Why We Don't Use Contraception in Our Marriage
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- Jackie and Bobby give their reasons for not using contraception in their marriage. While sharing the Church’s beautiful teaching on sex and marriage, they explain why sex is more than recreational. The biological and theological purpose of sex is to bear children.
Whenever a husband and wife give themselves to one another freely, totally, faithfully, and fruitfully, they are saying “I do” just as they did on their wedding day.
Further Resources:
Read more about Pope Paul VI’s prophetic predictions in Humanae Vitae at media.ascensionpress.com/2018/07/23/hearkening-to-humanae-vitae-a-5-part-series/
“These two meanings or values of marriage (the unitive and procreative) cannot be separated without altering the couple’s spiritual life and compromising the goods of marriage and the future of the family. The conjugal love of man and woman thus stands under the twofold obligation of fidelity and fecundity” (CCC 2363).
Also check out Fr. Mike’s video, “Catholic Teaching on Contraception and IVF Explained”
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I'm a convert to Catholicism and I recently had to break off my engagement to my fiancée. We could not see eye to eye on issues like contraception, being open to life, abortion and same sex marriage. I tried to get her to watch these videos with me to help her understand where the Church comes from on these issues but she flat out refused. It's been tough for me. I think she is a wonderful person but I also feel that these issues are important to me and I can't compromise on what I believe is right and true. Please pray for her and myself.
yep, you cannot compromise on your beliefs. God is above all.
You did good...Im already married with 2 kids and my husband and I dont agree on this issue...it is hard...we are not happy...Find someone you can talk to and agree with!
I was talking to a girl, but I had to break off the relationship since she believed in the pill, abortion, and not being open to life. It hurts, but it was the right thing to do. Pray for conversion 🙏🏻
Proud of your decision❤️
God bless you
"Do not deprive one another except perhaps by agreement for a set time, to devote yourselves to prayer, and then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." - 1 Cor. 7:5
Thank you. I have never seen this passage before.
Yeah we’re called to enjoy sex with our spouse but I do not beleive we’re called to be constantly pregnant
@@katBerk In other passages of the Bible we are called to be open to life and be fruitful in marriage. I would encourage looking at videos about natural family planning. The vast majority of Catholic women I know, who don’t use birth control pills or condoms, have pretty regular sex with their husbands, and have NOT been “constantly pregnant.” Most of them don’t have more than 3 children. For one thing, while breastfeeding most women can’t get pregnant for at least 6 months, because of the lactation hormones and the menstrual cycle re-regulating itself. For a second thing, you are only ovulating ONE day out of an on-average 28 day cycle for most women. You are not at high risk for getting pregnant about 99% of your cycle. Ask women who have struggled for years to get pregnant even when they know when their fertile day is- it’s a struggle, because not every copulation during fertile days ends up in pregnancy, because the sperm and egg have to also be in healthy condition, and the slightest thing can throw that off, from diet, to medicine, to a variety of factors. Given how statistically anomalous a pregnancy is compared to non-pregnancy when having unprotected sex, I’m convinced of two things. People who get pregnant when they’re being frivolous with casual sexual, get pregnant as a lesson from God in responsibility and consequences. People who get pregnant who are actively trying to in marriage are blessed by God to procreate, and people who are not blessed with high fertility are being called by God to do one of two things, either detox their body from unhealthy environmental factors so they can bring a baby into a healthier environment, or, they’re being called to adopt a child in need of a home first. I can’t tell you how many women I’ve talked to who struggled for YEARS to get pregnant, only to adopt a child and end up getting pregnant a year or two later without even trying, I think because God wanted them to adopt before blessing them with creating a child. God really is at the wheel in these decisions, that truth may make people uncomfortable but it’s still the truth.
Free, total, fruitful & faithful = authentic, life giving love 👏🏼👏🏼❤️
Freedom being the #goal
@@ryanav96 once you marrry...unless there's a health issue ...why not have the family size you want? I realize it's been a tough economic environment since 2008...but...
@@ryanav96 not necessarily. ..did you come from a large family?
...I see nothing wrong with having a 3-5 kid family..is that a clearer explaination?
@@ryanav96 do you have children?
This makes me realize how truly awesome Catholicism is and I am so proud to be Catholic!!! Thank you and God bless you 💖
Catholicism is awesome. Marriage is horrible though.
So proud and glad to be Catholic too
Sex is a Gift of God, Therefore it must be treated like a precious treasure. We worship God with this precious gifts. Blessed be God forever!!
