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As someone who has both PTSD and CPTSD, while it describes both fairly accurately, it's too ... removed is the best word I can find. People suffering from it need practical steps, not just to cope with it, but to actually heal from it, and yes, it can be done. I've been to 15 therapists in my life and none recognised it; it was only because I knew something was wrong and kept researching I finally knew what was wrong. The biggest cause of problems we face is dysregulation. The other things are just symptoms of it. Recognising dysregulation, and learning how to catch it before it goes off the charts, and how to soothe it, is KEY. I wish more mental health professions knew this so they can provide meaningful help to their clients struggling with this.
Just read your comment… can empathize with the exhaustion that comes from one after another, after another, etc… help that has mainly just helped me believe stronger with each let down that it’s hopeless. With that then, I believe there are basically three options for me in life, of which two of them I’m not willing to accept… yet. My name’s Jay too. How did you happen to discover the whole dysregulation issue? Just tons of digging? And have you found anyone out there who’s capable of providing therapy for individuals who have such a substantial collection of experiences in their life when compared to most others? I know hardship isn’t comparable so please don’t think me arrogant. It’s just that I’ve sensed lately that I’m really nearing the end of trying to “make it”. I’m exhausted… guess by some miracle, I happened across this video, including your comment. Thanks
amen to that these brainwashers dont want to speak in facts and most of all how do they know their MARKETABLE blanket "solutions" helpm reminds me of the legal system and the domestic violence "resources" available which then rolls over to why dont u leave him? something that NEVER WORKED. this is now a saleable thing and the disconnect is this person and so many has and have cut out human interaction. take good care jay. aloha🤙🏽
@@akaLuptonPittman From one Jay to another ... I just got your comment. Sorry it's taken me so. long to respond. I first learned about dysregulation from the RUclips channel The Crappy Childhood Fairy. This was after having seen 10+ therapists, none of whom recognised it, or understood CPTSD. She's a starting point for understanding that and a bit more, but only that. She's limited, but a decent place to start. I get it. I was also exhausted from all this, and also felt hopeless. I'd already tried everything people said were the answers: talk therapy, drugs, and EMDR. Looking for answers, and not finding any, IS exhausting. Just living this way is exhausting. I used to describe it as having your foot pressed to the metal on the acceleration pedal, and at the same time on the brake. Not one of the many therapists I saw knew anything about CPTSD, and looking back, it's astounding to me they also didn't recognise how extremely dysregulated I was, or what the cause of it was. That wasn't for the lack of me being open about what was going on, it was their lack of ability to understand and put it together. There is help, you can heal, but it takes time, and learning how to be compassionate to yourself. Sounds easy, but it's not. I wish you the best.
When I was first hospitalized, they diagnosed me with bipolar II, second time=MDD, 3rd time=BPD, 4th time= PTSD. I feel the BPD and bipolar were misdiagnoses as I don't feel my symptoms fully align with those But I have PTSD from a car accident but I feel my symptoms 100% align with those described as C-PTSD. I know labels are not important but when it comes to treatment and medication, it can definitely help. I wish I had gotten trauma-informed therapy sooner.
No surprise. My wife has been going to a psychiatrists for 30+ years. Just 2.5-3 years ago she was finally properly diagnosed with CPTSD by a licensed professional counselor. A counselor I found for myself who specializes in anger management. We quickly figured out that I was so overwhelmed from living with a person with CPTSD for 28 years without a proper diagnosis or any understanding of why she kept making the same mistakes and bad decisions over and over year after year, having major health problems, depressive episodes...that I was overwhelmed, flooded, and unable to process my emotions in a healthy way anymore. We had been to another counselor before who was of no help. The psychiatrists she had been seeing were of no help, probably caused more harm with the drugs they prescribed. Often a person needs to try many different professionals in this field before finding one who is really good and knows what questions to ask. Unfortunately a lot of these "professionals" have given into the medical industrial complex and are now only concerned with billing for patience visits and prescribing the latest drugs. This new counselor has saved our marriage and my wife has been able to finally start the heeling process and we are making some real progress. Out counselor recommended The Body Keeps the Score. That book was a huge revelation. Also Loving Someone with PTSD is another book that has been a huge help to my understanding of what is happening with my wife. I wish you all the best!!!
I didn't know what I had until a month ago. I learned what I had because someone else has ptsd. When I talked to that random stranger they told me have that and I didn't know what it was but I was like oh ok. After I decided to look into it I right away realized I have cptsd. I think doctors try to avoid that maybe? Or it's something that doesn't get talked about much. I told my doctor several this about me. He gave me anxiety medication and suggested marriage counseling. Since that time I have only got a lot worse and I don't even know how I'm going to solve this. I haven't slept in the longest time ever. I self medicate now every day. And I'm at the end of my rope. The only person that would even care is probably my wife and I don't even want to talk to her about it. Now, for the first time I'm forming other friendships with other woman. I haven't cheated. I try to keep it as friends. So that I have someone to talk to. It makes things less complicated when you know someone doesn't owe you anything but they are just there. I'm worried that I'm going to destroy everything that I've managed even while having cptsd.
@@waydwalker3674I am so impressed by the degree to which you stood by your wife in such an understanding and compassionate way. I've not been able to come across that myself. I've been single now over 30 years. Yet at this point I'm pretty enlightened and know mindful practices and quick remedies that regulate me or re-regulate me. Ican even catch myself and stop on the way to a quick 100 and actually redirect myself.😊 It's been a long journey and I would have given anything to have that special someone stand by me and help see me through it, but I just kept attracting abusers and violent men. So crazy. I'm pretty sure I am done with that pattern, thankfully. I'm very happy for both you and your wife that you're getting measurable help and that it sounds like you're coming out the other side. That's wonderful! I'm only about half way thru this video and it's further informing me about the chgs that CPTSD have likely done to my brain which I've long suspected and wondering whether or not it can be fixed. My traumas are many and started very young. I find myself today with a diagnosed neurological syndrome (no real surprise given my history of traumas) that has put me off work - a strange blessing. Though I've less money than ever to live on I'm finally getting to do a deep dive into my traumas with a therapist who actually understands me and my CPTSD. I thought I'd have to be one of the forever walking wounded. Kind of gratefully, current challenges are causing old wounds to resurface where i can work them out without also having to hold down a job. It's been a sacrifice of the flesh and creature comforts, but God is good and I guess His timing is perfect. When the student is ready the teacher will come. Enter this video. It's not the first time I've heard about CPTSD, but it is the first time I've heard it discussed exactly this way. I hope and pray you and your wife's next half will be smooth sailing and more enriched for knowing what you've come through - together. Still together! Wow!!! Good job! And good job on realizing you needed help yourself after being your wife's support for so long. This may sound strange, bc I know I don't know you, but since you seen to have a good spirit, if you wouldn't mind, if you have any "good man" angel connections, will you please consider saying a prayer for this girl of 64 years that she find a patient, kind and loving man? 🤗Maybe you're the best person to know what character traits to ask for in a man that stays. He won't come away empty handed and he will be twice blessed for it. All the best to you and your wife! 🙌🏼🙏☝
@@SexyBulldozerManI think the real payoff is in being honest with your wife. Sorry. I know you didn't ask, but it's easy for a stranger to listen and yet easier for one of you to slip one night. :/ It might feel safe talking to female friends but you want to have the breakthrough with your wife and get through it together with HER, building trust even if scary. I wldn't want you losing what it seems you have. And see if you can determine what you need from her to help you move forward. It's hard to ask for help, but many of us don't ask for help and never knew we could bc even if we had asked no one wld have been there for us. But if you're ever going to take a chance on trusting someone maybe you can try a traumas therapist (CBT Trained) who can bring your wife in for a visit to help broach the topic to your wife if you don't quite have the words just yet. Personally, I wldnt want to be the wife who found out my husband felt more comfortable confiding in strangers than he did with me, but maybe she's more allowing or more secure that way. Idk. If the meds aren't working maybe have them lessened or ask for new ones or get off of them all together, but wait till you have another method of support b4 you try that in case they're helping you more than you realize. Get some reliable, professional support first. CPTSD IS something I worked on in safe 12-step mtgs (with strangers) like CODA and ACA. I just knew I cldnt do meds as I live alone and certain meds can give ya suicidal thoughts and I can hardly take my vitamins regularly (like many previously traumatized people) so meds was too big a gamble for me plus I don't like being the medical industry's guinea pig as mental health drugs are a crap shoot. Every patient is different and unique. So I went with counseling and 12-step mtgs and fitness. The mtgs are free and you will find others with similar backgrounds/traumas/stories and that really helps to know you're not alone, and to see how others deal/dealt with their traumas. You can get a sponsor or a fellow traveler get in a phone list and call others to chat and join a small grp if you want to work the 12 steps together. It's the first place I recall going where I didn't feel judged. Just acceptance - which was a very new experience for me. I was still afraid to tell the whole truth of how I felt inside about myself, but what a relief when I let it all out, little by little, and no one ran away or dismissed me or gaslighted or diminished my experience. You will see the growth and the hope for change in others, and yourself. Over time, the next thing you know you're changing and improving and sharing hope of your own to others. You just have to stick with it. The program works when you work it. It's been proven many times over. You just try different mtgs til you find a fit for you. Then try to do 30 mtgs in 30 days. But don't worry about doing it perfectly. It's ok. When you get that 30-day chip you really know you're on the road to somewhere better and to a better you. You become the parent to your inner child that you never had. You get a re-do. Then in time you can incorporate meditation or mindful breathing into your everyday life or walks in nature or other activities that bring you back in alignment with your true self, as you discover who that is, and you're united with parts of you that you maybe haven't seen or heard from for years. :) All the best to you! Someone once said courage is feeling afraid and doing it anyway. Just take one step at a time. You'll find your way. Oh, and if you don't believe in God, you can call it a higher power, nature, the universe, the spirit or whatever works for you. Best to you!
@@SexyBulldozerMan because the C for complex is not in DSM V (or IV) and straight PTSD doesnt cover all the symptoms. As long as you find effective treatment, the diagnosis technical name doesn't matter
Some days I just wish it was all over (this dysregulated feeling) and I could go back to feeling like a human again but then I remember that I've got 20+ years of trauma to recover from. I'd say that I'm in my second year of healing. I cut off everything and everyone. I'm doing this for me.
I’m about to start my journey after almost 21 years, I want and need to do this for myself to heal but it’s scary. But it’s also the first step, doing it for yourself ya know? Doing what YOU want and feel.
I loved that book and People of the Lie. It was very comforting for someone to not excuse the abuser, for being 'mentall ill' - I don't care. Being mentally ill does NOT give anyone license to abuse others! It was also fascinating to realize that so many 'pillars of the community' are narcissistic, and are 'pillars' because they need to show people that they are a 'good person' but have no way of knowing how to actually 'be' a good person. My mother and my first love's father were both very involved in the church, and were both extremely abusive.
How um, friendly is the book? My inner child is very sensitive to any bad scenarios that happen to be described in text, as imagined images haunt me for a long long time if it’s graphic enough. I need informative books that will not um, scar me emotionally.
@@tiffanyribbons It is scholarly, written by a noted authority. Don't recall anything that triggered me emotionally. I would recommend it to anyone serious about using the techniques mentioned for recovering from and understanding how the body functions under CPTSD. It focusses on the brain with actual photographs. Gives suggestions such as yoga and theatre work, the premise being that it is stored in the physical body and the physical ways to recover.
Discovering CPTSD explained EVERYTHING that was wrong with me/my life, and realising my negative 'character traits' weren't character flaws at all but rather the effects of trauma stress and the Fearful Avoidant attachment style it created. I am currently three parts into 'The Body Keeps The Score' and despite having enough childhood abuse to score 8-9/10 on the ACES test I have not found it triggering at all, even though the graphic descriptions of abuse and neglect made me cry at the injustice and suffering. On the contrary, I am finding this book freeing and empowering, as it is putting all the pieces of the puzzle together for me, and lifting the shame. I've been attending the TRF book club while reading the book and many other CPTSD sufferers report the same thing - that reading this book has been life-changing for them. So I will have to disagree that people with trauma stress should not read this book, unless they are extremely fragile. This video was useful too, with a few details I wasn't aware of. Thank you.
I read about 150 pages and found it too difficult to keep going. It did teach me some things though. I've since been reading the recovey chapters and Pete Walker's from surviving to Thriving.
6 months ago, I was diagnosed with CPTSD. I endure an abusive father, bullied most of my school life, sexually assulted in high school, had a horrible relationship and found a loved one dead. It is so hard to deal with it. And for a long time, I couldn't find help. Though therapy is helping, but I'm still struggling. I'm still having a hard time regulate my emotions, from being defensive, crying spells and low self esteem I just want all of this to stop and be able to feel normal. Because I do not feel normal and struggle to be positive
I remind folks that it's okay to not be okay. It's okay to rage when you need to rage, or cry when you need to cry, or whatever. Our society tries to promote toxic positivity. Nobody is positive all the time, except fakes and psychopaths. It's okay to hurt. It's okay to take time out for yourself, and lie down for a two-hour nap if that's what your body tells you it needs. If you have a job, check to see if they have an EAP program, which usually provides a free series of counseling. I've heard that therapies like EMDR, tapping and neurofeedback can be helpful. Not sure how insurance companies can cover those.
Tapping videos EFT on you tube have really been helping me over the last 2 years. Many different people have videos, and I've been amazed at how much more they've helped than all the terrible therapists I've been to did. It's just for you; I know there are introductory books about it too. I find it hard to have to talk about horrible, shaming things with therapists; they're not a friend, and sometimes I didn't feel valued or cared about, just seen as part of a paycheck. RUclips has been so much better for me! I really Like Tapping with Brad; he's like a wonderful older brother, or loving uncle, cousin, some positive male figure like I never had. There are women who do tapping videos also; take a look and I hope it helps! Be blessed!
I spent the first 50 years of my life living in neglect, trauma. Through many years of going through counseling and have come to the conclusion "normal" does not exist. Healthy exists and healthy is something I can identify especially through programs such as this one.
