My husband’s presence triggers me 😂 seriously I have deeply ingrained behavior that is not healthy with him…acting weak, defensive, complaining ..I am working on changing that but literally just knowing my husband is about to come home increases my symptoms. He’s a good man, he is not dangerous it’s my own learned behavior around him that is the trigger. It’s very challenging.
Wow ! I'm exactly the same my husband triggers mine ,he don't do anything it's me it's really weird, if I've already got these symptoms he makes them worse sounds horrible doesn't it because he don't do nothing wrong ,but other than that my symptoms start as soon as I wake up can't stop the feelings coming, I'm so glad I found someone else who feels like me 😊
Bed is my trigger hahahahaha definitely no avoiding bed! Last night I successfully turned off my nerve pain/panic symptoms thanks to this video. Thank you ❤ I walked to the bathroom, smiled in the mirror, had a cold shower, stroked my arms, did a meditation and had a chat with myself xx
Perfect timing to find this video. 2 nights ago i felt some anger, wrote it down.. then the grief and sadness surfaced right after! I let it all come out, felt it and it passed. The next day i had a horrible symptom flare and half way through the day i realized why! It's very enlightening to be putting the pieces of the puzzle together... thank you Dan!
Avoidance will 💯 make it worse. The body actually becomes more reactive when the trigger appears. This was definitely my experience. It was one of the worst mistakes I have made in this process.
YES! This video all day, every day. I had so many triggers I got to the point where I could not go or do anything with anyone. Took a while to connect this but now I am on the road towards recovered. The healing for me has not been linear. Sometimes I get triggered and dont know why. But now I view my pain differently. It tells me there is something going on that I am perceiving as dangerous. I grew up as the oldest in an emotionally and physically abusive home. I remember having to take on adult responsibilities and was held accountable as early as I could walk and talk. So now as an adult the "triggers" are not always obvious because sometimes I might be thinking danger without even catching it. I could be walking through a store or out with friends and bam, panic and pain. I could go to bed fine and bam, wake with pain. BUT the difference now is I look around and tell myself everything is ok. There is no danger here and there is no one here that is going to punish me. I put my hand on my heart and tell myself, it's safe here and all is well. It doesnt go away instantly but it does go away. After practicing this each time, I built up a patience with myself and now struggle less with the panic/pain. I allow it to take it's time meanwhile reminding myself all is well. I try to remember to have sympathy for myself, for the pain. Our brains are amazing! Mine learned to scan a room and read people really well in order to keep me safe. It did an awesome job because I am still here! But now the danger is over and being embarrassed or judged doesnt come with punishment anymore. I have come a long way and if you are still reading this, you have come a long way too. Your brain is a superpower and your body is in good hands. The keys for me have been the same whether I know the trigger or not- Calm reassurance and retraining my superpower brain to let it know that it can rest now. All is well. I am safe. Thank you Dan! Anytime I get off track I return to your videos. Much love everyone❤
Dan you are absolutely right:) After a year on this healing journey, I ended up being in a very stressful place for (me) and my body let me know. I flared big time, but I dug in my heels and faced the stress head on. There was no way I could walk away from this stress as it was coming from the people I love the most. My neuro pathways run deep from childhood trauma, that’s the problem not the people around me. My healing has continued, which is another sign that this (RA) diagnosis is TMS. I am SAFE ❤️🦋and transformed. Forever grateful for your messages Dan❤️🙏🏻
I once got really mad as I was enjoying a large company and my brain kept dissociating even harder every 10 minutes. I was having fun and feeling good yet it kept getting stronger as if it was saying: "get away people can still turn against you". Calming reassurance didn't help and I was mad I couldn't enjoy myself so I excused myself, left, went outside and said. "Dear Brain, I know you're just trying to help me out. But now you stop it IMMEDIATELY, because I prefer to suffer than to be absent minded. Yes, I choose to suffer. You heard me right. And now you stop dissociating because this is my choice." I was so determined and mad and I still felt nervous the whole evening but I was there, present and, although hard, I felt so loved in that company 😊 Maybe works for someone else, too.
Thanks so much for this video. I had stopped avoiding triggers like food, body positions, etc. but this video made me realize that I am still avoiding people and conversations that trigger me, confirming to my brain that they are a threat. Thank you for your suggestions on how to deal with that.
