Followed By Men in India (What to Do? Is India Safe for Females?)
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- Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024
- We're sharing stories from our solo travel through India. As a female solo travelers, We've been followed by men in India. And so have other women I've met. Although this isn't unique to only India, it's important to know how to handle this and stay safe. Knowing what to do is key. And in this video we discuss "Is India Safe for Female Solo Travelers?" What Can travelers do when they're followed by men in India or in Any Country. How to Stay Safe When traveling. Female tourists in India can have an amazing travel experience. And we're here to help! Subscribe to see more.
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Gurl give it up. India IS more dangerous than the US. I say this as an Indian. The people getting offended know you have a point.
Hazel Prakash statistically, it’s not. But when you’re out and about, you’ll find way more perverts here. But there’s always someone coming to your rescue no matter what.
Judith Smith what is your point?
Exactly. My god.
Hazel Prakash good lord thank you for saying that. Being politically correct can be dangerous.
It’s about your experience I’ve had the most violent encounters in the us BUT THATS JUST ME. sure the culture surrounding these things are different but trust me men feel entitled in every corner of this earth.
As an Indian woman, I would advice you to shout and ask them to get lost. And also threaten to call the police. I live in Mumbai which is pretty safe but even I have faced perverts and I have shouted, hit them, called them out. Thankfully most people around me have always asked me what happened. So make a scene, they would usually get scared and walk away.
I find myself gravitating to the stereotype of them responding to this physically, in public. Is this a legitimate concern when it comes to randoms, or is it pretty much the same public decorum standards as lower population/non-first world countries?
I’m always worried that biases like that are unfair
You go girl! I live in Canada and have also dealt with perverts on the streets. Contrary to what the other commenter said, I agree with you striking them if they infringe upon your boundaries. These people are looking to molest and rape so they deserve to be hit and get sense knocked into them. Most aggressors who are just looking for random people want to target someone who is weak and won't fight back so making a scene and even striking them if you need to is a good idea, not a dumb one.
Calla Mett India is different... she is Indian and I guess she knows better how to deal with such situations than us random RUclipsrs
@@rakong246 but someone topd me Canada is 200% safe for women and literally nothing can go wrong with a woman there.. Perfectly safe
@Calla Mett 🤣🤣 dont worry.. Almost nobody carries a gun in India who can shoot any women if she hits him
HOW can you compare USA with India? I live here in USA I have literally walked every night taking buses at midnight from New York City. Nothing happened. Try doing that in India!
@MENCADO I have an indian dad just going to school is hard for girls there same with pakistan mom from pakistan TRUST me. and offcourse it can happen in USA but it is NEVER as bad as back in southeast asia.
Yes Indian women work n travel at night as well. You just gotta travel in the right places.
@@Liztastaney7 I agree but the issue here is that if I am a woman in india and something happens God forbid I get rapped and I am poor there are low chances of getting justice. If this happens to me in USA I will get the culprits in jail. This is why women in india n pakistan are cautious. I have relatives there and they are well educated and rich even they are cautious.
Literally huh. So if a woman has been raped or harassed in the us her experience isn’t valid because your experience is good ?????
1 out of 4 women and 1 out of 6 men in the US have experienced some form of sexual assault or harassment. That's a high number for a so called civilized place *eye roll*. Sexual Violence is universal and this is coming from someone who is American.
Please be honest with female travellers... it’s a weird phenomenon in India.... curious to know why this is . I would worry less about being politically correct... let’s really be honest here ladies. India is dangerous for women... especially women travelling alone.
Because most illiterate men in india feel they own women who travel alone. all this shitty mindset is a result of patriarchy.
@@dipanwitadas, Do you think India is the most dangerous country for women? If yes, then you must be knowing that half of the rape cases filed, harassment cases filed against Indian men are fake. And all the Indian laws are made for women's safety. Eg: Jasleen Kaur and Saravjit case. Time has changed I think it's the men who are in danger now because of fake rape and harassment cases.
@蔡. How can whole India be dangerous? 🤔 Even i live in the safest city of India where many foreigners also live. And they have a very positive opinion about my city
Yeah let us see.
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Well, the people are saying India is dangerous.. need's to visit first..
No it's not safe in India. I grew up there, spent 27 years of my life there. It is just plain weird as a girl to even step out to go to the grocery store. It's just an uncomfortable vibe that hangs in air. No matter the area. Except if you are in a gated community or something. I know in developed countries it's not safe either but I am aware of those pockets and avoid those areas. The rest of the places I can just walk out and just be me without being hyper aware of surroundings. It's exhausting to get the sense you aren't supposed to be there, the mentality is women shouldn't be out and about and should be thought a lesson. This attitude plays out in mild to catastrophic levels.
@@judithsmith8014 what does being Muslim has to do with that?? Almost 70-80% of ppl in India are Hindus. It's easy to shift the blame to feel better about your religion right? That mindset needs to change. Plus it not about religion but about culture of india. I feel pity.
@@judithsmith8014 the moment you say "whiny women" you are part of the problem. The women I know have never been whiny. In fact, I think women run on jet fuel. They get so much done, I just cant believe they have to put up with this crap among all other things as well. It's just heart breaking. Women just need to be left alone to be themselves. That's it. As simple as that. Also, religion has nothing to do with this. It is the way boys are raised. All boys, irrespective of religion are treated a certain way. It's not healthy for any one in the society. It exists in developed countries too, I mean look at Trump! It's the same core problem with different symptoms in different countries. The reason I am saying it's not safe in India, is because I feel women have to a be a black belt in marital arts, just to be able to navigate daily commutes and other things. It's that bad. It's a problem to the country I other wise adore, but this has to go away. I feel if India is able to tackle patriarchy ( the families and communities especially ), there will be nothing stopping it.