You mentioned the word relax and I just realized the reason I hate it so much it because it feels like an invalidation for my current feelings (granted now I understand that though my feelings are valid, they may be arising from a false premise based on my thoughts or beliefs) but I have always hated it as well as its variations, take it easy, stop overreacting, chill etc etc. Thank you for this and I hope you can do some more videos on cptsd
All of the above and then some. I do agree, with each time you go through the same trauma it becomes harder to "recover" to heal. Each time it takes away more of you, of the person you are. Though it's always there it gets harder to push it behind and leave it behind. You become less able to bounce back from the damage. Each time you become less and less of yourself. It agressivly invades your thoughts until it's all consuming. Because now your waiting, dreading and preparing for the next blow. All while your still living the pain from the prior. The worst thing though is when you look in the mirror and what you see is terrifying. That once beautiful, strong, witty, intuitive person with a mischievous spark in there eye is no longer looking back. Instead this unrecognizable sad being, that suddenly looks years past its age, that looks afraid and drained of its strength, holding on and hoping, this pittiful lifeless thing is looking back.
@@bmst6162 that's OK, I'm 58 and barely hanging on....we can DO this. If we weren't tough as nails, we would not have survived so, nowhere to go but UP....
I feel you. It is said anxiety is worrying about something that 99.9% won't happen, but some of us DO go from one nightmare to another with no time to recover in between. I'm tentative with EVERYTHING I do, everyone I speak to. The moments of joy and peace are brief even though I have more than enough to be grateful for - and I am. Sending you love and understanding.
Sadly, I just felt the need to share this with my elementary teacher friends. Thank you for reminding us that after education, safety is the second most important element for treatment.
Safety should always be first. Genuine safety. Not making white students stand up in class and apologise for being white. I'll never forget hearing about that going on in schools during the BLM riots all in the name of student safety. It was hurtful to see.
I think you may have it backwards. Safety is not second to anything short of maybe food and water bc we will ignore safety if hungry and thirsty enough. Please Please get this straight bc you will not be able to educate even one child if you cannot provide a safe environment or a good enough sense of safety. Bullying and such needs to be taken far more seriously and not the physical kind.
💥 35 plus years in therapy, psychiatrist,....have had almost EVERY DIAGNOSIS, BUT THIS. and I , after ACCIDENTALLY discovered this page,. Not only Did I DIAGNOSE myself, I am NOW, at 50 FINALLY, SEEKING the CORRECT ways to professionally HEAL AND CREATE,,,," MY CHOSEN MINDSET" THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS
I came here by pure chance....in my mind...but I'm pretty sure I was guided here by purpose.....I can't guarantee that I will overcome.....But after years of this Living Hell....I have an understanding about what is going on....I was at the end...this young Woman saved my Life...
Thank you so much for sharing this-it truly touches my heart to know this video has brought you some understanding and relief during such a difficult time. Complex PTSD can feel like a living hell, as you described, and finding clarity about what’s going on is such a powerful step toward healing. Even if overcoming feels uncertain right now, the fact that you’re here, seeking knowledge and hope, speaks to your incredible strength and resilience. Please know that healing is a journey, not a destination, and you don’t have to face it alone. Small steps each day can lead to meaningful progress over time. If you found this video helpful, please consider sharing it so others who are struggling might also find the support they need. For more in-depth resources and tools, you can visit DocSnipes.com/Clones. How are you feeling now that you have this new understanding? I am honored to continue supporting you on your path to recovery. You’re not alone in this.
This is the best description of CPTSD I've ever seen. I was abused as a child for 4-5 yrs and had so much crap in my life i lived in continual hypervigilance and was going insane for 45 yrs. The issue was I couldn't remember 90% of it, just big black spaces for years. I've said "until my diagnosis my personality was CPTSD" so many times but this is the first time I've heard it described like that, thank you!!!! I thought it was just how I was not what many people get. This is me 100%.
Well, I have CPTSD. I read many of the responses from others on here. I am so sorry for all you have been through on here. I had to move 1500 miles away from the narcissists who caused me to get this. It has been five years. I am in the middle of going back now. I will be there in about two weeks. I would say the worst part of still having this is the constant fear I have of something crazy happening all of a sudden. I am trying to reason myself out of this fear. Please don’t tell me to get therapy. I tried many times. Most therapists have no idea what CPTSD is. My heart ❤️ is with all of you who have this condition.
we 'hang on' to a diagnosis because it explains our suffering, pathology, panic or anxiety attacks, fears, flashbacks, pains and suicidality when we have no security otherwise
I totally agree with you about this. For me not just to tell someone else it is very important for me to understand myself and why I have been feeling so horrible for 40 years with a regular counselor who knows nothing about Trauma 😢. And people in my life now or before obviously can't understand how rough this is.
Well done, you, Francis Alex. It's great that this lady totally understands it. My daughter suffers from addiction. I hope that she can find someone to help. I would like help on gaining confidence and not fearing establishing romantic relationships and friendships. I am not sure where to start on building trust. People seem to avoid friendships with me. I think I need to make a plan of action to work on various aspects of this condition 🤔
I have CPTSD for 46 years.. The willingness to have a relationship if any kind I almost completely impossible..I let any person or person's only get so close , I don't feel that I'm capable of loving anyone..,I don't what to hurt anyone the way I've been hurt.. I know how the ending of the start of things will turn out .. It's okay to realize your reality of the failure of all relationships.When you feel most people to say it happened 46 years,you have to move on a let go .. Yeah No!!! I miss kissing and cuddling and togetherness or intamicy, sex isn't that important to me.. Nightmares every day and night, terror's every day and night, talking and fighting in my sleep...I don't want to harm anyone knowing what that feelings can become. ... I'm 58 now and Haven't had any relationship in 8 years, it's not okay knowing the ending to hurt other people..My depression for many years has been deep down depression, lately in the past 6 months I'm just a emotional mess, crying over what some may say why or what are you crying about? I have no answers but its me ,like it or not ,it's me ...
You may want to look for a local, licensed professional counselor. -You can find other therapists via Psychology Today search: allceus.com/Psychology_Today_Therapist_Search -If you are in crisis, there is a national Suicide Hotline available at: allceus.com/Suicide_Prevention_Lifeline -There is a Domestic Violence hotline at: allceus.com/Domestic_Violence_Hotline OR Dial 911 for assistance in the U.S. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I had an epiphany this early morning. I avoided good people, and attracted abusers, because I was taught through trauma and abuse that Danger is Safe and Safe is Dangerous. The one time I had someone safe who truly loved me, my narcissistic mother figure and her flying monkey eldest son (my brother) destroyed our connection, in more ways than I can say here. I was told that he was evil, and that my 'family' who 'loved' me were good. So, years later, when I keep wondering why I can only seem to attract users, abusers, cheaters, etc. and a good guy comes along, I fear being with him....because, the last time I was with a good guy, my life was turned inside out and upside down, and my subconscious was terrified that I would be a destructive force in his life. So I rejected him, and carried on with more users, abusers, cheaters, et. al. Because they were 'safe' - meaning, my mother-figure would NOT abuse me if I was already being abused by someone else. Until today. That sh** stops today.
I don't normally talk about this stuff out in the open online, but in this case I feel its warranted. I have tremendous lifelong trauma that ranges from a wide variety of things from as early as a toddler. Being emotionally and psychologically abused growing up as well as sheltered, tormented by your peers from kindergarten to HS senior year, ignored by the adults who were supposed to protect you but instead neglected you, countless accounts of partners cheating, friends taking advantage, and people crafting premeditated attacks towards you specifically just to see you crumble from the inside. One of the top comments mentioned how you're just preparing for the next blow while still recovering from every single one prior - hit me like a ton of bricks, pun intended. You never feel safe anymore, you're constantly on edge and you catch yourself lashing out on the people you care about strictly because people from the past had the same innocent demeanor, but in actuality had malicious intent. Even happy memories give me flashbacks in a way now, because they're sullied and tainted by the fact those people hurt me. C-PTSD better be added as a legitimate disorder if some neurologist doesn't want their Nobel prize shoved up their ass.
Its friggin hard to find decent friends, decent jobs etc. After this kind of repeated abuse you can see the toxicity in people and they remind me of past people.
Seems like cptsd is the cause of all the dysfunctional attachments in relationships that can be generational as well. Is that true? If so, that’s a significant portion of society that would benefit from EMDR and trauma therapy. Sad that it is not already recognized in DSM and that insurance generally does not cover therapy however will pay for anti-depressants. Thank you for your outstanding videos! You enlighten so many.
So they pay to get you into a veggie instead of investing in therapy wich is the only solution to go to the roots of tthe trauma . This society is so wrong and realise is just a buisness
Wow!!! I’m a loner, I’ve been deeply depressed and suicidal. You’ve taught me that on account of my childhood repetitive traumas, military sexual harassment, a failed divorce and to top it off my daughter whom I deeply love betrayed my trust and now she doesn’t want anything to do with me. I raised as a single mom, gave her the best I could without anyone’s financial assistance as her dad left us when she was two. I’ve been deeply & painfully hurt and depressed-so depressed I’m on many meds. Your lecture gave me the tools to diagnose myself, thank you!!! I believe I have CPTSD and BPD, I’ve made arrangements to see a therapist at the VA Healthcare finally at 66 years of age.
Thank you very much for mentioning about feeling vulnerable during the deep sleep. As a person with CPTSD, because of neglect, rejection and more I became a food addict/ bulimia. I am still anxious to go to bed. Now I am better aware about my overeating before bedtime. ☮
It's extremely difficult for me to lie down next to anyone and fall into a deep sleep. I can't help thinking that they can do anything they want to do and I wouldn't be able to fight...when I'm in a deep sleep, I can't fight anyone off. It's scary.
Wow! I’ve been practicing IFS for quite a while. Didn’t know it had a name 😄 I visualize myself holding myself as an infant, fully enjoying her presence, taking her to the park and play dates and showing her how precious she is in my eyes 💜 I would have loved to have a beautiful green eyed strawberry blonde daughter like me. So I’ve been giving her the love and cherishing that is never got💜💜💜💜
I found an old book called Healing The Child Within. Worth ordering and reading it and journaling your memories that surface and your responses to them. Therapeutic!
I have c-ptsd (and bpd) & these videos have helped me so much, especially since 'graduating' from therapy... helps keep me on track. Thank you so much for what you do.🙏🏾🙂
It seems very dysfunctional that CPTSD is still not included in the DSM-5. It is so serious, yet will continue to be misduagnosed and ignored . I wonder why it is not included? Do the people making these decisions have our best interests at heart? Or do they not want to think about severe trauma any more than the rest of society ? They are supposed to be better than that . Or is it because they can't find a cure, seeing as the response to trauma is normal? Or is it that insurance companies don't want to pay for treatment? Whatever the reason, it is reprehensibke .
It’s hard to measure that’s why. Or at least why I suspect. A lot easier to get academic funding for other disorders since you can prove effectiveness of treatment easier. Ex: heart rate went down ____ which proves our anxiety med works!
"the word relax can be triggering because their abuser used to use it" that was such an eye opener for me! My x kept telling me to be thankful they (him and his mom) don't throw me out to the street (in a new country where I couldn't speak the language, with a newborn) and now I always just get anxiety when I'm expected to do "thankfulness exercises"
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. If you’re interested in videos on ptsd, you can find them at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
I lived in a very hostile city during the lockdowns and riots two years ago. I lived within a few miles of serious and constant destruction, which lead toward my current symptoms. God willing, I can make it through this rough period of my life. 🙏👍
I grew up in a very dangerous neighborhood where I was shot at multiple times. Got in many many fights and even watched people almost beaten to death and drugged with pcp when I was 13 . I’ve had such a hard time understanding what is wrong with me as a adult until as of late
Whew. This is me. To the core. I kept getting the BPD, but that’s was not it. I’m constantly in fear of insecurity, in every way possible! Thank you for your work. I started this work on my own, with help of drs I’ve met with at conferences out in school. This is it. Thank you for the treatment options.
I can’t even find a mental health professional to act like they gaf enough to correctly diagnose me or listen to me. Just throw me meds and send the invoice. I’ve learn more from this video about myself than ever before. Thank you!
I am sorry you can’t find a mental health professional to correctly diagnose you and I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
Thank you so much for your kind words and for watching videos on the channel. I am truly grateful. Here are more videos on PTSD: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
Thank you Doc Snipes for presenting the detailed rundown on Complex PTSD. I have CPTSD and your explanation (by characterizing the symptoms) reconfirmed my suspicions. Mine was the result of an older sibling, 21 years of daily beatings since 10 months of age. Then random nightly strangulation since age 7 (for 15 years) while sleeping. Both parents from broken homes did not protect me from the abuse so, (as you mentioned) I developed numerous harmful self-protection mechanisms (that are involuntary today); the hyper-vigilance, depression, anxiety, inability to trust others, fear of death in any new environment (and so on). Through much prayer, God has delivered me from a great deal but, there still is considerable "hidden baggage" affecting my daily life. Over the years, it has been very difficult to actually find a therapist that is helpful. Another deception is our single point of view; we grow up assuming what we experience is normal thus, most of my findings have occurred over the past 20 years. To end on a positive note: I have observed that most of us suffering with this condition are primarily kind-hearted and caring people so, all is not bad.
I've started to gather my tribe, as it were, and slough off the chaff. I have decided that I now choose my 'family,' not biology. I choose my friends, not a sense of obligation or a need to fulfill their needs. I choose my partners, not my trauma or subconscious. We kindhearts must stick together, to defeat the demonic attacks all around us.
You describe it better than any of the countless people I've sought help from, so grateful its finally starting to be understood so appropriate strategies for help can be made available
I'm deeply touched to read that the video resonated with you and that you're finally getting the treatment you deserve. Your strength and resilience are truly inspiring. Remember, healing is a journey, and you're taking important steps forward. Please feel free to share what you’ve found most useful from the video and, if you’re interested in learning more about healing porn addiction recovery or to search for videos in the video library, don’t hesitate to use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
You speak so well, thank you. I was extremely traumatized at school ages 12-16 by a best friend and what I like to call "the bystanders" with a barrage of vicious verbal abuse and disregard for my feelings. I had other traumas before those nasty girls, such as child abuse, and a seriously mentally unwell parent whilst the other was neglectful. I feel like the majority of my life I've been ignored and isolated with heaps of verbal abuse. I've got a few happy moments but not many to be honest. I was diagnosed with C-ptsd along with some co-morbidities, early last year. I'm coming up to 40 soon, but I don't feel regret that it's seemingly taken so long for me to address the C-ptsd. I wasn't ready to heal in my in my teens or 20's. I've only had awareness of my inner constitution being related to my traumatic experiences a few months ago. Since this diagnosis, I've come to the conclusion that I'm not particularly weird, weak or broken. I suffered great traumas that could've happened to anyone and they would've reacted in similar ways. My responses were the best I could manage at the time and I was a child when most of my traumas happened, so I'm no longer ashamed of those trauma responses. Healing is a process and my heart and mind are starting to process everything now.