I absolutely love the way you gave a roadmap, gave very specific instructions on what to do. Throughout the video, you kept reinforcing this roadmap and the instructions on how to deal with triggers and symptoms, then a solution. These are the best kinds of videos for brain retraining. It’s why I keep coming time and time again back to your videos. To learn and reinforce. And I’ve had amazing results. Dan, this is absolutely a fabulous video that gets right to the point.👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This was super helpful 🙏🦄🌞 thank you Dan! Leaving the house and doing literally anything triggers me because my world got so small being totally house bound until recently 🙃 basically everything is currently a trigger but I'm working really hard to talk to my brain and not catastrophize-just wondering if we are trying to increase activity or socializing etc slightly and have a big flare of symptoms is it OK to pull back and do a bit less for a few days to try and get back to baseline or is that letting symptoms win/reinforces them? 🙏🦄🌞 thank you dan!!
dan, thanks for telling me about this video. i do know i watched it when it came out, but it's a good reminder. i had something interesting happen the other day. my brother lives in another state, and for the past few years, whenever i hear from him (texting), there is always some sort of drama occurring and i tend to take it on, and symptoms increase...the second i saw his text the other day, those symptoms started and continued for a bit even though he was perfectly fine and no drama. i'm his big sister and tend to "care too much!" anyway, i just told my brain, which expected there to be drama from the trigger of hearing from him, that he is just fine...and the symptoms subsided!
Everytime i go running or cycling, my symptoms (triggerpoints in glutes, above knees) flare up. Last year it started with that activities, mri of the hips/pelvis and knee showed nothing unusual. Therapies on the muscle knots only work temporary. now I m trying this…hope it will give me some relief! Thankyou!
So good. TY. My go to is avoid, avoid, avoid. So now I avoid just abt everything and everyone ! I see now ...and great u say set healthy boundaries b'cos that can be healthy in some cases. Some great ideas there.
I had a major trigger from my ex last week and of course symptoms changed and the new one is worse. It was an extremely upsetting situation but what you're saying is exactly right, such further proof that this is TMS. I'm reassuring my brain that even with all that happening & my emotions about it I'm still safe! I hope my brain realizes this soon, I'm moving or a vacation tomorrow that I'm really looking forward to.
This is 100% true - I have improved so much by gradually exposing myself to triggers and reassuring my brain that I was safe & ok etc. There were times when I got symptoms, but they lessened and lessened as time when on . And I am nearly nearly recovered. Just a bit to go . I watched this video as I'm going away on holidays soon and there will be what has been a big trigger for me in the past, and to which I have been exposing myself a small bit from time to time. But the holiday will be massive exposure and I was freaking out a bit & wondering how I'll handle it. And how it could ruin the trip, not just myself but for my family . But in order for me to ever overcome this and be able to go away on holidays again, I going to need to try it out . And hope for the best and react in a calm way if I do get symptoms. I'm going to prepare myself before I go by visualising it all going well & having FUN and feeling free and alive - to be able to go on holidays again . There is a way I can still be exposed to the trigger , but not massively. So I will have a back up plan if I need to reduce the duration of exposure to the trigger. This may resonate with someone... If you have taken on a 'big trigger / challenge ' and gotten on well, I'd love to hear how it went. Thanks
Nice video as always. A video about whether we are using our pain to actually avoid things would be good. Sometimes I definitely avoid something I don't really want to do anyway by saying... socialising makes my face hurt, the cold sea sets off my pain, the wind is too strong today it will trigger symptoms. I actually use these excuses not only to convince myself that's the reason but other people. Result is I then get with pain when I do these activities so it affirms to me thats definitely a problem activity. 😆 using my pain as an excuse instead of just saying... nah it looks freezing outside or I don't actually want to talk to that person definitely needs to stop
THIS is sooooo me!!! but i am learning that about myself, and am getting better at countering it by giving myself permission to NOT do whatever it is and just say no to myself or others if i don't have a deep peace about doing it. i typically beat myself up for NOT wanting to do something and welcome pain or symptoms that then are a good excuse! on the other hand, i may have a deep peace about doing something, but have apprehension about doing it for one reason or another, but i try to make myself just do it and more times than not, everything works out fine!
