To those of you who are speaking negatively about the mom’s reactions, you don’t know how you’d react if you were in her shoes. There’s no telling what’s going on inside her as well as what she endured that last 4 years. She doesn’t have to “act” in a stereotypical manner to please the masses. Everyone grieves differently and shows their emotions differently. However she reacted was appropriate for HER. She’s the one who lost a child, not you all.
I recently went to a charity fundraiser trivia night for one of the families of the Marines killed in the botched Afghanistan pull out airport bombing. Midway through the mother was thankful to everyone, shaking hands, very grateful...by the end of the event she was hitting people, screaming, crying, had to be led out of the event. She was yelling how none of this would bring him back, none of your money matters, I want my son back not your sympathy, it got REAL. And I can't blame her. Her sons death, for no reason, has been politicized, it's all so public I can't imagine having to grieve that way.
Also how she grieved in privacy is sacred and may have been another story. The stages of grief hit us all differently as we all are individuals and process our own way. God bless this family and AWP.
When you discover shocking news, you can go into shock. You feel it’s not real and you can go through denial. Your brain can make attempts to falsify the truth. During this time, you can appear like you aren’t reacting.
Some people do not show emotions right away. Shook has sent in and then hurt and pain. It's sad another young life. A young man gained his wings to soon.
While the "damn you" was directed to the son, I think it was more reflective of her pain. She is projecting her pain as a way to protect herself. Being angry is one of the stages of grief. Remember, he's been gone for a while so she is emotionally and mentally spent. That anger is the only thing protecting her emotions and mental state in that moment.
Yup. My dad went missing on purpose like it sounds that this boy did. I was so angry at my dad. Even if he was found dead (he was, two years later) I was angry at him for how he disappeared. Denial is also a thing--there is still a big part of me that thinks he was killed. That he disappeared on purpose, but he would have eventually come back. Maybe that's just denial, though.
Losing a child is bad enough. But having to face that he “ended” in such a dark, desolate place. I’d imagine anger would be part of that. At everyone and no one.
That “Damn you” was so incredibly powerful. So many meanings it has… shes angry he left, shes angry her hope is gone, shes painfully angry that her son gave up his life so soon with so much in front of him that he just couldn’t see. This entire video she is trying so hard to protect her feelings and maintain her composure in front of the investigators and the camera. I feel so sorry for the loss this family had to and still has to suffer through. There is never a good enough answer to “why”, someone takes their own life. None that will ease any pain or make for better understanding… so heartbreaking. Thank you for finding this boy, he deserves to be properly laid to rest with love. God only knows the pain inside of him that drove him to this point. Thank you so much for the services you provide these families.
Agreed. Been nearly suicidal, been in that dark space. I forgive Matthew Hall, he did not know what havoc he would cause. Its just... pointless that he had to go that way.
Exactly.. And for those saying they had to be bad parents...no, he was a teenager. They aren't emotionally mature yet. Even little things can get blown out of proportion. How many teenagers think their parents are overprotective and strict.And had or have fights with their parents about that?And how Many now grownups now see why their parents were that way and they were right?
I thought about doing what Jed did at 16… many years later now I realise just how young 16 is, there is so much time for things to improve in your life. To anybody reading this: I hope you know how loved you are. It’s always worth it to give life another chance. RIP Jed.
Yeah i'm that age rn. I've been thinking how easy it is for me to do it. Possible pain and possible fear/panic are accounted for. Knife to chest make me wuss out. Same with rope. But the car in river.... There's no backing out in that one. Might be the most peaceful way to go as well. Just to be clear, I just have a strong morbid curiosity about doing it not that I actually will. No need to reply to this reply lol.
this!! when i was younger i wish i knew that there would be people someday that loved me, that i love very much. i would have missed so many moments that mean so much to me now. when i was in the heat of my depression i romanticized it so much, i probably would've responded to this comment talking about how bad i had it and that i was thinking about it strictly because i wanted attention- genuinely. but wanting attention is normal when you have severe problems like that, but attention seeking doesn't make things better (with that being said the best thing is to not respond to people like that, dont get pissed at them) being younger you really have no true ability to understand how many YEARS of life you have to live and grow and change- no one talks about their heartbreaking breakups of highschool- not because they didnt hurt, but because it is such a small part of your life it gets drowned out some day, and that day will come, even when it feels like its been so long, it will happen
@@The.Best.Collector i was clinically diagnosed so first of all you are wrong, it is VERY common for people with depression to attention seek as it is a way of asking for help when you do not know to say it directly
@@The.Best.Collector this comment frustrates me particularly since you do not know my life and apparently know nothing about childhood depression- i felt i was faking it all for attention because i did those attention seeking behaviors WHICH LARGELY CONTRIBUTED TO WHY IT TOOK ME SO LONG TO GET HELP so its REALLY important to talk about because a lot of people feel the same way
I am a former cold case homicide Detective. The work you all do is amazing. God Bless you guys for bringing closure to families. Never saw your videos. First time viewer.
JGP thank you for your service as well 💙 yeah this was the first one I’ve ever watched and it hit me like a ton of rocks. Very hard to watch but at the same time heartwarming to know these families will have a little closure.
@@lindydean5993 I’m sorry for your loss. Are the Fortworth PD, Detectives investigating and is there a suspect that hasn’t been charged? What the name of the case?
@@NotFalling4it if you’re doing the right thing and coming forward I’m sure they will treat you well. My first thing would be to demand immunity for withholding the information for so long before I start talking
@@NotFalling4it Hi, You should ask them the questions and keep it on the record for your own documentation. It really all depends. Are you working off charges? or are you providing information that you obtained from the perp? Since it’s an open investigation, I won’t comment much. You should definitely ask them all the questions you have. Write your questions down and request a sit down. I hope your information leads to an arrest. I wouldn’t discuss or mention it on social media anymore. You don’t want to mess up the case they are working.
My daughter went to school with Jed. She spoke highly of him and how respectful, funny and intelligent he was. He will be missed by many. Rip Jed. Sending our condolences to his family.
@@TaylorMae27 This couldn't be just suicide, using the word 'suicide notes' in this case would be an insult since the car clearly shows different. He probably swirved offroad hit a rock or tree and died in the car when it went into the water.
I went to school with Jed in 7th grade. Seeing this video made me go back and find photos of him in my old yearbook. He had such a bright future and a kind heart. This news saddens me deeply. RIP Jed
I see no reason to criticize this mother!!! The fact that she's present for this tells me that she loves her son. She is bragging about how wonderful he was, and sharing all of his accomplishments!!! I would say that she's very proud of him, as she should be. Sounds like a brilliant young man. I can't imagine what a mother/family goes through when a loved one is just suddenly "missing." My condolences to this family. I salute this amazing dive team for bringing answers to families. I LOVE WHAT YOU DO!!! May God bless you, and keep you safe as you do what you do.
I've lost my oldest son 4 1/2 yrs ago unexpectedly. The pain is unbearable. I saw a lot of myself in this mom. Now, the real healing begins. But it will take years.
I'm in the crime scene cleanup business. Too often we come in after the fact and see traumatized families who were not treated with the gentleness, love and respect that you show your clients. Thank you for being sensitive with them. It changes everything.
❤ we were treated so poorly when my son was found unresponsive (fentanyl) and the nurses acted like we were a bother. I mean how can anyone actually love this addict 😢 rip my beautiful son Ryan 4ever changed. I was angry, hurt, devastated. His mama has the right to feel any old way she likes ❤❤ I was angry with him for choosing that path and sad that he was no longer here 😢
@@karens.strickland9634I am so sorry for your loss and the fact that you were not shown the love and compassion you deserved. The cause of a persons death should have no impact on how we treat a person who is grieving. The bottom line is that you lost the person you love and the last thing you need is to feel judged, or like your son was any less important because of how he died. I am sending you the biggest hug.
Denial is a powerful coping mechanism, that unfortunately hurts those around us.. In her mind he was a happy kid, but in reality life was clearly a very different story for this boy, than his mother wanted to believe or will acknowledge. Right up until his remains were found, she still refused to see it any other way but her narrative - a happy kid that wouldn't take his own life.. This is why it's so imperative to be aware of our children's emotional needs and mental health, whether your beliefs acknowledged it, or not... I hope this young man is at peace..
"Do you do hugs?" - an absolute turning point for his mother. It's extraordinary to watch the process over such a short time period of her going from 'stuck' and frozen stiff with uncertainty and denial to that moment of the sudden lifting of all of the tension. When she said that despite it being so awful it was simultaneously all "a little better" - and her light smile as the car was about to leave - it was like watching a great rock being lifted off the back of a tiny butterfly. That's why what you do is so, so important. It's the not knowing that eats people alive.
Why no one has responded to your comment so far beats me. You got to me! I found it very deep and meaningful. I picked up on the mum's "hugs" thing too and I get what you say. That was her way of at last knowing, and finally giving in to the inevitable truth. Although I have never been involved in a scenario like this, I so get what you say, what you observed. Jed's mum's reaction, your comment to it, my reaction to you - could that be what makes us human with spirit and soul?
As a parent who has lost a child, her response is understandable. I feel her loss. I still expect my son to walk in the door 6 years later. Hi Mom, what's for supper? I've been mad, cried, laughed, screamed at the top of my lunges, cursed, begged and just talked to him. We will never really know why this happened to their child. Any number of things could have happened. But now the healing can begin for them. I pray for their peace and wish them white light and calm surround them.
This comment just completely broke my heart and brought me to tears, I cannot imagine your heartache. I dont know you but I send prayers and thoughts to you
The fact that his mom started with "he is" and then went to "was" says so much. Deep in her heart she knew, just didn't want toadmit it. I hope his family is doing okay. R.I.P Jed
Hope is debilitating. You just get stuck, thinking any minute now I’ll get the answer and how it will play out. As much as the truth hurts it’s better to find out and deal with the pain than be stuck as life passes you by. I’m just now realising I haven’t really been present in my life for a very long time.
So you found in under 20 minutes what the police didn't in four YEARS? His parents have spent four years worrying, wondering what had happened to their son, suffering all that time. That's awful. I feel so bad for them. And thank you for all that you do. You're amazing.
Most places don’t have the latest and greatest tools at their disposal. The equipment on Jared’s boats probably runs around 10-15,000$. Also AWP is very very good at what they do. I don’t think this is truly a fault of this department. Just lack of tools and knowledge.
Don’t hold the police in such a high regard! They are more concerned with stuffing our prisons full of non violent or totally innocent people to keep the criminal justice business rolling!
Thats because most cops are out there harming people not helping. I think it was said that his father was a cop. That helps me to understand the way his mom responded.
@@garyross1279 dont judge all of the police. Yes, while its true that some cops are abusing their powers, many are still genuinely providing service to their people. As for why the police spent 4 years vs 20 mins for AWP, you have to take into consideration that the police have to start from scratch. They have to consider so many factors, add to that the cops are literally jack of all trades, master of none due to budget constraints, as what the comment above have stated.
Yeah been watching a lot of this videos and in highly probable areas they find the car really fast and police swear they looked all over in that area etc police probably lied or sent out some guy without proper training and equipment for a few mins and then gave up and the police said we tried and gave up
It’s so sad to hear how hopeful his mother was that he was going to walk into his childhood home at any time for the past 4 years. Not knowing that he has been dead that whole entire time. This one hit me a lot different.
I'll be honest. In my darkest tines it was pretty much solely knowing of my parents love that would stop any thoughts of doing something similar to this. Its really sad when he also had this and didn't know, and super sad as well to know that there are a lot that don't even have that. I had a friend in like her 50s that did it...difficult situations with her ex where everything spiraled after their daughter/son graduated. Alcohol for I think both was involved. I felt something was up, but lost my contact with her when she went off Facebook because a family member, in law?!? Got mad at her calling herself family. Same time, that Woman wept at her passing. I was a little angry of it. Especially hearing more details of her treatment and knowing it was beyond the alcohol. I also felt bad knowing my friend acquaintances at work went out for drinks with her and had her number.
I broke down when she said, “do you do hugs?” Those poor parents. I can’t imagine what they were feeling, watching his vehicle pulled out of the water. I’m just glad that they have finally gotten some closure, in that they can start to begin grieving his death instead of not knowing where he is and if he is okay. What an amazing organization to help just out of the goodness of their hearts. Thank you for all you do. Also, your compassion and sensitivity to the feelings and emotions that people are experiencing does not go unnoticed and is so special.
The way Amy kept correcting herself in tense, saying "is" and then accidentally reverting back to "was" absolutely broke my heart. I am so sorry for this families loss.
I don't think she was correcting herself, she still believed he was very much alive. When she used past tense terms, it was when she was speaking about things he used to do; such as, when he was a student because he no longer is a student. When he was a child because he's no longer a child. I believe she was talking in present tense and putting the past tense where it should be.
@@chillichew5712 When my mother died a few months ago, I kept referring to her as "is" and it truly is out of habit. Having to correct myself and say "was" was always devastating, too, so sometimes I'd just say "is" to make it hurt less
I think the scene where the mom asked, “Do you do hugs?” and Doug said yes and embraced her is emblematic of all you do. “We do hugs!” Should be the slogan of the AWP community. We mourn with you.
This mother should not be judged for how she behaved. It’s her grief and there’s no wrong way for her to express it. She’s been feeling this pain and heartache for years while we only experienced it second hand through a screen for
I have questions; plenty of questions. But at the same time, it is not my place to judge her. May the Hall family find the one thing they most deserve - peace.
She held on to hope, even till the end she held out for hope. Sad but she was not ready to part ways with her kid, even though he’s been missing for years
When she realized that her son really was in that car, the look on her face completely changed to a traumatized look. She was in front of many people, as well as on camera, trying to be strong when she had fully believed that her son was still out there somewhere, and would pull in the drive one day. I could see the pain...and shock...very plainly. God bless her, this Momma still holding out hope...then having that hope crushed. I'm grateful AWP found him for her...at least now she knows, and can lay her baby to rest. 🙏
You could tell she was feeling it. Her arms were crossed in front of her defensively. Also, when they were talking earlier before they pulled the car, she sounded tearful. I feel for this family, I hope they can move on with their grief together.
Oh man. This one hurt alot. His mom was so not ready for this. My heart breaks for her. The love and compassion you guys show every video is incredible. 🖤
No one should ever judge a mother for the way she responds to something so tragic. There would be no greater pain and there are no rules in how one copes with something so devastating and heart wrenching as the loss of a child.
I saw my both parrents in their very last moment. And believe me my reactions were simmilar. You are in some kind of "survival shock". It helps you to stay on your feet, huge wave of emotions came later.
Exactly! People do grieve differently. And I can totally see absolutely breaking down on the inside. She may seem to have walls up BUT she’s doing that to protect her heart and to keep from outwardly breaking down. I know her reaction all too well. When my brother was murdered I felt the same.
