Why Self-Help Might Be Making You Less Happy
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- Опубликовано: 12 июл 2021
- Hi everyone! Let's talk about the dark side of the self-help industry. Here is
Why Self-Help Might Be Making You Less Happy.
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Hi everyone! What is your experience with Self-help?
Real good but especially Owen Cook to be honest. The marketing side of self help is the toxic part, if you just see thru that you can actually help yourself. Books are the best and teachers with integrity. And life is pretty simple, but that’s hard for most people to understand. My favorite book is power vs force about frequencies you can function at 😁! Self help made me the man I am today, but I can see thru the marketing stuff ☀️
My first book I read was about The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy at age 14 and I miss the initial feeling I got when I read it because it made me excited to believe I could change my life to however I want it to be as long as I use positive affirmations 😆😆
For me, self-help books can be a “reminder” of something I already know or practice. And for that reason, I find myself reaching for those self help books when I need that reminder. But I also know, it’s not the one stop shop cure as we are constantly evolving and changing.
Most helpful one is the Bible, and then all of Alfred Adler's psychological books and Karen Horney's. Through understanding the original misperceptions of our past, we can better find the proper way to become a better self.
I don't/can't read them because I struggle so much eventually I took it as a sign Self-help books are not for me.
"You don't have to do anything to prove that you are worthy of existing." (Albert Ellis)
Like that 🙏
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Nothing but believe in yourself and love yourself. That's it. We make simple concepts so unnecessarily difficult
Self help makes you lose confidence and feel inadequate a lot of the time.
I will say though, that the 4 hour work week was transformational for me when i was just starting in 2011.
But the issue for me was deeper, psychological issues where I didn't accept myself or considered myself not good enough.
More than self help, self acceptance is more impactful, I think.
I agree with you that self acceptance is more impactful and it should come first :)
in my exp self help is good reference to go to only sometimes -dont take it too seriously - living your life to your true self is more important
Less self help! More philosophy! If you wanna be motivated, better is read literature. Read Papillon, and you will feel motivated to life for to enjoy the life (you, not a future imaginary better version of you) and the adventure it is, no for to achieve any goal, only enjoy the game.
Self-help, or personal development is SO important for the different areas in life we want to improve. But sometimes the danger can be that we end up consuming these books/ podcasts instead of actually doing the work. Crafting out the time to actually implement any of the self-help strategies is even more important than consuming more of that content.
Yes! I really appreciate your comment as always Jaime! just consuming without taking action is such a waste and pointless. Thanks for watching :)
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Yes!! So true. I agree
Absolutely agree!
I fee like Self-help books sometimes give false hope and advise..everyone is an individual with different hopes and dreams.. you really have to look inside your heart and see/feel what truly makes you happy & well balanced; then guide yourself to that direction. 💕 ♾ 💕
Such an important message. Keeping this in mind, it becomes easier consume content
Spot on Kat
@Natasha Vodianova Love this! Thank you! Sometimes we need to cocoon in a safe space to allow for the transformation to take place. But, yeah, the trouble is to not get stuck in that phase of comfort and protection and know we have the choice to seek, find, make mistakes, and feel all of it.
Actually the ugly truth is your shadow self. If you don’t face your shadow self and demons they will conquer you.
Guilty as charged here. I fell into the self help trap and was stuck in it for many years. Just got fed up one day as I was spending the majority of my days reading and absorbed in my head all day long. It's an addiction indeed, where once I "fixed" something, I had this strong need to find my next "fix". It was never ending and at the end of it all, my happiness thermostat didn't increase. Today, I'm trying to "unlearn" by meditating and emptying my mind, quit social media, exercise, spend less, make food at home and just be in the present. So far, by doing this, there is this feeling of self acceptance as I am I have never felt before, it's really quite remarkable. Not totally there yet but it okay, there's no destination anyways, it's just a journey. Thanks for a great video, loving the channel.
Instead of self-help, more emphasis should be put on self-awareness...learning about ourselves. What we truly want or makes us happy? Self-help is a fad to me. There is no magic solution that works for everyone. Great video. Mahalo!