This was very good. I wonder if asking the question ’Does this strengthen my brain’s perception of danger? Or does it minimize it?’ would help when making decisions. If I avoid a situation, does that give my brain confidence that I can handle it? If I accept or even embrace a scenario, does that give my Brain confidence? I like this approach. What gives my brain confidence? Excellent content as usual Dan! 👏🏻
Iv been working on convincing my brain that outings I'm looking forward to aren't a danger anymore, i usually get really unwell, to day iv managed to go to Stratford upon Avon, were Shakespeare lived, enjoyed looking round his home, its still just the same, I'm also obsessed with the boat trips, iv had my usual symptoms, but no flair ups it's been a good day, so I must be doing something right, 🤗🎊
Beyond grateful as always for these daily lessons! My father is dying right now of Parkinson’s and my mother who is one of his primary caregivers has mental illness. I’ve distanced myself from them because of the level of dysfunction and because I would get triggered every time I would talk to my dad but I didn’t want to just completely drop him out of my life. I feel ready to give him a call today and check in on him after watching this video as I feel equipped now on how to talk exactly to my brain if something arises in my body and I also know to use any triggers as more validation of TMS which gives me more confidence that reassuring my brain over time will cease the symptoms. It feels much more empowering to face these challenges in life head on with a plan on how to handle them as opposed to avoidance. Much gratitude to you!🙏❤️
This video for me today has me thinking. Before I had Covid I was having a hard time sitting down on my couch since waves of heat pain would arise, same with my bed. PT helped somewhat, but my symptoms got worse. I than got Covid, and than head to toe nerve stinging pains showed up; head to toe muscle twitches, and a upper thigh, pelvic pain came about. Last week my symptoms were way down after a massive flair up the week before. Since I watched a Shubiner podcast that he stated he's a helped people with even chronic lyme, for some reason I'm terried of lyme, my symtoms settled down, though not fully gone for that week. Now, my roommate has Covid and my anxiety is up and now my symptoms are faliring up with nerve pains. This stuff is annoying. But, i believe with these patterns that I have TMS/PDP. Thanks again Dan for these videos. I feel my symptoms have gone down during the time I'm texting this. Lol.
I developed an Inguinal Hernia last year. I would gladly have the operation to correct it, but unfortunately, I have no close friends or family to discharge me from the hospital afterwards. Regardless. Every morning is drama time! The hernia tends to act up in the morning. Small aches. Then the panic sets in. Is this the day it becomes strangulated? Is this the day I have to call an ambulance? I eventually convince myself everything is fine and the aches resolve themselves. Head games!
Do the doctors consider the operation to be an emergency? If not, you can match their lack of concern and begin teaching your brain that you are not in massive danger.
Morning Dan, I have been getting so much better with fibromyalgia, uti’s, tooth pain, back pain , all over pain, ibs yet I am struggling with globus sensation so so much. I can’t seem to shift this. I have been doing the tms work for years and this is the last thing left yet I am unable to shift it and it kept getting worst and worst to now being the center of my attention because it’s so uncomfortable It paralyses me in fear and I don’t know why the same techniques that I used to get so good and feeling well don’t work on this Globus sensation/acid reflux, tightness in the throat and pain or whatever this is. ENT had a look down my throat and there’s nothing physically, no constriction, no thyroid issues so I know what is happening mindbody wise, vocal cords clear. What are your thoughts?
The reason you are not able to shift it is because it "paralyses me with fear". Get clarity. If the doctors cannot find a medical explanation, it's TMS. The cure is the same as it was for your other symptoms that you resolved. Clarity Confidence. Calm. Consistency. "or whatever this is" seems to say that you aren't certain this is TMS. Have you done the assessments? www.PainFreeYou.com/start I received your email and will respond tomorrow.
Thanks Dan for the content! Always amazingly interesting. Just a question related to lack of sleep or good quality sleep as a trigger to chronic pain. How do we deal with lack of sleep? Same with fatigue. I have noticed that evry tile I don’t get enough sleep or have non quality sleep my chronic pain levels increase right after and even if I try to calmly reassure myself and even get some rest my pain does not improve. Same with fatigue. When I feel fatigued, usually I feel chronic pain at the same time. What are your insights please in this regard ? How de we deal with those triggers ? Can you confirm that lack of sleep and fatigue could be TMS triggers? Thanks in advance 🙏
Hi Dan, besides having chronic pain since I was 6, I'm 41 now... I know the pain is tms, but I had cancer & chemo and radiation at 30, way to much treatment, I've had lots of issues since, from chronic constipation to hypothyroidism etc.. my immune system and toxins in my body affect me daily for 13 years. I'm very healthy and cleanse a lot but gentle as I'm extremely sensitive, how do i know the difference if it's my body reacting to toxins I had, or detox symptoms etc or simply tms symptoms? It's a fine line. I fatigue easy to. I don't know if my health issues are treatment related damage or tms, this is keeping me stuck as my body is weaker since, I can't do what I use to. Any words would be appreciated, thanks kindly for what you do, your the best🙏
Kelly - given your experience, your brain is terrified and very vigilant looking for danger everywhere. It's my opinion that your body is likely fine. The best place to begin understanding how the system works is my start page. Watch the videos. Take the assessments. I map out the process for recovery. The assessments will help you determine if your symptoms behave like TMS/PDP or something physical. From just what you told me, I believe your brain is terrified and reacting as if most things are dangerous. The solution is safety. www.PainFreeYou.com/start - go through these resources.
