They’re not comfortable in their own skin because they can never be single. Even if it’s just a person to be around and watch tv with they NEED other energy around them
I noticed after the lock downs people started showing their true colors. Like they couldn't hold the mask anymore. The demons were let loose. Now it seems like they are everywhere.
💯 These individuals will not change , they only care about themselves. They will just wear different mask for the different supplies they have. They are entitled and arrogant...
Be careful not to tell them your plans on how you are going to do that. They will manipulate you to stay by putting some sort of fear in you of how it can’t work out for you and that you should stay and be dependent on them.
i always thought I was the only narcissist in the world, I realize now I am the only empathic narcissist. It was a great learning experience and although I could do brutal revenge, I think it is best to just move on.
It's mindboggling how much we did to "help" the narcissist to screw us over. Thank God you lifted the vail from my eyes after "only" two years of fumbling in the trauma realm. Bless your soul Andrew 😍
They are who they are😉It’s their life, their choice and their own responsibility. Not ours, we supported them in the thought we could help them but the only response was a negative one without respect. So wish them luck and goodby. Close every channel for communication and find peace and happiness again😊
When I recall the moments over the years, that he totally broke my spirit, and I started crying from the toxicity...No compassion. He would either stand over me watching me or tell me to stop my stupid crying. On the other hand, if I were to see someone break down and begin crying, my first thought would be to hold them, hug them, comfort them and just love them. I used to think in the first few years, he would change. After years in and stuck from having to quit my job and be reliant on him financially, I realized to never expect any type of compassion or empathy from him. Narcissists only get worse as they age!
They have no genuine empathy!!!! They've learned to mimic emotions but they are great "pretenders". I'm so sorry that you had to put up with such behaviour too! Especially when you need a shoulder to cry on. They don't care....that's the bottom line. I experienced the same treatment for over three decades of married life......I've been post-relationship for over a year now and although I'm still healing and picking up the pieces of my broken life, I don't have to look over my shoulder anymore to see what humour they are going to be in? There's peace now. We are all better off now, listening to Andrew, gaining wisdom and doing our best every day to rebuild our lives. I wish you every blessing on your healing journey and a wonderful life! 🙏🩷🌸🌸🌸
@@angelacahill9083 I've been with the narcissist since early 20s, so I've had well over 30 years too. God bless you for breaking free and living your best life! ❤️🌻✨️
Sherry, I'm so sorry that you went that awful, abusive stuff. How can these people be so cold and cruel. They can do it because they hate themselves the most. I'm so glad you are in a better place today. ❤
It's an alarming realization that I was fooled by this. I was completely in love with my husband. He's an illusion. He jumped directly to the secretary from his work yet still legally married to me. What a mess
I've taken my narcissist to court so he WILL be accountable. I'll bet he's shaking in his boots as I write this. He and his legal counsel have done virtually NOTHING in defense of his criminal actions. The silent treatment won't go very long in a court of law. BUSTED, BABY!
“In a stable healthy relationship that’s not what happens. What happens is you’re there for each other, supporting each other, building, creating, growing, dreaming, looking towards the future.” How could anyone in their right mind not want what’s been listed above?! That’s literally the end all, be all goal. To find someone to share the rest of your life with. It’s an incredible shame the narcissist takes all of it for granted because they don’t care. It’s not fair to their unsuspecting partner who is led on all while the narcissist slowly chips away at the relationship because they have to ruin everything for everyone because of how selfish and miserable they are.
Yes and Yes! The narcissist proclaims to be a brilliant parent when the empath does most of the parenting and is criticized and devalued for doing a poor job. Child protection agencies don’t see the manipulation that happens behind closed doors. The narcissist just puts on another of his euphoric phase masks when the spectators are there to watch. Truth be told, the narcissist couldn’t care less about the child or children. But they are convenient servants in the looking good family game or abused to pitty the covert narcissist when they were left or divorced.
The "TINY MIND" of the narcissist has to be the most horrific place to exist in. Is a flat movie set made of walls with nothing behind it. Empty of compassion, joy, kindness and love. The thirst for power and control drives their constant search for more people to victimize. Time passing only makes them more desperate as their skills sharpen but their looks take a toll with time. Waiting for them to change could be a life sentence of abuse and despair. Grateful to have my freedom and the wisdom and understanding to never again give any of my time or energy away. NAMASTE ♥
👏👏👏 Well explained. I actually felt sorry for mine. But I suppose that’s a product from the trauma bond. Still need to work on that psychological conundrum!
@@freebird968-wg4ye I felt and currently feel sorry as well. I don't think is anything else but my loving nature and the actual deep awareness of how pathetic and sad their lives really are. Some may not understand but at the end, the sense of alienation these people must feel is something that is concerning as a member of the "Human Race". We must eventually transcend our personal view and see the damage done to society at large. May you have joy, peace and strength to continue in this lifetime of learning. Hugs!♥
@@lourdesecheverria6209 Thank you. The first two years after getting out were soooo painful and confusing. How can you still feel for someone but live with fear and constant ruminations about the abuse plus remembering how ‘doting’ they seemed at other times (even sometimes together alone) and in front of other people. I found out this was cognitive dissonance where the brain is trying to make sense of things but it can’t because the good and bad events were so ‘opposite’. Sam Vaknin (self actualised narcissist) says not to waste any empathy on them. It is totally misplaced. They can even look down on you for being like this and get gratification for you being ‘less than’. But we can’t help how we are. The damage done to society - yes I too worry about the world. The behaviour of world leaders setting a precedent so that the masses think ‘ Well if they can behave like that I will’. I’ll get what I want regardless of anyone else. I’ll insult people and not care. The old values of respect and civility. Can we ever get back to that? I worry about a future rise in narcissism. So many children trying to interact with parents who are on their devices. (It’s our way of life now, all of us, but it takes up so much time.) When no eye contact is given and ‘in a minute’ responses this may lead to feeling neglected, not good enough, leading to limiting beliefs as adults. But ….will they become narcissistic or empaths? Sorry it’s turned into an essay! Joy, peace and strength to you too. Onwards and upwards up that mountain! ❤
@@freebird968-wg4ye OMG! Love your essay (smiling) and I must meditate on some of these things you have pointed out! (I have watched many of Sam Vaknin videos as well) Will reply at length soon! Thank you and ....Yes! ONWARDS & UPWARDS that mountain! Hugs! ❤
I am currently physically here packing up and leaving a narcissistic relationship. Your words are helping me to stay strong during this mess. Thanks for your dedication to this topic :)
They are the biggest cowards too, they don't even care about the sexual filth they talk to you about!... best left in the hole they crawled out of. The one I was with would sometimes dress like a teenager... he was in his 60's 😂😂😂
We choose to become better and grow and learn new things and be healthy. Not so for the abuser but seeks to become a better abuser. Walk away and let them destroy themselves.