Yes! self awareness and knowledge with life experiences :) its more impressionable as well. Thanks for watching
Exactly. Well said Bee. Spot on!
Very well said Bee. I feel like cultivating self awareness is something we should be taught at a young age so we can have a foot up when it comes to building lives that really suit our own values.
I completely agree with you. All those books on how to be successful. How does one define 'success'. Usually they mean making more money and getting to the top if the career ladder. I define success differently so I cannot relate to those books.
"I want to be a person that can live by their values". yes. this.
🥰 one of my biggest goals!!
I also read that book, Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki. That book greatly emphasizes on finding a teacher or an expert in the field you want to thrive who would help u and guide u achieving your goal (financial goal). That’s when i realized it doesn’t have to be always being independent or relying solely on yourself or self-help, but also reaching out to learn from others, from someone who had already achieved what u wanted to achieve
I haven't read any self-help books but I'm am enjoying the journey of just learning myself and finding the joys. There is only one person like you; we are all unique in our own way, so it only makes sense that our self help will be unique as well. 💕😊 great video as always
I love that so much. Your attitude towards life is really refreshing my dear friend :) Thanks for watching Deandra
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This was so well said and so real. I think sometimes ,” Self Help” makes us feel like we are so behind or that we must be doing the wrong thing.
It’s hard enough to be unique and to be ourselves in this world today. I am very aware of what I read and watch and I try to only give my energy to positive and real things and people. Thank You for this. Blessings to everyone here. Your enough 🙌🏻🧡🍑Lisa
Thanks so much Lisa ❤ love what you said! Also giving all my energy to real things people too 😍
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Yes! You’re pointing out exactly what should be the essence. I think people are scared to face their own needs and would rather escape into ‘how to’ instead of just choosing for what feels right to them. Sometimes life just doesn’t give us time and space to sit with our own feelings and desires.. but then again, you only have this one life to live..
Yes! I felt like I was depending on these books to give me ideas and make me feel book in the moment, but mostly it was placebo effect.
I never thought about it that way and it does made me realized that it is true I keep reading self help to self improve, but whenever I fail to keep up to the advises and routine suggested from the books, I feel not good enough :// yea you're right not all formulas will fit everyone 🍀
I fall into this trap all the time, and noticed how toxic it was. Thanks for watching ❤😊
@@MalamaLife 💗💗 thank you for the video, I love the way you talk and express your thoughts. For someone who struggles a little to speak up, Im really inspire by you and I hope one day to use my voice too. Have an amazing week ahead! 😆😆
The biggest thing that I feel all of these self-help books/systems seem to ignore and overlook is mental health. I have yet to find anything that truly addresses that, and yet, it's a crucial element in being able to help yourself.
Yes!! couldn't agree with your more.
You can read How to Do the Work by Dr Nicole LePera a licensed Psychologist, its one of the best seller this year in Amazon :)
I can't do what you do! But when I watch and listen to you I can enter a special place just for a few moments.
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Thanks so much Anthony ❤😍👍
I remember getting into the whole self-help, it was much later in life and I got hooked. To a degree, I needed it, it was tough time in my life and the motivation to push through was quite helpful. Eventually I got through the rough patch and life was much better, but I was still into self-help books, and certainly found the information to be repetitive. You made a great point that the self-help industry is a multibillion dollar industry. Based on that information, I think their so many people struggling, in their own tough circumstances and they are trying to find a way out. At the same time, it could also be greed and the desire to become super wealthy. Either way, I think too much self help might not be a good thing. They do say that too much of anything can be a bad thing, even self-help. :) Like-149
Totally agree. I'm very much into self help but just stick to a few books and just make sure I mix it up a little. I enjoy self help. They do get repetitive but also realized that they are repeated for a reason because whatever it is that's said, works for many. But it definitely gets to a point where you just need to live your live and experience things for yourself and learn.
