1. Do Men Want To Be Pursued? - What If We Were Real? Talk Show - Episode 1.
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- Опубликовано: 16 июн 2020
- Do Men Want To Be Pursued? - What If We Were Real? Talk Show - Episode 1. #RelationshipGoals
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Rest in peace to the beautiful Mandisa who was a beacon of light. She was so vibrant, outgoing, and so encouraging through her music. I would listen to "Overcomer" all the time and still do. She will be greatly missed ❤️ 😢 ❤🕊🕊🕊🕊
Yooooo when that young man said "you're in the sea, you're swimming somewhere. Swim towards your dream. If you turn around and pursue me that let's me know you're not focused on your purpose or God" man that was good! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Things have changed so much. I'm 57, it used to be so simple. I've been widowed for 20 years. Popular culture seems to have altered what was such a sweet and simple process. I knew my husband for 3 months before we were married. It was a beautiful near 16 year relationship til he unexpectedly passed. Several friends my age also knew their mates for VERY short periods of time! All whose mates havent transitioned are still happily married! The common factor was......they genuinely believed the Lord told them who their mate was. They trusted and moved forward.
there is noooo way that Nicole is 40. She is beyond beautiful 😍😍
I was married for almost 30 years, and now a widower for nearly four years. I always said that when I was ready to date again, God will put that person right in front of me. The gentlemen I am currently dating, we have known each other for years even while I was married. I asked him if he wanted to hang out sometimes. We were making eye contact and smiling at each at church, but I believe because of my situation, I asked him because I felt he was thinking, “ Is she ready to date?” I am glad I asked because that is precisely what he was thinking. We have been dating for almost two years now!
So like Mandisa said, every situation is not cookie cutter. We must be careful to pray and respond to each situation for that situation. Trust God in the process!
Don't know why but when he said "I can't find you, when you just put it all infront of me" that spoke differently to me. Like I need to learn to let the man find me. I shouldn't always put everything about me out there so quickly but should let the man go through the process of getting to know me, getting to understand me, and learning to love what he discovers about me
I think that a lot of women get to caught up on how to do this or that to keep a man, however if the man isn’t truly invested in the relationship and in love with the woman, nothing will ever be enough. Let a man earn your love and don’t be willing to do EVERYTHING to keep him.
Mandisa your closing statement was SOOOO GOOD! The Lords pursuit of us, relentless 💖 💃🏼🔥
Amen! I totally agree, her closing statement was such a 💥Powerful reminder! Glory to God!🙌🏽❤
Thank you, Kiana!
true a good reminder a perfect God pursues me
Yess🥰🥰🙌🏾
@@MandisaOfficial May I pursue you Mandisa?
So good! My husband was a Very shy guy, we talked texted and emailed non stop for 2 weeks straight before he asked me out. I was blindsided because we didn’t talk romance, it was a budding friendship. I really wasn’t interested in him romantically that I thought, until he asked me and the idea of being pursued really caught my attention...Fast forward and we’re married now 2 years with a just turned one year old! True romance to me, happens while pursuing Jesus... and sometimes it catches you off guard. Mandisa we’d be besties if you lived in New Mexico LoL. Keep up the great work, so refreshing to watch you
I agree with Candice about pursuit. I want to be pursued, as being the pursuer just doesn't sit right with me. I feel like men are hard-wired to be a leader, and that in some way, me doing the pursuing takes that away from him... Idk if that's actually true... And maybe that's why I'M single!
Bonnie
Waiting on God doesn't mean being stationary. Pursue your purpose and you will be found. If you have to bring a man to a relationship then you will have to carry him through that same relationship. Don't do it!
same!!
I think that's a warped view. Pursuing someone requires a considerable time and emotional expense. If you pursue someone that never returns the favor, your well will run dry and you will either give up or gravitate towards someone that does pour back into you.
@@simonkalibwani5832
Exactly the point.
The give and take is a 2way street. A man should not pursue a woman who is not expressing interest or seems to be playing games. Likewise, I'm not going to chase after a man if he rarely expresses interest or waxes hot and cold.
Actions do speak louder than words and men should take the lead.
' If you have to bring a man to a relationship, you'll have to push him THROUGH the relationship'...
I fully expect to be pursued and taken care of. I will love and support the man who loves and supports me. We will MUTUALLY support each others purpose and Destiny.
