Omg "I am the thing that is deeper than my pain" that is pure gold so glad to have found your channel it has inspired me to continue my parts work and to continue working on my run-on sentences LOL thank you so much!!!! hugs keep up the good fight you've made a difference in my life.
I have been breathing in and absorbing everything I hear you share. How you describe all of this is incredible and life altering for the best. Thank you beyond words. I hope you make/share more revelations. I really appreciate what you do/have done. On a micro level, when I hear you I get an injection of hope. I received your presentations whem I am at a very low point.. Thanks for the boost.. Sincerely, Jack
Dear Tori, listening to your words is so soothing and compassionate. It makes it much easier for me to get in touch with the deeply rooted pain. Only by listening to you there is a resonance I hardly felt before. I heard a lot of spiritual teachers. They all gave me glimpses of what we really are and capable of. But somehow it always has been very abstract when it came to put it in a daily living. You have an immense gift. You do both - giving me a very detailed view on the complexity of the human being and the truth of who we really are. It shines through you. That is simply amazing. Thank you so much.
By working this way i found forgivness an really felt sorry for the ones who caused all the pain. Thats the same love jesus has for us all. How cool to love and truely forgive
We have to forgive ourself and others who caused trama . I wrote my dad a letter by the time i went from age 4 to 17 .I found he was me having no way out , and because you gave me a way out . I love my father , and made him a christmas card. I wish i could tell him cause I never told him . He wanted to be loved he did not know how . Like father like son, But i am so much more ! Thank you . Peace, love to all the beautiful people here ❤
The pain is only one part of our beautiful, complicated, Universe filled with so much to discover, understand, of who we are, right? What a fascinating journey we are on…
Wow.. what a series. Your unique and enlightened approach completely normalises complex mind challenges. In doing so it removes the fear from what can at times feel frightening and perhaps destabilising territory to explore. Game changer 😉👍 and YES.. I am the thing that is deeper than my pain🙏 I think I had lost sight of that!
This is profound... the perfect antidote to the struggles that can so easily consume me... the essence of what is happening with IFS. You are a blessing young woman. As an octogenarian I didn't expect to learn much from such a young whippersnapper... but I've learned things that vital to my healing as a survivor of complex trauma. Thanks you. I'll likely return to this video many times.
Great stuff.. I was listening to some of your stuff on AEDP today while I was on my walk.. I like how you ended this video with meditation.. I have been thinking about how similar dissociating and meditating are.. With both my body is relaxed.. I can see how that dissociating part helped me.. And continues to help me..
I’ve been sending these to my lying cheating husband with so many exiles and layers and layers of protectors protecting protectors and also my therapist… thank you for these. So ❤Helpful to me… I am bigger than my pain. I am. I am not my pain. I can see it. I can free it from where it lives in me, let it stand up and move
Wow ,thats proof we have a choice heal, an get know who we are. We are love ,forgivness ,tolerance . I smiled the other day , a big goofy grin because l learnd how to love my self, and feel my soul .
Thank you, i have numbed myself for possibly decades and when it woke up that's when it all started to change. thank you. for this self- bonding time. i appreciate
I do wonder if I seem more vulnerable at times partly because I don't have lots of walls up. But I enjoy being able to feel, of course ;) And am doing well...
Thank you Tori for your videos, i love them ❤️ Today i was driving my car und i had such a feeling being alone, sad, i missed a hug. I was asking me, what would you like to say me little Monika, what do you miss? and she sad, she needed a hug from her father, she never had a one, he was aggressiv, rather hittig and punching that little kid. I was asking her, where are you now, she sad, shes crying in her bed. I wanted to hug her, und tell her, not to be sad, but I had tears in my eyes. I had to go away from that Situation (i was stil driving the car). Now I am at home, alone, i have no stress and i'm trying to wake up that feeling once again, i want to go deeper, but i can't find that feeling anymore. How can i manage to do that? 🙏 Ive tried it with Pictures in my head and Feelings, but with no succes. Thank you 🙌
10:59 “if we can just hold the pain…” How? If we can bring the resources together… How? Dr. Olds you speak movingly of the potential for healing with the therapies that you explain, but for me, you don’t provide anywhere near enough information about How. Doing my best to follow your IFS videos and the instructions of my own therapist, I am now drowning in an exile. No healing has occurred. My daily life has worsened. No previously unknown resources, abilities, skills or tolerances have suddenly appeared to make the exile’s pain manageable. I know people have left comments saying that parts work has changed their life for the better, but I’m not one of them yet.
I'm sorry, I know this doesn't really have to do with the Inner Child but...I've noticed that the IFS model is similar to Jungian psychology, in that there's a lot of overlap. I was wondering how I can seamlessly meld the two philosophies together. So can you break down its similarities and differences for me?
