2. Where Have All the Good Men Gone? - What If We Were Real? Talk Show - Episode 2
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- Опубликовано: 25 июл 2024
- Where Have All the Good Men Gone? - What If We Were Real? Talk Show - Episode 2. #RelationshipGoals
My single & married friends and I held nothing back as they discuss relationship do’s, no no’s, and “why not’s”!
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Mandisa has the perfect personality to be a host. I love these episodes! Please do more :)
“Everyone is a serial killer online until proven otherwise.” SHE IS MEEE 🤣🤣🤣
It's true! Crime Junkie rule #1: "Be rude, be weird, stay alive."
I agree with Anthony. I'm not even interested in a good man. I'm interested in a godly man. The last guy i dated was a good man, but not godly as it pertains to seeking to obey God. There is a big difference.
So true ruclips.net/video/HwSfTQnUGaw/видео.html
No. A god fearing man is a good man. Not godly, not good. Maybe neutral, but by definition, not “good”. Good comes fro the medieval “ God”.
Love this.. after 2 1/2 years of Christian counseling. I asked God to open my heart to a healthy relationship.
So good. I love the reminder to keep living for God and trusting that He’ll make our paths cross with our future spouse. 💕
“Hey John, I love your...song!” Too funny!
When I think of a 'good and Godly man' I think 'celibate and Godly man'. For me that's one of the challenges
Same! A man who is also saving himself sexually for marriage.
While at the same time, 99% of whamen have diick counts of over 12 before at 25. GTFOH 🤦♂️
I love these episodes Mandisa! Keep them coming!
“Every person is a serial killer until proven otherwise.” I felt that.
Anthony needs to relax 😂 this is not a Dave Ramsey session...
I agree...this is just light chat Anthony chill 🤣🤣🤣
Agreed
I think there is a difference between a Good man and a Good Godly man. You have to know that if you are praying for a Godly man - they aim to imitate and please Christ in all they do. Because some women want a Good guy who is loyal, respectful, honest and all the good things but when God sends someone, they reject him - even saying that they are boring. They want a guy that treats them right but a guy who will also allow them to drink alcohol or a guy that will have sex with them. If you want a Good Godly man then you have to expect a Celibate one, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, is faithful, wants to serve in the church, wants to pray and fast with you and many others. If not then maybe you just want a good man.
Preach!
So good 👏🏾👏🏾
Yes sir! We need MEN that can lead us to the King of kings not to a king sized bed!
@@lovebug6388 Exactly👏👏👏
@@lovebug6388 sounds like you watch Redefined TV 😂👌🏽
These discussions are on point! I was working as a director of hispanic ministries in a very small town. I was so close to going into the seminary, but then I met the person I ended up marrying. I had no urge to get married, and my definition of what I wanted out of a woman was so unnecessarily complex and self-serving. ‘Marriage’ is solid, even during the crazy times. We challenge, love and respect each other. And in the end, I discovered I didn’t have to isolate my love of God and escape to a monastery for the rest of my life.
I loved the running analogy at 13:30. I always think of dating relationships like running or walking together. My favorite relationship verse is “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” - Amos 3:3 NLT. When I gauge compatibility, I’m simply trying to see if we’re going in the same direction.
This is so wonderfully said!🥰
As I heard Mandisa questioning for herself why she is still single I had the thought, "Because we need you!!" Lol. Her faithfulness in her testimony is so helpful to me in my singleness. I feel God has a really great story written for her ❤
I’m glad that online dating was brought up, because many people do not meet while “going about their lives.” I also like how Natalie created opportunities. You have to show interest to a man in person or often times they aren’t going to initiate since going on an app is way less risky for them.
I haven't even made it to the other 3 episodes yet but I think you've stopped me in my tracks with this one. It was 1 little part where you said maybe it's key to just keep living and doing life and the right person will come along. Everyone talking about just going about their business and they found the one. I need to just keep living. Just keep doing my life and stop looking around every corner wondering when it will come. You'd think I'd have learned this lesson in kindergarten that a 'watched pot never boils'. :) Thank you for these! Looking so forward to the next ones!
A good man is one who will respect your values as well as his.
OK, am I the only person who want Mandisa and Anthony to go on a date?! I'm wanting that "setup" 😀😃
I wish I could double like 😃
Me too! They need to make that happen.
He already stated his "type" when they were at his house for a "singles session" type of gathering. Mandisa was there.
She has a type; he has a type. We all do. So you matchmakers leave that alone! Lol!! 🎉😇🎈
Thank you for this series Mandisa! I love the honesty and wisdom you and your friends are sharing with us.
Loved " less on where you are looking and more of who your becoming" I needed that. Thank you!
