I don't understand someone who is always looking for a way to hurt another person. I can't stand to see someone hurting, I can't stand to see anything hurting. What's wrong with them? It's really scary when you think about it, and horribly painful and shocking to find out it's been happening to you by people you love all your life!😥💔
They cannot fuel themselves; they need to get it from other people but no one would consciously would feed a vampire, they would run. That's why in order to enslave you they need to seduce you; play games with your mind to get you hooked (confusion, rewarding you incoherently, gaslighting...). Once you have been too long in the spider web is hard to scape but if you do it, you'll be scared because the web and the spider is familiar to you and because you have developed learned helplessness. They are dependent of the fuel; positive fuel makes feel great and negative fuel give them power and control. Why a scorpion would kill the frog that is taking it across a course of water knowing they would die along with the frog? Because that is its nature.
@@annmarievalenti9264 Hi there Annmarie Valenti , if you are miserable in that so called relationship then it's time to get out of it and like I said nobody should be abused and people have to be careful how they treat a person and for him to rub it off on your child and so it's time to go because it's not going to get any better with a person like that but be careful on how you leave and I know it's not easy so stay safe and take care in the meantime.😊😊😊.
It happened with me ,I had to marry a stranger , then he(husband)says change clothes in dark , then a child happens , then memory loss 😢 he is physically &verbally abusive to me . I am so confused ,my motivation is gone 😢
That is true. I came out of that toxic relation after 23 years n I hardly remember what I use to do in that period of time. Everyone in my family thought I'm making up stories about the Narc.. only I know how I lived with him. Now I'm alone with my beautiful Brain now it tells me you are good n you've always been good. :" It's too late yet I'm happy I have few years to live with my real self. I got my smile back n still looking for my real self. Narcissists deserve death sentence.
That makes so much sense. I know someone who under stress (while completely denying they are under stress) will forget things as they are happening. It's very frustrating to have a conversation with someone who is forgetting simultaneously as they are hearing the info. But I always suspected it was a truama response. Totally makes sense now.
I am very forgetful when going through trauma and even afterwards it's like my brain blocks it all and I can only remember a few particular super triggering experiences but overall everything is a fog
I'm sorry on their behalf. I do that and I can say its so hard for us. All we really want is to seem connected and enthusiastic but our brain just doesn't let us. It's awful.
Yes! I lost track of time like no other. I used to have impeccable memory. Memorized tests and answers after I took it first to help a foreign student pass. Then over 10 years of abuse I lost all memory, motivation, etc. I gave up because of lack of control over my life. Divorced finally this year, got custody of my kids, but the crippling numbness and lack of motivation creeps in and renders me lazy. However, I have healed alot in the past year and the Rona gave me an excuse to sleep like no other. I just sleep and sleep and feed my kids and take them places. Almost back to 50%. Stay POSITIVE even when tired!!
Same here. 20 years with a Narc wife. seperated 13 months ago. My mental health really took a dive 6 years ago. depression, anxiety, panic attacks, then progresively becoming more tired, withdrawn, sleeping. Now i regularly suffer confusion and memory loss. I'm a lot better than what I was, but its a constant fight to stay possitive and focused. Confusion send me back to bed sometimes. I find writting about my goals and keeping a plan of a clear path to where i want to go in life on paper, because my brain can't retain this information anymore.
I’ve been abused by a narcissist most of my life first my mother, who I went no contact with 4 years ago, and my husband of 29 years who I just realized is a narcissist. I thought I was going crazy! I thought I was getting dementia I didn’t understand what was wrong with me I felt as I was in a fog, now I understand and I’m working on getting out God willing I find a job soon so I can ruuuuuunnnnnn!!!!
@Dianet Gomez Isn't amazing how you can be with someone for so long and not realize or able to quite put a finger on what the problem is or how they have harmed you until toward the end of the relationship? After much damage has been done.. I hope you have safely gotten out and are recovering.
@@izi.z2384 thank you 🙏 I have gotten out it’s been a little over a year, but I’ve been struggling with depression. I m doing better it’s just going to take time 🙏
@DAWADA_SKYWALKER I just got off a 20 hour fast but I worked up to it. I started with a 12 hour fasting. Take your time don’t push yourself but you may see benefits quickly... I did
Growing up with covert narcissist mother I learned to not listen and blank out. Bad traits as you get older through school and work. Taken years to learn to pay attention.
I'm 41 now and question if this is why I could never pay attention in school. Kindergarten and first grade teachers would give the assignment's and immediately have me come to the front of the class and drag a desk out in the hall or go to an empty classroom. I wasn't even allowed recess. Then at home mom sat me at a desk in my room and come at me in a rage every few minutes towering directly over me flailing her arms around screaming thing's like there's something wrong with you, there's something wrong with your brain, you're retarded. I've had a huge problem with memory, zoning out and daydreaming my whole life.
I have to write everything down EVERYTHING! I have so many to do lists. If I don’t I can leave a conference call and struggle to remember if I have any actions from it?
I feel like I’ve never had a good memory but I had some trauma in my childhood. It sucks I think I have complex ptsd and then I was in a 5 year relationship with a narcissistic abuser so it’s hit me even more
I am very close with someone who was horribly abused by a toxic Narcissist for decades. It was slowly breaking her down but you wouldn't notice if you didn't know what to look for, or know what abused coping looks like. It took her nearly a decade before she could remember what she had just read a moment before. Paying her bills online could take 6 hours effortlessly. This is a brain injury. She still suffers from CCPTSD, Acute Anxiety Panic & on pharma etc. years post divorce. This can easily derail someone's life going forward for years, if not til death. What abuse does to the brain is so overlooked by the med system it has caused so much unnecessary death & family grief to say the least. I can validate what this woman is saying.
YOU... YOU just explained my entire life in 5 minutes! I am 62 yrs. Old. I've ALWAYS fought with my memory.... always, but not because of an illness, syndrome or stupidity. I KNEW it had to be "something" like this. I have always compartmentalized and focused on the positive. I survived, I got through. I freed myself of Narcissists (Mother,xhusband)etc. and learned how to say no about 10 years ago. I thought I won the battle. 3 years ago when my guard was down, something dramatic happened and my anxiety came back, my body broke down physically. I became bed-ridden for 1 1\2 year until I had some surgeries... I'm better but will never be the same. Found out I had CPTSD. Did therapy for 1 1/2 years. As of today, in conclusion of everything, the one thing I could never understand was the memory issue. I am a very intelligent woman but it made my life difficult. Today you explained my mystery! Thank you!! WOW! 💯❤⚘
Same here. 20 years with a Narc wife. seperated 13 months ago. My mental health really took a dive 6 years ago. depression, anxiety, panic attacks, then progresively becoming more tired, withdrawn, sleeping. Now i regularly suffer confusion and memory loss. I'm a lot better than what I was, but its a constant fight to stay possitive and focused. Confusion send me back to bed sometimes. I find writting about my goals and keeping a plan of a clear path to where i want to go in life on paper, because my brain can't retain this information anymore.