SwapzYume it is not safe for any civilised individual.... I would only state this ....rest I don't want to say ...because India leaves its scars deep 😞😞
@@cherryswachan OMG you're amazing :)
You're right. You always have to be on guard in India, especially if you're a woman.
I spent almost 4 years in India & yes, that country is NOT for everyone! It's not even close to what we envision as far as safety, cleanliness, hygiene, living conditions, theft, endless manipulations "to invest money" into whatever they come up with, etc. Also remember, you'll never pay "local price" no matter what. You'll always be viewed as a walking dollar sign and will be paying only "foreigner prices" for everything... When I moved out, the renters demanded to keep my furniture, otherwise they threatened to murder me!!!! Sadly, the U.S. Embassy does not get involved much & the Indian Police is so corrupt, that there's no point to even ask for help.
@Rasa Fit
Right. Spent about 4 years there in total myself. I too unfortunately have experienced all those things you had just mentioned.
But on the flip side I got to know some beautiful people there. Had many good experiences as well....and that's what brings me back.
THANK you!!
I was told by number of people that the majority of Western "explorers" who stay in Goa are "hippie types", who are in search of personal freedom. Therefore it didn't intrigue me.. But I did travel to Delhi, and spent couple of weeks in the foothills of Himalayas. It was alright, and one trip was enough for me, personally, lol.
I feel you I've been in India for 3years now and I have experience every thing u mentioned even being threatened to murder damn!!!!
Girl I wouldn't last 1 day there . How did you make it 4 years
Girls, India is ranked for the most dangerous country in the world for female solo travellers. Yes, India is more dangerous than USA /ranked 10th/ and much more dangerous than any Europian country. India is beautiful but is NOT for solo female travellers, especially without serious experience from these type of countries. Please don't encourage them.
Stay safe and do serious research before travelling is the most important.
Ayanna Mett please be careful and safe. These perverts don’t care as long as you have female body parts.
Excellent advice!!!!
Trust me, it's not worth the hassle.
You mean get not get sex trafficked if you look like a bubble but if they can see you're a woman you can still be harrassed, molested (specially common in full trains) or raped. It's about control and power over a woman. Even grandmas get attacked. Personally I think the cons outweigh the pros on this one.
Proof?
I wish all women could travel and feel safe.
Years ago I had a similar experience traveling in India on a train, sleeping class too. I woke up in the middle of the night and looked around and a guy (who had been looking at me very weirdly during day, following me to the loo, and so on) was next to me with his hands reaching to touch me. I yelled and threw a kick at him (missed him). Right away a Sadhu who was sleeping on a bunk bed across the alley came down, brandish his stick to the guy, yelled at him, others woke up and chased him away. However the guy was still on the train for the reminder of the trip (that lasted another 48 hours after the event). Luckily the kind Sadhu and other men kept the guy away or yelled or hit at him every time he attempted to come near me or even look at me. So yeah... yell... and help will come.
Sad that this happened to you but YES, people will certainly help! There's a perception that everyone thinks this type of behavior and harassment is universally accepted here, and that's not accurate.
emosh73 I am sorry that your sister had a bad time in India. I understand her. India is definitely a place where western women can feel uncomfortable. Having said that, I found that I felt safer and more comfortable in some states in the south (south of Mumbai) in Ladakh, Gujarat and in Nepal. So for anyone planning to travel to India I would recommend to visit those areas and be extra careful in other ones.
Laura, Were you traveling in a 3rd class compartment? Because it sounds like you were. There is a reason why most people will think 10 times before they travel in those compartments because its generally for the dirt poor. Its by no means specific to India because I have traveled in many countries and when you generally see those poor, drunk, dirty, high on weed people in the trains, you just don't go and sit next to them. You just don't.
I don't know if you were traveling in a 3rd class compartments or not, but I think the Indian government should completely stop issuing 3rd class seats for foreigners so that we can put an end to this nuisance. Because most of these cases happen in those compartments and despite being told a million times that women should not travel in those compartments people flock in there because its cheap.
Jan Sprat I honestly don’t remember what specific class was it. But i know it wasn’t first. There was AC though. So maybe it was second? I don’t remember. But I do remember though those were the only seats we could get and we were under time pressure cause our visa was about to expire. I remember the weeks before we tried to book ahead but either we weren’t lucky booking trains or we never understood how to do it so every train we traveled on, the class was decided by the guy selling the tickets. Communication and understanding for foreigners, at least in my experience is not easy at train stations. We always asked for something and we were given something else. In some places we would look at the tickets and wouldn’t know which class our seats were on. So even if we had wanted to travel always in first class as you suggest, I honestly don’t think that we would have been able to get that.
Then its most definitely AC 3rd class compartments as this is where the riff raff gets in. Some of these guys don't even have tickets and hop from compartment to compartment. The 1st and 2nd class are actually pretty good.
