We need to talk about my hate comments
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- Опубликовано: 6 окт 2022
- BEFORE YOU LEAVE A COMMENT: I didn't post this for pity, attention, or advice on how to prevent hate comments. This is just a PSA to my audience that I won't be active in the comments section as much anymore, that RUclips comments are kinda garbage, and that I prefer Discord.
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I've been getting some really ..... interesting hate comments on my videos lately, and I need to talk about it. It's unfortunately had a pretty negative effect on my motivation to post, level of activity in our community, and mental health.
I'll be more active on our discord server going forward: / discord
Hate comments are a part of the internet that sucks but we all accept as par for the course of sharing yourself and your artwork online, but at a certain point it goes past constructive criticism to cruel personal attacks. Especially when they revolve around my appearance, my weight, etc when I KNOW male creators in this space don't receive that kind of stuff.
In this video, I want to share with you some of the hate comments I've been getting about my art, my personal appearance, and my character. I want to talk about how it feels, how to prevent it, and why I won't be answering RUclips comments for awhile.
(Full disclosure: I regularly remove hate comments from the channel and rely a lot on RUclips's auto-moderation features. I leave genuine criticism up and try to respond when I feel that it's appropriate)
Haters especially hate successful people because it makes their insecurities, weaknesses, traumas, and wounds exposed. So instead of dealing with it in a good way.. they attack those who exhibit the character and qualities they lack.
Yes ! And also they’re likely projecting if they say specific things like comments about her ego
@@BexEtcArt It seems counter intuitive, but having empathy and compassion for haters (seeing that they are trapped in their emotions and traumas) is a way to work through the attacks and rewrite the script of negativity they are projecting.
yes
@@loelli__ It's hard to do what Kelsey does! I commend her on her courage to step out in front of people and be vulnerable. Especially as an artist because there's another set of deep vulnerabilities embedded in the art making process. I know from experience how debilitating art making insecurities can be and how stifling and counterproductive it can be. Kudos for Kelsey! She's an inspiration to so many!
@@timdanyo898 likewise! I've felt the same as you... and this video made me respect her even more
I am very personally and emotionally invested in your message Kelsey.
I’m not surprised that you’re being targeted but that doesn’t make it easier to accept
Being a young woman in a position like yours is threatening to weak men so they’re trying to weaken you to make you back out
But you’ve won the hearts and the trust of the art community, and you do not have to fight this on your own
Trust me Kelsey, we have your back - you won’t have to weather this storm on your own, not on my fucking clock
@@onlinescammer8291 I mean if you really dislike her content, then just leave dude. There's no point in just crapping on her stuff, especially when it's just you disagreeing with her perspective. There are just so many more thoughtful ways to have conversations within these spaces
How do you know that men are threatened? How do you know the gender? Many positive uplifting comments are from men and fellow artists
@@zooropa414 Most people who go on the attack the way those comments did reflect offense which means they feel threatened by her as anger is a response to feeling threatened. But as to how he figured out their gender I'd say he's just speculating. Women can leave nasty body shaming comments too.
dude calm down... they are like ten small d*cks bullying her, she is not fighting for her rights in Iran what storm u taliking about.. i mean, the speech about a young woman threatening, etc... has nothing to do here, they are dozens of channels from young women and they dont have or barely have any hate (and almost all channels male or female have some little, not saying is right either) but this is not a men/women thing, is about sad people at home hating on somebody because they are probaly frustrated with themselves and they found to pick on kelsey, but not exclusively because shes a girl wtf, you are making the gender a part of the problem, when in this case, is not, and yeah, there is male artist that have hate about how they look for no reason and so, like Slew, sthepen bauman, etc is not true that male artists channels have never bad comments
@@bleachedout805 i think gender and politics should be left out of this, the people writing nasty comments are obviously people who know her in person, it could be anybody, so why go and attack and entire gender, half the population? that's just evil and insane
As my mom once said: "An easy way to gain enemies is to be successful, happy or both" And you Kelsey are on the road of both. Haters gonna hate and you will keep being happier and succesful. We are with you. Keep being awesome and evolving into the outstanding artist that make all of us motivated and inspired!!
Or to be a jerk.
I was pretty dead set on this video only being up for a couple days and was planning on unlisting it today, but decided it against it at the last minute when I saw that my friend and fellow art youtuber Adam Duff made an entire video in support of the points I talked about here. I really appreciate all the support he showed me in that video. So, I'll be leaving this up, but I don't plan on addressing my hate comments in the future.
Consider watching this video next where I work on a painting I'm super proud of: ruclips.net/video/0TsSZOkn0q8/видео.html
Thank you for keeping this up! I feel like as an artist this is very important to see because people need to know that putting yourself out there can result in these kinds of comments. It’s really really shitty, and I’m really sorry you have to experience it, but I am so grateful that you shared this. You are wonderful, your art is wonderful, don’t let them get you down.
I think it's so important to leave this up, as long as it isn't something that impacts you negatively. As women, I think it's so easy for us to see hate directed at each of us individually but to not realize that it's a widespread problem and it's not just *me* or any one of us that is inspiring wretched behavior like this. The source of the hate is the haters. Being online makes us an easy target. Having that happen can feel to many of us like it's something about us that inspires the hate. I hope that makes sense. It's important for people to know that this behavior is owned by those who perpetuate it, it's nothing about the victim that brings it into being. I love your channel all the more now!! Keep it up, you're very inspiring to me and so many others! ❤️
Glad you let it up . Speak your truth 👏 💪 ❤️🙏
I’m SO proud of you for keeping this video up! I understand where you were coming from not wanting to keep this video up, but I think it’s best you do because it’s authentic. It’s real. It shows the messed up reality you’ve been dealing with but also proves you have more supporters than you think! We’re here for you! We have your back.❤🎉
Why is it that videos like this are how I discover people? I'm glad you left it up, because I would have missed it and would have missed discovering your content.
As someone who wants to change their life to be more artistic for a living, your stuff all looks like valuable information for me. It's a shame this is how I was able to discover you, but I was able to discover you.
So thank you for taking the time to talk about this subject and for leaving it up for others who need to hear this. I look forward to binging on all this information.
