narcissist and isn't the same as narcissistic abuse, those two types of abuse are different but very simular. One difference is that narcissistic abuse is caused by a narcissist while emotional abuse can be caused by anyone regardless of if they are a narcissist or not. In fact my family member went through narcissistic abuse and is not a narcissist themselves, but they have some narcissistic tendencies because of this, and that family member emotionally abused me. Other than that though, great video! :)
Hi. Thank you for the clarification. Yes, emotional abuse can come from non narcissistic people. Often people with other disorders. I do mostly focus on narcissism on the channel as it is the mostly widely experienced and also what I have the most personal experience with myself. But I will look into emotion abuse from non narcissistic people and do a video on that. All the best.
Yes, my mother was autustic and she did it to me.
Well, this speaks to my whole life.
Hi. I hope that you can in some way better your situation. It is often hard for men to find help or even leave an abusive relationship, especially if there is children. Please look online for the country you are in for help for men with abusive relationships.
You have a lovely voice.
I really appreciate this video. Childhood emotional abuse becomes so entrenched that it’s almost impossible to ‘fix’, even with good, therapeutic support. For me, it’s more about management of tendencies and responses.
I’m working my way through your video catalogue. All have been great.
I fully agree. I think it almost impossible to fix all childhood emotional problems. You can work on many that hold you back. But there will always be something that comes up that triggers an emotion. It to me is also more about managing responses. Most of my videos are hard emotionally for me to make.
My children’s father did none of these things. But they witnessed my abuse, and what was traumatic was the invalidation of any and all feelings.
My work success depended on the boss and I shared none of my issues because the narc threw me at other men and he would have loved to know my job depended on sleeping with the boss.
My children are entitled so it will be amusing when they have to take care of their alcoholic father who never can be sick, because it means he’s less than perfect. And that’s why the advice here is wise. The aging ailing narcissist I was married to is also psychopathic and there’s no fun there, it just gets worse.
I was emotionally abused by my narcissistic mother. Then the father of my child( I left him when our son was 4 months old; my dad helped me so much). He ( the baby's father) was EVERYTHING LISTED HERE( was- he is dead). I was 19 years old when we met and I just came home from a hospital where I spent 2 years, bedridden.
I'm 41 now and I was doing really well, I had a great psychiatrist but he left to do whatever...
This is when my problems started again. I met a really nice guy about 3 years ago, he had a daughter ( a lie), was married 10 years and now divorced ( both lies). He lied about everything except his name and age. Not just to me( I asked around and his friends were deceived by him aswell). He emotionally destroyed me. Thank God for my beautiful son. He talked to him one day and then literally carried him out of MY house. The point is, I've been abused my whole life. When I listened to this for the first time I started crying hysterically. It helped me realize that I can't get better by myself. I need professional help. Again...
THANK YOU SO MUCH & I'M SORRY FOR THE LONGEST COMMENT EVER.
Hi. Thank you for sharing your story. Do not worry about long comments. share as much as you feel comfortable with. I am glad your son is helping you and that you found the video helpful. Getting professional help from someone who has experience in dealing with narcissistic abuse victims will speed up your healing process a lot.
@@NarcissisticAbuseHealing Thank you for tour positive, and kind answer. I hope you know that people like you are the ones who are literally saving lives. Don't stop doing what you're doing, your work is to important. I agree with you 100% about getting professional help. The sooner the better. And getting the right person for you is important to.
Thank you again for answering, you've brightened my day 🌞
Sounds like law enforcement.
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS I LEARNED SO MUCH FROM THIS VIDEO I WISH THAT I WOULD OF SEEN THIS A YEAR AGO. I HAVE BEEN INVOLVED WITH A HIGHLY MANIPULATIVE NARCISSITS.EVERYTHING YOU HAVE DESCRIBE IM GOING THROUGH THIS KNOW. IM SRRUGGLING TRYING TO DISCONNECT. I NEVER KNEW HOW DANGEROUS NARCISSITIC ABUSE IS
Narcissistic abuse is devastating to your mind and body. I am glad the video was helpful. You may find this one helpful as well. How Narcissists Destroy Your Sense Of Self.
ruclips.net/video/7BAKG3iH5nI/видео.html
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Thank You 🙏 You ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT
Thanks!
Thank you so much.
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Very welcome!
Listen to your intuition and observe don't absorb and once you know you go you get out and you stay out 🙏
Amazing video, thanks
Thank you.
Words don’t describe it 🤷🏻♂️
this is True,, needed teaching
Thank you for this video, Mister! 🧡🧡
The abusers r not beingpunished
Hi. Yes, unfortunately, you are right. In the majority of the cases, the abuser does not get punished.
Thank you for the video, emotionalabusers can b parents, spouse or othrs
Abuse from a landlord is number 5 on the list
And on a general, GRAND scale, corporations and the GOVERNMENT, which preys on us constantly
Thks
I am just wondering, can all the brain damage be restored fully to 100% or not?
Hi. That is a very good question. The brain is able to rewire paths and the hippocampus does grow larger when stress is removed and the person finds happiness again. The brain also will improve with stimulus such as reading and doing memory puzzles. So yes it may be possible to heal all the damage. But it would depend on how much abuse there was and what environment the person is now in and if they actively use their brain. The other problem is that there may be emotional scars that can cause mental blockages. Therapy to work through these emotional and mental problems may be needed for the person to feel worthy and trusting others again.
