Breakups, Heartbreak and Narcissistic Relationships SUCK!
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- Опубликовано: 1 фев 2024
- It was a busy morning and wanted to have a chat and give you some motivation because look… I HAVE BEEN THERE! I know so many of you are going through heartache, rebuilding, moving on and this stuff is HARD. It’s not fun at times to have to deal with yourself when you’re alone BUT I am here to show you what you specifically need to be doing to move on and let’s be honest GET BETTER!
Isn’t that the goal??
I hope this helps someone out there, you got this! You’re never alone, we’ve either been there or are in that space ourselves so this is about building a community of people who understand and will be there for you throughout your journey ♥️
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Thank you Stephanie! I so appreciate the links!
I’ve had a horrendous 24 hours. I am very grateful for you as you always remind me of how to remember who I am. ❤ Thansk Steph
Don’t let these jerk narcissists hold you from happiness don’t give them energy that is what they want for you to be unhappy & miserable like them.
From experience, I will say that trying to skip the limbo with a new relationship will invariably land you with another Narc. You won't take as long to figure things out as the first time around, but you'll still lose a lot of time that you should have used to FIND YOURSELF. Thank you, Steph, for another great reminder that THIS IS OUR TIME. It's now or never! ❤
In my experience, it's the narcs who skip the limbo, and dive into a new relationship with immediacy.
I have been watching Stephanie for the past 5 years, she's so transparent, putting on her make up and still encouraging us.
As a victim of covert narcissistic abuse, I'm thankful for her support, wisdom and knowledge! After a 40 year marriage, I have no idea where I'm going to live, but I will have peace.
Thank you Stephanie,
Sgt G USMC Veteran
One of the things about marriage I miss: Watching her make herself beautiful in the morning. You do it admirably!
I don't know what I like the most; the make up or the talking!!! But I'm very glad you are talking about recovery because I'm just dealing with the limbo part right now... It's weird because now I want things that I never thought I want it. My behaviour is way different and people noticed it...thank you for all the advice
I am a guy , great advice broke up 2 yrs ago with my 15 yr relationship it was tough not having her again in life. I healed I have actually done this methodical list, working out, focusing 100% on financial goals and hobbies which brought me closer to me. Today I am the happiest,proud, grateful and thankful for this self discovery and time. It was nice to see a woman put make up again I realized I missed that..❤❤❤video.
Great timing my partner of 9 years ghosted me again wouldn't answer phone northing so I emailed and completely ended it for my closure a month ago blocked him everywhere i could time for self-love but not ever really knowing what self-love is
Thanks Stephanie grateful to you
Thank you Stephanie for this message. I was just thinking to myself I am not where I use to be thank God!!! but I’m definitely not where I completely want to be mentally and emotionally. I’ve been broken up with my ex for almost 2 years now and I still cry and get sad at times. I am constantly doing the work to heal but for some reason I still feel stuck at times. But thanks to your message I know this is a part of the journey 🙏🏾. Thanks again and God bless you and your family!
I needed to hear this, I was discarded by my wife of 15yrs just over 6 months ago. I’ve done a lot of healing and thought I was ready to date so had been seeing someone for the last 2weeks, but I suddenly developed feelings of being overwhelmed and caged in. I realised I was trying to skip to the next chapter of my life rather than just finishing this one which involves focusing on me and my healing. I broke it off with her and I felt instantly that I had done the right thing. I just want to be happy on my own and enjoy my journey for now. Currently in Bali with some good friends having a blast. Thanks Stephanie ❤
Very similar situation here, and equally similar process being taken as Stephanie recommemds. Taking time to really heal, and unlearning alot of the things that keep me stuck. My situation is far from over (kids, Home etc still be battled over), but overall trying to do the self parenting thing and loving me is a priority. Good luck on your journey. None of us signed up for the Narc nightmare but we get to change the outcome by learning and growing on our own before re-tethering 😊 if we opt to do that at all.
