It’s such a shame. So many creeps who end up hurting someone show signs of dangerous or scary behaviors/thinking for years beforehand, and usually everyone who knows them knows that something is off. It seems so easily preventable.
Right, that woman who went on 2 dates with the white guy who then stalked her for 7 months, and laughed about getting away with deleting her. Joke was on him thankfully
I hate it when dudes do stuff like this and then have the nerve to wonder why women are scared of men. Police can do something, they just don't wanna do it. If police can find loopholes to arrest innocent people for nothing, they can surely find a way to arrest someone who's been reported for literal assault. This is bullsh*t. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'll be praying for you.
This is why I dont go to any community events or other things at apartment buildings, I literally deprive myself out of resources I pay for because I know it just takes one of these freaks to have a stalker who knows and has access to where you live.
Nowadays with men socializing less and less with the expansion of technology and social media is making these men more creepy and stalkerish. Ive had 2 stalkers in the last 2-3 years.
Yeah I always find myself having to constantly look around me and behind me so they don't walk up on me they look for women that aren't paying attention and they walk up on them and they inform you that they don't like you. Why should women be forced to birth people like this? What purpose is he serving?
It doesn't surprise me. I had someone completely random try and contact my friends on IG to find out private details about my fiance. People are crazy nowadays no boundaries at all.
As a woman, it is your highest honor to know how to use a weapon for defense should you need to. Our job is to choose mindfully which genes to allow to propagate in this world's next generation for the sake of human evolution and that honor is to be defended with certainly.
Please please be careful!!! I’ve been dealing with one since 2018. He vandalized my car, house, harassed my family and friends and attacked me all while having a restraining order and being on probation. The psychological toll is immense.
How unfair that one person is allowed to cause all that harm. And this is not “creepy behavior”. This is unhinged threatening aggressive behavior. When we say someone is being a creep, they don’t think this is the type of stuff people are doing. They think we mean unwanted attention.
@ville__ what’s more crazy is how strong God is against wicked people! 💪🏾🙏🏾 9 “For evil men will be done away with… 10 Just a little while longer, and the wicked will be no more; You will look at where they were, And they will not be there.” Psalm 37: 9, 10 Vengeance belongs to God, and he will repay, in a large way! Jehovah God is Almighty 🙌🏾 his strength is unmatched! You’re not intimidating anyone, you’re just here doing the demons’ & Satan’s work. You will reap what you sow, very soon.
I remember leaving my apartment building and some guy whom I do not know said ''hey you've slimmed down a lot'', it scared the living crap out of me. This man, who I later found out was a neighbor had been watching me enough to see changes in my body. I was angry, terrified, and literally never left my apartment.
This video came up recommended. It’s very important to note that stalkers are psychopaths, they refuse to accept when the ‘shared fantasy’ is over as it’s their way or the highway. I know many people know this, but you’re dealing with a psychopath if you have a stalker and not just a crazy dude, narcissist or generic weirdo
You and the other people in the building may want to request that the property owners hire a security guard until he’s evicted. If the property owner won’t do it, you could probably pool money for one.
It's a shame that you can't legally do much until after you're physically attacked. Even if you're threatened with violence, it's still minimal recourse by law. If you're in a state that allows you to carry, please get licensed and trained. This man has been getting away with his criminal behavior for years, so he has no fear.
This is why the 'choose better' stuff is always so funny to me, along with the 'suddenly men are guilty with no proof' bs. It is *SO* difficult to get protection against guys who are serious and intent about harming us because laws actually favour the perpetrators, and these guys often actually have to unalive someone to be taken seriously. I'm so stressed about things like this because I know how they often end up, especially when someone is clearly escalating like this. I'm so sorry u guys are going through this and I hope something is done soon ❤
You’re one of the only smart ones titling this video “I’m dealing with a stalker” and NOT “MY STALKER” 👏🏼👏🏼 …but I just heard you call him your stalker, ladies; NEVER do this! They feel like you’re calling them yours which feeds into their obsessive delusions 🙄
I’ve had 3 stalkers in my young life. Stalkers all fall into 5 different categories when you research the psychology behind it. There’s the intimacy stalker, the predatory stalker, the incompetent stalker, the resentful stalker, and the rejected stalker. I’ve had a predatory, a rejected, and a resentful stalker. All were relentless and while things have cooled off, I’m unsure if they will pop up again. The guy in this case sounds like an incompetent stalker. Sadly, the police don’t take stalking seriously. Document, document, document. Create a stalking log and still try to get a police report so you can have a record with the police on file. Do not engage with the stalker but in the least, tell the stalker firmly to stop contacting you. This is why women need to not only secure several forms of protection but to get into spirituality. I feel like if it wasn’t for me lighting a candle on these bitches nothing would have cooled off the way it has now. You gotta find the power in you and invoke it on their asses! It’s nothing to be afraid of.
I believe you Shar. Years ago, a neighbor figured out where I lived and blasted those horrifying loud cannons, some kind of loud firecracker, at least twice after 11 pm. He got thrown out in less than 7 months. He was a racist bully. Another neighbor figured out where I lived nd would prank knock on my door and run to the staircase. Never opened my door. I reported him to management and I haven't seen him in like 2 or more years now. Not due to me. Turns out he was a problem tenant
I had a stalker - an ex. He doxxed me, came to my house, took a picture of himself on my porch, and posted it side by side with my selfie on that same porch. He then spent hours talking shit about me online. All his posts were reported by me to Facebook for violence - and FB didn't ban him, apparently because none of the posts fell into that category, even though he'd made multiple threats. The way I handled this was... unconventional. 👀 I used spiritual means. He disrupted my peace and threatened my safety, so I felt 100% justified in doing what needed to be done. 🤷🏾♀️ I don't know what happened to him specifically, but I never saw or heard from him again, except for a FB post months later, where he uncharacteristically posted about having a heavy head and a broken heart. Your stalker sounds like the type of person that I would happily hex. 😎
Girl you need to disclose that “spiritual means” or point me to where because I’ve had 3 intense cases of stalking. It literally just takes 1 to mess you up, but 3?! Smh. They’ve cooled off as of now, but I’ve done some spiritual stuff and chants to Kali Ma for protection. I think the chants have helped but 2/3 have proven relentless over the years, and I need it to cease to 100%.
