TNC: Episode 58 - A

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  • Опубликовано: 19 янв 2025

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  • @shirley-louisewatts3258
    @shirley-louisewatts3258 2 года назад +1

    ‘If they told you about it they knew it… they knew it before they performed the action that got them in that predicament, stop feeling guilty for them’ 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @seriously5585
    @seriously5585 3 года назад +32

    Their "representative" is who they start off with first-- but by the end of the facade, you'll be ready to swear off relationships FOREVER!!!

    • @2012Lboogie
      @2012Lboogie 3 года назад +1

      That’s me right now 5 weeks single from a narcissist smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  3 года назад +1

      yea. it's sad

    • @colettespencer3357
      @colettespencer3357 3 года назад +1

      Don't swear off relationships

    • @PsychedPerspective
      @PsychedPerspective 3 года назад +6

      Omg 😳 yes! 3 years later I am good on relationships and people. I’m still healing ❤️‍🩹 and focused on my healing.

  • @OneWhoKnowz
    @OneWhoKnowz 3 года назад +23

    Yeah that’s that bs where we fall in love with the potential

  • @GameOver-cg3jx
    @GameOver-cg3jx 3 года назад +4

    You're funny as hell🤣🤣🤣"Leave, OMG!"

  • @daviedood2503
    @daviedood2503 3 года назад +15

    She said that "That was then, this is now. I don't careeee about all that in the beginning. I'M. NOT. THAT. PERSON."
    Say what 👀 who was that then a FAKE?
    she didn't say NOTHING. This is when we had our last argument. She just sat there. Mad as hell.

  • @auntieshugah9330
    @auntieshugah9330 3 года назад +4

    Ever since I watched your videos, I have stopped dating losers. Thank you so much.

  • @danamcentee396
    @danamcentee396 3 года назад +10

    It is astounding how similar the playbook is for the NPD’ed human. I truly believe these conversations are the foundation for understanding and taking-your-power-back. Thanks Lee. I really appreciate your stark and honest sharing.

  • @ginadeshano2562
    @ginadeshano2562 3 года назад +8

    What's crazy is every time we would split, "love bomb" me back... he would always say let's try to get it back like the first few years... impossible with a narcissist... it's too much work and exhausting for both.... the love bombing cycles just got shorter and shorter

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  3 года назад +2

      🎯

    • @JJ-iq8mi
      @JJ-iq8mi 3 года назад +1

      Mine used to say he missed the beginning...but he's the one who destroyed it.

  • @vanessarongstad8576
    @vanessarongstad8576 3 года назад +23

    There are reasons why narcs habitually get abandoned

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  3 года назад +1

      perhaps

    • @JJ-iq8mi
      @JJ-iq8mi 3 года назад

      Mine told me for two years "I know you're going to leave me when you figure me out" When I finally had enough of silent treatments and triangulation, I did leave. "It's only been a week of silence and you've left me left me! I KNEW you'd leave me eventually".

  • @thabangmonyela5571
    @thabangmonyela5571 3 года назад +3

    Wow.... That YelloPain recommendation was for me that turning point. "Monsters" is even worse from an eye opening perspective. I am here wondering how the F##K I got here. Cried in front of my Narc for the first time this past weekend. She swore at me through the tears... Repeatedly, for close to an hour. I have never felt this hurt in my entire life. Does she even know she's a monster? Well I suppose she does but perhaps the question is, does she care.

  • @lisarodriguez6966
    @lisarodriguez6966 3 года назад +17

    You're a real blessing, Lee. Perhaps proof of some evolution with the self awareness in regards to NPD...🤔

  • @vanessarongstad8576
    @vanessarongstad8576 3 года назад +12

    Being a love bombing narcissist sounds entirely like too much work for both the narcissist and the victim. I’m so done! Lol

  • @PsychedPerspective
    @PsychedPerspective 3 года назад +4

    Who you meet at the end of the fake relationship/facade is who they rly are … I found that out the hard way nearly three years ago.

  • @sabrinakelsey8815
    @sabrinakelsey8815 3 года назад +3

    Lee…Spot on. Smh. Nothing but facts…out of nowhere the love bombing and his answer was almost what you said verbatim…”he’s old, he’s changed, he’s not the same person!” I’m like you’ve changed that much in a year? No, you’re mask has dropped and this is the real you. I swear his ex warned me…

  • @Kemi116
    @Kemi116 3 года назад +1

    Absolutely incredible yet eye-opening information. Exactly what I needed to hear and the YelloPain Once You Cheat song is very shocking yet extremely revealing of how some vile nasty men act. Thank you so much for protecting us Lee, your incredible and we greatly appreciate you! Keep spreading this gospel and truth on these vindictive narcissist! 🙌🏾💯

  • @spiritualone1
    @spiritualone1 2 года назад

    You speaking Real Truth. I Love Your Tough Love Lee. Thank you. ❤️🙏🏽

  • @stacywilliams3983
    @stacywilliams3983 3 года назад +4

    You gotta write a movie script about Narcissist

  • @saritawhitsey4283
    @saritawhitsey4283 3 года назад +11

    I love how your reactions to the stupidity be 😆😆😆😆

  • @a.w.3689
    @a.w.3689 3 года назад +3

    Thank you for telling the whole truth, the truth hurts!!!

