As someone that chose to be intimate and then decided to be celibate fo similar reasons as you rowena, it's a relief to see how at peace you are with the past. I struggle with guilt and black and white thinking about the right thing to do. Cause everyone has a different idea of the right way intimacy should be. Seeing you being comfortable with the grey area and embracing your former self for the lessons she learned,is admirable. As always a magically timed video that always easier my heart in this heavy world. Thank you ❤️
As someone who has identified as on the asexuality spectrum for the last five-ish years -- and someone who DEEPLY respects and admires Ro -- this episode was such a wonderful thing to listen to! We come to that lifestyle by very different means and reasons, but all the same... the result of that fact leads to the culture questioning you left and right. To see that Rowena and I have something so small in common, especially since it goes against the grain of the majority, made me so happy! Loved this collab so, SO much. Please do more videos together 🥰
Your postures and expressions in the first 10 seconds are a hilarious start! Love the wit, humor and goofiness! 😂 Thanks for that! Fun to see you let your hair down!
I didn't think the "Eat bland Foods" was a thing other people did, I always have a really simple lunch if i'm just working or its an average day and im on my own. I like to go for a bowl of rice with some veggies or shrimp. Eating simple foods on a regular basis makes eating so much easier especially if you're like me and recovering from an ed. Also it can be easier to eat healthier when you eat simple foods and just appreciate there beauty.
If I don’t have routines, I feel like I would be a mess not particularly because I can’t do it but I’ll just forget and lose track of time then slowly but surely, I’ll fall into a state of disarray
Let me just say I love the monochromatic outfits and the wisdom you two shared 🤎💚especially the analogy of how our life is like Minecraft. It truly is in our power to add or take away anything of our choice.
I genuinely enjoy the peaceful atmosphere, I can feel it through the screen. I want to have girlfriends like this so we could discuss deeper topics too and grow together
Jesus loves you! Accept God’s gift of salvation and freedom from the eternal consequences of sin and death! Repent and be saved. Because everyone is a sinner fallen short of God’s glory, we all deserve just punishment for our sins. But God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, so that whoever believes in Him may have eternal life! Instead of giving us what we deserve, God loved us so much to send Jesus (the Word of God become human) to take ALL of our sin and punishment into Himself, forever defeating sin and death for US! By living in Christ, we are free from punishment and have eternal life in heaven being reconciled with God our Father! God’s love for us is more high and long and wide and deep than we can comprehend, but I pray that you will understand and rest in the love of God and the riches of His grace in Christ Jesus. The Holy Spirit and the right of being adopted by Him as an heir of the Kingdom of Heaven is a beautiful gift and I plead that you accept it. Give up your life, take up your cross and follow Jesus! I love you, Jesus loves you!
This is a great take on routines. That when you don't get to do your "usual"thing it can cause disappointment and anxiety. I personally always felt like it was better for my mental health to be flexible and adaptive rather than have too many routines (even though they can be good routines and healthy)
Literally! And getting out of routine sometimes is part of the routine and accepting that I am gonna be ok n I will still “be” if I don’t do a-z. Massive love to u
Oooh I’m so happy that you’re talking about celibacy! I am also practicing it, I started when I was around 23 and was celibate for three years, for exactly the same reasons you talked about, had a serious relationship for a while and now I’m back at celibacy. I am very comfortable in my choices but sometimes I do feel like maybe something is not right with how I perceive sex, just because I have never met anyone who had this same approach to it, but this conversation made me feel understood and I thank you girls ❤
Rowena, your content is a game-changer, so grateful to have come across your channel. Thank you for spilling the tea too. Intimacy is so much deeper than any physical technique 😘
collab of my dreamssssss 🎉you both are so warm but in such different ways! Leah is like having warm fuzzy feet and Rowena is like having warm toasty ears! So like socks and earmuffs 😂🥰 Leaocks and Romuffs
This is so important to hear. Im in my late 20s and have chosen to not have sex until I'm married. When I was in my teens, this sorta belief could only raise eyebrows, mild questions, among friends. Now, so many question and wonder why I choose to do that when everyone else or many are doing it. Lately, I find that I can't really explain my reasons to them (more like they dont wanna listen to my reasons at times), why I choose to do this, that this isn't exactly because of my religion. It's just something I want, something I dreamed of since I was a teen, to only be the most intimate with my future husband. As an adult, I see now how practicing self-control, not giving in to worldly pleasures (which the world today seems to be fond of, along with how easily accessible anything is cuz of technology), can be good for your mind, body, and spirit. Even when my ex fiance broke off our engagement just recently because of our lack of sex, I stayed true to myself and what I knew I wanted and believed in. It's a learning experience every day in this life 😊
I still didn’t even finish the video but I’m already feeling way better… from the beginning of this video I felt relaxed and ready to learn new things, and I feel like you’re teaching us something quite underrated but which is really important and wise… thank you so much for sharing everything with us.