@@SontaLovely I put multiple hexes on him, for months. Anger is a powerful force to work with in spell work. Plus I sent certain spirits to his house. I had a good relationship with them, and they were aware of the grief he'd caused and REALLY wanted to help me.
@@seraiahdaniella3755 You’re absolutely right on that anger bit! Ok, sounds like something I’ve done other than using specific spirits to help me besides the recent Kali Ma. I’ll look more into it. I do have a book that works with the dark side, but I didn’t entertain it fully yet. Sometimes I’m afraid to tap in but there is nothing to fear because this is justice.
This is drastic but a good way to put some fire under the police department about this is to contact you biggest local news station. Let them know you guys fear for your life and show them what you’ve shown us. I live in a major city and they do exposés like this a lot and it gets the attention it needs. I wish you all well and pray for your safety!
Bring your father and brothers around! Next time you see him cover head with your jacket and go "la la la la" loud and run!! Make a scen!! And look crazy. staleness does not work on these people. You have shut it down before they get comfortable and nothing will fase them. Happened to after 4 months of suffering, he showed up at my work! Said "hi , you look beautiful today" like we were dating. Thats when it really hit me. I got so mad and scared and the same time. I made the biggest scen during the scen i called my dad who called the guy right then. He did not answer the call. He just looked at me shocked because this is the first time I actually talked to him. I think it killed his delusions that he had build in his head. After that i never heard nor saw him again. He moved and changed his number because my dad tried calling him again check. 🤣
That man is dangerous. He's mentally unstable. He's in all the women faces trying to get them alone. File a protection order against him. Everyone in the building he could easily snap and hurt everyone. I'll be praying for everyone ones safety🙏🙏
You say that, but if you listen to the Strictly Stalking podcast or watch any stalking-based media, you'll find out that it's VERY difficult to get a order of protection against someone, especially based on where someone lives, and then stalkers can get in some critical hits for several years without one ever being granted, even when the survivor keeps reporting what the stalker is doing. It's not easy by any means unless you have legislation, police, and judges who'll take it seriously. I've lost count of the stories I've heard, and it's so frustrating. The system favors the stalker, and even if they're prosecuted, they'll either get a handful of years or, more likely, none, after they've ruined someone's life and changed them irrevocably.
These situations are so bad - building management needs to get involved. I used to live in a large 41-story building with a lot of amenities including a coffee machine. There was this guy who was just *too* friendly and would try to hold conversations with me and other women in an elevator or at the machine. I lived on floor 20- something and I was always uncomfortable that this guy could see what floor I lived on when I entered the elevator. Other stories started coming out about this guy and his inappropriate behavior with women walking the building alone. Once on an elevator, this guy cornered me on an elevator and demanded to know my name. I told him straight up "I'm not comfortable telling you that" and got off on a floor other than my own. I bought a condo and moved a short time later, but I wondered what happened to that man if they were able to get this guy out of the building
THat's what I'm most concerned about, because he's been harassing multiple people so he will take it out on everyone. This can be a precursor to him attempting to unalive everyone/whole building. I hope they take this threat serious and have this possibility in mind so they can be hyper-vigilant.
The amount of effort, time, and resources that are being devoted to staying safe because of one man's inappropriate and criminal behavior is astonishing. think about how many women are being affected by this and he is just running around without any consequences.
Ladies: sign up at your local BJJ gym and learn how to apply pressure to carotid artery’s to cause a loss of heart beat. That’s what BJJ teaches. How to neutralize threats to your satisfaction.
That man is an ACTUAL psychopath. I have no words anymore. Honestly what are women supposed to do in a situation like that?! Just wait around and cross your fingers that you’re not the victim who finally gets his ass thrown in prison???? It’s RIDICULOUS.
I do martial arts now - and the tables are turning - 3 years into BJJ, I am the predator's problem now, strap up ladies, use your voice, deep diaphragm yelling and projecting, mace up, strengthen up your bodies, head on a swivel, ask the pervs for money, I have a handful of techniques I now utilize with every situation, every day. It is literally getting into war-zone mentality, and I consider makeup and looking beautiful a part of my war-get up, every day from the moment I walk out of the door. GET STRONG. WE ARE THE REAL POWER. Good luck!
I HATE to be the kind of woman that seems dismissive, I just want to say that Ive dealt with stalking SEVERAL times as well... my life has been on the line way too many times until I finally abruptly disappeared & haven't stayed in one place too long over a year now & have changed my # & phone company wayyyy too many freaking times & so much more in order to stay aloof & anonymous.... & isolated for my safety... 😞 I don't want to seem dismissive for essentially saying "me too", I just wanted to share because I'm SICK & FUXXING TIRED OF US GOING THROUGH THIS FUXXING SHXX & LORD KNOWS THE LEGAL SYSTEM DOESN'T GIVE A SHXX & will go as far as to dog whistle-type of clowning us & making us out to be hysterical, lobotomizing-needing females RIGHT before our daxx disappearance &/or funerals 🤬😮💨😢
I did a freezer banishment spell. Never seen again. Also under certain circumstances ask for a lot of money, like 20K and up that usually works they run for the hills.
Document document document. Even if the police don’t think it’s important to notify them or file a report, do it, because when the time comes and God forbid you may have to defend yourself; have all the evidence presented.
In my personal opinion, I think that the main reason law enforcement becomes lax is because it's purely intentional. The truth is, in order to get justice we have to advocate for ourselves so strongly that they have to act upon it. Keep getting the restraining orders. Keep filing police reports. Imagine how hard fought battles were won in court by women for equality and the right to get to vote? Unfortunately, that's what has to happen. In this case, women have to make the choice to get involved in and run for these offices in order to get justice. We have to take our freedoms way more seriously. Especially, when you have creepers in office "speaking in tongues" on state emblems. XY is completely invested in undoing women's rights. You'd think this wouldn't be an issue. But, here we are.
Shar just reading this video caption made my stomach hurt. Please as much as you can help it be careful, trust your intuition, and employ people around you the police etc. Sending blessings to you.
I stopped going to my apartment building as well. Not because of a weird guy, but just on general principle: not enough witnesses should I be there alone with one other person. Public park or commercial gym it is!
