What a great interview! Every question leading to aspects to be highlighted that we can be so blind to ☹ i know i was! And this statement is particularly helpful for me too. Wishing everyone a full and speedy recovery from the damage.. 🙏🏼
@@Mina-gm3pg no that's his real voice. It's have a slight robotic tone if it was altered. He's definitely proud of his voice and has no problem using it to seduce or get ppl to do things.
A non narcissistic person can reach a point where they need to take control of their own life and kick the narcissist out. That doesn’t mean they turned into a narcissist; it just means they are done.
The fact that I loved him kept me dealing with his crap - feeling sorry for him, etc. Until I became aware .... I healed me. I see narcissists now and I do not attract to them - I see them. I don't have to prove I am good enough any longer. I look at actions NOT WORDS! Greatest lesson of my life.
When HG Tudor introduced his self, his voice saying, "I'm a narcissist and psychopath," the hairs stood up on my neck like it does when I attempt to watch a horror movie, but I braved through it, and glad I did.
This is hauntingly spot on. My narc punched me, shoved me, and destroyed thousands of dollars of my property. Unprovoked, just our of the blue. It was like a switch got flipped and the rage emerged. They believe their feelings are reality. If they feel their house is on fire, despite the absence of smoke or fire, it's real to them and they react as such. But, the thing that breaks my heart the most is that my narc never actually loved me despite telling me I was loved thirty times per day. My mind can't seem to make sense of this.And, yes, there are legal consequences for my narc. My narc is looking at prison time.
Narcissists do not love. They do not know what it is. He loves things and how people make him feel. I see that clearly. When I had needs or was not in my best place, he could not handle it - he needed another source.
yes i experienced this, when i was not in a good place and just needed someone to be there for me and just listen, the toxic person just couldn't handle it, and just don't know how to give or provide a holding space for me. it was a lonely place.
That is not true. I'm a narcissist, and have family members who are as well. I love, and know they love me. We may not be psychopaths, but being one does not make one the other. The words are not synonyms. I am sorry you were hurt by a narcissist. It has happened to me as well. May not have admitted mine had I not been exposed to hers, if that makes any sense. Not trying to be shitty, just kind of a big deal in my life...
I had a relationship with a covert narcissist - they are the worst - they first appear so kind - humble.. then wham! They begin the 'victim' play.. so you feel sorry for them & stayed hooked longer.. only to realize a bit later what they are doing. They don't become aware - self-reflect - or change.. they get worst & more child-like.
I had the same. A continuous round of pity plays from beginning to the end. I called it the "save me mode" it was her default stance. It turned out that it was everyone else's job to save her as she limped from one crisis to another. I didn't understand it at the time but I do know.
Covert are the worse! Humble until they know you're hooked and then bam... they became grandiose. Mine did like this. The humble man I rescued from big trouble comes one day to me and says: only if you knew how many women want me. I was done that very moment. My narc traits kicked in and kept him on the hook (love bombing him) until I manage to discard him just like the boys! (Narc style). He hoovered me , I answered to each hoover (at that time I wasn't aware of this narc phenomenon) but I was very careful about the first sign of devalue coming from him when I discarded him again. Went through few cycles like this (shorter and shorter) in each cycle I was less and less involved until the final discard I did 6 months ago. I did it instinctively, did't know about all the stuff I realize now that with each cycle I was getting more and more closure because with each cycle I impose stricter and stricter boundaries that made him to become more and more vicious. Lot of horrific memories that keep me away for good. I am writing all these in the hope that it might help someone who is struggling to get out and is fighting strong feelings towards the abuser. Girls, at each devalue you're suffering think that you're special and don't deserve it, become more narcissistic yourself, love yourself more as the narc shows you less love. Keep the love for yourself steady. What you are losing from him take it away from what you give him and give it to yourself until you have none to give him. Make his discard as easy a walk in the park.
When he starts devaluing you, love bomb him and see what he does with your love. See how he shreds your love, how he spits and puts his heels hard on it. You cannot get greater closure than this. Do not allow no one to devalue you in any way. All the trouble with narc abuse comes exactly from this allowing to be devalued. Provoke him to make the way he devalues you bigger (by love bombing him) to make sure he is a narc and when you're ready discard him. Turn the table. Only narcs devalue someone that shows them more and more love because only narcs consider love to be a weakness.
HG actually brought me back to life after years of being in a relationship with the man I thought was my forever. Our relationship was so up and down, the highest highs and the lowest lows, which I knew was unhealthy, but I didn’t know what the reason was until I found his content and it clicked!
If I had had HG’s teachings available to me 4 years ago, we could have avoided 2 visits to a psychiatric hospital, $120,000 in losses and property damage and a stroke. A mid-range narcissist did that amount of damage to our family in 6 months!
I'm an old(ish) lady and I've learned so much from HG Tudor. Everything he does is filtered through a bar user's eyes. It isn't about specific people, it isn't a hate channel. It is informative and has totally helped this old(ish) dog learn new tricks. I am extremely grateful for all his work.
One of the most educational interviews available on the internet. This is invaluable information. Paula, thank you for your work. Your videos are helping me so much! Also you are a fantastic interviewer!
Paula, this was a smashing interview. Your questions were so interesting and everything I would have wanted to know, but wouldn’t have thought to ask. Also, very much worth mentioning, the one thing any broadcaster worth their salt knows, you didn’t interject incessantly with sounds of affirmation (uh huh, yeah, Mmm) which can be so annoying and distracting to listeners or viewers. WELL DONE!
V insightful interview. I was surprised by how personal some of your Qs were and that he answered them. I’m glad he remains anonymous. He’s more forthcoming as a result. The insights into his thought processes are frightening. Thank you for taking the time to prepare for this interview as well as you did. 💚
I was trauma bonded to this covert narcissist.. I couldn't get why I didn't walk away.. I was trauma-bonded.. It went from so in love to nothing.. a roller coaster.. Listening to vids like this deepened my awareness as I was learning in real life..
Wow ..this has opened my eyes! Now I know I was actually married to a Narcissistic bastard. Trauma childhood and I think his elder sister who let's him do what he wants..is also the same. Materialistic, money orientated..thinks he's godsgift to woman. He had so many so now he's slowed to the pace of retirement with one gullible woman. In all my past experiences in broken relationships, have I ever endured such cruelty to the point he told me to have another car crash and die!! HG Tudor I will be looking into your work and thank you Paula
I really feel like he has helped me the most because he describes exactly what I went through- and it all makes sense. Like for example some people who make RUclips channels about narcissism (this channel excluded) really get it wrong about how the narcissist supposedly is tormented without us because they “lost their supply”. And HG makes it clear- we are just fuel. They can get it anywhere ... nothing we do will ever hurt them in the way we would be hurt if someone we cared about left us.
