"No Contact" is not a technique! It is standing for what you want by walking away from a situation that doesn't want you and allowing what you DO want to come to YOU; one way or another. It's that simple.
walk away for good. and if she calls. go for a hook up. a woman only can decide if she wanted to stop herself being as a butterfly or a hoe. time will tell. making lots of options is the best thing to do.
Mike K same.. The girl I liked and which rejected my date 2 times, watches my instagram stories as soon as she comes online :D doesn't like photos I put though. However, I found 2 new girls and I hook up with them :) feels a lot easier than having one that doesn't want you and you think only about her and then get depressive and alone etc.. I started working out more and soon I will buy book so I can learn how to become even better with women. You pick something from videos, but to learn all, you need a book. There is a free pdf version, but I prefer it on paper.
Sam Bat i was about to block this girl well i kinda i did but i unblock her and also i unfollower her another account in IG do you think is a good idea i unfollowed her all accounts? Cuz she been using me anyway
Corey has a video where he says what did she do to work things out with you? Nothing! She went to the next guy to fulfill her needs. Do you really want a woman like this? She is no good! What happens when you get married and have kids and you started having to travel for work more. Instead of working things out she goes and fucks your neighbor. This woman is no good she can’t work things out and she can’t put in effort. If you are what she wants she’d put in the effort. That is why you lose feelings for them too and not want them back. You know they betrayed you and no good to you.
First Last couldn’t have said it better myself! How do you say you love someone and leave them over stupid arguments? And then go months without talking to someone you supposedly “love.” And then to top it off come crawling back after MONTHS of not speaking thinking you’re entitled to that persons time and accepting you back after you been with God knows who doing God knows what? Very disingenuous.
@@eulywade9745 Well, I don't want to play a devil's advocate but sometimes this kind of game is necessary. Let's say a women is attracted to a men because of his potential but in reality he is all messed up and hasn't got his life sorted. Of course she's going to distance herself but because of his potential, he's in her mind and she'll keep track of him to see if he's changed. If she comes back to him and he hasn't developed his potential, she'll dump him again. Looking from that perspective, women are actually generous by willing to make it work. That's what usually happens when women say the phrase let's be friends. If they think it was a big mistake and they really hate the guy, they'll try to run away from the guy without saying goodbye.
After what I've been through, watching all your videos is so therapeutic for me. I need to keep hearing these concepts over and over again and it gives me great comfort. Thank you so much.
*The No Contact Rule isn’t about punishment - it’s about focusing on self-growth and creating space for perspective. This time apart often helps both people see what they really want without the emotional pressure. Solid advice for anyone in a tough spot!*
Learnt so Much from this dude. Build yourself and worry less about relationships. Know exactly what you want and stand by it. What you really desire will come and it’ll be better than what you’ve ever imagined. A lot of times we force relationships. Nature has a way of saving us from our own stupidities
But no, I want to make sure she is attracted to me again, we go on a date, do the boogey, and then I want to make the new guy feel like he made me feel when he came along while I was in a relationship with her and polluted my good old lovely fuzzy peach with his creamy pollutant. Disgusting boy! But I don't blame the man. It's the woman who should know if yes or no if yes or no but if she's attracted how can she say no? Oops.
@@fargeeks doesnt matter it shows you that you value yourself and your time, if she blew you off for another guy dont look back. Theirs also a chance she'll be back it's up to you then give her another chance or just move on and find someone better
Me and my ex long term girlfriend broke up 3 years ago. We dated again for a year or so. I employed Corey’s lessons and got her back, but It was never going to work after the first initial break up. So I called it off... best decision I have made. Now I’m with someone new who I really like and I dont have to pursue her at all. She pursues me! I know where I stand with her! So if you are fresh in a breakup, just end it, don’t contact them indefinitely and move on! I was in your situation and looking back. I wish I just listened to Corey sooner!!
Guys, you could be telling a woman that you love her LIKE NO OTHER. There is NO ONE ELSE you could love. You will do anything in your power to make her happy and spill your heart out to her for 30 minutes. Yet she will look at you as nothing more as a loser. Because to a woman she is the most happy when she is supporting a "real man" and making HIM happy and then she's happy through that. Crazy, right? But that's how it goes. Women won't support you when you're down and out, when you're going through hard times, when you're down they might even mock you, belittle you, kick you down just for jokes, just to see how much abuse you will take because you fail to embrace your masculinity. It's almost like they're teaching us a lesson to treat them worse. They DON'T WANT to be treated all sweet and lovey dovey, they get that shit from kids, and you're not a kid man. So be a man. But I still think all this shit is crazy. Like all men are finally waking up to this "programming" that these women are running on and it's beyond fucking insane. It boggles my mind. Looking at my 8 month relationship I just failed because she started cheating in the last two months and I started getting suspicious and insecure, and even though I was right, she'd mock me, tell me I'm paranoid, and keep doing what she was doing and as time went on she had less and less time for me, less sweet names for me, less babe and babys for me, and less and less time to hang out. From 4 hour dates to 2 hour, to "she's on her way to her friend's for Mary Kay stuff" so I only have like 30 minutes, maybe 45 minutes max. Hahahahaha, man, women are cruel. They'll chew you up and spit you out like you're a sucker. If you act weak, if you let them walk over you, if you listen to them and be nice, they will strap you up as their betch in no time as if as you've got sugar in the tank boy. And they may not literally penetrate you physically, but they'll mindfuck you so hard that you may wonder how they managed to put you in a place where you've completely let go of your manhood or masculinity and let them walk all over you like a straight betch, all in the name of love or "she's the one" or whatever else you were telling yourself when many women will throw around "I love you's" and "you are the love of my life" and "you're the one" super easily not even 2 weeks into the relationship as long as she'll know that you're the type she can manipulate saying those kinds of things. Protect your mental butthole boys, because they'll wrap you around their finger and try to penetrate away your dignity. You think I'm kidding? HAHAHAHA. Oh boy, you're in for a ride if you haven't opened your eyes yet. I will never look at women or dating or relationships and marriage the same way again. It truly is something like a battlefield, not lovey dovey hugs and kisses and pink and purple colors and smooth sailing.
Rant Therapist I know feeling man. My girl stated pulling away and she would say I’m busy or her kids came first. The whole 3 months she was talking to her ex. Because “he understood her and listen to her” but she never talked to me about her issues because she didn’t feel like it. She lied and said she only talked to him about money for the kids every Saturday for like 30 minutes. Eventually she admitted because she tells truth when she sleeping if you ask her. That she had been taking to him up to 2 hours a day. Everyday if she could and she would even use a payphone when her phone would die. If I would call her She would tell me im busy I can’t right now or my phone is about to die. She had been picking between the both of us. I told her many times girls don’t break up unless they have a back up said I don’t have anyone else nor I will never have a replacement I just have to break up with your because my kids don’t like you. But it was bs she’s going back with him because she thinks he “matured and changed” while at same time he controls her Facebook and every social media. He also installed cameras at her house so he can monitor what she does. He even threaded her before when they got separated that if she found someone else he would impelled her from her vagina. He used to beat her to point she was bloody mess. I’m so damn confused why do women do this? It’s like they like that.
This was absolutely the best comment I have read in years. I congratulate you, my Brother, for letting out what I had in my mind and sincerely send you my support. I hope every pain you go throw makes you stronger. We learn if we want to.
I’ve studied your work for 3 years and it’s a real challenge for me not to do the masculine steps. Over & over I experience guys making every single mistake you explain. Love how organized and focused you are in your videos. You always circle back to your point and stay on subject. And you’re super patient and consistent.
No contact really do wonders as I had experienced it in my relationship. Give each other a space because in that phase you'll realize how much you need each other. If he dumped you, don't beg for him to come back. It's his responsibility to win you back but don't expect too much because there's also a chance that he's doing fine without you.
I think there’s flaw in your description. You’re describing something mutual. I’ve been dumped. When a relationship ends someone is usually the dumper. One person already knows they need the other person as they don’t want to be dumped! As the dumper you’re just hoping the other person feels differently.
@@airindiana its all about the variables and dynamics...I broke up with my ex gf because of her non stop accusations of cheating and insecurities. I never cheated on her, and it had to do with her past issues. I am so heartbroken and want her back, but I had to stand up for myself. I gave her an ultimatum...She refused to apologize or acknowledge her behavior. Hence I am not in no contact for about a week now. I want nothing more than her to reach out to me, and apologize for her behavior...So as the dumper I am not going to apologize, and I am going to go no contact for the rest of our lives unless she reaches out. Am I wrong here?
David Guzman Not sure. In your situation mate you’re really a dumper who’s actually the dumpee. Your feelings are still there, you want her back. Your dumpee was acting (cheating) like she didn’t care about you. So regardless of who did the dumping or who wears what hat, the actions and feelings are the other way round in your case. Normally dumpers don’t care or have lost feelings and it’s us dumpees who want it back. As you fit the latter I’d stay NC myself. If she’s been cheating and treating you bad then it would be unwise to rush back anyway. If you did contact her she’d see you as not sticking to your guns and carry on viewing you with low respect. Was she upset after you dumped her? Did she try and persue you? A big alarm bell is that she wasn’t remorseful. So in essence you’re actually the dumpee. As she’s been acting like she has low respect for you (cheating) then you need to let her live without you and sweat it out. If she’s eventually remorseful she’ll come back for some reason (when she’s miserable). I absolutely would not contact her. But these are only my thoughts, I’m far from someone in a position to give personal advice.
airindiana she was angry after I gave her the ultimatum. She attacked my character and started making some crazy accusations. Basically told me there is nothing to talk about and best of luck. She wasn’t remorseful at all and justified her behavior. No contact has been hell for me. Only been a week, I know...that’s nothing lol. Been hitting the gym, going to work, and trying to keep pushing forward. I suspect she is either cheating and projecting her actions onto me or she is really damaged goods. Thanks for your wisdom.
