Chastity Advice that Actually Works
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- Опубликовано: 23 май 2024
- Jackie and Bobby offer advice on how to practically live out the virtue of chastity.
There's a big difference between talking about chastity and living chastely. If you've made the commitment, but struggle to follow through, then this video is for you.
These tips leave no room for excuses. The couple that follows these six guidelines will not only persevere in chastity, but grow in holiness in the process:
1. Remember only God can satisfy our longing for love.
2. Know yourself. Don’t go where you’re tempted.
3. Make sure the person you are dating is on the same page as you when it comes to chastity.
4. Have friendships that will hold you accountable.
5. Have some boundaries. For example, if you know temptation peaks around 10 p.m., part ways at 10 p.m.
6. Stay detached in certain ways from the person you’re dating. Keep in mind they may not be the person you marry.
These are just some of the pointers Jackie and Bobby offer in this video. Also, Ascension has a great number of resources on the theology of the body and chastity. You can find them here (bit.ly/2QroMHU).
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I’m 15 and my parents are no longer together. I wanted to see a good model of marriage and I’ve seen y’alls videos and I feel so much better to know that loving marriages are possible. Thanks
-Luke Hebert
Luke Hebert hi Luke! When r u going to do a video again? I haven’t seen u on Renee’s or Byzantine Catholics live-streams.
Православље Maxboy50 I have been going threw something’s in my home life. I’ll get started back soon enough. 😄 thanks for showing concern for me. I’ll pray for y’all 😁
Luke Hebert oh sorry about that. I hope everything works out. Look forward to seeing your videos.
Luke Hebert avoid divorce...don’t get married !! It’s unnatural!
Just remember marriage is not always a bed of roses. We are fallible creatures. husband and wife need to view each other as instructed by Christ and witnessed through Mary and Joseph the perfect example of a beautiful marriage.
Just went through a very hard temptation and started praying the rosary then this video pops up thanks guys :)
Please pray for me
Eduardo G how are you doing?
Stay strong my G!!!
Eduardo G is everyone here religious?
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Andrew Watts: That is the point of this channel.....
This needs to be played for youth groups. It is the least judgemental or preachy and most well balanced discussion of chastity that I have ever seen.
I agree very honest and down to earth. More like you older siblings giving advice.
I am a youth pastor and I plan on it!!!!
Don't forget that chastity is for married couples too! Why not add a part 2 to this video and talk about protecting marriages from flirting with others, adultery, etc.? I see marriages around me crumbling because of lack of chastity too. It's not just for the single.
I second her comment.
@@natsgrey7769 if a work lunch torpedoed your marriage..it wasn't very strong to begin with...
True. A video on Chastity In Holy Matrimony will be so beneficial and insightful
nats gray if your wife is freaking out because you are texting a female friend sometimes, or because you had a work lunch... she is already too far gone.
I'm single, but I don't really flirt, and to tell you the truth it's changed my life for the better! People don't get the wrong message when I choose not to speak that language.
I am probably a professional youtube watcher.
LOL!
same
Are you Jonathan Wolff the author of Introduction to Political Philosophy?
@@luistirado6305 unfortunatley not. Too busy watching acsension presents.
you are, you're everywhere!
1 week ago I deleted social media ( feels like its been forever haha) and started getting more involved in my church and reading the Bible. I will not let temptation win!
Lol don’t forget to give them your hard earned money so the Vatican can make more income tax free “donations”
Other than RUclips for videos like these, I have been without all other forms of social media for over 2 years now. It feels liberating, I don’t miss it, and I’ve been able to produce richer relationships with like-minded people and strengthened my faith beyond anything I could ever imagine. Stay strong brother, it’s worth it!
Great video! My wife and I followed a similar formula and it works! May I suggest an addition to #5: End your date with prayer. We didn't always end with prayer but it cools things down at the end of a date and sets the focus where it belongs.
Bill Martin that’s such a great idea!
That's very good always keeping God as your focus beautiful
Agree. Also, go to daily mass together if you can, as well as, monthly confession!