From what I understand there are certain types of narcissists that are tormented by not winning or having control (like if you walked away before they were ready to let you go or it messed them up because their victims are supposed to be the inferior ones so how dare they take control and leave! Especially if the victim does a lot better without then and the narcissist does not have adequate fuel at the time.)
@@rose_madder After a life time of study of narcs,the worlds most foremost authority (the person who mental health proffessionals research his research when studying to phd level) Dr. Robert Hare. Stated bottom line...."they are not human."
H.G. Tudor rocks. Himself and Sam Vaknin are living proof that all narcissist's are not necessarily doomed to inflict nothing but misery on everyone else. Great interview Paula x
Sam and HG both fall into the 1% of the 1% who GOVERN their narcicism but dont for a minute get it twisted theyre the same narc you had just refined💛 Luv em both too all the same, but then again, I would wouldnt I😅
Well, we do not know them in daily life and as close friends or family, so imo thats a bit much to say... besides that their work is greatly appreciated. I have narcissistic friends and they are also quite good for me and treat me nicely. The occasional stabs and comments do not bother me too much from the ones I love most.
during my silent treatment I got a new life..Ine city, love interest, felt free. when hoovering came the narc exploded in confusion & feeling weak..remember: we are beautiful long before we meet a narc. we are enough.
He's not courageous. He's adapting to get narcissistic supply or fuel from us AT ALL TIMES. NEVER FORGET THAT FOR EVEN ONE MOMENT. HE ADMITS IT NOW AND THEN TOO. A NARCISSIST IS SELF STROKING, IS DOING IT ONLY FOR SELF, AT ALL TIMES, 100% OF THE TIME, AND NEVER FOR OTHERS, THOUGH IT APPEARS LIKE HE'S GIVING AND SHARING. IT'S NEVER ALTRUISTIC IN NATURE. CORRECT ME IF I'M WRONG, PLEASE. 😚🙏🏻👌👍🤝😊😇
It makes perfect sense. When I lost the plot and called her a narcissist, she went on to do a narc test and posted her negative result online. This was her assertion of control. In her world she had proved that she wasn't a narcissist.
I started watching the 2023 video, then I saw this older video and wanted to watch it first! Love ❤️ from Denver, Colorado USA 🇺🇸. You asked ALL THE questions that I would have asked!
I think at times how wonderful it would be to not feel safe or grief, but then I think, without those feelings, there would be no wat to feel happiness, joy, come and satisfaction. Thanks for this interview.
Hg had helped me see that my ex-narc was a worse person than I even know. I have been healing from all the wounds I have endured. I had thought I was going crazy around him. There’s a lot of incorrect information out there. I am eternally grateful that I found HG Tudor. It’s exhausting dealing with a narcissists trama ,drama & cruelty I’m going through his Empaths videos now which are also engaging. ✨
Empath also seeks control, but for the reason of not getting hurt. That's why many empaths live like hermits. In their own little world where they can control their environment, ensuring it doesn't hurt them.
The last time my covert narcissistic husband gave me the silent treatment I planned my departure and left. The covert is the worst because they pretend to be a good person. Watching all the videos is helping me see some of my narcissist traits or trauma response while in these relationships. All 3 of my serious partners would stare when I would cry watching TV shows. They couldn't understand how I would be emotionally affected by a TV show. This probably was the biggest red flag.
At 22:48 and then back to 10:22, now you know! Ive actually found that a majority of people who claim to be empaths are actually dark empaths or have covert narcissist traits. And HG Tudor is right, if you are an empath, you wouldn't need to tell people or post quotes about how you are online. I think that if you are empathic or truly are an empath, then people will already see that in you.
to start with... my Mother is the Manger narcissist in my life and I see the tendency to see this in my life. I desire to be the best I can be. I want to seey children rise above the sins of the father's apon the children , etc .
Thank you, Paula. It validates many issues we deal with. I wondered why you didn't explore spirituality but then I realized you did. No love= no ability for a spiritual connection. This issue kept me stuck for 41 years. I believed I could help him and he in turn would help me...until I was no longer recognizable to myself. Divine order: 1.Spirit. 2.Mind, will, heart/ emotions 3.Body Addiction to narcissism will seperate self from spirit. It locks one onto emotions to deflect from rational thinking. In a mistaken attempt to soothe chaos, I allowed my mind to be diverted from Holy Spirit and consumed by carnality/body. The narcissist only relates at the level of mind to body. The transaction . The con. The constant cognitive dissonance that keeps one believing and holding out in hope. Breadcrumbing. I found out one can literally starve oneself to death from the defensive posture they seek to keep us contained in... and that is rock bottom. Validation is a spiritual negotiation with a loving source. It's freedom and peace. Even alone. My take anyway. God bless the journey. ♡
Brilliant interview and answers many questions that have baffled us empaths. Last year when the situationship ended with the narc I was watching and listening to many videos on RUclips. I admit that I couldn’t listen to HG and the reason why, because he was the one who spoke the real raw truth which shocked me. I wasn’t ready to hear the brutal real truth about NPD and come to terms with the reality of the situation. Almost a year later armed with the knowledge HG is the one I can listen too and understand with greater clarity the true disorder. Keep up the good work with educating and helping us with our healing.
It took H. G. to help me FULLY understand the world of narcissim. It took many months of me listening to H. G to COMPLETELY walk away and GOSO--Get Out Stay Out. The information I get from listening to H. G is IMMEASURABLE. Thank you very much for interviewing H. G, thank you H. G for agreeing to be interviewed and thank you H. G for being so honest with your answers.
HG’s only ever exacting, he speaks the unadulterated to the root truth why so many who lean empath are off-put by him, and same reason I think Truth Seekers are his magnet. I need friendships maybe a new husband whos comfortable with raw truth and Ive learned that this last six weeks since disengaging from Ex Narc
Geez, you can see how intelligent and driven HG is. His brain doesn't stop , it's always thinking on a high and detailed level. It seems exhausting. So Narcissism is basically created out of lack of control environment. So a narcissist is driven by the need to always assert and obtain control.
There’s something about this lack of control environment that isn’t quite explained fully. Seems it’s more neglect. The child must form their shell of protection, fails to bond emotionally and develop those healthy interactions.
@@LindaSaffioti that's why he is broad with his wording, parental neglect is certainly a common reason but it could be anything from spoiling their kids to heavy school yard bullying. These negative experiences cause the child to lack control, and so they develop a mindset to pathologically seek it elsewhere. It's a coping mechanism that they're eternally trapped inside. That's why they take so much pride in personal achievements, because it's literally all they have to live for.
Thanks Paula, great interview!! You had some great questions for HG..really Helped!! I like when HG said "They never loved you to began with, because if they did..they would not have abused you!! " HG in one of his Videos said "The fact that they abuse me means, that whatever came before wasn't Genuine !! " This really Helped me understand the disorder, what I went through and the cognitive dissonance!! Thank you
Just a few years ago, I realized, one reason I attract narcissists.. is that I am an empath.. so it's been a clear awareness.... I was reared by narcissists and was a caregiver - shy - a people pleaser.. never thought I was good enough.. then throughout my life I realized much - how manipulated I always was by narcissists.. my book DADDY THROWS ME IN THE AIR - memoir/self-help... a tool to assist in awareness and healing..
