Sadly, this is a very common pattern when there are favorites in the family unit. This is what happens when one child is treated like a saint and practically deified into godhood. The favored child doesn't know how to function in the real world because the rest of the world won't put up with their crap. Essentially the favored child, thanks to their parents' coddling, has the mentality of an overgrown middle school bully who peaked at age 12 but the emotional maturity of a five-year-old. EDIT: Since narcissists are so hell-bent on getting their way, no matter the cost, getting the last word, being in the spotlight, having all eyes on them and stroking their gigantic egos through their immediate sense of gratification by "winning” whatever conflict they dreamed up in their diseased mind, they never ever think about the consequences of their actions. I think it's safe to say that Charlotte's toxic behavior invited every bit of karma she experienced.
I'm actually rather surprised OP's parents became rational in the end. That's certainly great to hear, but she shouldn't freely give out second chances. The parents have to put in the work if they mean it. And good on the former brother-in-law for calling it quits on that BS. Never be "the next best thing" or a placeholder spouse!
@@johnpatricklim4509 Which always astounds me if it turns out on or both parents have been cheated on before, and the affair partner of their former spouse was also a sibling. I guess it's shock, but come on.
What amazes me is how almost no one talks sht through with their loved ones. How can they not explain what happened between them? How can you stay 3 years worhout knowing your sister is hitting on your friend?
Id give them the benefits of the doubt, she probably told them some rose tinted version of what happened and it took some time for them to actually pick up the pieces
Charlotte isn’t in love with OP’s (now) husband. She’s infatuated with him & she’s clearly still angry about the fact that OP’s husband chose OP & not her. She needs to get over herself.
So…Charlotte TRIES to ruin Op’s wedding (on her wedding day) with a lie…but Op is somehow in the wrong for telling BIL THE TRUTH… Ya thats some OLYMPIC level mental gymnastics…
its cuz charlottes attempt failed and OP ended up ending their marriage. its stupid, i see this bias in friend groups all the time. one girl continually insults another over and over again but because she has no emotional reaction nobody cares. but once the bullied girl finally confronts her, the first girl cries and suddenly the other girl is in the wrong even though she wasnt the one insulting someone over and over. third parties will almost always run to comfort the crier even if they were the instigator and even if theyre crying over something thats 10 times tamer than what they were saying/doing. maybe its just in human nature to try and protect the one in emotional distress because usually theyll swap sides later the same way the parents did. its still frustrating, people dont really look at the bigger picture of whats happening once tears are involved
It is absolutely their karma. I used to know someone who was very much like Charlotte only she was a much older woman. She severely taxed every relationship she had with friends, family and even acquaintances with her toxic, boundary trampling behavior. It got to the point that when her kids were old enough to move out and cut contact, they did. Even after being effectively cut out of their lives, barred from seeing her grandchildren and napalming her second marriage, she still didn't wake up and acknowledge that she was the root cause of all of her problems. Some people hit rock bottom and just keep digging until they find a sub basement.
I feel that's not a completely fair statement. Narcissism is a diagnosable mental health disorder, it can be mitigated with treatment just like any other. Saying all narcissists deserve to be alone is like saying all depressed people deserve to be alone just because some depressed people lash out at others.
@@CoRLex-jh5vx Unfair statement or not narcissists rarely ever admit they have a problem or seek treatment. My definition alone their extremely self-absorbed, have a really huge opinion of themselves, have no respect for boundaries, zero regard for the word no and nothing resembling a sense of accountability. They're deliberately spiteful and hurt other people out of spite all for their own amusement as well as personal gain. So it's a toxic cycle of behavior which often leads to them hitting rock bottom then digging until they find a sub-basement. All the while they just keep blaming others and extenuating factors for the consequences they experience.
It’s weird how Ops parents want Op to be the “bigger person” but why won’t the stepsister take the same advice and not try to ruin Op and her husband’s relationship?
