OP would be stupid to take him back. It's good that he finally apologized and admitted that he was in the wrong but honestly, he would still prioritize his family over OP.
@@Sylvester64do don't actually give a damn about op he's just mad that has bang maid is leaving him. Some people don't see their partners as people only objects are extension of themselves that they can boss around and control.
@@Sylvester64 he's just using his family as a shield to be an outright ass, and his parents are back him because they are just as shitty as he is. To all of them she's just a womb
What do u mean choosing to be a decent partner? He was literally trash the whole way through even after he realized she was leaving him. He only regrets it now that it’s over and she’s gone
@@madambutterfly1997 I thought that the reason for divorce was really dumb but the way this guy was acting made it reasonable. I think that if OP apologized and expressed her problems then this guy would've just gaslit her and ignore her boundaries.
This experience was just a preview of what OP's life was going to be after the baby's birth, so she's absolutely doing the right thing by leaving this marriage.
All he had to say was "I am sorry for what I put you through. You dont have to do any chores until the baby is born. However, you have to apologize to my sister's family because they didn't deserve the outrage, I did." But now he plays nice because he wants you back and that is a red flag
Ah, yes, asks your you pregnant, hormonal, emotional wife to cook for your family and then yell at her because she snaps after unsuccessful attempts to talk it out. He's lucky, I would have reach my breaking point way sooner
Yeah literally makes no sense to me. They are either a bunch of bots or people without any sense of accountability, or maybe straight up assholes. A lot of them truly even love making it a deal of gender when there's no valid reason to.
@@nassan1599 Either a bunch of misogynistic bots or assholes probably trying to ragebait. You see how their comments always include "Women" as the keypoint as if being a woman is the root issue here. I won't be surprised to know that a lot of them are incels.
See whenever a toxic partner changes their behaviour only AFTER divorce is on the table, they’re just love bombing you until you drop the divorce and then things will return to how they were prior.
It's best to be the better person than to let the animosity that you felt get in the way because even your own kids can pick up on your attitude. After all that innocence that children have really has an impact on people, but you shouldn't let you emotions get in the way because once that's shattered it can be neigh impossible.
Also as long as they don't do it in front of the kid then it should be fine. And I don't mean it's okay to disrespect her. What I mean is that it's adults businesses and children are separate. As long as kiddo is treated good and nvere hear the bad things said then it should be cool. Because of anything happens and she is no longer around those same people will have to be their life line
Personally I would have said something petty like "I'm sure your replacement will be more understanding more forthcoming and more willing to rein in his family for mine and my child's sakes."
It's not your fault it's your husband's fault because he demanded his wife to cook for him and his parents when she was pregnant but she was the one who worked and his parents called her selfish and that's not right and he should pay for his actions and go to hell for what he has done to her and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and he doesn't deserve anything for demanded her to cook for his parents when she is pregnant and his parents called her selfish and you don't have to apologize for anything it's his fault not yours.
That's how you destroy a marriage, folks. Keep holding on onto your ego. I'm talking about the husband and his family, of course. And for OP, I think it's better for her to move on. Let's find out how her ex-husband ego will handle the presence of another man in his child life.
I'm a prideful person myself but I really don't understand this kind of people. You fucked up? Apologize. It's more honorable to apologize after a mistake than to keep dragging it because you don't want to acknowledge you're wrong
@@Maria-wi1pjyoure very much right, but i do jave a devils advocate question. What about in situations where they have fooled themselves into thinking they are right? Tricking someone is easier than convincing them they have been tricked... Even if it was themselves who did it
He ignored and disrespected her more than once and was fine with working his wife to the brink despite working and being pregnant. He doesn’t care as long as he gets what he wants. Never stay because people like this don’t get better they’ll only get worse.
When you're married fighting for your partner is a 24/7 thing you don't ever get to stop stopping at any point means you've given up on the marriage and the relationship in its entirety
People just blowing up their lives and their kid's life over their own selfishness. If either of them could have pulled their head out of their own ass for two seconds they would still be married.
Can we take a minute to take every time the OP victimized herself and offended her husband's family? *She asks for respect when she doesn't give it!?* Her ego and his are delusional! *0 ACCOUNTABILITY FROM BOTH*
The fuck do you mean she doesn't give recpect?! Her own husband plays deaf and dumb, when she talks to him about her feelings, his whole fucking family overstays their welcome and orders her, A PREGNANT WORKING WOMAN, around, without even one time asking, does she need help, is she okay, isn't it hard for her. They are treating her like a fucking maid!