It’s really hard to understand what it’s like to deal with this kind of “feedback” until you really experience it, and absolutely no one deserves to receive it. Do whatever you need to do to protect yourself and your mind, Kelsey!! You got this!!
Dude, honestly the way women get treated when they are in any sort of media spotlight is truly abhorrent. I wish you nothing but the best Kelsey and I hope you continue to make great content I and so many others look forward to throughout the week. You are strong enough to create your own truth! Disregard the words of others, only your own thoughts on yourself matter :)
There are too many out there that hate women. I would like to know what the male/female ratio is.
Every one in every sort of media are gonna have haters, not only women. Always gona be people who has nothing to do but attack other people. But it's It's more important that artists move on and do not stop growing and overcoming obstacles. By the way: I don't speak english.
@@marialuciasolartrigoso227 look at some of the “dirty” comments talking about her stripping :/ male artist don’t get such comments
@@UnderTheMoon3 exactly this!! Women get it so much worse because of the patriarchy and the mysogany.
@@marialuciasolartrigoso227 just bc there can be haters doesn't mean there should be, and this day and age anyone who posts mysoganistic comments is a pos who needs to get off the internet and go touch some grass.
Please, do not remove this video, it will help alot of people who are in the same situation. You are beautiful, talented and smart young lady. Just remember that You are admired and there are people who support you no matter what.
From an old and broken artist to you I give you this advice. Piss on the haters. I have spent my whole life "working a real job" always barely able to just scrape by while breaking my body. Meanwhile my art suffered. The one and only thing that ever made me want to live and made me genuinely happy was being set aside as "just a hobby". Screw them! You stay on track and ignore the haters and you make as much a living as you can with your artwork! Keep your self respect and honor and stay true to your passion and you keep creating art.
I am glad to see you speak up about this because it is obnoxious and childish to see so many insecure haters spit such garbage because they don't like to see success that isn't their own.
P.S. You earned my sub :D
This situation is simply unacceptable. The fact of the matter is, you are working incredibly hard at improving your work and your craft, and that is VERY clear to me. Your focus on learning and self development honestly is something that many folks in college art courses or dedicated art schools could do very well to learn from, and I say that as a college art instructor and professional artist.
The fact that you are putting your journey out there for folks to see is something that takes a tremendous amount of work and courage, and I believe that many folks here really DO see that.
I just reckoned I needed to put in my 2 cents, for what they are worth. Keep learning. Keep improving!
The people who told you you were lazy and not working 😂 they apparently have no clue how hard you’re working and the amount of effort you had to put in to get where you’re at. I think you are an inspiration, not only for hard work but also because you’re so genuine and vulnerable and natural. 😊
Art and working from home is never appreciated as a real job by some people. I think they burried their dreams to work for some company and feel threatened when they see someone succeeding without having a "proper grown up job", which is total bullshit.
sounds like they are jealous to me. Maybe they should look deep inside and figure out why they hate their job and find something they enjoy. Happy people don't hurt others.
Those haters are also basically saying "get good" to Kelsey while exhibiting horrible grammar and punctuation in their comments, which doesn't lend any credibility, hahaha 😝
These kinds of videos are really needed. I'm a bit older, over 50. Most people I know my age and older have always feared being seen on camera and many of us don't want to be on youtube either. We all fear the feedback will be crippling to us. People who are reading this, please play attention. This wonderful woman is speaking from the heart about a really important topic. Please let people be who they are, as they are, right now. Love them for being who they are. The bullying in the world is out of hand and needs to really stop.
It's almost like since the pandemic peopls have become even more rude and narcissistic... Taking time and energy to go and attack people. You are beautiful and amazing and you have helped and enouraged SO many of us 💜💜💜💜💜💜
Nah people have been this way pre pandemic.
I completely agree. The past few years have been a terrible spiral of some people on the internet losing class and nuance.
@@Imxel21 True, but it's gotten more frequent and worse since.
Remembe: "People only throw shade at what shines". Don't let these pests get to u. Keep shining ✨
Unless it's at Hitler. In which case it's justified
Exactly. Those hate comments just reek so badly of jealousy and people who want what she has, aka an audience but they are too scared to try (or they did try and they simply arent charming enough)
@@Mienarrr It's not just jealousy, but I think also a lot of insecurity and emptiness. I have no doubt in my mind that people who spend their energy on being cruel to others who have done them no harm are just feeling bitter and angry on the inside, but have no other outlet or coping mechanisms. A lot of the times the thing people insult you for are things they themselves are insecure about; it's a projection. If they wouldn't be so vicious about it, one could _almost_ feel bad for them.
I'm not posting this for pity or anything, but I'm taking a step back from answering comments and I figured y'all should know why. I don't intend to stop posting videos, and have a lot of exciting stuff planned! I'm wrapping up all my #studyseptember oil paintings and working on some original pieces too :)
That makes sense, smth you sadly have to prepare for in this patriarchal society is mysoganistic comments, and not engaging with comments in general for your mental well being makes sense, but is terrible that you have to go through. Can't wait for your future videos!
I watched your whole video carefully and I absolutely know women do face this way more than men. Hopefully this might help a little...
Human beings can vary SO widely from their base animal on one end, to near enlightened being on the other. It may go against our nature of wanting to treat people as equals, but in reality they just aren't.
The people who make these kinds of comments are pathetic, cowardly, weak, have a damaged sense of empathy, and have a number of deep issues - issues that increased sharply with the birth of the internet. Your reaction is exactly what they are hoping for, because they're sociopaths. I wouldn't want to be in their sad state.
What that means is that, at some point, you can consider them like a barking dog behind a fence. I know, easier said than done. But one can begin to see that membership in humanity is something people can include or exclude themselves from.
And when they do exclude themselves, we can think of them like a natural disaster. They are completely dominated by the circumstances that led to their inhumanity and the chain of events that produced such 'people' is as mindless as a tornado hitting your house.
This perspective shift - seeing a certain percentage of monsters as an inevitable and meaningless noise - can take place over time. As it does, it can help some people to simply ignore those whose words aren't worth anything.
As an artist myself, I think all people of all levels of experience have something valuable to share - please don't stop, and best wishes.