  • @LadybugPhil413
    @LadybugPhil413 3 года назад +4

    100% on point! He's doing everything with his new supply that I wanted and his ex wife wanted!! I want to thank the new supply so much for taking him off my hands! I'm so much happier without his constant negativity, drama and chaos. It happened to me exactly how you explain!! 1000%. My kid's are better off without his influence in their lives! Once you Cheat by YelloPain is the truth. Lived it! I won! I got away. I love your video's. Thank you!! It confirms I'm not crazy like he tried to say.

  • @mountainraine
    @mountainraine 3 года назад +2

    In a different video you referred to your wives son as your step son . I love it when folks say “ bonus son!” As it implies something was added to ones life . Don’t you just live that ! On a mission to change the world by passing on that word swap up . Just a thought I wanted to share as u have shared so much with all of us ! And yes I agree , I do not envy ( nor warn) a new supply more pity ! Buckle up , it’s a ride !! Love from Canada

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  3 года назад +2

      he's actually my son and her step son. I apologize lol

  • @angelnumber777w
    @angelnumber777w 3 года назад +2

    Mine said I changed and said I caused him to be the way he is.

    • @JJ-iq8mi
      @JJ-iq8mi 3 года назад

      That sounds so familiar.

  • @passion8princess261
    @passion8princess261 3 года назад +4

    This is for entertainment purposes only , A Leopard never changes its spots..

  • @jacquelinecruz4187
    @jacquelinecruz4187 3 года назад +3

    Your reaction to the narcissus is funny but to real 😳
    And we fall for it over and over again 😔

  • @rachelchenoweth5748
    @rachelchenoweth5748 3 года назад +2

    Thank you so much for showing me what os going on in his mind...

  • @dorothyroby3874
    @dorothyroby3874 3 года назад +2

    Yes they knew it, becuz that narcissist I had told me about the trauma he had during his childhood..

  • @TheFaro2011
    @TheFaro2011 3 года назад

    Broooo man you so on the money. Man they really do be like this. I can't even be jealous of the new supply because wouldn't want that

  • @MissMe1111
    @MissMe1111 3 года назад

    It was the instant oatmeal and the instant grits for me 😂🤣

  • @majorsolutionsllc
    @majorsolutionsllc 3 года назад +2

    “You knew it too!”😅😂🤣

  • @colettespencer3357
    @colettespencer3357 3 года назад +1

    Thank you so much for what you do. You are so helpful...and yes, handsome too!

  • @mishahudson873
    @mishahudson873 3 года назад +1

    All your videos are great and real but this might be the realest!

  • @ari_mas_cas3484
    @ari_mas_cas3484 3 года назад

    "End scene..." 🎭👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @daviedood2503
    @daviedood2503 3 года назад +1

    Hey brotha, some feedback here. That STRONG speech is definitely working. Ya dig? Ppl like that. It's bc they like people who take control. And know what they're doing. A leader. Appreciate the help brotha.

  • @daniellea42
    @daniellea42 3 года назад +3

    Oh man I heard “you’re breaking up the family” and if you do leave and go back it’ll be held over your head how you “broke up the family” and can’t be trusted.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  3 года назад +1

      😧

    • @daniellea42
      @daniellea42 3 года назад

      @@MentalHealness thank you for the seriously! I wish I could do a one on one haha but my toxic ex left in the middle of the month bills due and I was a stay at home mom. It’s been rough but I’m getting back on my feet!

  • @a.w.3689
    @a.w.3689 3 года назад +3

    Lol...OMG...You are funny, thanks for the laugh 😆!

  • @stevehartwell1861
    @stevehartwell1861 3 года назад +1

    The narcissistic personality I was involved, a grandiose female, became a mini me via mirroring, atomic love bombed me and made me PAY for the sins of her past lovers. Been on that guilt trip, damn.

  • @lisaayers3268
    @lisaayers3268 3 года назад +1

    That was definitely a narcissist comment about mental abuse!!