Pursue BACK
Pur.........sue......... BACK
It's not comfortable for men either. Work with us.
The lady in the hat is so wise!!! As a married woman I can tell you she is sooooo on point. It's better to wait for that man that will pursue.
That led me to an abusive relationship and other friends I know because the man just had to be the "aggressive" one. Jesus was NOT aggressive. Jesus was a SERVANT. He honored women who pursued Him. He honored before he was even born a woman who pursued her future husband - RUTH - by including her in his own genealogy.
Least we forget Solomon's Bride! She unashamedly pursued Solomon, her husband! The bride is to pursue her groom as much as the groom pursues the bride! Anything other than mutuality is NOT Biblical.
Other Biblical examples: Esther pursued her King for the intent of saving her people! Abigail pursued David on behalf of her family and he honored her for her wisdom and later offered her to become his wife. Remember what happened when David pursued a woman who was not his own? Samson pursued Delilah. Solomon pursued wives he shouldn't have. Amnon pursued Tamar to violent rape. Judah pursued a "prostitute" who was truly Tamar who he honored because "she was more righteous than I" because she showed true leadership for her family! The tribe of Benjamin pursued the daughters of Shiloh to their sex SLAVES! Can keep going on and on. In my husband's words, too many men just pursue out of lust. One of the best Biblical couple examples was Joseph and Mary where Joseph showed servanthood and being honorable toward Mary.
If it's better to wait for the man to pursue, I wouldn't be married to a wonderful, Godly husband of 11 years, 15 years together, and two children.
@@EmilybShore Ruth didn't pursue Boaz just because she wanted a companion, she did so because culturally he could redeem her lineage.
Happy35 doesn’t negate that she pursued him. Or how she went off script with what Naomi told her to do. There was another redeemer who was close but she knew Boaz was an honorable man who had affirmed her determination and resilience prior to the threshing floor. . Solomon’s bride also pursued her husband with a passion and he pursued her right back. Arguably the best model of Eros love in the Bible. Relationships should be about mutuality and equality. Priscilla and Aquila were beautiful NT models of this.
It should never be just one person pursuing or setting the tone for the relationship. Dating should be about both parties seeking and learning and pursuing each other.
Emily Shore Thank You Emily. That’s exactly what I believe too. Pursuance should be mutual. Thanks for the examples. Much Love
If a man wants you, you don't have to pursue him he will do that
Sadly in America currently women accuse men of sexual misconduct over virtually anything, even for saying hello to a female stranger as they pass.
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This is proof absolute of that for all you "link" hounds.
Thank you!
isn't that how man is designed to be the hunter?
@@di4085 Pursuit isn't hunting. We hunt to provide & protect for our partners. In hunting, typically the "prey" is concealing themselves or running away from you. Put yourself in your man's shoes. If you pursued someone that concealed themselves, never made their interest clear to you, eventually you're emotionally spent or you gravitate towards someone willing to pour back into just as much as you pour into them.
@@simonkalibwani5832 Okay I thought it meant the same thing but apparently I was wrong.
I truly enjoyed listening to others perspectives about relationships. The diverse panel really gave a fuller picture of what one may experience on their journey. I would say episode 1 was a success.👍 Oh and I simply loved the transition to remind us all of the main relationship we must continue to work on which is the one with the father. It's in our time with him that we not only get a chance to be close to him but we also get to hear his heart.😍
Your comment means so much to me, Takela! I’m so encouraged! Thank you!
So so good ....Thanks Mandisa for starting a talk show like this. I am 37 and I've been waiting for years. I have currently struggled with my singleness the last few years, but 100% trust the Lord in His faithfulness and giving me the desires of my heart.
Fantastic conversation! I got married so young, I don’t think I ever had time to think about this topic. I was 19 and he was 20!
I love the closing content Mandisa... God is relentless in His pursuit of us!!!
Men and women must have very different ideas of the word pursue. Telling a man “we should go out sometime” is pursuing someone in my mind. Telling a man “so when you gonna take me on a date?” to me is just aggressive rudeness. It’s like the man doesn’t have an opinion in the matter. It puts him in a bad position if he isn’t attracted to you. He basically has to say “never”. I like the phrase one of the guys said: “It would be cool/nice to get to know you better!” That to me isn’t pursuing but still let’s them know...”hey hey hey 😉”. Liked the video! Keep em coming! 😊
And that can apply to both. Are we saying "it would be nice to get to know you better" is masculine or feminine? No, its human. I do that with my friends. My husband does that with his coworkers.