It's not the community that supports you, there's just bad people that are psychotic. I've been following certain channels and they all had the same problem, but after I told them what's going on they understood and ran their channels normally. You don't get bad comments, you get people that want to be disturbed, that really are bad natured, they won't get along with anyone and are just looking to grief, that's what psychotic means. Let me give you some examples from channels that have large number of users, what has been happening there. There was a 50+yo showing hate to a host that was about half his age and having the daring to tell him how to run his business. Other channels hosts were told with a very serious tone about how they pronounce certain words, why is the host being black, sexual abuse, or what to do with their pets. These bad people just go away, other come and go away if you don't reply. Don't try to reason or explain anything, if you talk to on their subject do it politely and without ever referring to them, so you don't flame them. This happens all over RUclips, it's not just your channel. With the attitude of giving up on the community how do you expect to run the channel? What are you going to do when you have 1M subscribers, for example? And feel free to wear what you want, as many of us would do.
I'm really sorry these insecure and pathetic people have said these nasty things. Please remember these things that are said are only a reflection of themselves not you.
You've done so much for yourself and clearly have talent and stand out if you've managed to build a platform on youtube.
@@JohnSmith-xb4ux u can't invalidate her, she IS getting bad comments just bc they aren't D.T. "worse" doesn't mean there aren't bad and disgusted as they are already Becausethey very much are NASTY. With your attitude of being completely dismissive to exactly what she's been addressing, how about you take that energy and call out all those commenters instead. Being part of the community, ur not supposed to turn ur eye on the bad intentioned people, and if u do ur just as bad. And your a male you can't invalidate a women's experience. If your not being helpful and no one asked for your advice keep it to yourself and go be productive elsewhere. Because right now your not BEING HELPFUL TO this community.
I made another comment but I came here to give you what ever little bit I have . You deserve all the success and happiness girl. Don't let the jealous haters get to you.
That’s sweet of you!
When I see those types of comments, I'm going to report them from here on out. It takes and costs nothing to be kind.
Yeah that's honestly what I do too. Replying just adds fuel to the fire bit if you report them enough will get banned from comments I believe
I can't believe how normalized hate comments have become. Just because you're on social media doesn't mean people are allowed to treat you in a rude and disrespectful manner. Idk if there's a way to stop this toxicity but I really hope you're ok. Idk much about you as this is the first video of yours I've watched, but you seem genuine. Thank you for speaking up about this topic, I really hope this makes at least a few people think 2x before leaving a hate comment. Sending love. ❤
So true about normalized hate these days.
Sadly people are really evil online
Sorry you had to endure this, but I'm glad you've maintained strength and courage to express yourself DESPITE their demands of you to conform to their ideals (likely coming at you from their parents basement). This really sucks that you happen to be in the line of sight of these people. They clearly have not addressed their own sadness, resentment, trauma - the list goes on.
Their narcissistic behavior has only ONE goal; to force submission to their ideals, controlling you into feeling inferior to their pseudo superiority born of delusion and copium. (I'm guessing the abusive male figure you referred to is probably a textbook narcissist, always hunting for any possible flaw to shame it)
People hate in others what they hate about themselves (carrying shame, judgment, resentment, anger, abandonment, etc likely developed in childhood/early development) so they immediately attack anything that triggers their own shame. They become apathetic , treating you like an inhuman object, and turn around to praise their proclaimed golden ideals - and kicking down anything that doesn't align with their delusional ideals.
Again, sorry you're on the receiving end of these awful things.
I hope you're doing okay, hang in there. You have our support!
Ahmad you're a great guy
well said
so true!
Nice one Ahmed
I'm a male and I don't care if you are a male or a female. I watch your videos because they give me other perspectives about art and that helps me a lot to become a better artist. I know that you know that their are many people out there who support you and I hope that you will think about it when you see such stupid comments again. I could write more about this but I think that many other people already wrote what I would also say, so I wish you a wonderful day and always enjoy your art!
I can't imagine being an internet troll. That sounds so miserable and boring. I feel that trolls are so ashamed of themselves that they project that shame onto others.
I'm sorry comments like these have been left. The Internet has made people entirely too bold, these cowards now have an outlet to bully people from a safe distance. Trust when I say these comments are pure projection from jealous, unhappy and horrible people. I'm glad that your videos have gained traction and your artwork is more than supporting you and you should be insanely proud at what you've accomplished so far.
Exactly ! People throw there morals out when they comment thinking they are above all but 100% in real life those cowards will never dare say such things in real life or they’ll get a 👊🏻 on their noses
100 percent
unfortunately, it has spilled to real world. But the internet has something to do with it. Trump and Trumpism (which includes all the other ills) is the result. And bullying is the ethos of it all. we need the vast majority of us to speak out regardless of the consequences.
I would say less than 5% of them would have the courage to look her in the eyes, and say these things.
Speaks volumes about them.
Having a trusted person to mod your comments for you helps a lot!
that person would also have to absorb the toxicity. I empathize with Kelsey . As a Black person we face ten fold what she gets in her inbox and this is on top of mass reporting .
@@PHlophe I think there was an episode of South Park that did something like that. Cartman got someone else to filter through his hate comments, and only show him the positive comments. And as a result, the kid sorting through all those toxic comments took a serious toll out of it.
@@PHlophe I think RUclips still has a feature where you can filter out certain words. I need to look and see if this is still working.
Maybe you could pay someone to moderate your comments, and delete this stuff. I bet that's already a thing, because it's certainly a widespread problem.
@@PHlophe Yeah idk if you should be de-meaning other peoples pain, it isn't a linear scale of competition. There are different types of pain and hurt for everyone else. To put a numerical value on someone else's life completely cancels out the empathy factor of your comment
I'm reminded of a quote from Brene Brown - "If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, I am not interested in or open to your feedback." Its a quote I am carrying with me as I start my youtube channel. I'm grateful people are standing up for each other on this platform. I commented this on Adams video to. You are valued for your expertise. Please know that many are saddened and will stand up for you and each other.