Too much of anything is certainly not a good thing :) I'm learning what this means, slowly but surely. Thanks for sharing your story Alex! I'm glad that it motivated you to get out of the rough patch in your life though. Thanks for watching and I hope you're doing well
I'm so glad that people like you, Nathaniel Drew, and other important RUclips's, are talking about this self-improvement problem. You guys are creating awareness about this big issue.
I'm glad that there is an audience who can relate :)
What a beautiful video. You’ve summed up what I have been feeling about self help and being on a treadmill of productivity, having no clue where it all ends.
yes!! I'm so glad you could relate. I'm happier just being content with my flawed self.
To whoever stumbles across this comment, you are whole and you are complete (: You are not a project in the works, you are not an unfinished puzzle, a broken human or an imperfect machine. Self help tells us we need to constantly reach outward to find fulfillment, but our soul tells us that we must sit with ourselves in stillness to see that we already contain perfection within us. We already have all the seeds of our own desires. Productivity is not an antidote to low self worth, love, connection, and acceptance are.. as cliche as that sounds.
I find my books on Buddhism have been better than any self-help book and have helped me as much as any therapist.
interesting topic. I agree to you. I remember when our pastor said: self contentedness will destroy you the more we focus to our self the more we might felt empty. That hits me so hard. I also red those books you showed but non of them can't give the beauty and wisdom of the Bible.
Self help material may be a could start, but it is typically not deep and enduring enough for the long-term. This might be a better approach: "Be yourself--not your idea of what you think somebody else's idea of yourself should be." --Henry David Thoreau
This right here 👆🏽
Yes
I think you can really link this topic to the wabi sabi philosophy. In the end you need to accept that you will not « perfectly » use your day and « maximize » everything out of life. You are imperfect and that is what makes each day worth living.
Thanks for mentioning that. I agree with you completely. Those imperfections can make life more dynamic
I can’t stand “self-help” books they gave more anxiety 😥 I tried with them but they just did not work for me like my therapy and medicine does. I respect if someone feels better by reading them but I appreciate you upload this kind of content.
Hi, one of the books that I honestly like is How to Do the Work by Dr Nicole LePera a Psychologist. I got mine fr Amazon :) It focuses on working on our past childhood trauma, reparenting ourself & working on our self ego.
As im on a journey to live more sustainably, one day I realized that as much as it'd be good to make progress, there's really no rush in getting to the end. Often times, these books have a achievement-oriented tone to it. As you implied, shifting the focus to 'being' and developing self-awareness (eg body, emotional awareness) brings a lot more fulfillment.
As with most things, it's how one uses it intentionally, with reflection on how it applies to their own lives. For example, as someone with a sensitive biology, I chose to find alternatives to caffeine for better energy. The way I saw the world was transformed with that change.
Such a great point. Let's embrace the journey and just allow ourselves to just "be" ❤ thanks Amanda
Self-help is not bad, but we need to remember that part of being a human being is having social needs. Having safe friends/family members also helps the growth/healing process. 🤙
🥰 yes!!
I loved this video! It was really engaging and thought provoking. 💛 After viewing this, I realize that the self help books that have marked me the most are those that invite reflection and questioning of one’s self, as well as acceptance. Or simply memoirs, people sharing their thoughts and experiences, just as you are. This type of content proposes more sustainable solutions and less of a quick fix. I feel like the intention of these creators is more pure. As a person who cares a lot about others and their well-being, I do find that the industry is of value, but there is definitely some excess happening.
Thanks for your comment! I also enjoy those books that encourage us to look within ourselves and reflect. This is much more than an instant fix to the problem and lasts much longer as well. Thanks :)
I so know what you're talking about, I've been reading self-help since my early 20's and now in late 50's. I transitioned to more spiritually minded books at around 38 along with yoga. I guess it is an individual journey and it always seemed I was led to the next book I needed. But I love how authentic and sincere you are, and you never say anything you don't really mean to say and are so obviously truly kind to the core, which is very rare. It's very inspiring and you are a leader.
Glad you can relate Eric. You're right about one book leading to the next. I'm putting down the books and just learning to make mistakes along the way. Thank you for your kind words
I can relate to your journey. I too have found the best 'self-help' books to be based on some form of spirituality especially Buddhist philosophy.
