97.5% Of Men Go Through THIS Mid Life Crisis and How To Choose A Man Who's Ready

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  • Опубликовано: 16 дек 2024

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  • @JonathonAslay
    @JonathonAslay  3 года назад +5

    Join My VIP Group for $7-- jonathonaslay.com/midlifelove

  • @didi5021
    @didi5021 3 года назад +7

    Exactly what I want; the man that is ready for ME!

    • @mustafamusa4922
      @mustafamusa4922 3 года назад

      I pray the universe grant your heart desire Hey friends I got my relationship fixed with the help of this great spiritualist who brought my ex after many months of separation,,, ,,

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  3 года назад +1

      YAY!

  • @anicca09
    @anicca09 2 месяца назад

    A true Mid life crisis is not just repressed emotions = decision making from subconscious (not integrated, individuated conscious) causing immense collateral damage to loved ones.
    Arising from childhood programming, unaddressed trauma, unintegrated parts, core wounds, resulting in maladaptive adult behaviours.
    I appreciate your articulating pathways for navigating potential relationship during this time!

  • @joangavitt4956
    @joangavitt4956 3 года назад +7

    Jonathon, I love how you make this all human beings not just men. Were all human beings having a spiritual experience! Thank you...glad your feeling better...❤🌈

  • @coastaldiva
    @coastaldiva 3 года назад +6

    Right, no one’s perfect and everyone has their own level of brokenness that we are able to get involved with.

  • @S0ngsyngr
    @S0ngsyngr Год назад +1

    Didn’t realize your 1/4M job & divorce coincided - that is rough! We’re very lucky to have you, Jonathan to help give us advice!

  • @janereinhardt4715
    @janereinhardt4715 3 года назад +4

    I lost my job at the end of 2008 also, but I could never find another job after that. I had 2 interviews in 4 or 5 years before I gave up. There would be 5,000 applicants for 1 open position in So Cal. I retired early since I wasn't working anyway & it all worked out.

  • @mariek4362
    @mariek4362 3 года назад +3

    I can't even think about watching the young ones with no life experience. I love that you bring a man's point of view to those of us midlife and older.
    Would you speak more on how you pulled yourself out of your low period. My fiance is going through that now and I don't know how to help him. After engaged 4 yrs he's pushing me away. Please and Thank you!

  • @LaSorciereFeuillue
    @LaSorciereFeuillue 3 года назад +12

    Really looking forward to this from a man's POV as I think a midlife crisis can be a healthy transformation, however there's a stigma to the word; especially for men in our culture.
    Mid life men deserve emancipation and respect for the hard yards that often leave them bled dry emotionally & financially.
    Jonathon you're comment on the last 'live' that many men have suicide as a retirement plan broke my heart.
    Crisis comes from the Greek word krisis which means 'decision'.
    I've made mini & mid life decisions to align with my Inner Being and be more me and anticipate a few more.... I'm not done evolving.
    I'd absolutely LOVE to bear witness to a boyfriend or husband deliberately becoming more authentic at any age.
    It would probably be confronting, yet that's where the rubber meets the road.

    • @mustafamusa4922
      @mustafamusa4922 3 года назад

      I pray the universe grant your heart desire Hey friends I got my relationship fixed with the help of this great spiritualist who brought my ex after many months of separation,,, ,,

    • @mustafamusa4922
      @mustafamusa4922 3 года назад

      Save his contact and message him on WhatApp for help

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  3 года назад +2

      Hope this helps...

  • @debbie6533
    @debbie6533 3 года назад +3

    2008 was horrible. So many people lost everything. As painful as it was, we have to hold our head high and move on.❤

  • @Charity-vm4bt
    @Charity-vm4bt 2 года назад +1

    Life makes many demands on men. I read a book by a woman who went undercover as a man in a working class environment in a conservative state, to see what goes on with men in mid-life. After several years of research, she concluded men have it much harder in life. They have to "slay the dragon" every day. Whereas their wives had a built-in biological role. This was for more traditional roles of an older generation.

  • @brendamacdonald2478
    @brendamacdonald2478 3 года назад +1

    Jonathan you make very valid points- the blueprint for life is how I grew up too and then reality hit. I was in a dysfunctional relationship based on a dysfunctional family upbringing, and so we grew apart. I thank my ex husband for pointing out that we were not happy. I went through a similar situation to yours: my marriage and job fell apart at the same time and the rug was pulled out from under me. Fortunately I found a good counselor as well as incredibly insightful people such as you to help me put myself back together and ready for a positive relationship (if it’s meant to be). Just growing into the best person I can be- that’s my goal. Thank you! And I love your shirts and coffee mugs- always a great added touch!!

  • @heatherheflin2729
    @heatherheflin2729 3 года назад +1

    This is awesome info! I love your approach the world needs more of YOU! Inner work is the foundation! The book recommendations are so appreciated! I’m going to start watching you on a regular. Thanks for your wisdom Jonathon!!!