Unfortunately, being in the public eye removes any personal rights you have (in the eyes of the reader/posters). I admire you for being this brave. To come forward into the light and attempt to help your people and show your work with pride is so courageous. You have made me realize that me shunning society/people and not presenting my own work to the world is because I don't want those comments. I don't want to deal with them. Evidently, that desire for peace is stronger than my desire to present myself to the world. So sad.
This is exactly why I’m so afraid to start RUclips or anything that involves an audience because of this people give some much hate to someone they don’t even know a beautiful woman who his living life doing something she loves also helping us gain knowledge about art sad our society needs to grow up and use the golden rule if you have nothing nice to say keep it to your self….much love Kelsey never stop being you ❤❤❤❤
You can do it without showing your face if you want to, although the negativity of internet seems infinite it's an interesting experience to try. I will encourage you i don't know your situation but hope to watch your content
Same I used to stream art on twitch and would wear big baggy shirts to hide my boobs it’s so infuriating that we can’t just exist as is.
same
I'm afriad tooo
People can be so bitter. I will never understand how sad and insecure one has to be to go out of their way to leave cruel, hurtful comments. The fact that you actively pursue your passion, put yourself out there, and add so much positivity and helpful content to this community is so inspiring to me, and has helped me grow as an artist and as a person
Dear Kelsey. I feel particularly vulnerable with this topic. I was bullied a lot in my life and even now that I’m 28, when someone says something cruel about me or about my art, I can’t just ignore it. People say “when you will be older you will understand how to ignore them”. But no! The fact is, ok, maybe I need to understand how to ignore stupid people… but maybe they need to understand how to be kind with others.
People are built different. I’m one of those that you can say anything to me and I would never bat an eye, others are more sensitive and that’s okay. I’ve been told I’m callous because of it, the grass is always greener. It’s good to be sensitive Though, I think.
I´ve been bullied for years in school until I wanted to end my life when I was 14...and it still affected me in adulthood. It hits hard when even a stranger is telling you to be ugly, fat or whatsoever...but I learned that these people just have issues with themselves, hate themselves and feel the need to crave on someone else´s apparent weaknesses. So it has nothing to do with you when people are hating, they have a problem with themselves and reflect that on you like a mirror. They maybe just want to let out some anger and think you would be a good target. Giving them attention is maybe what they want. The best would be to just delete them :)
Goodness. This is so sad. I’m sorry there’s so many unhappy and insecure people out there. Happy people don’t hurt people. Keep your head up!
They're probably narcissist trolls! Too many nasty and spiteful ppl out there. If you can't do good and be decent, just shut your cake hole already! People don't want happiness for anyone else these days.
This is so heartbreaking! But also an important video to be made. It sucks being a woman/ fem presenting person on the internet, always over sexualized, and always brought down or made to feel like they aren’t enough but those comments are so wrong and I hope the community only continues to grow in a positive direction so we can collectively drown out those negative comments because I appreciate your work and existence immensely!
Sending love. Just sending love. Thank you for being here, and for all the help you’ve given fellow artists. Thanks most of all for being real. You’re wonderful and beautiful
Dude wtf is wrong with people. You are amazing and helpful. Your true fans are super grateful for all the content you put out for us. Sending you a big hug from Florida!! 💖
Girl, your channel grew because you do and create good shit! Like REAL GOOD SHIT. Lets just leave it at that and keep being the inspiration. I swear there are more people who love you than those meanie beanies!
I love "meanie beanies"!! XD
Yet as women, it’s only because of our looks we succeed or don’t, that’s what society pushes and it makes me so mad. it’s never our hard work and many women in certain fields (think doctors) aren’t even taken seriously. They’re seen as nurses first. And look at politicians who are women people will tear someone apart for their pants suit, but the men in office? No one blinks and eye about their wardrobe.
PLEASE dont let this get you down. You inspired so many people, including me, to start sharing their journey on YT.
There's always been a rift between smart and stupid people. The internet just made this way more obvious. But looking at this situation rationally, there should be an almost uplifting conclusion to that. You are on right side of humanity and those haters are not. Unfortunately most of them aren't really aware of that and find themselves in a constant cloud of anger with occasional performances of happiness. But anger is a powerful burden to carry and being mean to other people seems to be an easy relief.
Those people are hard to fix. I've tried through rational comments and trying to find a common ground. It's very hard and rarely works. So what remains is to feel sorry for them and in no way make their problems your own. The only thing that should bother you is, that you can't fix them. You are great, as is what you do.
Ok... Time for the "silent majority" to show some love.
I generally forget to like, and rarely comment.
But you deserve to know : What you are doing is awesome. Your art, and the way you are sharing your journey. Keep going and know that a HUGE majority of the people watching you likes you, the way you are, and your work.
You don't deserve the attention of those hateful people.
Know you're loved and keep going
To ALL the haters: THIS girl is watched by 112k people, there are MANY MORE OF US ABOUT TO COME! Even if she didn't have this much following, this girl is AMAZING! She knows what true value means, she wants people to be her friends, to HELP THEM! She wants to have this channel to be some sort of her own video journal and she's been so helpful and honest!
She's got her charisma, her own personality, her amazing way of speaking and that's what makes her WONDERFUL, UNIQUE AND VALUABLE TO F 112K PEOPLE!
I love u Kelsey! We ALL DO!
@@jcon2060 I'm sorry if you found my comment cringy. I think it's way more important that this girl is getting hate out of nowhere.
@@jcon2060 don't you have to get back to your job and making money to pay your bills? Or are you a lazy person that waste time commenting negative things on others post instead of being productive with your life? Maybe you should be a comedian cause you make me laugh.
@@jcon2060 dude who spit in your coffee? Do you go round playgrounds telling little kids who cry cos someone pushed them "well Billy, sometimes things suck, so know what Imma just push you down too lol" You kooky little nutjob.
@@jcon2060 oh, so by your logic, just because someone goes on youtube or otherwise takes the spotlight, they should just accept getting insulted, because well, that’s what you should expect?
‘Well sure, I could complain about being robbed and beaten half to death last night, but it was to be expected. After all, I decided to go out for a drink! Silly me!’ Yep, flawless logic there buddy.