@Cardboard Cape I suppose that's what you'd have to do - not to have sex at all - if you didn't want children.
@Cardboard Cape the difference is abstinence
@@CathyKitson If that’s the case, why does God command husband and wife to enjoy sex together? We have to be responsible people to only bring a life into this world if we have the means to take care of that life. Condoms are made so that we can make love to our spouse in a responsible manner. Although I don’t deny the fact that it feels much better making love without a condom.
I'm Muslim, and I agree with what they say.
My husband's completely secular physiology professor told all the men in his class to NOT let their wives or girlfriends be on hormonal contraception because of all the risks associated with it (some of what you mentioned).
For some women, like me, who have PCOS, hormonal contraceptives are a life saver because they decrease the chance of getting endometrial or ovarian cancer. Only hormonal contraceptives make our period regular. When I'm not on them I can go a full year without getting a period. So it depends on the woman.
I take contraceptives but I'm not sexually active, they're medicine for me.
@P K I would rather not be experimenting with plants until I find what if any of it works for me. It could be years...my pills are part of my life, that's just how it is.
@@dunnotck1
I’m no theologian, but I’m fairly certain that using hormone medication to treat a hormonal issue not only is permissible, but makes a lot of sense. Taking medicine for its health benefits (niche as they may be) because the symptoms of what it treats are worse is waaaaaay different than damaging yourself for pleasure.
Good on you for making informed decisions about your health!
@@dunnotck1 I also have PCOS and I would strongly encourage you to look into natural advice for correcting hormonal problems. The pill doesn't fix PCOS, it just masks the symptoms. Your condition could be getting worse and you will have no idea until you come off the pill. The pill itself has longer term impacts on hormonal health. There are many great books and websites on improving female hormonal health if you do a bit of googling. God bless.
what do men have to do with allowing their wives or girlfriends to take hormonal contraception? this is totally the woman's decision whether or not to take it and for what reason's she's taking it
Thank you so much for this mini series! So insightful and beautiful knowing the Catholic Church has the correct teaching that will fulfill us and bring us peace.
Wow! I’m beyond amazed at how informative, honest and just plain awesome this video was. Great job you guys!!!! Like you Jackie this video just made me love the Catholic Church more!!!!!!
Thank you Jackie and Bobby! Insightful honest and much needed!😊🙏🏾❤️
The twins show This is just creed and man made dogma
Fantastic explanation. Thank you so much!
Free, total, fruitful, and faithful, YESSS!!! Love the Angels! I pray to someday find a husband as wonderful as Bobby!
these videos are the best. Thank you, Jackie and Bobby!!
You two really shine! God bless you and your family.
Thank you for your awesome and informative videos. I love watching and learning.
You are helping me in English listening. My English is a work in progress. Thanks.
Thank you for your witness and spreading the truth! I pray your message reaches all hearts!
At 7:50! So powerful, so enlightening, so true! God bless you guys for sharing your wisdom🙏🏽🙌🏽💕
These videos are so needed! Thank you for sharing truth!
Were a Catholic couple with 4 kids (13,12,11 & 3) and once in a while use condoms. One reason only... We can't afford having more kids. We have used family planing but there is no way we can provide for another kid. We work really hard for our kids but this is what's best for our family and to be able to provide for all of them.
doesn't it feel like not trusting God that 'He will provide'?
@@dorothyo9540 your so right but we're barely making it , check to check
not when we have victims of sex trafficking in the third world that god does nothing about. No I will no trust that I'm somehow special and he will provide lol.@@dorothyo9540
@@dorothyo9540 God have us intelligence to think and decide how many kids you can have.
@carmen lara where is God where children are starving? Why is He not providing?
Another awesome video!!! My husband and I just started being “marriage mentors” to engaged couples and this video would be wonderful to reference. Thank you so much!!
I hope you’re telling them not to do it. Marriage is nothing but a mistake!
Your videos have inspired me to rededicate myself to my marriage. Please consider more content about married life and loving your spouse while life makes it difficult and distracts you from your family. I could really use more help and guidance, and I think lots of married people out there need it.
The Catholic faith view on contraception is what brought me to the church!
Jackie Klumper So, according to you some religious ideas have more importance that a woman over her own body
@@teenherofilms
True. But a woman doesn't lose control over her body by... controlling her body. So your rhetoric is just fear programming.
The Catholic faith teaching, not view, on contraception is what drove millions from the Church.