I have so many women in my family, sisters, cousins and a lot of them are very attractive and I have never heard anyone encountering this kind of behavior. The same with so many of my women friends as well. I am actually taken aback with these statements that in India you have to cover up as if it is some Islamic country. All the women that I know are walking around in TShirts, skirts and jeans in addition to the traditional garb. Even the school uniforms have skirts.
When I hear these statements and these videos, its like we are in some parallel universes. The only thing that I can think off is that if you live in a place long enough, you automatically know what to avoid so you never get into the situation in the first place.
This is a case where being too woke is a detriment to the point you're trying to make. Constantly trying to not insult India/ the Indian people and comparing harassment there with what you (or any western woman has) encountered in the US isn't quite right. It's known that India's rape statistics are through the roof. And some shocking cases have managed to trickle down to us, here in the West.
WOKE doesn't mean you don't care for your safety, or live in a bubble of unearned trust. It means you can see clearly what happened to make things unfair, how it continues, and what you, personally, can and will, do to make it better.
I realize you're trying to be politically correct but it's complete and utter nonsense to say that India isn't more dangerous than the United States for women. The experiences you will have with groups of men in rural Andhra Pradesh as you get off the bus are NOTHING like what you will experience getting off a bus in Maine or Oregon or Utah or Iowa. No. Comparison. At. All. Obviously, every city on the planet has the occasional pervert hanging out at the public transport depot, but you can ride an Amtrak train anywhere in the US without having multiple men trying to stick their hands down your pants or follow you back to your hotel. Yes, you can encounter the odd loony in the US and UK or Germany or Japan or anywhere else too, but that's the difference- it's just once in a very great while and when it happens, it's noteworthy. In India, it's a daily occurrence when you're a woman out alone. Misogynist behavior is pervasive in the culture and rape is common and real, and it's local women who bear the brunt of it- don't forget that. As a solo female traveler, who is obviously a foreigner, you're just getting hints of it.
Anytime, if anyone of you feel uncomfortable in INDIA....... Ask for help around or make a noise. People will come and help you from any situation. Or call 100 immediately for cops
Who ever wanted to get a trip like in those situations to face while their happy travelling. Admit man India is a country not for tourist
People doesn’t want to accept that india is dangerous place for women’s
Yeah other places are not save either but in India so many places is like this
Before u hate on my comment supporting ur country
If u luv ur country keep it clean
It happened to me so many times they touch and follow u and look very bad at u
So people who will travel is okay but if u want to stay u will understand the problem
And the worst part is police will not help at all
selena ozen oh really more rape happens in west and USA than India
@@rajavarma3894
You mean countries which have broader definitions of rape, higher incident-to-report-ratios and less social stigmatisation of sexual abuse survivors have more REPORTED rapes than a country where almost ¾ of the country (Men and married women) don’t/can’t even legally qualify as rape victims?
Well, knock me over with a feather!!!
(Obvious sarcasm is obvious)
thanks for not sugarcoating and not hihihihi hahahaha-ing over it like these cows in the video
According to Amnesty international a girl is raped in India every 15minutes by a Hindu male.
If that's not dangerous then what is?
@@laraayoubi4970 In India, females are not encouraged to report these kind of crimes. There could very well be many more unreported incidents than reported ones.
The two women are far too diplomatic than this topic deserves. Yes, these things can happen anywhere but it is more likely to happen in India than the US. People generally don't make go to the US and make videos like this.
oh my gosh. your being too nice and naive.
What u mean
Yes mam india like very dirty chaotic especially for u
But u should visit it it will be different adventure for u
@@harshitkapoor291you know EXACTLY what she means!!
It's a big red flag when people have to come out and give numerous tips about how to stay safe and handle inappropriate situations from the men there.
Hollywood movies really give people a strange impression of the west. There are so many weird exchanges in movies that happen, that end up with two in bed. Indians get the idea that this is the way things happen in real life. But if that were the case Indians would be breaking out onto song and dance all over the place!
hahah yes, but that would be awesome! How cool if Indians would just break out into song and dance like the Bollywood movies!!! Lol. But yes, you're right. People can get the wrong idea from movies.
lol ..you are right ! but the example you gave about the US movies ,tbh is more tangible than dancing in public but anyway if you ever get into such an incident, just scream! The mob will take care of the rest ..lol
I remember my mom scolding me when i used to watch Hollywood movies when i was a kid. Back then,I thought Americans were really horny people.
I feel like a lot of cultures think female tourists are easy. I know that's a thing in some Pacific Island countries.
I'm saying that I've never left New Zealand, I've been followed and harassed by Indian men when I was younger. The way some Indian men deal with women is very different, and it seems to be a cultural thing.
Lol
I travel in India all the time alone. I try and latch onto families. If I am on a train, I talk with and sit with a family, in the day time. I often stay in family homes as well. I am glad that you acknowledge that these things can happen anywhere in the world.
Yes, families are so good to stick near if anyone has a concern. And yes, for sure we know this can happen anywhere...
Hi Shelina, I am curious. How did you go about to stay with local families? Airbnb? I would love to do that in the future!
I've never done Airbnb. I have just stayed with families that I got to know in my travels.For instance I used to get clothes made by a tailor and his daughters were a couple of years younger than me. They invited me for dinner, then they offered for me to stay at their place. Indians are super friendly and hospitable and you can give them a little money. Just use your intuition. Ask yourself why they want you to stay. Most people just like having you there so that they can ask you questions and learn about the world.