As a mom who lost a son at 17, I can tell you that you have moments of being able to hold it together, and moments of when you totally lost it! She did very well, for as long as she did. I'm sure she completely fell apart once she was home, and it "hit" her. She had the look of denial and shock, which can mask her responses. You never "get over it." You just learn how to live with it. RIP Jed. God bless his parents and family!
I lost my daughter at 20. I totally get her response. For the people that are so mean. You tell me how you would react after having some kind of hope for 2 weeks. And then, given no hope for your child . 💔 she's definitely in shock. 😢
Personally i feel like that “damn you” was equal parts anger and regret towards Jed for having chosen to take his own life instead of asking for help, and towards herself for not realizing he was struggling and needed help. It’s unfortunately a scene that plays out far to often.
I am a 76yr old British Army Veteran, and at this moment, I am in Bits watching my heart and deepest sympathy go out to Jedd's Mum & Dad and all those who knew and loved him. Eternal rest give unto him, O'Lord and let perpetual light shine upon him; God bless you, Jedd, May you rest in the arms of our Lord, Amen
What Lord??🤨 same Lord who sow this poore boy struggle and abounded him when he needed his help the most?? Lord who didn't care about his pain and the pain of his parents!! Lord who watched phedophile priests rape little, innocent children for DECADES and did nothing to stop their abuse!!! What a father would watch his children in pain and do NOTHING to sve them, or give them hope??
I am a 20 yr corrections officer. I often hear the stories from the monster end. So You men are the sweetest angels ever. The work you do is very beautiful and very well done professionally. They broke the mold when they made this team of folks. Thank you for what you do. ❤
This was absolutely heartbreaking to watch. Seeing Jed's parents hopes and wishes come to an end. You can hear the anger, sadness and love as his car is pulled up. They now know where he's been but still have no answers as to why he would take his own life. Just devastating. When I look back on my 54 years on earth and think about the things that seemed so difficult for me at that time, especially as a teen, those times now seem so small and insignificant. To everyone who thinks there's no reason to go on because something is too difficult, please seek help. I hope Jed's parents, family and friends are all getting the comfort they need.
Yes more of this because it’s so very true. My parents used to say sui is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and it’s true. As long as you’re still alive there’s always a chance for things to be better than you could ever have hoped for.
They found my husband who died in the lake when they were searching for someone else. They were both found that day in the same area using sonar. It took a year and a half to find my husband. I am thankful for this technology.
@@bethmorzewski I’m so sorry but I’m so glad you got to bury him and you had your closure.. the not knowing would absolutely kill me. ❤️🙏🏻prayers sweetie.
When the police came to my home to tell me my husband was dead from suicide, I was numb. Didn’t feel real. My oldest daughter collapsed immediately so I had to be so strong for her and my kids. It wasn’t until days later after the service the grief hit me like a avalanche. Physically I felt like my body was shutting down. I wailed and couldn’t stop shaking, near convulsions, it was torment. I can say time has been my comfort and my friend. But in those first hours, days and months it was brutal. My heart breaks for anyone with those thoughts and the families left behind.
I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope within time you and your babies are able to heal and move forward, never forget, but to be able to live and enjoy life after your loss xx
People don’t do that for no reason, and as his wife you should’ve been more perceptive of his emotions, if I HAD to guess YOU weren’t very good as a wife
For those of you upset about what the mom said, look at the interview. She was so checked out, she firmly believed that her son was alive. She went through all the stages of grief in one instant on camera. Moms who are upset, until you've lost a child you won't understand.
'Do you do hugs?' absolutely broke me. God bless Jed, his mum, dad, family and friends. What an amazing team, finally bringing some closure to such a wonderful couple.
As a mother of 4, it broke my heart watching this episode Jed's mom was using the present term when she spoke about him just so sure Jed was just gone to become his own man. This is so sad because I know I would feel like I was hit by a massive blow. I am glad Jed is able to have a resting place so his mom can go to.
My mom's uncle was lost during WW2 and she has spend enormous amounts of money for psychics to tell her how he had lost his memory but is living fine, which of course is BS but she chooses to believe that the uncle who went missing 20 years before she was even born will remember them and return to the family. It just doesn't matter how much time passes as long as she's able to keep the hope alive and it is exhausting.
@@annak8755 Can I asked if you know why she care so much if she never even met him? Literally everyone has family members who died before they were born, and they have absolutely no attachment to them. It seems strange that she would latch onto a story that came from so long before she was born.
@@LexitaMai because her mom/my grandma went to a psychic who told her the uncle was alive and all her life they've been talking about him as if he is just living very far. And my mom started going to psychics as soon as she was old enough at this point the story (without any evidence) is that he met a woman in Poland and had 2 sons and a daughter, according to one psychic that "reads the future" on cards, and just 2 sons, according to another that "speaks with the dead". And none of them have said that the uncle should be dead even if he had survived WW2 because my mom still pays them at least twice a year. Heck, she is even paying the first lady's bank loan. And that's why I hate people who lie to the families hoping that their loved ones are ok.
I hadn't heard about this group until today in the Kiely Rodni case.... you guys are some of the finest in America. Thank you for what you do .... My condolences to Jed's mother and father and to all of his family and friends..... Peace be with you. RIP young man ♥️🙏🏻♥️
This one really broke my heart. The poor parents. I wish them peace and I hope everyone out there can be supportive and kind. Thank you AWP for everything you do to help families across the states and the world
Having lost a younger brother to suicide, I can feel that family's pain. The mothers reaction made perfect sense to me. I guess a lot of you haven't been through something like that, and thank God, I genuinely hope you never have to. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to learn to cope with, and I'm not even sure I'm coping that well
It’s particularly tragic that his car was so close to the bank and the ramp… four years of agonising not knowing and hope for his parents, all while he was barely 10 feet from the shore. You guys do incredibly important work, both in the diving and handling the emotions of the case. Rest well, Jed.
Just heart breaking. Thanks for sharing this bc my mind was saying how is the mother and father doing today give her our love and it don't get better you put on a v smile for everybody but even time doesn't heal the last of a loved one 🙏🏻💙❤️
This Sheriff was such a sweetheart! He was a true public servant. God bless! Answers for Nathan's family! That was a hard recovery to watch....Thank you guys for all you do. 😊
My MIL let me know yesterday that you have contacted her regarding looking for my husband's Grandfather. I just wanted to say Thank you. I've been watching your videos since you brought your first person home and I appreciate so much what you do for these families. Thank you for agreeing to look for Ron.
As someone who was suffered and survived depression and suicide. The people who need the most help will almost always be the ones who hide it the best.
@Andy Dufresne, I agree with you totally. Although I do not know you, I understand only too well what you have been through. Thankfully, you are a survivor and you can go on to help others. Blessings to you. 🙏
I agree wholeheartedly having been through similar myself. Those who need the help the most I find tend to be those who help others because they no what it's like to be without the help.
When I got the news, my son had died, I was dumbfounded. He never stopped smiling, he never was in any pain or distress, he was always happy, outgoing, and full of life. When he took his own life, we understood his smile hid his pain. His smile and laughter were a mask to make sure no one ever knew what he was suffering.
My boyfriend died in my arms when I was 19 and I had a completely blank stare for literally days before I showed real emotion. And I am EXTREMELY emotional and empathic. You just never know how you will react to trauma.
My Condolences whether it was long ago or recent. The pain is the same.... This will be my 1st time talking about this. It's not easy. But there's a point to what I'm saying. I'm a very emotional person and when I was 18 my then boyfriend got sick and long story short I would have anxiety attacks when I would think of him dying. I swore I would lose my mind. 3 weeks after giving birth to our beautiful baby boy. He passed away due to another complication, It wasn't even from his sickness. So it was shocking and all I remember was wondering why I couldn't cry. I noticed after that I would lose loved ones, Mother/Father and I wouldn't cry. Year's later I broke down. Maybe it was too much loss, not sure but I'm saying all this because it's NOT that I didn't care. I love my family and friends with all my heart but it's just how I grieve I guess. It's because WE ALL GRIEVE DIFFERENTLY. It never ceases to amaze me how negative people can be and swear when they say "oh they didn't cry so they had something to do with it" OR "they didn't cry so that means they didn't care" smh. If you've never been in those shoes. Keep your mouth shut! May God bless and heal all those who are hurting. 🙏
@litatorres1989 so sorry for your loss. I so agree with you. We all grieve in different ways. When I lost my mom in December of 21 ( covid) it was a pain like no other. She was black Friday shopping in November of 21 and afterwards went to breakfast. She asked my sister if she felt warm. Not feeling well. The fevers began. In 3 weeks she was gone. I was so angry the 1st year I couldn't grieve ( something that happened in the hospital) once I asked God to help me get over my anger ( He did) the crying was nonstop for months. I can go a day or 2 now without crying and then days nonstop. Of course this has me crying. I messaged my own son near 1 am. He's 36. I texted him to tell him I love you son.... I just needed too. Sorry to go on and on. Again, so sorry for your loss... Stay safe out there everyone 🙏 Much love from North Carolina 💙
Hearing the Mother changing between “He is” and “He was” signifies that she is hopeful that he may still be alive, but her intuition (The Psychology) knows that he has already passed. Prayers for the Family and RIP Jed Hall💙
This was incredibly difficult to watch because the parents were so sure he wasn't going to be in there. I totally get how Jared was feeling. God bless y'all for everything you do and my prayers go out to Jed's family. How heart-wrenching.
Yea when she looked at the camera and said call ur mom damnit and then chuckled, u could tell she was completely convinced he was still alive, definitely hard to watch…
The parents were dreaming that he was living a crazy life with the French Foreign Legion and learning french. This was so heartbreaking especially when she said that they were never going to get answers. I also felt so bad for Jared and Doug, I can understand why they were so conflicted.
Im.just glad someone reached out to help them get closure even though they didn't want this ending a life searching I think is even harder then the truth. Nothing he did would gave made anyone love him less. So to bad he felt this was his only option
She said he had so much to live for. Too bad he didn’t come to that realization on his own. Maybe she can talk privately to the girl he seemed to care for. Just to learn more about his frame of mind. If the girl cares to reveal more to the parents that would be gracious on her part.
Wow, I think we just witnessed his mum go through every emotion and stage of grief right there on camera. I hope they find some closure and begin to process this tragedy.
@@badboybullterriers4104 Funerals may bring closure but I'm not confident about the happy memories part. Loss is not easy but if we live long enough, we will go through a LOT of it.
What an absolutely incredible service this is. As the daughter of a mom missing since 1998, nothing is worse than not knowing what happened to your loved one. As painful as this is for mom and dad, I hope they can rest knowing he is at peace and they can lay him to rest. God bless, Jed. Rest in peace.
I would hope that these agencies who "search the area multiple times" have a review process to improve their methods after AWP comes in and finds him in 20 minutes.
Exactly, I was thinking the same thing. Part of me hopes that they tried instead of just walking the bank and thinking there’s nothing to go on and divers are expensive.
They were searching in the area where his phone stopped pinging in a different area of Snake River. They followed promising leads; traveling to other states. Tbh, I think if he had been found right away, it would have decimated the mother. Four years there'd be a slight breathing room because the mother so desperately wanted Jed to be alive. Intrusive thinking that he might be dead was possibly present there as well. There's a grace in that I think. 🤍
Alot of these cities and counties are understaffed just dont have the manpower and unfortunately the process of investigation is flawed They dont hsve the experience in searching underwater as in this case They dont hsve the funds to realy do good extended searches they had searched the water yet somehow missed a car in shallow water because they just don't have the right no how These guys have the best equipment which helps but their ways of investigation has been honed in such away to be more sucessful at what they do . No little piece if evidence is thrown out. I think alot of detectives just dont understand how the smallest details can make. Difference. No question these guys could step up to the next level and teach other agencies what they are doing right . You must remember though even though these guys have found people their percentages are not real high. Yes they can find out where someone isn't more than where they are but they help narrow down the searches which is a big help . Not everyone missing is in the water somewhere. There are so many reasons why people go missing. My hat is off to these guys Because they do give hope to others that thry might find a love one If they wasn't doing this these sucess stories wouldn't exist I love this team for what they do !!
Thank you for bringing some sense of peace and closure to Jed’s family. My fiancé committed suicide and was lost under water for 6 months. I knew but I didn’t know, and finally having him found helped give me the answers to start healing. It was 10 years ago and, even though I still cry, it does get easier. Time heals, not because we forget, but because we remember. The happy memories, the inside jokes, the way he said “I love you”, those thoughts keep him alive in my heart. We may never know why people suffer or the true reason for why their heartbreaks, even though we try so hard to understand. Sending lots of love to the family. Keep an eye out for signs from him, they make come when you least expect it.
@@davidwoermansr man idc even if someone says hes not okay than u know its a lie or if they are rlly happy and stuff man we needa be carefull w eachother cuz suicides go up every minute
As a mom, I cannot fathom the loss they are feeling. I'm absolutely sobbing for them, and Jed. Is it weird it hurts more as I was born and raised for the first bit of my life in Idaho? I pray for solice and the comfort of the lord for them and Jed. Thank you guys for bringing him home. ❤
When you told Jed’s parents that you found him my heart broke for them. The pain on their faces when they were told was heartbreaking. I lost my 22 year old son in 2016 I know that pain well, I’ll never forget the moment the police told me that my son had died the pain that I felt at that moment was unbearable. It’s a pain that no parent should ever have to feel. My heartfelt condolences go out to his parents they are in my thoughts.
I feel your pain and theirs as well my daughter was murdered 10 years ago she was 3 haunts me daily and is a struggle but manage my heart goes out to anyone who lost a loved one your not alone
Thank you so much for finding Jed. I know Alan and Amy through a club we are both members in, have camped at their place, and my kids are the same age as Jed, so they played together. We were devastated when he disappeared, have shared info several times over the years, and always, always wondered. Just such a sad story. But, thank you. What you do is so important, and your finding Jed has prompted me to join the channel to help other families out there.
There's 5 stages of grief. The fact the Jared knows how to speak to these parents with so much empathy because they're not through the stages completely is amazing to see!!!
@yolandabaltaz7768 There is a " model" for many stages of grief, it's not set in stone. Some people stress more about the application to the model than the loss itself!
He has training in grife councling/sensitivity. A lot of search and rescue people get it when they have a high possibility of dealing with families. If I remember right Jared was a search and rescue guy before he started AWP.