Wow! This was so helpful, and I'm a woman desiring a man. 😊 I like how your years of experience, self knowledge, and research really helps both sexes with relationships. I respect what you have to say and I continue to tell men and women about your book and your videos. Thank you for being a purpose and making a difference. A loving relationship is the best relationship! ❤️
I learned from experience they're isn't a such thing..love of my life. I'm not perfect, far from it but I believe if she starts showing loss of interest, I'm walking away. I've got self love, and self worth. I'm not a person of low self-esteem.
"After four months of no contact, she reached out and basically told him that she could not live without him. However, she has been hot and cold and sometimes ignores his attempts to set a date. She is also vacillating back and forth between him and another guy and is often confused. He asks what he can do to fully re-attract her and cause her to completely disengage from the other guy and choose him for good." Well heres the thing. Once she has you she runs away, the challenge isnt there anymore. If you simply do not give a shit she will fully comeback. One of the lines I use especially when another man is involved is say "He can have you i dont care" or something to that affect. If you have the power or ability to simply walk away that drives women bonkers. The thought of not having you around will drive her mad because women get nostalgic. They want to experience that feeling that they have had before. My advise to this guy is to just focus on your self. Go to the gym, buy yourself some new clothes, go on a couple dates with some other girls. do something for your self homie. This chick obviously doesnt value your time and effort even though she may be testing you.
What if a chick bailed on getting together and you go “no contact” for 8 days, but don’t drop the “I’m only interested in you romantically. Call me if you change your mind” line. Is it appropriate to text that now or something similar? Especially if you KNOW she’s 50% still interested. I’m new to Corey Wayne’s work and I’m getting hung up on that.
@@bret0h Best thing is to still stick with not contacting her bro. If she's curious about you, she'll reach out and if/when that happens and somehow she mentions it....that's when you let her know. Just don't be hasty.
It has been over 9 months now that i have been following your work coach, and i gotta tell you that you are awesome. Your words and coaching have been of a great influence to me not only in terms of understanding the nuances of relationships but also in terms of personal development. Keep up the good work always. Two thumbs up to you.
To anyone going through a tough time, the views and info this guy has, absolutely works. If you listen to the book watch his videos and... you implement it, you will know that it works. Give love, space and time and you will see, like I have. Simply amazing! Thanks Cory, you are helping people immensely and filling a knowledge gap that the typical person doesn't have. Eye opening experience. BTW I think this is your best video.
Corey Wayne you are a genius. I'm so grateful for the years of learning you put into perfecting this art form. Your work helped me to land the relationship of my dreams with an absolutely incredible woman who in turn inspires me to better myself everyday. Your techniques are tried and true and this work will have a great impact on the world. Thank you!
Good one coach. Read your book 20times within a year. Everything is going well for me in my new relationship. And guys it's true what he says. Follow his Fundamentals. Read the damn book 15 times. If you follow his book you will get laid within 2nd or 3rd date. As for me. I truly believe in not going to back to the Ex. Because in the back of your head. Your going to wonder why they left you in the first place. Even if you did everything right. There's another bus in 15mins coming that would appreciate you. That's how I see it.
Henry, one thing that I am trying to find out from Cory Wayne>>> Literally this morning (1:20am after I had gotten home from work), I had came across your “Proper Use Of the No Contact Rule” by accident. I saw your video, and I must say I was really impressed by Cory's video. I had woken up this morning and I just couldn’t not get some rest, and go through out my day without responding to Cory's video. So here is my situation: I had just recently February 7, 2017 had broken up with my ex girlfriend, after a 4 1/2 year relationship. My ex and I are the same age; which is 44 years of age. We both have no kids, and have never been married. We both had broken up( had taken a 6 month break), from one another before in the past. This time around though, we both had made a mutual decision. To be quite honest with you, it was mostly on her part. Part of me (in my mind), had disagreed with us parting ways, however, I had went along with it. During our conversation (on February 7, 2014), we had agreed to be friends(even though she somewhat did not agree with). We both also agreed to stay FB friends as well. After February 7, I had spoken with her (via FT), for the next 2 days, and she had told me that she can no longer FT me again, and that she only wants to text me. February 9, 2017 was the last time I had communicated with her. 3 days after our decision to stay FB friends, I had “blocked” her from FB; as well as “blocked” her from Instagram. I had also put away all of my photos of her, and locked it away in a storage. I was contacted by one of her nephews(Jonathan), and he had told me that she was depressed, and was playing it off to her family members that she was content with breaking up with me, and made it seem like I was chasing after her(even though I was the one that had “blocked” her). For the past two weeks, I have been absolutely feeling miserable and wanting the desire to go back to my ex. I have been going to therapy(and counseling), for sessions on getting over my ex(since our break up), but it seems to just not be working. I find myself not being able to get over her. My gut feeling is NOT aligned with me being without her in my life. I want her back, but now that I had “Blocked” her from FB, I find myself not knowing what to do. I had saw your video “Proper Use Of The No Contact Rule”, and saw that he had mentioned “Scarcity with a woman, causes your value to go up”. However, if I had “blocked” her from FB, how to I make an entrance (slowly) back into to her life? Her birthday 45th birthday. is coming up (April 28, 2017) was going to mail her a birthday card, to try and break the ice. Until then, what other way should I do in order to slowly come back into her life? March 9th will be one month after our break up. Should I attempt to add her back as a FB friend after March 9th. I don’t know how to approach this, and any advice or suggestions would be great for me. Thank you for your time, and definitely looking forward to hearing back from you.
Once you read the material, it all comes natural; At first, lot of it seems like games, bullshit, etc; That’s how I felt when I first checked this stuff out; But read the material, apply it, it becomes natural; You can still be yourself, you’re just an alpha version of yourself; Thanks corey!! Your material has changed my life, and not just with women, but more importantly, with my purpose in life
This knowledge is so spot on. You’d think it would be as easy to apply, but insecurities always seem to set in and I end up falling right back to his videos. I met this girl that rocked my socks off, and I eventually ended up doing all of the pursuing and initiating which I believe is driving the current girl right out of liking me. I’ve recently called her out for “not trying,” thinking that would really change the outcome. This feeling sucks, but I know I’m doing it to myself.
and NO DUDE, you never call a girl out for "not trying". she already knows she is not trying because she doesnt need to as you are doing all the simping. READ THE FUCKING BOOK! basically in this situation, if she is not putting in any effort, slowly start fazing yourself out of her life, dont do it all of a sudden as she would know what's going on. slowly as in if you were texting her everyday, just do it once or twice a week asking how she is, and if she is giving one word answers you do the same and eventually get to a point where she knows youve fazed yourself out and if she wants you she will have the make the effort. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS COME ON MAN!
One thing or test that you guys are going to endure with a woman is her saying "why did you stop talking to me?" One thing you need to remember, you are free to do whatever the hell you want. When I was asked this question I told her that I was busy and also I that I wasn't interested in a platonic relationship. She is testing to see if she if you are going to be the same old guy that she knew. Most of you including me became weak and pursued her like crazy, so you got dropped. She will say shit like "talking to you meant everything..." Again, don't fall for it, of its platonic you aren't interested. No contact will scare her because she will never hear from you again or she meets someone else, which is a blessing because there's nothing worse than a sexless friendship with a woman that you like. Again you are not interested in a platonic relationship with her. Who cares if you hurt her feelings, its not what you want.
I'm sorry your statement has a double negative. So you wont hurt a woman's feelings if you don't give her what she wants? I'm confused. I'm pretty sure I was being clear that it has to be you the man that directs the relationship to where it is going to go. Ultimately it is your fault where the relationship heads. You are genetically the stronger sex, it is your job to be assertive and to lead. It is mainly why Corey tells everyone to use the phone to set up dates, not to chat. Standing your ground is being assertive like if she wants to be friends, but you reject it. You are being assertive. If you were to supplicate to her orders that you are better as friends, then you lose the power, and her respect.
Julio Hernandez My comment was directed towards guys who are in no contact and talking to her again. This isn't for reasonable demands in any relationship, if you are in a great relationship there is nothing wrong buying your gf for the new iphone for her birthday if she asks. This is for guys who are supplicating to a womans demands coming out of no-contact. She is going test for strength because you used to be so weak. She will resort back to how it made her feel when you stopped talking to her, as in "why did you just drop me?" This has nothing to do with reasonable demands or healthy relationships. I.E. the title of the video directly ties to my statement.
TheArthrighteous agreed. My ex gf left suddenly and I ghosted on her after pleading and trying to reason with her for a few days. Threw myself into my studies , worked out and grieved. Brutal coping with the sadness and heartache while studying in university. She texted me when I started dating 8 months post break up. By that time I could not have cared less about her. I ignored her text and she called asking me to meet up to talk. I said no there is nothing to talk about and she asked why . I said I do not love you anymore. She did not take it well.