9:55 meditation is NOT recommended for everyone. For dissociatives , meditation can even be one of the causes of it, often forced meditation especialy, and so it does only harm to someone trying to heal. Anyone subjected to coercive control techniques previously or currently will/most likely be harmed meditating until healed unless they have dissociative parts specifically wanting to meditate..[ however should be done with caution since other parts could be effected negatively outside of the awareness of parts participating in meditation]. EMDR is also not recommended for people with dissociative altered parts and causes severe distress, it is not the way to achieve integration in memory and can and does backfire on the traumatized multiple.
I don’t know what to do my anxiety disorders are way too severe and all my mental disorders. It’s torture 24/7 every single day non stop, and impossible to handle. There’s nothing that stops my severe anxieties no matter what I do (+I have a weird sleeping disorder) and I can’t handle anti-depressants due to side effects such as sexual(I already suffer with that part) and numbness side effects.
I found out I had CPTSD about 4 years ago when I began trauma informed therapy. This has got to be the most concise explanation I have ever heard. I feel so understood. I'm currently feeling flooded with so many self hating feelings. I worked today so I did the best I could to get through the day by hiding away in my cubicle because I'm already scared of everyone anyway and being flooded increases that fear to the 1,000th power. Listened to this on my way home. It was very validating and helped me not feel so ashamed for my lack of functioning today. 😪
I appreciate you watching. What would you say was your favorite strategy for coping with cPTSD? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
Thank you for this information. I have CPTSD from 13 years of sexual abuse from a close family member. I have overcame so much already but am always looking for more tips and help to be more of the me I feel wanting to come out more. I want to get past this but not always sure of the next step. Hopefully one day I'll find a great dr who understands the full extent of living with trauma. Appreciate you sharing this.
Thank you Doc Snipes! living with this condition is near on impossible. You described and understand it beautifully breath fresh air as help for complex post traumatic stress disorder is Not forthcoming… having taken 38 years for acknowledgement. Wish anyone suffering this hope and that more help becomes available. It’s really not in your head. Thank you for this acknowledgement too Doc Snipes! 🙏
I have children your age. So good your working on this at a young age. I think, the older you get to harder it is....because for me, I was victimized on multiple levels (very little food, house that was beyond filthy, never soap or shampoo or toothbrush and paste. Neglect, and emotional, sexual assaults for years. I was always terrified of closets, weirdo right...women love closets. Come to learn from a sibling that they used to hide me in the closets and pile clothes on me to hide me, I was the baby. We can and will overcome this cruelty we all experienced. And we will be stronger people.
The Body Keeps the Score is also spot on, yes I was triggered to a depressive state, but only for a short period as I realized I was on the path of healing starting with discovery...you helped me clearly self diagnose CPTSD with BPD...TY TY TY
TY for giving away the paths to understanding and healing. I am learning to be my own rescuer after a long life of crippling experiences. I can now take responsibility for my part in the tragedy of my life without the pain of not understanding why I didn’t make better choices. It isn’t all a “me thing.” These things happen to anyone in these circumstances. You are a hero in the story of so many lives by giving your gifts of insight on this platform. I recognized my myself, mother, father, sister, friends in this lecture. I will be more compassionate towards all who fit this model.
After realising that PTSD described one event only and yet I was like a broken record of responses I brought my own cPTSD to a trauma therapist in 2012 when I googled 'chronic and ongoing' ptsd and found a tiny little seed of the concept. This amazing trauma specialist had never heard of it but had the intelligence and compassion and courage to delve into the concept when it was only a single concept posted on the Interwebs.. I am now somewhat of an expert in the field and I can tell you Doctor Snipes your encapsulations and delineations are superb. Well done for the succinct and lucid clarifications ! The DSM is a bloody joke but this still needs to be listed among all the other cash cow diagnoses! I commend your work - thank you!
Watching this as a 37 year old, realizing a lot of long and ongoing traumas, running down the highway of realization and new perspectives. This is so helpful, and still gives so much sadness. Might be BPD, as some maybe end up in, me as an example not knowing exactly how one’s life has rooted in one self. But this feels incredibly amazing. 500h+ of therapy has never given me this much insight been this close-hitting. I’m so scared, but happy. But so, SO incredibly scared. Does it get better?
Thank you so very much for putting this information out. As someone who lives with CPTSD and spent many years with misdiagnosis this level of information is not only helpful but gives me hope for better quality of care that can prevent deterioration. I've been hearing CPTSD will be in the next dsm for over a decade after being diagnosed properly
Superb video! You discussed briefly in part 1 the rat study and the relationship of the microbiome with the brain via the vagus nerve. It’s taken me years to put this together. Brain fog, as well as many other debilitating symptoms,has been severe due to nutrient deficiencies. As in my case, multiple traumas led to a chronic sympathetic driven state. Cortisol stayed chronically elevated and my gut shut down. Obviously, the microbiome is directly affected. This led to food allergies, leaky gut, autoimmune, etc. Rumination is just as devastating as the original trauma. The subconscious mind can’t differentiate between the actual trauma or just thinking about it. It’s a nightmare. It is important to address the gut imbalance as well as the trauma. Intermittent fasting, keto diet, probiotics. Fresh garlic, ginger, turmeric, cinnamon, camomile, licorice, bitter’s, etc Hcl with pepsin and digestive enzymes to breakdown nutrients and retrain the gut. Daily meditation, exercise, sunlight. No blue light(phones, pads, tv) Quality sleep!!!! Thanks again for sharing your knowledge. Peace and blessings 🙏
Look into Hashimoto’s and Brain Fog Dr Martin Rutherford makes amazing connections too. I have to be my own rescuer. RUclips surfing has helped more than my clinicians.
I have just recently been discovering what CPTSD is. It explains SO much! I’m 68 yo and have been feeling like giving up. I have withdrawn from the world. Except for my husband who doesn’t really ‘get’ me but loves me very much (❤️). I’m very blessed I have him. But the depression I have and withdrawal I desire; the conflicted feelings around my family just makes we feel like I just don’t want to live anymore. I would like to find a good CPTSD therapist; but it’s not even in the DSM
I am sorry you are struggling with cPTSD and I appreciate you watching the video. Please feel free to use my AI to learn more about cPTSD and to search for videos in the video library: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
I love your channel! About 5 years I've been learning from you! Thank you so much because it's for my own wellbeing!! The thing that can be very triggering in the word relax is also that- we KNOW we can't relax.. and when people point it out, it's uncomfortable.. makes it worse.. I think what I wish people would do instead is talk about their own tension.. then I might talk about mine..
It would be great to get some information on how to manage this in the chronically ill. The trauma is not caused by another individual so there's a different level of fear when it's your own body that's attacking you and you're aware that it's incurable and lifelong.
@@scarred10 not sure who you could say caused my autoimmune diseases that I was born with, but okay. And yes, chronic literally means neverending, lifelong. Unfortunately not all diseases can be easily treated or managed, especially autoimmune diseases. The treatments aren't very effective for a lot of people. Even if they do work they can also stop if your body makes antibodies to the medication after time and most also carry serious cancer risks. With some degenerative diseases there's only medications that slow down the disease progression/destruction, but there is nothing that can actually stop it. Then there are some people like me, that have refractory disease, which means you don't respond to any available treatment and there's nothing anyone can do to help you. The only thing left to do is wait for the inevitable complications, try to treat those as they happen and hope you don't die yet.
This is such a thorough video. I wish there were more examples on how to deal with the feelings of PTSD CPTSD and BPD. I definitely did go in and out of being able to listen and concentrate through this video. I saved it to re-watch on the bits I may have missed. Thank you for this video.
@@DocSnipes personally for me I think you saying "people with CPTSD think that, that is just the way they are" for years as a child I and family would think that, that's just the way I am, especially in my teen hood years.... I think my mum knew a few times that I may be acting out as a child due to all of the trauma.. but as a teen I guess ppl just assumed I was an @**ho!E...which in actual fact made it worse for me. Had I gotten the proper care as a child before hitting into my teen years.... Maybe it would have been different. Unfortunately I still ended up suffering with trauma as a teen as well and now as a young adult. I also really resonated with you saying that ppl who may experience this can be tense. Unfortunately due to dv I suffer with chronic pain... But it makes my chronic pain 100 times worse when I'm anxious or am reliving the trauma all over again through nightmares and flashbacks. I struggle with concentration. I use to be able to do the square breathing that you mentioned in your vid.... But these days it seems so much more difficult to do that. I've also recently started implementing meditation when I do my stretches... And it's too difficult to focus and my mind wonders. If you could do a vid on coping strategies for ppl with this that'd be awesome.💜
Fantastic presentation. Thank you very much. I'm dealing with this among with the "Healing the Inner Child" video. I just turned 48 and have been trying to fix this by myself for years. I'm very self aware but need some real treatment. Perhaps EMDR and Yoga.
It is hard to be our own rescuer when we have been crippled, but I have great hope for everyone who listens to these videos. It is very helpful to create a therapeutic alliance with a pro who can become the world’s leading expert in you. I had to shop around and state my expectations for my therapist clearly to get more than a compassionate listener. I give my therapist homework and ask her for my lesson of the week. I am responsible for my progress. I am eighth of 8.😄 I’m 56 and learning what I CAN DO to help myself, and the first step was to decide I need help and a bit of company on the path. I thank you for sharing a bit of your journey with me.
It is hard to be our own rescuer when we have been crippled, but I have great hope for everyone who listens to these videos. It is very helpful to create a therapeutic alliance with a pro who can become the world’s leading expert in you. I had to shop around and state my expectations for my therapist clearly to get more than a compassionate listener. I give my therapist homework and ask her for my lesson of the week. I am responsible for my progress. I am eighth of 8.😄 I’m 56 and learning what I CAN DO to help myself, and the first step was to decide I need help and a bit of company on the path. I thank you for sharing a bit of your journey with me.
Yes yes yes! You break it all down so we'll. Sent this video to my therapist to discuss further and enhance treatment. I'm articulate and I think that is also a defense mechanism on my part never allowing my Self to go there. Thank you very much!
Thank you, very accurate and clear presentation. PLEASE look into the relationship between cPTSD, if I'm correct there is very strong correlation between this and multiple chronic syndromes and illnesses. Though the research is backing this it is NOT DISCUSSED ♥️
Thank you for this video. I am working with a wonderful psychologist and in the last year was diagnosed with c-PTSD. The superficial symptoms, being depression and anxiety, were usually what my diagnosis entailed. I appreciated a collegial PowerPoint presentation of the diagnosis, and some of the misdiagnoses. When we know more, we can do better.
My two sons and I all had this from a lot of abuse from their father and our extended family. I was able to get some therapy and EMDR years ago when we were finally divorced, but my sons were still in it. I eventually got full custody of them as teenagers but the trauma was set in by then and my eldest son was using drugs to cope. I just wanted to get the to 18 and out of high school because then they could leave the area and start to heal. We had just gotten there in 2016 and my youngest son graduated and 3 weeks later his 20 year old brother died. We just kept going and my surviving son was in two consecutive codependent and abusive relationships, but since his relationship ended he has been struggling, but I didn't understand to what extent until he joined me where I live in Mexico. I was stunned when I saw him . He looked terrible and had lost all of his confidence. He has every single symptom of CPTSD in this video, but the problem is that he wants only to distract himself from thinking about it, and for that reason he has not grown or healed or matured in the years since his brother died. Since he has been here with me his behavior has been really troubling. He is broken and I don't know how to help him. . I'm wondering if I should show him this video. It is awful to see my 24 year old so broken. . I am so worried about making things worse. I want him to know that I'm happy he is here and he is safe to heal but we have to take some steps to heal. He has been revictimized over and again because of the reasons you mentioned and because he wants to belong to a family, but his family is not well. and his dad is a sociopath. I don't know what to do but he is so clearly suffering.
I was diagnosed with BPD years ago, and now I honestly just don’t know. Since I’ve had kids in the last two years my symptoms have gotten better except in regard to their narcissistic father who emotionally/financially/mentally abused me constantly until I made him leave and still struggle with daily. CPTSD really fits me, I was emotionally neglected as a child and the family scapegoat, dealing with this man has shown me how I was gaslighted and emotionally/mentally abused by my mother as well as neglected, and I had never processed that as my mother was the one who pushed the BPD label on me so hard - it HAD to be me. How would one go about clarifying if they have BPD or CPTSD when they have a diagnosis already? I would like to be reevaluated to see if I was misdiagnosed but am unsure how to go about that since years of records say borderline
I thought I had ADHD. To be sure I got neuropsychological testing. It is a battery of test that see how you answer certain questions. It is not a therapist using their opinion only. It turned out I have PTSD. I disassociate but I don't have inattention.
This is an excellent section about CPTSD. I have been dealing with this trauma for 40 years, and I am still taking medication that I am not sure is the right one. Thank you for the information.
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
I've always felt a weird sense of kinship toward military veterans. Not because I was enlisted- I wasn't, but because I felt like they were the only ones that understood what I felt, even if neither of us could quite explain what we felt. My trauma came from a very difficult childhood, which influenced me to make terrible choices which greatly affected those that loved me. To realize such malice existed/exists within me, even though I genuinely believed I had "the best of intentions," broke me. It took over a decade to become what I considered functional and a productive member of society, and then a terrible idiopathic disease completely upended everything I worked so hard for. That disease then led to an addiction, which again caused me to bring great harm to those that loved me- again. While I thankfully have been in remission for two years, and clean even longer, the mental trauma is still there. Indeed, the scars of that trauma still exist within what personal relationships I was able to hold onto. Perhaps the worst part is that I feel as though I still am victimizing those around me by not being as capable as I once was- that by virtue of me suffering, they too are suffering alongside me. Whether it's my shorter-than-usual temper my children experience, or the nights I don't go to bed with my wife from fear of horrific and vivid nightmares that leave me and the bed drenched in sweat, or the times I keep to myself in another room so I can cry in peace, or the time I spend ruminating instead of socializing. I am very thankful that I am at least as stable as I am today- that self-harm, or addiction is not among the monsters I contend with. Perhaps there is a way to heal this other than time weathering it away. I don't know. I don't think I want to talk to anyone I know about this, which perhaps is why I'm saying this here to a comment section with full anonymity.
