4 Words You "NEVER" Say to a Woman!!! (Men Disagree) |
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You need to provide commentary on this channel about Amy Cooper and how that false superiority mindset and power (as VP of a prominent investment firm) impacts(ed) the economical advancement of black communities for generations.
There are many Amy Coopers and Adam Coopers. And even when black people surpass the systemic oppression and thrive, Black Wall Street happens, maybe to a lesser scale, but violent destruction nonetheless
Great job and content ! Can't wait to share & keep this conversation going! Lol. Btw AO... I see u love that tshirt color 😜
I'm a woman who tells men what I want to do for a date. Men always complain that we're indecisive, then when we aren't, we're seen as aggressive gold diggers. Smh
Obviously if the date is expensive, I'm contributing as well.
@@user-kr2ty9vk5n lol u say "obviously" but I don't think the avg woman is thinking to contribute.
The fact that she didn't call him back until she saw him on T.V. says a lot.
Right i 1000%disagree with these ladies perspectives
Boom! Nuff said...
Yesss! That really was obvious!
True
THAT PART!!!!!
Long story short, the fact that she called him AFTER SEEING HIM ON TV affirms her “gold digger” status!
Facts
It was amusing watching the women try to turn it into something else
I literally said the same thing
"If we're still dating" had nothing to do with it. She called him after she saw him on television. Whatever she thought she got over it fast.
This scenario wasn’t that deep. They went on one date and she ghosted, so he ghosted back. Why is there so much pressure for them to work things out and talk...for what?
She asked to go to a specific restaurant that was a little out of his budget. Just like one of those other women on their said why didn't he tell her this is my budget, because telling a woman this is my dating budget means you're not the only one I'm dating and I got to save money to date other women or I can't afford you and if you can't afford the restaurant you want, then why didn't you just be smooth and say look hook up a meal for you and cook you that steak dinner or I'll cook you whatever you want to have their or ask her what she wanted to have there at the restaurant and you can learn how to make it because we got RUclips. I'd rather have a home-cooked meal. Then go go for a walk to work that home cook meal off. That's a perfect date
Truthful Rating eh
My thoughts exactly. She ignored him first, his response was to return the favor. Not necesssarily the right thing to do, but definitely not wrong either. She doesn't deserve his energy after ghosting him
@?? and? There's no point to be mad about it for this long
Exactly!!!
She didn’t answer after he called her after the text. And then she calls him only after he’s on a national show. I don’t think the text he sent was rude. If she couldn’t deal with something so small, then she’s not ready for a serious relationship.
I totally agree
She weeded herself out. She was gold digger!
My husband and I have been relationship communication coaches for many years. As well as married and together for over 23 years. I don’t have both sides of the story, but I don’t believe that this was the first time Anthony had talked about his budget. This is what he does for a living. Money is the #1 cause of strife in relationships, so it’s best this was dealt with from the beginning and not when they were further into the relationship.
I could not agree more. And even when he told her that the particular restaurant she wanted was not in his budget this month, he still offered a date to a different place. He said he called her after the text and she didn’t respond. The best thing that happened to him was to know this early on.
@@famchavez5 Huh? That was the beginning of the relationship. How many of your clients talk to their date before the first date about finances? Hmm! Majority of the time, there wouldn't even be a first date. I've talked about a budget and never heard back from them a lot of times. I have yet to find one that wants to go half or alternate. I can't even get a Happy Meal at McDonald's. Smh! I called it quits, I don't date anymore. That's an expense I can scratch out.
Asking to be taken to an expensive restaurant on the 2nd date is a big 🚩.
Love 23Amazed you need Jesus. That is a huge red flag. Humble yourself
she knows what she likes, ain't nothing wrong with that. if you can't afford her, keep it pushing and don't take it personal!
Texting him about a specific place means she is asking him and she pays!!
No it's not, maybe what's expensive to you is normal to her. There are many single women that can afford to take themselves out to eat ANYWHERE they want, so why should they settle for less than?
@@AshleyObasi It's placing more value on the dinner plate than the person in front of you. The woman that values the dinner plate this much tells me that they hardly eat this expensive restaurants to value them so much.
They try to find men to pay for this meals then dump him...
"If we're still dating" 💛 more men need to be this honest.
Thank you
I didn’t have an issue with him saying it. I wish the conversation via phone or FaceTime and I would’ve compromised and agreed to a different restaurant.
So a "phone call" is stepping up/privilege?? People really trying to have relationships by texting.
Yes, texting can be misinterpreted, it's way to easy. People need to talk and be able to clear up ambitious statements.
I don't understand that at all, anything can be misinterpreted that's what follow up questions are for...