"Knowing who you are and knowing what your values are" I have heard this line severally but coming from you made it sound different. You are such a rare Potato 🤣🤣
"Spill your own tea, and let everyone else have the chance to spill their own tea." Proceeds to spill someone else's very personal tea just a few minutes later. Huh. It did prompt an interesting discussion, but I feel like she should have been more sensitive about it -it's more than 1 person's tea.
i love how you choose the people you surround yourself with. i like liah yoo before i saw you shes like my unni for skincare that nerdy nitpicking skincare ingredients 😙 and ur my unni for self improvement you inspire me to always check on myself as much as i check on other people. and now here’s my new unni will have to discover her i love her voice i feel like you two have the same inner voice
I'm actually not surprised at all that ro is celibate and sober Edit: I identify as demisexual as in I cannot be physical with someone without having some connection with them but also, being in a serious relationship, having sex is important to me because it's another kind of intimacy that I practice with my partner (and orgasms are actually quite important for my health lol). I totally get Ro's perspective and I loved the reflection on why is it so trivial to have sex as much and as soon as possible in our time to the point where it feels mandatory
Thank you so much for this conversation, especially the last part! I know that may not have been easy to talk about, but it was so important and meant so much to me!!
this vid is literally goals ✨✨ i'd love to have this kind of hangout and talks with friends over tea and deliberately show appreciation. thank you for this
This is the most wholesome collab I’ve seen!!! To and Leah are the two older sisters I’ve never had but always wanted and it’s so lovely seeing you together 🥹
About the last point about intimacy, I never thought of it this way. Maybe because Asian (Singapore) culture is slightly different, but I never really felt pressure to have sex when i’m single 😮
The talk about celibacy is interesting bc I'm on the ace spectrum, so I have varying interest over time around physical intimacy. For others to be discovering life without physical intimacy reminds me of when I realized I was ace :) a lot of the pressures from societal messages just went away and i felt better able to refocus my energy on myself.
I can focus better during the day because I don't have as much on my mind and usually sleep better because I know my systems are working and basically put little stars of my daily accomplishments in my notebook. Instead of worrying about 5 million to-dos for tomorrow, I'm just happy about whatever I've learned that day or got to enjoy. :) ... ok. bye. 🌞🤍
i dont follow religion but celebacy or physical intimacy i really wanted to be special that was the reason i never did it, i know myself i am not that person who will just move on after one night but that being said if u r someone who is comfortable w casual i am not judgy its on u, i mean u do u
I’m new to your channel but I wanted to say I loved watching this video!! Not only was it calming it also helped me get a better perspective on all the topics you covered which makes me feel like I’m having a genuine conversation with you guys. Thank you so much!
I'm obsessed with this video. thanks so much for sharing! The idea about celibacy is really interesting, I am going to ponder it more. I have been feeling strange about sexual interactions lately and think something like that may serve me well.
Love the concept and content of this video 🥰 the part about gifts esp resonates with me - in a similar note, I have little rituals in place for preparing to meet my friends, which bring so much gratitude to my day and encourage deeper connection 😌
Rowena I just wanted to tell you and your family happy New Year’s. your content is so enjoyable and helpful please keep it Comin you’re an asset do the people that follow you.😊
So funny! I was just thinking about you and you literally uploaded a video within seconds of me thinking that! Really enjoyed the video and getting to see you interact with your sister. Y'all seem to have a beautiful relationship. :) All the best for the New Year!