Folks need to talk more about how it is not just significant others who can have this effect. It is bosses, co-workers, families, attorneys, so-called friends, and just plain enemies. I have had a headache for four plus years.
I don’t remember any of our fights of what they were about. But I do remember the horrible name calling, put downs, the physical abuse. This is why I am so upset moving on as I don’t know what started the fights or what they were.
I say yes, I escaped from a shedevil narc. The previous 2 1/2, 3 years, I don’t remember much of that time frame. And yes my memory was really good previously!
Thank you so much for this video. It explains why is going on in my marriage a lot. I feel like I am in constant confusion. Especially when things are good for a while I start to think everything is really ok now. Then things go down hill again. It is so confusing
I can personally attest PTSD memory loss is real. My husband died suddenly in the E.R. after 2 years of marriage. It took 2 1/2 years to remember our life together. It came back in stages.
Thanks so much for talking about his topic! After experiencing some narcissistic abuse from a subscriber, I went into a state of shock and blocked out what happened for many months. It also didn't help that the abuse just happened online, so I never thought that something that didn't happen in the physical world could affect me so much. The incident made my short term memory worse which was already bad from brain damage due to asphyxiation when I was born, so it made remembering information for my university classes difficult and I eventually failed my classes and had to drop out of school and go back to work. I guess I might project somewhat because I'm an empath and an honest person and maybe wrongly assume that most people would also be empathic and honest, but when we encounter narcissists, that clearly isn't the case.
I think I spent most of my childhood being confused or terrified of my mum. I still am terrified, but I refuse to talk to her anymore and I am educating my daughters as to why they should not be talking to my mum as well. My son is severely disabled and in a wheelchair and my husband and I are his guardians. She can't get to him and he is nonverbal anyway, but he still understands a lot even if he can't speak back verbally. Our two younger daughters are both autistic as am I, but the damage she has done to my elder daughter and my relationship has been horrible. We are getting better slowly, but it is going to take time. I think my mum is very sick, she needs a lot of help either that or a jail cell.
I'm very sorry to hear all that. You are very brave. I also have no contact with my Mother. She made mine and my children's lives tragic... but we got through somehow. We all have "issues" from a lifetime of her Narcissism treatment to us. I count my blessings now 🙏🙏🙏 every single day. I am 62 now... not much life left... can't make up the lost years. When I try to imagine what happened in our lives x 100... I can't. That's how I think your experience must have been.... 100x worse. You are a very strong person. ❤🧡💛💝💚💙💜
At times Michele's videos have been a shelter in the nightmare of my situation. But now I think I've connected her advice to the trama.. It's hard to face the truth that she's right and I know better yet I return to the trama. Then when I return to her advice I feel guilty and stupid because I have the answers yet I fail to use it
Takes time. You won't find a better cause that regaining your dignity and your own self for winning the worst war a human can possibly face. Take care.
I retired from the US Army after serving 20 years way before meeting my narc ex-wife, so thank God I was able to deal with all the stress she put on me, and thus the relationship didn't affect me as much. Thanks for the video Michele.
I can remember all of my trauma, but I cannot remember any good memories. I had them, I know I did, because ppl tell me stories about my past, but I truly cannot remember the good parts.
Love this way you explained the issues at hand,it's very hard having chrome PTSD all your Life and them at 54 being so severely traumatized that I've now been labeled complex severe PTSD and have no idea how to maniver through it all...thank You for the video 👌🙏👍
Physical abuse to me a male. Responded twice with a mild punch and cane twice when someone kicked my bad right knee. In therapy and trying live my best life
This is what I believe happened to my poor Mother. With tunnel vision she focused so much on the good aspects while neglecting the many bad aspects of the way my family treated her. I think it affected her memory so badly that eventually it just got worse and worse and ultimately that abuse led to the development of her brain tumor.
I want to thank you so much for all the videos, opening up so much to help other people! I feel for u amd all the pain you went through and been so humble, true , loving and sincer . I dealt with narcissistic abuse in my childhood and then a year ago I got out of my worst narcissistic relationship I was in. Your videos helped me so much! I thank you so much , God bless u always, and don’t stop what your doing!
You are an expert on these topics. I wish I would have found you years ago. I would have saved myself a lot of pain and misery staying in an abusive relationship hoping he would change.
Hey there Michele if people pay attention to the red flags things can be avoided and folks they always wear a mask and sometimes people donot see them for who they really are and when they get involved with this type of person then they will show who they really are , you are doing awesome and you and the family stay safe.😊😊😊.
Unfortunately, those of us with this problem described here didn't have the luxury of red flags helping us. For example,when your own Mother is a Narcissist, there is no escape. Then, you become so dysfunctional that when you get married... it isn't until you have a baby on the way that you realize you're in deep shit again. When you grow up dysfunctional, you don't realize that you are broken and can't distinguish who is really normal or not unless you've received education, intervention or therapy about the childhood experience and "how to" keep bad people away instead of attracting them.
Omg my family doctor said i soo have this because of my Ex & shame on anyone that puts a person through this and for me my Ex will call me stupid & when i try to remember she would just say stop talking. I wouldnt wish this on anyone but we have to pick oirselves up and believe in yourself, One Love 💜❤❤
Bulls eye! ☆ Michelle, you are truly a gift to this planet! & every being! *(also offering hope to the narcissist that despise you-for knowing their play book!) -Blessings!
