Exactly. How many years do we go through, 'do you want kids?' 'Are you have kids?' 'when are you having kids?' 'Hurry up if you want kids!' Like, that was all through my entire long term relationship, over a decade. That relationship ended. If I gave into pressure of society, I would now be a single parent with a kid. I mean, Im better of single with my dog, my income and living life.
@@RadicalValkyrie And these are the same people to just say “well motherhood is hard” when you call them at 5am because the baby has colic and wont stop crying, and you are having dark thoughts and just need some help.
Exactly. People who abide by norms be acting like they’re being attacked just because some people are being more vocal about making other choices. It’s been happening in different contexts lately. Like the numbers are still on your side! People are just sharing more how we can make different choices and the benefits of a specific choice smh.
@@RadicalValkyriethis!!! At 43 I still get these questions!! Like why in my right mind would I have a child, that I don’t want, at the ripe age of 43 😂
She might want a village (notice how the white moms tend to react to videos of white CF women) to raise her children with. No accusations lol, I just know a lot of conservatives growing up in the South and Midwest.
I be wondering the same thing. So many people I know and see have no business having children let alone in a “serious” relationship. It is not for everyone and to think otherwise is stupid.
Mother of 1 here, I support the movement of child free 200%. The mother questioning the child free ladies, don’t realize that her life is the exception not the rule. Good for her that she can travel and have time with her husband, most women don’t have that luxury. She probably, have a good husband and great income. Not everyone who’s child free, has steady income for traveling and luxury.
@@notyourfrind9415I agree with you. As a mom of two with more amenities than alot of people, this woman is full of crap. She knows she has her days, but you know what they say, misery loves company!
I’m a mom of 2, and honestly feel that women should take a break from having children.. The world is shit, the world is upside down, EVERYTHING is expensive AF.. CHILDCARE is $1000 a month.. like what the fuck.. Buying a home is out of the question.. Food!! Can we talk about how expensive 1 bag of groceries are! Teachers are quitting, OBGYN’s are decapitating babies.. You may die in childbirth.. the list goes on and on and on and on… Live ur happy childfree lifestyle.. Ur welcome..
This! 💯 I feel so guilty for laughing 😂 when you said OBGYN's are decapitating babies because...damn! 🤦 But at the same time, it's 100% true! Everything you said is 1000% facts! 🤜🤛
Im sorry, as a mother with two kids there is no way you can pack up and go travel in the same way that a Childfree woman can. You can’t just go for a weekend to Paris. There is NO WAY!
This is common sense. Yeah you can travel but it’s obviously much cheaper and easier without kids. I don’t even have kids and its clear that the women who do this are the hit dog that will holler.
"I would not change it for anything". Honey, you literaly can't change it or you will go to jail for child neglect. Once you make your choice to have kids, it's over!
The reason why so many women have been speaking out, isn't because it's a "trend", its because we have social media platforms and have had a LIFE TIME of people shaming us for not breeding. "You won't know love until you have kids." pfftt. Garbage. Im in my early 40s and sticking to my reasons for having no children has worked out VERY well. Do what is right for you, not others.
You can look at her face. The thin, dried out lips give it away. She looks exhausted. P.S., These childfree women look beautiful, hydrated, and rested. Lets just stop the cap. Their lives are better.
Mothers looove talking about how they love being moms. Some put it on their IG bios like it's some type of branding 😂 yet we're not supposed to do the same? Why does it bother them soooo much that we vocalize our joy? 🤔
Exactly. They make being a mom their entire personality so they accuse us of doing the same w/ being childfree. We _don’t_ “make it our entire personality, we just talk about it on social media. Could’ve kept scrollin’ like ole’ girl said.
To the first mom, It’s CHILD FREE. Meaning by choice. Just like pregnancy is a choice💁🏽♀️ And it’s not a trend, it’s a lifestyle. Just like children aren’t accessories 🙃
No way would I be a mother if my husband was not helping and if I did not have a great support system. I do, and I absolutely love being a mother and having kids, for me it is easy but like I said my husband is amazing, my parents and in-laws alwasy available and ready to help. I’m a lucky mother and I know it. If you don’t have help, I would tell women, DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN. 😌
We keep talking about being child free because it is important! It's different than talking about being a doctor in one fundamental way - not every women is EXPECTED to be doctor, but for the most part, women ARE expected to be mothers! We are trying to show young girls and women that there is a DIFFERENT way that is just as valid, fulfilling, and acceptable!
She’s not constantly being BINGO’d about being a doctor, either! Strangers aren’t invasively asking her when she’s going to become a doctor every time they see her! That’s the connection she fails to make!🙄🤦🏾♀️
Exactly my thoughts..the difference is no one pressures u to being a doctor. Or shames you into doing it.😂 that's the obvious answer. That lady was slow.
I think it’s jealousy, why does a community of people minding their business bother you so much? I didn’t know being childfree was an option, if I had kids before finding out I’d be jealous too.
I agree. While I have children and supportive partners/coparents, I do not see a problem with being child free. Like the woman said."eff these kids." It's definitely jealousy. You have the freedom that mothers never will. Even and especially single moms. Having a living excuse for a man to control and harass you is painful as hell and hard to escape, never mind motherhood itself. I encourage women to drop them kids at the paternal family's house. But of course, it's against social acceptance. These women want to be free. You are free. How dare you?! Eff these hating miserable women. Keep doing you.
Motherhood has been pressured upon women for centuries as the preferred (or forced) life for any fertile woman past the age of 18. Conversely, childless, or infertile women have been shunned and shamed as spinsters, and undesirables since time began. Finally, they are able to discuss how rich and fulfilling their lives are w/o children and ppl want them to shut up? These discussions are so helpful bc we finally get to see that motherhood ain't all easy, and being childfree ain't all bad, whether it's by choice or by chance. Keep sharing, ladies! On both sides, I love the stories! ❤
Exactly...i guarantee you she's asked women why they don't have children and why? And then told them they should. I applaud women that show the realities of motherhood. I'm happy my mother made motherhood look difficult as it was...did it traumatize me? Sure. But it made me view parenthood more realistically.
Fun fact the word spinster came from women WITH children who were widows or had husbands left for some reason. So these women started their own businesses such as working as spinster. So these women then expelled at it and it became one of the most sought after jobs back then. And as always men became threatened by these women who were earning good money. So to scare women becoming independent and make their own money . They started calling women who were single spinsters as a bad thing. So originally that word meant something normal and men turned into something bad and shameful.
Came here to comment the same thing! As a conservative Christian woman who fell for the Kevin Samuels and "red pill" nonsense, I escaped an abusive relationship that turned into such until AFTER when we moved in together after 6mo and I'm so glad I didn't stay out of desperation to be a wife and mom. I'm so glad I found childfree content because for a while I was weighing the pros and cons. And honestly a lot of people who think they want children need to ask a better question: "do I want the duties and responsibilities of being a parent, at the sacrifice of my own health, wealth, peace, freedom, and immaculately-clean-and-organized home?" 🤔
Mother of two here, people without kids "rant" because people with kids are always asking them why they don't want kids. It's not all that great trying to keep human beings alive. You worry about them all the time no matter what. You have to worry if something happens to you, then who'll take care of them. It's a lot, and child free people get tired of answering the questions. Stop asking, and they won't "rant".
I just don't believe that taking care of another human 24/7 without getting paid is all sunshine and roses. Imagine doing that for years and especially in this Economy 😪😪 more power to parents especially moms.
And let's not forget about the childfree aunties and uncles and friends. For the life of me, I'll never understand why the hell people who decided to spread legs and whip dicks out, lay down, f*** and reproduce as a result, feel the need to encroach on childfree people's lives and time! They're the ones that'll say, "it takes a village to raise a child." First off, no it doesn't take a so-called "village" to raise a child! It takes the two idiots that decided to lay down and screw to raise their own damn kids! Secondly,...shouldn't this so-called "village" get a say/vote on whether or not they WANT to be apart of a "village" and be burdened by someone else's child?!?!? They think they're entitled to free babysitting services, burdening other people with their burdensome responsibilities of caring for children that THEY chose to have! They think they're entitled to a "break" that they're not entitled to! Not to mention them using tax-payer dollars to fund to take care of their kids!