I was listening to a Love panel and one panelist was saying How men are hunters but it's okay for women to bring the twig. In my perspective, as a guy It is okay and even sometimes cute if a girl shows interest, not necessarily pursue but just throw a few hints. This way I know that if I am to pursue her she feels the same and there is no that uncertainty of rejection or not. That being said, I also wouldn't mind a girl telling me, Hey Would you like to go out on a date with me sometime...I would agree but now would take full charge and pursue her. She threw a hint, it is up to me as a man to take the hint and pursue it. Love this talk Mandisa. You have such a kind and calm soul and looking forward to hearing many more talks. God Bless
Agree victor! Many in this generation are not open minded and almost everyone is looking at other people’s experiences to cut their own experiences. I see absolutely nothing wrong with a women showing interest too.. God has given us all the ultimate choice to make.. He presents & we have have a choice to say “yes” or “no” seen so many times in my life God show up in ways I never thought He would
@@ndinelaojameson4947 Exactly. Listening to everyone perspective, You might end up thinking that what you believe is wrong. I guess it just good to take everyone's opinions and pray about it - Because the way God works in your life might be so different from what is considered the normal
"She didn't open the door, she just unlocked it." Interesting conversations! It's definitely neat to hear from women and men's perspectives. I totally see where Natalie was coming from. The personalities do make a difference. Some people are just more reserved.
My take away is that "no" men do not want to be pursued. That is what I have believed for many many years. Thank you for putting this together for us. God bless and keep up the good work. Love your music!! :)
Janet Day What did you think about Natalie’s story about her and her husband?
@@MandisaOfficial I found it interesting and yes there are always exceptions. I loved how she was very subtle in making arrangements. She wasnt like, "hey I like you and we should go out!" It was a sweet story! 🤗
Yes you are right!generally they do not want to be pursued.its a turn off for them. If a Man wants you he will find a way....if a man is intimidated by your strong personality and does not want to pursue you as a result then he is probably not the man for you.ladies do not make excuses .....
As the introverted woman I am, that means I take in my surroundings and observe the behavior and words of others. I've heard women tell other women at some of the places I've worked and gone to school: "Oh yeah girl. If you like him, go for it." I look at how the guy interacts with the woman if possible. If she is acting desperate, trying to literally chase, stalk, hunt down the man, when he clearly doesn't want to be bothered, that is the woman that the other coworkers or classmates talk about badly for being ridiculous and desperate. So no, in general men don't want to be pursued and it makes the woman look desperate.
Rest In Peace, Mandissa 🙏 You we’re a beautiful person inside and out. May your soul find comfort in heaven
I’ve been married 14 years and still trying to figure things out, but as long as we grow together and feel the freedom to communicate our thoughts, even if they don’t always align with each other. Btw, I’m typing this with cold hands, sweatshirt, and a space heater in my office because...compromise Haha. 🥴 🥶 😄
Awesome 1st episode!
Thanks AO! 👊🏾
I must say I disagree when you say women shouldn't pursue. I think there's a clear dissonance when you say "a woman wiil not pursue a man" "don't ask me out on no date" "don't be coming after me" BUT "show that you interested"
Additionally, when she asked you how to show interest, you replied with an ambiguous "you'll be able to know"
Isn't the purpose of pursuit to show your interest to the person you desire? I believe that if you pursue women that never pursue you back, women that don't make a concerted effort to pour back into you the time and energy you expend in pursuit of them, eventually your emotional well runs dry.
Simon Kalibwani I can respect your opinion. What works for you, works for you. But for me... that will not work. 😁 The young lady I’m talking to now allowed me to do the pursuing. 🙌🏾
@@anthonyoneal Just so I'm clear, I believe it should be a mutual pursuit of each other not only 1 party doing the pursuing.
However, more power to you. Rooting for your success in love!
Look who it is! lol That original panel...my girlfriends and I hollered through half of it. Your boys were something else! 😆
Hey Mandisa, It possible to have all of them in one session, It got abit confusing when it kept switching from one group to the next, I also didn't get a chance to hear some of them introduce themselves.
Other than that I did enjoy the video, I really hope there will be more episode.