I'm 60 years old and found out just 2 years ago that my mom and my brother are narcissist and I've been their easiest most available victim my entire life. I've also lost everyone I ever loved or trusted because of their abuse, so I've been completely alone for 11 years now. I live outside the city in a retirement community where nobody speaks to anyone else, so the only person who has been in my life on and off is my abusive brother. I've been studying plants and herbs for healing my mind and brain as well as the many autoimmune disorders I've been suffering from most of my adult life. I have adaptations and tinctures that I make, essential oils and oils and ointments I've been making to help heal myself. I can't thank you enough for this information. All of the information about narcissist and what they do to us too, but the memory thing has been a terrifying experience for someone my age. I can't really afford any classes but I know I do need this kind of training to try to repair my brain and my life. I guess I've never really known normal, and I do self sabotage my life. I can't seem to pull myself out of this miserable situation. I try to make myself change my habits in order to get on to a schedule and change my life for the better. I have so many health issues and so many of my health issues are from stress related issues. I have lupus, pyroderma gangrenosum, fibromyalgia, Rheumatoid arthritis, osteoarthritis and osteoporosis. All of these things are caused or exacerbated by stress. I'm so grateful to you for telling me about these problems. I can't make a decision about anything, and if I do, I'll sabotage it and never get anything done. At least I know what's happening now. It's a answer to a question I didn't know I needed to ask. Thank you.
I’m sorry to hear about your story. I don’t like to give advice to people I don’t know. However I was moved by your authenticity. Please hydrate with purified water, try fasting for 16 hours (eating in an 8 hour window) each day, start walking and further your walks each day in sunshine if you can. Get your blood moving and oxygen with deep breathing. Try Ginko tea. You got this! Know there are people who care.
This is exactly what I figured has been wrong with me. After almost a decade of narcissistic bliss from my now ex, I find that, in many ways, my short-term memory is all but shot. But, being out of it and working a good job is going to help this in the long run. I just pray for my daughter who still lives in that house with her mother and her mother's family that are, as I have described to my confidante sister, the stepford wives on steroids.
I was grown up narcissist family, and fall in love several narcissist man, it is hard success relationship, until now even harder, one side choose narcissist man, continue narcissist abuse; or choose to leave, live alone. Both side is harder.
Raised in abusive family...married a few abusive men...Totally lost memory at 40...to the point of malfuncioning....60 yrs old now........broke off with narcissistic relationship of 5 years. Just me and my dog. I can tell you alone is good....allows time and space to get control of your life.....breaks co dependant cycle,no fighting for return,no rejections,no stress...PEACE and an awareness of value. Hope for a future ...a destiny ..Free to be authentic...to love.
Since my divorce my memory has changed drastically not only that I feel like I have loss who I am. Essentially, I don't even know how to move on in confidence.
I am a victim of severe narcissistic abuse. My father has been a raging alcohol since I was a kid and he was highly abusive to us kids as well as my mom. I grew up in a war zone witnessing physical fights and hearing the endless fights that they would have. I am 27 years old now and I constantly live in fear. Everything is scary to me and I am constantly reminded of the trauma In basic every day events. I just wish I could find a way to start healing from this.
Just can't believe this ,In my whole life I was dealing with my Narcissistic father, mother and now my younger sister .... I was sexually abused by a teacher and I never had the courage to tell my mother , I was emotionally ignored so badly and physical beaten up like a animal , I'm 24 and don't get beaten but it's more horrible now , they use gaslighting and emotional abuse against me , I can't even focus on my studies , I hear they keep mocking and shouting at me with things like I'm just not enough eligible for any job , My future will be dark , I'm evil , and I'm mentally ill. I scored 90% in my 12th board exams, and now today I question myself Am I really a shit head , I can't even remember what happened yesterday.
My short term memory has always been real bad, although I can remember things in detail that happend a long time ago. I once read that people who grew up with a narcissitic parent develops amazingly detailed (long term) memory as a survival mechanism, as to learn what to do and not in unpredictable environments. Later in my adult life when I was in a long term relationship with a covert narcissist, my short term memory would become so bad that I had to write post-it notes for even the most smallest and usual chores/things in daily life. My NP partner would of course use this against me by giving me a long list of things to do and remember, change it numerous times a day, and if I forgot or got even one thing wrong all hell would breake loose. Anyway, healing from the abuse has helped me to not only be more present in the moment but has also given me a decent short term memory, maybe for the first time in my life!
Not just my memory, but I just feel so stupid. I have got lost in the parking lot not able to find my car 3 times this week. I wake up & can’t remember where I’m at or what I’m supposed to be doing. Which led to panic attacks when I wake up thinking I over slept
Great video! I've noticed my memory getting worse. And you've given me hope. RUclips is incredible. We can now share info to help others. I love you, and your content ❤💯 Be blessed
... Can All This Memory Loss Brain Damage Stuff Be Seen Via X-Rays C-Scans Mri's ect., Is That How You Know This About Memory Loss??? ... May Of 79 Age 26 I Was Hit By A Car And Very Severely Damaged ... I Spent 9 Days In Unconsciousness ... Because Of A Severe Allergic Reaction To Medication I Received Nothing ... When I Came To Consciousness I Had NO Memories Before The Accident (I was single btw) I Did Not Know My Twin Sister Parents Grandmother Friends Or That I Even Had A Daughter ... I Still To This Day I Have About 30% Memory Regained ...
Hi Michelle. I went no contact with the toxic people in my life. As you mentioned, when you are subjected to Narcissist abuse, it drains you. I take a supplement for adrenal heath. It does help. Your platform has helped me tremendously
I'm struggling with snapping and reacting at everything, I got used to the name calling and insults and learnt to brush them off rather than getting hysterical or tearful, but now, it's more subtle digs which makes me explode and I look the the bad one, I thought I had it under control, but now I'm just always angry which isn't my character.
Is this why my memory of my child is so spotty and disjointed? I have to think really hard to recall the happy moments of my childhood. I did project my good qualities on to my narcissist, consistently for years. So I got stuck.
Contact 0. Don't feed them. Grey rock; be a bored so they cannot trigger any emotional reaction. Take time for yourself so you can get to know without anyone interfering.
Unfortunately I’ve been trying to accept that my traumas have changed my ability to communicate and changed my ability to remember anything. I’ve been trying to look for how to restore these processes.
What if the cptsd is visible on your skin ? Scars and so on... how to heal? You are literally waking up in trauma because it reminds you of trauma. There’s no way out!! Dead end kind of life
I cannot really give a good advice to someone online that I haven't been privileged to know,,, But as a fellow guy that I has been though a narc abuse by my parents I think spirituality in the way to cope, trying to believe it's all part of greater plan - that was the life's lesson your soul has chosen before arrival to this physical world to grow emotionally and mentally, to learn how to connect and love yourself to heal - so that give some kind of a meaning. might be beneficial since that we cannot control the past, or make it up for the lost years. maybe accepting it would enable you bear the scars in pride knowing that you're very tough, and mark that you've survived that part... and believe in after life in which you'd be free of physical scars and misery.... not that I'm giving a free pass for the abuser, but maybe they're just dropped into our lives as a tools, to teach us about ourselves, also for that we'd be able to support others on the healing path
Thank you for sharing this. ❤️ I thought I was wierd. As soon stress appear its like my brain is out the door, blank.. My brain is broken.. So much problem with just memory but also dreams when I sleep have disappeared. Can that also be affected? Can you heal or unshrink the brain again? 😬
Yes, neuroplasticity is wonderful! Once you are able to remove yourself from the abuse and start to work on cognitive behavioral and trauma therapy, and you're not living in the F.O.G. (fear, obligation and guilt) you should be able to think in a clear minded manner and process memory better.