I think that Parents who are actually ok and encourage women for women to be childfree, actually love their kids. Anytime you see a woman hating childfree lowkey finds their kids a burden and want other women who are happier to have kids
Oh, 1000% They're lying through their teeth! They want you to fall into the same hole 🕳️/trap they fell into because they want you to join in their misery WITH them! Misery loves company!
I know that there are some women who thrive being mothers, but they are the exception. I have seen too many women who hate being mothers but will never verbalize it.
And what some of these “happy” moms don’t understand is that if their financial or marital status changes they might change their tune. My friend became a widow in her 20s and life with her child has been hell ever since. You have to think about the what ifs and decide if it’s worth the risk. To me it’s not worth it.
that woman is capping! there is no way it is fun all the time. it is very stressful. women need to start telling the truth. i get it some childfree people always talking about how much fun it is not to have children. don't make not having children or having children a personality trait.
@@beepbopboop7727ur literally just coasting thru.. ohhh and let’s not forget, once the baby gets here, no one cares about mom.. it’s all about the baby/.
Let me explain it to those women who don't get it. Women who have chosen motherhood have met the biblical, social, and cultural requirements expected of all women with few exceptions. Those women who choose correctly are lauded for sacrificing their lives (like Jesus), given a special day for the effort (again, like Jesus), and applauded for doing "the hardest job on earth" (second only to Redemption). Conversely, women who exercise the very same right to choose but elect to live a child free life, are derided as selfish, accused of living outside of God's will that we be fruitful and multiply, and in many cases, are designated as outliers of womanhood. I am a very senior woman who chose to be single and child free in an era when it just wasn't done. To openly admit the choice of self was looked down upon and although I knew there were others out there like me, I didn't have the access to those like-minded women like those in the mommy club have always had. Now, through social media, child free women are able to support each other, share our journeys with no regrets, and create platforms so that younger women, faced with the same traditional expectations, have the places and spaces to communicate with child free women of all ages, and make informed decisions as to how they would like to proceed with their lives. Personally, I love the child free social media movement. Besides the commonalities, support, and lack of regrets, the conversations are far more interesting than diaper reliability, teething remedies, car pools, potty training, PTA meetings, and the other glamorous accoutrements of motherhood. Do you get it now?
I am a 40 year old male with high functioning autism. I work part time at Walmart, don’t drive, and still live with my parents. I would like to live on my own and get married one day but don’t want any children. Part of the reason why I don’t want children is because raising children would be a lot for me with my autism. Motherhood and fatherhood is not meant for everyone. But unfortunately society reacts negative towards it when people choose not to have children but mostly react negative towards it with women choosing not to have children. That goes to show that society mainly pressures people into having kids for sexist and misogynistic reasons.
These parents are always pressed about child free people. They get so upset when they talk about how great their life is. If she loves being a mother so much better then why is she mad?
Being childless is fine - it's just known that there are women who shout about NOT wanting children, only to change their mind in later years or after marriage. Sometimes it's too late for those women to produce healthy children.
@@kevinc3342 it's child free, not childless, bud! "It's known"? Citation needed! There is a study that shows that childfree, single women are the HAPPIEST demographic! I'd rather regret NOT having them than having them! Besides, one can ALWAYS adopt! It's never too late! And young women don't always produce healthy children, so.... BYE!
It’s interesting that people don’t want to hear you openly enjoying a childfree life but parents (mothers) talk about their kids constantly! Post everything their kids do CONSTANTLY!! I see way more shorts/tic toks that include mommy vloggers than childfree content creators… To me, making this choice has been super liberating and has changed my life so I love talking about it just as someone who is pregnant loves chatting about their experience!
We literally have TV shows about women with more than a dozen kids. We have TV shows about teen moms. Why shouldn't childfree women create their own content?
I have four children that I purposefully had because I wanted children. But what I won’t do is try to make child free women feel bad for not wanting children. It’s not easy, especially when you end up having to do it on your own. Childless women, live your best life. For women with children, live your best life. This is ridiculous.
A child makes traveling much more difficult, stressful. You have to pack additional supplies & needs for the child, always care for them, & If they are on a schedule, you can’t just decide to go to a pub at night. If they are In school you can’t just have a spontaneous trip. If they throw a tantrum or are tired you can’t eat at that new upscale restaurant.
Motherhood can be awful and it can be great. Women keep falling for these traps each generation because some women won't keep it real. Tell the truth, it's not all rainbows and unicorns.
I am 30 and child free , and you wouldn’t believe how many men stop talking to me because I don’t want kids . I am the fun auntie so the babies love me . I was a fake mom for 30 days while my cousin went out of state for a job training and it was horrible to be woke up by a 3 year old the size of chuckie asking for pancakes ,that was enough to scare me straight 🥴. I don’t want kids because I just don’t want them I live a busy life and I don’t want a child growing up with resentment towards me because I was to busy to support them fully . If it happens it happens if don’t I’m okay with that too
@@triggered577 I legit have ptsd after day 3 I wanted to make her pancakes and just leave them on the side of her bed 😂😂 that’s my baby though she is the only baby girl in the entire family so our bond hits different 😂
What I have noticed is the women happy with having children have help or they have a father/!husband that is present active and helping in the home and with the children. The woman that say motherhood is awful have no help by anyone even the kids own father. I also notice that women that have NO man are happy that they are single and childless, and women that have a man who they have a great relationship with, whom they man wants kids in the future , considers being married or having children. I have notice the problem is men. 🤷🏽♀️🧐🤔
I never understood women (whichever choice they made) feeling the need to comment on another woman's life and choice. I think a woman (child free or a mother) should be able to appreciate her own life path without questioning someone who chose differently and should be able to talk about why she chose without pointing fingers and being condescending
True! If mothers can build their entire identities around being a mother and flood their social media with their kids, why can't we build our own childfree community?
That's fine, but when I was in middle school a grown ass man told me I would change my mind one day and want kids. Couldn't give me a reason why, just that I would. I dont think shaming others, no matter what their choice is, is ok, but when everyone is telling you to do it anyway, it's important to have pushback against the messaging
Parents that are mad at childfree ppl are simply upset that they fell for the okey doke and realized too late that parenthood is a life choice, not a requirement.
The programming is extremely difficult to reject... female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses/sexual predators.
Raising kids sucks. Period. Especially if you're a biological mother. Your entire career as a mother is on public display and out for public criticism. You can't even be a human. I'm not going into the tremendous responsibility and loneliness because even with a husband/partner, YOU do more of the work, plus a partner to drain you on tip of the kids. I am a mother. I support child free women 100%. Having children can have rewarding moments. But it's not the be all end all. I adore my children. But I'd be lying if I said it's the best thing and my whole world. It is not. And it should not be any woman's primary goal. People who don't want kids are smart. A.d you're doing the right thing in this despicable world with this depressing and violent environment. I love you, child-free woman. I support you. And I am proud of you. Don't let anyone make you feel bad.
they’re always posting about their little bundles of joy lol labor and delivery stories, my pregnancy symptoms, what little sallies doing each and every day… but women can’t be proud of their child free life? Lol the mothers are always complaining and we have to listen to it? It’s like parents feel like they’re the only ones who can brag about their lives 😂😂
The point is no one is doing that and bashing childless women! I’ve yet to see anyone posting delivery stories etc and bashing women without kids. Be happy about your life without trying to bring anyone else down.
@@mrs.fredrick_ how are they bringing mothers down? I could say that posting about their kids is offensive to women who can’t have them. The point is to highlight the positives of not having kids. A woman expressing their love for their kids doesn’t offend me. Me talking about how much better my life is without kids shouldn’t be either.
@@mrs.fredrick_ Did YOU not watch the video? I know YOU can't be serious! 🙃🤡 This hoe literally went on here SHAMING a childfree woman for expressing the positives in her life for being childfree!
if proud parents can post their lives and how proud they are to have children then childfree people will also post their proud childfree lives. 1st mom sounds big bitter.