I’m not even 4 mins in and I had to pause and comment. What the actual F GIRL!!! I am so sorry wtf is wrong with people?!! I can’t tell you how much you’ve helped me mentally through my art journey. I legit quit my job to attempt to further my journey and start a YT career but I’m going back to work because I found it too hard so all those people saying this is easy is bs. People are literally SO freaking miserable it’s sad. Ok I’m gonna finish the video now. Please don’t stop doing what you’re doing, you ARE making a change you ARE reaching the people you need to reach. ❤😞❤️
Exactly, like wtf makes people think this is acceptable?! Especially the body shaming is upsetting and now I’m mad
Please please please don’t stop you’ve literally been inspiring me to start my art career and continue to work on my goals as a freelancer❤ I’m sorry that your going through this and I know it’s hard but I truly appreciate your help and work ❤thank you for your hard work ❤
That's exactly what I am saying. Videos like hers is what made me pick up digital painting when the whole world was going south during the height of the pandemic.
Internet comment sections suck. In my 20s I used to be like you, expecting “common decency” in here. This expectation drives our own disappointment. It’s good to push back, to advocate against online bullying, but it’s better to do it from a less triggered place. Trolls are not going away, and as far as feeling hurt you’re much better off talking about your insecurities and traumas in the privacy of a therapist’s office. Don’t bare your soul to a slew of strangers, expecting understanding and compassion. Trolls and bullies will use this as ammunition. Among the well-wishers you’ll find parasocial parasitism too. And nothing changes.
I’m an older woman and it took me awhile to not care what others think. Some people are just angry and use easy targets to feel better. I personally think you’re pretty and also you do not know how those people look that texts. Be confident in yourself.
Exactly. It is extremely easy to hide behind a screen and be disgusting
I always say: if they insult your talent, they're jealous. If they insult your intelligence, they're projecting. And if they insult your appearance, then they're just bratty tsunderes with a secret crush on you.
It takes a lot of guts to do what you do, to put yourself out there on the internet and do what you love. I honestly appreciate your energy in giving to the art community. I think this people that hate on you are actually triggered by your positivity. You might trigger their insecurities, just honest envy girl. Just protect your energy and don't let their negative words affect you, do not feed that energy. Just know that you are light and not everybody is ready for it. I send you love and light and a huge hug :) do not stop doing what you love. keep going. I love and appreciate you.
You are amazing! Please keep sharing and I thank you for your knowledge. 💕
Bro no matter who you are you will have two extremes when making yourself a public figure.
1) Mean, mean words.(unavoidable)
2) Overwhelming amount of delusion that placates you.
With these two extremes in mind you need to find a happy medium.
Don’t look at all the hate comments because that’s what they want, to see it visually affect you in a video.
Don’t think whatever narrative you put out there and have people overly sucking your ass about it is 100% right either.
Much love❤
We're really thankful of you for sharing this with us all
Im really appalled by peoples behavior. People are beyond mean and disrespectful. And it can seriously add up. I appreciate you sharing this because it can come with the territory of being in the public eye, but that does not make it okay…
A lot of These people are upset, with themselves jealous, or projecting there insecurity on you.
You are great Kelsey✨ I’ve learned so much from you and The community you built is still here and still cares for you. ❤️ I am sorry that all this is happening.
I've never commented on your videos, but I watch every single one of them :3
I feel the need to comment on this one, though.
Kelsey, you are such a beautiful human being, don't you ever let anyone convince you of the contrary. Never EVER let them. You're helping me SO MUCH throughout my art career debut ! THANK YOU KELSEY we love you :3
Absolutely 👌🏻
I think this is why really famous RUclipsrs just automate their responses. People can be very harsh. Just imagine how mean they are being to themselves everyday sheesh! I found your response inspiring and empowering. Thank you for sharing!
Can I question the percent of comments that are hate comments? I notice a prevalence of creators ignoring the outpouring of love or neutral comments and instead guiding their attention to negative comments...the 5% or 1% or 0.5% of comments. You even said "it's not even that much" (17:37).
Many of those commenters might not even mean what they're saying...but they see how you react and so say it to evoke such reactions. And if that wasn't true, many now will because of this video.
I didn't know any of this was happening, but I'm not surprised the internet hasn't gotten any better. To think terrible people are just walking among us who secretly treat others sadistically on the internet and can be at peace with themselves knowing they're monsters. I'm so sorry you've had to deal with this. For what it's worth, I think you and your art are amazing and you're an inspiration to me every day. When I dream of being a "full time artist," whether it's attainable for me or not, I think of you and I feel encouraged. Thank you for everything you do and stay strong.
Let's be real. Anyone posting about your looks negatively has some REAL issues with their self-worth and body image. It's shameful that they need to put you down to feel like they're not internalizing hate for their own bodies. I love seeing someone with your body, personality, and talent show their work here. Lots of famous creatives have the same look and energy, and I love them and they are very valid, but when I found your vids it was a breath of fresh air. It's great to have some diversity of personality and style in the mix. Thanks for posting and sharing your art with us.
It's gross how some people treat women sometimes. You are such a sunshine, your channel has been nothing but the most cozy, comfortable and bright place. You deserve the world of compliments for a great work you're doing.
After finding your channel, I've started drawing. I'm far from being good at it, but listening to you talking about art makes me want to create something. I'm sure your content is not only inspirational to some, but a guide and a much needed help for a lot of artists. Your impact is big; and once you makes a big impact on others, you start receiving hate from people, who are jealous. Notice how a lot of them talk about things not even related to your content. They want to bring you down since they feel how much greater things you're doing. Stay strong, you're building a great community online.
Stop with the pity party for women. All people get it.
@@ASmith-jn7kf it's a much more severe issue for women than men. Am I not allowed to talk about a problem that affects women in a comments under a woman's video?
I disagree. Men receive the same amount of hate-or more.
I’m speechless over being mind blown😶 Please don’t see this comment as a creepy one. I rarely talk about appearances, so it may sound awkward😅 Whenever I watch your video, I love the way you look, your voice, and how you choose your word carefully when you speak, and the quality of the videos, which includes helpful advice and intriguing contents which also helps me to be productive while enjoying. Basically, you’re my role model as a youtuber. And it breaks my heart to know you’ve been receiving hate comments from sad sad people, who will remain sad forever, while you’re achieving fortunes ahead of them💕💕💕
I haven't watched everything yet, BUT I just want to say. You are such an amazing artist and I wish I knew you in real life. I wish we were friends because you seem like such a kind, straightforward, honest, wise and simply wonderful person. I know it's hard though...getting hate in any form is never easy to deal with.
