About 10 years ago, in my early 20s, a girl I dated for 2 years broke up with me. I tried everything to get her back…nothing worked. Begged, pleased all of that bullshit. Finally, I gave up and started to focus on me. Enrolled in school, found my career, went on trips, etc. I started learning about myself and of course, ran into other women who I found attractive and vice versa. After about a year of not talking to my ex (it wasn’t no contract, I legit just gave up and assumed I wouldn’t see her again), she texted me out of the blue because a mutual friend apparently told her I was back in school). The first convo was light and I assumed nothing. Then she started reaching out more and more. Finally after about a few weeks of that, we finally met up and hooked up. It was after that, that I realized, I didn’t even want her anymore. I had grown so much that I wasn’t the same person and had different interests
@@solomongrundey yup. Improving yourself gives you a whole new perspective, interests and introduces you to new people, including new women. Til this day, that girl tells me “breaking up with you is the biggest regret in my life”. But I tell her, it was actually one of the biggest blessings in mine. Had it not occurred, I might’ve still been that same sorry man I was.
Had a short relationship, she cheated on me (and lied to me about it), dumped me, saw her in an expensive car a couple of days after breaking up. I deleted her from FB, don't dwell, guys, show them you are no push-overs. So many gorgeous women out there - work out, read books, move on.
Some women really are just a bunch of bit*****. You're like a walking wallet to them and they'll go after the guy with the most money. I've seen it happen myself
Nice work. There is kind of a dope power in the act of removing all attention from a woman, deleting her phone number, blocking her, talking to new women and never thinking about her ever again. She literally disappears out of existence in your realm
I definitely appreciate more videos on this concept. Many guys, including me, are really tempted by the illusion of action. Just need that quick reminder from time to time to not fall for it
Yes. It’s super important to not panic if there’s a “change”. Women’s emotions are in flux…and it’s confirmed by multiple women agreeing they don’t even understand their emotions. I was straight up told the reason this girl continues to talk and want me around is because I “love” her at all different emotions - basically I just let her come and go
Indifference towards women is one of their biggest weaknesses and I’d say less than 1% of men even realize this . They over pursue all the time and in Most of these cases - the woman doesn’t have high level of attracted for him to start with
i like the explanation that flirting, are acts to show attraction but are shrouded in in plausible deniability and mystery, while slowly revealing the true intentions as the game gets hotter.
@@sevenstars4817 thats a whole journey to get to that point, if thats the case you either missed all the windows and never made a move, really messed up to lose attraction, or she was never interested in the first place could be just a tease or bread crumbing, if thats the case learn to recognize the signs and get out and move on to woman who are warm and receptive.
@@arorajivlogs1641 book means shit these days, and even if you get somebody, it's most likely not because of book but because they just like you without you even knowing why. it's very simple actually
When I discovered Correy, I was wondering what's wrong with me, as my whole life I was just naturaly a bit colder and indifferent, but people around me made me believe, for some time, that I should know better. People in my circle always called me lucky or something as I "don't treat women properly but somehow I end up with them", but today I know it was just inaction. The thing is, most men in my circle were usualy jelaous of it and telling me that I'm not treating women properly. When I tried to listen to them and be "good guy" by puting them on a pedestal, of course, you all know how it ended. For some time i tought that there's something wrong with me, and I couldn't figure out why now, when I'm so nice, I have less luck with women. I remember how I used to think like "I was better when I was an a**hole" lol, but it was not being an a**hole as I never treated them badly, it was just being indifferent and doing my own thing, being fine with being alone. I always remember one time when some pretty girl teased me while outside on a festival, and I just smiled, said goodby and went away to drink with my friends and looking other women, and she came to me and kissed me out of nowhere. So I discovered Correy's work and realized that these people around me, who are usualy single and don't have much luck with women, are living in a delusion and romantic fairytales.
I was dating this really gorgeous French girl years ago. And she was totally out of my league like most of the girls I went for. But this particular case was more revealing than the others. I ALWAYS put myself first without knowing that I did. If I didn’t want something I didn’t do it. I told the truth and didn’t speak because they felt uncomfortable with silence. And she’d complain but still be all over me, and ended up being very submissive and looking for approval from me, in multiple different ways, through constant sex and asking my opinion about everything that went into her business and involving me in the process though I told her that I honestly didn’t give af but that she should make x y and z decisions if the others aren’t working. I wasn’t an ass hole I was just real. But one time for about a stretch of two weeks, i was being an asshole. And she didn’t change, she was still submissive but she started to plead with me and tell me that I made her think that she’s stupid and that I’m annoyed with her. My biggest mistake was not discerning the difference between those two weeks and the rest of our relationship so I was really conscious about the way I talked to her and was being a little fake abba she completely changed her energy towards me. It took me only a week after that to set things back to where it was but that was a major eye opener. Don’t be fake or don’t try to please anyone. Keep that energy you have inherent in you and if you’re being honest and fairly reasonable then you should have nothing up worry about.
Only issue I have with inaction, is women think they have been ghosted, especially after you were the last one to send a message. Finding women with a healthy attitude is hard to find
Well in this guy's case, she ghosted him lol! No, if a woman has a problem with you ghosting her or implies that, then she's just more interested in your attention. I'm not saying you should be a cold fish, but it's always good to give women space and back off from time to time, especially if you've been giving them too much attention.
Agreed lol..why would I want a man who is banging 2 other women and who is inactively pursuing a monogamous relationship? What happened to having a conversation about what is working or not working in a relationship? Please people wake up!
Hey Corey, I toured the world following a very nasty breakup. I was sitting in a restaurant in Switzerland and I guess my Canadian accent, ordering a pint, initiated a conversation with an American gent from New York. We shared similar stories of separation we both had experienced and I happened to mention your work. To my surprise, he was already a huge fan of yours. How small can the world actually be!? It goes to show you are an inspiration to many fella and I’ll continue to direct your work as required. Cheers!