Can you tell me how she insulted his family? She just said they were inconsiderate and were acting selfish, which is true considering they expected a pregnant woman to cook for 6 people as soon as she came home from work.
Girl shut up… how about u sit up here and stand on ur feet everyday being pregnant, And deal with a man who cares about his family more than his wife and unborn child.
@Maria-wi1pj riiiiiiiight. Because yelling at them, locking herself up, and saying "COOK THEM YOURSELVES" isn't a way of disrespecting people. *Stop victimising people only bc they are women, and if we are correct, she wanst even in the first semester.*
OMG I would say both the husband and the wife made a mistake But the wife is on a totally different level Woman are you gonna leave your baby grow up in a broken home just because of a petty argument about cooking Are you seriously leaving your marriage over this I mean at least I am sure this story ain't fake Which is nice for a change but god I cringed through every second of this
@@botsito2355he pushed her over the edge if she has already told him it's hard for her to cook he should have listened to her . He could have either order or cook himself.
Her not cooking for her in-laws you may think it's small and not a big issue, what is the small and Petty disagreements that blow up into bigger and bigger things. Your husband getting mad at her for not cooking just shows how controlling he actually is. As most people realize they're in the wrong and apologize to each other he didn't.
It's so sad how little marriage means to so many people. What the hell happened to "till death do us part"?Both the man and the woman are both childish pricks. And aren't worthy to become parents.
Stop using your pregnancy as an excuse to be disrespectful to his innocent family members. You should have kept your emotions to yourself and confronted him later than having an outburst in front of guests like who raised you
Most social interactions have to follow the TPO rule(time place occasion). In OPs situation, her outburst was at an inappropriate time and occasion which should have been handled in a private setting. In addition, the pregnancy and morning sickness is not much of a factor here since it is too early in the pregnancy to cause physical limitations and "morning" sickness has no role in making dinner which is a pre determined responsibilty. So OP is an asshole thought her husband is one too. But to initiate a divorce after a petty argument is fucking insane😂
Are u dumb? OP talked to him time and time again about her discomfort and difficulty. She drew a boundary and he violated it and then didn't even have the decency to contact her after she left. In all this this how exactly is she the asshole?🙄
Blowing up was probably a bad idea, but also the husband not apologize for trying to force Opie to cook for his family when she was tired shows that he doesn't give a damn about his wife. Op wanted to have a conversation with her husband and he refused to have that with her so of course she's not going to put up with this nonsense.
@@vanzy01 Thats why i called OPs husband an asshole too but the reason i criticised the OP more was because 1) she asked if she was an asshole 2) her outburst 3)she left the house for an argument that in my opinion is not severe enough to leave home and most importantly 4) she is the one who initiated the divorce when there is a baby coming.
@@twice_once_solofandoms i do agree with you that it is a frustrating situation the OP has come into and the husband was being a bit selfish even though cooking was pre determined to be OPs responsibility and thus the outburst was understandable(though not excusable). But when the OP moved away from home and initiated divorce knowing that a baby is coming, she became the asshole. In addition almost all arguments/fights are somewhat a matter of self respect and they are usually a two way street( im sure the husband also felt that his self respect was challenged when his wife berated him in front of family and refused to apologize) but not every instance of you feeling disrespect rises to the level of running from home and divorcing when a child is coming into your life.
It's funny how he's choosing to be a decent partner now that he's about to lose you when this Behavior should have been a constant the entire marriage
OP would be stupid to take him back. It's good that he finally apologized and admitted that he was in the wrong but honestly, he would still prioritize his family over OP.
@@Sylvester64do don't actually give a damn about op he's just mad that has bang maid is leaving him. Some people don't see their partners as people only objects are extension of themselves that they can boss around and control.
@@Sylvester64 he's just using his family as a shield to be an outright ass, and his parents are back him because they are just as shitty as he is. To all of them she's just a womb
What do u mean choosing to be a decent partner? He was literally trash the whole way through even after he realized she was leaving him. He only regrets it now that it’s over and she’s gone
@@madambutterfly1997 I thought that the reason for divorce was really dumb but the way this guy was acting made it reasonable. I think that if OP apologized and expressed her problems then this guy would've just gaslit her and ignore her boundaries.
This experience was just a preview of what OP's life was going to be after the baby's birth, so she's absolutely doing the right thing by leaving this marriage.