Losing my cousin who was like a brother to suicide, I felt that "damn you" to my core. There are several stages of grief and anger is one of them. When we lost my cousin my uncle was angry at his son for causing his mother and siblings so much pain. I will never forget after his funeral when my uncle understandably had a few drinks, he broke all the way down letting out his honest raw emotions and explained how angry he was and I vividly remember telling him it's normal to feel that way and he gave me the tightest hug and asked me if he thinks my cousin would be upset with him for being angry with him and it just broke me. I told my uncle to think about just how much pain and suffering he was going through to actually take his own life knowing how bad it would hurt them and to think about how he felt knowing that he knew that would be the only way to end all of his suffering and that his baby boy is God arm's safe and sound and in no more pain. So I sure hope anyone judging this poor mother, takes a moment to put themselves in her shoes and try to understand her emotions at the time. It's utterly heartbreaking. 💔 Rip Jed 🙏🕊
This one really hit home for me. This is my home. My father drowned in this river. I have a horrible phobia about drowning. The river is in the middle of town so there’s no way to avoid crossing it. Every single day is a reminder of how fragile life is and how quickly the river can take it away.
I cried so hard when his Momma said “Damn you!” I can’t even imagine the pain! I held my daughter tight and reminded her that there is nothing she could do that couldn’t be fixed, nothing that would make me not love her! Remind your children that they can talk to you about ANYTHING and then listen without getting angry.
Many would find that a negative. But i too have uttered the same words; nearly everytime i hear the sudden death of a freind or loved one.. I say "damn you" instead of freaking out or breaking composure. And i truly mean it. It's like a disappointment in destiny that we'll never ever see that person again.. Many might think his mum's not hysterical or breaking down.. ..and as humans whom are unknown to different emotions, they can just think all they want.. I appreciate what you wrote.. Thank u...
I'm glad you talked to your daughter and remind her every so often, but not too much. I've seen so many young people commit suicide all because they were afraid of parent's reaction. One of the more common ones is damaging a car. That is so awful on the parents, knowing their kid ended their life forever because they were afraid of your anger/words. It happened to a fellow officer and that poor guy doesn't have a day in his life where he doesn't think about his teenage son and what life could have been like if he was still living. Don't be quick to judge or "assess" or comment on another person's grief reaction. Everyone is different. If you can't be compassionate or helpful, then be quiet.
I have a son almost the exact same age as Jed. He’s now 21 and about to start 4th year university. He’s suffered depression for years, and I can only think that could just as easily have been me in Jed’s mom’s place. My love goes out to her and Jed’s father.
For me, the viral illness, presumably influenza, is the biggest clue. We know an infection in adolescence can activate the autoimmune pathway leading to a major form of schizophrenia in children that have the immune 'priming' due to a prenatal infection. All of a sudden, during that illness, he began to avoid the societal interaction that was natural to him, and wanted to be in a different part of the house. Only a neuropsychatric expert would have possibly recognized the warning sign that a psychotic episode could be about to manifest.
I've now been watching Adventures With Purpose for a few months, after randomly stumbling upon the channel, and as a Vehicle Recovery driver & Deceased Recovery driver myself, These kinds of "missions" are the worst.. Now, i live in Denmark where not too many of these cases happen, Here its mostly car crashes etc, but going home after such a mission, knowing that whoever was in the vehicle, is no longer with us, knowing that the family has lost a loved one too early, is just the absolute worst feeling. I'm not sure if Jared and Doug will at any point read this.. But guys, i really hope you guys take care of your mental state, Talk to the people you need to talk to after every mission to ensure that nothing builds up mentally for you guys, 'cause at the young age of 28, it recently just resulted in a long sick period for me having to take care of my mental health.. You guys are doing an amazing job, and even though i'm not a parent yet, i personally understand how these people feel in these situations, and i really hope that this brought proper closure to Jed's Family.. - I'd love to see an update on some of the families you've helped get answers over the years, Like, has it helped them move on? Are they happy you guys came along, all that stuff, basicly just some interviews with the families, if thats something you guys would ever consider doing i'm sure more people than just me would love to see those videos.
Mine too. I really cant find the right words myself. Jed had a wonderful lopsided smile, it was the first thing that stood out to me. I wish his parents peace, and strength. Many blessings to them. I hope, in time, they can remember him as he was, and without the crushing weight of loss. God Bless everyone who loved him. ⚘💔
After watching much of the episode I tend to think that Jed changed his mind about his plan but it was too late. If I remember correctly suicides usually roll the windows down and his were not. I also noted that the remains were close to the back of the car, something which I think also happened in the case of the young man who drove into the lake after a party in a farming community. While they certainly had moved the car enough that remains might have shifted around, I wonder if he didn't regret his devision and try to swim his way out.
As someone with depression I can relate to this kid so much. We put on faces and we hide the depression with smiles and jokes. I'm glad Jed has come home. Much love to his family and to AWP. AWP continues to handle things with such grace and dignity that it makes me proud to be a follower of this channel.
My thoughts are with you and I pray you have the support you need when things get too rough for you. There's always hope. Even when it seems there is none. I'm living proof of that. I'm praying for you.
@@denisef1684 I have a great support system and I am on medication. I'm doing much better than I used to be. But when I was a teenager it was terrible.
@@Curious.Badger I my self have depression as well i have good day's and bad day's and i am also on medication and you are right we put on a front that other people don't see
I feel like Jed didn't get the help he needed because his parents are really good at pulling on those rose colored glasses. The refusal to accept that he was anything other than a 'happy boy's days a lot about how he may have had his depression downplayed.
I hope Jared and crew see a therapist regularly. This kind of work isn’t really for people with big hearts and Jared is obviously affected by each and every discovery/recovery. He has a talent that always brings conflicting emotions
@@alexbellington9243 just wondering... how many dead teenagers have you found underwater in a car? Thought so.... There’s this amazing thing you can do with your finger and that is click on something else. There’s another thing you can do with a finger and I’m doing it towards you right now...
@@alexbellington9243 I don’t think I could do it at all to be honest with you. I know it’d be a awkward moment and weird things come out of my mouth in awkward situations. I will agree that Jared used to be how you say he is but he’s gotten much better at giving the spotlight to someone else lately. Don’t forget Dr Phil’s crew was filming him also. He just tries to say things to make people feel better and sometimes it don’t come out right. No need to bust his balls about it. He’s trying to be compassionate
As a firefighter, who has seen many persons deceased, and witnessed them as they were in their last moments, we become attached and they become our family member.....yes, each and everyone of these people, remain with us, for the rest of our lives....and just because we are emergency personnel, we react to death too. What used to bother me the most, was the build up to their demise.
My cousin passed away in a lake rescuing about 5 of his friends from drowning. He ended up drowning hisself & they all left him there. It took about a full week for the search team to find my cousin. And the entire time, even knowing they left him in that lake. I didn’t want to believe he was in there. I painted every other picture but him dying in the lake. I appreciate and pray for all of those who work to help resolve cases like this. I’ll never know how you guys wake up and choose your be you and you’ll forever be blessed.
I feel for you guys. As a former fire fighter I had to cut a dad out of his car that he was pinned in. His wife was DOA but his young son was safe in his car seat. Dad was screaming at me to take care of his family. I also knew the extent of dad's injuries were fatal. So I had to calm dad enough to explain this to him so he could say goodbye to his son. Always hoped I would have the chance to tell his son what he said when his son was grown up. It is never easy to have to tell someone this kinda stuff but it is also the right thing to do. This was the only call I ever think about. Through the pain of truth, you bring peace
I love how dad held onto his wife. Jed seemed to have the perfect life. Great parents, hobbies most of us could only dream of at his age, a charter school.. we never know what is going on in someone's mind. A coworker recently lost her 14 yr old son to suicide. He had a little argument with his girlfriend decided to h@ng himself in his bedroom that night. Mom found him in the morning. How do you function after seeing that? Our children are our worlds. For anyone struggling please reach out. You are loved♡
Jared, finding the car, with the boy in it, is a blessing to this mom and dad, even though they may not be able to say so today. In the long run, you have saved them from years of turmoil and anxiety. They are free from the prison of not wanting to leave home, lest their son arrive there while they are away. You did a wonderful thing for them, and the day will come when they will say so themselves. Take comfort from God who loves you, and Jed. Be at peace that you have done a marvelous thing. There is no reason you should feel bad. You have done a great service.
Few months ago someone found a young man that went missing in 1976! He was in his car. His mother died early this year. Father died a few years earlier. It’s sad to know they never got closer. Some families never do.
The not knowing is absolutely the worst. The mom was in the same state of denial my sister in law was when my niece went missing. She couldn't believe that anything bad could have happened and that my niece was just being naughty. It caused a huge rift in the family that has not been repaired since the mom kept telling us not to look for Jordan, that she would come home. She completely lost her mind after Jordan's body was found, but it took almost a year for my sister in law to fully comprehend everything because of how much she had convinced herself of her own narrative.
Looking past the tragic subject matter, this is like a great TV show that's not on TV. Really demonstrates how far RUclips content has come. Great stuff, keep up the great show and the meaningful work.
“So we’re still not going to get any answers why.” Broke my heart. I know that sweet family wanted to think the best case possible. I really hate that this was the outcome. My heart goes out to them.
The answer is probably the most common. Poor kid was in teenage hell (no offense to the family) some people think this is the only way out. And if he left notes at home at school, there’s not much left to realize. I’m so sorry for the friends and family.
What Jed’s mom is showing us, her firm grip on hope, is one of the most heartbreaking yet beautiful pictures of love. I have no doubt that there was a point early on when she knew that Jed was gone, but how do you get up each day and carry on knowing that your baby is gone when you could be wrong? So the pain of uncertainty was covered in hope and optimism, and a thousand scenarios that end with her boy walking through the door one day asking what the fuss is all about. My heart breaks for these parents
i’m so glad we have people like them who continue to find these people and bring answers to these families. the fact those waters were searched multiple times without finding anything and they found him in twenty minutes says it all.
Jared and Doug as an ICU nurse for more than two decades I can completely understand giving families and loved ones the worst news that anyone can imagine. No mother is ready to give up hope that their child will wakeup and come back to them. Children aren't ready to say goodbye to parents. We see many people on the very worst day of their lives and so do you. Please be sure to take care of your own mental health for the sadness and grief you carry with you always. They are not just case numbers. I never hear either of you call them by anything but their names. They are real people who had hopes and dreams who took a wrong turn and were lost along the way. Thank you for all you do to bring answers and peace.
I'm really worried for this poor mom, she's seen it in real time but it's not yet registered with her, she's going to need a lot of help to work through this. The AWP crew are also clearly crushed by this one, so please guys, look after yourselves. Much love, and hugs, to each and every one of you.
Hard to understand if he really didn’t confide in someone about his innermost thoughts. Enough to prevent this outcome. The money part was troublesome and foreboding to the action he planned to take.
@@arielsea9087 Many people don't give warnings before taking their lives. Someone I love attempted (and thankfully survived) - he didn't tell anyone anything. Not his girlfriend, not his friends, not his family, no one. No one had any idea he was at that point. Yes, many people do seek help in some way before getting to that place, but many others don't. And as for the money - yes, definitely a bad sign, but it was left a few hours prior - it's not like he did that days/weeks before such that someone could have realized and tried to get him help.
@@Andrew_kiwi_AF I have spent a lot of time studying suicide and I can tell you it’s definitely *not* true that those who talk about it don’t go through with it. That is simply irresponsible to suggest. Always tell someone if someone you know is speaking of suicide.
Regarding your concerns about taking hope away from the family: I was a neuro nurse for six years and dealt on a daily basis with devastating brain injuries and grieving families. As time passed and hope for a miraculous recovery faded, I saw families frozen in time because no one spoke candidly (but with compassion) about the condition of their loved one. Inability to let go and move on can devastate lives. Honesty is what they need. In the long run it is better. It is not easy but it can be done. And you’re not really taking away their hope. You’re giving them the tools they need to move on. Bless you and keep up the good work.
When people figure out their purpose in life. Some people lean towards serving others. A.W.P has definitely found their purpose in their lives. Interconnecting with people when they are their most distraught, and treating them with respect and kindness. The world would be a much better place with more like AWP. Rest In Peace Jed.
In a small way I think I understand what Jared is talking about. I'm a paramedic and it's always harder to deal with when you have to give tragic news to loved ones who are unsuspecting or caught off guard. Thank you for still continuing to do the work and please keep well. Thoughts go out to the whole team and the family of Jed.
@@crazychase98 Wait until you have a child of your own flesh and blood, or adopted. You never give up hope that they would come back, so obviously in the back of one’s mind you do know that it looks bleak. I don’t think she’s a stupid woman I’m sure she knew this was the likely outcome, nonetheless absolutely brutal for any parent to have to go through. I can’t imagine losing my son he just turned 18, I would be absolutely devastated!
And I finally understand why he tried to ignore cases that are too early or the family members are too hopeful their missing ones is still alive. It shows how hard the crews feels in this video. And it is extremely hard for the family members too
This is so tragic. My heart hurts for Jed's family, especially for his mom. You can tell she truly didn't believe (or strongly didn't want to believe) that Jed was in the river. She believed he was still out there when she referred to him in the present tense. She held onto that hope until the very end, and I get what you're saying. Jared, that you don't want to take her hope away. But you and your team were able to end the wondering, the unknowns, the waiting that would have gone on forever. And you were able to do it with genuine compassion for Jed and his family.
She held it together so well for the cameras. I’m so sad that she’s in such deep denial. She doesn’t want it to be true that he’s gone, nor that he took his own life. No parent wants to hear that. This was so tragic.
@@mimibee626 oh my god, shut up. She did not say it like that, she’s hurting. Many people who lose loved ones to suicide go through a phase where they’re angry at their loved ones. What an insane thing to say. Sounds like projection to me, you’re the one who’s sick in the head.
@h̵e̵a̶v̴y̴h̸e̷a̷d̴2̴k̵1̸ wow your pure scum, I sincerely hope you get the help you need. To have something so tragic happen to you and for you to wish it on someone else is true cunt behaviour. You have no idea what your father was going through or thinking and by the sounds of it you being his child probably didn’t help you fucking psychopath. I understand being unhappy with his choice and it can seem selfish but you don’t understand what it’s like I am someone who deals with suicidal thoughts you have zero idea how hard it is to get through a day without the voice in the back of your head telling you your worthless or your a disappointment or that your waisting others time and resources and if you live with it so long you would do anything to stop it. I sincerely hope you change your attitude towards people and have a little compassion for those who maybe don’t have a good mental headspace or aren’t as stable as you you should be counted as lucky that you’ve never been depressed
Heart-wrenching. Imagine having 4 years of hope and theories of your son coming back, when you discover the whole 4 years he's been within 5 miles. My heart aches for jed's parents. I hope they're getting through life ok
I pray the AWP team stays strong!! Just the trauma and emotions in their voice is sooooo hard to hear!! Praying for you guys!! Thank you for bring these family closure!!
I was holding it all together till she said “Do you do hugs?” My thoughts and prayers are with the family and all who have been involved in finding young Jed. Keep up the amazing work AWP.