We see a homeless person. Me. " But for the grace of God there go I " My narcissist yells out the window. " Get a job loser " This situation is burned into my mind and soul like an acid. They are just horrible people
@@all.about.narcissism. I agree. This is a wife that will soon enough be the ex. Many things happened that showed me the true ugliness but that one story sticks out. I'm am not no contact yet due to finances but my mind, heart and spirit are forever detached from them. Thanks for the advice
I am so ashamed to admit this, but when I was frantic to gain approval from my n-mom, I would nod in agreement when she put people down (i.e., "that shirt looks awful on him")... imagine being so starved for love that you joined them in their putdowns... now I have repented and moved forward, but I hate that I was caught up in all the ugliness for breadcrumbs. I'm older now and kinder and my goal in life is to not only leave the ugliness behind but to be more mindful of living by the golden rule... and you're right, Andrew, this path is not linear no matter how much knowledge you've gained.
I did the same thing cuz I wanted my narc mother’s approval so much…it makes me sick. I’m a kind loving person who would never hurt anyone and would help anyone! I’m so grateful for you Andrew and your channel. It opened my eyes and took me out of the fog ❤❤❤
I had no idea why many things were taking place and all I could do was be considerate of his state of mind .... Then I learned he was a covert narcissist once I was out and I began to do research to understand the behavior. It began with the enormous lack of empathy. That led to the rest of the behaviors. Manipulation, disrespect, blaming everything else, never accepting fault, etc. No closure, of course. Very painful recovery but your channel, Andrew, is a god send. Thank you. So true... Not comfortable in his own skin. 🎯
I love what you say about the narc not making this a better planet. I often said that to my narc, he did not have the capability to think of others beyond his nose. They are so much into themselves that they can't think they might be here to make the world better.
It’s my mum and the further I get from her - the clearer she becomes. She’s cruel and cunning. It’s horrible to see and to then see more fully as you heal.
I have been no contact with my mother for many years now. At first, I thought I was wrong for separating myself from her, but now I see that it was the best thing I did. It isn't that I can't have a relationship with her, it's that she can't have a relationship with me.
There are important coping mechanisms that the narcisssist formed during childhood development that explain why the narcissist will NOT change. Andrew is correct - the narcissist will NOT change.
They don’t change. I went back several times. He told me what I wanted to hear to get back to me. And each time it got worse. Leave and don’t look back.
Hi Andrew. I love your energy & the wisdom & knowledge❤Narcisstic ppl are so lazy & toxic. They are individuals that never think for themselves, their behavior don't match their words. They capitalize on their lies & just keep rotating the cycle.
It is especially heinous when they cant keep their LIES straight and you confront them about it. I thought you said ( insert original lie ), now you're say ( insert newest lie ). 🙄
I am at the point I don't want to think about him anymore. I feel that hearing about it all the time just feeds his memory and reactivates the distress I experienced. I am ready to move forward and heal. Thank you Andrew for all your work and being there to teach us ad let us know we are not alone.
I happened to see the narcissist years later by accident and he is the same that he always has been. No changes, no enlightenment over the years. 💯 So true what you said, Andrew! Thank you! Namaste. 🙏 ❤️
Hi Andrew and everyone. Narcissists are EVERYWHERE! You can't see them bcse they hide behind a mask. They pass you in the Supermarket, in the Malls, and everywhere else you go. Always looking for some empath to ruin. The best thing i do for myself, for protection, is ignore them. Look straight ahead and keep walking. They will never change. This is a terrific topic Andrew. ❤❤
@@rubyjet9513Ruby, I CAN feel them, but I just keep away. I keep walking away. I got to a point where I can pick them out. You are so right. You can also "feel" them. You are a BEAUTIFUL person and you have insight, just like I do. 👍🌺
Right on, Andrew, down to the commas and periods. I was figuring a lot of this out as the days passed and the behaviors got worse. When I brought up "consequences" the "English Major" big brother gave me a blank stare as if the word didn't exist in the dictionary. Same reaction with "responsibility". I wonder which pretty girl he bribed to take his college exams for him! At 77 years old he has perfected his real degree: "narcissism". I wish I had heard your wisdom years ago! Thank you for being here for others. This is an essential education for everyone facing life with a narc abuser.. God bless you!
I’ve noticed that when I get healthier, I start to “want” things. Now… to overcome my fear of dating.. this takes trust of my own judgment & trusting that I won’t fall into another NPD relationship. I want to trust myself again.😊
@@flowerpower4944 I agree! It’s been 5 years for me. I will never know if I’m ready unless I try, it’s all one big test. I also think it’s about truly knowing that it wasn’t my fault. We’re all a work in progress, I’m happy to have found such great insight & support here
36 years in, I know this to be true. His ugliness in attitude precedes him everywhere he goes tho. Hopefully alot of people in this world become educated about these ,....are they humans without souls??,....before another generation of pain commences. ❤ Thanks, Andrew for continuing to tell the truths!