I was wondering why I got served this. Since you're Christian, I'll share what I am lead to share since you'll probably receive it best. So we're between two planets, Mars and Venus right? Mars is Wrath(red/seeing red/Mars Man Elon) and Venus is Lust(blue/desire/The Devil Wears Prada) and that's the conflict in us, the flesh and temptation and frustration. Why Sex and War are the themes. Men(male) are from Mars/Women(female) are from Venus and we're the combo. But that is what the Bible doesn't spell out, but the spirit of truth lends, the metaphor, why Christ spoke in parables. We're supposed to read the writing on the wall to see clearly. So don't feel pressure to express yourself sexually unless you are in an intimate relationship that is governed by love, and don't feel you have to perform just because you're in that relationship, let spirit guide you. So it isn't just about morality like you said, it's about a craving versus a nurturing and it can only be properly governed and defined with a partner/love one that is open and honest and allows expressiveness. And listen, the metaphor, if we look at the act, not to be crude, but, you can see War and Lust in the act if you get my drift. So I applaud you for keeping it sacred, hard to do in this world.
When you guys we talking about bringing it back to yourself, I think you guys would love Teal Swans teachings on fragmentation and The Completion Process! She's here on RUclips too 🥰
So true about different people. Cause I go to this ceramics class and the people 40-50 years older than me (basically (pre)pensioner) or university it’s so fun too see all these differences people from differing backgrounds and even though I only see them like once a week I feel connected
not saying having a routine has to be good but to me personally i get really anxious when i dont have a routine. Im not saying it has rigid and you need to everything every day but having a rough outline may help bring peace
As someone that chose to be intimate and then decided to be celibate fo similar reasons as you rowena, it's a relief to see how at peace you are with the past. I struggle with guilt and black and white thinking about the right thing to do. Cause everyone has a different idea of the right way intimacy should be. Seeing you being comfortable with the grey area and embracing your former self for the lessons she learned,is admirable. As always a magically timed video that always easier my heart in this heavy world. Thank you ❤️
SUCH A CALMING POWER DUO 🤲🏼🤝💛
As someone who has identified as on the asexuality spectrum for the last five-ish years -- and someone who DEEPLY respects and admires Ro -- this episode was such a wonderful thing to listen to! We come to that lifestyle by very different means and reasons, but all the same... the result of that fact leads to the culture questioning you left and right. To see that Rowena and I have something so small in common, especially since it goes against the grain of the majority, made me so happy! Loved this collab so, SO much. Please do more videos together 🥰
This! Whole video 🥹 I felt so seen, so empowered! & so at peace 🫶 Yes choice is so important! im sending so much love xx so much wisdom
Omg I absolutely NEEDED this collab!! You guys both carry such positive energy and always promote self growth I love it ❤
It’s truly such a lovely surprise to see you two are friends!! Thanks both for the wholesome vibes💕
This felt like having a cozy girls night in ☺️. Thanks for introducing me to Leah! Calm, positive vibes all around 💛
Your postures and expressions in the first 10 seconds are a hilarious start! Love the wit, humor and goofiness! 😂 Thanks for that! Fun to see you let your hair down!
This is the collab I never knew I needed, it's absolutely perfect 🥰
Happy new year everyone! 🎉 I’m so inspired to work on my goals this year, thank you Rowena for all of your content!
Thank you so much for your vulnerability!! I’m inspired by your values❤
AH two of my fave people to listen to while I journal
you both are so enlightened, i love :')
I didn't think the "Eat bland Foods" was a thing other people did, I always have a really simple lunch if i'm just working or its an average day and im on my own. I like to go for a bowl of rice with some veggies or shrimp. Eating simple foods on a regular basis makes eating so much easier especially if you're like me and recovering from an ed. Also it can be easier to eat healthier when you eat simple foods and just appreciate there beauty.
Love this deep talk so much!!! ❤
If I don’t have routines, I feel like I would be a mess not particularly because I can’t do it but I’ll just forget and lose track of time then slowly but surely, I’ll fall into a state of disarray
OMG I LOVE YOU TWO
Let me just say I love the monochromatic outfits and the wisdom you two shared 🤎💚especially the analogy of how our life is like Minecraft. It truly is in our power to add or take away anything of our choice.