Love this! You’re doing an awesome job Mandisa!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
You are so inspirational Mandisa!! Thank you for this series! Such a needed conversation! I love your energy wow. This inspires me to just keep on doing what I know is right and serve and I will run into Mr. Right. Thank you!
These are soo good. Especially the little nuggets at the end. So full of life👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 God bless you Mandisa!
Amen! I love how you give us a word at the end of each episode. You bring us right back to who matters most, God. 😊
I love this connection to Corinthians at the end. To grow in love is to grow in patience and that DEFINITELY grows in the waiting time lol- never looked at it like that! so good 🤍
God bless you Mandisa! The episodes are amazing. Can't wait for te subsequent ones.
Thank you for having this. I like the conversations and insight
God spoke to me about Gen 24 and I learned I had to be obedient FIRST! Just 6 months into a new relationship with a Godly man & we were friends first. Prov 4:23 + Gen 24 and a few others have helped me survive as a mature single. Yes, do you and let them do them, don't compromise - and let God work out the details. 2 Cor. 10:5
I love love love this! Thank you! We all need encouragement as singles. This is right on time!
It has definitely been hard for me to meet a good Christian man. I know good guys but they aren't Christian and I don't want that for myself.
Do you know how I can get in touch with Mandisa? I'd like to marry her
It's cus you are 50
I hear you, sister!
These videos are just so good! Seeing these videos after recently having these conversations with my sisters and friends is amazing.
Oooh, you always get me at the end! It totally hits home, I feel like these are words I needed to hear right now. I've been really struggling with being patient and kind. This year has been disappointing. I feel like we've all had plans that fell through. Mine was my life-long dream trip to Australia. And then already in a negative stance, all that's happening in our country is aggravating. I have to remind myself that God is in control and I need to treat others with the kindness He would. And then what a time to be online dating, too, that definitely is frustrating. Sorry for the long rant!
Loved this!! Always love how you keep it real ❤.
Wow! This Episode!!!! Blessed my Socks Off!!!! Especially Mandisa's Commentary at the End. It's about the Type of Woman I'm Becoming Not where I'm LOOOKING!!!!
So happy to have found this channel! Thank you! Thank you for this talk show!
I love this conversation! It is long overdue. Thank you Mandisa! ❤️
This is so good, love the message.
Loved episode 2 of your talk show mandisa it was interesting!!!🤗❤️🙏🏻🙌🏻😉
Thank you SO much for creating these videos. So encouraging and needed! Desiring to find my Boaz :)
So good! Thank you for your vunerability, Mandisa!
I am loving these videos!! Thank you! I gave up online dating because it's just not for me. Now I am focused on becoming the Mrs. Right. And as I pray for the Lord to bring His match for me, I can go about my business of living life without looking.
Mandisa i love your conversations. As a single woman I'm learning a lot. Thank you for this sis❤
Man.. When Katie started talking I was like "GIIIRRLL!!!"
I definitely needed that.
Loved your closing thoughts. Amen. 💖
It depends less on where you are looking and more on who you're becoming... That's good Sis!
These episodes were so inspiring! RIP Mandisa🥺🤍🙏🏾
Ok at the end you actually nailed it. Thank you praise God!
We definetly need spanish subtitles for this! it is so good
thank you so much for doing this... I have spent many days wondering this same question. It is refreshing to know that I am not the only one waiting. It can be hard sometimes though. One thing I am convinced of, is that Jesus is always more than enough. Honestly though I still hope and pray that a Godly man is right around the corner.
The Jogging example... 👌🏾
God bless you! From Italy 🤗🇮🇹🇮🇹
Keep the episodes comin', Disa!
Yaaaaaaaaay!!! Let's get real!!! #mandisa #rocks #bethelight #thankyou
Love these Mandisa!!
Absolutely; this woman loves God, AND loves God fearing men! 😍
This is great!
There is not a lot of god men. Men who have integrity, kind a giver, and SPIRITUAL!!! That’s THE Moat important one for me. When I talk about God I get excited and men look at me like I’m crazy. Doesn’t God say men will become lovers of themselves, adulterous, haughty and much more in Timothy????? My children know I love God more than them. They are Christian . My daughter was joining the convent but happened to fall in love with a Roman Catholic Priest and he loved her and was excommunicated from the church!!!!! They were married in August and expecting my first grandchild 7-28!! God is AMAZING AND WE ARE TRULY BLESSED 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Mandisa you are Amaizing I love how you connect with your friends love you
Firstly this was a very interested conversation, thank you Mandisa!! I noticed that most of Mandisa's friend who are married here mentioned they were on a worship or pastoral team, and from my experience those teams are always getting engaged. Anyone else know what I mean?
I hate to go there....but the rarity are godly black males...she would have been wife up by other races of dudes long time ago!