@@LaurenHarlow777 You are so right, anyone can be bitter. Childfree women do not have children watching them as an example. Bitter parents are putting that energy into the children. Instead of harassing childfree forums with general misinformed insults bitter parents should go pour love into their children and the world so that it is a better place for their children and grandchildren.
So people that act dumb to societal norms annoy me. The reason some people will say I dont want children, i don't want to go to college, i don't want a 9to5 job....is because those are societal norms expected of every and most adults in society without a "tragic" reason to want and maintain. You don't get it because 1 You don't want to or 2. You are mentally delayed
You are so pretty! & Yes children can absolutely burn you out with all the constant noise. You can’t always drink your coffee or tea In complete peace & quiet.
@@levelupgoddess9289facts its draining to hear. But I ask them why did toy let him get hour pregnant when all you do is complain about him? That's on you. I had no patience for it. Then they act like your problems aren't important bc you're nOt a MoM. 🙄
As a mother myself i 100% support any woman deciding against motherhood. I was not prepared for the work load especially having special needs kids. I see both sides. If you're childfree and enjoy that, just enjoy it. I dont get why even mentioning children unless its some sorta flex or you hate children which shouldn't be a flex itself lol On the mothers side i think its totally resentment that some women have all the freedom and we dont have that anymore. If you want children, prepare yourself, especially financially and make sure you dont depend on a partners money because that can backfire real quick (guess what happened to me lol)
I am one of those lucky women that has a husband who wanted to be a father. He understood that raising a child is a two-parent effort. We decided on having one child, that we both raised and nurtured. No, we are not rich, and we shared the work the ups and downs of parenting. He is grown and living his own life as we are living ours. He has decided to be child free. We fully support his decision, as we want him to be happy. Being a parent, is not for everyone and not everyone finds the joy in it that we did.
We should all support each other. Want to have 10 kids? That’s the correct choice. Want to have 0 kids? That’s the correct choice. Women supporting women. 💯
Motherhood is not for every woman, cannot believe this is an issue for some people. Finished college, traveled, started my own business, then decided to have kids and it worked and still works just fine for us 😊
Ya know what..🤔🤔🤔that woman (first one) is giving "don't say gay energy"..like y'all childless women go on over there and not have your kids "but don't get on social media talking about it" lol 😂😂😂
What is with people giving a flying f’ about a woman wanting or not wanting children? Why is it anybody business? People need to mind their own business and leave women alone. HeLl it’s her body, her womb, and in this economy I stand with them. From a mother of 2 teenagers.
I'm child free and was late diagnosed with Autism at 33. I'm so thankful every day that I don't have children to raise because I barely know how to take care of myself! I could not properly raise a well rounded and emotionally mature future adult in the state and lonely situation I'm in. Luckily for me, I'm blessed with a partner who understands, and not only doesn't pressure me on it, but protects my from the "Where are our grandkids?" comments from the families.
I’m a mother of 3. I honestly hate this discourse pitting women against eachother. We are all women and I’m on your side no matter what, child free or not. If you’re child free I support your decision because once you have kids YOUR WHOLE LIFE changes. I think a lot of mothers get triggered and vice versa, but no one’s life is better than anyones lol it’s just different. If you love your life your not gonna have to boast about it and shame someone else to lift you up. I think if you don’t want children that’s great and we aren’t just baby incubators, we are human beings and we can do much more than just procreate. If you’re a mother, I support you because I know it’s hard and it doesn’t mean you love your children any less that there are other women opting out for whatever reasons are their own.
I am thankful for child free by choice content, it really made me change perspectives, I’m living for the now and right now I don’t want kids. If it never comes, oh well 🤷🏽♀️ I let go of the biological clock.
I am happily child free. I have so much respect for people who have children including my siblings. I truly adore my nieces and nephews with all of my heart.
6:48 Be a doctor You should be a doctor Are you sure you don’t want to be a doctor? I mean, im a doctor. You should be one too What is life without being a doctor? You have no value if you’re not a doctor Why don’t you wanna be a doctor? You’re getting up there in age, maybe you should go back to school and try being a doctor Doctors have fun! Are you one? There! Now replace all of that with ‘mother’ and you’ll see what we continuously get…im 32 and I still get it 😑
Just seems like a another silly argument to pit women against each other. Who cares if women want or don't want kids. Both sides need to get together and fight the dystopia we women are trapped in.
@@redgoddess We live in a capitalist society sis. Of course “they” notice the birth rates. You just spoke to that in your first comment. The attacks on childfree women are coming from the same people who want this dystopian society you speak of. All the women bothered by us sticking up for ourselves and being happy with our choices are doing there part to be patriarchal handmaidens. They aren’t trying to align with us, they still have a lot of unpacking to do. The crazy thing is we make up all small portion of society so your message is best directed at them.
Do we not see what they doing in congress ? Do we not see this world ? That’s enough , we don’t need another human being . Rent is 5k some places . When the next come up , it’ll be way higher . It’s a mess out here no need to put that stress on an innocent life with no idea what is ahead .
How about we don’t concern ourselves with the business that’s not ours. Don’t worry about what others think of your choices, live life quietly and with joy and stop looking for approval and validation from others. ✌🏾🖖🏾
i really wish everyone would just shut up about the disagreement and live your life the way you want to. simple. social media creates unnecessary back and forth. we have bigger fish to fry just living lol.
@@jeaniquetuckerliving for yourself and not worrying about everyone else! we come in this world alone and we are going to leave it alone. it’s cold and harsh but it’s the truth. caring about someone else life is weird and serves no purpose in growing your mental state as a human being.
Bigger fish? You don’t see how this is a women’s rights issue? That’s just ONE issue by the way. We literally had abortion rights stripped away and the cost of living is at crisis levels.
@@imdatchickk Tell that to the breeders. They are the ones putting Handmaids Tales legislation into place making it hard for us to “just worry about ourselves.”
I don’t get how people shame CF women/men but if every person that’s able to have children actually had them we’d be overpopulated. We barely have enough teachers, prenatal resources or even medical professionals to keep up with it. We just had a baby food shortage…and women like her who claim to be so happily married with kids end up on TikTok years later crying from him cheating. Like you were the miserable one all along.
Well, there's 8 BILLION people on this earth. We're already overpopulated with limited resources. The last thing this world needs is more kids! We NEED childfree people in the world! We NEED LESS people on this earth.
Mother of 1 here (a teenager). I ADORE my kid. She has a wonderful personality. She was never an issue. Always receptive of when i ask her to do things. All around the IDEAL kid. I mean slept through the night as a newborn and everything! However, I often say I would NOT recommend. Financially it's tragic!! Support when u need it isn't there. No matter how many family members ask you to have them and swear they'll be there. What ur body goes through...smh. I often advise ppl to just think about EVERY possible scenario before having kids because it can happen. Based off of the random chaos you can think of; is it worth it to you?
My girls also never had Issue with sleeping as infants. But I know my children are not every other child. So some children can have Issues with sleeping & It’s up to the parents to find that out & manage It. I didn’t enjoy pregnancy, childbirth & raising infants though. I adore children when they are older, It’s still tiring but once they become more older they can communicate & really show their personality & not be completely dependent on you for basic things.
Its jealousy ppl who are happy to be parents arent the ones angry its the ones who didnt want kids but had em... so yea jealousy otherwise why do they care?
Yeah that's true the sound of a human baby crying is like demon yuk and the boogers poop and vomit that come with human babies NOOOO!!! Child-free people can say they're happy to be child-free without being crapped on like we used to be and it's not just the money that gets waisted on kids, it's also the body gets destroyed the emotional stress the physical stress the premature aging if it's hard enough dealing with your own problems once you have a kid their problems are YOUR problems forever you don't just take care of them until they're 18 you take care of them until they die
@mahlatse8605 Yup. So interesting how these folks talk about the little ones. Thank goodness they're choosing not to have them as I'm concern for the safety of little girls and boys. They must hate themselves at that age.