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All he had to say was "I am sorry for what I put you through. You dont have to do any chores until the baby is born. However, you have to apologize to my sister's family because they didn't deserve the outrage, I did." But now he plays nice because he wants you back and that is a red flag
Ah, yes, asks your you pregnant, hormonal, emotional wife to cook for your family and then yell at her because she snaps after unsuccessful attempts to talk it out. He's lucky, I would have reach my breaking point way sooner
I can't believe some people in the comments think she is in the wrong.
I can believe it some people are just assholes.
Yeah literally makes no sense to me. They are either a bunch of bots or people without any sense of accountability, or maybe straight up assholes. A lot of them truly even love making it a deal of gender when there's no valid reason to.
I just got popcorn 🍿 these comments are fun to read
@@nassan1599 Either a bunch of misogynistic bots or assholes probably trying to ragebait. You see how their comments always include "Women" as the keypoint as if being a woman is the root issue here.
I won't be surprised to know that a lot of them are incels.
That'll be her inlaws.
See whenever a toxic partner changes their behaviour only AFTER divorce is on the table, they’re just love bombing you until you drop the divorce and then things will return to how they were prior.
His family absolutely have something to do with this. Its called common sense.
Why would u allow people who openly disrespected u around ur child???
It's best to be the better person than to let the animosity that you felt get in the way because even your own kids can pick up on your attitude. After all that innocence that children have really has an impact on people, but you shouldn't let you emotions get in the way because once that's shattered it can be neigh impossible.
@@s0ular9765Thats that weak shit🙄
And attitudes like yours is why there are doormats in the World
Also as long as they don't do it in front of the kid then it should be fine. And I don't mean it's okay to disrespect her. What I mean is that it's adults businesses and children are separate. As long as kiddo is treated good and nvere hear the bad things said then it should be cool. Because of anything happens and she is no longer around those same people will have to be their life line
Personally I would have said something petty like "I'm sure your replacement will be more understanding more forthcoming and more willing to rein in his family for mine and my child's sakes."
baffling how many people are openly admitting they dont view women as human with these comments lmfao i pray yall never get married
Damn this dude torpedoed his marriage for literally no reason.
Wow the comments here are very interesting quickly lads grab the popcorn 🍿 we are enjoying this chat tonight
It's not your fault it's your husband's fault because he demanded his wife to cook for him and his parents when she was pregnant but she was the one who worked and his parents called her selfish and that's not right and he should pay for his actions and go to hell for what he has done to her and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and he doesn't deserve anything for demanded her to cook for his parents when she is pregnant and his parents called her selfish and you don't have to apologize for anything it's his fault not yours.
He's just afraid to lose his maid with benefits.
how on earth could anyone even get a shred of thought that what this entire family was doing to op wasn't wrong?
That's how you destroy a marriage, folks. Keep holding on onto your ego.
I'm talking about the husband and his family, of course.
And for OP, I think it's better for her to move on. Let's find out how her ex-husband ego will handle the presence of another man in his child life.
I'm a prideful person myself but I really don't understand this kind of people. You fucked up? Apologize. It's more honorable to apologize after a mistake than to keep dragging it because you don't want to acknowledge you're wrong
@Maria-wi1pj exactly
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@@Maria-wi1pjyoure very much right, but i do jave a devils advocate question.
What about in situations where they have fooled themselves into thinking they are right? Tricking someone is easier than convincing them they have been tricked... Even if it was themselves who did it
He ignored and disrespected her more than once and was fine with working his wife to the brink despite working and being pregnant. He doesn’t care as long as he gets what he wants. Never stay because people like this don’t get better they’ll only get worse.
When you're married fighting for your partner is a 24/7 thing you don't ever get to stop stopping at any point means you've given up on the marriage and the relationship in its entirety
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sigh i dont understand why people stay with partners that treat them badly for so long
What's the original poster got pregnant their true colors came out is she refused to be pushed around.
Love.
Stockholm syndrome
@@dustinswiney1474whats that
They also want to be able to say "I still tried to make us work"
Ain’t no way in this economy am I feeding anyone else. Food cost too much to be feeding multiple people daily.
A whole divorce just cuz he couldn't apologize
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Never go back stay with someone who gets it right the first time
This is the criteria for divorce now huh?
Lol! “I’m not mad at my husband” 😂😂😂doormat behavior
no Op... NO
Shes pregnant tf
Absolutely in OPs corner. The husband is a dick.
YTA
I disagree with the fact her in laws are to be held accountable.
Common sense doesn’t exist. If it ain’t verbal, don’t expect anything.
People just blowing up their lives and their kid's life over their own selfishness. If either of them could have pulled their head out of their own ass for two seconds they would still be married.
This was stupid. Marriage means nothing to these people anymore
Husbands don't want a partner but a slave.