@@runnergirl252 you're absolutely correct. The demographic of 18-49 year old Black men across all religions, not just Christianity is missing. While this is changing, the reality of marrying someone inside this ethnic group that is equally yoked with spiritually, at least in America, is low. I am keeping my options open.
I was in worship for years and this never happened for me. All the men were already married or dating someone. I more noticed from the panel that people found their spouse thru friends, and that they were in their early 30s, so the age thing is a huge factor that wasn't addressed.
Mandisa this was so good 🖤
Being content where you are right now is first step.
Mannn, let me have a talking platform
I may be young, i may be naive at times, but there is wisdom God has given me because of what i walked through in my life.
You have a talking platform :) RUclips :)
@@Varaidzo1 oh God bless you.
That is what i needed to hear. What i have been given, i must be content with it.
Thank u so much for your comment. 🙌🏽
@@livelystone9367 lol no worries! You should start you own channel, I'm sure people would be happy to hear the wisdom God has given you :) I would be!
@@Varaidzo1 i actually do have a channel of my own.
Im not really promoting my channel, i just figure God will direct people over to my channel who will actually hear and benefit from it 🤷🏽.
Ive never been the 'promoting' type of woman lol...feel like im bugging people
Genesis 24 was very instrumental in preparing me for marriage 20 years ago and I have been teaching on the qualities of a godly relationship from it. It is when you are busy serving the Lord that He makes the way. God blessed me with a godly wife, we are married 14 years.
I think if you find yourself asking where are all the good guys/women, you're thinking on it too hard. Thinking where are all the good guys/women defers the work away from you as if to imply I'm a great person but everyone I'm hanging out with or dating isn't. That's a pretty bad thought to have. I choose to focus on becoming a better me, living better, eating better, working harder, and in the process of doing that, I found my partner. I believe you won't have to go way out of your way to find a good person.
There's a difference between the good and the great. And even the great and the godly. If ain't Kingdom, I don't want it. I have a good life. I believe in synchronicity. That person is supposed to bring with them multiplication not simply addition and vice versa. There's a certain amount of favor that he will receive simply in dating me because of Whose I am. If he's not bringing that same type of favor to my life, ✌🏾
This discussion was refreshing
God bless you mandisa!!!!
Anthony asks the most important question: What is your definition of a "good" man? No one really bothers to answer that. The women in the second group admit that their standards are very high, and they "stiff-armed" an entire group of men!
If all the single women lined up from most attractive to least, and all the single men line up from most attractive to least, and the lines were next to each other, how many women would be pleased with the person holding their number in the other line?
Jesus said..There’s no one good but God. Kindness makes a man attractive, Prov. 19:22.
When a man “finds” a wife he obtains favor of the Lord. Prov 18: 22.
Women aren’t supposed to be looking for a man let’s start there. Stick to scripture
A Boaz man, should be
debt free,
if he has kids from a previous relationship he must do right by them,
Love his mom and sister and treat women with respect,
Home ready,
Spiritually, Mentally, stable.
When a man lives a woman and treat her like she his world there’s nothing that woman won’t do for him!
Mutual respect she’s not a doormat or his mother, maid, or someone sex object. Prov 31 describes a virtuous “woman” she could be single, or married. She a woman who has value for herself and her relationship with others husband, wife etc.
Good men comes in two spectrum there’s unsaved and saved good men. It depends on who’s side you’re on and what is good to you.
Good doesn’t mean the same thing to everybody.
As a virgin, God will bless you. My sister is a 35 y/o virgin, got married, and has a beautiful daughter.
Great convo. Really enjoyed this topic!
I looked into the root of the enneagram and how it came to be and it made me extremely uncomfortable. I no longer reference it or tell ppl about it.
Good-yes, I think it's demonic.
I love those episodes!
I believe that I'll find a good godly man when I'm ready for that level of commitment.
Ugggggghhh ..... Mandeesa and Anthony get together already 🙄😅😅🤣🤣🥰
BEST part of the video “to me “
LOVE the girl on the end in the white sweatshirt...
Mandeesa’s closing remarks
Yes- I’m sure I spelled her name wrong, sue met!!🙄🤣
I like these chats
Thank you so much for this!!!! I was feeling so down earlier today about being single for many years now, and then I so happen to come across this video....I know this was not by accident!!! Thanks so much for the encouragement. I now know what I need to do while in my season of singledom: to pray and surrender my frustrations with God; trust in him to handle it while continuing to become a better person and walk in my purpose.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Wow, so good!
Where all the good men are… they are with the good vvoman
"Where are all the good single men?" Say the women over 35, 50+ lbs over weight, two kids in tow, and more baggage than any man wants to deal with. Yet these women want, no Demand the guy have excellent income, be fit, tall, and not have any baggage of his own. The disconnect most women have is outright delusional.
