Unfortunately, people are prone to lying, so all the ‘interrogation’ and vetting in the world, is not going to help to decipher the true intentions of those individuals that lie to achieve a certain outcome. I believe a person’s genuine intent will become clearer as time passes. Hence, watching someone’s behaviour, and giving that more importance, is of much higher value than putting significance on what they say. Also, as humans, oftentimes we believe what we want to believe. Hence, if we are interested and attracted to a particular being, it’s more likely we are going to gaslight ourselves into believing he/she is honest, when the signs are indicating they’re not. Jonathon, I know that you’ve touched on this, but I think it would be of great benefit to put more emphasis on the fact that the person you have a romantic interest in, may be lying to serve their self-interest.
I’m sorry, that’s bad advice to women. Women shouldn’t explore a relationship with a man and have sex with him so he can decide if the sex is worth courting her. 😳 That’s the complete opposite of the energy flow that pulls women in. Courting is all about a man investing in a woman…his consistency in courting creates trust and safety in the woman which in turn makes her comfortable that she’s not a fling for him and he’ll stay around sfter sex. No guarantees of course, but a man who isn’t serious or crazy about a woman, isn’t going to sincerely invest in her.
So, how about men that begin to touch you - trying to kiss you etc, and continue after you have made it obvious it’s not wanted? We should judge them, right? Or should these men that behave in this manner get a ‘get out of jail free card’ because they supposedly/maybe assume no means yes (which conveniently for them, and perhaps others, excuses their bad behaviour potentially)?
@@JonathonAslaySure, you MAY be able to leave, though men are generally bigger and stronger and leaving when you want may not be quite possible. Ultimately though, it’s a lot better to have not put yourself in a potentially dangerous situation to begin with. There’s some pretty good liars out there, I don’t think it’s wise to meet up with anyone in your own or their home, or in a non-public area early on.
You better discuss sexual preferences before having sex … it avoids lots of disappointment. It’s the intentions that’s the most difficult to judge since most people just want sex and don’t seem to want more
Unfortunately, people are prone to lying, so all the ‘interrogation’ and vetting in the world, is not going to help to decipher the true intentions of those individuals that lie to achieve a certain outcome. I believe a person’s genuine intent will become clearer as time passes. Hence, watching someone’s behaviour, and giving that more importance, is of much higher value than putting significance on what they say. Also, as humans, oftentimes we believe what we want to believe. Hence, if we are interested and attracted to a particular being, it’s more likely we are going to gaslight ourselves into believing he/she is honest, when the signs are indicating they’re not.
Jonathon, I know that you’ve touched on this, but I think it would be of great benefit to put more emphasis on the fact that the person you have a romantic interest in, may be lying to serve their self-interest.
Amen! So many liars I have encountered!
Ladies word of advice don't date widowers you will be competing with a ghost 👻
Sadly, sometimes that's the case.
This was right on to what I was thinking.🎉🎉🎉🎉
Yay!
If a man asked me about sex before even meeting I ask him about his big pension.
That's okay too...
Your title should be HOW TO TALK ABOUT MARRIAGE WHEN DATING. ❤❤❤
Why is that?
I’m sorry, that’s bad advice to women. Women shouldn’t explore a relationship with a man and have sex with him so he can decide if the sex is worth courting her. 😳 That’s the complete opposite of the energy flow that pulls women in. Courting is all about a man investing in a woman…his consistency in courting creates trust and safety in the woman which in turn makes her comfortable that she’s not a fling for him and he’ll stay around sfter sex. No guarantees of course, but a man who isn’t serious or crazy about a woman, isn’t going to sincerely invest in her.
I said sex is part of the process of considering a long-term commitment.
@@JonathonAslayin do time. Men just want to use women.
I am 62 all the men I have dated were vultures
Only wanted one thing
Oh of course they lied I love you 💓 I want a relationship
That's sad to read...
So, how about men that begin to touch you - trying to kiss you etc, and continue after you have made it obvious it’s not wanted? We should judge them, right? Or should these men that behave in this manner get a ‘get out of jail free card’ because they supposedly/maybe assume no means yes (which conveniently for them, and perhaps others, excuses their bad behaviour potentially)?
If that happens you leave.
@@JonathonAslaySure, you MAY be able to leave, though men are generally bigger and stronger and leaving when you want may not be quite possible. Ultimately though, it’s a lot better to have not put yourself in a potentially dangerous situation to begin with. There’s some pretty good liars out there, I don’t think it’s wise to meet up with anyone in your own or their home, or in a non-public area early on.
You better discuss sexual preferences before having sex … it avoids lots of disappointment. It’s the intentions that’s the most difficult to judge since most people just want sex and don’t seem to want more
Exactly
Backseat of a car…I have done that
Lol 😆
🚗lol
Another bunch of BS about blaming the victim for getting out of an abusive relationship.
Taking ownership of our part is not victim shaming.
Thank you Jonathon for your generosity and wisdom!!!💖