Why She’ll Probably Be Back After Backing Away

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @JaggersLips
    @JaggersLips 2 года назад +756

    8 weeks on into a breakup I found someone way more attractive and mentally stable . I was never hers it was just her turn.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 2 года назад +35

      Congrats man. Now you get it.

    • @imchillen1
      @imchillen1 2 года назад +34

      Yessssssiiiiiiirrrr 💪💪💪 it was just her turn! Lol

    • @brianphelps8253
      @brianphelps8253 2 года назад +7

      Nice💯

    • @pedramtajeddini5100
      @pedramtajeddini5100 2 года назад +16

      God tier. Both casio and your dating mentality

    • @Jay410S
      @Jay410S Год назад +17

      That’s a kings language 🎉

  • @jjames6554
    @jjames6554 2 года назад +168

    If she doesn’t reach out to you, she wasn’t really into you. Let it go, Next.

  • @DukeFavre
    @DukeFavre 2 года назад +120

    15:00 this is where the fun begins 😎 BE A MEN. DON'T EVER ASK HER WEAK STUFF. "Do you need space?" "Should I go?" "What Should I Do?" DON'T. You like a woman You take her out, kiss her good, let her wonder about you. Let her choose you. Be strong or walk away like everybody else.

    • @peternygren3215
      @peternygren3215 Год назад +3

      @Kingdom House THERE. ARE. NO. OTHER. GIRLS.

  • @charltonmccowan7213
    @charltonmccowan7213 2 года назад +416

    I think I have read your book like 6 times so far and I want to add to this analogy about dogs and cats: we as men need to be like dogs and be so preoccupied with chewing our toys/bones(your purpose) that we don’t even notice that the cat went away and watch the curious cat come creeping up to bother us! Thanks for your work coach you bought a lot of perspective in my life

    • @despachantecentral3841
      @despachantecentral3841 2 года назад

      1- Ignore her words and focus on her actions (REMEMBER ADAM AND EVE)
      2- THE FEMALE NATURE IS PROGRAMMED TO REMOVE WEAK MEN FROM SOCIETY! (Gold Pill)
      3- Never fully commit, ASK HER WHAT SHE HAS TO OFFER BEYOND BEAUTY AND SEX?? You will be surprised that many DON'T KNOW HOW TO ANSWER...(GOLD PILL)
      4- Women cheat more than men, don't let her accusations blind you. SHE IS JUST LIKE HER FRIENDS... SEE WHO THEY ARE 1st BEFORE COMMITTING
      5- Accept the feminine nature and adjust. WHEN SHE SAYS “I LOVE YOU” translates to “I LOVE WHAT YOU PROVIDE ME” (LIFESTYLE) and NOT WHO YOU ARE AS A PERSON (GOLD PILL).
      6- Flip the script. "You're not hers. It's just her turn." .
      7- DON'T GIVE POWER TO THE WOMAN (SHE WILL DESTROY YOU WITH IT!!!) IT'S THE BEGINNING OF THE END!!
      8- Remember friends, don't put her on a pedestal. Make her feel that SHE is replaceable.
      9- If she gives more WORK than PLEASURE, it's time to resign and say goodbye.
      10- THE MOST IMPORTANT:'' ALPHAS ARE OBSERVED, BETAS THE OBSERVERS''
      11- WOMEN GET EXCITED BY DANGER (ALPHA) AND HATE SAFETY (BETA)! (GOLD PILL)
      12- MALE ATTENTION IS LIKE CRACK FOR WOMEN! (STOP FEEDING her ADDICTION!!!)

    • @adamflores2326
      @adamflores2326 2 года назад +17

      Good analogy

    • @sammmuelspaul1946
      @sammmuelspaul1946 2 года назад +2

      I like it!

    • @BEFORETHEMHYPEBEASTS
      @BEFORETHEMHYPEBEASTS 2 года назад +5

      perfect extension of that analogy.

    • @craig8304
      @craig8304 2 года назад +12

      Yeah but dogs are needy as fuck lol

  • @bigal98761
    @bigal98761 2 года назад +107

    If she goes cold you go colder become like sub zero from Mortal Kobat

    • @nebstaism
      @nebstaism 5 месяцев назад +9

      Fatality... haha

    • @Shambhu100
      @Shambhu100 5 месяцев назад +6

      😂😂😂😂

  • @KONGDADDY69
    @KONGDADDY69 2 года назад +340

    She backed away....so I let her and I moved on.

    • @fabioschroeder6681
      @fabioschroeder6681 2 года назад +46

      That’s exactly what I do. Move on…more fish in the ocean

    • @Magnetic_mando
      @Magnetic_mando 2 года назад +73

      She left me and told be to move on I cried a lot but now fuckit the engagement ring I got her I sold it now going to Alaska for a week then Bali then Costa Rica and live my best life her lost

    • @dollarchange2917
      @dollarchange2917 2 года назад +6

      💯!!!!

    • @justjayy85
      @justjayy85 2 года назад +10

      Exactly, he shouldn't take the risk of crapping where he eats anyway

    • @brianphelps7429
      @brianphelps7429 2 года назад

      @@Magnetic_mando 💯

  • @greendroid77
    @greendroid77 2 года назад +189

    From experience I'm seeing that ego is one of man's worst enemies. Ego is impatient because it's time on Earth is limited. Spirit is patient because it's time is unlimited. I know Corey has studied Eastern philosophy but hasn't really amplified this a lot but I have found that Spirituality helps the individual understand relationships on a higher level every time.

    • @savannacatmusicbiz
      @savannacatmusicbiz 2 года назад +2

      I agree with us. Our purpose on earth is not just to know how to win the opposite sex over. I have read the Grail Message

    • @ChooseFreshAtSubway
      @ChooseFreshAtSubway 2 года назад +1

      Ego is also important tho, it’s what drives men to be great

    • @SumonAdakpbx
      @SumonAdakpbx Год назад +1

      Yes, can confirm from the Eastern Scriptures. Bhagavad Geeta

    • @HaganeHiryu
      @HaganeHiryu Год назад

      The impatience is a consequence of insecurity, not ego (in the case of being impatient in a relationship at least).