To the family and Friends of Jed. Know that we all shed a tear when he was found and that the heart of every viewer sends you our sincere Condolences. As a Parent, I can not ever fathom the depths of despair you folks have been through. Prayers sent for Jed and you all. To Doug And Jarred Good work. God has his hands upon your souls for doing these things that take their toll on your hearts and souls. Thank You for your dedication.
Jared, Doug, everyone associated with AWP, no parent to is ever ready to face the loss of child. Take it from a former military medic/EMT and sister of a parent that lost a child....it will never go away, the pain of losing a child. There is no easy way to tell a parent nor is there a way to prepare a parent to handle the loss. Surrounding you all with prayer, love and hugs 🙌🙏♥️🤗🤗🤗
@@MrSamisue27 That 'nine eleven supporter' account right there appears to be a troll projecting their own insecurities and perceived inadequacies looking for some attention on the back of people who truly and actually deserve it. What a pretzel to be so self-involved and callous when the rest of us find such comfort and community in being able to share our genuine and heartfelt support for AWP and the affected families and loved ones. I like that you highlighted this person's lack of empathy and hopefully it causes them to reassess their attitude especially in comment sections such as this. Trolls used to be so much more witty and comedic in their approach when they surfaced. Unfortunately 'nine eleven supporter' has a LOT to learn both in being any kind of good troll as well as how to emote their feelings in a less toxic manner. Peace and blessings to all those who are here in peace and support of AWP and the family and loved ones. Prayers and Jesus to the trolls who are yet to discover and hone in their EQ (emotional intelligence).
I feel like this was one you didn’t want to solve for Amy’s sake, but the purpose is to find answers. Jed sounded like a great kid. I admire Amy for her strength, love, and optimism. I pray someday Amy and her family can find peace now that they have answers. I appreciate how you involved Jed’s mom in your discussion about the process. I highly respect the police for really listening to Doug. The emotions were so high here. Jared, your reactions to this case and the fact that you can be vulnerable with your viewers shows how good of a person you really are. All of this and watching all the videos make my belief in what AWP does become stronger. This is why I support and continue to buy and donate. Lifelong supporter here! I witnessed the aftermath of a fatal accident where a drunk driver hit the drivers side door. The driver did not make it. He was only 31. I saw the body wrapped up. I cried. I don’t know how you guys do this. It takes a strong mind, loving heart, and great support system. That’s AWP!
@@Mayhemffs Completely agree! They’re amazing! I can’t imagine what it’s like being in their position. They never fail to impress me. At the end of the day though, they are people just like us. People that do so much good. We do good by helping them out.
I can’t imagine how hard it must be for the family so desperately holding onto hope he is alive somewhere and the just lose it in 20 minutes. You guys are amazing. Not just for what you do but for the way you approach these people like people. They know your intentions are good. You can not imagine how important your work is and how much piece you bring to people.
@@kelcritcarroll The problem is fuck asses like you. They were told he was alive and living, and no loving parent is going to look at that and willingly not believe it. The WANTED to believe their baby was alive so they believed what the very clearly shit PI told them. They were lied to! They were told a lie that said their child was alive. They were told a lie and naturally NOT wanting it to be a lie, they trusted it. Get mad at the fucking bastard who scammed a family and giving them fake hope, rather then getting mad at the family who just wanted their baby.
I am a mom. Her reactions were full of hope, and that is what it takes to be a strong mother. Her son made the decision to leave home. Our children can stress us out at times, so to be a parent, it is our duty to love them. My mother lost her husband and son in an small air plane crash. I remember my brother begging and begging my mother to let him go, on that plane. She gave in, and let him go. Howard was 9 years old. They never came back. She lived to be 81 years. She was a strong person, and she did her best, as a parent. So...God Bless all parents who do their best, when their child makes a choice 🙏
Amy, your one hell of a warrior. Guys, ive never seen you react like this before when you find a car. Is the one time ive seen hope for an alternative. I hoped too. I had those dreams when you spoke Amy. RIP Jed. You may never know why... you may never know all the answers but you have him from the murky depths. Well done again guys. Im still crying long after the video ended. This one is something different. If your reading this.. there is always a way to be like a pheonix and rise from the ashes.... its ok not to be ok. Be kind to eachother and remember. Someone always loves you xxx
Thank you so very much for saying “its okay not to be okay”!! It frustrates me that the message is always if you need help reach out, but yet nobody wants to hear you arent okay ..... even mental health professionals look at me strange when a discussion begins about the growing depression epidemic with those words. There definitely needs to be more conversation along these lines ❣️
@@FightingMECFS I agree whole heartedly! Emotional illness isn’t visible to those around us. So many social cues and yet many many family members and friends just don’t want to hear it, they don’t want to hear the truth, they don’t want to hear what you’re going through, they just want you to stiffen up and be “positive.” But emotional health does not heal that way, rather it’s by receiving hugs, it’s by receiving DPT therapy and the biggest one is just plain old LOVE. But families and friends need to understand that love is not a noun it’s a verb. You can say you love one all day long, but at the end of the day you need to show your love the way that person needs to receive it!
I'm glad this video was recommended to me. I don't think I knew of your channel when this video was originally published, but I've been watching your recent videos. In one of them, you found 20+ vehicles while looking for the one you were originally after. I didn't understand why you didn't dive on all of them - people will want to know. Your comment in this video about the family "not being ready to know" gave me the understanding I was looking for. Thank you for all that your team does. Best wishes!
So heartbreaking everytime Jed's mother corrects people when referring to him in the past tense. She wanted so much to have her son come home that the thought of anything else never occurred to her.
Giving people the closure they need, I think, is more valuable than we all could imagine. I think your team is doing more good than harm by doing it earlier. Thank you for all that you guys do.
When the mother said, "He had so much to live for." That broke my heart. Jed seemed like a good kid. I'm sorry that something made you feel it was better to leave than stay, Jed. 😞😞
Love and respect to his Mom and Dad. Their gratitude to Jared and Doug brought me to tears. They now have the finality of where but will have to continue grieving without the why.
@DriveAllNightSouthofknowing Aw, that really means a lot. I know how it's like living with depression. I also have my hard days but I try and fight to keep going and I hope they do, too.
Perspective is a fickle thing - a life that the parents think had such promise did not seem like that to Jed. Depression twists your mind and young adolescent males often dont open up about what they are feeling. I am so sorry that Jed felt this was what he wanted to do and so sorry for the parents. I hope that at least with the certainty of what happened and being able to put his remains to decent rest that this can be some comfort to them over time.
I grew up with Jed, we used to play night games together all the time. I remember the day he went missing like it was yesterday. Because of the drive by shooting my school was placed on shelter in place, when I found out he was missing I knew it wasn’t good. You’ve given many people answers today, thank you! Rest In Peace to an amazing person!
I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and let your friends know you'll be there for them too, and that there's help if you need it. Sending ❤️.
Sorry for your loss but I have a question? Your school has a drive by shooting? Was he the one who was a participant in that especially since the gun hustler was found in the car ? If so, that could explain why he did this to himself.. And if he was on medication for something like hypertension,it has actually been found that those pharmaceutical meds being handed out to kids are most causing these gun outbreaks by way of children/ students in schools. But big pharma is not going to allow that information to be broadcasted to the public about theyr medicines so we as a population have wonder why this bad things and shoot out happen in our schools.
@Nicky L not for high blood pressure. I meant meds for children like Ritalin which is common for conventional medicine educated doctors in America to give children. It has been that was since 1990s. Those meds are actually not good for kids but no pharmacy or pharma corporation will allow the general public in mass to know. Especially when they are funding American Medical schools which educated all conventional medicine practicing doctors
@@tmac6586 Niky L is right there was a shooting at a persons house who had been harassing his friend. They couldn’t prove it was him but they suspected it was. He was an amazing guy truthfully and I knew he was never a danger to any of us but they had to be safe.
It's very common when someone takes their own life, for the ones left behind to feel some anger towards that person. It's normal for this mother to lash out in her initial grief, angry and frustrated that her son would take this path instead of call her, talk to someone, reach out... My own family has been there. It's part of the grief, and part of the greater tragedy that ppl who harm themselves don't only end their own life, they drastically affect the lives of all those they leave behind. 💔
You two and your team are incredible human beings. Your camera crew captures the meaning and importance of your work to bring some closure to families who are in pain. My heart goes out to this family.
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To those of you who are speaking negatively about the mom’s reactions, you don’t know how you’d react if you were in her shoes. There’s no telling what’s going on inside her as well as what she endured that last 4 years. She doesn’t have to “act” in a stereotypical manner to please the masses. Everyone grieves differently and shows their emotions differently. However she reacted was appropriate for HER. She’s the one who lost a child, not you all.
I recently went to a charity fundraiser trivia night for one of the families of the Marines killed in the botched Afghanistan pull out airport bombing.
Midway through the mother was thankful to everyone, shaking hands, very grateful...by the end of the event she was hitting people, screaming, crying, had to be led out of the event. She was yelling how none of this would bring him back, none of your money matters, I want my son back not your sympathy, it got REAL. And I can't blame her. Her sons death, for no reason, has been politicized, it's all so public I can't imagine having to grieve that way.
Also how she grieved in privacy is sacred and may have been another story. The stages of grief hit us all differently as we all are individuals and process our own way. God bless this family and AWP.
When you discover shocking news, you can go into shock. You feel it’s not real and you can go through denial. Your brain can make attempts to falsify the truth. During this time, you can appear like you aren’t reacting.
Some people do not show emotions right away. Shook has sent in and then hurt and pain. It's sad another young life. A young man gained his wings to soon.
Well, I can assure you that g damn wouldn’t have come out of my mouth , but some people say it all the time so she might be one of those people.
While the "damn you" was directed to the son, I think it was more reflective of her pain. She is projecting her pain as a way to protect herself. Being angry is one of the stages of grief. Remember, he's been gone for a while so she is emotionally and mentally spent. That anger is the only thing protecting her emotions and mental state in that moment.
Yup. My dad went missing on purpose like it sounds that this boy did. I was so angry at my dad. Even if he was found dead (he was, two years later) I was angry at him for how he disappeared. Denial is also a thing--there is still a big part of me that thinks he was killed. That he disappeared on purpose, but he would have eventually come back. Maybe that's just denial, though.
I agree. I’d probably react the same if I were in her shoes.
Plus they think he took his own life so I think she's mad that he took his own life. I can't blame her a bit.
Losing a child is bad enough. But having to face that he “ended” in such a dark, desolate place. I’d imagine anger would be part of that. At everyone and no one.
Hopefully, she can go through the stages of grief now. This is the start for her.
This one really breaks my heart. She really thought he was still alive. Rest in peace. Prayers for his family.
And I was hoping he was still alive too
Rest in peace 🕊️
I think as a Mother, we would hold on to hope. Rip Jed x
"God damn you." ... Devastatingly tragic 💔. Thoughts and Prayers to Family and Friends ...
That “Damn you” was so incredibly powerful. So many meanings it has… shes angry he left, shes angry her hope is gone, shes painfully angry that her son gave up his life so soon with so much in front of him that he just couldn’t see. This entire video she is trying so hard to protect her feelings and maintain her composure in front of the investigators and the camera. I feel so sorry for the loss this family had to and still has to suffer through. There is never a good enough answer to “why”, someone takes their own life. None that will ease any pain or make for better understanding… so heartbreaking. Thank you for finding this boy, he deserves to be properly laid to rest with love. God only knows the pain inside of him that drove him to this point. Thank you so much for the services you provide these families.
Agreed.
Been nearly suicidal, been in that dark space.
I forgive Matthew Hall, he did not know what havoc he would cause.
Its just... pointless that he had to go that way.
Exactly.. And for those saying they had to be bad parents...no, he was a teenager. They aren't emotionally mature yet. Even little things can get blown out of proportion. How many teenagers think their parents are overprotective and strict.And had or have fights with their parents about that?And how Many now grownups now see why their parents were that way and they were right?
Anger is one of the first stages of grief. Perfectly normal.
I thought about doing what Jed did at 16… many years later now I realise just how young 16 is, there is so much time for things to improve in your life. To anybody reading this: I hope you know how loved you are. It’s always worth it to give life another chance. RIP Jed.
Yeah i'm that age rn. I've been thinking how easy it is for me to do it. Possible pain and possible fear/panic are accounted for. Knife to chest make me wuss out. Same with rope. But the car in river.... There's no backing out in that one. Might be the most peaceful way to go as well. Just to be clear, I just have a strong morbid curiosity about doing it not that I actually will. No need to reply to this reply lol.
@@theyuragoon3226 It's not that you want to kill yourself, you want to kill what's inside you. You already are living your BEAUTIFUL God given life...
this!! when i was younger i wish i knew that there would be people someday that loved me, that i love very much. i would have missed so many moments that mean so much to me now.
when i was in the heat of my depression i romanticized it so much, i probably would've responded to this comment talking about how bad i had it and that i was thinking about it strictly because i wanted attention- genuinely. but wanting attention is normal when you have severe problems like that, but attention seeking doesn't make things better (with that being said the best thing is to not respond to people like that, dont get pissed at them)
being younger you really have no true ability to understand how many YEARS of life you have to live and grow and change- no one talks about their heartbreaking breakups of highschool- not because they didnt hurt, but because it is such a small part of your life it gets drowned out some day, and that day will come, even when it feels like its been so long, it will happen
@@The.Best.Collector i was clinically diagnosed so first of all you are wrong, it is VERY common for people with depression to attention seek as it is a way of asking for help when you do not know to say it directly
@@The.Best.Collector this comment frustrates me particularly since you do not know my life and apparently know nothing about childhood depression- i felt i was faking it all for attention because i did those attention seeking behaviors WHICH LARGELY CONTRIBUTED TO WHY IT TOOK ME SO LONG TO GET HELP so its REALLY important to talk about because a lot of people feel the same way
I am a former cold case homicide Detective. The work you all do is amazing. God Bless you guys for bringing closure to families. Never saw your videos. First time viewer.
JGP thank you for your service as well 💙 yeah this was the first one I’ve ever watched and it hit me like a ton of rocks. Very hard to watch but at the same time heartwarming to know these families will have a little closure.
@@lindydean5993 I’m sorry for your loss. Are the Fortworth PD, Detectives investigating and is there a suspect that hasn’t been charged? What the name of the case?
@@NotFalling4it if you’re doing the right thing and coming forward I’m sure they will treat you well. My first thing would be to demand immunity for withholding the information for so long before I start talking
@@NotFalling4it Hi,
You should ask them the questions and keep it on the record for your own documentation. It really all depends. Are you working off charges? or are you providing information that you obtained from the perp? Since it’s an open investigation, I won’t comment much. You should definitely ask them all the questions you have. Write your questions down and request a sit down.
I hope your information leads to an arrest. I wouldn’t discuss or mention it on social media anymore. You don’t want to mess up the case they are working.