  • @---nj7hl
    @---nj7hl 3 года назад +6

    You are so right. I Never understood it. Ex its a different story. Just met one sex addict after another on these online dating apps. SMH. I just want a Partner who I can have deep conversations not 1-2 word answers. And such turn offs! All these men on their phones while on Our date. Sigh. Thank you for the insight.

    • @debbie6533
      @debbie6533 3 года назад +2

      All true..especially looking at other honeys while you are on a date with them. Thats why i dont do online any longer. Liars, married, rapists (sentenced 60 yrs..true story..did not put this on his profile tho')

    • @debbie6533
      @debbie6533 3 года назад +2

      @Brenda Renkema i am happy now as i am staying positively busy with goals. I think 2022 will be better as we get rid of some of the craziness going on still associated with pandemic. If i have goals i have something wonderful to look forward to!

  • @CD-ct6fc
    @CD-ct6fc 3 года назад +7

    Great advice as usual. I am gradually working on reading the books you recommended. Started with yours, The Hoffman process, If the Buddha dated, Eight dates and today I’m getting Non violent communication from Amazon. I love to read and it helps. I’m a young widow and I’m a clean slate now. Don’t want to mess up or have a failure. I enjoyed being married and totally dislike casual relationships. One question for you: Did you just read The Hoffman process or did you actually sign up for the actual course? Thank you for your work. It’s really teaching me to speak up more and state what I’m looking for and my boundaries from the beginning.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  3 года назад

      YAY! I'm happy for you...

    • @janereinhardt4715
      @janereinhardt4715 3 года назад +3

      Since he didn't answer your question, I will. Jonathan mentioned in other videos that his ex girlfriend gave him the gift of that class & he did the Hoffman Process.

  • @lunachilde2000
    @lunachilde2000 3 года назад +1

    "Just be grateful you have someone who's interested and wants to explore something with you"...ya old broads. LOL thanks Jonathan! Your bluntness never ceases to crack me up. 🤣

  • @tiffanykimble9465
    @tiffanykimble9465 3 года назад +2

    Thank You Jonathon. 😊 Another thoughtful video. I am slowly getting through the Hoffmann Process, and I like it, really makes me take pause and take a good look into myself. I am going to read yours next, and then purchase 2 more from your list.

  • @lamidibekky
    @lamidibekky 3 месяца назад +1

    Thanks Jonathan ❤️

  • @juliapugh5635
    @juliapugh5635 3 года назад +1

    Yes...my ex-husband told one day....I'm going through manopause! Left me for another woman he met on line and they married.

  • @KatiaMX2210
    @KatiaMX2210 3 года назад +2

    Since you’ve asked, let me tell you that I’ve made a goal of mine to read all of the books you’ve recommended. So far I’ve read: The four agreements, If the Buddha dated, Eight Dates and Mating in Captivity. They have all been great. Thank you!! 💕
    If anyone is up to do a Jonathon recommends book club, I’m up for it. 🖐🏼

    • @S0ngsyngr
      @S0ngsyngr Год назад +1

      You must read Jonathan’s book, too: what is self-love anyway?

  • @Satillite1111
    @Satillite1111 3 года назад +3

    Hi Johnathan and viewers, this is a good conversation. It's a typical today's climate with what's happening to males. I'm not criticizing guys, but unfortunately this has been the case of many fellas I've been in contact with. I'm into personal development. I have no expectation on some areas regarding being in a relationship. When I brought a conversation about what's real to me, it turned away these guys to want to broaden their concepts about me with sharing my inspiration on what I consider a relationship looks like.
    I can understand why young women get with a person older and wiser to what a healthy relationship is about.
    I'm around your age group, so it's going to be a harder road to be successful looking for what fits. I'm not driven by the way society looks at how people should be in a relationship. It's sad that many look at money and materialism is the main Focus on finding a good partner. My intention is to provide reciprocity on the basics for building on a firm foundation. Body mind and soul. Compatibility is essential then what comes is team work.... Good communication and to be clear you're both on the same page ❤️

    • @curiousgirl.4134
      @curiousgirl.4134 3 года назад +1

      Right on sister, I see you and agree with you. You saved me some words. 😀

    • @mermaid530
      @mermaid530 3 года назад

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  • @CatherineInColorado
    @CatherineInColorado 3 года назад +2

    Another great video Jonathon! I appreciate you filming this video despite your back pain. By the way, your book "What The Heck Is Self Love Anyway" was excellent (I just finished reading it last week and am ordering another copy without underlining, handwritten notes, and highlight marks for my mom). Did the unraveling in your life which happened after your job loss and divorce as well as your childhood lead to the process where you were able to learn the excellent content in your book? I'm working on the Hoffman Process - it is challenging but I hope I can complete all of the work and get through it. The book "The Gifts of Imperfection" look like a good one for me too. Thanks again for doing these weekend "Morning Cup of Jonathon" videos and hugs of love to you (but not too hard right now until your back gets better)! All The Best, Catherine ❤🙏❤

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  3 года назад +1

      WOW! Thank you. BTW, I recorded this on Tuesday morning.