@@PainFreeYou amazing thanks so much, that has giving me hope instead of feeling like my body is weak and creating more issues, it feels like a fine line but will continue with your advice. Btw some of your videos has helped me more than 3 years of doing this. My favourite words from you " your not broken, you just thought you were" brought tears to my eyes, thank you! 🙌
One of the best videos from the channel! Thank you, Dan! One of my biggest triggers is weather. I'm going to start my exposure therapy to cold with colder showers and air conditioner hahahha
@conorclancy6291 hello! Well, certainly it's not easy or comfortable. I hate cold temperatures! I've become very sensitized to it because I heard that cold temperatures could make pain worse (perceived danger, as we now know). So I feel much more cold than others. I've managed to take colder showers, specially in hot days, and I did some exposure in my yard in the mornings, when it's more cool. We are facing a heat wave where I live, so I haven't experienced the cold wheater for months now 😅 Another issue for me are clothes (meaning they trigger my pain). When it's cold I have to wear more clothes, which are 2 perceived dangers at once. So it's very challenging for me. I can say I'm less afraid, but still have work to do. 🙃
A brain that is hyper vigilant and sensitive nervous system may perceive NORMAL hormonal changes as dangerous. Danger is what turns on pain. This video explains more: ruclips.net/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/видео.html Perceived danger is all that's happening. The hormones are not causing the pain. The brain is. Watch that video linked above. If you'd like to understand more: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
It is clear in emotional reaction - when i allow myself to feel negative emotion trigger evokes, then trigger disappears and respond is possible. Could symptom be like blocked emotion in the body i am running away from instead of feeling and letting go?
Everyone and everything triggers me. A friend just text me from another country as she is on holiday and felt surge of adrenaline just with a text from a friend, hardly a scarey thing. So I have multiple triggers, or everyone and everything just scares me. 🤔😢
Dear Dan. After long covid i developed shortness of breath and chronic fatigue syndrome. I watch your video's and video's from others. Now there is a cfs RUclipsr Who says that you have to do certain activities to get better and when you increase the activities you will get more severe symptons. He said the symptons will more severe because of the 'adjusting body'. And he said if you don't stress and panic too much the symptons of adjustment will fade with time and if you make to much stress and freak out the symptons will get worse and you will end up much worse than in the beginning. What is your opinion? He says recovery is ALWAYS with up and downs and when we feed the down we will get worse. I got stuck with the ALWAYS word..
Two ways to look at it. ALWAYS UPS too. Resuming living life is an important step whether it's fatigue, pain or any symptom. I believe your body is already fine and capable. It's the brains perception of danger that turns the fatigue on or off. ruclips.net/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/видео.html
Just know the brain is perceiving some kind of danger. You don't have to figure it out. Safety is still the solution. Learn more here: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
The same goes for me. I don't know what exactly my triggers are. I think I could deal with them better, but they are very random and don't show up as much.
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My husband’s presence triggers me 😂 seriously I have deeply ingrained behavior that is not healthy with him…acting weak, defensive, complaining ..I am working on changing that but literally just knowing my husband is about to come home increases my symptoms. He’s a good man, he is not dangerous it’s my own learned behavior around him that is the trigger. It’s very challenging.
I feel you. I always get symptoms when I am around my parents or if one of them comes home or calls me.
have you tried any brain retraining programs? and if you have, how did it go? wishing you the best.
Wow ! I'm exactly the same my husband triggers mine ,he don't do anything it's me it's really weird, if I've already got these symptoms he makes them worse sounds horrible doesn't it because he don't do nothing wrong ,but other than that my symptoms start as soon as I wake up can't stop the feelings coming, I'm so glad I found someone else who feels like me 😊
Bed is my trigger hahahahaha definitely no avoiding bed! Last night I successfully turned off my nerve pain/panic symptoms thanks to this video. Thank you ❤ I walked to the bathroom, smiled in the mirror, had a cold shower, stroked my arms, did a meditation and had a chat with myself xx
Perfect timing to find this video. 2 nights ago i felt some anger, wrote it down.. then the grief and sadness surfaced right after! I let it all come out, felt it and it passed. The next day i had a horrible symptom flare and half way through the day i realized why! It's very enlightening to be putting the pieces of the puzzle together... thank you Dan!
Avoidance will 💯 make it worse. The body actually becomes more reactive when the trigger appears. This was definitely my experience. It was one of the worst mistakes I have made in this process.