@@shannonsorrels6590 thank you Shannon. I will try to find him.
My daughter went to school with Jed. She spoke highly of him and how respectful, funny and intelligent he was. He will be missed by many. Rip Jed. Sending our condolences to his family.
what did the notes that he left say? if they weren’t suicide notes? that’s the only thing that seems strange to me.
@@TaylorMae27 This couldn't be just suicide, using the word 'suicide notes' in this case would be an insult since the car clearly shows different. He probably swirved offroad hit a rock or tree and died in the car when it went into the water.
I went to school with Jed in 7th grade. Seeing this video made me go back and find photos of him in my old yearbook. He had such a bright future and a kind heart. This news saddens me deeply. RIP Jed
@@avaloncarlisle1514 so very sad and confusing. such a young sweet person. I'm so sorry😥r.i.p Jed
@@avaloncarlisle1514 So much to live for :(
I see no reason to criticize this mother!!! The fact that she's present for this tells me that she loves her son. She is bragging about how wonderful he was, and sharing all of his accomplishments!!! I would say that she's very proud of him, as she should be. Sounds like a brilliant young man. I can't imagine what a mother/family goes through when a loved one is just suddenly "missing." My condolences to this family. I salute this amazing dive team for bringing answers to families. I LOVE WHAT YOU DO!!! May God bless you, and keep you safe as you do what you do.
I've lost my oldest son 4 1/2 yrs ago unexpectedly. The pain is unbearable. I saw a lot of myself in this mom. Now, the real healing begins. But it will take years.
Yes that is so very true
I haven't seen anyone criticising the mum.
Listening to the mom go between, “he is” and “he was” describing her son breaks my heart. That’s a parent struggling to hold out hope.
A mother never quits hoping, sometimes even when faced with the facts.
Thank you for pointing this out.. as sad as it is, it really open the human heart up to understanding and empathy
I did not notice that until your comment. Poor family.
I was hearing it too 😢
I'm in the crime scene cleanup business. Too often we come in after the fact and see traumatized families who were not treated with the gentleness, love and respect that you show your clients. Thank you for being sensitive with them. It changes everything.
❤ we were treated so poorly when my son was found unresponsive (fentanyl) and the nurses acted like we were a bother. I mean how can anyone actually love this addict 😢 rip my beautiful son Ryan 4ever changed. I was angry, hurt, devastated. His mama has the right to feel any old way she likes ❤❤ I was angry with him for choosing that path and sad that he was no longer here 😢
@@karens.strickland9634I am so sorry for your loss and the fact that you were not shown the love and compassion you deserved. The cause of a persons death should have no impact on how we treat a person who is grieving. The bottom line is that you lost the person you love and the last thing you need is to feel judged, or like your son was any less important because of how he died. I am sending you the biggest hug.
Jesus loves yall, died for us, and rose again! Jesus calls for all of us to repent! He's coming back!!!
@@karens.strickland9634So sorry medical personnel treated you so horribly and for the loss of your child 😢🙏
Denial is a powerful coping mechanism, that unfortunately hurts those around us.. In her mind he was a happy kid, but in reality life was clearly a very different story for this boy, than his mother wanted to believe or will acknowledge. Right up until his remains were found, she still refused to see it any other way but her narrative - a happy kid that wouldn't take his own life.. This is why it's so imperative to be aware of our children's emotional needs and mental health, whether your beliefs acknowledged it, or not... I hope this young man is at peace..
"Do you do hugs?" - an absolute turning point for his mother. It's extraordinary to watch the process over such a short time period of her going from 'stuck' and frozen stiff with uncertainty and denial to that moment of the sudden lifting of all of the tension. When she said that despite it being so awful it was simultaneously all "a little better" - and her light smile as the car was about to leave - it was like watching a great rock being lifted off the back of a tiny butterfly. That's why what you do is so, so important. It's the not knowing that eats people alive.
Why no one has responded to your comment so far beats me. You got to me! I found it very deep and meaningful. I picked up on the mum's "hugs" thing too and I get what you say. That was her way of at last knowing, and finally giving in to the inevitable truth. Although I have never been involved in a scenario like this, I so get what you say, what you observed.
Jed's mum's reaction, your comment to it, my reaction to you - could that be what makes us human with spirit and soul?
Nicely said♥️🙏
Beautifully said, I felt the same thing.
She has a lot of emotions to work through. I hope the family can get past the pain. RIP Jed.
Absolutely. Thank you for this comment. Stated perfectly.
As a parent who has lost a child, her response is understandable. I feel her loss. I still expect my son to walk in the door 6 years later. Hi Mom, what's for supper? I've been mad, cried, laughed, screamed at the top of my lunges, cursed, begged and just talked to him. We will never really know why this happened to their child. Any number of things could have happened. But now the healing can begin for them. I pray for their peace and wish them white light and calm surround them.
This comment just completely broke my heart and brought me to tears, I cannot imagine your heartache. I dont know you but I send prayers and thoughts to you
The fact that his mom started with "he is" and then went to "was" says so much. Deep in her heart she knew, just didn't want toadmit it. I hope his family is doing okay. R.I.P Jed
I noticed that. She was hoping she could see, talk, hug him. But it would not end that way.
At least they had time to adjust for most likely the outcome!!May he rest in peace God bless the family sorry for your loss!!
Hope is debilitating. You just get stuck, thinking any minute now I’ll get the answer and how it will play out. As much as the truth hurts it’s better to find out and deal with the pain than be stuck as life passes you by. I’m just now realising I haven’t really been present in my life for a very long time.
@@AirWindFireso very true. We stop living while waiting and believe the whole time that they will walk through that door & it was all a nightmare.
@@AirWindFireYet hope is what sustain us moving forward and hang-on everyday until a certainty becomes a closure of the past.
So you found in under 20 minutes what the police didn't in four YEARS? His parents have spent four years worrying, wondering what had happened to their son, suffering all that time. That's awful. I feel so bad for them. And thank you for all that you do. You're amazing.
Most places don’t have the latest and greatest tools at their disposal. The equipment on Jared’s boats probably runs around 10-15,000$. Also AWP is very very good at what they do. I don’t think this is truly a fault of this department. Just lack of tools and knowledge.
Don’t hold the police in such a high regard! They are more concerned with stuffing our prisons full of non violent or totally innocent people to keep the criminal justice business rolling!
Thats because most cops are out there harming people not helping. I think it was said that his father was a cop. That helps me to understand the way his mom responded.
@@garyross1279 dont judge all of the police. Yes, while its true that some cops are abusing their powers, many are still genuinely providing service to their people. As for why the police spent 4 years vs 20 mins for AWP, you have to take into consideration that the police have to start from scratch. They have to consider so many factors, add to that the cops are literally jack of all trades, master of none due to budget constraints, as what the comment above have stated.
Yeah been watching a lot of this videos and in highly probable areas they find the car really fast and police swear they looked all over in that area etc police probably lied or sent out some guy without proper training and equipment for a few mins and then gave up and the police said we tried and gave up
It’s so sad to hear how hopeful his mother was that he was going to walk into his childhood home at any time for the past 4 years. Not knowing that he has been dead that whole entire time. This one hit me a lot different.
I'll be honest. In my darkest tines it was pretty much solely knowing of my parents love that would stop any thoughts of doing something similar to this.
Its really sad when he also had this and didn't know, and super sad as well to know that there are a lot that don't even have that.
I had a friend in like her 50s that did it...difficult situations with her ex where everything spiraled after their daughter/son graduated.
Alcohol for I think both was involved. I felt something was up, but lost my contact with her when she went off Facebook because a family member, in law?!? Got mad at her calling herself family.
Same time, that Woman wept at her passing. I was a little angry of it. Especially hearing more details of her treatment and knowing it was beyond the alcohol. I also felt bad knowing my friend acquaintances at work went out for drinks with her and had her number.
My daughter died 3 years ago and I still feel like she’ll walk in the door any moment.
@@amazinggrace5692 I am so sorry for you!!
@@amazinggrace5692 I'm so sorry for 🙏❤your loss
@@amazinggrace5692 ✨🙏🏽✨
I broke down when she said, “do you do hugs?” Those poor parents. I can’t imagine what they were feeling, watching his vehicle pulled out of the water. I’m just glad that they have finally gotten some closure, in that they can start to begin grieving his death instead of not knowing where he is and if he is okay. What an amazing organization to help just out of the goodness of their hearts. Thank you for all you do. Also, your compassion and sensitivity to the feelings and emotions that people are experiencing does not go unnoticed and is so special.
The way Amy kept correcting herself in tense, saying "is" and then accidentally reverting back to "was" absolutely broke my heart. I am so sorry for this families loss.
I don't think she was correcting herself, she still believed he was very much alive. When she used past tense terms, it was when she was speaking about things he used to do; such as, when he was a student because he no longer is a student. When he was a child because he's no longer a child. I believe she was talking in present tense and putting the past tense where it should be.
@@chillichew5712 When my mother died a few months ago, I kept referring to her as "is" and it truly is out of habit. Having to correct myself and say "was" was always devastating, too, so sometimes I'd just say "is" to make it hurt less
@@EggyEkki Same. My mom died over a year ago and I still refer to her in the present tense most times. It hurts less.
I think the scene where the mom asked, “Do you do hugs?” and Doug said yes and embraced her is emblematic of all you do. “We do hugs!” Should be the slogan of the AWP community. We mourn with you.
Yes!!! That really touched me as well. "Do you do hugs?" "Well yes we do!"
Most important scene of the entire episode. I was so relieved and emotional to see her reach out for that hug.
Omg best comment ever. Great idea.
Loved this comment. Yes, it should be we do hugs the slogan for AWP.
I think you just rewrote their website. That's how it should be. This one was so hard to watch.
“I guess he’s not a kid now, because he’s twenty…” Oh I just wanted to hug her
i literally just got to this part and i can’t hold back the tears
Jesus loves yall, died for us, and rose again! Jesus calls for all of us to repent! He's coming back!!!
Me too,.. very heartbreaking
@@highestpeeqs9532 not the time dude.
@@highestpeeqs9532bro shut up ab ur sky daddy a kid DIED
This mother should not be judged for how she behaved. It’s her grief and there’s no wrong way for her to express it.
She’s been feeling this pain and heartache for years while we only experienced it second hand through a screen for
I have questions; plenty of questions.
But at the same time, it is not my place to judge her.
May the Hall family find the one thing they most deserve - peace.
I haven't seen any comments regarding the mom being incentative?.
@@keithbrien8929 Those comments were in the news videos
She knew…she always knew, but denial was the only way she could cope. I can’t imagine.
She held on to hope, even till the end she held out for hope. Sad but she was not ready to part ways with her kid, even though he’s been missing for years
U do t know that. Stop acting like u know. What’s wrong with people.
Yep. At the same time she wanted the answer as soon as possible.
Figuratively they’ve tried to assassinate him in every other way possible. 🤷♀️
@@AllAboutPurple
Yeah but that P.I. should have never given her false hope!
When she realized that her son really was in that car, the look on her face completely changed to a traumatized look. She was in front of many people, as well as on camera, trying to be strong when she had fully believed that her son was still out there somewhere, and would pull in the drive one day. I could see the pain...and shock...very plainly. God bless her, this Momma still holding out hope...then having that hope crushed. I'm grateful AWP found him for her...at least now she knows, and can lay her baby to rest. 🙏
mane this made me shed a tear she so strong!!
You could tell she was feeling it. Her arms were crossed in front of her defensively. Also, when they were talking earlier before they pulled the car, she sounded tearful.
I feel for this family, I hope they can move on with their grief together.
So well said..
Yess 😢😭 this hit me soo hard as a mother god bless his soul gone too soon. 🙏❤
Amen
You just know that mom went home and cried until she didn’t have any tears left. So much grief.
Oh man. This one hurt alot. His mom was so not ready for this. My heart breaks for her. The love and compassion you guys show every video is incredible. 🖤
No one should ever judge a mother for the way she responds to something so tragic. There would be no greater pain and there are no rules in how one copes with something so devastating and heart wrenching as the loss of a child.
Beautifully said❤️✅
She never lost jed . Jed is alive IN fact .
So true and she was probably in a bit of shock. All of her hopes of him coming home were shattered. My heart breaks for her.
I saw my both parrents in their very last moment. And believe me my reactions were simmilar. You are in some kind of "survival shock". It helps you to stay on your feet, huge wave of emotions came later.
Exactly! People do grieve differently. And I can totally see absolutely breaking down on the inside. She may seem to have walls up BUT she’s doing that to protect her heart and to keep from outwardly breaking down. I know her reaction all too well. When my brother was murdered I felt the same.
As a mom who lost a son at 17, I can tell you that you have moments of being able to hold it together, and moments of when you totally lost it! She did very well, for as long as she did. I'm sure she completely fell apart once she was home, and it "hit" her. She had the look of denial and shock, which can mask her responses. You never "get over it." You just learn how to live with it. RIP Jed. God bless his parents and family!
same. and you are absolutely right.
I lost my daughter at 20. I totally get her response. For the people that are so mean. You tell me how you would react after having some kind of hope for 2 weeks. And then, given no hope for your child . 💔 she's definitely in shock. 😢
When mama cursed, “Damn you”, it felt like she was speaking to death for taking her son from her.
Personally i feel like that “damn you” was equal parts anger and regret towards Jed for having chosen to take his own life instead of asking for help, and towards herself for not realizing he was struggling and needed help. It’s unfortunately a scene that plays out far to often.
The fact is that not 1 damn person has a reason or wright to judge her reactions or feelings about this situation. We are not perfect..
I am a 76yr old British Army Veteran, and at this moment, I am in Bits watching my heart and deepest sympathy go out to Jedd's Mum & Dad and all those who knew and loved him. Eternal rest give unto him, O'Lord and let perpetual light shine upon him; God bless you, Jedd, May you rest in the arms of our Lord, Amen
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Amen🙏🏼🕊
I’m not religious but David, thank you for praying for him.
God bless
What Lord??🤨 same Lord who sow this poore boy struggle and abounded him when he needed his help the most?? Lord who didn't care about his pain and the pain of his parents!!
Lord who watched phedophile priests rape little, innocent children for DECADES and did nothing to stop their abuse!!! What a father would watch his children in pain and do NOTHING to sve them, or give them hope??
I am a 20 yr corrections officer. I often hear the stories from the monster end. So You men are the sweetest angels ever. The work you do is very beautiful and very well done professionally. They broke the mold when they made this team of folks. Thank you for what you do. ❤
Hopefully it restores your faith in humanity a little. I'm sure in that type of position is rough in many ways.
This was absolutely heartbreaking to watch. Seeing Jed's parents hopes and wishes come to an end.
You can hear the anger, sadness and love as his car is pulled up. They now know where he's been but still have no answers as to why he would take his own life. Just devastating.
