So true. Had a frustrated girlfriend who refused to tell me what she liked or what turned her on. If i loved her, if we were meant for eachother, I would intuitively know those things. I told her if she cant talk about it, then at least give me a sign if I do something she liked. " that feels good. Do that again" seems simple. She couldn't do that either so sex became a chore, no fun, and something to avoid. It didnt last of course. Men in general are willing to do whatever you want. But women are all different. If you dont tell us, we just try what we know. Frustration can be so easily fixed with a little communication.
nice!! an honest question, do you really need to realistically use a condom only one day of the month because for the rest of the days it is highly unlikely that something happens ? my perception on this was completely different, or didn't understand it quite right, english is not my main language
No because even tho egg only lasts 12-24 hours there is a fertile window because sperm can live in the body for quite a while waiting for the egg and this fertile window can fall on different times of the month every month depending on stress or travel or nutrition or other factors... in addition condoms will prevent many stds which is very important
@@mynonleatherlife thank you for the information Victoria :) me and my girlfriend rarely use a condom, she does not want to get on the pill and I'm with her in that, we didn't know exactly why, now we do, thank you :) you can do a video about prevention methods and dangerous timing as well as how important is to use a condom when having a one night stand! tank you for your content, hope you channel grows!
@@aeneasmylonas8970 thanks Aeneas have her get the book taking charge of your fertility by Toni weschler it is an incredible book that explains so much that should have been explained to women from a young age, it’s really criminal it hasn’t been. It will teach u everything about the sympto-thermal method of natural birth control, it’s amazing
Ah! Thank you Elena. I really appreciate that coming from a woman. How did u develop ur views on female sexuality? It is not that common sadly as u know I’m sure
I can confirm number 5. I'm a dominant through and through and I still think it's hot when women initiate. Women can initiate in powerfully submissive ways, the examples you gave were great.
"Men get 0!" Yes. 0 Compliments, 0 initiation and 0 explanation/account other than unduly excited fear reflexes and neurotic self reflection. So sad, so true. It doesn't have to be. This is gold for men to understand and not to buy into. You're the ginchiest Victoria! That's a compliment lol! I hope some women can acquire the agency that you offer them and that is really, already theirs.
Great video..I wonder how many marriages and relationships have ended due to women failing to do this..amd then they blame the man for being bad at sex.....🤔
again, i am a virgin, but i think a core part of male sexuality is - put it simply - getting off on getting her off. men get really into pleasuring their partner's body and when aroused their singular goal is to make the act as mindblowingly pleasurable as possible - definitely a big reason is that the pleasure is obviously mutual. i think guys who aren't like that came from a background where the full potential of their sexuality was repressed. which is very common especially in american culture.
Bakunin that is really interesting. I have always been surprised by how much most guys love to give in bed and that is cool how u explain it is really a core part of their sexuality. So u think their repressive upbringing has a lot to do when they appear “selfish”. That makes a lot of sense cause they would kind of want to do the bare minimum, seeing excessive sexuality as sinful or wrong possibly. What do u think
@@mynonleatherlife yeah, they want sex like any other man but their internalized anti-sex attitudes and repression makes them follow the quickest path to ejaculation. they feel ashamed enjoying their own bodies, how do you expect that they'll treat their partner's?
Dead on right. I was thinking about girls I dated in high school and what their problem was. I realize in retrospect they did not know how to take care of themselves the way guys do. Sex was actually just frustrating them. I was having to help them figure everything out like I did when I was 13. Some of these girls were like 19. Ridiculous really. All this led to so many failed relationships and cheating. So much wasted time because they just weren't taking care of themselves.
No, you can get pregnant for a week during the month. Overation is the last day you can get pregnant, but sperm from the previous days can hang around. Basically, have a period then you're OK for sex for two weeks then you need to abstain or find another method until the next period. Of course, you'll be horniest on the days you're most likely to get pg - the human race didn't happen by accident!
That is incorrect. You are not ok for the next two weeks after a period at all. Ovulation can occur early before day 14 of your cycle in which case there would be a chance of getting pregnant. Many many women ovulate before day 14... and ovulation does not occur on the same day every cycle. This kind of misinformation is the cause of many unwanted pregnancies.
Well that's a revelation to me, there's only one day in the month that a woman get get pregnant, I totally didn't know that! But as a guy you would have to have a lot of trust in the woman that she's aware of this and when it is!
well it's more of a 5 day moving window since sperm can live in the body they say up to 5 days. But the egg is only available to be fertilized anywhere from 12-36 hours. You have to track it in a sophisticated manner that most women aren't aware of--fertility awareness method is one or there are wearable devices. Never take someone's word for it unless you know what method they are using and trust them because they could be using a much less accurate estimate of their fertile window and be wrong such as an app that tracks their cycles.
OK, but how does this square up with your philosophy of dom and submissive and women finding dominance attractive? Can men still be dominant when a woman initiates or explains to the man what to do? Though I am all for that, wouldn't that destroy the female fantasy you've spoken about so often?