Dear Doctor Snipes, Thank you for this video. It contains so much helpful material for me as a service-user in the NHS Mental Health Services in the UK that I will save it and keep it if this is alright with you. You are very intelligent and knowledgeable😀! Thank you from Elizabeth in Yorkshire, Great Britain
You’re so welcome. I am glad the video is of help and I appreciate you watching it, Elizabeth! If you’re interested in more videos on the subject, you can find them at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=ptsd
I did find The Body Keeps the Score to be very triggering and disregulating, but it also prompted me to get real help as I realized I needed a Sherpa to guide me through my own traumas safely.
I got c-ptsd because of sudden loss and prolonged grief. Well prolonged illness which my mother died from and then trauma 3 mo later my father died suddenly. I also lost my grandmother earlier that year and 4 years before my grandfather died suddenly. I am not the same person I was. My short term memory and anxiety now is terrible.
What a fabulous presentation I have an incredible psychologist who has been explaining this to me and how much damage was done, I like so many others thought my rage & reactions were just who i was I mean I go from 0-60 in seconds Classic CPTSD, Great presentation👍🙏
I agree with the misdiagnosis of bipolar disorder or a bipolar 2 with Rapid Cycling. It makes more sense that if you have PTSD when you get a trauma trigger you're not in the present moment so really what you're doing is you're not going in and out of mood swings you just going in and out of present moments cuz you're not in the present moment when you have a PTSD trigger an episode, you're at the present the time of the usually the original trauma.
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I stay away from certain types of people. The types of people that trigger my over the top reactions are bad people anyway. I never should have been around these people in the first place but life happens. It's sad that I can't be around my own family members. When I was young I would hope that things would get better but it always ended up with me getting hurt. I would stay away for months until I felt ok and then I would go back and try again. I would forgive and give another chance just to end up hurt, betrayed again. I finally decided that I couldn't waist months of my life getting over being traumatized just to go back and it all happen again. When I went no contact from my family and others in my life, I got better and stayed better. Now I'm careful to spot the same type of people early on and keep a safe distance from them for my own good. I noticed that I can't be around drunken or dopey people. I end up freaking out because of the things they do. Most of the time it's them trying to get me involved in their drama. They want me to rescue them from something or they betray me somehow. I notice the reoccurring theme now, it took me a while to catch on. I should have know this right from the start but this started when I was a child I guess and didn't know any different. I knew something was wrong but I thought it was me, I thought that next time I would have a loving family that supported me. No way, it will never happen. I had to grieve the loss and get better and stay better. It's sad because they say I should forgive and give them another chance and I should let the past go.... it's always something that I am doing wroung, something that is wroung with me... that's the part that makes me feel crazy. It is so hard for me to say that there is nothing wroung with me and accept that it's them who are abusive, and I can't handle it. They all can get drunk and forget about what ever happened but I can't. I am the one who has to suffer and remember cuz I'm not drunk.
This is so good! Took notes . This 30-minute video session spanned across one and a half hour of enlightening journey for me. Thanks much! Best wishes.
Relax....brrrr, every fiber in my body hurts. Haven't sleep for months lost 50 pounds in 6 months......emdr doesn't work for me. All i want for now to is some good sleep. I'm safe, i have a daily routine, but over here ( The Netherlands ) no treatment..
I have cptsd . I have been in one abusive relationship after another from the time I was a very little girl. My ACE score is 8 and quite frankly I am now 51 and don't expect to live a long life. I have been on and out of therapy my entire adult life and on all kinds of medications. Of course the antidepressants did nothing but cause me to gain over 100lbs which just made everything worse.
Hope you find peace one day. I have a very similar story to you and I'm 35. Have you tried somatic experiencing before? Its talk therapy but it also incorporates the body. Irene Lyon on RUclips explains a lot about it if you're interested.
I have been diagnosed with CPTSD .My therapist and I tried EMDR but had to stop. I don't have much of a memory at all. Unfortunately I didn't seek help till I was 60. I hope people will learn about this and get help right away.
@@lpfx777 I encourage you to do everything you can to learn how to cope with this. There's doesn't seem to be a cure but I guess if you can be aware of the messed up situation, that you didn't choose and learn how to deal with it makes there's peace. Unfortunately, I never found it. I'm a recluse now and it's the only place I feel safe now but never peace. I believe if I would have known about this when I was much younger maybe I would have lived somewhat of a "normal " life. Best wishes for you dear. ❤
It is so valuable to acknowledge the intersections between PTSD CPTSD, BPD. The trajectory of treatment, the stigma around the diagnosis alone, there are a lot of layers that need to be considered, and it's great to have a holistic approach.
Enraged at the drop of a hat boy do I know that feeling the flight or flight for me to deal with that weapons if I have weapons close by then I’m not worried I can defend myself they are my security blanket I just learned of this yesterday every little bit helps when it comes to coping you can’t fix something if you don’t know it’s broken and if you don’t know how it’s broken you’re not gonna know how to fix it thank you Very much appreciate
I remember going to a 'traditional' therapist years ago with the same concerns. I just instantly 'snapped' and flew into rages over the dumbest things, like dropping a fork on the floor, or bumping into a desk as I walked past it. She insisted that I had 'thoughts' prior to the angry outbursts, but I was certain that it was literally like someone flipped an internal switch, and I was just instantly in a rage. we did some CBT which was helpful, but only scratched the surface. My sense is that maybe one therapy makes sense for getting started, but then we may need more in depth work, especially with safety around our bodies, after we start pulling up repressed memories.
You just gave me some information kind of text book trauma. I've healed from years of abuse. I went into my trauma and made my self re experience it in a safe environment and the trauma & people connected to it lost power over me. Iam going to do a trauma work shop of how to heal. Alot of peopl÷are too scared to face it. The results are amazing the freedom is amazing. The education is all good however the power is in the pain
This is so fascinating! I'm checking all the boxes! I remember years ago, believing that I had BPD, but that I had somehow gotten 'over' it - now, I realize, maybe I have both! *Bonus* :)
I have complex PTSD from emotional abuse and I have PTSD from being stabbed in the chest with a kitchen knife. I can tell you the only thing that brought me true relief. Jesus. John 3:16. God bless everyone :)
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Fascinating. Deep. Very professional. Liked the part about hyper vigilancy. I got stuck in a public service depo waiting in line for 90 minutes. I noticed a woman staring at me. I recognized her from one of the RUclips channels on my device. I kept it to myself. It triggered a severe hyper vigilance response in me. How could I meet her? It's not a coincidence rather, confirms my suspicion that my device has been compromised, and she was sent to lure me. They deliberately created that channel on my device, and then sent her to bump into me. Those were the longest 90 minutes in my life. Constantly on high alert. Very exhausting.
I suffer from cptsd as I was drugged and abused. I had told people what was going on in confidence and was pressured to keep up my relationship with this person. When I confronted my abuser publicly, when Id truly had enough, they accused me. Nobody believed me or stuck up for me, so as well as not being well, I was made homeless, lost contact with all friends, family. Its the not being believed or validated and the things that came after the abuse that really hurt. I just wanted to say the #1 rule with someone suffering from this condition is DO NOT say "I don't believe you" and DO NOT say things about them that are untrue. It sends me on a 2 week bender when someone does this. I have had doctors give false accounts of conversations and as such removed myself from care a few times. I've had family members say they didn't believe me and tbh I will never speak to them again. It doesn't get better with time and infact the makeup of your brain is PERMANENTLY rewired. I've been told by my doc the only treatments are coping mechanisms and the only way I'd feel better is if the perpetrator was held accountable which will never happen. It makes you want to take things into your own hands as you cannot trust anyone. I don't leave the house anymore and I don't have any friends as the back of my head tells me all the time "if it happens again nobody will help you". I have a partner and I've dumped her multiple times only to apologise hours later. I can't really be left on my own with my thoughts. Gainsborough police said "He is a nutter" and have ignored a total of 17 complaints over the past 3 years. I had to explain I am diagnosed with cPTSD and usually this is the result of continued abuse and systematic failures of people who are supposed to help. I wouldn't have cPTSD if the police did something about the abuse, whilst it was happening, but the police didn't want to. I can't deal with them myself as they outright say things like "I don't believe you" intentionally and it makes me lose it. If anyone ever tells you about something like this going on, tell then you believe them even if you don't and if you're sure it's true, you need to do something personally as the police won't help. it's also really important to not be alone all the time and to take a 3rd party look at your behaviour. Mood swings etc can intimidate and scare people. I have a regular 5 minute check with my partner. One time a few years ago, I woke in the middle of the night with her hand on my belly. Its the same spot my abuser ran her hand over. I went nuts and started screaming, throwing things, calling her a predator, dumped her and threw her out. That was the 1st time it happened. When I was better we had a chat about it, I asked her if she was OK and what it was like, we came up with a plan on what to do if it happens again etc. You have to be self aware of what you have done. When the warning signs come up I make her stay at home and don't let her live with me all the time. Final piece of advise is do not speak to the police about anger or violent thoughts. This will be used to threaten you which will set you off. You will ask why they would go to such lengths to threaten someone who is forthcoming and seeking help whilst not caring about the person who did this to you to begin with and it will make you rage which gets you in a deeper hole. If you ever end up in some kind of situation involving an abuser you say "no comment" else they try lying to pin all sorts of stuff on you. They really don't care about you at all. Remember don't do anything stupid kids and seek trusted family / friend / medical help when you need it
I can relate with your story and sadly I’m stuck in the hell hole situation with my abusers as I’m freshly out of highschool with no money to move out. My dad is the one who gave me my PTSD and seeing him daily sends me into a rage. It feels like living in a prison and I do everything to sabortage this evil man from throwing his car keys in the bush, destroying 3 of his phones in the microwave, popping his tires, stealing money and I plan to try to get him to step on some glass I will break and hopefully I can get him. Besides from this I’m going to try to get a job anything to free me from this hell hole with this evil man 😡😡😡😡😡😡
@@ruehl3853 I'm so sad for you. I experienced horrendous abuse and trauma at the hands of my mother when I was a teen, stuck at home with no license and being on constant watch, lest I run off...which I probably should have, and my life would have turned out much better. At any rate, all i can advise is (1) NEVER tell your abuser your plans. I was not aware of the abuse /abnormalcy of it until it was too late. I did not learn to shut my mouth until she tortured me and changed my personality entirely. Don't say a damn word about what you are going to do or when. Be subversive. (2) Hide a 'go bag' somewhere they would not look. (3) squirrel away money however you can and get a solid plan in place. Maybe a notebook with phone numbers, addresses, etc. that you keep at school or someplace where your abuser cannot find it. (4) when you do leave turn off your phone if you are on your abuser's plan and get a burner for a short while so that you cannot be tracked. Leave the state if you have to. I find it very empowering to have an 'escape plan.'
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As someone who has both PTSD and CPTSD, while it describes both fairly accurately, it's too ... removed is the best word I can find. People suffering from it need practical steps, not just to cope with it, but to actually heal from it, and yes, it can be done. I've been to 15 therapists in my life and none recognised it; it was only because I knew something was wrong and kept researching I finally knew what was wrong. The biggest cause of problems we face is dysregulation. The other things are just symptoms of it. Recognising dysregulation, and learning how to catch it before it goes off the charts, and how to soothe it, is KEY. I wish more mental health professions knew this so they can provide meaningful help to their clients struggling with this.
Just read your comment… can empathize with the exhaustion that comes from one after another, after another, etc… help that has mainly just helped me believe stronger with each let down that it’s hopeless. With that then, I believe there are basically three options for me in life, of which two of them I’m not willing to accept… yet. My name’s Jay too. How did you happen to discover the whole dysregulation issue? Just tons of digging? And have you found anyone out there who’s capable of providing therapy for individuals who have such a substantial collection of experiences in their life when compared to most others? I know hardship isn’t comparable so please don’t think me arrogant. It’s just that I’ve sensed lately that I’m really nearing the end of trying to “make it”. I’m exhausted… guess by some miracle, I happened across this video, including your comment. Thanks
I’m trying the healing codes at a therapists suggestion. It’s Christian based but there are more secular versions available online.
amen to that these brainwashers dont want to speak in facts and most of all how do they know their MARKETABLE blanket "solutions" helpm reminds me of the legal system and the domestic violence "resources" available which then rolls over to why dont u leave him? something that NEVER WORKED. this is now a saleable thing and the disconnect is this person and so many has and have cut out human interaction. take good care jay. aloha🤙🏽
the work is never done and your introspection is sharp, ur doing everything u can. right on. be well.
@@akaLuptonPittman From one Jay to another ... I just got your comment. Sorry it's taken me so. long to respond. I first learned about dysregulation from the RUclips channel The Crappy Childhood Fairy. This was after having seen 10+ therapists, none of whom recognised it, or understood CPTSD. She's a starting point for understanding that and a bit more, but only that. She's limited, but a decent place to start.
I get it. I was also exhausted from all this, and also felt hopeless. I'd already tried everything people said were the answers: talk therapy, drugs, and EMDR. Looking for answers, and not finding any, IS exhausting. Just living this way is exhausting. I used to describe it as having your foot pressed to the metal on the acceleration pedal, and at the same time on the brake.
Not one of the many therapists I saw knew anything about CPTSD, and looking back, it's astounding to me they also didn't recognise how extremely dysregulated I was, or what the cause of it was. That wasn't for the lack of me being open about what was going on, it was their lack of ability to understand and put it together.
There is help, you can heal, but it takes time, and learning how to be compassionate to yourself. Sounds easy, but it's not. I wish you the best.
Cptsd is often time misdiagnosed as Bipolar Disorder. I have various clients that were misdiagnosed by clinicians who have zero experience with trauma
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When I was first hospitalized, they diagnosed me with bipolar II, second time=MDD, 3rd time=BPD, 4th time= PTSD. I feel the BPD and bipolar were misdiagnoses as I don't feel my symptoms fully align with those But I have PTSD from a car accident but I feel my symptoms 100% align with those described as C-PTSD. I know labels are not important but when it comes to treatment and medication, it can definitely help. I wish I had gotten trauma-informed therapy sooner.
I have a number of friends who've run into this situation.
It's called Fraud & Abuse Go on front lines diagnosis Steven King his It Clown ,You Fool🚓
That was my experience.