    • @greendroid77
      @greendroid77 Год назад +2

      @@HaganeHiryu all negative behaviors can be attributed to fear of loss. Those fears help stimulate the analytical mind which by all definitions is simply another name for the egoic mind state. If you think that ego is only to deal with arrogance sadly it's not. An inflated ego takes many forms in a distorted mind these are defense mechanisms as seen by the host as necessary for its survival.

  • @FemmePhilosophy
    @FemmePhilosophy 2 года назад +252

    As a woman, it's really nice to feel like I want to initiate certain things with men, such as phone calls. Advice which tells women to never initiate is how we attract needy guys who blindly chase us instead of wanting to discern our character. Men who want to show you that they want something serious with you are aware that they need to practice self restraint.

    • @sammoe1292
      @sammoe1292 Год назад +32

      This must go into the RUclips comment hall of fame, for the sole fact of allowing more dumbo guys and girls to understand this.

    • @Stayler17
      @Stayler17 Год назад +7

      When you say "blindly chase us instead of wanting to discern our character" You mean guys just want you without even knowing who you are as a person?

    • @acct4600
      @acct4600 Год назад +50

      i like how a guy simply showing interest is now "needy" or in black girls terms "thirsty" & a guy acting uninterested or indifferent & not returning her phone calls, in women's mind means he's being "mysterious" & makes her more interested. just more proof that women are completely backwards. i can completely understand why women always end up with the wrong men. abusive men & men that aren't that interested in them that use them for sex & then leave etc.

    • @animesloversunited9069
      @animesloversunited9069 Год назад

      ​@@acct4600wrong

    • @domini384
      @domini384 Год назад +7

      How would a "needy" guy ever discern your character if you never reciprocate?

  • @nickg9270
    @nickg9270 2 года назад +83

    They come back sometimes when you stop pursuing when the lose interest. I made the mistake when I was younger when I would pursue more because I was scared I was gonna lose the girl when in reality u do less. That’s when the no contact rule comes in to play

  • @charleslyall5857
    @charleslyall5857 2 года назад +76

    A good dose of Coach Corey keeps you sharp and honest.

  • @Joelthedreamer
    @Joelthedreamer 2 года назад +83

    This works best with people you truly were yourself with. Being a "cold fish" or overly cold and distant no one really loses anything from letting you go. Obviously mirror her actions but when you do speak to her be fully yourself and expressive! Be smooth but be you.

  • @Sir.co2
    @Sir.co2 2 года назад +178

    “You must love in such ways that the other person feels free” comes into my mind with this video.
    Been reading your book since 2018, & Iv learned throughout this time that you must learn about your attachment style (I use to be anxious-secure) & shift into a more secure & grounded position. Woman are indeed very emotional, & as a masculine man, you must show that you’re balanced with your emotions & not reactive all the time. South Florida is full of emotionally messy men, & being emotionally intelligent makes you stick out like a unicorn. Truly grateful for all of your work coach.

    • @despachantecentral3841
      @despachantecentral3841 2 года назад

      1- Ignore her words and focus on her actions (REMEMBER ADAM AND EVE)
      2- THE FEMALE NATURE IS PROGRAMMED TO REMOVE WEAK MEN FROM SOCIETY! (Gold Pill)
      3- Never fully commit, ASK HER WHAT SHE HAS TO OFFER BEYOND BEAUTY AND SEX?? You will be surprised that many DON'T KNOW HOW TO ANSWER...(GOLD PILL)
      4- Women cheat more than men, don't let her accusations blind you. SHE IS JUST LIKE HER FRIENDS... SEE WHO THEY ARE 1st BEFORE COMMITTING
      5- Accept the feminine nature and adjust. WHEN SHE SAYS “I LOVE YOU” translates to “I LOVE WHAT YOU PROVIDE ME” (LIFESTYLE) and NOT WHO YOU ARE AS A PERSON (GOLD PILL).
      6- Flip the script. "You're not hers. It's just her turn." .
      7- DON'T GIVE POWER TO THE WOMAN (SHE WILL DESTROY YOU WITH IT!!!) IT'S THE BEGINNING OF THE END!!
      8- Remember friends, don't put her on a pedestal. Make her feel that SHE is replaceable.
      9- If she gives more WORK than PLEASURE, it's time to resign and say goodbye.
      10- THE MOST IMPORTANT:'' ALPHAS ARE OBSERVED, BETAS THE OBSERVERS''
      11- WOMEN GET EXCITED BY DANGER (ALPHA) AND HATE SAFETY (BETA)! (GOLD PILL)
      12- MALE ATTENTION IS LIKE CRACK FOR WOMEN! (STOP FEEDING her ADDICTION!!!)

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 2 года назад +1

      @@SunsetCliffssurfers Do some research and work on the broken parts of yourself.

  • @jammerstud99
    @jammerstud99 2 года назад +16

    Im learning that simply put...be mysterious, difficult and confident. You will then get noticed. But you still have to make the moves.

  • @mummiefied
    @mummiefied 2 года назад +110

    I'd like to add my 2 cents. From experience I've found that I'd a girl dumps past trauma on you early on it can also mean she is potentially a professional victim.
    I've dated a couple of girls who have done this in the past and they have used this trauma as a way to excuse shitty behaviour or as a way to get special treatment.
    Not all women obviously but for me personally if a girl does this too openly/too soon it's a red flag.

    • @mjreynolds9618
      @mjreynolds9618 Год назад +15

      Yes 100% I had this, and the girl ruined my life.

    • @Rob-nl5ge
      @Rob-nl5ge Год назад +6

      Had this too. An absolute classic

    • @brankobradas1147
      @brankobradas1147 Год назад +3

      Nobody cares about their "trauma". No need to solve jer "problems".

    • @romererunamerika9437
      @romererunamerika9437 11 месяцев назад +1

      agreed had one vent 45 minutes without Able to get a word in. ( she thanked me at the end for allowing her to vent LOL ) and we didn't even know each others names. lol neighbors yes 2 plus years said hi etccc. but lol I told my friend differently tempting she is attractive but omg fatal attraction 201!

