9. Why Can't We Be Friends? - What If We Were Real Talk Show - Episode 9
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- Опубликовано: 6 окт 2024
- 9. Why Can't We Be Friends - What If We Were Real Talk Show - Episode 9 #RelationshipGoals
My single & married friends and I held nothing back as they discuss relationship do’s, no no’s, and “why not’s”!
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My boyfriend and I just began dating this past Valentine’s Day after four years of me friend-zoning him. Through it all though, he never changed in how he treated me, how he ministered alongside me (we lead worship together), and also never stopped pursuing my heart. That’s ultimately what led to our first date and, on Friday, we celebrate six months of dating. God truly writes the best love stories. ♥️
The best is yet to come
Anthony giving great advice to Cade! A guy saying I have feelings for you, but don't have time for you, completely cancels out each other. Better off not telling her you have feelings.
I think cade has never been in such a scenario. He just answered what he thinks he might do.
L. J. I think you’re right
When Anthony said that he’ll wait till he’s ready to say anything, I thought what if another guy comes and sweeps her off.
Ibukun Akin yea but that’s the risk you have to take if you’re not ready to be with her. It’s selfish to say I’m not ready to be with you and I don’t want you with anyone else too. Either step up and get ready to be with her or let her go.
CenteredChels I agree but what if it’s due to circumstances out of you control i.e. unemployment. Lol don’t mean to play devil’s advocate but I definitely empathise with that feeling of being all over the place and not wanting to involve an innocent person that you care about in your dilemma. I’m a woman btw 💁🏾♀️😂
This series is such a gift.
Mandisa...I absolutely love this series. I don't think that I have missed a single episode. As a single saved woman it is so nice to see that I am not the only one seeking to live my single season in a manner that pleases Jesus. Please keep the great content coming. It is so very encouraging!!
Agreed! I've absolutely loved this series!!! 💕
Watching this after hearing the sad news that you are gone. Rest in eternal peace Mandisa 🙏
@@Momo-xb5cuSame 😢😢
I am widowed and a Christian. I have learned that if I seek God first all my relationships are much more positive. Love your talk shows And your music.....💜❤️💜❤️🙏🙏🙏
Mandisa- you have such a great group of friends. I pray God places me in a community where I can befriend honorable men and women who love God.
If we don't sense softness we're not going to approach ----That explains a lot for me.
Still can’t believe that all these episodes were taken in one night👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾thank you!!!Mandisa
Wow.
..ya....in one day!!!!....I noticed the same clothes in all and I was wondering. Thanks for confirming.
I definitely agree on the shift that occurs after getting married. Being mindful of being on the phone at certain hours and even spending time with friends. Oh and reminding myself before I say yes to others I have to first make sure hubby is on the same page (not in a controlling way but being considerate).
I’ve heard people say you should never stop dating your spouse. That helps in continuing the friendship.
I'm virtually adopting your friends 💞 what a Great bunch of people. Thank you for the variation of answers and insights 😊
Right lol 😂
What Natalie said is true about your husband being your best friend and the one you should spend the most time with. On the flip side, make sure you do have some good friends because when your spouse passes away you will need & want to have that community. Be blessed!! ❤️🙌🏻🥰
Well said.
I always feel a way about this topic. My best friend for almost 40 years is married and our friendship has changed in so many not so good ways. I do feel neglected and somewhat abandoned due to the closeness we had all of our lives that suddenly ended with her getting married. I don't like it and know it will never be the same ever again. I get scraps of her time compared to having such a rich, quality friendship for so many years and so many great experiences and growth.
I think it depends on each person and I believe she just wanted to be married so badly that she withdrew into a marriage cocoon. I feel left behind by her from the moment they began dating. Idk it just doesn't seem Christ-like to me.
I say this out of experience because my spouse did pass away. We were each other’s best friend. So once he passed, I have had to work on developing friendships (old and new). 👍🏻😊 Pray and keep going! God is faithful! ❤️ I’ve also learned that Jesus has to be my everything.... it can be hard at times being single - but there is great contentment in Him! 🙌🏻
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Yes, I like this episode about friendship in the link I have shared especially what they say about friendship when married.