    • @CatherineInColorado
      @CatherineInColorado 3 года назад +1

      @@JonathonAslay Thank you again - I appreciate you letting me know when these videos are recorded - it definitely makes more sense to me now...lol. Please be very gentle on your back while it heals - we need you well! Take care😊

  • @carmenjohnston3043
    @carmenjohnston3043 Год назад

    Casual. Cos I need my space and peace. I cannot have even the sweetest person around all the time. Date, do fun stuff, maybe some emotional and physical intimacy. Etc but space in-between while keeping in touch. That's what I want and have right now and it's great.

  • @annabirou2355
    @annabirou2355 3 года назад +3

    Always helpful and grounded! Hi Jobathon 🌞
    But I can hardly imagine a Greek man sitting down and read the amazing book eight dates! They will look at you like crazy 🙂
    The few good free men that work on themselves are hard to find and you have to be extreamely lucky! Most of the available do not fit to what an average self reliant and normal woman wants..
    Regards from Athens, greece!

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  3 года назад +3

      And men experience the same thing with women... there's a lack of maturity for both genders.

    • @CD-ct6fc
      @CD-ct6fc 3 года назад

      I am from Bulgaria and most of the men in our part of the world are like that, more domineering and set in their ways. Not all, but most.

    • @cairnsdream5722
      @cairnsdream5722 3 года назад +1

      And that's why I agree with you Jonathon, that if the guy isn't doing inner work, don't get involved with them.

  • @outoficecream2740
    @outoficecream2740 3 года назад

    Hope you are feeling better dear!! Thanks for another enlightenment.💞💖

  • @karek4635
    @karek4635 3 года назад +4

    Mid-life "Our blueprint collides with our reality." - 👍.

  • @shatha42
    @shatha42 3 года назад

    Wonderful, Jonathon!
    Thank you so much!

  • @veronicasmith1460
    @veronicasmith1460 3 года назад

    Wow!!! Light bulb goes off!

  • @stellawilliams9303
    @stellawilliams9303 3 года назад +1

    Well said Jonothon, maybe you could run workshops for men 😁

  • @yvonnegrijalva1047
    @yvonnegrijalva1047 3 года назад +2

    A Serious Relationship,

  • @lauries2757
    @lauries2757 3 года назад

    Great advice! ♥️

  • @crystaliiams8410
    @crystaliiams8410 3 года назад

    Nice video

  • @positiveandhealthy2728
    @positiveandhealthy2728 3 года назад

    If you trying to change your life, then work harder on yourself everyday then you do on your job

  • @guyblaise3770
    @guyblaise3770 3 года назад

    Hello and Bonjour Jonathon....

  • @maria45658
    @maria45658 3 года назад

    Nice shirt 😁

  • @cherylweis1819
    @cherylweis1819 3 года назад

    Hello.

  • @rosemarybrewington8250
    @rosemarybrewington8250 3 года назад +4

    Jonathon, I believe that the only Alpha Male is God, Amen

  • @amandataffinder6580
    @amandataffinder6580 3 года назад

    ❤️

  • @cherylweis1819
    @cherylweis1819 3 года назад +2

    Wow. Is. He the eptnaamy of. A. Man

  • @sixtying
    @sixtying 3 года назад

    Gave the Book 8 Dates to my boyfriend… he said , scratching his head, This seems like it’s for people who have already been together for some time, not new relationships. This isn’t for me. Bingo! Not for him. He’s in the divorce tunnel and I chose to break my boundaries for him. We had fun however, now he’s in chaos and I’m out looking again.

  • @melgreen5927
    @melgreen5927 3 года назад

    I love watching you. Can you please stop emphasizing the SO in your opening statements. Its so cheesy and makes it less authentic. It sounds like you are putting on a show. Dont hate me. I have to say it.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  3 года назад

      What do you mean by SO?

    • @jodic7916
      @jodic7916 3 года назад

      @@JonathonAslay You open by saying you're "SO" excited to be sharing with us ... and your "SO" is emphasized/exaggerated. I hear it as enthusiastic.

    • @melgreen5927
      @melgreen5927 3 года назад

      @@JonathonAslay you raise your arms up and say your SO happy to be here or something like that. It reminds me of miss Julie and romper room. I love your videos but that part is cheeseball. The swearing is fine. I love the F BOMB myself. Thanks for listening

    • @veronicasmith1460
      @veronicasmith1460 3 года назад +5

      Jeez…leave him alone. He is being authentic and enthusiastic. It is his video. Critical much?