I am new and binged a few of your videos. I am so glad I am not alone who experienced struggles. I loved that you are talking on this. As a trauma abuse survivor i always had to ask okay cool how does this apply to my life. All the time.
definitely not alone :)
Spot on! Much of the self-help industry encourages bypassing. I'm much more interested in wholeness than some curated idea of an ideal self. Life is messy, and compassion can help us appreciate all of it, even the difficult stuff. Love your ideas around this, Sophie.
"Wholeness." I love this word :) Thank you Linda
I so agree with you, I am my sixties and have read a lot of self help books in my help, rarely have I finished a book though, I get bored with it and the sameness of advise, also I usually feel empty by the advise like I am trying to live their version of life not mine. Understanding myself is a lifelong journey but as a Christian I know I have a purpose for my life so I now pursue God in these matters and it is so much more satisfying.
we all needed this! thank you❤❤❤❤💎💎💎💎
Wow…. That is some good stuff. Thanks for this. I really needed to hear this, as I have been reading self help books for the last 10 years, and still trying to learn self-acceptance and how I can blend each new book I read into my life.
SELF-LEARNING....SELF-MEDITATION......SELF-DISCOVERING IN HEALTH AND MONEY MAKING ON YOUR OWN
😍❤👍yes!!!
I agree
I'm clicking on one video of yours after the other, I can't decide on what to watch, the topics become more and more interesting!
I'm happy to hear that ❤😍
Thank you! Really eye opening - not one formula for all -. I like the idea of asking questions and reading philosophers.
Yes! this has helped me :)
I appreciated this message so much. After working in quality improvement and getting caught up in a lot of self-help and eventually burning out,
I’m finding myself in a period in which I can’t bring myself to force myself to do anything. My soul has said “Stop!” I’m so sorry I pushed it so hard for so many years.
Really enjoy your videos sweet girl! Keep up the good work! Something I've learned over the years is to ask yourself if you're living your 'best life', and that the first step in getting what you want, is to get rid of what you don't want. That being said, avoid the trap of over analyzing yourself, especially when reading self help books. Consider what is being said, take what you can use, toss the rest and don't take yourself too seriously. None of us has it all figured out. Just enjoy the journey and celebrate small victories.
thanks 🙏 I love this video I appreciate the way you explain all the topics Many blessings and Greetings from NC
this is a strong video! thank you for your thoughts
I totally agree with the fact that nobody else than ourself can really know what kind of life you need and also that self help book can still help but for some people only as inspiration :)
Thank you for the video
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People need to THINK and REFLECT more when reading any books, instead of blindly follow everything and be confused. Personally, I think works of psychologists' are better than "successful" figure's self-help book. (such as Alfred Adler, Karen Horny ect.)
Yes I have dropped the self help books completely, now I'm watching many spiritual videos on youtube, its a great help. Watch a short or longer video, then meditate, walk on nature and reflect 😊🙏🌻
I agree with you completely. self reflection is the crucial part of any book
Wow...such a relevant topic. Thanks for your take on this...it's refreshing...and rings so true. We are made uniquely ourselves. It's worth to take the time to find our best selves.
Agree with you Mona! not sure what the hurry is all about :)
thank you for sharing this, Sophie !!
Thanks for watching :)
Love this video! I often check out a ton of self help books from the local library, often hoping that one will have that magical tick that will transform my life overnight and make habits stick. And it never works that way and the books get returned! So real and honest, thank you for being honest and real about this topic!
Thank you for watching Stephanie!
What a beautiful topic! Thank you for the awareness!
Thank you so much Grace :) I really appreciate you.
I cannot agree any less about what you said. I'm constantly switching from one self-help app to another, one book to another but I never feel satisfied. I feel like I'm trying to achieve something that doesn't exist.
Thanks a lot for sharing those thoughts. I found the distinction between self-help books and philosophy books very insightful and illuminating. I think it hit a point that I’ve been struggling with for a long time and clarifies why I felt much more motivated, powerful and “myself” after reading a Prentice Mulford book ages ago than any of many self-help books I’ve been half-reading and less applying since then.