Glad to hear his “truth” but also so tough concerning exactly what we have dealt with..... Thanks HG! Thanks Paula fir getting him on . Very helpful 8 years later ~~~~~
❤☮️ oh, thank you for this interview with H. G. Tudor! Very enlightening. Especially about “am I a narcissist?” Reflecting on my past I recognized a season of narc behavior. But the fact I do “reflect” means I’m not, and I thank God for that. About a year ago I figured out my sis had been infected with narcissism. Devastating for me as the previous year I realized my mom was a covert narcissist! Mom passed in 2022, and my sister’s behavior was BIZARRE and nothing but pure hate toward me. I restricted communication to only email or snail mail due to texting abuse and threats. She manipulated mom into making her and my step brother the executors of her tiny property. She thought she’d been made the Queen of World! Been working on healing. Still spending much of my time in books and videos like these. Understanding CPTSD and developmental trauma is critical to healing! 😊😊😊 Thank you again! 🙏🏻
HG Tudor saved my sanity, my life. I finally realized after reading 4 of his books that my NOW ex husband was/is a narcissist. I finally was able to leave him behind and I just got my divorce finalized.
H.G. Tudor was the first 'learning' I found in my search to find out why? He helped me so much. Once HG finally got it through to me, I awakened to the facts of narcissism and that empowered me to go no contact. I don't even have a word to describe how I feel knowing I walked away from my narcissist soon to be ex husband! I went no contact a year and 3 months ago and have never looked back! Oh yes, I did come as close as I have ever been too death of my soul but with my God in Heaven above I made it! I pray for anyone in the position I was in, may you also have the courage and strength to walk away 🙏🏼
I second that motion. Courage and strength will help you to your properly choose your right mode of action, which is when to walk away, without curiosity following you to go toward the narcissist. THEY DON'T CARE, ABOUT YOU, AND HOW YOU ARE, OR HOW YOU HAVE TO STRUGGLE, OR HOW YOU FEEL, BECAUSE THEY ARN'T GENUINE.
There are two long term married narcs living next door. Their relationship is exactly as HG described. Quite educational and entertaining. Glad I live the simple life!
Very well done Paula. I am so grateful to you and this RUclips community for creating and sharing this content. I was going out of mind during my 3 year relationship with a covert. My mind is almost completely free of him and I am finding joy again. Blessings.
Oh WOW!!!!!! Bingo! Bingo!Bingo! Wonderful validation!!!! Thank you for being so open to having this guest. I still stand at what I said before. Caution needs to apply on our end when seeking advice from a narcissist. We cannot let down our guard being empathats. Again well done. You handled the interview beautifully. Thank you to your guest as well.
"I had no idea what I was dealing with". That's always how it begins. From day ONE. Including our earliest family members. I've witnessed my own siblings have a full on hateful relationship with our own parents...and yet as the youngest myself... forever trying my whole life to help all of them. Finally had to step away from all of them year's ago. Every single one of them attacked me in one way or another for my apparent naivety...I never followed the programming. And yet my siblings who did... Would call me for guidance, support and advice for year's until my own life with a narcissist became unbearable. That's when my entire birth family attacked me. Quite amazing 😒
HG tutor will not allow himself to embellish upon anyone else complimenting him .He sets the record straight that it is not what you think of him ,it is what he thinks of himself. This helps me really assert my power as an empath not to ever accept their do-overs as genuine.BLEZZ#KEEP DA CHANGE
Brilliant, one of the most important videos for any empath or victim of narcissistic abuse to listen to. Thoughtful questions and direct and honest answers that dispels with certaintly any misconceptions on the topic. Bravo and thank you NC and HGT for doing this for us!
Just fyi.... I have come back and listened to this interview three times now. I have 3 of H.G. Tudor books which all helped me a few years back . I cannot imagine never having heard that first video I heard of his .... not having not read the books I read. They are like nothing else and a VITAL part of my understanding of what I had indeed experienced. The way he regards and views empaths I think is more true to form to us than the majority of pod casters . That a Narcissist is most “attracted” to an Empath has always been obvious to me. We are good Souls. Period. Being condemned and often regarded as a “co dependent” by so many authors, doctors, coaches and pod casters always alarmed me. He without being questioned on that answered it simply by telling you in this interview that an empath was far over the choice between that and another Narcissist ! I could go on and on. I believe they are “designed” and “engineered” in a way NONE of us can know FOR SURE . Be it genetic predisposition or childhood injuries alone~ or a combination . For me...it is impossible NOT to believe it is of malevolent and demonic origins . And connected to eVery chaotic and dim~ low vibrational EVIL on Earth. God Bless anyone in their pathway.
Excellent interview. Thank you both. To those that are complaining about, I have to say: guys, get smarter. Stop thinking in black and white! Use the info HG is providing to develop your narc traits to cope with the narcs. When you see yourself swimming in a shark infested water you have to be a shark until you manage to get out of there. Once you are out you can be a beautiful dolphin! Learn to be a shark from the shark. (HG Tudor) 😊
HG Tudor us Great I call him the Sherlock Holmes of Narcissism all his knowledge and info is definitely how they all operate his way of teaching and through writings and certain ways the harsh reality of it his style way of teaching is very brilliant and entertaining at the same time👍
Truly eye opening interview. You're the only narcissist, HG, that I will allow in my energy range. Thank you for your self awareness and clear communication.
That was actually one of the most insightful interviews I've ever heard, absolutely ever. I never thought I would be saying thank you to someone who operates in this way, but really HG, thanks so much, that was possibly life saving! As always Narc Con you are fabulous xx
HG's channel helped me a lot. I like his schools and cadres of narcissists, it makes a lot more sense than the standard descriptions. Before watching HG, I couldn't pin point where the one I dealt with sat. He seemed to be an amalgamation of ovet, malignant, covert, neglectful etc. Also, because I wasn't in a long term relationship with him, a lot of channels don't discuss the secondary source dynamic. HGs channel confirmed I was a IPSS, I also submitted the details into the Narc Detector test and HG confirmed and explained that the guy I dealt with was an upper mid-range elite. This validated that I wasn't nuts but also sad, as even though my gut feeling was right, I wanted it to be wrong and that Ii could still somehow fix it and also that there's still hope for him to be a good man, but no, I had to let that hope go.
