First day of no contact here and I already feel good about myself for making the right decision. I don't know how this will end up but I'm switching my focus
You are amazing! Your voice is so soothing and all this information was very medicinal! I feel better already. Thank you so much. I will bravely continue to do no contact with the confidence & courage I needed (& you've inspired)!
Dude you’re awesome!! You are absolutely right about everything you say! You’re videos makes me feel so good and my confidence is beginning to come back and I feel more and more like that person I was before I met my ex. Thank you Rory! 😊
I like to listen you. You are real in what are you saying. I've recently broke up my girl... i beg her to come back ... and i really want her in my life.
I made the mistake of telling him he will never hear a peep from me anymore when he told me I get on his nerves and he does not want me anymore. I should have just disappeared without a word. Well its 2 weeks and he has not contacted me. So I guess its really over. I am now working on myself, planning my life, planning to travel and just enjoy my life. Great video!
I wish I would have applied this in the first place yes it's been an emotional rollercoaster and I have announced it many times until I started gaining knowledge about everything going on and being coached by random videos of thought and wisdom. After 3 months I've now got in a little bit centered and able to apply not contacting. So I hope that still doesn't ruin my chance of perhaps right my wrongs one of these days. It's been a rough process but I'm there now.
Well I love to ask you Lot's of question..but I don't have a Email Account I don't no how to create one...if you can help me with one please link up one for me..thank you
. I'm so proud of myself after all the days and weeks of crying and having this anxiety since he has been hot and cold and breadcrumbing me.we are on ldr.it's been almost three months since he broke up with me.been pathetic for many weeks then I stopped reaching out first.to my surprise he called me today and said he felt he needed to call me.he has been having a hard time dealing with his studies and said some stuff about meeting each other next time.he has some regrets but did not say exactly what. But I will try not to let my guard down. Not to give in.and he even said to leave him a message everyday..if it's not too bothersome with me.hahahha....😎 to all of you who are going through this anxiety of reaching out first...muster all your energy not to give in...it's hard as hell when you are fighting with yourself...but I'm sure you will be proud of yourself at the end. Even if it's only been a month that I haven't reached out first it's already a big step for me.make sure they will initiate first but don't abandon your plan of working on yourself.that's what I'm going to do and will continue to do.God help me.
Hi! Thanks for your videos they're great! My ex broke up with me after 1 year and a half of relationship. He said he had feelings for me but wasn't "in love". He was crying all along. We met 1 week later to talk. I pleaded and said we could try to work things out. After a 3 hours talk and some cuddles he said he would think about it during the summer because "maybe we should not waste everything" and that we'll talk in september to see how we feel. I said I would respect that but that I won't be waiting for him. Do you think no contact still works in that case ?
What if I voiced several times how final I terminate all connections with my ex whilst we were dating and didn't tell her to contact me back during the break up. She told me I could contact her but I know that was just to offer mild relief while hurting me.
Hi Rory! Is it ok for her to know or like stalking my fb post in a way that I have been dating someone else? And there was one time when I pass on her workplace and I saw her from the door going out and unexpectedly she goes back inside. What does it mean?
Hi Rory,does no contact rule work after you’ve begged and plead your ex? I’ve started no contact for nearly 3 weeks now, using this time to work on myself. We were in a long distance relationship, we were together for 4 years, I don’t think we live that far, he stays over at weekends, he doesn’t want to try as he felt it’s too much pressure. Will the no contact help my ex realise? X
When i say, "hey i dont like the situation but i do love u,give me a call when you want to work it out" am i suppose to include in that message that ill be working on myself for the time if there is noway involved that she can know am working on myself? What exactly am i suppose to say
@@s.t.5311 Thank you very much and I am sorry it is tough. Mine has said resoundingly that they never is coming back in that capacity but wants me as a friend which I said I won't accept so I told him the same thing. He broke no contact and then I broke it so we had a bit of a back and forth but he does love me as he has said s. Since it was on the 13th it is very fresh and he is still hurt and angry so I think the best thing for me is just to let him go for now and hope that his love for me allows him to open the door for us to reconciliate and help me do things right. I should have never pushed for more talking when he broke no contact but here we are, I dont want do dedicate more brain power and emotional energy to this so I will hope and focus on my things for now.
What If you failed the no contact rule in the early beginning stages as loose ends were still in need of tying up. Is there still the chance of her thinking about these stages? (We tried to go to on a date a week after and for a week after that slight communication about when loose ends will be tied up.)
I have done all this and it’s being 4 and half months I honestly don’t think he will ever come back I have agreed to break up and went into nc and still nothing at all 😔
Thank you for this great video, I'm on day 4 of NC but we own a home together and i need some paperwork from her to send the mortgage company. Does NC work after a second time? Btw, we were together for 9 years and she recently told me that she misses the stability but overall happier. I feel like she's gone forever.
Michael Stix Well, her dad is buying me out of the house, i see her once every weekend so i can see my dogs. We don't talk about the breakup, just keep it light and then i leave... not communicating with her for the week. She hasn't changed her mind and at this point, I'm ok if she does or doesn't. I got into working out and already see gains so my plan is that one day she'll see me after a few months and drop jaw because I've changed physically and emotionally. She'll have to beg me to get back together at that point.
Donnie Rowe same for me. I got my money back and start a new life. When you got the money, drop the contact to her parents also, so didnI. Stick to your plan.
What can I do if we work together? After we broke up he started daiting another co-worker. I was the one who asked him to finish the relationship. If he is in a rebound relation how should I treat him every day?. This really hurts a lot.😥
Hey , can u plz talk about long distance breakups more ? I was engaged to that guy for tow years, and things were going pretty well, suddenly he pulls away and acted distaste for 2 months or more and in the first mistake I did he broke up with me , our relationship was pretty serious and we planned our wedding , when he broke up I begged him for a second chance and he stayed and on that time he asked me for space he said he isn’t sure and that he’s going through a hard time , I couldn’t handle how rude he have been with me in the time he stayed with me “ 2 weeks or less” so I told I don’t want him anymore and I blocked him , so he blocked me back I tried to reach out in direct way , didn’t work , it’s been 2.5 months in nc I did couple of mistakes and II know that now, but it was really hurtful in the end for both of us I really love him and I don’t know what happened, i just don’t know who duped who and what should I do next?
what is when we speak about our ex narcist? come and go as they pleased?! WHEN IS BLOK; REMOVE AND DELATE SOLUTION? WHEN IS DELATE; BLOK; AND REMOVE ANSWER?
I made the mistake of telling him I wont be getting in touch anymore bec of how angry I was 😳 when he sent a text the following day in response to that msg and I didnt reply anymore. ugh!
Miss Giggles I too made the mistake of telling him I will never contact him again.. I should have just faded out. Now I'm sure he will never contact me again.
Same here. I said I thought it was best we not see each other for a while and that we have to learn not rely on each other. Now she thinks I don't want her to contact me at all. 😟 Never tell them. Just leave.
I made the mistake of telling my ex gf that I don’t want to be treated as a friend and that’s why we should not contact each other any more. She wrot me back that she will miss me but will respect my wish and not be in touch...What are the chances of getting back together?
you coach people which touches heart, words goes directly to mind.. what about play girls ? how to deal with them if we seriously love with them and she ditched me?