@@lauraguerra6450 connect with me for delhi visit
I'm sorry but this makes no sense... you have the right to say no ... Great but clearly this is not respected! You don't want to engage ... who cares... I'm going to follow you! You should not be giving this kind of advice, there might be young people who want to go travelling and you making it seem as if this would be somewhat safe. When really it is not!
They are talking about real experiences, very similar to what I have experienced, but it's MUCH easier to deal with this with a travel partner... As a fellow experienced traveler of India, and an intermediate Hindi speaker I do not recommend traveling to India alone for any Western guy or girl. You don't need to be a hero and empowerment like this may lead to people making stupid travel decisions beyond their travel ability. Traveling in India alone is really tough. So many things can go wrong. Things you couldn't imagine happening until they happen, things you can not plan for. Getting "hit on" in India for a Westerner is something that will happen everyday multiple times a day, it's NOT the same as being in the USA whether it's in NYC or Rural America. Traveling in India alone can be exhausting, scary, and these situations can detract from what you are there to see. Especially for girls younger than the two of you. Traveling in USA and INDIA should not be compared. I mean look at the Indians commenting below of how they wouldn't travel around in their own country alone, how their parents wouldn't allow them walking alone even in their own villages or cities . When you have food poisoning (like the serious kind you can get in India or Asia) as most Western travelers contract at some point in their adventure.... you may not even be strong enough to go out to get the medication and when you do, you might be disoriented while in this more vulnerable position. OR like me, I got hit by a car as a pedestrian. I wasn't even crossing the road, I was walking WITH traffic off the road and an auto rickshaw went off the road around cars and hit me at 15-20mph... Then having to deal with a head injury ALONE... The embassy couldn't assist me beyond directing me to a recommended hospital list. They aren't going to show up in a black limo and comfort you over milk and cookies while you tell them your story... Being alone in any 3rd world country is risky and not ideal. I can't express enough that I am an EXPERIENCED Asian traveler and a wilderness backpacker. India was my first time alone in 2015 and 2017(the car accident) and even though I love the solitude.... I have to say, travel with someone and make time for yourself to just spend a day/time alone, but travel with SOMEONE.. It's even cheaper to share expenses/rooms... resources.... The potential trauma from an assault, injury, or burden you have to put on family and friends at home is not worth it. When you are with someone, these incidents become laughable memories, when you deal with it alone it can easily become trauma. India's beautiful and interesting! Go there... but don't go alone.
Yes mam I agree with u
Also like here very dirty chaotic especially for u
Also like lot of beggars etc
I hope u visit india again how was your experience 🙏
As an indian woman. I woudnt even be mad at you if you said this country is the worst when it comes to women. Its true.. its not safe for us women
Life By Tayla just painted a totally different view. Solo young woman was mobbed by 20 men, and that was just the beginning.
Angela Baumbach.........u come to INDIA and see yourself, what INDIA is.
@@dineshbhat7978 I plan to!
Angela Baumbach.........be my guest in my home........
@@Angelbach1995 yes here like also very poor dirty like for u
@@Angelbach1995 yes I agree somewhat
Thoughtful post ladies, great stuff. I'm a former solo female traveller in countries such as Mexico, South Africa, Egypt, Jordan, Zimbabwe, Guatemala where I have encountered some dodgy situations.
In a very vulnerable situation in Guatemala in Lake Atitlan I was so scared and convinced I was un danger...these men drove me one hour from their town....I thought for bad intentions but they were actually trying to help me. My bus hadn't turned up so they worked for a transfer company...they were hired to take me to next town to meet my bus...my bus never showed...so they drove me for one hour to the next town with their boss calling to see where they were....their van broke down in the town...they got out and pushed. When we got to my hostel....I wanted to go get them some money....they refused...and said hope you can do the same for someone someday! So thank you to my friends in Lake Atitlan Guatemala 💗
The dislikers were the Indian men who stalk women. Lol
I thought so too but then they said "India is not more dangerous for women than USA" and I disliked too
And the haters gonna hate no matter what
Some Indian guys are very aggressive. My wife non-Indian wife was walking back to my parents house house when one guy grabbed her arm. I saw that and accosted him. He was ready to fight. Many Indian men think that western women are loose or easy.
you should have fucked that guy up who grabbed your wifes arm...seriously i would have beaten him up..and then called the police on him
Hi Roman & Kerry, Please take my apologies for what you have encountered in India, We strongly believe safety is of prime importance when you visit any other place as a tourist, As a leading Indian Travel channel we believe it is our responsibility to educate Indian masses that it is a tourist's right to feel safe in our country, In the view of the same we have made a video that takes a reference from your video also(WHY FOREIGNERS AVOID INDIA), We would be glad to have your and your viewer's inputs on the video. (It has subtitles in English also.) Let us create a better world for everyone, Love and Regards from India...
@3.24 I am from Jaipur and lives in Thailand and have a Dutch Girlfriend. I was with my gf in Pushkar for this Holi festival and it was her first time in India and believe me the men are real creeps and God knows if she's not with me then the way they stop and look at white girls makes them feel so uncomfortable and also for this fest they were trying to touch her too much so yeah be careful. But on the other note I was with her in Pattaya and the so called white western men behaved the same with her which made her uncomfortable too.