Parents obviously chose the sister over her, but after a couple weeks even they couldn't stand her so they changed their plea. I wouldn't be soo quick to forgive.
People always want you to be the bigger person when they aren't the injured party. Let me be clear you go low I am taking it to the basement. Idc karma is b and and so am I😂
Good for OP! Very sharp! I kinda of feel like OP is prolly the person that her parents and friends expect to “suck it up” or “take the high road.” It is amazing how she was able to turn the tables, keep calm, and enjoy her wedding!
Something tells me that Charlotte was hoping Noah would come with OP to her wedding so she could profess her love before the ceremony and offer to run away with him. That's why she told OP "Noah could have come, it's fine."
I’m like 100 percent sure that if Noah had told Charlotte hey let’s run away together she would’ve jumped like she was on fire and ran like she’s the flash to be with him. So ain’t no way op is wrong. And the fact the husband has to hear it constantly from her friends that she should’ve been with Noah sounds like he should’ve been left her.
Personally speaking, even if the affair was true I still think better to let the stepsister's husband know. A guy tried to elope with his wife, if she had clean record, the husband would want to step in to stop anyone from trying to get near his wife anyway
Chefs Kiss on calling her husband. Absolutely brilliant move. And don't worry about your parents. Once you and you're husband start having children,,they'll drop the no talking rule asap
Wow, OP pulled the UNO reverse so fast she must've had hidden it in her dress's sleeves🤭🤭. It's great that her parents actually realised who was the true karen on their own at the end.
It's not your fault it's his step sister's fault because she tries to sabotage the wedding so it's on her not him if you think that you guys are idiots and she should go to hell for it.
SIL is the type to be like "well I ruined your wedding so you'll go out with me now right.?" I also hate the hypocricy of people blaming Op for telling the truth where as her step sister was trying to do the same thing but with lies.
this whole story was actually rather mellow. I'm so used to huge blowups and lies and cheating and cops being called. 2 girls having a crush on the same guy and a couple getting divorced over "being compared to another man" seems so calm in comparison.
Really feel bad for the husband though. It was a crush amongst teenagers that had been left in the past, but for some reason Charlotte brought it all up again. I bet even she had not thought about it until the engagement, then she tormented her husband with comparisons and then made up something that could possibly have been believed if it weren't for the fact that everyone else had forgotten the drama 7 years ago. Strike while the iron is hot, lady. By the time she made her move, the only person who cared anymore was her husband. I can actually sort of see where the parents were coming from. This seemed like a temper tantrum between 2 kids with only 1 victim. They were completely right that the husband leaving his wife over a high school crush was a bit much, but they were blaming the wrong person.
op did this little move called tit for tat. you try to sabotage my relationship,i do the same.we are fair and square.only difference is you did it like shit while i succeed and there is nobody to blame except you.cuz you initiated everything
NTA - should have told parents w@ happened between u 2 when u were teenagers th@ way would have known the situation n been awhere th@ Charlotte is nt above lying n manipulation.
the first time you have a fight with your parents after you become an adult is always the hardest. They have to realize you can speak back now and they can't just ground you and you have to realize you don't have to be scared of them and cave to their demands.
the parents are lying through their damned teeth - that dinner was an attempt to see if OP might be willing to forgive someday. You don't go from showing clear favoritism to suddenly "Oops! We were wrong."
Charlotte knew Noah liked her step sister and thats why she convinced her to make that promise. She knew Noah would never pick her so she wanted stop him from picking her sister.
Couple of weeks took the parents to change sides. They just got tired from the loser that decided to ruin everything and put the blame everything on Op... And realized that if they are going to keep contact with one of them, is not going to be the toxic one. Op should forgive but never forget.