That's a really cool idea. I'll start doing that!
Where can I such a woman that would want to do that? Seriously, I need someone like that!
This is the first time I saw someone here in RUclips do the Sign of the Cross and its so refreshing, thanks guys! 👍🏻👏🏻👋🏻😍🇵🇭
Dan right, because it’s a heresy to make the sign of the cross. Okay.
@Dan
Begone, protestant heretic
Qwerty he’s just misguided. I don’t doubt that he never learned the scriptures growing up Catholic, as far too many churches fail to actually preach the gospel. But, this isn’t just a Catholic problem, but something that many Protestant churches certainly deal with.
I wanted to add on to the Tired of HALT: I struggle a lot with lust, and although it has become easier (with LOTS of prayer) to steer away from temptation when I'm awake, it gets really hard when I'm lying half-asleep in bed. I started praying a rosary as I was going to sleep, and have learned that I have to treat this time just like any other time in my life: no compromising, no leaving room for sin. As soon as my head hits the pillow, I'm praying, so that I don't give my thoughts time to wander.
To clarify: you can't beat your desires into submission- trust me, I've tried. It's only by re-orienting yourself through prayer that you'll recieve the grace you need to put your desires in order. What I'm referring to is when you are capable of acting chastely, but choose to leave yourself just a little bit open to temptation. That's when you have to stand firm.
Hope this helps anyone struggling with similar problems!
Thank you for sharing this.
I lean into the Lord and i surrender and yield to him
That is one of the things that my husband said he loved and respected about me. I was not willing to compromise my values when it came to intimacy and other areas of my life. I had bowed to pressure and changed my values for other men I dated and found that 3 months in, I was no longer myself. I didnt marry those men.
Once I discovered who I was and my relationship with God and learned to love who I was, God blessed me with a wonderful man. my husband and I will celebrate 11 yrs of marriage this year.
Gina Becker hi Gina, congratulations 🎉 and what you said is really encouraging, thanks for sharing🙏🏼 I think we should always have faith in God. Although in today’s dating culture it is difficult to find someone who agrees with our chastity values and still want to date you without having what they want, we should believe that if we obey the commandments God give us, He will grant us what’s beyond our imagination😇
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼 it's really encouraging
It's feel great to wear chastity permanently wife
Once you give it up to anyone, you have given it up in general. You don't get a magical do-over with each new guy.
Congratulations. If you made it to this part of youtube then you are on the right track. No matter what you have been through, you are worth-while and strong. You can do it friends.
Fruit of prayer.
Chaste since 2001. Only by the grace of God
I knew Saint Teresa's advice of not making decisions during sad or anger times nor happy times. But I loved HALTS. 👍👍👍
HALTS?
Wow. Great talk. You two are on fire for God! Your words, attitudes, how you say stuff makes virtue appealing and attainable. Not on our own as you said but through grace.
I could really use some prayers.
I agree! You make chastity sound like "anyone can do this" thru grace of God of course :) Is there anything wrong with loving ur loofah?? Lol
Until that person is your spouse, they're still your sister/brother in Christ and someone else's spouse. So we're to not only honor them, but their future spouse as well in the event of an unfortunate break up.
Wow,this was good!I'm a 27 yr old virgin female and single.. who has always known as a pre-teen that I was saving sex for marriage. I'm the fourth child in a family of 8 kids,my 3 older siblings are married and I'm getting the "You should meet this guy!" or 'I know this one guy!" I just refuse to date just because I'm single.Thank you for these great reminders!
Have lived that for 2 years now and there's been such vast improvement in my life. Marry eventually? Sure. But having that time to grow spiritually, financially, and personally has been indispensable.
I’m so happy I don’t have sexual urges 😂 when I was a kid, I thought something was wrong with me. Now I’m 26 and realizing I fall under the asexual spectrum-and Lord am I happy about that! Married now and having the best sex of my life after waiting for my husband :)
Thank you so much for sharing this and for being so candid. I wish more talks like this happened in the church, they’re so important for young people.
