How to spot a Psychopath. The Psychology of Psychopaths | Psychopathy Explained
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One of our Psychological Counsellor's Vasiliki Gkofa talks about Psychopathy. Vasiliki Gkofa is a Clinical Psychology graduate and has completed her MSc in Clinical Neuropsychiatry from King's College London and MSc in Mental Health Research from University College London (UCL).
Vasiliki discusses the following topics in this video;
Key features of psychopathy
Differences in the brain anatomy
How they are able to manipulate others
Childhood symptoms
Nature VS Nurture
Treatment
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Worked for a psychopath. Saw him initiating bad risks for the organization - he had no concern for ethics or laws. These people do terrible things but will find ways to set others up to take the fall.
Sorry to hear that. Many corporate jobs attract psychopaths and controlling people like managers and bosses because they are attracted to power, control and of course thrill.
They are not evil though. They simply lack restraint and the emotions that aid in inhibiting damaging actions towards others.
@@jesusambriz4441 thank you for this. Evil is a conscious choice, not the result of a disordered brain. I always say...the most evil people on earth are the ones who know right and wrong and still choose to do wrong
@@HospitalForSouls.X No problem.
@@jesusambriz4441 true we are not evil. mentally deficient, yes.. but some are violent and abusive especially if they have comorbid disorders like npd or are substance abusers.
Being one of this ilk, a few things...
Firstly, being born this way, the best way to explain is- imagine being born unable to taste. You see others enjoy foods around you, raving about the best pizza or the best ice cream. Now, eventually you make a choice. Either out yourself as different or wrong, or pretend to like what others do, to blend in and be normal. Then one day, you eat a chili pepper and you...taste it. Come to find out, you can taste ‘hot’ spicy foods. Of course, you’d want to spice up everything...but dumping Frank’s hot on ice cream would make you look a little strange, so you learn to pick your times to ‘taste’, and decide to what intensity you want to experience this sensation.
Now to be born without a properly functioning empathy or emotional system... it’s a bit similar. You see people loving, caring about others, being concerned. You see people crying about funerals, or a happy wedding. Maybe being scared at a haunted house attraction, or being overjoyed at winning money, or being at an amusement park. Being born this way...you don’t really ‘taste’ these feelings. So the choice is to pretend, to blend...or put yourself as some movie monster by simply not being affected by anything.
Now, where the aforementioned hot/spice being the example, for folk like me all that’s really felt (albeit in a different way) are feelings such as ‘anger’, ‘thrill’, or even some odd form of perverse ‘joy’ (generally awarded from either pranks, manipulations, or in some way ‘tweaking’ things to your whim and the resulting satisfaction)
Only having these emotions, one is left with choosing how much of life one wants to ‘taste’.
That said, i actively choose to emulate emotions or care or be ‘good’ with people because I want to. Have I ‘tasted’ life? Oh yeah...very much so in the past. But I have come to choose to blend and try being a human for the sake of those trying to have me in their lives. Plus they get the perks of being with someone that doesn’t panic, can deal with dangers coldly and logically.... and I make a great non judgmental shoulder to cry on, since a moral compass is also optional:)
Hope this helps! Didn’t plan to post...honestly was just listening to videos about this, as a sort of self-check to make sure I’m not outwardly exhibiting traits mentioned:)
Spot on .how old are you . we are so advanced that they cannot see it or comprehend it lol . they just end up envying us . unless you chose to blend in as a loser lol
Im not even living in this reality most of the time . robot like . demon and entity like
If you don't mind there's one question I have for you....
What do you crave more than anything ?
For most of us it's health, romantic love , happiness, affection,acceptance, great career, financial stability etc.
What matters to you the most and what do you want out of life ?
You don't have to answer that question of course as it is personal but I'm curious to know.
@@m900l4 Oh absolutely feel free to ask away! The ‘fun’ of being born minus a fully functioning moral compass or feeling of shame/regret, is that I’m a very open book. I find that honesty is (most times) far more fun and challenging than fibbery.
That said, your question actually surprised me. Not something I’m ever asked, really:) So...as I said above, I don’t fully ‘feel’ certain emotions, and if so with minimal intensity. So there’s not much ‘reward’ in being driven as much as it’s a means to an end. So as some examples: I worked my way into a good paying job as to be comfortable, but that’s about as far as I care about that. The idea of being rich wouldn’t make me happy as much as just seeing options open up and recognizing that. Same goes if I won the lottery...I’d not jump for joy as much as be like ‘ok nice, maybe I can travel or such now’. Health wise, again...long as I can get around, great. Love...I definitely define it a vastly different way than someone approaching it with emotions. I see it as a positive function that brings options to the table I would otherwise lack with superficial dalliances. (Which, I had many of prior to this new path of being married).
Acceptance, ‘hits different’ for me, as I like to fit in, even if I have to create a persona to do so. I don’t like to appear the wolf in the sheep pen as it limits my options(feels like a broken record saying that now haha)
But the answer to your question of what I want out of life? That’s surprisingly a harder question to answer than i thought reading it.
I honestly don’t know. I never plan for any sort of future, minus built in means like a 401k or pension. Otherwise I guess I live day to day, finding thrills and continuing to learn new skills and abilities to further be compatible with whomever chooses to befriend me.
At any rate, if you (or anyone else) wants to talk or ask more questions, absolutely feel free or even contact me via email (swordfighting.monk@gmail.com)
@@samuraifencer Thanks for the honest answer. When you see characters in tv / film portraying a pyschopathic person, would you say this is a true representation of one ?