Personally, I’ve never been a talking on the phone person, even before texting became a thing. I’d rather see you and have a conversation.
As a young women, I didn’t see anything wrong with how AO handled the situation. I don’t blame him for what he did. If you don’t respond, moving on.
Me either! I respected him for that and I don’t think there was anything wrong with how he responded to her either. Shoot I’ve said that to a guy before.
@@TheHeadliner08 I completely agree. I saw nothing wrong with what he said. It was straight forward and honest. And if there was a genuine issue with what he said, why not say something? Instead she went ahead and ghosted him for TWO months.... Now that spoke volumes to me.
I agree! I love when people are direct.
As a woman pushing 50, I didn't see anything wrong it either.
Neither did I. I would’ve called vs. text and offered going to a different restaurant or going Dutch. I’d rather quality time over the price of food.
This needs to be a reality tv show
These confessionals got me thinking that it is.
yeah
For sure.
Unpopular opinion, but I see why they single....💀😂
Yeah I got that vibe too from the confessionals.
This is why I don't like having conversations with people I'm building relationships with via text. It's too easy to misconstrue stuff when you don't have nonverbal cues and voice inflection to help put messages into context.
....I thought dating was for the purpose of getting to know the other person, not going to a restaurant you can't or haven't gone to???
Same here
BINGO! These women are confused. They don't understand that "dating" and being in a "relationship" are 2 different things with 2 different expectations. He didn't owe her anything more than what he did. Anthony handled the situation correctly.
Exactly!
Can we talk about how beautiful Mandsia. This women is just glowing with Joy. Wow stunning
She is 😍
I was just thinking that she is beautiful.
Gorgeous women 😍
By ALL of Mandisa’s responses, relative to the questions, one can see why she is single.
@@misterninety3259 100 she has no shot. Perpetually single no doubt.
These interviews are some of your strongest content.
Facts
Agreed
Real talk
Women in the vid: Wish I could hear her side of the story
Me: 😳 Sis was a golddigger PERIODT!
Next...
I can afford expensive restaurants for myself. I'm not in debt and I'm good at saving so I usually have a couple of grand lying around. I usually split the meal or pay for what I ordered even on the first date unless the man insist. I wouldn't be offended if the man said it wasn't in his budget because that has happened before. What I find offensive is the bit where he said "if we are still dating next month." Also next month was in a few weeks he said. Also he called once and left no message. I always communicate because asking questions and listening is the only way you learn. He could have left a voice note or a video message to get his point across. I think he shut down completely after she left him with the bubble and didn't answer his call. If think she probably shut down after the "if we are still dating" Of course we will never know because we never heard her side of the story. In relationships, if something upset us we have to say so explicitly and directly otherwise the other person won't know. They are not mind readers and they shouldn't always know what's in another person's head.
@@globalwealthmindset ok and? I go to expensive restaurants so my man has to too.
@@globalwealthmindset she was wrong for accepting a mid range restaurant then in increasing her standards later. Big mistake
Facts
EXACTLY!! As soon as I heard the ladies say that, my reaction was nope, I dont need to hear her side.
This shows exactly why men don’t want to get married.
Exactly
Y'all looking at the wrong women
@@katwilliams2950 The amount of times a woman told me that is crazy
I mean all women aren't the same. I don't say that like a plug for "I'm not one of those date me." But I say it with the hope that you dont give up if what you want is a wife.
Protect your seed
Lool.. why are we making excuses for her.. they’ve only gone out on one date... he owes her nothing.. she called two months later! You put in as much work into someone as they put into you.. He saw a red flag and cut it off right away.. If more people did that more often, we would get into unhealthy relationships less often
Right. The red flag was her ghosting him for telling his money what to do and then having the nerve to hit him up two months later after she recognized she missed out on a good one.
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Exactly!
All the women were adamant, saying they needed to hear her side of the story before they could make a deduction even after he told them reached out to her. I know i'm gas-lighting here but usually when a harassment is filed, all we need is her story not both sides, right?
💯...cant stand excuses
She called back when she saw he had some status? She’s whack for that!!
the biggest thing that the women here all missed the text exchanged occurred and she didn't respond back so he calls her and no answer. Therefore, it wasn't something she was willing to discuss until she saw him on TV. That is a trash move and all the signs he needed after he was forthcoming about his financial situation. So on to the next one
He didn't make a wrong discussion. I commend him for sticking to his budget and being honest.
What was in question. Was how he says it - not that he kept to his budget
“If we are still dating” just doesn’t hit right. 😬 You could have left that out and been fine. However, there was nothing wrong with his intention; in fact, it’s sexy. He’s got a lockdown on his finances and that shows structure which woman can interpret as security.