God bless you Mandisa
Yes Linda. I echo this sentiment. A good one. Worship in the waiting.
Yes, this is a good suggestion.
I agree
This video is CLARITYYYY! I always felt uncomfortable pursuing and never understood exactly what men CLASSIFIED as pursuit on my behalf. I am learning what pursuit looks like for me. I spent a long time praying for clarity and second guessing my decisions because I was walking in uncharted territory. This video is such a revelation to me. God Bless and Thank you Mandisa, you've got a new subbie!
This series was a answer from God! I was married 20 years and am now working through the single life. The information shared here was so helpful, hopeful and encouraging to hear! Thank you for keeping it real! ❤️
Thank you for the reminder of Gods passionate pursuit! It is truly the most precious thing to feel pursued by our Creator! So thankful for His love during my own singleness. And I’m believing for a man to reflect the heart of the Father when he sees me!
Mandisa this was sooo good. The best thing I have found on youtube. Thank you soooo much!!! Amazing!
I think "pursue" and "showing interest" may look different in different situations. I like how this shows how men define pursuit so different from women. Asking him out to hang out is a big deal, and in my mind is a level of pursuit that is outside my comfort zone. I love this. Thanks Mandisa!
Single mom and waiting its awesome to say. Psalms 139:7. Thank God He pursues us !!!
Mandisa this was sooo good!! Thanks for doing this!❤❤❤
Mandisa, this was so good and exciting to watch. Thank you 💝
Men Don't even pursue me let alone Look at me, I know I'm confident but I also won't settle for less
God above all, i personally don't feel comfortable pursuing a guy, maybe I need to switch it up idk 😐 ❤ thanks for this Mandisa, love, love, love ❤
Girl! Same! Check out this podcast on women initiating that Debra Fileta did. It was really eye opening for me! truelovedates.com/women-should-not-initiate-podcast/
I am going to listen to this again , Wow, thinking I'm going to get her book, good stuff Thank-you for sharing 😊 🙏
Its really hard to find someone especially in this generation. From hookups to men who look like men but are really boys.....to Christian men who don't pursue. ITS JUST REALLY TOUGH.....😔😔😔😕
Don’t worry. Be at peace. The Lord may just be keeping you safe and hidden specifically for the man you are meant to be with. So take heart.
Ironically people have told me I'm pretty (quite frequently at various points) in my life and literally no one has ever pursued me or ever asked me on actual dates or however you would phrase it and I'm not even in the young part of adulthood anymore. I see younger females (in their teens and 20's) encouraging other females to pursue men and I can tell that the young men they're trying to pursue clearly don't want them chasing them. Oh well. At least I'm getting a look at it from the outside seeing the obvious, that men in general don't want women pursuing and chasing them. Lol. You'll find someone awesome someday though.
Hi Madisa🌞
Just hit subscribe! I just finished watching the 1st episode, and will continue to watch the remaining episodes today! Thank you for organizing this panel, and encouraging them to be honest, blunt, and communicaing their perspectives re relationship issues! These conversations help people dive into their feelings, heal and grow! Love this💕
Thank you so much for working on this. I love this video and just had to share. It's good for both married and single people. #KeepYourHeadUp Love ya sister!
This series is so so good. It is real and raw. Such a beautiful spirit you were Mandisa. May your spirit be at rest now Gods presence❤
Mandisa, your heart is gold! I’ve wondered the same thing about how to show interest but without being like a guy. If you see a guy at the gym, you can say, hey whatever workout you’re doing, it’s working! (Cue cheeky smile) ;) You can show interest and say hey how’s your day going? And just see if they hit the ping pong ball back. But guys can be clueless so throw out some flirty, playful bait, too! Remember, You got this girl!! You are beautiful! Also, if you need a wingwoman, hit me up! I’m in nashville!
The problem is that she is looking for a Christian man, not just any man. The man at the gym may just be looking for sex. That is out of her depth. I think that she is in the wrong environment as the Christian men in her church or environment may not be interested in her demographic. She looks like a boss lady, but is a delicate young girl at heart looking for her strong knight and shining armor. She is not experienced with flirting with men, clearly. Perhaps, she may need to find a new Christian environment if she is serious about getting married and having children.
This was such a stimulating conversation 😇 Thank you for your ministry, Mandisa ♥️ So good!!!
Yes! Speaking for me. My lady did it and we are going on two year. It’s wonderful!!!!