  • @aligolightly7359
    @aligolightly7359 3 года назад +1

    Ew. My ex beat me unconscious and said that it was nothing compared to taking children away from their father. Worse: I was so deep in self loathing that I believed him.

  • @kjcbondibeach5884
    @kjcbondibeach5884 3 года назад +1

    ‘I’ve changed’ is exactly what he said …. He then went on the say he was no longer going to let me treat him like shit (😳) and that was his justification for why he was treating me badly ! …

    • @antoinqueen8261
      @antoinqueen8261 3 года назад

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    • @JJ-iq8mi
      @JJ-iq8mi 3 года назад +1

      When I stood up to him, he told me I'd changed.
      When I told him he was treating me like something he found on his shoe, he accused me of having a nasty streak, said I was passive aggressive and that I was showing my true colours now.
      It's was so confusing. He was treating me badly and accused me of having a problem.
      So glad I left in the end.

    • @kjcbondibeach5884
      @kjcbondibeach5884 3 года назад

      @@JJ-iq8mi it’s a total mind F$&k and I can’t believe i thought it was love … better are things are coming your way lovely 🌷🌷🌷

  • @katie8068
    @katie8068 3 года назад +1

    That’s the bit that’s screws you over because there is an element of truth to the statements… makes you feel crazy! We all change. I said the exact thing to my ex husband I’ve changed when he was abusing me whilst whining about not being loved enough! It’s the element of truth that keeps you caught in a lot of cases I think

    • @katie8068
      @katie8068 3 года назад +1

      Wow - he told me that as well “you’ve turned me into a shell of myself” 😂🙈🤛

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  3 года назад

      a shell of himself

    • @JJ-iq8mi
      @JJ-iq8mi 3 года назад

      I left mine after he ignored me for a week (and the rest) and then he accused me of never having loved him.

  • @xxrowwddyyxx1631
    @xxrowwddyyxx1631 3 года назад +6

    I’m dating one now. I’m also an Empath. I’m highly sensitive and it’s a lot.

    • @OneWhoKnowz
      @OneWhoKnowz 3 года назад +11

      U might as well go head and leave

    • @chiquittachapman9050
      @chiquittachapman9050 3 года назад +8

      Leave... Please 🥺

    • @xxrowwddyyxx1631
      @xxrowwddyyxx1631 3 года назад +1

      @@chiquittachapman9050 🥺

    • @2012Lboogie
      @2012Lboogie 3 года назад +4

      Run !!!🏃‍♀️

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  3 года назад +2

      yea, in a situation like this if you know what to expect and you continue to stay people think you wanted it :(

  • @jacquelinecruz4187
    @jacquelinecruz4187 3 года назад +3

    What happens when they are all out of tricks? Wait they leave you😬

  • @cazhickling8151
    @cazhickling8151 3 года назад

    Knowledge and research in to this disease is more available. Psychologist now are listening to the coaches in this field. Hopefully this will reduce the time people spend in therapy.

  • @pajamacladangel9920
    @pajamacladangel9920 3 года назад

    #facts. But they know they can’t love bomb because I know what it is... but yeah, they switch the game up, like you said the other day... so complex

  • @peacearise2157
    @peacearise2157 3 года назад +1

    Ok. I need my instant oatmeal Lee. Hold up waita minute 😁😁😂😂😂

  • @lindasharpe7039
    @lindasharpe7039 3 года назад +5

    Instant oatmeal isn't good for you. Thank You for your perspective.

  • @zion5913
    @zion5913 3 года назад +1

    😂Lee u be extra with that quick love stuff😂

  • @dianacowherd9466
    @dianacowherd9466 3 года назад +4

    Will a narcissist ever feel bad about the ppl they hurt

    • @redheadedscorpio7610
      @redheadedscorpio7610 3 года назад +2

      I dont think they do😪 if they did they wouldn't do every person in their life this way

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  3 года назад +3

      very rarely

  • @PaperChase90
    @PaperChase90 3 года назад

    Man that guilt trip sounds so familiar 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @Sherl454
    @Sherl454 11 месяцев назад

    Mug,,, Voice 😮And Can Be Do Tell Nooooooooo love Bombardier 😮

  • @lisacudjoe916
    @lisacudjoe916 3 года назад +1

    Narc just tries to save you really 🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @saritawhitsey4283
    @saritawhitsey4283 3 года назад +3

    Instant oatmeal 😆😆😆😆

  • @rhonnesanelms8969
    @rhonnesanelms8969 3 года назад

    😂 2:02 Now, THAT'S FUNNY!!!!!!🤣🤣🥳

  • @natashamann-harwood801
    @natashamann-harwood801 3 года назад

    Now i want instant noodles.