I'm so happy you can relate to me. Some self help books are disguised as philosophy books, but now I can spot the difference. Thanks Daniel :)
I really love your videos. You are so calm and relaxed, that gives me so mich peace. In this hectic world I often feel like I don't belong because i value other things than most people. That's why i sometimes struggle because I forget that I don't need to reach those goals... I don't need to proof myself to others it is enough to know I that I know what I want... Thank you for your videos
I am so happy to hear this! I really appreciate your kind words and your support :) Sometimes we all need the reminder that we are enough just the way we are. big hugs from Maui
Such a different point of view, I had many doubts about self-help books but I cant tell what is wrong with them. It actually brightened me thank you so much.
Thanks for listening to me :)
Finally someone who talks about the truth;) I feeel so knocked out because of all the beauty and especially health ideals that showed up during the last years. It can be really toxic but though I also always look for these advice when i feel unmotivated.I really wanna get out of this vicious circle, because i realized that most of these advice make my life even more complicated. But Sophie, your channel helps me a lot to get out of this. It was the first time that I heard about simple living and I just do so. No longer any new health trend to follow along but a simple healthy diet and lifestyle. Thank you sooooo much;)
Thank you so much Luisa! It's even more difficult now because ads are specifically targeted to our insecurities. Like you, I feel that it just makes my life even more complicated. I hope you know how much I appreciate your kind words. Much love to you
Same personal goals. Thank you for this video. Needed much!
Yay! :) thanks for watching
beautiful words🙏🏻 more people need to hear this❤️
aw thank you very much! I'm happy you enjoyed the video
I truly appreciate the way you centered Self on top of this self-help movement. Experiences shared by others should only provide us inspirations not molders of which we will measure our own lives. The role of Self to ask questions and reflect with all the factors of our personal context has is what matters most.
Exactly! thanks Jose :)
Thank you for making this video. Another good one ❤️
Thank you for watching :)
Beautiful message!
Thank you 🙏
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I loved this video ! Thanks for sharing this.
Thanks for watching
Excellent video amen.
I got started/hooked on early Tony Robbins. Then a couple of decades later it was Robert Kiyosaki.
I noticed at different times in life when I read them they always worked. But anything will work if you believe it will work. My problem has always been "Why" do I want this? I never answered myself to humble satisfaction and just said "no more."
A couple of months ago I decided to remove all the self help, business and success books from my life. You're so right about a constant diet of not feeling good enough can wear a person down for sure.
Thanks for sharing,
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I went through the same thought process as you James. It feels good to ditch the self help. Thanks for watching :)
Your voice is so beautiful that I feel addicted to and watch your videos many times every day. Thanks u a lot for sharing wonderful messages and helping me realize lots of things
You're so sweet 🥰 thank you so much
Thank you. I can relate to what you said. Self-help is like a tool and there is a time and a place where it's beneficial. And there's a time where it's good to let it go and just be, just enough -- neither running or striving, hiding or fighting. Just here.
This is very important! Like you mentioned, I think self-compassion is just as important :)
Great insights ... wise perspectives on self help books ... provocative segment ... beautifully presented ... and ... VERY HELPFUL! As always, thank you Sophie.
Thank you so much for watching. I'm so happy you enjoyed the video
such a great perspective - thank you!
🥰 thanks Sarah
You just put my thoughts into words about reading self-help books.. I also love reading few of them. ❤ thank you for sharing.
Thank you for watching :)
You have a beautiful calming voice. I could listen to you all day, thank you and God Bless.
Aw thank you so much :)
Thank you for these videos, Sophie. I never read any self-help books, they always give me bad vibrations "mal rollo", and to feel that if I read some I will waste a time than I could invest in reading literature. The goal mus'nt be to be a better person, a better etc, must be love us like we are right now. Enjoy the moment. And no read mainstream advice. The goal must be to do your questions. The answers don't matter at all. You do philosophy when you think your all questions about how to do better the things, or simply ask why are you doing something.