This is awesome. BTW- Where did you find your couch? I love it!
such a great crossover, wise sisters 🥺
I genuinely enjoy the peaceful atmosphere, I can feel it through the screen. I want to have girlfriends like this so we could discuss deeper topics too and grow together
Me eating my feelings away with spicy and salty food:
Leah's unconventional habit #1: 👀
OMG MY FAVOURITE RUclipsRS DID A COLLAB 😭❤️
oooOooOh when my worlds are colliding❤
I love the celibacy discussion.
I grow a pretty size Jasmine tree and I use that for tea it's sooo good then add honey mmm mmm 😇
THIS IS THE GREATEST COLLAB I’ve ever witnessed!
i don't understand the bland food point T-T
But you must guard your potatoes from mold. It's a lovely blue liquid!
Jesus loves you! Accept God’s gift of salvation and freedom from the eternal consequences of sin and death! Repent and be saved. Because everyone is a sinner fallen short of God’s glory, we all deserve just punishment for our sins. But God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, so that whoever believes in Him may have eternal life! Instead of giving us what we deserve, God loved us so much to send Jesus (the Word of God become human) to take ALL of our sin and punishment into Himself, forever defeating sin and death for US! By living in Christ, we are free from punishment and have eternal life in heaven being reconciled with God our Father! God’s love for us is more high and long and wide and deep than we can comprehend, but I pray that you will understand and rest in the love of God and the riches of His grace in Christ Jesus. The Holy Spirit and the right of being adopted by Him as an heir of the Kingdom of Heaven is a beautiful gift and I plead that you accept it. Give up your life, take up your cross and follow Jesus! I love you, Jesus loves you!
This is a great take on routines. That when you don't get to do your "usual"thing it can cause disappointment and anxiety. I personally always felt like it was better for my mental health to be flexible and adaptive rather than have too many routines (even though they can be good routines and healthy)
Literally! And getting out of routine sometimes is part of the routine and accepting that I am gonna be ok n I will still “be” if I don’t do a-z. Massive love to u
I’m defo in the process of learning this and trying to release expectations from myself
Couldn’t agree more. This was really interesting
Have you heard of the #SaveSoil #ConsciousPlanet movement? You might be interested 🌸
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Awwww love having this video to relive hanging out w u hehe u the bestest 🤍 thank u for the kindest introduction 🥹
Oooh I’m so happy that you’re talking about celibacy! I am also practicing it, I started when I was around 23 and was celibate for three years, for exactly the same reasons you talked about, had a serious relationship for a while and now I’m back at celibacy. I am very comfortable in my choices but sometimes I do feel like maybe something is not right with how I perceive sex, just because I have never met anyone who had this same approach to it, but this conversation made me feel understood and I thank you girls ❤
The way you both wore complementary coloured outfits so calming and sweet and loved the big sis advice
The level of serotonin Rowena brings to me is indescribable
Rowena, your content is a game-changer, so grateful to have come across your channel. Thank you for spilling the tea too. Intimacy is so much deeper than any physical technique 😘
collab of my dreamssssss 🎉you both are so warm but in such different ways! Leah is like having warm fuzzy feet and Rowena is like having warm toasty ears! So like socks and earmuffs 😂🥰 Leaocks and Romuffs
idk why but it somehow makes so much sense !!!
Ahhhhhhhhhh that’s so cute 😂❤
This is so important to hear. Im in my late 20s and have chosen to not have sex until I'm married. When I was in my teens, this sorta belief could only raise eyebrows, mild questions, among friends. Now, so many question and wonder why I choose to do that when everyone else or many are doing it. Lately, I find that I can't really explain my reasons to them (more like they dont wanna listen to my reasons at times), why I choose to do this, that this isn't exactly because of my religion. It's just something I want, something I dreamed of since I was a teen, to only be the most intimate with my future husband. As an adult, I see now how practicing self-control, not giving in to worldly pleasures (which the world today seems to be fond of, along with how easily accessible anything is cuz of technology), can be good for your mind, body, and spirit. Even when my ex fiance broke off our engagement just recently because of our lack of sex, I stayed true to myself and what I knew I wanted and believed in. It's a learning experience every day in this life 😊
I still didn’t even finish the video but I’m already feeling way better… from the beginning of this video I felt relaxed and ready to learn new things, and I feel like you’re teaching us something quite underrated but which is really important and wise… thank you so much for sharing everything with us.