    • @headtrips1
      @headtrips1 3 дня назад

      Girl that just dumped me after she disrespected me and I told her she hurt my feelings then proceeded to tell me that she doesn’t like my conflict resolution communication because I lead with emotion and she leads with. Logic. And it was our first argument.
      In first three dates she told me she had a lot of trauma and mental health issues.

  • @victorvaughan2590
    @victorvaughan2590 2 года назад +106

    I've been a cherry picker off and on for the past few years. I finally got around to picking up 3 percent man and am in the process of going through it. I am seeing myself in so many of the mistakes detailed in the book its crazy.

    • @MrJoshpeppz
      @MrJoshpeppz 2 года назад +15

      It's a good book, think I've read about 6xs. If you're looking for monogamy then it's good to keep reading, even after 10 times we will still make mistakes so it's good to work on abundance mindset

    • @despachantecentral3841
      @despachantecentral3841 2 года назад

      1- Ignore her words and focus on her actions (REMEMBER ADAM AND EVE)
      2- THE FEMALE NATURE IS PROGRAMMED TO REMOVE WEAK MEN FROM SOCIETY! (Gold Pill)
      3- Never fully commit, ASK HER WHAT SHE HAS TO OFFER BEYOND BEAUTY AND SEX?? You will be surprised that many DON'T KNOW HOW TO ANSWER...(GOLD PILL)
      4- Women cheat more than men, don't let her accusations blind you. SHE IS JUST LIKE HER FRIENDS... SEE WHO THEY ARE 1st BEFORE COMMITTING
      5- Accept the feminine nature and adjust. WHEN SHE SAYS “I LOVE YOU” translates to “I LOVE WHAT YOU PROVIDE ME” (LIFESTYLE) and NOT WHO YOU ARE AS A PERSON (GOLD PILL).
      6- Flip the script. "You're not hers. It's just her turn." .
      7- DON'T GIVE POWER TO THE WOMAN (SHE WILL DESTROY YOU WITH IT!!!) IT'S THE BEGINNING OF THE END!!
      8- Remember friends, don't put her on a pedestal. Make her feel that SHE is replaceable.
      9- If she gives more WORK than PLEASURE, it's time to resign and say goodbye.
      10- THE MOST IMPORTANT:'' ALPHAS ARE OBSERVED, BETAS THE OBSERVERS''
      11- WOMEN GET EXCITED BY DANGER (ALPHA) AND HATE SAFETY (BETA)! (GOLD PILL)
      12- MALE ATTENTION IS LIKE CRACK FOR WOMEN! (STOP FEEDING her ADDICTION!!!)

    • @ElronHumpperdink
      @ElronHumpperdink 2 года назад +1

      Same, but mine was a few years ago
      But from 2016-2018/19 I was like meh then I said imma support Corey and bought it. It’s golden.

  • @bixumbi
    @bixumbi 2 года назад +115

    He made just one mistake. But in all fairness she's also probably a traumatized borderline or avoidant

    • @ross3626
      @ross3626 2 года назад +11

      Bpd written all over that girl….

    • @JD-dv9kc
      @JD-dv9kc 5 месяцев назад +5

      Avoidant's should be avoided. Been dating one for six years. She's now as cold as ice

    • @robertbelyea5767
      @robertbelyea5767 3 месяца назад

      ​@@JD-dv9kca double negative - - makes a positive +

    • @ronnies2840
      @ronnies2840 Месяц назад

      Maltese cross ❤❤

    • @ronnies2840
      @ronnies2840 Месяц назад

      You must be Maltese

  • @jakeberring3591
    @jakeberring3591 2 года назад +75

    I finally identified and fixed a serious projection problem I had coming out of relationships. It only took me 3 times to finally get it right and set the proper boundaries I need in my life. To be honest, it’s because I just finished my 10th read of the book after thinking I had it down following the 3rd read. I want to say thanks Coach, you’ve changed my life and I’ll never be the pathetic guy I was when I was younger.

  • @kire115
    @kire115 2 года назад +25

    Mirror their behavior back on them.

  • @Conquissstador
    @Conquissstador 2 года назад +3

    I have watched hundred of videos of this type and only Couch Cory nails every aspect on relationship. I have no words to express gratitude, couch Cory

  • @EspressoDave411
    @EspressoDave411 Год назад +3

    I'm 61, wow. old dogs can learn new tricks. thanks. ordered the book, 10-15 reads next

  • @The_Rude_French_Canadian
    @The_Rude_French_Canadian 2 года назад +97

    I used to be so angry at coach Corey when I first found his channel yrs ago when my 5 yrs girlfriend left me…I couldn’t accept anything he said as true, did all the mistakes and ended up being my ex’s backup or an option for 2 yrs…
    Im here today because my new girlfriend asked me for a break today and now that I did read the book (well listened on audible) at least 5-6 times I needed to confirm that I’m finally in my frame for not acting like a little boy that needs validation…
    She made her choice asked me for a break and she can take forever for all I care…I will never be ruled by my feelings when a chick asks for space or is acting flaky…
    Thanks coach!!!

    • @gersoncruz4570
      @gersoncruz4570 2 года назад +28

      Don’t text her whatsoever don’t even look at her stories, wait to hear from her if she does reach out in the future. For now, become the best version of yourself physically, mentally, and financially. Being a man is about not being scared to start from scratch if all else fails.

    • @notafriendofyours4475
      @notafriendofyours4475 2 года назад +5

      It's a hard pill to swallow. I was there too and had to slowly buy surely admit all the mistakes to myself. Good for you man!