Chance is so full of wisdom! Thanks Mandisa for this series. I wish it does not end.😃
As I get older, I have found that great godly friends are a real gem. Praying for a community of godly friends for everyone reading/watching.
I've been in a similar position to Cade. Sometimes you have to be really clear with a friend of the opposite sex to avoid confusion in the relationship.
My husband and I were friends for a while before feelings shifted and he made it very clear to me when they shifted for him. I appreciated not having to guess what he was thinking and feeling!
The only talk show I have followed religiously. And the wisdom therein. I have started seeing Natalie on a whole new level. I look forward to her parts.
Such good conversations! Speak on it Natalie and Chance! I believe it was Dr. Myles Munroe that said, “if you wake up in the morning and have to pick up a phone to call your best friend, you married the wrong person.” Your spouse is your best friend PERIOD! I also believe that it’s healthy to have good friendships outside of marriage because true friends will want your marriage to prosper. They will check you when you’re wrong, back you up when your right, and give sound advice based on godly principles. My grandmother said, “you ARE the company you keep”. In other words, we are judged by whom we choose to surround ourselves with. We must be careful and wise when we choose our friends. On another note... @mandisaofficial I grew up in the Grandmaster Flash, Doug E. Fresh & Whodini era. “Friends”, Five Minutes of Funk”, “One Love” and “Freaks Come Out At Night” were my jam girlfriend!!! ❤️👊🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽 (Guess that’s telling my age too! 😂🤷🏽♀️)
As soon as she started singing I started smiling. Her energy is contagious 😍
I am so enjoying these open honest conversations. I have a guy friend I met when 18, then many years later. Both of us had married and divorced, connected via Facebook, then by phone. We remained friends though I developed a love for him and kept that to myself and prayed for him and his estranged son. To cut this shorter, after a few years of talking, he met the woman God authored him to marry. In honor of that relationship, he took me off his Facebook friend list and we have no connection at all. There have been times I wish I could talk with him, but I won’t go there. That would dishonor God and their sacred bond of marriage. It feels like a death. But I will choose to do what is right. We are on opposite sides of the United States. So there is no seeing one another in town.
I think it’s important in the church world for us to make it clearer (speaking on behalf of singles) that being friends is OKAY! It’s healthy to have great friendships, the best relationships grow from friendships. However, in my experience guys seem so stand-off-ish, as if your going to jump them if your being friendly. It almost seems frowned upon. Can we make this a thing? Lol btw love this series!!
I so so agree with this
I love this! This made me realise how much I need a God loving and God serving crew. Lord please bless me with friends that I can serve you with🙏. Thanks for this .... Sending you love from South Africa ❤🤗
Homegirl!
@@tmntsewa home girl 🤗🤗🤗
I believe, though, that the ideal approach would be guys being forthright about their intentions rather than keeping ladies guessing 😄
I'm never this early 😶, all the way from South Africa ♥️. Great Content indeed
Mandisa this whole series is such a blessing. Yall are amazing. 🤎
Chance was about to shout when Natalie mentioned, “being married and examining if you’re seeking to get needs met outside of it.” 😂That was a great point though!
Good topic! I think it’s fun and essential to have opposite sex friends. They are our brothers. You don’t want to always hang out with same sex friends. But I also get you have to be careful.
believe me when i said god knows us best and love us best, iam a friend of god i was singing tis week and look at this episode , smiles
Mandisa u are such a brilliant woman. I wish I had u as a friends. The questions u ask and the way u express yourself is so genuine
Waouhhh. @ about 16”: Mandisa, your friend Chance is a “ load of wisdom”. Thanks you guys for such a good good conversation.
Mom's Night Out is a great example of what Natalie said. Enjoyed this and yes, God is one of the best friends you can ever have, Amen
At this point in my life I have 4 good friends who aren't family. I found myself in a bad situation with a friend a few years ago that resulted in me putting walls around my heart, and I don't let many people in anymore.
I could use a good circle of friends. I believe. God in this season is working with me on our friendship. My first serious relationship came from friendship .