I cannot I believe I been in therapy for over 10 years I just got diagnosed with PTSD but CPTSD explains my entire life.
No surprise. My wife has been going to a psychiatrists for 30+ years. Just 2.5-3 years ago she was finally properly diagnosed with CPTSD by a licensed professional counselor. A counselor I found for myself who specializes in anger management. We quickly figured out that I was so overwhelmed from living with a person with CPTSD for 28 years without a proper diagnosis or any understanding of why she kept making the same mistakes and bad decisions over and over year after year, having major health problems, depressive episodes...that I was overwhelmed, flooded, and unable to process my emotions in a healthy way anymore.
We had been to another counselor before who was of no help. The psychiatrists she had been seeing were of no help, probably caused more harm with the drugs they prescribed. Often a person needs to try many different professionals in this field before finding one who is really good and knows what questions to ask. Unfortunately a lot of these "professionals" have given into the medical industrial complex and are now only concerned with billing for patience visits and prescribing the latest drugs.
This new counselor has saved our marriage and my wife has been able to finally start the heeling process and we are making some real progress.
Out counselor recommended The Body Keeps the Score. That book was a huge revelation. Also Loving Someone with PTSD is another book that has been a huge help to my understanding of what is happening with my wife.
I wish you all the best!!!
I didn't know what I had until a month ago. I learned what I had because someone else has ptsd. When I talked to that random stranger they told me have that and I didn't know what it was but I was like oh ok. After I decided to look into it I right away realized I have cptsd. I think doctors try to avoid that maybe? Or it's something that doesn't get talked about much. I told my doctor several this about me. He gave me anxiety medication and suggested marriage counseling. Since that time I have only got a lot worse and I don't even know how I'm going to solve this. I haven't slept in the longest time ever. I self medicate now every day. And I'm at the end of my rope. The only person that would even care is probably my wife and I don't even want to talk to her about it. Now, for the first time I'm forming other friendships with other woman. I haven't cheated. I try to keep it as friends. So that I have someone to talk to. It makes things less complicated when you know someone doesn't owe you anything but they are just there. I'm worried that I'm going to destroy everything that I've managed even while having cptsd.
@@waydwalker3674I am so impressed by the degree to which you stood by your wife in such an understanding and compassionate way.
I've not been able to come across that myself. I've been single now over 30 years.
Yet at this point I'm pretty enlightened and know mindful practices and quick remedies that regulate me or re-regulate me. Ican even catch myself and stop on the way to a quick 100 and actually redirect myself.😊 It's been a long journey and I would have given anything to have that special someone stand by me and help see me through it, but I just kept attracting abusers and violent men. So crazy. I'm pretty sure I am done with that pattern, thankfully.
I'm very happy for both you and your wife that you're getting measurable help and that it sounds like you're coming out the other side. That's wonderful!
I'm only about half way thru this video and it's further informing me about the chgs that CPTSD have likely done to my brain which I've long suspected and wondering whether or not it can be fixed. My traumas are many and started very young. I find myself today with a diagnosed neurological syndrome (no real surprise given my history of traumas) that has put me off work - a strange blessing. Though I've less money than ever to live on I'm finally getting to do a deep dive into my traumas with a therapist who actually understands me and my CPTSD. I thought I'd have to be one of the forever walking wounded. Kind of gratefully, current challenges are causing old wounds to resurface where i can work them out without also having to hold down a job. It's been a sacrifice of the flesh and creature comforts, but God is good and I guess His timing is perfect. When the student is ready the teacher will come. Enter this video. It's not the first time I've heard about CPTSD, but it is the first time I've heard it discussed exactly this way.
I hope and pray you and your wife's next half will be smooth sailing and more enriched for knowing what you've come through - together. Still together! Wow!!! Good job! And good job on realizing you needed help yourself after being your wife's support for so long.
This may sound strange, bc I know I don't know you, but since you seen to have a good spirit, if you wouldn't mind, if you have any "good man" angel connections, will you please consider saying a prayer for this girl of 64 years that she find a patient, kind and loving man? 🤗Maybe you're the best person to know what character traits to ask for in a man that stays. He won't come away empty handed and he will be twice blessed for it.
All the best to you and your wife!
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@@SexyBulldozerManI think the real payoff is in being honest with your wife. Sorry. I know you didn't ask, but it's easy for a stranger to listen and yet easier for one of you to slip one night. :/ It might feel safe talking to female friends but you want to have the breakthrough with your wife and get through it together with HER, building trust even if scary. I wldn't want you losing what it seems you have. And see if you can determine what you need from her to help you move forward. It's hard to ask for help, but many of us don't ask for help and never knew we could bc even if we had asked no one wld have been there for us. But if you're ever going to take a chance on trusting someone maybe you can try a traumas therapist (CBT Trained) who can bring your wife in for a visit to help broach the topic to your wife if you don't quite have the words just yet. Personally, I wldnt want to be the wife who found out my husband felt more comfortable confiding in strangers than he did with me, but maybe she's more allowing or more secure that way. Idk.
If the meds aren't working maybe have them lessened or ask for new ones or get off of them all together, but wait till you have another method of support b4 you try that in case they're helping you more than you realize. Get some reliable, professional support first.
CPTSD IS something I worked on in safe 12-step mtgs (with strangers) like CODA and ACA. I just knew I cldnt do meds as I live alone and certain meds can give ya suicidal thoughts and I can hardly take my vitamins regularly (like many previously traumatized people) so meds was too big a gamble for me plus I don't like being the medical industry's guinea pig as mental health drugs are a crap shoot. Every patient is different and unique.
So I went with counseling and 12-step mtgs and fitness. The mtgs are free and you will find others with similar backgrounds/traumas/stories and that really helps to know you're not alone, and to see how others deal/dealt with their traumas. You can get a sponsor or a fellow traveler get in a phone list and call others to chat and join a small grp if you want to work the 12 steps together. It's the first place I recall going where I didn't feel judged. Just acceptance - which was a very new experience for me. I was still afraid to tell the whole truth of how I felt inside about myself, but what a relief when I let it all out, little by little, and no one ran away or dismissed me or gaslighted or diminished my experience. You will see the growth and the hope for change in others, and yourself. Over time, the next thing you know you're changing and improving and sharing hope of your own to others. You just have to stick with it. The program works when you work it. It's been proven many times over. You just try different mtgs til you find a fit for you. Then try to do 30 mtgs in 30 days. But don't worry about doing it perfectly. It's ok. When you get that 30-day chip you really know you're on the road to somewhere better and to a better you. You become the parent to your inner child that you never had. You get a re-do.
Then in time you can incorporate meditation or mindful breathing into your everyday life or walks in nature or other activities that bring you back in alignment with your true self, as you discover who that is, and you're united with parts of you that you maybe haven't seen or heard from for years. :)
All the best to you! Someone once said courage is feeling afraid and doing it anyway. Just take one step at a time. You'll find your way. Oh, and if you don't believe in God, you can call it a higher power, nature, the universe, the spirit or whatever works for you.
Best to you!
@@SexyBulldozerMan because the C for complex is not in DSM V (or IV) and straight PTSD doesnt cover all the symptoms. As long as you find effective treatment, the diagnosis technical name doesn't matter
Some days I just wish it was all over (this dysregulated feeling) and I could go back to feeling like a human again but then I remember that I've got 20+ years of trauma to recover from. I'd say that I'm in my second year of healing. I cut off everything and everyone. I'm doing this for me.
Me.2 girl I feel you❤
I’m about to start my journey after almost 21 years, I want and need to do this for myself to heal but it’s scary. But it’s also the first step, doing it for yourself ya know? Doing what YOU want and feel.
The Body Keeps the Score was a wake-up call for me. I devoured it and it formed the basis of my therapy after long term abuse.
Glad to hear the book was helpful!
I loved that book and People of the Lie. It was very comforting for someone to not excuse the abuser, for being 'mentall ill' - I don't care. Being mentally ill does NOT give anyone license to abuse others! It was also fascinating to realize that so many 'pillars of the community' are narcissistic, and are 'pillars' because they need to show people that they are a 'good person' but have no way of knowing how to actually 'be' a good person. My mother and my first love's father were both very involved in the church, and were both extremely abusive.
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How um, friendly is the book?
My inner child is very sensitive to any bad scenarios that happen to be described in text, as imagined images haunt me for a long long time if it’s graphic enough.
I need informative books that will not um, scar me emotionally.
@@tiffanyribbons It is scholarly, written by a noted authority. Don't recall anything that triggered me emotionally. I would recommend it to anyone serious about using the techniques mentioned for recovering from and understanding how the body functions under CPTSD. It focusses on the brain with actual photographs. Gives suggestions such as yoga and theatre work, the premise being that it is stored in the physical body and the physical ways to recover.
Discovering CPTSD explained EVERYTHING that was wrong with me/my life, and realising my negative 'character traits' weren't character flaws at all but rather the effects of trauma stress and the Fearful Avoidant attachment style it created.
I am currently three parts into 'The Body Keeps The Score' and despite having enough childhood abuse to score 8-9/10 on the ACES test I have not found it triggering at all, even though the graphic descriptions of abuse and neglect made me cry at the injustice and suffering. On the contrary, I am finding this book freeing and empowering, as it is putting all the pieces of the puzzle together for me, and lifting the shame. I've been attending the TRF book club while reading the book and many other CPTSD sufferers report the same thing - that reading this book has been life-changing for them. So I will have to disagree that people with trauma stress should not read this book, unless they are extremely fragile.
This video was useful too, with a few details I wasn't aware of. Thank you.
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Interesting! Where can I find this TRF book club?
I read about 150 pages and found it too difficult to keep going. It did teach me some things though. I've since been reading the recovey chapters and Pete Walker's from surviving to Thriving.
I couldnt agree more. Whats the TRF bookclub?
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, by Pete Walker is really really good and useful too 👍
I agree, CPTSD needs to be in the next DSM.
6 months ago, I was diagnosed with CPTSD. I endure an abusive father, bullied most of my school life, sexually assulted in high school, had a horrible relationship and found a loved one dead. It is so hard to deal with it. And for a long time, I couldn't find help.
Though therapy is helping, but I'm still struggling. I'm still having a hard time regulate my emotions, from being defensive, crying spells and low self esteem
I just want all of this to stop and be able to feel normal. Because I do not feel normal and struggle to be positive
So sorry to hear of all that. Condolences on you loss. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I remind folks that it's okay to not be okay. It's okay to rage when you need to rage, or cry when you need to cry, or whatever. Our society tries to promote toxic positivity. Nobody is positive all the time, except fakes and psychopaths.
It's okay to hurt. It's okay to take time out for yourself, and lie down for a two-hour nap if that's what your body tells you it needs.
If you have a job, check to see if they have an EAP program, which usually provides a free series of counseling. I've heard that therapies like EMDR, tapping and neurofeedback can be helpful. Not sure how insurance companies can cover those.
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Tapping videos EFT on you tube have really been helping me over the last 2 years. Many different people have videos, and I've been amazed at how much more they've helped than all the terrible therapists I've been to did. It's just for you; I know there are introductory books about it too. I find it hard to have to talk about horrible, shaming things with therapists; they're not a friend, and sometimes I didn't feel valued or cared about, just seen as part of a paycheck. RUclips has been so much better for me! I really Like Tapping with Brad; he's like a wonderful older brother, or loving uncle, cousin, some positive male figure like I never had. There are women who do tapping videos also; take a look and I hope it helps! Be blessed!
I spent the first 50 years of my life living in neglect, trauma. Through many years of going through counseling and have come to the conclusion "normal" does not exist. Healthy exists and healthy is something I can identify especially through programs such as this one.
"Core of trauma is disempowerment and unsafeness"
wow! Been only 10:45 of video and Ive learned a lot already. Thanks so much for the great content 🙏🏽
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You mentioned the word relax and I just realized the reason I hate it so much it because it feels like an invalidation for my current feelings (granted now I understand that though my feelings are valid, they may be arising from a false premise based on my thoughts or beliefs) but I have always hated it as well as its variations, take it easy, stop overreacting, chill etc etc. Thank you for this and I hope you can do some more videos on cptsd
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All of the above and then some. I do agree, with each time you go through the same trauma it becomes harder to "recover" to heal. Each time it takes away more of you, of the person you are. Though it's always there it gets harder to push it behind and leave it behind. You become less able to bounce back from the damage. Each time you become less and less of yourself. It agressivly invades your thoughts until it's all consuming. Because now your waiting, dreading and preparing for the next blow. All while your still living the pain from the prior. The worst thing though is when you look in the mirror and what you see is terrifying. That once beautiful, strong, witty, intuitive person with a mischievous spark in there eye is no longer looking back. Instead this unrecognizable sad being, that suddenly looks years past its age, that looks afraid and drained of its strength, holding on and hoping, this pittiful lifeless thing is looking back.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Describes precisely what happened to me. Age 63 now 😞
This is possibly the best comment I've read. Thanks so much
@@bmst6162 that's OK, I'm 58 and barely hanging on....we can DO this. If we weren't tough as nails, we would not have survived so, nowhere to go but UP....
I feel you. It is said anxiety is worrying about something that 99.9% won't happen, but some of us DO go from one nightmare to another with no time to recover in between.
I'm tentative with EVERYTHING I do, everyone I speak to. The moments of joy and peace are brief even though I have more than enough to be grateful for - and I am. Sending you love and understanding.
Sadly, I just felt the need to share this with my elementary teacher friends. Thank you for reminding us that after education, safety is the second most important element for treatment.
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Safety should always be first. Genuine safety. Not making white students stand up in class and apologise for being white. I'll never forget hearing about that going on in schools during the BLM riots all in the name of student safety. It was hurtful to see.
I think you may have it backwards. Safety is not second to anything short of maybe food and water bc we will ignore safety if hungry and thirsty enough. Please Please get this straight bc you will not be able to educate even one child if you cannot provide a safe environment or a good enough sense of safety. Bullying and such needs to be taken far more seriously and not the physical kind.
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So welcome. Glad to know I have been of help to you! Thanks for watching.
I came here by pure chance....in my mind...but I'm pretty sure I was guided here by purpose.....I can't guarantee that I will overcome.....But after years of this Living Hell....I have an understanding about what is going on....I was at the end...this young Woman saved my Life...