One of the most interesting habits of psychopathic individuals who aren't outwardly cruel growing up (but might experience a difficult home life) is the tendency towards opposition to authority in every way possible (unless there's a bargain to be struck or a point to be made). They will outright refuse to do what they don't want to do(from homework to chores, working etc; often out of spite) They do not respect the parent-child dynamic. Particularly with idiotic or negligent and abusive families they see themselves as adults around 8-10. Instead of "acting out" as kids and teens so often do, they will get revenge--sometimes even willing to endanger their own future to exercise this power over someone or some group. Rather than killing cats in a back alley, they are often the kids who will attack a bully, start a gang of other outsiders, and fit more of a "bullied vigilante" archetype).
It really important to nurture their moral compass at 4-6 years of age.
The difference between a "successful businessman" and a criminal mastermind is often, but not exclusively, related to opportunity in life and all that. Psychopaths are also capable of experiencing emotion (blunted and often not at all how you would feel, but they feel)
This may be somewhat off topic but I dated somebody who turned out to be a Sociopathic narcissist. He came into my life at a period of time where I had very little self confidence and I think they picked up on that. Acted loving and kind, giving me exactly what I wanted before revealing their true harsh nature. reason I stayed with him was because he truely made me believe that I was a worthless individual and any situation where I felt I was fed up they would turn things back on me, convince me I was at fault and right before I broke they would say something nice to bring me back in. Everything I did was controlled by him, anything I did that upset him was met with harsh scolding. Wasn't until he tried to make me cut ties with all of my closest friends that I finally left. even then I told him "I'm not strong enough to be with you" I was convinced it was my fault. all he did was act annoyed and brushed me off.
I kept it all to myself for a long time until I happened to watch a video on what it's like to date a sociopath and it was like somebody read a book about my past and then told it back to me, dispite being many months later it actually put me in tears. that was when I discovered they were a sociopath. I'm just greatful that I was able to get out of that relationship, was the darkest period of my entire life. It took many years to truly overcome those experiences and come to terms with them.
Having danced with the devil so to speak, I can't help but find myself morbidly interested around Sociopaths and Psychopaths, the kinds of individual who so casually toy with the hearts and minds of others. All I can say to others though is they are best left alone, looking back it seems so blatantly obvious what was going on and how awful he was, but in reality it was like a drug, horrible and wonderful at the same time and all the same toxic.
Thank you for sharing this
@Michelle Staunton damn, I'll be honest there were times where I contemplated it during that relationship but in the end I was able to pull away from that nightmare.
a case of “Fractionation”. A tactic of pick up artists but also an evil form of gaslighting filled with malice.
@@elroy6454 I haven't heard that term before, will have to look into it. thanks for sharing.
Thanks. - many peoples cant understand why I ask wheres a good place that psychopaths hate to go to, so that non-psychopaths can avoid them as much as possible.
This is so spot on all you lovers who don't listen to her will get taken advantage of or set up in life.
I was born this way...I can always tell who has that psycho radar, they treat me differently and try to avoid me. I'm self-realized and accepting of who I am; I don't really care what anyone else feels about it.
Do you feel emotion or do you have to put on a persona? To portray them
Psychopaths feel a few emotions but it is dull, if barely at all.
The main one that most feel well is anger.
Anger they can feel at 100%, to how you and I feel.
Next, jealousy, contempt, thrill, etc.
These they feel on varying levels.
Feelings such as joy, love, sadness, guilt, shame, embarrassment, empathy, etc. these they do NOT feel. At all.
They fake those ones for us "emotional cry baby" folk.
You may ask "But how?" Well they put on a..."persona" to blend in.
So, if you know one at work, you would see them crying and actually believe it. 100%
Tbh you wouldn't be able to tell.
As the psychopath said above, the only ones who can truly tell is the one song who know about psychopaths. And if you KNOW, you avoid them completely.
And lemme just say, if you are normal and feel most emotions, you are BLESSED if you go through life and never find out.
I pray you never do...
You don't wanna know. (Shivers)
@@kyleconde5943 we usually put different personas for different people/groups.
I can sense your emotions, and understand them, but I don't actually feel them.
but I can feel emotional about myself.
I can sense the presence of a psychopath too. I think they recognize me too on a gut level.
I had an ex girlfriend who showed very little emotion and would actually giggle when hearing violent of kind of horrific things. Imo she was ferociously beautiful & had this really alluring swagger about her. She just moved different and Ive never met anyone like her since. Im not sure if she was a psychopath but a lot of the traits you are describing ring very true in her case.
Thank you for sharing this
I think we dated the same girl
Think I'm married to her!
@@jasonlevy1221 lol. Get out bro
@@jasonlevy1221 lol
Great video, Thank you for posting
Thank you for this excellent content, especially the points you make that distinguish psychopaths from narcissists. My experience has been that there is only a very slight difference between the two--narcissists may tend to fare better in avoiding criminal activity, for example. The point you made about a psychopath's ability to mimic emotions was eye opening, to mention just one more of many great insights you touched on.
hi, thank you for the lesson.
I am a psychopath, and I know it from an early age, 16, I'm now 45.
just wanted to mention something you missed out on: most psychopaths are not in prison, and are roaming free, undetected, for the simple reason that for us, freedom is everything.
meaning, even if we really want to do something bad, we won't do it if there is even the slightest chance of getting caught!
another thing is, we wouldn't be so socially convincing, if we lacked emotion completely, so we do feel some emotions, but at a very low level of the scale.
one last thing, is that you forgot to mention that there different levels of psychopathy, and someone might have only some of the criteria, and another, all of it.
a psychopath is also never afraid of anything or anyone, because he knows, that he's the strongest predator in his current location.
if you want to do some research on me, or ask anything, feel free to ask, Eran, from Israel.