Brilliant I love HG, I availed of his services a while ago and he not only confirmed I had been in a 17 Yr relationship with a narc but also what type he is. Truly enlightening to receive the confirmation from the man himself. 🙏❤️
And, just like with any addiction, the empath eventually has a moment of clarity and suddenly the emptiness and falseness of the narc becomes clear and the "charm" is exposed for what it is: a trap!! 🪤 It feels good to recognize it for what it is, because the empath is NOT the disordered individual (although the narc would have us believing otherwise)
There was never love in the first place. It was control. And it will still be if we empaths break the 'no contact regime'. Very important to get out, stay out (goso)! This interview helps. Thank you Paula, for initiating this. You did this very well. Also thank you HG for the insight
The best part of HG is his amazing humour....mostly tongue in cheek. Very technical with the breakdown of terms, but the key point is the covert or overt masterly control the narc weilds 24/7.
What to say. Fascinating. Scary. Sad. There were times I wanted to cry for the Narcissist - they live such awful lives even if they are incredibly capable. I also recognised certain people in my life that behave in some of the ways HG explained. Slowly- things are becoming clear and I am beginning to see. Thank you for all you do here HG you are setting me free- no matter what you are
Great questions Paula especially the one, Am I the narcissist ? Ask myself that question especially when I knew I had to go no contact. Thank you both for the interview.
Oh my dear a wonderful and really helpfully interview!!! The fog lifts more and more… Never thought That This relate will be such a turn around thing! But I am in peace Inside just because I know now what I dealt with… and not went crazy!!! I will learn and grow!!! If I count up( I will do) all the facts that I expired… even with one example… I will have a Mindmap of him as a persons living, dealing and me „surviving“ NPD and think that Makes me whole again. Me as an creative Person I thing that will be my master piece to come out of the fog!!! I will enjoy doing this!
“If you have to ask the question, you aren’t one…” thank heavens! I also asked myself whether I might be a covert narcissist when I started listening to HG
A brilliant interview... Very interesting and educative as usual... Thank you and thanks for HG for helping me to escape a narcissist by his deep knowledge in his videos... Very appreciative 💖
As an auditory learner I am grateful for the insight into relationships a destructive experiences in same. Thank you HG Tudor. Wish I had known this earlier in my life. Would have saved me from much unhappiness. Please keep educating people to help our sad, sad world.
I have been ruminating for many months if I was narcist or have I become a narcist AFTER meeting my NarcEX husband. I FINALLY got the answers of this by this EXTRAORDINARY interview. I am very grateful that you interviewed H. G. Thank you Paula. Hugs❣️❣️❣️
That was brilliant! It has helped my understanding and like HG says the understanding does help towards having some closure. It been like learning a foreign language!
I don’t like it when people call HG bad names. He is helpful. And I don’t like when “empaths” call narcissist demons that deserve to be harmed in any way. Those people don’t strike me as true empaths to be honest.
@@Eff_It Exactly...some people lose everything and have to start from scratch. Most would not be too concerned with happened to the abuser at that stage.
And HG is a narcissistic psychopath according to his own self definition. How do you think he's treating people in his life? He says again and again that he doesn't care if he is helping people. He wants money and recognition, and he's found a good market for his talents.
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Most powerful statement “They never loved you to start with, if they did they wouldn’t have abused you”
What a great interview! Every question leading to aspects to be highlighted that we can be so blind to ☹ i know i was! And this statement is particularly helpful for me too. Wishing everyone a full and speedy recovery from the damage.. 🙏🏼
Hg Tudor's voice on his videos is probably altered too.
After I finally realized this, it still took me several years to get the strength to leave.
@@Mina-gm3pg no that's his real voice. It's have a slight robotic tone if it was altered. He's definitely proud of his voice and has no problem using it to seduce or get ppl to do things.
@@daviedood2503 he probably took voive over lessons
A non narcissistic person can reach a point where they need to take control of their own life and kick the narcissist out. That doesn’t mean they turned into a narcissist; it just means they are done.
The fact that I loved him kept me dealing with his crap - feeling sorry for him, etc. Until I became aware .... I healed me. I see narcissists now and I do not attract to them - I see them. I don't have to prove I am good enough any longer. I look at actions NOT WORDS! Greatest lesson of my life.
same here
Same here; greatest lesson of my life. One sees them.
@@Vixinaful Yes, it was but a life lesson, not the life sentence it once appeared to be.🤔 THAT is indeed YAHsome. ❤️🔥💯
Ann .. sorry to say you loved an illusion...
@@tootienottoofruitie1726 that is correct..
When HG Tudor introduced his self, his voice saying, "I'm a narcissist and psychopath," the hairs stood up on my neck like it does when I attempt to watch a horror movie, but I braved through it, and glad I did.
He's really funny as well. His wit and sarcasm is hilarious
I think he said sociopath not psychopath 🙂
@@caroleatkins1520 at 1:02 "I am a narcissist psychopath"
@@caroleatkins1520 He says “psychopath.”
@@caroleatkins1520 HG explains this in other interesting videos.
This is hauntingly spot on. My narc punched me, shoved me, and destroyed thousands of dollars of my property. Unprovoked, just our of the blue. It was like a switch got flipped and the rage emerged. They believe their feelings are reality. If they feel their house is on fire, despite the absence of smoke or fire, it's real to them and they react as such. But, the thing that breaks my heart the most is that my narc never actually loved me despite telling me I was loved thirty times per day. My mind can't seem to make sense of this.And, yes, there are legal consequences for my narc. My narc is looking at prison time.
Narcissists do not love. They do not know what it is. He loves things and how people make him feel. I see that clearly. When I had needs or was not in my best place, he could not handle it - he needed another source.
Thank God u we’re focused on your survival and healing #1..... Good Riddens Mans Rejection is Gods Protection👊🏻🙏🏻🎚🔥💥💥
yes i experienced this, when i was not in a good place and just needed someone to be there for me and just listen, the toxic person just couldn't handle it, and just don't know how to give or provide a holding space for me. it was a lonely place.
That is not true. I'm a narcissist, and have family members who are as well. I love, and know they love me. We may not be psychopaths, but being one does not make one the other. The words are not synonyms. I am sorry you were hurt by a narcissist. It has happened to me as well. May not have admitted mine had I not been exposed to hers, if that makes any sense. Not trying to be shitty, just kind of a big deal in my life...
@@hayorge27 how do you know you’re a narcissist? Are you diagnosed?
Why is it only a "he"? Are you a feminist man hater or something?
I had a relationship with a covert narcissist - they are the worst - they first appear so kind - humble.. then wham! They begin the 'victim' play.. so you feel sorry for them & stayed hooked longer.. only to realize a bit later what they are doing. They don't become aware - self-reflect - or change.. they get worst & more child-like.
So true Ann
So so true, mine kept crying either on the phone or telling me he "cried"..Felt like saying ach shut the fcuk up 😂
I had the same. A continuous round of pity plays from beginning to the end. I called it the "save me mode" it was her default stance. It turned out that it was everyone else's job to save her as she limped from one crisis to another. I didn't understand it at the time but I do know.
Covert are the worse! Humble until they know you're hooked and then bam... they became grandiose. Mine did like this. The humble man I rescued from big trouble comes one day to me and says: only if you knew how many women want me.