@@asafespacewkierra4798 Likewise, I hope you find your tribe. That's wise. He will do just that.
I'm 38 and know that Whodini song well Mandisa 😁
I'm married and am friends with my husband. Some friendships have turned into the women pursuing my husband so we have no friends around us at the moment.
We do have friends that are hours away but the strain on my heart of not seeing them is real as we get no time to chat.
This is a wonderful series. I especially love the end when you tie it up with a final message and Bible verse(s). It's encouraging to know such a successful person in media so in love with Christ and chasing God as a best friend. It also gave me hope knowing there are still Godly men out there who won't compromise God's words for the world. Thank you!
I love this . My husband is my best friend . When we have time off together (not always easy to get ) we want to spend it together sometimes doing something fun or special but most times just hanging out .
Mandisa!!! I've followed your music since I was a little girl, and I just have to say that I am LOVING this "What if we were real" series. Keep them coming girl! They have been GREATLY encouraging during this time of quarantine!!! And as a 26-year old single woman who's still never had a boyfriend, it's awesome to hear such encouraging and godly individuals speak on these topics!!!! You are an inspiration to many, Disa
Is that Anthony O'Neal from Ashley Empowers? He is single
Love these series discussions. Can you discuss how some can be okay with maybe a life of lifetime single hood. I grew up watching many women in church want to get married but some just never did. They finally came to accept that maybe it was God's will for their lives much later. How does one know and does God give you peace about it?
Am I the only one who gets super excited when I see a new episode 😀💃💃💃🥳🥳
Continual growth of our marriage includes open vulnerable conversations and dreaming together. If we were only sharing those things with our guy friends or girlfriends we would be losing out on the bond it gives us. I have been seeing a therapist to help me with past issues. But the blessing is it also helps me with working through processing current situations especially seeing things from my husband's perspective. I would recommend a professiona/classesl before big issues occur.
Bring it, Natalie!
To be honest this series is the blessing I've been sifting though youtube channels for--God bless and keep everyone in these videos and in all the chats below them❤️
My husband had an ex that he wanted to keep as a “just friends” and I thought that would be ok, but then it turned into sin and adultery. He my now ex called it an Emotional, but NO it was much more. Now we are getting divorced. I am with getting to build a STRONG friend relationship with your spouse, but also treat your spouse as a brother and sister in Christ. Thank you for this talk that now as a single women is helping me build the new me.
this episode was beautiful! My friendship with God is what keeps me standing, growing, loving others the world can be so cold and overwhelming but God is a light to my feet through it all.
So good! As a single person I don’t get invited to any of the group things my friends do with spouses and other couples and I always wondered why!
I am a divorced woman. I was married very young and things didn’t end well. Listening to these has opened my eyes even more. Thank you for doing this!
Natalie always hits the nail on the head. So much wisdom! I'd love to just sit down with her and let her do all the talking, so I could take notes. 🤗
Totally enjoying this Series Mandisa! Have been with it from day 1! May God richly bless you. Wish the series never ends.😀
I really enjoyed this. So much fun! And the Romans 12 scripture, hit home real good! Thank you, Mandisa for this episode. Quite timely.
Looking forward to seeing the amazing guy God has in store for you😉!
😆😂Dnt knw bout yal, bt my attention is always raised wen Anthony looks straight ahead, quiet, hands tucked away, feet crossed. He's like, "Naw, dnt engage me fa no response."
What I hate is when women try to ask men if they have feelings, but they either don't say anything or get scared off because they feel women are too upfront. If being upfront scares the other person off, then I feel like that person is not ready for a REAL relationship. A REAL relationship requires open communication.
I love your videos first off. You are such a blessing. My friendship with God is about growing in intimacy with God ,where I can tell him Anything. He lives me and you and he can handle all our truth and make us better. Keep the faith, blessings.
Most of my friends have married and I felt a gap because the laughters and the closeness I had with my male friends can't have them anymore...sometimes I thought it was not in the rightful place because some want to pursue the closeness but I care alot about their new married life and can't really take it as normal as it was during their singlehood
I've spent the whole day binge watching this! I love how real the panellists are and I love Mandisa as a host!