I’d say most people than not don’t act upon immoral/illegal things to not get caught and face the consequences and not because they figured out it’s wrong and they will feel bad about themselves having done it.
Being a psychopath as you say, do you want to harm people mentally or physically and do you enjoy it? Or do you fight these urges?
@@christelrung5144 it keeps coming up at every bad situation or when I see evil people as they behave to others, and I have thoughts of hurting them badly as if to teach them that there are much more evil people in this world, sort of teaching them a lesson they will never forget, or live to tell anyone, but I like my freedom, and I already set in prison a few times, so I stop myself from developing my thoughts further, otherwise I would have probably put thousands of shitty people under ground.
Makes sense there’s some sort of psychopathic spectrum. What led to you finding out you are a psychopath?
I'm a woman with the same issue. Just wondering if you have children's if so do you think they have it too. I have four sons and I'm sure 3 out of 4 of them do. One I've known since he was 2 years old that it was really strong in him. He's had a lot of testing done. Just wondering if you have any thoughts on that. This is the first time I've even said this out loud
Thank you for the video. I looked this issue up, because I did not know if it is possible that one person who was my friend might be one. After watching this, I am not sure, but think it probably is not the case. I saw him acting very friendly and closely with a dog, for example. And he does care what people around him think, but maybe he does it only to appear stronger than anybody else.
On the other hand thinks like using your weaknesses, no apparent remorse from lying, huge ego etc. do match. He repeatedly used my anger to belittle me, a conduct he stopped only after I calmed myself and accepted him again. O course without any apology on his side. I still wonder, but maybe he is just a narcissist.
Anyway thank you very much for this video. Not only is it very good informationwise, the speaker is awesome at presentation of the topic and knows how to speak. Also I love the setting (the armchair, books, painting). And sorry if I made any errors in this comment, I am not a native speaker.
Don’t wonder too long. Yes they care about personal public image. But on the inside it’s the opposite. I saw this kid role playing captain America and all he does is stalk boys all day. See what I mean?
I'd like to know how many psychopaths there are serving in the military as opposed to in prison.. studying psychopaths in prison seems a bit redundant.. I would like to learn more about corporate psychopaths..
Excellent description
Great video, thank you!
Thanks for watching
obvious sign of psychopath is when person doesn't care about dogs nor cats and don't bother to hurt them!
Excellent descriptions.
Thanks!
@@dr.beckyspelman damn I'd hit
When the psychopath isn't happy, I'm happy
Psycho
Not really cuz they might kill you 😬
! They can be dangerous.
Lmfao hopefully you run into a bad one💀 see how happy you’re then
Perhaps he means “when the psychopath APPEARS unhappy, I’m happy”? 🤷♂️
I'm psycopath in almost all clinic aspects. I noted it. I was clinically told it. And it's not the end of my world, adding that I'm not criminal (I hate this media-fantasy).
Being honest, it was liberating. It helped me to understand better the differences I have, and how to see it socially, in special with my family. We can see we aren't demential, but there is something wrong.
I have facility to see (and deal with) bad intentions on people action and arguments.. beyond any narrative. People say that I even speak to their soul, due to the deepness and empathyless.
No fear; no sad feelings (I laugh even with burn animals and I don't cry for death); no anxiety; no shame; no depression; no mercy; addicted to adrenalin and risky situations; "feline look" (charming); narrow focus and cold mind on situations of danger or pressure; no hesitation.
... and thare are other not so positive traits (alter ego is real.. I uses to burn, play and speak with dead animals when I was a kid... I almost died several times... I definetly don't value words, pain and emotions as society expect).
I also feel satisfied when I dream burning people alive. I've already watched a man burn (in a car accident that I was involved). The only 'regret' I feel is that I didn't kill him before his ending (he died). He was innocent.. me too. But he died in very disturbing ciscumstances.
It helped me when I found some bad guys too.. speacially dangerous psychos, death threats etc.
It's not easy to assume my nature.. I'll never deny how far it lead me through this continuous empty mental storm.
Why would you want to kill the man in the burning car before he died?🤔
@@TheFriendlyPsychopath , he was an innocent truck driver, was burning "slowly" and dilacerated (legs broken, steel pressing his chest, left arm cut, flames of fuel in his face).. and asked me for kill him.
I was the only one watching him closely enough to can talk with him. Other people were next shocked or stealing his cargo on road (one guy tried to film but suffered an accident too).
But.. I was involved in the accident (my car was critically hit). People knew that, but not whether I was innocent or guilty for that man's condition (I could be lynched).
So.. we let him die although the conditions to be killed. And I'd be his lynched hero
@@--th I asked you that because I found it odd that you actually gave a sh*t, as someone diagnosed as primary psychopathy even if I could save him I wouldn’t have, it would have been of more interest to me to watch him burn to death, I would have probably filmed it as well. One time I watched this guy Chase his father around the store that they owned and hacked him to death with a machete, the father pleaded for help, the son would look at me intermittently in an odd way becausei was watching, when the cops came I was asked why didn't I help the man, I said because he seemed to be doing fine on his own, they insulted me and said no the father, I said I'm not a cop, they asked me why I was watching (I was 10 feet away), I said so was everyone else, I was waiting for you guys. For some reason I have always been interested in watching someone's last moments.