I was bullied all the way up to 7th grade when I was in school, so I get it. Some of us who carry our heart on our sleeves..we get extremely affected by this. Sometimes for life unfortunately. It makes me so angry, so angry that people don't even think about what they say in social media. You are a real life breathing human being!
Anyone who sends these hate comments. Stop! Right now! She has done nothing to deserve this kind of behaviour from others. Leave her be.
Please please Kelsey, I hope tha the positive comments you do see can put a smile on your face ❤️ keep on being you, because you being yourself is so inspiring!!! Many hugs
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. You’ve been nothing but an amazing creator with tons of talent and actual love for art business. I may not be able to erase hate comments but I can continue to boost love 💛💛💛💛💛
You saved me girl. I was lost on how to start creating and was feeling so overwhelmed that I couldn’t make one single move forward. I am a perfectionist with crippling anxiety who rarely starts anything because I’m too scared to fail before I start. I found one video from you and I became hooked on your content because you not only simplify the career field and helped me gain stable footing, but you are captivating to watch and listen to. I want to be like that. Those haters are telling on themselves. Anyone who attacks a person like that is projecting their own internal conflicts and it has nothing to do with the victim. They are just using you as an outlet because you represent a reality that they can’t come to terms with. You are a Beautiful soul inside and out and you are very admirable. I enjoy being one of your viewers. ❤
I am so sorry Kelsey, I've noticed this happen to other women who find success on the internet quickly. I can tell by those comments that these men are insecure about the fact that they feel like you're doing better than they are, and you do not have their permission to do that because you don't follow their impossible beauty standards. It's truly awful what the internet has become and people feel like they can say these things, but just know their opinions literally don't matter, at all. Only desperately miserable people go out of their way to spew hatred like this, if anyone should be pitied it's them but they don't deserve our sympathy. You will continue to thrive and be successful and they'll continue to be alone and sad. It sucks to suck, and they suck very much!! It will never be easy to receive these comments, I have held back from making my own RUclips channel out of fear of receiving them. You're stronger than I am but you inspire me, and maybe I'll push myself to do it anyways because we need to outnumber the hate. You should be proud of the work you've done, I absolutely wish you didn't receive such awful comments but it goes to show how well you're doing since its upsetting people so much because they wish they could be where you're at right now.
Also (not that it matters), I always thought you were beautiful. You slay in a dark academia kind of way! I never comment this because its not ever relevant to the work you do, women don't need to be commented on their looks so much all the time (good and bad) but you should know that maybe. Appealing to the female gaze is way more fun anyway.
I've only just started to watch this, but I will listen with interest as I have also been dealing with a surge in hate comments just recently. Everything from nit-picking at every little thing I do, to calling me names and tearing me apart. It's hard to deal with, I won't lie. My art channel is smaller than yours (just under 24K subscribers) but since it's grown a bit this has been happening. I'm so sorry to hear that you've been experiencing this too. I look forward to hearing what you have to say in this video, and will watch it now...
It's horrendous that this happens @Natasha Newton and mainly to women on this platform. Block, block, block! Don't let it affect you 💛
Im so sorry that you have to go thru this, there’s a whole community of artist that support you. You philosophy about social media literally saved my art and my mental health, thank you so much Kelsey for Sharing you ways and motivating us! Those comments are full of hate and envy, I hope that the ppl who are doing this stop.
I'm so sorry you have been going through this. I don't understand how some people can be this cruel and not realize how much words than hurt. You have every right to speak about this. And you're so right, so many people say "that is just part of the internet" but it is so fucking awful and not okay. Also, I'm being completely honest right now, a few days ago I was watching one of your videos and I thought, she's so pretty and most of the time I think that when I watch your videos. I hope that doesn't sound creepy 😭. I'm so tired of us, women, being hated on. And this isn't me saying men don't receive hate bc they do, but it's so gross and disappointing that our looks get commented on no matter what. Plus hate on the things we do and the ways we do it.
Kelsey, your art is amazing, your videos nd your advice have inspired me so much. Keep doing you, you're very strong and powerful. You have talent. You don't deserve any of the hate. Know that many many of us, in this community are so so grateful for you. Do whatever protects you and don't let the hate get to you. You got this!! We support you and appreciate you so much.
I find you and your artwork so inspiring. I hope you are feeling better about all of this now.
This is so sad to hear! You're just a wonderful creator who has been such a help to me and so many others. Trolls are lame and lazy people who tear people down because they feel their own lack of personality. Hang in there and know you are deeply appreciated!
Hi Kelsey, I was a lurker on most of your videos but needed to let you know that your videos have been indescribably helpful and inspirational to me! I'm really sorry you've been having to deal with such terrible people, and I hope you know that the majority of your audience want to support you. I personally don't comment on many videos but I will be more vocal in this space because you and other creators should know that you are appreciated!
This is what the cowards want. (I REFUSE to call them "trolls".) There are SO many bitter, angry, resentful, bored, and miserable people out there who look for a target. They try to get a reaction whether it's the RUclipsr responding, the RUclipsr making a response video like this one, and/or just hoping to hurt your feelings in ANY degree.
It's cowardice, plain and simple. It's also evidence of our society becoming more and more coarse, disrespectful, and spineless. I empathize with your feelings. I understand how hurtful this can feel, but please remember this:
There's quite a few people out there just looking on social media or media channels just looking to bring positive people down. They wouldn't say these to your face. Not to mention people who are jealous that they don't have the work ethic, drive, or spine to make a RUclips channel. Keep doing what you're doing. The more the cowards post garbage comments, you just keep posting more and more content. Ignore the stupid comments. Take care.