There are trillions of videos portraying the scenario & the psychology of "When you are dumped" but there are hardly anything regarding "When you're the dumper & how to get them back"! The main thing is that, generally everybody considers the dumper as an Antagonist... But, sometimes it may be a rational choice to break-up with someone (dump them) in order to increase our value. E.g - When they were already in a relation with someone before we came into their lives & now they find us amazing, chemistry, etc , etc but they don't leave their other partner. In such cases, if they don't leave their other partner, it might be a necessity to leave them (dump them) after having a long good, healthy relationship with them...*Only with the intention to prove our worth/value & get them back! BUT THERE ARE HARDLY ANY VIDEOS DESCRIBING SUCH SCENARIOS... It's like everytime, the dumper is bad, it's the dumper's fault, even if he is exploited* It's the most common case in the modern world - Most of the people are already in a relationship when a new partner (like us) comes in their life, and is not a Rebound!
bro that is monkey branching and if u allow urslef to get involved in that, then some introspection is needed on your part also. i mean why to get involved with someone who is already comitted ??
Good point! Because in my case I had a wonderful relationship with a girl for 6 months, but I also was in the END phase of my current relationship, but I didn't know exactly how to end it, and also communicated that Im not 100% sure about things and that must have also put a lot of pressure on this girl. However. She broke up with me because of things that shouldn't be the reason that she broke up with me. She was very in love with me and she wanted me a lot and she made many future ideas of how she and I would be together. But ultimately she changed after 5 months after 2 confrontations and then exactly at the moment we went into corona, and I think all became too much for her. She says it was all too extreme for her among other things. But yeah. It could be that she broke up with me, mostly because she didn't know if she would be nr 1 instead of nr2. Because obviously I was very much in love with her, but I also had a very long relationship with this girl I am currently with, but at the very ends of it. I for a while was not into romance anymore also and I just couldn't easily break down the relationship because I dont want to hurt her. but yeah. Im in that exact situation. And for a year I had this feeling of that my affection for my partner in my long relationship was lowering to a point where It wouldn't be good anymore. And by accident I met this girl in the most magical way, and that left a great impression on me and without ever expecting it, got into this relationship. Noone is perfect, and never would I want to make mistakes. Sometimes things go in weird ways
@@alfsen_3426 bro in long term relationship, the honeymoon phase is bound to go and that is when the testing time starts. your relationship with new person is also like that only, you just are in the infatuation phase. in my view, it is not justified to be romantically involved with someone while you are in a comittment. i am sorry but this is the truth.
Loving the videos Rory and I have sent you an email regarding my situation (the Thai one ? )..My take on no contact is to improve yourself and move forwards yes ?. I think you say somewhere would we want someone back that never contacted us after a break up, my question is this, what if they're stubborn the same as me and are thinking the same ?. So then we're both losers ?.
Mark McGrath I challenge the idea that your ex is SO stubborn that they would refuse to contact you even if they wanted you back desperately. You must judge a person by what they do, not what they say.
What I'm trying to say is that we're both stubborn. No way will I contact her even though her birthday is coming up and as she is stubborn too there's no way she will contact me. I totally agree that what is done shows more than what is said so both of us being totally inflexible is surely going to kill any chance of us talking again ? I really wish I could get a Skype session with you but for the next few weeks money is tight.
Hello. What if I already contacted him a few times the first week, but as of yesterday I’m starting the no contact rule. Will it still work the same or did I mess it up?
What if you can t avoid seeing the person because of shared activities. we re part of the same league and will need to be at the same place twice a week? we re not in the same team, though. so i can avoid talking but not seeing
What if she dumped me, initiated no contact and started dating a new guy (probably a rebound, because it happened after 3 weeks). Should I be in no contact? I believe yes, but I just wonder what is your point of view when the person who dumped goes with the no contact. Just wanted to add that we had contact for 3 weeks after the break up but it ended when she went on a date with the new guy and my emotions went wild. I spammed her with lots of stuff and so she had enough and went no contact. 2,5 month passed since she initiated it. Want to read your opinion, cheers! ;)
Ok got it... I have failed at no contact a few times by responding back to his texts. So I have started my no contact officially 2 days ago will it still work?
Hi Bob, gonna copy and paste the email reply I sent. ------- Hi Bob, I see you've posted a comment on my channel. Let me break down the steps. 1. Go to -link hidden- 2. Select a new time that works for you. --- If you aren't able to use the app for some reason: 1.. Email me and let me know what time works for you today. 2. I will manually put your appointment in. Thanks! -R
My situation is different and my anxiety is killing me. Everyone tell me he's not good for me but I feel like he's different and last week I told him I might be pregnant and he said I should make sure I really am but he hasn't texted me since then... he might just be busy? Idk it's driving me crazy. I want to walk away but I don't want to be the bad person. Also I know he's flirting with other girls and I just don't see myself with him in the future.. how could I need someone I don't even want??
I said if they ever change their mind I have suggestions to make but if they want to be alone I will understand. And maybe we will fix in the future. That's what I said.😁 after 24 days when they dumped me. I fucked up didn't I. It's too late to start no contact. Isn't it
I'm not going to judge all his work - I think he is honest enough to get you interested in his coaching services. Be careful about his advice that says to reach out after several months because "What do you have to lose?" - Bad idea! Other than that he's probably fine. Thank you for watching!
Ok guys sooo Rory isn’t lying ok. I promise you. On my grandparents grave he’s not. My ex literally just reached out to me during no contact. We both like country music and she said remember this song. They will reach out guys I promise you lol 😂
I will admit I am it ready to respond. Most of you won’t be because in a month Rory is right. It’s all about time. You simply say hey great to hear from you how you doing? When then say good. Don’t ask them out yet just say I would like to see you but I am just not ready yet. Good to hear from you. If you go in to soon before you overcome your anxiety it will kill any chance you have
Hello Rory, where do I begin? Well its been 2 months since the breakup. Its a long distant breakup...She lives in Orlando and I live in Miami. 3HRS on turnpike. LOL.. So we've been seeing each other since 2009 - 2010 but it got real serious in December of 2016 where we decided to be exclusive to one another. I would go up often to see her in Orlando. I thought things were going pretty good but I think she felt that I didn't appreciate her or the relationship for that matter. I believe she wanted more of a commitment from me rather than the same old song and dance. Another important topic to bring up is that I've known this girl all my life. We grew up together and we had feelings for each other for quite some time but I never acted on them til later in life. She is 50 and I'm 51....We both have children from previous relationships but that wasn't an issue. It sucks because we were good friends before we became lovers and that dynamic has me a little perplexed especially when it says in one your videos not to be friends with an ex?? I did reach out to her a few weeks back and told her I was going to send her a book to read...When she received the book she reached out to me and told me she got it. I truly see why No Contact is so essential. I haven't reach out to her after that at all. So what do you think about my situation?? I really love this girl but I don't want to be just a friend either....I think about the breakup often in my head....wishing I could have done something to prevent it.
What if I told her that I wouldn't contact her? But I said that if she changes her mind, she can contact me. Does this mean that in this case no contact is useless?