All the lies, he thought I was stupid but I knew better…. I just had to wait until the time and opportunity was right before I could leave! God helped me escape 🙏❤️🙌🥰
@@doloresmikolajewski7640 that’s awesome. God helped me through it all I believe even in the packing of what to pack and what to leave behind! I’m so grateful and so happy for you too. God Bless you and be strong 💪 💕🙏🙌❤️
My takeaway as you have pointed out: Conclusions are clearer over a time period. Easy to flash a mask persona over a shorter period, or outside a relationship, but YOU see the pattern over a longer period of time. Partly why it's impossible to explain to others- they can't see all the incidences over the time that you've experienced , some too subtle to describe, but no less draining and injurious to the spirit. That "they get worse over time" seals the deal for me ( I've witnessed that ). Thanks Andrew! 👍🙏
I'm just so glad that I am safe now and away from the narcissist like I have this piece of mind now..I mean it's unbelievable. I just feel sorry for the people that don't know. The don't knows.
💯 ❤🙌💪 great message Andrew. And while the narcissists are fine tuning and mastering their skills of manipulation, I think I’ll just use all that time that is NO LONGER going to them and fill my life with positive uplifting and educational things and do what I’m called to do (which certainly is NOT their calling 😉). Love this message ❤❤❤
Every word and sentence is SO accurate and succinct. It’s good to know it wasn’t just me experiencing such poor behaviour. Stay strong people and rise up and take control of yourself. We’ve got this 🙏🌺
Thank you, Andrew, for continuing to educate and confirm for me every day the experiences of my lifetime. I recently ended a relationship with my therapist because she would not and/or could not acknowledge to me that there is such a thing as narcissism and narcissistic abuse. I think that may be because she herself is a narcissist. Beware... Namaste. 💕
You make sense of the senseless! Everything you said is spot on! Thank you for what you do! I have been no contact for 2 years now. My health has taken a turn for the worse. I almost thought about contracting them. I would rather die alone than be abused by them again! You are wonderful Andrew! Keep talking!
As I've experienced a narcissist is invincible. The covert one three years ago, my mother, my new boss that demoted me and the landlords. Yes, it's a battle against several narcissistic mights... Even the sister of that mom texted me, although I've blocked and deleted her since a long time 😖
Andrew, as you know or maybe not , I have terminal cancer. I'm not getting better. Thank you for all you have done and taught me. God bless all on this channel. Love, Dina
Alot of things start with honesty and conviction too at least in my case. Thats a big part of changing for the better. I have to discipline myself snd set up healthy boundaries thats huge
Cyclic sewer suckers... sad butt tru 😢 these needs 2 B taught 2 every1 NOW! Keep spreading the word. Thank U Andrew I'm most gr8ful. 2 all n this mix learn asap, NOW as much as U can as much as u can it's paramount. Thank U all 4 sharing n caring. Godspeed Godbless Shilom Nomesde 1 🌎 1 ❤️ ♾️ on high
I kept thinking maybe he will mature, see the damage he has created, etc. No!!! It did get worse, and he did all of the things you all are telling us about. The main message I have been getting from all of these videos from you to Dr. Phil, is - - - RUN!!! Not one of you has suggested to stick it out, wait, try to understand. It's difficult, heartbreaking, but we have to run, we have to survive. THANK YOU!!!
My ex walked out on me shortly after I started having seizures from the stress that the relationship caused I've lost over 35 lbs almost a year after break up of only being together a year and 5 months no contact I'm still very sick. I also live with a family member who shares the same issues as my ex and I am now in the process of trying to move because the family member will not allow me to fully recover. I am completely exhausted and scared to death of most people now. Videos are all I have for support outside of therapy.
You're so right on target, Andrew!! You're describing my ex-boyfriend exactly!! I thought if I just tried harder to please him then he would want me for me. Wrong!! I hope everyone out there have a joyful, blessed day. Thank you, Andrew. Thank you for sending out love to the world. You are loved! ❤
WAS..IS..AND WILL BE is a very important thing to consider, nice video Andrew. Was, was the charming woman in her late 20's whose childhood trauma resonated with me, because I had a broken family too. But instead of being surrounded by love as I was, she was surrounded by toxicity. That meant we became quite different people as we grew up. Even though she love bombed me and said she totally got my story, she must have thought she hit the jackpot because I was malleable, compliant supply. Is, is the children's mother, 20 years later. Manipulative, cunning, crafty, and always the victim, onto her 5th or 6th new supply since me, since the discard 4 years ago. I know exactly who and what she is. I don't want to have anything to do with her, and I communicate with our children directly. Will be, will be an aging, sad and pathetic victim, who will demand compliance from our children, while acting, behaving and dressing like she's 20-30 years younger than she actually is, in order to remain relevant. My job is to build the children's self-esteem, resilience and character with love and goodness, counter parenting against the social thinning, manipulation and parental alienation tactics she has been employing.
Great video Andrew . Everything you said is true. My ex narcissist is a user , a parasite he is evil. The one thing he enjoyed more than anything else is hurting me. He will never change and he is like a big child throwing a tantrum if he doesn't get his way. Im finally free of him and i really don't want anything more from him. Nothing, in the end he will get what's coming to him it's inevitable. Now i am working on improving myself and learning to never make that mistake again. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words.
This is what I was looking for, at last I can put into words if only to myself. Now I see his moves and, and am making sense of things. At the moment I am being breadcrumb, just trying to work out what he’s guilty of or what he trying to get away with. I will never not see any sort of apology of closure.