Try telling her I want all of you, and I'm willing to give you all of me. But if you insist on friend zoning me, then introduce me to your attractive friends who are looking for action. This is one part of being helpful for a friend. And don't be shy over trying to pick up the other chicks in front of your friend zone girl. She will either agree, or not. If not, she only wants you as a backup, an orbiter. An in case of emergency guy. In that case you should treat her the same. This is a no lose situation.
sexual polarity causes sexual attraction be sure of yourself. a man does what he wants despite the consequences she has to earn you back since she dumped you she's testing for strength and when she feels it she goes towards you, when she doesn't she backs away non-attachment to outcome- just like accepting death in Vietnam. You must not be attached and afraid to lose something
Corey, I've read your book, more than a few times, and I enjoy your vids a great deal. Others are posers compared to your experience, and wisdom. You've helped find myself again. I had no one to learn from as a child except a neurotic mother and an abusive alcoholic father, just like a zillion other guys. We never stop learning until the day we die, if we're doing it right. Some people laugh when I say that I learned to swim when I was 56. I just climbed my first fourteener at 57. I plan to do at least three next summer. I have no room in my life for anyone who mocks me, projects their own bs on me. I'm not dating anyone and I honestly don't care. I let them come and go. My life is awesome, except for a job that I won't miss, but at part time it gives me time to travel. Thanks for your hard won experience! If you can find it, see the 1946 movie, "Duel in the Sun", with Gregory Peck, Joseph Cotton, and Samantha Jones.
I was sure everything was lost. My ex told me she was done and had been done for a while. She was tired of the arguing we had two stepchildren and a child and she felt things were unhealthy for the kids. I tried no contact, but I broke down, and lots of videos later, I have my fiance back, my kids back, my home back, my self-respect back, and peace and love back in my life. Listen to Corey Wayne, make a donation. Save what you had. Without Corey's advice, I'm sure I'd still be on my own, starting over. Regaining your love is priceless.
@@bestbusinessadvice1646 it took a month. In my opinion though you have to keep at it though. You have to keep watching videos. You have to work out, maintain masculine frame, be a provider, don't argue, learn how to let things go, realize she's ruled by her emotions and you need to learn how to be quiet and still. It's a lot of work. Good luck, my friend.
My ex all of a sudden in April of this year started to back away and basically put me in the friend zone. I told her I couldn't accept that and I was ready to walk away. This was done over text. She then sent me a picture of her crying and calling me all sorts of names. Saying I wasn't giving her a chance...blah blah blah. So stupid me drove up to her house to bring her a coffee to make her feel better. I can hear Coach Corey now "C'mon man!" Lol. I was Simping at my finest....smh. I so cringe now looking back at it. Needless to say she strung me along for the next 4 months. No sex no nothing! I was fully in fixing and pleasing mode.Then she slowly ceased initiating contact and am sure is with someone else. So yes..walk away and don't look back once you get a whiff of them "needing space" and friend zoning you. Like Coach says...have some self respect! You can't force someone who doesn't want you to be with you.Happened to me twice in 4yrs. Will never happen again.
Happened to me a month back...I begged for her to stay and later it only took her a week to get along her male bestfriend....this drew me mad and I fucking ignored her...now she keeps texting me but I have kept ignoring her... eventually she'll leave so what's the point In being a mangina...... "Never treat em like a celebrity cause they leave you like a fan"
No contact, gives you time to evaluate your actions and hers. (Perspective) Focus on your purpose and alline your goals. Judge her future actions and see if it still fits in your life. Let her earn a chance with you. Best cure for a women is another women !
I am (30 year old) guy that really likes a (21 year old) woman that i work with. Unfortunately i believe i am now in the freindzone with her (she messaged me , so i intend to turn this around and show her as actions speak louder than words that I'm not just going to be mr nice guy anymore. Hopefully this coronavirus pandemic thing will come to a end , so i can continue concentrating on my purpose in life , hobbies (Karate , learn guitar), work then etc and show her that she or no other women are the only thing i am concentrating on on life , that i have my own things going on. Hopefully their will be a Christmas work party at Christmas and this coronavirus pandemic will be over by then because i am going to make a move on her and kiss her passionately and unexpectedly while holding her in my arms, one on one in private when she's least expecting it, take the lead and really suprise her (especially as we are both shy / introvert people). I'm still going to pursue her (flirt , be playful) , but not chase her, I'm going to let her do most of the chasing from now on and concentrate on my purpose and myself.
I think this might be the most valuable video that I've watched. 23:37. It doesn't matter what she feels in the moment, what I feel about myself will dictate how she will continually will feel. 24:20 - 24:46. "I am already dead" 25:16 .... Thanks Coach
“ when they dump you your pursuit of them is over for ever, for the rest of your life’. It has to be their ideal to come to you”Best statement of the whole video
Corey, you are so much helping me out right now with a separation which is really tough for me. However, I have your book and in the middle of reading it. Thanks for all of your support.
couch corey, I am 34 male who destroy his relationship because of my mistakes!!!! I do not know how to show my gratitude for you maybe will save my next relationship :)
We had a rough patch in our marriage. we started seperating and sleeping appart. I started chatting with other women showing her that i had options. our relationship is stronger then ever. We also have much more regular intercourse and i don't have to initiate every time anymore. In fact i actually reject her sometimes. I do all the manly work (repairs and maintenance) in the house but i always refuse to do dishes and laundry.
Korey I'm a latino listener... you are the best. i never met a guy like you. i read your book twice but since I'm a good student i apply things. THE BEST. I used to be "alfa" now on the way tobe "ALFA"
Some quotes in the intro are so true: "He's having a hard time seeing what he's doing..." It's easy to sit and listen to these stories when you're not emotionally invested in the other person when you're trying to re-attract someone..." The more I learn and practice, the more I see myself, and it's not flattering. The other day, I thought I was just "flirting" and "having fun" with my wife, but I was totally pursuing, and it was turning her off. Once I saw that, I stopped pursuing, and let's just say the night turned out how I wanted, but not before I learned the lesson and made corrections.
he does give a rather objective, short term, emotionally unattached description of how he sees things. I think theres value in that to help us see things we may overlook that we might want to believe dont apply to our situation, whether they do or not, and I think they do more often than we want to admit.
In a long-term relationship or marriage, pursuing one another is a delicate dance and a delicate balance that should take place switching back and forth once or twice a year
Fuccc this could be my story, word by word... I'm glad that I came to this point. Know Im planting the proper tools for successful relationships in the future. Thanks to coach
Dude. I swear you got the best stories man haha. I literally watch all your videos like all the time. Get the popcorn and shit. And the content is unlike any other. Great info always. Once again. Respect to ya brother.
Being an ex-military guy, I did 10 years and was a squad commander, I'd say if it was up near the Cambodian border, it was probably NVA. Well one for recounting the story and bless your dad for making it back safe.
Hey Coach, I just found your work last week and directly ordered the book! I got it today and just started reading it.. But i would like to hear some quick advice from you for my current situation. I got in contact with a girl over a local app (no dating app). She is looking for an apartment in my city (we are both studying here. I am 19 and she is 18) to study here. And she mentioned that she is NOT looking for someone to fuck (so no relationship either i assume), but "just for some friends to get to know some people in her new city". Before knowing i fucked up a little and chatted too much and not making a date right away. And i also failed a test from her for sure. After watching some videos i did not contact her and after a couple of days she texted me because sth reminded her of me. I assumed that she wants to see me and asked her if she wants to get some drinks when she is in town (she lives 8 hours away). She agreed but wasnt sure when she will be here to check for apartments. I am a little concerned that she will think of our potential date as "just some friends having drinks" -thing, since i had no clue what to do when i "met" her and probaply talked to her like a friend and beta male PS: i am very impressed by everything you teach so far :) Great work
I always find coach Corey's when during my breakups and now after a year of being single again started thinking about my last ex for about the last week, typed some random stuff into RUclips and found him again. This time coach I'm not going to forget about this channel again... subbed👍
I'm kind of in the same predicament with the one woman I was the most emotionally invested in like 10 years ago. I have no problem walking a way now but when she reaches out she's constantly testing me. I'm trying to find the right balance. It's really good practice and because there are other women I'm not as attached.
when she comes back or texts back she misses u, what exactly do u say? "i missed u too" or just be cold and shrug it off??? what do u say exactly so that you attract her, but you dont push her more?
At this point she doesn't say that. As I said shes testing me because more than likely I didn't get to the point on day she called. Now shes calling to get me to do things other than what I want to do. Plus I can tell by the tone in her voice shes being flaky. So I don't agree to it and try to get off the phone as soon as possible. I already invited her over on two separate occasions. So we'll just see.
+LiveLife 101 tell her it's great hearing from her and that you'd love to see her. Keep it brief, ask her when she's free to meet. Set the date and get off the phone/stop texting her.
This is me 100%. Geees what a man-Gina I am.... Shit now I lost the love of my life aswell...... Yeah its pain do run to Cory Wayne.... I'm smiling but my man-gina tears is not stopping
Dude you are gangster. I messed up big time. Needy pursue you name it. Have two years with her. And I sence she is with someone . hey I'm gonna do the no contact which I started already only been a week. But I am committed to the no contact and work on me. Your feedback is epic thank you
They're the only ones playing. Corey teaches men to only focus on ourselves. And yeah, if you don't think the woman is worth putting up with, just drop her.