@@bostownmassive keep strong my friend, I still have to keep in contact as we have 3 kids together but it’s ok, the more I focus on my life and healing myself the less I care about her and what she does. 💪🏻
Same situation 15 years
I'm super impressed at how effortlessly you can apply makeup while chatting away! 😊🌷
Thank you 😊 i needed to hear this, i was actually fussing at myself yesterday about this. I'm getting to where i WANT things again...but I'm aware enough to know i still have alot of work to do, and I'm frustrated, so i tend to rush myself. But i definitely don't want to fall back into what i got away from, so I'm gonna try and slow down. This was very encouraging, thanks again 😊
Try & try until you succeed 🙏Comfort zone is hard to let go
but leaving your comfort zone is where the magic happens.
How funny that you did your makeup during a video! You didn't need a pinch of it you're absolutely gorgeous. Great video! You're one of my favorites
Totally off topic. I always wondered how you did your makeup because I love it. For the past 4 years I have been into your makeup. Thanks for the GRWM.
Thanks, Stephanie.
I think I may be healing, I’m noticing how beautiful Stephany Lyn is !
i am working super duper hard on myself and i am amazed and offended that you would even suggest otherwise. you don't know me :) (just kidding) what i am not kidding about is that this is one of the coolest life coach / personal development / pep talk videos i have ever seen, like, ever :) the fact that you are slaying potentially self sabotaging propensities with productive / motivational helpful ideas and real talk while getting ready and doing makeup in a very matter of fact real efficient manner (because things need to get done) is epic. what a treat to get to have such a personal type moment where you are real, vulnerable, yet so assured and strong and open is so cool :) even though i do not wear makeup (even though the 80s post punk goth in me sort of wishes i was not too old to start wearing eye shadow and eye liner, and wishes i had started the habit early in life like robert smith, siouxsie and the banshees, etc so i can say 'this has always been me and i am not changing) except in my case maybe a little more refined smokey eye with black eyeliner, leaning towards classic kohl Egyptian, meets, pirates of the Caribbean (without the personal life trauma / drama) meets the cure meets Siouxsie Sioux meets maybe like 1920s silent film stars, and a little Metropolis filmage, meets contemporary male non gay male non trans who then has to deal with gay males, ironically, but still wearing girls skinny jeans and tall boots, and into natural born females), maybe like 1980s inxs, and maybe Nagel 1980s suburban valley mall poster shop aluminum framed poster print), i do very much enjoy watching females do their makeup (for a multitude of reasons, chief among them being that it is art and personal expression on the self as canvas, and is centralized in for the most part emphasizing / enhancing already existing beauty, or, in some cases, changing / manipulating to gain features not thoroughly present, personal facial features). i also like that its real and vulnerable and you get to enjoy the transformation of ones naturalness to their decidedly best and most expressive (or socially acceptable for public appearances) self :) you are very beautiful in any case, but that little get ready session was very fun, and quite peppy :) thank you :)
I needed this. Thank you!
This is awesome, thanks for the information and doing the make-up it was cute lol
Omg I love you make up free, ponytail, sweats... you are so naturally beautiful
I just love how authentic you are! 🥰
Who the heck puts on their makeup while they make the video 😆
You are so awesome! ❤️🙏
I love it!
What an example of BE ME! And be comfortable in my own skin 🙏
Have a nice day, God Bless you.
❤ need to learn how to love myself, and parent myself!
Thank you ❤ much appreciated
Stay positive don’t let these narcissists take your happiness away that is what they want for you to be miserable like them
I appreciate the content please do another skin care and makeup tutorial you are gorgeous! Link the products please❤
You are right
Great post; the 2:06 mark landed as yet another timely, mindful reminder as I see where this journey goes.
So great to start my day off with one of your videos thank you Stephanie ❤
Appreciate the timely encouragement and reminder to be intentional and patient with the process.
Hi Stephanie, I just wanted to let you know that this video and talk was more therapeutic and helpful than anything I've paid for in a therapy session. Thank you for your support and how down-to-earth and real you are. This was exactly what I've needed to hear for a few years. Hope you had a great Friday. 🙂
Thank you for this video. Confirmed that I am doing the work and that I am growing. I also happen to love watching a lady put on makeup, and you're a good one to watch.