I've had more than one stalker, unfortunately. After telling certain people I know, they were no longer a problem. I did run into one a few years later, and he stared at me for a long time. I ignored him, while also watching him. I was out with friends and let them know. One of them revealed that he had done the same to her and that her brothers dealt with him.
Remember a guy stalking me around Midway airport. He called me a 'queen' and keep hitting on me and looking at my backside. Happened in my late teens or so so I didn't know what to do and there were people around so I tried ignoring him. Luckily he didn't follow me to boarding and I got on my flight safely. Never saw him again. Sadly these situations will keep happening until the cops and anyone involved can take these things more seriously. It doesn't matter how many victims speak out if nothing's done about it😔
Even if he leave you all Still need to be careful, cause even when they do stuff to you they will be mad because you didnt allow them to disrespect you and take advantage of you and its good you are reporting this because they start small and then they escalate , Dont ever open your door without checking and taking a weapon to the door with you and if you dont have one , you need to look into one as well as training
This is so awful. Girl, be careful. I've had a stalker before.There's basically like no protections from stalkers (male or female). I've talked to cops before and they are so apathetic and even the ones who cared were just like "nothing I can do." It's apparently always like that. That's why stalkers...are stalkers. You're right about the creepers in the neighborhood. Mine hid out in a wealthy neighborhood and he was SO well isolated and insulated because he kept to himself mostly except for having a JUST likeable enough nonpersona to avoid the wrong kind of attention. He had a long history of mental illness but was clearly able to keep it together enough to harass women and stay away from the highly illegal behaviors. Couldn't hold down a job anymore because of his inability to suppress his rage and pettiness issues. I doubt his neighbors knew what he was doing but he was basically banned from all the dating websites and seemed proud of it because he had to find workarounds to get back on them. He had way too much time on his hands to plan out elaborate ways of harassing, psychologically bullying women JUST enough for it to be legal and hard to prove. It took me a while to figure out what he was doing, but I think he was basically one of those narcissistic red pill psychos who was only dating women to try and get them pregnant so they couldn't get away from him completely. He just enjoyed punishing women everytime he felt they did something to him. Stalkers are the worst.
Apartment group chat?! No thanks! I wouldn't want anyone in my building having my number, except for my neighbour who I'm friends with and the property manager. If that guy has assaulted people already, he shouldn't just be removed from the community but should be arrested.
It sounds like your creepers' behaviors are elevating into something that can potentially be dangerous. It also sounds like he may have a developmental disability. I would suggest that the women try to avoid contact with this person and carry something for protection. If there are parents in your building, I would strongly advise them to make sure that their children are monitored at ALL times. Sometimes if they can't get the attention from their original source, they will go to the most vulnerable.
WHY is youtube non stop reccomending me " i have a stalker" video from people i've enever seen or heard of before!? i'm not a stalker content watcher lol whyyyy is this all they want to show me !?
Good job calling him A stalker and not MY. I know that's a big tip. The stalkers I've known have been more...targeted. While it's horrific, thank goodness you have such community support because of how prevalent his behavior is. The terrifying thing is that women will have to play dodge the creep until the creep finally assaults or ends a woman and is caught. Our system shouldn't be this.... unresponsive!! If you become friends with some cops who work the beat they may be willing to go above and beyond to catch him outside of his apartment (like in the gym) but is it worth the.... unique misery.... of getting to know a cop? I dunno. (sorry ya'll. my ex was a cop. I have an intense bias against. But they can be useful and are actually pretty helpful if they simply WANT to be your hero) Sorry you're all going through this!
⚠️MOOOOVVVVE!⚠️ Although it may be inconvenience, costly, etc. please look into moving. This is no joke. Men today feel a sense of entitlement to any and all women, and moves as if predatory behavior is the new form of courting and dating.
This is soooo stressful and dangerous, especially when it happens at your home where it suppose to be safe. I am so sorry Shar😢 Please document, document and document everything and put the cameras outside of your apartment.
Seems like he doesn’t have a job because he might be receiving some type of assistance for his mental disability. I disagreed with regular income apartments having to set aside a few apartment units for housing vouchers. Situations like this is why men receiving public assistance do not belong around neurotypical people. If you are looking to lease an apartment, be sure to ask if they accept housing vouchers. If they do, keep looking. You don’t want to risk living in close proximity to someone who is potentially mentally unstable. This man belongs is a halfway house or a psych ward. He clearly has too much free time on his hands.
People that receive assistance usually don't have the type of money to live where this woman lives. He clearly is someone that has actual, disposable income.
@@Ria-sd2ex not necessarily, in some states, new apartment buildings (including some luxury apartments) have to set aside a few units for housing vouchers. Depending on the amount of the voucher, a mentally disabled person receiving public assistance can afford to live in a luxury apartment. Maybe that isn’t the case for this guy, but it’s something to look out for when apartment shopping. People wanting your money and advertising as luxury are not always going to disclose information that might deter you from spending with them.
@@ultravioletmix33 Tell me where you've seen this happen, please? People that receive assistance and do not have disposable income would have a hell of a time affording a place like that. Even with a voucher. It's just not possible to afford something like that on a small, fixed income. But I'd love to know where you witnessed this.
@@Ria-sd2ex sweetie, I’m not trying to convince you. The facts: Luxury is a spectrum in the apartment world, low end luxury buildings in some states are required to accept housing vouchers and high end luxury apartments might not be required to do so.
@@ultravioletmix33 I wasn't asking you to "convince me". I was asking what evidence you have of this. Anyone can just say things, honey. The reality is not what you're describing, however. Also, what is "low end luxury?". It's either a Luxury apartment, or it's not. No one anywhere in this country requires these apartments to have vouchers for people who are mentally ill/poor. You have to have money, period.
I have one patient like this. He told me he biked an hour to see me, and that I was so cute etc etc but he made me so uncomfortable so I told my boss and now whenever he comes in my boss with steamroll infront of me so I can leave the area and he will just deal with him. The shock on the patients face when my manager just slid infront of me and took over was priceless but I was genuinely scared
What I like is that are 50+ random woman who wrote really bad reviews on this one guy (I think the story is out of Cali) and now everyone one knows to stay clear of him! He actually suing them but he has no case. lol And! Where it was just Cali women, that was aware of the story, now that he’s suing, the entire country knows to run the opposite direction when he come around. LOL!! THIS is what women need in times like these, a national registry on all the dusties, cheaters, DL and violent men out here.