First of you'r a liar and secondly no white man will do that they clearly understand the word 'NO', they'e not desperate for anything that has two legs
Hi American girl here who lived in 30 minutes outside of pattaya in a expat community as a child and can confirm fat old white men go there to pick up young Thai girls who are usually into them because they assume the white men have money and pattaya is the most notorious for that in the whole country of Thailand
Don't go out in India at night at all. And don't go to a remote quite area at all where you are on your own in total strangers. Xx
It seems to me that India has become a dangerous place for women, as I was there on my own as a 19 year old back in 1984, I wasn't confronted with cat-callers or men following me...only once I got molested on a train but I threatened him with my knife with the words "Make my day" and that was it. That encounter was in the North-West were most Muslims are, which is generally more dangerous for women.
@Ayanna Mett Thanks, the last time I nearly got raped with a knife held to my throat back in 2013, I took the knife off my throat and complained "With a tomato knife?!" That shocked my Somalian attacker, who desided to run away...I guess alot is a question of attitude, besides how you identify your own gender.
O madam before blaming the Muslims first go and check the top countries where women are most likely to get rape. You will not find even a single Muslim country in that list. You bloody non Muslims have this type of cheap mentality.
I live in the US, had a guy follow me in a store. I made small talk about boring stuff and I stayed around the people working there. Eventually he left and I high tailed out of there
I'm a young looking and active 61 year-old, and STILL need to be constantly vigilant for creepers, and I live in Oregon....not a state ppl think of as dangerous. Not a "humble brag", just a reminder.
@Ayanna Mett liking not bc i like the fact, but in solidarity. Remember the hotel, or where it was?
@@cherylcampbell9369 lol😂😂😂😂😂
I recently took a solo trip to India last month. I was excited but also nervous because I never realized how many men are usually traveling by plane to India (I usually travel with my parents and so you don't really notice these things, or at least I did not). It was intimidating and I got a lot of stares from the men,( and also from some Indian families!) I'm 25, and been told I look 16 a lot so for them to see someone like me just traveling alone must have been curious. Thankfully, when I was coming back from India, it was the time to make the pilgrimage to Mecca and there were lots of muslim families traveling so I tried to sit or at least be near mostly female passengers.
Yes mam but they like just curious
Yes here like 3rd world country so much difference
Just shout at him and you will see what people do with that man.
Always shout, draw as much attention as possible
I love how Indian people in the comments are aware and admit the issue and warning and raising awareness.
Hi Lillie I love your channel! As an experienced solo female travel who's travelled to over 25 countries, I was a bit intimidated by India. Your videos have given me the confidence to conquer India on my own.I will be backpacking for two weeks, I leave this Friday and would love to link up with you!
YAY!!! Where are you flying in?
I’m flying into goa
Monica Delgado are you dictator to going to conquer India, it's never going happening.
Best of luck
open mind she didnot mean it literally... :)
Honestly thank you all the Indian peeps being honest about how they feel in India, I think its important to be honest so we can stay safe, I would definitely still love to go especially with these safety tips!!
Also it will be like very dirty chaotic especially for u 😅
It will be like adventure for u
I as a girl who has lived in India her whole life don't feel safe then one can only imagine how foreign women feel.
How can one enjoy time in India when one continously has to rely on various strategies to dodge the perves/creepers? No thanks, I'll pass.
most underrated channel, your blogs are good.
Thanks!
No, India is NOT safer than the US, LOL! I`ve been traveling solo for more than 15 years and there is nothing like India. I mean, in Delhi, I wasn`t even alone, I was there with two men, both big, athletic fellows, and men were still following me and trying to grab at my clothes anywhere they had an opening. This was at 3pm on a Monday, not even at night,
No, it`s an awful, backwards country for women, travelers and locals alike, so I would recommend visiting wit a tour group.
I travelled India alone as a woman and it was a disaster. Please don't go by yourself.
Share your experience
I'm glad you both found each other!!! Safety in numbers!!
I am enjoying your videos. I plan to visit India soon and it's nice to see from fellow countryman your experience. Blessings and safe travels.
Would like to receive you as guest
@@himdude9637 Thank you
When you in Delhi
A lot of Indian men act like they've never seen a woman before. It's disgusting.
It's a bit irresponsible to promote this false sense of solo women traveling in India "you'll be fine!" There's a lot more to consider.
That self-pleasuring thing once happened to me on a flight from SF to Chicago. It was an elderly guy next to me and I was very young at that time and had no idea how to react, so I tried to ignore it. Now older and wiser I would definitely say something. But yeah, it can happen anywhere. And it is wrong, very wrong, anywhere!
2 beautiful ladies with great advice,may all your journeys be safe.
Eve teasing is huge huge problem in India, which can become aggressive and almost violent at times and have lot of bad experience with this!! And BTW i am Indian and have lived in USA and in Europe i have encountered hello or beautiful or what's your name or even Indian but never felt threatened.
@B
In USA on an AVERAGE street.... You can walk to stores or friends house - you are lucky you if get a "hello" from the man who passes you. Pass a group of boys - same - maybe, you may hear some whispering and some boyish laugh (because 1 guy may have found you cute and they are encouraging him to speak to you). Drunk guys can bother and be loud...you may come across a BOLD one who tries to touch.......
BUT GANG RAPE - like we are hearing about in India... is unlikely.
Never never..( although that poor Indian girl who was gang raped and died was WITH a man).....no matter where in the world you live walk around alone late at night.
Actually, the neighborhood where I live I could....I just don't.