I'm glad the parents came to their senses and realized what a horrible person Charlotte was. Sometimes, people need to find out on their own; it's not something you can always tell them
I’ll never understand how parents take sides like this, especially when the side their taking is the wrong side. With the way that mom is acting, it’s seriously making me question if the girls dad was really that horrible or if the mom was the “other women” & she’s just twisting the narrative to make her look better in her daughters eyes.
Charlotte's marriage fell apart because her husband knew if she'd successfully gotten them to split apart she would have left him to try to get together with Noah. Charlotte thinks OP is the villain because she expected Noah to choose her and she still can't get over him not picking her.
I'll bet the mom is afraid the stepdad will leave her if she doesn't side with his biological daughter, and that's why she sided with the little psycho.
Who never speaks to their best friend/sister again and has a whole rivalry for the rest of time because of some HIGH SCHOOL CRUSH. High school drama is no need to end a relationship. Thats why this feels fake bro
Its like an eye for an eye, your marriage for her marriage. She tried to sabotage your marriage and in return, completely rational understandable return, you turned it around on her. You are not in the wrong because she tried to do it first.
A good lesson to be learned here is that you shouldn’t keep other people in the dark when shit like this is happening. OP refused to tell her parents what was happening for YEARS, and their very first introduction to the situation was her sister’s divorce. If OP had told her parents what had been happening on the day of the wedding, this wouldn’t have been such an issue. I’m glad it worked out well for them but it’s very easy to screw yourself over. OP almost lost the relationship she had with her parents. Don’t keep your mouth shut when someone decides to make you a target.
Dear LORD I will never understand people who are “too big” to explain themselves right after the incident happens and then whine about how no one is on their side after they let the bad guy spread their tale. “My mom should understand me,” right after saying that she never tried to explain the situation when she got the chance because “she didn’t feel she had to” and then waited until AFTER she knew Charlotte had had a chance to say what she wanted. Allow me to scream: IT DOESN’T MATTER IF YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT IF THE OTHER PARTY CONTROLS THE NARRATIVE!!! DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND THE BASIC TENANT OF HISTORY???
Yeah, she should have told them everything about their fight when their parents asked about them distancing during high school itself. But then I think they would not have considered it a big deal probably back then
Not gonna lie if I was OP's sis' husband, I would be pissed if OP hadnt called me. He clearly can tell that something was going on in his own marrige, to have OP tell him that was legit the straw that broke the camels back like
If what OP said about her stepsister is true, then I have no sympathy, cause she was the one who betrayed OP first. My hunch is that the stepsister knew OP would stick to whatever promise they made, but chose to go "rules for thee, but not for me" when it comes to pursuing the person that would become OP's husband. Plus, life lesson here: if the person is not interested no matter what you do (the stepsister had a major head start, and STILL could not charm the man), maybe that person is not the problem. Honestly, I really have no idea how much drama was buried in that stepsister's psyche to become so manipulative, cause while the stepfather did give OP crap initially, he did come around to see OP's side of things, so I doubt she learned it from him.
A mother who got cheated on decided to take a side with someone who tried to ruin someone else's wedding by pretending they were cheating. I don't know what to say... Is she even real?
I’m actually conflicted with happened at the end with her parents cuz like all it took was the days of the honeymoon for the parents from going to console Charlotte to finally having enough of her and wanted to get dinner with the OP to reconcile. I’m like that is way too forgiving because they ignored you and expect you to apologize to the sister who’s creating unnecessary drama and pulled a stunt like that at your wedding. They least they could do is apologize first before complaining about the further actions of your step sister and apologize profusely again at dinner and want to work very hard to reconcile and earn back your trust.
Noooooooo way! It's not your fault. They don't care that she was trying to ruin your wedding!? Your parents are wrong. What goes around, comes around. Karma is a b!tch.
Ruined their marriage? Bro just got his life back and the chance to find a caring lovely woman who is not constantly blurring about another guy who shouldve chosen her
If Charlotte's lie was even remotely true then her current husband would've deserved to know about it too, so Charlotte did indeed ruin her own marriage. Because it also seems like her now ex-husband tried to overlook the fact that Charlotte was in love with Noah and he tried to make it work with her, she was the one who never wanted to let go ane move on.