As a married man, the problem I have with this is that it makes it seems like sex is not for enjoyment between two married people. Treating sex as this act that's only meant for bonding or reproducing can place a strain on the marriage if it's taught in the manner that it's not for enjoyment.
exactly. If you want to enjoy your intimacy at times that you don't want to worry about pregnancy, you have the right to do that without these people guilting you with their abstract, arbitrary "moral" arguments.
Their guilt tripping is insane. The narrow mindedness is astonishing! Also their lack of seeing women as a sexual being.
Enjoyment is secondary but not unimportant. Think of eating, for instance. We enjoy a lot of foods but if we were starving we would eat something we didn’t like because the primary purpose of eating is for nutrition. With sex, the primary purpose is bonding of the couple as well as procreation. If you believe God created us, I’d guess he decided sex should be enjoyable so that people want to engage in it and hence, bring more children into the world. Of course, the enjoyment aspect would also strengthen the bond of the married couple.
I wonder how many marriages end out of boredom of each other if you built a marriage out of self control and living the faith it would truly be a sacred marriage , the western world has to import people in because of population decline sad !
@@opencurtin very true I am catholic from india.feeling sad of plight of Europe in this aspect
So so so glad you both met at TOB institute! May God continue to bless your marriage, your family and your ministry ❤
I love you guys and your work so much. And it helps me to love more and more the truth and beauty of God and His Church, the whole body and spirit of others and the whole body and spirit of myself.
This is such an amazing video and the way they explain everything is great.
Thank You my husband and I enjoyed your video talking about what is the correct way to love .
I love this!! God Bless yall!! ❤️🙏🏼
Great content! This is very helpful as a parent. I pray that this content hit millions. God is Good. To him will the glory be always! I love Ascension Presents. Learned so much from all of you my brother's. God bless your channel more! 🙏
Thank you Jackie and Bobby for this. Jackie, thank you for sharing Bobby with us. It really is encouraging to see and hear a Catholic man actively committed to God and loving his wife well.
Parabéns ao casal! Belo exemplo para todos os cristãos católicos!
Wow! This is such a great video and so approachable to share with others ! Thank you!
So grateful to The Church for holding fast to the truth when the culture moved counter to it
I have so much I agree with and disagree with in this very good video. I can’t wait for next week.
As a Catholic with 5 kids, I can say that NFP has only brought tension and insecurity to my marriage. I hate having to choose between my health and my marriage. I could die if I get pregnant again, and yet there is no exception made for women like me. I also have a 25 day cycle with 12 days of fertility and a heavy 7 day period. This gives me approximately SIX days a month I can have sex with my husband. It’s terrible.
And there are always exceptions to the rule, I would think. Talk to a good priest. Who knows maybe he would allow you to use an anti conceptivo that doesn’t cause abortion.
thank you for speaking up
Glad you were open in your thoughts. It is a difficult cross to bear. But, God knows this struggle and give you the grace to carry the cross. At one point in our marriage my husband I felt the same as you are expressing. Then, we began to give our cross to Christ. We prayed together and sacrificed together. We carried the cross first out of obedience, but then out of joy. Our marriage blossomed. Prayers for you and your family.
You 2 are great , i will be showing my children these videos when the are the right age , God bless
I love your talks ❤️
It's really enriching my concept of man and woman and the real meaning of marriage
Awesome work Love you guys so much you have to know 😚😚😚😚😚😚
I am a non-denominational Christian, who has always been fine with birth control. In fact, I just stopped taking the pill after 2 and a half year of being on it. Lately I've felt a conviction about it. It's not natural, and I'm trying to stop my body from what it was made to do.
yaaaaas!!!! this👏empowers. I wish people would hear this out more....
Great video Thank you GOD BLESS 🕇 🌹 😆
Wow! Thank you for this video. It’s clear and straightforward I was hanging on to every word till the end. Thank you and God bless y’all!
Pray pray pray !! The family of prays together stays together, Fr Peyton ..
Beautiful video!!👏
An amazing video. Thanks!
Thank you so much for your videos !!
Just amazing videos 🙂 thanks for the good work
Loved this so much, thank you both!😁
Hello and thank you!!! 🙏🏻😊
Ay! Frankie Angel! I rmeebr you sang for a retreat i went to once! Glad to see your still doing the Lords work
Jackie and Bobby, when you're going to address NFP, please also touch on how NFP can still be used wrongly (ie. as assumed default, with a contraceptive mindset).
Great catholic loving responsibilty. Reminds me of the excellent book of St Pope John Paul 11, Theology of the Body. I love listening to your programme.