Wow, It is so easy to see how miscommunication between men and women can occur. We define things differently. In my view, asking someone out is 100% pursuit. The pursuer initiates. This concept of women initiating, and men following up but calling it "pursuit" seems like a cop out. In all honesty it reads "women need to make their interest very obvious so that men can make a move without fear of rejection". I love these forums. They give such insight.
I enjoyed the show😀... Thank you for sharing my sister in Christ! ❤
This just confused me lol and this is why I stay single not to mention I was sent a verse in Song of Songs and told to read the whole book. When I did in that moment I just felt the Lord saying to me Choose me first, love me first, be with me and marry me and then things will fall into place
I too had a vision like that. I was sad on Valentine’s Day cuz I have yet had a real valentine. So in this vision I saw God give me heart balloons and He said, “Let me be your boyfriend, your husband. Am I not all you need?”
@@ChykaJackson it made me feel so loved and I find Him asking me that often, am I not enough? And then it reminds me of the woman at the well when Jesus asked her for a drink. She said I can't give you a drink and He replies if you knew who it was that asked you, you would give Him a drink and He would give you living water
Great episode of your talk show mandisa!!!🤗🙏🏻❤️
Awwwww Mandisa you are sooo sweet and you brought it down at the end.. He pursues us!
Natalie was very smart. 😂😂😂 Loving these discussions.
I loved this! Your closing statement was the perfect ending. Thank you Mandisa!
I love you Mandisa thanks for sharing.. really enjoyed watching this..God bless you!!♥️♥️♥️🎉🎉🎉
I love the panels and your ending commentary! Very informative!
I've been married 11 years. It's just starting to get interesting.
Can you expound?
Thanks for being HONEST
Your profile pic made me laugh.
Rip in peace ma'am ❤. I love you so much.
I am here for ALLLL of THIS! ☝🏽 After having watched so many forums on the topic, this one offered the most clarity and perspective TO ME! 💯
Gosh, I loved this!!! And boy did I need it as well. Thank you.
So sad that two of the beautiful people in this video are now gone. Sitting right next to each other: Mandisa and Gabe Patillo. Praying for both of their families.
I like cold sleeping temperatures! Love love this show!!
💜💛This is so cute! Sold me at your show being faith based!!! Yeyy!!! So awesome! 💛💜
Love you Mandisa! Thank you for bringing people together in a year so bent on division!
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾thank you so much Mandisa I enjoyed that talk so much 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾.
I loved your show! It was fun and informative! I will keep watching and tell my friends and family! By the way,ending with you sharing and focusing on God is perfect! I LOVE BEING PURSUED BY GOD! 🤠💖🙏💖
I actually didn't know that you were single Mandisa! Thank you for sharing about this topic! So fun to get to know more about you aside from your music.
Wow. Never new sge had a talk show. Just tuned in. Love it already.😍
The point made @14:06 is really eye opening. A woman pursuing a man signals willingness to compromise her purpose all for the sake of finding a man - not good.
Considering we have 1 purpose in life, but we can come across multiple men in life. To compromise that ONE purpose by pursuing a man everytime is to cheat ourselves, devalue our purpose, all while signaling to a man that our purpose doesn't matter.
I believe that who we marry forms part of our purpose and not necessarily the other way around.
I so enjoyed this and can't wait to see more :)
I 💘 you Mandisa, thanks for this conversation.
This was great! As a long time single person, this was informative and I found myself resonating with a lot of this!
Do men want to be pursued? Yes!
If I pursue you, making my intentions clear, it makes my job a whole lot easier if you pursue me back. It lets me know that you're a go-getter and not a typical woman sitting around waiting for her dream man to be handed to her. I hate passive women, rather I find it endearing when a woman isn't afraid to stand up and be counted, so to speak! It lets me know that you're considerate of the time, energy and emotion I expend in pursuit of you and are conscious enough to pour back into me by pursuing me for a change.
I use this analogy a lot: If you desired this dream job, you would never sit there and say, 'it will come to me. It should pursue me because I'm a great employee.' Never! Instead, you would network, build important relationships, APPLY, show up for the damn interview and make your case. Much like a great job has many applicants, all great partners have options and it is the one who is not afraid to pursue, and compete that will get what they're looking for.