I used to have a young beautiful wife who turns out had borderline personality disorder, the sex was great but it was a day filled of paranoia and violence, when she would attack me I would yoke her up and choke her out, after she would pass out, on a the third occasion I had to choke her out I'm sure of it her heart stopped, I gave her CPR and when she started coming to I got up as quick as I could and went to the other room and pretended like I was there all along and she just passed out or something, after that particular incident she never attacked me again and started avoiding me, I ended up dropping her off at her mother's and never looking back, one thing I will never forget is how she looked so innocent and angelic when she was passed out like that.
He was dying anyways. You get the thrill and he ends his suffering. Seemed like a win win.
People with psychopathy do not think that way!
I would go to this intelligent, articulate lady for therapy. She is really good at explaining things. Not condescending. Super Motivating and informed. My mother is a total psychopath.
Interesting! When I meet someone new, I'll often use my own psychopathy "check list" or rather call it a simple psychopathy vetting system, so to speak. It consists of one basic thing: subtly pretending to be a little vulnerable or unsure about something, maybe even a bit naive. And then I’ll watch the person's behavior toward me to see if he or she will try to take advantage of me in some way, even if only in a very minor way. If they do try, I'll distance myself from them or drop them completely. No second chances. This video has given me many more things to watch for.
Any other tips? Please.
One of mine is, look at for the odd eyes, do they give off aura, and dull voice. (Their walk too. Like, I said it super confident?)
Another for me is I patiently wait, calmly, as a friend until they admit a story, like, "oh my neighbors cat went missing..." (hinting they made it so) or "I wasn't mad at my sister so I spray painted her car."
Another for me is, does the person play violently videos games, watch horror movies, listen to rap music or have various addiction. (Drinking, smoking, etc)
Note: having an addiction does not mean they are a psychopath but I find most psychopaths have such addictions.
Also, I know this is forward, but would you like to chat more about the topic?
Like eeeeeee.
mail.
(Sorry had to say it like that so youtube lets it)
The reason why I still i realllyyy wanna and talk to someone about psychopaths, someone who gets it, but I have no one.
I talk to psychopaths and they give advice or explain but it doesn't help like talking to someone's who's isn't psychopath.
And I can't talk to family about it cause they don't even know what a psychopath is.
@@specialtwice4975 No more tips at this time, sorry. But there are always things to watch for. You mentioned the odd eyes. Yes, I notice them too usually from a distance using my peripheral vision. As soon as I do, I immediately steer clear of them without drawing attention to myself. I don't even make eye contact with them, talk to or get to know them. They cease to exist for me.
@@specialtwice4975 I can certainly relate to not having anyone to talk to about these things. I guess the best thing we can do is subscribe to channels like this one or pay to see a professional in person or online on via a smartphone. Not the same as having a "peer" to talk to. I'm here on this site a lot... I wish you well, and let's keep learning so we can stay safe.
I check off most of the boxes except when it comes to empathy. I have no guilt or concern for myself but I care to much about others. I'd take my life tomorrow It I knew it wouldn't hurt anyone else.
Is there a correlation between sociopathic/ psychopathic behaviors and bipolar disorder? They seem to display similar traits (impulsivity, delusions of grandeur).
More like borderline instead of bipolar.
@@laleezy77 actually both disorders can overlap with APD
It is too good to be true,can't take my eyes off of you. ...I like your dress btw, you're so beautiful and thanks for the video, very informative
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@aeon4013 you said when a psychopath isn’t happy, you’re happy. That can be dangerous! I’m not an expert, but I think don’t show any emotion to that person so he can’t play upon it!
Hey I wanna understand this topic even more, what book do you recommend? I'm a psychology student
You hit the nail on the head of the coffin when you said they dont work normal jobs. I met a psychopath in my fire school back in February. He was a very great conversationalist seemed very friendly on the surface but he lacked complete connection and wanted zero responsibility whatsoever. He was also a medic for 10 years. He didnt care for you even tho he would pretend to its almost like you can tell he only cared about his personal gain and nothing more. You couldnt point out one of his flaws without him firing back at you. He was also the class leader which made things so much worse than what they already were. Not only was he psychopathic but he had the rest of my class mates at the tip of his fingers bc he had power. This is still one of the worst people ive met in my life and had to deal with.
That dude needs to have no power cause that dude really has no power. By himself? Nah just a lame.
I don't really see myself as a psychopath as I would never even dream of hurting another person but I find myself thinking that somes feelings don't matter as they won't affect me in the long run. I'm quite popular at my high school and I am fairly smart but I still have trouble regarding others with care. Despite my energetic and friendly attitude I still feel this way why?
You could just be narcissistic.. most teenagers are 🤔🤷🏾♀️
Go and live in a mental asylum with your friends
So i am someone who feels a certain level of joy and anger, i feel a little fear or axiety but its mostly preservation over just fear. An example is, i dont have a fear of heights, i dont want to die from falling off of something high, i dont have issues being on heights but i cant say jump off a cliff into water even if it is safe. Day to day i feel like i dont really use emotion but instead have an auto response that shows the emotion but it isnt really like I am feeling it, more of a "oh, i should be feeling this way, lets do that". I also tend to have a second nature to lie although i have learned to kind of suppress it, some days however i just dont suppress it and i do end up doing minor manipulations and lying and honestly i dont really feel remorse, guilt, shame, etc. Its more of "oh your crying, i should be sad too" although this has become a habit and therefore more automatic so i dont think about faking emotions i just do. I will be honest i am a person who knows what i do wrong, i am just unable to feel bad about it. I only know if another person says its wrong, i should think its wrong even if i dont feel it. Idk if i am but i feel similar to a lot of psychopaths and feel like some of the symptoms are stuff i feel.