    • @ink_stain525
      @ink_stain525 Год назад +4

      Dude same I’m going through some thing simile. Ex after 3 years. Been a few months of her leading me on

    • @craggyexplores3070
      @craggyexplores3070 Год назад +2

      And remember if she does come back the only distance u will move to see her is the distance it takes to get to your front door when she she comes round . Is she's not interested then ok just give us a call if u change your mind. And be congruent

    • @shahsotodeh2086
      @shahsotodeh2086 Год назад

      Next step, work on what causes a girl to ask you for a break. Only 5-10 more reads to go

  • @greendroid77
    @greendroid77 2 года назад +12

    Most men haven't had enough success with women to have the confidence and self discipline to handle the power of good sex at the beginning of most relationships. When them gals start to back up and test it takes real masculinity to stand tall in the saddle and take it or leave it. I HATE being alone and that's a spiritual weakness of mine. I can manage juggling 3 fwbs at a time but a serious relationship with those ups and downs they bring have proven I'm unprepared.

  • @helonautsr6570
    @helonautsr6570 10 месяцев назад +6

    I laughed my ass off with your imitations. Your comparison to cats is spot on. You give your advice in a fun way and are not harsh on guys who (apparently) did not understand sections from the book. You argue and point out in a respectful, understanding manner. I’m usually very skeptical about dating advice and usually skip these kinds of adds / videos to be honest. You on the other hand, actually know what you are talking about. I think if a lot of men would try to understand you, you essentially make the world a better place. My best wishes for 2024. Te vaya muy bien 🤙

    • @FunnyVideos-cl4qd
      @FunnyVideos-cl4qd 10 месяцев назад

      😂I almost thot u was cuckerburg cuz he in yo thumbnail
      But Chyo, yea this guy gives pretty solid advice I like it. Some of but not all of what I’ve done.
      Isn’t it fked bitches act like this then expect us to not treat them the same in return? They want us like this. Hopefully they enjoy it and get that thrill they need so badly.
      Just hope you’ll one day be fkin “wooed” enough to consider me as more than a video game to play mind games with because this is some cray cray psychological warfare at the end of the day, emotional abuse, etc.
      But it’s like the girls make a fetish out of it. So you have to play along or get clapped
      Yeah I’m giving this guys advice to any dude I know who needs it

  • @bidotwo
    @bidotwo Год назад +5

    I have found it. The video. Coach pretending to be a cat and making purring noises. Didnt know I needed this.

  • @jefferycoleman4371
    @jefferycoleman4371 2 года назад +19

    I have 2 kitties, I learn so much about myself from them!

  • @SusieQ1971
    @SusieQ1971 2 года назад +16

    I don't understand these women. If I like a man I don't need drastic change where suddenly I need my "space". Usually I want more interaction than the man does lol.

    • @theebonymaw
      @theebonymaw 10 дней назад +2

      because you're probably a well-adjusted individual and actually like the guys. people only do this stuff when they aren't actually into the other person but rather the feeling of being with them or being pursued. it's dysfunctional.

  • @gabrielrod1253
    @gabrielrod1253 2 года назад +22

    Humurous and educational video on a case of a mildly fearful avoidant woman. Your humourous approach shows you're truly a 3% happy man Corey !

  • @hugorabe4395
    @hugorabe4395 3 месяца назад

    I really needed to see that as the girl I am currently seeing just backed off after intense two months. Thanks for the reassurance that it is best to just do nothing and wait. Appreciated, Sir!

  • @filipephoenix5937
    @filipephoenix5937 2 года назад +25

    Coach I love the way how you are real with people. I came across your work at the end of 2019, have read your first book 20 times and have been fascinated by your content since then.

  • @bahaatamer1245
    @bahaatamer1245 2 года назад +22

    I got judgemental, got into a major miscommunication, and that backfired drastically. My only way out now is to go no contact, with a very high possibility that she's just not coming back
    Oh well...!

    • @headtrips1
      @headtrips1 3 дня назад

      Sounds similar to Me. What happened?

  • @lulenzemoat
    @lulenzemoat 2 года назад +19

    Coach you changed my mindset im reading your book now for the 3th time and listing to your podcasts everyday! Im loving life again, thanks coach you rock!

  • @DanielLopez-dy1em
    @DanielLopez-dy1em Год назад +11

    Coach, just wana say a truly sincere Thank You! Ive been following,( i won't say work,) your passion and teaching for around 9yrs, you provided me keys that opened my mind to a whole new world of understandimg and enlightment! And since then ive kept my foot on the gas, while you've continued day after day believing in us, providing us with knowledge more valuable then gold or any amount. I can go on, but Thank you! For all ur effort in bringing us so much information, and not quiting on us, flooding outlets and platforms with such an array of knowledge touching on all the most priceless areas of living, relationships, self, and life.. To sum it up, you are an amazing gift, and i cherish your time, thanks for being the only Coach i need! YOUR THE BEST!!

  • @pepe_da_prawn
    @pepe_da_prawn 10 месяцев назад

    I love coaches spot on impression of women. He truly knows how they operate

  • @petermachiela5441
    @petermachiela5441 2 года назад +6

    I don't make mistakes i make room to replace

  • @Waves-bf2sx
    @Waves-bf2sx 2 года назад +3

    AMS brought me here. This is my second video of yours I've seem. Your dropping knowledge!

  • @dashdanebikes2758
    @dashdanebikes2758 Год назад +3

    I agree with him, dated 2 month, then she went cold for 2 months , came back , had great time for few weeks and now she is back to being cold. The best thing i did is not react to all of it, even she acknowledged it lol. So apply this guys, it works.

  • @bodyemcal
    @bodyemcal 2 года назад +4

    Man how quick things can flip flop. Same thing just happened to me from i love you to cold turkey lol.

  • @avenue.central
    @avenue.central 2 года назад +6

    Morning from Cincinnati OH coach and fellow 3%! 🤙

  • @t173hfl63
    @t173hfl63 2 года назад +12

    damn i remember watching this channel in 2019. life just gets better

    • @Kirajiren
      @Kirajiren 2 года назад +4

      Same, now is way better, respect from France !

  • @No_Preservations
    @No_Preservations 2 года назад +12

    Not chase is always the answer. once a week I send my girl a nice good morning text or something along those lines(she asked me to initiate more) but other than that between 9am and 1pm like clockwork I get either a text or a phone call. Feels good.

    • @danielcastillo6912
      @danielcastillo6912 2 года назад +4

      I was doing something similar with a girl. She would leave me on read and I simply wouldn't even chase her. Specially if they are young, young girls are used to have a lot of beta males chasing them and giving them validation.