IT IS A HUGE RED FLAG if they don’t want to include you in their family. If they don’t want to date in community. If they act like you’re a secret. Big big red flag.
Hey to all you fellow chaste, single young people! Blessings are in store for us! We'll make it!
Thank you! This represents the exact opposite of what we see day to day. I'm now a divorced woman. How to practice charity when a person may think, why are you holding back. I think it's beautiful to wait rather we are young teens, adults or grown adults. Gives purity to a relationship. Gives that time to build a true foundation. Thanks for this!
Incredibly wise, thanks for sharing, greetings from Poland!
this vid is SOOO GOOD and relatable. a couple months ago i deleted my instagram account and now i feel so much better, have the time i used to say i didint to dedicate to God and prayers. chasity is hard, but it worth it every second. thanks for the vid
Amazing. I am turning 45, and back when I was a teen the way of "Catholic" families used to be like women must remain virgin till wedding day but guys could do whatever they wanted with girls they wouldn't necessarily marry someday. That was not right and it is not what Catholicism says. What you say is the true Catholicism.
That's not about Catholicism. Guys should save their virginity as well as gals. The issue you are speaking to sounds, and seems to be more about culture, and double standards. Chastity is for everyone.
The double standards are not cultural but biological. The consequences of sex are radically different for women than they are for men, and have been for the last few million years.
These 2 Christian ROLE-MODELS are a blessing to many who will chose to head their words of Godly wisdom!
This is wonderful. Thank you both so much for taking the time to do this. I know so many people need to hear this, including myself.
Y'all have such a beautiful, stunning marriage. Thank you for your wonderful example!
Thank you for having this video today. I needed reminders of proper chastity
The most helpful thing I’ve ever heard (and nicely packaged) in my life aughh.
Blessings
Hurrah!!! That was uplifting especially her last statement.
Amazing video! I'm 20, and this is helpful advice. Thank you!!!
Quality video full of solid advice! (And not just about physical chastity but regarding the resistance of all forms of temptation.)
I also appreciated that y'all stayed on topic, yet the dialogue didn't feel scripted or unnatural. thumbs up!
Oh my ! this was soooo good! Im also a christian and this is the first time I hear great ways towards Chastity. Thank you guys so much!
Wow that was really good! You guys inspire me so much! The things you guys teach are so practical and spiritual at the same time. Thank you for all the insight! Praise God for you two!!
In a squeaky breathless voice: "CHHHAAASSTTICCLLESS" im dead. I love the innocent minds of kids.
This video has made me feel a lot better. I’ve been struggling with well let’s just say being a teenager and at one point I learned that something I was doing was wrong and I wanted to fix it. Little did I know, how LONG and difficult that process would be. I’ve heard many stories of people fighting the same battles as me. That just goes to show that it isn’t always gonna be easy, but God will always be with us no matter what. Thank you. God bless!
Gorgeous couple. It's so inspiring to see spouses being the best and true friends. Great talk. God bless you 🙏
The way she looks at him 🥺❤️❤️❤️
Good advice! God bless us all with self control to be able to give ourselves to another fully when appropriate!
In this day and age there is more lust than ever. Please pray for those of us who are struggling to overcome lust and that we may be instead filled with the Holy Spirit and overcome our temptations
Could you do more marriage/family related videos?
@@poetlover30 Sorry, but you definitely have me mistaken with someone else.
'This person isn't yours until they are yours'. - Wonderfully said! It's also a wonderful way of drawing the red line.
Wow, what a great video. I defiantly need prayer for my heart to be transformed to love others more.
Very sound advice. Thanks Jackie and Bobby!❤
Amen! thank you so much for addressing this topic
5:05 And here I thought I was the only one trading my smart phone in for an old school flip phone. I've used it for almost a year now and it has helped release me from the constant temptation of comparison and lust. I've also deactivated Facebook and use only RUclips, which, I am trying to ween, as well. Great content.
Thank you for this video.
It's been about 6 months without Instagram, I realised it opened doors I couldnt close myself.
But there's more work to be done.