Thank you for the vlog, Andrew. I continue to learn and understand. Though I have been no contact and am out of all narc situations- your vlog continues to be a source of needed reminders, inspiration and compassion. I can attest that, from past experience, the narc does not change, only increases their toxic, inappropriate behaviors (sometimes, in the case of the very aging narc, to the point of ridiculousness). Wishing all the best to Andrew and community. Namaste
Thanks, Andrew. I'm been watching the last 4 months. It's has been a lifeline. I'm doing great now. After walking out of that 4 1/2 year of confusion. I was a great supply 😂 , he never gets to speak to me again. Not in my life or not in his. I know he will hate this for the rest of his. Haha. I win !! Thank you again, Andrew. I love those looks you give at the first of the video 😊
ANDREW jeg ved godt hvad de gør, jeg har ikke løst til at komme i tågen igen, men jeg ved en ting du er en fantastisk person og dinne fantastiske programmer de er super så ha en vidunderlig dag ❤️😊👍👍
It's only been this year that I finally got the wisdom. All those years of wondering and questioning, and self-blaming. The enlightenment has changed me.
@@rubyjet9513 We were trapped. And part of the nastiness of narcissists is that they want us to feel like the bad one. Being empaths, it's our nature to question ourselves.
Hi Andrew! It’s always so nice to watch your videos. I remember how much you helped me before in my toughest time. I’ve been working on myself over the past few years now but still healing. What the narcissist left behind was something so ferocious that your video like this really helps to remind myself of how lucky I am now to have a wonderful life without him. Thank you so much! 🙏
I’ve been away from my ex Narc that had discarded me right after losing my dear sweet mom. He started reaching out asking how I’m doing and being nice. I wld answer bck but short reply, it started getting a regular text every couple of days sometimes in a row, and then a month ago today, I left his message un read. I felt I shldve done it earlier, I shldnt have ever answered his 1st message after ghosting in the 1st place. After I didn’t answer him, he sent his last message the next day that read, “All Good” that was a month ago. Nothing else from him! I’m working on myself and can’t see ever wanting to be in another relationship. My heart is still broken but im feeling healthier everyday. Good luck to you all. Thank you Andrew💛
The day I realise I am in that narcissistic relationship I just switch to no contact and seeing how the things will change, it's becoming more and more pathetic with each passing day as she just becomes no more than a Stranger as she is doing everything that I never expected she will do... Becoming worse and hell worse day by day.
They’re not comfortable in their own skin because they can never be single. Even if it’s just a person to be around and watch tv with they NEED other energy around them
Narcissists are behind every tree. And under every rock. They are everywhere! Thank you Andrew!!
Welcome 😌💯🌳
So true and it’s scary, I’ve cut out all but 4 people for my safety. The thought of meeting new people is horrific there’s so many,
I wish I could hit the like button more than once
I noticed after the lock downs people started showing their true colors. Like they couldn't hold the mask anymore. The demons were let loose. Now it seems like they are everywhere.
20% of the population.
Narcissistic people don’t change 😞they just change their tactics 👎🏼
Absolutely agree. However when you DON'T react but respond ( if necessary ) , narc gets confused and may attempt yet another tactic towards you. 🙄
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Some narcs seem like the sweetest, most charming, charismatic person you ever met! Many people get duped by a pretty face acting like a living doll!
Yep. I thought my narc was a gift from heaven. Man, was I wrong.
@@artluvr6170 We live and learn. Very painful lessons🥲
The narcissist was a faker and taker, are a faker and taker, and will be a faker and taker.
best reply / response to a narcissist's drama making I ever heard:
"just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand"
lmao
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past and present and forever amen.
Amen!
Recently my mother cried on the phone & told me that all she has done her "entire life is take, take, take." I was *stunned*. She is 87.
Anyone else say it out loud with him, "Think about that a minute."
💯 These individuals will not change , they only care about themselves. They will just wear different mask for the different supplies they have.
They are entitled and arrogant...
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Andrew, I am so glad that I found your channel and I’m realizing I was in an abusive relationship by a narcissist and I am walking out
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Go, Arelisas!🎉💪🏻
Be careful not to tell them your plans on how you are going to do that. They will manipulate you to stay by putting some sort of fear in you of how it can’t work out for you and that you should stay and be dependent on them.
i always thought I was the only narcissist in the world, I realize now I am the only empathic narcissist. It was a great learning experience and although I could do brutal revenge, I think it is best to just move on.
same too me
He made my blind mother cry ...that I don't forgive
It's mindboggling how much we did to "help" the narcissist to screw us over.
Thank God you lifted the vail from my eyes after "only" two years of fumbling in the trauma realm. Bless your soul Andrew 😍
I know! I look back and think of all the ways I actually fed their manipulative game. Never again!
On July 9, 2023 it was 20 years since I walked out to save myself. Stay safely blessed everyone!
I’m so glad I found your channel. I was in that relationship for 20 years! I escaped.
Wishing you a happier life.
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Same here.
Me 23 years still waiting to leave . need house to sell!
Same here 27 years 😉moving forward
They are who they are😉It’s their life, their choice and their own responsibility. Not ours, we supported them in the thought we could help them but the only response was a negative one without respect. So wish them luck and goodby. Close every channel for communication and find peace and happiness again😊
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Im convinced that total isolation is the only way to avoid them because they're everywhere.
When I recall the moments over the years, that he totally broke my spirit, and I started crying from the toxicity...No compassion. He would either stand over me watching me or tell me to stop my stupid crying. On the other hand, if I were to see someone break down and begin crying, my first thought would be to hold them, hug them, comfort them and just love them. I used to think in the first few years, he would change. After years in and stuck from having to quit my job and be reliant on him financially, I realized to never expect any type of compassion or empathy from him. Narcissists only get worse as they age!
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They have no genuine empathy!!!! They've learned to mimic emotions but they are great "pretenders". I'm so sorry that you had to put up with such behaviour too! Especially when you need a shoulder to cry on. They don't care....that's the bottom line. I experienced the same treatment for over three decades of married life......I've been post-relationship for over a year now and although I'm still healing and picking up the pieces of my broken life, I don't have to look over my shoulder anymore to see what humour they are going to be in? There's peace now. We are all better off now, listening to Andrew, gaining wisdom and doing our best every day to rebuild our lives. I wish you every blessing on your healing journey and a wonderful life! 🙏🩷🌸🌸🌸
@@angelacahill9083 I've been with the narcissist since early 20s, so I've had well over 30 years too. God bless you for breaking free and living your best life!