@@Sunlumiinous No, I loved myself it was other kids that were bratty and disgusting. My mother actually taught me manners. And sweetie - you have more to worry about "fathers" putting their babies that are here in microwaves that has happened more than once then someone who doesn't even exist. And to @mahlatse605 SO WHAT if we were once small children? That has nothing to do with wanting one of your own.
So it’s OK for the child having people to brag about how awesome their life is, but it’s not OK for the child free people to brag about how awesome their life is? OK I see the double standard. And the second woman must be dense. Because to use her analogy, if you grew up in a family where you were constantly told that you’d be a great doctor, that there’s so many doctors in your family and that they can’t wait for you to join that sisterhood of being a doctor, all the time, and you knew in your heart from the very young age, that you did not want to be a doctor, of course, she would talk about how much she didn’t wanna be a doctor now that you could do Something about it. The condescending tone she carries when she’s talking about this reeks of elitism. She think she’s better because she possibly wants or has children and she’s upset or triggered that someone is equally happy with the decision that is opposite of hers.
There was a point where I was unwillingly going to eventually get married and have one kid. I never wanted to be a mother, hell I barely wanted to be a wife. So what really made me stick to my decision at 17 was a friend who was a teen mom who seriously looked at me and said "why in the hell would you do something like that when you don't want to and then permanently place someone in your life who you could care less about?!" Because by then she knew that I was one of those people who do what I say I'm going to do. And the way I talked about having kids sounded as exciting to me as a hurricane leveling my house. (Something I pray never happens)
For all the people who cannot understand why chikdfree people speak about not wanting kids just know they were speaking to ithers who may feel that way but are struggling emotionally because they have family and friends trying to convince them that it's something they absolutely must do. So it's good for them to see other people who feel as they do who are doing ok without kids. It's kind of like support. It's like mothers who ate having a tough time being mothers and they feel guilty and ashamed for even questioning their lives as mothers and when they ser other women open up and admit that even though they love their kids they hate being mothers, it somehow makes them feel like they're not alone and not so bad.
I think the real problem is not having reliable partners to share and ligthen the load. And people who haven't healed from their own childhood or trauma are having children when they shouldn't without healing first. And some people just dont want to.
I am a fence sitter, 40 year old, child free, single. I listened to both child free channels as well as single mother by choice channels. It is upsetting to see women against women. Why can't we just let each other's be. You live your life and stop justifying own choice by criticising others'. Haven't people picked up the wrong enemy? Women always need to be house bond, child bearing is the legacy of Patriarchy it was designed this way by MEN! Why as women, we are fighting against each other? Come on!
As a mom of two I don’t understand why any mother wouldn’t want society to see that there are more women choosing not to have children. One of the biggest lessons I learned as a mother is that life isn’t an entitlement and too many people think it is. Hence the reason children and mothers and people in general are so taken for granted. Life is undervalued and I’m glad that we are starting to see examples (especially in child free women) of the fact that no one is obligated to give it.
You are missig out by not having children is the phrase i hear everyday. And it wont ever be not annoying. Its okay for parents to force other people to have children and tell them how great it is and how people r missing out but when childfree people speak out they r out of line.
We are living in a heavily overpopulted world. Hundred years ago the world-population was under 2 Billion. Now we are 8!!! Billion. And we humans are about to destroy this only planet we are able to live on! So dear mothers, if you really looove your children soooo much, than DON'T MAKE SO MANY OF THEM!
I agree, but the thing is --- childfree people by and large (at least from what I've seen) don't want to be with people who want and/or have children. It's usually the other way around where people who have kids want to be with someone who doesn't (so they can get free, extra support without the baggage of someone else's child((ren)) or it'll be some bozo who think he is so great that he can change a woman's mind. smh
@@triggered577fact its always lelllenwkth kids who don't want to date single parents. Tf. They approach cf peolle and expect us to play setp parent to their kid. Fuckkkkk nooooo. Its crazy.
This is not a “trend” there has been child free woman for years. Social media is highlighting this because, more people are sharing their opinions. Every individual is different!!
I have 6 children. If you do not want kids DO NOT HAVE KIDS. The end. You are the one that will have to live with that decision. Women who are choosing to be child free are making the best choices for themselves. They know themselves and what they want out of life. Having kids is not the end all to beat all. Having children has never stopped ME from doing things that I really wanted to do but for some women it's a trap and others may not want to endanger themselves with childbirth because women still die giving birth, (Yes that is still a thing)especially if you are a woman of color or in a red state or both. Respect CW their choices because you don't live their life.
Childfree women SHOULD talk about being childfree to counteract the social pressures women experience TO have children.
Exactly. How many years do we go through, 'do you want kids?' 'Are you have kids?' 'when are you having kids?' 'Hurry up if you want kids!'
Like, that was all through my entire long term relationship, over a decade. That relationship ended. If I gave into pressure of society, I would now be a single parent with a kid.
I mean, Im better of single with my dog, my income and living life.
@@RadicalValkyrie And these are the same people to just say “well motherhood is hard” when you call them at 5am because the baby has colic and wont stop crying, and you are having dark thoughts and just need some help.
Exactly. People who abide by norms be acting like they’re being attacked just because some people are being more vocal about making other choices. It’s been happening in different contexts lately. Like the numbers are still on your side! People are just sharing more how we can make different choices and the benefits of a specific choice smh.
I completely agree
@@RadicalValkyriethis!!! At 43 I still get these questions!! Like why in my right mind would I have a child, that I don’t want, at the ripe age of 43 😂
If blondie is so happy being a mother, why is childfree content even on her radar? 🤔
Right. It shouldn't have even been in her fyp. It's in her algorithm because she is pressed
She might want a village (notice how the white moms tend to react to videos of white CF women) to raise her children with. No accusations lol, I just know a lot of conservatives growing up in the South and Midwest.
Truth
Why is it hard for some people to accept that motherhood or fatherhood is not for everybody?
Been wondering the same thing for a while
Exactly ❤
I be wondering the same thing. So many people I know and see have no business having children let alone in a “serious” relationship. It is not for everyone and to think otherwise is stupid.
Misery loves company
Because they can't think for themselves under the weight of patriarchy and their families'/societal expectations.
Why is she so bothered by what other people choose for themselves. Weird AF.
Parents can be very weird.
Because hit dogs holler. She's triggered lol
I don't understand it either 😊
Exactly! Imagine being mad that someone does not make the same choices as you.
Parents can come off super defensive.
I'm anticipating a tik tok meltdown within five years.
Or a divorce.
Mother of 1 here, I support the movement of child free 200%. The mother questioning the child free ladies, don’t realize that her life is the exception not the rule. Good for her that she can travel and have time with her husband, most women don’t have that luxury. She probably, have a good husband and great income. Not everyone who’s child free, has steady income for traveling and luxury.
Me too. I love and encourage them.
Come on you know she's lying. Happy people don't get triggered by what strangers post. She's acting like the CF woman called her by name.
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Mom of 3 out here 😂telling people to stop listening to moms
@@notyourfrind9415I agree with you. As a mom of two with more amenities than alot of people, this woman is full of crap. She knows she has her days, but you know what they say, misery loves company!
I’m a mom of 2, and honestly feel that women should take a break from having children.. The world is shit, the world is upside down, EVERYTHING is expensive AF.. CHILDCARE is $1000 a month.. like what the fuck.. Buying a home is out of the question.. Food!! Can we talk about how expensive 1 bag of groceries are! Teachers are quitting, OBGYN’s are decapitating babies.. You may die in childbirth.. the list goes on and on and on and on… Live ur happy childfree lifestyle.. Ur welcome..
This! 💯
I feel so guilty for laughing 😂 when you said OBGYN's are decapitating babies because...damn! 🤦
But at the same time, it's 100% true! Everything you said is 1000% facts!
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Im sorry, as a mother with two kids there is no way you can pack up and go travel in the same way that a Childfree woman can. You can’t just go for a weekend to Paris. There is NO WAY!
You can, if you can pay for a nanny❤
That lady had paid help for sure. And it must’ve struck a nerve since she’s supposedly so “happy” yet she felt the need to address child free Women.😒😒
@@Tee-Star right. cuz the average gdp in America suggests that. Lol
@@attitudeproblem6462 so people who worked hard and have an easier life aren't allowed to comment?