YES! This video all day, every day. I had so many triggers I got to the point where I could not go or do anything with anyone. Took a while to connect this but now I am on the road towards recovered. The healing for me has not been linear. Sometimes I get triggered and dont know why. But now I view my pain differently. It tells me there is something going on that I am perceiving as dangerous.
I grew up as the oldest in an emotionally and physically abusive home. I remember having to take on adult responsibilities and was held accountable as early as I could walk and talk. So now as an adult the "triggers" are not always obvious because sometimes I might be thinking danger without even catching it.
I could be walking through a store or out with friends and bam, panic and pain. I could go to bed fine and bam, wake with pain. BUT the difference now is I look around and tell myself everything is ok. There is no danger here and there is no one here that is going to punish me. I put my hand on my heart and tell myself, it's safe here and all is well.
It doesnt go away instantly but it does go away. After practicing this each time, I built up a patience with myself and now struggle less with the panic/pain. I allow it to take it's time meanwhile reminding myself all is well. I try to remember to have sympathy for myself, for the pain. Our brains are amazing! Mine learned to scan a room and read people really well in order to keep me safe. It did an awesome job because I am still here! But now the danger is over and being embarrassed or judged doesnt come with punishment anymore.
I have come a long way and if you are still reading this, you have come a long way too. Your brain is a superpower and your body is in good hands.
The keys for me have been the same whether I know the trigger or not- Calm reassurance and retraining my superpower brain to let it know that it can rest now. All is well. I am safe.
Thank you Dan! Anytime I get off track I return to your videos. Much love everyone❤
Keep going. To understand more, Watch my entire fast start video playlist to learn what's going on and what to do about it. DansFastStart.com
Just had a msg from the friend, iv been with today, to say she's smiled ext each time she hurts, and it's getting better☑️
Smiling - a very effective "message of safety". Here's a video on that topic. ruclips.net/video/QUHl9yxZHKs/видео.html
@@PainFreeYou thank you I'll pass it on
Dan you are absolutely right:)
After a year on this healing journey, I ended up being in a very stressful place for (me) and my body let me know. I flared big time, but I dug in my heels and faced the stress head on. There was no way I could walk away from this stress as it was coming from the people I love the most. My neuro pathways run deep from childhood trauma, that’s the problem not the people around me.
My healing has continued, which is another sign that this (RA) diagnosis is TMS.
I am SAFE ❤️🦋and transformed.
Forever grateful for your messages Dan❤️🙏🏻
My pleasure Surley!
I once got really mad as I was enjoying a large company and my brain kept dissociating even harder every 10 minutes. I was having fun and feeling good yet it kept getting stronger as if it was saying: "get away people can still turn against you". Calming reassurance didn't help and I was mad I couldn't enjoy myself so I excused myself, left, went outside and said. "Dear Brain, I know you're just trying to help me out. But now you stop it IMMEDIATELY, because I prefer to suffer than to be absent minded. Yes, I choose to suffer. You heard me right. And now you stop dissociating because this is my choice." I was so determined and mad and I still felt nervous the whole evening but I was there, present and, although hard, I felt so loved in that company 😊 Maybe works for someone else, too.
Thanks so much for this video. I had stopped avoiding triggers like food, body positions, etc. but this video made me realize that I am still avoiding people and conversations that trigger me, confirming to my brain that they are a threat. Thank you for your suggestions on how to deal with that.
Glad to help.
I absolutely love the way you gave a roadmap, gave very specific instructions on what to do. Throughout the video, you kept reinforcing this roadmap and the instructions on how to deal with triggers and symptoms, then a solution. These are the best kinds of videos for brain retraining. It’s why I keep coming time and time again back to your videos. To learn and reinforce. And I’ve had amazing results.
Dan, this is absolutely a fabulous video that gets right to the point.👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This was super helpful 🙏🦄🌞 thank you Dan! Leaving the house and doing literally anything triggers me because my world got so small being totally house bound until recently 🙃 basically everything is currently a trigger but I'm working really hard to talk to my brain and not catastrophize-just wondering if we are trying to increase activity or socializing etc slightly and have a big flare of symptoms is it OK to pull back and do a bit less for a few days to try and get back to baseline or is that letting symptoms win/reinforces them? 🙏🦄🌞 thank you dan!!
Yes, gradual exposure can help. This video maps out a process you can use to resume more activity. ruclips.net/video/mRowJmW4uk0/видео.html
dan, thanks for telling me about this video. i do know i watched it when it came out, but it's a good reminder. i had something interesting happen the other day. my brother lives in another state, and for the past few years, whenever i hear from him (texting), there is always some sort of drama occurring and i tend to take it on, and symptoms increase...the second i saw his text the other day, those symptoms started and continued for a bit even though he was perfectly fine and no drama. i'm his big sister and tend to "care too much!" anyway, i just told my brain, which expected there to be drama from the trigger of hearing from him, that he is just fine...and the symptoms subsided!