That’s amazing, I have yet to meet one guy in the world who follows him. All of my male friends kind of pretend to be interested but don’t even take the time to watch a video when I mention him, despite this they try to vicariously live my love life through me.
Going through kinda similar situation. I love watching Corey because as he says he helps you unlearn all the social conditioning & come back to the centered man that us guys all have the power to become within us. We all have this great energy inside us & Corey’s work allows us to unlock it if we are prepared to work hard at it! Thank You Corey!
If she wants you, she will make it obvious. When you are unbothered, it shows you don't care about the outcome. Always put the ball in the woman's court. You can't make a woman like you.
I have an interesting story. When I was about 11 my parents split up. I chose to live with my dad and my sister went with my mom. I remember almost every day my dad would try to call my mom and beg her to come back. She would always get pissed and ignore him etc etc. Even at that young age I somehow seen what was happening somehow. Coupled with my want to have my parents back together. I remember I told my dad to try not talking to her. To my knowledge that was what he did and they were back together not long after that.
This last break up has made me bury my face in your book and I have done all the things this guy is doing except for started seeing other people. I’m kind of enjoying just being me right now and I’m focused on getting out of living in a camper and living in an apartment so I have somewhere for a woman to come see me 😏
Great thing about getting older and gaining experience is. The older you get, the less you give a shit. You're just like yeah whatever.. Im gonna do something i enjoy.
I’m glad to see Corey making these old style videos! Corey is the one guy that officially made me change my life. Read the book. You’ll be amazed what you can accomplish in 1-2 years.
I was dating this really gorgeous French girl years ago. And she was totally out of my league like most of the girls I went for. But this particular case was more revealing than the others. I ALWAYS put myself first without knowing that I did. If I didn’t want something I didn’t do it. I told the truth and didn’t speak because they felt uncomfortable with silence. And she’d complain but still be all over me, and ended up being very submissive and looking for approval from me, in multiple different ways, through constant sex and asking my opinion about everything that went into her business and involving me in the process though I told her that I honestly didn’t give af but that she should make x y and z decisions if the others aren’t working. I wasn’t an ass hole I was just real. But one time for about a stretch of two weeks, i was being an asshole. And she didn’t change, she was still submissive but she started to plead with me and tell me that I made her think that she’s stupid and that I’m annoyed with her. My biggest mistake was not discerning the difference between those two weeks and the rest of our relationship so I was really conscious about the way I talked to her and was being a little fake abba she completely changed her energy towards me. It took me only a week after that to set things back to where it was but that was a major eye opener. Don’t be fake or don’t try to please anyone. Keep that energy you have inherent in you and if you’re being honest and fairly reasonable then you should have nothing up worry about.
I love this video. Great success story Coach! I was ghosted about 12yrs ago by my ex-wife and lately she's been texting me even called me on her 40th birthday. She's married again with 2 kids but we do have a son together. These teachings really do work and I did listen to your audiobook 55+ times. Really changed how I viewed myself and women.
Exes are exes for a reason I find myself breaking up with them more than the other way around. I told the last chick I dealt with to lose my number. I have no regrets
As soon as I discovered my wife was cheating I left home, I prayed that her other man would move in & become her forever man. No such luck he dumped her 10 minutes after I left leaving her alone with the kids. After 4 years of Inaction the wife asked me to move back in & I did only because the kids were having emotional problems without dad around. Those 4 years away from her were awesome, no drama, peace & quiet & all the booty I could handle. If I could do it all over I'd never marry, I'd simply date several at a time & enjoy them.
Lemme ask u something, u said u would never marry if u could do it all over, but your current kids i think they were born because u were married (correct me if i'm wrong) so would u still marry and have them or not marry and don't have them? Honest question🤔
@@hahah822 Excellent question, I was married twice & each wife gave me one son & I love both my sons. Each marriage failed immediately after giving birth as each wife went down the postpartum/Manic Depression hole & while hormone crazed they used the man hating divorce court system to financially rape/destroy me. Despite my wife’s hurtful actions (both also cheated) I am forever grateful for my sons. If I were 18 again would be 100% for marriage if the divorce laws were changed.
Yep, I have had all my success from this book and have given it to many men that I know. None listen. I only read it about 7 times these last two years but I’m back here now that I am ready to start dating again since I got my business going. Time to listen to it 36 times in 4 months. Kudos boss. Keep it up.
It doesn't matter if she/he texts or not. She's an ex for a reason, once the relationship is over it's in the past and the best thing you can do is leave it there. Don't understand guys who are hoping for their ex to text them back after so much time or even hookup if she randomly offers. Nothing positive can come from that in my opinion, leave it where it ended, move on and work on improving yourself (in whatever way is meaningful to you). There is no way I could ever get involved with an ex, even if it is just for fun.
Kind of an immature comment. Every relationship is different and every past is different. If a man was screwing up, that doesn't make the ex a bad person. Sometimes this philosophy is right, and maybe for you it is. But if you listened to the video, the gentleman was the one that hurt the ex.
@gabe9646 @gabe9646 I didn't say it makes the ex a bad person. I just said that I wouldn't bother being involved with an ex. I'm not quite sure what you found immature about it. If anything, it's immature going back and forth with an ex for the wrong reasons. People obviously agree based on the likes of the comment. I understand that's the situation in the video, I was just providing context on how I personally wouldn't bother with pursuing an ex or even keep contact. A lot of guys and girls do hold out for someone they've already broken up with, hoping it will somehow just get better. The best thing to do is just get it together, and both parties can move on because there is something fundamentally not working with the relationship. There is nothing immature about that, but I respect your opinion.
