You're Not Experiencing a Midlife Crisis, It's Actually THIS!
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- Опубликовано: 14 май 2022
- In today's video, I will share why midlife hurts so much? This is an immense time of grieving and for many it becomes a crisis because they refuse to do the grieving work necessary!
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At the end of the day, tell yourself gently: ‘I love you, you did the best you could today, and even if you didn’t accomplish all you had planned, I love you anyway.”
Death is the most sobering contemplation. When we are young it feels very far away.
I’m in the middle of all this and don’t know how to approach it. I’m always seeking a distraction. It’s constant work everywhere I turn…. I feel like I’m missing out in life because of constant work and kids and groceries and cooking and running kids to school etc… I feel trapped in a prison that I built around myself. The American dream they say? I have it all… but I’m dead inside
You've got to be reborn! John Chapter 3.
@woofbark4475 oh please. Sky daddy will fix everything? Sky daddy says "love me or suffer for eternity" No thanks. Christians are about conforming to the authority of a made up God. And they just so happen to have a hotline to the almighty. Just trust them to give you the "truth" about what "God" wants.😅
My x-husband went through a mid-life crisis 6 years ago. He had terrible childhood trauma from an abusive father and grew up in an urban war zone. He had ptsd, depression, etc. Rather than facing his past he burned our family to the ground. Three months after the divorce he told me he didn’t know what happened to him. That he turned into a monster and he was going to go fix himself. Then he disappeared. I’ve recovered and wish him nothing but joy and peace. But our adult children still struggle with his abandonment of our family and the destruction he caused.
That’s so heartbreaking and that’s why I did this video because I don’t think we are being told the truth. The reality is we are going through a childhood grieving process and I think people need to know that because families get destroyed when we experience the breaking loose of all of that childhood pain
You are on track! You described exactly what people in this need to do to move through the stages. There's 8 total
You are my new favorite channel! Omg I am obsessed. Everything you say hits me to my core. I found you because of childhood emotional neglect videos but I'm staying because of your honesty and perfect timing!
Thank you very much I’m glad it’s resonating with you and hopefully helping you
It’s sucks being 50 and single with a line of narcissists in my wake! Feels unfair, I was abused as a kid and I kept abusing myself since…I’m making peace with this because I’m sick of projecting onto narcs! I’m free and by golly I’m gonna become an artist and choose joy, even if it kills me in the process😭🤣🙃
I wish I couldn’t relate. How do we get out of the abuse cycle when we’re single and end up continuing it with ourselves. I don’t want to, it seems almost automatic or something.
My husband is going through this phase now. i tried to tell him but of course he denied it. He kept telling me he wants to break free from our marriage. I wish i could send this video to him so he can open his eyes
Just stop pushing him and give him air to breath.
Truth and responsibility are the omnipresent embers. YES. 🙌
I'm acknowledging my "grief" at almost 46! It's tough and it sucks! I'm thankful for having the ability to self-reflect/heal, while I walk away from people not able to self-reflect/heal.
This is the first video I've seen of yours and I'm a fan! I'm 44 and going through the depression phase. Life feels meaningless. We work for 50 years then die. That's how I've been feeling anyway. I've been trying to face my childhood trauma by using the letting go technique but I keep getting resistance. I just can't feel. I've considered death but would never actually do it. I just don't feel like I matter and that I wasted my younger years. Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful for my wonderful wife and children but I can't be my authentic self until I am able to let this trauma go but I just can't get the emotions to come out. You hit on some things that I relate to. I hide behind pot and other substances. You are right, I am numbing myself. I am going to keep mediating and working letting go so I can reach acceptance.
For the first 10 minutes or so you had me laughing so hard, then I thought, " he sounds like Jordan Peterson" . Immediately afterward you mentioned Jordan Peterson. I'm 50, and at that 4th stage. It's hard, damn hard. I've always known and believed in personal responsibility. I'm the star of my show and everything that has happened in my adult life is my responsibility. I let the people who used me into my life. I opened the door to the liars and cheaters. They may have done the deeds, but it was my door. My ignorance. My responsibility. Now it's me fighting myself, my thoughts, habits, etc. It's exhausting but if I'm not careful, I'll hit autopilot and fall back into old patterns I haven't fully shed. Absolutely great video!!! Thank you!
