A little over a week into my quit, and yeah, I've had this not just happen with anger, but with the loss of friends and family, as well. I essentially went a great number of years avoiding crying by smoking cigarettes with that exact same "I'll deal with it after I smoke" happening subconsciously. Quitting is what allowed me to cry for my mother on her last day on this earth during day 2. It's a heavy blow, but it's also some powerful ammunition to carry with me.
Thank you,I feel all your videos hit the nail on the head and are based on actual observations and truth and not just theory.I have watched like 8 tonight and they all share my exact observations as a smoker quitting.I find your upbeat attitude and confidence very reassuring at this stage also.Ty
Thanks for all the videos! It has helped me a lot, since a lot of them covers subjects that for other people could seem far-fetched, but in reality are spot on. And just hearing your voice elevates my mood! :)
Glad to be able to help Carl. The video description in "Videos to watch to enhance your ability to quit smoking" ruclips.net/video/njFTcBY8QVo/видео.html assembles core concepts that cover subjects that I think can really help people to start and sustain their quits. You may have seen some of them already but in case you have not give them a look. Its also great if hearing my voice is elevating your mood, although I want to point out that maybe its not my voice doing it--but maybe the fact that you have quit smoking. The video "Quitting smoking can make you calmer, happier and healthier" ruclips.net/video/7K038NtxO6o/видео.html covers this topic.
Could be, but I feel more depressed now, 17 days in :). But worse is the fatigue, can hardly focuse for a long time before I get dead tired... Been looking for an answer how long it will last. Do you have a clue? Thankyou for your answer!
Check out these resources: ntapblog.wordpress.com/going-back-to-normal-after-quitting/ ntapblog.wordpress.com/resources-regarding-mental-health-issues/ ntapblog.wordpress.com/will-this-get-better/
Joel, I cannot express how important you are in my life now. You saved me and many others. Yet, you don't ask anything in return. Everything you said in this video is true. Especially for psyche health. I had problems and I smoked to avoid those problems. Thank you so so much! You are great person! LOVE
I am glad to have been able to help Clysen. I actually shot a video a couple of days ago that touches a bit on what you are expressing here. The video is atop this page: whyquit.com/joels-videos/i-couldnt-have-done-it-without-you/ As far as for me not asking for anything in return--there is a reason for that too. It is covered on the page whyquit.com/joels-videos/why-my-resources-are-free/ Again, I am glad to be able to help and if you ever have any specific questions or concerns please don't hesitate to get in touch. Joel
Joel, I don't know why are you avoiding this. But your knowledge is somewhat a talent. Just like any other talent, it takes years to master something. Your talent is "incredible, right informations at the right time". You developed that over 50 years of practice. And now you are using it to help others. Some people learn how to seduce or to juggle but you know how to make a smoker quit. You think you are not special, but you are.
Thanks for your kind comments Clysen. I just never want to leave the impression that people need my help to quit--perpetuating the often stated misperception that quitting smoking is close to impossible and only superhuman people are able to do it or that people need some kind of professional intervention to be able to quit. These pages address this issue: whyquit.com/joels-videos/breaking-free-from-nicotines-grip-is-more-doable-than-most-people-think/ whyquit.com/joels-videos/are-people-doomed-to-fail-if-they-dont-get-professional-help-to-quit-smoking/ whyquit.com/joels-videos/im-just-too-weak-to-quit-smoking/ As far as for developing my understanding for over 50 years, I actually started my efforts in 1972, so its been more like 46 years. The first several years were actually in smoking prevention more than smoking cessation. I didn't really start helping people to quit until 1976, so that is only 42 years. Here is the resource page I set up explaining how I originally started in this field: whyquit.com/joels-videos/my-work-in-the-field-of-smoking-prevention-and-cessation/
My anger lasted weeks about everything it seemed. My partner told me I was like a different person and suggested I just go back to smoking if I was so miserable. That offended me because aside from the obvious reason to feel offense, my partner would argue with me about how I needed to quit for years before I actually quit, so it really made me even more angry. Oddly enough though, it also helped strengthen my resolve. I eventually was able to spend a much needed week (essentially) by myself and was able to calm down and get a handle on my raging anger. I still get angry when I feel triggered though, but luckily the triggers happen less and less often. It's been almost 2 and 1/2 months since my last smoke and I will go days without being triggered now but, when I do encounter one I want to punch things. All I can do is feel it and breathe through it. I know the triggers will become almost nonexistant eventually but will they always make me so angry? I feel like it's the surprise factor of the trigger that angers me. They just sneek up on me sometimes.
Hello Christine: Check out the page whyquit.com/joels-videos/dealing-with-people-who-try-to-undercut-your-quit/ The article on that page "Negative support from others" addresses the comment your partner made suggesting going back to smoking. Other pages related to your concerns here: whyquit.com/joels-videos/going-back-to-normal-after-quitting/ whyquit.com/joels-videos/smoking-triggers/ whyquit.com/joels-videos/craves-and-thoughts-that-occur-over-time/
Hello Kyle. No I never smoked. Here is a page I have set up addressing this issue: whyquit.com/joels-videos/you-never-smoked-how-can-you-know-what-i-am-going-through/
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A little over a week into my quit, and yeah, I've had this not just happen with anger, but with the loss of friends and family, as well. I essentially went a great number of years avoiding crying by smoking cigarettes with that exact same "I'll deal with it after I smoke" happening subconsciously. Quitting is what allowed me to cry for my mother on her last day on this earth during day 2. It's a heavy blow, but it's also some powerful ammunition to carry with me.