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@@emilykathleenn yes, black 🖤'd for sure!
Sherry, I'm so sorry that you went that awful, abusive stuff. How can these people be so cold and cruel. They can do it because they hate themselves the most. I'm so glad you are in a better place today. ❤
It's an alarming realization that I was fooled by this. I was completely in love with my husband. He's an illusion. He jumped directly to the secretary from his work yet still legally married to me. What a mess
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Damn. That was a good one! The narcissists will forever be petulant children.
Mmmmm……toys and prams come to mind!
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Wow Andrew . . . . 🎯🎯🎯🎯⛳ Nailed it , Hole in one 🤯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Narcissists are the best to be avoided and bitter lesson of life, unfortunatelly not avoided on time.
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I've taken my narcissist to court so he WILL be accountable. I'll bet he's shaking in his boots as I write this. He and his legal counsel have done virtually NOTHING in defense of his criminal actions. The silent treatment won't go very long in a court of law. BUSTED, BABY!
“In a stable healthy relationship that’s not what happens. What happens is you’re there for each other, supporting each other, building, creating, growing, dreaming, looking towards the future.”
How could anyone in their right mind not want what’s been listed above?! That’s literally the end all, be all goal. To find someone to share the rest of your life with. It’s an incredible shame the narcissist takes all of it for granted because they don’t care. It’s not fair to their unsuspecting partner who is led on all while the narcissist slowly chips away at the relationship because they have to ruin everything for everyone because of how selfish and miserable they are.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 💯💯 These people ruin relationships, it’s a sad shame.
I agree!
Yes and Yes! The narcissist proclaims to be a brilliant parent when the empath does most of the parenting and is criticized and devalued for doing a poor job.
Child protection agencies don’t see the manipulation that happens behind closed doors. The narcissist just puts on another of his euphoric phase masks when the spectators are there to watch.
Truth be told, the narcissist couldn’t care less about the child or children. But they are convenient servants in the looking good family game or abused to pitty the covert narcissist when they were left or divorced.
I understand your experience. People in the court system are easily manipulated by narcissists.
Everything you said is true, It’s been 11 years not talking or seeing the narcissist and I’m proud of that, thank you for your wisdom.
The "TINY MIND" of the narcissist has to be the most horrific place to exist in. Is a flat movie set made of walls with nothing behind it. Empty of compassion, joy, kindness and love. The thirst for power and control drives their constant search for more people to victimize. Time passing only makes them more desperate as their skills sharpen but their looks take a toll with time. Waiting for them to change could be a life sentence of abuse and despair. Grateful to have my freedom and the wisdom and understanding to never again give any of my time or energy away. NAMASTE ♥
Namaste 😌💯🙏
👏👏👏 Well explained. I actually felt sorry for mine. But I suppose that’s a product from the trauma bond. Still need to work on that psychological conundrum!
@@freebird968-wg4ye I felt and currently feel sorry as well. I don't think is anything else but my loving nature and the actual deep awareness of how pathetic and sad their lives really are. Some may not understand but at the end, the sense of alienation these people must feel is something that is concerning as a member of the "Human Race". We must eventually transcend our personal view and see the damage done to society at large. May you have joy, peace and strength to continue in this lifetime of learning. Hugs!♥
@@lourdesecheverria6209 Thank you. The first two years after getting out were soooo painful and confusing. How can you still feel for someone but live with fear and constant ruminations about the abuse plus remembering how ‘doting’ they seemed at other times (even sometimes together alone) and in front of other people. I found out this was cognitive dissonance where the brain is trying to make sense of things but it can’t because the good and bad events were so ‘opposite’.
Sam Vaknin (self actualised narcissist) says not to waste any empathy on them. It is totally misplaced. They can even look down on you for being like this and get gratification for you being ‘less than’. But we can’t help how we are.
The damage done to society - yes I too worry about the world. The behaviour of world leaders setting a precedent so that the masses think ‘ Well if they can behave like that I will’. I’ll get what I want regardless of anyone else. I’ll insult people and not care. The old values of respect and civility. Can we ever get back to that?
I worry about a future rise in narcissism. So many children trying to interact with parents who are on their devices. (It’s our way of life now, all of us, but it takes up so much time.) When no eye contact is given and ‘in a minute’ responses this may lead to feeling neglected, not good enough, leading to limiting beliefs as adults. But ….will they become narcissistic or empaths?
Sorry it’s turned into an essay! Joy, peace and strength to you too. Onwards and upwards up that mountain! ❤
@@freebird968-wg4ye OMG! Love your essay (smiling) and I must meditate on some of these things you have pointed out! (I have watched many of Sam Vaknin videos as well) Will reply at length soon! Thank you and ....Yes! ONWARDS & UPWARDS that mountain! Hugs! ❤
In the end, we win. We get to experience real love, compassion, and friendship.
I am currently physically here packing up and leaving a narcissistic relationship. Your words are helping me to stay strong during this mess. Thanks for your dedication to this topic :)
15:36 15:36 I wish you all the very best of everything,love,light,and peace,🤗❤️🌻💫🦋🦋🤍🤍
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They are the biggest cowards too, they don't even care about the sexual filth they talk to you about!... best left in the hole they crawled out of. The one I was with would sometimes dress like a teenager... he was in his 60's 😂😂😂
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I’m asking God to give you the strength you need& to send you powerful angels to help you and do battle for you! 🙏
We choose to become better and grow and learn new things and be healthy.
Not so for the abuser but seeks to become a better abuser.
Walk away and let them destroy themselves.
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We see a homeless person.
Me. " But for the grace of God there go I "
My narcissist yells out the window. " Get a job loser "
This situation is burned into my mind and soul like an acid. They are just horrible people
Yes the grandiose ones are extremely Callous and Haters they are of everyone,💫🦋🦋
Great example!