It's called the www. Lol
This is common sense. Yeah you can travel but it’s obviously much cheaper and easier without kids. I don’t even have kids and its clear that the women who do this are the hit dog that will holler.
"I would not change it for anything". Honey, you literaly can't change it or you will go to jail for child neglect. Once you make your choice to have kids, it's over!
Kids don't remain kids forever 😂😅 18 years goes by soo fast, once you no longer have the ability to bear your own child it's over too love. 😊
@brandyyolidio4213 So you are one of those I'm a parent for 18 years type?! Newsflash after she 18 that's still your child
The reason why so many women have been speaking out, isn't because it's a "trend", its because we have social media platforms and have had a LIFE TIME of people shaming us for not breeding. "You won't know love until you have kids." pfftt. Garbage.
Im in my early 40s and sticking to my reasons for having no children has worked out VERY well. Do what is right for you, not others.
You can look at her face. The thin, dried out lips give it away. She looks exhausted.
P.S., These childfree women look beautiful, hydrated, and rested. Lets just stop the cap. Their lives are better.
Mothers looove talking about how they love being moms. Some put it on their IG bios like it's some type of branding 😂 yet we're not supposed to do the same? Why does it bother them soooo much that we vocalize our joy? 🤔
Exactly. They make being a mom their entire personality so they accuse us of doing the same w/ being childfree. We _don’t_ “make it our entire personality, we just talk about it on social media. Could’ve kept scrollin’ like ole’ girl said.
They make being a mom their whole personality its pitiful really.
Mom of 3 here. I have seen the vids of many women crying with these kids. Child free women LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST.
There are also loads of women crying because they can't have kids🤷🏾♀️
People should just be content in general
To the first mom, It’s CHILD FREE. Meaning by choice. Just like pregnancy is a choice💁🏽♀️ And it’s not a trend, it’s a lifestyle. Just like children aren’t accessories 🙃
I love kids, i just dont want to be reponsible for them!😂😂😂😂😂
I’m recruiting aunties 😂😂😂
No way would I be a mother if my husband was not helping and if I did not have a great support system. I do, and I absolutely love being a mother and having kids, for me it is easy but like I said my husband is amazing, my parents and in-laws alwasy available and ready to help. I’m a lucky mother and I know it. If you don’t have help, I would tell women, DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN. 😌
We keep talking about being child free because it is important! It's different than talking about being a doctor in one fundamental way - not every women is EXPECTED to be doctor, but for the most part, women ARE expected to be mothers! We are trying to show young girls and women that there is a DIFFERENT way that is just as valid, fulfilling, and acceptable!
Also 99% of doctors introduced themselves, as Dr Blah Blah most of the time.
She’s not constantly being BINGO’d about being a doctor, either! Strangers aren’t invasively asking her when she’s going to become a doctor every time they see her! That’s the connection she fails to make!🙄🤦🏾♀️
Exactly my thoughts..the difference is no one pressures u to being a doctor. Or shames you into doing it.😂 that's the obvious answer. That lady was slow.
I think it’s jealousy, why does a community of people minding their business bother you so much? I didn’t know being childfree was an option, if I had kids before finding out I’d be jealous too.
I agree. While I have children and supportive partners/coparents, I do not see a problem with being child free. Like the woman said."eff these kids." It's definitely jealousy. You have the freedom that mothers never will. Even and especially single moms. Having a living excuse for a man to control and harass you is painful as hell and hard to escape, never mind motherhood itself. I encourage women to drop them kids at the paternal family's house. But of course, it's against social acceptance. These women want to be free. You are free. How dare you?!
Eff these hating miserable women. Keep doing you.
Motherhood has been pressured upon women for centuries as the preferred (or forced) life for any fertile woman past the age of 18. Conversely, childless, or infertile women have been shunned and shamed as spinsters, and undesirables since time began. Finally, they are able to discuss how rich and fulfilling their lives are w/o children and ppl want them to shut up? These discussions are so helpful bc we finally get to see that motherhood ain't all easy, and being childfree ain't all bad, whether it's by choice or by chance. Keep sharing, ladies! On both sides, I love the stories! ❤
Exactly...i guarantee you she's asked women why they don't have children and why? And then told them they should. I applaud women that show the realities of motherhood. I'm happy my mother made motherhood look difficult as it was...did it traumatize me? Sure. But it made me view parenthood more realistically.
Fun fact the word spinster came from women WITH children who were widows or had husbands left for some reason. So these women started their own businesses such as working as spinster. So these women then expelled at it and it became one of the most sought after jobs back then. And as always men became threatened by these women who were earning good money. So to scare women becoming independent and make their own money . They started calling women who were single spinsters as a bad thing. So originally that word meant something normal and men turned into something bad and shameful.
@@kayanurshiya3778these bloody XYs 🤦🏾♀️🤣🤣🤣🤣
Came here to comment the same thing! As a conservative Christian woman who fell for the Kevin Samuels and "red pill" nonsense,
I escaped an abusive relationship that turned into such until AFTER when we moved in together after 6mo and I'm so glad I didn't stay out of desperation to be a wife and mom.
I'm so glad I found childfree content because for a while I was weighing the pros and cons. And honestly a lot of people who think they want children need to ask a better question: "do I want the duties and responsibilities of being a parent, at the sacrifice of my own health, wealth, peace, freedom, and immaculately-clean-and-organized home?" 🤔
I have suffered child loss and no children .. the comments from people and assumptions are still surprising and hurtful.
Mother of two here, people without kids "rant" because people with kids are always asking them why they don't want kids. It's not all that great trying to keep human beings alive. You worry about them all the time no matter what. You have to worry if something happens to you, then who'll take care of them. It's a lot, and child free people get tired of answering the questions. Stop asking, and they won't "rant".
I just don't believe that taking care of another human 24/7 without getting paid is all sunshine and roses. Imagine doing that for years and especially in this Economy 😪😪 more power to parents especially moms.
And let's not forget about the childfree aunties and uncles and friends.
For the life of me, I'll never understand why the hell people who decided to spread legs and whip dicks out, lay down, f*** and reproduce as a result, feel the need to encroach on childfree people's lives and time!
They're the ones that'll say, "it takes a village to raise a child."
First off, no it doesn't take a so-called "village" to raise a child! It takes the two idiots that decided to lay down and screw to raise their own damn kids!
Secondly,...shouldn't this so-called "village" get a say/vote on whether or not they WANT to be apart of a "village" and be burdened by someone else's child?!?!?
They think they're entitled to free babysitting services, burdening other people with their burdensome responsibilities of caring for children that THEY chose to have! They think they're entitled to a "break" that they're not entitled to! Not to mention them using tax-payer dollars to fund to take care of their kids!
Especially for the ones that have a scum partner that is no help whatsoever
I think that Parents who are actually ok and encourage women for women to be childfree, actually love their kids. Anytime you see a woman hating childfree lowkey finds their kids a burden and want other women who are happier to have kids
The math ain’t math-ing 🤔
Misery loves company for the latter
And visa versa
To be honest, I think Mother’s that say motherhood is amazing, and awesome are lying .
😮 Because they are
😂
Big time
Oh, 1000%
They're lying through their teeth! They want you to fall into the same hole 🕳️/trap they fell into because they want you to join in their misery WITH them!
Misery loves company!
I know that there are some women who thrive being mothers, but they are the exception. I have seen too many women who hate being mothers but will never verbalize it.
And what some of these “happy” moms don’t understand is that if their financial or marital status changes they might change their tune. My friend became a widow in her 20s and life with her child has been hell ever since. You have to think about the what ifs and decide if it’s worth the risk. To me it’s not worth it.
that woman is capping! there is no way it is fun all the time. it is very stressful. women need to start telling the truth. i get it some childfree people always talking about how much fun it is not to have children. don't make not having children or having children a personality trait.
The first 5 years are fucking brutal. The sleep deprivation.
@@beepbopboop7727ur literally just coasting thru.. ohhh and let’s not forget, once the baby gets here, no one cares about mom.. it’s all about the baby/.