Fantastic evidence of TMS/PDP. Love it.
Everytime i go running or cycling, my symptoms (triggerpoints in glutes, above knees) flare up. Last year it started with that activities, mri of the hips/pelvis and knee showed nothing unusual. Therapies on the muscle knots only work temporary. now I m trying this…hope it will give me some relief! Thankyou!
So good. TY. My go to is avoid, avoid, avoid. So now I avoid just abt everything and everyone ! I see now ...and great u say set healthy boundaries b'cos that can be healthy in some cases. Some great ideas there.
Excellent
Thankyou so much Dan👍❤️🌹🙏🇱🇺i really needed this. So does my daughter. God bless you🙏🇱🇺love from Holland, Amsterdam
Glad it was helpful!
I had a major trigger from my ex last week and of course symptoms changed and the new one is worse. It was an extremely upsetting situation but what you're saying is exactly right, such further proof that this is TMS. I'm reassuring my brain that even with all that happening & my emotions about it I'm still safe! I hope my brain realizes this soon, I'm moving or a vacation tomorrow that I'm really looking forward to.
Teach your brain that stress does not have to mean pain or other symptoms.
This is 100% true - I have improved so much by gradually exposing myself to triggers and reassuring my brain that I was safe & ok etc. There were times when I got symptoms, but they lessened and lessened as time when on . And I am nearly nearly recovered. Just a bit to go .
I watched this video as I'm going away on holidays soon and there will be what has been a big trigger for me in the past, and to which I have been exposing myself a small bit from time to time. But the holiday will be massive exposure and I was freaking out a bit & wondering how I'll handle it. And how it could ruin the trip, not just myself but for my family . But in order for me to ever overcome this and be able to go away on holidays again, I going to need to try it out . And hope for the best and react in a calm way if I do get symptoms.
I'm going to prepare myself before I go by visualising it all going well & having FUN and feeling free and alive - to be able to go on holidays again . There is a way I can still be exposed to the trigger , but not massively. So I will have a back up plan if I need to reduce the duration of exposure to the trigger.
This may resonate with someone... If you have taken on a 'big trigger / challenge ' and gotten on well, I'd love to hear how it went. Thanks
Wow! Love this... I actually have been avoiding some people that trigger so I will tell my brain.
Awesome.
Nice video as always. A video about whether we are using our pain to actually avoid things would be good. Sometimes I definitely avoid something I don't really want to do anyway by saying... socialising makes my face hurt, the cold sea sets off my pain, the wind is too strong today it will trigger symptoms. I actually use these excuses not only to convince myself that's the reason but other people. Result is I then get with pain when I do these activities so it affirms to me thats definitely a problem activity. 😆 using my pain as an excuse instead of just saying... nah it looks freezing outside or I don't actually want to talk to that person definitely needs to stop
That's a great topic suggestion. I've added it to my list.
THIS is sooooo me!!! but i am learning that about myself, and am getting better at countering it by giving myself permission to NOT do whatever it is and just say no to myself or others if i don't have a deep peace about doing it. i typically beat myself up for NOT wanting to do something and welcome pain or symptoms that then are a good excuse! on the other hand, i may have a deep peace about doing something, but have apprehension about doing it for one reason or another, but i try to make myself just do it and more times than not, everything works out fine!
This was very good. I wonder if asking the question ’Does this strengthen my brain’s perception of danger? Or does it minimize it?’ would help when making decisions. If I avoid a situation, does that give my brain confidence that I can handle it? If I accept or even embrace a scenario, does that give my Brain confidence? I like this approach. What gives my brain confidence? Excellent content as usual Dan! 👏🏻
Thank you Nicole.
Dan please what if I am triggered also by positive things? the solution is the same? thank you so much you help me a lot 🙏
Yes it is. Safety is always the way to settle things down.
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Iv been working on convincing my brain that outings I'm looking forward to aren't a danger anymore, i usually get really unwell, to day iv managed to go to Stratford upon Avon, were Shakespeare lived, enjoyed looking round his home, its still just the same, I'm also obsessed with the boat trips, iv had my usual symptoms, but no flair ups it's been a good day, so I must be doing something right, 🤗🎊
Yes you are doing something right.