Lotsa self-help books in my younger years and now in my later years reaping the benefits. And helping the younger generation. When they listen that is.
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Great message very spritual it's a step towards buddha hood keep it up this is my third time watching your video keep it up.
I love your videos! I feel it affirms my core desire to relax and simplify, contrary to the hustle mentality
Yes! let's ditch the hustle mentality. Life is too good
sometimes i'm just so tired of self improvement and i will feel guilty about it. cuz all the videos, books and articles r telling us to become better, better version of ourselves, so shouldn't i picked up those advices and try harder?
this video is really reading my mind! explain why i feel this way and tell us: it's okay to not follow what "self-help masters" said, but be aware of yourself, ur current state. we r not chasing to be perfectly self-improved. tune in and listen, follow your heart, and it will find its way to guide you through your journey.✨✨
Happy you can relate Tiffany! this has been on my mind for a long time and I'm happy to have this discussion finally :) you are so right about just being self aware and listening to your inner voice. this is very important
Thank You Malama for this lovely video! I think if we understand ourselves then we can claim to help else it's difficult and videos & books some times show us right direction on which we can understand ourselves and then we can experience the journey of self help.
Thanks for watching :)
It's sort of like fast food, delivering an instant gratification (hope), but not much more. It's someone else's life lessons simplified,but those don't always translate to others.
completely agree with that analogy!
Wow I just found your channel and I am absolutely in love!
Thank you so much Kassie ❤
Self-help made me feel like I am not enough, I need more improvement in all directions and all the time. Unlike therapy it seeks the good in you and nourishes it.
Yes!!
I am so surprised that I am the kind of person you talked about. I wasn’t conscious about this at all. I seem to unconsciously avoid questioning my relationship with self help contents cuz I’ve learnt so much through these contents and I thought these are never going to be dangerous in any sense. As you said, I looked for more contents after finishing a book or podcast or article or speech. I have more questions and desire for more. I feel I am never enough and I am being more anxious. I seem to be always learning something but now I feel like it’s toxic cuz I can’t let myself rest and just do nothing for a day. It feels so inspired to finish self help contents. It makes everything look possible. Every day right after I wake up, I devour anything that might make me feel like motivated; then I can feel more energized to start my day, which is a really unhealthy way. I’m really grateful that you make this video. I need to review my relationship with those contents.
This is very refreshing!!! Thank you!
Thanks for watching ❤😁
Thank you Sophie 😊 always listen and love your videos of life advice. Peace. Love and light ✨🌟❤
Thank you so much Michael :) I always appreciate your comment
@@MalamaLife Your welcome 😊
Our "selves" don't need help, but it is wonderful to share each other's experiences. I believe it is important for each of us to trust ourselves to know what is best.
Yes! I think I always want to keep this in mind when I am reading self help books :)
Yes Sophie. The pursuit of happiness is, in itself, very stressful and so as Bee said, it's starts with self awareness and decluttering (Minimilism) and things will sort itself out - you will be naturally happier!
Thank you so much :)
I like this, fr, thanks a lot 👏
Great inspiration speech 🙂 your Videos are perfect and it motivated me to do everyday my Hobbys, thank you and God bless you 🙂. You are right, the happiness is very important for our life.
I am so happy to hear that. Also, happy to hear that you are enjoying your hobbies 👍 thank you for being such a support. It means a lot to me
I've read many of the same books, and others not on the list. I went through a "self-improvement" journey over a several year period. What I found is that "self-help" IS effective. It's not that there is one magical book that makes the difference, it's more like each book has some gold-nugget in it and if you take what's valuable from many sources and combine them, that can make a REAL difference. My efforts were highly successful and resulted in me accomplishing some BIG goals I had. Books cant "fix" a person just by reading them. But if someone is really driven and commits to putting in a solid effort over an extended period of time ( using some ideas from the books ), great things can happen!