😢@toxic relationships & heartbreak. Thank you Stephanie for highlighting the need to be aware of my own needs: time for reflection, self-assessment & goal-setting for self-fulfilment & growth & achieving much-needed balance. This year 2024 I find a need to focus on what I need to do to achieve what I want: a healthy body that feels good & energized. I have tried switching vitamin supplements, am still struggling with my sleep issues due to menopause & basically struggling to cope with demands of running a household with the malaise & constant fatigue caused by my health issues. The lack of good sleep is affecting every part of my life as I am trying to wean myself out of sleeping pill addiction as the pills were part of my medications for so many decades. It is honestly a real struggle. Watching your video encourages me to put myself first so that I can serve my family better with better health. ❤ May you always be blessed for always trying to help & be a light for those trying to find the light in the tunnel. 🙏💪👍
Yes! I needed this video, Thank you!
I have not been having a great week. Watching this a several other videos of yours ALWAYS gets me thru.
Thank you
I so needed this 😊. Thank u Stephanie 😊
Love this video ❤
Love watching your videos!
Thank you so much ❤
Excellent timing to see this message. 🤗 mahalo!!! 🙏🏻💜✨
Thanks Stephanie ❤
u are so pretty and helpful thank u!!🥰
Well said!
Loved the video great talk and thanks for the makeup tips
Thank you ❤
Great video and channel 🌸
Stunning video ❤❤
Thank you!!! You’ve helped me heal from my first break up with therapy
I needed this so bad !! I keep thinking about the last man I was with. Love your content! 💖
Great video 🌈🌈thank you 🌈🌈God bless you
Breaking the habit of thinking of the ex is extremely hard.. I've been trying to move on for 3 years... I've put him on a pedastal he doesn't deserve. But I am doing as much as I can to work on myself... this limbo phase is both a blessing and a curse.
Human Christmas Tree! ❤️🩹
I finally got out of a relationship with a narcissist, absolute con-man - (totally ruined me financially to say the least), and finally saw him for what he is.
Slowly getting myself together, sorting my life out, getting back into hobbies, decluttering.
(Also dealing with perimenoupausal symptoms, it Sucks! Getting this addressed with my doctor this week...)
However, I have no desire to engage with people whatsoever. Is this normal?
Hello Stephanie,
Thank You for the contribution to my day. I wish to go new ways. I travelled through Europe for months. I got better. And worse. I find it really hard to trust people. They offer me so much but I am scared of being also tribally gaslight again. I decided I would see to take one hour of coaching or therapy a week and learn something that way from someone each week. Also I decided to write at least three messages a day to people to ask for help to heal.
Thank You for actually deciding to be authentic. To not put up a show to get views but to communicate on a human level.
Can You recommend Forums and groups for people who wish to support each other on their healing way?
I wish You all the best,
May you be well :)
James
Could you do a make up tutorial too pls😊🤣
Girl i LOOKED HORRIBLE when i was with my husband 😭 i look alot better now
Steph, you’re so pretty.
Another great vid!
Thanks!
I got kicked to the curb about 6 months ago and I’m pretty much over him.. But seeing him at work off and on does’nt help, when I see him I honestly get angry, not sad!….
Most people rebound or supress and suffer really bad.
My struggle staying gone when I leave is I've been with my husband for 16 years and he doesnt work. IDK how to leave and be ok that he will have no money without me and I feel a lot of guiltnover this....
I'm finally severing the emotional bond I have from my co-parent the best I can, and it's painful. My therapist mentioned to me, that if I feel this, it is a sign that I need more healing work to do on myself. Is it normal Stephanie that I want to step away from the hw I'm given by my therapist when I feel like I need time to process things? Do I need to push forward in those moments instead of taking those breaks?
There is this shift leader who thinks she is the boss and talks about everybody and bosses around but mostly gets on my nerves because she is not above me but she doesn’t respect anybody but the one real boss and as soon as you try to work like she wants you to, she gets everyone against you and looks out for mistakes you might do. That s exhausting. So I have the choice to do what she wants or to not make any mistakes? Or is there another way to have my peace at work being respected without being bossed around?? I just want to do my job and get out of the focus.