Your speaking and compassionate wisdom and professional experience is so inspiring. Thank you. I wonder if it would be of value to you to enquire as to why you use the word "like" so often. I noticed it because I found it distracting. Sort of fashionable rather than timeless like your wisdom.
Dr. Tori Please read sooner the small but majestic book The Order of Time, By Carlo Rovelli. Esp the last 3 chapters. Good luck and health and peaceful moments to you and Yours,
Hi Tori. Please address my question if you have time. I am hoping IFS can help me feel happy in my life. However I recently purchased Dick Schwartz audiobook "no bad parts", I was enjoying listening to the book up untiI chapter 4. I am a traditional conservative man. Chapter 4 was full out left wing tirade. Numerous statements on anti-American we're a racist country blah blah blah. My question is why do therapists all lean left wing, furthermore why are politics infused into a healing modality at all? I voted for Trump, so what, so did 70 million other Americans. Are we all bad people? I don't like everything Trump does or says, but I can say that about any politician. I am just wondering if there is a place for someone that loves my country, supports the police, and trys his best to go to church every Sunday?
I hope politics doesn't become a barrier to you doing this beautiful healing work. Definitely take what resonates from the book and leave the rest. There's definitely space for you and all human beings to heal. Left or right leaning, we all have a Self and wounds that access to our Self will help to heal. It's a beautiful journey you deserve. ❤
Omg "I am the thing that is deeper than my pain" that is pure gold so glad to have found your channel it has inspired me to continue my parts work and to continue working on my run-on sentences LOL thank you so much!!!! hugs keep up the good fight you've made a difference in my life.
I have been breathing in and absorbing everything I hear you share. How you describe all of this is incredible and life altering for the best. Thank you beyond words. I hope you make/share more revelations. I really appreciate what you do/have done. On a micro level, when I hear you I get an injection of hope. I received your presentations whem I am at a very low point.. Thanks for the boost.. Sincerely, Jack
Wow, thank you! I'm so delighted to hear that!! Thanks for letting me know, Jack!! I really appreciate it... ;)
Dear Tori, listening to your words is so soothing and compassionate. It makes it much easier for me to get in touch with the deeply rooted pain. Only by listening to you there is a resonance I hardly felt before. I heard a lot of spiritual teachers. They all gave me glimpses of what we really are and capable of. But somehow it always has been very abstract when it came to put it in a daily living. You have an immense gift. You do both - giving me a very detailed view on the complexity of the human being and the truth of who we really are. It shines through you. That is simply amazing. Thank you so much.
By working this way i found forgivness an really felt sorry for the ones who caused all the pain. Thats the same love jesus has for us all. How cool to love and truely forgive
We have to forgive ourself and others who caused trama . I wrote my dad a letter by the time i went from age 4 to 17 .I found he was me having no way out , and because you gave me a way out . I love my father , and made him a christmas card. I wish i could tell him cause I never told him . He wanted to be loved he did not know how . Like father like son, But i am so much more ! Thank you . Peace, love to all the beautiful people here ❤
The pain is only one part of our beautiful, complicated, Universe filled with so much to discover, understand, of who we are, right? What a fascinating journey we are on…
Wow.. what a series. Your unique and enlightened approach completely normalises complex mind challenges. In doing so it removes the fear from what can at times feel frightening and perhaps destabilising territory to explore. Game changer 😉👍 and YES.. I am the thing that is deeper than my pain🙏 I think I had lost sight of that!
Oh…that is so nice to hear. What a lovely comment…thank you :)
I am the thing that cannot be subtracted. Everything else comes and goes.
This is profound... the perfect antidote to the struggles that can so easily consume me... the essence of what is happening with IFS. You are a blessing young woman. As an octogenarian I didn't expect to learn much from such a young whippersnapper... but I've learned things that vital to my healing as a survivor of complex trauma. Thanks you. I'll likely return to this video many times.
you honestly have to write a book with all this wisdom!
Every clip felt like we were having a face to face…. Amazing…❤
Thankyou for this series.
I am deeper than my pain.
Yes you are :)
I love how your mind works..I am bigger then my pain. Makes total sense. All your videos are very enriching. Mahalo. More please..
I've been watching your videos and I feel like you're my best friend. :) Thank you for being so sweet and relatable and articulating so beautifully.
Great stuff.. I was listening to some of your stuff on AEDP today while I was on my walk.. I like how you ended this video with meditation.. I have been thinking about how similar dissociating and meditating are.. With both my body is relaxed.. I can see how that dissociating part helped me.. And continues to help me..