Have y'all tried to file a restraining order in him? I'd even go so far as to look into a civil suit case, like a low key class action. If the law won't help you then go the civil route, I would also suggest starting to go to therapy and claim that this person is putting u in this position to do so ( power in numbers ladies! The more of you that do this the better). Also maybe hold a woman's only self defense class at the building?! Get the energy and point across and learn some skills... Then I would start writing complaints online like next door or Twitter or Yelp about this dude in your building and how nothing is being done. Again if you do this as a group and stay persistent then maybe you can not only help yourselves and bring attention to the situation, you might be able to highlight this situation and make some change. This absolutely shouldn't be on y'all to get this done, but when woman comes together they can get ah&t done💪
Being stalked is nothing short of a nightmare. It happened to me numerous times when I was in Nigeria. My father and male relatives got involved each time that it happened. In the United States, when it happened I simply moved to another city with my son. I did not feel confident then to report my stalker to the police. I am sorry that this is happening to you. You might have to break the lease and move to another building.
Why wasn't there a background check done on this guy before he moved in? So scary!! The only thing that's worked for me with a creep is taking a phone call while i wait for coffee. Or texting on my phone and being super distracted. Also, answering his questions wrong to let him know you're not listening. Just act busy and he might get the hint. But he might not.
@@Raddiebaddie They ran one after his creepy behavior and it showed a ton of stuff from years ago. I feel like the building dropped the ball on this one.
Get a real baton (not Amazon) and learn how to swing it correctly at the wrists to buy time to escape an assault. And pepper gel is better than pepper spray in confined spaces and leaves traceable invisible dye.
My thoughts: put a tracking device on his vehicle. then someone could text him, pretend to be an interested girl - and set up a rendezvous on the other side of town. Watch him leave, have a lookout tracking his vehicle, remove the door from the hinges (flathead screwdriver and hammer) and change the lock. Then when he comes back and starts predictably beating on the door, and freaking out - call the cops.
I’m currently going through this. Please watch yourself at all times and give someone your location. It’s crazy because stalkers know it’s hard to prove especially if you’re driving. If you have text messages keep them. If you have phone calls keep them. The guy that’s stalking me has no connection to me other than school. Never been to my home but somehow developed an obsession with me.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this …. My mom dealt with stockers when she was married and in her 20s. She even had someone who creeped around by the house when she was alone and there were a lot of close calls. Luckily, nothing bad ever happened but stockers are very real.
Get a PewPew, learn to use it, check your car for tracking devices, people like him are EXTREMELY EXTREMELY Dangerous, and I am so sorry your having to go through this, as NOBODY should!
Please like, subscribe, and comment! I’d love to hear more stories from women who’ve dealt with situations like this.
Men like him is the reason we need our own spaces as women.
It's unacceptable to me that law enforcement prioritizes cleaning up after crimes rather than preventing them
Like what more do they need to lock him up?!?
It’s such a shame. So many creeps who end up hurting someone show signs of dangerous or scary behaviors/thinking for years beforehand, and usually everyone who knows them knows that something is off. It seems so easily preventable.
@ville You mean 100 'women', right? 🤨
I remember a Black woman could not get help and eventually murdered her stalker. I think she made a tiktok video about it. She's free.
What????😮 do you have her name?
Right, that woman who went on 2 dates with the white guy who then stalked her for 7 months, and laughed about getting away with deleting her. Joke was on him thankfully
Gr8 !
Insane!!
That’s not murder, that’s self defense
I hate it when dudes do stuff like this and then have the nerve to wonder why women are scared of men.
Police can do something, they just don't wanna do it.
If police can find loopholes to arrest innocent people for nothing, they can surely find a way to arrest someone who's been reported for literal assault. This is bullsh*t. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'll be praying for you.
Good point. She could tip off the police
Exactly!
This is a situation where all the women need to confront him together at once. 20 women chasing you like Valkyries out of the apartment complex 🔪🔪🔪
Love it. Co-sign!
This is why I dont go to any community events or other things at apartment buildings, I literally deprive myself out of resources I pay for because I know it just takes one of these freaks to have a stalker who knows and has access to where you live.
Nowadays with men socializing less and less with the expansion of technology and social media is making these men more creepy and stalkerish. Ive had 2 stalkers in the last 2-3 years.
Yeah I always find myself having to constantly look around me and behind me so they don't walk up on me they look for women that aren't paying attention and they walk up on them and they inform you that they don't like you. Why should women be forced to birth people like this? What purpose is he serving?
It doesn't surprise me. I had someone completely random try and contact my friends on IG to find out private details about my fiance. People are crazy nowadays no boundaries at all.
But men wonder why the 4B movement is catching fire in the US.
I swear people need to get the hint if someone is not interested please please 🙏🙏🙏 leave them alone
He's crae that's why
He's a psychopath
As a woman, it is your highest honor to know how to use a weapon for defense should you need to. Our job is to choose mindfully which genes to allow to propagate in this world's next generation for the sake of human evolution and that honor is to be defended with certainly.
Please please be careful!!! I’ve been dealing with one since 2018. He vandalized my car, house, harassed my family and friends and attacked me all while having a restraining order and being on probation. The psychological toll is immense.
Get some steel take some lessons. You have the P.O.
try not to make the story about yourself challenge: IMPOSSIBLE
How unfair that one person is allowed to cause all that harm. And this is not “creepy behavior”. This is unhinged threatening aggressive behavior. When we say someone is being a creep, they don’t think this is the type of stuff people are doing. They think we mean unwanted attention.
@ville__ what’s more crazy is how strong God is against wicked people! 💪🏾🙏🏾
9 “For evil men will be done away with…
10 Just a little while longer, and the wicked will be no more;
You will look at where they were,
And they will not be there.”
Psalm 37: 9, 10
Vengeance belongs to God, and he will repay, in a large way!
Jehovah God is Almighty 🙌🏾 his strength is unmatched!
You’re not intimidating anyone, you’re just here doing the demons’ & Satan’s work. You will reap what you sow, very soon.
@ville__why have you spammed this on 3 different comments...?