Most women are afraid of the thought of having to compete for a man. But if this man is already in pursuit of you, you have an upper hand. Follow through and close!
I respectfully disagree. I don't compete for what's mine. A God sent husband and a job are two TOTALLY different things. While there's many jobs, there's one husband crafted specifically for me. In the process of dating to be in position to be found, I will not pursue a man for then that takes me out of position. Return interest and give chase if I am interested, yes because that's TOTALLY different. If I am not interested I will be upfront with that as well. Time is the one commodity that is wasted that can't be replenished. I don't play games because I don't like them played with me and I am accountable to a higher power for my actions.
@@lovebug6388 Great hearing your opinion. I love it!
As to whether there's 1 partner specifically crafted for all of us, I'm on the fence. My partner and I have recently been reading up on The Science of Happily Ever After by Ty Tashiro and we're loving the insights on that ideology. I urge you to check it out if you haven't.
Pursuit to me means to show interest and "give chase" like you said so its confusing to me when you say you will not pursue a man and yet you will "return interest." So what exactly does pursuit mean to you?
@@simonkalibwani5832
Pursue: to find or employ measures to obtain or accomplish; seek
In saying "give chase", it's referencing the back and forth between two persons TRULY interested in one another. The clues given by the each other that further engagement is welcomed: eye contact, number exchange, phone conversations, dates & meet ups, flirting, slight brush of the hand, hand holding, hand holding, soft peck on the cheek, gentle embrace, etc.
I do believe that for those that desire marriage there's 1 person specific person for us to marry. HOWEVER, we humans have the the power of choice and quite often exercise it to our detriment. Therefore as an in football, oftentimes I believe God has to call an audible. Again, we have the power of choice. So we can go with our flesh or choose His best. I'm waiting for His best cause the playing of life is brutal and I have enough injuries I'm healing from.
@@lovebug6388 you realize that is a human being you are talking about being "crafted just for you" who lived an entire life without you that has interests that don't have anything to do with you specifically, right?
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This is why men cannot risk "making the first move" when a simple greeting is treated in such a ridiculous fashion.
@@musiclaboratory9694 I'm not her. She's a Karen looking for attention in any possible form. 80% of women don't act like that. Natural selection will take care of her. Can't continue to run up on people unprovoked. Every Karen meets her match or karma eventually. Not wishing anything bad on her or anyone else simply stating Newton's 3rd law.
I enjoyed these conversations, I keep coming back.😊
This was Such a Good discussion!! I Still think the Man Should do the pursuing!!!💖🤗
This was so encouraging and a great reminder 💖
This is awesome! Thank you, Mandisa!
Your channel is so wholesome! Subscribed☺️
Anthony’s got it right on this one! And well put! I like hearing the mans perspective and I couldn’t agree more. ;)
As a side note, I like hearing Christian men and women talk together about a common subject where race doesn’t come up. Us Christians know there is no difference between nationalities. The difference is between those who know God, and those who don’t.
If the world has a chance to heal this manufactured divide, they need to hear and see us talking, sharing, and problem solving common issues together.
Love your work!
Wow that was amazing! Thankyou so much!
That closing statement was soo good! Thanks for the reminder !!!
Amazing!! watched you first on Antony's single life feature, ended on my page, and am glad. great conversations
What a great panel discussion!
Mandisa you have such a nice voice! 😄
Your points at the end is really what matters.
Wish I had known some of these things when I was younger, but its good to share with my young people in my life.
19:06 😂😂😂😅 "They actually need help" lmaoo
10:30 So good and insightful!🔥Mandisa your ending statement was so beautiful! Amen
Girl this was good...it’s nice to hear both perspectives from men and women on these topics. From one single lady in waiting to another...thank you❤️👍😃
Oh snap things got reallll. Love it!!
I could listen to an hour of this! I wanted to hear from everyone
Me too.
more of this please, this is goooood
Mandisa is hilarious!!! Lol and this is beautiful 😊
How can a woman let a man know she is interested? These are after the friendship has been established of course:
1. Try to make an effort to always be where he is like go to group hangouts with him and his friends and with your friends, whatever that setup is for you.
2. If the opportunity presents itself, talk to him as much as possible without being creepy.
3. Whenever you see him, smile and make eye contact.
4. If you're connected with him through social media, like his posts, occasionally react to his stories and when you start talking, don't give him one word answers. Also, share some funny memes and then mix it up with cute dog/cat pics later.