    • @No_Preservations
      @No_Preservations 2 года назад

      @@danielcastillo6912 girls get busy too I leave her on read all the time if I'm Workin or something. Communication doesn't need to be constant.

    • @danielcastillo6912
      @danielcastillo6912 2 года назад

      @@No_Preservations I completely agree man, that's why I don't blow up their phone because I'm busy too

    • @tonykoz
      @tonykoz 2 года назад +1

      I like the analogy of texting/calling should be like a game of tennis. You hit the ball over the net and wait for her to hit it back to you

    • @danielcastillo6912
      @danielcastillo6912 2 года назад +2

      @@tonykoz it makes you look better and you don’t waste your time and energy

  • @johnbingaman3645
    @johnbingaman3645 Год назад +3

    First big mistake! Dating somebody where you work! !! The old phrase don't shit where you eat... great video Cory right to the point, like those face Palms, and the neck and eye roll oh, did it myself when I heard what he did.

  • @eturcios1984
    @eturcios1984 2 года назад +7

    I’m going through the same crap.. except I live in a 2 bed room apartment.. she told she needed space and time alone.. recently and didn’t want to be in relationship because she needed to work on herself and feels her life is stagnant among others personal issues she’s tried to and trying to correct in her life. It’s hurtful cause I am still living in the same apartment while giving her the space and time .. I don’t call nor text her at all during the day I’m respecting her decision. Being in this situation sucks but I must focus on me just like she wants to focus on her and it’s easier said than done cause I love and care for her but it is what it is. Good luck to all gentlemen going through this.

    • @Paveldude
      @Paveldude 2 года назад +1

      Any update after a month? I'm in a similar situation

    • @eturcios1984
      @eturcios1984 2 года назад +3

      Update: I did the no contact and it help me realize a lot of mistakes I made and she made as well. Anywho, she would text and call me to see how I was and where I was at which astonished me knowing that she wanted her space and time alone. Well we’ve worked things out on a mutual level I am not in a relationship with her but we do see each other every now and then.. but we are working on ourselves and improving on us at the moment which is the best thing that has happened to both to us.

  • @Alvun416
    @Alvun416 2 года назад +41

    Coach you got to take into consideration also that some chicks are just messed up and have crappy behavior. Avoidant types feel smothered easily and are extremely distant. Best to just not waste ur time and leave them be.

    • @CoachCoreyWayne
      @CoachCoreyWayne  2 года назад +76

      No shit Sherlock. If you apply what my book teaches, the lunatics reveal themselves very quickly.

    • @Alvun416
      @Alvun416 2 года назад +14

      @@CoachCoreyWayne I think the chick in this video is one of them but most of the criticism goes to the guy is all I’m saying. 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @SnappingTurtle444
      @SnappingTurtle444 2 года назад +21

      @Al, I was thinking the same thing - she had a lot of baggage + plus the kid. Even w/out the kid, she drew red flags. 🚩 Plus the fact that they work together will make it 10X more awkward if this turns ugly.

    • @georgepay7667
      @georgepay7667 2 года назад +7

      @@CoachCoreyWayne 😂😂😂

    • @bimmersgt
      @bimmersgt 2 года назад +7

      The criticism directed to the guy is for our educational benefit.

  • @Burnenwhysee
    @Burnenwhysee Месяц назад

    corey wayne is a gift from god

  • @genesmith7574
    @genesmith7574 2 года назад +3

    Dude, I don't care if anyone says you're full of shit. I know to my core you're advice is sound. Thanks man

  • @sleepinggiant575
    @sleepinggiant575 Год назад +3

    I really blew it. I spoke with her yestrerday, hoping that her and my son will move back in for Christmas. However, she kind of sounded like she was done and a little bit sounded like it may be a chance she comes back. But I dont think so. Pray 4 me and my family.

    • @FunnyVideos-cl4qd
      @FunnyVideos-cl4qd 10 месяцев назад

      Shit brah I don’t pray but how’d it go? Any news?
      Yo Bros ❤ you. Sorry she being a emotionally abusive whole with teeth

  • @LucianoDevoto
    @LucianoDevoto 12 дней назад

    You're a national treasure Corey.

  • @swellendamtwitcher2769
    @swellendamtwitcher2769 4 месяца назад

    Follow Corey's advice and it will change your life, i read his book once a week and caught myself over pursuing and she pulled away slightly. Chilled out and she came back more keen than ever.

  • @samk6090
    @samk6090 2 года назад +35

    This is typical behaviour of a fearful avoidant. They come off strong with frequent contact and intense intimacy, so they set you up to reciprocate, then as soon as you do so, they freak out and feel as if you have made her feel suffocated, UNBELIEVABLE!
    I believe there was nothing he could have said or done to stop her from withdrawing. The only solution is letting her go and go into no contact. Then it's up to her to have the courage to have the inner battle to face her fears of intimacy and engulfment and overcome them. If and when she does, then she'll come back, if she hasn't got the courage to do so then she won't come back. According to attachment theory experts, the process could take months because they suppress their emotions for at least four weeks before they start feeling their emotions for you again. My fearful avoident cat has been gone for close to two months, she hasn't crawled back, jumped on my lap and purred yet! 😏

    • @CoachCoreyWayne
      @CoachCoreyWayne  2 года назад +31

      All women withdraw dude. Women are like cats. You should actually watch and listen so you can learn instead of projecting your story onto his to make yourself feel better about your own situation. Strong men blame themselves, weak men blame others.

    • @samk6090
      @samk6090 2 года назад +11

      @Coach Corey Wayne
      I totally agreed "women are cats" "women withdraw"...etc.
      I disagree that the guy caused his girl to withdraw due to him contacting her when he didn't hear from her in three days, rather it was due to her fear of intimacy due to being raped as a teenager.
      People should be dealt with according to their attachment style, in this case she's a fearful avoidant

    • @bimmersgt
      @bimmersgt 2 года назад +1

      Here kitty kitty

    • @samk6090
      @samk6090 2 года назад

      Should say "here pussy, pussy" 😀

    • @lukejbonner
      @lukejbonner 2 года назад +4

      @@samk6090 Yeah, man, you're right. He's oversimplifying.