Please stay safe Shar, proud of all of you ladies for sticking together and getting him out!
I remember leaving my apartment building and some guy whom I do not know said ''hey you've slimmed down a lot'', it scared the living crap out of me. This man, who I later found out was a neighbor had been watching me enough to see changes in my body. I was angry, terrified, and literally never left my apartment.
That's scary af
This video came up recommended. It’s very important to note that stalkers are psychopaths, they refuse to accept when the ‘shared fantasy’ is over as it’s their way or the highway. I know many people know this, but you’re dealing with a psychopath if you have a stalker and not just a crazy dude, narcissist or generic weirdo
You and the other people in the building may want to request that the property owners hire a security guard until he’s evicted. If the property owner won’t do it, you could probably pool money for one.
Yes great idea!
It's a shame that you can't legally do much until after you're physically attacked. Even if you're threatened with violence, it's still minimal recourse by law. If you're in a state that allows you to carry, please get licensed and trained. This man has been getting away with his criminal behavior for years, so he has no fear.
The law is really lacking when it comes to crimes that predominantly affect women.
We need to mobilize and call our representatives bc this will get worse as women avoid more men sadly
This is why the 'choose better' stuff is always so funny to me, along with the 'suddenly men are guilty with no proof' bs. It is *SO* difficult to get protection against guys who are serious and intent about harming us because laws actually favour the perpetrators, and these guys often actually have to unalive someone to be taken seriously. I'm so stressed about things like this because I know how they often end up, especially when someone is clearly escalating like this. I'm so sorry u guys are going through this and I hope something is done soon ❤
You’re one of the only smart ones titling this video “I’m dealing with a stalker” and NOT “MY STALKER” 👏🏼👏🏼
…but I just heard you call him your stalker, ladies; NEVER do this! They feel like you’re calling them yours which feeds into their obsessive delusions 🙄
EXACTLY !!!
Does this Dusty even have a job? He sure has a lot of time on his hands. I hope this situation gets resolved ASAP.
Please be careful. I dealt with one for 10 yrs. Had to move 3000+ miles. He attacked me in public 4 times.
Glad you made it! Femicide is increasing. 😢
So scary. I pray you will be OK from here on.🙏🏿❤️
Wow. I’m so sorry.
❤🙏🏾🌹
😮 I'm so sorry to hear that.
I’ve had 3 stalkers in my young life. Stalkers all fall into 5 different categories when you research the psychology behind it. There’s the intimacy stalker, the predatory stalker, the incompetent stalker, the resentful stalker, and the rejected stalker. I’ve had a predatory, a rejected, and a resentful stalker. All were relentless and while things have cooled off, I’m unsure if they will pop up again. The guy in this case sounds like an incompetent stalker.
Sadly, the police don’t take stalking seriously. Document, document, document. Create a stalking log and still try to get a police report so you can have a record with the police on file. Do not engage with the stalker but in the least, tell the stalker firmly to stop contacting you.
This is why women need to not only secure several forms of protection but to get into spirituality. I feel like if it wasn’t for me lighting a candle on these bitches nothing would have cooled off the way it has now. You gotta find the power in you and invoke it on their asses! It’s nothing to be afraid of.
I believe you Shar. Years ago, a neighbor figured out where I lived and blasted those horrifying loud cannons, some kind of loud firecracker, at least twice after 11 pm. He got thrown out in less than 7 months. He was a racist bully. Another neighbor figured out where I lived nd would prank knock on my door and run to the staircase. Never opened my door. I reported him to management and I haven't seen him in like 2 or more years now. Not due to me. Turns out he was a problem tenant
WOW 😡
Shar Henley, Your videos always make me happy, so I subscribed!
I had a stalker - an ex. He doxxed me, came to my house, took a picture of himself on my porch, and posted it side by side with my selfie on that same porch. He then spent hours talking shit about me online. All his posts were reported by me to Facebook for violence - and FB didn't ban him, apparently because none of the posts fell into that category, even though he'd made multiple threats.
The way I handled this was... unconventional. 👀 I used spiritual means. He disrupted my peace and threatened my safety, so I felt 100% justified in doing what needed to be done. 🤷🏾♀️ I don't know what happened to him specifically, but I never saw or heard from him again, except for a FB post months later, where he uncharacteristically posted about having a heavy head and a broken heart.
Your stalker sounds like the type of person that I would happily hex. 😎
Girl you need to disclose that “spiritual means” or point me to where because I’ve had 3 intense cases of stalking. It literally just takes 1 to mess you up, but 3?! Smh. They’ve cooled off as of now, but I’ve done some spiritual stuff and chants to Kali Ma for protection. I think the chants have helped but 2/3 have proven relentless over the years, and I need it to cease to 100%.
@@SontaLovely I put multiple hexes on him, for months. Anger is a powerful force to work with in spell work. Plus I sent certain spirits to his house. I had a good relationship with them, and they were aware of the grief he'd caused and REALLY wanted to help me.
@@seraiahdaniella3755 You’re absolutely right on that anger bit! Ok, sounds like something I’ve done other than using specific spirits to help me besides the recent Kali Ma. I’ll look more into it. I do have a book that works with the dark side, but I didn’t entertain it fully yet. Sometimes I’m afraid to tap in but there is nothing to fear because this is justice.
He NEEDS TO GOOOO!!!! He's working up the nerve to SA etc.
Exactly 💯
Thank you. It is always a pattern of intensification!!!
Sounds like he had already, just none of them remember because they were roofied
Exactly. Behaviors already escalating? No way he doesn't get to that point. And then the cops MAY care.
@@CMStrawbridge whoa I must've missed that part.
I've never heard of a community where everyone is in a group chat! 🤔
I barely talk to individuals where I live at unless I know them personally!
We have one, but it’s a more app based system called Cobu. You don’t get the numbers of the members and you can only reach out to registered people.
Please also consider hiding your information on the internet. Stalkers often turn into great researchers.
This is drastic but a good way to put some fire under the police department about this is to contact you biggest local news station. Let them know you guys fear for your life and show them what you’ve shown us. I live in a major city and they do exposés like this a lot and it gets the attention it needs. I wish you all well and pray for your safety!