I honestly think many of them don’t know. They’re afraid to touch em with a ten foot pole. My fantasies developed a ton once I gave myself permission to fantasize and explore them. Before that I was trying to bury them, ignore them, wouldn’t even call them a fantasy just a pesky quirk of my clearly screwed up brain. U can develop them soooooo much by simply exploring and giving yourself permission to. Sadly many girls have many many blocks and good reasons not to touch that part of themselves. I really should go in to detail about that. It’s a big part of what self help for women helps girls get in touch with. The fear and shame heaped on us for our sexuality trying to protect us is super strong from birth
What are your top ways of getting a woman's attention in the club? Especially ass shaking Atlanta where half the girls are out to dance w/ people. A group of friends is riding eachother and shaking their asses, they may or may not want to dance with a guy but they are facing inwards towards the group. If you havn't been seen dancing yet, so focused on eachother, what would you recommend getting attention like? Especially loud clubs where it can be too loud to touch the wrist or hand and introduce yourself. No eye contact yet, whats the best way to start qualifying girls clearly out and about?
@@mynonleatherlife like a test to see if they are there to meet people etc so if they are single they may want to dance and then i could pull them to quieter area. first nonverbal qualification then later ask questions. What? Shoulder tap then eyes and put my hand out?
Not sure if this is common, but can girls also not be familiar with handling a man's genitals? I've been with a girl that was inexperienced, her libido was low and barely watched adult videos and pleasured herself. We were out at a park, since we felt naughty she gave me a 'hand', she was really rough with her grip and stroke frequency. I suggested to her to be softer and focus on the glans but due to inexperience...no climax.
Thank you Victoria, I didn't know that birth control messes up a woman's sex drive. I had a vasectomy at 24 so I never think about getting a woman pregnant 😌🏆
So true. Had a frustrated girlfriend who refused to tell me what she liked or what turned her on. If i loved her, if we were meant for eachother, I would intuitively know those things. I told her if she cant talk about it, then at least give me a sign if I do something she liked. " that feels good. Do that again" seems simple. She couldn't do that either so sex became a chore, no fun, and something to avoid. It didnt last of course. Men in general are willing to do whatever you want. But women are all different. If you dont tell us, we just try what we know. Frustration can be so easily fixed with a little communication.
omg that's so frustrating!!
man fuck that lol she'll never be satisfied
Didn’t you know, you have to be a mind reader with women. Is that too much to ask. 🤪
nice!! an honest question, do you really need to realistically use a condom only one day of the month because for the rest of the days it is highly unlikely that something happens ? my perception on this was completely different, or didn't understand it quite right, english is not my main language
No because even tho egg only lasts 12-24 hours there is a fertile window because sperm can live in the body for quite a while waiting for the egg and this fertile window can fall on different times of the month every month depending on stress or travel or nutrition or other factors... in addition condoms will prevent many stds which is very important
@@mynonleatherlife thank you for the information Victoria :) me and my girlfriend rarely use a condom, she does not want to get on the pill and I'm with her in that, we didn't know exactly why, now we do, thank you :) you can do a video about prevention methods and dangerous timing as well as how important is to use a condom when having a one night stand! tank you for your content, hope you channel grows!
@@aeneasmylonas8970 thanks Aeneas have her get the book taking charge of your fertility by Toni weschler it is an incredible book that explains so much that should have been explained to women from a young age, it’s really criminal it hasn’t been. It will teach u everything about the sympto-thermal method of natural birth control, it’s amazing
@@mynonleatherlife wow thanks, i'll look online for it! take care :)
I, as a woman, love love love your healthy point of view on female sexuality. This video needs to go viral.
Ah! Thank you Elena. I really appreciate that coming from a woman. How did u develop ur views on female sexuality? It is not that common sadly as u know I’m sure
I can confirm number 5. I'm a dominant through and through and I still think it's hot when women initiate. Women can initiate in powerfully submissive ways, the examples you gave were great.
"Men get 0!" Yes. 0 Compliments, 0 initiation and 0 explanation/account other than unduly excited fear reflexes and neurotic self reflection. So sad, so true. It doesn't have to be. This is gold for men to understand and not to buy into. You're the ginchiest Victoria! That's a compliment lol! I hope some women can acquire the agency that you offer them and that is really, already theirs.
I've been married for 26 years and my wife struggles with 4 out of the 6 mistakes. I need to show her this video.
Great video..I wonder how many marriages and relationships have ended due to women failing to do this..amd then they blame the man for being bad at sex.....🤔
again, i am a virgin, but i think a core part of male sexuality is - put it simply - getting off on getting her off. men get really into pleasuring their partner's body and when aroused their singular goal is to make the act as mindblowingly pleasurable as possible - definitely a big reason is that the pleasure is obviously mutual.
i think guys who aren't like that came from a background where the full potential of their sexuality was repressed. which is very common especially in american culture.
Bakunin that is really interesting. I have always been surprised by how much most guys love to give in bed and that is cool how u explain it is really a core part of their sexuality. So u think their repressive upbringing has a lot to do when they appear “selfish”. That makes a lot of sense cause they would kind of want to do the bare minimum, seeing excessive sexuality as sinful or wrong possibly. What do u think
@@mynonleatherlife yeah, they want sex like any other man but their internalized anti-sex attitudes and repression makes them follow the quickest path to ejaculation.
they feel ashamed enjoying their own bodies, how do you expect that they'll treat their partner's?