  • @Ll999-c2m
    @Ll999-c2m 2 года назад +5

    This guy is a genius.

  • @efthimios
    @efthimios 2 года назад +3

    It’s bad out there with social media and all . Married 20 plus years I make six figures work out have purpose and I’m above average looking so to a good personality - my wife had affair and I even tried saving my marriage too- beat I see it mid life crisis low self esteem and a slimeball manipulation.. so on my case I have to work out more and hope for the best but I’m not looking forward to saying anyone o miss my wife

  • @adamflores2326
    @adamflores2326 2 года назад +20

    Before I was an avid follower to Corey, about 5 years ago a woman I was dating literally told me that she tends to back away and that eventually she comes back. But I made too many mistakes and eventually chased her out of my life. I’m glad I found the coaches work. I’m dating an older woman now and things are good but she’s acting distant and less interested than before and backing away a little. I’m more prepared now to handle it better.

    • @adamflores2326
      @adamflores2326 2 года назад

      @Fredrick Frederickson yea I still haven’t heard from her. I kinda get the point. I put the ball in her court. She has to hit it back. If not, time to move on

    • @inoovator3756
      @inoovator3756 2 года назад +2

      And what ended up happening?

  • @SAMEntalhealth
    @SAMEntalhealth 2 года назад +7

    The woman i want is broken, but I know she has feelings for me and i think that scared her because I don't do the things that traumatized her. She's comforted by. The other night before she ghosted me, she wanted me to sleep over and I didn't..... and since then she's not really talking. She told me she had so much fun the day after then stopped writing me. This usually doesn't bother me because she needs space and I never argue it. I even disappear. But this time it's really bothering me:-( i genuinely miss her man
    This sucks so badly

    • @SAMEntalhealth
      @SAMEntalhealth Год назад

      @@trains889 haha, well guess what? I found out she was cheating on me the entire six years, and also she just got pregnant by the guy she was cheating with who actually hates her and talks s*** about her all the time. She was making my life miserable and I'm glad that I dropped it and never went back. She still calls me all the time and does not actually leave me alone so as to your comment yeah she actually does chase me a lot I was just desperate when I made this comment but that's how it all turned out so

    • @SAMEntalhealth
      @SAMEntalhealth Год назад

      @@trains889 in fact she called me 2 days ago

    • @SAMEntalhealth
      @SAMEntalhealth Год назад

      @@trains889 oh s*** I thought this was another post about my ex that I commented about

  • @txup92g33
    @txup92g33 2 года назад +11

    She might be back, but she's already gone.

    • @SolitarySoldier
      @SolitarySoldier 2 года назад

      My ex told me she knew in her heart not for each other and i gave her space and she went on a dating app 3 weeks after our breakup. I think shes dead serious but i think she’ll have a hard time finding someone or whatever she’s looking for

    • @Runny117
      @Runny117 2 года назад +1

      @@SolitarySoldier her loss man. keep plugging and good luck

  • @ts4426
    @ts4426 Год назад +5

    Guys I just got ghosted BEFORE the first date lol I'm out here breaking records 😅

  • @valianthousemusic1026
    @valianthousemusic1026 Год назад +1

    man if i had heard this a month ago i would still be golden. looking back at it i totally get it now... fuck, oh well we live and learn

  • @Rage-_-Quit
    @Rage-_-Quit 2 года назад +10

    "I know for a fact that she's not talking to any other guys." /doubt

  • @matthewstall3902
    @matthewstall3902 5 месяцев назад +1

    Fishing off the company pier lol Never heard that one coach. Hilarious.

  • @milleniumplayer
    @milleniumplayer 2 года назад +27

    Yeah I made that mistake too!! I asked if she wanted space, after two weeks I got dumped!! She was persistent in being friends but I respectfully declined the offer .. because of this move I lost my GF.. no contact rule just started. Live and learn!! Stay strong fellas!

    • @Sip28
      @Sip28 2 года назад +5

      How’s its going for you bro. Same exact thing happening to me.

    • @milleniumplayer
      @milleniumplayer 2 года назад +6

      @@Sip28 not good bro. She ended up telling me that there was someone of interest who is being persistent but she hasn't made a move yet.. I was like WTF. We just broke up two weeks ago.. so I said screw it .. funny thing about that is that, that same weekend an ex who I dated prior from her reached out lol. We recently added each other back on IG and planning to see each other this coming Sunday.. I was told once one door closes so another can open. I didn't got my recent ex back back but I might get my old ex back 🤷

    • @Sip28
      @Sip28 2 года назад +6

      @@milleniumplayer everything happens for a reason bro

    • @milleniumplayer
      @milleniumplayer 2 года назад +4

      @@Sip28 I agree!!

    • @Sip28
      @Sip28 2 года назад

      @@milleniumplayer how did you feel about her the recent ex? Also, have she tried messaging or calling you? Mine just said, don’t call or text her.

  • @bushmanheart
    @bushmanheart Год назад +3

    She came back 11 years later once I climbed out of poverty. She was way above me at the time. Told me it didn’t Matter. Than she put me into the friend zone and what ever went on living. Just the other day she reached out. what should I do? A decade!!!

    • @sj3969
      @sj3969 Год назад

      Why do men hold weird grudges like this? Just don’t date her then

  • @ocho33
    @ocho33 Месяц назад

    The way he says this with a smirk is the best

  • @tomallen6073
    @tomallen6073 Год назад +3

    Wemon are counterintuitive, the majority of us need a guide on how to handle females, being a bit autistic makes it much worse. If it weren’t for a guide like this I’d probably never fingered it out, bought your book years ago and it’s been so beneficial, thanks!

  • @Falling_Down_D-FENS
    @Falling_Down_D-FENS 2 года назад +16

    soon as he said her son.. I'm like this is a waste of time

    • @Mancer1980
      @Mancer1980 2 года назад +8

      LOL! Spot on. This girl is just playing games and wasting this guy's time.