Hey Mitchell, Thank you for explaining this topic. The kind of things these narc do to us lead to memory loss. Ok fine. What about these narcs they are the source.....I wonder what will happen to THEM.
Is it possible to lose good memories to? I'm 48 and my parents were narcissists too. My ex-husband is malignant narcissistic sociopath. We have kids together so I can't break free, can CPS doesn't recognize that kind of abuse. My friends constantly ask me , don't you remember when we did this? And I have no memory of it
That interesting, do experience that a lot. Do meet such term as abuse amnesia. And how narcissist push that idea that narcissist for example narc father(or mother/ do have both narc parents) is never wrong - always right, and all what he does is ONLY TO YOUR OWN BENEFIT - (they superior being). So if facts are contrary to that - they deny, deflect, blame shift, minimize, downplay, play victim - so main premise remain that they TOTALY OKAY - and as end result do see that phenomenon of abuse amnesia - delete all bad focus on good to maintain that status que - narcissist all good and perfect and white and shining, they became super angry and abusive if I point out their flaws(remember abuse) and shit storm happens. So it’s prohibited by them to have bad memories about them (that makes them wrong - inferior not a superior). So they bully you to delete memory about all their flaws and abuse. So as result they maintain that superior image of themselves. It’s always not their fault, or other ploy that abuse somehow plays out as something good in the future! So stop whining and be grateful - it hurts now but it somehow for your own benefit for some ”grater future”. As typical example of that pattern do recall how my cultist mother in child how out of the blue came when I sit on a chair and with both hands take my face by the cheeks and with sharp finger nails scratch my cheeks to the blood - leaving stripes of scratches on both sides of face - and said that is FOR MY SALVATION!!! And she was displeased that I’m not grateful and upset - how puny and inferior I’m that do not appreciate her efforts. She by her opinion just SAVED ME, did something for my salvation in FUTURE!!!! By her vision my role was to say thank you, thank you, thank you O great enlightened one! I had for couple of weeks walk on the street and in school with that set deep scratches on my face telling people that it was cat and hearing how they laugh at me. It was very emotionally hurtful. She never regret or apologize or feel sorry - because she did not do anything bad, instead she did in her mind something GOOD and is proud about herself! And did not understand how I can even blame her?!?!!! Only dare to call her out! And she acts like nothing happened. That pretty typical algorithm - abuse and then reframe it as some tremendous gift and expression of love and care, and turning tables that now I am abuser because unhappy and angry, frustrated after being presented with such a gift (got abused). Narc and enablers - just do not understand my anger, and resentment - they did not do anything bad (so what, that my face covered with bleeding scratches?). Same pattern with father - he can do something harmful, sabotage, give bad advices, manipulate and so on - and then act like nothing happened. And rage and angry how I can even remember that? Remembering abuse imply that I start distance myself, take precautions, limit information, limit contact, withhold trust, do not open myself, hide truth from them, hide plans and hopes etc - they (narcissists) do not like that and demand from me total openness, trust, total access to information, sincerity, truth and so on you go an idea. And very pissed off when I limit all that because remember abuse. So seems abuse amnesia connected to that. Also do see there also that spiritual abuse - What about a forgiveness??? Forget - forgive - delete all bad (focus on good)!!! That a grater plan! Deity has a plan! Test of faith! Loyalty! Jesus do forgive! Jehovah do forgive all command to forgive forget!!!! You do not follow commandments!!! That a greater sin than abuse itself!!! And bash and bully me!
Do you have to live with the person That gave you trauma ? To get this .. I was attacked and was threatened Any time this person came around me ...everybody sez I acted different and have no memory
I don't understand someone who is always looking for a way to hurt another person. I can't stand to see someone hurting, I can't stand to see anything hurting. What's wrong with them? It's really scary when you think about it, and horribly painful and shocking to find out it's been happening to you by people you love all your life!😥💔
They cannot fuel themselves; they need to get it from other people but no one would consciously would feed a vampire, they would run. That's why in order to enslave you they need to seduce you; play games with your mind to get you hooked (confusion, rewarding you incoherently, gaslighting...). Once you have been too long in the spider web is hard to scape but if you do it, you'll be scared because the web and the spider is familiar to you and because you have developed learned helplessness.
They are dependent of the fuel; positive fuel makes feel great and negative fuel give them power and control.
Why a scorpion would kill the frog that is taking it across a course of water knowing they would die along with the frog? Because that is its nature.
Ps.nobody should ever be abused to the point of having memory loss that's a sad sad shame.
Amen.. Thank you
@@colorado1love4life55 Hey there Colorado Love you are welcome and you know it too thank you for the reply and stay safe.😊😊😊.
Husband n 2 children. Its effecting me now, now that I realized my daughter has it, that I tried 6 yrs to conceive. I raised his kids. She was ours.
@@annmarievalenti9264 Hi there Annmarie Valenti , if you are miserable in that so called relationship then it's time to get out of it and like I said nobody should be abused and people have to be careful how they treat a person and for him to rub it off on your child and so it's time to go because it's not going to get any better with a person like that but be careful on how you leave and I know it's not easy so stay safe and take care in the meantime.😊😊😊.
It happened with me ,I had to marry a stranger , then he(husband)says change clothes in dark , then a child happens , then memory loss 😢 he is physically &verbally abusive to me . I am so confused ,my motivation is gone 😢
That is true. I came out of that toxic relation after 23 years n I hardly remember what I use to do in that period of time. Everyone in my family thought I'm making up stories about the Narc.. only I know how I lived with him. Now I'm alone with my beautiful Brain now it tells me you are good n you've always been good. :"
It's too late yet I'm happy I have few years to live with my real self. I got my smile back n still looking for my real self. Narcissists deserve death sentence.
Its 28 yrs march. Our mind can get better?? I pray everyday this isn't dementia.