And speaking about “in a month,” that’s also where the breakdown happened. He _said_ “in a month,” but he _meant_ the month that’s coming up in a week, but maybe she interpreted that as in 30-31 days from the time that text occurred, which is a long time.
I understand what you are saying. I think that if she found offense in what he said, she could have taken the opportunity to reach out and get clarity.
Yeah definitely a failure on both sides here.
Agreed choice words, and the level of communication was not all that great.
Thato Simelane Absolutely. She didn’t have to “bubble” and ghost him. Hahaha!! I still think he dodged a bullet because if she disappeared purely because she didn’t like what he said yet shows up again because he’s on tv, she doesn’t (or didn’t at the time) have the maturity to be in a committed relationship. Bad communication that both parties could have prevented.
She downright ghosted him via text! If anything, she was manipulating him. Women expect too much these days.
This young man did the exact right thing. She got over her hurt pretty quickly after seeing him on T.V.
Exactly!!!! A lot of women (not all) but a lot of them hear and reason based on their feelings instead of logic! How is him telling her they can’t go on that specific date say anything about her worth??? Lol Im speechless
Hahahahaha facts!
Facts!
Agreed
It wpuld have been different if ahe called him before the tv spot.
I just love how he was like look this is my budget for dating, if we still together next month we can check it out. That's legit respectable. Ladies out here use men to go to places. She had the option to say, ok we can split bills or ok I will pay...
🤷 There was a lot of entitlement from her.
Preach...thank you for saying this 🙏.
Agreed
im not splitting any bills on any date until its official. To me, men need to be men, and those first bills are part of his responsibility. But I would have given him a chance to see what he is about.
@@christinarach340 she wanted to go to a place beyond his budget and it was to be the second date
Dang you just went against the girl code
the “ if we are still dating” would have cracked me up 😂😂😂 cause yeah we only had one date how we know we gon be together next month
I'm so glad they brought together this mix of people. Level headed, respectful, and intelligent. Great video series.
What grown woman tells a man she's been out with once where to take her?! He dodged a bullet, period! Her comeback confirms that.
I'm a millennial. Ladies, stop spoiling these men. They must put in the work.
Thank you! She told him where she wanted to go 🤦🏾♀️ smh. He definately dodged a bullet with her
how can you say two thing completely contradictory? so what anthony is spoiled? on what drug are you on?
You can't be calling the shots and you want someone to pay for the whole bill unless your mother didn't teach you some stuff. If she wanted to be taken to a certain restaurant and his response was he is on a budget she should have been like we can split the budget....anyhow I think this lady showed that the place she wanted to be taken to was much more important than the guy......
Maureen Kamau That’s the thing. I believe the whole “offense” for me would be that if I were that girl I wouldn’t want AO to assume I wouldn’t be willing to pay for the date... We would have to reschedule something based on his budget and way of living.
These broke females out here scouting for free meals.
I’m a woman and I disagree with these ladies. 🤷🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️
I do too
Me too. Whichever way she interpreted it, she should have communicated that.
Me too sis
I was wondering was I the only one who disagree with these ladies.
@@Rhenadhis EXACTLY! COMMUNICATION IS KEY!
The fact that the woman called back after seeing him on tv proved everything,that is not the kind of woman you want on your team wether you are rich or poor.
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Communication is the mystery...Mandisa gave my response, text is one language and audio is another.
But he called her and she didn’t respond. Lol
I agree
I am a woman and I have to admit that sometimes we can be overly sensitive. He spoke his truth and it was early to expect him to splurge beyond his budget. You don't have to spend a lot on a date to have a great time.
Very true!
Amen
"his truth" doesnt exist. it was his pov.
I wish I was on this show. My perspective is totally different. Tbh, the girl he was dating sounds like a user. She boldly initiated going to an expensive restaurant and didn't communicate afterwards once it was slightly denied atm. She also ignored the phone call. Then when she saw him on TV, she wanted to date him again. Ehhh... not sounding like someone who wants to genuinely date someone for who they are.
all of this!! the fact SHE even asked to be taken on a second date!
These ladies are so illogical. They’re reading into and making assumptions based on their feelings. He communicated clearly. He did the right thing. He dodged a hollow point bullet!
You are correct
I agree
I agree as well
Yeah.
You dodged a bullet. Be who you are, if they don't jive with it, goodbye
It was amusing watching them try to justify her actions. She called back months later after seeing him on another show. That was a clear sign she was a gold digger. If it was a miscommunication she wouldn't have called him after seeing him on another show
Absolutely it all boils down to communication and women and men send and receive messages differently.