@@mevan883 wives want a provider but act like empowered brats
@@NationalUwu Sure, if they are stay at home wives but not the ones that actually have jobs and help pay bills.
The amount of woke and stupid people defending the OP TOXIC EGO 😂
Delusional people, defending this toxic woman. Nice
Can we take a minute to take every time the OP victimized herself and offended her husband's family? *She asks for respect when she doesn't give it!?* Her ego and his are delusional! *0 ACCOUNTABILITY FROM BOTH*
The fuck do you mean she doesn't give recpect?! Her own husband plays deaf and dumb, when she talks to him about her feelings, his whole fucking family overstays their welcome and orders her, A PREGNANT WORKING WOMAN, around, without even one time asking, does she need help, is she okay, isn't it hard for her. They are treating her like a fucking maid!
Can you tell me how she insulted his family? She just said they were inconsiderate and were acting selfish, which is true considering they expected a pregnant woman to cook for 6 people as soon as she came home from work.
Girl shut up… how about u sit up here and stand on ur feet everyday being pregnant, And deal with a man who cares about his family more than his wife and unborn child.
@Maria-wi1pj riiiiiiiight. Because yelling at them, locking herself up, and saying "COOK THEM YOURSELVES" isn't a way of disrespecting people. *Stop victimising people only bc they are women, and if we are correct, she wanst even in the first semester.*
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I would say both the husband and the wife made a mistake
But the wife is on a totally different level
Woman are you gonna leave your baby grow up in a broken home just because of a petty argument about cooking
Are you seriously leaving your marriage over this
I mean at least I am sure this story ain't fake
Which is nice for a change but god I cringed through every second of this
I dont really understand
Are these bots or are they real humans that are not understanding the situations
@skylergamer.99 The situation: Literally both disrespecting each other. Both are brats playing to be adults
@@botsito2355he pushed her over the edge if she has already told him it's hard for her to cook he should have listened to her . He could have either order or cook himself.
@@skylergamer.99 Probably misogynistic bots or if they're human, they're probably misogynistic AHs. 😂
Her not cooking for her in-laws you may think it's small and not a big issue, what is the small and Petty disagreements that blow up into bigger and bigger things. Your husband getting mad at her for not cooking just shows how controlling he actually is. As most people realize they're in the wrong and apologize to each other he didn't.
It's so sad how little marriage means to so many people. What the hell happened to "till death do us part"?Both the man and the woman are both childish pricks. And aren't worthy to become parents.
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Stop using your pregnancy as an excuse to be disrespectful to his innocent family members.
You should have kept your emotions to yourself and confronted him later than having an outburst in front of guests like who raised you
Most social interactions have to follow the TPO rule(time place occasion). In OPs situation, her outburst was at an inappropriate time and occasion which should have been handled in a private setting. In addition, the pregnancy and morning sickness is not much of a factor here since it is too early in the pregnancy to cause physical limitations and "morning" sickness has no role in making dinner which is a pre determined responsibilty. So OP is an asshole thought her husband is one too. But to initiate a divorce after a petty argument is fucking insane😂
Are u dumb? OP talked to him time and time again about her discomfort and difficulty. She drew a boundary and he violated it and then didn't even have the decency to contact her after she left. In all this this how exactly is she the asshole?🙄
Blowing up was probably a bad idea, but also the husband not apologize for trying to force Opie to cook for his family when she was tired shows that he doesn't give a damn about his wife. Op wanted to have a conversation with her husband and he refused to have that with her so of course she's not going to put up with this nonsense.
It’s not petty it’s not self respect cause she’s working and has to cook every other day I know it’s frustrating I hate to cook for more than 3 people
@@vanzy01 Thats why i called OPs husband an asshole too but the reason i criticised the OP more was because 1) she asked if she was an asshole 2) her outburst 3)she left the house for an argument that in my opinion is not severe enough to leave home and most importantly 4) she is the one who initiated the divorce when there is a baby coming.
@@twice_once_solofandoms i do agree with you that it is a frustrating situation the OP has come into and the husband was being a bit selfish even though cooking was pre determined to be OPs responsibility and thus the outburst was understandable(though not excusable). But when the OP moved away from home and initiated divorce knowing that a baby is coming, she became the asshole. In addition almost all arguments/fights are somewhat a matter of self respect and they are usually a two way street( im sure the husband also felt that his self respect was challenged when his wife berated him in front of family and refused to apologize) but not every instance of you feeling disrespect rises to the level of running from home and divorcing when a child is coming into your life.