Hi I just found you about a week ago. Thank you 4 your videos very helpful.
I have a question/request I am a single woman. Dating but my issues has not really been with narcissistic men. I have had a very hard time keeping real friendships with women.
I enjoy having friends and I am an extrovert. So no issues going out and gathering with folks.
My issues is so many women are just Bitter and backstabbing these days. Also I am not one to gossip and mean girl other women. Why is this such a trend? Unfortunately avoiding these women are impossible too. I end up leaving friend groups and being the bad guy because they. . . Well you know. Anyways HELP Please Thank you ☺️
You were good in that movie "Primal Fear".
When you break up prior love hormones evaporating (2,5 years) it's a struggle because your hormones are still active, and toxic.
You are so pretty you're beautiful
Make up no make up, you're beautiful.
I’m 48 and scared that I will never find love again 😢What can I do?
how did you gain your knowledge consering narcissists Steph?
ps- oh, and i guess, even though i have not touched any such thing in several years, i maybe wont go and get some clove cigarettes and smoke them today (maybe even on the sidewalk in front of the gym) while drinking a dr pepper, just to be a 'bad rebel' :) and to increase the likelihood of organ transplant failure if someone thinks they are going to benefit from my dead (at whatever point that naturally or by sad happenstance, happens. dont worry, i am not planning nor idealizing that) body. :)
What do you do that with no money or anyone to help?
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Just no fuqs given lol 😂
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We broke up on V-Day
Cute 😊❤
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Even prettier without makeup
The worse things possible, all three
You should do more videos with no make up on. Not a putting make up on video but just clean skinned 🙂
Even with no makeup she is a smokeshow
Sincere question: Does anyone take seriously any putting-on-makeup video? I just can't. Same goes for I'm-in-my-car videos.
I think the point was she was modeling focusing on one's self.
@@dancingcloud8557 Seems to me that that's all anyone does any more, to everyone's detriment.
I believe in putting yourself first but to do that properly you have to take the whole context of your life into account. When you fully take in that context, you come to realize that everyone has the same rights that you do and when you stomp on others you're declaring their right to stomp on you. Therefore, as paradoxical as this might sound, to put yourself first means to treat everyone as an equal. Not better or worse, strictly equal.
IOW, putting yourself first means not putting anyone else below (or above) you. Deal in _justice,_ treating everyone precisely as they _deserve,_ giving exactly what they've _earned_ from you, good or bad. And don't expect (or worse, demand) any different treatment from anyone else.
But back to my questions: Again, I can't take seriously anyone who makes a video like this. It's insulting to the audience and it's a perfect example of putting yourself above everyone else.
Stephanie has made enough in-the-car vids that, after this one on top of those, I have yet to come up with a reason to continue subscribing. And I'm honestly trying to.
@@MichaelPiz I don't really know what to say
She is giving you free content, and you're complaining she does it in the car. Seems entitled 🤷♀️
Why to you even care just don’t watch it. She’s still talking about her regular subject any how lol so it’s nothing to let bother you 🤣
@@danidiaz2377 I didn't watch it, except for a few seconds until I realized what it is. I'm not asking about this specific video but this whole class of videos. Doesn't matter what any particular video is about, if it's this kind of video then they're just plain silly, as well as lazy.
To be taken seriously, one must at least appear to be serious.
Are YOU doing okay? Ranting about all of this narcissistic stuff seems to be taking a toll on you. Maybe it’s time to heed your own advice and move on to a better life. This can’t be the only thing to focus your attention on, even if it’s become a source of income.
Once you do the work it should be done, right? Why repeat the same ideas over and over again?
Please! Keep your postings on a professional level. Watching you applying makeup and fussing with your hair during the presentation is a big No No. Be healthy and parent yourself. I have learned a great deal from watching your videos and appreciate your advice and guidance. But opening the link to view today’s post was very disappointing and frustrating. Watching your actions of personal grooming and listening to the verbal message was giving mixed signals. You can do better. So do the work and set the example for your viewers. 😮😢😊