I never thought I'd hear someone say "our lives are literally like Minecraft" that is going on my growth board
Makes me vaguely wonder if you are asexual or aromantic. Anyway, cool video!
To whoever's reading this: You are a Queen babe 💕 Let's make this year the best year ever (so far) 🥰🥰
"Knowing who you are and knowing what your values are" I have heard this line severally but coming from you made it sound different. You are such a rare Potato 🤣🤣
"Spill your own tea, and let everyone else have the chance to spill their own tea." Proceeds to spill someone else's very personal tea just a few minutes later. Huh.
It did prompt an interesting discussion, but I feel like she should have been more sensitive about it -it's more than 1 person's tea.
NEVER EXPECTED THIS COLLAB OMG!!! they're the only two content creators that really calms me huhu. this just made my day
Omg!! The collab that I definitely need 🤍🌼
The crossover we all needed but didn't even know of it :') Love love the both of you SO much!!
i love how you choose the people you surround yourself with. i like liah yoo before i saw you shes like my unni for skincare that nerdy nitpicking skincare ingredients 😙 and ur my unni for self improvement you inspire me to always check on myself as much as i check on other people. and now here’s my new unni will have to discover her i love her voice i feel like you two have the same inner voice
I'm actually not surprised at all that ro is celibate and sober
Edit: I identify as demisexual as in I cannot be physical with someone without having some connection with them but also, being in a serious relationship, having sex is important to me because it's another kind of intimacy that I practice with my partner (and orgasms are actually quite important for my health lol). I totally get Ro's perspective and I loved the reflection on why is it so trivial to have sex as much and as soon as possible in our time to the point where it feels mandatory
Such a good episode! Just found you through Leah and I’m so glad I did!! ❤❤❤
I too, will make bland (farina, oatmeal, ramen) when theres no one around to yell at me
Thank you so much for this conversation, especially the last part! I know that may not have been easy to talk about, but it was so important and meant so much to me!!
this vid is literally goals ✨✨ i'd love to have this kind of hangout and talks with friends over tea and deliberately show appreciation. thank you for this
This is the most wholesome collab I’ve seen!!! To and Leah are the two older sisters I’ve never had but always wanted and it’s so lovely seeing you together 🥹
About the last point about intimacy, I never thought of it this way. Maybe because Asian (Singapore) culture is slightly different, but I never really felt pressure to have sex when i’m single 😮
It's funny how old wisdom seems arbitrary, tyrannical, or useless if you don't know how it came to be. It also reminds me of Chesterton's Fence.
you need to bring leah onto voice hugs as a guest! I think it'd be lovellyyy
on it!! 🫡🤭💗
the aesthetics ✨ love how the plants in the background match your outfits 🌱🍂
oh my gosh, unconventional habit 6 is SO GOOD!! i completely agree
Attachment to routines leads to anxiety 🤯 gonna need to sit w that for a minute.
The plants behind them match their Outfits 😭😭😭❤️
The talk about celibacy is interesting bc I'm on the ace spectrum, so I have varying interest over time around physical intimacy. For others to be discovering life without physical intimacy reminds me of when I realized I was ace :) a lot of the pressures from societal messages just went away and i felt better able to refocus my energy on myself.
hey hey
I can focus better during the day because I don't have as much on my mind and usually sleep better because I know my systems are working and basically put little stars of my daily accomplishments in my notebook. Instead of worrying about 5 million to-dos for tomorrow, I'm just happy about whatever I've learned that day or got to enjoy. :)
... ok. bye. 🌞🤍
i dont follow religion but celebacy or physical intimacy i really wanted to be special that was the reason i never did it, i know myself i am not that person who will just move on after one night but that being said if u r someone who is comfortable w casual i am not judgy its on u, i mean u do u
💜💜💜💜 borahae Ro, we maybe have different religions but we almost the same values 😊
I’m listening to and hearing the first unconventional tip and I am feeling so excited to hear more! 🥰
I’m new to your channel but I wanted to say I loved watching this video!! Not only was it calming it also helped me get a better perspective on all the topics you covered which makes me feel like I’m having a genuine conversation with you guys. Thank you so much!
Hi ro 🥺 missed you. So happy to see you back
Lovely guest, I didn't know who Leah was but thanks for introducing her! Much appreciated and let's all have a great 2023 potatoes!