Huh. She’s a nicer person then some I know and definitely over myself. If my mother took a step siblings side over them trying to ruin my relationship and wedding, her apologies wouldn’t mean squat. I’d have simply told them they made their bed and that would be that. They showed their true colours. I get wishing to protect your child and stand by them, kudos there, but her mother took the saboteurs side 😂 despite her own pain with crap like that. Don’t need that kinda person around family or not
What's with these people about apologies, apologies are stupid consept for things like this, apologies are for small and insignificant things this is just crazy...
Op is a doormat. she just ups and accepts the apology? nah broda, my parents did this they'd be paying alot more then just a simple apology and dinner.
From what OP was saying about Charlotte’s marriage… divorce was an inevitability since Charlotte’s husband was tired of being compared to another man.
Most men don’t like being compared to other men it makes them insecure
@@axinhedgelion8417 true that!
@@axinhedgelion8417 I don't think anybody likes being compared to other people. Not just men.
@@midnightrain1788 yeh no matter the gender
@@axinhedgelion8417yup, only men. Women DEFINITELY LOVE to be compared to other women. They're not insecure about that at all.
So she is allowed to try to sabotage her marriage but when thrown back it is wrong?
In most Reddit stories parents are on narccisist sibilings side
Sadly, this is a very common pattern when there are favorites in the family unit. This is what happens when one child is treated like a saint and practically deified into godhood. The favored child doesn't know how to function in the real world because the rest of the world won't put up with their crap. Essentially the favored child, thanks to their parents' coddling, has the mentality of an overgrown middle school bully who peaked at age 12 but the emotional maturity of a five-year-old.
EDIT: Since narcissists are so hell-bent on getting their way, no matter the cost, getting the last word, being in the spotlight, having all eyes on them and stroking their gigantic egos through their immediate sense of gratification by "winning” whatever conflict they dreamed up in their diseased mind, they never ever think about the consequences of their actions. I think it's safe to say that Charlotte's toxic behavior invited every bit of karma she experienced.
Yep. Do you not have twisted morals and ethics?
@@Rogue_Centurionnot this obvious no
Hypocriteeeee
I'm actually rather surprised OP's parents became rational in the end. That's certainly great to hear, but she shouldn't freely give out second chances. The parents have to put in the work if they mean it.
And good on the former brother-in-law for calling it quits on that BS. Never be "the next best thing" or a placeholder spouse!
a rare story....usually it's the stepfather or op's mother together sided with the cheating step sibling.....
@@johnpatricklim4509 Which always astounds me if it turns out on or both parents have been cheated on before, and the affair partner of their former spouse was also a sibling.
I guess it's shock, but come on.
Ngl I was expecting another update with “so my parents ambushed me and Noah and tried to force an apology the whole dinner was a ruse”
What amazes me is how almost no one talks sht through with their loved ones. How can they not explain what happened between them? How can you stay 3 years worhout knowing your sister is hitting on your friend?
Id give them the benefits of the doubt, she probably told them some rose tinted version of what happened and it took some time for them to actually pick up the pieces
Charlotte isn’t in love with OP’s (now) husband. She’s infatuated with him & she’s clearly still angry about the fact that OP’s husband chose OP & not her. She needs to get over herself.