When I look back on my 54 years on earth and think about the things that seemed so difficult for me at that time, especially as a teen, those times now seem so small and insignificant.
To everyone who thinks there's no reason to go on because something is too difficult, please seek help.
I hope Jed's parents, family and friends are all getting the comfort they need.
Yes more of this because it’s so very true. My parents used to say sui is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and it’s true. As long as you’re still alive there’s always a chance for things to be better than you could ever have hoped for.
So dreadfully sad. Rest in Peace, Jed.
When you are a teen somethings seem insurmountable but they aren't it just your first 'hill' my condolences to his friends & family
I agree! I cried like a baby!
My nephew died by suicide when he was 15. It was heartbreaking 💔 😢
They found my husband who died in the lake when they were searching for someone else. They were both found that day in the same area using sonar. It took a year and a half to find my husband. I am thankful for this technology.
I'm so sorry. You must be incredibly strong, to even be able to watch this. I hope you heal as best as you can.
I will have you on my prayer list,love
I am truly sorry for your loss ❤
@@bethmorzewski I’m so sorry but I’m so glad you got to bury him and you had your closure.. the not knowing would absolutely kill me. ❤️🙏🏻prayers sweetie.
That’s so sad, but good that they found him. May he rest in peace.
When the police came to my home to tell me my husband was dead from suicide, I was numb. Didn’t feel real. My oldest daughter collapsed immediately so I had to be so strong for her and my kids. It wasn’t until days later after the service the grief hit me like a avalanche. Physically I felt like my body was shutting down. I wailed and couldn’t stop shaking, near convulsions, it was torment. I can say time has been my comfort and my friend. But in those first hours, days and months it was brutal. My heart breaks for anyone with those thoughts and the families left behind.
I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope within time you and your babies are able to heal and move forward, never forget, but to be able to live and enjoy life after your loss xx
Rip
Are you Ok?
I'm sorry for your loss
People don’t do that for no reason, and as his wife you should’ve been more perceptive of his emotions, if I HAD to guess YOU weren’t very good as a wife
For those of you upset about what the mom said, look at the interview. She was so checked out, she firmly believed that her son was alive. She went through all the stages of grief in one instant on camera. Moms who are upset, until you've lost a child you won't understand.
'Do you do hugs?' absolutely broke me. God bless Jed, his mum, dad, family and friends. What an amazing team, finally bringing some closure to such a wonderful couple.
As a mother of 4, it broke my heart watching this episode Jed's mom was using the present term when she spoke about him just so sure Jed was just gone to become his own man. This is so sad because I know I would feel like I was hit by a massive blow. I am glad Jed is able to have a resting place so his mom can go to.
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Yup, made it about there and damn
They were great huggers. Nice to see people that truly care for others .
What if there is no closure? Just many more questions now.
Im in tears when she said "I guess he's not a kid now cuz he is 20". In her heart she still had hope that he was alive and coming home.
My mom's uncle was lost during WW2 and she has spend enormous amounts of money for psychics to tell her how he had lost his memory but is living fine, which of course is BS but she chooses to believe that the uncle who went missing 20 years before she was even born will remember them and return to the family. It just doesn't matter how much time passes as long as she's able to keep the hope alive and it is exhausting.
@@annak8755 Im sorry to make this about money, but I hope she sued the crap out of that department, the state, and/or those people..
@@annak8755 Can I asked if you know why she care so much if she never even met him? Literally everyone has family members who died before they were born, and they have absolutely no attachment to them. It seems strange that she would latch onto a story that came from so long before she was born.
@@LexitaMai because her mom/my grandma went to a psychic who told her the uncle was alive and all her life they've been talking about him as if he is just living very far. And my mom started going to psychics as soon as she was old enough at this point the story (without any evidence) is that he met a woman in Poland and had 2 sons and a daughter, according to one psychic that "reads the future" on cards, and just 2 sons, according to another that "speaks with the dead". And none of them have said that the uncle should be dead even if he had survived WW2 because my mom still pays them at least twice a year. Heck, she is even paying the first lady's bank loan. And that's why I hate people who lie to the families hoping that their loved ones are ok.
@@kehoniawaller1753 what in the world are you talking about? Sue who? I think you may be losing your mind Karen.
I hadn't heard about this group until today in the Kiely Rodni case.... you guys are some of the finest in America. Thank you for what you do ....
My condolences to Jed's mother and father and to all of his family and friends..... Peace be with you. RIP young man ♥️🙏🏻♥️
I’ve been subscribed to them for awhile but forgot about them until I saw her case on the news also
Just heard of them today
Same, that’s what brought me to this page
Me too.
Same here! Amazing people! You don’t see this genuine love for other people anymore.
This one really broke my heart. The poor parents. I wish them peace and I hope everyone out there can be supportive and kind. Thank you AWP for everything you do to help families across the states and the world
Having lost a younger brother to suicide, I can feel that family's pain. The mothers reaction made perfect sense to me. I guess a lot of you haven't been through something like that, and thank God, I genuinely hope you never have to. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to learn to cope with, and I'm not even sure I'm coping that well
I know that pain too well hits apart of your soul to where you can't even cry
May God bless and heal you and bless your loved one's soul.
Agreed my friend. Have dealt with too many suicides and loses in my family. It's extremely hard. My heart is broken forever
@@cyndytower1263 Sorry for your loss ....lost my cousin the same way....... just out of HS back in 2006.....
Agree fully!
A hurt you would never want another to feel..
closure will help
It’s particularly tragic that his car was so close to the bank and the ramp… four years of agonising not knowing and hope for his parents, all while he was barely 10 feet from the shore. You guys do incredibly important work, both in the diving and handling the emotions of the case. Rest well, Jed.
Just wanted you to know that healing is happening. I saw Amy at an event recently, for the first time in a very long time. Thank you again.
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Please hug her and give her our love, from us here across the Pacific, especially those who also lost loved ones the same way they did.
Thank you so much for a bit of sun in a sad world. Thank you for letting us know.
this is soooooo good to read! thank you for sharing and i an so glad to hear that healing had begun, albeit a difficult journey to start on.
Just heart breaking. Thanks for sharing this bc my mind was saying how is the mother and father doing today give her our love and it don't get better you put on a v smile for everybody but even time doesn't heal the last of a loved one 🙏🏻💙❤️
This Sheriff was such a sweetheart! He was a true public servant. God bless!
Answers for Nathan's family!
That was a hard recovery to watch....Thank you guys for all you do. 😊
My MIL let me know yesterday that you have contacted her regarding looking for my husband's Grandfather. I just wanted to say Thank you. I've been watching your videos since you brought your first person home and I appreciate so much what you do for these families. Thank you for agreeing to look for Ron.
As someone who was suffered and survived depression and suicide. The people who need the most help will almost always be the ones who hide it the best.
@Andy Dufresne, I agree with you totally. Although I do not know you, I understand only too well what you have been through. Thankfully, you are a survivor and you can go on to help others.
Blessings to you. 🙏
I agree wholeheartedly having been through similar myself. Those who need the help the most I find tend to be those who help others because they no what it's like to be without the help.
Hmmm, that is the same as who to help first at an accident site. One goes first to the ones that do not scream...
When I got the news, my son had died, I was dumbfounded. He never stopped smiling, he never was in any pain or distress, he was always happy, outgoing, and full of life. When he took his own life, we understood his smile hid his pain. His smile and laughter were a mask to make sure no one ever knew what he was suffering.
Hope that struggle is in the past and you are now able to live your life to the fullest... love from Portugal!
My boyfriend died in my arms when I was 19 and I had a completely blank stare for literally days before I showed real emotion. And I am EXTREMELY emotional and empathic. You just never know how you will react to trauma.
Hope ur doing well ! Sorry for your loss ❣️
Hugs....... I just took a breath for you and hope you heal. Faith we will see them again Just believe 🙏 ❤️ Life's to short
My Condolences whether it was long ago or recent. The pain is the same.... This will be my 1st time talking about this. It's not easy. But there's a point to what I'm saying. I'm a very emotional person and when I was 18 my then boyfriend got sick and long story short I would have anxiety attacks when I would think of him dying. I swore I would lose my mind. 3 weeks after giving birth to our beautiful baby boy. He passed away due to another complication, It wasn't even from his sickness. So it was shocking and all I remember was wondering why I couldn't cry. I noticed after that I would lose loved ones, Mother/Father and I wouldn't cry. Year's later I broke down. Maybe it was too much loss, not sure but I'm saying all this because it's NOT that I didn't care. I love my family and friends with all my heart but it's just how I grieve I guess. It's because WE ALL GRIEVE DIFFERENTLY. It never ceases to amaze me how negative people can be and swear when they say "oh they didn't cry so they had something to do with it" OR "they didn't cry so that means they didn't care" smh. If you've never been in those shoes. Keep your mouth shut! May God bless and heal all those who are hurting. 🙏
@litatorres1989 so sorry for your loss. I so agree with you. We all grieve in different ways.
When I lost my mom in December of 21 ( covid) it was a pain like no other. She was black Friday shopping in November of 21 and afterwards went to breakfast. She asked my sister if she felt warm. Not feeling well. The fevers began. In 3 weeks she was gone. I was so angry the 1st year I couldn't grieve ( something that happened in the hospital) once I asked God to help me get over my anger ( He did) the crying was nonstop for months. I can go a day or 2 now without crying and then days nonstop.
Of course this has me crying. I messaged my own son near 1 am. He's 36. I texted him to tell him I love you son....
I just needed too.
Sorry to go on and on.
Again, so sorry for your loss...
Stay safe out there everyone 🙏
Much love from North Carolina 💙
Poor momma is so dissociated and still cant accept her child is really gone. I feel for her so much.
Hearing the Mother changing between “He is” and “He was” signifies that she is hopeful that he may still be alive, but her intuition (The Psychology) knows that he has already passed. Prayers for the Family and RIP Jed Hall💙
This was incredibly difficult to watch because the parents were so sure he wasn't going to be in there. I totally get how Jared was feeling. God bless y'all for everything you do and my prayers go out to Jed's family. How heart-wrenching.
Yea when she looked at the camera and said call ur mom damnit and then chuckled, u could tell she was completely convinced he was still alive, definitely hard to watch…
The parents were dreaming that he was living a crazy life with the French Foreign Legion and learning french. This was so heartbreaking especially when she said that they were never going to get answers. I also felt so bad for Jared and Doug, I can understand why they were so conflicted.
Im.just glad someone reached out to help them get closure even though they didn't want this ending a life searching I think is even harder then the truth. Nothing he did would gave made anyone love him less. So to bad he felt this was his only option
She said he had so much to live for. Too bad he didn’t come to that realization on his own. Maybe she can talk privately to the girl he seemed to care for. Just to learn more about his frame of mind. If the girl cares to reveal more to the parents that would be gracious on her part.
Wow, I think we just witnessed his mum go through every emotion and stage of grief right there on camera. I hope they find some closure and begin to process this tragedy.
they will im a counselor the funeral will help bring closure, it will have a big turn out and will leave the parents with some happier memories.
Amen.
@@badboybullterriers4104 Funerals may bring closure but I'm not confident about the happy memories part. Loss is not easy but if we live long enough, we will go through a LOT of it.
I hate to know how much she broke down once the cameras were away. She was holding on so strong.
@@MissTarryn
Indeed. I cried for her several times.. She můst be broken-hearted💔
These guys are angels for everything they do to help families of missing members.
What an absolutely incredible service this is. As the daughter of a mom missing since 1998, nothing is worse than not knowing what happened to your loved one. As painful as this is for mom and dad, I hope they can rest knowing he is at peace and they can lay him to rest. God bless, Jed. Rest in peace.
I know this barely helps but I’m sorry :(
I hope one day ur daughter is found ❤🥹❤️
@@moona_ttv
Mother 😢
REALLY REALLY REALLY THOSE MEN ARE THE BEST AT THIS WORK GOD BLESS THEM ALL
@@AngelicMads That's so nice of you, thank you. It helps ❤️
I would hope that these agencies who "search the area multiple times" have a review process to improve their methods after AWP comes in and finds him in 20 minutes.
My thoughts exactly and you can even see his submerged car on Apple maps that's horrifying
Exactly, I was thinking the same thing. Part of me hopes that they tried instead of just walking the bank and thinking there’s nothing to go on and divers are expensive.
They were searching in the area where his phone stopped pinging in a different area of Snake River. They followed promising leads; traveling to other states. Tbh, I think if he had been found right away, it would have decimated the mother. Four years there'd be a slight breathing room because the mother so desperately wanted Jed to be alive. Intrusive thinking that he might be dead was possibly present there as well. There's a grace in that I think. 🤍
As mentioned, a hatchback floats further than other vehicles, a fact that our brave and dedicated officers might not have considered.
Alot of these cities and counties are understaffed just dont have the manpower and unfortunately the process of investigation is flawed
They dont hsve the experience in searching underwater as in this case
They dont hsve the funds to realy do good extended searches
they had searched the water yet somehow missed a car in shallow water because they just don't have the right no how
These guys have the best equipment which helps but their ways of investigation has been honed in such away to be more sucessful at what they do . No little piece if evidence is thrown out. I think alot of detectives just dont understand how the smallest details can make. Difference. No question these guys could step up to the next level and teach other agencies what they are doing right . You must remember though even though these guys have found people their percentages are not real high. Yes they can find out where someone isn't more than where they are but they help narrow down the searches which is a big help . Not everyone missing is in the water somewhere. There are so many reasons why people go missing. My hat is off to these guys
Because they do give hope to others that thry might find a love one
If they wasn't doing this these sucess stories wouldn't exist
I love this team for what they do !!
Thank you for bringing some sense of peace and closure to Jed’s family. My fiancé committed suicide and was lost under water for 6 months. I knew but I didn’t know, and finally having him found helped give me the answers to start healing.
It was 10 years ago and, even though I still cry, it does get easier. Time heals, not because we forget, but because we remember. The happy memories, the inside jokes, the way he said “I love you”, those thoughts keep him alive in my heart.
We may never know why people suffer or the true reason for why their heartbreaks, even though we try so hard to understand. Sending lots of love to the family. Keep an eye out for signs from him, they make come when you least expect it.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
U might not know why people suffer… i swear to god if u fucking know somethings wrong w someone than fcking help and ask whats going on
@@davidwoermansr man idc even if someone says hes not okay than u know its a lie or if they are rlly happy and stuff man we needa be carefull w eachother cuz suicides go up every minute
@@davidwoermansr also i know that its hard to tell someone but u can find out man… u just need to think before its too late
@Blackbrain how is she making it about her by simply sharing her experience from losing a loved one? weirdo
As a mom, I cannot fathom the loss they are feeling. I'm absolutely sobbing for them, and Jed. Is it weird it hurts more as I was born and raised for the first bit of my life in Idaho? I pray for solice and the comfort of the lord for them and Jed. Thank you guys for bringing him home. ❤
When you told Jed’s parents that you found him my heart broke for them. The pain on their faces when they were told was heartbreaking. I lost my 22 year old son in 2016 I know that pain well, I’ll never forget the moment the police told me that my son had died the pain that I felt at that moment was unbearable. It’s a pain that no parent should ever have to feel. My heartfelt condolences go out to his parents they are in my thoughts.