I was done that very moment. My narc traits kicked in and kept him on the hook (love bombing him) until I manage to discard him just like the boys! (Narc style).
He hoovered me , I answered to each hoover (at that time I wasn't aware of this narc phenomenon) but I was very careful about the first sign of devalue coming from him when I discarded him again. Went through few cycles like this (shorter and shorter) in each cycle I was less and less involved until the final discard I did 6 months ago. I did it instinctively, did't know about all the stuff I realize now that with each cycle I was getting more and more closure because with each cycle I impose stricter and stricter boundaries that made him to become more and more vicious. Lot of horrific memories that keep me away for good.
I am writing all these in the hope that it might help someone who is struggling to get out and is fighting strong feelings towards the abuser.
Girls, at each devalue you're suffering think that you're special and don't deserve it, become more narcissistic yourself, love yourself more as the narc shows you less love. Keep the love for yourself steady. What you are losing from him take it away from what you give him and give it to yourself until you have none to give him. Make his discard as easy a walk in the park.
When he starts devaluing you, love bomb him and see what he does with your love. See how he shreds your love, how he spits and puts his heels hard on it. You cannot get greater closure than this.
Do not allow no one to devalue you in any way.
All the trouble with narc abuse comes exactly from this allowing to be devalued. Provoke him to make the way he devalues you bigger (by love bombing him) to make sure he is a narc and when you're ready discard him.
Turn the table.
Only narcs devalue someone that shows them more and more love because only narcs consider love to be a weakness.
There’s only ONE narcissist I will listen to and that’s HG Tudor.
After following his work, I pretty much have a PhD in narcissism haha.
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Same!
Sam Vaknin
Me too, his work is brilliant.
Saving me from a hard situation with a narcissist.
Regards from Scotland.
HG actually brought me back to life after years of being in a relationship with the man I thought was my forever. Our relationship was so up and down, the highest highs and the lowest lows, which I knew was unhealthy, but I didn’t know what the reason was until I found his content and it clicked!
If I had had HG’s teachings available to me 4 years ago, we could have avoided 2 visits to a psychiatric hospital, $120,000 in losses and property damage and a stroke. A mid-range narcissist did that amount of damage to our family in 6 months!
I'm an old(ish) lady and I've learned so much from HG Tudor. Everything he does is filtered through a bar user's eyes. It isn't about specific people, it isn't a hate channel. It is informative and has totally helped this old(ish) dog learn new tricks. I am extremely grateful for all his work.
One of the most educational interviews available on the internet. This is invaluable information. Paula, thank you for your work. Your videos are helping me so much! Also you are a fantastic interviewer!
Thanks Sam 🌹
Paula, this was a smashing interview. Your questions were so interesting and everything I would have wanted to know, but wouldn’t have thought to ask. Also, very much worth mentioning, the one thing any broadcaster worth their salt knows, you didn’t interject incessantly with sounds of affirmation (uh huh, yeah, Mmm) which can be so annoying and distracting to listeners or viewers. WELL DONE!
Thank you 🌹
I agree that you really do know the art of interviewing well. Was it learned when young ?
Yes, THANK YOU for letting him talk and complete his thoughts without interrupting him or incessantly nodding your head.
V insightful interview. I was surprised by how personal some of your Qs were and that he answered them. I’m glad he remains anonymous. He’s more forthcoming as a result. The insights into his thought processes are frightening. Thank you for taking the time to prepare for this interview as well as you did. 💚
I was trauma bonded to this covert narcissist.. I couldn't get why I didn't walk away.. I was trauma-bonded.. It went from so in love to nothing.. a roller coaster.. Listening to vids like this deepened my awareness as I was learning in real life..
So relatable. So devastating. I hope you're finding the reclamation you need now to be free. ✨
Me too, sending you love and light on your healing journey ❤
Wow ..this has opened my eyes! Now I know I was actually married to a Narcissistic bastard. Trauma childhood and I think his elder sister who let's him do what he wants..is also the same. Materialistic, money orientated..thinks he's godsgift to woman. He had so many so now he's slowed to the pace of retirement with one gullible woman. In all my past experiences in broken relationships, have I ever endured such cruelty to the point he told me to have another car crash and die!!
HG Tudor I will be looking into your work and thank you Paula
Limerence. It’s crazy looking back how I chose to overlook so many things even when other people tried to warn me and I stuck up for him 😔
I really feel like he has helped me the most because he describes exactly what I went through- and it all makes sense. Like for example some people who make RUclips channels about narcissism (this channel excluded) really get it wrong about how the narcissist supposedly is tormented without us because they “lost their supply”. And HG makes it clear- we are just fuel. They can get it anywhere ... nothing we do will ever hurt them in the way we would be hurt if someone we cared about left us.
Broken down appliance junkyard lol he's one of the best goso get out stay out 👍
Yes Rachel can be a hard listen too depending on where a person is on their journey I guess but very real 🌹
From what I understand there are certain types of narcissists that are tormented by not winning or having control (like if you walked away before they were ready to let you go or it messed them up because their victims are supposed to be the inferior ones so how dare they take control and leave! Especially if the victim does a lot better without then and the narcissist does not have adequate fuel at the time.)
@@NarcCon No P. their not real .because their not human. a meat suit
dosnt make them so.
@@rose_madder After a life time of study of narcs,the worlds most
foremost authority (the person who mental health proffessionals
research his research when studying to phd level) Dr. Robert Hare.
Stated bottom line...."they are not human."
H.G. Tudor rocks. Himself and Sam Vaknin are living proof that all narcissist's are not necessarily doomed to inflict nothing but misery on everyone else. Great interview Paula x
Amen thanks 🙏
Sam and HG both fall into the 1% of the 1% who GOVERN their narcicism but dont for a minute get it twisted theyre the same narc you had just refined💛 Luv em both too all the same, but then again, I would wouldnt I😅
Agree
Well, we do not know them in daily life and as close friends or family, so imo thats a bit much to say... besides that their work is greatly appreciated. I have narcissistic friends and they are also quite good for me and treat me nicely. The occasional stabs and comments do not bother me too much from the ones I love most.
It’s their way of fueling themselves
during my silent treatment I got a new life..Ine city, love interest, felt free. when hoovering came the narc exploded in confusion & feeling weak..remember: we are beautiful long before we meet a narc. we are enough.
I have deep respect for HG, who has shown enormous courage, and offered us sometimes hilarious and always brilliant analyses.
He's not courageous. He's adapting to get narcissistic supply or fuel from us AT ALL TIMES. NEVER FORGET THAT FOR EVEN ONE MOMENT. HE ADMITS IT NOW AND THEN TOO. A NARCISSIST IS SELF STROKING, IS DOING IT ONLY FOR SELF, AT ALL TIMES, 100% OF THE TIME, AND NEVER FOR OTHERS, THOUGH IT APPEARS LIKE HE'S GIVING AND SHARING. IT'S NEVER ALTRUISTIC IN NATURE. CORRECT ME IF I'M WRONG, PLEASE. 😚🙏🏻👌👍🤝😊😇
It makes perfect sense. When I lost the plot and called her a narcissist, she went on to do a narc test and posted her negative result online. This was her assertion of control. In her world she had proved that she wasn't a narcissist.