Then talk to a psychologist. It will probably help you
Thank you for dressing modestly, and beautifully. It is truly refreshing to see in this world.
hi private therapist...you mention firing people ..is firing employees, or rejecting family members without any conscience a common trait in this?
Yes. But it's also common in a lot of other things even as small as extrovertism
So words are less meaningful than the need to actually respond to genuine threats or problems happening in real time, got it
My brother is definitely a psychopath, but I am the only one in my family who has fallen out of his charming spell. No chance of convincing anyone in my family that maybe he should talk to someone about possibly getting a diagnosis.
When you said the word kil i felt fear and excitment
As far as I'm concerned psychopathy is an adaptive evolutionary strategy for a r-selected ecology, or fast life history strategy. Psychopathic chimpanzees are giving us far better insight than anything Cleckley, Hare or Babiak produced imo
Thank you for your comment
Correct, psychology will remain irrelevant to psychopathy research for the foreseeable future. From a neurobiological perspective, up-regulation of RPL10P9 and ZNF132, and down-regulation of CDH5 and OPRD1 seem to regulate up to 92% of psychopathic symptoms, although this needs further research. 6 gene expressions seem to be responsible, ANKK1, DRD2, DRD4, MAOA, COMT, and 5-HTTLPR.
I don't know why sociopath and psychopath can combine my attitude and feeling
This councillor is really beautiful, if you ask me, LOL!
Wish any of my own therapists looked like her 🤣🤣🤣
I might have been cured by now 😂🤣😂😅
This is random, but is there ever a chance where a therapist would deny you are a psychopath if you asked them. If they truly believed you were one after you seeked out an appointment for more understanding about yourself/ Being just a general mental health appointment. Or would they be obliged to tell you, I'd assume they wouldn't tell you as there is no treatment yes?
Psychopaths don’t tend to seek our treatment to want to know if they are a psychopath because this kind of thing doesn’t tend to concern them and they do not respect the opinion of a psychologist or any expert for this matter. We’re you concerned you might be one?
@@dr.beckyspelman Oh, well I've had sessions with a psychologist and there wasn't any diagnosis, but i do believe i have anti social personality traits just from my family and how i view things. But i think empathy can be worked on, so i don't believe i am. Possibly narcissistic traits through nurture. Appreciate the response!
Also i think a psychopath would find it amusing if anything going to a psychologist, but does something being amusing make you a psychopath?
@@verocious266 well you seem to be consciously thinking about how you might behave which I can only see as a good think so well done on that and if you haven’t had a lot of empathy during your upbringing them you might not ooze empathy but that can be worked on by recognising and working on your emotions. Some psychopaths might prey on therapists and use the session as a game to try to manipulate them.
@@dr.beckyspelman I can agree with that, Thankyou for your responses
Great Profile pic 👍. DS3 is legendary.
I wish we could have more info on spotting psychopaths in rural neighborhoods.
The book "The sociopath next door" by Martha Stout is a great read.
After being with a psychopath for 5 year's,,, I've come to learn that they are EVERYWHERE💯
True, they are everywhere.
Makes you feel like you are in that 80's movie about aliens. (Can't remember the name, but a hobo finds some glasses and sees the truth)
The primary reason people don't leave an abusive relationship is because it's the most dangerous thing they can do, not that they're embarrassed.
Just like some people are born the tallest and nobody can compete, i'm pretty good at spotting psychopaths. Other people call the ability intelligence, they don't like agreeing. I view it as the skill to understand specific parts about people best.
Can you tell me some signs? How YOU spot them?
Though I know how to spot them myself (never was a natural talent for me, I stumbled upon it by accident after a bad encounter with a sadistic psychopath) I always like to learn about new ways to spot them. Or learn from others how they spot them.
I would love if you could teach me some. :)
@@specialtwice4975 Downplay of achievements. Describing negative perceptions of someone to others. Describing themselves as well and not others that pose competition or describing ones self's future and history as positive and not others. Bringing up awkward recommendations to displace social comfort. A lack of desire to healthily socialize. Excessive sexual socialization when comfortable. Lieng. Rudeness. Manipulation of environment to remove physically powerful people from their environment unless those people act as subordinate to them. Lack of excitement for others success. Socially barring others with their actions. Competing for attention with negative attributes. Excessive need for attention from others. Dislike of those who naturally muster positive attention. Coercion of others opinions using lies and embellishment and downplaying. (boosting themselves up and setting others down when nobody has done anything wrong to others) Need for recognition and subordinate respect when they make mistakes. Prejudice against equality. Not apologetic but will accept apology. Will not stand up for those they deem as threats to their ability to gather attention. (basically they want bodily mechanisms of others to support the functions of their own at everyone's expense excessively) Preying upon people in private settings and denying in public settings. Typically after seeing success from their prey they will apologise to them to garner social respect to learn from those they previously slighted. Lack of compassion, irrelevant use of accomplishments in other fields to display value. I've met a few and they all had the same feature. They wanted more for their own health than they wanted for others health. I get a physically unsettling feeling in my body around phyopaths. One of my favorite things to do is talk to them privately and explain healthy mannerisms. Usually someone phycopathic will try to disparage someone to their face in public but knowing that their attempts to disparage others is a weakness of their mental illness is really funny because it means they can be helped. The unsettling comes from the awareness that the phycopathic illness is dangerous to themself and others and they're unaware of the consequences of their illness or behavior.