Thank you so much for sharing this-it truly touches my heart to know this video has brought you some understanding and relief during such a difficult time. Complex PTSD can feel like a living hell, as you described, and finding clarity about what’s going on is such a powerful step toward healing. Even if overcoming feels uncertain right now, the fact that you’re here, seeking knowledge and hope, speaks to your incredible strength and resilience.
Please know that healing is a journey, not a destination, and you don’t have to face it alone. Small steps each day can lead to meaningful progress over time. If you found this video helpful, please consider sharing it so others who are struggling might also find the support they need. For more in-depth resources and tools, you can visit DocSnipes.com/Clones. How are you feeling now that you have this new understanding? I am honored to continue supporting you on your path to recovery. You’re not alone in this.
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This is the best description of CPTSD I've ever seen.
I was abused as a child for 4-5 yrs and had so much crap in my life i lived in continual hypervigilance and was going insane for 45 yrs. The issue was I couldn't remember 90% of it, just big black spaces for years.
I've said "until my diagnosis my personality was CPTSD" so many times but this is the first time I've heard it described like that, thank you!!!! I thought it was just how I was not what many people get.
This is me 100%.
Thanks for watching! Wishing you peace, health, and, happiness.
Well, I have CPTSD. I read many of the responses from others on here. I am so sorry for all you have been through on here. I had to move 1500 miles away from the narcissists who caused me to get this. It has been five years. I am in the middle of going back now. I will be there in about two weeks. I would say the worst part of still having this is the constant fear I have of something crazy happening all of a sudden. I am trying to reason myself out of this fear. Please don’t tell me to get therapy. I tried many times. Most therapists have no idea what CPTSD is. My heart ❤️ is with all of you who have this condition.
we 'hang on' to a diagnosis because it explains our suffering, pathology, panic or anxiety attacks, fears, flashbacks, pains and suicidality when we have no security otherwise
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I totally agree with you about this. For me not just to tell someone else it is very important for me to understand myself and why I have been feeling so horrible for 40 years with a regular counselor who knows nothing about Trauma 😢. And people in my life now or before obviously can't understand how rough this is.
I am studying to obtain a certificate in Trauma and Addiction and the information is very helpful. Thank you.
Best of luck! Thanks for watching.
Well done, you, Francis Alex. It's great that this lady totally understands it. My daughter suffers from addiction. I hope that she can find someone to help. I would like help on gaining confidence and not fearing establishing romantic relationships and friendships. I am not sure where to start on building trust. People seem to avoid friendships with me. I think I need to make a plan of action to work on various aspects of this condition 🤔
I have CPTSD for 46 years.. The willingness to have a relationship if any kind I almost completely impossible..I let any person or person's only get so close , I don't feel that I'm capable of loving anyone..,I don't what to hurt anyone the way I've been hurt.. I know how the ending of the start of things will turn out .. It's okay to realize your reality of the failure of all relationships.When you feel most people to say it happened 46 years,you have to move on a let go .. Yeah No!!! I miss kissing and cuddling and togetherness or intamicy, sex isn't that important to me.. Nightmares every day and night, terror's every day and night, talking and fighting in my sleep...I don't want to harm anyone knowing what that feelings can become. ... I'm 58 now and Haven't had any relationship in 8 years, it's not okay knowing the ending to hurt other people..My depression for many years has been deep down depression, lately in the past 6 months I'm just a emotional mess, crying over what some may say why or what are you crying about? I have no answers but its me ,like it or not ,it's me ...
You may want to look for a local, licensed professional counselor.
-You can find other therapists via Psychology Today search:
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-If you are in crisis, there is a national Suicide Hotline available at:
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-There is a Domestic Violence hotline at:
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OR Dial 911 for assistance in the U.S.
Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I had an epiphany this early morning. I avoided good people, and attracted abusers, because I was taught through trauma and abuse that Danger is Safe and Safe is Dangerous.
The one time I had someone safe who truly loved me, my narcissistic mother figure and her flying monkey eldest son (my brother) destroyed our connection, in more ways than I can say here. I was told that he was evil, and that my 'family' who 'loved' me were good.
So, years later, when I keep wondering why I can only seem to attract users, abusers, cheaters, etc. and a good guy comes along, I fear being with him....because, the last time I was with a good guy, my life was turned inside out and upside down, and my subconscious was terrified that I would be a destructive force in his life. So I rejected him, and carried on with more users, abusers, cheaters, et. al. Because they were 'safe' - meaning, my mother-figure would NOT abuse me if I was already being abused by someone else.
Until today. That sh** stops today.
I don't normally talk about this stuff out in the open online, but in this case I feel its warranted.
I have tremendous lifelong trauma that ranges from a wide variety of things from as early as a toddler. Being emotionally and psychologically abused growing up as well as sheltered, tormented by your peers from kindergarten to HS senior year, ignored by the adults who were supposed to protect you but instead neglected you, countless accounts of partners cheating, friends taking advantage, and people crafting premeditated attacks towards you specifically just to see you crumble from the inside. One of the top comments mentioned how you're just preparing for the next blow while still recovering from every single one prior - hit me like a ton of bricks, pun intended.
You never feel safe anymore, you're constantly on edge and you catch yourself lashing out on the people you care about strictly because people from the past had the same innocent demeanor, but in actuality had malicious intent.
Even happy memories give me flashbacks in a way now, because they're sullied and tainted by the fact those people hurt me.
C-PTSD better be added as a legitimate disorder if some neurologist doesn't want their Nobel prize shoved up their ass.
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Sorry to hear. That is a lot of "stuff" to deal with. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@@DocSnipes thank you so much for reading, and thank you for covering this niche yet prevalent issue.
Its friggin hard to find decent friends, decent jobs etc. After this kind of repeated abuse you can see the toxicity in people and they remind me of past people.
@@Jess-kn8vl couldn't relate to you more.
Seems like cptsd is the cause of all the dysfunctional attachments in relationships that can be generational as well. Is that true? If so, that’s a significant portion of society that would benefit from EMDR and trauma therapy. Sad that it is not already recognized in DSM and that insurance generally does not cover therapy however will pay for anti-depressants. Thank you for your outstanding videos! You enlighten so many.
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I am still suffering w/ CPTSD and it SUCKS.
@@Introvertwoman1989 Me too and it does suck.
may wall off more severe, surreal, unavoidable, unrelenting, exhhauting ...eventually stuck in fight or flight response with no relief
So they pay to get you into a veggie instead of investing in therapy wich is the only solution to go to the roots of tthe trauma .
This society is so wrong and realise is just a buisness
Wow!!! I’m a loner, I’ve been deeply depressed and suicidal. You’ve taught me that on account of my childhood repetitive traumas, military sexual harassment, a failed divorce and to top it off my daughter whom I deeply love betrayed my trust and now she doesn’t want anything to do with me. I raised as a single mom, gave her the best I could without anyone’s financial assistance as her dad left us when she was two. I’ve been deeply & painfully hurt and depressed-so depressed I’m on many meds. Your lecture gave me the tools to diagnose myself, thank you!!! I believe I have CPTSD and BPD, I’ve made arrangements to see a therapist at the VA Healthcare finally at 66 years of age.
I am glad you are going to get help. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Good for you ☺️
I'm praying for your Daughters return ! I know the unbearable pain 💔 😪 😢
Hey troop , keep pushing remember who you are from one veteran to another
Thank you very much for mentioning about feeling vulnerable during the deep sleep. As a person with CPTSD, because of neglect, rejection and more I became a food addict/ bulimia. I am still anxious to go to bed. Now I am better aware about my overeating before bedtime. ☮
Thanks for watching.
It's extremely difficult for me to lie down next to anyone and fall into a deep sleep. I can't help thinking that they can do anything they want to do and I wouldn't be able to fight...when I'm in a deep sleep, I can't fight anyone off. It's scary.
Wow! I’ve been practicing IFS for quite a while. Didn’t know it had a name 😄
I visualize myself holding myself as an infant, fully enjoying her presence, taking her to the park and play dates and showing her how precious she is in my eyes 💜
I would have loved to have a beautiful green eyed strawberry blonde daughter like me.
So I’ve been giving her the love and cherishing that is never got💜💜💜💜
I found an old book called Healing The Child Within. Worth ordering and reading it and journaling your memories that surface and your responses to them. Therapeutic!
thats wonderful, I wish I could do that too :) whats your secret? I dont know that I could successfully 'psych' myself into doing that (??)
I have c-ptsd (and bpd) & these videos have helped me so much, especially since 'graduating' from therapy... helps keep me on track. Thank you so much for what you do.🙏🏾🙂
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Omg congrats on graduating! What a huge accomplishment!
How did youI graduate from therapy? That's fantastic. I usually quit when it gets hard and I feel worse than i started...
It seems very dysfunctional that CPTSD is still not included in the DSM-5. It is so serious, yet will continue to be misduagnosed and ignored . I wonder why it is not included? Do the people making these decisions have our best interests at heart? Or do they not want to think about severe trauma any more than the rest of society ? They are supposed to be better than that . Or is it because they can't find a cure, seeing as the response to trauma is normal? Or is it that insurance companies don't want to pay for treatment? Whatever the reason, it is reprehensibke .
It’s hard to measure that’s why. Or at least why I suspect. A lot easier to get academic funding for other disorders since you can prove effectiveness of treatment easier. Ex: heart rate went down ____ which proves our anxiety med works!
I wonder if big pharma makes
more $ prescribing unnecessary anti-depression drugs instead of therapies like EMDR?
@@dnk4559I agree! A lot of C-PTSD are misdiagnosed with other disorders and take medications unnecessarily or improperly.
What is DSM-5?
Like for say BPD?
"the word relax can be triggering because their abuser used to use it" that was such an eye opener for me! My x kept telling me to be thankful they (him and his mom) don't throw me out to the street (in a new country where I couldn't speak the language, with a newborn) and now I always just get anxiety when I'm expected to do "thankfulness exercises"
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. If you’re interested in videos on ptsd, you can find them at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
It's as if I was hearing my life story. I suffer from CTPSD because of being bullied by my school "friends" for around 6 years.
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Shit bro if that's you on your pfp that's p based
@@Robin-bk2lm compassion to your Robin 💚. You have had some horrible experiences. I hope life can get better, step by step.
Horrible experience LonelyPolishPerson be your own best friend. Maybe also get a pet. Unfortunately I’m allergic. Pets are wonderful
I lived in a very hostile city during the lockdowns and riots two years ago. I lived within a few miles of serious and constant destruction, which lead toward my current symptoms. God willing, I can make it through this rough period of my life. 🙏👍
I am sorry for that and I appreciate you watching. Other videos that might help can be found at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=trauma
What neighborhhood was it?
I grew up in a very dangerous neighborhood where I was shot at multiple times. Got in many many fights and even watched people almost beaten to death and drugged with pcp when I was 13 . I’ve had such a hard time understanding what is wrong with me as a adult until as of late
That sounds awful. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Whew. This is me. To the core. I kept getting the BPD, but that’s was not it. I’m constantly in fear of insecurity, in every way possible! Thank you for your work. I started this work on my own, with help of drs I’ve met with at conferences out in school. This is it. Thank you for the treatment options.
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I can’t even find a mental health professional to act like they gaf enough to correctly diagnose me or listen to me. Just throw me meds and send the invoice. I’ve learn more from this video about myself than ever before. Thank you!
I am sorry you can’t find a mental health professional to correctly diagnose you and I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
I’m a firefighter/paramedic with 24 years experience and I’m 100% convinced I have CPTSD. 😞
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Thank you! I have every symptom you’ve mentioned. It sounds like a video about me specifically.
I will be praying for you, Eric.
Find a Traumatologist who is trained in EMDR.
I hope that one day you can heal 💛 thank you for helping so so many people, i’m sure you’ve changed many lives for the better 💛 keep fighting friend 🥰
Thank you so much guys!! 🙏🏼❤️
I love this dictor she speaks plainly, with knoweldge, experience and thoroughness, no over prromising, no psycho bable
Thank you so much for your kind words and for watching videos on the channel. I am truly grateful. Here are more videos on PTSD: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
Thank you Doc Snipes for presenting the detailed rundown on Complex PTSD. I have CPTSD and your explanation (by characterizing the symptoms) reconfirmed my suspicions. Mine was the result of an older sibling, 21 years of daily beatings since 10 months of age. Then random nightly strangulation since age 7 (for 15 years) while sleeping. Both parents from broken homes did not protect me from the abuse so, (as you mentioned) I developed numerous harmful self-protection mechanisms (that are involuntary today); the hyper-vigilance, depression, anxiety, inability to trust others, fear of death in any new environment (and so on). Through much prayer, God has delivered me from a great deal but, there still is considerable "hidden baggage" affecting my daily life. Over the years, it has been very difficult to actually find a therapist that is helpful. Another deception is our single point of view; we grow up assuming what we experience is normal thus, most of my findings have occurred over the past 20 years. To end on a positive note: I have observed that most of us suffering with this condition are primarily kind-hearted and caring people so, all is not bad.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I've started to gather my tribe, as it were, and slough off the chaff. I have decided that I now choose my 'family,' not biology. I choose my friends, not a sense of obligation or a need to fulfill their needs. I choose my partners, not my trauma or subconscious.
We kindhearts must stick together, to defeat the demonic attacks all around us.
@@Hawaiiansky11 Agreed, sounds like you have found a useful step towards freeing yourself, glad to hear it!
I'm grateful eternally for this. I hope we can all be less judgmental of one another with this enlightening info💚
Thanks for watching
You describe it better than any of the countless people I've sought help from, so grateful its finally starting to be understood so appropriate strategies for help can be made available
Too kind. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Thank you for verbalizing my life. It helped me. Finally after 30 years of constant trauma I’m getting treatment without judgement.
I'm deeply touched to read that the video resonated with you and that you're finally getting the treatment you deserve. Your strength and resilience are truly inspiring. Remember, healing is a journey, and you're taking important steps forward. Please feel free to share what you’ve found most useful from the video and, if you’re interested in learning more about healing porn addiction recovery or to search for videos in the video library, don’t hesitate to use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
I really hope CPTSD will be in the DSM.
You speak so well, thank you. I was extremely traumatized at school ages 12-16 by a best friend and what I like to call "the bystanders" with a barrage of vicious verbal abuse and disregard for my feelings.
I had other traumas before those nasty girls, such as child abuse, and a seriously mentally unwell parent whilst the other was neglectful. I feel like the majority of my life I've been ignored and isolated with heaps of verbal abuse. I've got a few happy moments but not many to be honest.