However even with some scars such as childhood abuse or violent partner abuse the person may live a happy and fruitful life when surrounded by love and support. The brain is a wonderful organ that can adapt to its environment. If you are supported and loved and feel safe, the brain opens up and you as a person blossom. When you are under stress and fear the brain goes into survival mode and shuts you down and numbs your emotions and you live on limb mode just to survive. So the most important thing is to remove yourself from an abusive environment and the body will heal. On average it takes two years for survivors to feel human again after leaving and abuser.
@@NarcissisticAbuseHealing Thanks for answering my question, I hope I can heal from the 4 years of abuse in my life. That explains why I always trigger my Adrenaline without any reason. I guess it's just my instinct.
I should also ask if Narcissistic Abuse can make you feel detached from people? I don't feel anything special when I meet new people to the point that I don't even know if I can love anyone else anymore. Like I don't even know who I am, and I always ask myself and wonder that maybe I was the Narcissist in the relationship.
Hi. Yes, abuse often causes victims to struggle to connect with others and may detach from society. This is due to many reasons stemming from the abuse. Victims may feel unworthy of people being their friend, feel they are not worth the love and attention of others, distrust others especially if people are very nice to them, or in some way even subconsciously remind themselves of the abuser (such as perfume, clothes, words, or habits that are the same as the abuser), still have fear reflexes of how an abuser used to react when the victim talked to someone especially a person of the opposite sex that triggered the abuser's insecurity, as well as shame where the victim feels ashamed of the abuse they suffered and fear that people will judge them if they find out about the abuse.
Victims also often think in some way it is their fault which was instilled by the abuser into the victim so the abuser can avoid accountability for their actions. Victims may also feel guilty or ashamed for falling for the lies of the abuser and in some way believe they should have seen it coming or have left the abuser the first time the abuse started. Leaving an abuser is not a one-time event, it is a process that is more a mental and emotional process than a physical one.
Be kind to yourself and show yourself love and compassion. It is also normal for victims to feel lost. This is due to the abuser destroying your sense of self. I did a video about this that may help. ruclips.net/video/7BAKG3iH5nI/видео.html (How Abusers Destroy Your Sense Of Self) Victims may also have been so controlled by the abuser and their life dictated to them that they dedicated most or all of their time to keep the abuser happy. When victims escape they have so much time for themselves but don't know what to do in life as their life was to please the abuser. They may feel as if they have no place in the world and serve no purpose. It will take time, but you will find yourself again. Focus just on showing yourself love and trying to find things that make you happy, even just walks in the park. As you find things that make you happy, do more of them to increase your happiness.
Learning more about narcissism will help you heal and build trust in your judging abilities. You will understand more why and how an abuser did things, why you feel how you feel, as well as be able to spot red flags in others. This will help you avoid other abusers by seeing the cracks in their masks faster.
@@NarcissisticAbuseHealing OMG this is so true! I recently found out that my ex-Narc girlfriend slept with my brother and most of my closest friends. To the point that my relationship with them was savotaged, 4 years of this was so brutal and I had suicidal thoughts and a massive breakdown.
All the "bad things" that happened to me I thought it was my own doing. I kept thinking that she was the only one left in this world for me. I didn't see through the deception, I didn't even trust my own instincts because all I think about were the "good things" she did for me.
Hi. I am sorry you had to go through this. Sleeping with your brother and friends is brutal. Having a person sleep around breaks your trust in a romantic partner, but for her to also damage your trust with your brother and friends is something else. I can only imagine how you must feel. If you can see a therapist for this i highly recommend it. It will be up to you if you want to continue interacting with your brother and friends.
when it hurts to relate to the video lol..
It does hurt, I pray you take the pain and transform it to joy, you made it to this place; recognition. That's a powerful place, because you can only heal if you want to.
It hurts. I know. And recovery is often long and full of ups and downs. There will be days when it feels like you took three steps back. Like there is just no use going on. On those days say to yourself. Let's just wait and see what tomorrow brings. For each day you heal you take a step towards a wonderful life. Over time the bad days will become less frequent and more manageable. Wishing you a great day.
😔 yes
I was about to die.god help me
As the only blonde child of 4 daughters, andc2 brunette parents, I heard 'you must be the post man's child's all my childhood. It confused me, and alienated me. As adults after all the abuse I got for being blonde, each sister tried dying their hair blonde...then I got the jealousy. Stupid. Damage caused for no reason.
Jealousy is a toxicity that seeps into the minds of people. It poisons them so that over time they can become drunk on delusional ideas that your life is so much better than theirs and that you do not deserve it. That can cause even family members to do unspeakable wicked things in a bid to destroy your life and happiness. Their words and deeds are not a reflection of you, it is a manifestation of the blackness in their heart. Wishing you a great day.
I learned at an early age the way I look was a blessing and a curse. So much jealousy with the other females in my life. I had to distance myself from them. I was 40 years old before I realized what was going on behind my back. My body finally shut down. Adrenals burnt out from stress caused so many physical body problems. I don't have a relationship with most of the females in my family. My husband has been there for me to deal with all my past hurt. Jesus Christ is my rock and I talk to him daily.
My mother said I was from the milkman. His name was George. It was confusing for me too.
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