I don't think they don't care about other people knowing they are lying. That's just what a reckless person would do, decieve and then brag about it. They don't want people to know they are lying so that they can manipulate them even more.
i was physically abused as a child my parents and sibling abused me for 14 years since the age of 3 this depravity expressed as a child proved to be the locus of my future i was diagnosed as factor 1 psychopathy
Good for you
@@LarfleezeOrangestein yeah good for me but bad for society lol
Then you were born like that
yes but only because u try to gain sympathy by boring us with your crappy childhood
If true, you didn't get psychopathy from their abuse though, but from their genes.
I have a really crazy stalker that I went to high-school with. I've tried calling the police. They said to hire a lawyer but I can't afford one. I'm afraid he is capable of finding me and possibly hurting me. 💔 Life stinks.
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Easy, carry a gun
hey how your situation now
@@lynb2039 Its getting better but still having issues. I've had to leave my current employer because he's hired on with them. Thanks for asking 🙏 Hopefully I don't have to keep job hopping and can finally be free of this ass wipe
Hopefully you are okay - safe now. Welcome to the club. Tapping of phones, tracking devices on cars. Freemason flying monkeys tailgating me out of town. Vehicle being shot at with me in it. The list goes on.
12:45 this me with my mom i tried 22 years to find the good and it was always kept right before my eyes but never really there she also cant change and now i just feel numb
Sounds like a psychopath chooses to use their EQ for selfish purposes...To me, that sounds very self-defeating and so sort of contradictory, therefore I would narrow that down to something lacking in the EQ test. Also, my contention is that psychopathy is a coping mechanism from early childhood that one could either view as constant bad choice-making, ooor as something more like a dysfunction. When the body doesn't produce the signals needed to feel empathy, is that on the soul or the physical self? I don't think anything suggests that having emotional intelligence necessarily contradicts having something detach you from it or perhaps lacking the faith in it/ in purpose/ in love/ in a greater good.
15 years ago i heard about a story of a neghbour a kid who kills cats for fun, then i observed him with tim knowing it s a psychopathe . the guy is perfect empathie and all polite then i became friend it was easy is a brother fo a friend. then i doscovered his secret , he became alcoholic , alcohol industry yes thanks a lot ; some psychopathe fight their demons as they can .
Sociopathy is more of a coping mechanism while people are born psychopathic but there are some exceptions where people can develop psychopathy but it's more rare.
A lot of what she explains leans more into sociopathy then it does psychopathy
Tbh nobody will ever spot them because everyone is all different people
They match everything entirely 😉
Can they have long-term friends?
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There's this one girl (A) nd I'm suspecting her that she might be a psychopath, it happened in 21 lasted 7-8 months it was all weird but in that time I was already with a narcissist (B) so my mind like I went there for that narcissist and so I was not really in my senses and so (A) was all like pretty, smart , not really that super extroverted,was calm . But it always felt like something is not right and in that phase I gave her a silent treatment but I went back then the 2nd time I gave the silent treatment for 2 months then I ended it . And now I'm coming to realise every word which was there only to manipulate me . And I'm still with A , we both study in the same class and will have to for next 2 yes . So A is basically pretty girl , and all her friends, they're all she have staged that , she's a master manipulator using them to get on other people ,she is so high in the fame and like I can see that it is all a game she is playing and this one time when we were together she once mentioned that she is a psychopath but I took it as a jokeas I was head over heals for her . But now as I see thru everything is she really a psychopath . She always is like she fake cries and takes sympathy from her friends , always seem to get everything has so many people around her , but she never displayed aggression . I have never seen her angry , she is always calm and watching the words she is saying . Is she a psychopath?? If anyone can tell me here
they mimic some old emotions they had berfore become a complete psychopathe it s like a charger a phone charger it work then it has some small moment when it work , then it stop working, i think psychopathe have a lacke of emotion but he remember some old emotions and mimic them
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I don't think I have met one yet.
Narcs definitely yes.
But psychopaths, no. Not in the social circles I have been into.
Be thankful you haven't then. Trust me, you don't want to. Narcissists are a walk in the park compared to psychopaths.
You just tell a narcissist "I love your hair!" or "You are so amazing!" or "I wish I was you."
You butter them up, praise them, and they are putty.
A psychopath will NOT let you do that. If you try you will blink and find yourself laying on the ground looking up at the sky wondering how you got there. Dominance and control is their everything. You cannot control or manipulate a psychopath.
Fun fact, psychopaths can and do manipulate narcissists (and non), for fun. 😬
I think it is "Without Conscience" not "conscious"... two different words, different meanings
One question, have you ever successfully spotted a psychopath? if you don't, the please refrain from teaching people how to spot actual psychopath
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I have and she's right. Are you also a psychopath?
I have met a phsychopath in my life
I’m still confused about the egocentric part. Are all psychopaths narcissistic? I can’t find much about it on the internet
Not at all. Most psychopaths arent narcissistic while sociopathy has a lot of narcissistic's. She also explained more of sociopathy then psychopathy. There are also 2 types of psychopathy with type 1 being more common but she goes more into type 2. Type 2 also has quite a bit in common with sociopaths. She also says that psychopathy is developed from childhood abuse which is very rare. Psychopaths is very commonly born with it while sociopathy is more developed from childhood abuse. Psychopaths are also more calm and very rarely display impulsive actions
Bundy was actually a law student
?what would a woman who has 4 kids, breastfeeds and loving until child about 7, then physically detached from child, maybe even emotionally detached.?