I was diagnosed with C-ptsd along with some co-morbidities, early last year. I'm coming up to 40 soon, but I don't feel regret that it's seemingly taken so long for me to address the C-ptsd. I wasn't ready to heal in my in my teens or 20's. I've only had awareness of my inner constitution being related to my traumatic experiences a few months ago.
Since this diagnosis, I've come to the conclusion that I'm not particularly weird, weak or broken. I suffered great traumas that could've happened to anyone and they would've reacted in similar ways. My responses were the best I could manage at the time and I was a child when most of my traumas happened, so I'm no longer ashamed of those trauma responses.
Healing is a process and my heart and mind are starting to process everything now.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
wish i had all this kind of information 50 yrs ago. i have been struggling all of my life with this. i'm 65 years old now.
@Paige Elliott no i'm good. when you've had this as long as i have and you make it to 65 i think i've done pretty good with it.
9:55 meditation is NOT recommended for everyone. For dissociatives , meditation can even be one of the causes of it, often forced meditation especialy, and so it does only harm to someone trying to heal. Anyone subjected to coercive control techniques previously or currently will/most likely be harmed meditating until healed unless they have dissociative parts specifically wanting to meditate..[ however should be done with caution since other parts could be effected negatively outside of the awareness of parts participating in meditation]. EMDR is also not recommended for people with dissociative altered parts and causes severe distress, it is not the way to achieve integration in memory and can and does backfire on the traumatized multiple.
I don’t know what to do my anxiety disorders are way too severe and all my mental disorders. It’s torture 24/7 every single day non stop, and impossible to handle. There’s nothing that stops my severe anxieties no matter what I do (+I have a weird sleeping disorder) and I can’t handle anti-depressants due to side effects such as sexual(I already suffer with that part) and numbness side effects.
@@heytherenordic7230 sexual side effects and numbness are not severe side effects.
Thank you so much for this material. It might be a life changer for many victims of abuse.
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I found out I had CPTSD about 4 years ago when I began trauma informed therapy. This has got to be the most concise explanation I have ever heard. I feel so understood. I'm currently feeling flooded with so many self hating feelings. I worked today so I did the best I could to get through the day by hiding away in my cubicle because I'm already scared of everyone anyway and being flooded increases that fear to the 1,000th power. Listened to this on my way home. It was very validating and helped me not feel so ashamed for my lack of functioning today. 😪
I appreciate you watching. What would you say was your favorite strategy for coping with cPTSD? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
Thank you for this information. I have CPTSD from 13 years of sexual abuse from a close family member. I have overcame so much already but am always looking for more tips and help to be more of the me I feel wanting to come out more. I want to get past this but not always sure of the next step. Hopefully one day I'll find a great dr who understands the full extent of living with trauma. Appreciate you sharing this.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@@DocSnipes Thank you very much, and same to you!
Thank you Doc Snipes! living with this condition is near on impossible. You described and understand it beautifully breath fresh air as help for complex post traumatic stress disorder is Not forthcoming… having taken 38 years for acknowledgement. Wish anyone suffering this hope and that more help becomes available. It’s really not in your head. Thank you for this acknowledgement too Doc Snipes! 🙏
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I have children your age. So good your working on this at a young age. I think, the older you get to harder it is....because for me, I was victimized on multiple levels (very little food, house that was beyond filthy, never soap or shampoo or toothbrush and paste. Neglect, and emotional, sexual assaults for years. I was always terrified of closets, weirdo right...women love closets. Come to learn from a sibling that they used to hide me in the closets and pile clothes on me to hide me, I was the baby. We can and will overcome this cruelty we all experienced. And we will be stronger people.
Thank you and thank my Guardian Angels for bringing me to you. I am so incredibly grateful.
The Body Keeps the Score is also spot on, yes I was triggered to a depressive state, but only for a short period as I realized I was on the path of healing starting with discovery...you helped me clearly self diagnose CPTSD with BPD...TY TY TY
You’re so welcome. I am am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from this video?
TY for giving away the paths to understanding and healing. I am learning to be my own rescuer after a long life of crippling experiences. I can now take responsibility for my part in the tragedy of my life without the pain of not understanding why I didn’t make better choices. It isn’t all a “me thing.” These things happen to anyone in these circumstances. You are a hero in the story of so many lives by giving your gifts of insight on this platform. I recognized my myself, mother, father, sister, friends in this lecture. I will be more compassionate towards all who fit this model.
Thanks for watching! I appreciate your kind words.
After realising that PTSD described one event only and yet I was like a broken record of responses I brought my own cPTSD to a trauma therapist in 2012 when I googled 'chronic and ongoing' ptsd and found a tiny little seed of the concept. This amazing trauma specialist had never heard of it but had the intelligence and compassion and courage to delve into the concept when it was only a single concept posted on the Interwebs.. I am now somewhat of an expert in the field and I can tell you Doctor Snipes your encapsulations and delineations are superb. Well done for the succinct and lucid clarifications ! The DSM is a bloody joke but this still needs to be listed among all the other cash cow diagnoses! I commend your work - thank you!
You’re so welcome. Thank you for your kind words. I truly appreciate you watching.
The DSM is indeed a ridiculous tool and a constant cashflow cow to big pharma and all the ones who have a job within.
Watching this as a 37 year old, realizing a lot of long and ongoing traumas, running down the highway of realization and new perspectives. This is so helpful, and still gives so much sadness. Might be BPD, as some maybe end up in, me as an example not knowing exactly how one’s life has rooted in one self. But this feels incredibly amazing. 500h+ of therapy has never given me this much insight been this close-hitting. I’m so scared, but happy. But so, SO incredibly scared. Does it get better?
Thanks for watching. Yes, it gets better. You can use my AI to more for FREE on cPTSD and all things mental health allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
Wow, this information is very helpful. Thank you so much for this presentation! 🙏🏼
Thank you so very much for putting this information out. As someone who lives with CPTSD and spent many years with misdiagnosis this level of information is not only helpful but gives me hope for better quality of care that can prevent deterioration. I've been hearing CPTSD will be in the next dsm for over a decade after being diagnosed properly
So welcome. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
Superb video!
You discussed briefly in part 1 the rat study and the relationship of the microbiome with the brain via the vagus nerve.
It’s taken me years to put this together.
Brain fog, as well as many other debilitating symptoms,has been severe due to nutrient deficiencies.
As in my case, multiple traumas led to a chronic sympathetic driven state. Cortisol stayed chronically elevated and my gut shut down. Obviously, the microbiome is directly affected. This led to food allergies, leaky gut, autoimmune, etc.
Rumination is just as devastating as the original trauma. The subconscious mind can’t differentiate between the actual trauma or just thinking about it.
It’s a nightmare.
It is important to address the gut imbalance as well as the trauma.
Intermittent fasting, keto diet, probiotics.
Fresh garlic, ginger, turmeric, cinnamon, camomile, licorice, bitter’s, etc
Hcl with pepsin and digestive enzymes to breakdown nutrients and retrain the gut.
Daily meditation, exercise, sunlight.
No blue light(phones, pads, tv)
Quality sleep!!!!
Thanks again for sharing your knowledge.
Peace and blessings 🙏
Look into Hashimoto’s and Brain Fog Dr Martin Rutherford makes amazing connections too. I have to be my own rescuer. RUclips surfing has helped more than my clinicians.
@@sacredrain7757 Thanks 😃
Check out Dr Eric Berg, Dr Sten Ekberg and Dr John Bergman channels.
Peace and blessings 🙏
I have just recently been discovering what CPTSD is. It explains SO much! I’m 68 yo and have been feeling like giving up. I have withdrawn from the world. Except for my husband who doesn’t really ‘get’ me but loves me very much (❤️). I’m very blessed I have him. But the depression I have and withdrawal I desire; the conflicted feelings around my family just makes we feel like I just don’t want to live anymore. I would like to find a good CPTSD therapist; but it’s not even in the DSM
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So very grateful for you! Thank you for sharing all of this very useful information!
Thanks for watching.
My therapist suggested cptsd symptoms and it basically explains everything, I'm very grateful to have found your video here 🙏
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I've listened to many of these videos. This lady is amazing!
Thanks so much!
I love your channel! About 5 years I've been learning from you! Thank you so much because it's for my own wellbeing!! The thing that can be very triggering in the word relax is also that- we KNOW we can't relax.. and when people point it out, it's uncomfortable.. makes it worse.. I think what I wish people would do instead is talk about their own tension.. then I might talk about mine..
It would be great to get some information on how to manage this in the chronically ill. The trauma is not caused by another individual so there's a different level of fear when it's your own body that's attacking you and you're aware that it's incurable and lifelong.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
it is caused by another person or situation always and its not incurable nor lifelong if you get the correct treatment.
@@scarred10 not sure who you could say caused my autoimmune diseases that I was born with, but okay. And yes, chronic literally means neverending, lifelong. Unfortunately not all diseases can be easily treated or managed, especially autoimmune diseases. The treatments aren't very effective for a lot of people. Even if they do work they can also stop if your body makes antibodies to the medication after time and most also carry serious cancer risks. With some degenerative diseases there's only medications that slow down the disease progression/destruction, but there is nothing that can actually stop it. Then there are some people like me, that have refractory disease, which means you don't respond to any available treatment and there's nothing anyone can do to help you. The only thing left to do is wait for the inevitable complications, try to treat those as they happen and hope you don't die yet.
This explains so much to me. I had a traumatic event that was a life changer 💯
As always, your presentations are so very clear and caring for healing people! Thank you Donna.Lee!!!!
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
This is such a thorough video. I wish there were more examples on how to deal with the feelings of PTSD CPTSD and BPD. I definitely did go in and out of being able to listen and concentrate through this video. I saved it to re-watch on the bits I may have missed. Thank you for this video.
You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most helpful from it?
@@DocSnipes personally for me I think you saying "people with CPTSD think that, that is just the way they are" for years as a child I and family would think that, that's just the way I am, especially in my teen hood years.... I think my mum knew a few times that I may be acting out as a child due to all of the trauma.. but as a teen I guess ppl just assumed I was an @**ho!E...which in actual fact made it worse for me. Had I gotten the proper care as a child before hitting into my teen years.... Maybe it would have been different. Unfortunately I still ended up suffering with trauma as a teen as well and now as a young adult. I also really resonated with you saying that ppl who may experience this can be tense. Unfortunately due to dv I suffer with chronic pain... But it makes my chronic pain 100 times worse when I'm anxious or am reliving the trauma all over again through nightmares and flashbacks. I struggle with concentration. I use to be able to do the square breathing that you mentioned in your vid.... But these days it seems so much more difficult to do that. I've also recently started implementing meditation when I do my stretches... And it's too difficult to focus and my mind wonders. If you could do a vid on coping strategies for ppl with this that'd be awesome.💜
Fantastic presentation. Thank you very much. I'm dealing with this among with the "Healing the Inner Child" video. I just turned 48 and have been trying to fix this by myself for years. I'm very self aware but need some real treatment. Perhaps EMDR and Yoga.
Thanks for watching.
those are only part of the problem and not effective by themselves
It is hard to be our own rescuer when we have been crippled, but I have great hope for everyone who listens to these videos. It is very helpful to create a therapeutic alliance with a pro who can become the world’s leading expert in you. I had to shop around and state my expectations for my therapist clearly to get more than a compassionate listener. I give my therapist homework and ask her for my lesson of the week. I am responsible for my progress. I am eighth of 8.😄 I’m 56 and learning what I CAN DO to help myself, and the first step was to decide I need help and a bit of company on the path. I thank you for sharing a bit of your journey with me.
It is hard to be our own rescuer when we have been crippled, but I have great hope for everyone who listens to these videos. It is very helpful to create a therapeutic alliance with a pro who can become the world’s leading expert in you. I had to shop around and state my expectations for my therapist clearly to get more than a compassionate listener. I give my therapist homework and ask her for my lesson of the week. I am responsible for my progress. I am eighth of 8.😄 I’m 56 and learning what I CAN DO to help myself, and the first step was to decide I need help and a bit of company on the path. I thank you for sharing a bit of your journey with me.
Yes yes yes! You break it all down so we'll. Sent this video to my therapist to discuss further and enhance treatment. I'm articulate and I think that is also a defense mechanism on my part never allowing my Self to go there. Thank you very much!
Thank you, very accurate and clear presentation. PLEASE look into the relationship between cPTSD, if I'm correct there is very strong correlation between this and multiple chronic syndromes and illnesses. Though the research is backing this it is NOT DISCUSSED ♥️
Thank you for this video. I am working with a wonderful psychologist and in the last year was diagnosed with c-PTSD. The superficial symptoms, being depression and anxiety, were usually what my diagnosis entailed. I appreciated a collegial PowerPoint presentation of the diagnosis, and some of the misdiagnoses. When we know more, we can do better.
I appreciate you watching.Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
My two sons and I all had this from a lot of abuse from their father and our extended family. I was able to get some therapy and EMDR years ago when we were finally divorced, but my sons were still in it. I eventually got full custody of them as teenagers but the trauma was set in by then and my eldest son was using drugs to cope. I just wanted to get the to 18 and out of high school because then they could leave the area and start to heal. We had just gotten there in 2016 and my youngest son graduated and 3 weeks later his 20 year old brother died. We just kept going and my surviving son was in two consecutive codependent and abusive relationships, but since his relationship ended he has been struggling, but I didn't understand to what extent until he joined me where I live in Mexico. I was stunned when I saw him . He looked terrible and had lost all of his confidence. He has every single symptom of CPTSD in this video, but the problem is that he wants only to distract himself from thinking about it, and for that reason he has not grown or healed or matured in the years since his brother died. Since he has been here with me his behavior has been really troubling. He is broken and I don't know how to help him. . I'm wondering if I should show him this video. It is awful to see my 24 year old so broken. . I am so worried about making things worse. I want him to know that I'm happy he is here and he is safe to heal but we have to take some steps to heal. He has been revictimized over and again because of the reasons you mentioned and because he wants to belong to a family, but his family is not well. and his dad is a sociopath. I don't know what to do but he is so clearly suffering.