They're not all like this, believe it or not. Most are needy and emotional but some are cold as ice too and everything in between. Ultimately, Only you can tell if it's worth the hassle or not.
It gets old FAST. That is why you spend your time gaining knowledge about yourself, learning skills and doing things that you consider fun and stepping outside your comfort zone. The second you stop to manipulate someone else's emotional state to get them invested in you, you lose. BE the PRIZE.
if anyone sees this, i want you to read one of my favorite quotes as i've written here: "You can spend hours, days, weeks or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could have, would have happened... or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on." Tupac Shakur hope you have an awesome day.
This is great stuff, Coach. I Minored in Psych at one of the CSU's and I just love this stuff. This is the 5th one I've watched tonight that's so powerful. :) I'd forgotten what it was like. I've been off work for about 5 weeks trying to put my life back together after the breakup. And I'm telling 'ya, all this stuff I'm reading and constantly rereading and taking it to hearrt, has been a real blessing. I know you're not religious but I am. Fucked up because of it too. lol Everything does happen for a reason. All of this is just part of the changes I've been making in my life for the past 5 years. It's so cool to watch it unfold right before my very eyes. :) Everything happens for a reason. There are no accidents in life. I'm a firm believer of it all. :)
True love doesent need to play any power games, when you love someone and someone loves you, you can be yourself with that other person. If you play power games you can only find maybe 3 month long relationship in which you cant be yourself because you might get dumped.
Oh boy, let me tell you. You will be spilling your heart out about your "true love" for her and she would've told you that she's moving in with you, and loves you forever, and wants your kids, and you guys will never be apart. And then overnight, JUST LIKE THAT, she will be cold to you. And your confessions of love, she will look at them as a joke, she will look at you as a chump, as a boy, not a man, as someone she doesn't respect and can't feel attraction for because you are "too emotional" for her liking and therefore she doesn't feel like you're a strong enough "daddy" for her big boy. Trust me, I used to believe in love too. I am afraid this shit is scary out here bro, love might not be a thing. I just feel dread inside because I just ended an 8 month relationship where she "loved me" and said "put a boy in me" and OH BOY, she let another man do the putting my friend, another man do the putting and the puddin'. Sigh (I just exhaled because writing this was difficult and I didn't want to write this but you catch my drift, love is most likely b.s. my friend, I wish you luck)
@@RantTherapist follow the coaches advice. You'll get another one soon. And always remember...Time heals all wounds. You will be back to normal and even better eventually. Don't let this get you down. We've all.been there before, but your stronger than this! You will have your day!
Thank you so much for telling the story of your Military pops and his story. I have a real problem with overcoming the fear of loss.. I like how you broke it down to letting go of the attachment.. that really helped me out.
That is what I'm dealing with right now. She ghosted me after the 4th day, so I did the no contact rule and went 2 days without talking and she text me. I called her to set up a date and she changed the subject and now we are back to no contact.
Man could this be a cheat code? I gave her space and slowed and stopped my text and calls. After about 2 weeks, her energy is through the roof. She is smiling and touching me. Let's see how the week goes. I just may have saved this
Heres the real advice = ditch her and move on ! No relationships last forever and this one is already damaged to the point of it being a waste of time...facts... Forget the bullsgit "love story" nonsense.. Learn from your mistakes...
The problem with the blanket statement of “just see other women” is that when you really care for someone you kind of force yourself on dates and aren’t as present as you should be. I’ve never heard Corey say “go no contact. Give yourself some TIME to make distance. And then go and date other women when you’re ready”.
There was a reason why society was structured the way it was for thousands of years before feminism jacked it up. Mature people with a sober eyed view of their limited life had no choice but happiness. Now we spend our best years trying every garbage way until we are washed up and full of remorse.
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Coach Corey Wayne is haraaaaaaam! Lmfaro! Keep it up, my dude!
My lead sentence was going to be "Since the Coach didn't mention James Bond, I will." But he did mention Bond, so he destroyed my lead sentence. But back to Bond. In Casino Royale, Daniel Craig is introduced in his first role as 007. Bond goes total beta, develops the worst case of oneitis for Vesper (God, she is beautiful!), spills his guts out to her about how he feels about her, sends M an email resigning his M16 position as 007, and tells Vesper they will travel around the world together just having fun. Maybe it's my imagination, but Vesper seems to give Bond a disappointed look when he does all this. Anyway, if this can happen to James Bond, we men need to give ourselves forgiveness.
This is my exact situation with my girlfriend (ex-girlfriend now) of 2 years. Thank you for opening my eyes. Hopefully I will have a shot with her again since I really wanna be with her. But playing hard to get and that I don't care about her, specially since she's already seeing/talking to another guy is very hard.
Not going to lie, I dumped my ex and tried to come back needy 2 weeks later and it was an epic fail. She contacted me the next week wanting to be friends, I only accepted for a couple days and told her what I really wanted. 40 days past and I sent her a text about a show we use to watch and said something reminded me of her and hope you're doing well. Didn't come off as clingy or needy. She still didn't respond, but the ball is in her court. I got the advice from Brad Browning. Just thought I tried it.
This has to be the fucking best episode. So informative to really show examples of what women say vs how they feel. And mirroring there level of fiminitiy to our same level of masculinity being always equal makes soo much sense! Cheers!
Dating is like trying on shoes, just have to keep trying until it’s comfortable then you keep the shoes until worn for life or when shoes no longer fit well. Lol
Hey Corey how's it going? Hope well. I really enjoy your videos but honestly haven't read your book. I know that I need to. Anyways I have a question and here it is..... It's about the NO CONTACT RULE.. What if I have a 11 month old son with her? I really want to know your answer on this. Hope to hear back from you on this. Have a great day sir. You are an inspiration!! God bless!!
Coach where have you been all my life, you are spot on in everything you say/teach your book has become my bible,if you ever find yourself in Aruba; mi casa es tu casa
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When in pain, just listen to Corey Wayne.
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When your woman is being insane, you got to listen to Corey Wayne
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Greatest thing I've heard all day!
This is so true
"No Contact" is not a technique! It is standing for what you want by walking away from a situation that doesn't want you and allowing what you DO want to come to YOU; one way or another. It's that simple.
walk away for good. and if she calls. go for a hook up. a woman only can decide if she wanted to stop herself being as a butterfly or a hoe. time will tell. making lots of options is the best thing to do.
Mike K same.. The girl I liked and which rejected my date 2 times, watches my instagram stories as soon as she comes online :D doesn't like photos I put though. However, I found 2 new girls and I hook up with them :) feels a lot easier than having one that doesn't want you and you think only about her and then get depressive and alone etc.. I started working out more and soon I will buy book so I can learn how to become even better with women. You pick something from videos, but to learn all, you need a book. There is a free pdf version, but I prefer it on paper.
Champ1988 sounds like u described a technique
Sam Bat i was about to block this girl well i kinda i did but i unblock her and also i unfollower her another account in IG do you think is a good idea i unfollowed her all accounts? Cuz she been using me anyway
eeeexactly!
Got to love the intro music. Reminds me of those 90s corporate training videos
Josh Williams 😂😂😂 so true
Hahhaha.
Lol 😆 yeah corny af
How to get pussy for dummy's !!! I wish I could like this 1000 times
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Absolute no contact worked for me at least 80% of the time they come back. But, usually I've already lost my feelings for them.
something about not even having enough respect to speak to someone makes it feel kind of disingenuous when they say "they cant live without you"
Corey has a video where he says what did she do to work things out with you? Nothing! She went to the next guy to fulfill her needs. Do you really want a woman like this? She is no good! What happens when you get married and have kids and you started having to travel for work more. Instead of working things out she goes and fucks your neighbor. This woman is no good she can’t work things out and she can’t put in effort. If you are what she wants she’d put in the effort. That is why you lose feelings for them too and not want them back. You know they betrayed you and no good to you.
First Last couldn’t have said it better myself! How do you say you love someone and leave them over stupid arguments? And then go months without talking to someone you supposedly “love.” And then to top it off come crawling back after MONTHS of not speaking thinking you’re entitled to that persons time and accepting you back after you been with God knows who doing God knows what? Very disingenuous.
@@eulywade9745 Well, I don't want to play a devil's advocate but sometimes this kind of game is necessary. Let's say a women is attracted to a men because of his potential but in reality he is all messed up and hasn't got his life sorted. Of course she's going to distance herself but because of his potential, he's in her mind and she'll keep track of him to see if he's changed. If she comes back to him and he hasn't developed his potential, she'll dump him again. Looking from that perspective, women are actually generous by willing to make it work. That's what usually happens when women say the phrase let's be friends. If they think it was a big mistake and they really hate the guy, they'll try to run away from the guy without saying goodbye.
funny huh.... by then im disgusted and want to spit in her hace and slam the door
After what I've been through, watching all your videos is so therapeutic for me. I need to keep hearing these concepts over and over again and it gives me great comfort. Thank you so much.
It is, but your improvement will come when you read the book 10-15 times. So get to work!
You need to hear the war analogy on repeat, no mercy.