These videos bring me life and guidance through my walk with God... thank you so much for sharing a little of your life and friends with us😊
"Cultivate a healthy friendship with God" ❤️
Soo good! 🔥 Especially liked what Natalie Grant shared!
I love what Natalie said about making sure you're not trying to fill a void with the other person. I am a single female and I too feel more comfortable with my guy friends. In college, I tended to unknowingly become close with guys who had just come out of relationships. I became the emotional support they needed to fill the void they had from no girlfriend. As an emotional being, my feelings would get tied to this person and I would think they felt the same, but they never made a move. Then they would enter relationships with someone else and our relationship would dwindle or end indefinitely. Losing those friendships hurt because I had tried to fill a lonely relationship void I had with their friendship. As I've matured, in order to avoid confusion, I do put up safeguards/boundaries. My rule of thumb is that if I was in my guy friend's gf/wife's shoes, and they sat in or read my conversation, would I feel threatened/cautious. That helps me to be able to share a friendship with married or committed friend's of the opposite sex. As for the single guys, I have to make it a point to go into the friendship looking for a FRIEND and not a BOYFRIEND you'll move too fast in my experience and see everything as a sign. LOL
Really love this series and the truth/opinions shown by everyone. Keep them coming Mandisa!!
This series is so good. Thank you for this, Mandisa.
This is sooo good, Mandisa. Thank you.
Mandisa,your crew is made up of real people,like yourself!💖👍 I love what Natalie said about your husband being your best friend. (So good!) You and Christian's comments about your choice of friends,who you spend time with reflects what type of person that you are❣💖👍 (So true!) For me, I desire to be around God-driven,all around driven, honest,uplifting,encouraging friends! Negative,discouraging people,not a good choice. I desire to treat others as I would want them to treat me! Friends that you know that you can count on ,in good or bad.As far as boundaries, I do believe there are healthy boundaries and unhealthy ones.Respect plays a very important part! Lastly,but most importantly,my friendship with God has to be my main focus in life! I love spending time with God❣🤠💖🙏 Since I did the Experiencing God Online Bible Study with you and the Spiritual Sluggers, I am learning and Experiencing such a more real and personal love relationship with God than ever before! He truly is my best friend❣Thank-you sweet Mandisa, for the continually awesome talk show! Love it❣🤠💖👍
🎶Before we go any further.... Let's be FRIENDS!🎶 🙋🏽♀️
This series is such a blessing! Thank you!:)
Wow! This was good! Every relationship I have had, started with our friendship. It feels unnatural for me to start any other way. I also totally agree you need to be intentional with building that especially as your relationship continues to grow! It’s true for marriage also, you need to make quality time and your friendship a priority or eventually you both will end up on different paths.
And oh yes , i remember the song: “ I am a friend of God..🎶🎵.
You are really blessed with your crew of friends.
Shalom from Canada
I so agree Mandisa
God bless you, Mandisa
Love, Love, Love you. Keep singing and shining like a star my beautiful Sister. xxx
Thank you Mandisa & friends for your honesty. As a single, this series has bee sooo helpful!😊🌟
Very good, wow! Loved what everyone was saying on different friendships. I needed this . I loved what Nathalie says, and what was said about honoring your spouse in regarding to your friends. All of my husband good friends are females , he had one very very good male friend who was one of our pastors but he died couple years ago, and all his friends are respectful and have boundaries exception one . I spoke with my husband about that couple times, and still no boundaries were established and kept . In fact it was his best friend who is a female had to actually talk to him about it that made him set boundaries with this individual. So I will have him watch this episode. Thank you all.
The practicality of these wisdom sharing are so 💯
Love these series!! 💜
I've found it hard to be friends with guys because they always end up wanting more than I do! Also I've struggled with setting boundaries! It makes me feel like maybe I shouldn't be friends with guys at all unless I feel like I would actually date or be on relationship with them. However, that makes me feel limited like I can't be in fellowship with my brothers in Christ! This is just a really conflicting issue for me!...But I love this video, y'all had some good points! Thank u for bringing light to this issue!