In my opinion. Anthony I don't think you did anything " Wrong ". I do agree the " If we're still dating " comes off brash. However as adults it's petty not to respond to a message and it's disrespectful to pop up 2 months later with no explanation.
Words and Pictures I think he could have offered another option. the “budget” thing was a bit tacky and the “if we are still dating” was brash. But it could be a generational thing. I’m 47. A man close to my age would never say that, whether he’s on a budget or not,
@@ninobk196 Now that you and Mandisa have both mentioned the generational aspect I see how that's probably really a factor. I'm 30 and female. Though I don't agree with him saying the " If we're still dating " bit, I find the budget aspect very attractive. For me it shows that he's a man with a plan plus I can relate to having to say no to fun with friends sometimes because my budget simply doesn't cover it and I do ask my friends to give me at least a month's notice if they are looking at asking me to join a more pricy hangout. Also, I've watched a couple of Anthony's videos and noticed that he can be very brash but generally doesn't seem to be coming from a malicious space and just like in this video, he is open to learning. Perhaps that's part of the reason I wasn't deeply offended.
Question though, as a lady in her 40's would you have presented an UNSOLICITED request to be taken out to an expensive restaurant on a second date expecting the gentleman to pay?
NinoBK agreed!
@Words and Pictures I would not have asked him to take me to a specific restaurant, especially if it was expensive. When I've dated in the past, I have always been careful never to put a man in a situation where he felt he had to fine and dine me unless HE wanted to. Her intentions were clear and Anthony saw her intent, which probably led him to say "if we are still dating ....".
I follow Anthony's channel and respect him and his work very much. I am also a money person and working towards early retirement- next year actually. I only say that to say that it has taken careful and methodical planning for the past 20 years to get to this point. There have been times when events arose that may have just been out of the budget, but if they were important to me, I would make it work. I was never rigid. Some things I didn't participate in and other things I did. If I went out to an expensive dinner, then I just wouldn't do X,Y, or Z. I would deduct whatever over spent amount I made, from something else in my budget (never savings or investment) to account for it. Sometimes it was soup for the whole week, sometimes it meant it had to come off of my self care line item, ie. No mani or pedi that month.The goal was to never change my budget, and it was good practice for discipline.
I also think that as we become more educated in matters of money and incorporating healthy principles, we need to make sure not to treat our relationships as transactional. Money is a means to an end. Not all of our relationships are based on money and they shouldn't be. It's important of course, especially in a marriage setting, but it's not everything.
"must be generational"
what is not is that none of you want to talk about the elephant in the room. she's a moneysink and the whole situation exposed her.
This is one of the many things that I don’t miss about being single. It becomes an exercise in pettiness and all you learn how to do is perfect passive aggressive behavior.
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Yup😂. Why not just be direct?!?!
@@jaybae7315 what do you mean?
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Suggesting a second date and also picking a specific restaurant! That’s really extra!
I always say when it comes to communication here's the hierarchy.
1. Face to Face or Video Chat
2. Phone
3. Text
4. Email
Because the further down you go on that list the more likelihood that things will be misconstrued. Face to face you're less likely to misinterpret the heart, tone & facial expression of a person and good dialog will ensue.
Checkout our channel "That Christian Fam" I'd love to get some feedback from this audience specifically. -Jermaine
BOOM. well said!
Yes!! I love this....❤
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@@Rashaadthegr8 yeah I was including video chat with face to face.
@@Rashaadthegr8 I fixed it. Checkout my channel when you get some time. I'd love to get your feedback on our videos.
That young man in that hat is wise beyond his years... 👏🏽👏🏽 the young lady was not entitled to that date... it’s not like he asked her what she wanted to do for the next date.. people use dates as a way to go to fancy restaurants that they know they likely wouldn’t pay for.. i know some of my single friends who legit only respond to people for these type of dates.. it’s not right 💆🏽♀️
Exactly! Its not right. I believe she was trying to use him to try out the restaurant she probably could not afford by herself. If you are not going to pay for the date, you have to be respectful of what the person dropping the cash can afford. I personally believe that the first couple of dates should be relatively inexpensive....its all about being considerate to the guy. Dating should be about sitting to talk, not sampling cuisines....you can do that when you are in a relationship. I have been known to order just water on dates or get take-out, sit in the car and talk for hours or sit in the park and not even eat anything! Comeon, is she there for the food or for the person? We can do fine dinning when we are a couple, but first let me get to know you.