Deepest sympathy for your loss also
Please accept my deepest condolences.
My deepest condolences to you to sir😘.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I feel your pain and theirs as well my daughter was murdered 10 years ago she was 3 haunts me daily and is a struggle but manage my heart goes out to anyone who lost a loved one your not alone
Thank you so much for finding Jed. I know Alan and Amy through a club we are both members in, have camped at their place, and my kids are the same age as Jed, so they played together. We were devastated when he disappeared, have shared info several times over the years, and always, always wondered. Just such a sad story. But, thank you. What you do is so important, and your finding Jed has prompted me to join the channel to help other families out there.
Such a beautiful comment. I wish you the absolute best in life. ❤️
Sorry for your loss. 🙏
There's 5 stages of grief. The fact the Jared knows how to speak to these parents with so much empathy because they're not through the stages completely is amazing to see!!!
@yolandabaltaz7768
There is a " model" for many stages of grief, it's not set in stone. Some people stress more about the application to the model than the loss itself!
@@lynnhexler-haan3357 this!!!!
He was pretty awesome 😎
He must have therapist license lol I was thinking the same thing
He has training in grife councling/sensitivity. A lot of search and rescue people get it when they have a high possibility of dealing with families. If I remember right Jared was a search and rescue guy before he started AWP.
Losing my cousin who was like a brother to suicide, I felt that "damn you" to my core. There are several stages of grief and anger is one of them. When we lost my cousin my uncle was angry at his son for causing his mother and siblings so much pain. I will never forget after his funeral when my uncle understandably had a few drinks, he broke all the way down letting out his honest raw emotions and explained how angry he was and I vividly remember telling him it's normal to feel that way and he gave me the tightest hug and asked me if he thinks my cousin would be upset with him for being angry with him and it just broke me. I told my uncle to think about just how much pain and suffering he was going through to actually take his own life knowing how bad it would hurt them and to think about how he felt knowing that he knew that would be the only way to end all of his suffering and that his baby boy is God arm's safe and sound and in no more pain. So I sure hope anyone judging this poor mother, takes a moment to put themselves in her shoes and try to understand her emotions at the time. It's utterly heartbreaking. 💔 Rip Jed 🙏🕊
I'm sure, just as you said, it hurts people deeply when that happens.
This one really hit home for me. This is my home. My father drowned in this river. I have a horrible phobia about drowning. The river is in the middle of town so there’s no way to avoid crossing it. Every single day is a reminder of how fragile life is and how quickly the river can take it away.
you should do a scuba diving course. it would really help conquer that
HUGS!
Get help to make that fear rightsize. You matter.
I'm sorry for your traumatic loss.
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I cried so hard when his Momma said “Damn you!” I can’t even imagine the pain! I held my daughter tight and reminded her that there is nothing she could do that couldn’t be fixed, nothing that would make me not love her! Remind your children that they can talk to you about ANYTHING and then listen without getting angry.
Many would find that a negative. But i too have uttered the same words; nearly everytime i hear the sudden death of a freind or loved one..
I say "damn you" instead of freaking out or breaking composure. And i truly mean it. It's like a disappointment in destiny that we'll never ever see that person again..
Many might think his mum's not hysterical or breaking down.. ..and as humans whom are unknown to different emotions, they can just think all they want..
I appreciate what you wrote.. Thank u...
I took it as all her hope that he was alive shattered and I cried with her
Exactly, anger is a part of grief.
She said " G famed U" as in she cursed her dead son.let that sink in.or check it urself.
I'm glad you talked to your daughter and remind her every so often, but not too much. I've seen so many young people commit suicide all because they were afraid of parent's reaction. One of the more common ones is damaging a car. That is so awful on the parents, knowing their kid ended their life forever because they were afraid of your anger/words.
It happened to a fellow officer and that poor guy doesn't have a day in his life where he doesn't think about his teenage son and what life could have been like if he was still living. Don't be quick to judge or "assess" or comment on another person's grief reaction. Everyone is different. If you can't be compassionate or helpful, then be quiet.
I have a son almost the exact same age as Jed. He’s now 21 and about to start 4th year university. He’s suffered depression for years, and I can only think that could just as easily have been me in Jed’s mom’s place. My love goes out to her and Jed’s father.
For me, the viral illness, presumably influenza, is the biggest clue. We know an infection in adolescence can activate the autoimmune pathway leading to a major form of schizophrenia in children that have the immune 'priming' due to a prenatal infection. All of a sudden, during that illness, he began to avoid the societal interaction that was natural to him, and wanted to be in a different part of the house. Only a neuropsychatric expert would have possibly recognized the warning sign that a psychotic episode could be about to manifest.
@@Freeandokay thank you, I was about to post that.
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I've now been watching Adventures With Purpose for a few months, after randomly stumbling upon the channel, and as a Vehicle Recovery driver & Deceased Recovery driver myself, These kinds of "missions" are the worst.. Now, i live in Denmark where not too many of these cases happen, Here its mostly car crashes etc, but going home after such a mission, knowing that whoever was in the vehicle, is no longer with us, knowing that the family has lost a loved one too early, is just the absolute worst feeling.
I'm not sure if Jared and Doug will at any point read this.. But guys, i really hope you guys take care of your mental state, Talk to the people you need to talk to after every mission to ensure that nothing builds up mentally for you guys, 'cause at the young age of 28, it recently just resulted in a long sick period for me having to take care of my mental health..
You guys are doing an amazing job, and even though i'm not a parent yet, i personally understand how these people feel in these situations, and i really hope that this brought proper closure to Jed's Family.. - I'd love to see an update on some of the families you've helped get answers over the years, Like, has it helped them move on? Are they happy you guys came along, all that stuff, basicly just some interviews with the families, if thats something you guys would ever consider doing i'm sure more people than just me would love to see those videos.
My heart breaks for his parents. His mother wholeheartedly believed he was going to come home some day. RIP Jed.
Mine too. I really cant find the right words myself. Jed had a wonderful lopsided smile, it was the first thing that stood out to me.
I wish his parents peace, and strength. Many blessings to them. I hope, in time, they can remember him as he was, and without the crushing weight of loss. God Bless everyone who loved him.
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They will be together again in Heaven.
After watching much of the episode I tend to think that Jed changed his mind about his plan but it was too late. If I remember correctly suicides usually roll the windows down and his were not. I also noted that the remains were close to the back of the car, something which I think also happened in the case of the young man who drove into the lake after a party in a farming community. While they certainly had moved the car enough that remains might have shifted around, I wonder if he didn't regret his devision and try to swim his way out.
As someone with depression I can relate to this kid so much. We put on faces and we hide the depression with smiles and jokes. I'm glad Jed has come home. Much love to his family and to AWP. AWP continues to handle things with such grace and dignity that it makes me proud to be a follower of this channel.
Hope you have a support system. Sending you a hug.
My thoughts are with you and I pray you have the support you need when things get too rough for you. There's always hope. Even when it seems there is none. I'm living proof of that. I'm praying for you.
@@denisef1684 I have a great support system and I am on medication. I'm doing much better than I used to be. But when I was a teenager it was terrible.
@@Curious.Badger I my self have depression as well i have good day's and bad day's and i am also on medication and you are right we put on a front that other people don't see
I feel like Jed didn't get the help he needed because his parents are really good at pulling on those rose colored glasses. The refusal to accept that he was anything other than a 'happy boy's days a lot about how he may have had his depression downplayed.
I hope Jared and crew see a therapist regularly. This kind of work isn’t really for people with big hearts and Jared is obviously affected by each and every discovery/recovery. He has a talent that always brings conflicting emotions
I was just thinking this.
I hope therapists see this and volunteer to help AWP and the other groups that do this work!! They all need someone!!!
@@alexbellington9243 just wondering... how many dead teenagers have you found underwater in a car? Thought so.... There’s this amazing thing you can do with your finger and that is click on something else. There’s another thing you can do with a finger and I’m doing it towards you right now...
@@alexbellington9243 I don’t think I could do it at all to be honest with you. I know it’d be a awkward moment and weird things come out of my mouth in awkward situations. I will agree that Jared used to be how you say he is but he’s gotten much better at giving the spotlight to someone else lately. Don’t forget Dr Phil’s crew was filming him also. He just tries to say things to make people feel better and sometimes it don’t come out right. No need to bust his balls about it. He’s trying to be compassionate
As a firefighter, who has seen many persons deceased, and witnessed them as they were in their last moments, we become attached and they become our family member.....yes, each and everyone of these people, remain with us, for the rest of our lives....and just because we are emergency personnel, we react to death too. What used to bother me the most, was the build up to their demise.
My cousin passed away in a lake rescuing about 5 of his friends from drowning. He ended up drowning hisself & they all left him there. It took about a full week for the search team to find my cousin. And the entire time, even knowing they left him in that lake. I didn’t want to believe he was in there. I painted every other picture but him dying in the lake. I appreciate and pray for all of those who work to help resolve cases like this. I’ll never know how you guys wake up and choose your be you and you’ll forever be blessed.
Your cousin sounds very brave, I'm so sorry he didn't make it out after saving so many others 💔💔💔
I feel for you guys. As a former fire fighter I had to cut a dad out of his car that he was pinned in. His wife was DOA but his young son was safe in his car seat. Dad was screaming at me to take care of his family. I also knew the extent of dad's injuries were fatal. So I had to calm dad enough to explain this to him so he could say goodbye to his son. Always hoped I would have the chance to tell his son what he said when his son was grown up. It is never easy to have to tell someone this kinda stuff but it is also the right thing to do. This was the only call I ever think about. Through the pain of truth, you bring peace
Wow that's gotta be so tough. Thank you for what you do my friend 😢🙏
Your brief comment was more heart-wrenching and traumatic than the whole video. 😢
What does DOA mean?
@@Guy7338dead on arrival
@@Guy7338Dead on arrival
I love how dad held onto his wife.
Jed seemed to have the perfect life. Great parents, hobbies most of us could only dream of at his age, a charter school.. we never know what is going on in someone's mind.
A coworker recently lost her 14 yr old son to suicide. He had a little argument with his girlfriend decided to h@ng himself in his bedroom that night. Mom found him in the morning. How do you function after seeing that? Our children are our worlds. For anyone struggling please reach out. You are loved♡
I think the only thing worse is never finding the loved one. 😪
Jared, finding the car, with the boy in it, is a blessing to this mom and dad, even though they may not be able to say so today. In the long run, you have saved them from years of turmoil and anxiety. They are free from the prison of not wanting to leave home, lest their son arrive there while they are away. You did a wonderful thing for them, and the day will come when they will say so themselves. Take comfort from God who loves you, and Jed. Be at peace that you have done a marvelous thing. There is no reason you should feel bad. You have done a great service.
Few months ago someone found a young man that went missing in 1976! He was in his car. His mother died early this year. Father died a few years earlier. It’s sad to know they never got closer. Some families never do.
Beautifully said
I can’t imagine how hard it must to be not knowing, the hurt is even worse. May they grieve and have a place to visit if they buried him.
The not knowing is absolutely the worst. The mom was in the same state of denial my sister in law was when my niece went missing. She couldn't believe that anything bad could have happened and that my niece was just being naughty. It caused a huge rift in the family that has not been repaired since the mom kept telling us not to look for Jordan, that she would come home. She completely lost her mind after Jordan's body was found, but it took almost a year for my sister in law to fully comprehend everything because of how much she had convinced herself of her own narrative.
Looking past the tragic subject matter, this is like a great TV show that's not on TV. Really demonstrates how far RUclips content has come. Great stuff, keep up the great show and the meaningful work.
I love how the cops actually listened to your recommendations and everything. Very professional people.
“So we’re still not going to get any answers why.” Broke my heart. I know that sweet family wanted to think the best case possible. I really hate that this was the outcome. My heart goes out to them.
That's what broke me too.
The answer is probably the most common. Poor kid was in teenage hell (no offense to the family) some people think this is the only way out. And if he left notes at home at school, there’s not much left to realize. I’m so sorry for the friends and family.
He wrote two letters. I am super curious what they said.
What Jed’s mom is showing us, her firm grip on hope, is one of the most heartbreaking yet beautiful pictures of love. I have no doubt that there was a point early on when she knew that Jed was gone, but how do you get up each day and carry on knowing that your baby is gone when you could be wrong? So the pain of uncertainty was covered in hope and optimism, and a thousand scenarios that end with her boy walking through the door one day asking what the fuss is all about.
My heart breaks for these parents
i’m so glad we have people like them who continue to find these people and bring answers to these families. the fact those waters were searched multiple times without finding anything and they found him in twenty minutes says it all.
Jared and Doug as an ICU nurse for more than two decades I can completely understand giving families and loved ones the worst news that anyone can imagine. No mother is ready to give up hope that their child will wakeup and come back to them. Children aren't ready to say goodbye to parents.
We see many people on the very worst day of their lives and so do you. Please be sure to take care of your own mental health for the sadness and grief you carry with you always. They are not just case numbers. I never hear either of you call them by anything but their names. They are real people who had hopes and dreams who took a wrong turn and were lost along the way. Thank you for all you do to bring answers and peace.
That oxygen mask principle is real
Thank YOU for what YOU do. Most of us couldn't do it, so we truly appreciate those of you who can, and choose to. Thank you.
I'm really worried for this poor mom, she's seen it in real time but it's not yet registered with her, she's going to need a lot of help to work through this.
The AWP crew are also clearly crushed by this one, so please guys, look after yourselves. Much love, and hugs, to each and every one of you.
A mental health day for all! Remember guys- Take care of your heads and heart. Seek therapy if you need it.
Hard to understand if he really didn’t confide in someone about his innermost thoughts. Enough to prevent this outcome. The money part was troublesome and foreboding to the action he planned to take.
@@arielsea9087 Many people don't give warnings before taking their lives. Someone I love attempted (and thankfully survived) - he didn't tell anyone anything. Not his girlfriend, not his friends, not his family, no one. No one had any idea he was at that point. Yes, many people do seek help in some way before getting to that place, but many others don't. And as for the money - yes, definitely a bad sign, but it was left a few hours prior - it's not like he did that days/weeks before such that someone could have realized and tried to get him help.
@@Andrew_kiwi_AF I have spent a lot of time studying suicide and I can tell you it’s definitely *not* true that those who talk about it don’t go through with it. That is simply irresponsible to suggest. Always tell someone if someone you know is speaking of suicide.