I can't wait to get my smile back again
That makes so much sense. I know someone who under stress (while completely denying they are under stress) will forget things as they are happening. It's very frustrating to have a conversation with someone who is forgetting simultaneously as they are hearing the info. But I always suspected it was a truama response. Totally makes sense now.
I am very forgetful when going through trauma and even afterwards it's like my brain blocks it all and I can only remember a few particular super triggering experiences but overall everything is a fog
I'm sorry on their behalf. I do that and I can say its so hard for us. All we really want is to seem connected and enthusiastic but our brain just doesn't let us. It's awful.
"Repression" of emotionally disturbing events is a form of amnesia. It is what Freud called a defense mechanism.
Yes! I lost track of time like no other. I used to have impeccable memory. Memorized tests and answers after I took it first to help a foreign student pass. Then over 10 years of abuse I lost all memory, motivation, etc. I gave up because of lack of control over my life. Divorced finally this year, got custody of my kids, but the crippling numbness and lack of motivation creeps in and renders me lazy. However, I have healed alot in the past year and the Rona gave me an excuse to sleep like no other. I just sleep and sleep and feed my kids and take them places. Almost back to 50%. Stay POSITIVE even when tired!!
Thanks for sharing your story. Thats so encouraging.
Same here. 20 years with a Narc wife. seperated 13 months ago. My mental health really took a dive 6 years ago. depression, anxiety, panic attacks, then progresively becoming more tired, withdrawn, sleeping. Now i regularly suffer confusion and memory loss. I'm a lot better than what I was, but its a constant fight to stay possitive and focused. Confusion send me back to bed sometimes. I find writting about my goals and keeping a plan of a clear path to where i want to go in life on paper, because my brain can't retain this information anymore.
I’ve been abused by a narcissist most of my life first my mother, who I went no contact with 4 years ago, and my husband of 29 years who I just realized is a narcissist. I thought I was going crazy! I thought I was getting dementia I didn’t understand what was wrong with me I felt as I was in a fog, now I understand and I’m working on getting out God willing I find a job soon so I can ruuuuuunnnnnn!!!!
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Peace&&Love
Me too🙏💞 GOD has your back,🥰
@Dianet Gomez Isn't amazing how you can be with someone for so long and not realize or able to quite put a finger on what the problem is or how they have harmed you until toward the end of the relationship? After much damage has been done.. I hope you have safely gotten out and are recovering.
@@izi.z2384 thank you 🙏 I have gotten out it’s been a little over a year, but I’ve been struggling with depression. I m doing better it’s just going to take time 🙏
I actually started a fasting regimen to help heal my brain... it’s really been helping
Yea I'm doing the same. Autophagy!
@DAWADA_SKYWALKER I just got off a 20 hour fast but I worked up to it. I started with a 12 hour fasting. Take your time don’t push yourself but you may see benefits quickly... I did
Whoop whoop!!! Fasting crew! Gotta repair these brains ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I have brain problems as well 🙈
@Bryan Allen i wanna do a 72 so bad but I can’t make it past the 24... 🤦🏾♀️ I really have to dig deep for that...
Growing up with covert narcissist mother I learned to not listen and blank out. Bad traits as you get older through school and work. Taken years to learn to pay attention.
Shoot this is me right now.
I'm 41 now and question if this is why I could never pay attention in school. Kindergarten and first grade teachers would give the assignment's and immediately have me come to the front of the class and drag a desk out in the hall or go to an empty classroom. I wasn't even allowed recess.
Then at home mom sat me at a desk in my room and come at me in a rage every few minutes towering directly over me flailing her arms around screaming thing's like there's something wrong with you, there's something wrong with your brain, you're retarded. I've had a huge problem with memory, zoning out and daydreaming my whole life.
It's so true. My first job during my divorce was difficult. My boss would loudly point out that I had a terrible memory. That naturally made it worse.
I have to write everything down EVERYTHING! I have so many to do lists. If I don’t I can leave a conference call and struggle to remember if I have any actions from it?
I feel like I’ve never had a good memory but I had some trauma in my childhood. It sucks I think I have complex ptsd and then I was in a 5 year relationship with a narcissistic abuser so it’s hit me even more
I am very close with someone who was horribly abused by a toxic Narcissist for decades. It was slowly breaking her down but you wouldn't notice if you didn't know what to look for, or know what abused coping looks like. It took her nearly a decade before she could remember what she had just read a moment before. Paying her bills online could take 6 hours effortlessly. This is a brain injury. She still suffers from CCPTSD, Acute Anxiety Panic & on pharma etc. years post divorce. This can easily derail someone's life going forward for years, if not til death. What abuse does to the brain is so overlooked by the med system it has caused so much unnecessary death & family grief to say the least. I can validate what this woman is saying.
YOU... YOU just explained my entire life in 5 minutes! I am 62 yrs. Old. I've ALWAYS fought with my memory.... always, but not because of an illness, syndrome or stupidity. I KNEW it had to be "something" like this. I have always compartmentalized and focused on the positive. I survived, I got through. I freed myself of Narcissists (Mother,xhusband)etc. and learned how to say no about 10 years ago. I thought I won the battle. 3 years ago when my guard was down, something dramatic happened and my anxiety came back, my body broke down physically. I became bed-ridden for 1 1\2 year until I had some surgeries... I'm better but will never be the same. Found out I had CPTSD. Did therapy for 1 1/2 years. As of today, in conclusion of everything, the one thing I could never understand was the memory issue. I am a very intelligent woman but it made my life difficult. Today you explained my mystery! Thank you!! WOW! 💯❤⚘
Same here. 20 years with a Narc wife. seperated 13 months ago. My mental health really took a dive 6 years ago. depression, anxiety, panic attacks, then progresively becoming more tired, withdrawn, sleeping. Now i regularly suffer confusion and memory loss. I'm a lot better than what I was, but its a constant fight to stay possitive and focused. Confusion send me back to bed sometimes. I find writting about my goals and keeping a plan of a clear path to where i want to go in life on paper, because my brain can't retain this information anymore.
Folks need to talk more about how it is not just significant others who can have this effect. It is bosses, co-workers, families, attorneys, so-called friends, and just plain enemies.
I have had a headache for four plus years.
No wonder I had so much trouble learning at school.
I don’t remember any of our fights of what they were about. But I do remember the horrible name calling, put downs, the physical abuse. This is why I am so upset moving on as I don’t know what started the fights or what they were.
I say yes, I escaped from a shedevil narc. The previous 2 1/2, 3 years, I don’t remember much of that time frame. And yes my memory was really good previously!