*The No Contact Rule isn’t about punishment - it’s about focusing on self-growth and creating space for perspective. This time apart often helps both people see what they really want without the emotional pressure. Solid advice for anyone in a tough spot!*
Absolutely agree with the "earn me back. I was willing to stay!" You always say it all right!
Bottom line if someone walks out of your life, let them GO!!
mel will that’s not realistic.
Easier said than done...
@@oliverallen5324 lol maybe not for you.
@@victorsuarez3lol it's actually very easy and letting someone go isn't the same as getting over them.
I agree. There are a lot of people out there to meet.
Learnt so
Much from this dude. Build yourself and worry less about relationships. Know exactly what you want and stand by it. What you really desire will come and it’ll be better than what you’ve ever imagined.
A lot of times we force relationships. Nature has a way of saving us from our own stupidities
wow well said, nature has a way of saving us from our own stupidities
if shes with another guy, forget her and move on.
But no, I want to make sure she is attracted to me again, we go on a date, do the boogey, and then I want to make the new guy feel like he made me feel when he came along while I was in a relationship with her and polluted my good old lovely fuzzy peach with his creamy pollutant. Disgusting boy! But I don't blame the man. It's the woman who should know if yes or no if yes or no but if she's attracted how can she say no? Oops.
Byeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Rant Therapist what a load of bullshit
Adam G but dude this taken lady i know has a crush on me
@@fargeeks doesnt matter it shows you that you value yourself and your time, if she blew you off for another guy dont look back. Theirs also a chance she'll be back it's up to you then give her another chance or just move on and find someone better
Me and my ex long term girlfriend broke up 3 years ago. We dated again for a year or so. I employed Corey’s lessons and got her back, but It was never going to work after the first initial break up. So I called it off... best decision I have made. Now I’m with someone new who I really like and I dont have to pursue her at all. She pursues me! I know where I stand with her!
So if you are fresh in a breakup, just end it, don’t contact them indefinitely and move on! I was in your situation and looking back. I wish I just listened to Corey sooner!!
"In my professional opinion, you've become a big mangina" - Coach Corey Wayne
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"One is no choice, two is a dilemma and three is a real choice!" Perfect.
Guys, you could be telling a woman that you love her LIKE NO OTHER. There is NO ONE ELSE you could love. You will do anything in your power to make her happy and spill your heart out to her for 30 minutes. Yet she will look at you as nothing more as a loser. Because to a woman she is the most happy when she is supporting a "real man" and making HIM happy and then she's happy through that.
Crazy, right? But that's how it goes. Women won't support you when you're down and out, when you're going through hard times, when you're down they might even mock you, belittle you, kick you down just for jokes, just to see how much abuse you will take because you fail to embrace your masculinity. It's almost like they're teaching us a lesson to treat them worse. They DON'T WANT to be treated all sweet and lovey dovey, they get that shit from kids, and you're not a kid man. So be a man. But I still think all this shit is crazy. Like all men are finally waking up to this "programming" that these women are running on and it's beyond fucking insane. It boggles my mind.
Looking at my 8 month relationship I just failed because she started cheating in the last two months and I started getting suspicious and insecure, and even though I was right, she'd mock me, tell me I'm paranoid, and keep doing what she was doing and as time went on she had less and less time for me, less sweet names for me, less babe and babys for me, and less and less time to hang out. From 4 hour dates to 2 hour, to "she's on her way to her friend's for Mary Kay stuff" so I only have like 30 minutes, maybe 45 minutes max.
Hahahahaha, man, women are cruel. They'll chew you up and spit you out like you're a sucker. If you act weak, if you let them walk over you, if you listen to them and be nice, they will strap you up as their betch in no time as if as you've got sugar in the tank boy. And they may not literally penetrate you physically, but they'll mindfuck you so hard that you may wonder how they managed to put you in a place where you've completely let go of your manhood or masculinity and let them walk all over you like a straight betch, all in the name of love or "she's the one" or whatever else you were telling yourself when many women will throw around "I love you's" and "you are the love of my life" and "you're the one" super easily not even 2 weeks into the relationship as long as she'll know that you're the type she can manipulate saying those kinds of things. Protect your mental butthole boys, because they'll wrap you around their finger and try to penetrate away your dignity. You think I'm kidding? HAHAHAHA. Oh boy, you're in for a ride if you haven't opened your eyes yet. I will never look at women or dating or relationships and marriage the same way again. It truly is something like a battlefield, not lovey dovey hugs and kisses and pink and purple colors and smooth sailing.
When you suspected she was seeing other men, you should've just broken it up. And started seeing other women.
Rant Therapist I know feeling man. My girl stated pulling away and she would say I’m busy or her kids came first. The whole 3 months she was talking to her ex. Because “he understood her and listen to her” but she never talked to me about her issues because she didn’t feel like it. She lied and said she only talked to him about money for the kids every Saturday for like 30 minutes. Eventually she admitted because she tells truth when she sleeping if you ask her. That she had been taking to him up to 2 hours a day. Everyday if she could and she would even use a payphone when her phone would die. If I would call her She would tell me im busy I can’t right now or my phone is about to die. She had been picking between the both of us. I told her many times girls don’t break up unless they have a back up said I don’t have anyone else nor I will never have a replacement I just have to break up with your because my kids don’t like you. But it was bs she’s going back with him because she thinks he “matured and changed” while at same time he controls her Facebook and every social media. He also installed cameras at her house so he can monitor what she does. He even threaded her before when they got separated that if she found someone else he would impelled her from her vagina. He used to beat her to point she was bloody mess. I’m so damn confused why do women do this? It’s like they like that.
This was absolutely the best comment I have read in years. I congratulate you, my Brother, for letting out what I had in my mind and sincerely send you my support. I hope every pain you go throw makes you stronger. We learn if we want to.
Damn I'm be single sound like u a heart break
Amen brother....amen
I’ve studied your work for 3 years and it’s a real challenge for me not to do the masculine steps.
Over & over I experience guys making every single mistake you explain.
Love how organized and focused you are in your videos. You always circle back to your point and stay on subject. And you’re super patient and consistent.
I agree.. you summarized him well.
I've noticed that reading the book helps not only relationships, but also being successful in business and lots of other things
I watch this video everyday to remind me not to text my ex thanks coach
God bless
No contact really do wonders as I had experienced it in my relationship. Give each other a space because in that phase you'll realize how much you need each other. If he dumped you, don't beg for him to come back. It's his responsibility to win you back but don't expect too much because there's also a chance that he's doing fine without you.
No.
I think there’s flaw in your description. You’re describing something mutual. I’ve been dumped. When a relationship ends someone is usually the dumper. One person already knows they need the other person as they don’t want to be dumped! As the dumper you’re just hoping the other person feels differently.
@@airindiana its all about the variables and dynamics...I broke up with my ex gf because of her non stop accusations of cheating and insecurities. I never cheated on her, and it had to do with her past issues. I am so heartbroken and want her back, but I had to stand up for myself. I gave her an ultimatum...She refused to apologize or acknowledge her behavior. Hence I am not in no contact for about a week now. I want nothing more than her to reach out to me, and apologize for her behavior...So as the dumper I am not going to apologize, and I am going to go no contact for the rest of our lives unless she reaches out. Am I wrong here?
David Guzman Not sure. In your situation mate you’re really a dumper who’s actually the dumpee. Your feelings are still there, you want her back. Your dumpee was acting (cheating) like she didn’t care about you. So regardless of who did the dumping or who wears what hat, the actions and feelings are the other way round in your case. Normally dumpers don’t care or have lost feelings and it’s us dumpees who want it back. As you fit the latter I’d stay NC myself. If she’s been cheating and treating you bad then it would be unwise to rush back anyway. If you did contact her she’d see you as not sticking to your guns and carry on viewing you with low respect. Was she upset after you dumped her? Did she try and persue you? A big alarm bell is that she wasn’t remorseful. So in essence you’re actually the dumpee.
As she’s been acting like she has low respect for you (cheating) then you need to let her live without you and sweat it out. If she’s eventually remorseful she’ll come back for some reason (when she’s miserable). I absolutely would not contact her. But these are only my thoughts, I’m far from someone in a position to give personal advice.
airindiana she was angry after I gave her the ultimatum. She attacked my character and started making some crazy accusations. Basically told me there is nothing to talk about and best of luck. She wasn’t remorseful at all and justified her behavior. No contact has been hell for me. Only been a week, I know...that’s nothing lol. Been hitting the gym, going to work, and trying to keep pushing forward. I suspect she is either cheating and projecting her actions onto me or she is really damaged goods. Thanks for your wisdom.
Wow! This was so helpful, and I'm a woman desiring a man. 😊 I like how your years of experience, self knowledge, and research really helps both sexes with relationships. I respect what you have to say and I continue to tell men and women about your book and your videos. Thank you for being a purpose and making a difference. A loving relationship is the best relationship! ❤️
13:27 "Your beliefs are in conflict with your goals." Gold. Thank you, Coach.
I learned from experience they're isn't a such thing..love of my life. I'm not perfect, far from it but I believe if she starts showing loss of interest, I'm walking away. I've got self love, and self worth. I'm not a person of low self-esteem.