Rory, my man, how do you succeed in No Contact with your wife who “wants out” who is always wanting to FaceTime your two year old, and by law you have to?
Ian Stuefen Have only the most minimal contact with her that is necessary to fulfill your duties as required by the allocation ordered by the court (I’m assuming you’ve got an allocation in place since you said “by law”).
The Love Chat GOOD!! This Friday will be one month of N.C. for me. (Yes I know it’s permanent). I hope he is starting to feel the void. Now that is not to say that feeling it would cause him to reach out, but a girl can hope.
So what if you were the one that broke up with her and several months later, started to realize what you had and wanted to try again but found out she started dating someone else 2 months later and have been dating for 5 months now.
@@sb822 I absolutely adore his voice. There's something so unique about it. But yes, as soon as I heard it, it took me back The Sandlot Kids Movie which I LOVE 😍
Hi rory!!! You inspired me I love the way u talk...I hope u can give me some advice im a lesbian for almost 7yrs but suddenly she decided to break up with me for the reason that she dont love me and she's not happy of our relationship that was happened last december and now shes start contacting me again...but still she dont like to commit...what shoul I do??? Thank you!!😘
Depends on what you want from it! If you're interested in reconciliation I would try to set a date the next time she reaches out. Whatever you do- don't chase her. She must come to you every time! If she says no to a date, then you simply say "No problem, give me a call if you change your mind"
I ended up slipping up on April 8th. The longest NC I had been in since the break up on Jan 9th. Simply said “hope you have been doing well.” I got no response and was blocked.
I dont understand why i shouldnt ignore. If they are contantly contacting. Do i just keep responding? Are we just being friends? Is there something i should be doing in these responses?
When they reach out, you attempt to set a date to hang out! Never ignore someone. If they won't set a date to hang out (and hook up!) then you need to tell them to stop contacting you unless they want to work it out!
Isnt the whole point of no contact is to move on for people who have been dumped? I wouldn't be able to contact my ex since she "love" another guy and told me to never contact her. Plus she swear to call the cop and tell her parents. No I didn't not cry or begged to her. What I did was refuse to believe that she is calling it off because she once did that when she is angry with me and told me she doesn't mean it and that she love me and told me to believe her love. Plus she is on her 3 month trip so I won't be able to contact her at all plus she block me and looked happier so....yeah
Why do you recommend to say "give me a call if you change your mind"? Is not stupid to let them know that instead of moving forward we will be waiting for them to change their mind and if you they not do, then, goodbye forever?
Does this apply if you begged for a couple months after? A few days ago I told him I was gonna move on once and for all at the end and asked him not to reply back to me as there is no space for conversation right now i didn't want to have the risk of replying again... A lot has happened inbetween but he told me he was never coming back a couple weeks before i told him I was gonna move on once and for all... we had been together for 8 months, he ended the relationship cause I gave my number to a friend of a friend (a guy) at the dinner party me and my ex were both at. He ended it in Feb, then we got back together after a few days and then he ended it again at the end of April...
To some degree I have to challenge this notion of infinite NC. And the reason is that there are two main ways how one behaves in a relationship, which are detrimental to it. a) People are too needy and clingy - this is the problem for majority of people b) People are too distant. In case of a) I do totally agree that NC should last for a lifetime. However in case b) I would disagree as the problem was not chasing and not giving space but the opposite and in these cases NC of 1 month or so probably works just fine. I might be wrong ofc. but I think one should make this distinction as you are in a very different starting point to power for example if you were too cold and you were the one being chased than roles reversed. My ex left me because I was too cold and she was chasing me a lot but finally got tired of it and left me. I did no contact for 7 weeks and contacted her. She was very happy to hear of me and very eager to meet me. I could have kept NC forever but at least to her words she would have not contacted me either even if she wanted to. We met and had a great time and would have probably never had met or had a new opportunity to try again if I had not contacted her.
So even if you were broken up with, it’s ok to break no contact after some certain time passed and you saying it’s possible to have a second chance to get back together? Your ex continued to chase and contact you after you dumped her? And you both knew you wanted to be together? It’s been 6 months and haven’t heard from my guy. Should I contact him or stay in NC until he reaches out?
What if you do tell them you are no longer going to contact them? As in like "I know you want nothing to do with me so I will leave you alone and never contact you again. The only way I would ever wan to talk to you is if you ever want to work with me to build a future with me again"
Its difficult but hang it tight! It will take some time but each day will feel better. You're so brave for continuing indefinite nc. My breakup was fairly recent but I ended up contacting him 2-3 times anyway. Takes every cell in your body to stop.
@@raya-1 Yes, it's really hard but I was not a bad boyfriend to her, she left me because of issues she had that she thought I could fix and I was not able to do that so she left me. I have no guilt but I do feel very sad because I thought we had something great. We could have worked things out but as much as it hurts me, I cannot be chasing after somebody who decided to dump me when I was nothing but good to her. If I was a crappy person, I would not be in so much pain and I would take all of this as a "this is what you get for being that way to her" but I was not a bad boyfriend so this is why this hurts so much still. The people who threw us away like trash do not deserve us contacting them. If they want us back, they will come back and work hard to make it up to us for all the pain they caused. If they don't come back, we shouldn't reach out to them because we are worth more than how they see us. Our worth is not determined by them.
@@jessiepalermo7234 Perfectly said, I couldn't agree more. You're looking in the right direction. And yes, she cannot expect you or anybody else to fix issues that she had , I don't think that's possible. We all need to fight our own demons. You also don't deserve the guilt that comes from being a crappy partner. Trust me, it sucks big time. You have a clear conscience and you're moving ahead with it. Some people just don't have the energy or resilience to work things out , I suppose. While some of us go for the long haul, we are met with a tsunami and we live through it and hold up our end of the deal. We make a "forever" bond, the ones that leave didn't quite had that
Hmmm... what did I do before hooking up with my ex (separated wife)? Well... I was a 17-20-year-old Marine, serving in a Rifle Platoon (1969 thru 1971 - WestPac - SE Asia - RVN; we married in 8/69). I had plenty of "interests" back then. Most of which had to do with survival. Maybe I could find an old M-16 and go out and get a little shooting in. Or find some obstacles courses to run (while a Gunny DI is shoving his boot up my a$$). Oh yeah, then after my tour with the Marines, I went straight into Law Enforcement for 30 years (17 in SWAT)... Oh yeah, lots of interests that I could "return to" from those scenarios (maybe I could be the NEW "Punisher"). This one size fits all approach (especially combined with the fact that all of your Dumpees are like 20-30 years old) just doesn't cut it for the rest of us "old-timers".
Believe it or not the majority of my clients are 40+ years old. Attraction is attraction & healthy communication is key to a successful relationship! Thank you for your service!
@@TheLoveChat I can believe that the most of your CLIENTS are indeed +40 (though wonder how many are +65 - and who have been MARRIED +40)... but it is just the "tone" or maybe "attitude" of your presentation seems to be geared towards a much younger crowd. And, meanwhile... I am still trying to get my ex (separated) wife back.