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability and your kind words
This video left me in tears. I’ve rarely ever been depressed, These last 3 years have been Hell. Failed relationships, after relationships. I woke up this morning and actually started evaluating those relationships, all lesbian relationships. I said to myself , they were all broken women. I watched this video, and it made me realize, I’m broken too. My mother dropped me off to my grandfather when I was a few months old, showed back up at his doorstep years later demanding me back. Long story short, all my life my mother was dropping me off somewhere. I think it’s abandonment issues. All my girlfriends had the same issues !! once I starting thinking. We where all abandoned by our fathers, and some where our mothers. I was so upset with all of them for leaving me. I wasn’t perfect, I can’t say I was bad either. They all left, better than they came. My ex told me “ That I was a soft place to Land” Now I realized, I helped them get through their Pain, and never addressed my own Pain. This was a great video. Thank you. Acceptance!
What a beautiful awakening. And you’re exactly right.
You got taught to be everyone else’s soft place to land at the expense of your own heart and soul. Now that you are aware you have a choice.
Do you want to continue in that role or do you want to live in your authentic self?
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OMG you nailed it! I don’t know how you know me so well. I have no idea how to break free from the bonds that have held me for so long. I know that these chains hold me and yet only I hold the key. Is it too late at 56? I wonder if it is”worth it” at this stage? life seems so complicated and I really thought I would have it figured out by now. Thanks so much for your insight!
Its never too late. Its a choice! It takes more effort to keep putting it off.
If you’re ready to start i would suggest my book
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@@kennyweiss reading on kindle
I have also looked at your website. I feel like I need to do something to gain the freedom from myself.
I agree with you. I had lower back pain since early 20's. I underwent surgery two months ago. I am better now. And 40 year old. No real goals in life achieved.
I was in complete denial
I wasn't even able to recall any memories!
Constantly runing away, ignoring the signs... bad decisions, repeated deceptions, rage, insecurities, instable career, poor relationships, no social life... etc
I knew something was wrong, but I couldn't name it.
One day I started having flashbacks of all the bad moments that I never remembered or paid attention to.
Mostly my childhood...
I pushed through life so hard, I refused to be a victim to my circumstances, I told myself "that family chaos will never dictate my future"
Seems like there's no way out except to face it, to face me!... Myself
With knowledge comes responsibility
Such passion and truth, I will look into your book. With beautifully timed execution
Your channel is deff underrated. I've been searching c e n videos for yrs and never seen yours come up until today!
Yeah it’s a weird thing. It’s all pure luck if the algorithm picks you up and promotes you to other people? There’s really nothing we can do about it.
I just focus on what I can control. Putting out information that I think can be helpful and if it’s meant to be, people will find it😁
Thank you for your passion and this call to action!
My boss does not suffer his life is perfect, his wife cooks, cleans, he runs a business that he loves, has 3 children, they play piano, they have a dog, go on holidays, have healthy family, nothing toxic.. my story? Complete the opposite and having to deal with everything myself. For me it's a crisis. I am 44 and not knowing anymore where to go and what to do. Experiencing health issues, not owning a house, no children, no close friends and eldering parents. Constant stress
I take responsabilty for everything and I am tired of it. Tired of fighting of struggling. So what is the solution? If I put myself on a dating site I get ghosted. I even do not reach to the point I get a coffee.. my life is a vicious circle and I do not know how to get out. I feel trapped.
Any suggestions? Be my guest.
Omg! This is so right on! Thank you!! 😢
One of your best videos. Been doing all the shadow work. . Definitely the midlife grief process, Kenny! . . . ❤
Wow! Mr Weiss - This is incredibly powerful information. Thank you so very much for laying it out.
Glad it was helpful!
New here, and turning 41 this year. I have never... and I mean never cried so much in. my. life. The upclimb to 40 has been painfully humorous, really that last decade 30 to 40 almost took me out, now that I'm here I feel like a deflated balloon...pssssssssssssssst the air is slowly letting out and I can't stop it. I am exhausted. I am confused. And I am dmn scared. This is no joke.
Self-deception good one. I am in the middle of my midlife crisis and believe me it is the realization of the fact that we are all delusional we all practice self-deception and that thought the realization of that thought has left me feeling panicky. The question what is real? Or rather the knowledge that nothing is real and it's all made up is very disheartening. It's true though. Also my own mortality has become an issue for the very first time in my life. It's very frightening experience.
A midlife is a phase of life; one goes through it to experience pain, learn the lessons of life, mature, gain wisdom and finding one's purpose. Crisis and grieving are parts of this journey one needs to go through to become whole again, to be able to heal and transform.
My husband is going though this and we’re are currently separated. He wanted to separate, married 23 years. I’m devastated. I’m trying to be patient but this is very hard to deal with because I really don’t know what the outcome is going to be.