I saw a comment underneath a video on the calendar method.
The commetor said [something like]
that he and his wife had been using the calendar method for contraception for over 3 years and that their relationship was as strong as ever.
My grandma never used contraception...she had 8 children. My mom never used contraception...she had ten children ( I am the oldest ) I could not use contraception because it made me sicked of my stomach I tried to take it but, I couldn't...it gave me nausea, stomachache, vomiting. I have a daughter, and a son. God bless you both for the topic 🙏🙏♥️♥️💪💪
Also your grandma and mom probably had a healthy uterus.I am totally against the pill,I regret taking it last year and I'm getting off it in a few weeks.
Only two? You've hardly gotten started.
You've just gotten started, then. The church expects 8-14 kids per couple.
@@christinebutler7630 It's easier to convert them if they're brainwashed from birth.
I never took the pill. I learned after having 3 miscarriages that I have a factor in my blood that makes me prone to blood clots, which is why I miscarried (i.e., the blood clots in the placenta). I have three kids: I had to take blood thinners during pregnancy. If I had been on the pill, my chances of deep vein thrombosis would have been elevated. Not taking the pill very likely may have saved my life. Oh yeah, and NFP worked for us: I am 54 years old and every pregnancy has been planned and we only have three kids.
Beautiful couple in Love. Awesome video
Thank you!
Just had my IUD removed to try and conceive again. I never had a child vaginally, 3 c sections. I never will. For me BC is saving my life.
this is very excellent advice!
You guys worded this so well. Curious, do you guys teach pre-cana classes? If not, you should consider it. You'd be great!
Wishing every man & woman could hear and share this beautiful explanation. Such a great way to present to young people or engaged couples.
Beautiful video!
Totally agree. It makes sense and it's based on God's Will. Is there a chance your videos have Spanish subtitles?... to share them with the Spanish speaking world. Thank you. Your work is very meaningful and enlightning.
Roberto Rangel So...how do you know what is "God´s will"? In fact, how do you know there is a God.???????
@@teenherofilms God's will is that His sons and daugthers be happy and for that reason He has revealed himself through his son Jesus to reconcile us with Him, since our human condition and relationship with Him was broken because of our sins. I know there is a God because my life is in its hands from the moment He created us and also because the universe and nature show that there is a God who is pretty smart, wondeful, full love, merciful and graceful.
@@robertocarlosrangelalvarez7893 There is no evidence for any sort of God. No at all. Human being came about via Evolution which is taught in every University in the world and is accepted as fact by the pope and the archbishop of Canturbury. This is whacko.
@@teenherofilms Yes, the Pope and scholars accept evolution as a fact and that´s ok. Just think, who was in charge of that evolution? It wasn´t by itself. You an me, Gary are some of the many evidences that God is real. My heart doesn't beat just because I want it. Who gives me the air I breath, and all the blessings around. Who but God. Greetings.
Wonderful video.
Thanks for this great video ! I'm a bit confused that you just address the immorality of contraception and don't talk about birth regulation methods and it's fruits. By the way, I'm totally agree with what you said about contraception. With my wife we use the fertility care method, which is really effective and compatible with the church's teachings. But as a husband, I feel the abstinence periods quite hard sometime. Especially when we are not open to accommodate a new baby. How do you deal personally with these periods ? Thank you
i was at the Steubenville conference and heard Jackie's talk on Dating. i found it very interesting.
May the world 🌎 be Morally right with o lord! I like this video because goes right too the point! !
im a protestant with problems with catholic faith and i 100% agree with y'all and what the catholic faith teaches about contraception
Excellent points stated in an easy to understand manner. Due to research I have done after friends of mine have had medical issues due to the pill, from the fact that multiple women died when the pill was being tested on them in Puerto Rico and everything in between, even putting the theology of it all aside, something like NFP is the best path.
Really good video.
I came into the Church this past Easter and contraception has been my biggest struggle. I don't use the pill, but I do use other forms of contraception. I want to be a true Catholic, though, and have been looking up more about NFP. I'll appreciate any prayers for guidance!
Welcome to the Church! But why do you use other forms of contraception? Why not stay completely away from it? Only reason one would need contraception is if one is sexually active. If you're married it is a sin to use contraception and if not you would commit sin by fornication. Both of these scenarios are mortally sinful and may cost you your soul.
Don't be discouraged by my harsh words, we are all sinners, but all can be forgiven and we can all change. I will pray for your guidance!