@@trixinciong9631 oh I don't know even though she's not wearing that she might still have it women are women are emotional she might keep it for sentimental value
There are trillions of videos portraying the scenario & tge psychology of "When you are dumped" but there are hardly anything regarding "When you're the dumper & how to get them back"! The main thing is that, generally everybody considers the dumper as an Antagonist... But, sometimes it may be a rational choice to break-up with someone (dump them) in order to increase our value. E.g - When they were already in a relation with someone before we came into their lives & now they find us amazing, chemistry, etc , etc but they don't leave their other partner. In such cases, if they don't leave their other partner, it might be a necessity to leave them (dump them) after having a long good, healthy relationship with them...*Only with the intention to prove our worth/value & get them back! BUT THERE ARE HARDLY ANY VIDEOS DESCRIBING SUCH SCENARIOS... It's like everytime, the dumper is bad, it's the dumper's fault, even if he is exploited* It's the most common case in the modern world - Most of the people are already in a relationship when a new partner (like us) comes in their life, and is not a Rebound!
Hello I have seen your content and I like it a lot I know this is going to get buried most likely and you're never going to see it but I have a question I am not sure if it already have covered this topic so if you have just tell me where to covered it do you know any way to see you are in a toxic relationship ? What are some key signs if you know some I feel like a lot of the people who have subscribed to you and are a part of your fan base I really enjoy if you covered this topic this is just my opinion take it or leave it it could be a good video idea can you don't have to say that I have the idea you don't have to do the video today or tomorrow this week or this month I have pieniny of time to wait this is your life do whatever you want what is it could possibly be your next video that would be great for me remember this is just my opinion you don't have to actually do it unless you don't want to well this is getting long got to go bye
Hi Rory, Need help on my situation. Was with my ex gf for 4.5 yrs, we were very happy, compatible, she was head over heels in love with me from true heart. Last April 2017 her parents introduced her some rich guys and she broke up with me but kept in touch till this Jan 2018, but she said she was not with anyone of them (not sure if she was lying to me or saying the truth). So mid of 15th Jan 2018, I told her that we been going so good why not get back together and then she changed instantly, saying she wants to live a luxury and wealthy life and blocked me on all means of communication and i didnt reach out since then but just last week 15th Feb she unblocked me everywhere but didnt reach out to me neither did i. Just today 25th Feb, 2018, I saw yesterday she went to her friends birthday party and her friends posted some pics on Instagram (I think my ex is not aware of this) and i saw she was hugging and holding this guy's hand. So she is with someone but why unblocked me on everywhere and not contacting me. Looks like she wants a super rich guy to provide her a luxury life... What shall i do?
Hi Josh, Okay i will try to email him, thx so much. But my story is really hard to win her back as my ex gf wants a rich guy so that she can live a luxury live she said and yesterday i found out on IG a pic of her, where the guy is hugging her from behind and she is holding his hand. Looks like my ex gf is gone for good now.
Hi Josh, You got your ex back and how? You used the spell from Dr.Philip? This spell is kind of a black magic? I used the email you gave me above, is there any way to contact you as i wanted to ask about that Dr. Philip?
you are so spot on. I was the one who had to pull the plug 5 weeks ago on my relationship. Its like stabbing my own heart as I love him. Had to do it cos he wasn't putting in effort. i'm not contacting him even though I want him. I know if i do make contact then this will all be for nothing. But my question is, in this instance where I was the one who did the breaking up wouldn't they be in no contact with me? How will we get over this?
The Love Chat I feel like I’m in the same situation. I broke up w him 3 months ago & rejected his attempts to get back with me because he never tried fixing his problems so I didn’t get back with him but still remained in contact on & off for those 3 months we were separated. Last time I saw him was a month ago & we had our biggest fight & i sent a goodbye & wish u luck text after that day& it’s been no contact since then. He never replied to that text or ever contacted me. What do I do? Help plz.
hi coach your words goes directly to mind, please advise what if play girl who ditched me for someone else.. I really love her honestly, how to deal with her? should I go back to her messaging?
8:07 Oh gods. I'm happy with me now, but that thought was the fastest I've ever felt so repulsed. Too much growth left bud, we're just getting started.
No contact really works. Thank you very much for this channel that helped me during my darkest times
395 days no contact and omg I don't want him back at all! Rory you saved me and I just put a mate onto you..thanks again 🙌 xx
Hope you’re no longer counting
First day of no contact here and I already feel good about myself for making the right decision. I don't know how this will end up but I'm switching my focus
believe me with time ur feelings change and u dnt want dem back.....coz it makes u realise dey are not wat they showed u
You are amazing! Your voice is so soothing and all this information was very medicinal! I feel better already. Thank you so much. I will bravely continue to do no contact with the confidence & courage I needed (& you've inspired)!
Dude you’re awesome!! You are absolutely right about everything you say! You’re videos makes me feel so good and my confidence is beginning to come back and I feel more and more like that person I was before I met my ex. Thank you Rory! 😊
your voice is awesome
Thank you Rory. I always remember that.. do not contact them
I like to listen you. You are real in what are you saying. I've recently broke up my girl... i beg her to come back ... and i really want her in my life.
How to let go if your ex humiliated you. Humiliation leaves a permanent scar on mind. How to overcome this?
I made the mistake of telling him he will never hear a peep from me anymore when he told me I get on his nerves and he does not want me anymore. I should have just disappeared without a word. Well its 2 weeks and he has not contacted me. So I guess its really over. I am now working on myself, planning my life, planning to travel and just enjoy my life.
Great video!
I wish I would have applied this in the first place yes it's been an emotional rollercoaster and I have announced it many times until I started gaining knowledge about everything going on and being coached by random videos of thought and wisdom. After 3 months I've now got in a little bit centered and able to apply not contacting. So I hope that still doesn't ruin my chance of perhaps right my wrongs one of these days. It's been a rough process but I'm there now.
Did they come around?
You are the winner, true thing's love and respect bro.
Well I love to ask you Lot's of question..but I don't have a Email Account I don't no how to create one...if you can help me with one please link up one for me..thank you
If you use RUclips that means you already have a Gmail account. Go to Gmail.com and log in using the same username/password from youtube.
You are an amazing coach ! Love your advices 💌👍👍very thankful for them !
I want a girl who doesn’t even think about leaving me.
What happens though if you do tell them that you are not going to contact them? Is that the kiss of death? Is all the power lost then?
. I'm so proud of myself after all the days and weeks of crying and having this anxiety since he has been hot and cold and breadcrumbing me.we are on ldr.it's been almost three months since he broke up with me.been pathetic for many weeks then I stopped reaching out first.to my surprise he called me today and said he felt he needed to call me.he has been having a hard time dealing with his studies and said some stuff about meeting each other next time.he has some regrets but did not say exactly what. But I will try not to let my guard down. Not to give in.and he even said to leave him a message everyday..if it's not too bothersome with me.hahahha....😎
to all of you who are going through this anxiety of reaching out first...muster all your energy not to give in...it's hard as hell when you are fighting with yourself...but I'm sure you will be proud of yourself at the end. Even if it's only been a month that I haven't reached out first it's already a big step for me.make sure they will initiate first but don't abandon your plan of working on yourself.that's what I'm going to do and will continue to do.God help me.