Now, I don't completely blame women for this. Here's my larger view; society hates men, but lies to women. At least men know where they stand. But women? They have no idea until society moves on to faun over the next younger generations of women. It's a harsh reality most women are not prepared for.
I LOVE YOU SONG MANDISA GOD BLESS YOU.
I keep getting told to ‘put myself out there’. But I still can’t figure out what that means! What does that look like? Is “there” a specific place or social function I can register to attend? How do I get all the people at church to stop saying “I should set you up with my nephew/friend/cousin” and actually DO it for once?
It means be more open, warm and engaging with men.
@@adj5767 What does that mean? Laughing at everything they say? Touching their arm? Asking them a bunch of questions?
When mandisa and Anthony said, “ let me introduce you to some folks” all I could think about is how about y’all introduce eachother. 👀
Haha I like
LOL. you're so awesome..... "Well then whats your definition of a godly woman?". ":Really Mandisa?".....Yeah - don't let him get away with it girl!
I like what Anthony said. It depends on how you define good men ? I notice that means in a certain “package” . There’s a preference of some kind in that statement. Lol like I want a good man that looks like Boris Kodjoe 😂
This was really good and such a good reminder to live ya life. Gone ‘head and water those camels tho. 😉
Is this what I needed or what! 😌😁 also me looking for camels 🐪 🤣
10:53 Wow! .. she just proved the point that women don't know what they want AND work against their own best interests 🙄
Where have all the good men gone? Aka why cant I find the guy my inflated hypergamy says I deserve.
Wow, that was kinda convicting. I have definitely set the bar very high and thought to myself if he isn't where I am at with the Lord, and like practically a leader in the church then I don't want to even go on 1 date. But I dunno, what's wrong with wanting a godly man? Why do we have to settle? I sound confused haha.
Don't settle. There's a difference between preferences and standards. Figure out which is which. Don't compromise on standards for that can cause a season to a lifetime of pain and regret. Preferences change as we grow and mature. In one season you may like beards and it the next you prefer the clean cut look. Things like work ethic, ambition, leadership, integrity, character, money handling, emotional stability, etc., are examples of things not to compromise on or overlook those red flags. Hope this helps.
I feel like most people don’t truly seek after God in a way that deeply changes their heart. So like Jesus says, probably better to stay single unless you find something worth fighting for.
3:28
“here’s how much he makes, so he prob has a lot of disposable income just sitting there for the taking
Here’s what kind of car he drives
He has his own place
And he has fine friends in case that doesn’t work out”
a recent survey showed that only 25% of college men thought that asking a woman on a date isn't sexual harassment.
It can be if you're ugly
@@jeanpaulgartier3404 or if you don't call the next day or at any point in the future for the rest of your life
Hi Mandisa🙋
Where have all the good men gone? What about where have all the good women gone as well?
How do you surrender and still wait for your husband? I mean, how is it possible? I am asking because this is sort of where I am today - asking God for His will and telling Him to align my heart to His will. Am I in this surrender+waiting path that one girl talked about in this vid? ☺ Hope to get your POVs.
Where have all the good men gone? They're all married or too young. The rest of the Christian men after a certain age (mid-40s and up) have quit coming to church-so it has left a huge hole and the church is now filled with youth, married people, and older single women. This has been my experience from several different churches, and I've heard this from many other women as well.
Online dating is so scary in concept because she is right...people project what they want you to see and you really don't know who is being real. Plus safety factors...they could be a rapist, killer, etc. So for me I boycot online dating.
This group is slim to none.
Let alone, how many men would actually be drawn too a woman with children already(i get their standpoint) who is a child of God etc.
As far as I'm aware, Mandisa is celibate so I assume most of her girlfriends are as well. If you're looking for Christian CELIBATE MEN, the odds are NOT in your favor unfortunately. The reality is, God sent me opportunities to be married in my 20s but I didn't have a heart/mind for that. Now I'm in my 40s and I'm guessing the husband God has for me probably isn't even saved yet! LOL
Preach it! Odds are not in women's favor especially for women in their 30s and above. How many men will save themselves for that long? And even if I meet such a man, I would need to have a serious conversation with to understand how he preserved himself, check whether he watched porn, masturbated ...
It’s not impossible, but it is definitely a challenge to find men willing to wait.
Mandisa is out here saving lives... (Yes, fam, I know Jesus saves lol!)
I think the question she really means to ask is why are so many men and boys raised this way
I think Mandisa is a big miss for the single men out there . Jus saying 😇❤️
Yes, she is lovely and stunning.
The guy in the green kept twisting everything Mandisa said and answered questions with more questions 😩
Good men are loving, honest, loyal, kind, and I forget the other one... There are 5. but so many of them are pornsick now and I don't blame women for refusing any who are if pornsick men are even willing to tolerate real women at all.