yuppppp
So…Charlotte TRIES to ruin Op’s wedding (on her wedding day) with a lie…but Op is somehow in the wrong for telling BIL THE TRUTH…
Ya thats some OLYMPIC level mental gymnastics…
its cuz charlottes attempt failed and OP ended up ending their marriage. its stupid, i see this bias in friend groups all the time. one girl continually insults another over and over again but because she has no emotional reaction nobody cares. but once the bullied girl finally confronts her, the first girl cries and suddenly the other girl is in the wrong even though she wasnt the one insulting someone over and over. third parties will almost always run to comfort the crier even if they were the instigator and even if theyre crying over something thats 10 times tamer than what they were saying/doing. maybe its just in human nature to try and protect the one in emotional distress because usually theyll swap sides later the same way the parents did. its still frustrating, people dont really look at the bigger picture of whats happening once tears are involved
Holy yaptron wompity womp to the fucking broken marrige fucking womp 😼@@cocothedino_2901
what charlotte did was amazingly disrespectful towards her husband just as much as it was towards op and noah
It's almost impressive but not in a good way obviously
Good... that's what narcissists deserve: to be completely alone.
Exactly 💯
TELL IT!!!
It is absolutely their karma. I used to know someone who was very much like Charlotte only she was a much older woman. She severely taxed every relationship she had with friends, family and even acquaintances with her toxic, boundary trampling behavior. It got to the point that when her kids were old enough to move out and cut contact, they did. Even after being effectively cut out of their lives, barred from seeing her grandchildren and napalming her second marriage, she still didn't wake up and acknowledge that she was the root cause of all of her problems. Some people hit rock bottom and just keep digging until they find a sub basement.
I feel that's not a completely fair statement. Narcissism is a diagnosable mental health disorder, it can be mitigated with treatment just like any other. Saying all narcissists deserve to be alone is like saying all depressed people deserve to be alone just because some depressed people lash out at others.
@@CoRLex-jh5vx Unfair statement or not narcissists rarely ever admit they have a problem or seek treatment. My definition alone their extremely self-absorbed, have a really huge opinion of themselves, have no respect for boundaries, zero regard for the word no and nothing resembling a sense of accountability. They're deliberately spiteful and hurt other people out of spite all for their own amusement as well as personal gain. So it's a toxic cycle of behavior which often leads to them hitting rock bottom then digging until they find a sub-basement. All the while they just keep blaming others and extenuating factors for the consequences they experience.
It’s weird how Ops parents want Op to be the “bigger person” but why won’t the stepsister take the same advice and not try to ruin Op and her husband’s relationship?
What is the meaning of OP?
Original poster
@@spencerrather688 okay thank you
Ugh I know I fucking HATE that it's the wronged party that has to be the bigger person!! Can we bring back shaming people?? 😭😂
Parents obviously chose the sister over her, but after a couple weeks even they couldn't stand her so they changed their plea. I wouldn't be soo quick to forgive.
In their defense: the high school promise was never revealed so they were unaware on how deep it was.
People always want you to be the bigger person when they aren't the injured party. Let me be clear you go low I am taking it to the basement. Idc karma is b and and so am I😂
Good for OP! Very sharp! I kinda of feel like OP is prolly the person that her parents and friends expect to “suck it up” or “take the high road.” It is amazing how she was able to turn the tables, keep calm, and enjoy her wedding!
Something tells me that Charlotte was hoping Noah would come with OP to her wedding so she could profess her love before the ceremony and offer to run away with him. That's why she told OP "Noah could have come, it's fine."
I gotta say, I wouldn't have been this quick to forgive the family for taking a stance against me when I was so clearly vindicated.
Yeah wtf I would have gone no contact that very instant
They were destined to divorce, but this helped speed it along. He deserves to move on and find someone who loves him.
Hope the drama was worth it to ruin her marriage and relationship with parents. LOL
I’m like 100 percent sure that if Noah had told Charlotte hey let’s run away together she would’ve jumped like she was on fire and ran like she’s the flash to be with him. So ain’t no way op is wrong. And the fact the husband has to hear it constantly from her friends that she should’ve been with Noah sounds like he should’ve been left her.
When Charlotte was going on her speech about Noah, OP was like "I didn't remember ordering a yappachino" lol
The sweet karma on the narcissists people 🙂
She pulled the reverse uno card. Her sister went out of her way to try ruining her wedding. She just said "no you"
Wow, finally, a family that actually thinks about their actions without it being such a long and prolonged period of time.