Hi! Thanks for your videos they're great!
My ex broke up with me after 1 year and a half of relationship. He said he had feelings for me but wasn't "in love". He was crying all along. We met 1 week later to talk. I pleaded and said we could try to work things out. After a 3 hours talk and some cuddles he said he would think about it during the summer because "maybe we should not waste everything" and that we'll talk in september to see how we feel. I said I would respect that but that I won't be waiting for him. Do you think no contact still works in that case ?
i believe it will work. Indefinite NC not 30 day BS. Create separation anxiety
Update?
Before i was in a relationship i was depressed 24/7 doing drugs whenever and wherever I could get them. I didnt enjoy anything before I met her
Thank you for your advices! I really appreciated your works! ♥️
What if I voiced several times how final I terminate all connections with my ex whilst we were dating and didn't tell her to contact me back during the break up. She told me I could contact her but I know that was just to offer mild relief while hurting me.
Hi Rory! Is it ok for her to know or like stalking my fb post in a way that I have been dating someone else? And there was one time when I pass on her workplace and I saw her from the door going out and unexpectedly she goes back inside. What does it mean?
Hi Rory,does no contact rule work after you’ve begged and plead your ex? I’ve started no contact for nearly 3 weeks now, using this time to work on myself. We were in a long distance relationship, we were together for 4 years, I don’t think we live that far, he stays over at weekends, he doesn’t want to try as he felt it’s too much pressure. Will the no contact help my ex realise? X
the best video ever... Love from Animesh
You are absolutely right.
When i say, "hey i dont like the situation but i do love u,give me a call when you want to work it out" am i suppose to include in that message that ill be working on myself for the time if there is noway involved that she can know am working on myself? What exactly am i suppose to say
I was broken up with 30 mins ago… my bday is april 14th… 40 mins from now
@@s.t.5311 Thank you very much and I am sorry it is tough. Mine has said resoundingly that they never is coming back in that capacity but wants me as a friend which I said I won't accept so I told him the same thing. He broke no contact and then I broke it so we had a bit of a back and forth but he does love me as he has said s. Since it was on the 13th it is very fresh and he is still hurt and angry so I think the best thing for me is just to let him go for now and hope that his love for me allows him to open the door for us to reconciliate and help me do things right. I should have never pushed for more talking when he broke no contact but here we are, I dont want do dedicate more brain power and emotional energy to this so I will hope and focus on my things for now.
What If you failed the no contact rule in the early beginning stages as loose ends were still in need of tying up. Is there still the chance of her thinking about these stages? (We tried to go to on a date a week after and for a week after that slight communication about when loose ends will be tied up.)
What ended up happening?
I have done all this and it’s being 4 and half months I honestly don’t think he will ever come back I have agreed to break up and went into nc and still nothing at all 😔
Thank you for this great video, I'm on day 4 of NC but we own a home together and i need some paperwork from her to send the mortgage company. Does NC work after a second time? Btw, we were together for 9 years and she recently told me that she misses the stability but overall happier. I feel like she's gone forever.
Donnie Rowe hey. Any update?
Michael Stix Well, her dad is buying me out of the house, i see her once every weekend so i can see my dogs. We don't talk about the breakup, just keep it light and then i leave... not communicating with her for the week. She hasn't changed her mind and at this point, I'm ok if she does or doesn't. I got into working out and already see gains so my plan is that one day she'll see me after a few months and drop jaw because I've changed physically and emotionally. She'll have to beg me to get back together at that point.
Donnie Rowe same for me. I got my money back and start a new life. When you got the money, drop the contact to her parents also, so didnI. Stick to your plan.
Where is the video number one?
What can I do if we work together?
After we broke up he started daiting another co-worker. I was the one who asked him to finish the relationship. If he is in a rebound relation how should I treat him every day?. This really hurts a lot.😥
Classic Corey Wayne. It works!
Hey , can u plz talk about long distance breakups more ? I was engaged to that guy for tow years, and things were going pretty well, suddenly he pulls away and acted distaste for 2 months or more and in the first mistake I did he broke up with me , our relationship was pretty serious and we planned our wedding , when he broke up I begged him for a second chance and he stayed and on that time he asked me for space he said he isn’t sure and that he’s going through a hard time , I couldn’t handle how rude he have been with me in the time he stayed with me “ 2 weeks or less” so I told I don’t want him anymore and I blocked him , so he blocked me back I tried to reach out in direct way , didn’t work , it’s been 2.5 months in nc I did couple of mistakes and II know that now, but it was really hurtful in the end for both of us I really love him and I don’t know what happened, i just don’t know who duped who and what should I do next?
what is when we speak about our ex narcist? come and go as they pleased?! WHEN IS BLOK; REMOVE AND DELATE SOLUTION?
WHEN IS DELATE; BLOK; AND REMOVE ANSWER?
I made the mistake of telling him I wont be getting in touch anymore bec of how angry I was 😳 when he sent a text the following day in response to that msg and I didnt reply anymore. ugh!
Miss Giggles I too made the mistake of telling him I will never contact him again.. I should have just faded out. Now I'm sure he will never contact me again.
Same here. I said I thought it was best we not see each other for a while and that we have to learn not rely on each other. Now she thinks I don't want her to contact me at all. 😟 Never tell them. Just leave.
I made the mistake of telling my ex gf that I don’t want to be treated as a friend and that’s why we should not contact each other any more. She wrot me back that she will miss me but will respect my wish and not be in touch...What are the chances of getting back together?
you coach people which touches heart, words goes directly to mind.. what about play girls ? how to deal with them if we seriously love with them and she ditched me?
Thank you, I'm very grateful for people like you willing to help. Thanks for the very useful advice.
There are trillions of videos portraying the scenario & the psychology of "When you are dumped" but there are hardly anything regarding "When you're the dumper & how to get them back"!
The main thing is that, generally everybody considers the dumper as an Antagonist... But, sometimes it may be a rational choice to break-up with someone (dump them) in order to increase our value. E.g - When they were already in a relation with someone before we came into their lives & now they find us amazing, chemistry, etc , etc but they don't leave their other partner. In such cases, if they don't leave their other partner, it might be a necessity to leave them (dump them) after having a long good, healthy relationship with them...*Only with the intention to prove our worth/value & get them back!
BUT THERE ARE HARDLY ANY VIDEOS DESCRIBING SUCH SCENARIOS... It's like everytime, the dumper is bad, it's the dumper's fault, even if he is exploited*
It's the most common case in the modern world - Most of the people are already in a relationship when a new partner (like us) comes in their life, and is not a Rebound!
bro that is monkey branching and if u allow urslef to get involved in that, then some introspection is needed on your part also. i mean why to get involved with someone who is already comitted ??