@@kanyin442 facts
True. Some women wouldn't go to these places without a man which is sad. I go to those places and I believe u should ask to go to places u would actually eat in without him
As a woman, I personally think that she should have been offering to pay when choosing the restaurant, especially if it is an expensive restaurant. It seems that everyone there expected him to pay. It may be a difference in culture, but in my eyes, if you’re proposing the date, you should offer to pay.
Exactly! Thanks for being level headed!
Totally agree with you 👌🏾
I agree
What's wrong with a woman choosing the restaurant if he is paying? Why take me to a seafood restaurant and i don't even like seafood 🤔 lol. I think the proper thing to do is ASK what she likes and what places she would like to go in that budget. And let him choose or surprise me that way.
I completely agree. Putting the whole "if we're still dating" aside, I feel as though since she wanted to go to that restaurant and he said its not in his budget but its possible next month, I feel as though she could have offered to pay for this one then he would pay for the next date.
Truth was, she thought AO was broke then she saw him on TV and had 2nd thoughts lol
$500 date for somebody you don't know. Yea I'm broke for that.
Exactly.
That's women for you
Facts
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I need this whole series right now.
Me two!
Lol!!!!
In my whole life
Seriously. This would be fun to watch on Netflix
Yeah all week cliffhanger I’m weak, undisciplined my nosy nerves can’t take 😁😎
Question how do you step up after one date? They only went on ONE date.🤷🏽♀️ He didn’t really like her she didn’t really like him. Both defenses were up and she was an opportunist exposed early.
BINGO!
The way he responded was completely fine. It's not like he said "If we're still married" or "If we're still engaged." They were dating. Just dating. We have to stop putting so much emphasis on "dating" someone. This is the stage when you get to know someone. The young lady showed her character when she asked for an expensive restaurant on the 2nd date... again you are getting to know each other during this phase. Nothing is wrong with a luxury experience, but there is a proper time for that. You may not even like each other after the "dating" phase.
He was offended by the restaurant suggestion in the woman’s text, then was totally turned off by her ghosting him after he responded to her text... there was nothing to discuss at that point.🤷🏾♀️😳
She never texted back or called him back. She wanted that restaurant and then called when she saw him on TV.
Facts!
That was wack! I think he handled it the right way. It's not ok to use people
She’s trying to cash in.
Exactly. His response wasn't offensive at all. Idk why they're trying to read more into this than necessary, and it's annoying (esp the woman who said she's offended over everything). She clearly wasn't genuine in wanting to date and get to know him as a person. She was more concerned with him taking her to a certain restaurant instead. Simple as that. They didn't need a phone conversation to verify. Her actions via text and then not responding back when he DID call, her were telling enough. If she was mature enough then she could allowed him to explain what he meant by dating budget. Budget doesn't equal broke.
Honestly, I need all parts released at the same time 😩 C'mon Anthony we're living in a Netflix world
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You know what! That’s a good idea. Lol!!! I’m going to try that on my next panel.
This convo needs a older man with wisdom to add on the male side and some other races of men.
I agree I love the 40 and older club!!!
It's true, the men needed a good balance. Ages from 25 to 50 because men develop different to women in terms of maturity in relationships. Most of these feel they still have more years to come in their lives so marriage or commitment wasn't relevant for now. I'd have liked to see single men over 40 and their perspective. There was a bit of imbalance with the women.
Def need older men and men from other cultures as well. This was like watching mom's school their sons.
Older men are simp boomers lol theyd agree with the women because time where different “back in their day”.
I completely agree. There needs to be at least 2 more men on this panel one of them should include a man over 40.
I don't understand why the women felt offended by "if we're still dating " when he was honest about what he's dealing with and trying to accomplish.
The text kind of reads "your not worth it right now but maybe next month you might be "
Okay that interpretation makes sense. That does come across the wrong way
Exactly my thoughts. She knows her worth and it came off as disrespectful.
But guys that are spending money at your every request also expect repayment in ways I personally am not into. Its like having affection, love and attention for sale. I can respect a man with a budget and we're not able to read the vibe of how the night went. She said she had a good time, why would more of her time require him to haphazardly spend extra on her? She could be grown and offer to treat for the next date where she wanted to go also, or at least offer a simpler place to go.
he's not obligated to go over his budget for any women especially on the second date, she isn't worth it
Yes! Well said
Enjoyed the conversation. All people need it. Not having clear communication is a problem for married and single people alike. That is why divorce rates are high and single people are on the raise.
Preach!!!! Well said
I have to add this as well: My best 2nd date was when my date made pizza for me at his house. No restaurant beats that. He put his time energy and love in it. Ended with a kiss and that's it :)
Which proves a mans time and effort is worthless. Thanks for providing insight.
