How Far is Too Far Before Marriage?
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- Опубликовано: 16 июн 2024
- When it comes to relationships before marriage, if you’re asking the question “How far is too far?”, you're asking the wrong question.
Try taking a different approach to the matter by asking, “How can I help this person get to heaven?”
Jackie explains that the person you are dating may be someone else’s future spouse, or may become a priest or nun, and they’re definitely someone’s son or daughter. Selflessness is essential to wholesome relationships, and that includes relationships before marriage. We don’t want to lead someone into sin; we want to lead them to heaven.
Jackie also gives some practical guidelines to help us differentiate between affection and arousal, saying that if you wouldn’t do it in front of your grandma or the pope, just don’t do it at all.
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As a man who struggled with lust, once I found my faith I instantly turned away from my old ways on how I viewed sex. I told my gf that I cannot have sex anymore because she is too important to me. So we’re waiting till marriage. I’ve never felt more free and happy. Praise God.
What a great gift you are giving to your girlfriend! God is going to honor that decision!
God bless you! God bless you both!
@@emmib1388 And to himself! That's hard for a man especially, to go back
@@Jennifer-gr7hn very true!
Exactly the same. Me and my partner were together for 3 years living in sin as I tried different spiritual philosophies, ultimately. going nowhere. I was working too much, and getting irritable often. With a men's group, I started fasting to destroy some of my vices, and god came in. Similar to you, my girlfriend and I joined the catholic church and god, and we are waiting until marriage now. She is more radiant, I am happier and our relationship is so much deeper and richer living in alignment with God's will. Within two weeks, my priorities became clear, we are to build a family, so I will propose before Christmas. Praise god.
She right. I have many regrets. Your body is sacred and love it and protect it. Guard yourself from being used and teach people to respect you.
Well said!!!
Definitely guard yourself from being used. The only thing I would like to add is that you can't really teach someone to respect you. If someone doesn't treat you with respect, run from that person and don't look back.
Wise and good advice for a lifetime..
Amen ✝️🙏❤️
As a dude who crossed that line, I fully agree.
Took a long time to realize it, though
-"Anything you do to my daughter, I will do to you"
-hugs daughter
-father hugs me to prove he wasn't joking
-group hug
-profit
I would give my credit card to her daughter. 😂
@@_Cartographer_ big brain idea
i started to cry in the middle of the video, because i realized that people with pure intentions still exists, and i gives me hope
our present day culture needs to hear this truly :')
Oh it does, its quite impossible not to hear it these days. Whether our culture and needs it or should accept it is another matter.
How each person receives this message & how it's interpreted are quite different
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Very much true, God bless you and everyone elese
Agreed
How is no one else going nuts about that analogy? "If you could do it in front of your grandmother or Pope Francis, you're good!" That's gold!
Lol I know, pretty sure most married couples wouldn't even be comfortable doing it in front of the Pope or their grandmother unless they like having an audience lol.
Seems to be a bit of a misleading barometer. If you are married what do you conceive children with your wife in front of Francis or your grandmother? The idea that privacy always equals shame does not really hold up.
(When you go into the restroom to relieve yourself, you close the door for privacy, yet everyone knows exactly what you are doing in there)
Literally this made my eyes bulge out. I was gagged. I was like okay so only hugs, hand holding, and kisses on the cheek/face (not lips).
It's probably safer to say "in front of your grandmother or Pope St. Pius X."
Did y'all miss the audience she is talking about in this presentation? She's not talking to people who are married. She's talking to everyone else and what the world says is acceptable behavior before marriage.
Wow this really helped my 15 year old self .✝️
Me too, haha.
I’m 15 too 😌
Haha! I'm 48! It does speak well of you all that you're here and learning. God bless you all
Praise GOD!
Same but also no
Imagine how strong your love will be for each other if you actually reserve sex for marriage and strengthen your bond through getting to know each other in and out.
People who have sex can and do love eachother. Sex can dominate a relationship sure but there’s no rule that says that has to be the case, it’s not all or nothing.
Why does nobody talk about this like THIS? So well put, so easy to understand. I wish I had heard this advice when my husband and I were dating, it just makes the lines so clear and simple. Filing this away for when our son (and any future children we may have) need to hear it. God bless you!!