Good point! Because in my case I had a wonderful relationship with a girl for 6 months, but I also was in the END phase of my current relationship, but I didn't know exactly how to end it, and also communicated that Im not 100% sure about things and that must have also put a lot of pressure on this girl. However. She broke up with me because of things that shouldn't be the reason that she broke up with me. She was very in love with me and she wanted me a lot and she made many future ideas of how she and I would be together. But ultimately she changed after 5 months after 2 confrontations and then exactly at the moment we went into corona, and I think all became too much for her. She says it was all too extreme for her among other things. But yeah. It could be that she broke up with me, mostly because she didn't know if she would be nr 1 instead of nr2. Because obviously I was very much in love with her, but I also had a very long relationship with this girl I am currently with, but at the very ends of it. I for a while was not into romance anymore also and I just couldn't easily break down the relationship because I dont want to hurt her. but yeah. Im in that exact situation. And for a year I had this feeling of that my affection for my partner in my long relationship was lowering to a point where It wouldn't be good anymore. And by accident I met this girl in the most magical way, and that left a great impression on me and without ever expecting it, got into this relationship. Noone is perfect, and never would I want to make mistakes. Sometimes things go in weird ways
@@alfsen_3426 bro in long term relationship, the honeymoon phase is bound to go and that is when the testing time starts.
your relationship with new person is also like that only, you just are in the infatuation phase.
in my view, it is not justified to be romantically involved with someone while you are in a comittment. i am sorry but this is the truth.
Loving the videos Rory and I have sent you an email regarding my situation (the Thai one ? )..My take on no contact is to improve yourself and move forwards yes ?. I think you say somewhere would we want someone back that never contacted us after a break up, my question is this, what if they're stubborn the same as me and are thinking the same ?. So then we're both losers ?.
Mark McGrath I challenge the idea that your ex is SO stubborn that they would refuse to contact you even if they wanted you back desperately. You must judge a person by what they do, not what they say.
What I'm trying to say is that we're both stubborn. No way will I contact her even though her birthday is coming up and as she is stubborn too there's no way she will contact me. I totally agree that what is done shows more than what is said so both of us being totally inflexible is surely going to kill any chance of us talking again ? I really wish I could get a Skype session with you but for the next few weeks money is tight.
Thank you this video really helped me
This is gangsta
Hello. What if I already contacted him a few times the first week, but as of yesterday I’m starting the no contact rule. Will it still work the same or did I mess it up?
We broke up last about a week ago
Any update ?
What if you can t avoid seeing the person because of shared activities. we re part of the same league and will need to be at the same place twice a week? we re not in the same team, though. so i can avoid talking but not seeing
What if she dumped me, initiated no contact and started dating a new guy (probably a rebound, because it happened after 3 weeks). Should I be in no contact? I believe yes, but I just wonder what is your point of view when the person who dumped goes with the no contact.
Just wanted to add that we had contact for 3 weeks after the break up but it ended when she went on a date with the new guy and my emotions went wild. I spammed her with lots of stuff and so she had enough and went no contact. 2,5 month passed since she initiated it. Want to read your opinion, cheers! ;)
pitery I would remain in strict no contact and focus on yourself! YOU COME FIRST!
Tanks! I'm gonna stick with NC and focus on myself and my happiness!
I hate wondering how this works in my long distance relationship... 3 weeks no contact now.
Same problem. I'm in 2 weeks NC now. How's yours? How long you've been together?
Ok got it... I have failed at no contact a few times by responding back to his texts. So I have started my no contact officially 2 days ago will it still work?
Christine Negron update?
What if you said that you wouldn’t speak to them because it’d be too hard? Does that ruin everything? Does this now count then?
not able to get contact paid for coaching was canceled now left with rescheduling myself ....caused more problems and I paid
Hi Bob, gonna copy and paste the email reply I sent.
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Hi Bob,
I see you've posted a comment on my channel. Let me break down the steps.
1. Go to -link hidden-
2. Select a new time that works for you.
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If you aren't able to use the app for some reason:
1.. Email me and let me know what time works for you today.
2. I will manually put your appointment in.
Thanks!
-R
My situation is different and my anxiety is killing me. Everyone tell me he's not good for me but I feel like he's different and last week I told him I might be pregnant and he said I should make sure I really am but he hasn't texted me since then... he might just be busy? Idk it's driving me crazy. I want to walk away but I don't want to be the bad person. Also I know he's flirting with other girls and I just don't see myself with him in the future.. how could I need someone I don't even want??
I said if they ever change their mind I have suggestions to make but if they want to be alone I will understand. And maybe we will fix in the future.
That's what I said.😁 after 24 days when they dumped me.
I fucked up didn't I.
It's too late to start no contact. Isn't it
Anybody who sees this please lemme know what they thinking
I have been watching coach Lee alot, is he honest or do u think hes a fake like most others?
I'm not going to judge all his work - I think he is honest enough to get you interested in his coaching services. Be careful about his advice that says to reach out after several months because "What do you have to lose?" - Bad idea!
Other than that he's probably fine.
Thank you for watching!
What if we begged and pleaded... What next? And even after sending a slate message what if I said or begged and pleaded again?
what happens if you told your ex you werent going to contact?
But what if I dumped him? I am the dumper but I actually asked him to reconcile 2 weeks later and he said no he didn't want to 😞
Christine Negron he did right thing
How can you apply no contact when you have kids with her and also she keeps contacting me but I know I'm not ready what can I do?
Ok guys sooo Rory isn’t lying ok. I promise you. On my grandparents grave he’s not. My ex literally just reached out to me during no contact. We both like country music and she said remember this song. They will reach out guys I promise you lol 😂
I will admit I am it ready to respond. Most of you won’t be because in a month Rory is right. It’s all about time. You simply say hey great to hear from you how you doing? When then say good. Don’t ask them out yet just say I would like to see you but I am just not ready yet. Good to hear from you. If you go in to soon before you overcome your anxiety it will kill any chance you have
Hello Rory, where do I begin? Well its been 2 months since the breakup. Its a long distant breakup...She lives in Orlando and I live in Miami. 3HRS on turnpike. LOL.. So we've been seeing each other since 2009 - 2010 but it got real serious in December of 2016 where we decided to be exclusive to one another. I would go up often to see her in Orlando. I thought things were going pretty good but I think she felt that I didn't appreciate her or the relationship for that matter. I believe she wanted more of a commitment from me rather than the same old song and dance. Another important topic to bring up is that I've known this girl all my life. We grew up together and we had feelings for each other for quite some time but I never acted on them til later in life. She is 50 and I'm 51....We both have children from previous relationships but that wasn't an issue. It sucks because we were good friends before we became lovers and that dynamic has me a little perplexed especially when it says in one your videos not to be friends with an ex?? I did reach out to her a few weeks back and told her I was going to send her a book to read...When she received the book she reached out to me and told me she got it. I truly see why No Contact is so essential. I haven't reach out to her after that at all. So what do you think about my situation?? I really love this girl but I don't want to be just a friend either....I think about the breakup often in my head....wishing I could have done something to prevent it.
Brother my break up had very bad.. Not in this decent way..
What if I told her that I wouldn't contact her? But I said that if she changes her mind, she can contact me. Does this mean that in this case no contact is useless?
Rory what if you beg and plead after the breakup for a few days then apply no contact?
I’ve been in no contact 5 weeks
Rory, my man, how do you succeed in No Contact with your wife who “wants out” who is always wanting to FaceTime your two year old, and by law you have to?
Ian Stuefen Have only the most minimal contact with her that is necessary to fulfill your duties as required by the allocation ordered by the court (I’m assuming you’ve got an allocation in place since you said “by law”).