  • @SoaringRevenue
    @SoaringRevenue 7 месяцев назад +1

    Wow...! Watched so many vids, but ur relaxed but realistic approach really resonated with me n made so much sense regarding "didn't expect to fall for you so soon" kind of approach so when you know they're not ready for a relationship it becomes overwhelming... Great info!

  • @Nandoran23
    @Nandoran23 2 года назад +2

    i like the fact of the title saying " Probably" :D xD

  • @davidobrien3669
    @davidobrien3669 2 года назад +38

    Weirdly on point to what is exactly happening right now to me. This girl goes hot and cold out of nowhere. Last night I came over and she barely showed any affection to me, didn't want to hook up, and sent me home after we have been dating for months. I literally asked someone else out in the car when I left and I won't text her till she texts me first.

    • @rawandmahmood5760
      @rawandmahmood5760 2 года назад +1

      Maybe she has psychological problems from her past?

    • @NoDramaAllowed
      @NoDramaAllowed 2 года назад

      What happened pal.
      Did she texted u

    • @davidobrien3669
      @davidobrien3669 2 года назад +34

      @@NoDramaAllowed So much has happened. She canceled our Friday date on that night when I posted this so she can hang out with a friend. We then we met up late at a bar on Saturday night with some friends since we have mutual friends and she blew me off at the bar and texted to just be friends after she left. I ignored her text for a week, then she sent another long text explaining herself. We will meet up again, but I think it's over.
      All good, I just went on 2 dates with new women this weekend and they went really well. I actually met one the night she broke up with me, that one is showing high interest too.
      On to the next one, I don't need any drama in my life.

    • @NoDramaAllowed
      @NoDramaAllowed 2 года назад +21

      @@davidobrien3669 ya no drama allowed . Girls are full of drama

    • @user-kg8uq9es3u
      @user-kg8uq9es3u 2 года назад +23

      You make it sound like she's the culprit, but I guarantee you made mistakes that pushed her away. That's how it always it. Girls don't break up with guys who do everything right, it just doesn't happen. They actually fall in love harder and harder. The hot/cold is normal for women, just as this video states. That's how women are. They can be super affectionate, horny, turned on one day, and completely non-affectionate the next. 99.99% of men get butthurt and that turns the woman off. You can't let it affect you or you lose the girl. And as the book says, mutual dates are a big no no until you're in an exclusive relationship. So she cancels friday, then you agree to meet up sat with mutual friends. That was a mistake. But I don't think it's over, I'm being overly critical. She'll be back, like you said you're meeting up again. Make sure she's coming to YOUR place as Corey talks about in his "ex back" videos and articles. Anything else is a fail. She has to come to your place 3 TIMES before you start going out on dates to her place or restaurants. If you look back, I'm sure you'll find plenty of small, subtle mistakes you made. Learn from them, and you'll have her eating out of your palm when she comes back

  • @cashvsbeauty
    @cashvsbeauty 2 года назад +2

    Quote "oh really... well what do you think of this silence?" 🤣 haha.. you're the man Corey!

  • @wethecaptainnow8111
    @wethecaptainnow8111 Год назад +14

    This guy basically did everything right. She ruined their connection and a chance for a future together because she has little understanding and control of her own emotions and feelings. These situations are shitty to hear about. Women are out of control and destructive. It is these types of experiences make guys say f it and choose to stay single.

  • @elenistephanides6482
    @elenistephanides6482 Год назад +2

    Also, though I don't date men, from conversations with plenty of straight women friends I can say there are just as many (if not more) men who behave this way. Avoidant attachment style isn't specific to either gender.

  • @dabela2279
    @dabela2279 2 года назад +12

    Corey, you are an amazing mentor. Spot on and entertaining. Thank you Sir

  • @jacoblewis9514
    @jacoblewis9514 2 года назад +17

    "fishing off the company pier" lmfao you're killing me coach

    • @kvs7876
      @kvs7876 2 года назад

      Love it lol

  • @royroy3
    @royroy3 2 года назад +5

    Hanging out too much, too soon

  • @Polo-gh8lm
    @Polo-gh8lm 2 года назад +1

    U look good Corey after ten years of watching u

  • @eddiemartinez1337
    @eddiemartinez1337 Год назад +1

    I don’t know…..after 5 days I’ve pretty much moved on. Not butt hurt just no longer excited for that one and on to the next.

  • @mattl7424
    @mattl7424 2 года назад +16

    Hard not getting involved with coworkers. Love this girl who was my coworker. Seeing each other for 7months. Then after Christmas… nothing . She has a boyfriend but wasn’t happy with .

    • @ZacTBH
      @ZacTBH 2 года назад +2

      I am in the same situation too, she's an awesome person but I just can't. I really don't want to get fired, because this job has a lot of decent people to work with.

    • @ElPikante503
      @ElPikante503 2 года назад +1

      So youre captn save a hoe?do you know this guy?he might be the joker

  • @runningoffinstinct
    @runningoffinstinct Год назад +1

    Corey you are the best in the game.

  • @PassportKings
    @PassportKings 29 дней назад

    I ruined a good one the same way (didnt let the kitty go play). It sucks...But thankfully it lead me to Corey.

  • @sergio_ra
    @sergio_ra Год назад

    I wish I had seen this video before… almost exactly my situation with the last woman

  • @trollhunter3944
    @trollhunter3944 2 года назад +10

    Based on this story, she has displayed enough red flags to be the red flag.
    Sounds like she knows she has issues and doesn't understand why he is still interested after quickly introducing him to her kid AND telling him about her past.

  • @Al-fr1sl
    @Al-fr1sl 9 месяцев назад +1

    Its a whole different ball game when you realize your ex is an actual narcissist i mean never even knew what a true narc is until my ex left me and seeing she has all the traits of a narc .
    Eye opening experience never again will i fall for that stuff

  • @jefferycoleman4371
    @jefferycoleman4371 2 года назад

    Gotta read it, every day! It's the only way to get better! I know. I did!

  • @marcosperales7349
    @marcosperales7349 10 месяцев назад +3

    In a span of one word the relationship can change.