Beyond grateful as always for these daily lessons! My father is dying right now of Parkinson’s and my mother who is one of his primary caregivers has mental illness. I’ve distanced myself from them because of the level of dysfunction and because I would get triggered every time I would talk to my dad but I didn’t want to just completely drop him out of my life. I feel ready to give him a call today and check in on him after watching this video as I feel equipped now on how to talk exactly to my brain if something arises in my body and I also know to use any triggers as more validation of TMS which gives me more confidence that reassuring my brain over time will cease the symptoms. It feels much more empowering to face these challenges in life head on with a plan on how to handle them as opposed to avoidance. Much gratitude to you!🙏❤️
I'm sorry about your dad. Tough stuff for sure.
This is a great video
You’re helping me so much, Dan! So grateful I stumbled across you and your message
Thank you Dan! 🙏😊
Welcome!
This video for me today has me thinking. Before I had Covid I was having a hard time sitting down on my couch since waves of heat pain would arise, same with my bed. PT helped somewhat, but my symptoms got worse. I than got Covid, and than head to toe nerve stinging pains showed up; head to toe muscle twitches, and a upper thigh, pelvic pain came about. Last week my symptoms were way down after a massive flair up the week before. Since I watched a Shubiner podcast that he stated he's a helped people with even chronic lyme, for some reason I'm terried of lyme, my symtoms settled down, though not fully gone for that week. Now, my roommate has Covid and my anxiety is up and now my symptoms are faliring up with nerve pains. This stuff is annoying. But, i believe with these patterns that I have TMS/PDP. Thanks again Dan for these videos. I feel my symptoms have gone down during the time I'm texting this. Lol.
Clarity that it's ALL created by the brain is the key to dialing down the fear.
Thank you so much this is so amazing 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
I developed an Inguinal Hernia last year. I would gladly have the operation to correct it, but unfortunately, I have no close friends or family to discharge me from the hospital afterwards. Regardless. Every morning is drama time! The hernia tends to act up in the morning. Small aches. Then the panic sets in. Is this the day it becomes strangulated? Is this the day I have to call an ambulance? I eventually convince myself everything is fine and the aches resolve themselves. Head games!
Do the doctors consider the operation to be an emergency? If not, you can match their lack of concern and begin teaching your brain that you are not in massive danger.
Morning Dan, I have been getting so much better with fibromyalgia, uti’s, tooth pain, back pain , all over pain, ibs yet I am struggling with globus sensation so so much. I can’t seem to shift this. I have been doing the tms work for years and this is the last thing left yet I am unable to shift it and it kept getting worst and worst to now being the center of my attention because it’s so uncomfortable It paralyses me in fear and I don’t know why the same techniques that I used to get so good and feeling well don’t work on this Globus sensation/acid reflux, tightness in the throat and pain or whatever this is. ENT had a look down my throat and there’s nothing physically, no constriction, no thyroid issues so I know what is happening mindbody wise, vocal cords clear. What are your thoughts?
The reason you are not able to shift it is because it "paralyses me with fear". Get clarity. If the doctors cannot find a medical explanation, it's TMS. The cure is the same as it was for your other symptoms that you resolved. Clarity Confidence. Calm. Consistency. "or whatever this is" seems to say that you aren't certain this is TMS.
Have you done the assessments?
www.PainFreeYou.com/start
I received your email and will respond tomorrow.
You’ve come so far! Bravo!
Thanks Dan for the content! Always amazingly interesting. Just a question related to lack of sleep or good quality sleep as a trigger to chronic pain. How do we deal with lack of sleep? Same with fatigue.
I have noticed that evry tile I don’t get enough sleep or have non quality sleep my chronic pain levels increase right after and even if I try to calmly reassure myself and even get some rest my pain does not improve. Same with fatigue. When I feel fatigued, usually I feel chronic pain at the same time. What are your insights please in this regard ? How de we deal with those triggers ? Can you confirm that lack of sleep and fatigue could be TMS triggers? Thanks in advance 🙏
Change the story. A bad night of sleep may currently cause an increase, but it doesn't have to. ruclips.net/video/9cYzeYlLT6o/видео.html
Thank you 🙏🏼
Hey dan what do i do whn my kids fight and i have to get involved but triggers my sxs and i cant seem to settle my system back down
Hi Dan, besides having chronic pain since I was 6, I'm 41 now... I know the pain is tms, but I had cancer & chemo and radiation at 30, way to much treatment, I've had lots of issues since, from chronic constipation to hypothyroidism etc.. my immune system and toxins in my body affect me daily for 13 years. I'm very healthy and cleanse a lot but gentle as I'm extremely sensitive, how do i know the difference if it's my body reacting to toxins I had, or detox symptoms etc or simply tms symptoms? It's a fine line. I fatigue easy to. I don't know if my health issues are treatment related damage or tms, this is keeping me stuck as my body is weaker since, I can't do what I use to. Any words would be appreciated, thanks kindly for what you do, your the best🙏
Kelly - given your experience, your brain is terrified and very vigilant looking for danger everywhere. It's my opinion that your body is likely fine. The best place to begin understanding how the system works is my start page. Watch the videos. Take the assessments. I map out the process for recovery. The assessments will help you determine if your symptoms behave like TMS/PDP or something physical. From just what you told me, I believe your brain is terrified and reacting as if most things are dangerous. The solution is safety.