I totally agree with all of your thoughts here. I am 26 at present and up until now patiently waiting for the God-given man for me while honoring my body. Others call it as old fashioned or traditional, but I don't mind being labeled this way. Ladies out there like me, indeed true love waits. The moment they ask you to have pre-marital sex, that signals you have to leave the relationship. Let's keep being well- reserved and live a chaste life holistically.
I like that, "give them a name" :) good tips. :)
Dolores 😁😁
@@joemunoz1476 Another priest said something similar once: First of all, look her eyes; that reminds us that we are treating with an actual human.
At the risk of seeming ignorant, thinking of someone as a human turns you off?
@@MarcillaSmith I don't think that's what is meant. But reminding yourself someone is a human being is not a turn off but it reminds you that that which you are doing is not appropriate.
This is the first time to meet a woman (beautiful woman) so open and sincere about her temptations, her feelings, emotions and even sinfulness. It helps us men to understand how women think too and their own struggles. I know my sin, it is always before me from the past but we need to know how to "change" and become like a child so we can enter the Kingdom of God already here on earth. Thanks for bringing up Holiness, and that each meeting is a chance to come closer to Jesus Christ (and be Sanctified) or to go away from Christ and into our selfish desires of the flesh. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You.... Personally recommend the Holy Rosary, was set-free from many bad and sinful habits. Especially the Scriptural Rosary!!! Help us Blessed Mother Mary to be pure of heart and more and more like you and your Son Jesus Christ.
Great reply scripture rosary!!!
yes, the Rosary has helped me to overcome bad and sinful habits. Also, praying to the Holy Spirit for the gifts of Chastity and Temperance (self control)
Very well said.
I've unfortunately lived my life as lukewarm and lazy. I wish that in 8 years of Catholic grade school and a lifetime of Masses someone would have had the guts to teach right from wrong. There were glimmers of Truth but no one wanted to lay out the explicit do's and don'ts. Thank you!
Its sad that i can 'like' this video only once. Its very well explained and I will surely share this with my kids.
It's okay to let the bird fly over your head. Just don't let it nest in your hair. This is for people that struggle with sinful, lustful, impure and unholy thoughts. As a man, every time I see a woman who is very attractive, I thank God for creating her. I glorify God for His beautiful creation and move on my own way. You can't help the fact that you saw an attractive person. But YOU CAN help what you do with your thoughts. Prayer, giving of thanks to God, self examination according to Gods word, and rebuking these thoughts will help you accomplish this.
How about the ugly person not so attractive How can you pray to God about that? Would you still appreciate God for it and thank God that God created him/ her beautiful but For God and for me,all is Equal no one is ugly God created us all good no one is ugly in God's eyes All is beautiful. yeah for human standards they are many attractive man and woman that is only human standards but For God All is the same but for me All people is beautiful God is created us beautiful no one is ugly.
Such a beautiful piece.
Aw thank you for this video. Dating has been on my mind a lot recently and it makes me a bit anxious thinking about it, because I've made so many mistakes in the past, and I've never dated "the right way". But these videos help me alot because if God is calling me to marriage, I want to do it in a way that pleases him❤
hi
When I entered Nofap my perspective on woman definitely change. I view them as human beings like me and I dont get awkward around them.
This was so well presented, thank you for expressing yourself so plainly, openly and honestly. A must share with my friends who have teens, and young adults. (My family included.) God bless you.
This is a great video and I hope at 54 I can eventually find the right one for me.
God bless you in your search, our society has programmed most of us to be wrong. I'm one of them but I'm working on it. Pray the Rosary
Put yourself out there and find a husband, the search is worth it
@@homiesenatep I'm guessing at 54 she has tried?