Dates like THAT are the best. It's all about the small things for me💯
You know you ate more than pizza that night stop playin 👀
When we are simple and straight to the point it just drives women crazy.🤦🏻♂️
😭😭😭😭😭the girl is so clearly in the WRONG. He replied to her text, she ignored. He CALLED her after she had already ignored him...she ignored AGAIN. What more do you want this man to do?! Dance? Sing?!😭😭😭😭.
She text him the second time ONLY because she saw him on television, I ain't saying she a gold digger but she ain't messing with no broooooke.🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
🤣 Amen brother
I think she might have ignored him because she was offended by the text response
The excuses for her...🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂
@@Cahluvca 😭😭😭too many excuses
I love the conclusion though. It just wasn't meant to be. Basic initial communication shouldn't be that complicated. It worked out for both of you with simply letting it end and moving on.
Lady in pink is a thousand percent right. 👏🏼 He said he’s dating for a purpose to get married yet he can’t pursue another phone call? Be the bigger person to at least clear up the miscommunication..even if it doesn’t lead to a 2nd date. It’s not a competition. But assuming never helps. Be mature.
I’m actually totally on side with Anthony. I can’t even imagine telling a guy where we have to go.
Golddigers and women who are looking for beta male providers do this type of stuff!its also a shittest.especially that early in a dating situation!
I’m just now hearing the “if we’re still dating”. That maybe could’ve been left out of the text.
Why when a woman can prove a man is at fault it's all him, but when a man proves a woman at fault then they're both at fault and/or "It doesn't matter who's right or wrong."
Facts
Because double standards...
Dang, I’ve thought this so many times.
@ Boom
I didn't think anything wrong with Anthony saying 'if we are still dating', because let's be real, neither of them knew if they were still going to be dating or not.
I'm really enjoying this single life segment. It makes me want to be a part of the conversation.
The way it went down, was what was suppose to happen.
People will always tell you who they are, just pay attention. He dodged a bullet.
On Dave Ramsey, he said it was $500 at the restaurant.
I would’ve said it wasn’t in my budget aswell 👍
$500 hundred is too much......for a date.....unless it is a deeper relationship. Like marriage. I respect a budget.
I didn’t know how much the restaurant cost. Knowing that changes a lot. She was very bold to ask to go out there. And there was nothing wrong with him saying that it was not in his budget and she should wait. At the end of the day he didn’t say no. She should’ve been more understanding.
@@keepitsimpleydb6151 Yes it is! We could’ve had ten dates with $500 😂
$500, the F. If you got the right chemistry/words/humor/“game” she’ll go to in & out for a 2nd date lol
The Nerve!!!
Look here now. She could have say we can go Dutch but her tone comes off that she expected Anthony to pay for the second date at the particular restaurant she wanted to go to. She come off wrong not texting him or calling for two months and expected after she say him on TV that he changed his mind at that restaurant. It’s offensive the way she disrespected him saying he has a budget. She is immature and needs to grow up.
Simple! I cannot see how Anthony responded in a negative tone. He was being a gentleman and spoke the truth! “If we are still dating” shouldn’t be a deal breaker for her because the whole purpose of dating someone is to find out if you are compatible (whatever that means to each person dating). If you aren’t, then you stop getting to know each other. Simple.
@@veronica112234 Thank you! Exactly
I wholeheartedly agree. She’s wrong and she knows it. First of all you ask to go to a crazy expensive dinner and the moment he doesn’t give you what You want you ghost him. Then You hit him back later when he’s on tv.🙄
Ditto. Feeling rejected because you can't go to a high end restaurant on the second date? That was a bad look on her. Also, did she have no other date ideas? Seemed like she just wanted nice experiences on s/o else's dime by doing that.
He said in the other video... the restaurant was expensive like $300 per plate/per person... he's right
I like the extra clarification ! Also, I appreciate the difference of generations and the prospective of everything ! The being single moving on and then coming back is how you complicate things!
But Anthony was the one with the budget so making a phone call to EXPLAIN HIS Budget sounds smart.
Firstly, we know what the lady was there for, otherwise she would have negotiated a share in the bill, opted for the different restaurant AO offered or not have come back after seeing his supposed "fame".
Secondly, with the "if we still dating" line. If she saw offense to it, she would have taken measures to correct it or see if Anthony was intentionally offensive.
Otherwise, at least Anthony took the opportunity to reach out and she didn't accept it. So big ups to AO for moving on.💪🔥
I don't see anything wrong with the way AO handled the situation. He was honest, said it wasn't in his budget, followed up with a phone call and SHE didn't answer. And after she sees him on TV she all of a sudden wants to go on a date? Come on...next!