Mine once almost knocked an older lady down just to get ahead of for donuts! They don’t care about anyone but themselves.
@@all.about.narcissism. I agree. This is a wife that will soon enough be the ex. Many things happened that showed me the true ugliness but that one story sticks out. I'm am not no contact yet due to finances but my mind, heart and spirit are forever detached from them. Thanks for the advice
@@lisamariesmith3610. Yep. You see how they treat people and it just disgusts me.
I am so ashamed to admit this, but when I was frantic to gain approval from my n-mom, I would nod in agreement when she put people down (i.e., "that shirt looks awful on him")... imagine being so starved for love that you joined them in their putdowns... now I have repented and moved forward, but I hate that I was caught up in all the ugliness for breadcrumbs. I'm older now and kinder and my goal in life is to not only leave the ugliness behind but to be more mindful of living by the golden rule... and you're right, Andrew, this path is not linear no matter how much knowledge you've gained.
I did the same thing cuz I wanted my narc mother’s approval so much…it makes me sick. I’m a kind loving person who would never hurt anyone and would help anyone! I’m so grateful for you Andrew and your channel. It opened my eyes and took me out of the fog ❤❤❤
I had no idea why many things were taking place and all I could do was be considerate of his state of mind .... Then I learned he was a covert narcissist once I was out and I began to do research to understand the behavior. It began with the enormous lack of empathy. That led to the rest of the behaviors. Manipulation, disrespect, blaming everything else, never accepting fault, etc. No closure, of course. Very painful recovery but your channel, Andrew, is a god send. Thank you.
So true... Not comfortable in his own skin. 🎯
I’ve had one in all of the above category but it was the narcissistic romantic relationship was so extreme that opened my eyes to the others
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I definately agree,the last one was the most difficult arrogant one, like a cult leader, Callous 🏃🏃
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their grandiosity is baffling to me
I love what you say about the narc not making this a better planet. I often said that to my narc, he did not have the capability to think of others beyond his nose. They are so much into themselves that they can't think they might be here to make the world better.
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I know one particular narc who thinks about herself 24/7. It makes me want to puke. 🤮
It’s my mum and the further I get from her - the clearer she becomes. She’s cruel and cunning. It’s horrible to see and to then see more fully as you heal.
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I have been no contact with my mother for many years now. At first, I thought I was wrong for separating myself from her, but now I see that it was the best thing I did. It isn't that I can't have a relationship with her, it's that she can't have a relationship with me.
Same here.
There are important coping mechanisms that the narcisssist formed during childhood development that explain why the narcissist will NOT change. Andrew is correct - the narcissist will NOT change.
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They don’t change. I went back several times. He told me what I wanted to hear to get back to me. And each time it got worse. Leave and don’t look back.
@@joannzappoli3667 It takes the time that it takes, Joann. You got this!!! Take care, be happy.
@@malibu90265 thank you.
Exactly no one feels like square dancing 💯 Squares 😂😂😂
Hi Andrew. I love your energy & the wisdom & knowledge❤Narcisstic ppl are so lazy & toxic. They are individuals that never think for themselves, their behavior don't match their words. They capitalize on their lies & just keep rotating the cycle.
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It is especially heinous when they cant keep their LIES straight and you confront them about it. I thought you said ( insert original lie ), now you're say ( insert newest lie ). 🙄
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I am at the point I don't want to think about him anymore. I feel that hearing about it all the time just feeds his memory and reactivates the distress I experienced. I am ready to move forward and heal. Thank you Andrew for all your work and being there to teach us ad let us know we are not alone.
I am happy that you have healed enough to move on. Forget about the abuser. He will never change.
Sadly. You're right they will never change Andrew.
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I'm so glad I found this channel Andrew you're firing nothing but facts
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I happened to see the narcissist years later by accident and he is the same that he always has been. No changes, no enlightenment over the years. 💯 So true what you said, Andrew! Thank you! Namaste. 🙏 ❤️
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Hi Andrew and everyone. Narcissists are EVERYWHERE! You can't see them bcse they hide behind a mask. They pass you in the Supermarket, in the Malls, and everywhere else you go. Always looking for some empath to ruin. The best thing i do for myself, for protection, is ignore them. Look straight ahead and keep walking. They will never change. This is a terrific topic Andrew. ❤❤
But.... you can feel them 😊
Yes I can feel low vibrations off them, 💫🦋🤍
@@rubyjet9513Ruby, I CAN feel them, but I just keep away. I keep walking away. I got to a point where I can pick them out. You are so right. You can also "feel" them. You are a BEAUTIFUL person and you have insight, just like I do. 👍🌺
@@jannlewandowski5540 you're beautiful too 🌹💞
God bless you and thank you
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Right on, Andrew, down to the commas and periods.
I was figuring a lot of this out as the days passed and the behaviors got worse. When I brought up "consequences" the "English Major" big brother gave me a blank stare as if the word didn't exist in the dictionary. Same reaction with "responsibility". I wonder which pretty girl he bribed to take his college exams for him! At 77 years old he has perfected his real degree: "narcissism".
I wish I had heard your wisdom years ago!
Thank you for being here for others. This is an essential education for everyone facing life with a narc abuser..
God bless you!
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Full-time pretenders
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Their face changes like a Japanese magician 👺👹🤡😈😱🤯
@@pauljimenez6594 or a drug addicted baboon swigging in the trees to bet 90 look at me I can fly
Thanks for bringing awareness to these very problematic people!
I’ve noticed that when I get healthier, I start to “want” things. Now… to overcome my fear of dating.. this takes trust of my own judgment & trusting that I won’t fall into another NPD relationship. I want to trust myself again.😊
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We have to heal completely before we venture dating ,🤗💫🦋🤍
@@flowerpower4944 I agree! It’s been 5 years for me. I will never know if I’m ready unless I try, it’s all one big test. I also think it’s about truly knowing that it wasn’t my fault. We’re all a work in progress, I’m happy to have found such great insight & support here
Thank you Andrew....bottom breaders........They do not change....