Called me out the whole video
They got it twisted I'm the narcissist sychopath. If I was. I would do well at manipulation get people to do what ever I want. I think it's disgusting I seen people live like that it creeps me out 😢
Could one argue the baseline in the population is psychopathy then if they say "I love animals" and then eat them? Not a vegan but just saying. It seems like most of the population doesn't understand love if they apply it emotionally and empathetically only to people.
Well this sounds like a majority of our society especially those who run it and it all runs down hill.
I’m pretty sure I dated a psychopath as a teenager and the weirdest two things I experienced with him was that I once hurt him very badly physically out of self defense, he toppled over and his eyes watered but then he just popped up and laughed as if the pain did not affect him mentally at all. And then there was some stuff that made me think he might be trans, I asked him about it and he was just like “oh yeah I’m actually a women I’m definitely trans I just don’t wanna transition it’s not worth it.” I can’t for the life of my understand as a non-binary person how the hell he wouldn’t wanna transition, it’s like anything everyone else processed as painful didn’t affect him at all.
Psychopaths have stronger pain resistance than most human beings. As for why he didn't wanna transition, most psychopaths don't have an orientation. They say they do for image sake, but a real psychopath isn't straight or gay or binary or asexual. They are allll of them at once because they can be whoever they want.
So, for example your psychopath told you he/she was trans. Well, if I probably met your psychopath now and dated him he would tell me that was never true. "I'm straight and monogamous, always have been."
Psychopaths are different people around others. They can shape shift their personality.
Ted Bundy went to law school and acquitted himself once.
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Fits our last President 😉
I agree 130%
Wrong there's a difference between a narcissist and a pyschopath, both are categorized under ASPD but they have different ways of acting out
7:10 that's 100% inaccurate the can process and intercept emotional cues that's why they can manipulate others and mimick emotion to appear normal so well. Psychos just don't ingeniously care
To not process emotion well is autism spectrum not psychopathy. Psychopaths also gave emotion; pride wrath anger, etc just not empathy sympathy in general only to those who feed their wrath pride egos etc.
13:40 not only women men to
*Men are statistically more likely to be psychopaths, but theoretically it's equally distributed between the genders.
Not a super important point of contention, but for the sake of accuracy...
Great vid overall, though 👌
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It’s probably because men and women are socialized differently. Men are expected to be tough and less emotional, whereas women are taught to show more care and love to everybody. People adapt as much as they can.
@@TheKaraqi4 There are different areas that receive different levels of development in the brain based on whether you're male or female. Men tend to have a higher development in the visually oriented structures of the brain, where women tend to have more in the linguistic areas.
It actually shows up pretty thoroughly in porn preferences, of all places. Statistics show that women prefer written erotica most where men prefer something visually stimulating most.
Granted, there are epigenetic components to each individual, but the influence of whether or not you have an X or a Y for your 2nd chromosome in that pair has vastly greater consequences than people realize.
@@--...--...--... I don’t deny the role of genetics at all but without research bias and influence of socialization those statistics would look somewhat different. I meant that women mask their psychopathic traits because society rewards certain behaviors depending on your gender. Empathy is itself rather an ability to learn empathetic behavior, we’re not born with knowing what’s good and bad. Even highly empathetic people have situations where they hurt others purposely but then they learn, no, it’s not who I am, I care about their feelings. This prevents them from doing it again. Also, not very long ago, people used to discipline kids with whips, nowadays it’s illegal, etc. We develop empathetic behavior even over the history of mankind.
Correction we are not impulsive we are calculative 😌
EXPLAIN MORE... please
Type 2 psychopaths are more impulsive then calculative but type 1 is also way more common then type 2
17:35 The greatest lies are often repeated. I hear this repeated over and over again in the field of psychology. there is no book that can teach you psychology and there is no I but You.
I am a psychopath and i plan to go to talk to one of these so called "mental health professionals"
it would be an enjoyable experience for the both of us.
Thank you for sharing
@@dr.beckyspelman thank you for your comment
@@offgrid9262 I find your name curious. Are you 'off grid' emotionally, psychologically And physically?
And what about your mindset makes you think "it would be an 'enjoyable' experience for the both of us"?
The psychopath I know didn't show lack of emotion but he displays totally inappropriate emotion
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@arron frederick thank you for appointing yourself the authority on when and where the expression " OmG " can be used
Probably bipolar but it could be many other things.
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Easy to spot if you are one
Yo, him and I are the same, I've seen it since we were 14 .....saw this 16 years later....and even behind close doors.
We give each other the evil look
Nature-psychopath
Nurture-sociopath
Has a RUclips channel...
Also i dont get why people say all psychos are in jail . no . a real psycho is too smart to go to jail .
Psycho is short for psychopath never should be mixed with the word crazy . crazy is just dumb thinking irrational acting . psychopaths are really smart . idk what idiot said that we think we are smart but really aren't. keep believing this bs and you will always have underestimated a psycho . beware.
yep you're funny
It's all about impulsivity control. The higher the intelligence, the more of it will be there, and the less chances of getting caught. There are _real_ psychopaths in prisons, even those who have great control of their impulses. It can be hard to evade the entire task force and similar. Not impossible, but hard.
@@Spirit01_official You are so cringe man oh my god lmao
@@Spirit01_official I just diagnosed you with narcissistic personality disorder too, thanks to all your inane comments
Easy way: watch this video.
Right way: study.
Most of y’all just need to look in the mirror
Can I be half Psychobath or something?, I don't lack empathy, but sometimes i really want to kill something.
That's called being based and redpilled.
Or a 70 year old male skater who ENJOYS slamming orher skaters into the boards?? !!! Then LAUGHS when they are hurt.....but don't hurt THEM....th
Where is a good place to go where sociopaths will not be there?