@@morganator4874I agree. Obviously his ex didn’t make him the best man he possibly could be to begin with. It took an online coach for him to get in shape, be confident, etc so I immediately think she’s not worth it. Plus his risking his other options that may be a better fit by still having a relationship with his ex. I used to be that way too but I now have the ‘if you dont want me at my worst, don’t expect me at my best’ mindset. Another quote I love it “if your wandering in a forest and you see the same tree twice, you’re lost”. Again, everyone has their own opinion and experiences, this is just mine.
@@morganator4874 that doesn't make sense though if you were the one who screwed up and have sense changed but your relationship was otherwise a good fit and you both value each other as people. Then, reminding your relationship with an ex can make a great deal of sense.
There are other view points. If you all are past it and get along then fun is not a problem. However if they have shown they will be a problem in your life then it would be stupid.
Been going through a hot and cold girl and I made the mistake of over pursuing and over communicating. Your vids have been extremely helpful in understanding women. This video is fantastic and the comment section is gold. It's crazy that this many men go through similar situations.
@@Gmurkz I didn’t. I lost her because I didn't give her space. Was too needy. Women get tons of attention. Used to it. We don't, so when we do. We're so happy and excited. That's not attractive to them. They're attracted to in difference.
If you recall from Corey's previous teachings, women have to wonder about you -- when you back off, stop texting, reacting to things on social media then she starts to wonder 'what's he up to?' and the natural curiosity tends to overtake them and they start reappearing in your life or even do little things to 'test the waters'
Like…. We’re adults. Having to play these games sounds soo childish to me. I love coach Corey, but just how small of brains women have is deterring. I hate the modern world.
It sounds childish but think of the alternative. Instead of just ignoring his ex reacting to his IG post or story, should he immediately text her and say, “I noticed you saw my IG post. I miss you, please take me back”? In that case, inactivity is better. Responding ruins any mystery.
@@tonykoz I was simply commenting on the actions as childish. Women are pretty stupid, 99.46% are. So I understand the games, it just seems like they should be unnecessary
I think when people are in school there's that rush to ask her out because you look weak if you can't make the move. But when people become adults they taking their time a little bit more. This strategy is great for me now because the woman I like is my co-worker so there's no hurry to get serious while we work together.
Brother, I don’t know where you’re from but I found the way you speak to be very entertaining It’s your accent and just your cadence and what you say I love it
Theres this girl at work who openly tells to everyone that she likes me. She cant stop doing it. I was Initially confused why shes doing that. Now, it couldn't be any clearer to me. She thinks shes not my type, and I only flirt back with her when im having fun but I never asked her out or text her. This tells me she finds my inaction as a reason to make it work out on her end.
Really good stuff here. I read the book 15 times but this dude read it 36 times! I gotta revisit the book now 😂 But fr dude cleaned up his diet, gym’d in the morning, ran in the evening, lost 40 pounds and got his life together to the point where not only he attracted his ex back, but got a steady rotation with 3 other women. Inspiring stuff 🔥
yes, people never lie, especially those on the internet. and it's a proven fact that when you read the book 15 times, all the hot girls start texting you that night! can you imagine ?
Gotta pump those numbers up my dude haha . I'm passed the 100 mark.. (the audiobook) it totally changed my life... And I still go thru it once a week .. 17 times is also real good.. but yeah gotta keep revisiting it from time to time to remain sharp
Funny, I am in this exact situation after a breakup, but I did it to myself. I own the book but will now listen to the audiobook at work and apply it & repeat it until I have it down 100% Thx coach, she is starting to look at my profiles again too since I did not block her and get butt hurt. I lost 35lbs and picked up 50+ hours a week at work and now have more money so i am ready when she comes back.
The principles of coach is somewhat similar to the chinese philosophy of tao te ching of wu-wei. You can think of it as a kind of actionless action. Getting things done with minimal effort, attaching as little as possible to the outcome so you don't have disappointments. Very interesting.
This man’s only mode of contact _with his girlfriend_ was Instagram? Was this a long-distance distance relationship? How the hell did he not have her phone number or even her email address?
God I make everyone ask for my name. Just lets me know if they're engaged. Don't even do it on purpose anymore, just start talking and if the question comes up, it's like a notification bell: "You're on point"
The worst and most degradering thing to do is to cry and humiliate yourself after she rejects you.Went through 2 divorces after they ,in both cases, jumped fence.Went for military service,to gym and dressed differently in civvie street.Both wanted me back afterwards.l ,however felt nothing but being repulsed after what they did,their narrow minded perspective of life ,love and relationships. Married x model and dance instructor, 33years later,still feel like kicking my ass over the valuable time l wasted on those . Particularly because it was during the 80s,best music,cars and (girls),wasted on material girls who couldn't differentiate between love and lust.
Don't have any socials so 🤷 A lot of these videos make significant mention of the games played on social media so can't relate. I cant be alone in that, thought it was worth a mention.
I came to this channel after a very long time of being carried away in tate videos, almost a year and now I cant help but find some things in coreys teachings I do not agree with. I now strongly believe that there is absolutely no value in going down the the same path that you have fucked up before twice, it is complete self destruction and not very different from a substance addiction where you only want to relapse because subconsciously that relationship with a person or drug has become your metric to measure improvement in your mental health.! I cannot believe at one point of time I used to watch videos on how to manifest a specific person somehow ending up on this channel. This channel has helped me a lot in growing but I just dont think i can agree with trying and getting the same girl back ever again, simply because life is too precious to waste in correcting things that can be easily replaced.