"After four months of no contact, she reached out and basically told him that she could not live without him. However, she has been hot and cold and sometimes ignores his attempts to set a date. She is also vacillating back and forth between him and another guy and is often confused. He asks what he can do to fully re-attract her and cause her to completely disengage from the other guy and choose him for good."
Well heres the thing. Once she has you she runs away, the challenge isnt there anymore. If you simply do not give a shit she will fully comeback. One of the lines I use especially when another man is involved is say "He can have you i dont care" or something to that affect. If you have the power or ability to simply walk away that drives women bonkers. The thought of not having you around will drive her mad because women get nostalgic. They want to experience that feeling that they have had before.
My advise to this guy is to just focus on your self. Go to the gym, buy yourself some new clothes, go on a couple dates with some other girls. do something for your self homie. This chick obviously doesnt value your time and effort even though she may be testing you.
James Lawson my nigga
Yup
What if a chick bailed on getting together and you go “no contact” for 8 days, but don’t drop the “I’m only interested in you romantically. Call me if you change your mind” line. Is it appropriate to text that now or something similar? Especially if you KNOW she’s 50% still interested. I’m new to Corey Wayne’s work and I’m getting hung up on that.
Sean Allen I’m in a similar situation... what did you end up doing?
@@bret0h Best thing is to still stick with not contacting her bro. If she's curious about you, she'll reach out and if/when that happens and somehow she mentions it....that's when you let her know. Just don't be hasty.
It has been over 9 months now that i have been following your work coach, and i gotta tell you that you are awesome. Your words and coaching have been of a great influence to me not only in terms of understanding the nuances of relationships but also in terms of personal development. Keep up the good work always. Two thumbs up to you.
To anyone going through a tough time, the views and info this guy has, absolutely works. If you listen to the book watch his videos and... you implement it, you will know that it works. Give love, space and time and you will see, like I have. Simply amazing! Thanks Cory, you are helping people immensely and filling a knowledge gap that the typical person doesn't have. Eye opening experience. BTW I think this is your best video.
If she’s messing around with another man get rid of her!
your mom cheated on me
My rule is: If she steps out once, I remove the steps. There is no going back.
Corey Wayne you are a genius. I'm so grateful for the years of learning you put into perfecting this art form. Your work helped me to land the relationship of my dreams with an absolutely incredible woman who in turn inspires me to better myself everyday. Your techniques are tried and true and this work will have a great impact on the world. Thank you!
Good job dude. It is your birthright.
Good one coach. Read your book 20times within a year. Everything is going well for me in my new relationship. And guys it's true what he says. Follow his Fundamentals. Read the damn book 15 times. If you follow his book you will get laid within 2nd or 3rd date. As for me. I truly believe in not going to back to the Ex. Because in the back of your head. Your going to wonder why they left you in the first place. Even if you did everything right. There's another bus in 15mins coming that would appreciate you. That's how I see it.
I like your point of view. its true don't take the ex back.
does his advice apply for women? my brother recommended to listen Corey
+Babooniya yes. get his book. my girlfriend was confuse why I did certain things. made her read the book. now she understands.
Henry P cheers!will purchase now :)
Henry, one thing that I am trying to find out from Cory Wayne>>>
Literally this morning (1:20am after I had
gotten home from work), I had came across your “Proper Use Of the No
Contact Rule” by accident. I saw your video, and I must say I was really
impressed by Cory's video. I had woken up this morning and I just
couldn’t not get some rest, and go through out my day without responding to Cory's video. So here is my situation:
I had just recently February 7, 2017 had broken up with my ex
girlfriend, after a 4 1/2 year relationship. My ex and I are the same
age; which is 44 years of age. We both have no kids, and have never been
married. We both had broken up( had taken a 6 month break), from one
another before in the past. This time around though, we both had made a
mutual decision. To be quite honest with you, it was mostly on her part.
Part of me (in my mind), had disagreed with us parting ways, however, I
had went along with it.
During our conversation (on February 7, 2014), we had agreed to be
friends(even though she somewhat did not agree with). We both also
agreed to stay FB friends as well. After February 7, I had spoken with
her (via FT), for the next 2 days, and she had told me that she can no
longer FT me again, and that she only wants to text me. February 9, 2017
was the last time I had communicated with her. 3 days after our
decision to stay FB friends, I had “blocked” her from FB; as well as
“blocked” her from Instagram. I had also put away all of my photos of
her, and locked it away in a storage.
I was contacted by one of her nephews(Jonathan), and he had told
me that she was depressed, and was playing it off to her family members
that she was content with breaking up with me, and made it seem like I
was chasing after her(even though I was the one that had “blocked” her).
For the past two weeks, I have been absolutely feeling miserable
and wanting the desire to go back to my ex. I have been going to
therapy(and counseling), for sessions on getting over my ex(since our
break up), but it seems to just not be working. I find myself not being
able to get over her. My gut feeling is NOT aligned with me being
without her in my life. I want her back, but now that I had “Blocked”
her from FB, I find myself not knowing what to do.
I had saw your video “Proper Use Of The No Contact Rule”, and saw
that he had mentioned “Scarcity with a woman, causes your value to go
up”. However, if I had “blocked” her from FB, how to I make an entrance
(slowly) back into to her life?
Her birthday 45th birthday. is coming up (April 28, 2017) was going
to mail her a birthday card, to try and break the ice. Until then, what
other way should I do in order to slowly come back into her life? March
9th will be one month after our break up. Should I attempt to add her
back as a FB friend after March 9th.
I don’t know how to approach this, and any advice or suggestions
would be great for me. Thank you for your time, and definitely looking
forward to hearing back from you.
get a new girl stop worrying about the past grow some balls and move on everything will be fine don’t go back only forward
does anyone hear coreys voice in ya head when reading the book
Inner tuition every word
i hear his voice in audible
Inner tuition i hear his voicr when I mess up or when I do really well
I hear it too
Lol yup
The strongest negotiating position is to walk away and mean it...Best thing I have heard in a long time
Yup.
Once you read the material, it all comes natural;
At first, lot of it seems like games, bullshit, etc;
That’s how I felt when I first checked this stuff out;
But read the material, apply it, it becomes natural;
You can still be yourself, you’re just an alpha version of yourself;
Thanks corey!!
Your material has changed my life, and not just with women, but more importantly, with my purpose in life
Great comment
This knowledge is so spot on. You’d think it would be as easy to apply, but insecurities always seem to set in and I end up falling right back to his videos. I met this girl that rocked my socks off, and I eventually ended up doing all of the pursuing and initiating which I believe is driving the current girl right out of liking me. I’ve recently called her out for “not trying,” thinking that would really change the outcome. This feeling sucks, but I know I’m doing it to myself.
*knocked your socks off🤣
and NO DUDE, you never call a girl out for "not trying". she already knows she is not trying because she doesnt need to as you are doing all the simping. READ THE FUCKING BOOK! basically in this situation, if she is not putting in any effort, slowly start fazing yourself out of her life, dont do it all of a sudden as she would know what's going on. slowly as in if you were texting her everyday, just do it once or twice a week asking how she is, and if she is giving one word answers you do the same and eventually get to a point where she knows youve fazed yourself out and if she wants you she will have the make the effort.
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
COME ON MAN!
One thing or test that you guys are going to endure with a woman is her saying "why did you stop talking to me?" One thing you need to remember, you are free to do whatever the hell you want. When I was asked this question I told her that I was busy and also I that I wasn't interested in a platonic relationship. She is testing to see if she if you are going to be the same old guy that she knew. Most of you including me became weak and pursued her like crazy, so you got dropped. She will say shit like "talking to you meant everything..." Again, don't fall for it, of its platonic you aren't interested. No contact will scare her because she will never hear from you again or she meets someone else, which is a blessing because there's nothing worse than a sexless friendship with a woman that you like. Again you are not interested in a platonic relationship with her. Who cares if you hurt her feelings, its not what you want.
I'm sorry your statement has a double negative. So you wont hurt a woman's feelings if you don't give her what she wants? I'm confused. I'm pretty sure I was being clear that it has to be you the man that directs the relationship to where it is going to go. Ultimately it is your fault where the relationship heads. You are genetically the stronger sex, it is your job to be assertive and to lead. It is mainly why Corey tells everyone to use the phone to set up dates, not to chat. Standing your ground is being assertive like if she wants to be friends, but you reject it. You are being assertive. If you were to supplicate to her orders that you are better as friends, then you lose the power, and her respect.
Julio Hernandez My comment was directed towards guys who are in no contact and talking to her again. This isn't for reasonable demands in any relationship, if you are in a great relationship there is nothing wrong buying your gf for the new iphone for her birthday if she asks. This is for guys who are supplicating to a womans demands coming out of no-contact. She is going test for strength because you used to be so weak. She will resort back to how it made her feel when you stopped talking to her, as in "why did you just drop me?" This has nothing to do with reasonable demands or healthy relationships. I.E. the title of the video directly ties to my statement.
Julio Hernandez No problem.
TheArthrighteous agreed. My ex gf left suddenly and I ghosted on her after pleading and trying to reason with her for a few days. Threw myself into my studies , worked out and grieved. Brutal coping with the sadness and heartache while studying in university. She texted me when I started dating 8 months post break up. By that time I could not have cared less about her. I ignored her text and she called asking me to meet up to talk. I said no there is nothing to talk about and she asked why . I said I do not love you anymore. She did not take it well.