So so beautiful thank you I feel like I’m listening to my future self
I’ve been sending these to my lying cheating husband with so many exiles and layers and layers of protectors protecting protectors and also my therapist… thank you for these. So ❤Helpful to me… I am bigger than my pain. I am. I am not my pain. I can see it. I can free it from where it lives in me, let it stand up and move
Wow ,thats proof we have a choice heal, an get know who we are. We are love ,forgivness ,tolerance . I smiled the other day , a big goofy grin because l learnd how to love my self, and feel my soul .
it made me cry it made me cry ( i am deeper than the pain) thinking i dont know exactly what that is!!!!!
Thank you, i have numbed myself for possibly decades and when it woke up that's when it all started to change.
thank you. for this self- bonding time. i appreciate
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
20:24 ;; What a great great video. Much thanks for your work!!!
Where have u been :( I love ur content you’ve been helping me so much in my healing journey thank u for everything that ur doing
Dr Tori you seemed vulnerable here. It does feel once we begin to open up to inner children.
I do wonder if I seem more vulnerable at times partly because I don't have lots of walls up. But I enjoy being able to feel, of course ;) And am doing well...
That last comment was said, because I often feel ostracized because of my beliefs, which is terrible when you're looking for help.
Thank you Tori for your videos, i love them ❤️ Today i was driving my car und i had such a feeling being alone, sad, i missed a hug. I was asking me, what would you like to say me little Monika, what do you miss? and she sad, she needed a hug from her father, she never had a one, he was aggressiv, rather hittig and punching that little kid. I was asking her, where are you now, she sad, shes crying in her bed. I wanted to hug her, und tell her, not to be sad, but I had tears in my eyes. I had to go away from that Situation (i was stil driving the car). Now I am at home, alone, i have no stress and i'm trying to wake up that feeling once again, i want to go deeper, but i can't find that feeling anymore. How can i manage to do that? 🙏 Ive tried it with Pictures in my head and Feelings, but with no succes. Thank you 🙌
10:59 “if we can just hold the pain…” How?
If we can bring the resources together… How?
Dr. Olds you speak movingly of the potential for healing with the therapies that you explain, but for me, you don’t provide anywhere near enough information about How. Doing my best to follow your IFS videos and the instructions of my own therapist, I am now drowning in an exile. No healing has occurred. My daily life has worsened. No previously unknown resources, abilities, skills or tolerances have suddenly appeared to make the exile’s pain manageable. I know people have left comments saying that parts work has changed their life for the better, but I’m not one of them yet.
Why is the capital S Self not available when we are young?
It is always there. It’s just we form conflicting schemas as we pick on painful experiences
I'm sorry, I know this doesn't really have to do with the Inner Child but...I've noticed that the IFS model is similar to Jungian psychology, in that there's a lot of overlap.
I was wondering how I can seamlessly meld the two philosophies together. So can you break down its similarities and differences for me?
This video does not show up in the IFS playlist did you intend it to?
Your speaking and compassionate wisdom and professional experience is so inspiring. Thank you. I wonder if it would be of value to you to enquire as to why you use the word "like" so often. I noticed it because I found it distracting. Sort of fashionable rather than timeless like your wisdom.
I wish I could understand this, but I'm not able to feel pain. Not anymore.
who/what part of you shows up for you when you say that?
21:40
You're so very very cute! and I love your content 😊
27:30
Dr. Tori Please read sooner the small but majestic book The Order of Time, By Carlo Rovelli. Esp the last 3 chapters. Good luck and health and peaceful moments to you and Yours,
Thanks for the tip!!
7:20
Tori are you ever coming back?
Yes!! Soon! I’ve just finished 3 more series and will begin to post one a week this summer! Thanks for asking :)
Hi Tori. Please address my question if you have time. I am hoping IFS can help me feel happy in my life. However I recently purchased Dick Schwartz audiobook "no bad parts", I was enjoying listening to the book up untiI chapter 4. I am a traditional conservative man. Chapter 4 was full out left wing tirade. Numerous statements on anti-American we're a racist country blah blah blah. My question is why do therapists all lean left wing, furthermore why are politics infused into a healing modality at all? I voted for Trump, so what, so did 70 million other Americans. Are we all bad people?
I don't like everything Trump does or says, but I can say that about any politician. I am just wondering if there is a place for someone that loves my country, supports the police, and trys his best to go to church every Sunday?
I hope politics doesn't become a barrier to you doing this beautiful healing work. Definitely take what resonates from the book and leave the rest. There's definitely space for you and all human beings to heal. Left or right leaning, we all have a Self and wounds that access to our Self will help to heal. It's a beautiful journey you deserve. ❤
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