Where in the video it says the guy is 'trying' to get back to her? It actually is her. And if the reason for the break is not cheating or such, and it was mainly you acting weak. There's nothing wrong in giving her a second chance and show who you really are. Don't be a butthurt kid
I agree. Everyone has their own lives and opinions however what’s in the past is now dead and should stay there. This man became his best self AFTER his relationship with this woman. I think dating again would only cause you harm
Hey Corey, great topic here. I think these news letters are really eye opening and I think it would be beneficial for your channel to also touch on relationship maintenance with examples of how to spice things up and maybe more detailed examples with interaction minutia. I’ve read the book 10 times and think of it as the foundation that I find can be supplemented with newsletters & other solid advice from others I.e Bacon, Zander, Tripp among others. 3% man is the blueprint but details regarding how to keep sex 🔥 may be what others and myself might be after
Corey, I have been suggested to have some swagger....but ya know what, that goes back to arrogance and I've never been arrogant. I have read the Swagger Wikpedia page and John Wayne is said to have had swagger. I'm sure he wasn't the old Hollywood star back then that had swagger.
I was messaging someone almost everyday, only really at the start fast replies, but we met online in a mmo, she has no photos or anything. She starts replying after triple texting, across several days now, so it gets tiring trying to keep the connection. I am being fed breadcrumbs of actually progressing anywhere. So I start to think, she's hiding something and stringing me along. The worst thing I did is, try to strengthen the connection, when she doesn't really pay attention to me. She is either socially awkward or she is hiding a bf or even interested in someone else, while stringing me me along.
I share the book with other women so we can heal our codependency and the tactics no longer work. Anxious and avoidant attachment based on codependency are the obly reason inaction works. You're mimicking trauma, which means you will only attract dysfunctional women. Good luck.
Sounds like if she comes back and doesn’t want you, it’s more of a her thing, not a you thing. I wouldn’t waste time with women who rejected me once personally. Only deal with high interest women
I was emotional dead when a girl was interested, then when i tried to fix things i got frustrated and over did things, she didn’t block me but im still trying to see if its worth it anymore. I have learnt from Corey said, do away with the fear of rejection… If you fear rejection and ladies see that, it lowers your value in her eyes… So i just sed f@&k it we move! Go Corey!!
Ghosting and no contact is not to get her back, it's for YOU to move on.
About 10 years ago, in my early 20s, a girl I dated for 2 years broke up with me. I tried everything to get her back…nothing worked. Begged, pleased all of that bullshit. Finally, I gave up and started to focus on me. Enrolled in school, found my career, went on trips, etc. I started learning about myself and of course, ran into other women who I found attractive and vice versa. After about a year of not talking to my ex (it wasn’t no contract, I legit just gave up and assumed I wouldn’t see her again), she texted me out of the blue because a mutual friend apparently told her I was back in school). The first convo was light and I assumed nothing. Then she started reaching out more and more. Finally after about a few weeks of that, we finally met up and hooked up. It was after that, that I realized, I didn’t even want her anymore. I had grown so much that I wasn’t the same person and had different interests
@@solomongrundey that's a beautiful thing
@@solomongrundey yup. Improving yourself gives you a whole new perspective, interests and introduces you to new people, including new women. Til this day, that girl tells me “breaking up with you is the biggest regret in my life”. But I tell her, it was actually one of the biggest blessings in mine. Had it not occurred, I might’ve still been that same sorry man I was.
That’s great man good on you
Sad thing is once you encounter 3 more women like that, you'll grow out of relationships entirely
@@solomongrundeyliterally me rn dawg. 5 am just put shoes on about to run LETSS GOO
Crazy how many guys out there are going through nearly identical situations, Corey is a Godsend.
horrible cultural shift. I remain optimistic though.
Because women insist in making dating more complicated than it needs to be
@@FryRealtyCollectiveCultural shift? Please explain.
@@mahdman3I think he means how feminine our society is and how much weaker or
Less masculine that men are .
Hard time create strong men.
He's in his James Bond Arc, now. Love how he internalized the book & kept it true to his style. That man is smooth 🏆
That was pretty damned smooth
Had a short relationship, she cheated on me (and lied to me about it), dumped me, saw her in an expensive car a couple of days after breaking up. I deleted her from FB, don't dwell, guys, show them you are no push-overs. So many gorgeous women out there - work out, read books, move on.
Some women really are just a bunch of bit*****. You're like a walking wallet to them and they'll go after the guy with the most money. I've seen it happen myself
Nice work. There is kind of a dope power in the act of removing all attention from a woman, deleting her phone number, blocking her, talking to new women and never thinking about her ever again. She literally disappears out of existence in your realm
They laugh when you delete & block or react with anger. The best revenge is ghosting with no explanation.
Honestly man that’s a blessing in disguise, imagine if you had a kid with her? The mess that would be? You dodged a bullet.
truth
I definitely appreciate more videos on this concept. Many guys, including me, are really tempted by the illusion of action. Just need that quick reminder from time to time to not fall for it
Yes. It’s super important to not panic if there’s a “change”. Women’s emotions are in flux…and it’s confirmed by multiple women agreeing they don’t even understand their emotions.
I was straight up told the reason this girl continues to talk and want me around is because I “love” her at all different emotions - basically I just let her come and go
Read the book more.
@@andrebaxter4023 Oh, I am. Don’t assume me saying that is me not reading the book. It just takes a little extra outside motivation.
@@andrebaxter402310 to 15 times
Indifference towards women is one of their biggest weaknesses and I’d say less than 1% of men even realize this . They over pursue all the time and in
Most of these cases - the woman doesn’t have high level of attracted for him to start with
i like the explanation that flirting, are acts to show attraction but are shrouded in in plausible deniability and mystery, while slowly revealing the true intentions as the game gets hotter.
Well after getting friendzoned?? Or getting too late??
@@sevenstars4817 thats a whole journey to get to that point, if thats the case you either missed all the windows and never made a move, really messed up to lose attraction, or she was never interested in the first place could be just a tease or bread crumbing, if thats the case learn to recognize the signs and get out and move on to woman who are warm and receptive.
ingnor her until she reaches out, go to gym, focus on making more money, meditate, build yourself, and you will never worry about women again.