Thanks for making this video! Truly blessed my life 🙏🏻
wow!!!! That's a POWERFULL advice for our youth. THANK YOU!!!!!!!
It’s just great to listen to you guy’s topic:) wonderful point made here.
Push you and push you until you’re in a moment of weakness...sooo relatable
Thank you very much and God bless!
I grew up in a non-religious household and environment and was taught that waiting until marriage is from other outdated centuries and for sectants.
I am so glad it isn't! I am not an alien with my thoughts :) there are adequate people with rewarding experiences.
I feel very welcomed and in a non judgemental atmosphere watching your video:) thank you for this
In school I refused to go to bars, never drank alcohol or smoked and dressed modestly. At that time I did not know there's a word like modesty. It was very unusual in my surrounding and still I thankfully did not became an outcast because of this.
I was popular in school, maybe because I did not show giggling interest in boys. They were even the more motivated trying to woo me, seeing I was unreachable
I survived school without giving my body away. After graduation I learned that if you wait, infatuation with it's hormone storms will go away and you'll stand there wondering how this could change from the most intense feeling to irrelevant. I did not gave away what seemed sacred for me and worth more than play. I wanted to share myself wholly only with someone who loves me and whom I love.
Sadly I did not stumbled across the word chastity until now. There was 2 engagements already and I lost my virginity with them. It is a plus that I waited for a man that proposed to me. Even though it was psychologically too early and a compromise that does not suit my soul or psychotype or whatever you name it.
I am writing this so other people with similar experiences find a story to relate.
You are not alone!
And you can begin to live chaste anytime you decide to!
Living chastely is for Marriage, is for singles and for couples who already had sex.
I told my current boyfriend recently that I want to refrain from sexual activity. I was ready to let him go. If he wants to go, it would be better for both of us. And I wish him to be happy, if there is a place he's happier... Why hold on to him? It should be his free choice! Like it is my free choice to choose where my boundaries are and with what morals I want to live.
He not only stayed in the relationship, but supports and admires me.
Do you really want to be with someone that stays only as long as the sex is good? For me this is not 'being loved for who you are', but rather an agreement of co-habitation where it is your job to perform, else you are fired.
And if it only was for performing in sex, but NO there are several other thingies summing up to the load of performance- pressure.
In some way this is twisted. A day time job and an at-home job. One paid with money.
Where can I relax and be myself without pressure to perform?
Using each other, not seeing each others hearts, because we're too busy demanding "what we deserve". Deserving love...
Needed this so much sooner!
God Speed to you both as well. I love y’all forever and ever. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I love these videos. Thank you for these great tools. I thank God for all of you at Ascension Press.
I know when my wife and I were dating, we made sure never to “be alone.” Our parents always gave us some privacy, but we were in their homes while they were there. And we usually were in a living room or a very public part of the house. But I think the most effective tool for us was, if we were in the car alone, THE CAR NEEDED TO BE MOVING. My wife was much better than me, and it was tedious at times, but looking back after 16 years of marriage, six boys, and praise God, a baby girl on the way, I am so glad we did this. You are right, it is something we are so glad we did now, looking back in hindsight. I love sharing these videos with my nieces and nephews. Thanks so much and we are praying for you both.
You guys are amazing!! Thanks so much!
I wish ya'll, and these videos were around when I was young!
Excellent COUPLE FOR TEACHING CATHOLICISM INTELLIGENCE ABOUT CHASTITY!! GREAT AMEN
Thank you for the beautiful video, keep at it, these are very helpful
Holy clear, so very helpful & encouraging!!!🙏
Great video! Seriously! As a guy that recently embarked on this journey, I appreciate it. I am not necessarily religious, but I try to live a life based on spiritual principles. "Using others for pleasure" Yikes! Never looked at it from that angle, but yeah, I can see it! This video was empowering for me. Thanks
Thanks for making this video.Really great, I learned a lot from this.
Excellent video and advice! Thank you so much!!!
Thanks for the advice guys! God bless!
Finally, someone said it. Thank you! "My brother-in-Christ" for someone you are dating or engaged, too! I've been at church for a year. Two churches!!! Not one of them mentioned this. This is vital!!!