Personally speaking, even if the affair was true I still think better to let the stepsister's husband know. A guy tried to elope with his wife, if she had clean record, the husband would want to step in to stop anyone from trying to get near his wife anyway
Chefs Kiss on calling her husband. Absolutely brilliant move. And don't worry about your parents. Once you and you're husband start having children,,they'll drop the no talking rule asap
Wow, OP pulled the UNO reverse so fast she must've had hidden it in her dress's sleeves🤭🤭. It's great that her parents actually realised who was the true karen on their own at the end.
It's not your fault it's his step sister's fault because she tries to sabotage the wedding so it's on her not him if you think that you guys are idiots and she should go to hell for it.
After hearing the title card, anyone else expected to hear "and now my entire family is angry at me"? Lol.
5:25 Also if OP had started dating Noah before, you can bet that Charlotte would have been upset 🙄
In my opinion OP should take things with her parents slow after they took Charlotte's side
No. You owe this woman nothing and owe your daughter everything. That's literally all that matters.
No contact with your parents or your sister!!! Keep your peace and let them know that until they see how toxic your sister is.
Half expect OP's sister to be at the dinner
It's easier to blame her than admit they were crappy parents!!
This story has the "parry this you filthy casual" vibes .
What i find funny is how she thought op were insecure in her relationship with noah.
15:07 this lady was CRAZY and NEEDED hospitalization long ago.
SIL is the type to be like "well I ruined your wedding so you'll go out with me now right.?"
I also hate the hypocricy of people blaming Op for telling the truth where as her step sister was trying to do the same thing but with lies.
this whole story was actually rather mellow. I'm so used to huge blowups and lies and cheating and cops being called. 2 girls having a crush on the same guy and a couple getting divorced over "being compared to another man" seems so calm in comparison.
Really feel bad for the husband though.
It was a crush amongst teenagers that had been left in the past, but for some reason Charlotte brought it all up again.
I bet even she had not thought about it until the engagement, then she tormented her husband with comparisons and then made up something that could possibly have been believed if it weren't for the fact that everyone else had forgotten the drama 7 years ago. Strike while the iron is hot, lady.
By the time she made her move, the only person who cared anymore was her husband.
I can actually sort of see where the parents were coming from. This seemed like a temper tantrum between 2 kids with only 1 victim.
They were completely right that the husband leaving his wife over a high school crush was a bit much, but they were blaming the wrong person.
My mother married her father,
When I tell my mouth DROPPED until I heard it multiple times to realize she didn't mean her grandpa
NTA, Thank you for showing your now Ex brother in law the respect he deserved
"it's none of your business becasue that's between me and noah" cool keep that same energy when I say yes to him 😊
op did this little move called tit for tat.
you try to sabotage my relationship,i do the same.we are fair and square.only difference is you did it like shit while i succeed and there is nobody to blame except you.cuz you initiated everything
Hah, this one is grew up to be a smart cookie. Good on her for not falling for Charlotte's shenanigans.
Side 17:33 What happened to plain old right and wrong? She can't have Noah if he never wanted your sister. Unless her desperation turned him off.
NTA - should have told parents w@ happened between u 2 when u were teenagers th@ way would have known the situation n been awhere th@ Charlotte is nt above lying n manipulation.
Then parents would've just said, 'Break up with Noah and give him to Charlotte.'
Imma just say. this love story at the start sounded like a romance novel. And that makes it more beautiful
Finally an OP with a brain.
OP forgave her parents way too easily, good for them to apologize but I'd still be LC with them because an apology won't make up for their BS.
the first time you have a fight with your parents after you become an adult is always the hardest. They have to realize you can speak back now and they can't just ground you and you have to realize you don't have to be scared of them and cave to their demands.