Bring your father and brothers around! Next time you see him cover head with your jacket and go "la la la la" loud and run!! Make a scen!! And look crazy. staleness does not work on these people. You have shut it down before they get comfortable and nothing will fase them.
Happened to after 4 months of suffering, he showed up at my work! Said "hi , you look beautiful today" like we were dating. Thats when it really hit me. I got so mad and scared and the same time. I made the biggest scen during the scen i called my dad who called the guy right then. He did not answer the call. He just looked at me shocked because this is the first time I actually talked to him. I think it killed his delusions that he had build in his head.
After that i never heard nor saw him again. He moved and changed his number because my dad tried calling him again check. 🤣
He's probably watching your RUclips videos and is getting a kick out of you talking about him. Time to carry the pepper spray 24/7.
the fact that this is the second recent video i’ve encountered today of a woman dealing with a stalker….i can’t stand this world, man
Omg was it summer mckeen? Cause me too ://
@@jules475 yes!!
That man is dangerous. He's mentally unstable. He's in all the women faces trying to get them alone. File a protection order against him. Everyone in the building he could easily snap and hurt everyone. I'll be praying for everyone ones safety🙏🙏
You say that, but if you listen to the Strictly Stalking podcast or watch any stalking-based media, you'll find out that it's VERY difficult to get a order of protection against someone, especially based on where someone lives, and then stalkers can get in some critical hits for several years without one ever being granted, even when the survivor keeps reporting what the stalker is doing. It's not easy by any means unless you have legislation, police, and judges who'll take it seriously. I've lost count of the stories I've heard, and it's so frustrating.
The system favors the stalker, and even if they're prosecuted, they'll either get a handful of years or, more likely, none, after they've ruined someone's life and changed them irrevocably.
Sad to read some of the comments excusing this. He is a f*cking stalker.
When stalkers lose all contact is when they are most dangerous. Watch out.
These situations are so bad - building management needs to get involved. I used to live in a large 41-story building with a lot of amenities including a coffee machine. There was this guy who was just *too* friendly and would try to hold conversations with me and other women in an elevator or at the machine. I lived on floor 20- something and I was always uncomfortable that this guy could see what floor I lived on when I entered the elevator. Other stories started coming out about this guy and his inappropriate behavior with women walking the building alone. Once on an elevator, this guy cornered me on an elevator and demanded to know my name. I told him straight up "I'm not comfortable telling you that" and got off on a floor other than my own. I bought a condo and moved a short time later, but I wondered what happened to that man if they were able to get this guy out of the building
i would move because even if he's kicked out of the building he could try to seek revenge
He definitely will w the blood and squatting. That was his beginning of it
THat's what I'm most concerned about, because he's been harassing multiple people so he will take it out on everyone. This can be a precursor to him attempting to unalive everyone/whole building. I hope they take this threat serious and have this possibility in mind so they can be hyper-vigilant.
The amount of effort, time, and resources that are being devoted to staying safe because of one man's inappropriate and criminal behavior is astonishing. think about how many women are being affected by this and he is just running around without any consequences.
I thought the same thing.
Carry a can of hairspray and in your purse. Works wonders for misbehaved men .
Ladies: sign up at your local BJJ gym and learn how to apply pressure to carotid artery’s to cause a loss of heart beat. That’s what BJJ teaches. How to neutralize threats to your satisfaction.
“Nice guy” behavior.
Gather the evidence, camera footage and all, and report the guy to the police with every witness present that is willing to testify.
That man is an ACTUAL psychopath. I have no words anymore. Honestly what are women supposed to do in a situation like that?! Just wait around and cross your fingers that you’re not the victim who finally gets his ass thrown in prison????
It’s RIDICULOUS.
Stalker willa attack not watch only i Had a stalker couple times
Hire someone to "deal with him".
Get cameras around your door 🚪.
All a camera can do is watch me get fd up. At this point, I want something more.
I do martial arts now - and the tables are turning - 3 years into BJJ, I am the predator's problem now, strap up ladies, use your voice, deep diaphragm yelling and projecting, mace up, strengthen up your bodies, head on a swivel, ask the pervs for money, I have a handful of techniques I now utilize with every situation, every day. It is literally getting into war-zone mentality, and I consider makeup and looking beautiful a part of my war-get up, every day from the moment I walk out of the door. GET STRONG. WE ARE THE REAL POWER. Good luck!
A friend of mine ended up moving from Florida to California to get away from her stalker. And he still tried to track her down there. Stay safe 🙏🏾
Yikes. Wishing her the best.
Like... Take a hint, creep! Stalker stories r so infuriating... I'm so sorry this is happening to u...
That guy is creepy. He should be reported by all of the women he has stalked to the police. Your hair looks so nice by the way!
Thank you 😊
"Why don't women like me?! It's not fair!"
The guy:
I HATE to be the kind of woman that seems dismissive, I just want to say that Ive dealt with stalking SEVERAL times as well... my life has been on the line way too many times until I finally abruptly disappeared & haven't stayed in one place too long over a year now & have changed my # & phone company wayyyy too many freaking times & so much more in order to stay aloof & anonymous.... & isolated for my safety... 😞
I don't want to seem dismissive for essentially saying "me too", I just wanted to share because I'm SICK & FUXXING TIRED OF US GOING THROUGH THIS FUXXING SHXX & LORD KNOWS THE LEGAL SYSTEM DOESN'T GIVE A SHXX & will go as far as to dog whistle-type of clowning us & making us out to be hysterical, lobotomizing-needing females RIGHT before our daxx disappearance &/or funerals 🤬😮💨😢
Maybe he needs to be admitted into 72 hour hold for a mental health, ocd/ stalking behavior can be caused by meds, brain injurty or trauma.
You’re so beautiful girl. Please be safe out here.
I did a freezer banishment spell. Never seen again. Also under certain circumstances ask for a lot of money, like 20K and up that usually works they run for the hills.
Witchcraft is evil and will only bring you harm. Only Jesus saves.
Document document document. Even if the police don’t think it’s important to notify them or file a report, do it, because when the time comes and God forbid you may have to defend yourself; have all the evidence presented.
No way. This makes perfect sense. He drugs drinks. It’s the easiest way to SA people. He’s dangerous af.