Try telling her I want all of you, and I'm willing to give you all of me. But if you insist on friend zoning me, then introduce me to your attractive friends who are looking for action. This is one part of being helpful for a friend. And don't be shy over trying to pick up the other chicks in front of your friend zone girl. She will either agree, or not. If not, she only wants you as a backup, an orbiter. An in case of emergency guy. In that case you should treat her the same. This is a no lose situation.
I watched dozens of your videos between 2015-2017. Best dating and relationship education ever.
sexual polarity causes sexual attraction
be sure of yourself. a man does what he wants despite the consequences
she has to earn you back since she dumped you
she's testing for strength and when she feels it she goes towards you, when she doesn't she backs away
non-attachment to outcome- just like accepting death in Vietnam. You must not be attached and afraid to lose something
Corey, I've read your book, more than a few times, and I enjoy your vids a great deal. Others are posers compared to your experience, and wisdom. You've helped find myself again. I had no one to learn from as a child except a neurotic mother and an abusive alcoholic father, just like a zillion other guys. We never stop learning until the day we die, if we're doing it right. Some people laugh when I say that I learned to swim when I was 56. I just climbed my first fourteener at 57. I plan to do at least three next summer. I have no room in my life for anyone who mocks me, projects their own bs on me. I'm not dating anyone and I honestly don't care. I let them come and go. My life is awesome, except for a job that I won't miss, but at part time it gives me time to travel. Thanks for your hard won experience! If you can find it, see the 1946 movie, "Duel in the Sun", with Gregory Peck, Joseph Cotton, and Samantha Jones.
Well done!
You're an inspiration brother
Love that soldier analogy of loosing your fear of dying. Accepting you're already dead, so you can be who you need to be in the moment. 23:24
I was sure everything was lost. My ex told me she was done and had been done for a while. She was tired of the arguing we had two stepchildren and a child and she felt things were unhealthy for the kids. I tried no contact, but I broke down, and lots of videos later, I have my fiance back, my kids back, my home back, my self-respect back, and peace and love back in my life. Listen to Corey Wayne, make a donation. Save what you had. Without Corey's advice, I'm sure I'd still be on my own, starting over. Regaining your love is priceless.
how much time did it take you to get your girl back?
@@bestbusinessadvice1646 it took a month. In my opinion though you have to keep at it though. You have to keep watching videos. You have to work out, maintain masculine frame, be a provider, don't argue, learn how to let things go, realize she's ruled by her emotions and you need to learn how to be quiet and still. It's a lot of work. Good luck, my friend.
@@pahriz appreciate it
Awesome. Hope you are still going strong
How you doing now?? Did his advice worked ?
My ex all of a sudden in April of this year started to back away and basically put me in the friend zone. I told her I couldn't accept that and I was ready to walk away. This was done over text. She then sent me a picture of her crying and calling me all sorts of names.
Saying I wasn't giving her a chance...blah blah blah. So stupid me drove up to her house to bring her a coffee to make her feel better. I can hear Coach Corey now "C'mon man!" Lol. I was Simping at my finest....smh. I so cringe now looking back at it. Needless to say she strung me along for the next 4 months. No sex no nothing! I was fully in fixing and pleasing mode.Then she slowly ceased initiating contact and am sure is with someone else. So yes..walk away and don't look back once you get a whiff of them "needing space" and friend zoning you. Like Coach says...have some self respect! You can't force someone who doesn't want you to be with you.Happened to me twice in 4yrs. Will never happen again.
Happened to me a month back...I begged for her to stay and later it only took her a week to get along her male bestfriend....this drew me mad and I fucking ignored her...now she keeps texting me but I have kept ignoring her... eventually she'll leave so what's the point In being a mangina...... "Never treat em like a celebrity cause they leave you like a fan"
No contact, gives you time to evaluate your actions and hers. (Perspective) Focus on your purpose and alline your goals. Judge her future actions and see if it still fits in your life. Let her earn a chance with you. Best cure for a women is another women !
Hello why haven’t you contacted dr tuda who helped me get my ex back and he can also help you as he did mine too
Whtsapp him directly for help
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Best way to get attention is to remove yours , this also works if you're friendzone.
I am (30 year old) guy that really likes a (21 year old) woman that i work with.
Unfortunately i believe i am now in the freindzone with her (she messaged me , so i intend to turn this around and show her as actions speak louder than words that I'm not just going to be mr nice guy anymore. Hopefully this coronavirus pandemic thing will come to a end , so i can continue concentrating on my purpose in life , hobbies (Karate , learn guitar), work then etc and show her that she or no other women are the only thing i am concentrating on on life , that i have my own things going on.
Hopefully their will be a Christmas work party at Christmas and this coronavirus pandemic will be over by then because i am going to make a move on her and kiss her passionately and unexpectedly while holding her in my arms, one on one in private when she's least expecting it, take the lead and really suprise her (especially as we are both shy / introvert people).
I'm still going to pursue her (flirt , be playful) , but not chase her, I'm going to let her do most of the chasing from now on and concentrate on my purpose and myself.
@@WillS.TheSuperReds. yeah that's never gonna happen bruh 😂
@@petermachiela5441 yeah sure , you just believe that and anything else you want to believe if that is what you really think , good for you.
@@WillS.TheSuperReds. did it work? Lmao
You're totally correct about the part of growing up without experiences of love and affection. It can really affect adulthood.
The moment of a lesson learned has never been more powerful then this one. Thank you Corey.
I think this might be the most valuable video that I've watched. 23:37. It doesn't matter what she feels in the moment, what I feel about myself will dictate how she will continually will feel. 24:20 - 24:46. "I am already dead" 25:16 .... Thanks Coach
She's not coming back, no contact is for you to move on and keep your dignity always remember that.
This is exactly the problem. Holding out for her to come back is simping.
“ when they dump you your pursuit of them is over for ever, for the rest of your life’. It has to be their ideal to come to you”Best statement of the whole video
Corey, you are so much helping me out right now with a separation which is really tough for me. However, I have your book and in the middle of reading it. Thanks for all of your support.
Corey, you are a god-send. You truly found your purpose in life.
No contact is hard when shes with a new guy. Every day tears at your heart
Does it get better? :(
Yeh, stop being needy, block her, delete her and move on, NEXT.
couch corey, I am 34 male who destroy his relationship because of my mistakes!!!! I do not know how to show my gratitude for you maybe will save my next relationship :)
We had a rough patch in our marriage. we started seperating and sleeping appart. I started chatting with other women showing her that i had options. our relationship is stronger then ever. We also have much more regular intercourse and i don't have to initiate every time anymore. In fact i actually reject her sometimes. I do all the manly work (repairs and maintenance) in the house but i always refuse to do dishes and laundry.
Korey I'm a latino listener... you are the best. i never met a guy like you. i read your book twice but since I'm a good student i apply things. THE BEST. I used to be "alfa" now on the way tobe "ALFA"
Some quotes in the intro are so true: "He's having a hard time seeing what he's doing..." It's easy to sit and listen to these stories when you're not emotionally invested in the other person when you're trying to re-attract someone..."
The more I learn and practice, the more I see myself, and it's not flattering. The other day, I thought I was just "flirting" and "having fun" with my wife, but I was totally pursuing, and it was turning her off. Once I saw that, I stopped pursuing, and let's just say the night turned out how I wanted, but not before I learned the lesson and made corrections.
he does give a rather objective, short term, emotionally unattached description of how he sees things.
I think theres value in that to help us see things we may overlook that we might want to believe dont apply to our situation, whether they do or not, and I think they do more often than we want to admit.
In a long-term relationship or marriage, pursuing one another is a delicate dance and a delicate balance that should take place switching back and forth once or twice a year
Fuccc this could be my story, word by word... I'm glad that I came to this point. Know Im planting the proper tools for successful relationships in the future. Thanks to coach
This is by far the best video on this topic.
just found you a couple days ago. I've gone through about 30 of your videos, and just bought the Audible version of your book. Thanks for the advice.
Listening since 2012, Good info, Saved me alot of heart ache.
At 31:17, Corey injected emotion into this, " your pursuit of this women is over forever" , boom walk away.
This is exactly where I am now...bugger me, what a revelation! Spot on!
Dude. I swear you got the best stories man haha. I literally watch all your videos like all the time. Get the popcorn and shit. And the content is unlike any other. Great info always.
Once again. Respect to ya brother.
Being an ex-military guy, I did 10 years and was a squad commander, I'd say if it was up near the Cambodian border, it was probably NVA. Well one for recounting the story and bless your dad for making it back safe.
Thank you for your service.
Hey Coach, I just found your work last week and directly ordered the book! I got it today and just started reading it.. But i would like to hear some quick advice from you for my current situation. I got in contact with a girl over a local app (no dating app). She is looking for an apartment in my city (we are both studying here. I am 19 and she is 18) to study here. And she mentioned that she is NOT looking for someone to fuck (so no relationship either i assume), but "just for some friends to get to know some people in her new city".
Before knowing i fucked up a little and chatted too much and not making a date right away. And i also failed a test from her for sure. After watching some videos i did not contact her and after a couple of days she texted me because sth reminded her of me. I assumed that she wants to see me and asked her if she wants to get some drinks when she is in town (she lives 8 hours away). She agreed but wasnt sure when she will be here to check for apartments.