“Neither my bridesmaids or my mom“😂😂
the parents are lying through their damned teeth - that dinner was an attempt to see if OP might be willing to forgive someday. You don't go from showing clear favoritism to suddenly "Oops! We were wrong."
Wait till they have kids and parents will demand to see their grandbabies.
Charlotte knew Noah liked her step sister and thats why she convinced her to make that promise. She knew Noah would never pick her so she wanted stop him from picking her sister.
Redditors be having Cinderella aah families
Women will stab their sisters in the back for Chad 🤷♂️ it is what it is
Fr 😂
Dats crazy
Charlotte: OP how dare you do what I was going to do to you!!!! The audacity to ruin my relationship before I could!!!"
No views? Am I first on a video for the first time ever??
you got here 2 minutes after if posted😭
Lol
No
Nuh uh lil bro (start a chain)
@@_luvvBug was the first video that popped up after opening RUclips 😂
Charlotte is just a terrible person. Lying, decieving and manipulative smh
Couple of weeks took the parents to change sides. They just got tired from the loser that decided to ruin everything and put the blame everything on Op... And realized that if they are going to keep contact with one of them, is not going to be the toxic one.
Op should forgive but never forget.
Thank god op's parents reverse their decision and realised their fault.
If anyone had communicated or confided in someone else all of this would have been avoided
Me watching this while my parents are arguing about a divorce
i'd be throwing hands with the parents. my anger issues could NEVER deal w that
I'm glad the parents came to their senses and realized what a horrible person Charlotte was. Sometimes, people need to find out on their own; it's not something you can always tell them
Turnabout is fair play 🤷🏼♂️
I’ll never understand how parents take sides like this, especially when the side their taking is the wrong side. With the way that mom is acting, it’s seriously making me question if the girls dad was really that horrible or if the mom was the “other women” & she’s just twisting the narrative to make her look better in her daughters eyes.
Parents do not deserve forgiveness, they actively sided with one child over another for no good reason.
🎶High School is a serious thing, these problems matter!🎶
i feel like charlottes would say "i object" at the wedding so glad she left
Charlotte's marriage fell apart because her husband knew if she'd successfully gotten them to split apart she would have left him to try to get together with Noah. Charlotte thinks OP is the villain because she expected Noah to choose her and she still can't get over him not picking her.
I'll bet the mom is afraid the stepdad will leave her if she doesn't side with his biological daughter, and that's why she sided with the little psycho.
Who never speaks to their best friend/sister again and has a whole rivalry for the rest of time because of some HIGH SCHOOL CRUSH. High school drama is no need to end a relationship. Thats why this feels fake bro
Its like an eye for an eye, your marriage for her marriage. She tried to sabotage your marriage and in return, completely rational understandable return, you turned it around on her. You are not in the wrong because she tried to do it first.
A good lesson to be learned here is that you shouldn’t keep other people in the dark when shit like this is happening. OP refused to tell her parents what was happening for YEARS, and their very first introduction to the situation was her sister’s divorce. If OP had told her parents what had been happening on the day of the wedding, this wouldn’t have been such an issue. I’m glad it worked out well for them but it’s very easy to screw yourself over. OP almost lost the relationship she had with her parents. Don’t keep your mouth shut when someone decides to make you a target.
Dear LORD I will never understand people who are “too big” to explain themselves right after the incident happens and then whine about how no one is on their side after they let the bad guy spread their tale. “My mom should understand me,” right after saying that she never tried to explain the situation when she got the chance because “she didn’t feel she had to” and then waited until AFTER she knew Charlotte had had a chance to say what she wanted.
Allow me to scream:
IT DOESN’T MATTER IF YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT IF THE OTHER PARTY CONTROLS THE NARRATIVE!!! DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND THE BASIC TENANT OF HISTORY???
So she can do to you but when it gets down to it her over you that's sad. So sorry your family like. It will come back to her she will get hers.