Thanks for a great video
22 years with my husband. 18 years married. He is 40 I am 51 2 kids together. 19 year old daughter 10 year old son. I have son 33 from before marriage. I had spiritual awakening in 2020 waited on him. Nope so starting looking why? I didn’t realize he was till 6 months ago. I told him what was happening but I’m crazy. I realize my dad is one too. My mom did everything for him as I did for my husband. 21 years they divorced my mom was heartbroken. I hurt but I gave the truth he just acts like nothing wrong with him. Yep he thinks if it doesn’t bother him then it doesn’t matter. I see that is a problem. Empath I am I feel deeply to kindhearted. I know I have problems but willing to see and deal with them. I’m lost with him we have argued more in the past year and half than in 22 years. Thank you learning ❤
Yes. Loved this talk ty!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Its a mid life awakening! Great Video and look forward to watching more Kenny-
This one hit hard.
I got overwhelmed 7 minutes in. Subbed and got your book. Diving back in. I love this.
I'm sad to hear you got overwhelmed, but I'm even happier to hear you didn't let that deter you from your healing journey :)
@@kennyweiss I've been repressing for 50 years. Emotions always overwhelm me. Thank you.
Great quote
Thank you Kenny for sharing this with us, it takes the courage to do so. I am in the middle of my own process of dealing with this, I hope I have the courage to face my responsibilities. Btw, I took a step to make a change while watching your video.
Great input. ❤
Glad it was helpful!
Beautiful video
I felt like I was imploding in slow motion before I watched this video. My mind is quieter because I've learned something about myself.
Truth and responsibility
Deep Stuff !!!!
This teaching is 100% on point! Thank you so much for sharing this valuable life lesson. I only wish they would Teach this in middle and high school, if we can learn these valuable principles Young before getting married, I believe our lives would have a much better happier outcome!❤💯❤️💯
Dam, this is good!
My wife left me she is not happy not even with her new partner she is getting treated like shit she cry everyday she try coming back home and she said is something pulling her back she said she don't know who she is can you help me
I never understood super sucessful people who have millions and still constantly work and don't enjoy it. They always say "when I get this or when I get there" but if you honesty sit back and think about your absolute end goal, then what? when you live in a mansion and have millions in the bank, have a spouse and kids, and are sitting back enjoying your pool, then what? If you want "the end goal" that's death. It's hard to explain, but you are 10000000 percent right, and I love the fire analogy
"Yes human, Son of Nothing, puppet of genes and masked clown of Life, with your many masks of thy vain dream of an ego-self, you too have an expiration date." I learned this with my first NDE, surprised this rarely is a truth anyone can accept until reality is hurled right in their face, MAYBE.
Well at least I know I'm on the last stage. Come to think about it 2 years ago I was in the denial stage now that I look back. Boy am I in a different reality now though compared to that 2 years ago. Today grief certainly fits well as I realize I could have done so much better with my life and I can never get any of that time back and that it is too late for a lot of things. Yes people like to say it's never too late but that's false. So there is letting go required. I guess I'm not there yet though.
Read “extreme ownership “
Lol I have no friends because I keep telling them freedom only exist within truth and responsibility and respect. Not going to find happiness peace or joy without those if you do you it’s fake. To solve problems find the common denominator. The common denominator in our lives is us. Not that other influences aren’t causing issues but until emotionally and spiritually healthy. 3 parts to life. Mind body and soul. The Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. The ruler of this world is a theif and a liar and uses suffering to create trauma and then get us to numb and blind the truth the light the love. This was nice breakdown sir, thank you
Wow. Je me vois maintenant. Et je veux me pardonner. Tes vidéos sont excellentes.
we need God more than we know, may Allah guides all.
So true 😢😅
Just laying around? In the sun? Wow, that doesn't sound bad at all
Sad to say My adulthood didn't form until 30 not 25.
THIS is a Mid Life Crisis! Every other "coach" on youtube is talking about a mid life transition. They are NOT the same!
Great content as always but there's just too much shouting and it's a bit painful to hear. 😢
I'm 54 and I listened to this guy and I can't see how he can say what he's saying I know every one has struggles but this guy is bableing a d just talking shit everybody isn't in that same situation so I can't really understand what he's talking about hell I'm happy and I'm not hiding be hind anything I do what I do because I like doing it what the real problem is is when you start worrying about what others think of you if your worried about what oysters think.of you your already in trouble I'm gonna be me rather what others think.of me I am who I am and I don't have to change who.i am because of someone else thinks I should be more like them..that's crazy why don't they be more like me huh you see what I mean maybe I don't want to be like them hell that someone might be a killer or a rapist why would i want to be like them i like who i am am a rapist
Your awesome sir ! Great talk fabulous taste as well purple is so regal anyways you made a subscriber !
I've watched this video 4 times. I can relate to your (Kenny) life soon much. Thank you so much Kenny for sharing your life experiences and knowledge . I am learning so much from your channel and website. More than I've learned from other channels. She is no longer my god. YOU are my new god. Lol JK