I noted that this is Video #2. When I check your list of video clips, the is no video #1 ????? What happened?
The file for video #1 was corrupted and so I remade it as video 100!
@@TheLoveChat Okay... got it. Will have to look it up... been trying to play them in order)
Do you think that men and women react the same way to no contact?
Yep! I get the same questions all the time from all genders/sexual preferences/identities/etc
The Love Chat GOOD!! This Friday will be one month of N.C. for me. (Yes I know it’s permanent). I hope he is starting to feel the void.
Now that is not to say that feeling it would cause him to reach out, but a girl can hope.
So what if you were the one that broke up with her and several months later, started to realize what you had and wanted to try again but found out she started dating someone else 2 months later and have been dating for 5 months now.
U fucked up then
Your voice sounds like the Narrator from the Movie The Sandlot Kids 😍😍😍😍
Mandy J.....Perfect description of his voice. It only hit me once I read your words. Spot on. His voice quality is pretty outstanding.
@@sb822 I absolutely adore his voice. There's something so unique about it. But yes, as soon as I heard it, it took me back The Sandlot Kids Movie which I LOVE 😍
Hi rory!!! You inspired me I love the way u talk...I hope u can give me some advice im a lesbian for almost 7yrs but suddenly she decided to break up with me for the reason that she dont love me and she's not happy of our relationship that was happened last december and now shes start contacting me again...but still she dont like to commit...what shoul I do??? Thank you!!😘
Depends on what you want from it! If you're interested in reconciliation I would try to set a date the next time she reaches out. Whatever you do- don't chase her. She must come to you every time! If she says no to a date, then you simply say "No problem, give me a call if you change your mind"
Thank you very much😘 yes only last day I ask her to hang out and have some coffee but she didn't reply..
Hi rory, will no contact work the second time after having on and off communication for couple of months?
That’s what I’m wondering. Been in true NC since Mar 8th
@@derrick1916-i7d I hope Rory will include this topic on his next video.
@@rrrrrrraaaa9 you think so?
Ravi Thanki thanks... but i’m doing this for the third time, hopefully it will still work 😂
I ended up slipping up on April 8th. The longest NC I had been in since the break up on Jan 9th. Simply said “hope you have been doing well.” I got no response and was blocked.
If I just begged and pleaded her in about 1 month, then I went no contact. Do I still have a chance to get her back after I messed things up?
How did this workout?
@@IamCoachCourt ex didn't respond to me
Hi, its a LDR she dump me for 3 months now. will this work on exes which have experience in break off.
Al mori Trust that if you had a healthy relationship that at some point your ex will be thinking about you enough to reach out!
Starting from here 😬
I dont understand why i shouldnt ignore. If they are contantly contacting. Do i just keep responding? Are we just being friends? Is there something i should be doing in these responses?
When they reach out, you attempt to set a date to hang out! Never ignore someone. If they won't set a date to hang out (and hook up!) then you need to tell them to stop contacting you unless they want to work it out!
Okay that makes sense!!! Thanks.
Isnt the whole point of no contact is to move on for people who have been dumped? I wouldn't be able to contact my ex since she "love" another guy and told me to never contact her. Plus she swear to call the cop and tell her parents. No I didn't not cry or begged to her. What I did was refuse to believe that she is calling it off because she once did that when she is angry with me and told me she doesn't mean it and that she love me and told me to believe her love. Plus she is on her 3 month trip so I won't be able to contact her at all plus she block me and looked happier so....yeah
May work , thank u
Why do you recommend to say "give me a call if you change your mind"? Is not stupid to let them know that instead of moving forward we will be waiting for them to change their mind and if you they not do, then, goodbye forever?
Yeah i agree " give me a call if you change your mind" is not good advice
Does this apply if you begged for a couple months after?
A few days ago I told him I was gonna move on once and for all at the end and asked him not to reply back to me as there is no space for conversation right now
i didn't want to have the risk of replying again...
A lot has happened inbetween but he told me he was never coming back a couple weeks before i told him I was gonna move on once and for all...
we had been together for 8 months, he ended the relationship cause I gave my number to a friend of a friend (a guy) at the dinner party me and my ex were both at. He ended it in Feb, then we got back together after a few days and then he ended it again at the end of April...
To some degree I have to challenge this notion of infinite NC. And the reason is that there are two main ways how one behaves in a relationship, which are detrimental to it.
a) People are too needy and clingy - this is the problem for majority of people
b) People are too distant.
In case of a) I do totally agree that NC should last for a lifetime.
However in case b) I would disagree as the problem was not chasing and not giving space but the opposite and in these cases NC of 1 month or so probably works just fine.
I might be wrong ofc. but I think one should make this distinction as you are in a very different starting point to power for example if you were too cold and you were the one being chased than roles reversed. My ex left me because I was too cold and she was chasing me a lot but finally got tired of it and left me. I did no contact for 7 weeks and contacted her. She was very happy to hear of me and very eager to meet me. I could have kept NC forever but at least to her words she would have not contacted me either even if she wanted to. We met and had a great time and would have probably never had met or had a new opportunity to try again if I had not contacted her.
did it work out?
So even if you were broken up with, it’s ok to break no contact after some certain time passed and you saying it’s possible to have a second chance to get back together? Your ex continued to chase and contact you after you dumped her? And you both knew you wanted to be together? It’s been 6 months and haven’t heard from my guy. Should I contact him or stay in NC until he reaches out?
What if you do tell them you are no longer going to contact them? As in like "I know you want nothing to do with me so I will leave you alone and never contact you again. The only way I would ever wan to talk to you is if you ever want to work with me to build a future with me again"
Did they come back?
@@raya-1 No. She didn't contact me again. I am still in pain and it sucks. It's not as bad as it was a few months ago but it still hurts.
Its difficult but hang it tight! It will take some time but each day will feel better. You're so brave for continuing indefinite nc. My breakup was fairly recent but I ended up contacting him 2-3 times anyway. Takes every cell in your body to stop.
@@raya-1 Yes, it's really hard but I was not a bad boyfriend to her, she left me because of issues she had that she thought I could fix and I was not able to do that so she left me. I have no guilt but I do feel very sad because I thought we had something great. We could have worked things out but as much as it hurts me, I cannot be chasing after somebody who decided to dump me when I was nothing but good to her. If I was a crappy person, I would not be in so much pain and I would take all of this as a "this is what you get for being that way to her" but I was not a bad boyfriend so this is why this hurts so much still. The people who threw us away like trash do not deserve us contacting them. If they want us back, they will come back and work hard to make it up to us for all the pain they caused. If they don't come back, we shouldn't reach out to them because we are worth more than how they see us. Our worth is not determined by them.
@@jessiepalermo7234 Perfectly said, I couldn't agree more. You're looking in the right direction. And yes, she cannot expect you or anybody else to fix issues that she had , I don't think that's possible. We all need to fight our own demons. You also don't deserve the guilt that comes from being a crappy partner. Trust me, it sucks big time. You have a clear conscience and you're moving ahead with it. Some people just don't have the energy or resilience to work things out , I suppose. While some of us go for the long haul, we are met with a tsunami and we live through it and hold up our end of the deal. We make a "forever" bond, the ones that leave didn't quite had that
I told her i won't contact can i do anything?