In my personal opinion, I think that the main reason law enforcement becomes lax is because it's purely intentional. The truth is, in order to get justice we have to advocate for ourselves so strongly that they have to act upon it. Keep getting the restraining orders. Keep filing police reports. Imagine how hard fought battles were won in court by women for equality and the right to get to vote? Unfortunately, that's what has to happen. In this case, women have to make the choice to get involved in and run for these offices in order to get justice. We have to take our freedoms way more seriously. Especially, when you have creepers in office "speaking in tongues" on state emblems. XY is completely invested in undoing women's rights. You'd think this wouldn't be an issue. But, here we are.
Shar just reading this video caption made my stomach hurt. Please as much as you can help it be careful, trust your intuition, and employ people around you the police etc. Sending blessings to you.
So glad I'm finally licensed to carry 😊
I had a feeling something was off..
I stopped going to the gym in my apartment building because of a weird guy. Im sorry to hear you’re going through this.
I stopped going to my apartment building as well. Not because of a weird guy, but just on general principle: not enough witnesses should I be there alone with one other person. Public park or commercial gym it is!
I've had more than one stalker, unfortunately. After telling certain people I know, they were no longer a problem. I did run into one a few years later, and he stared at me for a long time. I ignored him, while also watching him. I was out with friends and let them know. One of them revealed that he had done the same to her and that her brothers dealt with him.
Aim for the eyes
Or throat, scrotum.
Eyes, throat, solar plexus (above the belly button), balls, knees, feet
Remember a guy stalking me around Midway airport. He called me a 'queen' and keep hitting on me and looking at my backside. Happened in my late teens or so so I didn't know what to do and there were people around so I tried ignoring him. Luckily he didn't follow me to boarding and I got on my flight safely. Never saw him again.
Sadly these situations will keep happening until the cops and anyone involved can take these things more seriously. It doesn't matter how many victims speak out if nothing's done about it😔
Oh hell no Shar. Please, please, have mace at the very least. I can’t imagine feeling uncomfortable in your own building.
I'm so sorry y'all are having to deal with this. It's insane how the predators/perpetrators are protected when victims aren't.
Even if he leave you all Still need to be careful, cause even when they do stuff to you they will be mad because you didnt allow them to disrespect you and take advantage of you and its good you are reporting this because they start small and then they escalate , Dont ever open your door without checking and taking a weapon to the door with you and if you dont have one , you need to look into one as well as training
This is so awful. Girl, be careful. I've had a stalker before.There's basically like no protections from stalkers (male or female). I've talked to cops before and they are so apathetic and even the ones who cared were just like "nothing I can do." It's apparently always like that. That's why stalkers...are stalkers. You're right about the creepers in the neighborhood. Mine hid out in a wealthy neighborhood and he was SO well isolated and insulated because he kept to himself mostly except for having a JUST likeable enough nonpersona to avoid the wrong kind of attention. He had a long history of mental illness but was clearly able to keep it together enough to harass women and stay away from the highly illegal behaviors. Couldn't hold down a job anymore because of his inability to suppress his rage and pettiness issues. I doubt his neighbors knew what he was doing but he was basically banned from all the dating websites and seemed proud of it because he had to find workarounds to get back on them. He had way too much time on his hands to plan out elaborate ways of harassing, psychologically bullying women JUST enough for it to be legal and hard to prove. It took me a while to figure out what he was doing, but I think he was basically one of those narcissistic red pill psychos who was only dating women to try and get them pregnant so they couldn't get away from him completely. He just enjoyed punishing women everytime he felt they did something to him. Stalkers are the worst.
Apartment group chat?! No thanks! I wouldn't want anyone in my building having my number, except for my neighbour who I'm friends with and the property manager.
If that guy has assaulted people already, he shouldn't just be removed from the community but should be arrested.
Maybe when he leaves the door locks can be changed.. and squatter rights ends..
What a weirdo! Everybody protect yourselves! ❤
Please be careful and stay safe 🙏🏽 there’s way too many attacks against women right now I’m even scared to talk to a guy ❤😢
It sounds like your creepers' behaviors are elevating into something that can potentially be dangerous. It also sounds like he may have a developmental disability. I would suggest that the women try to avoid contact with this person and carry something for protection. If there are parents in your building, I would strongly advise them to make sure that their children are monitored at ALL times. Sometimes if they can't get the attention from their original source, they will go to the most vulnerable.
You have to document everything he says. And DONT respond. It gives them supply
I am so sorry this is happening to you. You don't deserve this.
WHY is youtube non stop reccomending me " i have a stalker" video from people i've enever seen or heard of before!? i'm not a stalker content watcher lol whyyyy is this all they want to show me !?
me too lol
@@basil6060 The main reason why I wrote this comment was to see if it was happening to other people too. Appreciate the response lol
@@What.The.Chell_lol it keeps happening to me too lol
Same
Did you see the baby reindeer? The show from Netflix?
NGL, this is Hella upsetting, but so expected. SMH I wish that women and children were as protected as men are..
How are men protected? They're statistically more likely to be victims of v i0lent crime.
I suggest EVERYONE in the building look up the case of Ken Mcelroy. Apropos of nothing 😈
Good job calling him A stalker and not MY. I know that's a big tip.
The stalkers I've known have been more...targeted. While it's horrific, thank goodness you have such community support because of how prevalent his behavior is.
The terrifying thing is that women will have to play dodge the creep until the creep finally assaults or ends a woman and is caught. Our system shouldn't be this.... unresponsive!!
If you become friends with some cops who work the beat they may be willing to go above and beyond to catch him outside of his apartment (like in the gym) but is it worth the.... unique misery.... of getting to know a cop? I dunno. (sorry ya'll. my ex was a cop. I have an intense bias against. But they can be useful and are actually pretty helpful if they simply WANT to be your hero)
Sorry you're all going through this!
If dude can take this much rejection and take that as encouragement to keep trying, he is seriously mentally ill.
A lot of him are walking around. Its crazy. And disgusting.
⚠️MOOOOVVVVE!⚠️ Although it may be inconvenience, costly, etc. please look into moving.
This is no joke. Men today feel a sense of entitlement to any and all women, and moves as if predatory behavior is the new form of courting and dating.