Love how he leaves us on edge!!! Now I'm watching all 5 episodes in 1 night
This was soooo good. So a rule of thumb that I have learned in communicating with people is that there are some points of conversation that needs to be had verbally. I have been in a situation where a friend's text was misinterpreted. I texted back and asked to have a verbal conversation about the issue, and I never got that verbal conversation. It made me question the friendship. Texting can be ineffective at times. I feel you AO!
If a man told me he had to check is budget, instant 💦. I’ve lived on a budget for over 10 years... I almost married the man who brought me on a groupon date. Love a man that can manage his finances as well as I can. Husband material.
mara charese Lol
I wouldn’t call her pathetic but this rings pick me behavior as well it actually made me cringe. A group date is a no we are NOT in high school and man who tells me he can’t afford the restaurant tells me he can’t afford me.
je&moi-meme * hahaha, if you only knew. I can’t be with a man if he can’t budget. That’s me. You’re you. Gonna screenshot this for my friends cause it’s hilarious.
Demifan39 I prefer to travel the world over fancy clothes and fancy dinners. Sorry luv. My priorities are my priorities. Also, the Groupon date guy, I dated him for years, still good friends, and we were in our early 30s, we’re almost 40 now with very stable balance sheets so the budgeting worked. If I sound like a pick me, you’ve never met a pick me.
@@tamaracharese There is nothing wrong with budgeting and wonderful to you and that man for doing so. Every women is different and value different things. I read your post wrong and thought it said group date not groupon. Power to you. I've never been with a man that would even suggest such a date so it took me by shock. But no point in arguing when we are clearly two very different women and points in our lives.
I’m single, successful and financially responsible and pretty much ended my last relationship because my ex and I were not on the same page especially when it came to budgeting and spending. I need to be on the next one AO ✋🏽😄
I really didn't find anything wrong with that he said or how he communicated.
One of my favorite quotes, and I’m paraphrasing: “this single biggest issue with communication is the illusion that has taken place.” -( I can’t remember who said this)
Powerful quote..im stealing that
I need that interview with the woman for real!!! Communication is key 🔑
Imagine because you knew someone for a week, feeling entitled to a $500 meal. Because let's be honest him as the man would have had the sole responsibility to pay for it.
The excuses for her behavior are very telling
The ladies frustrated me on this video. 🙄🙄🙄
I love shows like this! When sensible and mature people of different sexes and races come together and talk about society and relationships rather than screaming and dissing one another. Am definitely subscribing. Could anyone suggest another channel like this?
She must be young bc u don't tell a man where to take u on a date unless he ask
But you arent going to take me to a seafood restaurant and i don't eat seafood. A man is supposed to ask her what she likes. Don't just take it upon yourself to take her wherever you want to go. It is his job to impress her.
@@samonep.7474 Exactly 🙌
@@samonep.7474 First, I'm sure they would have already discussed if there were any dietary restrictions or if there is a type of food she doesn't like. So, that's a nonissue in this case. This is about her expecting him to take her to a very expensive restaurant that is out of his budget. She wasn't accepting a $30 meal. She was expecting a $200 meal. And this is the first date! No, he doesn't have to do all of that for someone he just met. That's the kind of thing you do when you realize you really like each other and move into relationship status. Not on the first date! She showed herself for who she really was. Glad he didn't have to deal with her anymore.
Everyone is great, however I'm really taking a liking to Wesley 😊 ... He honestly seems to have the most balanced view, to me, on this and he comes off as such a good listener.
He does seem like a good listener, also well mannered.
Anthony, I watch you with Dave, Rachel, Christy, Hogan, Coleman and the new guy (ha ha just kidding Dr. D.) and you are making an incredible positive impression on the youth in our country hopefully including my kids someday. This series is another great part of that. I am not single, but as you and Dr. D. have said already, this is NOT just for singles, this can be for everyone. The group that you brought together was very well chosen and they all play extremely well off of each other. A wide variety of personalities who each offer their insightful feedback, and incredible wisdom to the table. I am only on Pt 3 (and maybe it goes down hill after 3 who knows), but I can tell you I am looking forward to finding out.
Keep up the phenomenal work that you do...
💜💜💜💜💜 I just watched all 3 episodes back to back. Love it. And I laughed at a lot of the convo. Seems like you all enjoyed yourselves!!
Nahhhhh...I like the honesty. I don't see anything wrong with the text message.