Hmmm... what did I do before hooking up with my ex (separated wife)?
Well... I was a 17-20-year-old Marine, serving in a Rifle Platoon (1969 thru 1971 - WestPac - SE Asia - RVN; we married in 8/69).
I had plenty of "interests" back then. Most of which had to do with survival. Maybe I could find an old M-16 and go out and get a little shooting in.
Or find some obstacles courses to run (while a Gunny DI is shoving his boot up my a$$).
Oh yeah, then after my tour with the Marines, I went straight into Law Enforcement for 30 years (17 in SWAT)... Oh yeah, lots of interests that I could "return to" from those scenarios (maybe I could be the NEW "Punisher").
This one size fits all approach (especially combined with the fact that all of your Dumpees are like 20-30 years old) just doesn't cut it for the rest of us "old-timers".
Believe it or not the majority of my clients are 40+ years old. Attraction is attraction & healthy communication is key to a successful relationship! Thank you for your service!
@@TheLoveChat I can believe that the most of your CLIENTS are indeed +40 (though wonder how many are +65 - and who have been MARRIED +40)... but it is just the "tone" or maybe "attitude" of your presentation seems to be geared towards a much younger crowd. And, meanwhile... I am still trying to get my ex (separated) wife back.
HI, can i ask? what if he contacts me can I give him a reply what if he told me that he wants to see me?
Perfect, if that happens set a date to meet up! Do not talk about the relationship!
Thank you!
I like this
What if they decide to keep stuff you gave them after breaking up?
That mean they want to keep memories of you
@@Ace-vc2to she’s still wearing it until now
@@trixinciong9631 oh I don't know even though she's not wearing that she might still have it women are women are emotional she might keep it for sentimental value
@@Ace-vc2to and that makes it hard to understand sometimes
What do I do if I already told them that I don't want to them right now?
Pardon?
What if I already told them I don't want to talk to them at the moment? Do i still wait for them to talk to me first?
Thank you.
stealthman50 You're welcome!
What if you left them?
There are trillions of videos portraying the scenario & tge psychology of "When you are dumped" but there are hardly anything regarding "When you're the dumper & how to get them back"!
The main thing is that, generally everybody considers the dumper as an Antagonist... But, sometimes it may be a rational choice to break-up with someone (dump them) in order to increase our value. E.g - When they were already in a relation with someone before we came into their lives & now they find us amazing, chemistry, etc , etc but they don't leave their other partner. In such cases, if they don't leave their other partner, it might be a necessity to leave them (dump them) after having a long good, healthy relationship with them...*Only with the intention to prove our worth/value & get them back!
BUT THERE ARE HARDLY ANY VIDEOS DESCRIBING SUCH SCENARIOS... It's like everytime, the dumper is bad, it's the dumper's fault, even if he is exploited*
It's the most common case in the modern world - Most of the people are already in a relationship when a new partner (like us) comes in their life, and is not a Rebound!
Is it okay to greet him on his bday?
Mi Zaki No way! Strict No-Contact!
The Love Chat I won’t greet him. Thanks!
Corry wayne 2.0
Hello I have seen your content and I like it a lot I know this is going to get buried most likely and you're never going to see it but I have a question I am not sure if it already have covered this topic so if you have just tell me where to covered it do you know any way to see you are in a toxic relationship ? What are some key signs if you know some I feel like a lot of the people who have subscribed to you and are a part of your fan base I really enjoy if you covered this topic this is just my opinion take it or leave it it could be a good video idea can you don't have to say that I have the idea you don't have to do the video today or tomorrow this week or this month I have pieniny of time to wait this is your life do whatever you want what is it could possibly be your next video that would be great for me remember this is just my opinion you don't have to actually do it unless you don't want to well this is getting long got to go bye
I couldn’t do this because I bumped into him 😆
Hi Rory,
Need help on my situation.
Was with my ex gf for 4.5 yrs, we were very happy, compatible, she was head over heels in love with me from true heart.
Last April 2017 her parents introduced her some rich guys and she broke up with me but kept in touch till this Jan 2018, but she said she was not with anyone of them (not sure if she was lying to me or saying the truth).
So mid of 15th Jan 2018, I told her that we been going so good why not get back together and then she changed instantly, saying she wants to live a luxury and wealthy life and blocked me on all means of communication and i didnt reach out since then but just last week 15th Feb she unblocked me everywhere but didnt reach out to me neither did i.
Just today 25th Feb, 2018, I saw yesterday she went to her friends birthday party and her friends posted some pics on Instagram (I think my ex is not aware of this) and i saw she was hugging and holding this guy's hand.
So she is with someone but why unblocked me on everywhere and not contacting me.
Looks like she wants a super rich guy to provide her a luxury life...
What shall i do?
Hi Josh,
What was your story and this email that you provided me (drphilipspelltemple@gmail. com), who is this person?
Hi Josh,
Okay i will try to email him, thx so much.
But my story is really hard to win her back as my ex gf wants a rich guy so that she can live a luxury live she said and yesterday i found out on IG a pic of her, where the guy is hugging her from behind and she is holding his hand.
Looks like my ex gf is gone for good now.
Hi Josh,
You got your ex back and how?
You used the spell from Dr.Philip?
This spell is kind of a black magic?
I used the email you gave me above, is there any way to contact you as i wanted to ask about that Dr. Philip?
Hi Josh, any update?
Want to get in touch with you, any email of yours you can provide?
Hi Josh,
The guy you introduced to me Philip is asking me for pictures, why is this so, did he asked you as well and have you provided to him?
you are so spot on. I was the one who had to pull the plug 5 weeks ago on my relationship. Its like stabbing my own heart as I love him. Had to do it cos he wasn't putting in effort. i'm not contacting him even though I want him. I know if i do make contact then this will all be for nothing. But my question is, in this instance where I was the one who did the breaking up wouldn't they be in no contact with me? How will we get over this?
Your situation is certainly different! I will address this further in the email you sent me. :)
The Love Chat I feel like I’m in the same situation. I broke up w him 3 months ago & rejected his attempts to get back with me because he never tried fixing his problems so I didn’t get back with him but still remained in contact on & off for those 3 months we were separated. Last time I saw him was a month ago & we had our biggest fight & i sent a goodbye & wish u luck text after that day& it’s been no contact since then. He never replied to that text or ever contacted me. What do I do? Help plz.
The Love Chat oh & during that time of our last huge fight he was talking to another woman
Where is video #1?
kaylercj The audio was corrupted, so I will have to re-record it at some point!
What was that vídeo about? should indeed re record it and publish :)
Thank u so much for your exactly advice now I learn..
hi coach your words goes directly to mind, please advise what if play girl who ditched me for someone else.. I really love her honestly, how to deal with her? should I go back to her messaging?
8:07 Oh gods. I'm happy with me now, but that thought was the fastest I've ever felt so repulsed.
Too much growth left bud, we're just getting started.
Should i unfriend an ex? I am the dumpee
I wouldn't. But I also wouldn't interact with their social media.
please make video on no contact on social media
No contact you might not want them back lol