I wouldn't doubt they have hired help. They have money for multiple trips/ vacations, might as well have extra hands on deck.
There is pros and cons to whatever choice you make . 🤷🏽♀️just make the best choice for you. 😊
@@sg5720you know that groupthink mentality is strong
Let me explain it to those women who don't get it. Women who have chosen motherhood have met the biblical, social, and cultural requirements expected of all women with few exceptions. Those women who choose correctly are lauded for sacrificing their lives (like Jesus), given a special day for the effort (again, like Jesus), and applauded for doing "the hardest job on earth" (second only to Redemption). Conversely, women who exercise the very same right to choose but elect to live a child free life, are derided as selfish, accused of living outside of God's will that we be fruitful and multiply, and in many cases, are designated as outliers of womanhood. I am a very senior woman who chose to be single and child free in an era when it just wasn't done. To openly admit the choice of self was looked down upon and although I knew there were others out there like me, I didn't have the access to those like-minded women like those in the mommy club have always had. Now, through social media, child free women are able to support each other, share our journeys with no regrets, and create platforms so that younger women, faced with the same traditional expectations, have the places and spaces to communicate with child free women of all ages, and make informed decisions as to how they would like to proceed with their lives. Personally, I love the child free social media movement. Besides the commonalities, support, and lack of regrets, the conversations are far more interesting than diaper reliability, teething remedies, car pools, potty training, PTA meetings, and the other glamorous accoutrements of motherhood. Do you get it now?
I am a 40 year old male with high functioning autism. I work part time at Walmart, don’t drive, and still live with my parents. I would like to live on my own and get married one day but don’t want any children. Part of the reason why I don’t want children is because raising children would be a lot for me with my autism. Motherhood and fatherhood is not meant for everyone. But unfortunately society reacts negative towards it when people choose not to have children but mostly react negative towards it with women choosing not to have children. That goes to show that society mainly pressures people into having kids for sexist and misogynistic reasons.
The black lady with the dreads is spot on!💯 💥
I'm childfree by choice at 43,knew that was my path in life at 10!
Congratulations Sis 👏🏿
@@DestinyUteh Thankyou 😉👌🏽
These parents are always pressed about child free people. They get so upset when they talk about how great their life is. If she loves being a mother so much better then why is she mad?
Being childless is fine - it's just known that there are women who shout about NOT wanting children, only to change their mind in later years or after marriage. Sometimes it's too late for those women to produce healthy children.
@@kevinc3342Ok so just like there are women that regret not having kids, there are women that regret having them so…
@@kevinc3342 it's child free, not childless, bud! "It's known"? Citation needed! There is a study that shows that childfree, single women are the HAPPIEST demographic! I'd rather regret NOT having them than having them! Besides, one can ALWAYS adopt! It's never too late! And young women don't always produce healthy children, so.... BYE!
The ppl I know of that do have kids tell me not to do it cause u get no break etc
@@kevinc3342why produce in the first place when there is adoption? No pro lifer brings that up for some reason.
It’s interesting that people don’t want to hear you openly enjoying a childfree life but parents (mothers) talk about their kids constantly! Post everything their kids do CONSTANTLY!! I see way more shorts/tic toks that include mommy vloggers than childfree content creators… To me, making this choice has been super liberating and has changed my life so I love talking about it just as someone who is pregnant loves chatting about their experience!
We literally have TV shows about women with more than a dozen kids. We have TV shows about teen moms. Why shouldn't childfree women create their own content?
Not to mention the drama going round now with family bloggers abusing their kids.
I have four children that I purposefully had because I wanted children. But what I won’t do is try to make child free women feel bad for not wanting children. It’s not easy, especially when you end up having to do it on your own. Childless women, live your best life. For women with children, live your best life. This is ridiculous.
Poor kids. They are always the political and social pawns in everyone’s story.
That mum is obviously lying as parents can’t just pack their bags and go to holidays 😭😭
A child makes traveling much more difficult, stressful. You have to pack additional supplies & needs for the child, always care for them, & If they are on a schedule, you can’t just decide to go to a pub at night. If they are In school you can’t just have a spontaneous trip.
If they throw a tantrum or are tired you can’t eat at that new upscale restaurant.
Motherhood can be awful and it can be great. Women keep falling for these traps each generation because some women won't keep it real. Tell the truth, it's not all rainbows and unicorns.
What can be great about being a parent?
I am 30 and child free , and you wouldn’t believe how many men stop talking to me because I don’t want kids . I am the fun auntie so the babies love me . I was a fake mom for 30 days while my cousin went out of state for a job training and it was horrible to be woke up by a 3 year old the size of chuckie asking for pancakes ,that was enough to scare me straight 🥴. I don’t want kids because I just don’t want them I live a busy life and I don’t want a child growing up with resentment towards me because I was to busy to support them fully . If it happens it happens if don’t I’m okay with that too
"to be woke up by a 3 year old the size of chuckie asking for pancakes"
@@triggered577 I legit have ptsd after day 3 I wanted to make her pancakes and just leave them on the side of her bed 😂😂 that’s my baby though she is the only baby girl in the entire family so our bond hits different 😂
The pancakes! My cousin’s child once woke me up asking if I could make him just one pancake. I told him to get some cookies instead.
@@sizzlekitten4441 and the baby came back right !!! with the cookies and still wanted pancakes 🤦🏾♀️😂
What I have noticed is the women happy with having children have help or they have a father/!husband that is present active and helping in the home and with the children. The woman that say motherhood is awful have no help by anyone even the kids own father. I also notice that women that have NO man are happy that they are single and childless, and women that have a man who they have a great relationship with, whom they man wants kids in the future , considers being married or having children. I have notice the problem is men. 🤷🏽♀️🧐🤔
I agree 💯
Something people don't talk about a lot of us childfree women and aging a lot slower too 💚💚💚
10 plus years slower
I never understood women (whichever choice they made) feeling the need to comment on another woman's life and choice. I think a woman (child free or a mother) should be able to appreciate her own life path without questioning someone who chose differently and should be able to talk about why she chose without pointing fingers and being condescending
True! If mothers can build their entire identities around being a mother and flood their social media with their kids, why can't we build our own childfree community?
Absolutely… I think ppl should stick to their own corners, and respect other ppls decisions…
That's fine, but when I was in middle school a grown ass man told me I would change my mind one day and want kids. Couldn't give me a reason why, just that I would. I dont think shaming others, no matter what their choice is, is ok, but when everyone is telling you to do it anyway, it's important to have pushback against the messaging
Parents that are mad at childfree ppl are simply upset that they fell for the okey doke and realized too late that parenthood is a life choice, not a requirement.
The programming is extremely difficult to reject... female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses/sexual predators.
If people can talk about how great their life is with kids then other people have the right to talk about how amazing being child free is
Raising kids sucks. Period. Especially if you're a biological mother. Your entire career as a mother is on public display and out for public criticism. You can't even be a human. I'm not going into the tremendous responsibility and loneliness because even with a husband/partner, YOU do more of the work, plus a partner to drain you on tip of the kids.
I am a mother. I support child free women 100%. Having children can have rewarding moments. But it's not the be all end all. I adore my children. But I'd be lying if I said it's the best thing and my whole world. It is not. And it should not be any woman's primary goal. People who don't want kids are smart. A.d you're doing the right thing in this despicable world with this depressing and violent environment. I love you, child-free woman. I support you. And I am proud of you. Don't let anyone make you feel bad.
they’re always posting about their little bundles of joy lol labor and delivery stories, my pregnancy symptoms, what little sallies doing each and every day… but women can’t be proud of their child free life? Lol the mothers are always complaining and we have to listen to it? It’s like parents feel like they’re the only ones who can brag about their lives 😂😂
The point is no one is doing that and bashing childless women! I’ve yet to see anyone posting delivery stories etc and bashing women without kids. Be happy about your life without trying to bring anyone else down.
@@mrs.fredrick_ how are they bringing mothers down? I could say that posting about their kids is offensive to women who can’t have them. The point is to highlight the positives of not having kids. A woman expressing their love for their kids doesn’t offend me. Me talking about how much better my life is without kids shouldn’t be either.