I didn't see anything wrong with it either 🤷🏿♀️
I think the words, "if we're still dating" would be interpreted as rude - you just started dating why even put that out there? I can understand that the words are just a matter of fact and not intended to be rude. Some people are just very blunt. I agree with the comments: neither side was interested enough to clear things up. She could have called earlier and he clearly was not interested in chasing her.
I had to comment... the maturity level and content is real. Good to know there are real single people out there
I love how every time the men come back with a logical point, the response is something along the lines of "i cant explain it"... in other words, you know you are wrong but you are unwilling to admit it.
Bruh, I'm ALL OVER this series! Bring it ON! 🔥🔥🔥
So excited! I’m literally like a kid in the candy store.
I love it!
Hahahahahahahaha, this is excitement
Same here
Just found your channel and I appreciate the honest conversations. Also Mandisa is solid!
Mandisa’s energy is so contagious. God bless that women. I pray God sends men like these!!
Calling without leaving a message, for me, is like not calling at all.
If you are a man on a path to marriage, you will always and must be the bigger person. You don't give, what you get.
Pick up the phone and call. If she is not available leave a message asking her to call you back at her earliest convenience.
Seems to be high expectations, but low initiative if on a path to marriage.
When someone calls you and you miss the call there is a notification. Just call back
Michael Sticha That’s too hard for some people (women).
Man f this simp logic
@@michaelsticha yep
Absolutely! And he will not as a man accept much accountability yet he’s liking every comment that implies she’s the only one who was wrong.
Personally a man with boundaries is sexy. If she wanted to go to a expensive restaurant then she needs to pay for it. I would have offered to take you out.
I saw nothing wrong with how u phased the text it's only the second date.
I need a part 4!!
My mom taught us young: "If you state you want to go somewhere, you pay for it." We shut up and never ask to go somewhere unless we're willing to pay. However...when dating...I go in with the assumption that I'm paying and graciously thank them IF they pay. I'm a "pay for alternate dates" kind of person but I do find joy in stealing the check even if I didn't plan the date. 🤷🏽♀️😎
@@bosslady1973 yep i agree with your approach too. Going into a date having the funds to pay for it but thankful he or she paid. My boyfriend and I did the alternating dates he pay I pay. My grandmother told me to never order more food than u can pay for too.
Are they your friends? They are good friends and I like that you are present and they are speaking truth !!! Thoroughly enjoyed this series with them !!! Good job
Wow I love this! Great conversation all! Looking forward to the next episode. Watching from 🇿🇦. It's awesome to see people who are honest about their singleness. I am content in my singleness, lots of thought processes to hash out, just as discussed in these episodes. Much love and appreciation for this content. Blessings!🙏🏼
Every time you be ending this with a hot topic, loved this episode. And AO my wife and I agreed are on your side.
The problem is entitlement. Look they can say all day "that his tone is blah" or that "he should have called". Here is the thing we do know. Even if she was offended...he called....why didnt she return the phone call if it was THAT big of a deal? Communication is a 2 way street. She initiated through text. He responded in text. If the conversation had been "what's your favorite color" and he says "blue" is the text the problem? No. What it is....is the women want emotional security for their perception. AO text, he also called her. She recieved both. At that point her not choosing to continue communication for clarity is on HER!!!! He even says she texts him AFTER SEEING HIM IN TV!!!! She got his message and call but didnt respond and yet she responds seeing him on TV. So that tells you all you need to know. The woman was entitled and she felt like she deserved more because she is a woman. If she really cared about getting to know him the date place could have been worked out or arranged. She is wrong and the women's perspective is wrong. At what point does the woman have to be accountable for this? How many text and phone calls does a man have to make to be satisfactory? AO did right and that's the end of it.
Accountability is a woman’s worst nightmare.
Her not being called out by the other women is telling imo...
riddickj16 You’re right about that!
KLUV Exactly what I said! Plus they like/love to be the one rejecting. They wouldn’t have had a problem if the shoe was on the other foot with the young lady saying “If we’re still dating” because women say stuff like that all the time with plenty disregard to how a man may feel......Simply because we’re men and we’re supposed to be tough. Miss me with that.......Rocks are tough but with the right amount of pressure and/or consistency they can be broken or completely eradicated.
Single men view is appreciated, I’m hooked!
I'm super late, but I just finished watching Madisa's series on dating and I was so happy to find this one. This is great content.
This series is so good!
I love this series. Shout out to Wesley who I had to privilege of studying with in the communications program at MTSU. I'm not surprised he's in a forum like this. These conversations are so important and I am hoping that as we watch the world changes such a dramatic way that this type of positive, encouraging and motivational material replaces a lot of the negativity that is brought us to where we are currently.
This whole conversation is why I hate texting and always prefer actual talking