  • @swiftkarma4436
    @swiftkarma4436 3 года назад +2

    You say your mama said your face was beautiful. Did she created the narc in you. Just genuinely asking. What's funny to me is my ex narc wasn't banking on my reaction to his discard phase. No contact. No look back. Nawww sucka I love me. 😂

  • @mrspendergraft1
    @mrspendergraft1 3 года назад +1

    what happened to the Narcissist Disney characters episodes you said you would do?

  • @jodavis650
    @jodavis650 3 года назад

    Omg he did say all that..anything to do with love became stupid or gay..we were to old for that all kinds of crap..sadly he knows what he is..he just wont do anything about it..

  • @beloved1694
    @beloved1694 3 года назад +1

    Great content

  • @godsfavor6939
    @godsfavor6939 3 года назад +1

    Is love bombing the narcs way of showing “love” in THEIR own way? Why do narcs want to act out or show their true selves?

    • @Ilawsa
      @Ilawsa 3 года назад +3

      Bcs no one will stay with them if they show their true self from the beguining..the narcissist knows what you love and what makes you happy, and they show it to you during the love bombing, until they get bored bcs it is just acting.

    • @seriously5585
      @seriously5585 3 года назад +2

      @@Ilawsa F A C T S

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  3 года назад +3

      it is

  • @vanessarongstad8576
    @vanessarongstad8576 3 года назад +1

    Lee it’s frustrating isn’t it???

  • @AVIDONVON
    @AVIDONVON 3 года назад +1

    That’s so funny to me🤣😂. One time the ex narc came over after we had words over the phone. He took all of his things, so I’m like ok. We’re breaking up. I asked for my keys back, a few days later. He calls me and says “that’s why men and women shouldn’t live together! Because women always put men out when they’re 😡! Then he says “I can’t believe that you’re such a quitter! You don’t finish nothing that you start!” I couldn’t do anything but laugh. So, I had to remind him…1. We don’t live together, you have your own place. 2. You removed your things on your own and 3. What? 🤔😂🤣. He hung up on me

  • @adoeroftheword
    @adoeroftheword 3 года назад +2

    Can you please make this closed captioning? Anxious as I want to know what you’re saying. 😬

    • @psychoblack6948
      @psychoblack6948 2 года назад

      You can do it yourself.. Just hit the screen and you'll see the icon for CC

  • @irenewatson
    @irenewatson 3 года назад

    You make me laugh when you get really wound up by your own advice.But that 9hr road trip video where you spent the entire time arguing with your wife about forgetting to bring one of your home comforts that you need,really shocked.The thought of being trapped in conflict for that length of time,even though I would know I was right,I would just agree in order to have peace.Just because you want to argue doesn't mean we have to show up to the party every time.

  • @cazhickling8151
    @cazhickling8151 3 года назад

    I heard no bad behaviour from a narcissist in the beginning of relationship. Is there love bombing.

    • @kathyadair8552
      @kathyadair8552 3 года назад

      No. Not for a sister 'used' to pull crimes off to steal from Mom's Estate, and worse!
      Then, try to Destroy you, for being a Witness. 😭
      The HELL isn't over, yet.

  • @lisaayers3268
    @lisaayers3268 3 года назад +1

    So are you wearing a mask in your videos because you're so likable and fooling us all??

  • @mpat100
    @mpat100 3 года назад

    did you suffer childhood trauma?

  • @shavettelynn609
    @shavettelynn609 3 года назад +2

    That’s what I use to be scared of all the things I wanted him to do he’ll do to the next….

    • @lisarodriguez6966
      @lisarodriguez6966 3 года назад +4

      But they can't sustain it. No stamina!

    • @shavettelynn609
      @shavettelynn609 3 года назад +1

      @@lisarodriguez6966 thank you love

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  3 года назад +5

      yea a lot of ppl are. focus on how they treated you and dont focus on what they are doing for someone else

    • @lisarodriguez6966
      @lisarodriguez6966 3 года назад +1

      @@shavettelynn609 I truly meant it. You've dodged a bullet.🌷 One (falsely)kind moment can't offset all of the deliberate cruelty.
      They pick people that have the attributes they wish they had, but it'll never stick, unless you have one that's self aware, like Lee.😉

  • @mzyotruthnlove8263
    @mzyotruthnlove8263 3 года назад +1

    You getting more comfortable in front of the camera. Nah, you just love being the center of attention. 🤣😂🤣😂 📷 🤳 📹 🎥 I bet you ready for your close up too. 😃 🙂

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  3 года назад

      🤭😂

    • @JJ-iq8mi
      @JJ-iq8mi 3 года назад

      He definitely likes short sleeves, putting his arms in the air and flexing his muscles in front of the camera.