There is nothing wrong with saving that arousal
for marriage...you put it nicely ....save that special bond for marriage - it will be beautiful❣️
When you still get that fuzzy feeling when you see your spouse from a distance - you know you’re blessed😍
This is so powerful, Really helps seeing your videos in my journey with chastity and modesty. More people need to see this message! God bless you♥️🙏🏼
You hit the nail on the head Jackie!! I appreciate this practical advice ❤️
AMEN the netherlands (where i live) is so unchristian, thankfully i can learn how to date and stuff in a proper way from you guys, thankyou God bless
I really needed this reminder, I’ve found the girl who I hope to be my future wife and I sure don’t want to do anything to derail our state of grace together. One of the greatest joys in dating this wonderful girl is that special holy feeling of truly bonding in faith! God bless you Jackie!
Just found this channel. Great stuff. As a young male Catholic this definitely answers alot of questions
The first part of the right question topic is so beautiful! Thank you! 🙏🏻
This is sooooo good and helpful! Thank you 💘💘
FANTASTIC post. Thank you for sharing this.
Gosh, Jackie is such a great person! I thank her for these lessons because I am one to judge others and I compare myself to other women. This was a great video. I pray that I can see people as brothers and sisters and with love. I'll also have to start giving strangers fake names to respect and love them.
I never thought of it as a woman -- but she is right -- whether we consciously believe it -- we are in our head comparing ourselves to them!
Can you also please make a video on the culture of 'Living together' since this is also practiced by many unmarried christian couples.
Couples should never ever live together. Only a fool will believe they live without sin.
dang I thought if I was I was married I'd be able to live with my wife :( thanks for your wisdom@@ninjamaster3453
Once your married, you are able to live with her & be together as one flesh.
Father Mike has a video on it.
Cohabitation is a mortal sin
The story about the friend in the mall is very inspiring. And his technique sounds like a good one!
I think Jason who also does videos for AP once said that if looking at a beautiful woman caused him to lust, he would say a prayer for her in his head, asking God to look after her and her soul. I thought that was a beautiful sentiment and I've tried to do the same myself (with men). We all need help and it's not shameful to ask for it and lean on God's mercy. Thank you for this video!
Beautiful video that I wish everyone who NEEDS it, watches it.
Beautiful advice. Thank you so much!
Wow I needed to hear this. All your videos are so helpful and eye opening!
Oh that is so sweet I love your honesty and your integrity and sweetness. I mean personally I have had to learn the hard way, by becoming a single Mum never married although I would like to one day and I wanted to live by these ideals but I didn't have faith and I didn't really know anyone else who was except some evangelical Chrisitians but somehow I struggled with faith and couldn't live as a saint. Please say a prayer for my son who is a teenager now and me. Thankyou
Excellent, well said, and it’s great to hear a lady’s perspective.
This kind of true honesty is refreshing
I REALLY enjoyed this talk. It was upfront [I'm a blunt person so I can only process direct speech] I understood the message and the thought process behind it.
I have respect for people who can stray from temptation, because for me it has always been too difficult.
We are ALL sinners theirs no such things that a person cannot stray from temptations maybe not lustful temptations but they committed Other sins in 10 commandments like Revenge from your neighbors, murder, telling other people about their bad reputation, Pride bragging that they don't have sins, consulting a Satanist occult practices like voodoo, spirit of glass, etc.
pray the Rosary! It helps in staying away from temptation and makes it harder to sin. I speak this from my own experience. God bless you and may the Blessed Mother keep you ❤️
It's hard to stay away from temptation, but it's hard for everyone. The people who resist temptation don't find it easier than you do--they've just fought it harder. As the Bible tells us, there is no temptation you've encountered that isn't common to all.
Thank you Jackie for great insight. You explained it very well. Thanks
Easily the best I have heard in a long long time. Uncle Jumbo would often say think of Our Lady when you look at a woman.
This was very helpful, thank you for this video. God bless you and God bless everyone else.
Truly am in awe of any couple that succeeds in forgoing even "passionate kissing" until their honeymoon night. Nothing but the deepest admiration if you and Bobby honored God so completely during your courtship. :)
That is sucha great video. Thanks for that, Jackie
well done, great answer to a difficult topic.
What a beautiful testament to love!
I love listening to you, very well spoken and taken to heart ❤ Thank you so much"
You’re so brilliant.
Haven’t kissed a man in twenty years due to past relationships, not interested. That’s a beautiful analogy Jackie. Right on ...self control for my soul mate.