Mother Mary was chaste through out eternity and her whole life. As a Catholic, you have a direct line to her. Use it!
Nuns are also called to this ministry for life. Use them.
Rachel an, so...why do you want to be a "true Catholic" The RC church is man-made and all the creeds and dogmas are man-made
You're a true Catholic, even if you use contraception. You may be commiting a sin (as all catholics do) but that doesn't make you less of a Catholic. Not that I've succeeded in quitting sin for good, and I probably never will, but instead of trying to avoid sin and putting your attention on it, try to grow in love for God and for everyone. I think that tends to destroy sin automatically ☺️ I hope this helps.I'll pray for you! Pray for me too!
@@pedroparamo891 ok define "sin". Every woman has right to decide over her own body. NOT a bunch of religious rules. ALL of them made up by men. You are brainwashed by organized religion!!!
Excellent.
This makes a lot of sense and I see why the catholic church is not on board with contraception
I spent 22 years with my parents ranting about why contraceptives should be ok. They made me an agnostic with that lie
I converted at 22
Now I'm against it of course
Protestant/evangelical here. How do you feel about vasectomies or sex for married couples that comes after their children have grown up? It’s dangerous to inseminate older women because their wombs are no longer able to bear children, but consistent sex between a couple brings fidelity and unity even at older ages. Most dads get vasectomies for that reason, including mine. How does the Church approach this?
Using it out of fear is actually a good point that other commenters and theologians had never said before. It sounds to me like many of the reasons for using CC are based in potential dangers of pregnancy (which seems to go against the below argument that contraception is based in selfishness - could it be a way to ensure that we can still enjoy the unity and closeness that sex brings without putting the other person in danger?) But then one must decide whether, if we are making a choice (sex) that could potentially lead to a life-threatening pregnancy, whether being “open to life” is something like not wearing a seatbelt and expecting God to keep us safe in a car crash. If there was a way to reduce or eliminate the probability of a crash, why would we not take it (contraception) so that we can keep driving, rather than just not driving at all (I.e. not get married)?
But also we often find that the chance of pregnancy isn’t necessarily reduced by CC?
51 year old protestant here, father of three. I never understood the Catholic view on contraception... until recently. Pope J.P. II's Theology of body opened my understanding, and I think the Catholic teaching on sex is beautiful. I wish I had got this teaching when I met my wife 30 yrs ago... I probably would have treated her better over the years... still faithfully married though. The worlds view on sex is so damaging . What you two are teaching is so important for the younger generation. (well obviously for the older gen. too). Thank you.
Love and responsibility by saint Pope JP 2 is a great book written while he was still a bishop ..
I adore Saint John Paul II (I live in Poland but I'm not Polish), I'm familiar with the Theology of the Body, but reading it and understanding it, in terms of contraception it only applies to people younger than 45. When people are older than 50, marriages must think seriously about not getting pregnant.
Very useful information to know how actual and enriching are the Church's teachings and the importance of its application. Thanks for your testimony. God bless you.
I love your videos!!!!!!!!!!!
Amazing video. 5:04 and 5:14 was so funny!
Can you include links or screenshots of the points brought up about governments pushing contraceptives, historical figures'comments and scientific references please. It would help us have a tangible backing when needing to make these claims ourselves to others.
Here's a scientific reference: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11635262
This article discusses the rise in contraceptive methods in Europe and how they played a crucial role in a type of anxiety that partially gave rise to the science of psychoanalysis. You can look up China's "one child" policy.
when i was married...( i am now a widow...we were able to concieve just 2 children...) i was very watchful of my body and eventhough my periods were not regular we were able to know when i would be fertile... its extra work but its safer and worth it...
Imagine your spouse telling you you're good enough to sleep with, but they don't want to have children with you.
Waldemar what??? This doesn’t make any sense. I have a lot of health problems, and do not want my own biological children due to harming/killing myself and or my baby, or giving my baby the diseases. So am I not supposed to have sex with my husband??
@@melanie7068 you can't contracept for eugenic reasons IIRC.
Waldemar I’m not entirely sure what you mean by this, but it sounds like you’re saying I can’t prevent a pregnancy for reasons such as wanting a healthy baby??
If that’s what you mean that logically doesn’t make sense. I would NEVER not want my own baby (if I got pregnant) and I would never get an abortion (unless the baby was in my Fallopian tube)
But there is nothing wrong with preventing a pregnancy so that you can have sex with your husband without having to worry about creating a baby that could kill you and have health issues.
Imagine taking the life goals and preferences of your spouse personally and thinking it has something to do with you.