Men have always been like that. The social media just put a spotlight on it. 👍
@diamondz this is true, but I'm seeing an escalation of violence against women in recent years that aligns with her comment
@@valeriew4833🤦♀️BECAUSE of increased media attention
@@valeriew4833 Ya, because society no longer cares about family and community. So women live alone, so they're easier targets for evil men.
This is why I carry
This is soooo stressful and dangerous, especially when it happens at your home where it suppose to be safe. I am so sorry Shar😢 Please document, document and document everything and put the cameras outside of your apartment.
Gurl I believe it. Trust me, people are weird.
Seems like he doesn’t have a job because he might be receiving some type of assistance for his mental disability. I disagreed with regular income apartments having to set aside a few apartment units for housing vouchers. Situations like this is why men receiving public assistance do not belong around neurotypical people.
If you are looking to lease an apartment, be sure to ask if they accept housing vouchers. If they do, keep looking. You don’t want to risk living in close proximity to someone who is potentially mentally unstable. This man belongs is a halfway house or a psych ward. He clearly has too much free time on his hands.
People that receive assistance usually don't have the type of money to live where this woman lives. He clearly is someone that has actual, disposable income.
@@Ria-sd2ex not necessarily, in some states, new apartment buildings (including some luxury apartments) have to set aside a few units for housing vouchers. Depending on the amount of the voucher, a mentally disabled person receiving public assistance can afford to live in a luxury apartment. Maybe that isn’t the case for this guy, but it’s something to look out for when apartment shopping. People wanting your money and advertising as luxury are not always going to disclose information that might deter you from spending with them.
@@ultravioletmix33 Tell me where you've seen this happen, please? People that receive assistance and do not have disposable income would have a hell of a time affording a place like that. Even with a voucher. It's just not possible to afford something like that on a small, fixed income. But I'd love to know where you witnessed this.
@@Ria-sd2ex sweetie, I’m not trying to convince you. The facts: Luxury is a spectrum in the apartment world, low end luxury buildings in some states are required to accept housing vouchers and high end luxury apartments might not be required to do so.
@@ultravioletmix33 I wasn't asking you to "convince me". I was asking what evidence you have of this. Anyone can just say things, honey. The reality is not what you're describing, however. Also, what is "low end luxury?". It's either a Luxury apartment, or it's not. No one anywhere in this country requires these apartments to have vouchers for people who are mentally ill/poor. You have to have money, period.
I have one patient like this. He told me he biked an hour to see me, and that I was so cute etc etc but he made me so uncomfortable so I told my boss and now whenever he comes in my boss with steamroll infront of me so I can leave the area and he will just deal with him. The shock on the patients face when my manager just slid infront of me and took over was priceless but I was genuinely scared
What I like is that are 50+ random woman who wrote really bad reviews on this one guy (I think the story is out of Cali) and now everyone one knows to stay clear of him! He actually suing them but he has no case. lol And! Where it was just Cali women, that was aware of the story, now that he’s suing, the entire country knows to run the opposite direction when he come around. LOL!!
THIS is what women need in times like these, a national registry on all the dusties, cheaters, DL and violent men out here.
Have y'all tried to file a restraining order in him? I'd even go so far as to look into a civil suit case, like a low key class action. If the law won't help you then go the civil route, I would also suggest starting to go to therapy and claim that this person is putting u in this position to do so ( power in numbers ladies! The more of you that do this the better). Also maybe hold a woman's only self defense class at the building?! Get the energy and point across and learn some skills... Then I would start writing complaints online like next door or Twitter or Yelp about this dude in your building and how nothing is being done. Again if you do this as a group and stay persistent then maybe you can not only help yourselves and bring attention to the situation, you might be able to highlight this situation and make some change. This absolutely shouldn't be on y'all to get this done, but when woman comes together they can get ah&t done💪
Sounds like a crime show. He is trying to level up until he actually ends someones life. This is scary.
So happy to see more of your content, glad you returned to youtube
I'm sorry you have to go through this.... it would be great if men were held accountable for their behaviour
Being stalked is nothing short of a nightmare. It happened to me numerous times when I was in Nigeria. My father and male relatives got involved each time that it happened. In the United States, when it happened I simply moved to another city with my son. I did not feel confident then to report my stalker to the police. I am sorry that this is happening to you. You might have to break the lease and move to another building.
Oh hell no. He needs to get out of that building. I might watch too much true crime but this can end very badly.
Can you or someone in the group chat get the local media involved?! Usually that’s what can get the ball rolling in these situations.
Why wasn't there a background check done on this guy before he moved in? So scary!!
The only thing that's worked for me with a creep is taking a phone call while i wait for coffee. Or texting on my phone and being super distracted. Also, answering his questions wrong to let him know you're not listening. Just act busy and he might get the hint. But he might not.
Sometimes there is a background check that shows nothing because he may not have been caught/ prosecuted/ convicted of a crime
@@Raddiebaddie They ran one after his creepy behavior and it showed a ton of stuff from years ago. I feel like the building dropped the ball on this one.
@@saraho9568 ooof thats even worse they really did drop the ball then!
Please stay safe and protect yourself ❤️I’m really sorry that you and the other residents in your building are experiencing this
Get a real baton (not Amazon) and learn how to swing it correctly at the wrists to buy time to escape an assault. And pepper gel is better than pepper spray in confined spaces and leaves traceable invisible dye.
My thoughts: put a tracking device on his vehicle. then someone could text him, pretend to be an interested girl - and set up a rendezvous on the other side of town. Watch him leave, have a lookout tracking his vehicle, remove the door from the hinges (flathead screwdriver and hammer) and change the lock. Then when he comes back and starts predictably beating on the door, and freaking out - call the cops.
I’m currently going through this. Please watch yourself at all times and give someone your location. It’s crazy because stalkers know it’s hard to prove especially if you’re driving. If you have text messages keep them. If you have phone calls keep them. The guy that’s stalking me has no connection to me other than school. Never been to my home but somehow developed an obsession with me.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this …. My mom dealt with stockers when she was married and in her 20s. She even had someone who creeped around by the house when she was alone and there were a lot of close calls. Luckily, nothing bad ever happened but stockers are very real.
Get a PewPew, learn to use it, check your car for tracking devices, people like him are EXTREMELY EXTREMELY Dangerous, and I am so sorry your having to go through this, as NOBODY should!