I am a little concerned that she will think of our potential date as "just some friends having drinks" -thing, since i had no clue what to do when i "met" her and probaply talked to her like a friend and beta male
PS: i am very impressed by everything you teach so far :) Great work
I always find coach Corey's when during my breakups and now after a year of being single again started thinking about my last ex for about the last week, typed some random stuff into RUclips and found him again. This time coach I'm not going to forget about this channel again... subbed👍
I'm kind of in the same predicament with the one woman I was the most emotionally invested in like 10 years ago. I have no problem walking a way now but when she reaches out she's constantly testing me. I'm trying to find the right balance. It's really good practice and because there are other women I'm not as attached.
when she comes back or texts back she misses u, what exactly do u say? "i missed u too" or just be cold and shrug it off??? what do u say exactly so that you attract her, but you dont push her more?
At this point she doesn't say that. As I said shes testing me because more than likely I didn't get to the point on day she called. Now shes calling to get me to do things other than what I want to do. Plus I can tell by the tone in her voice shes being flaky. So I don't agree to it and try to get off the phone as soon as possible. I already invited her over on two separate occasions. So we'll just see.
+LiveLife 101 tell her it's great hearing from her and that you'd love to see her. Keep it brief, ask her when she's free to meet. Set the date and get off the phone/stop texting her.
This is me 100%. Geees what a man-Gina I am.... Shit now I lost the love of my life aswell...... Yeah its pain do run to Cory Wayne.... I'm smiling but my man-gina tears is not stopping
This is the best advice I have received for my given situation. Thanks!
Listen to this guy. His advice in this video is absolutely Golden!
Extremely helpful. You are a god among men!
This Guy is a Genius
Subscribed
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You're awesome Corey! 色んなアドバイスをしてくれて助かります！
Dude you are gangster. I messed up big time. Needy pursue you name it. Have two years with her. And I sence she is with someone . hey I'm gonna do the no contact which I started already only been a week. But I am committed to the no contact and work on me. Your feedback is epic thank you
Honestly.. Gets a little old playing these games to keep a woman
They're the only ones playing. Corey teaches men to only focus on ourselves. And yeah, if you don't think the woman is worth putting up with, just drop her.
They're not all like this, believe it or not. Most are needy and emotional but some are cold as ice too and everything in between. Ultimately, Only you can tell if it's worth the hassle or not.
It gets old FAST. That is why you spend your time gaining knowledge about yourself, learning skills and doing things that you consider fun and stepping outside your comfort zone. The second you stop to manipulate someone else's emotional state to get them invested in you, you lose. BE the PRIZE.
Here's your one-step solution, because I'm in complete agreement. Save your money, and treat them all like whoors.
No, corey teaches us how to counter punch against the games women play against us men
Coach Corey Wayne is fighting in the hardest war of all...Love.
if anyone sees this, i want you to read one of my favorite quotes as i've written here: "You can spend hours, days, weeks or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could have, would have happened... or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on." Tupac Shakur hope you have an awesome day.
This is great stuff, Coach. I Minored in Psych at one of the CSU's and I just love this stuff. This is the 5th one I've watched tonight that's so powerful. :)
I'd forgotten what it was like. I've been off work for about 5 weeks trying to put my life back together after the breakup. And I'm telling 'ya, all this stuff I'm reading and constantly rereading and taking it to hearrt, has been a real blessing. I know you're not religious but I am. Fucked up because of it too. lol Everything does happen for a reason. All of this is just part of the changes I've been making in my life for the past 5 years. It's so cool to watch it unfold right before my very eyes. :) Everything happens for a reason. There are no accidents in life. I'm a firm believer of it all. :)
True love doesent need to play any power games, when you love someone and someone loves you, you can be yourself with that other person. If you play power games you can only find maybe 3 month long relationship in which you cant be yourself because you might get dumped.
Oh boy, let me tell you. You will be spilling your heart out about your "true love" for her and she would've told you that she's moving in with you, and loves you forever, and wants your kids, and you guys will never be apart. And then overnight, JUST LIKE THAT, she will be cold to you. And your confessions of love, she will look at them as a joke, she will look at you as a chump, as a boy, not a man, as someone she doesn't respect and can't feel attraction for because you are "too emotional" for her liking and therefore she doesn't feel like you're a strong enough "daddy" for her big boy.
Trust me, I used to believe in love too. I am afraid this shit is scary out here bro, love might not be a thing. I just feel dread inside because I just ended an 8 month relationship where she "loved me" and said "put a boy in me" and OH BOY, she let another man do the putting my friend, another man do the putting and the puddin'. Sigh (I just exhaled because writing this was difficult and I didn't want to write this but you catch my drift, love is most likely b.s. my friend, I wish you luck)
@@RantTherapist follow the coaches advice. You'll get another one soon. And always remember...Time heals all wounds. You will be back to normal and even better eventually. Don't let this get you down. We've all.been there before, but your stronger than this! You will have your day!
You are someone who has drank the kool-aid.
Thank you so much for telling the story of your Military pops and his story. I have a real problem with overcoming the fear of loss.. I like how you broke it down to letting go of the attachment.. that really helped me out.
That is what I'm dealing with right now. She ghosted me after the 4th day, so I did the no contact rule and went 2 days without talking and she text me. I called her to set up a date and she changed the subject and now we are back to no contact.
Man could this be a cheat code? I gave her space and slowed and stopped my text and calls. After about 2 weeks, her energy is through the roof. She is smiling and touching me. Let's see how the week goes. I just may have saved this
I crack up whenever he says "I'm not sure where I'm able to be at this point in my life." That comment has scarred him for life lol.
Improvise, adapt, & overcome !
Heres the real advice = ditch her and move on ! No relationships last forever and this one is already damaged to the point of it being a waste of time...facts... Forget the bullsgit "love story" nonsense.. Learn from your mistakes...
Wow Coach, deep wise words in this video. Always great work Coach.
If your always busy and on the run, you have very little time to pamper a princess. She has to make time for you or she gets left behind.
The problem with the blanket statement of “just see other women” is that when you really care for someone you kind of force yourself on dates and aren’t as present as you should be. I’ve never heard Corey say “go no contact. Give yourself some TIME to make distance. And then go and date other women when you’re ready”.
There was a reason why society was structured the way it was for thousands of years before feminism jacked it up. Mature people with a sober eyed view of their limited life had no choice but happiness. Now we spend our best years trying every garbage way until we are washed up and full of remorse.
Coach Corey Wayne is haraaaaaaam! Lmfaro! Keep it up, my dude!
My lead sentence was going to be "Since the Coach didn't mention James Bond, I will." But he did mention Bond, so he destroyed my lead sentence. But back to Bond. In Casino Royale, Daniel Craig is introduced in his first role as 007. Bond goes total beta, develops the worst case of oneitis for Vesper (God, she is beautiful!), spills his guts out to her about how he feels about her, sends M an email resigning his M16 position as 007, and tells Vesper they will travel around the world together just having fun. Maybe it's my imagination, but Vesper seems to give Bond a disappointed look when he does all this. Anyway, if this can happen to James Bond, we men need to give ourselves forgiveness.
And then she fucks him over in the end, betraying him.
Again, what if the girl F** with Him, ie, Emotional Abuse, ie, Borderline / Narc, and he's had NO closure, and he has a RIGHT to feel insecure??
Thank you this is what I needed
This is my exact situation with my girlfriend (ex-girlfriend now) of 2 years. Thank you for opening my eyes. Hopefully I will have a shot with her again since I really wanna be with her. But playing hard to get and that I don't care about her, specially since she's already seeing/talking to another guy is very hard.
Stay strong brotha! Go on a new adventure and have fun!
Not going to lie, I dumped my ex and tried to come back needy 2 weeks later and it was an epic fail. She contacted me the next week wanting to be friends, I only accepted for a couple days and told her what I really wanted. 40 days past and I sent her a text about a show we use to watch and said something reminded me of her and hope you're doing well. Didn't come off as clingy or needy. She still didn't respond, but the ball is in her court. I got the advice from Brad Browning. Just thought I tried it.
She ever get back to you?
Made the same mistake as Brad advised and sent a text. No answer either. My standpoint now is : walk away and never look back unless she contacts you.
"Didn't come on as needy"... Yes you did. Hope you're feeling better today
You got it down to a science! I love it! Thanks for everything!
Man I wish I knew this 30 years ago lol . Love it
This has to be the fucking best episode. So informative to really show examples of what women say vs how they feel. And mirroring there level of fiminitiy to our same level of masculinity being always equal makes soo much sense! Cheers!
Dating is like trying on shoes, just have to keep trying until it’s comfortable then you keep the shoes until worn for life or when shoes no longer fit well. Lol
So glad I found you’re work Cory!
Hey Corey how's it going? Hope well. I really enjoy your videos but honestly haven't read your book. I know that I need to. Anyways I have a question and here it is..... It's about the NO CONTACT RULE.. What if I have a 11 month old son with her? I really want to know your answer on this. Hope to hear back from you on this. Have a great day sir. You are an inspiration!! God bless!!
I hope things go well for your family
Coach where have you been all my life, you are spot on in everything you say/teach your book has become my bible,if you ever find yourself in Aruba; mi casa es tu casa