I sucked at relationships. After reading this book and practicing. I have a healthy relationship now. Huge difference on how to carry yourself.
I thought u were gonna say, after reading the books and videos, well I still suck at relationships 😆 would made a good joke.
@@arorajivlogs1641 book means shit these days, and even if you get somebody, it's most likely not because of book but because they just like you without you even knowing why. it's very simple actually
@@palkisakumi8595 this. No amount of coaching is gonna keep you the girl. The girl you got genuinely liked you for who you are
When I discovered Correy, I was wondering what's wrong with me, as my whole life I was just naturaly a bit colder and indifferent, but people around me made me believe, for some time, that I should know better. People in my circle always called me lucky or something as I "don't treat women properly but somehow I end up with them", but today I know it was just inaction. The thing is, most men in my circle were usualy jelaous of it and telling me that I'm not treating women properly. When I tried to listen to them and be "good guy" by puting them on a pedestal, of course, you all know how it ended. For some time i tought that there's something wrong with me, and I couldn't figure out why now, when I'm so nice, I have less luck with women. I remember how I used to think like "I was better when I was an a**hole" lol, but it was not being an a**hole as I never treated them badly, it was just being indifferent and doing my own thing, being fine with being alone. I always remember one time when some pretty girl teased me while outside on a festival, and I just smiled, said goodby and went away to drink with my friends and looking other women, and she came to me and kissed me out of nowhere. So I discovered Correy's work and realized that these people around me, who are usualy single and don't have much luck with women, are living in a delusion and romantic fairytales.
I was dating this really gorgeous French girl years ago. And she was totally out of my league like most of the girls I went for. But this particular case was more revealing than the others. I ALWAYS put myself first without knowing that I did. If I didn’t want something I didn’t do it. I told the truth and didn’t speak because they felt uncomfortable with silence. And she’d complain but still be all over me, and ended up being very submissive and looking for approval from me, in multiple different ways, through constant sex and asking my opinion about everything that went into her business and involving me in the process though I told her that I honestly didn’t give af but that she should make x y and z decisions if the others aren’t working. I wasn’t an ass hole I was just real. But one time for about a stretch of two weeks, i was being an asshole. And she didn’t change, she was still submissive but she started to plead with me and tell me that I made her think that she’s stupid and that I’m annoyed with her. My biggest mistake was not discerning the difference between those two weeks and the rest of our relationship so I was really conscious about the way I talked to her and was being a little fake abba she completely changed her energy towards me. It took me only a week after that to set things back to where it was but that was a major eye opener. Don’t be fake or don’t try to please anyone. Keep that energy you have inherent in you and if you’re being honest and fairly reasonable then you should have nothing up worry about.
The more work u put in with women the less results you get.
@@VonJay pimp sh!t👏👏👏
So naturally you didn't put up with their shit and if they didn't have interest and desire you would not deal with it.
Only issue I have with inaction, is women think they have been ghosted, especially after you were the last one to send a message. Finding women with a healthy attitude is hard to find
A woman that thinks she has been ghosted even though you sent the last message is an unhealthy woman who you should avoid anyway
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@@ThoughtConduit 100%
Well in this guy's case, she ghosted him lol! No, if a woman has a problem with you ghosting her or implies that, then she's just more interested in your attention. I'm not saying you should be a cold fish, but it's always good to give women space and back off from time to time, especially if you've been giving them too much attention.
Re read your comment and tell me what's wrong with it. That sounds like a self centered narcissistic woman.
I wouldn't want any woman that thinks that way. A true woman that loves you doesn't play those kind of mind games.
Agreed lol..why would I want a man who is banging 2 other women and who is inactively pursuing a monogamous relationship?
What happened to having a conversation about what is working or not working in a relationship?
Please people wake up!
women cant love, wake up
@@dontreadmyname4396 Stop stereotyping all women the same. There are good ones out there. You wake up
Hey Corey, I toured the world following a very nasty breakup. I was sitting in a restaurant in Switzerland and I guess my Canadian accent, ordering a pint, initiated a conversation with an American gent from New York. We shared similar stories of separation we both had experienced and I happened to mention your work. To my surprise, he was already a huge fan of yours. How small can the world actually be!?
It goes to show you are an inspiration to many fella and I’ll continue to direct your work as required. Cheers!
That’s amazing, I have yet to meet one guy in the world who follows him. All of my male friends kind of pretend to be interested but don’t even take the time to watch a video when I mention him, despite this they try to vicariously live my love life through me.
Going through kinda similar situation. I love watching Corey because as he says he helps you unlearn all the social conditioning & come back to the centered man that us guys all have the power to become within us. We all have this great energy inside us & Corey’s work allows us to unlock it if we are prepared to work hard at it! Thank You Corey!
If she wants you, she will make it obvious. When you are unbothered, it shows you don't care about the outcome. Always put the ball in the woman's court. You can't make a woman like you.
I have an interesting story. When I was about 11 my parents split up. I chose to live with my dad and my sister went with my mom. I remember almost every day my dad would try to call my mom and beg her to come back. She would always get pissed and ignore him etc etc. Even at that young age I somehow seen what was happening somehow. Coupled with my want to have my parents back together. I remember I told my dad to try not talking to her. To my knowledge that was what he did and they were back together not long after that.
You're a good son. 👍
Why did that make me tear up
This last break up has made me bury my face in your book and I have done all the things this guy is doing except for started seeing other people. I’m kind of enjoying just being me right now and I’m focused on getting out of living in a camper and living in an apartment so I have somewhere for a woman to come see me 😏
Keep on building you brother , from the ground up , with good foundations
hang in there brother. pulling for you...been there
Find myself coming back to the channel from time to time to refresh my knowledge. Always good to keep your mind sharp and honed
Great thing about getting older and gaining experience is. The older you get, the less you give a shit. You're just like yeah whatever.. Im gonna do something i enjoy.