OP needs to learn to speak up. She let step sis control the narrative. Every time she kept quiet she made her life worse
Yeah, she should have told them everything about their fight when their parents asked about them distancing during high school itself. But then I think they would not have considered it a big deal probably back then
Her parents are mad because her SIL ex husband got on them
Awe they fixed it :)
In conclusion, an eye for an eye, an arm for an arm :/
Not gonna lie if I was OP's sis' husband, I would be pissed if OP hadnt called me. He clearly can tell that something was going on in his own marrige, to have OP tell him that was legit the straw that broke the camels back like
If what OP said about her stepsister is true, then I have no sympathy, cause she was the one who betrayed OP first. My hunch is that the stepsister knew OP would stick to whatever promise they made, but chose to go "rules for thee, but not for me" when it comes to pursuing the person that would become OP's husband. Plus, life lesson here: if the person is not interested no matter what you do (the stepsister had a major head start, and STILL could not charm the man), maybe that person is not the problem. Honestly, I really have no idea how much drama was buried in that stepsister's psyche to become so manipulative, cause while the stepfather did give OP crap initially, he did come around to see OP's side of things, so I doubt she learned it from him.
Noah should defend his wife.
A mother who got cheated on decided to take a side with someone who tried to ruin someone else's wedding by pretending they were cheating. I don't know what to say... Is she even real?
I’m actually conflicted with happened at the end with her parents cuz like all it took was the days of the honeymoon for the parents from going to console Charlotte to finally having enough of her and wanted to get dinner with the OP to reconcile. I’m like that is way too forgiving because they ignored you and expect you to apologize to the sister who’s creating unnecessary drama and pulled a stunt like that at your wedding. They least they could do is apologize first before complaining about the further actions of your step sister and apologize profusely again at dinner and want to work very hard to reconcile and earn back your trust.
those on the sister's side obviously don't know the full story, and if they do they're a bunch of weirdos
Noooooooo way! It's not your fault. They don't care that she was trying to ruin your wedding!? Your parents are wrong. What goes around, comes around. Karma is a b!tch.
While the parents need to knock some more sense in their head, I can forgive them since they owned up to and apologized for the crap they've pulled
Ruined their marriage? Bro just got his life back and the chance to find a caring lovely woman who is not constantly blurring about another guy who shouldve chosen her
Yeah Charlotte shot her own foot 😂
Charlotte is a psychopath. 😂😂
Charlotte can dish it, but can’t take it..
I believe Charlotte made OP make that promise so she (Charlotte) could get Noah with no problem. Talk about removing competition.
charlotte's husband was bound to leave her eventually, it was just a matter of time.
If Charlotte's lie was even remotely true then her current husband would've deserved to know about it too, so Charlotte did indeed ruin her own marriage. Because it also seems like her now ex-husband tried to overlook the fact that Charlotte was in love with Noah and he tried to make it work with her, she was the one who never wanted to let go ane move on.
YAY HAPPY ENDING!!!!
Huh. She’s a nicer person then some I know and definitely over myself. If my mother took a step siblings side over them trying to ruin my relationship and wedding, her apologies wouldn’t mean squat. I’d have simply told them they made their bed and that would be that. They showed their true colours. I get wishing to protect your child and stand by them, kudos there, but her mother took the saboteurs side 😂 despite her own pain with crap like that. Don’t need that kinda person around family or not
I'll apologise if she does.
What a great uno reverse.
I have a family member who tries to ruin my life because she is jealous of me
no she tank her marragie. and he had the right to know.
Not that my sister would do this but I'm glad we don't have the same taste in men
Why is it always the parents back such awful sibling/step sibling.
What's with these people about apologies, apologies are stupid consept for things like this, apologies are for small and insignificant things this is just crazy...
The fake ones are the best for clicks.
Op is a doormat. she just ups and accepts the apology? nah broda, my parents did this they'd be paying alot more then just a simple apology and dinner.