@@Aniexo_ Did you not just watch the video!!! I know you can’t be serious good day ✌🏾
@@mrs.fredrick_
Did YOU not watch the video?
I know YOU can't be serious! 🙃🤡
This hoe literally went on here SHAMING a childfree woman for expressing the positives in her life for being childfree!
@mrs.fredrick_ It is childFREE. ChildLESS are women who want kids, but for whatever reason can't have them.
Childless and child free are 2 different things.
As a childfree woman I don't have to worry about having childs on the milk cartoons.
The sexual predators in this world is horrifying...
if proud parents can post their lives and how proud they are to have children then childfree people will also post their proud childfree lives. 1st mom sounds big bitter.
@@LaurenHarlow777 You are so right, anyone can be bitter. Childfree women do not have children watching them as an example. Bitter parents are putting that energy into the children. Instead of harassing childfree forums with general misinformed insults bitter parents should go pour love into their children and the world so that it is a better place for their children and grandchildren.
So people that act dumb to societal norms annoy me. The reason some people will say I dont want children, i don't want to go to college, i don't want a 9to5 job....is because those are societal norms expected of every and most adults in society without a "tragic" reason to want and maintain. You don't get it because 1 You don't want to or 2. You are mentally delayed
When my sister had my nephews I knew it wasn’t for me. The constant whining is so annoying I CANNOT lol and that’s not even the tip of the iceberg 😭
You are so pretty! & Yes children can absolutely burn you out with all the constant noise. You can’t always drink your coffee or tea In complete peace & quiet.
@@MedusssssaChristo awe thenx 💜 I’m very loving, protective and responsible so I’d make a great mother no lie but it’s just tewww much 😭
Happy for Moms! However, I've yet to see a woman with kids that makes me think twice about being childfree😆 And that's on my uterus.
Exactly. All they do is complain about the kids and spouse to us childfree women.
@@levelupgoddess9289facts its draining to hear. But I ask them why did toy let him get hour pregnant when all you do is complain about him? That's on you. I had no patience for it. Then they act like your problems aren't important bc you're nOt a MoM. 🙄
As a mother myself i 100% support any woman deciding against motherhood. I was not prepared for the work load especially having special needs kids.
I see both sides. If you're childfree and enjoy that, just enjoy it. I dont get why even mentioning children unless its some sorta flex or you hate children which shouldn't be a flex itself lol
On the mothers side i think its totally resentment that some women have all the freedom and we dont have that anymore.
If you want children, prepare yourself, especially financially and make sure you dont depend on a partners money because that can backfire real quick (guess what happened to me lol)
I am one of those lucky women that has a husband who wanted to be a father. He understood that raising a child is a two-parent effort. We decided on having one child, that we both raised and nurtured. No, we are not rich, and we shared the work the ups and downs of parenting. He is grown and living his own life as we are living ours. He has decided to be child free. We fully support his decision, as we want him to be happy. Being a parent, is not for everyone and not everyone finds the joy in it that we did.
We should all support each other. Want to have 10 kids? That’s the correct choice. Want to have 0 kids? That’s the correct choice. Women supporting women. 💯
Motherhood is not for every woman, cannot believe this is an issue for some people. Finished college, traveled, started my own business, then decided to have kids and it worked and still works just fine for us 😊
Representation matters. We Need childfree People and mothers and fathers to show how its like. Positive and negativ. So younger can see and choose
That triggered mother got that “It should’ve been me look.” On her face😂
The mom looks dead inside...
She does
Ya know what..🤔🤔🤔that woman (first one) is giving "don't say gay energy"..like y'all childless women go on over there and not have your kids "but don't get on social media talking about it" lol 😂😂😂
What is with people giving a flying f’ about a woman wanting or not wanting children? Why is it anybody business? People need to mind their own business and leave women alone. HeLl it’s her body, her womb, and in this economy I stand with them. From a mother of 2 teenagers.
I'm child free and was late diagnosed with Autism at 33. I'm so thankful every day that I don't have children to raise because I barely know how to take care of myself! I could not properly raise a well rounded and emotionally mature future adult in the state and lonely situation I'm in. Luckily for me, I'm blessed with a partner who understands, and not only doesn't pressure me on it, but protects my from the "Where are our grandkids?" comments from the families.
I’m a mother of 3. I honestly hate this discourse pitting women against eachother. We are all women and I’m on your side no matter what, child free or not. If you’re child free I support your decision because once you have kids YOUR WHOLE LIFE changes. I think a lot of mothers get triggered and vice versa, but no one’s life is better than anyones lol it’s just different. If you love your life your not gonna have to boast about it and shame someone else to lift you up. I think if you don’t want children that’s great and we aren’t just baby incubators, we are human beings and we can do much more than just procreate. If you’re a mother, I support you because I know it’s hard and it doesn’t mean you love your children any less that there are other women opting out for whatever reasons are their own.
I am thankful for child free by choice content, it really made me change perspectives, I’m living for the now and right now I don’t want kids. If it never comes, oh well 🤷🏽♀️ I let go of the biological clock.
I am happily child free. I have so much respect for people who have children including my siblings. I truly adore my nieces and nephews with all of my heart.
6:48
Be a doctor
You should be a doctor
Are you sure you don’t want to be a doctor?
I mean, im a doctor. You should be one too
What is life without being a doctor?
You have no value if you’re not a doctor
Why don’t you wanna be a doctor?
You’re getting up there in age, maybe you should go back to school and try being a doctor
Doctors have fun! Are you one?
There! Now replace all of that with ‘mother’ and you’ll see what we continuously get…im 32 and I still get it 😑
Just seems like a another silly argument to pit women against each other. Who cares if women want or don't want kids. Both sides need to get together and fight the dystopia we women are trapped in.
@@redgoddess We live in a capitalist society sis. Of course “they” notice the birth rates. You just spoke to that in your first comment. The attacks on childfree women are coming from the same people who want this dystopian society you speak of. All the women bothered by us sticking up for ourselves and being happy with our choices are doing there part to be patriarchal handmaidens. They aren’t trying to align with us, they still have a lot of unpacking to do. The crazy thing is we make up all small portion of society so your message is best directed at them.
You all out here divided against each other while the men stay on code. Its just against your own self interest. The blind leading the blind (QM).
@@umberwyldcorrect, the programming is extremely difficult to reject for males and females.
Do we not see what they doing in congress ? Do we not see this world ? That’s enough , we don’t need another human being . Rent is 5k some places . When the next come up , it’ll be way higher . It’s a mess out here no need to put that stress on an innocent life with no idea what is ahead .
How about we don’t concern ourselves with the business that’s not ours. Don’t worry about what others think of your choices, live life quietly and with joy and stop looking for approval and validation from others. ✌🏾🖖🏾
Childfree...praise Gawd!take my whole uterus Chile! 😂
The ugly playsets take me out. 🤣🤣
They're just mad they got duped. Btw this comment section passes the vibe check. ❤
i really wish everyone would just shut up about the disagreement and live your life the way you want to. simple. social media creates unnecessary back and forth. we have bigger fish to fry just living lol.
@@jeaniquetuckerliving for yourself and not worrying about everyone else! we come in this world alone and we are going to leave it alone. it’s cold and harsh but it’s the truth. caring about someone else life is weird and serves no purpose in growing your mental state as a human being.
Bigger fish? You don’t see how this is a women’s rights issue? That’s just ONE issue by the way. We literally had abortion rights stripped away and the cost of living is at crisis levels.
@@imdatchickk Tell that to the breeders. They are the ones putting Handmaids Tales legislation into place making it hard for us to “just worry about ourselves.”
The lady who said her dogs don’t care…my dog needy af!! I don’t relate to this 😩
As a child free woman, I say there’s pros and cons to both sides.
Child FREE not childless lol
Supposedly she's seen so many videos about childfree women yet, she doesn't know the difference 😒
That woman with the baby! hahahaha. Nice twist.
Those mothers that were so truthful, THAT is what we need more of. Honesty.