I'm obsessed with this video. thanks so much for sharing! The idea about celibacy is really interesting, I am going to ponder it more. I have been feeling strange about sexual interactions lately and think something like that may serve me well.
Love the concept and content of this video 🥰 the part about gifts esp resonates with me - in a similar note, I have little rituals in place for preparing to meet my friends, which bring so much gratitude to my day and encourage deeper connection 😌
Rowena I just wanted to tell you and your family happy New Year’s. your content is so enjoyable and helpful please keep it Comin you’re an asset do the people that follow you.😊
I LOVE THE COLLAB!!!!🥹🥹🥹
You two are adorable together, can definitely feel the love. And can we just appreciate that her outfit matches her phone case, lol. Good advice too.
So funny! I was just thinking about you and you literally uploaded a video within seconds of me thinking that! Really enjoyed the video and getting to see you interact with your sister. Y'all seem to have a beautiful relationship. :) All the best for the New Year!
you guys are so curuuteeee thanks for the video!
does anyone know where that teapot is from I am in love
it’s from The Qi! linked in description 🥹🫶
I love you both so much!!💗💗
What the bombs start dropping from the first minute? I was not ready.
🎉💯Thanks soo much for your comment. You have been shortlisted for the seasons winners. message on telegram to claim little token 🥰
UMMMMMMMM MY FAVS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I was wondering why I got served this. Since you're Christian, I'll share what I am lead to share since you'll probably receive it best. So we're between two planets, Mars and Venus right? Mars is Wrath(red/seeing red/Mars Man Elon) and Venus is Lust(blue/desire/The Devil Wears Prada) and that's the conflict in us, the flesh and temptation and frustration. Why Sex and War are the themes. Men(male) are from Mars/Women(female) are from Venus and we're the combo. But that is what the Bible doesn't spell out, but the spirit of truth lends, the metaphor, why Christ spoke in parables. We're supposed to read the writing on the wall to see clearly. So don't feel pressure to express yourself sexually unless you are in an intimate relationship that is governed by love, and don't feel you have to perform just because you're in that relationship, let spirit guide you. So it isn't just about morality like you said, it's about a craving versus a nurturing and it can only be properly governed and defined with a partner/love one that is open and honest and allows expressiveness. And listen, the metaphor, if we look at the act, not to be crude, but, you can see War and Lust in the act if you get my drift. So I applaud you for keeping it sacred, hard to do in this world.
I wish I have sisters like them. So chilled and calm to talk to I feel already relaxed about myself.
When you guys we talking about bringing it back to yourself, I think you guys would love Teal Swans teachings on fragmentation and The Completion Process! She's here on RUclips too 🥰
thanks for being MY older sisters
Lol love the potato metaphor 🥔
taking notes rn for 2023. 5 is so interesting, might have to be on the list!
I need to know where you got that beautiful teapot! ❤ I need to. It’s crucial! Like life Important!! Eleven111 😍😍😍
The slick Casetify transition, the Colin and Samir reference, the great conversation!!! What an amazing video :)))
So true about different people. Cause I go to this ceramics class and the people 40-50 years older than me (basically (pre)pensioner) or university it’s so fun too see all these differences people from differing backgrounds and even though I only see them like once a week I feel connected
Bland food??!!! I thought I was weird! This tidbit made me giddy happy. :)
Rowena, you’re so sweet, the way you keep the cups full gives me ‘kelin’ vibe (that’s how we call wife of son, who’s responsible for pouring tea)
I found your vlogs when I was at my life's lowest. I miss your content and your wisdom, that feeling of grounding that I received from your videos
not saying having a routine has to be good but to me personally i get really anxious when i dont have a routine. Im not saying it has rigid and you need to everything every day but having a rough outline may help bring peace
the visual part pf the video is SO captivating and enjoyable 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
Good morning, Ro!
I’ve been listening to a lot of podcasts so I love this format. Hope to see more, esp with leah!
This video I felt was so raw and honest. Thank you so much. I love this.
oooooh two of my all time favoritessss🥺🥺✨✨🥺🌨💖🤍💖❤️🔥
one of my dreams in life is to find a Leah to my Rowena or the Rowena to my Leah. so wholesome
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