Thank you so much for this video. I am so sorry you’ve experienced what you have. But as an aspiring artist, I relate to much of what you shared about your experience and hearing this had me in tears as I related so deeply. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing so deeply. I feel even more inspired as an artist and woman having faced some similar life experiences. You are amazing 💖
I read a tweet that said something like, "The way some people react to content creators is similar to abusive relationships". You talking about hearing that abusive man's voice when you read these hate comments is proof of that. Your mental health is sacred. Don't worry about reading the comments, we'll still be here supporting you!
I don't usually comment on videos because even doing that feels so publicly exposing to me, the fact that you're able to share so much of your talent, personality and seriously life changing advice on the internet for other artists is incredible. Please keep creating to what feels true to you! the vast majority of us have nothing but love 💛💛
So grateful to have found your channel, you're a bright light in this world ❤️
and this is why I don't put video content out there.
I couldn't do it.
I'm so sorry you've been through this.
Same here. I’ve considered making a channel so many times (I have a really good idea for one) but, being a woman, I’d have to never show my face or even hint at what my true self is like. It’s fucking sad.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with this crap. It takes a huge amount of strength to face those kinds of comments day after day. I want to say that I watch your channel because your content is inspiring and i plan to follow a similar path in future. I know that I'll watch back your videos when i start my own channel and art career. I hope you screenshot good comments, particularly from this video, so you have a reminder that the vast majority of us are on your side. We value you as a person and your channel as a resource. YOU ARE HELPING PEOPLE and we appreciate it. Take care of yourself and do what you need to do ❤
Thank you for being vulnerable! 🕊🕊🕊 For some reason people feel way too entitled to people's appearances just because they have eyes to look at other's looks, but we see with our minds and it's sad how many people don't see beauty in every other human being. Btw i see beauty as a feeling / a vibe and as light and authenticity. But this is not okay and thank you for sharing and i'm sorry that happened. 💌
Your video popped up in my recommendations and lovely, I just want to say, you are so brave to show up on RUclips like you do and share your gift. So many people WISH they had the guts to this...and that's often where comments like that come from, a place of jealousy or anger in themselves that they don't have the guts to put themselves out there like you do.
I feel bad for them really. It's sad that the only way for them to feel good is to tear others down.
Keep doing your thing girl, keep making that money!
I'm so sorry you've been experiencing this. You're beautiful and inspiring. I value your videos so much. I am so happy I've found you. Your authenticity is part of what draws me to you. (I'd follow you on Discord but I'm an old dog, I don't entirely get it). Again, I am SO sorry for your negative experiences.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this, people can be so hateful and cruel.
The working comment just burns me! Being online IS a legit job! You're probably making more compared to the SOB that posted that comment. Please, people make more money online compared to a crap "real job". Do what she does every day, do what you love, make yourself vulnerable and open to scrutiny of every kind. People are ridiculous and haters who are disordered are going to make comments. You go and continue on. I'm sorry, I'm an abuse survivor myself. It's very hard. You're doing a great job and make your $ your way!
So crazy that people are actually like this out there. Thank you for sharing - So sorry on their behalf. You're so brave and have inspired me.
I don't follow you or watch your videos (though having stumbled across it before), but this one popped and I felt compelled to send a message of support. Well done for the vulnerability and for sharing on a serious issue such as this. It's admirable and I feel that the videos you are making, such as this, is having a positive impact. From the other side of the world, I'm cheering you on. Let's build people up, everyone, not break them down 🙏 Strength to you, Kelsey 💖
You're the first person I saw who posted about their income from being a youtuber/artist. When I saw those videos I was so excited because I finally had a picture of what a job like this could look like and what kind of income and workload you can expect. Your advice is incredibly valuable. I'm sorry people think they can just come and criticise your appearance, it kinda seems to me like they don't have eyes anyway. You're beautiful, your face is incredibly cute, your style of clothing is chic but comfy! And! It's nobody's business! Your body is yours and its shape is beautiful and perfect. It all really shows that these people don't understand what your channel is about despite you saying it all the time. I'm sorry it's giving you such a hard time and that it's bringing back trauma memories. You deserve better than that and I hope you don't let it weigh you down too much. I hope you keep doing what you love, even if taking a break from some parts of it is necessary
First of all let’s state the obvious, you’re adorable!! Second, I can’t begin to imagine what it’s like to be a female content creator in any space on the internet. Just hearing about what you go through is just something that would destroy some people, but you’re out here, talking about it and sharing your experience and I couldn’t be more proud of you ☺️
You’re out here sharing your knowledge/experience and passion for art has honestly helped me regain focus on what it is I wanted to do, instead of jumping around from illustration, comics and animation I’m sticking to animation and your videos have helped me so much more than I can even express.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do! The art world is a much better community with you in it 🥰
Your videos inspired me to do art again, they literally unblocked me, so I am forever thankful for that! The information you share is very valuable and much much appreciated ❤ Thank you for sharing your story, your experience, it’s horrible that when you decide to share your life on the internet you have to deal with such awful treatment. I hope people will grow and stop harassing others online…
This video serves as a reminder to me to just leave nice comments to the creators I like. I have been binge watching your channel since I found it but haven't actually left a comment. It's easy for people to say "oh ignore the haters, they're losers, they're jealous" etc but the reality is that those comments are still nasty to read. I'll counter them with letting you know I'm supporting you and I think you do a great job! I'll be showing up on every video now ;)
You are beautiful and so strong. I’ve never commented on your videos before, mostly because I watch on my TV, but you are an inspiration. My love and compassion goes out to you, my heart felt so heavy for you when you stated that when you’d read the hurtful comments they were in “his” voice. Remember, there are a lot of us in the background that are cheering you on.
i'm so sorry you're going through this.
this is one of the reasons why I'm so scared to create videos and upload them. you actually inspire me with your videos, especially the one with the self-taught artist plan vid where you mentioned nma. i was feeling lost when i found your channel. then i dabbled with the idea of starting a channel bc of watching your videos. i was motivated. but this kind of stuff is something i don't think i can handle rn, so i have barely uploaded anything. i was scared to show people my face and my body, or my voice knowing this could happen. it's scary. I'm really sorry this happening to you. i hope you're doing better.