Thank you so much for this video. It explains why is going on in my marriage a lot. I feel like I am in constant confusion. Especially when things are good for a while I start to think everything is really ok now. Then things go down hill again. It is so confusing
I can personally attest PTSD memory loss is real. My husband died suddenly in the E.R. after 2 years of marriage. It took 2 1/2 years to remember our life together. It came back in stages.
I'm sorry. ⚘
Yes, I now have neurological impairment from 25 years of this types of abuse, my physical health is also shot to bits.
same i have CFS and cognitive dysfunction now....
Thanks so much for talking about his topic! After experiencing some narcissistic abuse from a subscriber, I went into a state of shock and blocked out what happened for many months. It also didn't help that the abuse just happened online, so I never thought that something that didn't happen in the physical world could affect me so much. The incident made my short term memory worse which was already bad from brain damage due to asphyxiation when I was born, so it made remembering information for my university classes difficult and I eventually failed my classes and had to drop out of school and go back to work. I guess I might project somewhat because I'm an empath and an honest person and maybe wrongly assume that most people would also be empathic and honest, but when we encounter narcissists, that clearly isn't the case.
I think I spent most of my childhood being confused or terrified of my mum. I still am terrified, but I refuse to talk to her anymore and I am educating my daughters as to why they should not be talking to my mum as well. My son is severely disabled and in a wheelchair and my husband and I are his guardians. She can't get to him and he is nonverbal anyway, but he still understands a lot even if he can't speak back verbally. Our two younger daughters are both autistic as am I, but the damage she has done to my elder daughter and my relationship has been horrible. We are getting better slowly, but it is going to take time. I think my mum is very sick, she needs a lot of help either that or a jail cell.
I'm very sorry to hear all that. You are very brave. I also have no contact with my Mother. She made mine and my children's lives tragic... but we got through somehow. We all have "issues" from a lifetime of her Narcissism treatment to us. I count my blessings now 🙏🙏🙏 every single day. I am 62 now... not much life left... can't make up the lost years. When I try to imagine what happened in our lives x 100... I can't. That's how I think your experience must have been.... 100x worse. You are a very strong person. ❤🧡💛💝💚💙💜
This woman can literally read my mind. I have been thinking about this recently!!
Thk you
I could cry for us
At times Michele's videos have been a shelter in the nightmare of my situation. But now I think I've connected her advice to the trama.. It's hard to face the truth that she's right and I know better yet I return to the trama. Then when I return to her advice I feel guilty and stupid because I have the answers yet I fail to use it
Takes time. You won't find a better cause that regaining your dignity and your own self for winning the worst war a human can possibly face. Take care.
@@Lyrielonwind Thank you. I've found that Michele has the only advice that works. She has unique insight of these people.
I retired from the US Army after serving 20 years way before meeting my narc ex-wife, so thank God I was able to deal with all the stress she put on me, and thus the relationship didn't affect me as much. Thanks for the video Michele.
I can remember all of my trauma, but I cannot remember any good memories. I had them, I know I did, because ppl tell me stories about my past, but I truly cannot remember the good parts.
Thanks for this. It’s so true and exactly how I still feel now. You make sense of it. 12 years in an emotionally abusive relationship
My “coping mechanism” from childhood made me a perfect gaslighting victim for my Narc Ex husband.
My brain keeps bringing acceptance to abuse and getting others to abuse me in my head
Love this way you explained the issues at hand,it's very hard having chrome PTSD all your Life and them at 54 being so severely traumatized that I've now been labeled complex severe PTSD and have no idea how to maniver through it all...thank You for the video 👌🙏👍
Physical abuse to me a male. Responded twice with a mild punch and cane twice when someone kicked my bad right knee. In therapy and trying live my best life
This is what I believe happened to my poor Mother. With tunnel vision she focused so much on the good aspects while neglecting the many bad aspects of the way my family treated her. I think it affected her memory so badly that eventually it just got worse and worse and ultimately that abuse led to the development of her brain tumor.
That destroy anyone's immune system.
Sorry for your loss. 😭
I want to thank you so much for all the videos, opening up so much to help other people! I feel for u amd all the pain you went through and been so humble, true , loving and sincer . I dealt with narcissistic abuse in my childhood and then a year ago I got out of my worst narcissistic relationship I was in. Your videos helped me so much! I thank you so much , God bless u always, and don’t stop what your doing!
You are an expert on these topics. I wish I would have found you years ago. I would have saved myself a lot of pain and misery staying in an abusive relationship hoping he would change.
Hey there Michele if people pay attention to the red flags things can be avoided and folks they always wear a mask and sometimes people donot see them for who they really are and when they get involved with this type of person then they will show who they really are , you are doing awesome and you and the family stay safe.😊😊😊.
Unfortunately, those of us with this problem described here didn't have the luxury of red flags helping us. For example,when your own Mother is a Narcissist, there is no escape. Then, you become so dysfunctional that when you get married... it isn't until you have a baby on the way that you realize you're in deep shit again. When you grow up dysfunctional, you don't realize that you are broken and can't distinguish who is really normal or not unless you've received education, intervention or therapy about the childhood experience and "how to" keep bad people away instead of attracting them.
What a helpful video. I literally started crying when I heard this and immediately felt validated. Thank you!
Omg my family doctor said i soo have this because of my Ex & shame on anyone that puts a person through this and for me my Ex will call me stupid & when i try to remember she would just say stop talking. I wouldnt wish this on anyone but we have to pick oirselves up and believe in yourself, One Love 💜❤❤
Bulls eye! ☆ Michelle, you are truly a gift to this planet! & every being! *(also offering hope to the narcissist that despise you-for knowing their play book!) -Blessings!
I'm 60 years old and found out just 2 years ago that my mom and my brother are narcissist and I've been their easiest most available victim my entire life. I've also lost everyone I ever loved or trusted because of their abuse, so I've been completely alone for 11 years now. I live outside the city in a retirement community where nobody speaks to anyone else, so the only person who has been in my life on and off is my abusive brother. I've been studying plants and herbs for healing my mind and brain as well as the many autoimmune disorders I've been suffering from most of my adult life. I have adaptations and tinctures that I make, essential oils and oils and ointments I've been making to help heal myself. I can't thank you enough for this information. All of the information about narcissist and what they do to us too, but the memory thing has been a terrifying experience for someone my age. I can't really afford any classes but I know I do need this kind of training to try to repair my brain and my life. I guess I've never really known normal, and I do self sabotage my life. I can't seem to pull myself out of this miserable situation. I try to make myself change my habits in order to get on to a schedule and change my life for the better. I have so many health issues and so many of my health issues are from stress related issues. I have lupus, pyroderma gangrenosum, fibromyalgia, Rheumatoid arthritis, osteoarthritis and osteoporosis. All of these things are caused or exacerbated by stress. I'm so grateful to you for telling me about these problems. I can't make a decision about anything, and if I do, I'll sabotage it and never get anything done. At least I know what's happening now. It's a answer to a question I didn't know I needed to ask. Thank you.