You’re such a passionate soul and I’m truly grateful for your inspiration and courage and so much more. Thank you, Doll. Peace be with you and I’ll be praying for you and yours. Hugs.
God Bless you and the entire @Ascension Presents Team. Super like (super)...califragilistic style or however you spell that super dipper of a word...Thank you, kindly. Lots of love and prayers for you all.
Go to therapy
That story about your friend who said that they give women they don't even know a name and say how they are someone's daughter and granddaughter really was a eye opening idea. I struggle controlling my gaze at times and that definitely is going to help in controlling it more
I really don't like the presumption that if I'm asking this question it means I want to use somebody for pleasure. I'm a convert without much experience with relationships. I'm not in a position to get married right now, though I hope to be there soon. Still, I'd like not to close myself off from meeting women and potentially finding my future spouse. I think the question of how I can share physical affection with them without it being an offense to the Lord is a perfectly legitimate one.
I agree with you
@Dusty Fred "get over it", wow way to go minimizing and coldly brushing over someone's feelings like that
But she does adresses the question in the video, she just says that that question must be asked from a particular mindset (a Christian engagment) and not another (lust).
Jackie Angel needs to work on her presentation.
@@sandyjeannette4617 I agree with you, though in fairness, presentation is a problem almost everyone faces. Honestly, I tried explaining it in this comment, before giving up.
Thank you for sharing truths candidly! Let's spread this great word. God is Good!
Wow these are things I'm just learning about and it is hitting my heart hard. Wish I had known this when I was younger.
Totally agree - I was in the same boat. Didn't even know what Chastity meant. Fell into the way of the world 25+ years ago. Had no religious friends and thought I was the only one who wanted to wait. I am just learning this NOW - after making SO MANY mistakes in my single and even married life. Thankfully, my husband and I are now on a journey back to our faith and now that I'm learning what the teachings are and why they are it ALL MAKES SENSE!
Absolutely true; and I wish that this was taught time and again realistically, like you communicate, when I was in eighth grade through high school, late 1970's - 1982! Unfortunately, the false ways of the world fought even against these truths even back then, so we have learn - "Army" "be - know - do" fight the good fight concerning these matters, too!
Jackie angel,i think have become a fan of u.It's so nice hear u and u r doing a great job.May God abundantly bless u,Sister!!!
This is so so good. Thank you for all of your wisdom!
This is so helpful in discerning marriage. I wish I could’ve come here sooner.
Your speech is amazing and very heart touching sister, I really love it. Thanks a lot from North East India..🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳
I'm sorry some people didn't like this video because it's awesome. It's an excellent piece of advice for people who didn't know. But it also makes people like me, who have done everything wrong, reflect and consider how evil we have been especially because we KNEW it very well. I am paying the price of not listening to God. If I had tried to follow what God and the Church say about sexuality, I wouldn't be heart broken the way I am and suffering because I allowed others using me while I used them (even people I thought I was going to marry). This video is gold. I hope more people try to understand why this is so important and avoid not only sin by itself but its consequences. That's something that will return to you sooner or later. No matter how long you try to hide it, if you really want to follow God's path, your sins and their consequences will come to the surface when you wanted them the least. Only God's grace can help us.
Thanks a lot Jackie. God bless you, your family and your ministry.
Amen! I’m right there with you! I was raised after the sexual revolution, which has harmed so many of us so deeply. (I didn’t know it was evil at the time, though; only lately after I converted and learned about the Church’s views on sexuality and marriage.) My heart was broken plenty of times, too. I hope you find healing and peace with our Lord.
Thank you as a young woman this really helped me. Thank you for making this video, my sister in Christ.
very moving. I've been struggling with this recently even though I'm single and it's very inspirational
You should talk about NFP, evils of contraception, the sin of oran and when married couple must refrain from certain times or acts.
I know she and her husband have done a video about why they don't use contraception, and maybe they have covered other things as well.
THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH FOR THIS!!! As a man whos struggling with this this is helpful
I hope you speak at schools, you do a great job explaining TOB!
Public schools want nothing that has to do with God.