That's definitely not how the conversation goes for most marriage couples, trust me. From a catholic with 3 children and a protestant husband, it's a much harder conversation to have and its not one where my husband says anything in that way to me. It's very delicate and hard
Thank you educating didn't know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don’t need nor do I want to know anyone’s contraception choices
I appreciate this, but then how do you explain family planning not being always effective?(I mean maybe the person was solely following the calender and not also checking for body changes). Also what is rhythym planning?
I'm not on the pill now but my periods are excruciatingly painful when I get them because of how abnormal they are. I don't get them for months at a time. I'm wondering how I can regulate my cycle without using BC? 😥
I am not catholic yet but I have started going to Mass and studying and was questioning my IUD and didn’t know what to do so I prayed and my IUD unexpectedly messed up and I had to have it removed- ment to be
Wow! Your presentation is so factual, prophetic and honest. Thank you and God bless you.
Great 👏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you guys for this awesome video! ❤️
God bless you!! Thank you!!❤🙌🙏
Great 👍
13:22 “Natural family planning” is a method of contraception. So why do you say you don’t use contraception? You say that NFP is “totally different” yet it does the exact same thing that you said was the problem with contraception. Please explain. Thank you.
It doesn't. With other forms of contraception you are putting something in your body whether in your venous system or genital parts to prevent a sperm from fertilizing with an egg. With NFP, you just don't have sex some days, ABSTINENCE. When you have sex using NFP there is no barrier protection or anything you just do not have sex every single day! Hope this helps a little. I would suggest researching natural family planning.
My parents had 11 children. They used natural family planning and tried to avoid pregnancy with it , my mom was at her wits end. Didn’t love us . NFP doesn’t work. I don’t believe we’re meant to be distracted from God. Having too many kids distracts you. I have 2 and I have an amazing time bringing them Gods love . Imagine I was pregnant constantly due to how fertile I am… my relationship with my husband would suffer because both pregnancies I was placed on pelvic rest. , my relationship with my kids suffer, etc. my vocation is my family and showing my children Gods love . Don’t forget , in the Bible we are instructed to not deny each other our bodies … Jesus wants us to have sex with our spouses to keep us bonded .
Thank you for the video! I have a question about what women do to avoid pregnancy when they are breast feeding? Because women randomly start getting a period back they can’t start tracking ovulation until they have their cycle back....
They do come with an increased risk for certain cancers, but they also decrease the chances of some cancers as well.
TheCodFather which cancers do they decrease the chances of? Never heard of it
I have read that it can cause cancer and it can also decrease other cancers. If something is so good,why is it dangerous.
Fabrícia Pinheiro ovarian clear cell cancer
If you want to see a shocking contrast, check out a study that was done comparing the prevalence of contracepting couples among the congregants in Novus Ordo vs TLM parishes.
But aren’t we trying to be in control with NFP...?
yes. which is why its really just another method of birth control, yet one that is arbitrarily considered morally acceptable for morally irrelevant reasons.
@@Unclenate1000 You can still get pregnant pretty much anytime of the month except active period time. It's less likely but still possible. It isn't completely wrong but it shouldn't be used for avoiding pregnancy for extended periods of time without circumstances that call you away from raising a child.
With NFP the "contraceptive " part is literally Abstinence! So chosing to not have sex for a few days isn't preventing a sperm meeting an egg because you aren't partaking in sex
NFP is designed not to work. It will space pregnancies apart a little bit, so you get kids maybe a year and a half apart, instead of nine and a half months apart. If you are trying not to have a kid, period, well, the efficacy for that is very low, which is precisely why it's allowed.
So this is a commonly misunderstood thing even amongst well-meaning Catholics. NFP is only meant to be used in circumstances where there is a serious reason to avoid pregnancy, i.e. a major health concern, money struggles, etc. It’s not meant to be used all the time. The issue is not just the method of birth control (artificial vs NFP) but also the mentality. When people use NFP all the time, they’re also guilty of sin (although the culpability is less if they don’t know that it’s a sin) because one of the very first commands God ever gives is to be fruitful and multiply. I think so many Catholics think that because the Church approves NFP that they approve it all the time which is not true.
Also, what about the Bible verse that's says not to withhold dex, apart from for a time of prayer? Isn't family planning withholding in a sense every month for some time. I'm single anyways. I don't know if I will ever find someone special and something strong.
I agree with this since we have to be coherent with our believes and our life...but what do you use to plan your family? Its imp0ortant you explain that