Where ever you're alone 😩. Don't know your place of residence but here in the USA societal decay has reached level that basically allows you identify sociopathic/ narcissistic behavior in a large portion of the population; truly psycho or socio maybe not but an extensive amount of characteristics have been adopted.
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@@wynnpiper6215 Presumably there are good people out there. It is probably at charity events with no pay.
@νмρ Because I would like to know where psychopaths would not hang out thus enabling me to avoid them by not going there.
In other words I want to avoid places where bad people and phonies hang out .
For instance nightclubs, at least in my town, are a magnet for psychopaths.(not everybody but many)
However, maybe charity events might repel them.?
So I was asking where they hate to go to give me or any non-psychopaths reading this some places to meet nice people. Instead of going to places where there are likely to be a large percentage of bad people.
@νмρ Because I would like to know where psychopaths would not hang out thus enabling me to avoid them by not going there.
In other words I want to avoid places where bad people and phonies hang out .
For instance nightclubs, at least in my town, are a magnet for psychopaths.(not everybody but many)
However, maybe charity events might repel them.?
So I was asking where they hate to go to give me or any non-psychopaths reading this some places to meet nice people. Instead of going to places where there are likely to be a large percentage of bad people.
Psychopats are things/ objects. Psychopats are easy victims.
Thank you for sharing
Bro u gud?
That is no nice, u might be a psychopath in denial
She is so hot!
I was looking for how to be one but got this instead😔
You cannot become a Psychopath. You're born one. You can become a Sociopath.
It's a brain disorder caused by an underdeveloped Amygdala/pre-fontal cortex. It's not a chemical imbalance like anxiety or depression that can be fixed with a pill.
Any attempt to act like a Psychopath will be a trainwreck. You'll be inspired by false depictions of a Psychopath like Hannibal Lector or Dexter.
The main adjective of a Psychopath is from an early age to NOT be detected as the odd one out. To manipulate others into thinking we are just like them. To fake the emotions. To give off Crocodile tears and pretend were sad when we aren't. That's the entire point of our masks. Act similar to the person we are interacting with twisting the knobs so we don't come off too much like them. Then being a completely different person to the next individual.
Wait till you're 25 to seek any mental diagnosis. Your brain isn't fully developed until then.
Dumb.
they never do eye contact
Sometimes they have this dead eyes intense eye contact.
We do alot of eye contact
It's usually the opposite... often they have too much eye contact.
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Bullets are very effective at curing psychopathy.
You cant hide anything from us . lol nothing . we will feel and sense your energy . atleast i will .
Well that's great, but its ALL YOU'VE GOT
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That’s news to me. So you can read every one of my thoughts??
@@willowgrey989 no he has a tiny wiener too
Or a hockey player/ coach.....lol.....wait till you get too close...hahahaha..........
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One way to spot them is they’ll make videos about how to spot one 😉🧐
I’m a psychopath. She’s teaching me a lot to avoid detection. The next girl I date I’ll try not to destroy her psychologically once I’m bored with her.
Thank you for being honest richie.
@@Xslices Did it uncle make u dis way?
Nature vs. Nurture doesn't fly to me because some siblings raised in the same home turn out different. Both experience horrible traima; yet, one turns out to be EXTRA LOVING and CARING while the other one turns out to be a PSYCHOPATH. IT'S A CHOICE!!! One chooses to feel, one enjoys hurting people and not feeling nothing for them 🤷🏾♀️ I'm a WITNESS!
“Nurture” essentially refers to the sum total of all experiences pertaining to an individual. There are no two people who have matching experiences. Even two kids in an abusive household experience things from differing vantages. They may have some shared experiences, but what makes up a person’s personality is literally every singular momentary experience that a kid goes through from the moment of birth, through the formative years. We’re talking about millions, or maybe billions of individual momentary experiences. You can’t just say “abuse”, and think that that comprises one major block of experience that forms a personality, which can be shared 1:1 with a different human being. It’s not even possible. Everyone is unique because everyones individual aggregate of life experience is anomalous, and quite unique, by its very nature.
We have a tendency to speak of these matters as if the analogy of two tone black and white was representative of the truth of it. In reality, simplification, distillation of the facts occurs only because there are many people who could not wrap their heads around the straight facts. They require simple terms in order to even process things. But the real truth of psychopathy, or, what makes up one’s personality, is that it looks more like 256,000,000 shades of grey, rather than simply white & black.
Psychopathy is very commonly born with. It's not a choice at all. It also isn't always a bad thing. There are a lot more good psychopaths than there are bad psychopaths
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Interesting you say that.
to me. this is the perfect checklist for your typical UK conservative politician.
How strange that I just came from another video wherein one of the signs (not Traits) is the use of lots of hand gestures, which distracts the viewer/audience from what the person is verbally saying. Like Donald Trump…and THIS LADY! 😮
A person who thinks she has an understanding of Psychopathy is more dangerous than a Psychopath himself.
Why?
Because people who understand phsychology can manupulate others i think
This is true to some extent. I've used acquired knowledge (went all the way down the rabbit hole with literature, now just following the cutting edge research to "stay in shape") of cluster B internal dynamics and landscape to poke their insecurities. It worked flawlessly every time. Psychopaths are by far easiest to spot. BPD's and histrionics are my favorites. (Covert) narcissists need time. Used it as a direct manipulation tool once, at my work place with my boss (female, narcissistic psychopath) to gain more freedom/flexibility at work. Took me little bit more than a year to accomplish this. Everyone is scared of her and yet, two of us have a great relationship.