Never ever go back to an ex! That’s basic dating 1-1.
I’m glad to see Corey making these old style videos! Corey is the one guy that officially made me change my life. Read the book. You’ll be amazed what you can accomplish in 1-2 years.
I was dating this really gorgeous French girl years ago. And she was totally out of my league like most of the girls I went for. But this particular case was more revealing than the others. I ALWAYS put myself first without knowing that I did. If I didn’t want something I didn’t do it. I told the truth and didn’t speak because they felt uncomfortable with silence. And she’d complain but still be all over me, and ended up being very submissive and looking for approval from me, in multiple different ways, through constant sex and asking my opinion about everything that went into her business and involving me in the process though I told her that I honestly didn’t give af but that she should make x y and z decisions if the others aren’t working. I wasn’t an ass hole I was just real. But one time for about a stretch of two weeks, i was being an asshole. And she didn’t change, she was still submissive but she started to plead with me and tell me that I made her think that she’s stupid and that I’m annoyed with her. My biggest mistake was not discerning the difference between those two weeks and the rest of our relationship so I was really conscious about the way I talked to her and was being a little fake abba she completely changed her energy towards me. It took me only a week after that to set things back to where it was but that was a major eye opener. Don’t be fake or don’t try to please anyone. Keep that energy you have inherent in you and if you’re being honest and fairly reasonable then you should have nothing up worry about.
red the book 15 time!
It absolutely changed my life for the better!
Please tell us some details. I would really appreciate it!
@@vToneehh I can try to explain it, or you could just read the book!
It teaches you to behave cornerintuitively in certain situations.
No cherry picking... Read the book!
@@vToneehh lol, do you believe anything anyone write on the internet ?
The more I go through life, the more I have to acknowledge what the coach says, is true, despite my liking of it.
I love this video. Great success story Coach! I was ghosted about 12yrs ago by my ex-wife and lately she's been texting me even called me on her 40th birthday. She's married again with 2 kids but we do have a son together. These teachings really do work and I did listen to your audiobook 55+ times. Really changed how I viewed myself and women.
Exes are exes for a reason I find myself breaking up with them more than the other way around. I told the last chick I dealt with to lose my number. I have no regrets
As soon as I discovered my wife was cheating I left home, I prayed that her other man would move in & become her forever man. No such luck he dumped her 10 minutes after I left leaving her alone with the kids. After 4 years of Inaction the wife asked me to move back in & I did only because the kids were having emotional problems without dad around. Those 4 years away from her were awesome, no drama, peace & quiet & all the booty I could handle. If I could do it all over I'd never marry, I'd simply date several at a time & enjoy them.
Lemme ask u something, u said u would never marry if u could do it all over, but your current kids i think they were born because u were married (correct me if i'm wrong) so would u still marry and have them or not marry and don't have them? Honest question🤔
@@hahah822 Excellent question, I was married twice & each wife gave me one son & I love both my sons. Each marriage failed immediately after giving birth as each wife went down the postpartum/Manic Depression hole & while hormone crazed they used the man hating divorce court system to financially rape/destroy me. Despite my wife’s hurtful actions (both also cheated) I am forever grateful for my sons.
If I were 18 again would be 100% for marriage if the divorce laws were changed.
I am stuck unfortunately 😢I have no choice now .. too late for me and wasted all of my time and youth .
That wouldn't be dating, that would be smash and dash, or hooking up. We're men, don't you dare speak in euphemisms to sound less harsh like girls do.
So you just left your kids and have no regrets about that? Wow.
Yep, I have had all my success from this book and have given it to many men that I know. None listen. I only read it about 7 times these last two years but I’m back here now that I am ready to start dating again since I got my business going. Time to listen to it 36 times in 4 months. Kudos boss. Keep it up.
It doesn't matter if she/he texts or not. She's an ex for a reason, once the relationship is over it's in the past and the best thing you can do is leave it there. Don't understand guys who are hoping for their ex to text them back after so much time or even hookup if she randomly offers. Nothing positive can come from that in my opinion, leave it where it ended, move on and work on improving yourself (in whatever way is meaningful to you). There is no way I could ever get involved with an ex, even if it is just for fun.
Kind of an immature comment. Every relationship is different and every past is different. If a man was screwing up, that doesn't make the ex a bad person. Sometimes this philosophy is right, and maybe for you it is. But if you listened to the video, the gentleman was the one that hurt the ex.
@gabe9646 @gabe9646 I didn't say it makes the ex a bad person. I just said that I wouldn't bother being involved with an ex. I'm not quite sure what you found immature about it. If anything, it's immature going back and forth with an ex for the wrong reasons. People obviously agree based on the likes of the comment. I understand that's the situation in the video, I was just providing context on how I personally wouldn't bother with pursuing an ex or even keep contact. A lot of guys and girls do hold out for someone they've already broken up with, hoping it will somehow just get better. The best thing to do is just get it together, and both parties can move on because there is something fundamentally not working with the relationship. There is nothing immature about that, but I respect your opinion.
@@morganator4874I agree. Obviously his ex didn’t make him the best man he possibly could be to begin with. It took an online coach for him to get in shape, be confident, etc so I immediately think she’s not worth it. Plus his risking his other options that may be a better fit by still having a relationship with his ex. I used to be that way too but I now have the ‘if you dont want me at my worst, don’t expect me at my best’ mindset. Another quote I love it “if your wandering in a forest and you see the same tree twice, you’re lost”. Again, everyone has their own opinion and experiences, this is just mine.
@@morganator4874 that doesn't make sense though if you were the one who screwed up and have sense changed but your relationship was otherwise a good fit and you both value each other as people. Then, reminding your relationship with an ex can make a great deal of sense.
There are other view points. If you all are past it and get along then fun is not a problem. However if they have shown they will be a problem in your life then it would be stupid.