I started watching the 2023 video, then I saw this older video and wanted to watch it first! Love ❤️ from Denver, Colorado USA 🇺🇸.
You asked ALL THE questions that I would have asked!
Thank you Paula! This was fantastic hearing a narcissist explain the reality of the situation...your questions were perfect! And thank you HG.
🙏🌹 thanks Elaine
Paula, you look so at ease there. Walking in purpose. Good content and much needed. Thank you ❤️
Thanks was a wonderful experience
You could sort of hear her emotional perspective. Like questioning on how people feel and such. Compared with his grounded approach.
I think at times how wonderful it would be to not feel safe or grief, but then I think, without those feelings, there would be no wat to feel happiness, joy, come and satisfaction. Thanks for this interview.
Hg had helped me see that my ex-narc was a worse person than I even know. I have been healing from all the wounds I have endured. I had thought I was going crazy around him. There’s a lot of incorrect information out there. I am eternally grateful that I found HG Tudor. It’s exhausting dealing with a narcissists trama ,drama & cruelty I’m going through his Empaths videos now which are also engaging. ✨
Where can I find HG’s videos?
Empath also seeks control, but for the reason of not getting hurt. That's why many empaths live like hermits. In their own little world where they can control their environment, ensuring it doesn't hurt them.
Absolutely correct!!
ABSOLUTE GOLD.. EVERYONE NEEDS TO HEAR THIS 🙌🙌🙌
When I met my ex he saved me in his phone as “the one”. I thought it was the sweetest thing ever. Great interview! Thank you
I was the one I could fall in love with. eventually I became socks as he had a foot fetish lol
paula you are lovely i can tell you are an empath i can see the love in your facial expressions, love from a fellow empath , well done
Thank you 🙏🌹
The last time my covert narcissistic husband gave me the silent treatment I planned my departure and left. The covert is the worst because they pretend to be a good person. Watching all the videos is helping me see some of my narcissist traits or trauma response while in these relationships. All 3 of my serious partners would stare when I would cry watching TV shows. They couldn't understand how I would be emotionally affected by a TV show. This probably was the biggest red flag.
I agree Michelle..they look on with a perplexed amusement
Well done for leaving! Its so difficult ❤🎉
At 22:48 and then back to 10:22, now you know! Ive actually found that a majority of people who claim to be empaths are actually dark empaths or have covert narcissist traits. And HG Tudor is right, if you are an empath, you wouldn't need to tell people or post quotes about how you are online. I think that if you are empathic or truly are an empath, then people will already see that in you.
Interesting although Empaths will naturally support other Empaths in any forum if they feel to 🌷
I’m grateful for him. For his drive and awareness in working on his legacy, to assist others.
to start with... my Mother is the Manger narcissist in my life and I see the tendency to see this in my life. I desire to be the best I can be. I want to seey children rise above the sins of the father's apon the children , etc .
I desire to rise above this.
"There are no part-time narcissists." We must remember this!!
Thank you, Paula. It validates many issues we deal with. I wondered why you didn't explore spirituality but then I realized you did. No love= no ability for a spiritual connection. This issue kept me stuck for 41 years. I believed I could help him and he in turn would help me...until I was no longer recognizable to myself. Divine order:
1.Spirit.
2.Mind, will, heart/ emotions
3.Body
Addiction to narcissism will seperate self from spirit. It locks one onto emotions to deflect from rational thinking. In a mistaken attempt to soothe chaos, I allowed my mind to be diverted from Holy Spirit and consumed by carnality/body. The narcissist only relates at the level of mind to body. The transaction . The con. The constant cognitive dissonance that keeps one believing and holding out in hope. Breadcrumbing. I found out one can literally starve oneself to death from the defensive posture they seek to keep us contained in... and that is rock bottom. Validation is a spiritual negotiation with a loving source. It's freedom and peace. Even alone. My take anyway. God bless the journey. ♡
There is such a demonic presence in his voice, I was unable to finish watching.
41 years. Maria. kudos to you. i did 20.
A well written and insightful reply. A long time, ,but eternity is infinate.
Join you where time ends sister.
Amen 🙏
Brilliant interview and answers many questions that have baffled us empaths.
Last year when the situationship ended with the narc I was watching and listening to many videos on RUclips.
I admit that I couldn’t listen to HG and the reason why, because he was the one who spoke the real raw truth which shocked me. I wasn’t ready to hear the brutal real truth about NPD and come to terms with the reality of the situation. Almost a year later armed with the knowledge HG is the one I can listen too and understand with greater clarity the true disorder.
Keep up the good work with educating and helping us with our healing.
It took H. G. to help me FULLY understand the world of narcissim. It took many months of me listening to H. G to COMPLETELY walk away and GOSO--Get Out Stay Out. The information I get from listening to H. G is IMMEASURABLE.
Thank you very much for interviewing H. G, thank you H. G for agreeing to be interviewed and thank you H. G for being so honest with your answers.
HG’s only ever exacting, he speaks the unadulterated to the root truth why so many who lean empath are off-put by him, and same reason I think Truth Seekers are his magnet. I need friendships maybe a new husband whos comfortable with raw truth and Ive learned that this last six weeks since disengaging from Ex Narc
Geez, you can see how intelligent and driven HG is. His brain doesn't stop , it's always thinking on a high and detailed level. It seems exhausting.
So Narcissism is basically created out of lack of control environment. So a narcissist is driven by the need to always assert and obtain control.
There’s something about this lack of control environment that isn’t quite explained fully.
Seems it’s more neglect. The child must form their shell of protection, fails to bond emotionally and develop those healthy interactions.
@@LindaSaffioti that's why he is broad with his wording, parental neglect is certainly a common reason but it could be anything from spoiling their kids to heavy school yard bullying. These negative experiences cause the child to lack control, and so they develop a mindset to pathologically seek it elsewhere. It's a coping mechanism that they're eternally trapped inside. That's why they take so much pride in personal achievements, because it's literally all they have to live for.
Thanks Paula, great interview!!
You had some great questions for HG..really Helped!!
I like when HG said "They never loved you to began with, because if they did..they would not have abused you!! "
HG in one of his Videos said
"The fact that they abuse me means, that whatever came before wasn't Genuine !! "
This really Helped me understand the disorder, what I went through and the cognitive dissonance!!