Thanks for watching. I will get you a more complete response later. 😃 Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
You are 100% spot on especially with overlap...TY TY TY
Thank you. I am grateful to be of help
I was diagnosed with BPD years ago, and now I honestly just don’t know. Since I’ve had kids in the last two years my symptoms have gotten better except in regard to their narcissistic father who emotionally/financially/mentally abused me constantly until I made him leave and still struggle with daily. CPTSD really fits me, I was emotionally neglected as a child and the family scapegoat, dealing with this man has shown me how I was gaslighted and emotionally/mentally abused by my mother as well as neglected, and I had never processed that as my mother was the one who pushed the BPD label on me so hard - it HAD to be me.
How would one go about clarifying if they have BPD or CPTSD when they have a diagnosis already? I would like to be reevaluated to see if I was misdiagnosed but am unsure how to go about that since years of records say borderline
I thought I had ADHD. To be sure I got neuropsychological testing. It is a battery of test that see how you answer certain questions. It is not a therapist using their opinion only. It turned out I have PTSD. I disassociate but I don't have inattention.
This is an excellent section about CPTSD. I have been dealing with this trauma for 40 years, and I am still taking medication that I am not sure is the right one. Thank you for the information.
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
This was very validating. Thank you 💜
You are so welcome. Thanks for watching.
This video has helped me better understand how to approach and better help my friends who suffer from CPTSD. Thank you for sharing this info
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I've always felt a weird sense of kinship toward military veterans. Not because I was enlisted- I wasn't, but because I felt like they were the only ones that understood what I felt, even if neither of us could quite explain what we felt.
My trauma came from a very difficult childhood, which influenced me to make terrible choices which greatly affected those that loved me. To realize such malice existed/exists within me, even though I genuinely believed I had "the best of intentions," broke me.
It took over a decade to become what I considered functional and a productive member of society, and then a terrible idiopathic disease completely upended everything I worked so hard for. That disease then led to an addiction, which again caused me to bring great harm to those that loved me- again.
While I thankfully have been in remission for two years, and clean even longer, the mental trauma is still there. Indeed, the scars of that trauma still exist within what personal relationships I was able to hold onto. Perhaps the worst part is that I feel as though I still am victimizing those around me by not being as capable as I once was- that by virtue of me suffering, they too are suffering alongside me. Whether it's my shorter-than-usual temper my children experience, or the nights I don't go to bed with my wife from fear of horrific and vivid nightmares that leave me and the bed drenched in sweat, or the times I keep to myself in another room so I can cry in peace, or the time I spend ruminating instead of socializing.
I am very thankful that I am at least as stable as I am today- that self-harm, or addiction is not among the monsters I contend with. Perhaps there is a way to heal this other than time weathering it away. I don't know. I don't think I want to talk to anyone I know about this, which perhaps is why I'm saying this here to a comment section with full anonymity.
Thanks for watching! Wishing you peace, health, and, happiness.
Dear Doctor Snipes,
Thank you for this video. It contains so much helpful material for me as a service-user in the NHS Mental Health Services in the UK that I will save it and keep it if this is alright with you.
You are very intelligent and knowledgeable😀! Thank you from Elizabeth in Yorkshire, Great Britain
You’re so welcome. I am glad the video is of help and I appreciate you watching it, Elizabeth! If you’re interested in more videos on the subject, you can find them at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=ptsd
I did find The Body Keeps the Score to be very triggering and disregulating, but it also prompted me to get real help as I realized I needed a Sherpa to guide me through my own traumas safely.
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The metaphor the volcano you're absolutely correct you are amazing God bless you you are pin point spot on thank you
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I got c-ptsd because of sudden loss and prolonged grief. Well prolonged illness which my mother died from and then trauma 3 mo later my father died suddenly. I also lost my grandmother earlier that year and 4 years before my grandfather died suddenly. I am not the same person I was. My short term memory and anxiety now is terrible.
My condolences on your loss.
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Whoa. Almost identical to my story. I’m having a very hard time right now. Stuck is an understatement.
What a fabulous presentation I have an incredible psychologist who has been explaining this to me and how much damage was done, I like so many others thought my rage & reactions were just who i was
I mean I go from 0-60 in seconds
Classic CPTSD, Great presentation👍🙏
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I’ve been struggling with mine a lot lately. It feels even more hopeless when you can only control your symptoms and not eliminate them all
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Thank you for this. I got my diagnosis, thankfully.
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I agree with the misdiagnosis of bipolar disorder or a bipolar 2 with Rapid Cycling. It makes more sense that if you have PTSD when you get a trauma trigger you're not in the present moment so really what you're doing is you're not going in and out of mood swings you just going in and out of present moments cuz you're not in the present moment when you have a PTSD trigger an episode, you're at the present the time of the usually the original trauma.
Merci!
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I stay away from certain types of people. The types of people that trigger my over the top reactions are bad people anyway. I never should have been around these people in the first place but life happens. It's sad that I can't be around my own family members. When I was young I would hope that things would get better but it always ended up with me getting hurt. I would stay away for months until I felt ok and then I would go back and try again. I would forgive and give another chance just to end up hurt, betrayed again. I finally decided that I couldn't waist months of my life getting over being traumatized just to go back and it all happen again. When I went no contact from my family and others in my life, I got better and stayed better. Now I'm careful to spot the same type of people early on and keep a safe distance from them for my own good. I noticed that I can't be around drunken or dopey people. I end up freaking out because of the things they do. Most of the time it's them trying to get me involved in their drama. They want me to rescue them from something or they betray me somehow. I notice the reoccurring theme now, it took me a while to catch on. I should have know this right from the start but this started when I was a child I guess and didn't know any different. I knew something was wrong but I thought it was me, I thought that next time I would have a loving family that supported me. No way, it will never happen. I had to grieve the loss and get better and stay better. It's sad because they say I should forgive and give them another chance and I should let the past go.... it's always something that I am doing wroung, something that is wroung with me... that's the part that makes me feel crazy. It is so hard for me to say that there is nothing wroung with me and accept that it's them who are abusive, and I can't handle it. They all can get drunk and forget about what ever happened but I can't. I am the one who has to suffer and remember cuz I'm not drunk.
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This is so good! Took notes . This 30-minute video session spanned across one and a half hour of enlightening journey for me. Thanks much! Best wishes.
You're so welcome!
"relax" is one of the most triggering words for me. Thank you, I loved your video.
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Relax....brrrr, every fiber in my body hurts. Haven't sleep for months lost 50 pounds in 6 months......emdr doesn't work for me. All i want for now to is some good sleep. I'm safe, i have a daily routine, but over here ( The Netherlands ) no treatment..
Thanks so much for making this video. My life would be 100% better if everyone knew this stuff, including me 😭
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I have cptsd . I have been in one abusive relationship after another from the time I was a very little girl. My ACE score is 8 and quite frankly I am now 51 and don't expect to live a long life. I have been on and out of therapy my entire adult life and on all kinds of medications. Of course the antidepressants did nothing but cause me to gain over 100lbs which just made everything worse.
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Hope you find peace one day. I have a very similar story to you and I'm 35. Have you tried somatic experiencing before? Its talk therapy but it also incorporates the body. Irene Lyon on RUclips explains a lot about it if you're interested.
I have been diagnosed with CPTSD .My therapist and I tried EMDR but had to stop. I don't have much of a memory at all. Unfortunately I didn't seek help till I was 60. I hope people will learn about this and get help right away.
@@lpfx777 That's what I understand. Sometimes I wish I could remember but I guess its the way it's supposed to be 😪
@@lpfx777 I encourage you to do everything you can to learn how to cope with this. There's doesn't seem to be a cure but I guess if you can be aware of the messed up situation, that you didn't choose and learn how to deal with it makes there's peace. Unfortunately, I never found it. I'm a recluse now and it's the only place I feel safe now but never peace. I believe if I would have known about this when I was much younger maybe I would have lived somewhat of a "normal " life. Best wishes for you dear. ❤
It is so valuable to acknowledge the intersections between PTSD CPTSD, BPD. The trajectory of treatment, the stigma around the diagnosis alone, there are a lot of layers that need to be considered, and it's great to have a holistic approach.
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Enraged at the drop of a hat boy do I know that feeling the flight or flight for me to deal with that weapons if I have weapons close by then I’m not worried I can defend myself they are my security blanket I just learned of this yesterday every little bit helps when it comes to coping you can’t fix something if you don’t know it’s broken and if you don’t know how it’s broken you’re not gonna know how to fix it thank you Very much appreciate
I remember going to a 'traditional' therapist years ago with the same concerns. I just instantly 'snapped' and flew into rages over the dumbest things, like dropping a fork on the floor, or bumping into a desk as I walked past it. She insisted that I had 'thoughts' prior to the angry outbursts, but I was certain that it was literally like someone flipped an internal switch, and I was just instantly in a rage.
we did some CBT which was helpful, but only scratched the surface. My sense is that maybe one therapy makes sense for getting started, but then we may need more in depth work, especially with safety around our bodies, after we start pulling up repressed memories.
She described my whole world I wish others understood
You just gave me some information kind of text book trauma. I've healed from years of abuse. I went into my trauma and made my self re experience it in a safe environment and the trauma & people connected to it lost power over me. Iam going to do a trauma work shop of how to heal. Alot of peopl÷are too scared to face it. The results are amazing the freedom is amazing. The education is all good however the power is in the pain
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This is so fascinating! I'm checking all the boxes! I remember years ago, believing that I had BPD, but that I had somehow gotten 'over' it - now, I realize, maybe I have both! *Bonus* :)
I have complex PTSD from emotional abuse and I have PTSD from being stabbed in the chest with a kitchen knife. I can tell you the only thing that brought me true relief. Jesus. John 3:16. God bless everyone :)
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Bless you as well.
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Amen
I try god for many years, but nothing is i cant heal
Thanks for this. I know this is what I have - I have the assessment tomorrow so will know for sure soon.
Glad the video was helpful. Thanks for watching.
This is excellent, thank you so much!
Fascinating. Deep. Very professional.
Liked the part about hyper vigilancy.
I got stuck in a public service depo waiting in line for 90 minutes.
I noticed a woman staring at me. I recognized her from one of the RUclips channels on my device. I kept it to myself. It triggered a severe hyper vigilance response in me. How could I meet her? It's not a coincidence rather, confirms my suspicion that my device has been compromised, and she was sent to lure me. They deliberately created that channel on my device, and then sent her to bump into me.
Those were the longest 90 minutes in my life. Constantly on high alert. Very exhausting.
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I suffer from cptsd as I was drugged and abused. I had told people what was going on in confidence and was pressured to keep up my relationship with this person. When I confronted my abuser publicly, when Id truly had enough, they accused me. Nobody believed me or stuck up for me, so as well as not being well, I was made homeless, lost contact with all friends, family. Its the not being believed or validated and the things that came after the abuse that really hurt. I just wanted to say the #1 rule with someone suffering from this condition is DO NOT say "I don't believe you" and DO NOT say things about them that are untrue. It sends me on a 2 week bender when someone does this. I have had doctors give false accounts of conversations and as such removed myself from care a few times. I've had family members say they didn't believe me and tbh I will never speak to them again. It doesn't get better with time and infact the makeup of your brain is PERMANENTLY rewired. I've been told by my doc the only treatments are coping mechanisms and the only way I'd feel better is if the perpetrator was held accountable which will never happen. It makes you want to take things into your own hands as you cannot trust anyone. I don't leave the house anymore and I don't have any friends as the back of my head tells me all the time "if it happens again nobody will help you". I have a partner and I've dumped her multiple times only to apologise hours later. I can't really be left on my own with my thoughts. Gainsborough police said "He is a nutter" and have ignored a total of 17 complaints over the past 3 years. I had to explain I am diagnosed with cPTSD and usually this is the result of continued abuse and systematic failures of people who are supposed to help. I wouldn't have cPTSD if the police did something about the abuse, whilst it was happening, but the police didn't want to. I can't deal with them myself as they outright say things like "I don't believe you" intentionally and it makes me lose it. If anyone ever tells you about something like this going on, tell then you believe them even if you don't and if you're sure it's true, you need to do something personally as the police won't help. it's also really important to not be alone all the time and to take a 3rd party look at your behaviour. Mood swings etc can intimidate and scare people. I have a regular 5 minute check with my partner. One time a few years ago, I woke in the middle of the night with her hand on my belly. Its the same spot my abuser ran her hand over. I went nuts and started screaming, throwing things, calling her a predator, dumped her and threw her out. That was the 1st time it happened. When I was better we had a chat about it, I asked her if she was OK and what it was like, we came up with a plan on what to do if it happens again etc. You have to be self aware of what you have done. When the warning signs come up I make her stay at home and don't let her live with me all the time. Final piece of advise is do not speak to the police about anger or violent thoughts. This will be used to threaten you which will set you off. You will ask why they would go to such lengths to threaten someone who is forthcoming and seeking help whilst not caring about the person who did this to you to begin with and it will make you rage which gets you in a deeper hole. If you ever end up in some kind of situation involving an abuser you say "no comment" else they try lying to pin all sorts of stuff on you. They really don't care about you at all. Remember don't do anything stupid kids and seek trusted family / friend / medical help when you need it
I can relate with your story and sadly I’m stuck in the hell hole situation with my abusers as I’m freshly out of highschool with no money to move out. My dad is the one who gave me my PTSD and seeing him daily sends me into a rage. It feels like living in a prison and I do everything to sabortage this evil man from throwing his car keys in the bush, destroying 3 of his phones in the microwave, popping his tires, stealing money and I plan to try to get him to step on some glass I will break and hopefully I can get him. Besides from this I’m going to try to get a job anything to free me from this hell hole with this evil man 😡😡😡😡😡😡
@@ruehl3853 I'm so sad for you. I experienced horrendous abuse and trauma at the hands of my mother when I was a teen, stuck at home with no license and being on constant watch, lest I run off...which I probably should have, and my life would have turned out much better.
At any rate, all i can advise is
(1) NEVER tell your abuser your plans. I was not aware of the abuse /abnormalcy of it until it was too late. I did not learn to shut my mouth until she tortured me and changed my personality entirely. Don't say a damn word about what you are going to do or when. Be subversive.
(2) Hide a 'go bag' somewhere they would not look.
(3) squirrel away money however you can and get a solid plan in place. Maybe a notebook with phone numbers, addresses, etc. that you keep at school or someplace where your abuser cannot find it.
(4) when you do leave turn off your phone if you are on your abuser's plan and get a burner for a short while so that you cannot be tracked. Leave the state if you have to.
I find it very empowering to have an 'escape plan.'