These are the bare minimum of what you can do without being too overt in my opinion. If he doesn't pursue you after opening up like this, then he is not worthy of your time.
I'd love to hear everyone's opinions. God bless!
You are relentless ,you have always been pursuer of my heart over and over again... THE distance
Mandisa, I been watching your channel waiting for this
You like it?
@@MandisaOfficial absolutely. Already recommended it
This is everything I needed to hear. Ive been depressed over dating. I just got ghosted by the guy who tried pursuing me over a year and once I showed true interest he ran off. I dont think I came on strong but did show interest. I just think he was more emotionally unavailable or just not aggressive. I dont know!! but I'm happy to hear this!
Maybe covid had something to do with it
Mandessia your a beautiful Woman, why do you think men find you intimidating? Because of your career? You have a wonderful spirit and its welcoming? So if its because of your career then,they are insecure,and on the other hand we dont want to think more highly of ourselves which you dont, but sometimes people think this way and could in fact be a reason people are scared to pursue a relationship with them.
This is a great show God Bless You, looking forwars to more
Mandisa I love this talk show!
I loveeeee thissss Conversation wowwwww 🔥 🔥🙌🏽 speaking FACTS 💯💯
Why must this be so difficult! All the perspectives, thoughts, and opinions. I feel like the Lord could have made this a little easier for us...but I know there's sanctification in the process. Thanks, Mrs. Lord Almighty for gathering this group to give us more details to how some of these fellas think!
Could you talk about being a CEO and what that takes and look like. Was it always easy? What were the hard lessons? Who are your mentors?
Ummmm.....hi! @MandisaOfficial you’re an anointing artist. And your closing statement about God’s faithful and never ending love was amazing.
This first episode had me thinking, why do I want a relationship? I honestly don’t think about pursuit in a relationship. Yes there’s work involve to maintain a relationship, but every relationship needs that, especially the one I have with God. But pursuing, I, never thought about it. Why pursue something other than God, who I don’t have to pursue at all. He’s there, waiting for me to take His Hand.
So if I’m looking to be pursued, does that mean I’m not looking at God, because He is pursuing me. If my dad handed me a Ford Truck, I wouldn’t think twice about pursuing a beat-up Chevy. I wouldn’t wish to have a car because my dad gave me one already.
Then it got me thinking, why do I want a romantic relationship. Yes there is the scripture “Be fruitful and multiply” (Gen. 9:1). So naturally I will crave physical intimacy. But the deep vulnerable soul intimacy, is something that goes beyond just romance and physical need. And even if I did have a husband, I would need God to help maintain that relationship. God loves us so deeply, it’s unfathomable. So then why am I seeking for another?
It’s not wrong to want romance and a relationship, but like you said. It’s always good to go back to God. Asking God why do I want this. Asking Him to help us wait, or prepare us for it. A good father won’t give a car to a child that doesn’t know how to drive (and in Matt. 7:11 it says that God is better than any natural father). Keeping our focus on Him rather what we want.
God will give us what we want in His timing. Our job is to trust Him and go to Him whenever that gets to difficult (technically we should be going to Him all the time but we definitely shouldn’t be afraid to ask God for help, even in trusting Him).
So again, thank you, @MandisaOfficial, for reminding us that God is the faithful pursuer waiting for us to go to Him. And also a big thank you to those who have read this far!
You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength (Deu. 6:5).
Mandisa, my advise is to binge watch on Tony Gaskin videos... a lot of the questions you have regarding men and dating will be answered unfiltered.
Amen sister! Thanks again
As a single women, It was very interesting to hear this from a male perspective. I guess I am just oldschool when it comes to dating.I totally believe that the man should pursue a woman. I also believe in letting a man know that I'm interested in a very settled way. My personally cause for a strong man that will be somewhat aggressive with his pursuit. Not to a point where it becomes creepy or scary but enough for me to know that he is very interested in me. Thanks for sharing!
I see you AO! I love this ❤️
Wow! My mind has been renewed. Thank you 😊
I HOPE that Anthony O'Neal and Mandisa get married!
Hahahahaha!!!
Yes!!! Agree!
hahaha, would be happy if that happened
Me too! Would be a power couple! 💜
They are not a good fit. Based off a different interaction, he's not ready mentally. There's some ways that he has that she's not going to allow.