Good getting the word out! If you've been in it...then you know the smell!
This is the reason I have no relationships 😮
36 years in, I know this to be true. His ugliness in attitude precedes him everywhere he goes tho. Hopefully alot of people in this world become educated about these ,....are they humans without souls??,....before another generation of pain commences. ❤ Thanks, Andrew for continuing to tell the truths!
All the lies, he thought I was stupid but I knew better…. I just had to wait until the time and opportunity was right before I could leave! God helped me escape 🙏❤️🙌🥰
Good for you. The lying is the worst part, without trust there is nothing 😌
@@carin5767 thank you 🙏 for the encouragement my friend
God helped me, too. Holy Spirit led me to escape a day before I was planning on leaving. It's a long story.
@@doloresmikolajewski7640 that’s awesome. God helped me through it all I believe even in the packing of what to pack and what to leave behind! I’m so grateful and so happy for you too. God Bless you and be strong 💪 💕🙏🙌❤️
@paulineware-51 thank you 😊 I left everything as I was in another country.
My takeaway as you have pointed out: Conclusions are clearer over a time period. Easy to flash a mask persona over a shorter period, or outside a relationship, but YOU see the pattern over a longer period of time. Partly why it's impossible to explain to others- they can't see all the incidences over the time that you've experienced , some too subtle to describe, but no less draining and injurious to the spirit. That "they get worse over time" seals the deal for me ( I've witnessed that ). Thanks Andrew! 👍🙏
Thanks.. it is the truth....❤❤❤
Great content, as always! What I have learned is the best thing is to stay away from these evil people!
Their intent is self serving and so evil !
Very well said, Andrew. Very True...
I'm just so glad that I am safe now and away from the narcissist like I have this piece of mind now..I mean it's unbelievable. I just feel sorry for the people that don't know. The don't knows.
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Truth. Every single word.
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💯 ❤🙌💪 great message Andrew. And while the narcissists are fine tuning and mastering their skills of manipulation, I think I’ll just use all that time that is NO LONGER going to them and fill my life with positive uplifting and educational things and do what I’m called to do (which certainly is NOT their calling 😉). Love this message ❤❤❤
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Go, Chelsea!! WooHoo!🎉
LOVELY!!
All that is TRUE, GOOD and BEAUTIFUL!
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Every word and sentence is SO accurate and succinct. It’s good to know it wasn’t just me experiencing such poor behaviour. Stay strong people and rise up and take control of yourself. We’ve got this 🙏🌺
Thank you, Andrew, for continuing to educate and confirm for me every day the experiences of my lifetime. I recently ended a relationship with my therapist because she would not and/or could not acknowledge to me that there is such a thing as narcissism and narcissistic abuse. I think that may be because she herself is a narcissist. Beware... Namaste. 💕
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Holy crap! Good thing you saw the red flag!😮
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So grateful to Andrew and this channel for helping me become educated. 💕
@jesseanderson2309 I swear, they are like cockroaches!🪳🪳🪳
@jesseanderson2309 Thank you. I am going to begin a search for one who understands. 💕
You make sense of the senseless! Everything you said is spot on! Thank you for what you do! I have been no contact for 2 years now. My health has taken a turn for the worse. I almost thought about contracting them. I would rather die alone than be abused by them again! You are wonderful Andrew! Keep talking!
Sending healing strength and 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️🤍🌷
They'd just add stress & more problems on top of health 😢. I hope there's a group or somewhere healthy to get support in your area 💐
What a beautiful park setting. I have enjoyed this backdrop so much. What beautiful trees and a bench and shade and sun. Beautiful!!!!
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As I've experienced a narcissist is invincible. The covert one three years ago, my mother, my new boss that demoted me and the landlords. Yes, it's a battle against several narcissistic mights... Even the sister of that mom texted me, although I've blocked and deleted her since a long time 😖
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Once a person gets the wisdom, it is common for them to see that they have had several narcissistic relationships during their life.
Andrew, as you know or maybe not , I have terminal cancer. I'm not getting better. Thank you for all you have done and taught me. God bless all on this channel. Love, Dina
May God be with you and be your strength through all that lies ahead. ❤️🙏❤️
@@pattimcd3177thanks Patti
Sending you love ❤️
You’re in my prayers!🙏
@@Karen-fx8ek thank you Karen
Alot of things start with honesty and conviction too at least in my case. Thats a big part of changing for the better. I have to discipline myself snd set up healthy boundaries thats huge
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Cyclic sewer suckers... sad butt tru 😢 these needs 2 B taught 2 every1 NOW! Keep spreading the word. Thank U Andrew I'm most gr8ful. 2 all n this mix learn asap, NOW as much as U can as much as u can it's paramount. Thank U all 4 sharing n caring. Godspeed Godbless Shilom Nomesde 1 🌎 1 ❤️ ♾️ on high
Wow what a doozy. This is so sad and sick. I’m glad that you are doing these videos. Thanks for helping us through the fog.
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Thank you Andrew for helping us everyday
I kept thinking maybe he will mature, see the damage he has created, etc. No!!! It did get worse, and he did all of the things you all are telling us about. The main message I have been getting from all of these videos from you to Dr. Phil, is - - - RUN!!! Not one of you has suggested to stick it out, wait, try to understand. It's difficult, heartbreaking, but we have to run, we have to survive. THANK YOU!!!
My ex walked out on me shortly after I started having seizures from the stress that the relationship caused I've lost over 35 lbs almost a year after break up of only being together a year and 5 months no contact I'm still very sick. I also live with a family member who shares the same issues as my ex and I am now in the process of trying to move because the family member will not allow me to fully recover. I am completely exhausted and scared to death of most people now. Videos are all I have for support outside of therapy.