Thank you,I feel all your videos hit the nail on the head and are based on actual observations and truth and not just theory.I have watched like 8 tonight and they all share my exact observations as a smoker quitting.I find your upbeat attitude and confidence very reassuring at this stage also.Ty
Thanks for all the videos! It has helped me a lot, since a lot of them covers subjects that for other people could seem far-fetched, but in reality are spot on. And just hearing your voice elevates my mood! :)
Glad to be able to help Carl. The video description in "Videos to watch to enhance your ability to quit smoking" ruclips.net/video/njFTcBY8QVo/видео.html assembles core concepts that cover subjects that I think can really help people to start and sustain their quits. You may have seen some of them already but in case you have not give them a look. Its also great if hearing my voice is elevating your mood, although I want to point out that maybe its not my voice doing it--but maybe the fact that you have quit smoking. The video "Quitting smoking can make you calmer, happier and healthier" ruclips.net/video/7K038NtxO6o/видео.html covers this topic.
Could be, but I feel more depressed now, 17 days in :). But worse is the fatigue, can hardly focuse for a long time before I get dead tired... Been looking for an answer how long it will last. Do you have a clue? Thankyou for your answer!
Check out these resources:
ntapblog.wordpress.com/going-back-to-normal-after-quitting/
ntapblog.wordpress.com/resources-regarding-mental-health-issues/
ntapblog.wordpress.com/will-this-get-better/
Joel,
I cannot express how important you are in my life now. You saved me and many others. Yet, you don't ask anything in return. Everything you said in this video is true. Especially for psyche health. I had problems and I smoked to avoid those problems. Thank you so so much! You are great person! LOVE
I am glad to have been able to help Clysen. I actually shot a video a couple of days ago that touches a bit on what you are expressing here. The video is atop this page: whyquit.com/joels-videos/i-couldnt-have-done-it-without-you/
As far as for me not asking for anything in return--there is a reason for that too. It is covered on the page whyquit.com/joels-videos/why-my-resources-are-free/
Again, I am glad to be able to help and if you ever have any specific questions or concerns please don't hesitate to get in touch.
Joel
Joel, I don't know why are you avoiding this. But your knowledge is somewhat a talent. Just like any other talent, it takes years to master something. Your talent is "incredible, right informations at the right time". You developed that over 50 years of practice. And now you are using it to help others. Some people learn how to seduce or to juggle but you know how to make a smoker quit. You think you are not special, but you are.
Thanks for your kind comments Clysen. I just never want to leave the impression that people need my help to quit--perpetuating the often stated misperception that quitting smoking is close to impossible and only superhuman people are able to do it or that people need some kind of professional intervention to be able to quit. These pages address this issue:
whyquit.com/joels-videos/breaking-free-from-nicotines-grip-is-more-doable-than-most-people-think/
whyquit.com/joels-videos/are-people-doomed-to-fail-if-they-dont-get-professional-help-to-quit-smoking/
whyquit.com/joels-videos/im-just-too-weak-to-quit-smoking/
As far as for developing my understanding for over 50 years, I actually started my efforts in 1972, so its been more like 46 years. The first several years were actually in smoking prevention more than smoking cessation. I didn't really start helping people to quit until 1976, so that is only 42 years. Here is the resource page I set up explaining how I originally started in this field: whyquit.com/joels-videos/my-work-in-the-field-of-smoking-prevention-and-cessation/
My anger lasted weeks about everything it seemed. My partner told me I was like a different person and suggested I just go back to smoking if I was so miserable. That offended me because aside from the obvious reason to feel offense, my partner would argue with me about how I needed to quit for years before I actually quit, so it really made me even more angry. Oddly enough though, it also helped strengthen my resolve. I eventually was able to spend a much needed week (essentially) by myself and was able to calm down and get a handle on my raging anger. I still get angry when I feel triggered though, but luckily the triggers happen less and less often. It's been almost 2 and 1/2 months since my last smoke and I will go days without being triggered now but, when I do encounter one I want to punch things. All I can do is feel it and breathe through it. I know the triggers will become almost nonexistant eventually but will they always make me so angry? I feel like it's the surprise factor of the trigger that angers me. They just sneek up on me sometimes.
Hello Christine:
Check out the page whyquit.com/joels-videos/dealing-with-people-who-try-to-undercut-your-quit/
The article on that page "Negative support from others" addresses the comment your partner made suggesting going back to smoking.
Other pages related to your concerns here:
whyquit.com/joels-videos/going-back-to-normal-after-quitting/
whyquit.com/joels-videos/smoking-triggers/
whyquit.com/joels-videos/craves-and-thoughts-that-occur-over-time/
Exactly!
True...
You a smart guy and all. But you talk like a never smoker. Have you ever been addicted to
cigarettes?
Hello Kyle. No I never smoked. Here is a page I have set up addressing this issue: whyquit.com/joels-videos/you-never-smoked-how-can-you-know-what-i-am-going-through/