I really enjoy these series! I laugh at some because I gave up on finding a Christian man. To many frogs in my past life. All my friends left me when I had to go on Disability at 46.
This was so awesome. Being single after divorce not by choice. I still respect other marriages. When I married my female friend's knew up front. When I'm not at home do not come to my house. I was the same with them and I am wanting a male friend before all the feely feelings begin. Because I need to know if I can trust him as a friend first. To see who he is a godly man with his actions and how he treats other. So I agree with Natalie I'll wait if he's worth waiting on. Because I must guard my heart and God has done some amazing transformation in my life. To just settle and be with anyone.
I miss you Sister Mandisa❤
Okay I'll say it then? Most guys don't want to be just friends with girls. Even with the Christian. I had a Christian male friend after I indirectly let him know I wasn't interested, he stopped communicating . Never text me first. At first I thought God sent him because of how it happened and you know ( the honeymoon phase). After a while I wasn't physically attracted to him and certain things abt him . I was willing to look past to some extent but slowly I realized I didn't like him. I jus like talking to him. You see sometimes you can enjoy being around someone so much that your brain mistakes you for liking them rather you just being compatible with them. Be careful guys , You need to pray and fast for a spouse discerning whether it is a particular person I realize will never be easy. The perfect spouse is never just handed be to you. U need to be hurt, disssapointed and experience certain things and most of all pray!. I don't know but those brothers in the Lord are just....SMH😂😂😂😂.
So I realised I'm not focus on that now . I'm just not ready for those things😂😂
Btw I'm 17
So good. I’m nurturing a relationship with Jesus by doing what He says. I am serving him with my gift of song like you.
Very good point Natalie
Enjoying thiss💃❤️
Another great episode of your talk show mandisa was interesting!!!🤗❤️🙏🏻🙌🏻
"One Love, One Love you're lucky just to have just One Love..."😁🎉
I’m a day early this week!! Can’t wait
I really enjoy and am learning from this series. Can’t wait for next week. Totally binging and have watch some episodes at least 2 times and over. Thanks 😊 ❤️
Single Christian Women! We have a problem, one: it seems there's not enough single eligible guys in the Church two: Guys in the Church are standoffish or they are extremely comfortable in their singleness that they don't pursue. three: the older we get the dating pool turns into a puddle.... LORD HELP US!! THE STRUGGLE IS REAL!!!
These series of videos helps a lot.
I absolutely love this series. So many great insights!
Mandisa, abundant blessings.....this message is powerful....
This was soooooo good. Thank you for this, Mandisa!
Thank you Mandisa for this blessing!
Very good Series. Liked this part especially 😍🙂. God I thank you for Mandisa and her friends/associates...
Great talks.
I believe in being friends first before dating. I think there is so much stigmatisation in this school of thought. It definitely takes time for me to let someone in and like them, plus like one of the ladies said 'her inner gem is burried deep inside - which can only be experienced in friendship first' which I totally relate.
Though I am definitely not out here also befriending the world 🤷
This is a great topic!
MY BEST MALE FRIEND IS BILL WE ALSO LIVE TOGETHER IN A SUPPORTED ACO HOUSE.
WE WENT TO SCHOOL TOGETHER AND WE WERE IN THE SAME CLASS.
I don't think saying you have feelings, but don't have time means he does not have real feelings. It is better to say how you feel, then to stay silent. Otherwise, you might loose the op to act on those feeling either now or latter. If you don't say anything then you just stay friends and they will likely get feelings for someone else. You can't assume that the other person will always be available. So say something!
Curtis you are so amazingly deep!!!!
Cantora maravilhosa. Obrigado por suas belas canções que me emocionam muito. God blessed you.
Yes, Mandisa, you make a great host.
I think some men need to stop being so mysterious. Women go through alot. We have menstruation and many give birth to children... at least the men could openly pursue women they are interested in. There is no point in keeping everyone guessing. Other than that, I love this show. Thank you, Mandisa. It's an eye opener every week.