Thank you
🙋♀️❤️..yes we really need to let this sink in
What a very powerful dynamic you two are! Thank you so much for arranging this interview and for sharing
Thanks Sallie 😊🌹
Just a few years ago, I realized, one reason I attract narcissists.. is that I am an empath.. so it's been a clear awareness.... I was reared by narcissists and was a caregiver - shy - a people pleaser.. never thought I was good enough.. then throughout my life I realized much - how manipulated I always was by narcissists.. my book DADDY THROWS ME IN THE AIR - memoir/self-help... a tool to assist in awareness and healing..
Glad to hear his “truth” but also so tough concerning exactly what we have dealt with.....
Thanks HG!
Thanks Paula fir getting him on .
Very helpful 8 years later ~~~~~
I love listening to this man. I find him fascinating and so interesting. His wit and honesty is brilliant...
❤☮️ oh, thank you for this interview with H. G. Tudor! Very enlightening. Especially about “am I a narcissist?” Reflecting on my past I recognized a season of narc behavior. But the fact I do “reflect” means I’m not, and I thank God for that.
About a year ago I figured out my sis had been infected with narcissism. Devastating for me as the previous year I realized my mom was a covert narcissist! Mom passed in 2022, and my sister’s behavior was BIZARRE and nothing but pure hate toward me. I restricted communication to only email or snail mail due to texting abuse and threats. She manipulated mom into making her and my step brother the executors of her tiny property. She thought she’d been made the Queen of World!
Been working on healing. Still spending much of my time in books and videos like these.
Understanding CPTSD and developmental trauma is critical to healing! 😊😊😊
Thank you again! 🙏🏻
HG Tudor saved my sanity, my life. I finally realized after reading 4 of his books that my NOW ex husband was/is a narcissist. I finally was able to leave him behind and I just got my divorce finalized.
This is like Interview With A Vampire. With all due respect 😊
An incredible interview. Thank you both.
H.G. Tudor was the first 'learning' I found in my search to find out why? He helped me so much. Once HG finally got it through to me, I awakened to the facts of narcissism and that empowered me to go no contact. I don't even have a word to describe how I feel knowing I walked away from my narcissist soon to be ex husband! I went no contact a year and 3 months ago and have never looked back! Oh yes, I did come as close as I have ever been too death of my soul but with my God in Heaven above I made it! I pray for anyone in the position I was in, may you also have the courage and strength to walk away 🙏🏼
I second that motion. Courage and strength will help you to your properly choose your right mode of action, which is when to walk away, without curiosity following you to go toward the narcissist. THEY DON'T CARE, ABOUT YOU, AND HOW YOU ARE, OR HOW YOU HAVE TO STRUGGLE, OR HOW YOU FEEL, BECAUSE THEY ARN'T GENUINE.
Thanks, Paula! I've been listening to H.G. for the last 3 months now, love his work! "Once you know you go" and GOSO!
What is GOSO?
Thanks Monica 🌹
@@napoleonsparis2058 get out stay out
@@mysticme777 💙😊
@@napoleonsparis2058 "Get out, Stay Out"
"As an empath, you have an addiction to narcissists. That addiction sits in the heart of you, wanting to be fed." Le sigh, so true.
There are two long term married narcs living next door. Their relationship is exactly as HG described. Quite educational and entertaining. Glad I live the simple life!
I'm truly interested how do they behave together thx.
@@explorer0213
All is well until they get bored. He rages and she does the silent treatment.
Very well done Paula. I am so grateful to you and this RUclips community for creating and sharing this content. I was going out of mind during my 3 year relationship with a covert. My mind is almost completely free of him and I am finding joy again. Blessings.
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Great interview … such good insight!!! Love Paula and Hg together … so helpful.
Oh WOW!!!!!! Bingo! Bingo!Bingo! Wonderful validation!!!! Thank you for being so open to having this guest. I still stand at what I said before. Caution needs to apply on our end when seeking advice from a narcissist. We cannot let down our guard being empathats. Again well done. You handled the interview beautifully. Thank you to your guest as well.
Thanks Amazon Di....for both before and after comments 🙏🌹
Disagree. Being "open" is the last thing thats needed.
"I had no idea what I was dealing with". That's always how it begins. From day ONE. Including our earliest family members. I've witnessed my own siblings have a full on hateful relationship with our own parents...and yet as the youngest myself... forever trying my whole life to help all of them. Finally had to step away from all of them year's ago. Every single one of them attacked me in one way or another for my apparent naivety...I never followed the programming. And yet my siblings who did... Would call me for guidance, support and advice for year's until my own life with a narcissist became unbearable. That's when my entire birth family attacked me. Quite amazing 😒
You look remarkable here! All your Remey walks are paying off along with your recovery! Thank you for a great interview...good questions😎
Hey thanks a lot Lisa..getting better..but lightning helps 😊🌹
the most beautiful interview with the brilliant HG
HG tutor will not allow himself to embellish upon anyone else complimenting him .He sets the record straight that it is not what you think of him ,it is what he thinks of himself. This helps me really assert my power as an empath not to ever accept their do-overs as genuine.BLEZZ#KEEP DA CHANGE
H.G. Tudor’s channel is a life changer!
HG Tudor is no more a narcissist, he rather is an empath and an angel who has overcome the evil he acquired
HG Tudor is no more a narcissist, he rather is an empath and angel who has overcome the evil he acquired from the environment he was born in.
Brilliant, one of the most important videos for any empath or victim of narcissistic abuse to listen to. Thoughtful questions and direct and honest answers that dispels with certaintly any misconceptions on the topic. Bravo and thank you NC and HGT for doing this for us!
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Just fyi.... I have come back and listened to this interview three times now.
I have 3 of H.G. Tudor books which all helped me a few years back .
I cannot imagine never having heard that first video I heard of his .... not having not read the books I read.
They are like nothing else and a VITAL part of my understanding of what I had indeed experienced.
The way he regards and views empaths I think is more true to form to us than the majority of pod casters .
That a Narcissist is most “attracted” to an Empath has always been obvious to me. We are good Souls. Period.
Being condemned and often regarded as a “co dependent” by so many authors, doctors, coaches and pod casters always alarmed me.
He without being questioned on that answered it simply by telling you in this interview that an empath was far over the choice between that and another Narcissist !
I could go on and on.
I believe they are “designed” and “engineered” in a way NONE of us can know FOR SURE . Be it genetic predisposition or childhood injuries alone~ or a combination .
For me...it is impossible NOT to believe it is of malevolent and demonic origins . And connected to eVery chaotic and dim~ low vibrational EVIL on Earth.
God Bless anyone in their pathway.
Excellent interview.
Thank you both.
To those that are complaining about, I have to say: guys, get smarter. Stop thinking in black and white!
Use the info HG is providing to develop your narc traits to cope with the narcs. When you see yourself swimming in a shark infested water you have to be a shark until you manage to get out of there. Once you are out you can be a beautiful dolphin!
Learn to be a shark from the shark. (HG Tudor) 😊
HG Tudor us Great I call him the Sherlock Holmes of Narcissism all his knowledge and info is definitely how they all operate his way of teaching and through writings and certain ways the harsh reality of it his style way of teaching is very brilliant and entertaining at the same time👍
Truly eye opening interview. You're the only narcissist, HG, that I will allow in my energy range. Thank you for your self awareness and clear communication.