Taking self-defense classes I believe would be helpful when traveling alone as a woman. Men will assume that women are weak and can't defend themselves, but in the states, we are taking self-defense and martial arts classes. I will not be one to ever travel alone, only in groups, but I also have children, 4 boys and 1 daughter who I will travel with. In most cultures, we as women travel with some sort of male in the family of a certain age to steer away these types of individuals.
I just found your channel, and I really appreciated how you covered this sensitive subject. Probably the first thing I really loved was how you covered up. Western women travelers often fail to follow local traditions and present themselves in a way that is respectful to the culture. I'm lucky that my family taught me safety at a young age. So many women are not raised with this awareness. Thank you for adding to the conversation!
I agree I'm from india also
North Indians tend to be hornier and less cultured than the south. Sad but true.
Probably coz they eat less coconuts, please make coconuts cheap.
@@cinsightz Yes 😂😂😂... too much eggplants in north 🍆
@@TrueBlueCat 😂😂💀💀
Its the Hindu teachings that created this issue of rape.
According to Amnesty international a girl is raped in India every 15minutes by a Hindu male.
The Hindu teachings encourage rape of women.
The God Vishnu is said to have raped Tulsi/Vrinda by assuming the guise of her husband:
On seeing her husband, Vrinda was delighted, she forgot her sorrow, dormant passions kindled up. She embraced her husband right there in the middle of the forest. But, at the end of the intercourse she realized that it was Vishnu and not her husband. Vrinda rebuked him angrily. Vrinda said, “Fie on Vishnu in outraging the modesty of another man’s wife.”
Yet this horrible act is justified and glorified, because Indians believe that Tulsi’s husband, Shankachuda/Jalandhar, was invincible in war unless her chastity was first destroyed. Therefore to defeat Jalandhar, it was imperative and gallant of Vishnu to rape Tulsi. Vishnu is seen as a hero for raping her.
Then there is God Brihaspati. He is the Guru of all Indian Gods. Well, this Guru of Gods raped his own pregnant sister-in-law, Mamata. According to Matsya Purana 49.17-28:
hey, girl..thanks for these vids...this is actually my second time watching your solo female traveler in India vids..this one and the other that you did..love that you included other women to get multiple perspectives... I am actually planning a trip to India and even though I've heard tons of great things and stories about India from other solo female travelers throughout my own travels... I recently watched another large female travel vlogger on this platform with a really scary story of something that happened to her while in India and honestly it gave me pause...that and after reading all the comments of ppl saying stay out of india..even from other Indians..it kind of freaked me out...and of course I know these things happen all over the world unfortunately...but you have restored my bucket list dream...even-though I was never going to let fear stop me anyway...just good to hear..also I'm not taking anything away from what she went through and I'm happy she spoke out, because of her letting the world know what happened to her, along with other women who reported the same thing...the place she was staying got shut down, so that's good but I do think it gave a lot of ppl pause about inda, so thanks again...cheers.
When my friend went to India she contracted a terrible ameoba . Just saying ... She never mentioned harassment from men but she became very sick with this thing in her system.
wow, that's so unfortunate. I have heard about lots of people getting sick from food or water issues :(
You telling this so mature. I like it.. rather than bashing india like it’s not worth it.. I never been to india but i’m sure this kind of problem is everywhere. When you are a foreigner who know nothing about the place you visit, some people will take advantage of you.
Don't spend your time and money in India. Come to Southeast Asia and East Asia. We have beautiful temples, gorgeous beaches, and good food. Our countries are safe and we treat tourists with respect. Laos, Thailand, Singapore, Japan, Korea.
don't forget the Philippines Lao!!
Thailand is horrible fool of drugs prostitution child trafficking. Dirty waters. Food poisoning No Thanks
I was traveling alone in Tiruvannamalai, during 2 months stay in India (alone, one month traveling) and on a mostly empty street where my boarding house was in the middle of the day, a guy came up behind and groped me inappropriately. I yelled at him at the top of my lungs for a while until he left, but he certainly didn't rush!. There are plenty of ways for women to travel safely in India, using driver services, not traveling at night, but women were definitely not respected in some places. I met some of the nicest people ever in Tiru and Rishikesh, but in bigger public places women were treated like crap especially men just going in front of all of the women on lines waiting to pay for things. Also, someone told me to only get on rickshaws with the statues on them (Hindu) and the only time I did not, was the only time I had problems with the driver trying to bring a friend (on a ride that was 2 blocks away!) and then be slightly inappropriate with me, though I deflected and threatened to jump off the rickshaw and then tried to! When I realized my friend was not going to make it on the trip and I was going to travel alone, I cancelled some of the cities I had planned to visit such as Varanasi and Hardiwar to which I knew that traveling alone would be more dangerous.
Yes mam here like also very poor dirty etc
I hope u travel again and have a better experience
Yes here it's like 3rd world country so much difference
Southern India is generally safe compared to the north
I guess bad people exist everywhere
Sorry for your bad experience
Saying "no" & being positive isn't going to protect women in India. India's extremely dangerous for women especially traveling solo.
Wow....great to watch you gals delve on this important subject for solo female travelers!! I often wondered about the safety issue despite being from India!!! I am glad that the experience has been positive barring those 'few' assholes.
Just out of curiosity, has being black made you less or more vulnerable in India compared to white women?