  • @jefferycoleman4371
    @jefferycoleman4371 2 года назад +2

    If anyone has learned anything. Corey Wayne is good at what he does. Pay attention! It's not about the women, it's about you!

  • @johnhenripage534
    @johnhenripage534 Год назад +2

    You are F'n good.......love it and the cat came back

  • @ChadOliver-b7y
    @ChadOliver-b7y 10 месяцев назад +2

    I'm taking Corey advice. A woman i had invested over a year and half of my life told me she is seeing another man. Instead of begging and chasing her back, I'm just walking away.

    • @ListingLore
      @ListingLore 10 месяцев назад +1

      same thing happened to me 4 years ago and THANK god i walked away. Never chased, begged etc. You’ll thank yourself down the road. Women leave good men all the time. Look at celebrities with great looks and all the money in the world, they still have break ups and divorces.

    • @FunnyVideos-cl4qd
      @FunnyVideos-cl4qd 10 месяцев назад

      @@ListingLorewe’ll them fame bitches know that they can get another wealthy guy since she got herself some “status clout” now.😂
      But damn man brutal stories. I’d be pretty damn… pissed I about that a year gone. And not in a light way, ending in full on infidelity.
      Did she feel bad at all when she told you, or did she express any remorse, tears, etc?
      Did she try to actually have a discussion about what a weak, insecure loser she is for being so childish and weak like a baby that she had to go cheat on you?
      I’m gonna guess that she probably may have cried a bit if that, ended discussion fast, and good for you, that’s the last time you seen hohohohoho
      Saddest part for me. If my next bitch do me this way, I’ve been single 10 yrs so that’ll feel great 😂 but ehh im also ok being alone since I’ve been single 10 yrs as an adult (teens and early 20s filled with poontang and boombang)

    • @JayDennis-d6p
      @JayDennis-d6p День назад +1

      Any update?

    • @ChadOliver-b7y
      @ChadOliver-b7y День назад

      @JayDennis-d6p she is still going through a divorce and basically lost everything including her life savings and her house most likely. I actually saw her the other day at the grocery store i was driving my car and she waved to me and I completely ignored her. Then she blasted me with a nasty text saying how rude I was for ignoring her and expected me to cordial when I see her and that she didn't do anything wrong to me lol. Completely delusional lol. She cheated on me with another man for 6 months. I'm done with her and I've moved on completely. Thanks to Coaches work I understand my value and worth as a man. His book and his teachings have changed my life for the better.

  • @fereyal
    @fereyal 5 месяцев назад +3

    The Coach's female voice is so hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @ChordsForU
    @ChordsForU 3 месяца назад

    I had a date with a girl a couple of weeks ago, she was nice and we spent a few hours together, I only realised how long we’d been together afterwards. She wasn’t the easiest to talk to but I though this could have just been nerves and with it being the first time we met, she hugged me at the end of the date and said it had been really nice to meet me, I told her to text me if she wanted to do something again. I text her (I know I shouldn’t have given I’d told her to text me) a few days afterwards about going out again to see a band (I thought at least if we were to do something like that there was something there for us to watch/listen to and then the silences wouldn’t have been as awkward) and also there’s a very obvious thing to talk about. She told me she had plans that day and thanked me for asking her but didn’t suggest an alternative so I just left it there. I waited a week or so then text her again asking about an event I’d seen but I don’t know whether to ask her out again or not

  • @justinbaker6755
    @justinbaker6755 6 месяцев назад +1

    Great video. Very insightful.

  • @headtrips1
    @headtrips1 3 дня назад +1

    At one point, do you accept you dealt with an avoidant attach style with likely boderline personality disorder and loads of other mental issues and maybe they can get really turned off by even small smothering and emotional vulnerability?

  • @laurencegoodwin4047
    @laurencegoodwin4047 9 месяцев назад

    Without this guy over the last year I would have totally lost it , as it is its tough but I’ve kept it together, been busy , been in the gym and remained calm and centered, I’d recommend Corey to my three lads only atm they’re busy not getting involved with girls ….. whereas they’re daft old dad keeps looking and keeps listening to coach

  • @JackedBlack88
    @JackedBlack88 2 года назад +6

    This couldn't have come at a better time. Corey you're the shit!

  • @dusenstrahlverfahren
    @dusenstrahlverfahren 7 месяцев назад

    One of the best videos of Corey.

  • @richdiorio3650
    @richdiorio3650 10 месяцев назад

    Love your videos and your book. I have a suggestion. It would be better for me if your videos were shorter, just my opinion. Thanks for all you do.

  • @AmericanDegenerate
    @AmericanDegenerate Год назад +2

    This woman was telling we would get place together
    Then told LJBF and continued to mention getting a place...
    Told me she lost attraction, but wanted me to hangout with her still
    No Sex at all, she made that clear.
    I never contacted her again, never heard from her again.

  • @ramon78433
    @ramon78433 2 года назад

    I made that mistake and almost made it again today, but I watched that video

  • @davidp1963
    @davidp1963 2 года назад +5

    You freaking rock, Coach!!!

  • @Elementalism
    @Elementalism 4 месяца назад +1

    My son had to give me their 3 year old female cat. She is totally how Corey explains a woman. She xomes and goes as she pleases. Disappears rhen rubs afainst my leg or jumps into my lap to get pet. Then she wandere off. Rinse and repeat. I laugh everytime and i think of his advice.

  • @joel_13_
    @joel_13_ 8 месяцев назад

    Im convinced Corey owns multiple cats lol.
    The metaphor is so spot on!

  • @RD-kj9gq
    @RD-kj9gq 2 года назад

    I love this I have read your book 10x but can always come back for refresher.

  • @Green89_
    @Green89_ Год назад +2

    Corey are you married currently? Do you have kids? I’m so curious about your life and why you’ve decided to have whatever lifestyle you’re living now.

    • @CoachCoreyWayne
      @CoachCoreyWayne  Год назад

      Get a life.

    • @Green89_
      @Green89_ 11 месяцев назад +3

      @@CoachCoreyWayneI didn’t mean this in a bad way…?