Been going through a hot and cold girl and I made the mistake of over pursuing and over communicating. Your vids have been extremely helpful in understanding women.
This video is fantastic and the comment section is gold. It's crazy that this many men go through similar situations.
Same, funny thing I didnt even wantes the girl when we were meeting in the beginning only after she pulled back through texting
@@rehakmate precisely what happened to me. Boundaries go a looooong way.
What did you do to fix the hot n cold
@@Gmurkz I didn’t. I lost her because I didn't give her space. Was too needy.
Women get tons of attention. Used to it.
We don't, so when we do. We're so happy and excited.
That's not attractive to them.
They're attracted to in difference.
36 times in 4 months. Thats how often he’s gonna grt laid boys! Good job! Definitely sets an example.
Never worked in my life. What are you talking about? All the women in my life just moved on.
The best way to get over a woman is to get under another one, never take an ex back there's a reason she's an ex besides it won't last
Brilliant, Great email Coach. 36 times in 4 months. Wow. Thank you coach Corey.
That’s a great comeback story
If you recall from Corey's previous teachings, women have to wonder about you -- when you back off, stop texting, reacting to things on social media then she starts to wonder 'what's he up to?' and the natural curiosity tends to overtake them and they start reappearing in your life or even do little things to 'test the waters'
Anyone else think that sometimes youre just better off being single?.
Certainly less drama and fewer problems.
That's a new world record. 36 times in 4 months? Damn! 🔥
4 months = 16 weeks or so, 36 / 16 = 2.25. So he read it at least 2 times a week.
Never let a woman like that back in your life... a woman need to chase you, if she plays stupid games, ghost her
Spot on
The naked twister joke at the end, classic Corey.😂 Like an uncle that's always cracking dirty jokes.
This video was exactly what I needed today. Thanks CCW. You're a legend!
I’ve been following since 2017 and I absolutely think Corey is hilarious, “I’m not gonna help you with naked twister”
Like…. We’re adults. Having to play these games sounds soo childish to me. I love coach Corey, but just how small of brains women have is deterring. I hate the modern world.
It sounds childish but think of the alternative. Instead of just ignoring his ex reacting to his IG post or story, should he immediately text her and say, “I noticed you saw my IG post. I miss you, please take me back”? In that case, inactivity is better. Responding ruins any mystery.
It sounds like you hate life in general
You can call them games but the Coach is teaching attractive human behaviour.
Just vet through the women that don't play those games and find one that has her head on semi straight.
You'll be looking for a while though.
@@tonykoz I was simply commenting on the actions as childish. Women are pretty stupid, 99.46% are. So I understand the games, it just seems like they should be unnecessary
😂 that's hilarious, flipping lights on and off trying to get your attention. Like a boat in a sea emergency, "please pay attention to me!"
I think when people are in school there's that rush to ask her out because you look weak if you can't make the move. But when people become adults they taking their time a little bit more. This strategy is great for me now because the woman I like is my co-worker so there's no hurry to get serious while we work together.
Simply put: I just think we need to start being exactly who we are, and not play up to the manipulative, coercive expectations of anybody else.
Yup exactly! People just make dating more complicated than it should lol
but don't tell that to "coach"
Bro you're a legend.
Brother, I don’t know where you’re from but I found the way you speak to be very entertaining
It’s your accent and just your cadence and what you say I love it
"I've been thinking about you a lot lately..." LMFAO
The problem is that both men and women are adviced to be inactive, to be in no contact. You really can't build anything in that kind of situation.
i know right. everyone's playing games.
as a demisexual i'm just freaking lost.
i play the act of being interested when i'm not.
The one you like the best is the worst one to loose
Theres this girl at work who openly tells to everyone that she likes me. She cant stop doing it. I was Initially confused why shes doing that. Now, it couldn't be any clearer to me. She thinks shes not my type, and I only flirt back with her when im having fun but I never asked her out or text her. This tells me she finds my inaction as a reason to make it work out on her end.
Which is not to be mistaken for " sit around and do nothing with your life" . build skills
Welldone bob doing a 180 in your life
Brilliant mate 🎉
Why would a man ever take back a girl who dumped him to go hook up with other dudes? I would never be able to forgive that.
Found you in 2012 long time ago and i can tell you it works another good book MEN ARE FROM MARS WOMAN from VENIUS
Really good stuff here. I read the book 15 times but this dude read it 36 times! I gotta revisit the book now 😂
But fr dude cleaned up his diet, gym’d in the morning, ran in the evening, lost 40 pounds and got his life together to the point where not only he attracted his ex back, but got a steady rotation with 3 other women. Inspiring stuff 🔥
yes, people never lie, especially those on the internet. and it's a proven fact that when you read the book 15 times, all the hot girls start texting you that night! can you imagine ?
The emailer is an absolute chad. What a boss!
This was a feel good email.
Great video coach! I’m putting this one to use.
Empowering story, thanks guys
I do need to get around to reading your book again ! 17 times last count
Gotta pump those numbers up my dude haha . I'm passed the 100 mark.. (the audiobook) it totally changed my life... And I still go thru it once a week .. 17 times is also real good.. but yeah gotta keep revisiting it from time to time to remain sharp
Funny, I am in this exact situation after a breakup, but I did it to myself. I own the book but will now listen to the audiobook at work and apply it & repeat it until I have it down 100%
Thx coach, she is starting to look at my profiles again too since I did not block her and get butt hurt. I lost 35lbs and picked up 50+ hours a week at work and now have more money so i am ready when she comes back.
The principles of coach is somewhat similar to the chinese philosophy of tao te ching of wu-wei. You can think of it as a kind of actionless action. Getting things done with minimal effort, attaching as little as possible to the outcome so you don't have disappointments. Very interesting.