@@Andrew_kiwi_AF that is not true. Many people who talk about it DO commit suicide.
Regarding your concerns about taking hope away from the family: I was a neuro nurse for six years and dealt on a daily basis with devastating brain injuries and grieving families.
As time passed and hope for a miraculous recovery faded, I saw families frozen in time because no one spoke candidly (but with compassion) about the condition of their loved one.
Inability to let go and move on can devastate lives. Honesty is what they need. In the long run it is better.
It is not easy but it can be done. And you’re not really taking away their hope. You’re giving them the tools they need to move on.
Bless you and keep up the good work.
False hope must be the most painful thing, give me reality any day ❤
That mother must have cried so much that she has no more tears to cry. I embrace them from afar, much peace and strength for them.
When people figure out their purpose in life. Some people lean towards serving others. A.W.P has definitely found their purpose in their lives. Interconnecting with people when they are their most distraught, and treating them with respect and kindness. The world would be a much better place with more like AWP. Rest In Peace Jed.
In a small way I think I understand what Jared is talking about. I'm a paramedic and it's always harder to deal with when you have to give tragic news to loved ones who are unsuspecting or caught off guard. Thank you for still continuing to do the work and please keep well. Thoughts go out to the whole team and the family of Jed.
I mean they should have know he was dead 4 years what did they expect
@@crazychase98 Everyone expects a missing person to come back, or at least hopes and waits, until it is 100% confirmed they won't. That's what.
You can try to prepare for the worst, but denial falls in.
@@crazychase98 Wait until you have a child of your own flesh and blood, or adopted. You never give up hope that they would come back, so obviously in the back of one’s mind you do know that it looks bleak. I don’t think she’s a stupid woman I’m sure she knew this was the likely outcome, nonetheless absolutely brutal for any parent to have to go through. I can’t imagine losing my son he just turned 18, I would be absolutely devastated!
And I finally understand why he tried to ignore cases that are too early or the family members are too hopeful their missing ones is still alive. It shows how hard the crews feels in this video. And it is extremely hard for the family members too
This is so tragic. My heart hurts for Jed's family, especially for his mom. You can tell she truly didn't believe (or strongly didn't want to believe) that Jed was in the river. She believed he was still out there when she referred to him in the present tense. She held onto that hope until the very end, and I get what you're saying. Jared, that you don't want to take her hope away. But you and your team were able to end the wondering, the unknowns, the waiting that would have gone on forever. And you were able to do it with genuine compassion for Jed and his family.
The compassion you guys show is so rare in this day and age.
She held it together so well for the cameras. I’m so sad that she’s in such deep denial. She doesn’t want it to be true that he’s gone, nor that he took his own life. No parent wants to hear that. This was so tragic.
She seemed totally cold about it. Oh wait, she said "GOD DAMN YOU." She wants God to damn his soul to hell. Her boy.
@@mimibee626 wtf is wrong with you people....
@@mimibee626 oh my god, shut up. She did not say it like that, she’s hurting. Many people who lose loved ones to suicide go through a phase where they’re angry at their loved ones. What an insane thing to say. Sounds like projection to me, you’re the one who’s sick in the head.
@h̵e̵a̶v̴y̴h̸e̷a̷d̴2̴k̵1̸ wow your pure scum, I sincerely hope you get the help you need. To have something so tragic happen to you and for you to wish it on someone else is true cunt behaviour. You have no idea what your father was going through or thinking and by the sounds of it you being his child probably didn’t help you fucking psychopath. I understand being unhappy with his choice and it can seem selfish but you don’t understand what it’s like I am someone who deals with suicidal thoughts you have zero idea how hard it is to get through a day without the voice in the back of your head telling you your worthless or your a disappointment or that your waisting others time and resources and if you live with it so long you would do anything to stop it. I sincerely hope you change your attitude towards people and have a little compassion for those who maybe don’t have a good mental headspace or aren’t as stable as you you should be counted as lucky that you’ve never been depressed
@h̵e̵a̶v̴y̴h̸e̷a̷d̴2̴k̵1̸ wtf is wrong with you
Heart-wrenching. Imagine having 4 years of hope and theories of your son coming back, when you discover the whole 4 years he's been within 5 miles. My heart aches for jed's parents. I hope they're getting through life ok
I pray the AWP team stays strong!! Just the trauma and emotions in their voice is sooooo hard to hear!! Praying for you guys!! Thank you for bring these family closure!!
That would have to be the worst. Bless you all. Bless the family.
I was holding it all together till she said “Do you do hugs?”
My thoughts and prayers are with the family and all who have been involved in finding young Jed. Keep up the amazing work AWP.
That's exactly where I broke. Instant heart break.
This one brought me to tears! Suicide sucks! So sad for this teen not feeling like he had anything left to live for!
To the family and Friends of Jed. Know that we all shed a tear when he was found and that the heart of every viewer sends you our sincere Condolences. As a Parent, I can not ever fathom the depths of despair you folks have been through. Prayers sent for Jed and you all. To Doug And Jarred Good work. God has his hands upon your souls for doing these things that take their toll on your hearts and souls. Thank You for your dedication.
Speak for yourself
Well written.
Jared, Doug, everyone associated with AWP, no parent to is ever ready to face the loss of child. Take it from a former military medic/EMT and sister of a parent that lost a child....it will never go away, the pain of losing a child. There is no easy way to tell a parent nor is there a way to prepare a parent to handle the loss. Surrounding you all with prayer, love and hugs 🙌🙏♥️🤗🤗🤗
@@violettheorgangrinder How did the video make you feel?
@@MrSamisue27 That 'nine eleven supporter' account right there appears to be a troll projecting their own insecurities and perceived inadequacies looking for some attention on the back of people who truly and actually deserve it.
What a pretzel to be so self-involved and callous when the rest of us find such comfort and community in being able to share our genuine and heartfelt support for AWP and the affected families and loved ones.
I like that you highlighted this person's lack of empathy and hopefully it causes them to reassess their attitude especially in comment sections such as this.
Trolls used to be so much more witty and comedic in their approach when they surfaced. Unfortunately 'nine eleven supporter' has a LOT to learn both in being any kind of good troll as well as how to emote their feelings in a less toxic manner.
Peace and blessings to all those who are here in peace and support of AWP and the family and loved ones.
Prayers and Jesus to the trolls who are yet to discover and hone in their EQ (emotional intelligence).
I feel like this was one you didn’t want to solve for Amy’s sake, but the purpose is to find answers. Jed sounded like a great kid. I admire Amy for her strength, love, and optimism. I pray someday Amy and her family can find peace now that they have answers. I appreciate how you involved Jed’s mom in your discussion about the process. I highly respect the police for really listening to Doug. The emotions were so high here. Jared, your reactions to this case and the fact that you can be vulnerable with your viewers shows how good of a person you really are. All of this and watching all the videos make my belief in what AWP does become stronger. This is why I support and continue to buy and donate. Lifelong supporter here!
I witnessed the aftermath of a fatal accident where a drunk driver hit the drivers side door. The driver did not make it. He was only 31. I saw the body wrapped up. I cried. I don’t know how you guys do this. It takes a strong mind, loving heart, and great support system. That’s AWP!
@@Mayhemffs Completely agree! They’re amazing! I can’t imagine what it’s like being in their position. They never fail to impress me. At the end of the day though, they are people just like us. People that do so much good. We do good by helping them out.
@@carriebaker5161 I’m so sorry for your loss. That’s amazing and kind of you to be there for others! I hope you have people there for you!
@@melissaford4824 Amen
Well said!! 😢❤️
@@carriebaker5161 Sorry for your loss
I can’t imagine how hard it must be for the family so desperately holding onto hope he is alive somewhere and the just lose it in 20 minutes. You guys are amazing. Not just for what you do but for the way you approach these people like people. They know your intentions are good. You can not imagine how important your work is and how much piece you bring to people.
I agree. That poor mother looked in such denial, it was heart breaking. I hope she is healing (however much one can heal after losing a child)
Yes and it took them 20 minutes. 😅 And the ones that searching for him I know it's hard but it took 4 years though..🥲
@@kelcritcarroll The problem is fuck asses like you. They were told he was alive and living, and no loving parent is going to look at that and willingly not believe it. The WANTED to believe their baby was alive so they believed what the very clearly shit PI told them.
They were lied to!
They were told a lie that said their child was alive. They were told a lie and naturally NOT wanting it to be a lie, they trusted it.
Get mad at the fucking bastard who scammed a family and giving them fake hope, rather then getting mad at the family who just wanted their baby.
@@kelcritcarroll she seemed to be hiding something about that whole "husband had a cold" story too
These people are such heroes to me. I watch these episodes over and over . Thanks for sharing with us.
I am a mom. Her reactions were full of hope, and that is what it takes to be a strong mother. Her son made the decision to leave home. Our children can stress us out at times, so to be a parent, it is our duty to love them. My mother lost her husband and son in an small air plane crash. I remember my brother begging and begging my mother to let him go, on that plane. She gave in, and let him go. Howard was 9 years old. They never came back. She lived to be 81 years. She was a strong person, and she did her best, as a parent. So...God Bless all parents who do their best, when their child makes a choice 🙏
Amy, your one hell of a warrior. Guys, ive never seen you react like this before when you find a car. Is the one time ive seen hope for an alternative. I hoped too. I had those dreams when you spoke Amy. RIP Jed. You may never know why... you may never know all the answers but you have him from the murky depths. Well done again guys. Im still crying long after the video ended. This one is something different. If your reading this.. there is always a way to be like a pheonix and rise from the ashes.... its ok not to be ok. Be kind to eachother and remember. Someone always loves you xxx
Thank you so very much for saying “its okay not to be okay”!! It frustrates me that the message is always if you need help reach out, but yet nobody wants to hear you arent okay ..... even mental health professionals look at me strange when a discussion begins about the growing depression epidemic with those words. There definitely needs to be more conversation along these lines ❣️
Thank you! What is most important thought to give out children feeling that we love them so much and always will no matter what. ❤️
@@FightingMECFS I agree whole heartedly! Emotional illness isn’t visible to those around us. So many social cues and yet many many family members and friends just don’t want to hear it, they don’t want to hear the truth, they don’t want to hear what you’re going through, they just want you to stiffen up and be “positive.” But emotional health does not heal that way, rather it’s by receiving hugs, it’s by receiving DPT therapy and the biggest one is just plain old LOVE. But families and friends need to understand that love is not a noun it’s a verb. You can say you love one all day long, but at the end of the day you need to show your love the way that person needs to receive it!
Absolutely disgraceful that the area was searched 'multiple times' yet these guys found the car in less than 30 minutes.
That's the system for you. They don't care anymore.
Must've been a pretty cursory search in that case as it wasn't hard to find.
You dont know what they used to try find the car, with the sonar is way better...
@@GODBLESSUNKNOWN You telling me the government funded police cant afford a livescope but the youtuber can?
@@Alex-xs8tuDon’t waste ur time arguing with sheep
I'm glad this video was recommended to me.
I don't think I knew of your channel when this video was originally published, but I've been watching your recent videos. In one of them, you found 20+ vehicles while looking for the one you were originally after.
I didn't understand why you didn't dive on all of them - people will want to know. Your comment in this video about the family "not being ready to know" gave me the understanding I was looking for.
Thank you for all that your team does. Best wishes!
As a mom, I’m glad he’s not all alone down there anymore. How heartbreaking for this family.
I had the exact same thought.
I cannot imagine, although sad news this brought closer to the family.
So heartbreaking everytime Jed's mother corrects people when referring to him in the past tense. She wanted so much to have her son come home that the thought of anything else never occurred to her.
She remained optimistic, I think I'd be the opposite and expect the worst. We're all different.
definitely the saddest. he really was “just a baby” and the way his parents held on to hope til the very end. my heart goes out to them.
Giving people the closure they need, I think, is more valuable than we all could imagine. I think your team is doing more good than harm by doing it earlier. Thank you for all that you guys do.
When the mother said, "He had so much to live for." That broke my heart. Jed seemed like a good kid. I'm sorry that something made you feel it was better to leave than stay, Jed. 😞😞
Depression is the devil
@@tracylove8177 Yes... I agree.
Love and respect to his Mom and Dad. Their gratitude to Jared and Doug brought me to tears. They now have the finality of where but will have to continue grieving without the why.
@DriveAllNightSouthofknowing Aw, that really means a lot. I know how it's like living with depression. I also have my hard days but I try and fight to keep going and I hope they do, too.
Perspective is a fickle thing - a life that the parents think had such promise did not seem like that to Jed. Depression twists your mind and young adolescent males often dont open up about what they are feeling. I am so sorry that Jed felt this was what he wanted to do and so sorry for the parents. I hope that at least with the certainty of what happened and being able to put his remains to decent rest that this can be some comfort to them over time.
I grew up with Jed, we used to play night games together all the time. I remember the day he went missing like it was yesterday. Because of the drive by shooting my school was placed on shelter in place, when I found out he was missing I knew it wasn’t good. You’ve given many people answers today, thank you! Rest In Peace to an amazing person!
I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and let your friends know you'll be there for them too, and that there's help if you need it. Sending ❤️.
So sorry for your friend Jed! Hope you find some peace and closure knowing he's not hurting anymore 😌
Sorry for your loss but I have a question? Your school has a drive by shooting? Was he the one who was a participant in that especially since the gun hustler was found in the car ? If so, that could explain why he did this to himself.. And if he was on medication for something like hypertension,it has actually been found that those pharmaceutical meds being handed out to kids are most causing these gun outbreaks by way of children/ students in schools. But big pharma is not going to allow that information to be broadcasted to the public about theyr medicines so we as a population have wonder why this bad things and shoot out happen in our schools.
@Nicky L not for high blood pressure. I meant meds for children like Ritalin which is common for conventional medicine educated doctors in America to give children. It has been that was since 1990s. Those meds are actually not good for kids but no pharmacy or pharma corporation will allow the general public in mass to know. Especially when they are funding American Medical schools which educated all conventional medicine practicing doctors
@@tmac6586 Niky L is right there was a shooting at a persons house who had been harassing his friend. They couldn’t prove it was him but they suspected it was. He was an amazing guy truthfully and I knew he was never a danger to any of us but they had to be safe.
It's very common when someone takes their own life, for the ones left behind to feel some anger towards that person. It's normal for this mother to lash out in her initial grief, angry and frustrated that her son would take this path instead of call her, talk to someone, reach out... My own family has been there. It's part of the grief, and part of the greater tragedy that ppl who harm themselves don't only end their own life, they drastically affect the lives of all those they leave behind. 💔
You two and your team are incredible human beings. Your camera crew captures the meaning and importance of your work to bring some closure to families who are in pain. My heart goes out to this family.