I’m sorry to hear about your story. I don’t like to give advice to people I don’t know. However I was moved by your authenticity. Please hydrate with purified water, try fasting for 16 hours (eating in an 8 hour window) each day, start walking and further your walks each day in sunshine if you can. Get your blood moving and oxygen with deep breathing. Try Ginko tea. You got this! Know there are people who care.
i would be so grateful for a series on trauma memory. Im scared to trust my memories because my abusers gaslight me and its torture.
This is exactly what I figured has been wrong with me. After almost a decade of narcissistic bliss from my now ex, I find that, in many ways, my short-term memory is all but shot. But, being out of it and working a good job is going to help this in the long run. I just pray for my daughter who still lives in that house with her mother and her mother's family that are, as I have described to my confidante sister, the stepford wives on steroids.
Yes...so many times I've projected my good qualities on to others.
I was grown up narcissist family, and fall in love several narcissist man, it is hard success relationship, until now even harder, one side choose narcissist man, continue narcissist abuse; or choose to leave, live alone. Both side is harder.
Raised in abusive family...married a few abusive men...Totally lost memory at 40...to the point of malfuncioning....60 yrs old now........broke off with narcissistic relationship of 5 years.
Just me and my dog.
I can tell you alone is good....allows time and space to get control of your life.....breaks co dependant cycle,no fighting for return,no rejections,no stress...PEACE and an awareness of value.
Hope for a future ...a destiny ..Free to be authentic...to love.
Since my divorce my memory has changed drastically not only that I feel like I have loss who I am. Essentially, I don't even know how to move on in confidence.
I am a victim of severe narcissistic abuse. My father has been a raging alcohol since I was a kid and he was highly abusive to us kids as well as my mom. I grew up in a war zone witnessing physical fights and hearing the endless fights that they would have. I am 27 years old now and I constantly live in fear. Everything is scary to me and I am constantly reminded of the trauma In basic every day events. I just wish I could find a way to start healing from this.
I don’t remember most of my childhood, especially with my dad’s side of the family.
Thank You Michele - I can relate to this perfectly
Just can't believe this ,In my whole life I was dealing with my Narcissistic father, mother and now my younger sister .... I was sexually abused by a teacher and I never had the courage to tell my mother , I was emotionally ignored so badly and physical beaten up like a animal , I'm 24 and don't get beaten but it's more horrible now , they use gaslighting and emotional abuse against me , I can't even focus on my studies , I hear they keep mocking and shouting at me with things like I'm just not enough eligible for any job , My future will be dark , I'm evil , and I'm mentally ill. I scored 90% in my 12th board exams, and now today I question myself Am I really a shit head , I can't even remember what happened yesterday.
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My short term memory has always been real bad, although I can remember things in detail that happend a long time ago. I once read that people who grew up with a narcissitic parent develops amazingly detailed (long term) memory as a survival mechanism, as to learn what to do and not in unpredictable environments. Later in my adult life when I was in a long term relationship with a covert narcissist, my short term memory would become so bad that I had to write post-it notes for even the most smallest and usual chores/things in daily life. My NP partner would of course use this against me by giving me a long list of things to do and remember, change it numerous times a day, and if I forgot or got even one thing wrong all hell would breake loose. Anyway, healing from the abuse has helped me to not only be more present in the moment but has also given me a decent short term memory, maybe for the first time in my life!
Same
Not just my memory, but I just feel so stupid. I have got lost in the parking lot not able to find my car 3 times this week. I wake up & can’t remember where I’m at or what I’m supposed to be doing. Which led to panic attacks when I wake up thinking I over slept
Great video! I've noticed my memory getting worse. And you've given me hope. RUclips is incredible. We can now share info to help others. I love you, and your content ❤💯 Be blessed
Great stuff. 👌🏾. Thank you for breaking that down.
Answer to the title I believe it does, but with healing and prayer all things are possible!!
You are a true expert. i am glad I found this platform
We try to love them so as to make them stop the abuse, but it makes them hate us all the more. Verily, verily, I tell you: love conquers all.🌹
Excellent stuff here….some information I’ve never considered. I can’t thank you enough.
... Can All This Memory Loss Brain Damage Stuff Be Seen Via X-Rays C-Scans Mri's ect., Is That How You Know This About Memory Loss??? ... May Of 79 Age 26 I Was Hit By A Car And Very Severely Damaged ... I Spent 9 Days In Unconsciousness ... Because Of A Severe Allergic Reaction To Medication I Received Nothing ... When I Came To Consciousness I Had NO Memories Before The Accident (I was single btw) I Did Not Know My Twin Sister Parents Grandmother Friends Or That I Even Had A Daughter ... I Still To This Day I Have About 30% Memory Regained ...
Succinct & perfectly helpful explanation. SO true of my situation on every point!
Hi Michelle. I went no contact with the toxic people in my life. As you mentioned, when you are subjected to Narcissist abuse, it drains you. I take a supplement for adrenal heath. It does help. Your platform has helped me tremendously
which upplement? i want to try too
Suffering from memory loss 2months since I left the narcissist...
why do i remember the horror of childhood?
my memory started going to complete shit once i hit my 20s it's really hard to remember good or neutral events in my childhood now
Why it's happen and how you deal with these things please help me
Everything is suppressed
Wow! I am so glad I came across this video! So what I needed to here to help me. Thank you.
I'm struggling with snapping and reacting at everything, I got used to the name calling and insults and learnt to brush them off rather than getting hysterical or tearful, but now, it's more subtle digs which makes me explode and I look the the bad one, I thought I had it under control, but now I'm just always angry which isn't my character.
Is this why my memory of my child is so spotty and disjointed? I have to think really hard to recall the happy moments of my childhood.
I did project my good qualities on to my narcissist, consistently for years. So I got stuck.
Contact 0. Don't feed them.
Grey rock; be a bored so they cannot trigger any emotional reaction.
Take time for yourself so you can get to know without anyone interfering.