You know what, that's a great question. Honestly I think being Black has helped me to blend in. Sometimes on buses people don't notice me right away because I'm brown. If I was white I'd probably stand out more. But I don't really know for certain.
Roman Around The World Thanks for replying! While I have a load of questions on how the general people behave, I wouldn't want to bombard you with them.
However, just as a last question, do you see any differences between the North and South in terms of where harassment, catcalling etc is more?
Solomon Nadar Here comes another South Indian Trying his luck about North Vs South.
You are full of positive vibe... 😊
Loving these interviews! Thank you for sharing :)
Yay! I'm so happy to hear that!
Thanks for sharing Roman and inviting a wonderful speaker. It was very informative.
Yay! Thanks so glad you liked it. And isn't Kerry so nice? I was so happy to meet her.
There is a "huge fear" because there are so many unresolved rape cases in India (forget unresolved, the courts can't even begin to process them) that they will not be resolved in our lifetime. Ladies... I respect your deference for the culture but there are dangerous men everywhere and by sheer numbers the likelihood of this happening in India is much higher with their higher population. This is without even considering the larger cultural problem. It's a complicated place. It is beautiful and advanced as a country AND it is dangerous.
Enjoying the channel! How fun to be able to travel all around the world. Big thumbs up from one Creator to another :)Jen
Ask for help, or yell loud. people will help you. Certainly.
Hi. I'm glad to have seen your video. The kind of experience you two had is something that has happened to me (local Indian) as well. What makes more people look at you is the color. They will come up to touch or approach to take pictures. Most people in this country have no exposure to other cultures including their own country.
Thank you guys for giving such positive feedback about my India. It really makes an awesome impact on how the West views India. Thank you once again. God bless you forever.
I love India, so I'm happy to share my experiences.
Perfect, yes this can happen anywhere in the world, it's sad to see some people from India itself demonize India saying India is not safe, blah blah, but no, India is safe. But always in any country, there are bad and good areas, so just gather as much info as you can about a place you are visiting before you jump. It's not just for females, its also for males, in fact even Indians don't prefer to visit some places and most of the Indian men don't go out if it's too late in the night.
Agreed. Research first to know the area and use common sense with going out at night and alone. But yes, in general, I found India to be very safe.
Im so sad too because i have always wanted to visit india but with how i look and my stature i wouldn't be safe at all. :(
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I have never been to India but tbh from what I’ve read and seen in travel vlogs it kinda scares me and does not appeal to me at all. I kinda feel though like you were kinda making a little light of it. Kinda hippie dippie and naive. I do agree with a lot you said as well though.
I wish I knew you and that you were freely traveling around India. I would have definitely made my way there. Went to Hyderabad a couple of years ago for a conference and my trip was way too short. I've been drawn to India since a young child and that conference was my first experience there. I definitely can't wait to return and I do plan to travel solo. Your videos are great. Thank you.
Yay. yes, India is amazing!
Oh! The points you are talking about in this video are so informative & spot-on!!! Thanks for sharing!!!❤
best thing to do is draw attention of the crowd even other men or if no one is there,then just call your friend and just show them you are talking to someone and someone knows about you and he could be in troble.
I have been followed in the US -- in NYC. He followed me for blocks and I felt really threatened. I finally went into a building and told the door man there that I was being followed. The doorman went out and chased the guy away. I also had a guy get into my car in San Francisco and put his hand around my neck. I talked him into getting out of my car -- to this day I don't know how.
A general suggestion would be, if you can afford it, please take higher class trains, you're likely to face more problems if you take the travel mode of the poorest of poor.
I totally agree about taking higher class trains. For long rides, I don't take anything lower than sleeper.
Book flights and plan your trips properly. If you wanna see roads then get yourself a guide and a car, it's very cheap in India for you people.
Things like that happens if you are poor but still going overseas for vacation.
if u look at the the henois acts as a percentage it's quite large compared to the west
I think we need to be real here and be honest, India is NOT comparable to countries like the US in regards to safety for women. And you'll hear that from any Indian. I wouldn't be demonizing India by saying this, it's just a plain fact.
Oh yes approaching other women do help. That's women power.
Happy women's Day.
There are two parts of India and Indians. North India and south India. All these creepy experiences you speak of are indigenous to the north. Go to south india (starting from Maharashtra and downward) your experiences will be entirely different in a pleasant way.
That is so not true, the south isn't any better
Opposite experience for me 😂 I love the north! ❤️❤️❤️ my husband is from the north so I guess I’m biased
This makes me shame to be an Indian sometimes.
why take the risk to travel there in the first place if a lady has to take so many measures? far better countries out there.
Loved this conversation!
you guys are really brave.
You're so kind.
I think the problem with some/a lot of Indian men is that their perception about foreigners. these men think foreigners are kind of porn stars, who do not mind... & if you make first move they are ok with it!! ( most Indian men get to see only porn movies/some dinosaur movies/ rambo type movies. that's it. so you can imagine what kind of perception it build in their mind otherwise they are not as bad as it can be in most foreign countries.). keeping a little bit of precaution is always good no matter where!!
Agree that there seems to be a miss perception of foreigners. Too bad. But perhaps this will one day change.
Its still a (mostly) closed country! as they learn to connect with the world, things will change for better. It can happen pretty fast in next decade or so!!