The narcissist is and always will be…a user
You're so right on target, Andrew!! You're describing my ex-boyfriend exactly!! I thought if I just tried harder to please him then he would want me for me. Wrong!! I hope everyone out there have a joyful, blessed day. Thank you, Andrew. Thank you for sending out love to the world. You are loved! ❤
WAS..IS..AND WILL BE is a very important thing to consider, nice video Andrew.
Was, was the charming woman in her late 20's whose childhood trauma resonated with me, because I had a broken family too. But instead of being surrounded by love as I was, she was surrounded by toxicity. That meant we became quite different people as we grew up. Even though she love bombed me and said she totally got my story, she must have thought she hit the jackpot because I was malleable, compliant supply.
Is, is the children's mother, 20 years later. Manipulative, cunning, crafty, and always the victim, onto her 5th or 6th new supply since me, since the discard 4 years ago. I know exactly who and what she is. I don't want to have anything to do with her, and I communicate with our children directly.
Will be, will be an aging, sad and pathetic victim, who will demand compliance from our children, while acting, behaving and dressing like she's 20-30 years younger than she actually is, in order to remain relevant.
My job is to build the children's self-esteem, resilience and character with love and goodness, counter parenting against the social thinning, manipulation and parental alienation tactics she has been employing.
Great video Andrew . Everything you said is true. My ex narcissist is a user , a parasite he is evil. The one thing he enjoyed more than anything else is hurting me. He will never change and he is like a big child throwing a tantrum if he doesn't get his way. Im finally free of him and i really don't want anything more from him. Nothing, in the end he will get what's coming to him it's inevitable. Now i am working on improving myself and learning to never make that mistake again. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words.
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Andrew, thank you for helping us put the narcissistic relationship into words. So glad I found your channel.
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This is what I was looking for, at last I can put into words if only to myself. Now I see his moves and, and am making sense of things. At the moment I am being breadcrumb, just trying to work out what he’s guilty of or what he trying to get away with. I will never not see any sort of apology of closure.
A narcissist often times don’t get what they want they will throw tantrums
I don't mean to sound weird but I have fallen in love with Andrew.He is so spot-on with his videos. Thank you for blessing me with your content❤❤
He never knew how much pain I could take before I couldn’t. I just can’t do it anymore. I am actually done.
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Thank you for the vlog, Andrew. I continue to learn and understand. Though I have been no contact and am out of all narc situations- your vlog continues to be a source of needed reminders, inspiration and compassion. I can attest that, from past experience, the narc does not change, only increases their toxic, inappropriate behaviors (sometimes, in the case of the very aging narc, to the point of ridiculousness). Wishing all the best to Andrew and community. Namaste
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Thanks, Andrew. I'm been watching the last 4 months. It's has been a lifeline. I'm doing great now. After walking out of that 4 1/2 year of confusion. I was a great supply 😂 , he never gets to speak to me again. Not in my life or not in his. I know he will hate this for the rest of his. Haha. I win !!
Thank you again, Andrew.
I love those looks you give at the first of the video 😊
Every WORD 💯💯💯💯
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ANDREW jeg ved godt hvad de gør, jeg har ikke løst til at komme i tågen igen, men jeg ved en ting du er en fantastisk person og dinne fantastiske programmer de er super så ha en vidunderlig dag ❤️😊👍👍
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Until 3 years ago, it would have been unbelievable for me to believe that such people exist.
It's only been this year that I finally got the wisdom. All those years of wondering and questioning, and self-blaming. The enlightenment has changed me.
@@artluvr6170 It's liberating, isn't it?
@@artluvr6170 We were trapped in the trap of ignorance and manipulation.
@@rubyjet9513 We were trapped. And part of the nastiness of narcissists is that they want us to feel like the bad one. Being empaths, it's our nature to question ourselves.
@@artluvr6170 We are seekers 😉. Answers seekers.
This was so good. Very impactful. 💛
Hi Andrew! It’s always so nice to watch your videos. I remember how much you helped me before in my toughest time. I’ve been working on myself over the past few years now but still healing. What the narcissist left behind was something so ferocious that your video like this really helps to remind myself of how lucky I am now to have a wonderful life without him. Thank you so much! 🙏
A really insightful talk today Andrew. Thank you for the lightbulb moments you consistently provide! 💡👍🏻
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I hope that if t you so desire, that you find a beautiful person to share your life with! God bless!
Thank U Andrew🙏💖👣
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Took me awhile till i realized who he was but, once I did, I was gone. Narcissists are sleaze.
Thank-you Andrew this was very well done resly appreciate it and its another keeper 😊❤ bless you
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You are heaven sent ❤️. Thank you very much. Have a wonderful day/week
Love that smile of yours , always makes my day better ❤
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I’ve been away from my ex Narc that had discarded me right after losing my dear sweet mom. He started reaching out asking how I’m doing and being nice. I wld answer bck but short reply, it started getting a regular text every couple of days sometimes in a row, and then a month ago today, I left his message un read. I felt I shldve done it earlier, I shldnt have ever answered his 1st message after ghosting in the 1st place. After I didn’t answer him, he sent his last message the next day that read, “All Good” that was a month ago. Nothing else from him! I’m working on myself and can’t see ever wanting to be in another relationship. My heart is still broken but im feeling healthier everyday. Good luck to you all. Thank you Andrew💛
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you! Happy to be here!😁
@@jesuswilljudge7296 thank you, and your right! 😁
🎉 I look forward to waking each morning and listening to your wise words.🎉 ❤😊
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Married 10 years to a narc and just now trying to leave!!!! It’s really hard but staying is even harder!!!!!
Global narsisism is playing out on the big stage which is playing out on the smaller stages.
The day I realise I am in that narcissistic relationship I just switch to no contact and seeing how the things will change, it's becoming more and more pathetic with each passing day as she just becomes no more than a Stranger as she is doing everything that I never expected she will do... Becoming worse and hell worse day by day.
Tiny little brain 😂 I loved that haha!!! But this video is ON POINT