Unfortunately I’ve been trying to accept that my traumas have changed my ability to communicate and changed my ability to remember anything. I’ve been trying to look for how to restore these processes.
Thanks a lot Michele, this explained a lot!
What if the cptsd is visible on your skin ? Scars and so on... how to heal? You are literally waking up in trauma because it reminds you of trauma. There’s no way out!! Dead end kind of life
I cannot really give a good advice to someone online that I haven't been privileged to know,,, But as a fellow guy that I has been though a narc abuse by my parents I think spirituality in the way to cope, trying to believe it's all part of greater plan - that was the life's lesson your soul has chosen before arrival to this physical world to grow emotionally and mentally, to learn how to connect and love yourself to heal - so that give some kind of a meaning. might be beneficial since that we cannot control the past, or make it up for the lost years. maybe accepting it would enable you bear the scars in pride knowing that you're very tough, and mark that you've survived that part... and believe in after life in which you'd be free of physical scars and misery.... not that I'm giving a free pass for the abuser, but maybe they're just dropped into our lives as a tools, to teach us about ourselves, also for that we'd be able to support others on the healing path
Exactly! Thank you very much ❤️
Absolutely spot on
Love your videos absolutely true
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Jocelyn Dodunski,hope you are not with a narcissist cause you are too pretty!
Outstanding!!!!
I suffered memory loss, couldn't remember places I visit some months ago before the narcissist hurt me.
Very informative.thank you.
Thank you for sharing this. ❤️ I thought I was wierd. As soon stress appear its like my brain is out the door, blank.. My brain is broken.. So much problem with just memory but also dreams when I sleep have disappeared. Can that also be affected? Can you heal or unshrink the brain again? 😬
Apparently I had a wonderful childhood...I just don't remember much of it.
Ha, my mom always says that I had a wonderful childhood too, I'm pretty sure now that I didn't
Thank you , i needed this
Thank you Michele I'll have to listen again
Well this defiantly would explain a LOT!
thank you for this! it finally makes sense!!!
Very good explanation. Thank you.
I don't blink much anymore.
Does the memory return after abuse?
Not the abusive memories but for the future. Will it start functioning properly again?
Yes, neuroplasticity is wonderful! Once you are able to remove yourself from the abuse and start to work on cognitive behavioral and trauma therapy, and you're not living in the F.O.G. (fear, obligation and guilt) you should be able to think in a clear minded manner and process memory better.
That's what I want to know! Good question!
Hey Mitchell,
Thank you for explaining this topic.
The kind of things these narc do to us lead to memory loss.
Ok fine. What about these narcs they are the source.....I wonder what will happen to THEM.
Yes that happened to me after a 10 year friendshit with a dark triad narc "friend".
V intricately described ,
Thank you..
Very informative video!
Thanks! :)
Memory loss and tics so happen.
YES!
Is it possible to lose good memories to? I'm 48 and my parents were narcissists too. My ex-husband is malignant narcissistic sociopath. We have kids together so I can't break free, can CPS doesn't recognize that kind of abuse. My friends constantly ask me , don't you remember when we did this? And I have no memory of it
I really appreciate you
I have no good memories
My life has always been miserable
Keep a detailed journal
Thankyou sooooo much.
That interesting, do experience that a lot. Do meet such term as abuse amnesia. And how narcissist push that idea that narcissist for example narc father(or mother/ do have both narc parents) is never wrong - always right, and all what he does is ONLY TO YOUR OWN BENEFIT - (they superior being). So if facts are contrary to that - they deny, deflect, blame shift, minimize, downplay, play victim - so main premise remain that they TOTALY OKAY - and as end result do see that phenomenon of abuse amnesia - delete all bad focus on good to maintain that status que - narcissist all good and perfect and white and shining, they became super angry and abusive if I point out their flaws(remember abuse) and shit storm happens. So it’s prohibited by them to have bad memories about them (that makes them wrong - inferior not a superior). So they bully you to delete memory about all their flaws and abuse. So as result they maintain that superior image of themselves. It’s always not their fault, or other ploy that abuse somehow plays out as something good in the future! So stop whining and be grateful - it hurts now but it somehow for your own benefit for some ”grater future”. As typical example of that pattern do recall how my cultist mother in child how out of the blue came when I sit on a chair and with both hands take my face by the cheeks and with sharp finger nails scratch my cheeks to the blood - leaving stripes of scratches on both sides of face - and said that is FOR MY SALVATION!!! And she was displeased that I’m not grateful and upset - how puny and inferior I’m that do not appreciate her efforts. She by her opinion just SAVED ME, did something for my salvation in FUTURE!!!! By her vision my role was to say thank you, thank you, thank you O great enlightened one!
I had for couple of weeks walk on the street and in school with that set deep scratches on my face telling people that it was cat and hearing how they laugh at me. It was very emotionally hurtful. She never regret or apologize or feel sorry - because she did not do anything bad, instead she did in her mind something GOOD and is proud about herself! And did not understand how I can even blame her?!?!!!
Only dare to call her out! And she acts like nothing happened. That pretty typical algorithm - abuse and then reframe it as some tremendous gift and expression of love and care, and turning tables that now I am abuser because unhappy and angry, frustrated after being presented with such a gift (got abused). Narc and enablers - just do not understand my anger, and resentment - they did not do anything bad (so what, that my face covered with bleeding scratches?). Same pattern with father - he can do something harmful, sabotage, give bad advices, manipulate and so on - and then act like nothing happened. And rage and angry how I can even remember that? Remembering abuse imply that I start distance myself, take precautions, limit information, limit contact, withhold trust, do not open myself, hide truth from them, hide plans and hopes etc - they (narcissists) do not like that and demand from me total openness, trust, total access to information, sincerity, truth and so on you go an idea. And very pissed off when I limit all that because remember abuse. So seems abuse amnesia connected to that.
Also do see there also that spiritual abuse - What about a forgiveness??? Forget - forgive - delete all bad (focus on good)!!! That a grater plan! Deity has a plan! Test of faith! Loyalty! Jesus do forgive! Jehovah do forgive all command to forgive forget!!!! You do not follow commandments!!! That a greater sin than abuse itself!!! And bash and bully me!
Wow~ thank you ❤️
Do you have to live with the person
That gave you trauma ? To get this ..
I was attacked and was threatened
Any time this person came around me ...everybody sez I acted different and have no memory
Swanzilla....I am no expert....but NO...you dont have to live with a person...Trauma is a cause...PTSD...