Interesting I'm gonna look that up thanks
@@fordykid5296 Nice to hear, you're welcome
The mountain remains still, and so the birds and animals gather
Coach Corey: Appreciate your work! You are a wealth of knowledge and wisdom! You rock! 🎸
Coach's version of female side always cracks me up
This man’s only mode of contact _with his girlfriend_ was Instagram? Was this a long-distance distance relationship? How the hell did he not have her phone number or even her email address?
This video was very helpful for me. I have a girl that lost attraction for me currently stoking my TikTok
God I make everyone ask for my name. Just lets me know if they're engaged. Don't even do it on purpose anymore, just start talking and if the question comes up, it's like a notification bell:
"You're on point"
The worst and most degradering thing to do is to cry and humiliate yourself after she rejects you.Went through 2 divorces after they ,in both cases, jumped fence.Went for military service,to gym and dressed differently in civvie street.Both wanted me back afterwards.l ,however felt nothing but being repulsed after what they did,their narrow minded perspective of life ,love and relationships. Married x model and dance instructor, 33years later,still feel like kicking my ass over the valuable time l wasted on those . Particularly because it was during the 80s,best music,cars and (girls),wasted on material girls who couldn't differentiate between love and lust.
I’ve never laughed so hard in relation to this guy! 😂 what a freakin G
Don't have any socials so 🤷 A lot of these videos make significant mention of the games played on social media so can't relate. I cant be alone in that, thought it was worth a mention.
Exactly. How would they know if you’re in better physical shape or dating other chicks if you don’t have social media or mutual friends?
The "naked twister" at the end caught me so off guard. 🤣🤣
I came to this channel after a very long time of being carried away in tate videos, almost a year and now I cant help but find some things in coreys teachings I do not agree with. I now strongly believe that there is absolutely no value in going down the the same path that you have fucked up before twice, it is complete self destruction and not very different from a substance addiction where you only want to relapse because subconsciously that relationship with a person or drug has become your metric to measure improvement in your mental health.! I cannot believe at one point of time I used to watch videos on how to manifest a specific person somehow ending up on this channel. This channel has helped me a lot in growing but I just dont think i can agree with trying and getting the same girl back ever again, simply because life is too precious to waste in correcting things that can be easily replaced.
Where in the video it says the guy is 'trying' to get back to her? It actually is her. And if the reason for the break is not cheating or such, and it was mainly you acting weak. There's nothing wrong in giving her a second chance and show who you really are. Don't be a butthurt kid
I agree. Everyone has their own lives and opinions however what’s in the past is now dead and should stay there. This man became his best self AFTER his relationship with this woman. I think dating again would only cause you harm
I got dumped got coreys book read 1/2 the book blocked and deleted the ex number, moved on and now im working on myself
I’m doing this to a chick right now and it’s driving her nuts! She initiates 100% contact now.
so you like playing manipulation games ?
I wouldn't say cocky, I'd say confident
Cocksure
Hey Corey, great topic here. I think these news letters are really eye opening and I think it would be beneficial for your channel to also touch on relationship maintenance with examples of how to spice things up and maybe more detailed examples with interaction minutia. I’ve read the book 10 times and think of it as the foundation that I find can be supplemented with newsletters & other solid advice from others I.e Bacon, Zander, Tripp among others. 3% man is the blueprint but details regarding how to keep sex 🔥 may be what others and myself might be after
I've read the book about to 40 times already.
love you coach!!
Corey, I have been suggested to have some swagger....but ya know what, that goes back to arrogance and I've never been arrogant. I have read the Swagger Wikpedia page and John Wayne is said to have had swagger. I'm sure he wasn't the old Hollywood star back then that had swagger.
Go for a kind caring home loving girl who loves her father and you won’t go far wrong
I was messaging someone almost everyday, only really at the start fast replies, but we met online in a mmo, she has no photos or anything.
She starts replying after triple texting, across several days now, so it gets tiring trying to keep the connection.
I am being fed breadcrumbs of actually progressing anywhere.
So I start to think, she's hiding something and stringing me along.
The worst thing I did is, try to strengthen the connection, when she doesn't really pay attention to me.
She is either socially awkward or she is hiding a bf or even interested in someone else, while stringing me me along.
One of Corey's best videos. Ever. Get abundant with women and kill your thirst.
Kind of disagree with this one, Coach. If ANYONE ever blocked me more than an outburst of emotional reaction, maybe, I'd move on and never come back.
This is always the video I come back to, my problem is I pull back way to much and become a cold fish and I'm scared to show any emotion
I share the book with other women so we can heal our codependency and the tactics no longer work. Anxious and avoidant attachment based on codependency are the obly reason inaction works. You're mimicking trauma, which means you will only attract dysfunctional women. Good luck.
Currently practicing inaction with a girl I like. Let's see how it goes!
da best teacher
Works every time! The skill is in having the patience.
ps.. like the clean shaylook too…. Works for you 👍
Sounds like if she comes back and doesn’t want you, it’s more of a her thing, not a you thing. I wouldn’t waste time with women who rejected me once personally. Only deal with high interest women
Thank you for your time and effort
I can't wait to get my copy of 3% man.
Girl voice always gets me😂😂😂
You had someone say they read your book dozens of times but it was obvious from their email that they were lying lol
*Unless she is a Fearful Avoidant lol bc being ignored is our top trigger. That's why I leave. No game. Be consistent or gtfo.
I was emotional dead when a girl was interested, then when i tried to fix things i got frustrated and over did things, she didn’t block me but im still trying to see if its worth it anymore. I have learnt from Corey said, do away with the fear of rejection… If you fear rejection and ladies see that, it lowers your value in her eyes… So i just sed f@&k it we move! Go Corey!!
Great episode. Thanks coach.
You only need to read the book once and take good notes then re read the notes
3% Man is a goldmine. But for me ex’s don’t come back. I make sure of it. Never.