That was actually one of the most insightful interviews I've ever heard, absolutely ever. I never thought I would be saying thank you to someone who operates in this way, but really HG, thanks so much, that was possibly life saving! As always Narc Con you are fabulous xx
🙏🌹thank you
HG's channel helped me a lot. I like his schools and cadres of narcissists, it makes a lot more sense than the standard descriptions. Before watching HG, I couldn't pin point where the one I dealt with sat. He seemed to be an amalgamation of ovet, malignant, covert, neglectful etc. Also, because I wasn't in a long term relationship with him, a lot of channels don't discuss the secondary source dynamic. HGs channel confirmed I was a IPSS, I also submitted the details into the Narc Detector test and HG confirmed and explained that the guy I dealt with was an upper mid-range elite. This validated that I wasn't nuts but also sad, as even though my gut feeling was right, I wanted it to be wrong and that Ii could still somehow fix it and also that there's still hope for him to be a good man, but no, I had to let that hope go.
I guess knowing Starfall pushes us into accepting and helps moving forward 🙏
Brilliant I love HG, I availed of his services a while ago and he not only confirmed I had been in a 17 Yr relationship with a narc but also what type he is. Truly enlightening to receive the confirmation from the man himself. 🙏❤️
Love hg. He humour is hilarious. A psycho/narc that brings people help, laughter, and joy. Probably the only one on this planet.
Absolutely gripping, wonderful interview with brutally honest answers, thankyou Paula & HG.
And, just like with any addiction, the empath eventually has a moment of clarity and suddenly the emptiness and falseness of the narc becomes clear and the "charm" is exposed for what it is: a trap!! 🪤 It feels good to recognize it for what it is, because the empath is NOT the disordered individual (although the narc would have us believing otherwise)
There was never love in the first place. It was control. And it will still be if we empaths break the 'no contact regime'. Very important to get out, stay out (goso)! This interview helps. Thank you Paula, for initiating this. You did this very well. Also thank you HG for the insight
Thanks Cherie 🌹🙏
The best part of HG is his amazing humour....mostly tongue in cheek. Very technical with the breakdown of terms, but the key point is the covert or overt masterly control the narc weilds 24/7.
What to say. Fascinating. Scary. Sad. There were times I wanted to cry for the Narcissist - they live such awful lives even if they are incredibly capable.
I also recognised certain people in my life that behave in some of the ways HG explained. Slowly- things are becoming clear and I am beginning to see.
Thank you for all you do here HG you are setting me free- no matter what you are
Thanks for this enlightenment. HD has been very honest and useful to us
Listen to this for the second time. First when just coming out from the relationship and now 2 years later. He's right on. Thanks to you both.
That must have been interesting Kathy letting time pass and reviewing the information 🙏🙋♀️❤️
Wow, this was a fantastic interview. Great job both of you.
Thanks so much!
WOW!!!! 🤩✨✨🥰Paula your channel is blowing up, you’re awesome ❤️❤️
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@@NarcCon omg thanks for replying!!!
Great questions Paula especially the one, Am I the narcissist ? Ask myself that question especially when I knew I had to go no contact. Thank you both for the interview.
Omg what an awesome video loved it. If it wasn't for you guys I would still be with the Narc. Thank You
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Great interview! Well done, dear Paula! Very helpful content.
Thank you Meron 🌹
Thank you both, fan of both of you and your channels
Paula, fantastic with HG! I listen to his material also. You were fantastic. You just keep getting better and better! Thank you for all that you do!
Thanks for that encouragement Karen 😊🙏
Love that you are so relaxed when talking to HG!
Oh my dear a wonderful and really helpfully interview!!! The fog lifts more and more… Never thought That This relate will be such a turn around thing!
But I am in peace Inside just because I know now what I dealt with… and not went crazy!!!
I will learn and grow!!!
If I count up( I will do) all the facts that I expired… even with one example… I will have a Mindmap of him as a persons living, dealing and me „surviving“ NPD and think that Makes me whole again.
Me as an creative Person I thing that will be my master piece to come out of the fog!!! I will enjoy doing this!
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Wow! What a fascinating interview! Thanks Paula.
“If you have to ask the question, you aren’t one…” thank heavens! I also asked myself whether I might be a covert narcissist when I started listening to HG
Yes, HG, You are creating "a legacy" as you said. I thank you for giving me the information I need to learn about narcissists, for my own reasons.
A brilliant interview... Very interesting and educative as usual... Thank you and thanks for HG for helping me to escape a narcissist by his deep knowledge in his videos... Very appreciative 💖
Thanks 🌹
As an auditory learner I am grateful for the insight into relationships a destructive experiences in same. Thank you HG Tudor. Wish I had known this earlier in my life. Would have saved me from much unhappiness. Please keep educating people to help our sad, sad world.
This was a terrific interview. I hope he comes on again!
This guy is the best out there has helped me so much to understand whats happening to me thank you HG
Wow. That was eye opening and simply amazing.
So glad!
I have been ruminating for many months if I was narcist or have I become a narcist AFTER meeting my NarcEX husband. I FINALLY got the answers of this by this EXTRAORDINARY interview.
I am very grateful that you interviewed H. G.
Thank you Paula. Hugs❣️❣️❣️
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Great information. Very brave move to do this interview. Thank you, Paula 🙏
Just seeing this now. Great stuff! Thank you both! Hearing HD Tudor say "Hubba, Hubba" ..... Thx
H G Tudor.
Thank you for all your videos.
Respect from Scotland.
That was brilliant!
It has helped my understanding and like HG says the understanding does help towards having some closure. It been like learning a foreign language!
Great analogy Jenny ❤️
H G Tudor. I wish I had learned this 20 years ago. Thank you so much. Many lives were ruined because of my narc. Keep up the good work! Bonnie
Yes Paula I love how it expanding your channel an ideas good idea to ha ha Tudor well done both of you x
Wow.. thank you Hd Tudor ...for all the insights
So grateful, HG you are probably the only Narcissist I have engaged in and said Thank you for your knowledge
He is brilliant, insightful and ruthlessly honest. Thank you for this
I don’t like it when people call HG bad names. He is helpful. And I don’t like when “empaths” call narcissist demons that deserve to be harmed in any way. Those people don’t strike me as true empaths to be honest.
Those people are in pain. Some have been damaged. It doesn't mean they aren't empathic.
@@Eff_It Exactly...some people lose everything and have to start from scratch. Most would not be too concerned with happened to the abuser at that stage.
The behaviour is quite evil.
And HG is a narcissistic psychopath according to his own self definition. How do you think he's treating people in his life? He says again and again that he doesn't care if he is helping people. He wants money and recognition, and he's found a good market for his talents.
Not saying they should be harmed. But discerned.