I now realise that I never really read a self-help book in my life! I don’t really like the idea of ready-made solutions, as you said, we are all different and no formula will work for all! I like to find my own solutions based on my personality and personal circumstances! I like as well thought provoking books which allows me to reach my own conclusions! Was great to watch you again lovely Sophie! 💖
I just love your way of thinking Mihaela! from someone who has read a lot of the books, you definitely didn't miss out on anything :) thanks for watching
Thank you Sophie🙏🏽
😍❤ thanks for watching
There are people that are addicted to the books and all the content. At the end of the day what really matters is that you take action on what you are learning!
It depends on the person . Of course self help is one of good example . But we are human not a copy or robot . We just want to have a good life . Good contents ! Thank you
Self-help books can help you brainstorm idea's of things you would possibly like to implement in your life. In my experience i've truly enjoyed few of books you mentioned in the video. However, in the end of the day it is an individual responsibility to filter out advice that won't work for you. Great Video, i enjoyed every word. :)
this gave me another point of view! thank you
So happy to hear that :)
I love all you video content 🙏
Thank you rufina ❤❤❤
Very useful information that you are sharing! Thank you for that! I have read several books of self care theme. And I realised that they are all the same. I need just one. They are not like novels with diferent stories. They say all the same with just diferent word. In 2018 I began fitness as a self help - I become more firm and in better shape, I like how I looked but after three times in which I had experienced back pain after workouts and after I found out that I am feeling obligated in some way to workout, I realised that I was involved in a fitness wellness industry just for buying new gears, new supplements, reaching new misterious goals and etc. Everything was "must" to feel good but my body was saying me it was'nt. I even gained some weight and despite the fitness goals I've reached they didn't come down. Untill.... I returned to myself. To my truth. I stopped. I returned to yoga - which I was practising till 2018. In the end of summer 2021 I returned to it. I lost the few pounds immediatly. Maybe because I realised that I am good enough without any goals which we have to achieve. I started listening to my body, to my soul and now I feel amazing. I don't buy any help books anymore, any fitness subscriptions or gears or any "powdered" food. I don't buy happinness. I think every body should sit and listen to their own wishes and needs and not following someone elses' blindly. Thank you for the inspiration to think about this!
I think they are great stepping stone, and than make your own decision
Agreed 👍❤
I agree with so many comments below, thank you. I think you have to be careful,... you could start seeing yourself as a constant failure,...
Yes it's a slippery slope
Philosophy and literature are more difficult and complex at the beginning but it is thanks to this that they allow us to understand something and not consume information.
Rich dad poor dad also helped me, even after learning a lot about money. Beautiful video😊
It was such an impactful book for sure
Love your vids Malama your vibe is chill and calm 😁
Thanks for watching :) happy you're enjoying my videos
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Rich Dad, Poor Dad was my first read as well. I was hooked since then 😁
Yes!! Haha I'm glad you can relate ❤😁
I always watch self help videos rather than actually self helping myself 😅 thanks for sharing
haha we all do it! 🥰
I am so happy someone finally mentioned it. I am well educated person, who also studied lots of self help books and to numerous seminars.
I would like if I said some of them didn't have great impact on me but with a time I noticed similar pattern Sophie is mentioning. I felt like I was always lucking something every time I read another book, like if I read another one it would the "it" moment. Well it wasn't. I realised that like spent on looking outside of yourself for answers and following grand coaches, teachers and authors bought me no where near where I want to be. It's a bit like beauty industry...you feel you have to buy all this products to make yourself look beautiful where in fact it all starts with finding out who you re as a person, accepting yourself and looking into what is your Tue want and desire. Once I started doing that I moved so much quicker towards real happiness...
sorry i'm late in the game! moving has been keeping me very busy! nice to see you sitting next to piano!! 😃 congrats on your first 1MM view video! much more to come!!!!
I hope you are all settled in :) and thank you Koala! I can't believe 1m videos on that video...feeling very grateful.
Thank you for your videos 🙏🏼
Thanks for watching ❤
Always love your videos! 🤍
🥰 aw thank you!!
You can only get so far from watching self help videos and reading self help books, the true learning experience happens when you apply the things you learned into your real life situations
So true. Knowledge is useless if we don't apply it