@@pb1pb581 lol keep on dreaming, its not like they dont know what they do is bad. the proof is in the pudding when u look at immigrants in the west from third world countries after 3 generations living in the west, they still hopelessly sexist and racist
The main problem with Indian men is their libido. I'm so tired of hearing some girls complaining about Indian men in their social media, it's including me and my female friends
I travel almost around the world but when I travel to India , I have to be extra careful.
I hate when people in India gets in to your private life questions
I can truly see you doing your own travel channel show.. 👍👍
so sweet!
The dilution is great in this one!!!
I live in Scotland and have had a few problems with aggressive Indian and Turkish men here also but most men still think its OK to try to control/abuse woman, its happening in all cultures.
There's catcallers in US too.
Hilarious how she started the video saying that she once made a video about the dangers of India and people went after her about outing India. Now she actually said this isn't outing India solely and people are now after her not saying India is more dangerous. Always going to have haters no matter what side of the argument your on.
I think women sadly have to be cautious anywhere around the globe including the US. I've had so many experiences of men either harassing me or following me right in my own country. I don't dress wearing real revealing type clothes either. Basically I agree with someone else's comment, make a scene so anyone around will know someone is invading your personal boundaries, and you're feeling threatened. Just a few weeks ago I had a man make a comment to me about how he loved my hair, and I didn't think much of it until he didn't stop at that, then he was trying to follow me around the grocery store harassing me, and I found a manager and made him aware of the guy harassing me. It was put to a stop real quick, and I had an escort to my vehicle when I was done shopping. It's not a safe world we live in these days weather your woman, a man, and especially children. Perverts everywhere unfortunately.
Be aware my family always taught me don't go if someone give chocolate when we were young
@@harshitkapoor291 yes always be aware of your surroundings.
@@Mojosfire actually india like not developed as us so when we were kids they used to say this now I'm 20 still say same 😂
@@harshitkapoor291 lol
@@Mojosfire can I follow u on instagram
It's called Eve Teasing and is a bahut issue there. Be aware and be safe.
What do You think we could do to prevent these things not just to tourists but also to all our country women??
A Genuine Suggestion would save someone from such Harassment.
Because all Indians know just awareness is not enough to change Dirty mindset. Girls are not allowed to do basic things by parents in such fear of coming in the eyes of such men or believe even such small acts like dancing, being joyful, talkative or smiling i.e. "hasee toh fasee" could be provocative to them. They haunt & chase women like predators.
*Please if you guys do have a solution, then reply & suggest.*
We all can be a family because humanity in before castism, rasicm, or sexism.
Hi Lillie! So I immigrated From Romania to the United States about 2 years ago with my Husband FOR THE FIRST TIME (He's American) We traveled to California to visit his parents but we didn't stay there long, And in 2016 i traveled to New York (Alone) And i lived there for a couple of days and it was a very beautiful state, But there's something i need help with, Can you give me by any chance some tips on How to be an American citizen? I wanna start a new life! I wanna live like you guys! How can i do that?
I was just about to reply to you on a different message :) I don't know the process of becoming an American citizen, but certainly having an American husband gives you a huge advantage. Are you currently living in Europe or the US? Have you reached out to anyone or called the Embassy about the process? One thing I know *For Sure* from travel to other countries and from seeing what's going on is ***It is absolutely essential to do everything by the book and in a completely legal way*** No short cuts, no small lies that can back fire. None of that. So if you want to be a citizen, you must find an expert on citizenship you can talk to. Not necessarily someone you have to pay. Just someone at an Embassy or Consulate who can give you the correct steps and timing to make sure you do it all the right way. Good Luck! Best to you and your Husband :)
Interesting! Thank you so much for your help! :D And sorry if my English is bad, Even if it's my first language lol
Haha your English is perfect!
Hi this is Sanjay your videos are very educative and truthful keep up the good work.
Thank you so much!
I was anxious to see how difficult life is in those dirty places. Without human value or unhygienic life! it's a lot to suffer
Moment of realization for "Roman Around The World" about her own country at 5:27. She was totally not prepared for that. The lady in the black/blue dress just burst the bubble.
Just like in the west, when you bring up sexist attitudes and everyday issues, men are trying to silence you. It's the same in India, apparently. I think that's something to think about. The west has a lot to work to do still regarding how women are perceived, objectified, sexualized and the India has barely even started.
@just Bfree Explain to me how you saying "they are objectifying themselves they are showing their bodies to everybody then expect no one to look at them in a carnal way" is different from an Indian man saying "they are objectifying themselves they are showing their hair to everybody then expect no one to look at them in a carnal way." In both instances the work of objectification is in the eye of the beholder. The only thing I see reasonable to sexualize, thus cover in public, would be genitals since they are by nature sex organs.
And for those who are getting offended come live down in USA -- you will know. India might have had a female president but most women's opinions in a domestic home life are not taken as serious as a man who runs the household.
It’s not safe to travel in India as a female! I have been to 36 counties, India is one of the hardest countries to travel.
This video is great and solo women travellers need to watch this video,these rules are pretty much it to be safe in india and anywhere in this world, if I can add the rules also matter which part of India you are visiting and different in the smaller cities of india vs a bigger city,In a smaller city night life or cultural differences influence ppl and women need to watch out,bigger cities it's the area you stay in that usually makes a difference.
Girl I am an American born desi with parents from india n pak -- I went there all covered and gusy stared at me like they are desperate LOL Thank god I was a with a car and a driver. Thank God.