A pervasive sense of dread before interacting with toxic people is what i consistently felt for 10 years! Self gaslighted myself into thinking it's just nerves! Thank You for the validation! Sending U so much love😊
Such an awesome post Michelle, thank you so much for sharing. Seriously, I needed this a long time ago and now it completely reinforces all the good that I learned. Seriously, I would recommend you to anyone and everyone. We all need help at some point in our lives, and you're the perfect person to help heal and educate us. 🙏 Lots of love and germ-free hugs ❤😊
I really needed this validation. I’ve said before to people I don’t even know when I’m needing to be advocating to myself let alone how to advocate for myself. At 50 I’m terrified of speaking up and I do have a lot of repressed anger. Thank you so much for such a validating video ❤
Your channel is absolutely fantastic how amazing it is to finally find someone who understands from such a deep level. You speak my subconscious that hasn’t been brought to awareness ❤
Me t👀! So Grateful for these videos Michelle! You’re helping me see the toxicity I’ve endured because I didn’t know what toxic behaviour was. Thank YOU❤
I only really have signs 5 and 7. I used to have this internet friend here on RUclips who would sometimes insult and criticize others in his comments sections if he disagreed with something they said. I just chose to overlook it because I figured he didn't mean it. He never would treat me this way though so I guess that's why it was so easy for me to overlook this but when I had that incident where I said I lost respect for him after I thought he blocked someone for no reason that's when I realized how toxic he was when he responded to me and said I had no point in life. You may remember a previous comment I posted here where I mentioned this incident. It turns my stomach knowing I was friends with him for 2 years and I really regret being friends with him. I feel like it has had a negative impact on my mental health mostly due to the regret I'm feeling.
Yeah some people are harder to let go of in terms of the impact they made. It helps to find ways to work through this like peer support groups or therapy. Thanks for watching. I really hear that this was a painful lesson.
I always make the world more beautiful. e.g. the man I date is more handsome etc. I hate that I do that and can't embrace reality. I know that's a survival mechanism. How can I change that (that I don't look at the situation in a kind of fog, I romanticize a lot)?
I was told I have Rose colored glasses that I see life and people through. At the time I thought it was a compliment, but now I see it was a survival strategy because seeing the truth of toxic behavior aimed at me as a child was too overwhelming and painful. But this strategy has gotten me involved with so many people who behave in toxic ways (I include myself in toxic behavior) that it has been disastrous to most of my relationships and my health
A pervasive sense of dread before interacting with toxic people is what i consistently felt for 10 years! Self gaslighted myself into thinking it's just nerves! Thank You for the validation! Sending U so much love😊
Oh thank you - sending you love right back! 🥰
Thank you so much for this Michelle. So good to have all these things I’ve felt over so many years explained and validated
You are sooooo welcome!!!
Such an awesome post Michelle, thank you so much for sharing. Seriously, I needed this a long time ago and now it completely reinforces all the good that I learned. Seriously, I would recommend you to anyone and everyone. We all need help at some point in our lives, and you're the perfect person to help heal and educate us. 🙏 Lots of love and germ-free hugs ❤😊
That’s so kind Julie! It’s obvious you are doing great work!
That was a very informative video. It really hit home for me and my high bs tolerance. Thanks, Michelle!
Yeah, I'm with you there - it's easy to miss the signs :)
I really needed this validation. I’ve said before to people I don’t even know when I’m needing to be advocating to myself let alone how to advocate for myself. At 50 I’m terrified of speaking up and I do have a lot of repressed anger.
Thank you so much for such a validating video ❤
You're so welcome, I should do a video on repressed anger :)
@@MichelleFarrismft YES absolutely, I’d love to view one on repressed anger
Okay I'll add that one to my list!@@lollipop3136
Okay sou9nds good!@@lollipop3136
Yes, a video on repressed anger would be so helpful
I have all 7 signs 😳 It’s so helpful to have them identified!!! I couldn’t even articulate what’s going on with me. This is incredibly helpful
I’m so glad Diane. There are so many things you can do to recover strong!
Me too! Every single one exponentially 🤨
@godzillamanstreb524 you’re not alone here! That’s for sure.
Your channel is absolutely fantastic how amazing it is to finally find someone who understands from such a deep level. You speak my subconscious that hasn’t been brought to awareness ❤
Thank you Jamie, I'm happy the video helped you! That makes my day!
This is painful to hear!! It’s my life for so long….but changing now 🎉
I'm sorry, I know this would be a difficult topic to watch so give yourself tons of credit!! You are brave enough to do this work and not give up.
@@MichelleFarrismft ty so much Michelle…. I can’t go back….I’ve come so far…. I did all the things you said
@@godzillamanstreb524 you are awesome!!
Me t👀!
So Grateful for these videos Michelle! You’re helping me see the toxicity I’ve endured because I didn’t know what toxic behaviour was.
Thank YOU❤
Good for you! I know this is not easy but identifying the signs will help!
@@MichelleFarrismft 🫂❤️
It really doesn’t have to go back to childhood. You can come from a healthy family and just be cursed with high empathy and / or stupidity.
Yes.. good point. Thanks for watching!
lol…. I guess so, but toxics felt so comfortable to me👺👺…..taken a long time to change my neural pathways
@godzillamanstreb524 yeah I know, that’s one of the reasons it takes awhile. 😀
I only really have signs 5 and 7. I used to have this internet friend here on RUclips who would sometimes insult and criticize others in his comments sections if he disagreed with something they said. I just chose to overlook it because I figured he didn't mean it. He never would treat me this way though so I guess that's why it was so easy for me to overlook this but when I had that incident where I said I lost respect for him after I thought he blocked someone for no reason that's when I realized how toxic he was when he responded to me and said I had no point in life. You may remember a previous comment I posted here where I mentioned this incident. It turns my stomach knowing I was friends with him for 2 years and I really regret being friends with him. I feel like it has had a negative impact on my mental health mostly due to the regret I'm feeling.
Yeah some people are harder to let go of in terms of the impact they made. It helps to find ways to work through this like peer support groups or therapy. Thanks for watching. I really hear that this was a painful lesson.
Thank you so much! 💞
Thanks for watching!
Excellent examples.❤🎉
Thanks Deb! I’m trying!
thanks 😊
You’re very welcome!
Me too!
Thank you for watching!
me too
Yeah this one was me too :)
I always make the world more beautiful. e.g. the man I date is more handsome etc. I hate that I do that and can't embrace reality. I know that's a survival mechanism. How can I change that (that I don't look at the situation in a kind of fog, I romanticize a lot)?
Well to change any habit it starts with awareness - then you might do some writing on that. That usually helps me.
@@MichelleFarrismftThank you 🙏
@@Amber34355 absolutely!🙏
I was told I have Rose colored glasses that I see life and people through. At the time I thought it was a compliment, but now I see it was a survival strategy because seeing the truth of toxic behavior aimed at me as a child was too overwhelming and painful. But this strategy has gotten me involved with so many people who behave in toxic ways (I include myself in toxic behavior) that it has been disastrous to most of my relationships and my health
@@dianeshoemaker6591 oh I can relate - having a big heart without boundaries can really impact us. You’re in the right place!
Me to
You’re not alone! Thanks for watching!
what does self trust look like
It's being able to rely on yourself and your own perceptions most of the time.