I’m so sorry for the stress you’ve gone through with horrible comments. I’m happy for you that you decided to post about it. It’s healthy to talk about it and it allows people to show how much positivity you’ve shown them personally and generally for the art community on a larger scale. I’m very happy that I found your channel. The guidance and examples you show in your videos are incredibly helpful and encouraging and it’s very much appreciated! You are so beautiful! Any hateful comments unfortunately come from a place of self hate and unhappiness in their own lives. It can be very hurtful and confusing, but please try to pity them if anything. It in no way reflects on you, it only reflects on them. It’s unfortunate that they take it out on others and choose to attempt to spread pain. It’s totally unnecessary. I have tried making video content and I agree that it is in fact very difficult and puts you in a vulnerable position. It’s not something that just anyone can do easily without notable effort. It is hard work that takes dedication just like any other job ❤️. I can only imagine how difficult of a challenge it must be to go through seeing that stuff, but please stay strong. You got this! ❤
Just imagine following a workshop in real life and people just shouting out criticism constantly.
These haters just hate your success and how brave you are to do what they haven’t even tried. Don’t listen to any of the crap. ❤ I have appreciated your authenticity and honesty so much as a fellow artist.
@@jcon2060 success is subjective so we can agree to disagree.
Success in a capitalist system is making a living at something you love. I see her doing this. A lot of the comments appear to be criticising her for making money which is pretty transparent jealousy, whether the commenters are aware of it or not.
@@noshititskrae exactly they are just jelous they can't leave their 9-5 to work for themselves lol they have to work for some fast food chain, store or office building that barely pays them minimum wage. Don't get mad at someone else for making money that your not making.
I just found your channel recently interviewing someone and I thought that video was extremely helpful for my mental state. I subscribed immediately. Honestly I’d just ignore them because they are hating. You are great. Thanks so much!
Your channel has some of the most helpful info I've found in the art community. You're why I'm more confident about starting an art channel/shop. Its really sad that everything you had to offer went in one ear and out the other of these people.
That's so crazy! I've been watching a lot of art-based videos again lately so my algorithm reflected such. I recently found your channel through the algorithm and your energy is so sweet and refreshing! You even encourage me as far as my own artistry! And it's so sad that this happened to you, and anybody who comes at you in such a hateful, trolling way need to fall off the face of the earth! You don't deserve that at all. I'm new here but I support you through and through!
Thank you for being so open about this. It’s absolutely horrible what you and other creators have to deal with. I’m sorry you’ve recieved such horrible comments, especially while being so helpful, transparent, and encouraging to the art community. I don’t understand why people feel the need to tear others down. We absolutely should expect human decency. Sending positive vibes your way ❤
Kelsey, I only have gratitude for you being here, genuinely sharing what you know to help others. One of the things I love the most is you being you. It makes me engaged and connect with every single story and situation. I hope you find that peaceful place inside of you to come back as you were. We are your people! The ones who loves your content and watching you and learning from you. I know you’ll get stronger after this… shake it off and stand up again, but take your time to do that. Be gentle with yourself. Again, thanks for being here, I’ve learned tons from you.
Normally I don’t comment and just watch and like your content ❤. But this really hit home and is so beyond wrong.
I am an artist too and have always wanted to make a RUclips channel. I love conversation and exchanging ideas. I’ve played games for many years too and always thought it would be so fun to have a twitch channel. The hate and inappropriate things I experienced by having a presence on online console games, has made me scared to go beyond that. I feel like it taught me a lesson like, if I venture beyond that it will only continue or get worse. To be fair, I haven’t tested this out of fear. So I share my art and engage with a wonderful community online via twitter under a pseudo identity.
Kelsey, I feel for you so wholeheartedly you couldn’t know. You’re an amazing force as a woman, as an artist, as a person putting themselves out there. I admire you and root for you as someone who is brave and talented at something I’m not sure I’d ever be able to do. You are so talented, strong, and brave! My comment probably won’t get read, but I hope my positive energy for you gives you strength to keep going and take care of yourself.❤
this is exactly the way I feel! I am an artist as well and I play games. I have considered streaming and making a RUclips channel, but , stuff like this makes me hide away and not even try. I am really proud of Kelsey for being open and honest and sharing this stuff with us, I really look up to people who are able to put themselves out there. Thank you as well for sharing your experience .
@@saracho6646 💕💕💕🥰
this hit me so hard. im so sorry you had to go through this Kelsey. i know how you feel, I've started to get more an more aggressive hate comments as well. its rough.
You're such an inspiration Kelsey. My daughter loves her art and I think RUclips would be a great avenue for her too. It's the kind of crap you describe that makes me fear for her. I'm so sorry... Now, blow them away with your fortitude and success. Don't give them any more ammunition.
We're cheering for you. Focus on those that appreciate you for you.
It's really sad. Things like these really demotivate. I pray such toxic things will stop. Your videos help us alot. Keep creating. Take care of yourself. Don't give them what they want from you. They don't have life of their own so they demotivate others. Hope it will be all better.
I’m sorry that this is happening to you 🙏 I just want to say that what you’re experiencing is the exact reason why I’m still anxious of showing my video on my RUclips videos and have been learning how to be a Vtuber. Ever since I found your channel I’ve been inspired by you and your videos to build the courage and show myself. YOU ARE AMAZING AND INSPIRING! ✨ I always look forward to your videos and I’m sure that we, your community, will be here to support you! Take care of yourself and keep the faith! 💖
This is the first vid of yours i’m seeing and you seem like a really cool down to earth. You don’t deserve this treatment. You deserve love and care and compassion.
Your content came onto my feed when I honestly needed it most, I hope you know you are appreciated
I think you are a beautiful young lady who is intelligent, articulate, and inspiring.
I know that this must have been a difficult video to post, but I think it was a necessary one that other You Tubers can find encouragement from.
Thank you for having the courage to be open and vulnerable about your struggles and journey.
Take all the time you need, and keep making beautiful art at your own pace!
A lot of them seem jealous. They focus a lot on money and freedom that you have, that they don't have themselves. Instead of taking responsibility for their own lives, they try to drag you down.
You have inspired me greatly and given me hope as an amateur artist. Don ever let somebody else's opinions affect you. Hurt people hurt people. Please continue what you are doing as it has helped me and will continue to help many others. Thank you kindly.