You two are so beautiful
Thank you so much for this enlighting content. God bless you all and take you on the path of eternal joy and salvation!
Thank you!!!! As usual, God sent this right when I needed to see it. I’m feeling guilt and shame because I keep falling in spite of what my brain and soul scream at me. You’ve made me realize it’s ok to trip and fall, and that I can do this with time and patience. God bless
For a righteous man may fall seven times And rise again, But the wicked shall fall by calamity
Proverbs 24:16
Thank you for helping me understand this better. I am starting this path by choice but I'm not religious, so I need to approach this a little differently.
Beautiful video. I wish I understood it before. I pray for my kids to understand the beautiful gift 🎁 chastity gives you when you marry the one 💝
Such a great great video! Thank you so much
Love you guys so much!!
Can you make a video on marriage and natural family planning how to truly be in chastity once you are married
Dont plan number of your family members
Great , THANK YOU this is what I needed
GREAT TEACHERS OF LIVING CHASTITY...KEEP ON SHARING YOUR EXCELLENCE KNOWLEDGE & PRACTICE TO ALL CATHOLIC YOUTH TO EXPERIENCE A GLIMPSE OF TRUE LOVE IS POSSIBLE TO PRACTISE FOR CHASTITY & CELIBACY.
Just loved it. So nice!!!
Honestly these videos are great and I've just gotten into the role of accountability bro as one of my really good mates went on a first date. I recommended this channel and the dating advice from Jackie as a guide and I recommended for the sake of purity that sane tip of not staying alone together beyond a certain time.
You guys are the best. Thank you for your
Thank you for the beautiful prayer, God bless!
I'm just trying to find a good Catholic man in the first place!
@zadose that's too rare. Try a catholic or just a christian man who really shares your values. That's the most important thing
God will provide!
I’m just trying to find a good Catholic woman in the first place.
I can said the same thing
A person can't be definied whether he/she is a good person by what his/her religion is. Religion doesn't make one what he/she is!
Great advice! thanks for sharing.
Another great thing that chastity does is prove the trust of the relationship. Someone who cannot keep themselves chast while in the dating/engagement period, will have a very hard time staying dedicated to the marriage when they don't feel like they want to be in it. It's a great trust exercise (not that every person who stays chast before marriage doesn't cheat while in the marriage). But it's a real good indicator that the person you are dating has self control. I find people who have self control, have much more stable lives in general. Thank you so much for this video. I love how you prayerfully and calmly explain the importance of this virtue.
I loved the definition of chastity as the body following the soul or integration of the two.
Trusting God in my walk towards the vocation of marriage!!
Very good video. Fits all ages and situations. A message from God for sure ❤️
I love chastity talks a lot! That is where you can tell when someone really loves your soul! :-)
Obrigado pelo seu bom atendimento chastity a sua equipe é maravilhosa vc esta de parabéns maria das graças
Thanks & God Bless Y'all 2! :)
My first time watching your video on 'Ascension Presents' and you guys rock!!!
Number 3 is really important, it is difficult already you need some on the same page with you. Thank you
Got rid of Snapchat a long time ago and it's probably one of the best decision I've ever made.
Really helpful. Thank you. God bless.
A very much needed message to be presented to us all. Thank you so much! This will be a great video to share with a potential future boyfriend 👌
great talk! liked, and shared!
" THANK YOU and GOD BLESS you "
Nicely done!!!
God bless you! Great advice
This was excellent
Great inspiration. Thanks.
Thank you for another awesome video! My husband and I teach the Confirmation preparation class at our church and we might have to use this video! I'm really curious if you have any practical advice on practicing chastity within marriage as well although much of this applies. Thank you so much for your videos!
Thank you, very cool!
Wow that was great, good work
Absolutely, pray for GOD is LIGHT TO walk with you always. For you are hopelessly not knowing you & the other person intentions...etc. You are great couple for you pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray ...for chastity is most precious for being the IMAGE OF GOD'S LOVE.