Dead on right. I was thinking about girls I dated in high school and what their problem was. I realize in retrospect they did not know how to take care of themselves the way guys do. Sex was actually just frustrating them. I was having to help them figure everything out like I did when I was 13. Some of these girls were like 19. Ridiculous really. All this led to so many failed relationships and cheating. So much wasted time because they just weren't taking care of themselves.
so true
You are the most honest woman I have known.
It’s very attractive.
Is your bed ever made up?
never!
I am 74 and you make me smile.
From a man’s point of view this is so true . You are brilliant .
Beautiful energy
No, you can get pregnant for a week during the month. Overation is the last day you can get pregnant, but sperm from the previous days can hang around. Basically, have a period then you're OK for sex for two weeks then you need to abstain or find another method until the next period. Of course, you'll be horniest on the days you're most likely to get pg - the human race didn't happen by accident!
That is incorrect. You are not ok for the next two weeks after a period at all. Ovulation can occur early before day 14 of your cycle in which case there would be a chance of getting pregnant. Many many women ovulate before day 14... and ovulation does not occur on the same day every cycle. This kind of misinformation is the cause of many unwanted pregnancies.
@@mynonleatherlife I was really just objecting to you saying you can only get pg one day a month and pointing out it's not that simple.
Read the list. Be8ng on birth control??? Its wrong to be on birth c9ntrol?
Wow! Amazing tips!! Everyone should watch this video.
Zero dislikes on the video.
Liked it, till the last part started.
Well that's a revelation to me, there's only one day in the month that a woman get get pregnant, I totally didn't know that!
But as a guy you would have to have a lot of trust in the woman that she's aware of this and when it is!
well it's more of a 5 day moving window since sperm can live in the body they say up to 5 days. But the egg is only available to be fertilized anywhere from 12-36 hours. You have to track it in a sophisticated manner that most women aren't aware of--fertility awareness method is one or there are wearable devices. Never take someone's word for it unless you know what method they are using and trust them because they could be using a much less accurate estimate of their fertile window and be wrong such as an app that tracks their cycles.
@@mynonleatherlife Thanks for that clarification looks like the only safe thing for a guy is the condom also protects against stds.
OK, but how does this square up with your philosophy of dom and submissive and women finding dominance attractive? Can men still be dominant when a woman initiates or explains to the man what to do? Though I am all for that, wouldn't that destroy the female fantasy you've spoken about so often?
Of course...and no it does not destroy the fantasy at all. It IS a fantasy and exploring it as a fantasy doesn’t destroy the fantasy.
@@mynonleatherlife K, Sounds good. Thanks!!
Do u have a Twitter account
I do but I never post on it
Could you do a video on the natural way of “birth control?” I need this😢
check out this book taking charge of your fertility by toni weschler. amazingly eye opening.
#3 ....? How can they NOT know? They may be in denial, or afraid to admit their fantasies, but they KNOW, right?
I honestly think many of them don’t know. They’re afraid to touch em with a ten foot pole. My fantasies developed a ton once I gave myself permission to fantasize and explore them. Before that I was trying to bury them, ignore them, wouldn’t even call them a fantasy just a pesky quirk of my clearly screwed up brain. U can develop them soooooo much by simply exploring and giving yourself permission to. Sadly many girls have many many blocks and good reasons not to touch that part of themselves. I really should go in to detail about that. It’s a big part of what self help for women helps girls get in touch with. The fear and shame heaped on us for our sexuality trying to protect us is super strong from birth
What are your top ways of getting a woman's attention in the club?
Especially ass shaking Atlanta where half the girls are out to dance w/ people.
A group of friends is riding eachother and shaking their asses, they may or may not want to dance with a guy but they are facing inwards towards the group.
If you havn't been seen dancing yet, so focused on eachother, what would you recommend getting attention like?
Especially loud clubs where it can be too loud to touch the wrist or hand and introduce yourself.
No eye contact yet, whats the best way to start qualifying girls clearly out and about?
what do u mean by qualifying girls
@@mynonleatherlife like a test to see if they are there to meet people etc
so if they are single they may want to dance and then i could pull them to quieter area.
first nonverbal qualification then later ask questions.
What? Shoulder tap then eyes and put my hand out?
I make woman come everytime because I'm enormous and dominant
No
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Not sure if this is common, but can girls also not be familiar with handling a man's genitals?
I've been with a girl that was inexperienced, her libido was low and barely watched adult videos and pleasured herself.
We were out at a park, since we felt naughty she gave me a 'hand', she was really rough with her grip and stroke frequency. I suggested to her to be softer and focus on the glans but due to inexperience...no climax.
If she hasn't had a lot of sexual partners how would she know?
Thank you Victoria, I didn't know that birth control messes up a woman's sex drive. I had a vasectomy at 24 so I never think about getting a woman pregnant 😌🏆