www.PainFreeYou.com/start - go through these resources.
@@PainFreeYou amazing thanks so much, that has giving me hope instead of feeling like my body is weak and creating more issues, it feels like a fine line but will continue with your advice. Btw some of your videos has helped me more than 3 years of doing this. My favourite words from you " your not broken, you just thought you were" brought tears to my eyes, thank you! 🙌
@@kellycusack5023 That statement of you not being broken is the ABSOLUTE truth. You can and will get well. Safety is the cure.
@@PainFreeYou yay amazing.. very grateful😊
9:08. Yes! Yes! Yes! 💡
I agree. YES!
One of the best videos from the channel! Thank you, Dan!
One of my biggest triggers is weather. I'm going to start my exposure therapy to cold with colder showers and air conditioner hahahha
Excellent.
Hi Debora! Wondering how this went for you
@conorclancy6291 hello! Well, certainly it's not easy or comfortable. I hate cold temperatures! I've become very sensitized to it because I heard that cold temperatures could make pain worse (perceived danger, as we now know). So I feel much more cold than others. I've managed to take colder showers, specially in hot days, and I did some exposure in my yard in the mornings, when it's more cool. We are facing a heat wave where I live, so I haven't experienced the cold wheater for months now 😅 Another issue for me are clothes (meaning they trigger my pain). When it's cold I have to wear more clothes, which are 2 perceived dangers at once. So it's very challenging for me. I can say I'm less afraid, but still have work to do. 🙃
But what if the trigger are hormones. My pain flares when hormones are unbakanced. I tell myself it s safe..
A brain that is hyper vigilant and sensitive nervous system may perceive NORMAL hormonal changes as dangerous. Danger is what turns on pain. This video explains more: ruclips.net/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/видео.html
Perceived danger is all that's happening. The hormones are not causing the pain. The brain is. Watch that video linked above. If you'd like to understand more: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
Morning Dan :)
Good morning.
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It is clear in emotional reaction - when i allow myself to feel negative emotion trigger evokes, then trigger disappears and respond is possible. Could symptom be like blocked emotion in the body i am running away from instead of feeling and letting go?
Everyone and everything triggers me. A friend just text me from another country as she is on holiday and felt surge of adrenaline just with a text from a friend, hardly a scarey thing. So I have multiple triggers, or everyone and everything just scares me. 🤔😢
Safety is always the solution. ruclips.net/video/5SsKnAgAvnY/видео.html
What if my default symptom is tachycardia from POTS? At some point that might become dangerous, no?!
Dear Dan. After long covid i developed shortness of breath and chronic fatigue syndrome. I watch your video's and video's from others. Now there is a cfs RUclipsr Who says that you have to do certain activities to get better and when you increase the activities you will get more severe symptons. He said the symptons will more severe because of the 'adjusting body'. And he said if you don't stress and panic too much the symptons of adjustment will fade with time and if you make to much stress and freak out the symptons will get worse and you will end up much worse than in the beginning. What is your opinion? He says recovery is ALWAYS with up and downs and when we feed the down we will get worse. I got stuck with the ALWAYS word..
Two ways to look at it. ALWAYS UPS too. Resuming living life is an important step whether it's fatigue, pain or any symptom. I believe your body is already fine and capable. It's the brains perception of danger that turns the fatigue on or off. ruclips.net/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/видео.html
What if I don't know what triggers me?
Just know the brain is perceiving some kind of danger. You don't have to figure it out. Safety is still the solution. Learn more here: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
The same goes for me. I don't know what exactly my triggers are. I think I could deal with them better, but they are very random and don't show up as much.
The bigest trigger for most is anticipation.
My trigger is emptying my bladder. It's unavoidable 😢
But you can do these two things:
ruclips.net/video/sE3_cs7YgCY/видео.html
@@PainFreeYou Will watch tomorrow. Thank you 🥰
@@PainFreeYou I did watch it and it was a very helpful video. Thanks again 💖
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