There are also so many children in need of homes in the foster care system in the states. I’d rather adopt that bring another child into the world
I don’t get how people shame CF women/men but if every person that’s able to have children actually had them we’d be overpopulated. We barely have enough teachers, prenatal resources or even medical professionals to keep up with it. We just had a baby food shortage…and women like her who claim to be so happily married with kids end up on TikTok years later crying from him cheating. Like you were the miserable one all along.
FACTS
Well, there's 8 BILLION people on this earth. We're already overpopulated with limited resources. The last thing this world needs is more kids! We NEED childfree people in the world! We NEED LESS people on this earth.
I moved my entire life in two suitcases to Europe when I was 33. It would have been really hard to do that with children.
I would bet that blonde woman is a narcissist. She's gaslighting women and trying to convince herself SHE'S happy. Classic projection.
Probably so
Mother of 1 here (a teenager). I ADORE my kid. She has a wonderful personality. She was never an issue. Always receptive of when i ask her to do things. All around the IDEAL kid. I mean slept through the night as a newborn and everything! However, I often say I would NOT recommend. Financially it's tragic!! Support when u need it isn't there. No matter how many family members ask you to have them and swear they'll be there. What ur body goes through...smh. I often advise ppl to just think about EVERY possible scenario before having kids because it can happen. Based off of the random chaos you can think of; is it worth it to you?
My girls also never had Issue with sleeping as infants. But I know my children are not every other child. So some children can have Issues with sleeping & It’s up to the parents to find that out & manage It.
I didn’t enjoy pregnancy, childbirth & raising infants though. I adore children when they are older, It’s still tiring but once they become more older they can communicate & really show their personality & not be completely dependent on you for basic things.
Ol girl with the blue hair had me rolling lolll. The lady with the locs was on point too.
I am 63 and said at 8 I didn't want kids. I was married 32 yrs, very happy I've no kids especially with that EMT Emotional Mental Terrorist
I've got 3 kids, and it's all I care about in life. But I support child free women one thousand percent.
Its jealousy ppl who are happy to be parents arent the ones angry its the ones who didnt want kids but had em... so yea jealousy otherwise why do they care?
I'm child-free and I don't regret my decision.
Yeah that's true the sound of a human baby crying is like demon yuk and the boogers poop and vomit that come with human babies NOOOO!!!
Child-free people can say they're happy to be child-free without being crapped on like we used to be and it's not just the money that gets waisted on kids, it's also the body gets destroyed the emotional stress the physical stress the premature aging if it's hard enough dealing with your own problems once you have a kid their problems are YOUR problems forever you don't just take care of them until they're 18 you take care of them until they die
The way you talk about children. You were also once a child.
@mahlatse8605 Yup. So interesting how these folks talk about the little ones. Thank goodness they're choosing not to have them as I'm concern for the safety of little girls and boys. They must hate themselves at that age.
@@Sunlumiinous No, I loved myself it was other kids that were bratty and disgusting. My mother actually taught me manners. And sweetie - you have more to worry about "fathers" putting their babies that are here in microwaves that has happened more than once then someone who doesn't even exist. And to @mahlatse605 SO WHAT if we were once small children? That has nothing to do with wanting one of your own.
What is worse is when your kids get older and show you no love or respect and take you for granted.
I love the parents who were raw about motherhood
Child free people actively listen to parents complain and celebrate when they're children are off somewhere else.
So it’s OK for the child having people to brag about how awesome their life is, but it’s not OK for the child free people to brag about how awesome their life is? OK I see the double standard.
And the second woman must be dense. Because to use her analogy, if you grew up in a family where you were constantly told that you’d be a great doctor, that there’s so many doctors in your family and that they can’t wait for you to join that sisterhood of being a doctor, all the time, and you knew in your heart from the very young age, that you did not want to be a doctor, of course, she would talk about how much she didn’t wanna be a doctor now that you could do Something about it. The condescending tone she carries when she’s talking about this reeks of elitism. She think she’s better because she possibly wants or has children and she’s upset or triggered that someone is equally happy with the decision that is opposite of hers.
There was a point where I was unwillingly going to eventually get married and have one kid. I never wanted to be a mother, hell I barely wanted to be a wife. So what really made me stick to my decision at 17 was a friend who was a teen mom who seriously looked at me and said "why in the hell would you do something like that when you don't want to and then permanently place someone in your life who you could care less about?!" Because by then she knew that I was one of those people who do what I say I'm going to do. And the way I talked about having kids sounded as exciting to me as a hurricane leveling my house. (Something I pray never happens)
For all the people who cannot understand why chikdfree people speak about not wanting kids just know they were speaking to ithers who may feel that way but are struggling emotionally because they have family and friends trying to convince them that it's something they absolutely must do. So it's good for them to see other people who feel as they do who are doing ok without kids. It's kind of like support. It's like mothers who ate having a tough time being mothers and they feel guilty and ashamed for even questioning their lives as mothers and when they ser other women open up and admit that even though they love their kids they hate being mothers, it somehow makes them feel like they're not alone and not so bad.
I think the real problem is not having reliable partners to share and ligthen the load. And people who haven't healed from their own childhood or trauma are having children when they shouldn't without healing first. And some people just dont want to.
I am a fence sitter, 40 year old, child free, single. I listened to both child free channels as well as single mother by choice channels. It is upsetting to see women against women. Why can't we just let each other's be. You live your life and stop justifying own choice by criticising others'. Haven't people picked up the wrong enemy? Women always need to be house bond, child bearing is the legacy of Patriarchy it was designed this way by MEN! Why as women, we are fighting against each other? Come on!
As a mom of two I don’t understand why any mother wouldn’t want society to see that there are more women choosing not to have children. One of the biggest lessons I learned as a mother is that life isn’t an entitlement and too many people think it is. Hence the reason children and mothers and people in general are so taken for granted. Life is undervalued and I’m glad that we are starting to see examples (especially in child free women) of the fact that no one is obligated to give it.
Not all child free women want to travel. I have no desire to travel or have kids
You are missig out by not having children is the phrase i hear everyday. And it wont ever be not annoying. Its okay for parents to force other people to have children and tell them how great it is and how people r missing out but when childfree people speak out they r out of line.
I think both are miserable. If they weren't they wouldn't spend their time arguing and competing. Happy people tend not to do that.
We are living in a heavily overpopulted world. Hundred years ago the world-population was under 2 Billion. Now we are 8!!! Billion. And we humans are about to destroy this only planet we are able to live on! So dear mothers, if you really looove your children soooo much, than DON'T MAKE SO MANY OF THEM!
I see no issue with this just don’t date people who want kids . Let them actually end up with someone who will make them happy .
I agree, but the thing is --- childfree people by and large (at least from what I've seen) don't want to be with people who want and/or have children. It's usually the other way around where people who have kids want to be with someone who doesn't (so they can get free, extra support without the baggage of someone else's child((ren)) or it'll be some bozo who think he is so great that he can change a woman's mind. smh
@@triggered577fact its always lelllenwkth kids who don't want to date single parents. Tf. They approach cf peolle and expect us to play setp parent to their kid. Fuckkkkk nooooo. Its crazy.
Child free on purpose 🤸🏾🤸🏾🤸🏿♀️🤸🏿♀️🤸🏾🏋🏾♀️🏋🏾♀️🏋🏾♀️🏋🏾♀️🏋🏾♀️🏋🏽♂️🏋🏽♂️
This is not a “trend” there has been child free woman for years. Social media is highlighting this because, more people are sharing their opinions. Every individual is different!!
I have 6 children. If you do not want kids DO NOT HAVE KIDS. The end. You are the one that will have to live with that decision.
Women who are choosing to be child free are making the best choices for themselves.
They know themselves and what they want out of life. Having kids is not the end all to beat all.
Having children has never stopped ME from doing things that I really wanted to do but for some women it's a trap and others may not want to endanger themselves with childbirth because women still die giving birth, (Yes that is still a thing)especially if you are a woman of color or in a red state or both.
Respect CW their choices because you don't live their life.
I’m a nanny for a 2 year old…..y’all can HAVE motherhood!! I’m pretty “fulfilled” having taken care of a child, I don’t need one of my own 💅