Wow! That was really good! I'm 16 and not dating anyone obviously, but that just helped me a lot for the future! Thank you!:)
Great video! Thank you Jackie!
Such a great explanation! Thank you.
This might be the best talk Ive ever heard on this subject.
I love this, it is so helpful to me hearing this advice from you : )
Wow! What a video ❤️❤️ thank you so much for these words 💜 amen
Wow! This was beautiful, bringing dimension to « love God and love others like yourself; » what those relationships mean.
Such a beautiful video! Thank you
This is amazing! I’m so glad I ran into this video! Thank you Lord!!! Wow!! 😯
Changes my way of thinking, and how I say things!
Wow, this absolutely helped me , thank you
Amazing! Let´s have the fortitude to bear our cowardice and defend vigorously what we believe!
I just can’t imagine that special blessing you will get for you and your wife on your wedding nite, for waiting till marriage.
I think it is special to wait...get to know one another in other ways. ..have fun I ways that get you more in touch with each other
Affection ..real. .not the fake version (s) ...thanks for citing that word #worthewait
Fantastic video, thank you!
You guys put on some extremely good videos.
Come Holy Spirit, kindle the hearts of your faithful and you will renew the face of the Earth!
Come Holy Spirit, fill the hearts of your faithful and enkindle in them the fire of your love. Send forth your spirit and it shall be created, and you shall renew the face of the earth. Oh God, by the light of your Holy Spirit you have taught the hearts of your faithful. Help us to know what is truly right and always relish in its consolation. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen
This is so beautiful, thank you!
thank you for the video! this is what I just need right now!!!
I LOVE AND ADMIRE YOU! thank you for giving me hope :)
Good teaching! Love this.
Great video, i’ll forward this to my teenage boys😊🙏🏻🕊
This helped me so much. Thank you!
Great advice. Thanks Jackie
As a young girl this touches me so deeply. Since a few months I'm studying in a foreign country and in 2 days my boyfriend will come to visit me and will stay here for a few days. I'm religious but he's agnostic and I'm afraid our points of view on this matter are different, but we have never talked about it before, and this is the first time we are this far from home together. I don't really know what will happen, but he's a fantastic person and I don't want to loose him.
Hi Francesca
God bless you Jackie, you just helped me a lot.
Thank youuuu sooo muchh❤️ exactly what I needed to know and hear ! Amen
What binds us is Christianity, we are all one in the lord and if that's what he commands us to do, we should try to do that, not basing on our cultures,races etc,,,
hi
Who is this speaker? She is so very good! So insightful! So wise!!! So wonderful!! Thank you!!!
How long did you and your husband dated it before marrying?
I always use that Psalm. Psalms 84:1 How lovely is your dwelling place, O LORD. Lust Gone. Learnt it from Jason Evert. Best advice ever.
How about how to honor them! Amen, yes! How to get this person to Heaven. ✝️🕊❤️🙏🏻Your video on attraction was SO good. I had to check out this one. You’re right. GOD Bless You and Your Family, Jackie. Amen, I love that idea to say that’s somebody’s daughter/sister. Thank You also for talking about sexuality being beautiful and not shameful when used in the right manner. That’s true. Just like a car the body can get aroused. Also avoid passionate kissing outside of marriage…it’s a mortal sin to kiss passionately outside of marriage.
The reason why we abstain is because Lust is a sin, we love God and therefore we want to obey him.
Sure, I absolutely want the person I'm dating to go to heaven, It's just not the main reason we should be careful around one another.
GOD bless you my dear !
What you said was really amazing and the way you think is completely flawless !
Hi! It will be great if you make a video about contraceptives 😊
Loved the video. So useful
Great job, young lady! Amen!
Hi Jackie! Thanks for your energy and time in your videos. When you mention at about 8:19, 'What if he died?' in talking on how to treat one's dating partner as if they are not yours yet. I think that that begs the question of 'until death do we part.' What if, say, a couple were to marry, and then sadly one spouse does die? The two who have consecrated marriage are now removed from marriage, right? Is there then a certain challenge for, or something wrong with, the widow or widower, in any good pursuit of a second marriage?
Well said!! Really good points 🙏
I’m sending this to my boyfriend! Thank you!!!